July 19, 2024 • 10 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
In today's video, I am going to be sharing the
ways in which you can actually use your social media
profile to attract a potential partner. Maybe you don't want
to use a dating app, and that's perfectly fine. To
be honest with you, I was never a huge fan. However,
if you do want to use a dating app, that's
(00:20):
okay too. And I actually have a service where I
hope you create the perfect profile on any dating app
that you want if you'd like to use one. So
you have decided that you do not want to use
a dating app, how can you utilize your social media account,
let's say Instagram or let's say Facebook, to attract a
(00:41):
potential partner? Okay, before we get started, I want you
to keep this in mind. Your social media account is
going to be like a resume. Think about it that way.
If your goal is to attract a potential partner using
Instagram or Facebook, so I want you to clean it up.
I want you to get in there and clean up
your profile and keep one very important thing in mind.
(01:04):
Although it is important to remain authentic and genuine and
how you represent yourself right, which means you don't want
to be fake. You don't want to pretend to be
someone or something that you're not. It is, at the
same time very important to create an attractive image. And
what I mean by that is that your profile should
want should make people want to know more about you.
(01:27):
Make it really attractive so that when someone visits your page,
they say, now this person seems interesting. Oh they like this.
I like that too, Okay. Something to keep in mind
is this. If you are using, for example, let's say
Instagram to attract the right person to you, then I
(01:48):
want you to keep in mind that ninety five percent
of people who are but possibly interested in you in
a romantic way, and even more so if they're actually
be really interested in getting to know you on a
serious level, they are going to see what kind of followers,
what kind of people you are following, what kind of
(02:09):
accounts you are following. The reason for this is that
it gives them an idea as to the type of
person that you are. For example, let's say that you
follow tons of accounts with cats in them, then they're
going to assume that you love cats. Let's say you
follow accounts we're traveling, They're going to assume you love
to travel. So I want you to think about it
(02:30):
this way. What do I want my potential partner to
know about me? What am I ready to reveal? Because
half of the fun is not revealing everything about ourselves
right away, right, We want to keep a little mystery
while still being honest and genuine and authentic. So I
want you to keep that in mind. So before you
actually try to attract the right partner towards you, whether
(02:53):
you're using Instagram or Facebook, I want you to clean
up your account lists, your followers lists. Clean it up.
Remember that whatever you follow is what they're going to see.
Right the accounts that you follow, what is it that
you are comfortable with them knowing already about you? And
what are you not comfortable with them knowing? After you
(03:13):
clean up your follower's list, the people that you follow,
and you are certain that it is representing you in
the best light possible while still being honest and authentic. Right, So,
it doesn't mean you have to reveal everything you can.
You can keep a little mystery. You don't have to
show everything. But remember that what they see, they will see.
(03:35):
They will make an assumption about you, because it's human nature.
We all do that based on what they see as
your as the people the accounts that you are following, right,
So what they see on your profile, your friends, all
of that, they will make an assumption. So remember you
want to represent yourself in the best light possible while
(03:55):
being authentic. Once you've done that and you feel that
it's nicely clean and you're ready to go in that department,
I want you to work on your actual profile, your
Facebook page, your Instagram page. Upload a beautiful picture of
you or a handsome photo of you, okay as your
profile pick on Instagram or on Facebook, something that shows
(04:19):
you in the most attractive light. You don't have to
pretend to be something you're not or someone you're not.
That's not what I'm asking you to do. Just get
a really good picture of you, okay. And it helps
if you're smiling in the photo, because it makes you
look like you're easy to approach. If you are like
this in the photo, you may not be approached by
(04:40):
many people, just saying, but if you're something like that,
it's much more approachable. So don't be afraid to have
a picture of you smiling. Right. It doesn't have to
be a fake smile, doesn't have to be a huge smile,
a genuine kind sweet smile. That's all it takes so
that you are more approachable. Okay, that's the first I
want you to do. And then after that, I want
(05:02):
you to do this after you do that, work on
your interest. Okay, so this is not a dating profile page.
We know that, right, but we can still use it
as that if we want to attract the right partner
through social media. So you can write that. You can
write something nice and sweet and cute and catchy on
your Instagram bio, and you can do the same thing
(05:24):
on your Facebook profile page. Whatever it is that you
want that potential partner to know about, you write it,
make it catchy, don't make it too long, and certainly
don't make it sound like you're using a dating app,
because you're not. You're actually using social media. But we
don't want to look desperate or look like we're trying
too hard right or purposely look like we are trying
(05:44):
to use it as a dating app. We want to
keep that quiet, a mystery, but we also want to
be alluring, catchy, interesting. So write up a little bio
that talks about your interest and the things that you
enjoy doing whatever that happens to be, and that you
want the potential partner to know about you right now.
So once your profile is good to go and it
(06:06):
looks darn good and you feel like it shows you
in the best light possible while still being authentic, then
you're ready to start attracting potential partners. But before you
actually proceed with adding friends and connecting with people that
may end up being the right person for you, I
(06:26):
want you to get clear on exactly the type of
partner you want to attract. Who do you want in
your life? What kind of boyfriend or girlfriend are you
looking for? What kind of partner are you looking for?
Get clear on it. And the reason I say get
clearer on it is so that you don't waste your
time messaging back and forth with people who clearly do
(06:46):
not have what you're looking for. So the way we
do this is we get a journal. Have you noticed
I love journaling. I'm a big support supporter of journaling.
Get a journal, get a notebook at a pen, start
writing down the qualities that are important to you and
a potential part Okay, so write down what it is
that you're looking for in this potential partner. Funny, ambitious, whatever,
(07:08):
whatever it is that you're looking for, write it down
in your journal. Then, after you write down the qualities
that you're looking for, write down your absolute must haves
non negotiable. You can't negotiate these qualities because they're so
important to you. For example, one of mine was always
someone who's very kind, very important for me. Another one
(07:29):
of mine was always someone who is funny. I love
to laugh. Laughter is really important for me. If you
can't make me laugh, then not going to work. So
these are just my must haves. What are your must haves?
What are the things that are absolutely important to you
that you can't live without and you deserve that you
can have those must haves. You don't have to sacrifice.
(07:50):
Do not sacrifice. Okay. What happens when we sacrifice is
that we end up being unhappy. Do not sacrifice your
non negotiables. You keep those going, okay, do not give
those up. But also know that no one is perfect.
Your potential partner, your future spouse, your future boyfriend or
(08:11):
girlfriend is not going to be flawless. They will have
some issues. They are not perfect. They are human, So
keep that in mind while still not negotiating on your
must have qualities. And then the other qualities. It's okay.
If you don't have them, you can sacrifice those or
negotiate those. Right, it's okay if they don't have them,
(08:31):
you can sacrifice those or negotiate those. But the non
negotiable ones are the ones that you never sacrifice or negotiate, okay.
So it's important to keep those so that you don't
end up feeling unhappy because this new person in your
life doesn't have any of the qualities you're looking for.
So there's a very fine line of balance between accepting
(08:54):
certain the lack of certain qualities and not negotiating on
the must have qualities. There is a fine line. Try
to maintain that, okay. That's why writing it down is
so critical. It will keep you on the right path
because what can also happen is that we meet someone,
we get all excited, Oh they're messaging me, you know,
(09:14):
we get all excited and everything, and then we forget
that this person doesn't have any quality we want in
our partner.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
They're lacking everything, they don't have anything, and then you
either waste your time or you end up going through
with it anyways and keep talking to them and then
start a relationship with them and end U unhappy because
they have nothing that you wanted in a partner.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
So this is the best way to use social media,
whether Instagram or Facebook, as a way of attracting a
potential partner into your life. Keep everything that I mentioned
today in.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Mind, utilize, use, use the tips that I gave you, okay,
and just baby steps, baby steps, get that account that
profile looking to suck you want, okay, remember that it
is your resume. Okay, It's crucial that it looks as
good as possible.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
And also if you do want to have a dating
profile and through a dating app, I actually offer a
service so I where I create that for you, So
I can make a dating profile for you on any
app that you want. We can talk about that. If
you're interested, you can comment below this video or you
can send me an email at Hello at mastering dating
(10:29):
dot com. Hello at masteringdating dot com.
In today's video, I am going to be sharing the
ways in which you can actually use your social media
profile to attract a potential partner. Maybe you don't want
to use a dating app, and that's perfectly fine. To
be honest with you, I was never a huge fan. However,
if you do want to use a dating app, that's
(00:20):
okay too. And I actually have a service where I
hope you create the perfect profile on any dating app
that you want if you'd like to use one. So
you have decided that you do not want to use
a dating app, how can you utilize your social media account,
let's say Instagram or let's say Facebook, to attract a
(00:41):
potential partner? Okay, before we get started, I want you
to keep this in mind. Your social media account is
going to be like a resume. Think about it that way.
If your goal is to attract a potential partner using
Instagram or Facebook, so I want you to clean it up.
I want you to get in there and clean up
your profile and keep one very important thing in mind.
(01:04):
Although it is important to remain authentic and genuine and
how you represent yourself right, which means you don't want
to be fake. You don't want to pretend to be
someone or something that you're not. It is, at the
same time very important to create an attractive image. And
what I mean by that is that your profile should
want should make people want to know more about you.
(01:27):
Make it really attractive so that when someone visits your page,
they say, now this person seems interesting. Oh they like this.
I like that too, Okay. Something to keep in mind
is this. If you are using, for example, let's say
Instagram to attract the right person to you, then I
(01:48):
want you to keep in mind that ninety five percent
of people who are but possibly interested in you in
a romantic way, and even more so if they're actually
be really interested in getting to know you on a
serious level, they are going to see what kind of followers,
what kind of people you are following, what kind of
(02:09):
accounts you are following. The reason for this is that
it gives them an idea as to the type of
person that you are. For example, let's say that you
follow tons of accounts with cats in them, then they're
going to assume that you love cats. Let's say you
follow accounts we're traveling, They're going to assume you love
to travel. So I want you to think about it
(02:30):
this way. What do I want my potential partner to
know about me? What am I ready to reveal? Because
half of the fun is not revealing everything about ourselves
right away, right, We want to keep a little mystery
while still being honest and genuine and authentic. So I
want you to keep that in mind. So before you
actually try to attract the right partner towards you, whether
(02:53):
you're using Instagram or Facebook, I want you to clean
up your account lists, your followers lists. Clean it up.
Remember that whatever you follow is what they're going to see.
Right the accounts that you follow, what is it that
you are comfortable with them knowing already about you? And
what are you not comfortable with them knowing? After you
(03:13):
clean up your follower's list, the people that you follow,
and you are certain that it is representing you in
the best light possible while still being honest and authentic. Right, So,
it doesn't mean you have to reveal everything you can.
You can keep a little mystery. You don't have to
show everything. But remember that what they see, they will see.
(03:35):
They will make an assumption about you, because it's human nature.
We all do that based on what they see as
your as the people the accounts that you are following, right,
So what they see on your profile, your friends, all
of that, they will make an assumption. So remember you
want to represent yourself in the best light possible while
(03:55):
being authentic. Once you've done that and you feel that
it's nicely clean and you're ready to go in that department,
I want you to work on your actual profile, your
Facebook page, your Instagram page. Upload a beautiful picture of
you or a handsome photo of you, okay as your
profile pick on Instagram or on Facebook, something that shows
(04:19):
you in the most attractive light. You don't have to
pretend to be something you're not or someone you're not.
That's not what I'm asking you to do. Just get
a really good picture of you, okay. And it helps
if you're smiling in the photo, because it makes you
look like you're easy to approach. If you are like
this in the photo, you may not be approached by
(04:40):
many people, just saying, but if you're something like that,
it's much more approachable. So don't be afraid to have
a picture of you smiling. Right. It doesn't have to
be a fake smile, doesn't have to be a huge smile,
a genuine kind sweet smile. That's all it takes so
that you are more approachable. Okay, that's the first I
want you to do. And then after that, I want
(05:02):
you to do this after you do that, work on
your interest. Okay, so this is not a dating profile page.
We know that, right, but we can still use it
as that if we want to attract the right partner
through social media. So you can write that. You can
write something nice and sweet and cute and catchy on
your Instagram bio, and you can do the same thing
(05:24):
on your Facebook profile page. Whatever it is that you
want that potential partner to know about, you write it,
make it catchy, don't make it too long, and certainly
don't make it sound like you're using a dating app,
because you're not. You're actually using social media. But we
don't want to look desperate or look like we're trying
too hard right or purposely look like we are trying
(05:44):
to use it as a dating app. We want to
keep that quiet, a mystery, but we also want to
be alluring, catchy, interesting. So write up a little bio
that talks about your interest and the things that you
enjoy doing whatever that happens to be, and that you
want the potential partner to know about you right now.
So once your profile is good to go and it
(06:06):
looks darn good and you feel like it shows you
in the best light possible while still being authentic, then
you're ready to start attracting potential partners. But before you
actually proceed with adding friends and connecting with people that
may end up being the right person for you, I
(06:26):
want you to get clear on exactly the type of
partner you want to attract. Who do you want in
your life? What kind of boyfriend or girlfriend are you
looking for? What kind of partner are you looking for?
Get clear on it. And the reason I say get
clearer on it is so that you don't waste your
time messaging back and forth with people who clearly do
(06:46):
not have what you're looking for. So the way we
do this is we get a journal. Have you noticed
I love journaling. I'm a big support supporter of journaling.
Get a journal, get a notebook at a pen, start
writing down the qualities that are important to you and
a potential part Okay, so write down what it is
that you're looking for in this potential partner. Funny, ambitious, whatever,
(07:08):
whatever it is that you're looking for, write it down
in your journal. Then, after you write down the qualities
that you're looking for, write down your absolute must haves
non negotiable. You can't negotiate these qualities because they're so
important to you. For example, one of mine was always
someone who's very kind, very important for me. Another one
(07:29):
of mine was always someone who is funny. I love
to laugh. Laughter is really important for me. If you
can't make me laugh, then not going to work. So
these are just my must haves. What are your must haves?
What are the things that are absolutely important to you
that you can't live without and you deserve that you
can have those must haves. You don't have to sacrifice.
(07:50):
Do not sacrifice. Okay. What happens when we sacrifice is
that we end up being unhappy. Do not sacrifice your
non negotiables. You keep those going, okay, do not give
those up. But also know that no one is perfect.
Your potential partner, your future spouse, your future boyfriend or
(08:11):
girlfriend is not going to be flawless. They will have
some issues. They are not perfect. They are human, So
keep that in mind while still not negotiating on your
must have qualities. And then the other qualities. It's okay.
If you don't have them, you can sacrifice those or
negotiate those. Right, it's okay if they don't have them,
(08:31):
you can sacrifice those or negotiate those. But the non
negotiable ones are the ones that you never sacrifice or negotiate, okay.
So it's important to keep those so that you don't
end up feeling unhappy because this new person in your
life doesn't have any of the qualities you're looking for.
So there's a very fine line of balance between accepting
(08:54):
certain the lack of certain qualities and not negotiating on
the must have qualities. There is a fine line. Try
to maintain that, okay. That's why writing it down is
so critical. It will keep you on the right path
because what can also happen is that we meet someone,
we get all excited, Oh they're messaging me, you know,
(09:14):
we get all excited and everything, and then we forget
that this person doesn't have any quality we want in
our partner.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
They're lacking everything, they don't have anything, and then you
either waste your time or you end up going through
with it anyways and keep talking to them and then
start a relationship with them and end U unhappy because
they have nothing that you wanted in a partner.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
So this is the best way to use social media,
whether Instagram or Facebook, as a way of attracting a
potential partner into your life. Keep everything that I mentioned
today in.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Mind, utilize, use, use the tips that I gave you, okay,
and just baby steps, baby steps, get that account that
profile looking to suck you want, okay, remember that it
is your resume. Okay, It's crucial that it looks as
good as possible.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
And also if you do want to have a dating
profile and through a dating app, I actually offer a
service so I where I create that for you, So
I can make a dating profile for you on any
app that you want. We can talk about that. If
you're interested, you can comment below this video or you
can send me an email at Hello at mastering dating
(10:29):
dot com. Hello at masteringdating dot com.
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