February 16, 2025 • 6 mins
In this episode, Waleska Latorre shares essential dating advice, emphasizing the significance of leaving emotional baggage behind on a first date. She compares the first date to an interview, where vulnerability and authenticity are key to making a positive impression. Waleska advises against presenting a guarded or overly strong persona, suggesting that a calm and open energy is more likely to lead to a second date. She encourages individuals to reveal their true selves gradually, akin to peeling an onion, to foster genuine connections.
Takeaways:
As Waleska says, "We wanna bring in a calm energy." and "Put your guard down."
TRANSCRIPT:
Waleska Latorre (00:18)
I'm going to be telling you the number one thing to avoid when you go on a first date. If you wanna get to the second date, you will not do this one particular thing. I want you to remember that a first date is like an interview, guys. You must pass the first date before you can get to the second date. So that first date is your chance to really grab the attention of the person that you're on a date with. So one thing I want you to do when you show up on your first date is to leave behind any of that emotional baggage that you carry with you that we all carry.
Leave all of that emotional baggage behind. And I know we all carry it. We've all been hurt at some point in our lives. The thing is that if you bring that emotional baggage with you to your first date, it's going to affect how you appear to the other person. When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date, we have our guard up. And we're either A, ready to fight if we need to fight, or B, so protected that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self to shine through. And this is our chance to show ourselves in our best light. This is like an interview. So don't be guarded, leave that behind, and instead allow yourself to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there.
When you're vulnerable, your date will be able to really see a glimpse of the type of person that you really are. So what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded to that first date, then your date is going to see this very tough exterior, a tough person who's independent and strong. But that's not necessarily what we want to show on that first date. You can show that a little bit later when the time is right. At the beginning, we want to be bringing a calm, beautiful energy to the table. Right? Allow yourself to sit in a peaceful energy with your guard down so that you can be as authentic as possible and that person can really get to see a little glimpse of the type of person that you are.
This is your chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded, protective energy to the table because then you're going to be seen as that type of person and the truth is that it's not who you always are. You're not always this tough person ready to fight and protect yourself if you have to. You're not always that person. You have peaceful, calm moments where you sit in your most authentic self. When you're at home alone, you're your most authentic self when no one is watching or when you're with your friends or loved ones or your family.
Don't be afraid to bring that version of you to the first date because that's the version that they need to see on the first date, which remember, is like your interview. And once they get to know you, then you can show them that you're independent and strong. And you can show it to them when the timing is correct. The timing is not on the first date. You don't want to scare that person away. You don't want to intimidate them. And I'm not saying don't be yourself. If yourself, your true self is someone who's strong and independent, that's fantastic. I'm not saying don't be that. I'm just saying don't.
Don't bring that person to the table yet. Wait before you bring that person to the table, okay? We're all filled with different types of qualities. We're strong sometimes, we're independent sometimes, we're gentle sometimes, we're sensitive sometimes. All I want you to do is to wait, to hold off on showing that part of your personality until the timing is correct. It's just not made for a first date because the person can get easily scared or intimidated, or they're going to t
Takeaways:
- A first date is like an interview.
- Leave emotional baggage behind to make a good impression.
- Vulnerability allows your authentic self to shine.
- Don't present a tough exterior on a first date.
- Bring a calm and open energy to the table.
- Show your true self gradually, like peeling an onion.
- Strong qualities can be revealed later in the relationship.
- Captivating your date is essential for a second date.
- Being guarded can scare potential partners away.
- Authenticity is key to forming genuine connections.
As Waleska says, "We wanna bring in a calm energy." and "Put your guard down."
TRANSCRIPT:
Waleska Latorre (00:18)
I'm going to be telling you the number one thing to avoid when you go on a first date. If you wanna get to the second date, you will not do this one particular thing. I want you to remember that a first date is like an interview, guys. You must pass the first date before you can get to the second date. So that first date is your chance to really grab the attention of the person that you're on a date with. So one thing I want you to do when you show up on your first date is to leave behind any of that emotional baggage that you carry with you that we all carry.
Leave all of that emotional baggage behind. And I know we all carry it. We've all been hurt at some point in our lives. The thing is that if you bring that emotional baggage with you to your first date, it's going to affect how you appear to the other person. When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date, we have our guard up. And we're either A, ready to fight if we need to fight, or B, so protected that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self to shine through. And this is our chance to show ourselves in our best light. This is like an interview. So don't be guarded, leave that behind, and instead allow yourself to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there.
When you're vulnerable, your date will be able to really see a glimpse of the type of person that you really are. So what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded to that first date, then your date is going to see this very tough exterior, a tough person who's independent and strong. But that's not necessarily what we want to show on that first date. You can show that a little bit later when the time is right. At the beginning, we want to be bringing a calm, beautiful energy to the table. Right? Allow yourself to sit in a peaceful energy with your guard down so that you can be as authentic as possible and that person can really get to see a little glimpse of the type of person that you are.
This is your chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded, protective energy to the table because then you're going to be seen as that type of person and the truth is that it's not who you always are. You're not always this tough person ready to fight and protect yourself if you have to. You're not always that person. You have peaceful, calm moments where you sit in your most authentic self. When you're at home alone, you're your most authentic self when no one is watching or when you're with your friends or loved ones or your family.
Don't be afraid to bring that version of you to the first date because that's the version that they need to see on the first date, which remember, is like your interview. And once they get to know you, then you can show them that you're independent and strong. And you can show it to them when the timing is correct. The timing is not on the first date. You don't want to scare that person away. You don't want to intimidate them. And I'm not saying don't be yourself. If yourself, your true self is someone who's strong and independent, that's fantastic. I'm not saying don't be that. I'm just saying don't.
Don't bring that person to the table yet. Wait before you bring that person to the table, okay? We're all filled with different types of qualities. We're strong sometimes, we're independent sometimes, we're gentle sometimes, we're sensitive sometimes. All I want you to do is to wait, to hold off on showing that part of your personality until the timing is correct. It's just not made for a first date because the person can get easily scared or intimidated, or they're going to t
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I'm going to be telling you the number one thing
to avoid when you go on a first date. If
you want to get to the second date, you will
not do this one particular thing.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
I want you to remember that a first date is
like an interview.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Guys, you must pass the first date before you can
get to the second date. So that first date is
your chance to really grab the attention of the person
that you're on a day to So one thing I
want you to do when you show up on your
first date is to leave behind any of that emotional
baggage that you carry with you that we all carry.
(00:54):
Leave all of that emotional baggage behind, and I know
we all carry it, been hurt at some point in
our lives. The thing is that if you bring that
emotional baggage with you to your first date, is it's
going to affect how you appear to the other person.
When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date,
(01:15):
we have our guard up and we're either a ready
to fight if we need to fight, or be so
protected that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self
to shine through. And this is our chance to show
ourselves in our best light. This is like an interview,
So don't be guarded, leave that behind and instead allow
(01:38):
yourself to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there. When
you're vulnerable, your date will be able to really see
a glimpse of the type of person that you really are.
So what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded
to that first date, then your date is going to
see this very tough exterior, tough person who's independent and strong.
(02:04):
But that's not necessarily what we want to show on
that first date.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
You can show that a little bit later when the
time is right.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
At the beginning, we want to be bringing a calm,
beautiful energy to the table. Right allow yourself to sit
in a peaceful energy with your guard down, so that
you can be as authentic as possible, and that person
can really get to see a little glimpse of the
type of person that you are.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
This is your.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded, protective energy to
the table, because then you're going to be seen as
that type of person.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
And the truth is that it's not who you always are.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
You're not always this tough person ready to find and
protect yourself if you have to.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
You're not always that person.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
You have peaceful, calm moments where you sit in your
most authentic self when you're at home, I'm alone. You're
your most authentic self when no one is watching, or
when you're with your friends or loved ones or your family.
Don't be afraid to bring that version of you to
the first day because that's the version that they need
to see on the first date, which, remember is like
(03:17):
your interview, and once they get to know you, then
you can show them that you're independent and strong, and
you can show it to them when the timing is correct.
The timing is not on the first day. You don't
want to scare that person away. You don't want to
intimidate them. And I'm not saying don't be yourself. If yourself,
your true self, is someone who's strong and independent, that's fantastic.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I'm not saying don't be that.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
I'm just saying, don't don't bring that person to the
table yet. Wait before you bring that person to the table. Okay,
we're all filled with different types of qualities. We're strong,
sometimes we're independent, Sometimes we're gentle, sometimes more sensitive times.
All I want you to do is to wait all
(04:03):
to hold off on showing that part of your personality
until the timing is correct. It's just not made for
a first date because a person can get easily scared
or intimidated, or they're going to think that you're always
like this tough, strong, rough, independent, protective.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
They're going to think that you're always like that.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
And those are beautiful, wonderful qualities to have at a
certain time in life, not on a first date. So
bring a peaceful, calm, wonderful, open, authentic energy to your
first date. Captivate them and get yourself to the second date.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
First, and then they can get to know you more
and get to know the other side.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They can get to know that strong, independent side of
you a little bit later on. Okay, see it as
an onion. Right when you're peeling the onion, you're going
layer by layer, right, layer by layer. You don't want
to bring on these very strong personality quality, so quickly
early on right. We want to bring in a calm energy.
(05:07):
A calm, open, authentic, vulnerable energy is what's going to
get you to the second date.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
And I know that can make you feel uncomfortable. I
get it. I've been there, I was there before.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
But in order to get to the second date, you
must put the weapons down, put your guard down.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Okay, you can do it. It was so great to
be here for you guys today. Have a lovely weekend
and I'll see you soon.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
If you guys are interested in joining the Supporters Club,
look in the show notes for the link. You will
have immediate access to private episodes and posts where you
can interact with me.
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I'm going to be telling you the number one thing
to avoid when you go on a first date. If
you want to get to the second date, you will
not do this one particular thing.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
I want you to remember that a first date is
like an interview.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Guys, you must pass the first date before you can
get to the second date. So that first date is
your chance to really grab the attention of the person
that you're on a day to So one thing I
want you to do when you show up on your
first date is to leave behind any of that emotional
baggage that you carry with you that we all carry.
(00:54):
Leave all of that emotional baggage behind, and I know
we all carry it, been hurt at some point in
our lives. The thing is that if you bring that
emotional baggage with you to your first date, is it's
going to affect how you appear to the other person.
When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date,
(01:15):
we have our guard up and we're either a ready
to fight if we need to fight, or be so
protected that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self
to shine through. And this is our chance to show
ourselves in our best light. This is like an interview,
So don't be guarded, leave that behind and instead allow
(01:38):
yourself to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there. When
you're vulnerable, your date will be able to really see
a glimpse of the type of person that you really are.
So what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded
to that first date, then your date is going to
see this very tough exterior, tough person who's independent and strong.
(02:04):
But that's not necessarily what we want to show on
that first date.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
You can show that a little bit later when the
time is right.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
At the beginning, we want to be bringing a calm,
beautiful energy to the table. Right allow yourself to sit
in a peaceful energy with your guard down, so that
you can be as authentic as possible, and that person
can really get to see a little glimpse of the
type of person that you are.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
This is your.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded, protective energy to
the table, because then you're going to be seen as
that type of person.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
And the truth is that it's not who you always are.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
You're not always this tough person ready to find and
protect yourself if you have to.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
You're not always that person.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
You have peaceful, calm moments where you sit in your
most authentic self when you're at home, I'm alone. You're
your most authentic self when no one is watching, or
when you're with your friends or loved ones or your family.
Don't be afraid to bring that version of you to
the first day because that's the version that they need
to see on the first date, which, remember is like
(03:17):
your interview, and once they get to know you, then
you can show them that you're independent and strong, and
you can show it to them when the timing is correct.
The timing is not on the first day. You don't
want to scare that person away. You don't want to
intimidate them. And I'm not saying don't be yourself. If yourself,
your true self, is someone who's strong and independent, that's fantastic.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I'm not saying don't be that.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
I'm just saying, don't don't bring that person to the
table yet. Wait before you bring that person to the table. Okay,
we're all filled with different types of qualities. We're strong,
sometimes we're independent, Sometimes we're gentle, sometimes more sensitive times.
All I want you to do is to wait all
(04:03):
to hold off on showing that part of your personality
until the timing is correct. It's just not made for
a first date because a person can get easily scared
or intimidated, or they're going to think that you're always
like this tough, strong, rough, independent, protective.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
They're going to think that you're always like that.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
And those are beautiful, wonderful qualities to have at a
certain time in life, not on a first date. So
bring a peaceful, calm, wonderful, open, authentic energy to your
first date. Captivate them and get yourself to the second date.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
First, and then they can get to know you more
and get to know the other side.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They can get to know that strong, independent side of
you a little bit later on. Okay, see it as
an onion. Right when you're peeling the onion, you're going
layer by layer, right, layer by layer. You don't want
to bring on these very strong personality quality, so quickly
early on right. We want to bring in a calm energy.
(05:07):
A calm, open, authentic, vulnerable energy is what's going to
get you to the second date.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
And I know that can make you feel uncomfortable. I
get it. I've been there, I was there before.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
But in order to get to the second date, you
must put the weapons down, put your guard down.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Okay, you can do it. It was so great to
be here for you guys today. Have a lovely weekend
and I'll see you soon.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
If you guys are interested in joining the Supporters Club,
look in the show notes for the link. You will
have immediate access to private episodes and posts where you
can interact with me.
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