January 16, 2025 • 11 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, Welcome to Mastering Dating. I'm Velaska, your show host.
I'm so excited to be here for another episode. I've
decided to create a video episode, so if you are
on Spotify listening to this or Speaker using the Speaker
app to listen to Mastering Dating, then you will be
able to see this in a video format. I'm not
(00:23):
sure what other listening platforms allow video formats, but I
do believe that most of them do, maybe not Apple Podcast.
Though I'm excited to be here today for another episode.
I hope that you all had a fantastic Christmas and
New Year's and that you are ready and excited to
conquer twenty twenty five. So if you're listening to this episode,
(00:46):
most likely you are trying to manifest either a great
relationship or a marriage in the year twenty twenty five.
So let's make that happen. In today's episode, I am
going to talk to you about the importance of always
sticking it out with someone who also puts in the work.
(01:09):
If you see them putting in the work and you're
putting in the work, then your chances of having a thriving,
long lasting relationship are going to be a lot higher
than if they're not putting in the work. Do not
even waste your time with someone who's not willing to
put in the work. Always go for the partner who's
willing to put in the work. And you know what
(01:31):
I mean by this. For example, let's say that I'm
starting to get to know someone and I'm in the
talking stages of getting to know a man. And let's
say that I am willing to talk, I am willing
to get on video chat, I am willing to talk
on the phone, I am willing to really communicate with
him in different ways and not just send a text message,
(01:52):
which anyone can do. It only takes a few seconds.
If I am really putting in the work to try
to get to know him better and try to push
our connection to the next level, and he's not doing
the same thing in return, then that is a sign
that he's not putting in the same level of work
as you are. Now, it's okay. If he's busy or
(02:14):
he has something going on, or if she's busy, she
has something going on from time to time, or maybe
they work a lot, or maybe you have very different schedules,
that's okay. That's called life. We all have it, we're
all busy. The important thing is that they find the
time for you at some point during the week or weekend.
That is important thing. If you're a partner or your
(02:36):
person that you're talking to and getting to know never
has time for you and only has time to send
a few text messages here and there. They don't really
want to have this connection with you. Maybe they're in
it just for fun, maybe they're just bored, or they're
going along with it. Whatever it is, they're not truly
(02:57):
wanting to pursue this with you. Because I guarantee that
any man or woman who's truly interested in forming some
kind of a connection with you that could possibly turn
into a committed relationship is going to put in some work.
He's not and she's not going to just send you
some text messages. From time to time, you will see
(03:19):
that they're making an effort. They will ask you if
you can talk on video, they will ask you if
you can talk on the phone. They will call you,
they will video chat you. They will make an effort
to get to know you and spend quality time with you,
not just texting all of the time. So you want
to look at that, Okay, it's very important that you
take time out to really reflect on this new connection
(03:43):
that you have in your life with this person who
could possibly turn into a committed relationship into a committed partner.
Ask yourself what it is that you want. Do you
want to be with someone who's going to put in
the work, or do you want to be with someone
who's going to only do our everything half ass right,
not fully doing it. Someone who puts in the work
(04:04):
early on in the relationship and the connection is someone
who is much more likely to stick it out with
you when things get tough, when things get challenging, Because
that's what a real relationship is about. It's not about
just those moments when everything is great and we're laughing
and everything is wonderful. I feel great, I have butterflies.
(04:27):
Oh he's so cute, she's so sweet. It's not just
about that. That's like surface level stuff, guys. It goes
much deeper than that. It's about real commitment, sticking it
out when it's tough, being with someone who's not going
to give up on you just because things get challenging,
Being with someone who's not going to run the other
(04:48):
direction when things get hard. A true partner who loves
you and is committed and really wants to put in
the work. Is the type of partner who's going to
make an amazing, long lasting partner, someone who you can
build a life with, someone that you can build a
(05:08):
long lasting relationship with, whether it is marriage that you
want or just a long lasting relationship with someone. This
is the type of person who's going to go the
extra mile for you. Do you want to be with
someone who goes the extra mile for you or do
you want to be with someone who just sends you
some text messages from time to time because he's bored,
(05:30):
he's too busy for you, he doesn't have time for you. No, no, no,
no no. In the year twenty twenty five, we are
going to make an effort to really build the life
that we want, whether it is for our business, our career,
or a love, whatever it is that you want this
year in twenty twenty five, this is your chance to
(05:50):
get out there and make it happen. And one of
the ways to do that is to make sure that
you don't settle. Do not settle for anyone who's not
willing to put in the work, Settle for anyone who
doesn't want to do their share of the work, because
I guarantee that that man or that woman is going
to run the other direction when things get tough or
when he gets bored. You want to build something that
(06:13):
is meaningful with someone, and one of the best ways
to do that is to build a very strong foundation first,
a friendship. Believe it or not, the old saying goes true.
A strong foundation of friendship. If you have that, that
is able to survive so much more than some kind
of a connection built on a one night fling, something
(06:35):
meaningless like a fling or something like that, and one
night's stand. No, if you want to really build something
that's going to last for as long as possible and
possibly turn into a beautiful marriage or other type of
relationship that you want, then you want to stick to
the kind of person who's willing to put in the work.
And of course that goes for you too. You have
(06:56):
to put in the work too. It's not just the
other person. It's fifty to fifty. Both people have to
put in the work. So this year, I really want
you guys to like and ladies to really focus on
not settling for people that you don't care about, not
that you don't care about, but not selling for settling
for people that don't care enough to build something with you,
(07:20):
that aren't persistent, that aren't committed, that aren't you know,
sticking to what they say. There's nothing worse than someone
who says they're going to do something and they never
do it. He says he's going to call you, but
he never does. He says he wants to talk to
you on video chat, but he never makes the effort,
and you're just kind of waiting, and you know, waiting
(07:42):
and waiting. Okay, so when is it going to happen. No,
if they say they're going to do something and they
repeatedly don't do it, that is a sign. That is
a red flag. Guys, you want to be with someone
who is going to do what they say they're going
to do. I know, life sometimes happens, and we can't
(08:03):
always do everything we say we're going to do, because
things can happen life in life. But for the most part,
you want to be with someone who's going to do
what they say that they will do. Hey, honey, yes,
I would love to video chat with you. I'll call
you on Friday night and we can make that happen
and then Friday night comes and he calls you. Right,
(08:26):
this is the kind of man that's sexy or woman
that's hot. When someone does what they say they're going
to do and actually really goes with it and does it,
that's sexy and that's the kind of partner that you need.
That's the kind of partner you want to have in
your life. If you want long lasting, a long lasting
(08:46):
relationship or a marriage, that's the kind of partnership that
you need. And one of the best ways to do that,
going back to what I said earlier, is by building
this foundation of a strong friendship, right, Because when you
have the strong friendship that you built first, and then
you build a relationship on top of that, then you
have something holding you. It's like a piece of glue
(09:07):
holding something together. You have something holding you because the
reality is that you're not always going to feel butterflies
for your partner. You're not always going.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
To feel the exciting little feelings that you feel at
the beginning. That's not always going to be there, guys.
So what happens when those things kind of diminish a
little bit or disappear, What do you have left a
strong foundation of friendship. That's why it's so important to
build on that. When you build a relationship that has
(09:38):
already been built on a strong foundation of friendship, you
are able to overcome problems a lot better. You are
able to communicate better with each other. You are able
to be honest with each other.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
You are able to overcome challenges that are thrown into
your relationship. You're able to to overcome obstacles that are
thrown into your life or his or her life. Things
are easier to handle when you have a strong foundation
of friendship that is underneath that relationship that you have built.
So go for a relationship that is built on something meaningful.
(10:18):
If you want to have real love in twenty twenty five,
if you want to get married, if you want to
be in a committed relationship with someone that really loves you,
remember that if someone doesn't give their share of the work,
and they don't truly commit to you, then they're not
showing you any that you're valuable. You are a valuable
(10:39):
man or woman. You deserve the best. You deserve to
be with someone who's going to look at you and
say you are worth so much. You are an amazing man,
You are an amazing woman, and I'm going to show
you just how amazing you are. That's the kind of
person that you want to be with, not someone who's
going to be like h Now, text a few mess
(11:00):
and I'll be done.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Come on, guys, you deserve so much better than that.
Please don't even go for that type of person, because
that type of person is going to hurt you later on. Okay,
So I hope that you enjoyed today's video chat. It's
so weird to watch myself do this at the same
time as talking about dating coaching, but I'll get used
to it. I'm not going to do this every episode,
(11:23):
but I'm going to start doing it a lot more,
just to kind of bring a little bit something different
to the table. So if you guys enjoyed it today's episode,
then that's great. I'm so glad that you did. I
would love for you to give me a rating or
just subscribe to my podcast channel. That way you always
know when I upload a new episode. Love you all,
take care, and I'll see you soon.
Hello, Welcome to Mastering Dating. I'm Velaska, your show host.
I'm so excited to be here for another episode. I've
decided to create a video episode, so if you are
on Spotify listening to this or Speaker using the Speaker
app to listen to Mastering Dating, then you will be
able to see this in a video format. I'm not
(00:23):
sure what other listening platforms allow video formats, but I
do believe that most of them do, maybe not Apple Podcast.
Though I'm excited to be here today for another episode.
I hope that you all had a fantastic Christmas and
New Year's and that you are ready and excited to
conquer twenty twenty five. So if you're listening to this episode,
(00:46):
most likely you are trying to manifest either a great
relationship or a marriage in the year twenty twenty five.
So let's make that happen. In today's episode, I am
going to talk to you about the importance of always
sticking it out with someone who also puts in the work.
(01:09):
If you see them putting in the work and you're
putting in the work, then your chances of having a thriving,
long lasting relationship are going to be a lot higher
than if they're not putting in the work. Do not
even waste your time with someone who's not willing to
put in the work. Always go for the partner who's
willing to put in the work. And you know what
(01:31):
I mean by this. For example, let's say that I'm
starting to get to know someone and I'm in the
talking stages of getting to know a man. And let's
say that I am willing to talk, I am willing
to get on video chat, I am willing to talk
on the phone, I am willing to really communicate with
him in different ways and not just send a text message,
(01:52):
which anyone can do. It only takes a few seconds.
If I am really putting in the work to try
to get to know him better and try to push
our connection to the next level, and he's not doing
the same thing in return, then that is a sign
that he's not putting in the same level of work
as you are. Now, it's okay. If he's busy or
(02:14):
he has something going on, or if she's busy, she
has something going on from time to time, or maybe
they work a lot, or maybe you have very different schedules,
that's okay. That's called life. We all have it, we're
all busy. The important thing is that they find the
time for you at some point during the week or weekend.
That is important thing. If you're a partner or your
(02:36):
person that you're talking to and getting to know never
has time for you and only has time to send
a few text messages here and there. They don't really
want to have this connection with you. Maybe they're in
it just for fun, maybe they're just bored, or they're
going along with it. Whatever it is, they're not truly
(02:57):
wanting to pursue this with you. Because I guarantee that
any man or woman who's truly interested in forming some
kind of a connection with you that could possibly turn
into a committed relationship is going to put in some work.
He's not and she's not going to just send you
some text messages. From time to time, you will see
(03:19):
that they're making an effort. They will ask you if
you can talk on video, they will ask you if
you can talk on the phone. They will call you,
they will video chat you. They will make an effort
to get to know you and spend quality time with you,
not just texting all of the time. So you want
to look at that, Okay, it's very important that you
take time out to really reflect on this new connection
(03:43):
that you have in your life with this person who
could possibly turn into a committed relationship into a committed partner.
Ask yourself what it is that you want. Do you
want to be with someone who's going to put in
the work, or do you want to be with someone
who's going to only do our everything half ass right,
not fully doing it. Someone who puts in the work
(04:04):
early on in the relationship and the connection is someone
who is much more likely to stick it out with
you when things get tough, when things get challenging, Because
that's what a real relationship is about. It's not about
just those moments when everything is great and we're laughing
and everything is wonderful. I feel great, I have butterflies.
(04:27):
Oh he's so cute, she's so sweet. It's not just
about that. That's like surface level stuff, guys. It goes
much deeper than that. It's about real commitment, sticking it
out when it's tough, being with someone who's not going
to give up on you just because things get challenging,
Being with someone who's not going to run the other
(04:48):
direction when things get hard. A true partner who loves
you and is committed and really wants to put in
the work. Is the type of partner who's going to
make an amazing, long lasting partner, someone who you can
build a life with, someone that you can build a
(05:08):
long lasting relationship with, whether it is marriage that you
want or just a long lasting relationship with someone. This
is the type of person who's going to go the
extra mile for you. Do you want to be with
someone who goes the extra mile for you or do
you want to be with someone who just sends you
some text messages from time to time because he's bored,
(05:30):
he's too busy for you, he doesn't have time for you. No, no, no,
no no. In the year twenty twenty five, we are
going to make an effort to really build the life
that we want, whether it is for our business, our career,
or a love, whatever it is that you want this
year in twenty twenty five, this is your chance to
(05:50):
get out there and make it happen. And one of
the ways to do that is to make sure that
you don't settle. Do not settle for anyone who's not
willing to put in the work, Settle for anyone who
doesn't want to do their share of the work, because
I guarantee that that man or that woman is going
to run the other direction when things get tough or
when he gets bored. You want to build something that
(06:13):
is meaningful with someone, and one of the best ways
to do that is to build a very strong foundation first,
a friendship. Believe it or not, the old saying goes true.
A strong foundation of friendship. If you have that, that
is able to survive so much more than some kind
of a connection built on a one night fling, something
(06:35):
meaningless like a fling or something like that, and one
night's stand. No, if you want to really build something
that's going to last for as long as possible and
possibly turn into a beautiful marriage or other type of
relationship that you want, then you want to stick to
the kind of person who's willing to put in the work.
And of course that goes for you too. You have
(06:56):
to put in the work too. It's not just the
other person. It's fifty to fifty. Both people have to
put in the work. So this year, I really want
you guys to like and ladies to really focus on
not settling for people that you don't care about, not
that you don't care about, but not selling for settling
for people that don't care enough to build something with you,
(07:20):
that aren't persistent, that aren't committed, that aren't you know,
sticking to what they say. There's nothing worse than someone
who says they're going to do something and they never
do it. He says he's going to call you, but
he never does. He says he wants to talk to
you on video chat, but he never makes the effort,
and you're just kind of waiting, and you know, waiting
(07:42):
and waiting. Okay, so when is it going to happen. No,
if they say they're going to do something and they
repeatedly don't do it, that is a sign. That is
a red flag. Guys, you want to be with someone
who is going to do what they say they're going
to do. I know, life sometimes happens, and we can't
(08:03):
always do everything we say we're going to do, because
things can happen life in life. But for the most part,
you want to be with someone who's going to do
what they say that they will do. Hey, honey, yes,
I would love to video chat with you. I'll call
you on Friday night and we can make that happen
and then Friday night comes and he calls you. Right,
(08:26):
this is the kind of man that's sexy or woman
that's hot. When someone does what they say they're going
to do and actually really goes with it and does it,
that's sexy and that's the kind of partner that you need.
That's the kind of partner you want to have in
your life. If you want long lasting, a long lasting
(08:46):
relationship or a marriage, that's the kind of partnership that
you need. And one of the best ways to do that,
going back to what I said earlier, is by building
this foundation of a strong friendship, right, Because when you
have the strong friendship that you built first, and then
you build a relationship on top of that, then you
have something holding you. It's like a piece of glue
(09:07):
holding something together. You have something holding you because the
reality is that you're not always going to feel butterflies
for your partner. You're not always going.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
To feel the exciting little feelings that you feel at
the beginning. That's not always going to be there, guys.
So what happens when those things kind of diminish a
little bit or disappear, What do you have left a
strong foundation of friendship. That's why it's so important to
build on that. When you build a relationship that has
(09:38):
already been built on a strong foundation of friendship, you
are able to overcome problems a lot better. You are
able to communicate better with each other. You are able
to be honest with each other.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
You are able to overcome challenges that are thrown into
your relationship. You're able to to overcome obstacles that are
thrown into your life or his or her life. Things
are easier to handle when you have a strong foundation
of friendship that is underneath that relationship that you have built.
So go for a relationship that is built on something meaningful.
(10:18):
If you want to have real love in twenty twenty five,
if you want to get married, if you want to
be in a committed relationship with someone that really loves you,
remember that if someone doesn't give their share of the work,
and they don't truly commit to you, then they're not
showing you any that you're valuable. You are a valuable
(10:39):
man or woman. You deserve the best. You deserve to
be with someone who's going to look at you and
say you are worth so much. You are an amazing man,
You are an amazing woman, and I'm going to show
you just how amazing you are. That's the kind of
person that you want to be with, not someone who's
going to be like h Now, text a few mess
(11:00):
and I'll be done.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
You know.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
Come on, guys, you deserve so much better than that.
Please don't even go for that type of person, because
that type of person is going to hurt you later on. Okay,
So I hope that you enjoyed today's video chat. It's
so weird to watch myself do this at the same
time as talking about dating coaching, but I'll get used
to it. I'm not going to do this every episode,
(11:23):
but I'm going to start doing it a lot more,
just to kind of bring a little bit something different
to the table. So if you guys enjoyed it today's episode,
then that's great. I'm so glad that you did. I
would love for you to give me a rating or
just subscribe to my podcast channel. That way you always
know when I upload a new episode. Love you all,
take care, and I'll see you soon.
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