May 26, 2025 • 38 mins
The Midlife Crisisses are back! On today's episode, Tyson Apostol (@tysonapostol) Bradley Hasemayer (@bhaz) and William Drumm (@williamdrumm) discuss self-consciousness and dealing with their own physical insecurities.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisises. I'm Tyson, one of the hosts.
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife crisises. We want
to know what kind of stuff you are going through
so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this quote as well.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it. Which one of us hates
their lower back fat, which one of us has overly
big ears, and which one of us gets a bright
red nose as soon as their heart starts beating. Find
out on midlife crisis is we're self conscious and we're
gonna let you know about it.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hey, everybody, welcome to Midlive crisises. We're all over here
having some crisises, and I'm sure you are too. Thanks
for listening, Thanks for watching, Thanks for the follows, the likes,
the subs. We're getting some fun questions from some of
our listeners. We love getting those questions. Sometimes we feed
those in and we try to process those ourselves. We're
just three dudes going through it, trying to figure it out.
(01:25):
I'm Bradley Hazemayer out of Atlanta, living my best life
with a couple of kids.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
My dog is with me today.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
I'm a content creator and trying to figure out kind
of what's next for my life or is this my life?
And that lays into some of my crisises. But I'm
not alone processing then. We've also got William William. How
you doing today?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Man?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What's up everybody? I'm doing great. I'm William Drum. I'm
a Denver based underwater photographer who just moved into a
new house.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
Yeah, you're excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm getting ready for an underwater photography trip next week
to Cabo and I'm also turning forty years old one
week from tomorrow. So I am looking at everything. I'm
looking around. I'm full I wouldn't even just say midlife crisis.
It's turning into full blown existential crisis.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
Wow, subistential.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I'm out here doing what I can. I'm a single dad.
I've got a beautiful five year old daughter who just
turned five the other day, and just coping, just coping. Yeah, well,
I mean for some therapy from my friends Tyson and
Bradley over here.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah yeah, I mean we try to give it to
you straight. I'm Tyson Apostle on TV. A bunch of times,
just kind of winged my way through life, found myself
here and it's not a bad place. It's pretty good place.
But you know, I'm in my midlife and things are
changing and I don't know how I always feel about it.
(02:54):
I just got done dadding so hard this weekend, Rachel,
my wife is of town, still in Cabo Williams. She's
she's checking it out for you. And I had to
drive both my kids to Las Vegas by myself. Totally fine.
Everybody's like, the dad's complaining about.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Stuff from Arizona. So it's not four and a half
five hours, five hours.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
And then but Bergen had a synchronized swimming competition, so
I had to learn how to do the hair. I
had to pull it back, do it in two braids,
wrap it and do a bun cover it in gelatine
so it holds underwater.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
M yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And so today, yeah, it's called Knox Unflavored.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
Get it.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
If you want to do some cool photography stuff with it.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
William Williams, it'll yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
And so I did that two days, three days in
a row, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
She had stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
The little one was such a trooper. My six year
old Marlowe. She had to hang out at the pool
all day asking when we could go. And I was like,
I don't know, because these competitions, it's not like they're like, yeah,
we end at six.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
They're like we end when we end, and we're going
to try and keep them longer. They literally do.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
They literally every single as you're inching close to being
near the end, you can just feel the organization just like,
how can we cling on to people longer.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I think likes in sports can relate to that tournament experience.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Yeah, and it's just like the awards, Okay, cool the
awards and they're like everybody's like okay, now we can go,
and they're like we want all the.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Competitors to pose for a giant group picture, like do
this at.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
The start stop? Right? Can't you see us standing around
for three days wanting to go since the holding bags? Yes,
the exit yeah, can't you read the room?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
And it was just like whatever, But it was fun.
Bergen loves it, uh, and so and I am very
proud of myself that I got it done, got us
through it, and not even without a crisis. But I
think think I excelled. One of the older competitors told
Bergen she had the best hair, the best they call
(05:09):
it Knox, the best Knox hair of everyone that she's
seen at the competition.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Wow, let's go. That's impressive. Way to go.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
And you were saying earlier pretty much only do pigtails normally.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I only do ponytails. It's all I can do. And
they don't even like my ponytails because I do like
a sloppy, true detective Matthew McConaughey ponytail, not like a
cool like nice, the sloppy.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Yeah, the sloppy looks so cool.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Franklin, Yeah, it looks cool.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
So, uh, that's where we're at.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
And I have a question that is probably somewhere akin
to that. As we age, As you've aged, what are
some things you've become more self conscious of? And is
that something we can fix or are we just shifting
in our self consciousness because for me, I feel fine.
(06:01):
I look fine with a shirt on. I used to
go shirtless everywhere all the time because I was fucking shredded,
right I was.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You didn't eat anything for however long your survivor's season was.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
That's right. I didn't do that cho to be shredded.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Yeah, and you are shredded after that stuff. I'm not
shredded anymore. I'm a little dumpy. I have a little
you know, spare tire on the low underside of my
belly button and around the sides. I got some love handles,
and my lower back tends to collect a lot of fat.
And I don't like to take my shirt off like
I used to. I used to like purposely. I remember
(06:34):
sawers where I would be like, I'm not going to
wear a shirt. My goal is to not wear a
shirt unless by law it is required. And I did
that for a couple of years. So now I can't
do that. There's just stuff like that where I am
and more self conscious and it's mostly superficial stuff. But
I also think that there's some probably mental and physical
(06:59):
and other things like that too. But are there things
that you've noticed and how do you approach that?
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah? Definitely. And like you're saying, is it something that
you can fix or not? Well, then it's like is
it something that you can physically fix or can you
just not worry about it as much? Like get over
it kind of thing? And I think there's both of them.
For me. One thing is definitely my skin. Like I
find that my skin gets a lot redder than it
used to, especially my nose is always red, and the
(07:29):
sun damage is just added up after years and years
and years. I used to live in Australia when I
was a kid and we didn't put on enough sunscreen
and we were just getting pounded through that hole in
the ozone layer. Yeah, so now I'm really careful about it.
But I mean, if I, like start, if my heartbeat
goes up at all, like my face turns bright red
(07:49):
and I look like a drunken irishman. So definitely my
face is something. And you know, we talked about quite
a bit on this show, like getting facials and trying
to got to make our skin look better. But for me,
that's definitely something that I'm self conscious about. And yeah,
it's I don't know. I don't think there really is
(08:10):
much I can do about it except for not worry
about it as much. And that's a lot easier said
than done.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, so you can't do anything, so you're out, you
can your heartweight goes up. You know, your faces your
nose is red as shit? Do you like walk around
with like your hand in front of your face?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
You try to hide it?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Do you just accept it and don't have as much confidence?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
Like what is what is the play?
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Yeah? I can't really just lock around with my head.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
I think that might draw a little more attention. Really,
what happened? Did you get hit? What's going on? You
just ignore it?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
So like you're out, you don't but it doesn't stop
you or change your actions at all, because I.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Know it does. I think it definitely affects my confidence
for sure.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So then how like do you try to escape the room,
do you just like try to take a breather?
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Do you just or do you just ignore it?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Because for me, like I just like leave a shirt on,
like people are at the pool, I'm like, yeah, I'll
just take my shirt off to swim, but I'm putting
a shirt on.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
Uh, And I claim that it's for.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Pull a shirt into the water and put it on
so you' even emerge out of the I do.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
That, but I definitely don't like lounge all day with
my shirt off like I used to. I'll swim because
I'm not the dumpiest dad at the pool for sure,
so I'm totally fine, but the relative for me and
what I have was used to, it's definitely different. So
I'll swim, but then I get out and put a
shirt on, and even my wife will be like, why
do you have a shirt on right now? It's like
(09:40):
just to protect from that, I didn't put sunscreen on.
And that's a lie. It's because I am not. I mean,
if you forced me, I would, I would get through it.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
It's not but I think, yeah, And isn't there like
a sliding scale, Like it's kind of like if if
you're a dad and you're in your forties, you're gonna
look different than the twenty two year old college athlete.
Like there, that's just the reality of.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
I can't accept that, I know, but I just.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Because there's a part of me that's like, if I
just dug in for like three months of hard work,
I could be fucking shredded. But I still am like
and that's where I met him, Like I just haven't
put in the work to be as shreded as.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
But then you'd be you would be like a terrible father.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
You'd be like, hey, kids, I will not see you
for three months because I gotta be shredded. And also
I think at some point it kind of looks weird
the older a guy gets, Like you see like the
random guy on Instagram is like eighty five and you shredded,
and you're like, this feels like AI, And I know
it's real life, so there's some kind of relative like
sliding scale. I think, yeah to that, that's just how
(10:53):
I sleep in that like celebrated.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
And I get that's when I see like tweets out
there where it's just like a ton of super attractive
people being like I prefer body a the dad bought
over body be the lumpy eighty year old, like that's
the lumpy muscles. Yeah yeah, And I was like, yeah,
I guess I kind of get that. But I also
(11:17):
like for me, like it's more important what I think
of myself than what others think of me. So for
me personally, like that doesn't change a whole lot. I'd
be like, I'd still rather be shredded like I was
when I was, you know, thirty so, And it's.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Fine really because you don't really care that much.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I don't care enough to put in the hard work
to do it correct exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
And the incline is steeper now the older you get,
the harder it is. Like if I don't work out
for like a day, I'm like, have I not worked
out ever?
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I look ten days to make up for the day
you miss exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Exactly, and and god forbid you get hurt or like
pull a muscle in the midst of that, Like you're
on injured reserve for three months. You're the guy with
the boot trying to at the gym, trying to stay
somewhat fit. Yeah, when you're twenty two, you get shot
in the chest and you just take a nap and
you're fine. But like at forty five, almost forty five,
(12:13):
for me, it's like, oh my gosh, a couple of
days off and I'm like, well, okay, I'm just a sack.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Of potatoes. Great.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Can I complain about my body a little more?
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Sure? Yeah, that's what this day is about.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
It was a swimmer in college, so I had great
peck muscles, okay, but with great peck muscles.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And time comes saggy man boobs. Boy, while they're not
saggy yet, they're definitely saggier than they were, and they're pronounced.
So sometimes, like if I have too tight of a
shirt on, I'm like, oh, I look like I'm growing
memories over here, and it's like it's just another thing.
So it's like I would like to shrink my memories
(12:53):
a little bit, yeah, and shrink my belly fat, but
also get shred.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Back fat and all the lower lower back fat.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I'm touching it right now.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
I hope people listening are getting a real clear picture here.
I thought I was taking my shirt off for this one.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Just I've never seen Tyson before, and they're listening and
just thinking about what he looks like.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
They would not look at you and be like, that's
the guy that we were talking about.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
But here's the thing.
Speaker 5 (13:20):
With the perfect fitting shirt, I still look fucking great. Yeah,
all like how I used to look at myself in
the mirror shirtless. If I have the perfect shirt on,
I'll still look like I'll still look at myself like
that in the mirror where I'm like, oh, I've got
it all going on, this thing, yeah, hide it's all
the shit I hate.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
So it's really just a wardrobe thing problem now it is,
because I can't go shirtless unless I somehow figured out
how to get shredded, but a shirt will. But even still,
I'm like, I'm a fraud. I know what I'm hiding
under that thing. You know what?
Speaker 3 (13:56):
You just need one more season of a like scare
you reality show that just there's no food for three
months and and you're making money and you're probably because
you're still there.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
You come back until you'll be off.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
No, not mentally, because you come back and you gig
out and you you forgive yourself for eating whatever you
want for way too long. You like, even now, there'll
be days where like I'll go to the and this
is just an exaggeration, you know, you go to the
donut shop. You're like, oh, there's a donut shop. Ill,
I'll just get half a dozen. H I deserve it
because I played for five or nine years ago. And
(14:35):
then you just like eat all yeah, and you're just like,
oh yeah, no, there was a time I starved myself,
so I guess I should eat this extra large pizza
by myself.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
See why not?
Speaker 3 (14:47):
The justification of of a of a male brain to
get anything done is pretty impressive.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
I love that. That's a real lawyer ship in your head.
That's like your honor.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
My client deserves these six donuts because nine years ago
he chose not to eat those doughnuts.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
He was forced to not eat them. He didn't choose
no choice.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Uh yeah, So I don't know, Bradley, tell us what
you hate about yourself?
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Thank you when you were younger, good lead. You know.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's actually there's there's an interesting there's two sides of
this one. When I was a kid, my hands and
ears I was so self conscious of because basically I
came out of the womb with man hands and ears
that are adult size, so I had to grow into
my body that way.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I don't know about the ears, but those big hands
could be an advantage for a lot of sports.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
And they were. I was. It was.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I played football, I played baseball. I was a catcher.
I didn't even use a glove. It was great, excellent,
good Clay.
Speaker 5 (15:49):
Wowah, probably were you the first child massus?
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Yeah, not the first?
Speaker 3 (15:55):
They hawser of the welcome seven year old Bradley over
to the table. Got to step up on stairs. I'm
not quite tall enough, but from here, I'll give you
a massage.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I can imagine big hands though, as a kid for
playing football when everybody else is like, I can't even
get my I can't throw a football because I can't
hold it properly.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Oh yeah I couldn't.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
No, I could.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
I could palm that, and and for days. I wasn't
as quick, but I had. I had some moves.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Could basketball?
Speaker 4 (16:23):
Yep? I could pull the basketball. Do you still palm
a basketball? I can sort of palm a basketball.
Speaker 5 (16:29):
Now.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
It's weird because my hands are the same size. But
I think it's like a certain strength between you, like
like pinky and thumb to be able to get fully
around it.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
So can I ask you? This is delving off a
little bit, So could you palm it? Pump it at
somebody like a Michael Jordan fake type thing? You could
just calm it and hold a shit?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah, I could hold it like this. Yeah, I could
hold it in front of me. Okay, I could do
the Michael Jordan.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
You know, the wing both hands pretty good.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
That's pretty good, okay, But if I went like this,
it would it would slip out.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I don't want to toot my own hand. I owned
horn or own hand, so I could pommit enough to
dunk it with one hand.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
But that's it.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Like if with the motion of dunking, I could get it.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yeah, but if I basically control it enough.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
I could control it enough to put a good, hard, solid,
one handed dunk down.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, But I couldn't.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I couldn't hold it out and pom it.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
So you were dunk.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
I was using the stairs for my seven year old
massage tablet whatever tools. You know, that's right. But I
was so self conscious of those.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
And one of the most embarrassing moments of my life
was in high school my freshman year, and I was
doing a presentation and uh, you know you always have
to have your your visual aid. Back in the day,
it was like, you know, so in conclusion whatever. So
I'm holding up this poster and I turned back to
the class so in conclusion, and the English teacher says stop,
and I was like, oh crap, Like did I forget something,
(18:00):
you know, like my thesis or whatever, and she's like,
put your hands back up on the board and I
was like okay, and she's like.
Speaker 4 (18:06):
Class, aren't those the biggest hands you've ever seen?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
It was nothing out of like a nightmare. And I
was like ah ha ha. And then do you remember
the t I eighty five calculator?
Speaker 4 (18:16):
This is like the calculator?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yes, And there were posters in mathrooms and we were
in a mathroom and she was like that could be
your calculator and I was like ah haha. And then
she's like, okay, let's break for lunch, because we had
lunch in the middle of the class. So then it
was like everyone was just coming off of this, like
you know, you're a freshman. You don't want attention, so
it's easier to be like that guy's getting attention.
Speaker 4 (18:37):
Let's oh yeah, ilan elon.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
So then I go to lunch and I just sit
at a table as everyone comes up and it's like I.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
Want to put my hand, Oh my gosh, you okay,
put your hand on the table. Oh hey, everybody come
over here, check this out.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
And I was just like ha ha. I didn't even
know any different to just be But it was like,
that was really terrible. Dude, your teacher was so attracted
to you that you know. That's what you don't know.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
Is that it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Oh you look at almost headline.
Speaker 4 (19:04):
Yeah, you were almost in a one hundred and thirty
pounds crushing it.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Fresh, almost in a headline.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Exactly. So that was like, that was tough.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
And my ears were big and people called me Dumbo
and it was like a whole thing on the bus
and stuff like that. So I was always like really
conscious of those things. And now no, because I'm an
adult and I'm you know, I've a lived with it
my whole life and be actually grown into these Yeah.
But then yeah, I think i'm my hair my When
I was thirty, I think I told this on here. Yeah,
I just turned thirty and my doctor was like, we
(19:36):
need to talk and he closed the door and I
was like, oh, this is cancer, this is it. And
he's like seeing this on movies, this is when you
know your hairline is receding. And I was like, oh
my gosh, that was bad.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
This is la. So of course that's what the doctor
is that make you feel worse about it when that
happened or I didn't know what to think. I was like,
I feel worse the way the somberness of the tone.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Right right, you're comparing it in your tone to cancer.
This is this is career ending? Is this what we're
talking about? And so instantly was like on propecia, which
did was not good for me and it's like made
me groggy and all this kind of stuff. So then
like Roguain and all that kind of stuff, and now
I use hymns. So there's a part of me that's
like always kind of checking like my hairline or like
(20:23):
how's my hair doing or whatever. So there is kind
of like something around there that I'm conscious of. I think, yeah,
you know, my body, like working out and stuff. There's
a part of me that's like I just like you said,
I just don't want to be on the bottom rung
at the pool. If I'm on the top rung, it
looks a little weird to me. It feels like that
(20:43):
guy is like screaming for attention because it takes so
much energy and time to get to that place. If
you're not in a competition or you're not like I
don't know, doing something with that amount of energy. I
feel like something else in your life is a miss.
The top rung guys.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
I think the top rung guys it's the air that
they put on. If I were a top rung guy,
I'd still play it cool. But those top rung guys
are like in stupid longboard shorts and they're like standing
at the stairs like trying to puff like that stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
I would never do that.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I just would like lounge at the on the chair.
So I think that it's also their energy is.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
Yeah, maybe it's the energy.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, maybe top rung energy for older dudes is bullshit.
But I think you can be top wrong physique without
top rung energy.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
The underdog, that to me is like the comfortable spot.
Like even when car, when we can talk about cars
that I love, some of my favorite cars are like
what you call a sleeper. You wouldn't even know that
it's got a big engine or that it drives fast.
It just looks like a station wagon or it looks like,
you know, just a regular suv or whatever. I want
to be the underdog. I like that because it's comfortable.
I can excel beyond expectations. I also want to set,
(21:57):
you know, an example for my kids to be like, yeah,
it's important.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
To take care of yourself whatever, totally, But I also.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
I can't be the guy that is, you know, eighty
hours in the gym two d you know, two times
a month.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
You know.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I am self conscious sometimes too when I see movies
with a guy who's around my age, and I'm like,
damn it. So I'm instantly like, what was his workout routine?
And usually it's like he had this nutritionists and he
had this professional, you know, this trainer. He was working
out twice a day for three months, and he was
getting paid obviously for it, because the studio is paying
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him for this. So I'm like, oh, okay, he didn't
have to take out the trash and all these other
things that life throws at you and taking kids to
school and whatever.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
So part of his regimen was not taking out the trash.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
Yeah, exactly, don't live even hurt yourself. Save it for
the weight room. It's too heavy, there's hands in there.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
So I think genuinely, generally, my self consciousness would come
out of that. I'm not self conscious about like my job.
I was a little bit self conscious of that A
couple of years ago when we left Virginia and moved
to Atlanta and I was looking for a place to
live and I didn't. I was just like, oh, I
guess this is the place I'm going to go. Look
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at this place and it was like a basement and
it was like, you know, a couple of rooms, and
we thought this is kind of cool.
Speaker 4 (23:14):
It's in a cool part at Atlanta. We could roll
with this.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
And the guy who opens the door I played baseball
with in seventh grade and he's like, oh, yeah, I
own this house and I own the basement. Would you
like to rent for me? And I was like hell no.
You know, it's like what is wrong with my life?
I don't own anything. I don't own a car, my
cell phone. I rent every month. And now this guy
is like like, hey, I own this and what a
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rent for me. I was like, no, I don't.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Why didn't she make up a story like I'm actually
looking at buying all of these houses for my company
and tear him down and put I.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Wish I wish I had thought of that.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
That's like when someone like flips you off and you're like, oh,
I should have said that thing. Yes, I should have
been in the moment, I was just like, I don't
know if you can read my face, but I feel
like a pilot shit right now. And then on the
way back, of course, I'm driving through this really high
end part of Atlanta and it's like Bentley Bentley Rolls,
you know, like mansion, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Like, I can't even buy anything.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
You know, It's like there was there was definitely a
crisis of I'm forty years old, what is going on
with my life?
Speaker 4 (24:18):
My friends have multiple homes. I have nothing to show
for it.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
So I feel that, yeah, yes, William's like, were you
reading my journals?
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
That.
Speaker 4 (24:32):
My self conscious is a little bit there too.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I think, yeah, I've never been materialistically self conscious. Really,
Sometimes I'm like I should get a nice Both my
cars are over ten years old. Yeah, I'm like, I
should get a nice, professional looking car. But then I'm like,
for what, for what purpose? I'd rather and it's easier,
and this is justification that you can all use. Then
(24:56):
book The Millionaire next Door talks about how the majority
of meal you drive drive like hun days and live
in like uh a little three bedroom, two bathrooms units
and all this and that, and I was like, I'd
rather people look at me and be like, he's probably
a multi millionaire the way he's living so modestly, like
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you'd never even.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
Take your shirt off. Clearly he's rich.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
He's the guy that you never would suspect. And then
you can like, that's the new model for how to
flaunt ship is to drive hunks of shit like you
don't give a damn. And then everybody's like, that guy
has to be raking it in because.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
His car sucks, no reason for him so bad.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And he's so confident about it and doesn't give a shit.
How sucks all of it? This guy, he's just he's
probably got more money than anybody else in town. Yeah,
that's uh yeah, that's how I uh justify ever all
of those things.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
And then I'm like I look at somebody who like
with a.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
And I'm like, I was pray their last dime they
spent on that car for me to look at them
and think they're cool, but in all actuality, they probably
spent their last little bit of chunk of change on
that or our stretch thin just trying to make those payments.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
William, you like wrap do you remember Juvenile and the
hot Boys? Oh?
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (26:20):
And who was it, Who is it? Birdman?
Speaker 3 (26:24):
He had a line that I got a quarter tank
of gas in my new E class. He spent all
the money on the car, but barely you got nothing
in it.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
Yeah, yeah, like that, that's it.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Definitely it's weird for me, like with the house stuff
right now, because like you know, I bought three houses.
Every house was nicer, and then I lost all of
it in the divorce. Now I'm renting, and like you said,
like I've got a friend who's talking about buying a
second house. He's like, oh, I just wanted to get
a house for my daughter, so she has one. And
I'm like, but also so from moving so much and
(27:02):
from traveling so much, like part of me thinks it
might anywhere you don't have to own it for it
to be a nice place. So now I'm trying to
justify things to myself, like, well, you know, I stayed
in a really nice place in the mountains, I didn't
own it. I stayed in this place and I didn't
own it, right, right, And also it's just so weird
(27:22):
now with the economy and the financial interestates on interest rates,
and there's so many houses for sale in this neighborhood,
nobody could sell them. So yeah, I do want to
buy a house again. But also there's a lot of
nice places to live out there and you don't have
to own them. So I'm just trying to say that
so that I am not sad about losing all of
(27:44):
my houses.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Yeah, and you'll look at You'll see headlines that are
just like Elon Musk doesn't go in a house, He
rents everywhere he goes, and you're like, oh, and then
like is the new American dream actually to rent? And
I'm like, is that to make people? Is that the
same as like money doesn't buy happiness, where it's just
to like keep the impoverished happy enough that they don't
(28:08):
throw a coup, Like that's what that's what money doesn't
buy happiness? Saying is is just like rich people telling
poor people that even though we have all this stuff.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
You wouldn't want it. You don't want that's legos.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
They're not going to feel any happier or less happy with.
In fact, sometimes it can ruin your life, like oh dang,
maybe I don't want to Okay, no.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
Yeah, he's terrible. If you don't have it, If you
don't have it, you want this, you don't you don't
need this, it's a curse.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
No, I'm certainly of the mind that like a house
is just a place. I mean, this is our first house. Yeah,
I didn't even know if we'd ever own a house
because we were in la we were in Brooklyn, we
were in Phoenix, but just for a few years. So
there was like I was like, I don't know, man,
I guess I just rent forever and then finally something
popped up. But yeah, there's certainly, you know, pros and
cons to that. So I think of all the worries,
(28:59):
I think that one, you know, even for my own
sake I've taken myself down from, is like it doesn't
mean anything really.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Really at this point though, I just I'm trying to
get stability for my daughter, and I've desired stability more
than I ever really ever have before.
Speaker 4 (29:14):
Yeah, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
Fuck, am I going to have to move out of
this place again in a year because I'm renting? Like
are they going to try to sell it or and
I can't you know, hopefully if they do that, I'll
be able to buy it at that Yeah. Yeah, but
like I'm just trying to get that stability built up
for my daughter, and you know, with us moving into
an apartment last year and then moving here and then
her mom living in an apartment, and I just see
it in her that like she needs it, and I'm
(29:37):
just trying to figure out how I can do it
any way I can. So that's the biggest thing, is
why I wish that I still own or that I
own this house, is because I don't want to keep
moving around for Rowan. And yeah, I mean, we'll figure
it out either way. And even if that's like even
if we move every year for the rest of her life,
I'm sure that we'll be able to figure it out.
But yeah, I want her to be in a stable
(30:01):
place and be able to settle down more.
Speaker 4 (30:04):
I mean, I think the key in that too is you.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
You're the stability, true, because you know, like ultimately, like
Ellis has moved around a ton, She's lived in she
was born in LA she lived in Phoenix, Brooklyn, Virginia here,
and you know, there's certain parts of me that are like, man,
that's a real bummer because she can't really put down roots.
But what what is stable in that is us And
like we'd we're the roots. You know that just looks
(30:27):
a little bit different. But I think you just being
even even thinking that way toward her already shows like
your deep stability toward her. That's what you can't really
reflect on, you know. Somebody may be like, I lived
in a house my whole life. My parents were terrible, Like,
thankfully I lived in one house.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
I want to get out.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
I want to get out of this town because all
the memories are horrible for me.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Yeah, exactly, exactly. Though I was a.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Kid, Like we lived in Australia, Like I said earlier,
we moved to Melbourne and we lived in like three
different houses or maybe four or five of the houses
of three years. Like, we moved around a ton, and
I don't have any negative memories of moving around or anything.
All my memories of Australia are awesome. Yeah, so kids
definitely look at everything very differently.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Then, Yeah, moving can be very exciting for them, and
even if it's scary a lot of times, there's uh
that there's that level of excitement anyways. Whereas an adult,
when you move, you're like, I gotta move life.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The worst thing that could possibly happen right now is
me having to move everything and then unpack everything and
then do it. Like every time I've moved, I've just
been like, this is the worst thing I've ever done.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Ever again, this is ever ever ever.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
I will never do it again. And then you do
it again and you're like, oh no, here the kids
are just like you.
Speaker 4 (31:47):
Change yes new Adventure news.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Right now, because like it was a really easy move.
I hired people, and but now I've got all these
fucking boxes and I don't know where things are. Yes,
I'm traveling in a week, so I don't want to
work on unpacking everything and anything, but I also have
to find these things for travel.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Yeah, And Rowan's not thinking about any of that.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
She's just like new house, new yard, fun place, adventure.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And she got away from the fire alarms. She's so
excited to be away from the fire alarms. The other day,
we're going to bed in our new house and she's like, Daddy,
are there fire alarms in this house. I'm like, yeah,
every house has fire alarms, but there's no fire drills.
And she's like, Daddy, will you show me the fire
(32:35):
alarm and made me take the fire alarm off of
the wall and show her how to test it, and
everything else. So like those fire drills in our apartments
fucking messed with her. So I am very excited to
not have that anymore.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
I think it's also a reminder that our perception of
our self consciousness is much smaller on the outside. We
expect all these people think this way toward us, see
us that way. I mean, even Tyson with you, Like,
neither of us would say like, oh, yeah, there's dumpy back,
you know, and.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
Ife me a little closer next time.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
We'll next in bad next time we're there. But I
think that's just like a reminder to go easy on yourself.
I think that's something in life teaches you too. Is
kind of like a it is what it is, and
you know, but b it's like you now have the
wisdom to remember that not everyone's talking about you. Those
(33:33):
people whispering over there are not talking about you. They're
whispering about something else. Or like you walk into school
and there's.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Coffee maker, coffee maker, coffee maker guts her too though.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Hilarious, No, you're all on board. What a moment. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I said it before too. People don't give a shit
about you. That's the thing that none of us really
understand is that people don't give a shit about you.
Everybody only cares about themselves. So it's like we feel
this way about ourselves and it makes us like, I'm
not confident, but other people aren't looking at us like that.
They're just not concerned. They're just concerned about themselves. The
fast majority of time were.
Speaker 4 (34:12):
The people at the pool or employers or whatever.
Speaker 1 (34:16):
I mean, most of that's true. But I've been on
TV before. I don't know, this isn't not a brag
right here, and I've had people come up and be like,
you look older than I thought you, and I was like, god,
damn it, fucking I am old.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
I was like, I was on the show you watched
was literally filmed seventeen years ago.
Speaker 4 (34:36):
I am forty five now, dude, it was that long.
Oh my gosh, yeah, so time, I know, right.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
So I was like, so, I was like, if you're
complaining about how old I look, I know you watched
one of the earlier seasons I was on, and I agree.
I looked much better back then, and I'm sorry, I'm
sorry I'm old now, Like I don't.
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Everything was better interesting, of course I look better, oh man.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
But yeah, in general, I agree people don't give a shit.
And also I don't look at people and think, oh,
dumpy back guy.
Speaker 4 (35:13):
I never do that.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
I'm like, I am more critical. I'm more critical of myself,
and I notice every small little blemish and little detail
of age and of flabbiness and of sloppiness and any imperfection.
I notice it all from myself. And I think you
just have to like, yeah, there's you have to get
(35:35):
past that.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
Somehow we got to start going easier on ourselves. We
don't know how do we how to get past this? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (35:43):
No, obviously not, or else you wouldn't be so upset
about it and bummed out about it. And I would
now be thinking about my red schnas when I'm fucking
hanging out at the pool.
Speaker 1 (35:53):
No, but my life is still pretty great and and
your your red schnaz is not your primary folks, of
your life. My dumpy body is not my primary focus
of our lives. And so I think we are learning
or we're dealing with it, and it's like as you age.
I think one thing that we all are doing and
is evident in this podcast is we're able to not
(36:17):
only talk about it but also laugh about it and
joke about it. And I think that that's one of
the beauties of getting older, is being able to be
self deprecating in a humorous and fun way that is
like true, sure, yeah, but also like whatever you know? Yeah,
And I think that Yeah. I think if we could
(36:38):
get a picture of Bradley with his hands and his hairline,
you with your red schnas and my lower back, I
think that.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
Would be like the person solid the perfect page. That's
a new thumbnail. So good. So it's red nose, back,
fat and big ears. Hey, welcome back, so good? Anything
(37:12):
else before we shut this thing down.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
I mean, if people don't understand from that alone, then
I think there's no there's no telling.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
Well, we're all going through it, everybody. Don't be too
hard on yourselves, you know. Make sure that tell us
what you hate the most about yourself. I'd love to hear, Yes,
please tell us in the moments pictures.
Speaker 4 (37:33):
We don't really want those pictures. We don't want.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yes, use your words to tell us and describe to
us the thing you hate most about yourself as you age.
Not the stuff that he has plagued you your whole life,
but the stuff that now that you're in your midlife
or past midlife that really bothers you about yourself let
us know.
Speaker 3 (37:50):
Yes, all right it, I got some self care to
work on.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Yeah, I'm gonna go get another facial meditate just to
come down from this so I can go outside later.
Speaker 4 (38:07):
Okay, see you guys. Thanks everybody and everybody.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Bye m
Welcome back to Midlife Crisises. I'm Tyson, one of the hosts.
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife crisises. We want
to know what kind of stuff you are going through
so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this quote as well.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it. Which one of us hates
their lower back fat, which one of us has overly
big ears, and which one of us gets a bright
red nose as soon as their heart starts beating. Find
out on midlife crisis is we're self conscious and we're
gonna let you know about it.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hey, everybody, welcome to Midlive crisises. We're all over here
having some crisises, and I'm sure you are too. Thanks
for listening, Thanks for watching, Thanks for the follows, the likes,
the subs. We're getting some fun questions from some of
our listeners. We love getting those questions. Sometimes we feed
those in and we try to process those ourselves. We're
just three dudes going through it, trying to figure it out.
(01:25):
I'm Bradley Hazemayer out of Atlanta, living my best life
with a couple of kids.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
My dog is with me today.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
I'm a content creator and trying to figure out kind
of what's next for my life or is this my life?
And that lays into some of my crisises. But I'm
not alone processing then. We've also got William William. How
you doing today?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Man?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What's up everybody? I'm doing great. I'm William Drum. I'm
a Denver based underwater photographer who just moved into a
new house.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
Yeah, you're excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I'm getting ready for an underwater photography trip next week
to Cabo and I'm also turning forty years old one
week from tomorrow. So I am looking at everything. I'm
looking around. I'm full I wouldn't even just say midlife crisis.
It's turning into full blown existential crisis.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
Wow, subistential.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I'm out here doing what I can. I'm a single dad.
I've got a beautiful five year old daughter who just
turned five the other day, and just coping, just coping. Yeah, well,
I mean for some therapy from my friends Tyson and
Bradley over here.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah yeah, I mean we try to give it to
you straight. I'm Tyson Apostle on TV. A bunch of times,
just kind of winged my way through life, found myself
here and it's not a bad place. It's pretty good place.
But you know, I'm in my midlife and things are
changing and I don't know how I always feel about it.
(02:54):
I just got done dadding so hard this weekend, Rachel,
my wife is of town, still in Cabo Williams. She's
she's checking it out for you. And I had to
drive both my kids to Las Vegas by myself. Totally fine.
Everybody's like, the dad's complaining about.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Stuff from Arizona. So it's not four and a half
five hours, five hours.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
And then but Bergen had a synchronized swimming competition, so
I had to learn how to do the hair. I
had to pull it back, do it in two braids,
wrap it and do a bun cover it in gelatine
so it holds underwater.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
M yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
And so today, yeah, it's called Knox Unflavored.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
Get it.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
If you want to do some cool photography stuff with it.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
William Williams, it'll yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
And so I did that two days, three days in
a row, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
She had stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
The little one was such a trooper. My six year
old Marlowe. She had to hang out at the pool
all day asking when we could go. And I was like,
I don't know, because these competitions, it's not like they're like, yeah,
we end at six.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
They're like we end when we end, and we're going
to try and keep them longer. They literally do.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
They literally every single as you're inching close to being
near the end, you can just feel the organization just like,
how can we cling on to people longer.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I think likes in sports can relate to that tournament experience.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Yeah, and it's just like the awards, Okay, cool the
awards and they're like everybody's like okay, now we can go,
and they're like we want all the.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Competitors to pose for a giant group picture, like do
this at.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
The start stop? Right? Can't you see us standing around
for three days wanting to go since the holding bags? Yes,
the exit yeah, can't you read the room?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
And it was just like whatever, But it was fun.
Bergen loves it, uh, and so and I am very
proud of myself that I got it done, got us
through it, and not even without a crisis. But I
think think I excelled. One of the older competitors told
Bergen she had the best hair, the best they call
(05:09):
it Knox, the best Knox hair of everyone that she's
seen at the competition.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Wow, let's go. That's impressive. Way to go.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
And you were saying earlier pretty much only do pigtails normally.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
I only do ponytails. It's all I can do. And
they don't even like my ponytails because I do like
a sloppy, true detective Matthew McConaughey ponytail, not like a
cool like nice, the sloppy.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Yeah, the sloppy looks so cool.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Franklin, Yeah, it looks cool.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
So, uh, that's where we're at.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
And I have a question that is probably somewhere akin
to that. As we age, As you've aged, what are
some things you've become more self conscious of? And is
that something we can fix or are we just shifting
in our self consciousness because for me, I feel fine.
(06:01):
I look fine with a shirt on. I used to
go shirtless everywhere all the time because I was fucking shredded,
right I was.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
You didn't eat anything for however long your survivor's season was.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
That's right. I didn't do that cho to be shredded.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Yeah, and you are shredded after that stuff. I'm not
shredded anymore. I'm a little dumpy. I have a little
you know, spare tire on the low underside of my
belly button and around the sides. I got some love handles,
and my lower back tends to collect a lot of fat.
And I don't like to take my shirt off like
I used to. I used to like purposely. I remember
(06:34):
sawers where I would be like, I'm not going to
wear a shirt. My goal is to not wear a
shirt unless by law it is required. And I did
that for a couple of years. So now I can't
do that. There's just stuff like that where I am
and more self conscious and it's mostly superficial stuff. But
I also think that there's some probably mental and physical
(06:59):
and other things like that too. But are there things
that you've noticed and how do you approach that?
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah? Definitely. And like you're saying, is it something that
you can fix or not? Well, then it's like is
it something that you can physically fix or can you
just not worry about it as much? Like get over
it kind of thing? And I think there's both of them.
For me. One thing is definitely my skin. Like I
find that my skin gets a lot redder than it
used to, especially my nose is always red, and the
(07:29):
sun damage is just added up after years and years
and years. I used to live in Australia when I
was a kid and we didn't put on enough sunscreen
and we were just getting pounded through that hole in
the ozone layer. Yeah, so now I'm really careful about it.
But I mean, if I, like start, if my heartbeat
goes up at all, like my face turns bright red
(07:49):
and I look like a drunken irishman. So definitely my
face is something. And you know, we talked about quite
a bit on this show, like getting facials and trying
to got to make our skin look better. But for me,
that's definitely something that I'm self conscious about. And yeah,
it's I don't know. I don't think there really is
(08:10):
much I can do about it except for not worry
about it as much. And that's a lot easier said
than done.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Yeah, so you can't do anything, so you're out, you
can your heartweight goes up. You know, your faces your
nose is red as shit? Do you like walk around
with like your hand in front of your face?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
You try to hide it?
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Do you just accept it and don't have as much confidence?
Speaker 4 (08:32):
Like what is what is the play?
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Yeah? I can't really just lock around with my head.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
I think that might draw a little more attention. Really,
what happened? Did you get hit? What's going on? You
just ignore it?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
So like you're out, you don't but it doesn't stop
you or change your actions at all, because I.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Know it does. I think it definitely affects my confidence
for sure.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
So then how like do you try to escape the room,
do you just like try to take a breather?
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Do you just or do you just ignore it?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Because for me, like I just like leave a shirt on,
like people are at the pool, I'm like, yeah, I'll
just take my shirt off to swim, but I'm putting
a shirt on.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
Uh, And I claim that it's for.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Pull a shirt into the water and put it on
so you' even emerge out of the I do.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
That, but I definitely don't like lounge all day with
my shirt off like I used to. I'll swim because
I'm not the dumpiest dad at the pool for sure,
so I'm totally fine, but the relative for me and
what I have was used to, it's definitely different. So
I'll swim, but then I get out and put a
shirt on, and even my wife will be like, why
do you have a shirt on right now? It's like
(09:40):
just to protect from that, I didn't put sunscreen on.
And that's a lie. It's because I am not. I mean,
if you forced me, I would, I would get through it.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
It's not but I think, yeah, And isn't there like
a sliding scale, Like it's kind of like if if
you're a dad and you're in your forties, you're gonna
look different than the twenty two year old college athlete.
Like there, that's just the reality of.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
I can't accept that, I know, but I just.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Because there's a part of me that's like, if I
just dug in for like three months of hard work,
I could be fucking shredded. But I still am like
and that's where I met him, Like I just haven't
put in the work to be as shreded as.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
But then you'd be you would be like a terrible father.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
You'd be like, hey, kids, I will not see you
for three months because I gotta be shredded. And also
I think at some point it kind of looks weird
the older a guy gets, Like you see like the
random guy on Instagram is like eighty five and you shredded,
and you're like, this feels like AI, And I know
it's real life, so there's some kind of relative like
sliding scale. I think, yeah to that, that's just how
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I sleep in that like celebrated.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
And I get that's when I see like tweets out
there where it's just like a ton of super attractive
people being like I prefer body a the dad bought
over body be the lumpy eighty year old, like that's
the lumpy muscles. Yeah yeah, And I was like, yeah,
I guess I kind of get that. But I also
(11:17):
like for me, like it's more important what I think
of myself than what others think of me. So for
me personally, like that doesn't change a whole lot. I'd
be like, I'd still rather be shredded like I was
when I was, you know, thirty so, And it's.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Fine really because you don't really care that much.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
I don't care enough to put in the hard work
to do it correct exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
And the incline is steeper now the older you get,
the harder it is. Like if I don't work out
for like a day, I'm like, have I not worked
out ever?
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I look ten days to make up for the day
you miss exactly.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Exactly, and and god forbid you get hurt or like
pull a muscle in the midst of that, Like you're
on injured reserve for three months. You're the guy with
the boot trying to at the gym, trying to stay
somewhat fit. Yeah, when you're twenty two, you get shot
in the chest and you just take a nap and
you're fine. But like at forty five, almost forty five,
(12:13):
for me, it's like, oh my gosh, a couple of
days off and I'm like, well, okay, I'm just a sack.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
Of potatoes. Great.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Can I complain about my body a little more?
Speaker 4 (12:22):
Sure? Yeah, that's what this day is about.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
It was a swimmer in college, so I had great
peck muscles, okay, but with great peck muscles.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
And time comes saggy man boobs. Boy, while they're not
saggy yet, they're definitely saggier than they were, and they're pronounced.
So sometimes, like if I have too tight of a
shirt on, I'm like, oh, I look like I'm growing
memories over here, and it's like it's just another thing.
So it's like I would like to shrink my memories
(12:53):
a little bit, yeah, and shrink my belly fat, but
also get shred.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Back fat and all the lower lower back fat.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
I'm touching it right now.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
I hope people listening are getting a real clear picture here.
I thought I was taking my shirt off for this one.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Just I've never seen Tyson before, and they're listening and
just thinking about what he looks like.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
They would not look at you and be like, that's
the guy that we were talking about.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
But here's the thing.
Speaker 5 (13:20):
With the perfect fitting shirt, I still look fucking great. Yeah,
all like how I used to look at myself in
the mirror shirtless. If I have the perfect shirt on,
I'll still look like I'll still look at myself like
that in the mirror where I'm like, oh, I've got
it all going on, this thing, yeah, hide it's all
the shit I hate.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
So it's really just a wardrobe thing problem now it is,
because I can't go shirtless unless I somehow figured out
how to get shredded, but a shirt will. But even still,
I'm like, I'm a fraud. I know what I'm hiding
under that thing. You know what?
Speaker 3 (13:56):
You just need one more season of a like scare
you reality show that just there's no food for three
months and and you're making money and you're probably because
you're still there.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
You come back until you'll be off.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
No, not mentally, because you come back and you gig
out and you you forgive yourself for eating whatever you
want for way too long. You like, even now, there'll
be days where like I'll go to the and this
is just an exaggeration, you know, you go to the
donut shop. You're like, oh, there's a donut shop. Ill,
I'll just get half a dozen. H I deserve it
because I played for five or nine years ago. And
(14:35):
then you just like eat all yeah, and you're just like,
oh yeah, no, there was a time I starved myself,
so I guess I should eat this extra large pizza
by myself.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
See why not?
Speaker 3 (14:47):
The justification of of a of a male brain to
get anything done is pretty impressive.
Speaker 4 (14:54):
I love that. That's a real lawyer ship in your head.
That's like your honor.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
My client deserves these six donuts because nine years ago
he chose not to eat those doughnuts.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
He was forced to not eat them. He didn't choose
no choice.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Uh yeah, So I don't know, Bradley, tell us what
you hate about yourself?
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Thank you when you were younger, good lead. You know.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's actually there's there's an interesting there's two sides of
this one. When I was a kid, my hands and
ears I was so self conscious of because basically I
came out of the womb with man hands and ears
that are adult size, so I had to grow into
my body that way.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I don't know about the ears, but those big hands
could be an advantage for a lot of sports.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
And they were. I was. It was.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I played football, I played baseball. I was a catcher.
I didn't even use a glove. It was great, excellent,
good Clay.
Speaker 5 (15:49):
Wowah, probably were you the first child massus?
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Yeah, not the first?
Speaker 3 (15:55):
They hawser of the welcome seven year old Bradley over
to the table. Got to step up on stairs. I'm
not quite tall enough, but from here, I'll give you
a massage.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
I can imagine big hands though, as a kid for
playing football when everybody else is like, I can't even
get my I can't throw a football because I can't
hold it properly.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Oh yeah I couldn't.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
No, I could.
Speaker 3 (16:16):
I could palm that, and and for days. I wasn't
as quick, but I had. I had some moves.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Could basketball?
Speaker 4 (16:23):
Yep? I could pull the basketball. Do you still palm
a basketball? I can sort of palm a basketball.
Speaker 5 (16:29):
Now.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
It's weird because my hands are the same size. But
I think it's like a certain strength between you, like
like pinky and thumb to be able to get fully
around it.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
So can I ask you? This is delving off a
little bit, So could you palm it? Pump it at
somebody like a Michael Jordan fake type thing? You could
just calm it and hold a shit?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah, I could hold it like this. Yeah, I could
hold it in front of me. Okay, I could do
the Michael Jordan.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
You know, the wing both hands pretty good.
Speaker 3 (16:56):
That's pretty good, okay, But if I went like this,
it would it would slip out.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I don't want to toot my own hand. I owned
horn or own hand, so I could pommit enough to
dunk it with one hand.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
But that's it.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Like if with the motion of dunking, I could get it.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yeah, but if I basically control it enough.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
I could control it enough to put a good, hard, solid,
one handed dunk down.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, But I couldn't.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I couldn't hold it out and pom it.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
So you were dunk.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
I was using the stairs for my seven year old
massage tablet whatever tools. You know, that's right. But I
was so self conscious of those.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
And one of the most embarrassing moments of my life
was in high school my freshman year, and I was
doing a presentation and uh, you know you always have
to have your your visual aid. Back in the day,
it was like, you know, so in conclusion whatever. So
I'm holding up this poster and I turned back to
the class so in conclusion, and the English teacher says stop,
and I was like, oh crap, Like did I forget something,
(18:00):
you know, like my thesis or whatever, and she's like,
put your hands back up on the board and I
was like okay, and she's like.
Speaker 4 (18:06):
Class, aren't those the biggest hands you've ever seen?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
It was nothing out of like a nightmare. And I
was like ah ha ha. And then do you remember
the t I eighty five calculator?
Speaker 4 (18:16):
This is like the calculator?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yes, And there were posters in mathrooms and we were
in a mathroom and she was like that could be
your calculator and I was like ah haha. And then
she's like, okay, let's break for lunch, because we had
lunch in the middle of the class. So then it
was like everyone was just coming off of this, like
you know, you're a freshman. You don't want attention, so
it's easier to be like that guy's getting attention.
Speaker 4 (18:37):
Let's oh yeah, ilan elon.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
So then I go to lunch and I just sit
at a table as everyone comes up and it's like I.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
Want to put my hand, Oh my gosh, you okay,
put your hand on the table. Oh hey, everybody come
over here, check this out.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
And I was just like ha ha. I didn't even
know any different to just be But it was like,
that was really terrible. Dude, your teacher was so attracted
to you that you know. That's what you don't know.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
Is that it's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Oh you look at almost headline.
Speaker 4 (19:04):
Yeah, you were almost in a one hundred and thirty
pounds crushing it.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Fresh, almost in a headline.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Exactly. So that was like, that was tough.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
And my ears were big and people called me Dumbo
and it was like a whole thing on the bus
and stuff like that. So I was always like really
conscious of those things. And now no, because I'm an
adult and I'm you know, I've a lived with it
my whole life and be actually grown into these Yeah.
But then yeah, I think i'm my hair my When
I was thirty, I think I told this on here. Yeah,
I just turned thirty and my doctor was like, we
(19:36):
need to talk and he closed the door and I
was like, oh, this is cancer, this is it. And
he's like seeing this on movies, this is when you
know your hairline is receding. And I was like, oh
my gosh, that was bad.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
This is la. So of course that's what the doctor
is that make you feel worse about it when that
happened or I didn't know what to think. I was like,
I feel worse the way the somberness of the tone.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Right right, you're comparing it in your tone to cancer.
This is this is career ending? Is this what we're
talking about? And so instantly was like on propecia, which
did was not good for me and it's like made
me groggy and all this kind of stuff. So then
like Roguain and all that kind of stuff, and now
I use hymns. So there's a part of me that's
like always kind of checking like my hairline or like
(20:23):
how's my hair doing or whatever. So there is kind
of like something around there that I'm conscious of. I think, yeah,
you know, my body, like working out and stuff. There's
a part of me that's like I just like you said,
I just don't want to be on the bottom rung
at the pool. If I'm on the top rung, it
looks a little weird to me. It feels like that
(20:43):
guy is like screaming for attention because it takes so
much energy and time to get to that place. If
you're not in a competition or you're not like I
don't know, doing something with that amount of energy. I
feel like something else in your life is a miss.
The top rung guys.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
I think the top rung guys it's the air that
they put on. If I were a top rung guy,
I'd still play it cool. But those top rung guys
are like in stupid longboard shorts and they're like standing
at the stairs like trying to puff like that stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:16):
I would never do that.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I just would like lounge at the on the chair.
So I think that it's also their energy is.
Speaker 4 (21:24):
Yeah, maybe it's the energy.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Yeah, maybe top rung energy for older dudes is bullshit.
But I think you can be top wrong physique without
top rung energy.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
The underdog, that to me is like the comfortable spot.
Like even when car, when we can talk about cars
that I love, some of my favorite cars are like
what you call a sleeper. You wouldn't even know that
it's got a big engine or that it drives fast.
It just looks like a station wagon or it looks like,
you know, just a regular suv or whatever. I want
to be the underdog. I like that because it's comfortable.
I can excel beyond expectations. I also want to set,
(21:57):
you know, an example for my kids to be like, yeah,
it's important.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
To take care of yourself whatever, totally, But I also.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
I can't be the guy that is, you know, eighty
hours in the gym two d you know, two times
a month.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
You know.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
I am self conscious sometimes too when I see movies
with a guy who's around my age, and I'm like,
damn it. So I'm instantly like, what was his workout routine?
And usually it's like he had this nutritionists and he
had this professional, you know, this trainer. He was working
out twice a day for three months, and he was
getting paid obviously for it, because the studio is paying
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him for this. So I'm like, oh, okay, he didn't
have to take out the trash and all these other
things that life throws at you and taking kids to
school and whatever.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
So part of his regimen was not taking out the trash.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
Yeah, exactly, don't live even hurt yourself. Save it for
the weight room. It's too heavy, there's hands in there.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
So I think genuinely, generally, my self consciousness would come
out of that. I'm not self conscious about like my job.
I was a little bit self conscious of that A
couple of years ago when we left Virginia and moved
to Atlanta and I was looking for a place to
live and I didn't. I was just like, oh, I
guess this is the place I'm going to go. Look
(23:09):
at this place and it was like a basement and
it was like, you know, a couple of rooms, and
we thought this is kind of cool.
Speaker 4 (23:14):
It's in a cool part at Atlanta. We could roll
with this.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
And the guy who opens the door I played baseball
with in seventh grade and he's like, oh, yeah, I
own this house and I own the basement. Would you
like to rent for me? And I was like hell no.
You know, it's like what is wrong with my life?
I don't own anything. I don't own a car, my
cell phone. I rent every month. And now this guy
is like like, hey, I own this and what a
(23:37):
rent for me. I was like, no, I don't.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Why didn't she make up a story like I'm actually
looking at buying all of these houses for my company
and tear him down and put I.
Speaker 4 (23:49):
Wish I wish I had thought of that.
Speaker 3 (23:51):
That's like when someone like flips you off and you're like, oh,
I should have said that thing. Yes, I should have
been in the moment, I was just like, I don't
know if you can read my face, but I feel
like a pilot shit right now. And then on the
way back, of course, I'm driving through this really high
end part of Atlanta and it's like Bentley Bentley Rolls,
you know, like mansion, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Like, I can't even buy anything.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
You know, It's like there was there was definitely a
crisis of I'm forty years old, what is going on
with my life?
Speaker 4 (24:18):
My friends have multiple homes. I have nothing to show
for it.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
So I feel that, yeah, yes, William's like, were you
reading my journals?
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
That.
Speaker 4 (24:32):
My self conscious is a little bit there too.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
I think, yeah, I've never been materialistically self conscious. Really,
Sometimes I'm like I should get a nice Both my
cars are over ten years old. Yeah, I'm like, I
should get a nice, professional looking car. But then I'm like,
for what, for what purpose? I'd rather and it's easier,
and this is justification that you can all use. Then
(24:56):
book The Millionaire next Door talks about how the majority
of meal you drive drive like hun days and live
in like uh a little three bedroom, two bathrooms units
and all this and that, and I was like, I'd
rather people look at me and be like, he's probably
a multi millionaire the way he's living so modestly, like
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you'd never even.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
Take your shirt off. Clearly he's rich.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
He's the guy that you never would suspect. And then
you can like, that's the new model for how to
flaunt ship is to drive hunks of shit like you
don't give a damn. And then everybody's like, that guy
has to be raking it in because.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
His car sucks, no reason for him so bad.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
And he's so confident about it and doesn't give a shit.
How sucks all of it? This guy, he's just he's
probably got more money than anybody else in town. Yeah,
that's uh yeah, that's how I uh justify ever all
of those things.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
And then I'm like I look at somebody who like
with a.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
And I'm like, I was pray their last dime they
spent on that car for me to look at them
and think they're cool, but in all actuality, they probably
spent their last little bit of chunk of change on
that or our stretch thin just trying to make those payments.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
William, you like wrap do you remember Juvenile and the
hot Boys? Oh?
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (26:20):
And who was it, Who is it? Birdman?
Speaker 3 (26:24):
He had a line that I got a quarter tank
of gas in my new E class. He spent all
the money on the car, but barely you got nothing
in it.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
Yeah, yeah, like that, that's it.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Definitely it's weird for me, like with the house stuff
right now, because like you know, I bought three houses.
Every house was nicer, and then I lost all of
it in the divorce. Now I'm renting, and like you said,
like I've got a friend who's talking about buying a
second house. He's like, oh, I just wanted to get
a house for my daughter, so she has one. And
I'm like, but also so from moving so much and
(27:02):
from traveling so much, like part of me thinks it
might anywhere you don't have to own it for it
to be a nice place. So now I'm trying to
justify things to myself, like, well, you know, I stayed
in a really nice place in the mountains, I didn't
own it. I stayed in this place and I didn't
own it, right, right, And also it's just so weird
(27:22):
now with the economy and the financial interestates on interest rates,
and there's so many houses for sale in this neighborhood,
nobody could sell them. So yeah, I do want to
buy a house again. But also there's a lot of
nice places to live out there and you don't have
to own them. So I'm just trying to say that
so that I am not sad about losing all of
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my houses.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Yeah, and you'll look at You'll see headlines that are
just like Elon Musk doesn't go in a house, He
rents everywhere he goes, and you're like, oh, and then
like is the new American dream actually to rent? And
I'm like, is that to make people? Is that the
same as like money doesn't buy happiness, where it's just
to like keep the impoverished happy enough that they don't
(28:08):
throw a coup, Like that's what that's what money doesn't
buy happiness? Saying is is just like rich people telling
poor people that even though we have all this stuff.
Speaker 4 (28:18):
You wouldn't want it. You don't want that's legos.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
They're not going to feel any happier or less happy with.
In fact, sometimes it can ruin your life, like oh dang,
maybe I don't want to Okay, no.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
Yeah, he's terrible. If you don't have it, If you
don't have it, you want this, you don't you don't
need this, it's a curse.
Speaker 3 (28:38):
No, I'm certainly of the mind that like a house
is just a place. I mean, this is our first house. Yeah,
I didn't even know if we'd ever own a house
because we were in la we were in Brooklyn, we
were in Phoenix, but just for a few years. So
there was like I was like, I don't know, man,
I guess I just rent forever and then finally something
popped up. But yeah, there's certainly, you know, pros and
cons to that. So I think of all the worries,
(28:59):
I think that one, you know, even for my own
sake I've taken myself down from, is like it doesn't
mean anything really.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Really at this point though, I just I'm trying to
get stability for my daughter, and I've desired stability more
than I ever really ever have before.
Speaker 4 (29:14):
Yeah, so it's like.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
Fuck, am I going to have to move out of
this place again in a year because I'm renting? Like
are they going to try to sell it or and
I can't you know, hopefully if they do that, I'll
be able to buy it at that Yeah. Yeah, but
like I'm just trying to get that stability built up
for my daughter, and you know, with us moving into
an apartment last year and then moving here and then
her mom living in an apartment, and I just see
it in her that like she needs it, and I'm
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just trying to figure out how I can do it
any way I can. So that's the biggest thing, is
why I wish that I still own or that I
own this house, is because I don't want to keep
moving around for Rowan. And yeah, I mean, we'll figure
it out either way. And even if that's like even
if we move every year for the rest of her life,
I'm sure that we'll be able to figure it out.
But yeah, I want her to be in a stable
(30:01):
place and be able to settle down more.
Speaker 4 (30:04):
I mean, I think the key in that too is you.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
You're the stability, true, because you know, like ultimately, like
Ellis has moved around a ton, She's lived in she
was born in LA she lived in Phoenix, Brooklyn, Virginia here,
and you know, there's certain parts of me that are like, man,
that's a real bummer because she can't really put down roots.
But what what is stable in that is us And
like we'd we're the roots. You know that just looks
(30:27):
a little bit different. But I think you just being
even even thinking that way toward her already shows like
your deep stability toward her. That's what you can't really
reflect on, you know. Somebody may be like, I lived
in a house my whole life. My parents were terrible, Like,
thankfully I lived in one house.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
I want to get out.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
I want to get out of this town because all
the memories are horrible for me.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Yeah, exactly, exactly. Though I was a.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Kid, Like we lived in Australia, Like I said earlier,
we moved to Melbourne and we lived in like three
different houses or maybe four or five of the houses
of three years. Like, we moved around a ton, and
I don't have any negative memories of moving around or anything.
All my memories of Australia are awesome. Yeah, so kids
definitely look at everything very differently.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Then, Yeah, moving can be very exciting for them, and
even if it's scary a lot of times, there's uh
that there's that level of excitement anyways. Whereas an adult,
when you move, you're like, I gotta move life.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
The worst thing that could possibly happen right now is
me having to move everything and then unpack everything and
then do it. Like every time I've moved, I've just
been like, this is the worst thing I've ever done.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Ever again, this is ever ever ever.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
I will never do it again. And then you do
it again and you're like, oh no, here the kids
are just like you.
Speaker 4 (31:47):
Change yes new Adventure news.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Right now, because like it was a really easy move.
I hired people, and but now I've got all these
fucking boxes and I don't know where things are. Yes,
I'm traveling in a week, so I don't want to
work on unpacking everything and anything, but I also have
to find these things for travel.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
Yeah, And Rowan's not thinking about any of that.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
She's just like new house, new yard, fun place, adventure.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
And she got away from the fire alarms. She's so
excited to be away from the fire alarms. The other day,
we're going to bed in our new house and she's like, Daddy,
are there fire alarms in this house. I'm like, yeah,
every house has fire alarms, but there's no fire drills.
And she's like, Daddy, will you show me the fire
(32:35):
alarm and made me take the fire alarm off of
the wall and show her how to test it, and
everything else. So like those fire drills in our apartments
fucking messed with her. So I am very excited to
not have that anymore.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
I think it's also a reminder that our perception of
our self consciousness is much smaller on the outside. We
expect all these people think this way toward us, see
us that way. I mean, even Tyson with you, Like,
neither of us would say like, oh, yeah, there's dumpy back,
you know, and.
Speaker 1 (33:10):
Ife me a little closer next time.
Speaker 3 (33:12):
We'll next in bad next time we're there. But I
think that's just like a reminder to go easy on yourself.
I think that's something in life teaches you too. Is
kind of like a it is what it is, and
you know, but b it's like you now have the
wisdom to remember that not everyone's talking about you. Those
(33:33):
people whispering over there are not talking about you. They're
whispering about something else. Or like you walk into school
and there's.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Coffee maker, coffee maker, coffee maker guts her too though.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Hilarious, No, you're all on board. What a moment. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I said it before too. People don't give a shit
about you. That's the thing that none of us really
understand is that people don't give a shit about you.
Everybody only cares about themselves. So it's like we feel
this way about ourselves and it makes us like, I'm
not confident, but other people aren't looking at us like that.
They're just not concerned. They're just concerned about themselves. The
fast majority of time were.
Speaker 4 (34:12):
The people at the pool or employers or whatever.
Speaker 1 (34:16):
I mean, most of that's true. But I've been on
TV before. I don't know, this isn't not a brag
right here, and I've had people come up and be like,
you look older than I thought you, and I was like, god,
damn it, fucking I am old.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
I was like, I was on the show you watched
was literally filmed seventeen years ago.
Speaker 4 (34:36):
I am forty five now, dude, it was that long.
Oh my gosh, yeah, so time, I know, right.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
So I was like, so, I was like, if you're
complaining about how old I look, I know you watched
one of the earlier seasons I was on, and I agree.
I looked much better back then, and I'm sorry, I'm
sorry I'm old now, Like I don't.
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Everything was better interesting, of course I look better, oh man.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
But yeah, in general, I agree people don't give a shit.
And also I don't look at people and think, oh,
dumpy back guy.
Speaker 4 (35:13):
I never do that.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
I'm like, I am more critical. I'm more critical of myself,
and I notice every small little blemish and little detail
of age and of flabbiness and of sloppiness and any imperfection.
I notice it all from myself. And I think you
just have to like, yeah, there's you have to get
(35:35):
past that.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
Somehow we got to start going easier on ourselves. We
don't know how do we how to get past this? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (35:43):
No, obviously not, or else you wouldn't be so upset
about it and bummed out about it. And I would
now be thinking about my red schnas when I'm fucking
hanging out at the pool.
Speaker 1 (35:53):
No, but my life is still pretty great and and
your your red schnaz is not your primary folks, of
your life. My dumpy body is not my primary focus
of our lives. And so I think we are learning
or we're dealing with it, and it's like as you age.
I think one thing that we all are doing and
is evident in this podcast is we're able to not
(36:17):
only talk about it but also laugh about it and
joke about it. And I think that that's one of
the beauties of getting older, is being able to be
self deprecating in a humorous and fun way that is
like true, sure, yeah, but also like whatever you know? Yeah,
And I think that Yeah. I think if we could
(36:38):
get a picture of Bradley with his hands and his hairline,
you with your red schnas and my lower back, I
think that.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
Would be like the person solid the perfect page. That's
a new thumbnail. So good. So it's red nose, back,
fat and big ears. Hey, welcome back, so good? Anything
(37:12):
else before we shut this thing down.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
I mean, if people don't understand from that alone, then
I think there's no there's no telling.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
Well, we're all going through it, everybody. Don't be too
hard on yourselves, you know. Make sure that tell us
what you hate the most about yourself. I'd love to hear, Yes,
please tell us in the moments pictures.
Speaker 4 (37:33):
We don't really want those pictures. We don't want.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yes, use your words to tell us and describe to
us the thing you hate most about yourself as you age.
Not the stuff that he has plagued you your whole life,
but the stuff that now that you're in your midlife
or past midlife that really bothers you about yourself let
us know.
Speaker 3 (37:50):
Yes, all right it, I got some self care to
work on.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
Yeah, I'm gonna go get another facial meditate just to
come down from this so I can go outside later.
Speaker 4 (38:07):
Okay, see you guys. Thanks everybody and everybody.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Bye m
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