May 19, 2025 • 35 mins
The Midlife Crisisses are back! On today's episode, Tyson Apostol (@tysonapostol) Bradley Hasemayer (@bhaz) and William Drumm (@williamdrumm) discuss a listener question about how to get started going to the gym, which evolves into a great conversation about feeling self conscious and building habits and what works for you.
Also - William has an interesting smoothie recipe...
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisises. I'm Tyson, one of the hosts.
Thank you so much for liking, subscribing, commenting, sharing all
of that stuff helps us continue to do this podcast,
and we would appreciate if you would continue to do
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We want to keep doing this and that is one
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(00:23):
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subscribe button, that like button, that follow button, whatever buttons
are there, smash them all.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife Crisises. We want
to know what kind of stuff you are going through
so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this quote as well, So.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Let's get into it.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
You're ruining your life, or at least that's what you think.
That's right. That's why habits are there. Have you built
new ones? Are they good? You have bad ones you're
trying to get rid of. We have a question from
a guy named Josh this week. He's asking us about
getting back to the gym. He's gonna feel like an idiot.
Does he do it? Does he not do? We have suggestions,
(01:10):
We talk all about it. We talk about habits, we
talk about self consciousness, and we talk a little bit
about a broccoli smoothie. Yes you heard that right. So
make sure you're joining us this week for midlife Crisises.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisis is the podcast that talks
about all things midlife crisis.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Just three bros going through it. We are here. We're
not alphas.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
We're not telling you how to make a billion dollars
by making your bed every day or whatever bullshit you're
seeing on social media. We're telling it like it is.
We're being real, and we're very excited for our co host, William,
coming from a new house, a new computer. Everything's turning up,
William William.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
What's up, dude, what's up everybody?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I'm William Drum.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'm a photographer, Tyson says, the best underwater photographer in Denver.
But I guess that's up for debate. You guys check
out some of my work and see what you think.
But like Tyson said, yeah, it was my daughter's birthday yesterday.
Had a party with a ton of kids, in a
jump place, moved into a new house on Thursday, unpacked
this weekend, so it's been a lot, but excited for
(02:15):
the summer and excited to chat with you guys today.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
William. I'm excited to see you smiling despite the fact
that you just have had so much happen in the past.
Like seventy two hours. We actually were recording on a
different day because it was like William was like, I
can get back, except I have to do this one
thing then I'll go back to my last apartment. That's
how committed he was. And then Tyson had stuff going on,
I had stuff going on, and it was going to
end up being like a seven minute podcast, so we said,
(02:41):
let's just scrap it and see when we can pick
it up. So thanks for all the hustle across the board, everybody. William,
how you feeling now that you're in this place. There
was a lot of that midlife crisis is of like
should I stay here? Should I not? You really wanted
to prioritize your daughter, but also your career, which is
something that obviously we're all experiencing as well. Are you
feeling good there?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, And at the end of the day, the decision
was made like what's best for my daughter, and I
just didn't really want her growing up in the dorms.
I was basically living in an apartment that was full
of younger kids, and it seemed like the dorms. We
went to a dog party at the dog park last week.
There's probably like fifteen twenty people, fifteen twenty dogs, and
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one four year old. So after that, I was like, yeah,
I think I made the right decision.
Speaker 5 (03:27):
I don't think this is quite right for my family.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, good, well so excited.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, backyard for your Giloh and for Shiloh is perfect
close my dog. Yeah, we support you.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Thank you, good move.
Speaker 5 (03:42):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Also, if you're just listening to us, thank you for
listening to us. But we're all wearing blue today, which
was totally unexpected. But blue is the color of royalty
and genius, they say.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
They also sinko deem o christ. True.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
Yeah, that's true. The color syncing to my O officially
blue now yep it is now. Well, thank you guys
for watching, Thank you for listening. We're on YouTube, we're
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(04:19):
messages from people on the internet. We've gotten them on Spotify,
We've gotten people sending all kinds of messages in midlife
crisises at gmail dot com. You can hit us up there.
By the way, I'm Bradley has Ameyer, father of two,
content creator. You know me, you know me. So this week, though,
this is very exciting, we're taking a direct question from
(04:40):
a guy named Josh, and I'm gonna read the question
and kind of our response to this, and then also
kind of our take. So if you can relate to this,
hang in there, because we're getting all across the board.
I think everyone can relate to this. So this is
from Josh. He says, Hey, guys, question for the pod.
I've been thinking for a while about joining a gym
and trying to be healthier, but I don't know where
to start. Regular exercise hasn't been a big part of
(05:02):
my life outside of a year or two where I
ran a little bit, or I did some exercise videos
off YouTube at home. I'm almost positive that if I
go somewhere to work out, I'll look like an idiot
and everyone will stare at me. But I'm open to
the possibility that this isn't really the case. Do you
have any recommendations for how to take the first step
forward making this a part of my routine? Thanks Josh, Well,
(05:23):
thank you Josh for bringing this question to us. And
there's so many layers here. I want to toss it
to Tyson at first, because I was listening to an
episode we did, like maybe a month ago. You were
talking about being in a gym and that you would
wear jeans and you don't want to be the guy
that even wears the regular clothes. And then William was
(05:44):
telling us about a gym he worked out in where
it was like a guy was wearing ninja outfits on
a treadmill. So I want to find out from you
guys first, what's your response to Josh.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So, first of all, I have that same self consciousness
when I go to it because I'm not a big
tough guy. Like, there's some lifts that I can do
pretty good. I can do a lot of pull ups,
so I tend to like, if there's other people in
the vicinity, I do the things I'm good at So
it's like lap pull downs because I was a swimmer,
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I can crush those like way above like my pay
grade on there. Pull ups I do decent, and then
other than that, I'm pretty weak. So like any of
like the dead lifts stuff, all that popular stuff where
they're ye trying to like hurt your shoulders on purpose,
I'm not good at any of that, and so I
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just like avoid it. But I wish that I could
enjoy it and get better at that and reap the
benefits of some of that stuff. And my response, Josh, is,
if you want to go to the gym, and that's
what you have your mind made up to do, find
a class. Sign up for a class that'll hold you accountable,
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and it will also give you a network of people
that you can lean on a little bit like Orange Theory,
they do classes.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
There's lots of groups.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
That do classes, and then you'll be absorbed into this
community who generally doesn't judge, and a lot of people
will be there for the first time or just early on.
And so that's what I would do is I would
look into some of those, try a few different ones
that seem interesting to you, and when you find your
group and the exercises you enjoy doing or that you
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feel you're getting the most from, you know, commit to
that a little bit. But I if I were set
on going to the gym a few times a week
and that's what I wanted to do to get in shape,
I would look for a class.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I think that's great advice. But what I was going
to say is, if you don't want to do the class,
or if there's no good classes, I go to a
gym close to here. Part of the reason why I
moved back over here. Not really, but there is a
gym closer to me. Is that putting it on the
calendars just so important too, Like, no matter what, whether
you find a class, don't find a class. I've been
(08:04):
working with a business coach lately, and you know, we're
scheduling out some of my time and looking at my
calendar and we got all this stuff in and he's like,
all right, now, where's exercise And we realized.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
That we didn't have it in there.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
And I think that it sounds like part of your
question is about starting that habit and getting it going,
and that's that's the best way to just make sure
that you're focused on it is making sure it's on
your calendar three days a week, four days a week,
whatever you're trying to do. And I mean Tyson's absolutely right,
the exercise classes, working out with other people, playing sports.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
With other people.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
It's great because it's not just your physical exercise, but
we're also you know, meeting people, networking and getting a
bit of a community. So I think that that is
kind of a best case scenario. But as far as
just getting the habit started, just put it on your
calendar each week, make sure it's there.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
I think that's really good. I would also bring to
the tea what I experienced in LA, which was being like,
you feel like an idiot. You think people are looking
at you at the gym. Everybody's just checking themselves out
if you're there, like a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I there's white almost videos surface of the do fists
using the apparatus wrong?
Speaker 4 (09:19):
Right right? Well, I don't think Josh is going to
be doing that. But to that point, to Tyson's point,
maybe it's worth like if you know what you want
to do, you could get an app a lot of that.
There's like some great workout apps that show you a
video of like okay, to do a push up properly,
do this, or to do bench press, do this or whatever.
Machines are great because they're kind of fail safe, like
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they're created in a way that there's a picture on
the side and it helps you with your form, so
you're not, to Tyson's point, going to you know, blow
out your shoulder. I think a group class is a
great move because, yeah, for the most part the times
that I've done group classes, everyone's just in there to
have fun. There's no judgment and if you're like falling behind,
people are there to be like, come on, let's go,
you can go instead of like why are you wasting
(10:01):
time in this class? You know. Yeah, So I think
that's like a nice safe place to start.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
The machines are really great, especially for us like elderly types.
The best chance of getting injured on the machine.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Right, I think that's yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Part of my self consciousness at a JIM is I
know I don't do some of the lifts exactly perfect
like mister Universe does. And I hate when people are like, hey,
you know part, I know you didn't ask for it,
but you got to strengthen an arch you're back here,
And then keep your new you get.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
That, you get like the unsolicited like and sometimes it's
like helpful.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
But sometimes you're like, I'm trying, but my back won't
straighten when I'm trying to lift this, So I'm sorry,
I'm not doing it how you would like me to
or how Hustleman Magazine told us to. I'm really trying
my best here and I hate Yeah, that's.
Speaker 4 (10:52):
My subscription ran out to Muscle magazine or.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
The guy in like the single.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
It is just like kind of sad eye and you're like, oh,
like you're gonna do it like that?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
All of that so annoying.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
And also go early. There's less people in the gym early.
I feel like if you're like when I go, sometimes
I can't. Sometimes sometimes you can't. That's true, but it's
like if you if you don't know what you're doing
at the grocery store, go when there's not a lot
of people. Yeah, at least that's my thought. But it
does bring up Josh. Hopefully that helps hit us back
if you have responses to that, But it kind of
(11:24):
brings up the thought of habits. There's you know what healthy,
highly effective habits like that book Seven Habits for highly
effective people.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
There is a croc of shit. But the idea is
there are people who have made, yeah, some habits that
then benefit them lately in their life.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Yes, and that gets back to all the like the
self help books that we were talking about a couple
of weeks ago to But I think the idea of
a habit is important. Discipline is important. But there's different
habits that you have when you're younger. When you're older,
things have changed. So along the lines of what Josh
is talking about is he's trying to make a change
and kind of turn a page adding exercise in. That's
not easy, but you have to develop it as a habit.
(12:04):
I was curious when I saw that question about you guys,
if there's anything that is now a kind of fairly
consistent You may not even think about it often because
now it's just so habitual. But maybe that you've added
into your life as a midlife person that either didn't
apply to you when you were younger. Maybe it's rest
or you weren't wise enough to know the value of it,
(12:25):
or like anything like that, or you know, married with
a kid or going through divorce, Like there's aspects that
maybe now are a major part of your life that
weren't before. So I'm curious what habits you guys have developed.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Several of the ones you said there going to sleep,
Like getting sleep, that's a habit that I've had to develop.
So I love staying up late and then I always
have to get up early. So last year, I think
when we were starting the podcast, I was, you know,
staying up till two am and having to get up
with browing at six am or it was really rough.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
That's brutal.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Now I realize more than ever before how important sleep
is for me. So that's one habit that I've had
some success in developing. Also, we've talked about it on
here before. Washing my face that's something that I never
ever did until like the last year or something.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Do I right that you use baby shampoo on your eyelids?
I think.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Is that what you're supposed to do if you.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Have silas issues like me and mister Bradley, that's true.
Any listeners out there have those? Is that like a
midlife thing that.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
Has start to get more of No.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
No, I hang out primarily with people our age, and
I've never seen that.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
I've only seen it with you too.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
You once in a while, it's it's on, but it's
not just not purely our age demographic.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
No, not a midlife thing.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
It's not a midlife thing.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
One that is like a habit that I've developed and
now I love is drinking smoothies. It's like the easiest,
simplest way to eat something good. And at first, for
some reason, you know, it's one of those things that
just kind of put off, like kind of just like
maybe I'll do it later, I won't have one. But
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now that I make them all the time, it's like
every meal, I'm like, do I get to have a
smoothe Do I get to have a smoothie? So I
think the smoothie habits spend one of the best easiest
nutritionist Do you.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Juice as well? Do you have like one of those
things and you make like carrot juice with kale and
you tell yourself work here.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Yeah, I've heard those are cleaning. Cleaning those is a
pain in the ass.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I just I just throw whatever in it, Like I
had spinach, broccoli, some leftover grapes from my daughter that
I threw in there, and some peanuts.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
How farty are you right now?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Fiber's Okay, fiber's perfect. So I just throw whatever in there,
and I like all of them, like even the.
Speaker 5 (14:55):
Same.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I was like, none of that makes it better.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
The broccolius, if it's cold, it doesn't matter, you know.
Speaker 4 (15:06):
That's if it's cold, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 5 (15:08):
That's not true.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Spinach is flavorless when you add it with anything else.
So spinach I can get behind.
Speaker 5 (15:14):
Got a stronger hint.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Broccoli the stems too, That's that's crazy talk.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I got a giant bag of broccoli at Costco. The
freezer is actually head.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
This is this is this is not No more broccoli,
No more broccoli.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Wow, brain right, No walnuts and blueberries.
Speaker 5 (15:38):
That's the brain.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
Walnuts and blue I can get that stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
But I'm really low on ingredients right now, so that's
why I'm using some leftover grapes from my daughter's lunches.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Are fine, fine, we have a problem. You're trying to
the grapes. We have no problem, no problems. The problem
is with the broccoli. Broccoli here, that's insane.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
It's the best part.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
You just doubled down on the buckley. Oh my god, dude, I.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Know this might we may just have to end this.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
We are losing subscribers.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Now you think about it smoothly actually sweet with kints
of apple juice and grape. Oh my gosh, yeah, wow wow.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
I don't even know how to follow that.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
I because you you asked us Bradley about the habits before,
so I had a little bit of time to prepare,
and my answers are pretty similar to William. First of all,
the greatest change you can make is make in your
bed every day. You know, we we all know that
garbage success success dude. Seven highly effective habits of highly
(16:53):
effective people.
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Sleep is the first thing that came to mind when
Bradley asked that question.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Sleep.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I make sure I'm to bed at ten. I get
up at six thirty or six forty five with the kids.
Maybe I get to hit snooze once.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
And that's pretty constant, because the second it's not constant,
it throws you off for like three days as you
try to rebound from staying up till two to one
time just to binge watch a show. So I try
to be in bed at ten or a sleep by
ten if I can, but for sure in bed by
ten every night, and that helps me for sure. The
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following day, every single time I do a skin routine too.
One of the things though, that I really try to
do is stay not his summer. Like when I was
a kid, I was like, get that tan dark of
Greek heritage, so like I have that all of skin
which just pops when you get some sun on it.
(17:57):
But my son, my skin is sun damaged now. But
I have noticed a big improvement in it over the
last few years from just wearing a shirt when I'm
outside rather than popping that shirt every chance I get.
And part of that is because I now have a
midlife body. I don't even want to take your most
fantastic about the half skinned solversion of yourself.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
So by not working out as much.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
My skin that's great. Dermatologists recommend not working out.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yes, you're lucky, though, I've got what my mom always
called the cheap irish skin. So my skin I'm noticing
the opposite. Like man, my nose is red all the time.
I'm trying not to ever get it sunburn. I wear
sunscreen every day, but the lifetime of sun damage is
already definitely catching up to me. And I wish I
(18:46):
had that Greek olive skin. It would goes so good
with my grape smoothie. Whatever, broccoli smoothie.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
I can't choose, don't that's not fair. Someone someone's like,
you want a grape SMOOTHI You're like, yeah, that sounds delicious.
What is in here? Broccoli? You didn't lead with that.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Yeah, it's like flapping may on a sandwich but not
putting it to the ingredients.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
Yeah, you don't do that. That's illegal.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Yeah, it's after you. You're getting less than a star
on Yelp for sure.
Speaker 5 (19:17):
Yeah, you try it.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
I don't think I will.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
I think my brain I hate it.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
I know the taste of broccoli. This is not like
I found a fruit from another country I've never tried before.
I'd be willing to try that. I know broccoli.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's like the chemical flavor, whatever flavor, the chemicals that
create that in broccoli.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
It's not doesn't no one, no one's selling that mar.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
It doesn't mix.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Mark great brocli and then mix somehow to make it
more pleasant. I like eating broccoli. I will as the
side of salmon. You other than broccoli smoothies, woul done.
That has become a positive habit.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
Yeah, that's that's solid. I think. Yeah again, sleep I've
added in like regular dermatology visits, like try to take
care better care of myself, my skin. I kind of
think I've recently added we'll to say recently, probably for
about maybe ten years now. Set aside. Either usually it's
(20:24):
a Sunday, could be a Saturday, or could be a
different day if I'm busy. I try to take at
least one day out of the week, and I like
put up the borders and I do no work. I'd
rather work harder on a day ahead of time to
give myself like an actual break, right like in Jewish
tradition it's a sabbath. Other people have it, you know,
like maybe like a you know, a book would tell
(20:45):
you you need a day off or whatever. And so
I try to take a full hard break. And that's
hard because we're freelance. Our schedules are weird. I always
have work to do. I realize that, like the work
that I have is like those dog bowls that just
keep feeding themselves, you know, like the dog eats the food,
it's always drop, there's always something. It's like an unlimited
pez dispenser. Yeah, and so I have to and I
(21:07):
love I love to get stuff done, like done is
my dopamine hit. Like when I can check that boom,
that videos edited, that email was sent, you know that
client phone call happened, Like that feels good and so
I like that, but I also know that I burn
myself out, and I've realized that by doing this, I'm
actually excited. Monday morning, I'm like chomping at the bit
(21:29):
to get this thing done. Like I was halfway done
editing on Saturday. It was late, I went to bed.
I just you know, Monday morning, I'm thinking, like how
can I do this? And that's been really helpful, just
almost like fasting. Some people include like you know, they'll
have like their what is it intermittent fasting basically the
same thing, but from work. And I've started adding in
(21:51):
screen time as well. So within that same day, nine
to four no screens. I'm not watching a movie, I'm
not surfing the internet. I'm doing you know whatever on
my phone. Basically it's a way and I find ultimately
I don't really miss that. I find myself reading more,
I find myself taking a nap, I find myself playing
(22:13):
with my kids, Like there's other things that I would
have normally done that that phone will come in and
kind of fill that void, and all three of us
really basically have to be with our phones throughout the
week in terms of responding to social or posting or
you know that kind of thing. So trying to create
that habit in my life has been really helpful just
for my own kind of balance, I guess. So that's
(22:34):
that's a habit that's pretty good. Recently, I've been I've
been trying to do Friday morning coffee dates with my wife,
like just go and get a coffee with her, life
with kids, and all of a sudden, you know, like
there's like I think there's two major times for divorce,
right basically right after you have kids and you look
(22:56):
around you're like, this is chaos. I can't do this.
And then after the kids leave, because then you're like,
who are you? I know, for the past eighteen years
we were like coheting, yeah, but roommates, and we were
like logistic supervisors, you take him here and shot hearing it,
And so I just don't want that to be the case.
I'm trying to find connect points. So that's a recent habit,
(23:16):
probably a couple months old.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
How's that going.
Speaker 4 (23:19):
It's cool because honestly, like when I before I got married,
I was like, man, I'm going to date my wife,
Like that was the idea. It was like, We're going
to do like a trip to Santrope and like hot
air balloons in South Africa. And now it's like, if
I can just get twenty minutes in a coffee with you,
like that really goes a long way in our relationship,
just to connect and not make it so business. Ye
(23:42):
A lot of times it's like, hey, did you get
the email about the school? Tyson? I know, I mean, William,
you can look forward to this, but Tyson, I know
you probably are the same way. My inbox gets flooded
with school email, heads up this thing and there's a
field trip and this is due, and so we just
become like this run the business of the family so
much it's like I got this permission slip sidne off.
(24:04):
But sometimes it's just just to go up. We walk
up the street. We live in this great place where
there's att coffee shop around the corner, and we just
go and get something and it's not like an hour.
It's not like we have to you know, but it's
just kind of a fun thing. Like every Friday morning,
I know, I'm doing that, and it's kind of annoying
at first because there were things I wanted to get
done on Friday morning. But now the more that I
do it, I find out, well, actually that thing can
(24:24):
get pushed a little bit later or whatever. So yeah,
those are some habits. And I'm not sure what's the number.
It's like, you have to do something, what like forty
times for it to become a habit?
Speaker 5 (24:35):
Or I had twenty one days.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
I heard seventeen.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
Long does it take to form a habit? It generally
takes more than two months or sixty six days for
a new behavior to become a habitwever.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
Prospect about it after less than a week.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
Because they're just flexing on social you know, that's not real. Yeah. Yeah, yeah,
it's my new thing, man, prospit Prospect's my thing.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Yeah, I've always done it.
Speaker 4 (25:07):
Yeah, it's just changed my life. You mean today today
it was your first thing. It's changed your life today, Okay,
all right, Brad.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
One thing that I'm trying to get more sensitive to
is like when I don't follow through on my habits,
noticing what happens downstream from that because I'm so adiat
and I just can move on from things really easily.
It's harder for me to like focus on anything literally
anything next. So like with you know, staying up late,
(25:41):
for one example, Like I knew that it wasn't great
for me, but I couldn't really always say why or
realized that I was thinking less really because of it.
So trying to identify the results of not falling through
something my.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Self awareness really with that, right, Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Yeah see, and with bad habits too, like stand up
drinking alcohol. You know, that sucks up my stomach now
that I'm getting older, like I can't really drink anymore
barely at all. But once again, that was something that
was messing up my stomach for a long time, but
I never really took the time to appreciate that how
(26:22):
much better it is to not have a sore stomach
and not be tired.
Speaker 5 (26:26):
And yeah, so that's a good point to constant, constant challenge.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
But yeah, well.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
And recognizing those things, like those things are going to
pop up in our lives at certain times, and it's
essential to figure out the root cause of whatever thing
that you want to change and then form it into
a habit. Because I love stand up. I used to
just stay up in the morning, sleep until eleven. Then
I had kids and real life and I couldn't do
(26:53):
that anymore. But I was still trying to stay up
till four. I had a buddy who was working full
time when we were doing that, and he was going
to bed at four and then getting up at six
to work landscaping, and I was like, I am a machine,
no insane like, and I was like, I could never
do that. I'm glad I don't have a job. I
can just sleep in while he's landscaping. You've been landscaping
(27:14):
for six hours and I'm just getting out of bed night.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
That's wild.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
So yeah, at some point you got to find your
break point, and maybe that's not it right. You got
to figure out sometimes a trial and error too, Like
you're like, Okay, I can stay up that late, but
then I think it's the why. Even getting back to
Josh's question, the first thing is to ask why, Like
do you want to be healthier because you feel like
it's going to make your life better, you want to
live longer, or is it like are you doing it
because you're trying to impress somebody? Are you doing it
(27:40):
because you feel like you should be doing it, but
you don't really care to be doing it, because I
think the why the motivate is going to be helpful too.
Speaker 5 (27:47):
Good point.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, it's super good point, especially with health things, especially
with health things that are more like down the road,
like am I going to live longer? Well, you don't know,
like it doesn't really factor in directly. So I think
that having a why that is like more immediate is
really helpful too.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Yeah, and seeing results. When you see results, that keeps
you motivated. So like as you know, getting stronger or
you're getting more defined or losing weight or whatever your
goal is there, then it really like becomes real. Then
that can take time, Like that's why you know, you
got to have some consistency with it before.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
But that's good.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Josh was saying that he did running for a while.
I'm a run running the best, and it's one of
those things where you can see the progress so easy.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
It's like so true.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
So it's a great way to start working out in
a lot of way, Like during different times in my life,
running was the one thing that I could come back to,
Like if I just run, then it kind of makes
the other stuff fall into place. So I think that
having something where you see those results right away and
that you know you like doing it's it's it's awesome.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
And I'll say, according to social media, running club, that's
the new bar, that's where you meet the hotties. Yeah. Yeah,
for William, that might be might be a good idea running.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
I will say there's a few better feelings physically than
hitting a second wind, Like you're like running.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Over that first couple of or whatever.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
You know, that hump, and then all of a sudden
you're just like hitting like a hotel. Yeah, you're just like, Wow,
I'm invincible.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
All the time.
Speaker 5 (29:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
And running too. When I used to be into running
in swimming, uh, but there was no greater feeling than
tasting blood in your lungs from boothing so hard and
pushing yourself. I don't know why you could taste like
it tastes like somebody punched you in the mouth a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
You guys, I feel weird for not being weird today
because we've got broccoli smooth and we got bloody lungs
and everybody's celebrating their weirdness.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
That's the thing that's I don't know. You ask any
endurance athlete. Tasting blood in your mouth when you've pushed
yourself to your physical limit is a normal thing.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
M and it felt great.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
I guess I gotta run a lot harder than I've
been running.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
You do all you have to do, all you have
to do, William, Here's how you're going to do it
if you really want to feel that.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
I'm excited. Everyone take notes.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Here we go sign up for You can sign up
for a five k, you can sign up for a
half marathon, whatever you feel comfortable doing. But as you
get to the start line, the goal isn't to finish.
The goal is to win, even if you know you
can't win.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Yeah, because you're yourself so hard.
Speaker 3 (30:42):
With the best people.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
For as long as you can chase those rabbits, you
will taste blood in your lungs. And when you are
done and you stop and you're throwing up, you'll be like,
I can't believe I pushed myself that hard. That was crazy,
And I have am so pumped and filled with adrenaline
right now that I am not going to be able
to come down for Like, I'm gonna stay up till
four in the morning. There's nothing I can do to not.
Speaker 4 (31:07):
I'm pretty sure part of that was from Brave Heart.
That speech that you just gave, that's the same. There's
nothing better than taste and blood in your lungs.
Speaker 5 (31:16):
Men.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
Hold hold, I did good.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I did run one relay marathon last year with four
people and we did get first place. Come on, that
was like my only run because or no, only competition
because I'm never gonna win again, so I'm never gonna
do it.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
No, you never signed up. You needed a rabbit to
chase so that you really had to throttle. That's what
you needed.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Oh I did, That's what I'm saying though, first place,
but I ran my ass off.
Speaker 5 (31:43):
It was great, and chat blood could have ran harder.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
So, Josh, as you're preparing to go to the gym,
I think the lesson here is stay focused, find some accountability,
make sure you taste blood. Otherwise it was a wasted
gym session.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Find a group if you can.
Speaker 5 (32:03):
Yeah, group is.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
A good call. Yeah, have a why, have a why.
That's good, that's good and let us know. Yeah, let
us know how it goes. We'd love to bring your
quotes back on the air. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
And the accountability like that comes with having the group
and the network like having that, but if you can't
find there, if you have a friend or a couple
of friends that you can commit to doing this with
them a couple times a week, then there's accountability there. Yeah,
my dad when I was cycling, he used to make
me get up. I had to wake him up to
go ride every morning before school in high school because
(32:39):
I wanted to be a mountain bike racer. So he
was like, I'll ride with you every day, but you
have to wake me up. Five thirty would roll around.
I did not want to get up to mountain bike,
but I knew that my dad was waiting to be
woken up to ride mountain bikes before. So he created
an accountability for me, even when I was exhausted some
(33:00):
mornings and stuff where I was like, I gotta wake
my dad up because then like he's he's counting on
me to wake him up to go ride. So if
you can create a system like that with somebodies, that
works too great too. But if not sign up for
those classes, that is an immediate accountability and a group
right there.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
William final thoughts.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Same with running, like just me and my sister send
each other our runs. When did that run? Last year
me and the dude, so I was doing it with
send each other our runs. And it's not just accountability,
it's also like.
Speaker 5 (33:35):
Like showing off. You know, it's like a there's a
double edged.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Sword to it because feel good look like show off.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
You have the accountability. So I think that anything anyway
that you can involve other people in your exercise is
going to benefit.
Speaker 4 (33:52):
Yeah. Love that and then all right, there you go, guys,
that is the midlife crisis. If you guys have any
habits that you love that you've incorporated into your life,
we'd love to hear about those. We're we're wide open
the ideas. Clearly. We got bloody lungs and broccoli smoothie,
so anything goes over on this side. Thanks so much
for listening. Oh yeah, William, go ahead.
Speaker 5 (34:12):
Oh it was good to say.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
If anybody needs any broccoli recipes for their smoothies, like,
please hit me up.
Speaker 5 (34:17):
Yeah, I like to follow hit me up. I've got
all of them.
Speaker 4 (34:20):
If anyone, if anyone wasn't sure that William was going
through a midlife crisis, I think we can all agree
it's happening. Yeah, yeah, Well thanks for watching the show, guys.
Thanks for listening to the show. We love you guys,
like we said before, like follow, subscribe, That helps us
get it out more, the more people. We're here to
build the community and to love on you guys. So
(34:41):
peace up and have a great rest of your day.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Can I just say that was a super fun episode,
and Josh, thank you for sending the question. Yes, other people,
we would love to answer your questions as well.
Speaker 5 (34:52):
That was That was awesome.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Yeah, and let us know if there's anybody else that's
putting broccoli in the smoothies or William is.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
The outliers, the outlier in the world. I'm saying that
right now in the world.
Speaker 3 (35:04):
Okay, see you next week.
Speaker 4 (35:06):
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You're ruining your life, or at least that's what you think.
That's right. That's why habits are there. Have you built
new ones? Are they good? You have bad ones you're
trying to get rid of. We have a question from
a guy named Josh this week. He's asking us about
getting back to the gym. He's gonna feel like an idiot.
Does he do it? Does he not do? We have suggestions,
(01:10):
We talk all about it. We talk about habits, we
talk about self consciousness, and we talk a little bit
about a broccoli smoothie. Yes you heard that right. So
make sure you're joining us this week for midlife Crisises.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisis is the podcast that talks
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Speaker 3 (01:27):
Just three bros going through it. We are here. We're
not alphas.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
We're not telling you how to make a billion dollars
by making your bed every day or whatever bullshit you're
seeing on social media. We're telling it like it is.
We're being real, and we're very excited for our co host, William,
coming from a new house, a new computer. Everything's turning up,
William William.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
What's up, dude, what's up everybody?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I'm William Drum.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'm a photographer, Tyson says, the best underwater photographer in Denver.
But I guess that's up for debate. You guys check
out some of my work and see what you think.
But like Tyson said, yeah, it was my daughter's birthday yesterday.
Had a party with a ton of kids, in a
jump place, moved into a new house on Thursday, unpacked
this weekend, so it's been a lot, but excited for
(02:15):
the summer and excited to chat with you guys today.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
William. I'm excited to see you smiling despite the fact
that you just have had so much happen in the past.
Like seventy two hours. We actually were recording on a
different day because it was like William was like, I
can get back, except I have to do this one
thing then I'll go back to my last apartment. That's
how committed he was. And then Tyson had stuff going on,
I had stuff going on, and it was going to
end up being like a seven minute podcast, so we said,
(02:41):
let's just scrap it and see when we can pick
it up. So thanks for all the hustle across the board, everybody. William,
how you feeling now that you're in this place. There
was a lot of that midlife crisis is of like
should I stay here? Should I not? You really wanted
to prioritize your daughter, but also your career, which is
something that obviously we're all experiencing as well. Are you
feeling good there?
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, And at the end of the day, the decision
was made like what's best for my daughter, and I
just didn't really want her growing up in the dorms.
I was basically living in an apartment that was full
of younger kids, and it seemed like the dorms. We
went to a dog party at the dog park last week.
There's probably like fifteen twenty people, fifteen twenty dogs, and
(03:21):
one four year old. So after that, I was like, yeah,
I think I made the right decision.
Speaker 5 (03:27):
I don't think this is quite right for my family.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Yeah, good, well so excited.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Yeah, backyard for your Giloh and for Shiloh is perfect
close my dog. Yeah, we support you.
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Thank you, good move.
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By the way, I'm Bradley has Ameyer, father of two,
content creator. You know me, you know me. So this week, though,
this is very exciting, we're taking a direct question from
(04:40):
a guy named Josh, and I'm gonna read the question
and kind of our response to this, and then also
kind of our take. So if you can relate to this,
hang in there, because we're getting all across the board.
I think everyone can relate to this. So this is
from Josh. He says, Hey, guys, question for the pod.
I've been thinking for a while about joining a gym
and trying to be healthier, but I don't know where
to start. Regular exercise hasn't been a big part of
(05:02):
my life outside of a year or two where I
ran a little bit, or I did some exercise videos
off YouTube at home. I'm almost positive that if I
go somewhere to work out, I'll look like an idiot
and everyone will stare at me. But I'm open to
the possibility that this isn't really the case. Do you
have any recommendations for how to take the first step
forward making this a part of my routine? Thanks Josh, Well,
(05:23):
thank you Josh for bringing this question to us. And
there's so many layers here. I want to toss it
to Tyson at first, because I was listening to an
episode we did, like maybe a month ago. You were
talking about being in a gym and that you would
wear jeans and you don't want to be the guy
that even wears the regular clothes. And then William was
(05:44):
telling us about a gym he worked out in where
it was like a guy was wearing ninja outfits on
a treadmill. So I want to find out from you
guys first, what's your response to Josh.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
So, first of all, I have that same self consciousness
when I go to it because I'm not a big
tough guy. Like, there's some lifts that I can do
pretty good. I can do a lot of pull ups,
so I tend to like, if there's other people in
the vicinity, I do the things I'm good at So
it's like lap pull downs because I was a swimmer,
(06:13):
I can crush those like way above like my pay
grade on there. Pull ups I do decent, and then
other than that, I'm pretty weak. So like any of
like the dead lifts stuff, all that popular stuff where
they're ye trying to like hurt your shoulders on purpose,
I'm not good at any of that, and so I
(06:34):
just like avoid it. But I wish that I could
enjoy it and get better at that and reap the
benefits of some of that stuff. And my response, Josh, is,
if you want to go to the gym, and that's
what you have your mind made up to do, find
a class. Sign up for a class that'll hold you accountable,
(06:56):
and it will also give you a network of people
that you can lean on a little bit like Orange Theory,
they do classes.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
There's lots of groups.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
That do classes, and then you'll be absorbed into this
community who generally doesn't judge, and a lot of people
will be there for the first time or just early on.
And so that's what I would do is I would
look into some of those, try a few different ones
that seem interesting to you, and when you find your
group and the exercises you enjoy doing or that you
(07:25):
feel you're getting the most from, you know, commit to
that a little bit. But I if I were set
on going to the gym a few times a week
and that's what I wanted to do to get in shape,
I would look for a class.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I like that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I think that's great advice. But what I was going
to say is, if you don't want to do the class,
or if there's no good classes, I go to a
gym close to here. Part of the reason why I
moved back over here. Not really, but there is a
gym closer to me. Is that putting it on the
calendars just so important too, Like, no matter what, whether
you find a class, don't find a class. I've been
(08:04):
working with a business coach lately, and you know, we're
scheduling out some of my time and looking at my
calendar and we got all this stuff in and he's like,
all right, now, where's exercise And we realized.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
That we didn't have it in there.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
And I think that it sounds like part of your
question is about starting that habit and getting it going,
and that's that's the best way to just make sure
that you're focused on it is making sure it's on
your calendar three days a week, four days a week,
whatever you're trying to do. And I mean Tyson's absolutely right,
the exercise classes, working out with other people, playing sports.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
With other people.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
It's great because it's not just your physical exercise, but
we're also you know, meeting people, networking and getting a
bit of a community. So I think that that is
kind of a best case scenario. But as far as
just getting the habit started, just put it on your
calendar each week, make sure it's there.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
I think that's really good. I would also bring to
the tea what I experienced in LA, which was being like,
you feel like an idiot. You think people are looking
at you at the gym. Everybody's just checking themselves out
if you're there, like a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I there's white almost videos surface of the do fists
using the apparatus wrong?
Speaker 4 (09:19):
Right right? Well, I don't think Josh is going to
be doing that. But to that point, to Tyson's point,
maybe it's worth like if you know what you want
to do, you could get an app a lot of that.
There's like some great workout apps that show you a
video of like okay, to do a push up properly,
do this, or to do bench press, do this or whatever.
Machines are great because they're kind of fail safe, like
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they're created in a way that there's a picture on
the side and it helps you with your form, so
you're not, to Tyson's point, going to you know, blow
out your shoulder. I think a group class is a
great move because, yeah, for the most part the times
that I've done group classes, everyone's just in there to
have fun. There's no judgment and if you're like falling behind,
people are there to be like, come on, let's go,
you can go instead of like why are you wasting
(10:01):
time in this class? You know. Yeah, So I think
that's like a nice safe place to start.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
The machines are really great, especially for us like elderly types.
The best chance of getting injured on the machine.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Right, I think that's yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Part of my self consciousness at a JIM is I
know I don't do some of the lifts exactly perfect
like mister Universe does. And I hate when people are like, hey,
you know part, I know you didn't ask for it,
but you got to strengthen an arch you're back here,
And then keep your new you get.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
That, you get like the unsolicited like and sometimes it's
like helpful.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
But sometimes you're like, I'm trying, but my back won't
straighten when I'm trying to lift this, So I'm sorry,
I'm not doing it how you would like me to
or how Hustleman Magazine told us to. I'm really trying
my best here and I hate Yeah, that's.
Speaker 4 (10:52):
My subscription ran out to Muscle magazine or.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
The guy in like the single.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
It is just like kind of sad eye and you're like, oh,
like you're gonna do it like that?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
All of that so annoying.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
And also go early. There's less people in the gym early.
I feel like if you're like when I go, sometimes
I can't. Sometimes sometimes you can't. That's true, but it's
like if you if you don't know what you're doing
at the grocery store, go when there's not a lot
of people. Yeah, at least that's my thought. But it
does bring up Josh. Hopefully that helps hit us back
if you have responses to that, But it kind of
(11:24):
brings up the thought of habits. There's you know what healthy,
highly effective habits like that book Seven Habits for highly
effective people.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
There is a croc of shit. But the idea is
there are people who have made, yeah, some habits that
then benefit them lately in their life.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Yes, and that gets back to all the like the
self help books that we were talking about a couple
of weeks ago to But I think the idea of
a habit is important. Discipline is important. But there's different
habits that you have when you're younger. When you're older,
things have changed. So along the lines of what Josh
is talking about is he's trying to make a change
and kind of turn a page adding exercise in. That's
not easy, but you have to develop it as a habit.
(12:04):
I was curious when I saw that question about you guys,
if there's anything that is now a kind of fairly
consistent You may not even think about it often because
now it's just so habitual. But maybe that you've added
into your life as a midlife person that either didn't
apply to you when you were younger. Maybe it's rest
or you weren't wise enough to know the value of it,
(12:25):
or like anything like that, or you know, married with
a kid or going through divorce, Like there's aspects that
maybe now are a major part of your life that
weren't before. So I'm curious what habits you guys have developed.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Several of the ones you said there going to sleep,
Like getting sleep, that's a habit that I've had to develop.
So I love staying up late and then I always
have to get up early. So last year, I think
when we were starting the podcast, I was, you know,
staying up till two am and having to get up
with browing at six am or it was really rough.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
That's brutal.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Now I realize more than ever before how important sleep
is for me. So that's one habit that I've had
some success in developing. Also, we've talked about it on
here before. Washing my face that's something that I never
ever did until like the last year or something.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Do I right that you use baby shampoo on your eyelids?
I think.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Is that what you're supposed to do if you.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Have silas issues like me and mister Bradley, that's true.
Any listeners out there have those? Is that like a
midlife thing that.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
Has start to get more of No.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
No, I hang out primarily with people our age, and
I've never seen that.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
I've only seen it with you too.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
You once in a while, it's it's on, but it's
not just not purely our age demographic.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
No, not a midlife thing.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
It's not a midlife thing.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
One that is like a habit that I've developed and
now I love is drinking smoothies. It's like the easiest,
simplest way to eat something good. And at first, for
some reason, you know, it's one of those things that
just kind of put off, like kind of just like
maybe I'll do it later, I won't have one. But
(14:08):
now that I make them all the time, it's like
every meal, I'm like, do I get to have a
smoothe Do I get to have a smoothie? So I
think the smoothie habits spend one of the best easiest
nutritionist Do you.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
Juice as well? Do you have like one of those
things and you make like carrot juice with kale and
you tell yourself work here.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Yeah, I've heard those are cleaning. Cleaning those is a
pain in the ass.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I just I just throw whatever in it, Like I
had spinach, broccoli, some leftover grapes from my daughter that
I threw in there, and some peanuts.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
How farty are you right now?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Fiber's Okay, fiber's perfect. So I just throw whatever in there,
and I like all of them, like even the.
Speaker 5 (14:55):
Same.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
I was like, none of that makes it better.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
The broccolius, if it's cold, it doesn't matter, you know.
Speaker 4 (15:06):
That's if it's cold, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 5 (15:08):
That's not true.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Spinach is flavorless when you add it with anything else.
So spinach I can get behind.
Speaker 5 (15:14):
Got a stronger hint.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Broccoli the stems too, That's that's crazy talk.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I got a giant bag of broccoli at Costco. The
freezer is actually head.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
This is this is this is not No more broccoli,
No more broccoli.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Wow, brain right, No walnuts and blueberries.
Speaker 5 (15:38):
That's the brain.
Speaker 4 (15:39):
Walnuts and blue I can get that stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
But I'm really low on ingredients right now, so that's
why I'm using some leftover grapes from my daughter's lunches.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Are fine, fine, we have a problem. You're trying to
the grapes. We have no problem, no problems. The problem
is with the broccoli. Broccoli here, that's insane.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
It's the best part.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
You just doubled down on the buckley. Oh my god, dude, I.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Know this might we may just have to end this.
Speaker 3 (16:08):
We are losing subscribers.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Now you think about it smoothly actually sweet with kints
of apple juice and grape. Oh my gosh, yeah, wow wow.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
I don't even know how to follow that.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
I because you you asked us Bradley about the habits before,
so I had a little bit of time to prepare,
and my answers are pretty similar to William. First of all,
the greatest change you can make is make in your
bed every day. You know, we we all know that
garbage success success dude. Seven highly effective habits of highly
(16:53):
effective people.
Speaker 5 (16:54):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Sleep is the first thing that came to mind when
Bradley asked that question.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Sleep.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I make sure I'm to bed at ten. I get
up at six thirty or six forty five with the kids.
Maybe I get to hit snooze once.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
And that's pretty constant, because the second it's not constant,
it throws you off for like three days as you
try to rebound from staying up till two to one
time just to binge watch a show. So I try
to be in bed at ten or a sleep by
ten if I can, but for sure in bed by
ten every night, and that helps me for sure. The
(17:34):
following day, every single time I do a skin routine too.
One of the things though, that I really try to
do is stay not his summer. Like when I was
a kid, I was like, get that tan dark of
Greek heritage, so like I have that all of skin
which just pops when you get some sun on it.
(17:57):
But my son, my skin is sun damaged now. But
I have noticed a big improvement in it over the
last few years from just wearing a shirt when I'm
outside rather than popping that shirt every chance I get.
And part of that is because I now have a
midlife body. I don't even want to take your most
fantastic about the half skinned solversion of yourself.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
So by not working out as much.
Speaker 4 (18:21):
My skin that's great. Dermatologists recommend not working out.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yes, you're lucky, though, I've got what my mom always
called the cheap irish skin. So my skin I'm noticing
the opposite. Like man, my nose is red all the time.
I'm trying not to ever get it sunburn. I wear
sunscreen every day, but the lifetime of sun damage is
already definitely catching up to me. And I wish I
(18:46):
had that Greek olive skin. It would goes so good
with my grape smoothie. Whatever, broccoli smoothie.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
I can't choose, don't that's not fair. Someone someone's like,
you want a grape SMOOTHI You're like, yeah, that sounds delicious.
What is in here? Broccoli? You didn't lead with that.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Yeah, it's like flapping may on a sandwich but not
putting it to the ingredients.
Speaker 4 (19:07):
Yeah, you don't do that. That's illegal.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Yeah, it's after you. You're getting less than a star
on Yelp for sure.
Speaker 5 (19:17):
Yeah, you try it.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
I don't think I will.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
I think my brain I hate it.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
I know the taste of broccoli. This is not like
I found a fruit from another country I've never tried before.
I'd be willing to try that. I know broccoli.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's like the chemical flavor, whatever flavor, the chemicals that
create that in broccoli.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
It's not doesn't no one, no one's selling that mar.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
It doesn't mix.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Mark great brocli and then mix somehow to make it
more pleasant. I like eating broccoli. I will as the
side of salmon. You other than broccoli smoothies, woul done.
That has become a positive habit.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
Yeah, that's that's solid. I think. Yeah again, sleep I've
added in like regular dermatology visits, like try to take
care better care of myself, my skin. I kind of
think I've recently added we'll to say recently, probably for
about maybe ten years now. Set aside. Either usually it's
(20:24):
a Sunday, could be a Saturday, or could be a
different day if I'm busy. I try to take at
least one day out of the week, and I like
put up the borders and I do no work. I'd
rather work harder on a day ahead of time to
give myself like an actual break, right like in Jewish
tradition it's a sabbath. Other people have it, you know,
like maybe like a you know, a book would tell
(20:45):
you you need a day off or whatever. And so
I try to take a full hard break. And that's
hard because we're freelance. Our schedules are weird. I always
have work to do. I realize that, like the work
that I have is like those dog bowls that just
keep feeding themselves, you know, like the dog eats the food,
it's always drop, there's always something. It's like an unlimited
pez dispenser. Yeah, and so I have to and I
(21:07):
love I love to get stuff done, like done is
my dopamine hit. Like when I can check that boom,
that videos edited, that email was sent, you know that
client phone call happened, Like that feels good and so
I like that, but I also know that I burn
myself out, and I've realized that by doing this, I'm
actually excited. Monday morning, I'm like chomping at the bit
(21:29):
to get this thing done. Like I was halfway done
editing on Saturday. It was late, I went to bed.
I just you know, Monday morning, I'm thinking, like how
can I do this? And that's been really helpful, just
almost like fasting. Some people include like you know, they'll
have like their what is it intermittent fasting basically the
same thing, but from work. And I've started adding in
(21:51):
screen time as well. So within that same day, nine
to four no screens. I'm not watching a movie, I'm
not surfing the internet. I'm doing you know whatever on
my phone. Basically it's a way and I find ultimately
I don't really miss that. I find myself reading more,
I find myself taking a nap, I find myself playing
(22:13):
with my kids, Like there's other things that I would
have normally done that that phone will come in and
kind of fill that void, and all three of us
really basically have to be with our phones throughout the
week in terms of responding to social or posting or
you know that kind of thing. So trying to create
that habit in my life has been really helpful just
for my own kind of balance, I guess. So that's
(22:34):
that's a habit that's pretty good. Recently, I've been I've
been trying to do Friday morning coffee dates with my wife,
like just go and get a coffee with her, life
with kids, and all of a sudden, you know, like
there's like I think there's two major times for divorce,
right basically right after you have kids and you look
(22:56):
around you're like, this is chaos. I can't do this.
And then after the kids leave, because then you're like,
who are you? I know, for the past eighteen years
we were like coheting, yeah, but roommates, and we were
like logistic supervisors, you take him here and shot hearing it,
And so I just don't want that to be the case.
I'm trying to find connect points. So that's a recent habit,
(23:16):
probably a couple months old.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
How's that going.
Speaker 4 (23:19):
It's cool because honestly, like when I before I got married,
I was like, man, I'm going to date my wife,
Like that was the idea. It was like, We're going
to do like a trip to Santrope and like hot
air balloons in South Africa. And now it's like, if
I can just get twenty minutes in a coffee with you,
like that really goes a long way in our relationship,
just to connect and not make it so business. Ye
(23:42):
A lot of times it's like, hey, did you get
the email about the school? Tyson? I know, I mean, William,
you can look forward to this, but Tyson, I know
you probably are the same way. My inbox gets flooded
with school email, heads up this thing and there's a
field trip and this is due, and so we just
become like this run the business of the family so
much it's like I got this permission slip sidne off.
(24:04):
But sometimes it's just just to go up. We walk
up the street. We live in this great place where
there's att coffee shop around the corner, and we just
go and get something and it's not like an hour.
It's not like we have to you know, but it's
just kind of a fun thing. Like every Friday morning,
I know, I'm doing that, and it's kind of annoying
at first because there were things I wanted to get
done on Friday morning. But now the more that I
do it, I find out, well, actually that thing can
(24:24):
get pushed a little bit later or whatever. So yeah,
those are some habits. And I'm not sure what's the number.
It's like, you have to do something, what like forty
times for it to become a habit?
Speaker 5 (24:35):
Or I had twenty one days.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
I heard seventeen.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
Long does it take to form a habit? It generally
takes more than two months or sixty six days for
a new behavior to become a habitwever.
Speaker 3 (24:53):
Prospect about it after less than a week.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
Because they're just flexing on social you know, that's not real. Yeah. Yeah, yeah,
it's my new thing, man, prospit Prospect's my thing.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Yeah, I've always done it.
Speaker 4 (25:07):
Yeah, it's just changed my life. You mean today today
it was your first thing. It's changed your life today, Okay,
all right, Brad.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
One thing that I'm trying to get more sensitive to
is like when I don't follow through on my habits,
noticing what happens downstream from that because I'm so adiat
and I just can move on from things really easily.
It's harder for me to like focus on anything literally
anything next. So like with you know, staying up late,
(25:41):
for one example, Like I knew that it wasn't great
for me, but I couldn't really always say why or
realized that I was thinking less really because of it.
So trying to identify the results of not falling through
something my.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Self awareness really with that, right, Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Yeah see, and with bad habits too, like stand up
drinking alcohol. You know, that sucks up my stomach now
that I'm getting older, like I can't really drink anymore
barely at all. But once again, that was something that
was messing up my stomach for a long time, but
I never really took the time to appreciate that how
(26:22):
much better it is to not have a sore stomach
and not be tired.
Speaker 5 (26:26):
And yeah, so that's a good point to constant, constant challenge.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
But yeah, well.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
And recognizing those things, like those things are going to
pop up in our lives at certain times, and it's
essential to figure out the root cause of whatever thing
that you want to change and then form it into
a habit. Because I love stand up. I used to
just stay up in the morning, sleep until eleven. Then
I had kids and real life and I couldn't do
(26:53):
that anymore. But I was still trying to stay up
till four. I had a buddy who was working full
time when we were doing that, and he was going
to bed at four and then getting up at six
to work landscaping, and I was like, I am a machine,
no insane like, and I was like, I could never
do that. I'm glad I don't have a job. I
can just sleep in while he's landscaping. You've been landscaping
(27:14):
for six hours and I'm just getting out of bed night.
Speaker 4 (27:16):
That's wild.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
So yeah, at some point you got to find your
break point, and maybe that's not it right. You got
to figure out sometimes a trial and error too, Like
you're like, Okay, I can stay up that late, but
then I think it's the why. Even getting back to
Josh's question, the first thing is to ask why, Like
do you want to be healthier because you feel like
it's going to make your life better, you want to
live longer, or is it like are you doing it
because you're trying to impress somebody? Are you doing it
(27:40):
because you feel like you should be doing it, but
you don't really care to be doing it, because I
think the why the motivate is going to be helpful too.
Speaker 5 (27:47):
Good point.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, it's super good point, especially with health things, especially
with health things that are more like down the road,
like am I going to live longer? Well, you don't know,
like it doesn't really factor in directly. So I think
that having a why that is like more immediate is
really helpful too.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Yeah, and seeing results. When you see results, that keeps
you motivated. So like as you know, getting stronger or
you're getting more defined or losing weight or whatever your
goal is there, then it really like becomes real. Then
that can take time, Like that's why you know, you
got to have some consistency with it before.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
But that's good.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Josh was saying that he did running for a while.
I'm a run running the best, and it's one of
those things where you can see the progress so easy.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
It's like so true.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
So it's a great way to start working out in
a lot of way, Like during different times in my life,
running was the one thing that I could come back to,
Like if I just run, then it kind of makes
the other stuff fall into place. So I think that
having something where you see those results right away and
that you know you like doing it's it's it's awesome.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
And I'll say, according to social media, running club, that's
the new bar, that's where you meet the hotties. Yeah. Yeah,
for William, that might be might be a good idea running.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
I will say there's a few better feelings physically than
hitting a second wind, Like you're like running.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Over that first couple of or whatever.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
You know, that hump, and then all of a sudden
you're just like hitting like a hotel. Yeah, you're just like, Wow,
I'm invincible.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
All the time.
Speaker 5 (29:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
And running too. When I used to be into running
in swimming, uh, but there was no greater feeling than
tasting blood in your lungs from boothing so hard and
pushing yourself. I don't know why you could taste like
it tastes like somebody punched you in the mouth a
little bit.
Speaker 4 (29:55):
You guys, I feel weird for not being weird today
because we've got broccoli smooth and we got bloody lungs
and everybody's celebrating their weirdness.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
That's the thing that's I don't know. You ask any
endurance athlete. Tasting blood in your mouth when you've pushed
yourself to your physical limit is a normal thing.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
M and it felt great.
Speaker 5 (30:18):
I guess I gotta run a lot harder than I've
been running.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
You do all you have to do, all you have
to do, William, Here's how you're going to do it
if you really want to feel that.
Speaker 4 (30:27):
I'm excited. Everyone take notes.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Here we go sign up for You can sign up
for a five k, you can sign up for a
half marathon, whatever you feel comfortable doing. But as you
get to the start line, the goal isn't to finish.
The goal is to win, even if you know you
can't win.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
Yeah, because you're yourself so hard.
Speaker 3 (30:42):
With the best people.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
For as long as you can chase those rabbits, you
will taste blood in your lungs. And when you are
done and you stop and you're throwing up, you'll be like,
I can't believe I pushed myself that hard. That was crazy,
And I have am so pumped and filled with adrenaline
right now that I am not going to be able
to come down for Like, I'm gonna stay up till
four in the morning. There's nothing I can do to not.
Speaker 4 (31:07):
I'm pretty sure part of that was from Brave Heart.
That speech that you just gave, that's the same. There's
nothing better than taste and blood in your lungs.
Speaker 5 (31:16):
Men.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
Hold hold, I did good.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
I did run one relay marathon last year with four
people and we did get first place. Come on, that
was like my only run because or no, only competition
because I'm never gonna win again, so I'm never gonna
do it.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
No, you never signed up. You needed a rabbit to
chase so that you really had to throttle. That's what
you needed.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Oh I did, That's what I'm saying though, first place,
but I ran my ass off.
Speaker 5 (31:43):
It was great, and chat blood could have ran harder.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
So, Josh, as you're preparing to go to the gym,
I think the lesson here is stay focused, find some accountability,
make sure you taste blood. Otherwise it was a wasted
gym session.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Find a group if you can.
Speaker 5 (32:03):
Yeah, group is.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
A good call. Yeah, have a why, have a why.
That's good, that's good and let us know. Yeah, let
us know how it goes. We'd love to bring your
quotes back on the air. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
And the accountability like that comes with having the group
and the network like having that, but if you can't
find there, if you have a friend or a couple
of friends that you can commit to doing this with
them a couple times a week, then there's accountability there. Yeah,
my dad when I was cycling, he used to make
me get up. I had to wake him up to
go ride every morning before school in high school because
(32:39):
I wanted to be a mountain bike racer. So he
was like, I'll ride with you every day, but you
have to wake me up. Five thirty would roll around.
I did not want to get up to mountain bike,
but I knew that my dad was waiting to be
woken up to ride mountain bikes before. So he created
an accountability for me, even when I was exhausted some
(33:00):
mornings and stuff where I was like, I gotta wake
my dad up because then like he's he's counting on
me to wake him up to go ride. So if
you can create a system like that with somebodies, that
works too great too. But if not sign up for
those classes, that is an immediate accountability and a group
right there.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
William final thoughts.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Same with running, like just me and my sister send
each other our runs. When did that run? Last year
me and the dude, so I was doing it with
send each other our runs. And it's not just accountability,
it's also like.
Speaker 5 (33:35):
Like showing off. You know, it's like a there's a
double edged.
Speaker 4 (33:39):
Sword to it because feel good look like show off.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
You have the accountability. So I think that anything anyway
that you can involve other people in your exercise is
going to benefit.
Speaker 4 (33:52):
Yeah. Love that and then all right, there you go, guys,
that is the midlife crisis. If you guys have any
habits that you love that you've incorporated into your life,
we'd love to hear about those. We're we're wide open
the ideas. Clearly. We got bloody lungs and broccoli smoothie,
so anything goes over on this side. Thanks so much
for listening. Oh yeah, William, go ahead.
Speaker 5 (34:12):
Oh it was good to say.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
If anybody needs any broccoli recipes for their smoothies, like,
please hit me up.
Speaker 5 (34:17):
Yeah, I like to follow hit me up. I've got
all of them.
Speaker 4 (34:20):
If anyone, if anyone wasn't sure that William was going
through a midlife crisis, I think we can all agree
it's happening. Yeah, yeah, Well thanks for watching the show, guys.
Thanks for listening to the show. We love you guys,
like we said before, like follow, subscribe, That helps us
get it out more, the more people. We're here to
build the community and to love on you guys. So
(34:41):
peace up and have a great rest of your day.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Can I just say that was a super fun episode,
and Josh, thank you for sending the question. Yes, other people,
we would love to answer your questions as well.
Speaker 5 (34:52):
That was That was awesome.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Yeah, and let us know if there's anybody else that's
putting broccoli in the smoothies or William is.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
The outliers, the outlier in the world. I'm saying that
right now in the world.
Speaker 3 (35:04):
Okay, see you next week.
Speaker 4 (35:06):
Bye, guys,
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