March 24, 2025 • 36 mins
The Midlife Crisisses are back! On today's episode, Tyson Apostol (@tysonapostol) Bradley Hasemayer (@bhaz) and William Drumm (@williamdrumm) discuss our deteriorating telestial vessels and coming to terms with permanent injuries.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisises. I'm Tyson, one of the hosts.
Thank you so much for liking, subscribing, commenting, sharing all
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife crisises. We want
to know what kind of stuff you are going through
so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this boat as well.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it. As you've aged, what are
things that your body just stops doing or like, what
things are you now knowing that you're going to live
with for the rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I feel like we're kind of like cars that could
either have the wipers, the headlights, or the radio, not
all three, you had to pick two.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
A lot of things that I thought I was going
to have forever, have went a way like been more
of the long term.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
I was a little worried, like am I going to
be the guy that like blows his acl hold on yeah,
getting double bounced on the tramplelink. Hey, everybody, welcome to
Midlife Crisis Is. I'm Bradley Hazimai are one of the hosts.
We're so glad you guys are here. Each week we're
putting out fresh content with a question that one of
us brings to the table dealing with our crisises. Make
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show that helps us and hopefully it helps you too,
because sometimes you'll forget and you're like, oh, there's a
new episode because loop it pops up on your notifications
and you're like, sweet, I've got a forty five minute
ride in the car. Let me go listen to this
podcast and enjoy learning that I'm not alone in my
crisises and our crisis is very and it's not just
about me and my crisises, which is why there's two
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other guys here, one of them of course being William
the Man Drum. He just went through a crisis yesterday,
which is why we had to push today's shoot. So
William take it away.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
What's up everybody, Yes, I went through a big crisis
yesterday and it got worse after I talked to you guys. Wow,
so yesterday, Well all right, So yesterday I was scrambling
to get ready for taking my daughter to school. We
jump in the truck to head over there. I got
a new truck a couple months ago, and I put
my dog in, run inside for a set, come back out,
(02:30):
and the entire backseat is just deep in dog vomit.
She puked so much in the back of my truck
it was unbelievable, more than I've ever seen, to the
point where like I opened the door and it just
leaked out and just like started pouring out of the
truck like insane amount. Oh anyway, Gosh, cleaned it up,
took her to work or took her to school. I
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missed our podcast because of it. Came back, came into office,
and came out again, and she puked all over the
living room, like three or four different giant spots on
the carpet. So I was like, all right, man, clean
this up. You know, I thought she just ate something bad.
Later that day, she drinks a bunch of water and
then just pukes water, like a huge amount of water everywhere.
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Oh my god, poor little baby. I took her to
the vet. Was at the vet until like eight pm
last night. Oh and she's fine. They like gave her
some subcutaneous liquid under her skin and some anti vomiting
stuff and she's okay. But man, it's crazy how things
(03:36):
like that can just throw your whole day into like
a total tail spin.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Being a dad running a business and also you know
the podcast, which is the secondary business of course, and
then and then the dog life just like throws the
whole thing. This is what we're dealing with at this
point in our lives, guys.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Any one thing. It's like, that's why building stuff like
that into your calendar however you can, because there's always
going to be something that comes up, whether it's like
through personal development, you're always doing good, you're on track,
and then something in your life happens. You get sick,
So then happens with your kids, they get sick, your
dog and then it's like WHOA. So I think building
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in that redundancy is so important and not easy to do,
but man, you really got to do it.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah, I I feel so bad for you, Like, did
you go and take your truck to get detailed to
on top of you cleaning it out? Or you feel
confident enough with your clean job?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Not yet? And the carpets are still not in great
shape either.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
You've got to go. That stuff just stays forever. You
gotta go get that done. After the podcast, that is
the first stop.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Might just again it's not like it's a living room rug,
not a carpet, so oh, it might be heading to
the dumpster. Will see?
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Man, that really sucks that like, and they know inclination
of what happened to Shiloh the dog?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Just you said rotisserie chicken?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, I gave her protistri chicken, which gave her diarrhea
in the past. Well I did it before. I don't know,
but she just loves it so much. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah,
I don't know. She doesn't really, She's not the type
of dog who gets into the trash or is like
food motivated.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
So did you tell the vet that you gave Shiloh
some rotisserie chicken?
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Yeah? And they said that might have been it.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Okay, they no idea what happened. I gave her rotisserie
chicken and they said that could have been it, But
no clue why this thing took place.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Are you going to try rotisserie chicken again?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Or now? I don't think I'll be trying that again.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Three strikes come on.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
My daughter love it. Me and my daughter love it,
and we want to share it with our whole family.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
But it's just not not for Shiloh, well not for Shiloh.
I love lentiles, my wife loves lent holes. We found
out that Marlow every time she has lent she pukes
in the night. She's allergic to lentils.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
So and it took about three strikes before we figured
it out. It was just like.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
I wrote, and heard of an allergy to lentils.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Google it. It's pretty common that protein strands or whatever
in lentils is can be an allergen for people. And
she would eat dinner, go to bed totally fine, fall
asleep totally fine, be totally okay, wake up crying that
her tummy hurts, and then puke everywhere and we were
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and then wake up in the morning totally fine, ready
to go to school. And so we have and it
happened like three or four nights in like a month,
and we were like, what is going on? I was like,
what have we been feeding her? Every night? There was
like lentils, So I googled it. We think that's it.
We told her. We broke the news to her and
she said, good, those tastes like dog food.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I was kind of thinking maybe she's putting it on.
You know what, dad, I'm actually allergic to and so
she's pumped.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
But she did not like throwing up, so uh yeah.
So we've been through that too. But the subject matter
today that I had not that. I want to talk
about scar tissue. Like as we get older, our bodies,
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these human celestial vessels start deteriorating, falling apart all of
that stuff. As you've aged, what are things that you
your body has like just stopped doing, or like what
things are you now knowing that you're going to live
with for the rest of your life. Like I have
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a broken toe has a gigantic hump on it, shoes
are hard to wear. That's just something that like is
going to be forever. I have to find shoes that
are a little bit given in that spot. There was
that from your biker days. No, I slicked at one
of my at my apartment complex pool and kicked the
wall as I went down in deer feet. Yeah, it
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was like a wet tile pool deck slipped and kicked
how long ago? Ten years ago?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Maybe longer fifteen years. Yeah, it's there forever shoes can
be uncomfortable. It's not like it's not super grotesque like
you guys wouldn't like the way I've talked about it now,
and the more I talk about it, you guys are
probably thinking my feet are so disgusting and they're not.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I mean, I was already kind of leaning that way.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
But I have a thigh and one of my thighs
goes is numb all the time. And I don't know
if it's from a serious bike accident I had or
severe sciatica that I had a handful of years ago.
And I'm like, as we age, like, we're not getting
that stuff back, yeah, and how do we deal with it?
Do we deal with it? Do we try to remedy it?
(09:02):
Like all of that stuff is like root canals. I
got root canals. Now I'm not getting new teeth back.
Like that's goodbye, sorry, bye tooth. I wish I would
have taken care of you better.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I did hear that they were doing tests on a
new drug that can regrow human teeth.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Where does it grow them though, because if it doesn't
grow in your mouth, I don't want that.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Okay, scar tissue, No, that's a molar tooth. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
So my thigh bugs me a little bit because I
can't I have like you can pinch it. It feels
like like knee skin or elbow skin, where you're like something,
something's there, but and uh, and it's just gonna get worse,
Like it's not get to like not that particularly, but
in general the full gamut. As we're marching towards death,
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everything is is going to get a worse and worse
and worse until that point.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
The march toward death. I think you've used that expression before,
and I think it's such a vivid I want Chad
gpt Ai William Well you get like and like, ask
Ai what it looks like for three dudes to march
toward death. I just see what that's gonna be. That's hilarious.
I feel like we're kind of like cars in that
I had a crappy car in La. It was just
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like two thousand Ford Focus, the second gear would grind
because the syncro was out, the electrics were off. You
could either have the wipers, the headlights, or the radio,
not all three. You had to pick two. And so
if it was like raining in La at night, it
was silent in my car, but during the day it
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was Okay, it hit a bump and all of a sudden,
the electrics are just out in the back in and
at some point I was just like, I'm not gonna
fix it, you know, like you just say, oh, I'm
just gonna live with it's gonna grind every time I
go in second. Maybe I'll go from first to third
and just skip the second because it becomes expensive, it
becomes annoying. So I hear you on that. You got
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to find like where's that line of well, I still
have forty five, hopefully fifty five years left of my life,
but and so I don't want to just like kind
of like suffer through it. But at the same time, like,
what's what's worth the.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Next fifty five years? Let's just suffer through it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Yeah, we're marching toward death. Yeah, correct, Yeah, So I
hear you on that. I don't know I think I
think there's it's got to be kind of a personal
thing because I think, Okay, so if I were you, right,
let's say, William, I want to hear your response of
this too. If you were Tyson, what would you do
now with what like with if you had a butt,
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like if you had the like the thing over your toe,
would you get surgery? If you had you know, the
leg thing, would you go to a specialist or you know,
it would just be it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Well I was Tyson, I would definitely get sick custom
shoes with either toe cut out or like a nice
bubble on there, you know, something real.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
A lot of sh a lot of shoes work fine.
If there's no give in that particular spot, then they
don't work. But as long as it's like even if
it's leather and it will like kind of form a
little bit, it's fine. It's when it's like hard plastic
shoe or something that.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Does it does either of those things in or.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
From doing anything?
Speaker 3 (12:28):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
No.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
So not that to me is like maybe a good
a good winnowing fork.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
The worst thing for my toe was when I hired
a private Brazilian Jiu jitsu intrastructure and when you drag
your feet across the mat, on the tops of your
feet across the mat all the time, and that was
really annoyed because that was the spot that would drag.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Do you does it bother you every day? My toe
or both of them?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
No, neither one of them bothers me every day. I
don't even know that I noticed the toe break every day,
but I do notice the thigh every day. Like I'm
sitting here right now pinching my thigh, like still numb,
then numb for I don't know a few years at least.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
What about now? What about now?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (13:14):
What about now?
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It feels weird? Maybe oh my god, maybe it's not
quite as numb. It's still numb, but maybe it's is
it No, No, I think no, that's in my head. Yeah,
and that's like so yeah, I And it's with everything.
Like I sprained my ankle like six months ago, four
months ago. Yeah we still right, Yeah, still painful inside
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a little bit. And I'm like that's maybe just a
discomfort I'm gonna have to live with maybe forever. Maybe
Like yeah, and my dad he's like got a shoulder
thing that he's just like I was like, Dad, maybe
you should go get that checked out. He's like, eh,
I talked to a guy, uh and he said, if
it's if I can still just live with it, then
just do that.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Yeah. I think the I think the problem becomes surgery.
As we get older. The recovery time of that is
just so much longer. You hear about like a twenty
year old NFL player and it's like, you know, their
arm was ripped off in a tragic tractor accident, and
then like three weeks later they're playing again with a
new arm. Yes, you know. It's like I can like
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stub my toe and it's like three weeks later, I'm like,
maybe I should go to urgent care now because there's
still blood under the nail.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, I need a boot.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I need to wear one of those boots exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I do think that's some of that stuff you might think.
I mean, not you particularly for these injuries, but a
lot of things that I thought I was going to
have forever have went away, like in more of the
long term, Like I used to have super bad carpal
tunnel in my wrist from working a lot, and I
thought it would just be there forever. My ankles to
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same thing from running. I just like I love running,
and at one point I thought, oh, I'm just gonna
have pain in my ankle forever from running, but then
they went away. And sometimes diet, exercise, some of those
kind of things can make a big difference in like
chronic injuries. And and then also just time, like I mean,
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the toad has been a long time, but.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Maybe is not going to weigh. I think that I
think the bone calcified and you have to hump, so
I could get shaved down. But then that's I heard
that's super painful.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
Oh it sounds.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
There's also just like praying for medical advances, and because
I heard that they've got this new technology for starts
to just.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
Six no no, no, no, William is a is a
plant from the healthcare industry, and instead of praying for
it to be better, pray for doctors to be able
to build the insurance.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
They've got some sort of a new thing they're doing
for scar tissue that like uses ultra sonic raise or
you know, something to jellify it and make it go away.
So some of that stuff I think that already has
got better and probably will get really a lot better.
Once the AI medical technology comes into effect.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Starts figuring it out for us, connecting all the dots
on the entire Internet to come up with solutions.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I just want us to get to the point of
like what like what Tony Stark had where he could
just like like Spider Man had a huge cut on
him and he was just like sprayed him with some
kind of foam and it was like he or yeah,
or like in Wakanda was Stellar when he.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Goes and lays in that thing and it just like
does a full body health scan. What was that Interstellar?
Was that inner sty full body health scan and fixing
and it just like thirty seconds is like it'll pinpoint
every single thing you have wrong and to fix it.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Or like in the Alien movie where they have that
and then it does the surgery automatically to like yeah,
alien out of her.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Yeah yeah, yeah. We need more of that.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
We need more of that the alien the alienfied.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah yeah, get I don't care about going to Mars.
Build us a little health pod that we can all
have at home for just a quarter million dollars a
pod and just get rejuvenated at each and every day.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
I like that personally, I think. I think what sucks
getting older is we've talked a little bit about this
is the the how long it takes to heal stuff,
and that does prevent me from interacting in ways that
I probably Like I went to my son had a
birthday last week. We went to a trampoline park. I
really debated going out there and bouncing on those trampolines.
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Did I was like, oh, I went there. I did.
I went out and did it, but I was a
little worried, like, am I going to be the guy
that like blows his acl getting double bounced on the trampoline? Yes,
and my son's And it's like I hate that. That's
part of the conversation in my head. That's the reality
of it. So it's not like it's my fault. I'm
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in fine shape, but it just like sucks that that's
something you have to consider or like, why is my
back sore three days after Oh? Because I just like
compressed it weirdly over on a dreamfoline. Yeah, the most
mundane of toys. Uh, you know, it was just like
this is ridiculous. So I don't know, that's that's just
one of those that, like I know everybody deals with
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to some degree.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Well what, yeah, what injuries do you guys live with
currently that you have just like succumbed to, like dealing
with forever? Do either of you have those?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
See that's what I mean. A lot of this stuff
I thought i'd have forever.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
I it's gone.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Like my shoulders were both super screwed up from the.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Time of forced and everything's better.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Remember when you said you were blessed to lose the
home or something like that, like one of the greatest
things happened to me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, but seriously, like I I used to have heartburn
every single day. I thought I was gonna have heartburn forever. Yeah,
that went away. Like I used to have one shoulder,
used to have instability, and I got surgery on that
a while ago and that went away. Yeah. So most
of my chronic injuries that I thought I would have
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forever haven't been forever.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
So if you're out there with chronic injury, maybe it'll
get better.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Maybe it's not chronic. And when those did get better
on your process, were you praying for medical advancements or
were you praying for that you would be.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Healed, praying that it would just go away? Okay, because
so much of that stuff, I know, there's no you know,
the opposite of what I was saying. But like when
my ankles were messed up, I went to the doctor
a bunch, and eventually there's like, it's probably gonna hurt
for a while, might hurt forever.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah, you know, well, and that's how my back. When
I hurt my back, I had extreme psiatic I was
going to a physical therapist and he was like, this
is something you're gonna have to deal with forever. Now
you're forty, you can deal with it forever, but how
you manage it is going to be what dictates your
quality of life. My back hasn't hurt for like four
and a half years, dude. It was just like six
(20:10):
months of extreme pain with statica shooting all the way
down into my toes pretty much, which is apparently a
very bad sign. And then I don't do He's like,
you're gonna have to do your back exercises every day
to even function. I haven't done a back exercise since
it started feeling better.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
And so this is something I was talking to some
of my other friends also going through midlife crisises the
other day about yes, I do have friends outside the circle,
but not many, and I know, sorry, but it was
this idea of like mind body connection, right, and how
like a lot of time stress in your life. A
lot of times, like unconscious things going on in your
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life can affect your body in a physical way. Just
like when I was an acting class, you would use
imaginary circumstances and your body would start reacting. You'd get angry,
you would cry, you would but nothing changed. You think
in a movie, on the other side of that scene
is sixty people, somebody's on their phone, somebody's like filming,
and yet someone looks like they're going through an emotional breakdown,
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you know, And it's like, no, it's because your brain
is telling your body how to respond. And so we
were talking about back pain, lower back pain specifically, I
have it on and off, upper shoulder pain, and then
another guy has like some some chest Evidently it's not
a heart attack kind of thing, think, but a lot
of times the doctors will be like, well, I mean,
we could fuse your discs, but then it's like fifty
(21:33):
to fifty if it gets better, And you're like, what
do you What is your job doctor? Because like it
seems like they're not that. Yeah, yeah, exactly, You're not.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
From its permanent. You will not have the flexibility you
had before. And it may not take. Yeah, I mean
you will take, but the pain going away may not.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Yeah. And so I think so so often we want
to heal it so quickly that we just rely on
doctors for those things. And doctors are great. I was
pre med for two years till I failed organic chemistry,
and uh, I think that's very a very important thing.
But I think a lot of times we don't take
into consideration those other variables in our life that are
doing that are contributing to that. I mean, if you
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get in a car wreck, that's different. But if it's
just like man, I just waking up sore, like my
back just like seized up or tightened up or whatever,
I think there's there's validity. I was reading a book
about it called Healing Back Pain by this guy named
John Sarno. Healed a bunch of people through basically have
you heard of this? Tyson? You're shaking your head like
you have.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
We had this conversation, well that's why I recommended the
book to you, and you were like, I have that book,
and we were like who said it first.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Yeah, definitely me.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Someone recommended it to me when my was when my
back was hurting. I bought it. I never read it.
My back pain went away. So just owning it to.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Even the press, I love it, even the presence of it.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
But he said it had changed his life. He's like,
it's all mental. Back pain is more mental and controlling
your stress and stuff than it is about. Yeah, the
actual pain and my back. I know that if I
am stressed about something for multiple days, it does rear
itself physically. So that's why I'm trying to be more
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of a d Gaff kind of guy.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
Don't give a fuck. I have to get myself back
into that place because think about like children. Children don't
experience that. My kids aren't like, oh my back is
houts are so white, I'm so tense fresh.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, they're so light and fresh and rubbery.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
The little streak chickens, that's true. You see a baby
fall down, it's like nothing to them. They're like boying,
like pop back up.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
A full scorpion. Like can you imagine if I felt
like a full scorpion, I'd just be all the way
broken in half.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
It would be like actually dropping glass on the floor.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Yeah, I'd be like, I don't know what you're supposed
to do. If you're supposed to just put me out
of my misery now.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Or hey, Rachel, did Tyson sign any papers about this?
Do we know kind of what to do next? Oh?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
And then you see a little kid scorpion and they
just like roll over, flop up, and start running again,
and you're like, hell.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
I'm amazing.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
So that's my takeaway is a reminder that I think
that's what happens in our midlife. We're taking on so
many things. It's our own stuff, there's other responsibilities, there's questions,
and that can all pile up and get stuck in
your head, stuck in your body. So I think there
is something to say about that. But I like what
you were saying earlier in terms of like, if it
doesn't really impact your day to day it just is
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what it is, then I think it's hard to make
a case for like, let me take two months off
of work so I can fix this thing that's not
really that broken.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
Yeah, I mean some of it is. Is it going
to get worse? And if it is, then it's worth
addressing before it gets worse. But if it's something that's
just stagnant now, yeah, I don't know. My wife keeps
being like, you should go really figure out why your
thigh has been numb for years and years, And I
was like, but they're just going to go and poke
it and then be like, huh it is numb. It
(25:08):
could be from things that you said, and I'll be like, yeah,
I think you're we're on the same page.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Or they're like you, have you ever ridden a bike?
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah? Have you ever slammed? Have you ever
gotten in a bike accident? Slammed your thigh into the
bumper of a parked car while you were traveling fifty
miles an hour?
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Damn? Is that what happened?
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah? Oh pile up in uh yeah in Europe.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
I think your nerves were just like we're out of here.
They just left. That's why.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah, it was definitely bruised all the way down to
the very deep tissue. So that's what I think. That
was my initial thought because that like even when it
was numb, and that was triggering memories of that. But
it could have also been sciatica was in that same
leg all the way down, so could have done some
nerve damn there. But yeah, it doesn't bother me, but
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I just know that more stuff is to come. Like
how long until my other thighs numb constantly?
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (26:09):
How long until my knee just aches? How long until?
And am I doing anything not to make it better
but to have the time that I have now with
my remaining nine good toes? Like? Am I celebrating my
nine good toes?
Speaker 3 (26:24):
That's one?
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Am I celebrating the one good thigh? That's what I
That's that's what I want to talk about, Like how
are we addressing these issues in our Yeah, like I
I'm not. I don't ever feel my other thigh and
be like, thank goodness, I can feel me pinching my
thigh on this side. But should I?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
That's or are you going to end up like your
dad where it's like I just have this thing and
it just sucks, and that is what it is.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah, I can't usually lift my shoulder very high and
it sucks. But I've gone so long with it now
that the doctor is saying, because you get it to
a certain age in life where the doctor say, do
as much as you want with it, as much as
you can enjoy it. And then once it's gone. We'll
address it. We're not doing surgery now. But if you
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would have had it, you know, fixed up, twenty years ago,
they would have done the surgery and you'd have a
perfect shoulder maybe. So yeah, I think that's the line is, like.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
William, have you ever had an injury that's prevented you
from like scuba ing and working and stuff like that
or not? Really?
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Yeah, I mean my shoulders used to be so screwed up.
I've popped my shoulders out doing every sort of activity
from like I used to work in a laboratory. One
time my shoulder popped out while I was carrying a
Petri dish full of cells, full of cancer cells, and
I threw it all over the laboratory, like I've had that. Yeah,
(27:51):
that's how the New the World started.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
That's what happened. I thought it was in China.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
That's so you were just holding like a tray.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Like walking across like a story, holding basically like a
Petrie dish. A Petrie dish, well, it's not really it's
a ninety six well plated so it's like that's what
they do nowadays, like ninety six different Petrie dishes or
three hundred and eighty four different petri dishes in a
little experimental tray and I was carrying it and it
was full of some cancer cells that we recently grew
(28:24):
in the lab, and my shoulder popped out and I
just boo, just literally just threw it all over the
entire laboratory. But it happened doing everything like waving, I
would pop it out, like eating, I would pop it out.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Was it getting worse and worse?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, it was getting worse. I got surgery on that one,
But yeah, I was getting worse and worse.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Did your other one was having the issue too? You said,
your shoulders?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yeah, so the other one. I was riding my bike
between is the summer between high school and college, and
I used to be a bus boy and we worked
the night before, stayed up late, made some money, went home,
and then Sunday morning we're riding to work again. And
I'm riding to work on my bicycle again, and my
friend the other bus boys walking on the sidewalk, and
(29:07):
I like ride past them all fast, and I'm like,
how's the walk, sucker, like trying to be cool, and
then I go in front of him and pull up
my bike like off the curb and my bike tire
just falls out of my frame and I just come
down on the fork of the bike like that, boom
into the concrete, ripped a huge hole in my ear,
(29:27):
ripped like a bunch of road rash, and got a
fourth degree separation on my shoulder. And then I walked
into the bar where I was working and my shirt
was ripped. I was completely bloody. Actually I think I
lost my shirt there. I took it off after it happened,
and I was just covered in blood. And I just
went and I sat at the bar and I was
just like, ugh, I get a coffee or something. And
(29:49):
they're like, uh, do you need an ambulance?
Speaker 3 (29:51):
I'm like, can we call you that?
Speaker 1 (29:53):
No? Do I you didn't have a helmet on.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
I had a helmet on, Okay, all the kids listening
he was wearing a helmet.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Good.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Yeah, And then that was messed up For years and
years and years, chronic pain would prevent me from doing
stuff my other shoulder that you're talking about scuba diving,
Like I've popped it out where I was putting on
my wet suit, so like a tight wet suit and
then it lops out and then I'm just like completely
like locked in place inside of the wetsuit that popped out.
(30:23):
I've got a lot of stories about this. One time
I was tubing down the Boulder Creek here in Colorado
and I fell out of my raft and started to
swim to the side and I grabbed a branch and
my shoulder popped out. So I was just hanging from
this branch and like shrank current with my one shoulder
popped out and my other one there. I'm like, oh
my god, what do I even do? Like, am I
(30:44):
going to drown.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
Because you can't swim frozen?
Speaker 2 (30:48):
Yeah. Luckily it slid right back into place, and.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
It just for a long time. And after it pops
in and out, it pops in and out more often.
Right like the that's the thing stretched fixed, that's nuts.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
And the surgery. I'll still so thankful I got it.
But it's crazy because after the surgery they give you
a video of the surgery from like inside, and like
it's all torn ligaments. So they go in and they
you know, shave them off, just tighten them or whatever
they got to do. But the video just looks like
a bunch of pieces of string cheese and like a
current and they're like because they're all so afrayed and
(31:24):
ripped up, all the ligaments were them dang Yeah. And
then the other one. I was just positive that would
hurt me forever. And you know, sometimes if I work
out a ton, it'll get like a little sore, like
it's not as strong as the other one. Yeah, But
all the stuff that I thought I would have forever
so far has went away. So I think that takeaway
(31:45):
from this stuff is a the less you focus on it,
the less it will hurt, basically, and be just don't
assume it's gonna hurt always, because that just makes you
focus on it more. And who knows, maybe it'll get better.
Maybe they'll develop a personal pod that you can jump
into and fix up your whole body soon.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
Yeah, let's pray.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Let's pray for so pray for that.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
For medicine and also the lifestyle stuff. I thought I
would have heartburn forever. I used to have such bad heartburn.
I was taking like the Prilo stack every day, double
doses of it all the time. And really it was
just because I was a little bit overweight and ate
like shit and drank too much. And after the divorce,
(32:27):
and starting to get healthier and lost some weight and
the heartburn just kind of like went away at the
same time as all the other stuff.
Speaker 3 (32:35):
Wow, So you've lived quite a life, William for naughty
last year.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Yeah, in the last year or two.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Forty years in the last year now for sure.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Yeah. My takeaway is, yeah, I mean I think just
like enjoying the time and also adjusting to what you're
capabilities are, like, still go jump on the trampoline, but
maybe don't try the double front flip.
Speaker 3 (33:05):
And that's right, And I didn't. Yeah, I thought, okay,
I'm going to just pull it back a little.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah. My kids are like, can you do a flip
on a trampoline? I was like, I could. Let it
be known I could. I would probably over rotate and
slam my head on the mat and then we're done.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
Yeah. Yeah, so sorry.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
So I was like, that's good, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
My takeaway is something you mentioned Tyson was just basically
like being smart about thinking forward, thinking ahead, you know,
like building muscle gets harder as you get older, so
you know try to you know, front load that osteoporosis,
those types of things like be smart about what you're
doing maybe some more functional movements and workouts and things
as you see, like getting older and trying to you know,
(33:50):
basically put savings in the bank for later. I like that.
It's good.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Did I say that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (33:56):
You were talking about like what if? What if your
dad had fixed it?
Speaker 1 (33:58):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Yeah, you know, thinking down what can you be doing
now to basically circumvent or make that easier because it's
an inevitability, So you know, how can we plan now?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
I am a firmer, so much more important.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Now.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
That's a great protein. I gotta really I really should
get higher on my yoga situation.
Speaker 1 (34:16):
But I also think if you need surgery and they
tell you you need surgery, they said, oh you can
live with it is going to be painful, don't do that.
Get the surgery.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
If they're like that, that shoulder is going to require
surgery at some point, may as well get it while
the younger you are.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Yeah, yeah, you'll be quicker to heal.
Speaker 1 (34:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah it's a good point.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Yes, So, uh, yeah, that was fun. I'm glad. I mean,
I don't I know a lot about William. I don't
know that Bradley is injured at all, and he has
you have no things that you're like, I'm taking this
with me to the grave, this hump on my toe,
this thigh without feeling, this stretched out shoulder that got
the fixed. You have anything like that yet?
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Not yet. I've had some injuries, but they were, you know,
stitches as a kid busted. Oh here's the thing. I
was skiing when I was probably I must have been
like nineteen or twenty, fell down, probably popped my shoulder
out of place, but I didn't like it. Maybe bounced
(35:17):
back in that was fine. It was just sore for
like a month. I would be in hospital one hundred
percent if that same fall happened now, even though I'm
physically stronger than I was then, just the rebound of that.
So I thought that was like, I guess, I'm like,
my shoulder could be hurting for a long time. But
I'm also and I think we're all at this age
(35:38):
we're like I'll just wake up randomly and be like,
why is my next sore? Like my back's a little or.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
My oh why because we're like over forty years.
Speaker 3 (35:47):
Old, exactly what I mean?
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Yeah, Marching toward Death.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Marching towards Death. That's the new name for our podcast.
Welcome Crisis March.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
Like seventy five days until I turned forty.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Oh my gosh, are we going to do it?
Speaker 3 (36:01):
We're going to have a new ethnic podcast, epic podcast
day birthday.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Thanks everyone for listening. This is midlife Crisis is Bradley
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And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife crisises. We want
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so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this boat as well.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it. As you've aged, what are
things that your body just stops doing or like, what
things are you now knowing that you're going to live
with for the rest of your life.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I feel like we're kind of like cars that could
either have the wipers, the headlights, or the radio, not
all three, you had to pick two.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
A lot of things that I thought I was going
to have forever, have went a way like been more
of the long term.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
I was a little worried, like am I going to
be the guy that like blows his acl hold on yeah,
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and you're like, sweet, I've got a forty five minute
ride in the car. Let me go listen to this
podcast and enjoy learning that I'm not alone in my
crisises and our crisis is very and it's not just
about me and my crisises, which is why there's two
(01:54):
other guys here, one of them of course being William
the Man Drum. He just went through a crisis yesterday,
which is why we had to push today's shoot. So
William take it away.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
What's up everybody, Yes, I went through a big crisis
yesterday and it got worse after I talked to you guys. Wow,
so yesterday, Well all right, So yesterday I was scrambling
to get ready for taking my daughter to school. We
jump in the truck to head over there. I got
a new truck a couple months ago, and I put
my dog in, run inside for a set, come back out,
(02:30):
and the entire backseat is just deep in dog vomit.
She puked so much in the back of my truck
it was unbelievable, more than I've ever seen, to the
point where like I opened the door and it just
leaked out and just like started pouring out of the
truck like insane amount. Oh anyway, Gosh, cleaned it up,
took her to work or took her to school. I
(02:52):
missed our podcast because of it. Came back, came into office,
and came out again, and she puked all over the
living room, like three or four different giant spots on
the carpet. So I was like, all right, man, clean
this up. You know, I thought she just ate something bad.
Later that day, she drinks a bunch of water and
then just pukes water, like a huge amount of water everywhere.
(03:16):
Oh my god, poor little baby. I took her to
the vet. Was at the vet until like eight pm
last night. Oh and she's fine. They like gave her
some subcutaneous liquid under her skin and some anti vomiting
stuff and she's okay. But man, it's crazy how things
(03:36):
like that can just throw your whole day into like
a total tail spin.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Being a dad running a business and also you know
the podcast, which is the secondary business of course, and
then and then the dog life just like throws the
whole thing. This is what we're dealing with at this
point in our lives, guys.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Any one thing. It's like, that's why building stuff like
that into your calendar however you can, because there's always
going to be something that comes up, whether it's like
through personal development, you're always doing good, you're on track,
and then something in your life happens. You get sick,
So then happens with your kids, they get sick, your
dog and then it's like WHOA. So I think building
(04:14):
in that redundancy is so important and not easy to do,
but man, you really got to do it.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Yeah, I I feel so bad for you, Like, did
you go and take your truck to get detailed to
on top of you cleaning it out? Or you feel
confident enough with your clean job?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Not yet? And the carpets are still not in great
shape either.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
You've got to go. That stuff just stays forever. You
gotta go get that done. After the podcast, that is
the first stop.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Might just again it's not like it's a living room rug,
not a carpet, so oh, it might be heading to
the dumpster. Will see?
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Man, that really sucks that like, and they know inclination
of what happened to Shiloh the dog?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Just you said rotisserie chicken?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, I gave her protistri chicken, which gave her diarrhea
in the past. Well I did it before. I don't know,
but she just loves it so much. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah,
I don't know. She doesn't really, She's not the type
of dog who gets into the trash or is like
food motivated.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
So did you tell the vet that you gave Shiloh
some rotisserie chicken?
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Yeah? And they said that might have been it.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Okay, they no idea what happened. I gave her rotisserie
chicken and they said that could have been it, But
no clue why this thing took place.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
Are you going to try rotisserie chicken again?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Or now? I don't think I'll be trying that again.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Three strikes come on.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
My daughter love it. Me and my daughter love it,
and we want to share it with our whole family.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
But it's just not not for Shiloh, well not for Shiloh.
I love lentiles, my wife loves lent holes. We found
out that Marlow every time she has lent she pukes
in the night. She's allergic to lentils.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
So and it took about three strikes before we figured
it out. It was just like.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
I wrote, and heard of an allergy to lentils.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Google it. It's pretty common that protein strands or whatever
in lentils is can be an allergen for people. And
she would eat dinner, go to bed totally fine, fall
asleep totally fine, be totally okay, wake up crying that
her tummy hurts, and then puke everywhere and we were
(06:38):
and then wake up in the morning totally fine, ready
to go to school. And so we have and it
happened like three or four nights in like a month,
and we were like, what is going on? I was like,
what have we been feeding her? Every night? There was
like lentils, So I googled it. We think that's it.
We told her. We broke the news to her and
she said, good, those tastes like dog food.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
I was kind of thinking maybe she's putting it on.
You know what, dad, I'm actually allergic to and so
she's pumped.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
But she did not like throwing up, so uh yeah.
So we've been through that too. But the subject matter
today that I had not that. I want to talk
about scar tissue. Like as we get older, our bodies,
(07:28):
these human celestial vessels start deteriorating, falling apart all of
that stuff. As you've aged, what are things that you
your body has like just stopped doing, or like what
things are you now knowing that you're going to live
with for the rest of your life. Like I have
(07:50):
a broken toe has a gigantic hump on it, shoes
are hard to wear. That's just something that like is
going to be forever. I have to find shoes that
are a little bit given in that spot. There was
that from your biker days. No, I slicked at one
of my at my apartment complex pool and kicked the
wall as I went down in deer feet. Yeah, it
(08:13):
was like a wet tile pool deck slipped and kicked
how long ago? Ten years ago?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Maybe longer fifteen years. Yeah, it's there forever shoes can
be uncomfortable. It's not like it's not super grotesque like
you guys wouldn't like the way I've talked about it now,
and the more I talk about it, you guys are
probably thinking my feet are so disgusting and they're not.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I mean, I was already kind of leaning that way.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
But I have a thigh and one of my thighs
goes is numb all the time. And I don't know
if it's from a serious bike accident I had or
severe sciatica that I had a handful of years ago.
And I'm like, as we age, like, we're not getting
that stuff back, yeah, and how do we deal with it?
Do we deal with it? Do we try to remedy it?
(09:02):
Like all of that stuff is like root canals. I
got root canals. Now I'm not getting new teeth back.
Like that's goodbye, sorry, bye tooth. I wish I would
have taken care of you better.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I did hear that they were doing tests on a
new drug that can regrow human teeth.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Where does it grow them though, because if it doesn't
grow in your mouth, I don't want that.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Okay, scar tissue, No, that's a molar tooth. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
So my thigh bugs me a little bit because I
can't I have like you can pinch it. It feels
like like knee skin or elbow skin, where you're like something,
something's there, but and uh, and it's just gonna get worse,
Like it's not get to like not that particularly, but
in general the full gamut. As we're marching towards death,
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everything is is going to get a worse and worse
and worse until that point.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
The march toward death. I think you've used that expression before,
and I think it's such a vivid I want Chad
gpt Ai William Well you get like and like, ask
Ai what it looks like for three dudes to march
toward death. I just see what that's gonna be. That's hilarious.
I feel like we're kind of like cars in that
I had a crappy car in La. It was just
(10:24):
like two thousand Ford Focus, the second gear would grind
because the syncro was out, the electrics were off. You
could either have the wipers, the headlights, or the radio,
not all three. You had to pick two. And so
if it was like raining in La at night, it
was silent in my car, but during the day it
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was Okay, it hit a bump and all of a sudden,
the electrics are just out in the back in and
at some point I was just like, I'm not gonna
fix it, you know, like you just say, oh, I'm
just gonna live with it's gonna grind every time I
go in second. Maybe I'll go from first to third
and just skip the second because it becomes expensive, it
becomes annoying. So I hear you on that. You got
(11:07):
to find like where's that line of well, I still
have forty five, hopefully fifty five years left of my life,
but and so I don't want to just like kind
of like suffer through it. But at the same time, like,
what's what's worth the.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Next fifty five years? Let's just suffer through it.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
Yeah, we're marching toward death. Yeah, correct, Yeah, So I
hear you on that. I don't know I think I
think there's it's got to be kind of a personal
thing because I think, Okay, so if I were you, right,
let's say, William, I want to hear your response of
this too. If you were Tyson, what would you do
now with what like with if you had a butt,
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like if you had the like the thing over your toe,
would you get surgery? If you had you know, the
leg thing, would you go to a specialist or you know,
it would just be it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Well I was Tyson, I would definitely get sick custom
shoes with either toe cut out or like a nice
bubble on there, you know, something real.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
A lot of sh a lot of shoes work fine.
If there's no give in that particular spot, then they
don't work. But as long as it's like even if
it's leather and it will like kind of form a
little bit, it's fine. It's when it's like hard plastic
shoe or something that.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
Does it does either of those things in or.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
From doing anything?
Speaker 3 (12:28):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
No.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
So not that to me is like maybe a good
a good winnowing fork.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
The worst thing for my toe was when I hired
a private Brazilian Jiu jitsu intrastructure and when you drag
your feet across the mat, on the tops of your
feet across the mat all the time, and that was
really annoyed because that was the spot that would drag.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Do you does it bother you every day? My toe
or both of them?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
No, neither one of them bothers me every day. I
don't even know that I noticed the toe break every day,
but I do notice the thigh every day. Like I'm
sitting here right now pinching my thigh, like still numb,
then numb for I don't know a few years at least.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
What about now? What about now?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (13:14):
What about now?
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It feels weird? Maybe oh my god, maybe it's not
quite as numb. It's still numb, but maybe it's is
it No, No, I think no, that's in my head. Yeah,
and that's like so yeah, I And it's with everything.
Like I sprained my ankle like six months ago, four
months ago. Yeah we still right, Yeah, still painful inside
(13:37):
a little bit. And I'm like that's maybe just a
discomfort I'm gonna have to live with maybe forever. Maybe
Like yeah, and my dad he's like got a shoulder
thing that he's just like I was like, Dad, maybe
you should go get that checked out. He's like, eh,
I talked to a guy, uh and he said, if
it's if I can still just live with it, then
just do that.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
Yeah. I think the I think the problem becomes surgery.
As we get older. The recovery time of that is
just so much longer. You hear about like a twenty
year old NFL player and it's like, you know, their
arm was ripped off in a tragic tractor accident, and
then like three weeks later they're playing again with a
new arm. Yes, you know. It's like I can like
(14:20):
stub my toe and it's like three weeks later, I'm like,
maybe I should go to urgent care now because there's
still blood under the nail.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, I need a boot.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I need to wear one of those boots exactly.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
I do think that's some of that stuff you might think.
I mean, not you particularly for these injuries, but a
lot of things that I thought I was going to
have forever have went away, like in more of the
long term, Like I used to have super bad carpal
tunnel in my wrist from working a lot, and I
thought it would just be there forever. My ankles to
(14:51):
same thing from running. I just like I love running,
and at one point I thought, oh, I'm just gonna
have pain in my ankle forever from running, but then
they went away. And sometimes diet, exercise, some of those
kind of things can make a big difference in like
chronic injuries. And and then also just time, like I mean,
(15:13):
the toad has been a long time, but.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Maybe is not going to weigh. I think that I
think the bone calcified and you have to hump, so
I could get shaved down. But then that's I heard
that's super painful.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
Oh it sounds.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
There's also just like praying for medical advances, and because
I heard that they've got this new technology for starts
to just.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
Six no no, no, no, William is a is a
plant from the healthcare industry, and instead of praying for
it to be better, pray for doctors to be able
to build the insurance.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
They've got some sort of a new thing they're doing
for scar tissue that like uses ultra sonic raise or
you know, something to jellify it and make it go away.
So some of that stuff I think that already has
got better and probably will get really a lot better.
Once the AI medical technology comes into effect.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Starts figuring it out for us, connecting all the dots
on the entire Internet to come up with solutions.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
I just want us to get to the point of
like what like what Tony Stark had where he could
just like like Spider Man had a huge cut on
him and he was just like sprayed him with some
kind of foam and it was like he or yeah,
or like in Wakanda was Stellar when he.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Goes and lays in that thing and it just like
does a full body health scan. What was that Interstellar?
Was that inner sty full body health scan and fixing
and it just like thirty seconds is like it'll pinpoint
every single thing you have wrong and to fix it.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Or like in the Alien movie where they have that
and then it does the surgery automatically to like yeah,
alien out of her.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Yeah yeah, yeah. We need more of that.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
We need more of that the alien the alienfied.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah yeah, get I don't care about going to Mars.
Build us a little health pod that we can all
have at home for just a quarter million dollars a
pod and just get rejuvenated at each and every day.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
I like that personally, I think. I think what sucks
getting older is we've talked a little bit about this
is the the how long it takes to heal stuff,
and that does prevent me from interacting in ways that
I probably Like I went to my son had a
birthday last week. We went to a trampoline park. I
really debated going out there and bouncing on those trampolines.
(17:41):
Did I was like, oh, I went there. I did.
I went out and did it, but I was a
little worried, like, am I going to be the guy
that like blows his acl getting double bounced on the trampoline? Yes,
and my son's And it's like I hate that. That's
part of the conversation in my head. That's the reality
of it. So it's not like it's my fault. I'm
(18:02):
in fine shape, but it just like sucks that that's
something you have to consider or like, why is my
back sore three days after Oh? Because I just like
compressed it weirdly over on a dreamfoline. Yeah, the most
mundane of toys. Uh, you know, it was just like
this is ridiculous. So I don't know, that's that's just
one of those that, like I know everybody deals with
(18:24):
to some degree.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Well what, yeah, what injuries do you guys live with
currently that you have just like succumbed to, like dealing
with forever? Do either of you have those?
Speaker 2 (18:37):
See that's what I mean. A lot of this stuff
I thought i'd have forever.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
I it's gone.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Like my shoulders were both super screwed up from the.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Time of forced and everything's better.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Remember when you said you were blessed to lose the
home or something like that, like one of the greatest
things happened to me. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah, but seriously, like I I used to have heartburn
every single day. I thought I was gonna have heartburn forever. Yeah,
that went away. Like I used to have one shoulder,
used to have instability, and I got surgery on that
a while ago and that went away. Yeah. So most
of my chronic injuries that I thought I would have
(19:14):
forever haven't been forever.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
So if you're out there with chronic injury, maybe it'll
get better.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Maybe it's not chronic. And when those did get better
on your process, were you praying for medical advancements or
were you praying for that you would be.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Healed, praying that it would just go away? Okay, because
so much of that stuff, I know, there's no you know,
the opposite of what I was saying. But like when
my ankles were messed up, I went to the doctor
a bunch, and eventually there's like, it's probably gonna hurt
for a while, might hurt forever.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah, you know, well, and that's how my back. When
I hurt my back, I had extreme psiatic I was
going to a physical therapist and he was like, this
is something you're gonna have to deal with forever. Now
you're forty, you can deal with it forever, but how
you manage it is going to be what dictates your
quality of life. My back hasn't hurt for like four
and a half years, dude. It was just like six
(20:10):
months of extreme pain with statica shooting all the way
down into my toes pretty much, which is apparently a
very bad sign. And then I don't do He's like,
you're gonna have to do your back exercises every day
to even function. I haven't done a back exercise since
it started feeling better.
Speaker 3 (20:29):
And so this is something I was talking to some
of my other friends also going through midlife crisises the
other day about yes, I do have friends outside the circle,
but not many, and I know, sorry, but it was
this idea of like mind body connection, right, and how
like a lot of time stress in your life. A
lot of times, like unconscious things going on in your
(20:50):
life can affect your body in a physical way. Just
like when I was an acting class, you would use
imaginary circumstances and your body would start reacting. You'd get angry,
you would cry, you would but nothing changed. You think
in a movie, on the other side of that scene
is sixty people, somebody's on their phone, somebody's like filming,
and yet someone looks like they're going through an emotional breakdown,
(21:12):
you know, And it's like, no, it's because your brain
is telling your body how to respond. And so we
were talking about back pain, lower back pain specifically, I
have it on and off, upper shoulder pain, and then
another guy has like some some chest Evidently it's not
a heart attack kind of thing, think, but a lot
of times the doctors will be like, well, I mean,
we could fuse your discs, but then it's like fifty
(21:33):
to fifty if it gets better, And you're like, what
do you What is your job doctor? Because like it
seems like they're not that. Yeah, yeah, exactly, You're not.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
From its permanent. You will not have the flexibility you
had before. And it may not take. Yeah, I mean
you will take, but the pain going away may not.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Yeah. And so I think so so often we want
to heal it so quickly that we just rely on
doctors for those things. And doctors are great. I was
pre med for two years till I failed organic chemistry,
and uh, I think that's very a very important thing.
But I think a lot of times we don't take
into consideration those other variables in our life that are
doing that are contributing to that. I mean, if you
(22:13):
get in a car wreck, that's different. But if it's
just like man, I just waking up sore, like my
back just like seized up or tightened up or whatever,
I think there's there's validity. I was reading a book
about it called Healing Back Pain by this guy named
John Sarno. Healed a bunch of people through basically have
you heard of this? Tyson? You're shaking your head like
you have.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
We had this conversation, well that's why I recommended the
book to you, and you were like, I have that book,
and we were like who said it first.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Yeah, definitely me.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Someone recommended it to me when my was when my
back was hurting. I bought it. I never read it.
My back pain went away. So just owning it to.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Even the press, I love it, even the presence of it.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
But he said it had changed his life. He's like,
it's all mental. Back pain is more mental and controlling
your stress and stuff than it is about. Yeah, the
actual pain and my back. I know that if I
am stressed about something for multiple days, it does rear
itself physically. So that's why I'm trying to be more
(23:19):
of a d Gaff kind of guy.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
Don't give a fuck. I have to get myself back
into that place because think about like children. Children don't
experience that. My kids aren't like, oh my back is
houts are so white, I'm so tense fresh.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, they're so light and fresh and rubbery.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
The little streak chickens, that's true. You see a baby
fall down, it's like nothing to them. They're like boying,
like pop back up.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
A full scorpion. Like can you imagine if I felt
like a full scorpion, I'd just be all the way
broken in half.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
It would be like actually dropping glass on the floor.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Yeah, I'd be like, I don't know what you're supposed
to do. If you're supposed to just put me out
of my misery now.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Or hey, Rachel, did Tyson sign any papers about this?
Do we know kind of what to do next? Oh?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
And then you see a little kid scorpion and they
just like roll over, flop up, and start running again,
and you're like, hell.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
I'm amazing.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
So that's my takeaway is a reminder that I think
that's what happens in our midlife. We're taking on so
many things. It's our own stuff, there's other responsibilities, there's questions,
and that can all pile up and get stuck in
your head, stuck in your body. So I think there
is something to say about that. But I like what
you were saying earlier in terms of like, if it
doesn't really impact your day to day it just is
(24:36):
what it is, then I think it's hard to make
a case for like, let me take two months off
of work so I can fix this thing that's not
really that broken.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
Yeah, I mean some of it is. Is it going
to get worse? And if it is, then it's worth
addressing before it gets worse. But if it's something that's
just stagnant now, yeah, I don't know. My wife keeps
being like, you should go really figure out why your
thigh has been numb for years and years, And I
was like, but they're just going to go and poke
it and then be like, huh it is numb. It
(25:08):
could be from things that you said, and I'll be like, yeah,
I think you're we're on the same page.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Or they're like you, have you ever ridden a bike?
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Yeah? Yeah, yeah? Have you ever slammed? Have you ever
gotten in a bike accident? Slammed your thigh into the
bumper of a parked car while you were traveling fifty
miles an hour?
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Damn? Is that what happened?
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Yeah? Oh pile up in uh yeah in Europe.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
I think your nerves were just like we're out of here.
They just left. That's why.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah, it was definitely bruised all the way down to
the very deep tissue. So that's what I think. That
was my initial thought because that like even when it
was numb, and that was triggering memories of that. But
it could have also been sciatica was in that same
leg all the way down, so could have done some
nerve damn there. But yeah, it doesn't bother me, but
(26:02):
I just know that more stuff is to come. Like
how long until my other thighs numb constantly?
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (26:09):
How long until my knee just aches? How long until?
And am I doing anything not to make it better
but to have the time that I have now with
my remaining nine good toes? Like? Am I celebrating my
nine good toes?
Speaker 3 (26:24):
That's one?
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Am I celebrating the one good thigh? That's what I
That's that's what I want to talk about, Like how
are we addressing these issues in our Yeah, like I
I'm not. I don't ever feel my other thigh and
be like, thank goodness, I can feel me pinching my
thigh on this side. But should I?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
That's or are you going to end up like your
dad where it's like I just have this thing and
it just sucks, and that is what it is.
Speaker 1 (26:49):
Yeah, I can't usually lift my shoulder very high and
it sucks. But I've gone so long with it now
that the doctor is saying, because you get it to
a certain age in life where the doctor say, do
as much as you want with it, as much as
you can enjoy it. And then once it's gone. We'll
address it. We're not doing surgery now. But if you
(27:11):
would have had it, you know, fixed up, twenty years ago,
they would have done the surgery and you'd have a
perfect shoulder maybe. So yeah, I think that's the line is, like.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
William, have you ever had an injury that's prevented you
from like scuba ing and working and stuff like that
or not? Really?
Speaker 2 (27:30):
Yeah, I mean my shoulders used to be so screwed up.
I've popped my shoulders out doing every sort of activity
from like I used to work in a laboratory. One
time my shoulder popped out while I was carrying a
Petri dish full of cells, full of cancer cells, and
I threw it all over the laboratory, like I've had that. Yeah,
(27:51):
that's how the New the World started.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
That's what happened. I thought it was in China.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
That's so you were just holding like a tray.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Like walking across like a story, holding basically like a
Petrie dish. A Petrie dish, well, it's not really it's
a ninety six well plated so it's like that's what
they do nowadays, like ninety six different Petrie dishes or
three hundred and eighty four different petri dishes in a
little experimental tray and I was carrying it and it
was full of some cancer cells that we recently grew
(28:24):
in the lab, and my shoulder popped out and I
just boo, just literally just threw it all over the
entire laboratory. But it happened doing everything like waving, I
would pop it out, like eating, I would pop it out.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Was it getting worse and worse?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, it was getting worse. I got surgery on that one,
But yeah, I was getting worse and worse.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Did your other one was having the issue too? You said,
your shoulders?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Yeah, so the other one. I was riding my bike
between is the summer between high school and college, and
I used to be a bus boy and we worked
the night before, stayed up late, made some money, went home,
and then Sunday morning we're riding to work again. And
I'm riding to work on my bicycle again, and my
friend the other bus boys walking on the sidewalk, and
(29:07):
I like ride past them all fast, and I'm like,
how's the walk, sucker, like trying to be cool, and
then I go in front of him and pull up
my bike like off the curb and my bike tire
just falls out of my frame and I just come
down on the fork of the bike like that, boom
into the concrete, ripped a huge hole in my ear,
(29:27):
ripped like a bunch of road rash, and got a
fourth degree separation on my shoulder. And then I walked
into the bar where I was working and my shirt
was ripped. I was completely bloody. Actually I think I
lost my shirt there. I took it off after it happened,
and I was just covered in blood. And I just
went and I sat at the bar and I was
just like, ugh, I get a coffee or something. And
(29:49):
they're like, uh, do you need an ambulance?
Speaker 3 (29:51):
I'm like, can we call you that?
Speaker 1 (29:53):
No? Do I you didn't have a helmet on.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
I had a helmet on, Okay, all the kids listening
he was wearing a helmet.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Good.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Yeah, And then that was messed up For years and
years and years, chronic pain would prevent me from doing
stuff my other shoulder that you're talking about scuba diving,
Like I've popped it out where I was putting on
my wet suit, so like a tight wet suit and
then it lops out and then I'm just like completely
like locked in place inside of the wetsuit that popped out.
(30:23):
I've got a lot of stories about this. One time
I was tubing down the Boulder Creek here in Colorado
and I fell out of my raft and started to
swim to the side and I grabbed a branch and
my shoulder popped out. So I was just hanging from
this branch and like shrank current with my one shoulder
popped out and my other one there. I'm like, oh
my god, what do I even do? Like, am I
(30:44):
going to drown.
Speaker 3 (30:45):
Because you can't swim frozen?
Speaker 2 (30:48):
Yeah. Luckily it slid right back into place, and.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
It just for a long time. And after it pops
in and out, it pops in and out more often.
Right like the that's the thing stretched fixed, that's nuts.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
And the surgery. I'll still so thankful I got it.
But it's crazy because after the surgery they give you
a video of the surgery from like inside, and like
it's all torn ligaments. So they go in and they
you know, shave them off, just tighten them or whatever
they got to do. But the video just looks like
a bunch of pieces of string cheese and like a
current and they're like because they're all so afrayed and
(31:24):
ripped up, all the ligaments were them dang Yeah. And
then the other one. I was just positive that would
hurt me forever. And you know, sometimes if I work
out a ton, it'll get like a little sore, like
it's not as strong as the other one. Yeah, But
all the stuff that I thought I would have forever
so far has went away. So I think that takeaway
(31:45):
from this stuff is a the less you focus on it,
the less it will hurt, basically, and be just don't
assume it's gonna hurt always, because that just makes you
focus on it more. And who knows, maybe it'll get better.
Maybe they'll develop a personal pod that you can jump
into and fix up your whole body soon.
Speaker 3 (32:02):
Yeah, let's pray.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Let's pray for so pray for that.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
For medicine and also the lifestyle stuff. I thought I
would have heartburn forever. I used to have such bad heartburn.
I was taking like the Prilo stack every day, double
doses of it all the time. And really it was
just because I was a little bit overweight and ate
like shit and drank too much. And after the divorce,
(32:27):
and starting to get healthier and lost some weight and
the heartburn just kind of like went away at the
same time as all the other stuff.
Speaker 3 (32:35):
Wow, So you've lived quite a life, William for naughty
last year.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
Yeah, in the last year or two.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
Forty years in the last year now for sure.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Yeah. My takeaway is, yeah, I mean I think just
like enjoying the time and also adjusting to what you're
capabilities are, like, still go jump on the trampoline, but
maybe don't try the double front flip.
Speaker 3 (33:05):
And that's right, And I didn't. Yeah, I thought, okay,
I'm going to just pull it back a little.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah. My kids are like, can you do a flip
on a trampoline? I was like, I could. Let it
be known I could. I would probably over rotate and
slam my head on the mat and then we're done.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
Yeah. Yeah, so sorry.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
So I was like, that's good, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
My takeaway is something you mentioned Tyson was just basically
like being smart about thinking forward, thinking ahead, you know,
like building muscle gets harder as you get older, so
you know try to you know, front load that osteoporosis,
those types of things like be smart about what you're
doing maybe some more functional movements and workouts and things
as you see, like getting older and trying to you know,
(33:50):
basically put savings in the bank for later. I like that.
It's good.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Did I say that? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (33:56):
You were talking about like what if? What if your
dad had fixed it?
Speaker 1 (33:58):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Yeah, you know, thinking down what can you be doing
now to basically circumvent or make that easier because it's
an inevitability, So you know, how can we plan now?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
I am a firmer, so much more important.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
Now.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
That's a great protein. I gotta really I really should
get higher on my yoga situation.
Speaker 1 (34:16):
But I also think if you need surgery and they
tell you you need surgery, they said, oh you can
live with it is going to be painful, don't do that.
Get the surgery.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
If they're like that, that shoulder is going to require
surgery at some point, may as well get it while
the younger you are.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Yeah, yeah, you'll be quicker to heal.
Speaker 1 (34:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah it's a good point.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
Yes, So, uh, yeah, that was fun. I'm glad. I mean,
I don't I know a lot about William. I don't
know that Bradley is injured at all, and he has
you have no things that you're like, I'm taking this
with me to the grave, this hump on my toe,
this thigh without feeling, this stretched out shoulder that got
the fixed. You have anything like that yet?
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Not yet. I've had some injuries, but they were, you know,
stitches as a kid busted. Oh here's the thing. I
was skiing when I was probably I must have been
like nineteen or twenty, fell down, probably popped my shoulder
out of place, but I didn't like it. Maybe bounced
(35:17):
back in that was fine. It was just sore for
like a month. I would be in hospital one hundred
percent if that same fall happened now, even though I'm
physically stronger than I was then, just the rebound of that.
So I thought that was like, I guess, I'm like,
my shoulder could be hurting for a long time. But
I'm also and I think we're all at this age
(35:38):
we're like I'll just wake up randomly and be like,
why is my next sore? Like my back's a little or.
Speaker 1 (35:43):
My oh why because we're like over forty years.
Speaker 3 (35:47):
Old, exactly what I mean?
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Yeah, Marching toward Death.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
Marching towards Death. That's the new name for our podcast.
Welcome Crisis March.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
Like seventy five days until I turned forty.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
Oh my gosh, are we going to do it?
Speaker 3 (36:01):
We're going to have a new ethnic podcast, epic podcast
day birthday.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Thanks everyone for listening. This is midlife Crisis is Bradley
William Tyson. Uh like, follow, subscribe, smash all those buttons,
Share it with your friends, tell us in the comments
what your midlife is all about, and we will address
it on the pod when it makes sense. Much love
(36:26):
until next time, bye please b
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