April 28, 2025 • 29 mins
The Midlife Crisisses are back! On today's episode, Tyson Apostol (@tysonapostol) Bradley Hasemayer (@bhaz) and William Drumm (@williamdrumm) discuss the world of self-help, it's legitimacy, and their scorching hot takes.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Midlife Crisises. I'm Tyson, one of the hosts.
Thank you so much for liking, subscribing, commenting, sharing all
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We want to keep doing this and that is one
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(00:23):
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Speaker 2 (00:34):
And we really want to hear for you guys too.
We want to hear about your midlife crisises. We want
to know what kind of stuff you are going through
so that we can talk about it and share our
insights about trying to survive this quote as well.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
What's up everybody? This week on Midlife Crisis Podcasts, we're
talking about self improvement, whether it's a bunch of mumbo
jumbo or whether it can really help you in your life.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Hey listen, hey, everybody, Welcome to mid Life Crisises. This
is the podcast that gets into it, that acknowledges things
aren't normal, especially when you're in your mid forties or
early fifties. I am just one of three posts. We're
going to get to everybody in a second, but we
always like to lead with saying thank you. Thank you
for the follows, thank you for the likes, thank you
(01:22):
for the subscribes, thank you for the questions. That's led
us down the path of being able to chat with
each other about different different things, giving us ideas for
the show. So please keep that up. If you've seen
the show before, you will tell my background is not normal.
This is a different background. This is my parents' house
at spring break for the kids, which is really what
I feel like. Parents a long time ago developed this
(01:44):
as a way to remind us what's coming in the
summer when your kids are at home.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
All day, every day and you have no idea what
to do with though.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
This is a warning shot that's been fired, and I
am very, very starkly reminded of that over the past.
Pull my hair out a couple of days. So crisises
are going on. Your crisises are going on. But I'm
not alone on the show. I have mister Tyson. Apostle Tyson,
your hair looks great today.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Oh, thank you. Yeah, it's I mean, I wear a
hat all the time, and I don't think I flex
my hairline as much as I should.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, totally. But I'm a heck guy. So it's like
Perat's nice. It's a little best of both worlds. I
can I get a little peak, a little.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Peak glimpse at what the hair could be, and then
you can imagine things even greater than they are. I'm here.
Are you in your childhood bed?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
No, that would be I've been just all set up
like my rear window.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
That's New York we are.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Yeah, that's the view of New York from that's I
guess the tallest building.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Ever just evenside of Manhattan's floating. It's a floating building
outside of Manhattan.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Most people don't know about it.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Yeah, I'm here. Crisises are ongoing. Paid my taxes recently.
That's a crisis each year. Yeah, yeah, you better get
on that. Our third co host, William Drum, top underwater
photographer in highly ranked we'll see rank in the world. William,
(03:13):
are you going to get to your taxes or what.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
I actually am supposed to hear from my account today?
So I'm just going to say that it's him who's
dropping the ball here.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
I usually just defer automatic whatever, let's just differ to October.
Then I have six more months to procrastinate.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Also, to be clear, you don't have to be in
your mid forties to listen to this podcast. I'm not
even forty yet.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
I'm a long.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Way from forties.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Your week weeks five weeks left until I turned forties,
So okay, you can be in your thirties too, or
older or younger. Yeah, everybody's got a lot of problems
going on, a lot of stressful things, and we're here
to help navigate some of those. We've all got different
(04:02):
kind of takes on how to get through life, how
to be the best we can be, or just survive.
And I've had a pretty interesting week, and this is
where my questions coming from. My questions kind of about
like does self improvement like even work? Because I had
(04:26):
an interesting thing where I found this new book recently
called The Five Am Club by Robin Sharma, and I
was like, Wow, mind blown, this is so good. This
is going to change my life. Everything is going to
be great. I'm going to become a world leader. I'm
going to just be so energized and take on everything
(04:46):
and did it for a little while. And so it's
called the five Am Club. Get up at five am
and you work out first thing. And as part of that,
like I'm not used to getting up at five am,
so already that was difficult or working out or working out,
and that was combined. I did like a high intensity
(05:07):
training workout at like five oh five am and basically
destroyed myself for days. And I don't know, I just
I just wonder if self improvement like actually works because
for me, I have a habit of like getting super
into it and thinking everything is going to change, like
kind of going all in and then like crashing afterwards
(05:31):
bad and then like it not really working for me.
So I'm wondering what you guys think about self improvement
stuff and does it work, how to make it work
successfully in long term?
Speaker 1 (05:45):
And yeah, I like this question. I really like it.
I'm not a self improvement guy. I've read zero of
those books. I read the cover and I'm like, this
is a hoax, this is shit. Something works for everybody,
and it's something different. I got my good point. This
is my belief. Because you read all these things, it's like, oh,
(06:07):
make your bed every morning, start off on the right foot. Oh,
wake up at five, get your workout in. Then you
don't have to worry about it down the road. I
like to work out later, I don't care. I think
that those things. If you're having a hard time working
out and that's specifically your issue, maybe working out at
five is the is the goal. Then. But you also
(06:29):
hear the like, uh, the World War II hero from England,
the prime Minister, I can't even think of his name
right now, Churchill would wake up at like noon. So
now you're like, oh, well he was a great man
and he's getting up at noon.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Smoked like a chimneyeds ran like a sailor.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, so I think for it. First of all, I
think those are for different personality types. If you need
some structure and some outline and a thing to keep
you going forward, then those are great. Those give you
the structure. They give you like, oh yeah, get up
at five and do your workout and then you can
(07:06):
do your work and then you can do this. If
there's lots of structure people who need that to and yeah,
then figure out your structure and maybe those books help.
But everybody's just selling something as far as self help
is concerned, Like I read all of those i's like
making my bed every morning, Are you kidding me? That's
the stupidest waste of time. I get. But some people
(07:30):
get stressed out by looking at a messy bed, right,
So if you get stressed by looking at a messy bed,
then you better make it, I guess. So you're not
as stressed. I feel no stressed from me.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I do. Yeah, I'm I like my mornings. I like
my schedule.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
I have become part of the five am workout club,
but that was out of necessity. That was just because
kids in school and last year Lowick was only part time,
so he was like eight to eleven, so we had
like a three hour work day basically, and so there
was no way that I was going to work out
at like nine and waste that time. So I just
started getting up at like quarter to five, get dressed.
(08:08):
The gym is very close, so I can run to
the gym. That's helpful. So and I have enjoyed that.
To me, that's a big part of my day, just
in terms of like a structure to my day, and
so I like structure for freelance people, for independent contractors,
Like you have to be good at building a schedule
and time management and that kind of thing. At least
(08:31):
for me, I have to I have to be good
at that. But I think Tyson makes a great point.
It's almost like a diet, right, It's kind of like
it's gonna be different for different people, and somebody wants
to tell you something.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
I think.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I think also the self help, I think you have
to take a step back. We're terrible at self assessment.
We don't even know what we need. I always thought
like dating sites shouldn't be filled in, like your profile
should be filled in by your friends, because you're gonna
put like friendly, loves to hang out, non confrontational.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Your friends are like what no, yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I say, Like can be a real punk if he
hasn't eaten, like hates going near the water, loves to
complain anytime we go out, you know, but.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
We'll take you to the airport at six am.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
You know. It's like the reality of who we are.
It's so hard to even self assess though it's hard
to like self correct. It's almost like an inherently you know.
It's like it's like if you're a creative person, like
you are William Like, I feel like you lean more
art right, that's a certain part of your brain. You
can't just all of a sudden like tell the other
part of the brain to pick up the slack. I mean,
(09:35):
it's kind of like why I think creatives have agents,
like a lot of like directors, producers, actors, artists, because
they don't have that part of the brain. They can't
set up the meeting and be there at nine and
set up the structure with the follow up email that
needs to coordinate and go to it. It's like, no,
you can't really live in both worlds, so I think,
(09:56):
and also to Tyson's point too, if you don't if
you don't care about making your bed and you're reading
a book that's telling you should make your bed, you're
already going to feel like crap.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Like you're like I failed already, I failed step one.
I slept five thirty. It's toast throw it away, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
And I don't even and I don't even like making
my bed. So now I'm just miserable every morning as I'm.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Just some random person. I have no idea who they are.
He was telling me I need to make my bed,
and now I feel not about it.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Yeah, they claim to be a success in some capacity
because they make their bed every morning. Or I talk
to five billionaires and that was the commonality, is that
all five billionaires. And do I want to be like
the billionaires? I don't think so. I haven't really seen
a billionaire in the public eye that I've been excited
to be thumbs up.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Yeah, you know what I should go.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I should try to be the boy like kid because
he seems cool never.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
He's got it balanced, he's living life. But I think
this comes up in the midlife because you're also trying to,
I think, make adjustments and shifts and who you are.
And I feel like a lot of times like there
is there is a need for you know, these like
life coaches and personal trainers and stuff, not because they're
(11:04):
telling you stuff you don't know, but because there's accountability
in it. I think that is one of the major
It's hard to be internally motivated, but a lot of
people can be externally. So if we said all three
of us are going to get up every day at
five and text each other, we're on different time zones,
so that'd be different.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
But you know that kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I think then there's a little bit more motivation of
like I don't want to go, but I really don't
want to hear it from William.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
I don't want to, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
So I think knowing that a level of accountability in
that self help is so much more important than just
like I found a book, I read it and I failed.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Of course, of course you failed. Otherwise they charge more
for the book. It doesn't work by itself.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And it might not even work if you do all
the stace. Not exactly, it's the thing. It's like, it's
it's giving you suggestions of how to organize your life
and maybe feel better about yourself. First of all, if
you're seeking out self help, then there's a lax where
you at least installed capacity, are thinking I can do better.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Yeah, yeah, and maybe and maybe that's not a bad thing.
I think I should be improving.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yeah, yeah, that's not a bad thing. But do these
self help things? Does Tony Robbins have the answer? Like, no,
they're all just they're all just making a buck. In
my opinion, they're making a buck. They might have some
good ideas, but like I I mean, the five am club,
that's not a new idea. Getting up early and working
out that's a tale as old as time something else. Yeah,
(12:32):
So I think you take those ideas that people have
and see what works for you and what doesn't. And
also you need to be confident enough in your program
to understand what's going to work for you and what doesn't.
Or to try something and be like, Nope, that doesn't
work for me. Made my bed actually made me more miserable,
(12:52):
So that didn't help.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Like what are you what are you looking for, William?
Like what was your hope when when you got that book?
You're like, will I think.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
It was last week or the week before that. We
were just talking about like the difference between trying harder,
trying to go legendary like do all these things, versus
being like happy where you are. And I feel like
I've gotten a bit complacent in some of like my
big dreams and my big goals. So I'm just trying
(13:22):
to like remember those and get back to like really
putting in the work to do these bigger things that
I have somewhat you know, I haven't written off, but
I'm just haven't been putting the work into getting to
those things. So basically, just that's what I liked about
the book. What I like about it is it's like, hey, listen,
(13:42):
you can you know, it's like the self self help
Stuff's like you can be a legend, you can do
all this. But the problem is is that you guys
are totally right. It's not it's like a box, and
like how many people fit into this box about how
to do something? So if you try to take any
of it literally, which like it's literally written, like you
have to get up at five am, you have to
(14:03):
work out for twenty minutes, you have to learn something
for twenty minutes, every single print of all it's just
completely unrealistic. So I think that a big part of
it is like understanding that from the beginning that like, yeah,
these are some good ideas. There might be some good
ideas here, but they might not work for you. You might
(14:26):
want to take some of these ideas and apply them,
but not apply the rest of them. And like it's
got to fit correctly with your lifestyle and with your schedule,
because if you try to change everything right away, like
you're just gonna fail. It's gonna make you feel worse.
So so I think that's the big part is like
(14:46):
it can't be all or nothing. Like in any way,
even though a lot of these kind of things are
written like this is it like you need to do
this to achieve big things in your life, like no
matter what, you have to do, do this, when really,
if you go in into it all or nothing, then
it's just like setting yourself up to fail and setting
yourself up to feel like worse about yourself even worse.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
Yeah, worse off than where you were. I couldn't even
do that. I can't do anything. I couldn't even do
the book to help me do the book, they.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Told me literally how to do it. I couldn't do it.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Now I'm a failure forever.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah. So you think they need another book that gets.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Didn't hear any of that?
Speaker 4 (15:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Repeaten, can you hear me now?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So they need another book that tells you how to
get through the first book that's just like.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
Yeah, you're breaking through.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Oh no, oh, there we go, that's cleaner.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah now, yes, Okay, maybe one of these billionaires built
starlink up on my house and it's not working and
he probably makes his bed every fucking warning. See William,
that's it doesn't work all the time.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Jack.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Yeah, I was going to say they need another book
to help motivate you to get through the first book
the book.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yeah, that is as a marketing dream right there, right
there is like read the book and then halfway through
it's like, if you're having trouble with this book, you.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Should buy our book about how to read this book.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Yes, And then I see that on social all the
time now, as like a side note, I see so
many people selling classes of everything. I think it's just
a digital download, you know, and it's an easy way
to make some cash. But what was the old expression
like you either do or you become the teacher. You
do or you do it, you become the teacher, teacher
or the coach. Yeah, or if you can't, you become
the gym teacher or something like.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Those who can't for those who can't coach, or for
those who can't teach, something like that. Yeah, yeah, which
it is. I mean it is good to get a
third person perspective of you on your life sometimes, and
maybe that book is more of that. So, William, what's
your takeaway and advice to others as far as reading
(17:10):
these self help guides and applying them to your life.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Well, Bradley said, one thing that I think was pretty interesting,
and it is true, is that if you're just reading
this self improvement stuff and you're only like reading it,
there's nobody else you're it's like everything is on you.
So it's like up to you to read this and
(17:34):
do exactly what it says or whatever, then that's pretty
far fetched. However, having something like a coach or an
accountability kind of partner or something does help a lot.
That makes a big difference. I think that's good advice.
And then I think the biggest thing is just like
going into any of those with really clear expectations of
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it's not going to be a cookie cutter kind of situation.
There's probably going to be some good ideas in there,
but the chances of this person knowing exactly what's going
to work perfectly for you to become a legend is
probably pretty far fetched. And yeah, it's got to fit
your life and your schedule. It can't be all or nothing.
(18:18):
But yeah, for me, like I say, the whole reason
I'm doing it is because I want to, like I
want to achieve more still, like I don't want to
like fall into complacency. I want to do these bigger
things that I've always wanted to do and so it's
like kind of like a kick in the butt to
do it. And so I think that I approached it
from a good angle. But then once I like started
(18:42):
to get into it and thinking like, oh, this is
how I have to do it, then that's when it
became like a negative thing and not a positive thing.
Whereas if I from the beginning stood back and was like, Okay,
that's a cool idea, maybe I could do that. Sometimes
instead of gotten the mindset of like oh yeah, this
is I have to get up at five am and
do this or a bit of fuck myself over to
(19:05):
day's ruined that. And then it ended up ruining multiple
days because I didn't get enough sleep, I worked out
too hard in the morning, I felt dead yesterday I
was basically sick.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
So yeah, here's the here's the question. Are you going
to reapproach it with this new mindset? Are you just
done with it? Or are you going to be like, okay,
let me bring this kind of like leverage my wisdom
back into let's just take it as it is.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Very good question. No, I'm not done with it. So
I it was on like a blinkist. If those are
like fifteen minute like breakdowns of a book, so they're
really easy to digest. That's why I first heard about it,
and then I got it's on Spotify in the Premium plan,
so I've been listening to it on Spotify about halfway
through it, and I think that, like after the blow
(19:54):
up this week of not getting enough sleep for basically
make myself sick from working out too hard first thing
in the morning, I think that, like you're saying, like,
I think I can't approach it again from a better
spot now because it's got some super good ideas, like
working out in the morning is great, but you know,
take it or leave. It's find to work out later
(20:15):
in the day. But the other part of it is
just like learning something new every morning and like thinking
about where you want to go every morning. And for me,
somebody whose values or get stuff all the time, like
that's really useful for me to like refresh. Oh yeah,
that's why I'm working on this. This is where I
want to go every single day. So I think there's
really good elements to it, but I need to be
(20:38):
much more realistic and make it fit in an appropriate
way for me.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
I think my takeaway is the reminder that.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Part of part of what we experience in our midlife
is like the doldrums or just kind of the average,
or we're feeling like is this it right? And so
I think that is a natural reaction to where we
are in life, even though you're not even forty, as
you will pointed out this idea that you know, I
want something more out of my life, or I want
this part of my life to be bigger, or you
(21:12):
know whatever. So I think that I don't think you
should you or anyone. I don't just mean you like
the greater you. We shouldn't like beat ourselves up over that.
I think the idea of self help, the idea of
self improvement, the idea of getting better every day, you know,
even if it's incrementally or whatever, I think there's great
value in that. The question is just trying to find
out what works. It's probably almost like, you know, like
(21:32):
different workouts for some people, running works, and then they're like, no,
it's gym time, No, it's plates, No, it's that's why
there's all these different things. So in the same way,
I think trying to find those things that help. Maybe
it's just strictly accountability. You don't even need a book.
You just need somebody to text every morning and say, check,
I did this thing. I spent fifteen minutes this morning,
you know whatever, like meditating on where I want to be.
(21:53):
I don't know whatever that thing is for you, like
dialing that in. And I think my takeaway from that
is leverageing our wisdom as midlifers that we've hopefully gained,
which is this, it's not all or nothing. It's not
black and white. We can exist in the gray of well,
I didn't get up at five and I didn't do this,
but like you were talking about, it has encouraged me
(22:14):
to think more proactively in the morning about what I
can be doing. You know, maybe it's encouraged me to
journal for five minutes every day. I've been able to
do that and take those aspects and be encouraged by that,
and you know, and even your desire to do that
kind of motivates me to look at myself and say,
what's what's something I can be better at or something
(22:34):
that could help my life in another way. And I
know Tyson's not going to say that, so I'm saying
that because that's that motivates me. So that's My takeaway, Yeah,
I think we're all at any age in your life.
This all stems from partly comparison to others and be like, well,
(22:57):
why am I not a billionaire?
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
I got to read the five things the billionaires do
every morning? Why am I not as successful as these people?
Why am I not? And you're looking at these self
help things and they're promising you the answers to fill
in the gaps in your life to become these things
that you're comparing yourself to, or that you know society
has propped up on a pedestal or whatever goals and
(23:22):
stuff like that. I think if you're feeling lacking in
your life in that capacity somewhere doesn't have to be
a negative feeling. Just like I should work out more,
I don't have time. How can I getting up at
five and applying that principle to your life so that
you can make sure you're feeling better about yourself because
now you're getting that workout in every day is fantastic.
(23:44):
If you're walking through your bedroom in the day and
your bed is not made, and every time you look
at it, you're like, I'm a piece of shit slob, Like, yeah,
make the bed every day. Then that's going to bring
you some sense of fulfillment, and every time you walk
past it, you're going to have a little bump of like, yeah,
I'm getting things done. But if it doesn't affect you whatsoever,
(24:05):
then don't make it a priority in your day to
do that. That's what I think that it ultimately boils
down to. And I think too many people are searching
for the magic ticket or whatever it is to get
everything done and get their life on track. But it's
a series of things, and it's all different based on
how you feel and your reaction to those things, plus
(24:26):
the return you get on those things. Like if I'm
taking my bed every morning and I'm not getting any
sense of fulfillment and I'm wasting five minutes, then that's stupid.
And if getting up at five, great, I got up
at five, I feel amazing, but guess what now I'm
tired from ten am all the way to go back
to bed, Like then maybe you need a different balance
(24:48):
or you got to work a nap in now. And
so it's not easy. And I think especially people younger
than us who are maybe more confused because we've lived
almost forty years, some of us here is like, it's
not no one has the exact answer for you personally.
(25:09):
You have to figure that out on your own. And
you can take advice from these books, you can take
advice from online courses, from life coaches, whatever you got
to do. And we're starting our own midlife Crisis is
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(25:30):
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Speaker 4 (25:37):
You'll have direct access.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yes, So that's my take. And I think it's great
to always make progress on yourself somewhere. And I thought
this question was going a different direction in the beginning.
I thought it was just going to be about self
improvement in general. And I was like, well, you can
define self improvement and so like, I'm practicing podcasts thing
(26:00):
right now. We all are. So we're proving in this realm,
in this moment, and I think if you can recognize
even those small gains, that's powerful. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
For me, what has been really useful and interesting in
reading this book or listening to it is just that
I think through life, through busy, being busy, we just
kind of forget to like improve it things because it's
not just like it's everything we do. It's it's stuff
from working working out, like relationships. It's like there's so
(26:35):
many areas in our life that we just never try
to improve on that we just like go along with it.
When if we just have a little bit of mindfulness
about like how we're doing things, they can get better,
then get easier, we can get more successful.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
And so that's how I'd be at making beds if
I had made a bed every day for the last
forty six years.
Speaker 3 (27:01):
There's still time, Tyson, there's still time.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
You can do it.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Oh my gosh, I'd be so proud.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
There's just so many things in like photography and in
you know, social media, all these different avenues where you
start doing things, you keep doing them, like you grow
complacent and you don't look to improve. And that's the
main thing that like I'm trying to remember is that
it doesn't have to be this way. I can do
(27:29):
it with the thumbsus, I can do it, I can
do it better. So yeah, it's like the mastery over
different areas of life, but also not getting carried away
with it and like letting it stress you out. Letting
it become worse for you by the focus on it,
but having the mindfulness to realize that there are different
(27:52):
ways of doing things, better ways of doing things, and remembering.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
That, Yeah, I like that. I think we can leave
the audience with you've got this, guys, you can be okay,
just one step in front of the other. Keep working
on self improvement in all capacities, and send us pictures
of your made beds. See if those are dialed in,
(28:16):
because that starts off the whole day, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
Bed TikTok, bed TikTok bed, made made bed. We'll come
up with a good one for you, guys.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Yeah, and we'll have more questions and more answers next week.
Hopefully we answered that. Dude, did we do an adequate
job answering?
Speaker 2 (28:34):
That's a question self was Does self improvement work?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
And it does?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
But yeah, it doesn't work in the straightforward way that
self help authors claim self improvement authors claim. But there's
a lot of good insights, a lot of good ideas
from it, and you just have to be mindful enough
to be realistic about who you are and where you
(29:00):
are in your life to be able to apply those
things and not try to go crazy following exactly what
these Stelf help guru say, because you'll end up feeling
disappointed and depressed after you fail, so it'll become counter
even worse.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Yeah, and with that we are the midlife Crisises. Get
out there and excel everybody. Make sure to make those
small improvements in all capacities and facets of life until
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And we really want to hear for you guys too.
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Speaker 1 (00:47):
So let's get into it.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
What's up everybody? This week on Midlife Crisis Podcasts, we're
talking about self improvement, whether it's a bunch of mumbo
jumbo or whether it can really help you in your life.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Hey listen, hey, everybody, Welcome to mid Life Crisises. This
is the podcast that gets into it, that acknowledges things
aren't normal, especially when you're in your mid forties or
early fifties. I am just one of three posts. We're
going to get to everybody in a second, but we
always like to lead with saying thank you. Thank you
for the follows, thank you for the likes, thank you
(01:22):
for the subscribes, thank you for the questions. That's led
us down the path of being able to chat with
each other about different different things, giving us ideas for
the show. So please keep that up. If you've seen
the show before, you will tell my background is not normal.
This is a different background. This is my parents' house
at spring break for the kids, which is really what
I feel like. Parents a long time ago developed this
(01:44):
as a way to remind us what's coming in the
summer when your kids are at home.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
All day, every day and you have no idea what
to do with though.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
This is a warning shot that's been fired, and I
am very, very starkly reminded of that over the past.
Pull my hair out a couple of days. So crisises
are going on. Your crisises are going on. But I'm
not alone on the show. I have mister Tyson. Apostle Tyson,
your hair looks great today.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Oh, thank you. Yeah, it's I mean, I wear a
hat all the time, and I don't think I flex
my hairline as much as I should.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Yeah, totally. But I'm a heck guy. So it's like
Perat's nice. It's a little best of both worlds. I
can I get a little peak, a little.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Peak glimpse at what the hair could be, and then
you can imagine things even greater than they are. I'm here.
Are you in your childhood bed?
Speaker 3 (02:32):
No, that would be I've been just all set up
like my rear window.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
That's New York we are.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Yeah, that's the view of New York from that's I
guess the tallest building.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Ever just evenside of Manhattan's floating. It's a floating building
outside of Manhattan.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
Most people don't know about it.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Yeah, I'm here. Crisises are ongoing. Paid my taxes recently.
That's a crisis each year. Yeah, yeah, you better get
on that. Our third co host, William Drum, top underwater
photographer in highly ranked we'll see rank in the world. William,
(03:13):
are you going to get to your taxes or what.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
I actually am supposed to hear from my account today?
So I'm just going to say that it's him who's
dropping the ball here.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
I usually just defer automatic whatever, let's just differ to October.
Then I have six more months to procrastinate.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Also, to be clear, you don't have to be in
your mid forties to listen to this podcast. I'm not
even forty yet.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
I'm a long.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Way from forties.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Your week weeks five weeks left until I turned forties,
So okay, you can be in your thirties too, or
older or younger. Yeah, everybody's got a lot of problems
going on, a lot of stressful things, and we're here
to help navigate some of those. We've all got different
(04:02):
kind of takes on how to get through life, how
to be the best we can be, or just survive.
And I've had a pretty interesting week, and this is
where my questions coming from. My questions kind of about
like does self improvement like even work? Because I had
(04:26):
an interesting thing where I found this new book recently
called The Five Am Club by Robin Sharma, and I
was like, Wow, mind blown, this is so good. This
is going to change my life. Everything is going to
be great. I'm going to become a world leader. I'm
going to just be so energized and take on everything
(04:46):
and did it for a little while. And so it's
called the five Am Club. Get up at five am
and you work out first thing. And as part of that,
like I'm not used to getting up at five am,
so already that was difficult or working out or working out,
and that was combined. I did like a high intensity
(05:07):
training workout at like five oh five am and basically
destroyed myself for days. And I don't know, I just
I just wonder if self improvement like actually works because
for me, I have a habit of like getting super
into it and thinking everything is going to change, like
kind of going all in and then like crashing afterwards
(05:31):
bad and then like it not really working for me.
So I'm wondering what you guys think about self improvement
stuff and does it work, how to make it work
successfully in long term?
Speaker 1 (05:45):
And yeah, I like this question. I really like it.
I'm not a self improvement guy. I've read zero of
those books. I read the cover and I'm like, this
is a hoax, this is shit. Something works for everybody,
and it's something different. I got my good point. This
is my belief. Because you read all these things, it's like, oh,
(06:07):
make your bed every morning, start off on the right foot. Oh,
wake up at five, get your workout in. Then you
don't have to worry about it down the road. I
like to work out later, I don't care. I think
that those things. If you're having a hard time working
out and that's specifically your issue, maybe working out at
five is the is the goal. Then. But you also
(06:29):
hear the like, uh, the World War II hero from England,
the prime Minister, I can't even think of his name
right now, Churchill would wake up at like noon. So
now you're like, oh, well he was a great man
and he's getting up at noon.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Smoked like a chimneyeds ran like a sailor.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Yeah, so I think for it. First of all, I
think those are for different personality types. If you need
some structure and some outline and a thing to keep
you going forward, then those are great. Those give you
the structure. They give you like, oh yeah, get up
at five and do your workout and then you can
(07:06):
do your work and then you can do this. If
there's lots of structure people who need that to and yeah,
then figure out your structure and maybe those books help.
But everybody's just selling something as far as self help
is concerned, Like I read all of those i's like
making my bed every morning, Are you kidding me? That's
the stupidest waste of time. I get. But some people
(07:30):
get stressed out by looking at a messy bed, right,
So if you get stressed by looking at a messy bed,
then you better make it, I guess. So you're not
as stressed. I feel no stressed from me.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I do. Yeah, I'm I like my mornings. I like
my schedule.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
I have become part of the five am workout club,
but that was out of necessity. That was just because
kids in school and last year Lowick was only part time,
so he was like eight to eleven, so we had
like a three hour work day basically, and so there
was no way that I was going to work out
at like nine and waste that time. So I just
started getting up at like quarter to five, get dressed.
(08:08):
The gym is very close, so I can run to
the gym. That's helpful. So and I have enjoyed that.
To me, that's a big part of my day, just
in terms of like a structure to my day, and
so I like structure for freelance people, for independent contractors,
Like you have to be good at building a schedule
and time management and that kind of thing. At least
(08:31):
for me, I have to I have to be good
at that. But I think Tyson makes a great point.
It's almost like a diet, right, It's kind of like
it's gonna be different for different people, and somebody wants
to tell you something.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
I think.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I think also the self help, I think you have
to take a step back. We're terrible at self assessment.
We don't even know what we need. I always thought
like dating sites shouldn't be filled in, like your profile
should be filled in by your friends, because you're gonna
put like friendly, loves to hang out, non confrontational.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Your friends are like what no, yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
I say, Like can be a real punk if he
hasn't eaten, like hates going near the water, loves to
complain anytime we go out, you know, but.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
We'll take you to the airport at six am.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
You know. It's like the reality of who we are.
It's so hard to even self assess though it's hard
to like self correct. It's almost like an inherently you know.
It's like it's like if you're a creative person, like
you are William Like, I feel like you lean more
art right, that's a certain part of your brain. You
can't just all of a sudden like tell the other
part of the brain to pick up the slack. I mean,
(09:35):
it's kind of like why I think creatives have agents,
like a lot of like directors, producers, actors, artists, because
they don't have that part of the brain. They can't
set up the meeting and be there at nine and
set up the structure with the follow up email that
needs to coordinate and go to it. It's like, no,
you can't really live in both worlds, so I think,
(09:56):
and also to Tyson's point too, if you don't if
you don't care about making your bed and you're reading
a book that's telling you should make your bed, you're
already going to feel like crap.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Like you're like I failed already, I failed step one.
I slept five thirty. It's toast throw it away, you know.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
And I don't even and I don't even like making
my bed. So now I'm just miserable every morning as I'm.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Just some random person. I have no idea who they are.
He was telling me I need to make my bed,
and now I feel not about it.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Yeah, they claim to be a success in some capacity
because they make their bed every morning. Or I talk
to five billionaires and that was the commonality, is that
all five billionaires. And do I want to be like
the billionaires? I don't think so. I haven't really seen
a billionaire in the public eye that I've been excited
to be thumbs up.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Yeah, you know what I should go.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I should try to be the boy like kid because
he seems cool never.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
He's got it balanced, he's living life. But I think
this comes up in the midlife because you're also trying to,
I think, make adjustments and shifts and who you are.
And I feel like a lot of times like there
is there is a need for you know, these like
life coaches and personal trainers and stuff, not because they're
(11:04):
telling you stuff you don't know, but because there's accountability
in it. I think that is one of the major
It's hard to be internally motivated, but a lot of
people can be externally. So if we said all three
of us are going to get up every day at
five and text each other, we're on different time zones,
so that'd be different.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
But you know that kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I think then there's a little bit more motivation of
like I don't want to go, but I really don't
want to hear it from William.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
I don't want to, you know.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
So I think knowing that a level of accountability in
that self help is so much more important than just
like I found a book, I read it and I failed.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Of course, of course you failed. Otherwise they charge more
for the book. It doesn't work by itself.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And it might not even work if you do all
the stace. Not exactly, it's the thing. It's like, it's
it's giving you suggestions of how to organize your life
and maybe feel better about yourself. First of all, if
you're seeking out self help, then there's a lax where
you at least installed capacity, are thinking I can do better.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Yeah, yeah, and maybe and maybe that's not a bad thing.
I think I should be improving.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Yeah, yeah, that's not a bad thing. But do these
self help things? Does Tony Robbins have the answer? Like, no,
they're all just they're all just making a buck. In
my opinion, they're making a buck. They might have some
good ideas, but like I I mean, the five am club,
that's not a new idea. Getting up early and working
out that's a tale as old as time something else. Yeah,
(12:32):
So I think you take those ideas that people have
and see what works for you and what doesn't. And
also you need to be confident enough in your program
to understand what's going to work for you and what doesn't.
Or to try something and be like, Nope, that doesn't
work for me. Made my bed actually made me more miserable,
(12:52):
So that didn't help.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Like what are you what are you looking for, William?
Like what was your hope when when you got that book?
You're like, will I think.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
It was last week or the week before that. We
were just talking about like the difference between trying harder,
trying to go legendary like do all these things, versus
being like happy where you are. And I feel like
I've gotten a bit complacent in some of like my
big dreams and my big goals. So I'm just trying
(13:22):
to like remember those and get back to like really
putting in the work to do these bigger things that
I have somewhat you know, I haven't written off, but
I'm just haven't been putting the work into getting to
those things. So basically, just that's what I liked about
the book. What I like about it is it's like, hey, listen,
(13:42):
you can you know, it's like the self self help
Stuff's like you can be a legend, you can do
all this. But the problem is is that you guys
are totally right. It's not it's like a box, and
like how many people fit into this box about how
to do something? So if you try to take any
of it literally, which like it's literally written, like you
have to get up at five am, you have to
(14:03):
work out for twenty minutes, you have to learn something
for twenty minutes, every single print of all it's just
completely unrealistic. So I think that a big part of
it is like understanding that from the beginning that like, yeah,
these are some good ideas. There might be some good
ideas here, but they might not work for you. You might
(14:26):
want to take some of these ideas and apply them,
but not apply the rest of them. And like it's
got to fit correctly with your lifestyle and with your schedule,
because if you try to change everything right away, like
you're just gonna fail. It's gonna make you feel worse.
So so I think that's the big part is like
(14:46):
it can't be all or nothing. Like in any way,
even though a lot of these kind of things are
written like this is it like you need to do
this to achieve big things in your life, like no
matter what, you have to do, do this, when really,
if you go in into it all or nothing, then
it's just like setting yourself up to fail and setting
yourself up to feel like worse about yourself even worse.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
Yeah, worse off than where you were. I couldn't even
do that. I can't do anything. I couldn't even do
the book to help me do the book, they.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
Told me literally how to do it. I couldn't do it.
Speaker 4 (15:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Now I'm a failure forever.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah. So you think they need another book that gets.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Didn't hear any of that?
Speaker 4 (15:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Repeaten, can you hear me now?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So they need another book that tells you how to
get through the first book that's just like.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
Yeah, you're breaking through.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Oh no, oh, there we go, that's cleaner.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah now, yes, Okay, maybe one of these billionaires built
starlink up on my house and it's not working and
he probably makes his bed every fucking warning. See William,
that's it doesn't work all the time.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Jack.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Yeah, I was going to say they need another book
to help motivate you to get through the first book
the book.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yeah, that is as a marketing dream right there, right
there is like read the book and then halfway through
it's like, if you're having trouble with this book, you.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Should buy our book about how to read this book.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Yes, And then I see that on social all the
time now, as like a side note, I see so
many people selling classes of everything. I think it's just
a digital download, you know, and it's an easy way
to make some cash. But what was the old expression
like you either do or you become the teacher. You
do or you do it, you become the teacher, teacher
or the coach. Yeah, or if you can't, you become
the gym teacher or something like.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Those who can't for those who can't coach, or for
those who can't teach, something like that. Yeah, yeah, which
it is. I mean it is good to get a
third person perspective of you on your life sometimes, and
maybe that book is more of that. So, William, what's
your takeaway and advice to others as far as reading
(17:10):
these self help guides and applying them to your life.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Well, Bradley said, one thing that I think was pretty interesting,
and it is true, is that if you're just reading
this self improvement stuff and you're only like reading it,
there's nobody else you're it's like everything is on you.
So it's like up to you to read this and
(17:34):
do exactly what it says or whatever, then that's pretty
far fetched. However, having something like a coach or an
accountability kind of partner or something does help a lot.
That makes a big difference. I think that's good advice.
And then I think the biggest thing is just like
going into any of those with really clear expectations of
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it's not going to be a cookie cutter kind of situation.
There's probably going to be some good ideas in there,
but the chances of this person knowing exactly what's going
to work perfectly for you to become a legend is
probably pretty far fetched. And yeah, it's got to fit
your life and your schedule. It can't be all or nothing.
(18:18):
But yeah, for me, like I say, the whole reason
I'm doing it is because I want to, like I
want to achieve more still, like I don't want to
like fall into complacency. I want to do these bigger
things that I've always wanted to do and so it's
like kind of like a kick in the butt to
do it. And so I think that I approached it
from a good angle. But then once I like started
(18:42):
to get into it and thinking like, oh, this is
how I have to do it, then that's when it
became like a negative thing and not a positive thing.
Whereas if I from the beginning stood back and was like, Okay,
that's a cool idea, maybe I could do that. Sometimes
instead of gotten the mindset of like oh yeah, this
is I have to get up at five am and
do this or a bit of fuck myself over to
(19:05):
day's ruined that. And then it ended up ruining multiple
days because I didn't get enough sleep, I worked out
too hard in the morning, I felt dead yesterday I
was basically sick.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
So yeah, here's the here's the question. Are you going
to reapproach it with this new mindset? Are you just
done with it? Or are you going to be like, okay,
let me bring this kind of like leverage my wisdom
back into let's just take it as it is.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Very good question. No, I'm not done with it. So
I it was on like a blinkist. If those are
like fifteen minute like breakdowns of a book, so they're
really easy to digest. That's why I first heard about it,
and then I got it's on Spotify in the Premium plan,
so I've been listening to it on Spotify about halfway
through it, and I think that, like after the blow
(19:54):
up this week of not getting enough sleep for basically
make myself sick from working out too hard first thing
in the morning, I think that, like you're saying, like,
I think I can't approach it again from a better
spot now because it's got some super good ideas, like
working out in the morning is great, but you know,
take it or leave. It's find to work out later
(20:15):
in the day. But the other part of it is
just like learning something new every morning and like thinking
about where you want to go every morning. And for me,
somebody whose values or get stuff all the time, like
that's really useful for me to like refresh. Oh yeah,
that's why I'm working on this. This is where I
want to go every single day. So I think there's
really good elements to it, but I need to be
(20:38):
much more realistic and make it fit in an appropriate
way for me.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
I think my takeaway is the reminder that.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
Part of part of what we experience in our midlife
is like the doldrums or just kind of the average,
or we're feeling like is this it right? And so
I think that is a natural reaction to where we
are in life, even though you're not even forty, as
you will pointed out this idea that you know, I
want something more out of my life, or I want
this part of my life to be bigger, or you
(21:12):
know whatever. So I think that I don't think you
should you or anyone. I don't just mean you like
the greater you. We shouldn't like beat ourselves up over that.
I think the idea of self help, the idea of
self improvement, the idea of getting better every day, you know,
even if it's incrementally or whatever, I think there's great
value in that. The question is just trying to find
out what works. It's probably almost like, you know, like
(21:32):
different workouts for some people, running works, and then they're like, no,
it's gym time, No, it's plates, No, it's that's why
there's all these different things. So in the same way,
I think trying to find those things that help. Maybe
it's just strictly accountability. You don't even need a book.
You just need somebody to text every morning and say, check,
I did this thing. I spent fifteen minutes this morning,
you know whatever, like meditating on where I want to be.
(21:53):
I don't know whatever that thing is for you, like
dialing that in. And I think my takeaway from that
is leverageing our wisdom as midlifers that we've hopefully gained,
which is this, it's not all or nothing. It's not
black and white. We can exist in the gray of well,
I didn't get up at five and I didn't do this,
but like you were talking about, it has encouraged me
(22:14):
to think more proactively in the morning about what I
can be doing. You know, maybe it's encouraged me to
journal for five minutes every day. I've been able to
do that and take those aspects and be encouraged by that,
and you know, and even your desire to do that
kind of motivates me to look at myself and say,
what's what's something I can be better at or something
(22:34):
that could help my life in another way. And I
know Tyson's not going to say that, so I'm saying
that because that's that motivates me. So that's My takeaway, Yeah,
I think we're all at any age in your life.
This all stems from partly comparison to others and be like, well,
(22:57):
why am I not a billionaire?
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
I got to read the five things the billionaires do
every morning? Why am I not as successful as these people?
Why am I not? And you're looking at these self
help things and they're promising you the answers to fill
in the gaps in your life to become these things
that you're comparing yourself to, or that you know society
has propped up on a pedestal or whatever goals and
(23:22):
stuff like that. I think if you're feeling lacking in
your life in that capacity somewhere doesn't have to be
a negative feeling. Just like I should work out more,
I don't have time. How can I getting up at
five and applying that principle to your life so that
you can make sure you're feeling better about yourself because
now you're getting that workout in every day is fantastic.
(23:44):
If you're walking through your bedroom in the day and
your bed is not made, and every time you look
at it, you're like, I'm a piece of shit slob, Like, yeah,
make the bed every day. Then that's going to bring
you some sense of fulfillment, and every time you walk
past it, you're going to have a little bump of like, yeah,
I'm getting things done. But if it doesn't affect you whatsoever,
(24:05):
then don't make it a priority in your day to
do that. That's what I think that it ultimately boils
down to. And I think too many people are searching
for the magic ticket or whatever it is to get
everything done and get their life on track. But it's
a series of things, and it's all different based on
how you feel and your reaction to those things, plus
(24:26):
the return you get on those things. Like if I'm
taking my bed every morning and I'm not getting any
sense of fulfillment and I'm wasting five minutes, then that's stupid.
And if getting up at five, great, I got up
at five, I feel amazing, but guess what now I'm
tired from ten am all the way to go back
to bed, Like then maybe you need a different balance
(24:48):
or you got to work a nap in now. And
so it's not easy. And I think especially people younger
than us who are maybe more confused because we've lived
almost forty years, some of us here is like, it's
not no one has the exact answer for you personally.
(25:09):
You have to figure that out on your own. And
you can take advice from these books, you can take
advice from online courses, from life coaches, whatever you got
to do. And we're starting our own midlife Crisis is
sponsor program where for just one thousand dollars a month,
you can have William text you every morning, yeah, to
(25:30):
get you up at five am from his burner phone.
From his burner phone.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
You'll have direct access.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Yes, So that's my take. And I think it's great
to always make progress on yourself somewhere. And I thought
this question was going a different direction in the beginning.
I thought it was just going to be about self
improvement in general. And I was like, well, you can
define self improvement and so like, I'm practicing podcasts thing
(26:00):
right now. We all are. So we're proving in this realm,
in this moment, and I think if you can recognize
even those small gains, that's powerful. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
For me, what has been really useful and interesting in
reading this book or listening to it is just that
I think through life, through busy, being busy, we just
kind of forget to like improve it things because it's
not just like it's everything we do. It's it's stuff
from working working out, like relationships. It's like there's so
(26:35):
many areas in our life that we just never try
to improve on that we just like go along with it.
When if we just have a little bit of mindfulness
about like how we're doing things, they can get better,
then get easier, we can get more successful.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
And so that's how I'd be at making beds if
I had made a bed every day for the last
forty six years.
Speaker 3 (27:01):
There's still time, Tyson, there's still time.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
You can do it.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Oh my gosh, I'd be so proud.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
There's just so many things in like photography and in
you know, social media, all these different avenues where you
start doing things, you keep doing them, like you grow
complacent and you don't look to improve. And that's the
main thing that like I'm trying to remember is that
it doesn't have to be this way. I can do
(27:29):
it with the thumbsus, I can do it, I can
do it better. So yeah, it's like the mastery over
different areas of life, but also not getting carried away
with it and like letting it stress you out. Letting
it become worse for you by the focus on it,
but having the mindfulness to realize that there are different
(27:52):
ways of doing things, better ways of doing things, and remembering.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
That, Yeah, I like that. I think we can leave
the audience with you've got this, guys, you can be okay,
just one step in front of the other. Keep working
on self improvement in all capacities, and send us pictures
of your made beds. See if those are dialed in,
(28:16):
because that starts off the whole day, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:19):
Bed TikTok, bed TikTok bed, made made bed. We'll come
up with a good one for you, guys.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
Yeah, and we'll have more questions and more answers next week.
Hopefully we answered that. Dude, did we do an adequate
job answering?
Speaker 2 (28:34):
That's a question self was Does self improvement work?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
And it does?
Speaker 2 (28:40):
But yeah, it doesn't work in the straightforward way that
self help authors claim self improvement authors claim. But there's
a lot of good insights, a lot of good ideas
from it, and you just have to be mindful enough
to be realistic about who you are and where you
(29:00):
are in your life to be able to apply those
things and not try to go crazy following exactly what
these Stelf help guru say, because you'll end up feeling
disappointed and depressed after you fail, so it'll become counter
even worse.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Yeah, and with that we are the midlife Crisises. Get
out there and excel everybody. Make sure to make those
small improvements in all capacities and facets of life until
next week. See you
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