July 3, 2025 • 42 mins
Ever feel like life is pulling you in every direction — and you’re not even sure why you’re doing it all? In this episode of More Than Reality, Adam and Danielle open up about the chaos of parenting, the pressure of providing, and the struggle of staying aligned in a season full of change.
They talk candidly about battling self-doubt, impostor syndrome, and the weight of big decisions — while learning to stay rooted in their “why” and trust God’s direction, even when the path ahead feels uncertain. Whether you’re walking through transition, craving purpose, or just need encouragement to keep going, this episode is for you.
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They talk candidly about battling self-doubt, impostor syndrome, and the weight of big decisions — while learning to stay rooted in their “why” and trust God’s direction, even when the path ahead feels uncertain. Whether you’re walking through transition, craving purpose, or just need encouragement to keep going, this episode is for you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What has been your biggest challenge our burden lately.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I don't think you want me inf that. I mean,
if I'm honest, like my I feel like my biggest
challenge is you right now. How so what motivates you?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I feel like a lot of stuff just like rest
on my shoulders and so that that's just more motivation
for me to just to provide for my family. You know,
I don't want I don't want to let my family down.
I don't want to let my wife down.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
And this is More Than Reality podcast where we dive
into all things faith, family and marriage and share that
there is so much more than the reality that you
see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with
Adam and Danielle Busby.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Welcome to More Than Reality podcast. Hello, Hello, This is
episodisode for zero, episode forty of More Than Reality Podcasts
with Adam and Danielle Busby. And yeah, I mean today,
like we literally just got back from tennis courts. We
(01:17):
we had like evening tennis session. Blake had two tennis
practices today, one in the evening with like Riley and
also Lily, and we just all went up there as
a family and brought out the pickleball paddles, and Olivia
and Parker kind of played for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, he played at the park and then they came
and played for a while.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
It was pretty hot. I mean Texas, It's it's pretty
hot right now.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, but this evening was actually not that bad. It
was way hotter in the morning this morning, like when
Blake went for tennis at ten it was hot, like
in the morning, I felt it was really hot, but
there was a lot of shade too, it felt cooler.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I don't know how they can do that in the
middle of the summertime, like like right before noon out
there on the tennis courts. But man, it's it's crazy,
crazy high. But Ava and Hazel are in Louisiana right now.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yep, come back tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
They're with my mom and dad in Lake Charles and
they've been there what and then I'll bring them on
Saturday morning something like Friday, no, Saturday morning. So they've
been over there since Saturday. They've been going to I
think they were like at the Children's Museum. Mom and
(02:34):
Dad keeps sending like little photos and video updates and
stuff and all the fun that they're having. It's nice,
like because we try to break them up, you know,
during the summertime and like send them two maybe three
at a time, so they're not just getting all of
them and it makes it a little bit easier on
mom and dad. But they've been they've actually been playing
(02:56):
pickleball in the evenings.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
It's funny. Did he know they had courts over there?
But it is cute watching them play. I mean they
had Collins and Hayes on a team versus Ava and Evan.
I was like, that's cute. The two little ones, the
smallest ones are playing. I cants everybody. Hazel was probably
(03:19):
pretty good on it with her tennis skills that she's
learned with that, but yeah, it's cute. They're going to
come home tomorrow, so we pick them up tomorrow, but
they're not ready to come home. Riley's like, when it's
my turn, I want to go on a Sunday or
a Saturday, and then you pick me up on the
next Sunday or Saturday. I'm like, that's a really looks
like seven eight days. That's a long time.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Well, I mean I remember going and like like spending
time with my grandparents and stuff, and they just like
spoiled the heck out of you because you have lived
literally my nanny like lived across town. You still lived
in the same city, I know. Yeah, but I would
say over there, like multiple nights in a row, and
(04:03):
she would wake up and have breakfast for me and
we'd just I mean still like even it's funny, like
where both of my grandparents lived, I had like cousins
that lived like right around there, and so it was
just fun because it was just you wake up, have breakfast,
go play with your cousins all day.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Just I don't know, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
It's a little it's some fun little breakup from just
being at home and they're having they're having a blast.
They got mom and Dad's full attention instead of having
all five of them and they're being overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah, that's what it's good for. It's good for both sides,
like Nana and Papa to get a little bit more
intimate time with two of them, and then it's better
for the girls because then they get to like receive,
you know, a little bit more attention in those times
where we sill like separate them, which we've been doing
(05:01):
this for years, and that's why we'd like to do
like you know, like day dates or like you know,
to at a time here three here. We've never done,
which I've kind of been thinking about more recently. We've
never done like like me or you like a trip
or like a night away, which I've had some other
(05:22):
like high order multiple friends talk about how they would
do like two and two and go to here and
go in there because I like me and you take
like it's three at a time, three and then three
another time.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I mean, I just think of it, like the expense
of like I don't know, I think it's worth it
for sure, but just thinking of the expense of like
going away on a vacation and then knowing you've got
to do that are a similar vacation, like I mean,
we'd have to do it probably two to three times
at least.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Yeah, well you do.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Yeah anyway, I feel like I just add a so
like if we do that, it ain't are different than
going all together at almost in a sentence, because you
almost could really say like one hotel room versus two
hotel rooms at the same time, Like it's not really
any different.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So I start off with a connect card and let
me turn these over and shuffle. People want to turn
them and look at them.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Like there's just a lot of change and a lot
of differences and a lot of I don't know, it's
been challenging, and it's it's just a different season of
life where like we're having to make a lot of
big decisions and it's hard to constantly stay on the
(06:51):
same path like forward in a way, but like we are,
but we're not in a sense, and I don't think
that you're aware of like certain aspects. And maybe I'm
more aware because I'm not because I am pulled more
in like now and it's summer and all the kids
(07:14):
are home, and I don't know, it's just we're on
like a different pace of like work and family life
with a lot of change.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Well, I think it's just been a big transition for
one thing, like summer started. We have a lot of
change going on in our life, a lot of that stuff.
I mean, how I'm involved, there isn't there can't be
a lot of change because I work during the day
(07:44):
and I'm gone a lot during the day, and so
like two to three days out of the week, I'm
completely out of pocket, out of the house, and so yeah,
I mean kids are at home and we have just
a lot of extra stresses and stuff right now. But
I mean, I can't just put everything else that I
(08:04):
have going on on hold because it's just summer and
kids are home, and so that's what makes it, I know,
for sure, more difficult.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yeah, I know, but I'm not. I'm just saying like,
it's like it's been harder with you lately because you're you.
I don't know, that's a whole other subject. But that's
like not the first time conversation on the podcast, but
it's just that's it's been challenging. It's been challenging. I mean,
(08:36):
I feel like life as a whole has been challenging,
but I mean the amount I mean, I know, I've
taken on a bigger load with work, and I feel
like I've poured into that a lot more because of
the other changes and stuff that have happened in our life.
And so you know, it's like whenever, whenever something.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Dips, I have to elevate and and pour myself more
into work. And and then that that causes disruption and
causes chaos because it's something completely different than what we're
used to whether and a lot of the stuff that
you do, you're doing now for my home and the
(09:20):
kids are at home, which makes it way more difficult
on your end. So I mean it's I mean, I
think we're just in a rough spot right now, like
a yeah, like just a lot of pulled in different
directions and we're used to yeah, and it's changed. But
(09:42):
I mean, I know it's I know it's difficult. I
mean I know it's But.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
What was the question challenging right now or something?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
What's been your biggest challenge or burden lately?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yeah, And I think it's you and I been on
the same page and having like not being on the
same page, just making sure we're on the same page.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I mean, I don't disagree with that. I mean, I
know that there's just a lot of there's a lot
of new in our life right now, and it's a
lot of like figuring out this new season of Grayson
Bees No More. And then there's a lot of stuff
that you're working on in the back end that's like
(10:30):
future stuff. But while you're working on that, you're really
working on it from home, and right as we're getting
into summer with kids, because I mean, like what, yes,
I've taken on a heavier workload with work. We've had
like a lot of I mean every week now, we've
been doing these lifestyle shoots over the summer, and so like,
(10:53):
I mean one day, you know, I'm at the office
from you know, eight o'clock in the morning until nine
o'clock at night, and so that that's the entire day,
I'm completely gone and like barely be reached. And so
I mean, I know it's it makes things not easy
at home for sure, you know. I just in a
(11:16):
sense like whenever whenever things get hard, you like bet
on you double down, and you bet on yourself. And
so I'm trying to just make new things happen. And
I mean, it's just where we're at right now.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So your question is, what keeps you from acting on
a dream you've had for a long time? What keeps
me from it.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Self? Doubt imposter syndrome. I don't know, I get it.
I get in the way of myself a lot, like
I have higher expectations of myself and just the nature
of like how I am. You know, I'm an internal processor.
(12:01):
I like to completely think something completely through before I start,
and you know I don't and then I'm like slow
to start new things because I you know, I have
the scare of like failure, for one thing, Like I
have a fear of failure, and and so it causes
(12:22):
me to like delay diving into something new because it's like,
you know, I don't I don't want it to be
wrong from the start. You agree with that, yeah, yeah,
And then like I mean, naturally, I don't know. I mean,
I'm sure there are very like people out there that
(12:43):
are just like super confident, but I mean with me,
I am confident in my ability, but you know, bigger settings, bigger,
bigger projects and stuff like I sometimes like I'll get
in my head so much we're like man, like I
have imposter syndrome, like oh, you know, should I really
(13:05):
be here? Should I really be doing this? Should I
really be leading this? And like I kind of like
scare myself out of things or it's just that fear
of like feeling like, oh am I good enough to
do this? And and so I mean I think that's
why I like I work. I mean even right now
with the stuff that I'm doing, Like that makes me
like want to put more time and effort into stuff
(13:28):
to prove to people that, like, you know, I'm I'm
worth being here. And you know, it was a good
decision for me to be here and to be in
this room and to to be picked to do these
projects and stuff like that, and so like like I'll
make up for my shortcomings in like trying to prove
to you that, like no, like I'm going to stick
(13:50):
through it, and I'm going to put in the extra
hours and I'm going to do all these things to
like prove to you like my worth.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
That's a lot. Yeah, So it's kind of interesting what
we were just talking about, because you know, the topic
of today is what motivates you and talking about motivation
and stuff, and so it's kind of interesting that those
questions are that question popped up because it kind of
(14:22):
feeds into really the Topic's funny how that works sometimes.
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All right, so now back to the episode. What that
last question segues into the topic for today.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, And I mean it just kind of you kind
of were talking about like what you do to try
to prove yourself, and so like let's look at it
the other way. What what do you do to motivate yourself?
So like what motivates you, what drives you, what motivates you?
(18:23):
And so what's like if someone were to ask you,
like what's your why? Like what would you say? I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
I mean we we have like a lot of whys.
But I mean obviously the biggest why is like always
like kind of just worry about us having six kids,
and you know it's just like a it's a lot,
and you know we have with six kids comes with
a lot of just like extra responsibility and stuff, and
like thinking about the future, but you know, and just
(18:53):
wanting wanting things that you do to have success and
to to carry on and to support your family and stuff.
And one of those big things, like one of the
main things that I do is like just like my
photography and videography media marketing business, and you know, I
(19:14):
want to bring value to people. But you know, my
why behind that is like, you know, I want this
to be a success because I want to provide for
my family, and you know, with that comes a lot
of pressure and just right now, especially like in the
(19:35):
short term. I mean, I know, like we have like
a lot of stuff that you personally are like working
for later on this year and stuff like that, but
like right now, it's like I feel like a lot
of stuff just like wrestle on my shoulders and so
that that's just more motivation for me to just put
in extra time, put in more hours, put in you know,
do all these things because you know, I feel the
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pressure just being you know, the husband being a provider
right now, and you know, I feel like that's like
my biggest motivation and to fall into any sort of
struggle or anything like that. So I mean that's always
been like my biggest worry, Like whenever I talk to
friends or just you know, acquaintances and stuff. You know,
(20:20):
whenever they find out, oh you all have six kids.
Oh man, I feel sorry for you because you know,
that's that's a big burden. That's like a lot of
a lot of weight, that's a lot of things. And
then they start listing off all the stuff in the
future and like, yeah, I know, I've thought about that,
so yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I mean, I mean, I think that is a very
common and realistic I would say a lot of people,
but I think a lot of men have or they
maybe that's not the answer to their why, but it's
definitely something that they relate to and like feel I
(20:59):
think my my motivation is is making sure I like
if I want to live live with a purpose and
like show our girls that like this life, I mean,
like something super simple today, like we were talking about
money or talk about like things your kids want and
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it's like, dude, those things ain't going to heaven with you.
Like it's those are not valuable things. And so it's
like I want to be able to show them that,
like we can survive here in this life and we
can trust in God. And I mean I'm still figuring
out how to like love quote unquote love correctly however
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you say that, But I just I want to be
able to show them that, like more than anything, like
living for purpose and loving others and showing that like
I'm living and trying to live and trying to parent
and trying to teach y'all to love God so that
this life is not one wasted away that you're purposeful
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with it. Like everything to me is like purposeful, Like
how can this be purposeful? How can this be purposeful?
Like what's this conversation about? What am I showing them?
This about? Getting ice creamed? Like? Like what is I
don't know. I see everything as what's a lesson we
can teach them to better stow like they're upcoming of
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like whenever they need to make decisions on theirselves. And
I mean especially because it's we've got six girls to
a mom and you know, I probably overcompensate that because
I didn't have a lot of that. But I would
say a big part of mine is just my why
is because I want to show them that, like we
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can survive even though it's not perfect, even though it's
not beautiful all the time, even though it's a struggle sometimes,
but like I want to show that, like I have
to trust in God to have a purposeful life because
it doesn't come naturally, it doesn't come easy all the time.
But I would say that in the times where I'm
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you know, overwhelmed, and I've experienced a lot of those
over the over my life, and that my purpose of
what gets me through that or what's next is always
my faith. Like even before I even knew it was faith,
I feel like even as a younger, like always thought
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something else. And so it's it's interesting to be a
Christian today to be able to like really kind of
see that full circle of like, wow, that's that's not
that's me trying to live through faith with when I
used to not even know what faith was, you know.
So I want our girls to obviously grow to learn
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how to make their own decisions in how to you know,
know right from wrong and all those like little scenarios,
but like I really do I want us to teach
them as parents, you know, God has gifted us with them,
Like I want us to be able to teach them
so that they can go off on their own and
do the same purposeful life like not same, but like
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live a purposeful life, and that's kind of really not
that I feel like that is a motivation. My biggest
motivation is that, like it's hard being me as mom
who goes through a lot of these ups and downs
and you know, health things here and there and so
hospital doctor poems all these like these are things that
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like take me away that I can't like do or
be present or like all the time. And in those things,
like like man, they knock me to the ground. As
hard as it is, are as easy as it might
look to just like be out or whatever in bed
or like whatever, it is, like it really is a
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struggle still even though it sounds so simple and boring,
Like it's more struggle to lay there than it is
to be active doing something. I don't know if you
agree with that, because you're like you you probably you
love sleep, and I'm like, I know, but it's it's different.
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It's hard for me to not do in a sense.
So but a lot of my motivation comes from just
trying to be purposeful. And I think the last probably
like five years, that's really become like evident to me
that like God's really pushing that on, Like is this
for the kingdom, like them, what are we doing? Like
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that's kind of like where I that has become more
and more like evident to me, Like this is what
I want to live for and I want our want
our purpose to be like that. But I mean it's
interesting because like motivation can come in different ways. You know,
a lot of people have to if they're going to
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train for a marathon, there's different steps that they have
to take, and it's not always easy to go work out,
not all the time. Do you want to get up
when your alarm goes off in the morning and you
might want to snooze or or whatever. But like so
what is like motivation can be different and it can
look different throughout different things. And that's okay, And that's
(26:26):
okay because could I work towards something to have the
motivation of getting a reward or like ice cream or
like even things as a kids, like you go to
the doctor and like or you you teach your kids
this and you're like, okay, well all right, let's let's
get to this point and then there's a reward. You know,
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It's like there's something still that those kids are having
to get motivated through. What's what can you teach them,
what can you tell them, and how to motivate them.
But if there's one perfect answer, I don't think is
what I'm trying to say, you know. And I think
even with what you can say is motivation, when I
could say is motivation, that's what we feel. But tomorrow
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we might be in a scenario that might be work
or parenting, or traffic or like I don't know what
it might be rained weather, I don't know, something else
might be something we need to be motivated by. Oh,
I don't want to go on a fifteen hour car ride.
But you know what, I'm really excited to listen to
that new podcast about blah blah blah blah, and so
I'm going to be excited to like just be in
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the glunt drive like something like that. Like small little
motivations like that are okay too, you know, But I
think it's important when we're faced with life struggles, challenges, obstacles.
I mean, if I look at like the where we
are in like this a phase of like a lot
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of change, a lot of decisions having to be made,
a lot like we have to try not to lose
the why. And it's very easy to be distracted and
to be like, yeah, but we don't have to do that,
like we don't, we don't. We don't have to uh
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sell our house, we don't have to move, we don't
have to change this, We don't have to we don't
have to do any of that. Yeah, but what is
our motivation and what is the why behind it? And
those are things that we have to say forward and
face forward of the ultimate why is where? But what
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is God telling us to do? What is God showing us?
What is God speaking to us? And I mean I
say this because like I have these conversations, especially with Blake,
because you know, she is part of the one experiencing
change with all these scenarios the most because she's a
teenager and doesn't want any of those things to change.
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But I feel like it's very important to have these
kind of like raw cars conversations when they pop up
just in the car breakfast or like wherever they are,
because it gives me opportunities to tell her those.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Whys yeah, and you know, and to convey like you know,
you set your you set your mind on things above
and you know he'll he'll reorient reorient your desires and
you know. I feel like we've were in that mode
(29:33):
right now of him reorienting like our desires of I
want you, I want you to go, I want you here,
and you know, and he's putting these desires on our heart.
He's putting these impressions on our heart. He's he's moving
us in a direction. And God doesn't want you to
(29:54):
be still. He wants you to go. And yes, we
could theoretically, we could make some changes, we could figure
things out, and we could stay here, but that's we
feel like that's not where God wants us to be.
We feel like God is is directing us out of
this space right here and move and moving us because
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he's changing our desires. And you know, and a lot
of people and I've seen a lot of comments over
the last month or so or a couple of months now,
because a lot of people don't understand it.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
They don't that why would you lose that? Why step
away from your beautiful yard? Why step away from your pool?
And and honestly, when you think about it, you're like,
I know, why would we leave this? It's great, it's
great in a sense quote quote great to me, I'm like,
God is showing me that there's something more, more, better,
(30:53):
more better, and this more better over there, and that
to me is is better and I and I trust that,
and I believe that. And it doesn't matter what the
looks or the aesthetics or what I trust in that
unknown more than anything, because I feel the piece about
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what what is to come that I don't even know,
like I don't even know. And so it's good just
to remind yourself and always tell yourself when you're feeling
not motivated, why am I doing this? Like why am
why am I here? Yeah? And I've had to go
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through a lot of those lot those questions a lot
of times. Okay, God, like we've come this far pregnancy
being find out you're pregnant, Like what's the purpose? Why
are we here? What? Why? Why are we doing this?
Why do we have a TV show? Why do we like?
All these things that are all these things are uncom comfortable,
(32:01):
A lot of them are uncomfortable. They still are uncomfortable
even though we're not really quote unquote those people, but
will always be a part of those people. But it's
still okay to ask yourself, and you have to ask
you Okay, break it all down when you're feeling overwhelmed,
and you just got to say why am I here?
And what am I needing to do? God? What have
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you called me to do in this moment? And slowing down, asking,
having silence and peace, quietness, with just those two little
statements can change your whole day, can change your whole year,
can change your whole life. And you have to I
think learn, especially as someone who's like likes control, is
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that the best foot forward is the one that you
don't control yourself. You know what I mean. I know
that probably doesn't even make sense, but like there's a
lot of times where we have fear or we're scared.
It's so hard to just go, so hard to have
like your first public speaking event. It's so hard to
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get up in front of your class and like say
your speech or raise your hand because you have an answer.
It's like it's so hard sometimes to just make a
step forward. Those steps, I think the ones that are
the most uncomfortable are can be the ones that grow
you the most. And I feel like we're in such
a huge season of that of like, man, we are
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taking a big step and we're like trusting in God's
guidance through this and something we've been I've been praying
about for years, is like just keep us on the
right path, like keep us on the path to you,
keep us on the path to you, because I don't
know which way to go, and I don't know, and
I don't want to make a bad decision. But I
know if I follow you, your path is going to
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lead to holiness, righteousness, wholesomeness and good. And that's what
I can That's what I know. And so you know
that statement of like what do you know? That is
what I know what it's gonna take to get there.
I don't know the word's gonna take me how to
do it. All I know is that at the end,
if I follow that, it will be good. And that's
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where I sit today. I follow that, and I know
there will be good. I know there'll be better. I
know they'll be more than more than better, more better.
That's good.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
I mean, I know, Like with me, whenever I am
most stressed and most I guess fearful about like things
that are happening or whatever I feel like, that's whenever
I lean into my faith and my prayer time and stuff,
and then you know, I'll I'll receive guidance direction wisdom,
(34:43):
because that's like what I'm like just praying for praying
over praying, and but then whenever I receive that, it's like, okay,
I got it. I like I know which direction I
need to go, and I just start to go and
I lose sight of you know, that intentionality of Okay,
(35:08):
what directed me here? You know, and I just like
feel that that void with busyness and like action and
then and then and I kind of push that aside, okay,
like okay, God, I got it, and I'm running in
this direction. And you know, whenever it's up to our
(35:29):
own devices, you start to veer because you don't have
that compass. I need to focus on that of you know,
what what got me in this direction? What got me
you know, shining that light on my path and showing
that next step forward, and you know, because I'll get
(35:51):
to a point where, like, you know, it's like in
a sense like you're you pray, and you pray and pray,
and God like shines a light, Okay, like take a
step here and go in this direction, and then you
just run out of that light in a sense, and
you're just running into a direction.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Now you're like, oh I saw you shine this.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
And then all of a sudden you find yourself standing
in the dark again. And you know, and so I
I fall into that a lot.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
So what so what A take of this analogy is
that when God shines the light down a path, you
don't run through the light. You stay with the light
as he's slowly, slowly lifting it. And I I agree
with you, and I probably faltered to this at times too,
(36:41):
but like getting absorbed in Okay, I know why I'm
here and I know the purpose is, then you get
absorbed in the doing the doing, and then that's why
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
That light yeah, and you know, and the real what
God really wants is like no, like, okay, I'm lighting
your path. Stay in the light, and you know, keep
coming back to me, keep you know, stay with me.
He wants to walk with us. And we're like a
child that you know, you're walking in a dark path
(37:22):
or whatever. You have a flashlight. Your kids sees something
and they think they know they're going in the right direction,
they think they know the way, and they just take
off running and all of a sudden they find themselves
in the dark. Wait, talk about you, because you just
said that I know you're saying it, and so we are.
And that's why I just said. So we are like children,
and I think the Bible even refers to us as children.
(37:45):
But we should have you know, we should have a
child like faith, a child like faith, and not just
like we should be running around like aimless children.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
So just stay I guess my words of advice would
be stay obedient to your why.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
Yeah, yes, be moving forward, but never forget what your
why is and use that as your motivation of like, okay,
this is my why. And to always stay oriented with
your why. A needle of a compass is always still
connected to that center, and to always know, like looking
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back and seeing this is where I came from, this
is why I'm in this direction, and this this keeps
my path straight.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
Yeah, And I think that like no matter what season
you're walking in, whether you're listening to this in your car,
you're at home, or you're working out, or you're watching
this on YouTube or whatever, I mean, we are. We
all go through seasons and we all go through oh
definitely trials. To me, that goal is just to say,
don't stay stagnant, just like keep going. Your story matters,
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you matter, your why matters, and you are not just
not just just a human being, like you are God's
child and you know he loves you and he has
a plan for you. And so that speaks very highly
to me as saying, like, you know, not walking through
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life with like the quote unquote God, I'm father figure
to understanding that like man like even though that was
not a type of love that I ever really understood,
but the Father's love, the God's love for me is
more abundantly than anything that anyone could ever I love
my children more than anything, but like you know what,
(39:41):
God loves me more than that, and you too, like
you too, like no matter no matter what life is
going to throw your way, like there's always always a
purpose for you and for you to take the next
step forward. I do believe that like we were made
for more. We were made for more, meaning not to
(40:05):
give us more. We deserve more. It's none of that.
It's it's saying I'm saying that in a way, and
like we were like this life that we have all
these kids and blah blah, it's like, but there's more
to it than this, yeah, Like there's more to life
than this this, yeah, you know, And so I just
(40:25):
I don't know. I hope that resonates with someone. You know,
you were worthy, You're enough. God sees you, He wants
your heart. If you don't know your why.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Ask him ask him your why, you know, yeah, or
if you're sitting there like, you know, just wondering, like
I don't know if I have a purpose. I mean,
do some soul searching and and find like why, what's
your why? What's your purpose? What? What drives you, what
motivates you, what pushes you to do, To do some
(40:55):
soul searching, and like to really narrow that down and
see you, you know, and get back onto that compass,
you know, because us we're like children, we like easily
kind of get distracted or we get we veer off
path and whatever, and then you find yourself in a
place and you're just in a dark room and you
don't realize where you're at and because you lost track
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of what that why was and what that purpose is.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
And so yeah, awesome, Well thanks for listening today. Yeah
to episode forty forty. Can ever have forty already.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
More than reality podcast? And we will see you in
the next one.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
All right, bye, guys, all right, we love you, guys.
What has been your biggest challenge our burden lately.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I don't think you want me inf that. I mean,
if I'm honest, like my I feel like my biggest
challenge is you right now. How so what motivates you?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I feel like a lot of stuff just like rest
on my shoulders and so that that's just more motivation
for me to just to provide for my family. You know,
I don't want I don't want to let my family down.
I don't want to let my wife down.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
And this is More Than Reality podcast where we dive
into all things faith, family and marriage and share that
there is so much more than the reality that you
see on the surface. Welcome to More Than Reality with
Adam and Danielle Busby.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Welcome to More Than Reality podcast. Hello, Hello, This is
episodisode for zero, episode forty of More Than Reality Podcasts
with Adam and Danielle Busby. And yeah, I mean today,
like we literally just got back from tennis courts. We
(01:17):
we had like evening tennis session. Blake had two tennis
practices today, one in the evening with like Riley and
also Lily, and we just all went up there as
a family and brought out the pickleball paddles, and Olivia
and Parker kind of played for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, he played at the park and then they came
and played for a while.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
It was pretty hot. I mean Texas, It's it's pretty
hot right now.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, but this evening was actually not that bad. It
was way hotter in the morning this morning, like when
Blake went for tennis at ten it was hot, like
in the morning, I felt it was really hot, but
there was a lot of shade too, it felt cooler.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
I don't know how they can do that in the
middle of the summertime, like like right before noon out
there on the tennis courts. But man, it's it's crazy,
crazy high. But Ava and Hazel are in Louisiana right now.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yep, come back tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
They're with my mom and dad in Lake Charles and
they've been there what and then I'll bring them on
Saturday morning something like Friday, no, Saturday morning. So they've
been over there since Saturday. They've been going to I
think they were like at the Children's Museum. Mom and
(02:34):
Dad keeps sending like little photos and video updates and
stuff and all the fun that they're having. It's nice,
like because we try to break them up, you know,
during the summertime and like send them two maybe three
at a time, so they're not just getting all of
them and it makes it a little bit easier on
mom and dad. But they've been they've actually been playing
(02:56):
pickleball in the evenings.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
It's funny. Did he know they had courts over there?
But it is cute watching them play. I mean they
had Collins and Hayes on a team versus Ava and Evan.
I was like, that's cute. The two little ones, the
smallest ones are playing. I cants everybody. Hazel was probably
(03:19):
pretty good on it with her tennis skills that she's
learned with that, but yeah, it's cute. They're going to
come home tomorrow, so we pick them up tomorrow, but
they're not ready to come home. Riley's like, when it's
my turn, I want to go on a Sunday or
a Saturday, and then you pick me up on the
next Sunday or Saturday. I'm like, that's a really looks
like seven eight days. That's a long time.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Well, I mean I remember going and like like spending
time with my grandparents and stuff, and they just like
spoiled the heck out of you because you have lived
literally my nanny like lived across town. You still lived
in the same city, I know. Yeah, but I would
say over there, like multiple nights in a row, and
(04:03):
she would wake up and have breakfast for me and
we'd just I mean still like even it's funny, like
where both of my grandparents lived, I had like cousins
that lived like right around there, and so it was
just fun because it was just you wake up, have breakfast,
go play with your cousins all day.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Just I don't know, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
It's a little it's some fun little breakup from just
being at home and they're having they're having a blast.
They got mom and Dad's full attention instead of having
all five of them and they're being overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah, that's what it's good for. It's good for both sides,
like Nana and Papa to get a little bit more
intimate time with two of them, and then it's better
for the girls because then they get to like receive,
you know, a little bit more attention in those times
where we sill like separate them, which we've been doing
(05:01):
this for years, and that's why we'd like to do
like you know, like day dates or like you know,
to at a time here three here. We've never done,
which I've kind of been thinking about more recently. We've
never done like like me or you like a trip
or like a night away, which I've had some other
(05:22):
like high order multiple friends talk about how they would
do like two and two and go to here and
go in there because I like me and you take
like it's three at a time, three and then three
another time.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I mean, I just think of it, like the expense
of like I don't know, I think it's worth it
for sure, but just thinking of the expense of like
going away on a vacation and then knowing you've got
to do that are a similar vacation, like I mean,
we'd have to do it probably two to three times
at least.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Yeah, well you do.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Yeah anyway, I feel like I just add a so
like if we do that, it ain't are different than
going all together at almost in a sentence, because you
almost could really say like one hotel room versus two
hotel rooms at the same time, Like it's not really
any different.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So I start off with a connect card and let
me turn these over and shuffle. People want to turn
them and look at them.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Like there's just a lot of change and a lot
of differences and a lot of I don't know, it's
been challenging, and it's it's just a different season of
life where like we're having to make a lot of
big decisions and it's hard to constantly stay on the
(06:51):
same path like forward in a way, but like we are,
but we're not in a sense, and I don't think
that you're aware of like certain aspects. And maybe I'm
more aware because I'm not because I am pulled more
in like now and it's summer and all the kids
(07:14):
are home, and I don't know, it's just we're on
like a different pace of like work and family life
with a lot of change.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Well, I think it's just been a big transition for
one thing, like summer started. We have a lot of
change going on in our life, a lot of that stuff.
I mean, how I'm involved, there isn't there can't be
a lot of change because I work during the day
(07:44):
and I'm gone a lot during the day, and so
like two to three days out of the week, I'm
completely out of pocket, out of the house, and so yeah,
I mean kids are at home and we have just
a lot of extra stresses and stuff right now. But
I mean, I can't just put everything else that I
(08:04):
have going on on hold because it's just summer and
kids are home, and so that's what makes it, I know,
for sure, more difficult.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yeah, I know, but I'm not. I'm just saying like,
it's like it's been harder with you lately because you're you.
I don't know, that's a whole other subject. But that's
like not the first time conversation on the podcast, but
it's just that's it's been challenging. It's been challenging. I mean,
(08:36):
I feel like life as a whole has been challenging,
but I mean the amount I mean, I know, I've
taken on a bigger load with work, and I feel
like I've poured into that a lot more because of
the other changes and stuff that have happened in our life.
And so you know, it's like whenever, whenever something.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Dips, I have to elevate and and pour myself more
into work. And and then that that causes disruption and
causes chaos because it's something completely different than what we're
used to whether and a lot of the stuff that
you do, you're doing now for my home and the
(09:20):
kids are at home, which makes it way more difficult
on your end. So I mean it's I mean, I
think we're just in a rough spot right now, like
a yeah, like just a lot of pulled in different
directions and we're used to yeah, and it's changed. But
(09:42):
I mean, I know it's I know it's difficult. I
mean I know it's But.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
What was the question challenging right now or something?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
What's been your biggest challenge or burden lately?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yeah, And I think it's you and I been on
the same page and having like not being on the
same page, just making sure we're on the same page.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I mean, I don't disagree with that. I mean, I
know that there's just a lot of there's a lot
of new in our life right now, and it's a
lot of like figuring out this new season of Grayson
Bees No More. And then there's a lot of stuff
that you're working on in the back end that's like
(10:30):
future stuff. But while you're working on that, you're really
working on it from home, and right as we're getting
into summer with kids, because I mean, like what, yes,
I've taken on a heavier workload with work. We've had
like a lot of I mean every week now, we've
been doing these lifestyle shoots over the summer, and so like,
(10:53):
I mean one day, you know, I'm at the office
from you know, eight o'clock in the morning until nine
o'clock at night, and so that that's the entire day,
I'm completely gone and like barely be reached. And so
I mean, I know it's it makes things not easy
at home for sure, you know. I just in a
(11:16):
sense like whenever whenever things get hard, you like bet
on you double down, and you bet on yourself. And
so I'm trying to just make new things happen. And
I mean, it's just where we're at right now.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
So your question is, what keeps you from acting on
a dream you've had for a long time? What keeps
me from it.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Self? Doubt imposter syndrome. I don't know, I get it.
I get in the way of myself a lot, like
I have higher expectations of myself and just the nature
of like how I am. You know, I'm an internal processor.
(12:01):
I like to completely think something completely through before I start,
and you know I don't and then I'm like slow
to start new things because I you know, I have
the scare of like failure, for one thing, Like I
have a fear of failure, and and so it causes
(12:22):
me to like delay diving into something new because it's like,
you know, I don't I don't want it to be
wrong from the start. You agree with that, yeah, yeah,
And then like I mean, naturally, I don't know. I mean,
I'm sure there are very like people out there that
(12:43):
are just like super confident, but I mean with me,
I am confident in my ability, but you know, bigger settings, bigger,
bigger projects and stuff like I sometimes like I'll get
in my head so much we're like man, like I
have imposter syndrome, like oh, you know, should I really
(13:05):
be here? Should I really be doing this? Should I
really be leading this? And like I kind of like
scare myself out of things or it's just that fear
of like feeling like, oh am I good enough to
do this? And and so I mean I think that's
why I like I work. I mean even right now
with the stuff that I'm doing, Like that makes me
like want to put more time and effort into stuff
(13:28):
to prove to people that, like, you know, I'm I'm
worth being here. And you know, it was a good
decision for me to be here and to be in
this room and to to be picked to do these
projects and stuff like that, and so like like I'll
make up for my shortcomings in like trying to prove
to you that, like no, like I'm going to stick
(13:50):
through it, and I'm going to put in the extra
hours and I'm going to do all these things to
like prove to you like my worth.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
That's a lot. Yeah, So it's kind of interesting what
we were just talking about, because you know, the topic
of today is what motivates you and talking about motivation
and stuff, and so it's kind of interesting that those
questions are that question popped up because it kind of
(14:22):
feeds into really the Topic's funny how that works sometimes.
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All right, so now back to the episode. What that
last question segues into the topic for today.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Yeah, And I mean it just kind of you kind
of were talking about like what you do to try
to prove yourself, and so like let's look at it
the other way. What what do you do to motivate yourself?
So like what motivates you, what drives you, what motivates you?
(18:23):
And so what's like if someone were to ask you,
like what's your why? Like what would you say? I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
I mean we we have like a lot of whys.
But I mean obviously the biggest why is like always
like kind of just worry about us having six kids,
and you know it's just like a it's a lot,
and you know we have with six kids comes with
a lot of just like extra responsibility and stuff, and
like thinking about the future, but you know, and just
(18:53):
wanting wanting things that you do to have success and
to to carry on and to support your family and stuff.
And one of those big things, like one of the
main things that I do is like just like my
photography and videography media marketing business, and you know, I
(19:14):
want to bring value to people. But you know, my
why behind that is like, you know, I want this
to be a success because I want to provide for
my family, and you know, with that comes a lot
of pressure and just right now, especially like in the
(19:35):
short term. I mean, I know, like we have like
a lot of stuff that you personally are like working
for later on this year and stuff like that, but
like right now, it's like I feel like a lot
of stuff just like wrestle on my shoulders and so
that that's just more motivation for me to just put
in extra time, put in more hours, put in you know,
do all these things because you know, I feel the
(19:59):
pressure just being you know, the husband being a provider
right now, and you know, I feel like that's like
my biggest motivation and to fall into any sort of
struggle or anything like that. So I mean that's always
been like my biggest worry, Like whenever I talk to
friends or just you know, acquaintances and stuff. You know,
(20:20):
whenever they find out, oh you all have six kids.
Oh man, I feel sorry for you because you know,
that's that's a big burden. That's like a lot of
a lot of weight, that's a lot of things. And
then they start listing off all the stuff in the
future and like, yeah, I know, I've thought about that,
so yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I mean, I mean, I think that is a very
common and realistic I would say a lot of people,
but I think a lot of men have or they
maybe that's not the answer to their why, but it's
definitely something that they relate to and like feel I
(20:59):
think my my motivation is is making sure I like
if I want to live live with a purpose and
like show our girls that like this life, I mean,
like something super simple today, like we were talking about
money or talk about like things your kids want and
(21:21):
it's like, dude, those things ain't going to heaven with you.
Like it's those are not valuable things. And so it's
like I want to be able to show them that,
like we can survive here in this life and we
can trust in God. And I mean I'm still figuring
out how to like love quote unquote love correctly however
(21:46):
you say that, But I just I want to be
able to show them that, like more than anything, like
living for purpose and loving others and showing that like
I'm living and trying to live and trying to parent
and trying to teach y'all to love God so that
this life is not one wasted away that you're purposeful
(22:10):
with it. Like everything to me is like purposeful, Like
how can this be purposeful? How can this be purposeful?
Like what's this conversation about? What am I showing them?
This about? Getting ice creamed? Like? Like what is I
don't know. I see everything as what's a lesson we
can teach them to better stow like they're upcoming of
(22:32):
like whenever they need to make decisions on theirselves. And
I mean especially because it's we've got six girls to
a mom and you know, I probably overcompensate that because
I didn't have a lot of that. But I would
say a big part of mine is just my why
is because I want to show them that, like we
(22:53):
can survive even though it's not perfect, even though it's
not beautiful all the time, even though it's a struggle sometimes,
but like I want to show that, like I have
to trust in God to have a purposeful life because
it doesn't come naturally, it doesn't come easy all the time.
But I would say that in the times where I'm
(23:14):
you know, overwhelmed, and I've experienced a lot of those
over the over my life, and that my purpose of
what gets me through that or what's next is always
my faith. Like even before I even knew it was faith,
I feel like even as a younger, like always thought
(23:35):
something else. And so it's it's interesting to be a
Christian today to be able to like really kind of
see that full circle of like, wow, that's that's not
that's me trying to live through faith with when I
used to not even know what faith was, you know.
So I want our girls to obviously grow to learn
(23:56):
how to make their own decisions in how to you know,
know right from wrong and all those like little scenarios,
but like I really do I want us to teach
them as parents, you know, God has gifted us with them,
Like I want us to be able to teach them
so that they can go off on their own and
do the same purposeful life like not same, but like
(24:19):
live a purposeful life, and that's kind of really not
that I feel like that is a motivation. My biggest
motivation is that, like it's hard being me as mom
who goes through a lot of these ups and downs
and you know, health things here and there and so
hospital doctor poems all these like these are things that
(24:39):
like take me away that I can't like do or
be present or like all the time. And in those things,
like like man, they knock me to the ground. As
hard as it is, are as easy as it might
look to just like be out or whatever in bed
or like whatever, it is, like it really is a
(25:00):
struggle still even though it sounds so simple and boring,
Like it's more struggle to lay there than it is
to be active doing something. I don't know if you
agree with that, because you're like you you probably you
love sleep, and I'm like, I know, but it's it's different.
(25:23):
It's hard for me to not do in a sense.
So but a lot of my motivation comes from just
trying to be purposeful. And I think the last probably
like five years, that's really become like evident to me
that like God's really pushing that on, Like is this
for the kingdom, like them, what are we doing? Like
(25:43):
that's kind of like where I that has become more
and more like evident to me, Like this is what
I want to live for and I want our want
our purpose to be like that. But I mean it's
interesting because like motivation can come in different ways. You know,
a lot of people have to if they're going to
(26:04):
train for a marathon, there's different steps that they have
to take, and it's not always easy to go work out,
not all the time. Do you want to get up
when your alarm goes off in the morning and you
might want to snooze or or whatever. But like so
what is like motivation can be different and it can
look different throughout different things. And that's okay, And that's
(26:26):
okay because could I work towards something to have the
motivation of getting a reward or like ice cream or
like even things as a kids, like you go to
the doctor and like or you you teach your kids
this and you're like, okay, well all right, let's let's
get to this point and then there's a reward. You know,
(26:48):
It's like there's something still that those kids are having
to get motivated through. What's what can you teach them,
what can you tell them, and how to motivate them.
But if there's one perfect answer, I don't think is
what I'm trying to say, you know. And I think
even with what you can say is motivation, when I
could say is motivation, that's what we feel. But tomorrow
(27:09):
we might be in a scenario that might be work
or parenting, or traffic or like I don't know what
it might be rained weather, I don't know, something else
might be something we need to be motivated by. Oh,
I don't want to go on a fifteen hour car ride.
But you know what, I'm really excited to listen to
that new podcast about blah blah blah blah, and so
I'm going to be excited to like just be in
(27:31):
the glunt drive like something like that. Like small little
motivations like that are okay too, you know, But I
think it's important when we're faced with life struggles, challenges, obstacles.
I mean, if I look at like the where we
are in like this a phase of like a lot
(27:51):
of change, a lot of decisions having to be made,
a lot like we have to try not to lose
the why. And it's very easy to be distracted and
to be like, yeah, but we don't have to do that,
like we don't, we don't. We don't have to uh
(28:11):
sell our house, we don't have to move, we don't
have to change this, We don't have to we don't
have to do any of that. Yeah, but what is
our motivation and what is the why behind it? And
those are things that we have to say forward and
face forward of the ultimate why is where? But what
(28:34):
is God telling us to do? What is God showing us?
What is God speaking to us? And I mean I
say this because like I have these conversations, especially with Blake,
because you know, she is part of the one experiencing
change with all these scenarios the most because she's a
teenager and doesn't want any of those things to change.
(28:56):
But I feel like it's very important to have these
kind of like raw cars conversations when they pop up
just in the car breakfast or like wherever they are,
because it gives me opportunities to tell her those.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
Whys yeah, and you know, and to convey like you know,
you set your you set your mind on things above
and you know he'll he'll reorient reorient your desires and
you know. I feel like we've were in that mode
(29:33):
right now of him reorienting like our desires of I
want you, I want you to go, I want you here,
and you know, and he's putting these desires on our heart.
He's putting these impressions on our heart. He's he's moving
us in a direction. And God doesn't want you to
(29:54):
be still. He wants you to go. And yes, we
could theoretically, we could make some changes, we could figure
things out, and we could stay here, but that's we
feel like that's not where God wants us to be.
We feel like God is is directing us out of
this space right here and move and moving us because
(30:18):
he's changing our desires. And you know, and a lot
of people and I've seen a lot of comments over
the last month or so or a couple of months now,
because a lot of people don't understand it.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
They don't that why would you lose that? Why step
away from your beautiful yard? Why step away from your pool?
And and honestly, when you think about it, you're like,
I know, why would we leave this? It's great, it's
great in a sense quote quote great to me, I'm like,
God is showing me that there's something more, more, better,
(30:53):
more better, and this more better over there, and that
to me is is better and I and I trust that,
and I believe that. And it doesn't matter what the
looks or the aesthetics or what I trust in that
unknown more than anything, because I feel the piece about
(31:16):
what what is to come that I don't even know,
like I don't even know. And so it's good just
to remind yourself and always tell yourself when you're feeling
not motivated, why am I doing this? Like why am
why am I here? Yeah? And I've had to go
(31:38):
through a lot of those lot those questions a lot
of times. Okay, God, like we've come this far pregnancy
being find out you're pregnant, Like what's the purpose? Why
are we here? What? Why? Why are we doing this?
Why do we have a TV show? Why do we like?
All these things that are all these things are uncom comfortable,
(32:01):
A lot of them are uncomfortable. They still are uncomfortable
even though we're not really quote unquote those people, but
will always be a part of those people. But it's
still okay to ask yourself, and you have to ask
you Okay, break it all down when you're feeling overwhelmed,
and you just got to say why am I here?
And what am I needing to do? God? What have
(32:22):
you called me to do in this moment? And slowing down, asking,
having silence and peace, quietness, with just those two little
statements can change your whole day, can change your whole year,
can change your whole life. And you have to I
think learn, especially as someone who's like likes control, is
(32:43):
that the best foot forward is the one that you
don't control yourself. You know what I mean. I know
that probably doesn't even make sense, but like there's a
lot of times where we have fear or we're scared.
It's so hard to just go, so hard to have
like your first public speaking event. It's so hard to
(33:04):
get up in front of your class and like say
your speech or raise your hand because you have an answer.
It's like it's so hard sometimes to just make a
step forward. Those steps, I think the ones that are
the most uncomfortable are can be the ones that grow
you the most. And I feel like we're in such
a huge season of that of like, man, we are
(33:25):
taking a big step and we're like trusting in God's
guidance through this and something we've been I've been praying
about for years, is like just keep us on the
right path, like keep us on the path to you,
keep us on the path to you, because I don't
know which way to go, and I don't know, and
I don't want to make a bad decision. But I
know if I follow you, your path is going to
(33:46):
lead to holiness, righteousness, wholesomeness and good. And that's what
I can That's what I know. And so you know
that statement of like what do you know? That is
what I know what it's gonna take to get there.
I don't know the word's gonna take me how to
do it. All I know is that at the end,
if I follow that, it will be good. And that's
(34:08):
where I sit today. I follow that, and I know
there will be good. I know there'll be better. I
know they'll be more than more than better, more better.
That's good.
Speaker 1 (34:21):
I mean, I know, Like with me, whenever I am
most stressed and most I guess fearful about like things
that are happening or whatever I feel like, that's whenever
I lean into my faith and my prayer time and stuff,
and then you know, I'll I'll receive guidance direction wisdom,
(34:43):
because that's like what I'm like just praying for praying
over praying, and but then whenever I receive that, it's like, okay,
I got it. I like I know which direction I
need to go, and I just start to go and
I lose sight of you know, that intentionality of Okay,
(35:08):
what directed me here? You know, and I just like
feel that that void with busyness and like action and
then and then and I kind of push that aside, okay,
like okay, God, I got it, and I'm running in
this direction. And you know, whenever it's up to our
(35:29):
own devices, you start to veer because you don't have
that compass. I need to focus on that of you know,
what what got me in this direction? What got me
you know, shining that light on my path and showing
that next step forward, and you know, because I'll get
(35:51):
to a point where, like, you know, it's like in
a sense like you're you pray, and you pray and pray,
and God like shines a light, Okay, like take a
step here and go in this direction, and then you
just run out of that light in a sense, and
you're just running into a direction.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Now you're like, oh I saw you shine this.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
And then all of a sudden you find yourself standing
in the dark again. And you know, and so I
I fall into that a lot.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
So what so what A take of this analogy is
that when God shines the light down a path, you
don't run through the light. You stay with the light
as he's slowly, slowly lifting it. And I I agree
with you, and I probably faltered to this at times too,
(36:41):
but like getting absorbed in Okay, I know why I'm
here and I know the purpose is, then you get
absorbed in the doing the doing, and then that's why
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (36:58):
That light yeah, and you know, and the real what
God really wants is like no, like, okay, I'm lighting
your path. Stay in the light, and you know, keep
coming back to me, keep you know, stay with me.
He wants to walk with us. And we're like a
child that you know, you're walking in a dark path
(37:22):
or whatever. You have a flashlight. Your kids sees something
and they think they know they're going in the right direction,
they think they know the way, and they just take
off running and all of a sudden they find themselves
in the dark. Wait, talk about you, because you just
said that I know you're saying it, and so we are.
And that's why I just said. So we are like children,
and I think the Bible even refers to us as children.
(37:45):
But we should have you know, we should have a
child like faith, a child like faith, and not just
like we should be running around like aimless children.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
So just stay I guess my words of advice would
be stay obedient to your why.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
Yeah, yes, be moving forward, but never forget what your
why is and use that as your motivation of like, okay,
this is my why. And to always stay oriented with
your why. A needle of a compass is always still
connected to that center, and to always know, like looking
(38:27):
back and seeing this is where I came from, this
is why I'm in this direction, and this this keeps
my path straight.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
Yeah, And I think that like no matter what season
you're walking in, whether you're listening to this in your car,
you're at home, or you're working out, or you're watching
this on YouTube or whatever, I mean, we are. We
all go through seasons and we all go through oh
definitely trials. To me, that goal is just to say,
don't stay stagnant, just like keep going. Your story matters,
(39:00):
you matter, your why matters, and you are not just
not just just a human being, like you are God's
child and you know he loves you and he has
a plan for you. And so that speaks very highly
to me as saying, like, you know, not walking through
(39:20):
life with like the quote unquote God, I'm father figure
to understanding that like man like even though that was
not a type of love that I ever really understood,
but the Father's love, the God's love for me is
more abundantly than anything that anyone could ever I love
my children more than anything, but like you know what,
(39:41):
God loves me more than that, and you too, like
you too, like no matter no matter what life is
going to throw your way, like there's always always a
purpose for you and for you to take the next
step forward. I do believe that like we were made
for more. We were made for more, meaning not to
(40:05):
give us more. We deserve more. It's none of that.
It's it's saying I'm saying that in a way, and
like we were like this life that we have all
these kids and blah blah, it's like, but there's more
to it than this, yeah, Like there's more to life
than this this, yeah, you know, And so I just
(40:25):
I don't know. I hope that resonates with someone. You know,
you were worthy, You're enough. God sees you, He wants
your heart. If you don't know your why.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
Ask him ask him your why, you know, yeah, or
if you're sitting there like, you know, just wondering, like
I don't know if I have a purpose. I mean,
do some soul searching and and find like why, what's
your why? What's your purpose? What? What drives you, what
motivates you, what pushes you to do, To do some
(40:55):
soul searching, and like to really narrow that down and
see you, you know, and get back onto that compass,
you know, because us we're like children, we like easily
kind of get distracted or we get we veer off
path and whatever, and then you find yourself in a
place and you're just in a dark room and you
don't realize where you're at and because you lost track
(41:19):
of what that why was and what that purpose is.
Speaker 2 (41:22):
And so yeah, awesome, Well thanks for listening today. Yeah
to episode forty forty. Can ever have forty already.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
More than reality podcast? And we will see you in
the next one.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
All right, bye, guys, all right, we love you, guys.
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