August 7, 2024 • 31 mins
In Episode 2, Our host dives deep into the challenges and heartaches of navigating a tumultuous relationship with his ex-wife. He shares personal anecdotes about how humor and resilience have helped him and his children cope with the fallout from deceit and betrayal. Through raw and candid reflections, Craig discusses the impact of a manipulative cult leader on his family, the emotional toll on his children, and the importance of maintaining high vibrations and spiritual practices to overcome adversity. This episode underscores the complexities of truth, the struggle for integrity, and the journey towards healing and personal growth.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Well, welcome to my wife join Nicolet makes me kind
of kiggle when I say that, which is the way
I approach a lot of things. People think you can't
laugh about certain topics, obviously death or other they're off
(00:27):
limits topics according to other people. According to comedians and creators,
that's not the case, because we don't live in those boxes.
And I think part of living in those boxes is
an epidemic and a problem with our society because we
have those boxes of forbidden zones. The people in charge,
(00:51):
basically the big pockets and so on, they stay there
because they're not questioned. You can't question authority because that's
not the paradigm that they have set forth. And that's
also what happens here is even bringing this up makes people.
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It puts them on edge, it puts them in fear.
Oh my guy works for me with me, He said,
I said, what do you think of the podcast? He's
a little heavy handed, And I didn't just accept that
as truth or really respond to it in a way.
Oh my god, I got to make it not heavy handed.
(01:35):
Said what does that mean to you? What does it mean?
And he really didn't have clear answers on it, but
I did want to hear so I can do a
deeper dive into something that's really fluid, really organic. Isn't rehearsed.
It just comes from this, this divine truth, and people say, oh,
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there's the truth, and there's your truth. There's all different truths.
This is. These are behaviors and actions that took place.
The perception issue is if I call a name, or
if I said this, or the accusation or whatever it is,
that's different than sharing actual events that took place. Now,
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of course there's going to be a little bend towards
my direction as I see it, but I don't consider
it heavy handed. I think that that's a perception as
well as what is heavy handed? What can we not
talk about what's taboo? I think that's a mistake. People
can't get well unless you address these things. And that's
what I invite you to do as a listener is
(02:45):
just open up. Let's explore together. Let's go down this
path and it's dark and it's scary. And believe me,
we've been down this dark and scary path. I've spent
a life, a lifetime on scary pathways and made it
out alive, made it out thriving, even in this case.
(03:07):
I just returned from Las Vegas with my children, the
two children that I have with with my ex, my
now ex. Who's the topic of this. What I hope
is even an intervention. I hope that somebody loved one
of hers, or someone says to her, I want to
reflect truth back to you, because they come to me.
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Some people write to me and say she ripped them off,
or I'm concerned about her. They're watching her behavior, and
it's just it's truly extraordinary that this would happen to
a human being, the lengths of lying. And I just
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watched how sad these kids got when they caught her
in another live where she was. This is not the
thought when we were making these kids. We're really in
a space of hey values, integrity, gods, source, light, love, levity, laughter.
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This is what we based this on. This wasn't like
God have a kid. At least my take, it wasn't
that case. I don't know about hers. It's all mystery
now is I'm unraveling this mystery. I don't know the answers.
It's one of the things that she does is she
runs for the hills if confronted, if asked for truth therapy, anybody,
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any neutral party. I brought it every conceivable party, people
that had witnessed this, my assistant, my business manager, all
these people I try to bring a mediator stormed out
of mediation and a tantrum, and just one thing after another.
It's so difficult. I'll say, can we just have a talk.
And it doesn't go the way she wants it to go.
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She runs. And what happened with the cult with this leader.
What the cult leader does is gives her that voice
without challenge. That's how they lure them in. I'm a challenge.
I'm there with the truth. I know what the truth is.
I'm experiencing it every day. And the truth. There is
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a documentary with Daryl Hammond dealing with his mother and
his mother that's something like borderline personality disorder, which I
dealt with as well. The truth is a fiend that
rang so true to me because I run into this
constantly in my life. She knows that I have been
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around for the truth of what has taken place, including lying, cheating, stealing,
So that makes it before, that makes it frustrating. That
causes me anger too, and angst and everything else. My
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producer suggested that I give some tips on how I
have dealt with some of these things, and I'm going
to do that every episode. I'll let you in on
some action steps that I've taken because I do not
want to sit back and be a victim, and I
encourage you not to be a victim of anything in life.
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Pain is inevitable, inevitable, and suffering is a choice. I
choose not to suffer. At a most amazing weekend this
weekend in Las Vegas with the kids and their spirits
have not been broken, and yet they should have been
just one thing that happened. I get into a lot
of other things. We had just been on a vacation
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with my two older children, their half siblings, and the
step children that my ex wife what do we call
on her lotus? That lotus helped raise one was two
and amazing step mom. It's unbelievable to immigrant amazing mom
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until this leader took her and started to feed her.
They have these things called listening parties, and listening parties
are only about talking and listening. I get it, but
if you don't give helpful feedback, then what good is
the listening If you're not truthful, then what good is
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the listening? A person can just continue to lie and
justify their behavior. So we go this Las Vegas weekend
and we went to shows together. My daughter dressed in
my suit, my suit jacket and sunglasses and walks on stage,
you know, before the show. She's ten years old with
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this giant suit jacket, making people laugh. She loves to
make people laugh, or her brothers giggling. We giggle and
laugh all the time. But there's this like moment of
we did this with mommy so many times, including that
one last summer that everyone was together everyone Maine, New Hampshire,
water slides and slides down a mountain and oceans and
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everything you could experience. She's laughing. I have videos of it,
and this is how insidious it is. That's what took
place with I think we're in like Massachusetts me. We
were all over the place. Jersey Shore our favorite place
to go. Everyone loves a Jersey Shore. We got together
with friends, almost bought a house there. That's a whole
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other story. Thank god that didn't go through sometimes rejections,
God's protection. I'm sure many of you heard that. But
we moved into this house. We were renting a Jersey shorehouse,
which was a dream for especially my oldest son Justin.
I'm like, God, he loves the Jersey Shore. We all do.
I said, Hey, everybody surprised, this is gonna be our house.
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And the mortgage company folded three days before and we
didn't get the house. In the meantime, I had no idea,
and I noticed she had a big reaction when I
told her that I was going to give this to
the family, this beautiful home at the Jersey Shore, the
place we go on vacation almost every year. And I
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noticed Lotus's reaction. It was not pretty freaked out, and
my oldest son was trying to talk her down. You know,
I was admitting I I should have told you, and
I didn't tell her anyway. I didn't tell her immediately
when I put the deposit on and so forth, But
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then when it fell through, she had already left to
come back to California. And now I know why I
had sold the house that I bought before I knew her,
and all the kids were raised in this house. There
was another house before that. But anyway, and in this
beautiful town of Westlake Village, I coached little League and
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we have the lake walks, and everything just took place,
and the school was right down the street, and friends
and family. It's just this idyllic place of a dream
for a guy that when I was a kid, I
thought they were the victim, met move. I thought they
were the same word, chaos and mayhem. This is what
I came from. Oh my god, look at this. Look
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at this. And she had been scheming, sold the house
and someone backed up, but we had already moved in.
This rental house actually still here, and we had moved in.
She moved us in, bought a ladder so the kids
could fly to climb the fence and go visit their friends.
I mean, we're in here, but the dishes in all deal.
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She moved us in. She was scheming the entire time.
She got a safe house, and I caught her texting
this father. My kids really close friends their father's I'll
help you, babe, babe, and all this kind of stuff,
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like acting like I'm like some abuser shiss that you
get away from. That's the narrative that she put out there.
And I want you to hear this. It's not sexist
when I tell you this. This method has been used
by a lot of women because men have been really
bad for generations since the beginning of time, men have
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done these things. Well, now the pendulum has gone too
far where women are using this to go after innocent men,
and that's no bueno. I've watched it happen. I've witnessed
it happen. It's awful, and it's awful for the children.
They're caught in the middle of this revenge campaign. If
you're not working your stuff out, yourself, work it out. Everyone,
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work on yourself. This podcast is about me still working
on myself as well. It's not about blame. I'm telling
you the stories because this is the story, and how
am I going to continue to deal with it? How
do you relate to it? You relate to lost? Do
you relate to somebody doing something that's just so extraordinary
and alcoholic for instance? What do you do when they're
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behaving in this way betrayal of the family, when you
have vowels and commitments. And I'm not saying that I
am some innocent guy either. We're gonna get to plenty
of that. This is just what happened. Or away. Then
I went away again in another business trip. I work
really hard. It's gonna be flat out about that. I've
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worked hard my entire life. I built something great that
everyone has benefited from. Today's my son's birthday. Adopted them
at birth. That was a process that took my connections.
It took financial wellness to be able to do that
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and support all four children, support an ex wife, now
another expo. There's a lot to this to keep us
in this beautiful atmosphere. Being the goal. I wouldn't leave,
although challenged like crazy, I would not leave the first
that situation, didn't lose a second of custody, although she
tried the worst insidious behavior and try to take me down.
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And now this she's telling people that I'm an abuser
and she needs to be protected, to the point where
she had two different safe houses. And I'll tell you
the truth on that one. What a lie that was.
After we got divorced, this guy that she's afraid of,
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she calls me into her home. Wasn't afraid that night
and not any day. In my opinion, She's afraid of herself.
She's afraid of being exposed. She's afraid that the truth
will come out. It came out for the children this weekend.
They cried. She told them she was going to Japan
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for a certain reason, and she was there to be
with the cult. She was there with the cult leader.
There she was on Facebook, running out of the water
with her leader with smiles on their faces, celebrating life.
And how you know we can't be taken down. We're freedompreneurs,
wealth builders. Another lie, and she knows it. The children
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now know. I showed them the text messages from the
threats I have received from the cult leader's boyfriend, and
I will get to those two horrible threats that have
nothing to do with the truth. I never met the man, therefore,
how can he make all of these assessments. Ironically, my
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ex wife's I want to be assessed. Don't want to
be assessed. I don't want to be assessed. Well, of course,
you don't want to be assessed, because you know when
you're the truth, truth is, you're going down these roads
following this woman, defying this woman. And this is something
I want to make very clear for people defying people,
whether it's a leader, a president, a parent, a teacher.
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No good, false idols, no good, false prophets, no good.
One of the greatest victims of my life is getting
to know myself and digging deeper into myself. I encourage
you to do the same thing. Follow this podcast and
we'll do that together. So the kids were crying. They
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confronted her. She lies. Of course, I told them the truth.
The guy investigated. Turns out, listen to this. This same
guy that sent me a series of text messages threatening
to take these children from me, by the way, saying
has plenty on me to get me never met the
man met her briefly, the leader. They're in all sorts
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of other stuff that we'll get into as well, And
I don't want my children anywhere near that these people
who have such egos. Now, my ex wife has that
kind of an ego which I call evading growth opportunity.
I'm not going to evade my own growth opportunity either. Here.
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How am I going to grow? How do I grow
through this? How do I keep going on this path
of high vibration? Which is one of the secrets I'm
going to give you. Now, keep your vibration high, however
you do it. I just violated onto my own little
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I'm not going to tell you what to do. I'm
going to tell you what I did. Then, you can
maybe use it yourself. I constantly work on my spiritual
practices and that includes laughter. By the way, I do
guide to laffitation, chuckle chatter. I just find as much
laughter as I possibly can, and it shifts your vibration
to a point where as one of my guides, I
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have a guide, he says, they can't harm you. Now,
let me tell you what happens when my vapration's low
is I'm going to turn philly and attack this guy
I had him investigated. Turns out he beat her kid
or like twelve year old to the point where he
was reported the child services. And he's telling me that
I'm poisoning my children and all this kind of stuff.
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This is who she goes to. And I'll tell you this.
She also texts me all the time with gratitude about
what an amazing I am. It was daily for a while.
Now here's my fault. Instead of taking that in, instead
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of thanking her, there's a lot of gratitude, like you
the best father that ever, I mean, just one thing.
You're loving, your support, of your generous all those things,
and I am. And here's where my vibration if it
goes low and I encourage you to keep yours high.
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It's penetrable when I'm not operating on that love frequency.
I took it, and I stayed in fear because this
guy's coming after me. And I responded with being testy,
challenging long emails. I remember Hillary Clinton the emails. Oh yeah,
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that's the case of me too, both exes. I don't
like my emails. I do long emails. And let me
tell you something I have never pressed enter and had
feedback of Thank you for sharing, Craig. That was wonderful
you shared, and I am now enlightened and I really
appreciate your words. Craig. I am changed now. It has
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never happened like that, not even close. The opposite, which
is one of the reasons I'm here, is to challenge myself.
Look inside of myself, look inside the mirror. People, go
get a mirror. Get a mirror. Yeah yeah, let's get
a mirror. Ask yourself these questions that I'm posing here.
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Do you go after people? Do you respond with anger?
Do you respond with the resentment? Do you have unhealed pain?
I do. The more it's healed, the better of the response,
the better the results. These kids got a present act
of fun Dad that they put. They went back with
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their mom and they said, when do we come back
to you? I mean, that's how they are with me.
They just have a great time. I just I'm amazed
by the way my son, how he giggles at his
little sister is precocious. I mean, she's like the little comedian.
He just laughs and giggles with her, and he's so
good with her. Makes me kind of jealous because I
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don't have that relationship with my sister. We've had times
that we laugh and stuff like that, but she has
an overall a big issue with me as well. I
watch these two man. They bonded, but I think part
of the bonding is what they dealt with with this
absolute upheaval that they were subjected to for no reason.
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Lotus did not work on self, work on relationship. She
listened to this woman who said, come on, Mama's get
your sovereign freedom, get out of your golden cage. Those
are quotes Mama's I'm going to bring you to freedom.
And she brags off I the last time they went
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away on a trip, she's bragging about how she cheated
on her husband and how she was dominating and all this.
I'll read some of these things to you, and I'm
going to send you to there at some point. It's
her own words. This guy's worried about what I'm saying.
It's her own words. People that come back to me go,
this woman's nuts. She's whack. Your wife is following her.
That's what I heard all along. So one's like a
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cult leader. See for yourself. Posing she's in her fifties
and she's posing like she's an OnlyFans, just bragging about
her sex life. She doesn't understand it. Anyone who anyone
who comes to this is how is egomaniac narcissist work?
Anyone who challenges her, she knocks them down and arrogant,
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so arrogant. I'm gonna still be this way. It doesn't
matter what you say. And people would say, what about
your children? Yeah, what about the children lotus? How do
they feel? I know how they feel experience it, and
I'm pretty sure I know how the other children feel
from broke and her actions. Selfish, so deviant. She's bragging
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about this, these affairs and dominance and sado masochism, bonded,
She's bragging about it on social media. For those kids,
to see and if they don't see what their friends do,
and then they get humiliated at school. So when people
say to me, are you worried about putting the kids
in the middle, the kids are in the middle, and
they're in the middle of love from their dad. They're
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in the middle of commitment from their dad, a full
on commitment. I am so committed to all four children.
I can't help what their responses will be. I can
only say that this is what I do. I give
them everything I long for. Of course they're not longing
for the same things. I'm finding. They had a dad
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all along, they had support, they had money and all
those things, and I just don't stop with that. The
results sometimes our people run away. They go away, they
don't want to be fixed or rescued. I get that.
That's a big part of my issues. And then you
have these children that are in gratitude and appreciation. Thank
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you Dad, I love you Dad. I love you Dad.
And it's a whole mutual love and games that we
play in trivia and bedtime stories. I'd like to make
a joke of like I was a delinquent growing up.
I didn't have a dad criminal. Maybe that's part of
my Karmack equation. I think that sometimes and my bedtime
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stories they're supposed to end in happily. Ever after my
stories ending and then the cops came, I went away
after that trip, and I remember this. I was literally
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at the time and very high vibration and sending her
messages with prayers, hadulation for her, appreciation for her. We're
married at the time and had been through some hell.
What you're going to get to that? Wow, the moves
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that she has made are extraordinary and not in a
good way. Maybe they are in a good way because
I get to grow, learn a divorce, to get the
freedom that apparently I must have needed. Maybe she was
doing for me what I couldn't do for myself. Baby
does in denial. Probably it looks like I was never
did I think? Yes, Oh, okay, that's it. He was
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supposed to remind me of something. He's listening to this now,
and maybe I'll remind me the next time. He was
supposed to remind me opened the door. But anyway, I
need a time keep her sometimes and need help. So
I was away in New York on work, calling with
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these affirmations about us and family, and we had sold
the house and finally we got someone we're renting finally,
and the other house was empty. That was scary. Months
and months of mortgage payments, of which by the way,
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I am full breadwinner. None of the schemes. By the way,
for the multi level marketing. She's been in seven businesses
with broke and only broke. Only the money that comes
from me, which they call community property in California. That's
how it works. And if I sound cynical, I am,
and it's not sexist. I could be the other way around.
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Whoever earns the most money, the other one gets half,
no matter what crazy law. In my opinion, crazy I
work my I ass off, especially after the pandemic. I
was shut down from comedy. I had to do pivot
after pivot, and yes, just being resilient, teaching this to
the kids through actions while she's off in making posts
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about herself in these vanity posts and look at how
I look and look what I like. I kept saying,
show me the business plan. No, would not do it.
Taking a coaching program for nine thousand dollars, I already
bought it. I said no, I'm saying no, and I realized,
no rights, I have no rights. What I can do
to stop her did whatever she wanted to do. Here's
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what was just devastating. We finally had to sale the
house go through, and right at the last minute, I
was a little suspicious, so I said, oh, let's record ourselves.
We're not going to touch the money if it goes
over a thousand dollars. Let's make a commitment on film
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that we're not going to touch the money from the
profits of this house, which was pretty good profit house
that I bought before I knew her. I signed her
name on the papers giving her the house as well,
even though it was bought, and I also had a
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joint bank account instead of keeping in my name. Blah
blah blah. I could have done all that. I don't
do things like that. I get off the plane. I'm
so excited to see my family. I had just been
a great trip in New York. I did the Sherry
Shepherd Show, and I love Sherry and seeing my friends
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in New York. Love my friends in New York. I
have great time. Anyway, she should read your email. I
got a text me I suppose pick me up at
the airport. I read the email. It says I have
left I took the children and I left. She took
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them to the safe house so I didn't know where
they were, took their phone so they couldn't get in
touch with me, And she changed the password on the
bank account and stole the money from the house that
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I purchased before I knew her. And when I knew her,
she lived in a treehouse with no running water forty
yards away. She'd walk to the toilet. And when people
judge my reactions to things, I'm going to venture to say,
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you don't have empathy. I'm going to venture to say,
in some denial yourself, you don't want to look at truth.
The truth is. That's a really bad thing. I read
on Broke's Facebook wall there's a man who claims that
I have broken up his marriage. Oh my god, she's
so cocky and arrogant. She knows nothing. And I read
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one post that said Lotus didn't leave that marriage. She escaped,
escaped as if she was in this prison, called it
a golden cage. She would cry, I'm in a golden cage.
By the way, I'd like to be in one for
like a minute. Now. I'm gonna have to look at
my role in that and We're going to continue to
do that. But it didn't stop there. This deceit secret
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maneuvers behind my back has continued to this day, two
years later. So I'm gonna let you in on something
that happened to me, to us, to our family. It's
mind blowing, scary. I never know the next knock on
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the door of what it's going to be. I don't
like living like that, and you might feel that way too,
having that anxiety. You don't know how someone is going
to act, react, respond, behave. You just don't know, and
it's wow, where did they go? That's what I keep saying,
Where did she go? I'm going to get to it
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in the next episode. This is going to be cathartic
for all of us. I believe that's my intent. Problem solving,
solution oriented, spiritual enlightening, all of that. That's who I am.
That's who you're going to get. It's more than just
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a comedian. You all are, by the way, You're all
more than your job. You're all more than your title.
We all are. We're abundant, potent, and beautiful and filled
with wondering, curiosity and love, light and levity. So we're
going to get back to that thank you for listening
to this next episode, we got the next one coming
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up where remember blockbuster videos doing it's a blockbuster
Well, welcome to my wife join Nicolet makes me kind
of kiggle when I say that, which is the way
I approach a lot of things. People think you can't
laugh about certain topics, obviously death or other they're off
(00:27):
limits topics according to other people. According to comedians and creators,
that's not the case, because we don't live in those boxes.
And I think part of living in those boxes is
an epidemic and a problem with our society because we
have those boxes of forbidden zones. The people in charge,
(00:51):
basically the big pockets and so on, they stay there
because they're not questioned. You can't question authority because that's
not the paradigm that they have set forth. And that's
also what happens here is even bringing this up makes people.
(01:13):
It puts them on edge, it puts them in fear.
Oh my guy works for me with me, He said,
I said, what do you think of the podcast? He's
a little heavy handed, And I didn't just accept that
as truth or really respond to it in a way.
Oh my god, I got to make it not heavy handed.
(01:35):
Said what does that mean to you? What does it mean?
And he really didn't have clear answers on it, but
I did want to hear so I can do a
deeper dive into something that's really fluid, really organic. Isn't rehearsed.
It just comes from this, this divine truth, and people say, oh,
(02:00):
there's the truth, and there's your truth. There's all different truths.
This is. These are behaviors and actions that took place.
The perception issue is if I call a name, or
if I said this, or the accusation or whatever it is,
that's different than sharing actual events that took place. Now,
(02:23):
of course there's going to be a little bend towards
my direction as I see it, but I don't consider
it heavy handed. I think that that's a perception as
well as what is heavy handed? What can we not
talk about what's taboo? I think that's a mistake. People
can't get well unless you address these things. And that's
what I invite you to do as a listener is
(02:45):
just open up. Let's explore together. Let's go down this
path and it's dark and it's scary. And believe me,
we've been down this dark and scary path. I've spent
a life, a lifetime on scary pathways and made it
out alive, made it out thriving, even in this case.
(03:07):
I just returned from Las Vegas with my children, the
two children that I have with with my ex, my
now ex. Who's the topic of this. What I hope
is even an intervention. I hope that somebody loved one
of hers, or someone says to her, I want to
reflect truth back to you, because they come to me.
(03:29):
Some people write to me and say she ripped them off,
or I'm concerned about her. They're watching her behavior, and
it's just it's truly extraordinary that this would happen to
a human being, the lengths of lying. And I just
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watched how sad these kids got when they caught her
in another live where she was. This is not the
thought when we were making these kids. We're really in
a space of hey values, integrity, gods, source, light, love, levity, laughter.
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This is what we based this on. This wasn't like
God have a kid. At least my take, it wasn't
that case. I don't know about hers. It's all mystery
now is I'm unraveling this mystery. I don't know the answers.
It's one of the things that she does is she
runs for the hills if confronted, if asked for truth therapy, anybody,
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any neutral party. I brought it every conceivable party, people
that had witnessed this, my assistant, my business manager, all
these people I try to bring a mediator stormed out
of mediation and a tantrum, and just one thing after another.
It's so difficult. I'll say, can we just have a talk.
And it doesn't go the way she wants it to go.
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She runs. And what happened with the cult with this leader.
What the cult leader does is gives her that voice
without challenge. That's how they lure them in. I'm a challenge.
I'm there with the truth. I know what the truth is.
I'm experiencing it every day. And the truth. There is
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a documentary with Daryl Hammond dealing with his mother and
his mother that's something like borderline personality disorder, which I
dealt with as well. The truth is a fiend that
rang so true to me because I run into this
constantly in my life. She knows that I have been
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around for the truth of what has taken place, including lying, cheating, stealing,
So that makes it before, that makes it frustrating. That
causes me anger too, and angst and everything else. My
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producer suggested that I give some tips on how I
have dealt with some of these things, and I'm going
to do that every episode. I'll let you in on
some action steps that I've taken because I do not
want to sit back and be a victim, and I
encourage you not to be a victim of anything in life.
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Pain is inevitable, inevitable, and suffering is a choice. I
choose not to suffer. At a most amazing weekend this
weekend in Las Vegas with the kids and their spirits
have not been broken, and yet they should have been
just one thing that happened. I get into a lot
of other things. We had just been on a vacation
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with my two older children, their half siblings, and the
step children that my ex wife what do we call
on her lotus? That lotus helped raise one was two
and amazing step mom. It's unbelievable to immigrant amazing mom
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until this leader took her and started to feed her.
They have these things called listening parties, and listening parties
are only about talking and listening. I get it, but
if you don't give helpful feedback, then what good is
the listening If you're not truthful, then what good is
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the listening? A person can just continue to lie and
justify their behavior. So we go this Las Vegas weekend
and we went to shows together. My daughter dressed in
my suit, my suit jacket and sunglasses and walks on stage,
you know, before the show. She's ten years old with
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this giant suit jacket, making people laugh. She loves to
make people laugh, or her brothers giggling. We giggle and
laugh all the time. But there's this like moment of
we did this with mommy so many times, including that
one last summer that everyone was together everyone Maine, New Hampshire,
water slides and slides down a mountain and oceans and
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everything you could experience. She's laughing. I have videos of it,
and this is how insidious it is. That's what took
place with I think we're in like Massachusetts me. We
were all over the place. Jersey Shore our favorite place
to go. Everyone loves a Jersey Shore. We got together
with friends, almost bought a house there. That's a whole
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other story. Thank god that didn't go through sometimes rejections,
God's protection. I'm sure many of you heard that. But
we moved into this house. We were renting a Jersey shorehouse,
which was a dream for especially my oldest son Justin.
I'm like, God, he loves the Jersey Shore. We all do.
I said, Hey, everybody surprised, this is gonna be our house.
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And the mortgage company folded three days before and we
didn't get the house. In the meantime, I had no idea,
and I noticed she had a big reaction when I
told her that I was going to give this to
the family, this beautiful home at the Jersey Shore, the
place we go on vacation almost every year. And I
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noticed Lotus's reaction. It was not pretty freaked out, and
my oldest son was trying to talk her down. You know,
I was admitting I I should have told you, and
I didn't tell her anyway. I didn't tell her immediately
when I put the deposit on and so forth, But
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then when it fell through, she had already left to
come back to California. And now I know why I
had sold the house that I bought before I knew her,
and all the kids were raised in this house. There
was another house before that. But anyway, and in this
beautiful town of Westlake Village, I coached little League and
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we have the lake walks, and everything just took place,
and the school was right down the street, and friends
and family. It's just this idyllic place of a dream
for a guy that when I was a kid, I
thought they were the victim, met move. I thought they
were the same word, chaos and mayhem. This is what
I came from. Oh my god, look at this. Look
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at this. And she had been scheming, sold the house
and someone backed up, but we had already moved in.
This rental house actually still here, and we had moved in.
She moved us in, bought a ladder so the kids
could fly to climb the fence and go visit their friends.
I mean, we're in here, but the dishes in all deal.
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She moved us in. She was scheming the entire time.
She got a safe house, and I caught her texting
this father. My kids really close friends their father's I'll
help you, babe, babe, and all this kind of stuff,
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like acting like I'm like some abuser shiss that you
get away from. That's the narrative that she put out there.
And I want you to hear this. It's not sexist
when I tell you this. This method has been used
by a lot of women because men have been really
bad for generations since the beginning of time, men have
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done these things. Well, now the pendulum has gone too
far where women are using this to go after innocent men,
and that's no bueno. I've watched it happen. I've witnessed
it happen. It's awful, and it's awful for the children.
They're caught in the middle of this revenge campaign. If
you're not working your stuff out, yourself, work it out. Everyone,
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work on yourself. This podcast is about me still working
on myself as well. It's not about blame. I'm telling
you the stories because this is the story, and how
am I going to continue to deal with it? How
do you relate to it? You relate to lost? Do
you relate to somebody doing something that's just so extraordinary
and alcoholic for instance? What do you do when they're
(12:29):
behaving in this way betrayal of the family, when you
have vowels and commitments. And I'm not saying that I
am some innocent guy either. We're gonna get to plenty
of that. This is just what happened. Or away. Then
I went away again in another business trip. I work
really hard. It's gonna be flat out about that. I've
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worked hard my entire life. I built something great that
everyone has benefited from. Today's my son's birthday. Adopted them
at birth. That was a process that took my connections.
It took financial wellness to be able to do that
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and support all four children, support an ex wife, now
another expo. There's a lot to this to keep us
in this beautiful atmosphere. Being the goal. I wouldn't leave,
although challenged like crazy, I would not leave the first
that situation, didn't lose a second of custody, although she
tried the worst insidious behavior and try to take me down.
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And now this she's telling people that I'm an abuser
and she needs to be protected, to the point where
she had two different safe houses. And I'll tell you
the truth on that one. What a lie that was.
After we got divorced, this guy that she's afraid of,
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she calls me into her home. Wasn't afraid that night
and not any day. In my opinion, She's afraid of herself.
She's afraid of being exposed. She's afraid that the truth
will come out. It came out for the children this weekend.
They cried. She told them she was going to Japan
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for a certain reason, and she was there to be
with the cult. She was there with the cult leader.
There she was on Facebook, running out of the water
with her leader with smiles on their faces, celebrating life.
And how you know we can't be taken down. We're freedompreneurs,
wealth builders. Another lie, and she knows it. The children
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now know. I showed them the text messages from the
threats I have received from the cult leader's boyfriend, and
I will get to those two horrible threats that have
nothing to do with the truth. I never met the man, therefore,
how can he make all of these assessments. Ironically, my
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ex wife's I want to be assessed. Don't want to
be assessed. I don't want to be assessed. Well, of course,
you don't want to be assessed, because you know when
you're the truth, truth is, you're going down these roads
following this woman, defying this woman. And this is something
I want to make very clear for people defying people,
whether it's a leader, a president, a parent, a teacher.
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No good, false idols, no good, false prophets, no good.
One of the greatest victims of my life is getting
to know myself and digging deeper into myself. I encourage
you to do the same thing. Follow this podcast and
we'll do that together. So the kids were crying. They
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confronted her. She lies. Of course, I told them the truth.
The guy investigated. Turns out, listen to this. This same
guy that sent me a series of text messages threatening
to take these children from me, by the way, saying
has plenty on me to get me never met the
man met her briefly, the leader. They're in all sorts
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of other stuff that we'll get into as well, And
I don't want my children anywhere near that these people
who have such egos. Now, my ex wife has that
kind of an ego which I call evading growth opportunity.
I'm not going to evade my own growth opportunity either. Here.
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How am I going to grow? How do I grow
through this? How do I keep going on this path
of high vibration? Which is one of the secrets I'm
going to give you. Now, keep your vibration high, however
you do it. I just violated onto my own little
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I'm not going to tell you what to do. I'm
going to tell you what I did. Then, you can
maybe use it yourself. I constantly work on my spiritual
practices and that includes laughter. By the way, I do
guide to laffitation, chuckle chatter. I just find as much
laughter as I possibly can, and it shifts your vibration
to a point where as one of my guides, I
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have a guide, he says, they can't harm you. Now,
let me tell you what happens when my vapration's low
is I'm going to turn philly and attack this guy
I had him investigated. Turns out he beat her kid
or like twelve year old to the point where he
was reported the child services. And he's telling me that
I'm poisoning my children and all this kind of stuff.
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This is who she goes to. And I'll tell you this.
She also texts me all the time with gratitude about
what an amazing I am. It was daily for a while.
Now here's my fault. Instead of taking that in, instead
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of thanking her, there's a lot of gratitude, like you
the best father that ever, I mean, just one thing.
You're loving, your support, of your generous all those things,
and I am. And here's where my vibration if it
goes low and I encourage you to keep yours high.
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It's penetrable when I'm not operating on that love frequency.
I took it, and I stayed in fear because this
guy's coming after me. And I responded with being testy,
challenging long emails. I remember Hillary Clinton the emails. Oh yeah,
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that's the case of me too, both exes. I don't
like my emails. I do long emails. And let me
tell you something I have never pressed enter and had
feedback of Thank you for sharing, Craig. That was wonderful
you shared, and I am now enlightened and I really
appreciate your words. Craig. I am changed now. It has
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never happened like that, not even close. The opposite, which
is one of the reasons I'm here, is to challenge myself.
Look inside of myself, look inside the mirror. People, go
get a mirror. Get a mirror. Yeah yeah, let's get
a mirror. Ask yourself these questions that I'm posing here.
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Do you go after people? Do you respond with anger?
Do you respond with the resentment? Do you have unhealed pain?
I do. The more it's healed, the better of the response,
the better the results. These kids got a present act
of fun Dad that they put. They went back with
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their mom and they said, when do we come back
to you? I mean, that's how they are with me.
They just have a great time. I just I'm amazed
by the way my son, how he giggles at his
little sister is precocious. I mean, she's like the little comedian.
He just laughs and giggles with her, and he's so
good with her. Makes me kind of jealous because I
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don't have that relationship with my sister. We've had times
that we laugh and stuff like that, but she has
an overall a big issue with me as well. I
watch these two man. They bonded, but I think part
of the bonding is what they dealt with with this
absolute upheaval that they were subjected to for no reason.
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Lotus did not work on self, work on relationship. She
listened to this woman who said, come on, Mama's get
your sovereign freedom, get out of your golden cage. Those
are quotes Mama's I'm going to bring you to freedom.
And she brags off I the last time they went
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away on a trip, she's bragging about how she cheated
on her husband and how she was dominating and all this.
I'll read some of these things to you, and I'm
going to send you to there at some point. It's
her own words. This guy's worried about what I'm saying.
It's her own words. People that come back to me go,
this woman's nuts. She's whack. Your wife is following her.
That's what I heard all along. So one's like a
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cult leader. See for yourself. Posing she's in her fifties
and she's posing like she's an OnlyFans, just bragging about
her sex life. She doesn't understand it. Anyone who anyone
who comes to this is how is egomaniac narcissist work?
Anyone who challenges her, she knocks them down and arrogant,
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so arrogant. I'm gonna still be this way. It doesn't
matter what you say. And people would say, what about
your children? Yeah, what about the children lotus? How do
they feel? I know how they feel experience it, and
I'm pretty sure I know how the other children feel
from broke and her actions. Selfish, so deviant. She's bragging
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about this, these affairs and dominance and sado masochism, bonded,
She's bragging about it on social media. For those kids,
to see and if they don't see what their friends do,
and then they get humiliated at school. So when people
say to me, are you worried about putting the kids
in the middle, the kids are in the middle, and
they're in the middle of love from their dad. They're
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in the middle of commitment from their dad, a full
on commitment. I am so committed to all four children.
I can't help what their responses will be. I can
only say that this is what I do. I give
them everything I long for. Of course they're not longing
for the same things. I'm finding. They had a dad
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all along, they had support, they had money and all
those things, and I just don't stop with that. The
results sometimes our people run away. They go away, they
don't want to be fixed or rescued. I get that.
That's a big part of my issues. And then you
have these children that are in gratitude and appreciation. Thank
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you Dad, I love you Dad. I love you Dad.
And it's a whole mutual love and games that we
play in trivia and bedtime stories. I'd like to make
a joke of like I was a delinquent growing up.
I didn't have a dad criminal. Maybe that's part of
my Karmack equation. I think that sometimes and my bedtime
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stories they're supposed to end in happily. Ever after my
stories ending and then the cops came, I went away
after that trip, and I remember this. I was literally
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at the time and very high vibration and sending her
messages with prayers, hadulation for her, appreciation for her. We're
married at the time and had been through some hell.
What you're going to get to that? Wow, the moves
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that she has made are extraordinary and not in a
good way. Maybe they are in a good way because
I get to grow, learn a divorce, to get the
freedom that apparently I must have needed. Maybe she was
doing for me what I couldn't do for myself. Baby
does in denial. Probably it looks like I was never
did I think? Yes, Oh, okay, that's it. He was
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supposed to remind me of something. He's listening to this now,
and maybe I'll remind me the next time. He was
supposed to remind me opened the door. But anyway, I
need a time keep her sometimes and need help. So
I was away in New York on work, calling with
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these affirmations about us and family, and we had sold
the house and finally we got someone we're renting finally,
and the other house was empty. That was scary. Months
and months of mortgage payments, of which by the way,
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I am full breadwinner. None of the schemes. By the way,
for the multi level marketing. She's been in seven businesses
with broke and only broke. Only the money that comes
from me, which they call community property in California. That's
how it works. And if I sound cynical, I am,
and it's not sexist. I could be the other way around.
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Whoever earns the most money, the other one gets half,
no matter what crazy law. In my opinion, crazy I
work my I ass off, especially after the pandemic. I
was shut down from comedy. I had to do pivot
after pivot, and yes, just being resilient, teaching this to
the kids through actions while she's off in making posts
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about herself in these vanity posts and look at how
I look and look what I like. I kept saying,
show me the business plan. No, would not do it.
Taking a coaching program for nine thousand dollars, I already
bought it. I said no, I'm saying no, and I realized,
no rights, I have no rights. What I can do
to stop her did whatever she wanted to do. Here's
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what was just devastating. We finally had to sale the
house go through, and right at the last minute, I
was a little suspicious, so I said, oh, let's record ourselves.
We're not going to touch the money if it goes
over a thousand dollars. Let's make a commitment on film
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that we're not going to touch the money from the
profits of this house, which was pretty good profit house
that I bought before I knew her. I signed her
name on the papers giving her the house as well,
even though it was bought, and I also had a
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joint bank account instead of keeping in my name. Blah
blah blah. I could have done all that. I don't
do things like that. I get off the plane. I'm
so excited to see my family. I had just been
a great trip in New York. I did the Sherry
Shepherd Show, and I love Sherry and seeing my friends
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in New York. Love my friends in New York. I
have great time. Anyway, she should read your email. I
got a text me I suppose pick me up at
the airport. I read the email. It says I have
left I took the children and I left. She took
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them to the safe house so I didn't know where
they were, took their phone so they couldn't get in
touch with me, And she changed the password on the
bank account and stole the money from the house that
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I purchased before I knew her. And when I knew her,
she lived in a treehouse with no running water forty
yards away. She'd walk to the toilet. And when people
judge my reactions to things, I'm going to venture to say,
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you don't have empathy. I'm going to venture to say,
in some denial yourself, you don't want to look at truth.
The truth is. That's a really bad thing. I read
on Broke's Facebook wall there's a man who claims that
I have broken up his marriage. Oh my god, she's
so cocky and arrogant. She knows nothing. And I read
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one post that said Lotus didn't leave that marriage. She escaped,
escaped as if she was in this prison, called it
a golden cage. She would cry, I'm in a golden cage.
By the way, I'd like to be in one for
like a minute. Now. I'm gonna have to look at
my role in that and We're going to continue to
do that. But it didn't stop there. This deceit secret
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maneuvers behind my back has continued to this day, two
years later. So I'm gonna let you in on something
that happened to me, to us, to our family. It's
mind blowing, scary. I never know the next knock on
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the door of what it's going to be. I don't
like living like that, and you might feel that way too,
having that anxiety. You don't know how someone is going
to act, react, respond, behave. You just don't know, and
it's wow, where did they go? That's what I keep saying,
Where did she go? I'm going to get to it
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in the next episode. This is going to be cathartic
for all of us. I believe that's my intent. Problem solving,
solution oriented, spiritual enlightening, all of that. That's who I am.
That's who you're going to get. It's more than just
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a comedian. You all are, by the way, You're all
more than your job. You're all more than your title.
We all are. We're abundant, potent, and beautiful and filled
with wondering, curiosity and love, light and levity. So we're
going to get back to that thank you for listening
to this next episode, we got the next one coming
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