Oliver Ruiz Conferencia Venciendo Tus Miedos Gira Del Miedo

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Everything or or mythical to fous needeoliver ruiz turns from fear, masterly lecture,

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overcoming your fears and you are afraidof Mexico for the world, training,
values, conscience and human development,motivation, crime prevention, antisocial behaviors,
violence, sexuality, faith integration,improvement of quality of life, work,
professional, educational and family, especiallyfor entrepreneurs, employees, officials,

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associations, foundations, organizations, magistrates, supervisors, teachers, parents, youth,
media and the general public, fora Mexico free of fear and a
global world with values, ethics andpeace. Overcoming your fears, you'

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ll reach your dreams and you're afraid of him? Sometimes fear limits
people to being able to succeed intheir environment because of the social problems and
circumstances of life, because of theirfears, they fail to achieve their objective
dreams and longings for lack of faith, security, orientation, love, but

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above all because of fear, theycan even end their own life resorting to
suicide or fall into addictions with severeproblems and emotional, psychological, sentimental,
etc. This Conference is a toolthat will help you overcome your fears.

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It will certainly change his life andperspective of events, renewing his faith with
a fresh message in the voice ofolium, a ruiz specialist in training and
human development. International lecturer promoting valuesand peace. President recovering Mexico makes entrepreneur,
advisor, emotional, family, work, actor, writer, producer,

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radio and television announcer the size ofyour faith will be your success. It
all starts with a question. Andyou, what you' re afraid of,
have ever wondered what you' reafraid of, what your fears are,
and why you' re living infear. Well, that' s

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the question with which we start thisconference called overcoming your fears, which comes
through the tour of fear and perhapsin life never reflected. Day to day
you face situations, obstacles, challengesand that you are struggling to achieve your
dreams. And I' d liketo ask you if where you are you

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have dreams and I don' tmean that you' re sleepy and you
want to go to sleep right now, but what your dreams are, the
word dreams, the meaning and thesynonym of it is all that you yearn
for. I would like to realizea goal, a purpose, a desire,
an aspiration, a goal. Thatmeans to me the word dreams,

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something you' re fighting for dayby day, that you want to be
able to realize or carry out.But in order to carry it out and
succeed, you need to overcome yourfears. Only by overcoming your fears will
you reach your dreams and the wordfear the synonym behind it is opposition,
it is blockade, that anguish,uncertainty, doubts and everything that disturbs you

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and robs you of peace in yourheart, mind spirit and being is so
important that you become aware that dayby day, what is at stake is
your happiness. And in order toachieve that happiness you have to overcome your
fears and be aware of what youare facing, what is worrying you and
what is tormenting you day by day. Before closing your eyes, as you

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slept to the question what were yourfears of the day and what are the
dreams you were pretending to achieve thatday. And perhaps you close your eyes
with concern, with sadness, withpain, with disappointment, because perhaps the
things that were presented to you onthat day were not as you wanted or

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expected. And maybe that makes youafraid, because you don' t know
if the next day you can havea chance to face those fears again and
reach those challenges, which are yourdreams. But as long as your heart
beats and the next day you geta chance to open your eyes again.

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That' s the most wonderful gifta human can have day to day,
and many times you haven' tstarted to think that while you sleep,
you don' t know if thenext day you' re going to have
a chance to keep living and beable to keep trying. Every heartbeat.
It is a gift and an opportunitythat life gives you to achieve your dreams

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and overcome your fears. There's something I share with you that'
s very important and maybe when Iasked you the question that if you had
dreams and that you' re afraidof? That question is the slogan of
this tour and this conference. Butby emphasizing that question, you may never

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have thought about what are the fearsof special and loved people for YOU,
and perhaps if you would ask theperson who is near you or when you
get home or work, you wouldthink about whether people are afraid, I
assure you that yes, but maybeyou would dare ask them even out of

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fear. Not if you tell himlisten and you' re afraid of him
here, because maybe the person canbe offended. Or it' s an
intimidating question, which is challenging,but what makes you think and that you
have to see beyond this simple question, because this is what causes people not
to be happy. And maybe you' ve never thought, but you need

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to think about your fears. Now, why this tour, why this lecture,
why the tour of fear? Well, the tour of fear starts from
the need and times we are livingas a society, such as insecurity,
violence, functional families, addictions andadverse situations that cost work to get through

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and that affect our environment due tosocial problems. And all social problems are
caused by the lack of values.When there are no values, it is
when conflict, antisocial behavior and aproblem begin to arise. But all this
has a solution and that is whythis tour aims to eradicate the fear of

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the listener, whose vision is thatthis Conference will provide you with alternatives to
be able to face your fears andarises through the creativity and the commitment and
concern that it was to help thesociety of these times, the main objective
is that this is a tool ofhelp that will lead you to a deep
reflection to overcome any kind of fearand to go forward and achieve success.

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The tour of fear is a programmeof awareness, well- being and social
integration for the promotion of human developmentfor all types of audiences, which helps
to reduce the numbers of social problems, which integrates and strengthens families and individuals
for a better social environment through thepromotion of values and peace. It'

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s how you make people aware.When people manage to overcome their fears,
they achieve peace. And this happenswith this tour called the Tour of Fear,
with the conference overcoming your fears thatyou are listening to right now.
This tour begins in Matamoros, Tamaulipas, in the two thousand ten, impacting

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more than 8, 000 inhabitants andliving the largest shooting of the Gulf Cartel,
when they kill one of Mexico's leading drug traffickers, named Tony
Storm, with shootings, persecutions andadverse situations. It is how this great
journey was carried out, which transformedmotive and integrated society. And so with

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a lot of recognitions, experiences,and amazing things that I lived through,
but especially thanks to God, Iwas able to get out of that place
alive. To date, more thanfifty zero people from the Mexican Republic have
been reached with presence in international forums, achieving certificates, recognitions, national emblems

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and many things of great success thatI can share with you through social networks
and the Internet. This is verifiedby photographs, videos, media interviews.
Just by entering my name on Googleor the Fear Tour you can see all

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this impact that thanks to God,it has been possible to reach thousands of
hearts and the intention is to beable to reach as many people as possible
in the shortest possible time. Andtoday you are listening to me for the
testimony that has been obtained from thelives that have changed and improved your life.

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It is an impressive motivation, whichcheers my heart and I hope that
you, at the end of listeningto this lecture, will be able to
share your testimony with me. And, well, already, to get into
the conference, starting with this question, who do you think are more fearful,
men or women? Who are thescariest, moms or dads, boys

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are girls, teachers or teachers,boss or boss? Who are more fearful,
men or women? Well, then, according to statistics they reveal that
men are more afraid than women,and I think with all due respect to
the best. I think the statisticsone was a woman and that' s

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why it touched us like that.But another very important statistic, which reveals
in our Mexican society is that duringthe period of Vicente Fox' s rule,
when it was the present of theMexican Republic and sixty percent of the
population lived in fear. Today thereis no statistic that speaks precisely to us
and tells us what socio- economicstatus, what location people are afraid of

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and what they are afraid of,why this happens. Fear will exist throughout
your life to the last beat ofyour heart. Fear is part of you
but it is not bad and inthe colonies, in the cities, in
the localities, there are different typesof fear. But the challenge is to

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identify what we' re afraid of. The time it takes you to identify
what your fears are. It isthe time that you are going to take
to achieve success in your life andfear will last in your mind, in
your mistress, in your heart,as long as it takes you to overcome
it. But you have wondered whatfear is how you would write it well,

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because I like to cite the followingas an example and I want to
ask you if you like horror movies. Maybe your answer can be yes,
maybe not. But if you saidyes, I imagine it is something very
special and it means that little bylittle it is not the right pretext to
invite someone you like to the cinemaand typical, we do not choose a

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movie that scares us because the sameand because at least a hug does not
touch you. Suddenly, when you' re watching the movie with that person,
it starts just like stretching and youdon' t and hug her so
she feels safe and protected. Don' t come over here so I'

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m here. Not then, allof a sudden, when the evil one
comes out, the bully, thebastard, the ugly ugly one of the
movie, because you don' tget scared and you pat the person next
to you and then you give hima few kisses so he can be scared
out of it. No. AndI really like to cite the example of
this horror movie. I don't know if you' ve seen her

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before. His name is fredy Krugger. I' m not going to talk
it through, but Fred Krugger isthe one who represents a character in the
movie of the nightmare of hell andis a diabolical character of a horrible look
that anyone would be afraid of.No, then, this character in the

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movie his goal is to kill peopleand destroy their dreams becoming nightmares, that
is, the people in the movie, when they sleep, start having nightmares
and this diabolical being, they beginto appear. Little by little, the
gloves appear the hat until it becomesreal completely and kills them. Then what

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' s going on? I takeit as an example to real life,
because that' s how it begins. Fear. Start with a thought that
generates a feeling, which begins tomanifest in an emotion and your body begins
to have reactions when you are afraid. But it all starts thinking about this,

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that is, things aren' teven happening yet, but you'
re already scared, worried with uncertainty, sad or depressed. And the important
thing is that you realize that manytimes things aren' t real yet,
but you' re already afraid ofwhat might happen. The worst mistake of
the human being is the assumption,because the assumption kills atyxia emotionally, psychologically

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and personally. So, the worstthing you can do is suppose and live
with their position, is live withuncertainty, and it' s horrible and
it generates fear. So, reallywhat is fear. Well, fear is
a mechanism of survival, of defensethat allows you to respond quickly effectively and

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manifests through emotions, with feelings andreactions in your body, in your heart
the heart rate is raised by adrenaline, producing a high or low pressure with
rapid palpitations in your heart. Youfeel like you' re wanted for your
heart. It is an emotion characterizedby an intense feeling or unpleasant impression caused

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by the perception of a real dangerassumed present, past or future. I
mean, you may be afraid rightnow of something that was caused in your
past and you may be living withuncertainty in your present because you are afraid
of the future. But you can' t be living in fear. You

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can' t be sorry about what' s already happened. You can'
t be suffering for what hasn't happened yet. Why it is up
to you that through your present,you can build a future full of success
and without fear. But this dependsa lot on your way of thinking.
If you' re a negative personwho always gets angry, gets angry,

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worries, and thinks he' snot going to achieve things, because that
' s the result, and you' re the one who makes fear take
over your thoughts, your feelings,and take control of your emotions. Fear
is an emotion you can' tsee or touch. It is only present
in you, but you can perceiveit and notice it in the people you

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live with. How just watching youreyes, talking and listening is how you
realize that people live in fear anda tool that will help you overcome your
fears. It' s called empathy. If you want to conquer someone,
you want to help someone, oryou want to be part of someone'

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s dreams. You need to knowwhat their fears are, what are the
fears of loved people, your children, your wife, your girlfriend, your
boyfriend, the work team, yourcompany, your business with whom you live.
We are all afraid, the challengeto overcome them, to overcome them,
and that is given only by identifyingand facing them. If you keep

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crying, depressed, sad, distressed, that won' t change anything the
moment you get up and make thedecision and face the fear. That'
s when then you' re gonnarealize you can. With that and more,
fear cannot be touched. It isnot tangible, it is an emotion,

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but the brain imitates a signal tothe body through the nervous system warning
and it is like an intense feelingor feeling that something is going to happen.
And a lot of people start tofeel that way. Why, because
they perceive that in the environment inwhich they find themselves something may happen.
So fear is a warning system thatgives you the time to make the right

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decision, that is, you canreact positively or negatively to a situation.
But fear is going to alert you, that is, give you the response
time so you can make the rightdecision. You have to be aware that
the main goal of fear is toend your dreams, what you long for,

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what you expect, what you arefighting for. For all that you
want today to achieve and achieve fear. What you want is to block and
paralyze yourself, is to stabilize andsteal your hope. And you shouldn'
t allow that, because it's the moment when you have to get
up and face everything you haven't been able to achieve. The only
way you' re going to keepyour mouth shut for all those who haven

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' t believed in you is whenyou dare overcome your fears. Now,
when fear becomes present in your life, how to identify it. Well,
fear arises in your life when situationsoccur that you cannot control and it takes
time and patience. I mean,maybe you were afraid one day to fail

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an exam, because if you failedthere were terrible consequences you had to study
more, re- apply the exam, you lost time, but above all
the fear of getting home, becausethe flying chancla awaits you, the punishment
of mom or dad, the beltingthey can give you and well, even

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with the frying pan. You getno and then your parents are gonna be
mad, they' re gonna scoldyou, they' re gonna punish you,
they' re gonna take your socialnetworks, your cell phone, your
video games, you' re notgoing to come out, they' re
not going to give you money andsituations that originate because they haven' t
approved an exo. But what wouldhave happened if you had studied, attended

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classes, participated, clarified your doubts, reviewed, studied more, you wouldn
' t be afraid to fail.Then fear arises in your life when you
are irresponsible, when you didn't do things right from the beginning,
when you disobey, you are you, you are hard, clinging and you

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don' t think about the consequencesof your actions, when you don'
t listen to the Council, theindication or the instruction, for lack of
attention, lack of understanding and doubts. It is how fear is presented and
how you can identify it in youreveryday life, also when you are not
prepared, concentrated, for not takingadvantage of time in a positive way,

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for lack of interest, for gettinginvolved in matters that do not suit you
bad company, gossip fights, envy, rumors and make life impossible. To
those closest to you listen to thebad advice of people who don' t
care about you, but that yougive great importance to the one who will
say or to what others think ofyou and live in fear because you always

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seek acceptance of someone and you haven' t realized that you have to love
yourself first, because if you don' t love yourself, you don'
t value yourself, you don't respect yourself, you don' t
take care of yourself and you don' t see for yourself, nobody will
do it. Fear arises in yourlife for believing and letting you be carried
away by the comments they have madeagainst you and this damages your self-
esteem. It has made you insecure, because you have given a lot of

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importance to what they say about youand with all respect, maybe at some
point in your life someone told youthat you were a fool, that you
were a failure, that you shouldn' t have been born, that you
won' t make it, thatthat that' s not for you,
that you can' t, thatyou don' t have the ability,
that you stop doing that which doesn' t make any sense And maybe when

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they add a rudeness to it,they affect you more and they destroy your
self- esteem and maybe that's why you' re afraid, because
constantly maybe in your environment they're talking to you negatively about your person
and you' ve believed it,you' ve allowed it and that'
s hurt your heart. But letme tell you that you must not allow
the comments of others to dominate youremotions and destroy your feelings, because you

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are a unique person, special,different, full of qualities, skills,
talents. But if you don't accept it and you don' t
believe it, then those negative commentsare going to tear you apart every step
you take and that you shouldn't allow. People who have told you

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these comments may represent a hierarchy ora great importance in your life and perhaps
you are waiting for someone to recognizeyou, value you, applaud some success,
congratulate you to feel safe and wellto feel that your life is worth
it. But I want you tolisten to me very well and that you

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put it in your mind, inyour soul and embrace it with all your
strength, with all your heart,and that when someone tells you something negative,
remember this thing I' m tellingyou right now, look very closely.
People out of envy, out ofjealousy for wanting to make you give
up what you love and what youwant, for making you give up your
dreams. They are going to tellyou these negative comments, but they are

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not God in your life and theonly way you can cover them up is
with actions and deeds and overcoming yourfears. You have to get up,
you have to shake and you haveto forget even if you' ve been
hurt by those comments, because you' ve given too much importance to that

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and listen very well to people outof envy for jealousy and because they want
to have the opportunity that you have. It' s that they tell you
those things, it' s becausethey didn' t make it, it
' s because they failed, it' s because they see frustrated, it
' s because they want to havethe great opportunity that you have and they
look reflected in you and maybe youremind them of their mistake. And you
have to be aware that you shouldnot be affected by any negative comments that

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they make to you, because youhave the ability and the talent, the
quality and the virtue to be ableto achieve everything you propose. But you
have to believe from the depths ofyour heart. That' s how it
' s going to happen and youshouldn' t give rise to fear and
that' s how you' regoing to achieve success. People who really
love you and love you will respectyour decision, they will respect your belief,

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your conviction, but you will earntheir respect when you show them that
they are wrong. Those who loveyou will give you advice, guide you,
and perhaps give you a recommendation toavoid suffering, because the people who
love you do not want to seeyou fail or suffer. But despite that,
what is at stake is your happinessand no matter what they say,

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good and bad, you have tofight for what you love, for what
you want, for what you expect, because your happiness is what matters before
what others say. And listen tome very well, no, because others
have failed. It means that ITis going to happen to you exactly the
same thing, not because others havenot succeeded. It means you won'
t make it either. You cansucceed where others have failed. You can

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go well where others have gone wrong, and not because others have gone wrong.
It means you' re gonna bewrong about his bad experiences, too.
You can have great results from thefailures of others. You can have
great success and you can make adifference where others haven' t. But
it' s up to you andtoday you have to overcome your fears.

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You' re no loser, nomistake in life. You are someone who
deserves the best and who is destinedfor success. Fear arises in your life
because you don' t believe thatyou can achieve it or that you don
' t have the ability to doit, because you don' t trust
you, because you don' thave faith love, because you don'

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t value yourself enough, don't exert yourself, don' t be
brave, spend it, crying,depressed, decayed, thinking negatively and living
in fear, you won' tachieve anything. Outstanding in your life.
Fear is given up on you beforeyou try. I have a sentence that
I share with you that he's the loser. It' s the
one who gives up before you tryand you' re no loser. You

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have to change your mind your wayof thinking and risk and try until you
do it. Fear is given toleave things half- hearted and to have
no clear goals, to make wrongdecisions and not to think about the consequences
of your actions and your decisions forlack of love, effort or passion,

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dedication to constancy and determination. It' s just that there' s fear
in your life and you don't make it. The key to success
is when you love with all yourstrength, give yourself up, fight you
are constant, decisive and conclude whatyou have set out to do. When
things are sometimes not as we hopeand want, then comes this which I

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share with you which is the following. The pretexts arise when they go to
responsibilities and then the fears arise.I mean, I always blame someone or
something that I didn' t reachthe goal and what I wanted to do.
And this I call Adam' ssyndrome, that is, remembering the

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times of creation, when Adam andEve sinned is when they begin to be
afraid. And when God speaks tothem r then Adam tells him I heard
your voice and hid because I wasafraid. Then what' s going on?

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Adam told God that the woman yougave me gave me to eat the
fruit that you forbade, that Ishould not eat. And then, when
God asks Eve, Eve replies thatthe serpent tricked me. And then we
are always justifying ourselves from situations thatare not successful or that are not as

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we expect. We blame others forour tragedy, for our problem, for
our condition and for not being ableto have the success we want. We
always blame someone when things aren't the way we want or expect.
I mean, the government is thatmy parents, it' s because I
don' t have money, it' s because because the situation is in

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the country, it' s becausewhen I was a kid, it'
s because I' m not goodat this, it' s because of
what they told me, because ofwhat they did to me, because I
lived, because I don' thave a dad, I don' t
have a mom, or because Idon' t have enough resources. We
always blame someone for our need andfor what we haven' t done.
And let me tell you that theproblem is not in government, it is

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not in religion, it is notin your family, it is not in
money, it is in your mind, in your soul and in your heart.
And the only one who can changethat mentality is yourself and the size
of your faith will be your successand fearless. Everything is possible, symptoms
of fear, how to be ableto see it already in your body and

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identify it has happened to you thatsuddenly you greet someone and leave your hand
sweaty and sticky and maybe, it' s a horrible feeling and that disgusts
you And maybe the person didn't even wash his hands when he came
out of the bathroom And so hegreeted you and left you like this with
that feeling. There are people who, out of fear, sweat their hands

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and that' s called hyperridosis,which is excessive sweating. When you'
re in front of the person youlike, love, or special to you,
your legs start shaking, you startsweating, you start getting nervous,
and maybe even twitching. Not thatare some reactions of fear and insecurity.

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Another symptom of fear is despair.You feel that there is no way out,
you feel worried, with delusion ofpersecution, with irritation, with a
bad mood and with anxiety. Youhave no peace in your mind, in
your soul, in your heart.You' re always thinking about the worst.
Instead of thinking about positive things,they hormigón, the body also destabilises

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the pressure. Sometimes it' shigh, sometimes it' s low.
Chills and temperature and low defenses.You have to understand that when you'
re afraid, your defenses are lowand you' re more likely to get
sick. So, if you don' t learn how to handle your emotions,
which means that your quality of lifeis going to be affected, that

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your body isn' t going tobe healthy, and then you' re
going to get sick because when you' re afraid, your defenses are low.
So, if you' re aperson who gets angry who screams,
who hits, who scolds, whodoesn' t understand reasons, who closes
first of all, who always wantsto be right, who doesn' t
listen, who doesn' t learnto breathe and who gets angry for everything
and hits everything. So, what' s going to happen that you'

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re going to get sick, thenthat you have to make yourself learn,
to manage your emotions, to learnto breathe, to learn to reflect,
to listen, to understand, tounderstand, to put yourself in the place
of others, a key that willhelp you overcome fears, is called to
empathia, knowing what the fears ofothers are. You will be able to

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understand the situation and its needs andyou will be able to contribute or change
or improve your life, that is, you will be able to promote others.
If you have security, people aregoing to feel good in your arms,
they are going to feel good listeningto you, they are going to
turn to YOU, because you aresomeone who gives you security, protection and

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love. And then, when someoneis afraid, they' re going to
get your advice, they' regoing to get your arms, they'
re going to get your shelter,they' re going to look for your
closeness and being with you and learningfrom you. But if you' re
someone who gets angry, doesn't listen, never has time, then
you' re someone who doesn't cause security or trust. And for

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you to improve your health, youhave to learn to master your emotions,
you have to overcome your fears,because there are some diseases that are caused
by fear. One of them iscerebral palsy or from some part of the
body, diabetes, a cloudy visionheart attack, nervous and even art polytis

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can give you now imagine giving youdiarrhea at the least expected moment and you
run to the bathroom and there isno paper. What do you do if
there' s no paper in thebathroom. A little bit you' d
be afraid of that and maybe you' ll say well, because I send
a whatsapp, I write a message, I call on the phone, but

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if you don' t have balance, no data, no Internet and no
stack, what you' re goingto do. Well, maybe some people
say sock. No. That's why I wear sock moccasins. At
least I' m already protected.No, or maybe others say no,
because the underwear or way, evenif it' s disposable, I clean
with it. No, and thensomething with the pants. So, no
one will see that I don't wear underwear under or with my hands

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and then wash your hands and thenthere' s no water, so what
do you do? It wouldn't be too much anymore, but soon
you wouldn' t be afraid ofa situation like that. Now I ask
you what you do when you're afraid, maybe you at some point
in your life, seeing that there' s no way out, to which
the situation is too difficult, becauseyou don' t have the support or

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the people or the resources to getthrough. You wanted to kill yourself.
Maybe you' ve wanted not tobe alive, maybe you' ve hated
your life because of the circumstances you' ve had to experience and live.
Maybe you' re paralyzed. Youfeel distressed, distressed, you get into
depression. You don' t trynew things, because the things you'
ve tried haven' t had theexpected results. You hurt your body,

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you spend it crying, you getunder the bed, you eat without control,
and then there are eating disorders.You start getting fat and then you
have low self- esteem and youlive in insecurity because of fear of the
rejection they will say to the critic, because you' re fat and nobody

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loves you because maybe the person youlove, because you don' t feel
the same way about you anymore andyou start having these kinds of problems.
You' re afraid because you thinkyou can' t do anything right,
you don' t want to goanywhere. What do you do when you
' re afraid, what do youfeel, who you talk to, what
do you listen to, where doyou go when you' re afraid,

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you steal from someone you trust,you don' t risk trying again,
you spend your money without thinking andthen you' re already indebted to the
card, you live with constant concern, you use pills to sleep and control
your nerves, you' re filledwith anger, hate, resentment and you

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vent, making life unhappy to yourfellows because it has bad news and then
you' re worried and you're not getting warmed up by the sun.
And then anyone who comes to youreceives the worst from you because of
your fears, your troubles and yourworries. What do you do when you
' re afraid, you smoke todestress, to relax, to calm down,

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you take refuge listening to music,rock, that your fist and it
' s punches the ranchera to thegorge you take refuge in drugs, in
alcohol. What do you do whenyou' re afraid and maybe you'
re having a good time? Youdon' t go partying in the guts,
because your friends tell you to forgetall the troubles, we' re
going to go out and watch youtake this and the next and another and

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another and another. And when yourealize and you' re all right,
drunk. And it' s justthat some people say I drive better drunk
than sober. Others say if Iam going to die of something, because
we have to enjoy life, butthey are not aware of their actions and
actions. If you overdo or makemistakes. Now imagine yourself drunk, drunk,

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or drugged, and then what happenshere. I want to share a
family anecdote to make you reflect onthe importance of the value of life and
that you, where you are listeningto me, have a great gift and
a great opportunity, because while yourheart, you can reach your dreams and

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overcome your fears. But maybe you' re not realizing it, because you
' re too anchored in the problem, in the situation, moaning, crying,
suffering and stagnating, and it's no use crying. The problem
will not change until you face it, until you become brave and overcome fear
and go in search of all thatyou want to carry out and that is

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disturbing you today. You were notborn to fail, You were not born
to live in fear, You werenot born to be failing, You were
born to go from triumph to triumph, from victory to victory and from joy
to joy. Life isn' teasy, but that' s what it

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' s all about learning and tryingto make it happen. I want you
where you' re reflecting on thisthat I' m going to share and
I hope you understand what I wantto convey to you with my heart right
now. WHAT' S THE MATTER? When I was a kid, I
had a cousin with whom I playedvideo games and our favourites were racing,

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and our dream was that when wewere big, everyone had their car and
we would run, that is,we' d get a few runaways.
Time goes by, I stop seeingit and it' s typical. Not
suddenly does a relative marry and youfind that you have more relatives, more
cousins and that they are already yourfamily and you do not know them.
Not then from home a cousin,they invite us to their wedding, they

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sit at a big table with alot of people around and suddenly, casually
my cousin from childhood who was yearsold who I didn' t see sits
there next to me at our table. So you know not the typical conversations
of when you stop seeing someone youdo, you' ve already married,

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you have children, what you do, etcetera. But all of a sudden,
when my cousin talks to me,he says, hey, you remember
when we were kids and we playedvideo games, so what do you think?
I already have my car. Mydad bought me my car and I
told him, so what do youthink. I have mine, too,
and it' s parked to see. We' re going to see them,

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because we didn' t totally makethe runaways and we agreed to go
out for some friends and that itwouldn' t be that long to see
each other again and that we weregoing to call, to eat and to
live together. That was May.Months later December arrives, days before Christmas,
the phone rings at your house orat your house, at my house,

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at your house and suddenly I answerit was my cousin who married to
give me a news and tells meoli your cousin died. I couldn'
t believe it if we just livedwith you at the wedding, how it
was possible, what happened, whathappened. And then we go to ber

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my mom and I and you goin the silence, the tears, the
people, meditating, analyzing, reflecting, with pain, with sadness. It
' s a place where there areno words. And as my mother and

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I stood in the box, Ibegan to reflect and think about a question
that I was asking you at thebeginning of this conference, that if you
had dreams and what your dreams areat the moment, what is that you
are fighting for, that you arefacing, that you would like to be

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able to realize, conclude, reachor achieve, because that is what I
thought when I was standing watching mycousin dead in that box. What your
dreams will be and how it endedup there. He was younger than me
and what happened, for he,in the company of his friends, was

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a party, his girlfriend and hisfriends consumed alcohol and then, when they
realized it was too late, theywent to ask their parents for more permission
and convince them. And then,when my cousin arrived with his parents,

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the mom told the dad to letthem keep having fun. Look, they
' re young. He only metonce Don' t be bitter that his
girlfriend still handles his friends. Dadtold him to watch it come. That
' s all for today. That' s enough, it' s too
late, he stays home, hedoesn' t go out and get back
in a cab or his parents comefor them, but that' s it

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for today. She said go ahead, please don' t be like that.
The parents argued. My cousin tookhis vehicle. He left with his
friends, no matter what discussion hehad had with his parents and his car
was found impacted on a pole inMexico City. He was driving and from

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the impact and shock he came outof it windshield and lost his life instantly.
Another of his friends was left withthe body completely disintegrated. His girlfriend
was cut off and passed away andanother of his friends came to intensive care
and had to disconnect him. Fouraverage youths aged nineteen to twenty- three

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lost their lives as a result ofan automobile accident. That' s why
it' s branding and drinking alcoholicbeverages. With this I ask you at
that moment if you have lost aloved one, if you have lost someone
to that nothing else, if someoneyou want has died and lost his life.

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Well, I' m telling youright now that you have a great
opportunity, which is the ability toachieve your dreams. It is the power
to enjoy life, it is thepower to feel, to be alive,
to see, to walk and,despite circumstances, problems, suffering and unjust
situations. Perhaps life is alive and, as long as you live, you

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can overcome your fears and reach yourdreams. While telling that story of my
cousin that I hope you have becomeaware of and understood what is the value
of life and the opportunity you havetoday to be alive and to achieve the
dreams that perhaps my cousin could nolonger achieve was nineteen years old. I

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don' t know how old youare, but all I know is that
as long as you live, everythingis possible, no matter the circumstances,
the economic lack, the problems ofchildhood, the family, the social environment,
when you want it, you canwithout fear, everything is possible,

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something I want you to understand.While I was telling you this story,
right now, while you' regoing to hear the following, look at
what' s going on while you' re listening to me, right now,
there' s someone under a bridgelooking for what to eat while you
' re listening to this. Thereis someone who, right now, is

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alcoholized, drugged, worried, depressed, and perhaps is thinking of ending his
life and perhaps even pulling a bridgeor hanging himself, as at this time
as well. There is someone inthe hospital who is waiting to receive blood
transfusion or some organ in order tocontinue living and who may have that organ

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and that type of blood, whilethat person is receiving or waiting for someone
to give it. There' ssomeone who' s in intensive care,
connected to a wire and while they' re in the hospital, there'
s people outside waiting for good orbad news while they' re there,

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there' s another person who's losing his life right now. And
while he' s losing his life, there' s another one that'
s burying him right now. Butyou, despite your character, despite your
way of being, despite the situations, the things you haven' t accomplished,
the circumstances you' re going through, you' re alive and many

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would like to have the opportunity.That you have the family, that you
have the job, that you havethe money, that you have, the
car, that you possess to beloved by the person who is loving you.
And you' re not valuing anythingyou have because you' re focused
on having, on possessing to do, because you already are and maybe you

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' re living in fear. Buttoday that' s going to change,
because the fact that you have thisrecording means that you' re ready for
success and that you' re goingto overcome your fears. There are those
who are afraid of being run over, there are those who are afraid even
of failure and look very closely.I want you to think right now about
everything that has cost you work,about everything that you might think was impossible,

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and maybe you' ve made it, and you know what you had
to do to achieve that success,overcome your fears, make decisions, believe,
have faith, fight, strive,suffer, sacrifice. But all that
is worth it, because then youachieve everything you want and you long to

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see very well in the areas ofyour life that you have not succeeded.
It' s where there' sfear, it' s where you'
re maybe frustrated, worried to bitter. It' s where maybe you feel
something isn' t going well andfear is classified. If you ask yourself
this question of what you' reafraid of and what your fears are,

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what I was telling you in thebeginning. You' re gonna be able
to focus, make decisions, andget ahead. You have to make a
list of what are the fears inyour person, that is, what are
your personal fears, that is,you will classify them, so that then,
identifying them, now you will counteractthem and overcome them then what are

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the personal fears, the affective fears, sentimental fears, the fears in your
work with the people you develop.What gives you fear where you go with
those who live with aspirational economics inthe short, medium and long term,

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what are the fears with which youare living in the environment. There are
fears and there are situations and thereare things that could become a fear,
but among you more think and moreprepared you are older. Or but you
will have them and the more youlearn to manage your emotions and to be

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able to analyze and do a riskanalysis for effective decision making and live without
fear. This is what I'm sharing with you. This is very
important and later, I' llgive you more stuff to overcome your fears.
Look carefully at the signs that youhave to take into account to make
an assertive and effective decision is thatyou have peace, that you have peace,

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that you do not suffer, thatyou do not suffer, that it
does not cause you worry or uncertainty. When things are accompanied by peace,
everything flows and is for good andfor your development. There you have to
focus. Your decision, but ifit scares you, it gives you uncertainty,
it gives you fear, you don' t feel prepared, you have

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insecurity. This looks like it's good, but you' re not
sure, there' s uncertainty,you' re stealing peace. Don'
t. Don' t, becausealso being afraid. Many times it saves
your life from having made a baddecision. Analyze what are the consequences of

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each decision, what are the risksyou will face. What you don'
t have with what accounts, whatresources you have how you can get what
you don' t have, whatyou have to do and analyzing the worst
and the positive, then that's what' s going to lead you
to make a good decision. Whatare the benefits, what are the satisfactions

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that you will achieve. It's worth it to try or it'
s not worth it to continue,but what gives you peace, that'
s what you have to do,because when you manage to eradicate fear,
peace is achieved. And the intentionis that everything you do is quiet,
be with love, be with valueswithout fear. Another kind of fear may

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be to the economy that doesn't reach you, that you don'
t pay your debts, that youdon' t improve your quality of life,
that you are fired, that youare expelled fear of war and that
something very important that I want toemphasize in the following, making a statement
that there is a social analysis ofwhat people do when they are afraid or

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what they turn to. There areaspects of faith that are fundamental to overcoming
fears. What this means is thatpeople are always looking to have spiritual backing
or move some supernatural force or receiveas some backup or power to be able
to face the earthly, the naturalof life and existence, a belief,
a conviction, a custom, something. So religiously speaking you are afraid of

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satan coming the chamuco the flip flopsand that you will lower your legs and
that you do not behave well youare going to go to hell for all
the bad that you do that way. They scare you to do the right
thing. Be aware that if youdo something wrong, you' re going
to go to hell and that wayyou' re supposed to do the right
thing for that fear of death.Some people have the belief to say good,

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because I put an altar on it. I offer this to him because,
as it is death and if Imake a covenant with it, then
I will not die. No,but what do you think is the natural
process of human or human life,to be born, to grow, to

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reproduce and to die. You can' t help it, but you don
' t know when you' regoing to die. And even though you
offer him a deal and you seehim, you' re gonna die one
day, you can' t helpit. Now I ask you if today
you know what the last day ofyour life is, what you would do,

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what you would do if you knewyou were going to die, look
at life changes from moment to moment. Misfortunes happen in seconds and when you
least expect it. Everything is differentthan you expected. I ask you right
now if you knew that today,that last day you' re going to
live, what you would do,how you would enjoy it and I assure

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you that you would live it withoutfear. I assure you, you'
d do what you love the most, what you like the most. I
assure you, you' d belooking for the people who are important to
you. You' d tell themyou loved them you' d give them
a kiss, go with your wifeand give her a little hug. Maybe
you' d buy what you like, enjoy every food to the fullest,

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because it' s the last oneyou' ll be able to eat today.
Maybe you' d make a letterand write to her and tell everyone
what you feel, you' ddare express yourself without fear. Maybe you
' d tell the person I loveyou, I love you, I need
you. Maybe you' d bebound to apologize, maybe you' d

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dare do what you' ve neverdone. The question that I ask you
today what misfortune or unpleasant situation hasto happen to you so that you live
without fear, so that you dareto do things, because when then life
changes and people leave, there comesthe there and why I didn' t
tell you, why I didn't express it to you, and then

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the blame comes. And then,that' s where the fears originate,
because, as you didn' t, now you' re afraid you won
' t do it again. Youhave to overcome your fears, You have
to dare to express yourself without fear, You have to dare to do what
you want to do because life oror today you have it tomorrow who knows
and if you don' t believein an eternal life and you think you

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' re going to go for thebest, to resurrect or live in a
pig, to see if they don' t make you fleshy and it'
s very valuable what you believe andwhat you think and it' s very
respectable, but you have to realizethat while it' s true or lie,
if you don' t believe,nothing is going to happen. But
what you have to be aware ofis that, as long as you live,

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you can do everything you want,despite bad experiences, such is best.
You think that at age you're gone, but you can realize
yourself through the people you love.You can influence others you are, a
person who is full of virtues,talents, qualities and abilities, very special
things but who perhaps out of fearhas limited himself to making who he truly

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should be and today you have tostart a new life and live without fear.
Another type of fear in the aspectsof faith, as everyone does not
resort to a higher being. Theycall him whatever they call him, but
there' s something very important.Personally, I sought and said well,

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what God says about fear and Ifound a passage in the Bible that is
my favorite and that, in fact, is the backing for this tour to
be possible and is the promise thatI have embraced with all my faith and
with all my heart and with allmy love, for which you are listening
today. And it is this versethat for me has something very important and

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that changes your life. Look verycarefully and if you find forty- one
ten. Do not be afraid,for I am with you, do not
faint, for I am you,God, who strives for you, I
will always help you and I willalways sit you with my right hand and
my justice. This is amazing,because look at it very well. You
can say that God does not exist, but what do you believe our national

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anthem, as Mexican, does notsay that by the finger of God he
wrote in the textbooks at school teachyou that the time that governs humanity is
before and after Christ. And youcan' t talk about what doesn'
t exist, because if you don' t, then you wouldn' t
talk about what' s real.And the only one who conquered death and
gave himself up for love and toldus that he would be every day until

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the end of the world was JesusChrist God. And if God tells you
not to be afraid, because Iam with you then you worry. If
he tells you don' t faint, because I am your God who strives
for you. He' ll giveyou strength when you think it' s
no longer worth moving forward and hesays there I' ll always help you.

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You don' t say if you' re good, if you'
re bad. I will always bewith the right hand of my justice.
But you know why this isn't real in your life, because you
don' t believe it. Becausethe key that makes the supernatural happen and
the miracle happens is called faith.What makes things happen is faith and faith
is the certainty and conviction of whatis expected to be seen. And I

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' m sure the successes you've had in the house, that you
bought the car that you have todaythe race that you' ve achieved that
title. The person you now haveat your side, your son. All
these things are aspects of FAITH,because one day you thought you were going
to do it, you did whatis right with you, you did what
is humanly possible and the impossible happened, but by your faith it will be

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done to you. By your faithyou have achieved it, because, regardless
of the difficulty, the problem,the fear and how difficult you have lived,
you believed with all your heart andthe result is this that you are
living today in the areas of yourlife that you have not believed. That
' s where fear exists. Sothat' s where you have to believe,

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that' s where you have tofight, where you have to strive.
That' s what you have toface and that' s what you
have to do today. It isto believe once again with God. It
is not seeing to believe, itis believing to see and many things that
are tormenting you today. You're not seeing them, but you'
re believing them. And they're scaring you today and the way to

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overcome that fear is by believing thatit' s not going to scare you
anymore and that you' re goingto get out of that situation successfully.
You' re going to get up, you' re going to get well,
you' re going to get thattitle, you' re going to
finish your career, you' regoing to have that car, you'
re going to have that house,you' re going to have that good
woman, you' re going tohave that man who' s going to

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love you, he' s goingto protect you, he' s going
to take care of you, you' re going to get everything you propose.
For to him who believes you readall things possible and without fear,
there is nothing to fear. Perhapsyou are afraid not to find the love
of your life, that there issomeone who can love you as you are.
Maybe you don' t believe inlove anymore,' cause what women
say when they break her heart.All men are equal and we, men,
who say all women are worse.No, and then you don'

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t want to get hurt anymore,so you change, you get bitter,
you get away, you don't love anymore, it gets frivolous,
colder out of fear. And therose brings thorns And those thorns are the
father- in- law or mother- in- law And maybe you'
re the father- in- lawor the mother- in- law and

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you' re somebody' s coconutbecause they' re afraid of you or
you' re gonna become a mother- in- law. One of these
days and then the problem is thatthe woman is beautiful and wonderful and the
best thing that can happen to youin life. But he has a father
- in- law, a mother- in- law who doesn' t
even want to see you in paint. And here I want to share an
anecdote about when I was in highschool. No, and I' m
sure you might have fallen in lovein high school, and I think we

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' ve all been through it,and I don' t know if they
remember that. No, but Iwanted to make you imagine high school times
and suddenly I was in love witha little girl I loved, she was
nice and I was afraid she'd break my heart and she' d
say one day. All of asudden I had a half cold. However,
I decided to face my fear anddare to tell her what I felt

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for her. Then I was inthe classroom and suddenly she comes in to
me, I greet her, Isee her and suddenly it starts to scare
me and I feel like I wantto stop my heart. Imagine the love
of your life in front of youfeelings and indescribable emotions, that you feel

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something in your stomach and that yourheart beats very fast and you start sweating
and you don' t want toerr or try to move, but you
have to greet him no and suddenlygreet him and then I stay watching him.
She stays watching me and I tellher, but before I ask her
if you want to be my girlfriend, what do you think she told me

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what you think the answer was?When I asked him if he wanted to
make my girlfriend, maybe you saidno and he wanted to break my heart
and see me suffer truth. Ormaybe you said yes, and then celebrate
my success, because the answer shegave me you can' t imagine.
When I was going to tell herthat if she wanted to make my girlfriend,
her answer was you have something greennose and it is that I was

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sour and then suddenly, I touchmy nose and it pops out, my
mucus sticks green and watery And then, in high school, what happens,
because the muds appear, change yourvoice, you get hairs smell. Ugly
you experience those changes that many areafraid of. Your body develops. But
to me a bar had come outon the tip of my nose and I

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didn' t want to squeeze itor slap it before going to school,
when I saw myself in the mirror, because if it was going to be
bigger, it was going to bevery obvious that I had a bar.
Not then, when I tell herthat if you want to be my girlfriend,
she tells me you have something greennose, then I, by touching
my nose, stick my green andwatery mucus and my mud bursts in her
face. The girl disgusted him andturned around and left and I never knew

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if she had been my girlfriend fora snot and mud I lost the love
of my life. Maybe and that' s not there. This girl went
and told her friends and when Icame out of the living room, when
I walked out, then someone toldme by far the mucus will stick to
you and the muds keep it andthe pegostioso and the nicknames that you can

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' t imagine enduring them for threeyears of my life I was afraid to
go to school for a mucus andmud. You can imagine not wanting to
set foot there because of a snotand mud, because I was afraid and
the nicknames and bullying that I hadto endure for three years of my life
and maybe you' re dead oflaughter or you say, and that has

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to do with the Conference. Butwhat I want to tell you about the
following you' re going to haveto raise your face and face up to
situations no matter how unpleasant or embarrassingyou' re having to face. You
can' t run away, youcan' t keep this coughing up money.
You can' t keep crying abouta situation. You have to face
that circumstance and be brave and havecharacter and lift your face once again and

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continue forward another fear and another nerdthat I share with you. When I
was a kid, here in myhouse at your house, when the garbage
road came, before I stopped byto pick it up, a person would
run by with a bell to warnthat the truck was coming. So,

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when the bell rang, my momused to tell me it' s common
to put you in the garbage roadand I got under the bed, because
I was afraid the truck would takeme. I didn' t want to
end up in the trash and betaken away from my mom and my house.
Then I would run and get intothe depths of the bed and I
wouldn' t go out, andmy mom would laugh, but I was

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scared. The garbage road and aneighbor instead of a bell had a bell.
Every time the neighbor' s bellwas ringing, I was scared.
We were on the street in thecar or walking and the bell rang and
I thought that the truck that alreadycame after me the garbage was coming after
us. One day all of asudden, I had to beat my fear

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of the garbage truck. I tookthe bag, stood at the gate.
He comes from the trash and hesays hubiy my bulubness, I give him
the bag, he shakes my hand, I hit him and I say thank
you how cool and he tells mehe falls for the coke. If I
had known, I would have boughthim a two- litre coke and I
wouldn' t have been afraid.Why I' m telling you this.

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Many people are going to want tosee you fail, they' re going
to want you not to achieve whatyou want, they' re going to
want to try, make you giveup your dreams, they' re going
to put ideas in, they're going to tell you that it was
wrong, that someone suffered. He' s going to try to do the
wrong thing, that you don't get what you want to do and

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don' t you dare beat thatfear. You can' t be afraid
for what you haven' t tried, you can' t be seeing with
fear for others' experiences and youcan' t be depriving yourself of happiness
and sacrificing your dreams for what otherssay, let alone waiting for them to
recognize you and live with fear forwanting to satisfy everyone. You' re

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unique, you' re special,you' re different and you have to
get ahead and you have to getwhat you want. Don' t let
those people take away your happiness.Another kind of fear that you may have
is that you are poor, thatyou will not get the money, that
you will end up in bankruptcy,total fear, that you will be sick,

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that you will be operated on byblood, perhaps by infidelity, deception,
abandonment, not finding work and losingit, fear of getting married and
being able to make a family.But you have to understand that not because
you' ve gone wrong maybe severaltimes in love won' t get to
the right person. On the contrary, you have to keep believing, waiting

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and from bad experiences. Do notbe afraid and learn to identify what truly
is something that gives you peace,that values you, that they respect you,
that they take care of you,that they protect you, but,
above all, that they want tobe at your side, despite the circumstances
that may come in life. Youmustn' t be afraid to give yourself
a chance to believe in love.Again, speaking of love, there is

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one person I use as an examplefor the following. Tomás Alfa Edison,
the creator of the bulb or focus, was a person who did not give
up the first one, but waspersistent until he achieved his dream. His
dream was to create an invention thatseemed crazy to a lot of people.

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It is said that there were morethan 2, 000 attempts to achieve it.
And even when he succeeded, theymocked him by asking him why he
had taken so long to carry itout. And he replied that he had
found more than 2, 000 waysthat were not right to accomplish what he
wanted to do. And and he, then, had to face difficult situations,
lack of economy, work, hadno support and had to work hard

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enough to invest what he wanted todo in his invention. So many times
we get discouraged at the first,the second or the third attempt. In
the first we desist perhaps because wesee that it is very complicated. But
if we keep trying, then webegin to see everything we don' t

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have and put buts and justifications tostop trying and by decision apathy and laziness,
we give up on our dream,but maybe we keep trying one more
time and the third we already gaveup. It' s like the piñata
you didn' t give her one, you already gave her two and set
up three. Your time is up. And if you didn' t hit
him, you ran out of candyI mean, you ran out of sleep

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and fear. Many times, that' s what he does, because when
you' re trying, you startto see everything you don' t have
and then the fear of not succeedingand failing begins to grow. And there
' s something that I think isvery important in the sentimental matter. I
am jokingly saying that, since Ididn' t do very well in love,

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then, I have two thousand womenleft to know no, and then
my mom laughs at that and peopletoo. But what I want to tell
you is don' t give up. It doesn' t matter how many
attempts, how many times you're trying to get it, or how

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late you' re going to getit, and you shouldn' t be
afraid, even if situations seem impossible. For the one who believes everything is
possible and you have to continue untilyou succeed, and you must not be
afraid of the situation or the problems, or what people say, as they
said, or what you are facing. You have to believe until the end

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another topic related to this conference andfocusing this on the sexual factor. With
great respect I want to address thisissue linked to what we are talking about
and the fear of contracting a sexuallytransmitted disease. On this subject there are
no second chances. With only onceit is more than enough to be able

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to contract some disease. And thereare diseases that are silent and you can,
maybe believe or trust a person,but you really don' t know
their personal life at a conference talkingabout sexual responsibility. With this tour,
after having given a talk, sheapproached me to speak to a young woman

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and asked me, please, notto give her name, because she saw
that I could reach many people andshe believed that through my conference people are
saved. And so he shared withme a testimony that the truth impacted my
life and that I want to shareit with you. What he told me

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was the following. She loved herboyfriend with all her heart with all her
strength and she was afraid to losehim. And then she had never had
sex with him and she was veryscared because she didn' t know what
to do, how to react orhow to do it. Not that.

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And this topic is very delicate,because many times parents out of fear have
no communication with their children and thiscan save the lives of many and prevent
people from suffering or making a baddecision and then being more afraid. So
this girl, as she researched theInternet, asks her friends, but many

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of them had already had a badexperience on the Internet. He had found
a lot of information that created moredoubts and that he did not know what
decision to make. Then, thegroom was pushing her to have sex,
as she had never been with aman and had never had sexual relationships,
because she didn' t know whatto do and that scared her. So
imagine she wanted to talk about sexualitywith her mom, with her dad,

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because I don' t think hermom dad had done that. Daughter enjoy
it with everything and without fear.True, that' s it. That
' s complicated and it' sa very personal matter, where it'
s a total delivery that' syou. Then the girl, because she
felt very pressured and the boyfriend wasinsisting on her. He promised that they

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could get married later, but firsthe wanted to meet her to see how
compatible they were. And then,all of a sudden, his ex-
girlfriend showed up and she told himthat she didn' t care that he
was with the other girl and thenhe, because he went to talk to
his girlfriend and told her that hisex had been looking for her and that

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he proposed to be with him andthat he didn' t care that he
had a relationship with her. So, the girl, imagine by saying that
to her boyfriend now, all fourof them are happy there. Not then
that, because it doesn' tgo. Not then the girl, because
she loved him and didn' twant to lose him. And then,
knowing that her ex wanted to haveintimacy with her boyfriend and that she didn

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' t, she felt completely devastated. Not then, at the end of
the day, she agreed for fearof not losing it. Tous sexual intercourse
with him was not protected and shortlyafter an outbreak appeared in his reproductive system
he was frightened. He talked tohis mom. He had to tell her

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what happened. Her mother, accompaniedher to the doctor for some tests and
the results of those tests were thatshe was detected by human papilloma, a
disease of highly contagious risk, whichdescribes the science that is curable and that
this disease is given by having unprotectedsex. Then the girl, for she

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had never experienced such a situation.Now imagine your first sexual relationship with a
person who loved a risky illness andwho never thought and in your life that
that could happen to you and seeingyour body and another reproductive with that manifestation
of that disease, as you wereeven more frightened. Then she spoke to
him, told him what had happenedand she, waiting for her best to

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support her, to understand her orto give her an explanation of why she
had happened to her? If shehadn' t had sex with anyone,
then the boy offended her, humiliatedher, abused her, mocked her.
He told her it wasn' tgood, that she was probably the one
who cheated on him. She saidhow dare she say that. If she

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gave herself to him for love andthat, even though she was afraid,
she did it because she wanted tolose him, then he started offending her
and insulting her, and then shedidn' t know it was the product
of revenge, that is, hewas the thought of so if I'
m going to die of something,you have to enjoy life. And what
he did was he didn' tcare to promise to lie, cheat with

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such and satisfy his sexual desire andrevenge, because as he was infected and
had that disease, he didn't care. And then what he did
was to have sexual relations without responsibility, using people and cheating them and expanding
the virus, because he was notresponsible or concerned about his life, because

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he was convinced that one day hewould die. What I' m going
to do with this, imagine herfirst sexual relationship, with the supposed love
of her life. That girl shatteredher life by not thinking about the consequences
of letting herself be carried away now. Imagine that instead of papilloma, it
would have been vih and maybe shewas pregnant. And now imagine that that

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might be happening to you or yourchildren or someone in your family or someone
you love What a need to sufferand to go through these situations when you
could have avoided this because you werenot aware, not thinking about the person
who really loves you and loves you, will respect you, will value you,
will take care of you, willprotect you and nothing else. He

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' s gonna want to be withyou once, he' s gonna want
to be with you all his life. But if you won' t respect
yourself, don' t take careof yourself, don' t protect yourself
and don' t think about theconsequences of your actions, your life can
bring a completely radical change to whatyou expected. Now imagine she was pregnant.
Now imagine you' re going tobe a father. Now imagine each

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being a mom and having a sexuallytransmitted disease. And the boy or the
girl, the baby or the baby, no, no, no, no,
they' ve got the blame becauseshe didn' t ask to come
into the world. It' sa consequence of your decision and many times,
maybe it happens in families that inchildren are not wanted and call them
a blessing, but you know whatthe problem is that when that child grows

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up he will have resentment, Ihate courage for how he was treated,
for having been rejected, for havingbeen humiliated, and the child is not
to blame and that the relationship betweenthe parents is not good. But if
you really want someone to love you, you have to give yourself respect and
respect and on this issue that isso important, there are no second chances

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with a vast and total decision.Many people suddenly make a decision without thinking
further and all that is harm theirlives in an impressive way and from there
they begin to have hatred, resentmentand courage. But the boy and the
girl are not to blame and manymake the decision to abort and end the

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dream that they are not to blamelike me, I don' t want
to be a father, I'm not prepared, I don' t
have the resources and, besides,who knows if I' m really the
dad kill him. That is thedecision that many women make today, perhaps
because of the fears that they donot have the resources, because of the
situation that they have lived or tomake that decision or not have the support
of the family and different circumstances thatbegin to suffer opt for this exit.

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But psychological, emotional, physical andspiritual damage. How you kill those feelings,
what a need to go through thesecircumstances and now always live with guilt
for not having thought and for havinggiven rise to passion the flesh' s
desire to live the moment no matterwhat. Your life can change in a

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radical way or that of your lovedones. You have to dare to talk
about these issues and be responsible andwait for the moment to be able to
share in fullness and happiness in blisswith the person you love and love you.
You have to take care of yourself, you have to protect yourself because

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you don' t know each person' s sex life. You don'
t know how many times with whomyou have no idea and if there is
no trust, communication, values andrespect and with anyone you make the decision
to do this you expose yourself verymuch and not only you, but also
by suffering you the people who loveyou the most will suffer and you shouldn

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' t be afraid. On thecontrary, a sexual relationship is to enjoy
it. But everything has its timeand its moment. But you have to
really think about why you' remaking that decision. And it' s
a personal decision, but it's not their fault. If you cause
someone to come into the world,it' s to make them happy,
not to have resentment I hate courage, let alone blame it, because the

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relationship can be good or bad withwho the father or mother is. That
child is the one who will sustainyou, that girl is the one who
will attend to your hand, andthey are the ones who will be with
you and that when you are anadult or older person, they will be
responsible for you and maybe they willeven support you. You have to think
about how you' re treating yourkids and how you' re behaving.

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Some are afraid of the dark,the coconut. My mom, when I
was a kid, she used tosay to me that she sleeps you kid,
sleeps already doing in the coconut andshe' ll take you. No.
And I was better off sleeping,for I imagined that I was a
bad and ugly dragon, and itwas better for me to sleep. There
are those who fear snakes, snakes, cockroaches, rats, insects, spiders,
bees, dead, ghosts and spirits, earthquakes and tremors, floods,

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rejection of those who will say,by making a mistake, criticism and nicknames.
You may also be afraid that Iwill rob you, kidnap you,
rape you and kill you. Andin order to combat this, the detail
is that we never think about whatcould happen and to anticipate or provide or

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foresee avoiding a circumstance or situation asit happened to us. That' s
when we start learning what to doin case of any situation. And the
detail is that one has to thinkbeyond. So here I' m going
to share tips for crime prevention andhow to avoid this situation. I believe
that everyone, at some point inour life, is afraid that they will

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rob us, that they will kidnapus and a situation of these that are
difficult to overcome, understand, acceptand, above all, forget. And
to avoid this, what you haveto do is change routes and schedules.
People who intend to assault you watchyour movements. Where you' re going,

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how long you take, who you' re going with, what places
you' re frequenting, what routesyou' re taking. So what you
have to do is keep you frombecoming predictable. I mean, you have
to change routes, schedules, sametruck, same coming, same trading space,
same cashier, all this is whatyou do constantly. Then you have

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to change locations places so that youdistract and if they already know that you
' re going to a certain placeat a precise time, then, that
' s where they' re goingto jump you, steal you and you
' re going to suffer this situation. One recommendation I can give you is
always watch everywhere. Constantly when youleave somewhere, when you board the car

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or transport or when you walk,always look in front of the sides and
back. Why, because the keyis in the details and if you become
a person who observes who analyzes.You' ll be able to spot at
that time, change the route,cross the avenue to the street or run

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or take some action. You mustalso have your cell phone with enough balance.
What' s the use of havingthe super cell phone, but no
data and no balance change the namesof your family members. Don' t
put on, Mom, Dad,my love, because then let' s
see, let' s see herlove that loves her so much minimum she
' s going to give me amillion pesos or a strong amount for her

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life and is one of the firstto call them to extort. In case
of extortion or phone call, donot engage with the emotional or sentimental question.
All of a sudden you' renever gonna imagine something like that going
to happen. So, then,you get scared if your reaction is to
let you get carried away by emotion, then they tell you we have your
son and we' re going tocut off a finger and if you don

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' t deposit me and then theypressure you that psychologically. And you,
at the moment, even if itcosts you work, you must breathe deeply,
reflect, listen and answer in aquiet and grief- free way until
they prove to you that they reallyhave your relative. You must not get
upset and try to stay calm asmuch as possible. Even if it costs
you work, I mean, you' re gonna answer him. Ah yes,

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you have my son, ah orale, because it' s okay that
father, not to see me sendthe finger and we negotiate obviously they,
because you will stabilize them with thatcomment and they will get out of hand
and then they can drop the theaterthere, because they never expected you to
react that way. Something that worksquite well is the short password of what
you want, but tell me whatthe password is. Always establish that link

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with your relative that if it's really your family member, they can
check it out and the password issomething that can help you a lot.
It is also very important that you, in case of theft and assault,
better, deliver your belongings and avoidarguing or clinging to not cooperating at times,
because you can feel a lot ofcourage in potential, because it cost

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you a lot of work, havingmade you those resources and being able to
buy those goods. But your lifehas an invaluable value that if you lose
it, you don' t getit back with anything and you can have
something much better than what you havetoday with a lot of effort, work
and education, you can have betterthings and, besides, in technology issues,

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things that expire very quickly, thatis, what is now fashionable.
Not tomorrow anymore, but your lifeis the most important thing you have to
take care of and protect. Avoidfighting, arguing, putting yourself for you
with the aggressor or that it wasto do justice by your hand. The
only thing you' re going todo is expose yourself to being stuck with
a knife, beaten, hurt orkilled, and the people who love you
and wait for you is the mostimportant thing. Think about them when this

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happens, analyze the situation, measurethe risk, and think about whether it
' s right, what reactions,and what choices you have at the moment.
He always thinks you can breathe Takeit easy. Even if it'
s an adverse situation, you haveto try to be as calm as possible.
Always write down all the details theslightest, because if you' re

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going to write a record and reportit, they' re going to ask
you those details and blind fear forLisa and at the moment she doesn'
t react quickly. But if you' re listening to this right now,
you already have some advice or guidanceon how to react when you pass.
This is why something is important.He also investigates always asking for reports,

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having his hand emergency distress numbers whenyou go somewhere. Always investigate which is
the nearest hospital, where the authoritiesare, which areas you can turn to,
who you can count on in caseof any situation. All those details
are very important and this is somethingthat' s going to work for you
in any area of your life.Always get used to the events. Go

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further if I go here, whatcan happen, what route I can take,
how can I avoid this. Don' t trust the Ways or the
Google Maps, because then the Waysis half ways and you get lost and
you' re late. So ifyou always think about what can happen,
you' re going to be preparedto react and not be afraid. It

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is very good to bring double walletor double purse in one you can save
the pennies and the pesos and inthe other you can save the money.
That you don' t occupy,because if they steal you will always have
money and bringing a double wallet ora double bottom jacket, it is difficult
that they can take your belongings andlose your money. That' s a

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tip that I can also give youwhat to do in case of theft,
Keep calm as much as possible,breathe, think positively, try not to
scare you, scream or react impulsively, keep in mind that it' s
going to happen fast, everything thatwon' t happen older and that everything
has a solution. Manage your thoughtsand emotions positively, even if it seems

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difficult. Other types of fear Youmay be afraid of clowns, injections,
syringes. There are people who preferto stay chimuela instead of going to the
dentist for the strawberry, fear offlying, fear of falling, fear of
heights, fear of being told atthe end of the world, we see
ourselves at the exit, that thisis bullying, that it is an antisocial

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behavior, that occurs in school,out of envy, out of jealousy,
out of rivalry, for the bride, for demonstrating the humbarity and power.
And this is what your kids areup against, and maybe you lived in
the family, too. It isalso due to lack of values, communication,
disintegration, family, unresolved problems,bitterness resentments, infidelity, lack of

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money and venting through some pressure atwork. It is also given by pressure,
workload, very long hours, disorganization, injustices, labor exploitation and abuse
in the sons. We have alsoseen it in football, in politics and
it has become normal for us thatif there are no blows, the party

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was not good also to couple relationships, for disagreements, also for abuse,
for imposition, for jealousy, forinsecurity, lack of confidence and communication,
mainly the types of bullying. Iclassify them in three verbal ways that are
insults that attack the self- esteemand value of the physical person, pushes,

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kicks, assaults or throw at yousome object and psychological, threats,
manipulation, blackmail and deception. Butthey all have a goal, which is
to provoke you, to destabilize you, and to provoke you to react violently
to provocations and attempts. But howto beat it, how to avoid it.

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And this can help you share itwith someone who is living it or
your children or if you are sufferingfrom it. It' s is this
is the way you can beat him, because this causes fear. First,
you should not react with anger,not return an evil for a good,
keep silent in the face of attemptsto provoke or incite the IRA or the

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fight, not be carried away bythose comments, turn around, not leave
intimacy, few words, but veryclear and precise, knowing your parents,
family or corresponding authorities the problem.You don' t have it. You
must speak it with confidence, withoutpity, with sincerity, discreetly, notice

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who you are going to ask forhelp. You' re not to blame
for being assaulted. You' renot alone in dealing with this situation.
The aggressor is that he understands theproblem. You don' t treat others
the way you want them to treatyou, because if you treat people well.
People are going to treat you welland they' re going to help
you, they' re going toprotect you, or they' re going

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to warn you of help to theone who needs it, and when you
need it, they' re goingto help you, too. Your way
of thinking is not how others believeand you must find out who you love
what is happening to you, whowill say what they want. Those who
are provoking you know that it isnot true and that it is the way
in which they seek to provoke you, not to argue with closed foolish absurd

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people, not to seek revenge orprovoke it. Even if you' re
right, move from the site toa nearby place where there are more people
and avoid being alone don' tcry, don' t get angry or
show that it affects you, breathedeeply and think about how you can react
and what' s best, becauseif you say a word there they'

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re going to grab to annoy yousome phrases and thoughts that I share with
you, it' s better herethat he ran, that he died here.
I' m whatever you want,what you think, but it'
s not like you say, northe reality I live in is how you
think I am. Your future willbe better than your present. As long
as you try and be brave,it' s cowardly that you can only
fix problems like animals. It's embarrassing that only by beating is it

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how I can solve a problem.And I' m almost getting into the
final part of this conference and Iwant to ask you at this moment what
achievements and how much time it hastaken to overcome you in life, what
are your personal problems, your family, how it is, what do you
expect from your future, your currentposition, economic, social, work,

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professional, what achievements have given yousatisfactions and what motivates you to go ahead
and stay in life or where youare, how you feel, what you
think, what your fears are,what your dreams are, what do you
want from your life at this moment, how you want your circumstance to change,
your situation. Maybe you' venever thought about this, but it
' s very important that you doit right now, because if it'

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s not like you' re ona drifting boat without fear, let yourself
get carried away as the current ofthe sea takes you without knowing where you
' re going directionless. Today youhave to map a route and set a
target and start over. And todayyou have to overcome your fears. Maybe
you' ve lost the route,the direction, the hope and you don

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' t know what to do.But today is the time when you'
re going to start living again,but without fear. Mom and Dad'
s fears are important and here you' re going to understand why your parents
were in a way or why you' re this way. And this is
something that repeats itself and is apattern that goes from generation to generation.

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I mean, your parents are theway they are because your grandparents were in
a way that taught them habits,customs, teaching, values, education and
all they could learn from your grandparentsis what they taught you. But if
the dad was a drinking hitter,maybe some parents learn this. And the

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difference you can make is that,even if you' ve had a dad
or a mom like that because nobodytaught them to be parents. That'
s why they learned. And whenyou have your kids, you' re
gonna get a chance to be abetter dad or mom than you had,
or repeat the same pattern. Andyou have to understand that it' s
not that your parents were bad,that' s how they taught them,

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that' s how they learned,because when you have your children you'
re going to teach them the samething. And you have to be aware
that, as no one taught them, they are learning with you, they
are experiencing and as you grow.Responsibility and commitment increases, because if something
happens to you, they are orresponsible for how you are living your life.

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But you have to understand that yourparents are also afraid or live in
fear, and maybe you never thoughtabout that because you can say no.
I don' t think my parentshave anything for the ugly character they have,
for the way they are, butwhat do you think that character and
that way of being is because ofthe bad experiences they' ve had in

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life. And one of their mainfears is that you suffer like them.
One of your most important and mostconcerned parents' fears is not being able
to give you the best. Thefear your dad or mom has is also
to push you forward that you're not an exemplary person, that you
' re not a successful person,that you don' t value the effort

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they make day by day for youto try to give you the best according
to their chances. Another fear isthat you waste it and don' t
know how much or how much youlose it they steal it and when that
happens, they made a great sacrificeto buy it with the cards in doubt
when you sleep count the centapos andthe pesos to complete your passage, your

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food or your clothes, or tobe able to buy something or just give
you money. The fear of yourfather or your mother is that a misfortune
happens to you, is that youthrow your life away, that you join
with bad friends, that you makebad decisions and fail to fall into drugs

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in alcohol, that you are nothappy, that you do not have the
right partner, that you suffer likethem in the future and repeat their same
mistakes, that you do not knowhow to guide and how to love,
and this I want to tell you, because this is the most important thing.
You know not to be told alove or love you doesn' t
mean that they don' t loveyou or that they don' t love

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you. Maybe their parents didn't teach them how to say a love
you or to express their feelings,and so your parents find it hard to
express what they feel about you,and what they often do is forge a
character they are. When they don' t call you, don' t
look for you, then don't worry. But if they' re

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on the lookout for you, theyhave details, they call you, they
' re looking for you, they' re correcting you. Thank God for
his life, because many would wantto have your dad or the mom you
have, when they may not havethem, and even if they do,
they do not care about them.This you' re going to hear at
that moment. Maybe no one willtell you, and it' s very

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difficult for anyone to realize this,and that' s why I share it
with you. You know why theyhave that character, why they insist on
you so much, why they demandyou too much, because that' s
where they' re demanding you iswhere they had a bad experience and suffered
and, therefore, they don't want you to suffer and repeat the
same mistake. That' s whythey punish you. That' s why

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in some particular situation, they're asking you too much, because they
had a bad expression but maybe theydon' t know how to tell you
or how to make you understand.And that' s why they demand you
so much and impose so much authorityon a situation that, in particular,
you know they don' t thinkso. And the reason is because they

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suffered very severely with that situation and, therefore, they demand you not to
repeat the mistake they made. Maybethat' s probably what marked their lives
and that' s what they wantto avoid you. Another fear of your
parents is not to be good parents, not to love them for what they

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are, but only for what theygive you. Your dad' s fear,
your mom' s, it's like loving you to become sexually
deviant and ruin your life. I' d like to ask you there if
you' re a son, ifyou really love your parents, if you
really love your mom, your dad, if they' re important to you.
You' ve come to think thatif one day they were missing,

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how your life would change, whatwould become of you, despite their character,
their mistakes, their way of being, even if they don' t
tell you, they love you morethan you imagine and many times they prefer
not to eat than you eat ifyou really love your parents. Maybe you
would say yes to me, butyou know how it is noticed or manifested

(01:38:26):
that you really love them, whenyou obey them, when you honor them,
when you care about them, whenyou are aware of their needs,
when you show them to them,when you tell them and you know how
you make a failed or failed dador mom feel or they are not good
parents. And you know a lotof parents blame themselves for why, because

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seeing you disobey them, that youdon' t do to them, that
when they ask you something, youdon' t do it and you do
it when you want it, you' re saying I don' t love
you, I don' t loveyou, I don' t care,
I' m worth what you thinkand I don' t agree with you

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and you don' t serve asa father or as a mother when you
' re irresponsible, when you don' t obey with your actions and actions.
You' re telling him that,and many times that hurts more than
any word, because your actions areincongruous to what you feel or what you
seem to say. That' show you make a dad or a mom
feel bad. And if you reallylove them, then why don' t
you obey them, why don't you take care of them, why

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don' t you thank them withactions with joy. Why, instead of
causing them satisfactions, you worry themand live in bitterness you know as you
go out. They' re worriedthat nothing will happen to you and sometimes
you turn off your phone so theycan' t communicate with you and you
can do whatever you want. Whenthey sacrificed their life to give you the

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best, to take care of youwhen you were a baby, when you
were a little girl, they tookcare that you didn' t stumble,
that you didn' t fall,that you wouldn' t suffer a misfortune.
You know when I was in mymom' s womb, my mom
didn' t know what I wasgonna do, I mean, my mom
didn' t know if I wasa boy or a girl. And my
mom when I was pregnant, shewent to a self- service store and

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suddenly passed by where the children's toys were and found a cart and
my mom bought it without knowing whatwas going to be a kid. You
can imagine. My mom already dreamedof holding me in her arms, they
had already decorated the room with mydad. My dad would sing her songs,
put his hand in her belly andwait for me to be born.

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And you know that cart I stillkeep it. You imagine that you are
what they love the most, whatthey want the most. And you know
whether father and mother abandon you oryou feel that they don' t love
you or that they don' tlove you for whatever reasons they may have
been. But you know they werebrave because they gave you the chance to
live and they didn' t endyou, they didn' t abort you,

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they didn' t throw you awayand they gave you the chance to
be here. And if it weren' t for them, you wouldn'
t be enjoying, living, growing, learning or enjoying or loving or realizing
yourself. Being who you are,thank God for your parents' lives.
It is that you exist today andeven though Father and Mother abandoned you or
rejected you. God will be withyou if you' re a dad or

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a mom. This thing you're going to hear is very important,
because I' m going to showyou and share the heart of your children.
You know what your children' sfears are. Maybe you' ve
never wondered if you don' tknow what their friends are, what places
they frequent, what their tastes are, their favorite TV, music, social

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media characters, etcetera. Much less, perhaps you have an idea of what
their concerns are or what their fearsare. Yeah, but you know what
one of your kids' fears is. He will not be a good son
who is not satisfied, proud orproud of your children, who are not
good students unless they are loved.That is the main fear in them to

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know that you, as a father, love them, love them and that
they are truly important to you.The fear of your daughter, of your
son is to be abandoned, thatyou will die, that a misfortune will
happen to you, because as ason, you are what you love most.
You' re his superhero, you' re his role model, you

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' re the best for them.And if something happens to you, your
dreams and your life will end andyou will start to be afraid at another
stage or area of your life.The fear of your children is that you
don' t understand them, thatyou don' t listen to them,
that you don' t support them, that you' re not in special

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and transcendent moments of their life,that when they want to talk to you,
you don' t have time,don' t care, and don
' t listen to them. Thefear of your children is to see you,
angry, to see you in aninconvenient state, alcoholic, drugged,
depressed, depressed, angry, annoying, that they cannot communicate with you that
before you speak you will let themoff a lull the fear of your children

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is that you will not be proudof them, that you will be beaten,
mistreated, humiliated, that you willnot respect their decisions, that you
will be scolded, evidenced, judged. Maybe they made a mistake, they
let you down as a father ora mother. But the fear of your
son or daughter is not to beforgiven when they already repented, when they

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already asked you for forgiveness and whenthey are struggling to make a difference and
that you do not value their effort, the fear of your children is to
ask for your help, to askfor support to give them advice before seeing
their mistake. The fear of yourchildren is that they lack advice, communication,
guidance, direction, love, protection, security, that only you,

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as a mother or as a father, can give them. And many times
they prefer to go with their friendsor look outside the house for what they
don' t have at home.Why, because a friend or friend in
parentheses will never force them, toquestion, to judge. They' re
cool, They' re the oneswho make them forget about you And sadly,

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many friends tell your kids to sendyou away, don' t listen
to you, they' re alreadyleaving the house, they' re leaving
with the boyfriend or the bride,they smoke, they drug, they do
other things that aren' t right, because at home they don' t
have enough confidence to be able totalk to you. Those are the advice
they receive from their friends, otherkinds of fear of the groom, the

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bride, the husband, the wifeto be loved and to love because you
are afraid that they will break yourheart and when it has already gone bad,
you already have trouble expressing your feelingsand that it is in women.
All men are equal and we,the men we say when a woman fails
you, all women are worse.But no matter how many times they have

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hurt you, there will always besomeone who wants to love you, someone
who you are their dream and whoin your arms, in your word,
in your warmth, will receive thatsecurity and trust that only you can give
them with love. Other types offear not knowing what is the purpose in
your life, beyond a career,to be prosperous, to have a good
job, a title or a position, what other purposes? Your life is

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afraid to grow old that your teethwill fall off and you know the biggest
fear. You' re yourself,because only you know what you' re
dealing with, that when you findyourself, it' s just what scares
you, what disturbs you, whatworries you, what you don' t
know what to do. Only youknow what your weaknesses are. Only you

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know that what has hurt you,what you have lived, what you have
suffered, and that is what givesyou fear. You are the greatest fear
because in the way of thinking itis how you drive yourself, how you
are, how you act, howyou react. And if your thinking is
negative, then everything is going tobe negative. You know, the fear

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that many have is to forgive,because they fail you again, fear,
to be happy and to end happiness, fear of a fire, to burn
you and you can also be afraidof natural disasters, fire and other situations.
But fear is also positive, becausefear is part of you. Fear

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protects you. Fear has benefits thathelp you grow as a person and if
it weren' t for fear,you wouldn' t realize what you'
ve been able to do today andwhat you can accomplish. The positive of
fear strengthens you in your weakness.It is a platform to grow is an

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impulse to move forward. When youget to that moment where you' re
completely sunk full of fear, it' s the moment when you get up
and you can transcend and go further. And it' s the urge that
' s gonna set you off withyour skills, your qualities, and taking
you beyond what you' ve neverdone. Fear is a motivation. Fear

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is a platform. Fear causes youto react positively. It shows you skills,
abilities, enables you to experience asituation, gives you knowledge, wisdom,
helps you prevent and avoid misfortunes.Fear provokes you to react in the

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best way when you give it theright approach. Fear makes you discover qualities
awaken your talents and being afraid savesyour life. Maybe you were about to
make a bad decision and because youwere afraid, that' s what keeps
you alive today and saved your life. Fear is an opportunity for change,

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it protects you. Fear is whatwill prevent you from suffering, it is
a warning, it is your conscienceand it is what you have to learn
to manage positively. It will alwaysaccompany you and will drive you to the
best of life, because fear ispart of your life, of your essence,

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of your person. But being afraidisn' t bad. There are
some characters that I like a lot. They call themselves Timon and Pumba and
they have a song called hakuna matatathat what the song says is unconcerned.
It' s the way to live. But it' s one thing to
know the song, another to singit and the difference is to live it.

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You what you believe, you haveto feel it, you have to
live it and you have to carryit out. But to overcome your fears,
you first have to identify what yourfear is. Maybe I didn'
t mention it, but you knowwhat it is, what you' re
dealing with, and when you're alone, it' s constantly in
your mind, in your soul,in your heart, and it' s
that voice you hear, that tellsyou you can' t, don'

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t, don' t try,you' re going to suffer. There
' s the fear. Then youhave to strive and be brave, make
decisions, learn to handle your emotionsand feelings. To overcome your fears,
you have to think positively, withcongruent attitudes that end up in actions and
being decisive. To overcome your fears, you have to be aware that fear

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is not greater than your ability oryour person. There would be no problems,
but there would also be no solutions. To overcome your fears, you
have to change habits and activity,keep you in peace and relax in the
face of fear. Find the sport, the gym, things that make you
feel good, that relax you,that drive you and make you have peace,

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reading the more prepared. These greateropportunities are going to have you invest
your time and resources in training,in career development, in things that make
you grow as an individual and thatdrive you to be a better person every
day. To overcome your fears,you have to change your way of being

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and stop being bitter and frustrated.You have to leave the past behind.
You can' t change it anymoreor remedy what you' ve lived through.
You already did, but what youcan change is your future. And
your future is built with your present. But you have to do without fear
to overcome your fears. You haveto do what is humanly possible to make

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the impossible happen. To overcome yourfears, you don' t have to
lend your ears to comment that theywon' t help you or believe everything
they tell you about their bad experiences. To overcome your fears, you must
not be paralyzed or spend your moneyon things that do not suit you or
make you grow as a person.Obviously, don' t take refuge in

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drugs, alcohol or anything that harmsyour body, other than those shelters when
you' re afraid. To overcomeyour fears, you have to seek the
advice of your parents or successful peoplewho inspire confidence and motivate you to be
better. To overcome your fears,you must not despair or despair, you

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must increase your faith and trust inGod. To overcome your fears, you
must always think about the consequences ofyour decisions and not take refuge in anything
that harms your body. To overcomeyour fears, you do not have to
make decisions in a hasty, pressured, angry, or very happy way,
but at a neutral point where youare calm and feel peace. To overcome

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your fears, you have to rememberyour past successes, what you thought was
impossible and how you did it.That that motivates you to be brave,
to strive and there for greater successesto overcome your fears. You have to
believe that you weren' t createdfor failure and that with what you have
you can do more than you don' t have and get what you want.

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This is where I get naked,but you can' t see me
and I wouldn' t feel sorryfor the truth either. What I'
m talking about is that I'm going to show you my heart and
I' m going to share someexperiences for which it was like I was
afraid and how I could overcome itand maybe you can identify with me.
My fears began at the age ofeight. I came from a family of

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high economic status, but for thatI want to tell you this story.
One day, a woman was drivingin her car and later a person started
following her. Then, when thatwoman came to the traffic light and stopped,
the person behind her couldn' tstop seeing her. Then he reached

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her, stood beside her and watchedher tenderly decided to follow her. When
the traffic light changed, he startedgoing after her. He started changing his
lights, signaling him to take ahit. The woman out of fear,
she rose up and got scared.Then, as he stopped his car,
a man with an umbrella in hishand got off. He gave her the

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talk and said hello. My nameis Raúl Ruiz. Please don' t
be scared I couldn' t stopadmiring your beauty and I dared to talk
to you. I' m goingto deliver this umbrella here to whose work
I work at the bank. Whenthat gentleman told her that, that lady,
the woman began to laugh and sheanswered him. I work at the

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bank at the time, too.When he saw it, the fear disappeared.
Seeing his smile, he conveyed confidenceand security and that man said please,
give me your number. She toldher she didn' t have a
number, but if I asked abouther, they could locate her. Soon
afterwards, rose chocolates, letters,poems, sweets and surprises reached the office.

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That lady later, without expecting it, became the bride of that gentleman.
They started a relationship. Then hefell in love with her deeply and
told her if they ever had ason and married if they could put oliver
on him. Then that woman wassurprised, excited and excited, but fear

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began to flood her because she wouldnot know what her parents' response would
be. Knowing that he wanted tomarry her, he told her not to
be afraid, let' s talkto your parents. She told him you
don' t know what they're like. He answered me, don
' t worry, don' tbe afraid. We' re gonna make

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it. When he spoke to hisparents, that lady' s parents told
him if he really loves her andwants to put her home or not marry
the woman. Hearing that from hisparents, his thought was just as crazy
as they can think of it.That gentleman said it' s okay.

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I' ll put him home andwe' ll get married. So,
when they already talked, he saidit' s crazy. We' re
not gonna make it. How theyask you for that with what money,
how we' re getting married ifwe don' t even have to buy
a house. That gentleman told himdon' t be afraid. We'
re gonna show them we can.With that and more after a while they

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worked, worked, gathered money andbetween the two managed to buy the house.
And that' s my family's testimony. It is a testimony
of faith. If my father hadn' t gotten out of his car,
won' t have overcome fear anddidn' t talk to my mother,
I wouldn' t be alive todaysharing this conference with you, nor would

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you be listening to something I admireabout my dad It was his faith that,
despite having no money, the situationthat wasn' t easy and,
above all, showing my grandparents thatthey could accomplish this. That was faith,
it was something that was not yethappening and that they had to work,
strive and overcome their fears together tobe able to build a home from

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which I come. Everything was fineup there. Years later, they bought
the house, had a dog beforea son and two years after being married
they put oliver and I was born. That is the greatest witness of faith
I could have in my family andfor which I admire my father and my

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mother, because if they had notovercome their fears, I would not be
alive. Everything was fine up there. Years later unexpected situations began to come
and life changed. My fears beganat the age of eight. First a
cousin died in a motorcycle accident.Then my grandmother died. A month after

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my grandmother, an aunt and twoweeks after burying my grandmother, my father
was killed, being an only childwithout brothers. One of my main fears
was death, as we did notspend it almost in wakes and in situations
like this I grew up with alot of fear, insecurity, sadness,

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depression, hatred, courage and whenmy father died, life changed the economy.
Since my mom had left work todedicate herself to the home, then
I had to look for work.And when my mom worked, because there
was the typewriter and financially, becauseI earned different, because then my mom

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when she looked for work, itturns out that there was already Windows Office
and computers and because my mom wasnot qualified for that team, then she
couldn' t earn enough and becauseof the need, because she had to
grab any work that could allow herto get me out of it. However,
it wasn' t enough and westarted to get into debt and then

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Mom' s character began to changebecause of obvious situations that I didn'
t understand. Then my mom becamea badly paid sergeant of dues. Hurry
and listen to me how many timesI have to repeat it to you,
it' s not when you want, it' s when I tell you
you don' t understand. ButI love you I love you. They
stopped listening in my mother' svoice and I didn' t understand why.

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And no one explained the situation tome and I had a lot of
hatred and a lot of spite anda lot of courage and above all,
against God, because I said whereGod was when my father was killed.
If God existed, my father wouldbe alive, we would have no shortcomings,
no lack of food and difficult situationsthat we had to face. We

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started debting because it wasn' tenough what my mom earned to get ahead
of me and many times my momhad to take her bread off to give
it to me and I thought thatbecause of her character she didn' t
love me. However, I learnedand realized that bad experiences are what they
produce, that people change, butI thought that my mom didn' t

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love me because she received pure scoldingand she was doing it forging a character
in me. Then I understood itand realized that my mother, for me,
is the bravest woman and that shehad to overcome many fears because she
stayed with an eight- year-old boy and that she had to provide
and get me out of the wayalone, without her parents and with her

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deceased husband. It wasn' teasy for her to take such a heavy
responsibility. No. However, notor is an example worthy to admire and
I would always be grateful to him, because if it had not been for
her, I would not be whoI am today and instilled in me values,
taught me, guided me, lovedme, cared for me, protected

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me and tried to give me thebest according to his possibilities, as God
gave him to understand. And ifit hadn' t been for my mom,
I wouldn' t be alive yet, because of my dad' s
lack, because there started to beshortages, there started to be needs.
We test many religions, seeking God, seeking answers from why of that situation.
No one helped us. My momhad to work hard to get me

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through and she wasn' t enough. We had to sell the cars and
then they went through very difficult situationsand I was full of fears. However,
thanks to God we managed to getahead and life changed again, but
because of loneliness, fear, sadness, courage and pain. And not understanding

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the situation we were living in,I began to take refuge in drugs,
in alcohol, at parties, tryingto fill gaps and I was a person
who didn' t speak in public. He was a person who didn'
t know he was going to befrom his life. I had to leave
school to help my mom and becauseI didn' t have a degree,
a professional career, a good joband had no experience, because I didn

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' t earn enough to be ableto help her. And after we had
everything, now we had debts andproblems. The relationship wasn' t good
between me and Mom. Then Ibegan to lose the desire to live and
I wanted to kill myself because Isaid why I live if my mom doesn
' t love me, if welack money to be able to eat,

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to pay expenses, what will becomeof me in the future alone without brothers,
without family and with very difficult situationsthat I didn' t understand.
Then why live? So, gettinghigh from a party, I got to
a bridge and on that bridge,seeing the cars pass by, I said
that it would feel like dying andthen I was thinking about killing myself.

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All I did was look up toheaven and say God if you exist,
take my life because I can't anymore or help myself and seeing the
cars pass, I said what itwould feel like to die and think and
if I don' t die andI' m paralyzed. But at that
point, right before I got upthere, I started thinking and my mom

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and what would happen if I diedand I didn' t have the courage
to do it out of fear.And at that moment I started thinking about
the question I asked you at thebeginning of this conference, which was what
your fears were, what my fearswere, was what I thought at that
time and the dreams I had didn' t have the courage to do it.
I turned around, went to thehouse. I cried as I never

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spoke to God, complained to himand I didn' t understand what was
going on, but I felt thathe had listened to me. Soon I
realized that I had to overcome myfears, because I didn' t know
what was going to happen in thefuture, what I was going to do,
how I was going to get ahead. I had no idea, but
all I knew was that I hadto overcome my fears and that I had

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to fight for my dreams, thoughthey seemed impossible, and hold on to
life and try to give my best. Soon I found an advertising business and
started selling advertising. Later I hada taste in the media and managed to
represent a media outlet from Puebla inMexico and do interviews. I did an

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interview with a singer, he wasvery happy. He invited me to his
show to thank me. He hada radio show and I loved being on
the radio, and then he offeredme that he did want to have a
section on his show and taught meto be a announcer, to produce and
then he was already making radio,which was a great dream that I had.

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I was in the fourteen forty thousandfive hundred thirty. Then came a
production house to share some movies andthey were interviewed and then they liked the
tone of my voice and asked mewhy I didn' t participate for a
dubbing. I did the casting forthe dubbing and then I took the lead
role as an actor, where Iwas the gallant of that movie called Diana

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' s Decision, which you canwatch and search on YouTube. Later I
started to make mass event speeches tomore than 3, 000 people and then
they asked me to encourage the eventand then I thought I would share a
message or a reflection. Then Iarrived at the base of Mexico City presenting

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some international singers and started covering eventsas a reporter, doing interviews, being
a radio announcer and doing mass eventsand I had the company already advertising and
I started to have several clients andlife began to change me. And then
it occurred to me to make aDVD that talks about the fear of death,
infertility and crime and I began toact and narrate reflections. Then I

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came up with the idea of doingthis lecture and this tour called the tour
of fear and the conference overcoming yourfears. When I told my mom what
I wanted to do, my momtold me it was crazy, she told
me a rude thing to stop wastingtime on those things. She said look
for yourself, a job where youget paid well, where you can buy

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a house, a car, whereyou have benefits and it was good advice.
However, my dream was to givelectures. Having been doing mass talk
and seeing people get excited and applaudedand liked what he was saying, I
imagined that if I could talk abouta particular subject and do something, then,
when I realized that God was notto blame for the things that had

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happened to me and that he hadhelped us, he had sent us people
open doors. I understood that Godwas not to blame for my problems,
because I understood that everyone decides whatto do with their lives and make the
decisions they want to make and thatif there were conscience, values and faith,

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life would be completely different. AndI understood that he was not to
blame for my father' s death, because if people who practice a religion
truly honor that belief. There isa universal basic concept that is to love
one' s neighbor as yourself wholoves one another, and man is the
only one who destroys himself, whomanufactures bombs, weapons to generate violence for

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interests, desires, strip people oftheir lands, kill each other, hurt
each other, offend, destroy themselves, do not respect each other. And
God has nothing to do with it, because God told us to love one
another. If the person who killedmy father had understood that and had been

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a real believer, he would nothave killed my father or sold himself.
Maybe I wouldn' t even haveto work killing people for money. But
no one explained that to me.I got it. And when I understood
the value of faith and the importanceof what God really is in people'
s lives, I began to believein increasing my faith and realized that God

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had shed his blood for my sins. I realized that God was different from
a religion and that God was alwaysthere to help us. It completely changed
my life. And when I understoodand believed that he had shed his blood
for us so that we might haveeternal life and forgiveness of our mistakes,
of our sins, of our evildeeds. And I gave him my life

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and trusted him and confessed him asmy only lord and sufficient savior. When
then everything began to change and Ibegan to understand what I didn' t
understand that believing that he had shedhis blood for me. I asked him
with all my heart to give mesomething so that I could be used for
a social good. And then mydream went away at 2: 00 in
the morning and I started to writeand write, to write everything that came.

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There came ideas, a lot ofinformation about things I couldn' t
understand, but I knew. Andthen I started to shape them and what
came out was my dbe that speaksof fear of death, disease and crime.
And when I came up with thislecture, it was because a friend
I met in a social aid campaign, whom I shared with him of my

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faith and of some circumstances, andthat this boy managed to leave the drugs
when he listened to me, hewas very happy, he went to apply
to his grandmother of me and thenhe began to mark me protelephone and insist
that I go to his house,that if I could give a talk,
that he would invite his friends.But I told him that I mentioned in
public, that I had never spokenand that a conversation not that I didn

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' t or I didn' thear knew how to do that. And
he insisted and insisted, and thenI told God what I could talk and
when I began to see in mylife the situations I had lived and that
I was no longer afraid and thatI understood many things. That' s
when I thought I' d givethis lecture. Sharing the lecture at her

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home, in the end, hergrandmother asked me if I could make a
prayer for her, I did.After doing so, she told me that
she had been diagnosed with cancer,that she was very concerned and then we
asked God for her health. Atthe end of the conference, a week
ago my friend spoke to me againto insist that I go back to his

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house, which had something very importantto say to me. Then I went
and her grandmother shared with me thatshe had been healed of cancer and,
like that miracle, more things beganto happen at conferences and during conferences,
people who healed, people who changedtheir lives, people who managed to conquer
their dreams. But when I toldmy mom that I wanted to take this

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tour, because she didn' tagree very much, they invited me to
make an event speech in Matamoros.That' s where I was approached with
the municipal present. They asked meif I had anything for young people,
for families, if I had anyissues or what else I was doing apart
from the radio, then I alreadyhad the armed conference. After having done

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a statistic, an analysis, aninvestigation of what were the main problems affecting
people and I found that fear wasa factor that made people end up with
their lives and that I was awitness to it. Then they gave me
the opportunity to hold a conference.They stayed to call me for several months.

(02:10:45):
I thought they forgot and when theycalled me, they told me there
' s a truck, there's lodging, there' s food,
there' s a budget. Wewant to tour with you, but first
we want to listen to you.And the first lecture I gave was in
the auditorium of Matamoros Municipal Palace.They joined one of the most problematic schools
in the region. There were allthe directors of government and I started giving

(02:11:09):
the conference. In the end theyloved applause, hugs, tears, testimonies,
they made present. At the endof the conference, they gave me
an agenda, they told me theywere going to call me back. Time
went by the same way. Ithought they had already forgotten they called me,

(02:11:30):
I was told that there was avan that didn' t worry about
anything, that they were going toput security and that then they wanted to
take this conference on a tour ofall Matamoros. Initially, as I commented,
it was only the conference and itwas called overcoming other fears. And
that' s when it was timefor me to live the shooting I had
at the beginning, and from thereI arrived in other states in Reinosa and

(02:11:54):
there I lived other shootings and othercircumstances and other situations that faced each other
and thank God, I came backalive. I never thought that I was
going to be an entrepreneur, actor, producer, writer, lecturer, that
I was going to preside over anassociation, that I was going to have
a catalogue of more than sixty conferences, that I was going to dedicate,

(02:12:16):
to motivate, to raise awareness andthat I was going to do prevention campaigns,
values for governments and that companies weregoing to sponsor me and that they
were going to support me so thatI could reach thousands of hearts and that
I was going to travel much ofthe Mexican Republic. I never imagined that
that would happen when I overcome myfears and dream that I am sleepy,
that I struggle to achieve it anduntil I see it realized, I do

(02:12:37):
not leave it. I never thoughtI was going to make this recording and
you were going to listen to me. I never thought that my life was
going to change completely, that thistour was going to leave me great testimonies,
that I was going to give mediainterviews, that I was going to
step on precincts of thousands of hundredsof people listening to me. I never
thought UNESCO was going to certify me, that I was going to represent my

(02:13:00):
country in Tabasco before UNESCO. Ifsomeone had told me when I was about
to kill myself or when I wasdrugging myself. Someone would have told me
tomorrow. You' re going tobe an entrepreneur, a TV announcer,
a radio announcer, you' regoing to give lectures, you' re
going to motivate, you' regoing to stop people from making bad decisions

(02:13:24):
and killing themselves When they hear yougive a talk, I would have said
you' re stupid, you're drugged, you' re wrong in
the head. You don' tknow the hell I live. You don
' t know the lack my dadmakes me, the problems I' ve
had to face, the situations I' ve had to live through. You
don' t know how my mother' s relationship with me. You don
' t know the shortcomings we've had to face, the scarcity that
nobody helped us. You don't know the hatred and resentment I had

(02:13:45):
against God, You don' tknow the emptiness, the sadness and how
many tears I shed? You don' t know everything I went through and
maybe I could tell you a lotmore. I never thought of training companies,
government and being able to help,contribute and do something for society.
From these times there is a conferencethat was very important determinant for me when

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I arrived in Atizapán, a municipalityof the State of Mexico. I already
had prizes, I had appeared inthe reform newspaper on television and my greatest
hope was that one day my momwould accompany me and after five years there
was a conference that marked my lifein this municipality that I mentioned had changed

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the date. It was the conferencefor all officials for all government staff.
I thought no one was going toattend because not a week to another they
rescheduled. However, when I arrivedearly shortly after my mother arrived. After
five years of waiting for him tojoin me. Finally, she attended this
presentation. Mom came very early andtold me son, it took me a

(02:14:54):
lot of work to get there.There were closed streets, a lot of
security. Or there' s gonnabe an event or something around here.
Don' t worry about how manypeople you' re gonna come to give
the best of yourself Give them thebest I' m here I' m
with you God bless you He huggedme and kissed me on the forehead.
I went backstage to take my place. Suddenly the presentation begins. They mention

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my name. I took the microphoneby my side was the municipal present and
then the applause, the ovations hadthe media in front of me and you
could believe it. He was eitherthere or he was about to burst.
There were these people standing up andthat' s when, for the first
time, my mom accompanied me tothat conference. She was one of the

(02:15:39):
best of my life and at night, when I fell asleep, my mom
came into my bedroom, sat downlike my father did, hugged me,
apologized for not believing in me andmy tour. He blessed me and earned
his respect. From there he beganto improve the relationship between them, that
best friend and now I support itas possibilities. I never thought I could

(02:16:05):
contribute to the house' s expenses. I was afraid of the economy because
of the shortcomings I had at onetime and now my mom is my best
friend, we talk about everything,she accompanies my hourly presentations for me and
blesses me. What can hurt aperson the most is that their family doesn
' t believe in their dreams.And you, as a father and you

(02:16:28):
as a mother, I want youto understand the following to that boy,
to that woman you scold, thatyou demand, that you hurt, that
you humiliate, you have not realizedthat in your home, the one you
beat or the one you scold isgoing to be the next businessman, ruler,

(02:16:50):
psychologist who can perhaps save lives,writer, singer, successful person who
will change the course of our societyand our country, which is the future
of Mexico and the world. Andit' s right there in your house.
But if you don' t believein their dreams and push them to
achieve them, everything can change,as well as your home may be the
next drug dealer, drinker, drugaddict, or person who' s going

(02:17:15):
to kill others, as well asthe next lawyer who' s going to
defend that person who needs justice orthat doctor who' s going to save
lives. He' s at yourhouse. You have to believe in their
dreams, you have to motivate them. And I could tell you more,
but I want you, where youare, to have a moment to reflect

(02:17:37):
with me and conclude this conference.Where you are. I want nothing to
distract you from forgetting the phone ofwhat' s around you or looking to
be alone right now, but don' t let me hear it. I
want you to close your eyes,put your right hand in your heart,
and feel your heart beat. Maybethat heart was born, wounded, mistreated,

(02:18:01):
humiliated, despised. Maybe that heartis destroyed. But I think you
feel like a beat because as thatheart beats, there will be hope and
every heartbeat is a reminder that youare alive and that you have a chance
to overcome your fears and achieve yourdreams you know best. You need a

(02:18:24):
miracle in your life. But thegreatest miracle you can experience right now is
that that heart beats ever since youwere formed in your mother' s womb
and started beating that heart. Untilnow, when you close your eyes to
sleep. Your heart hasn' tstopped beating. While you rest, your
heart works to give you life andyou don' t know when it'

(02:18:48):
s going to be the last timeyou can open your eyes and see the
people you love again. You don' t know when the last heartbeat will
be. But as long as youare alive, you have the opportunity to
discern, to reach, to dream, to live and to do all that
you like. But the day yourheart stops beating, everything will be over

(02:19:09):
and you don' t know howmuch longer you have to live. You
can' t demand the heart.You' re beating tomorrow. No.
That' s a wonderful gift youhave today and maybe your life has been
difficult. Maybe you' ve beenthrough worse than mine. Maybe you'
ve gone through injustice and sorry situations. Maybe that heart is full of guilt,

(02:19:31):
hatred, resentment, sadness. Buthow much longer you' re going
to live on how you' velived today, how much longer you'
re going to continue to hurt yourbody, how much longer you' re
going to be full of courage againstsomeone carrying in pain for the past,

(02:19:52):
blaming yourself for not enjoying what youhave today and regretting for what you didn
' t do or for what youshould have done. How much longer you
think you' re gonna be alive. I' d like to ask you
where you are. If you wantedto overcome your fears. Maybe I don
' t see you, maybe Idon' t know you, but today
I tell you you can overcome yourfears. Where you are, with your

(02:20:13):
eyes closed, feeling your heart beat. I want you to imagine this story.
One day very early in the morning, a man was preparing a portfolio
full of documents. Watching the clock, he realizes it was too late.
He' s starting to get mad, because then time was already rushing.

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Realizing to his son that the fatherwas leaving, he ran after him,
and then he took out the carand closed the gate, the boy,
running after him, with his armsopen, shouted Daddy. The father looked
at him and the boy hugged himby the legs. The father stared at
him and scolded him. He toldhim what you' re doing here Get

(02:21:01):
in here. The boy told Dadwhen he saw you were leaving he wanted
to say goodbye and tell you Godbless you and have a good day.
Then the father got angry, spankedhim, sat him in the dining room
and stared at him, told himto obey your mother very much, because
you are the little man of thehouse. The father turned around and left.

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The boy began to cry and didnot understand why he said those words
to his father. Elijah became eternalin school. The boy looked forward to
the evening to see his father whenhe returned from work. When the night
arrived, it was seven o'clock, eight o' clock nine o
' clock at night, and thefather was not coming back. The dream

(02:21:46):
beat him the next day. Theboy woke up and ran to the room
where his mother was and said," Mommy, where' s my daddy?
" The mother, in fear,answered him, I don' t
know, son didn' t returnto work, I hope it' s
okay. Then the middle began totake over the child. The child longed

(02:22:07):
to see his father and knew nothingof him. When he was at school,
the child promised himself not to sleepuntil he saw his father again,
that day, on the night theygave seven, eight or nine, ten,
eleven at night, twelve at onein the morning and the father did
not return hours later or later.After so much waiting, the father returned,

(02:22:35):
but in a coffin and that childcould not see his father again.
I couldn' t ask him whyof those words and if that child had
known it was the last time hewas going to see his father, he
would have hugged him harder, thatchild of which I' m telling you
that story. It' s meif I knew my dad was going to

(02:22:58):
die or ra ra ra or thelast time I was going to see him,
I would have asked him so manythings, I would have enjoyed it
more I would have told him thatI loved him, that I loved him.
But maybe you, if you haveyour mom, your dad, there
' s someone who loves you,who loves you, who expects you,
who needs you. But perhaps pride, resentment, hatred, sadness, courage,

(02:23:20):
is stealing from you the opportunity tohave peace in your heart and to
dare to express without fear and trulysay what you feel to your loved ones.
How much longer you think you're gonna be alive. The longer
you' re gonna be angry,hateful, spiteful, sad. You who

(02:23:41):
do have your parents, you whodo have your dad, enjoy it,
love him forgive him, talk tohim without fear, talk to your mom
or if you don' t haveyour mom, or you don' t
have your dad, but you havea relative or a loved one enjoy it
so that after there is no oneand there is nothing to regret and you

(02:24:05):
are afraid to live. Do youknow if you dare to put that business
that company, if you dare todayto overcome your fears of you will come
out the resource so that others caneat and feed their family? If you
prepare yourself and you study, ifyou begin to overcome your fears, you
will perform great things, but todayyou have to overcome your fears. The

(02:24:28):
reason you' re listening to thisis that you overcome your fears of all
cause. You have to make andmake that decision. How long you'
re gonna be crying depressed. It' s not fair for you to live
in fear. Today I ask youwith my heart that where you are.
If you identify with something and wantto overcome your fears, raise your right

(02:24:52):
hand high and if you get tired, close your fist and go forward,
back, as if you were goingto strike, but with your fist on
high, I want to take youto a few words that come out from
the depths of your heart, withconviction, with faith, with courage.
If you want to overcome your fears, where you are, repeat with me

(02:25:15):
loudly, with a convincing voice,as if you truly want to overcome your
fears, repeat with me from thedepths of your heart. Today I decide
to overcome absolutely all my fears,no matter what I have lived, what
I have suffered, what has happenedto me and everything that has marked me
and that has caused me fear.Today I believe with all my heart that

(02:25:41):
it ends at this moment, becauseI am no failure, no mistake in
life. I am someone capable,strong, brave who can accomplish whatever he
proposes. Because today I think Iovercome my fears. Today is leaving my
mind, my soul and my heart, everything that has caused me fear,
everything that fear has stolen from metoday is over. Today the fear of

(02:26:07):
death, of sickness, of loneliness, of poverty goes away. Today I
believe that my dreams are possible andtoday I commit myself to the last beat
of my heart, to fight forwhat I love, for what I want,
for what I need, for whatI want, for what I hope
for, because for me there areno impossible, because I am a person

(02:26:31):
full of qualities, virtues, uniqueand special talents, I am no failure.
I am someone who can accomplish everythinghe wants and everything he longs for.
Today I decide to be free fromall fear. Today the anguish of
my mind, my soul and myheart goes away, all the fear that
I have carried for years. Todaythe failure ends, Today the poverty ends,

(02:26:58):
Today the disease ends. Because todayI decide to be free from all
fear and all fear. Today Ibelieve with all my heart and with all
my strength that my dreams are possible, today I rise up with new forces,
today I begin to believe, todayI begin to live free without fear,

(02:27:22):
because today I commit myself to fightfor everything that I long for until
the last beat of my heart.I will not give up until I do,
and today I decide to forgive allthose who have made my life impossible,
all those who have made me feelbad. Today I forgive or bless
you. Today I have overcome myfears, today my dreams are possible and

(02:27:48):
today I begin to live free withoutfear. If you have said these things
and believed them by your faith,it will be done to you and today
begins a new life in you.Today you start to live without fear Today
you get up, Today you heal, today you restore yourself. Your dreams

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are possible. Today changes your life. Today you get that title, that
job, it will improve your family, you will have courage, strength and
joy, because you are destined tothe best of life that God bless you.
I want you to keep these wordsforever in your mind soul and heart.

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Never give up. If a doorcloses, surely the attempt to knock,
find the right one and the onethat will open to you where you
will find great things, the onewho seeks finds and the one you knock
will be opened. Don' tbe afraid, try hard and be very
brave. None of you have littleof your youth. Be brave, don

(02:28:54):
' t give up, don't faint, don' t give up
that you don' t defecate yoursoul and try until you get everything you
want under the sun, it hasits time. Be patient with your gaze
always forward. You' re noloser. The loser is the one who
gives up before trying. Never doubtyourself don' t be afraid, don

(02:29:16):
' t take into account the commentsthey make against fighting to achieve your dreams.
We all have dreams. The challengeis to achieve them and make them
a reality. The problem is notin government, it' s not in
politics, it' s not inmoney, it' s not in your
family, our religion, it's in your mind, it' s
in your heart. And the moonthat can change that mentality and that heart

(02:29:39):
you are yourself the size of yourfaith will be your success and every dawn
is an opportunity to shine, reach, dream and overcome your fears, and
God goes with you overcoming your fearsyou will reach. Your dreams say goodbye
to you your friend or mild ruizto o o O turn of fear Master

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