October 7, 2025 • 27 mins
You were never meant to silence your desires.
You were never meant to numb your body, push past your limits, or live on autopilot.
You were never meant to give endlessly while forgetting yourself.
You are meant to be and live Pleasurelit — unapologetically.
Lit from within.
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To come home to your body, your energy, your truth.
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This is the Pleasurelit Way.
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(00:02):
My heart is so full right now. The intention for this episode,
Pleasured it with Patricia, is to give you a little insight
into my realness, rawness, vulnerability, recent
(00:26):
experiences where I'm currently at in the hope and with the
intention that it inspires you, that it gives you a permission
slip to embrace your authentic self, to be vulnerable, to be
real, to be raw, to be you. Yes, I think this is the
(00:51):
intention that comes through when I feel into it for this
episode. Let it let it inspire you,
empower you to to show up as youand in saying that, I have just
had a really beautiful meditation breath work opening
(01:14):
session and I had another one last week, actually a few days
ago. I'm in the middle of
transitioning and if you've heard about quantum leaping, I'm
right in there. It is so powerful.
Today is also a harvest full moon in the sign of areas, which
(01:39):
is fairy. It's powerful.
The moon is very close to the Earth, so it's super powerful to
get into action, to release whatno longer serves us so we can
step into our higher version, into our pleasure lit version
and manifest by actually stepping into that future
(02:01):
energy, into that future versionof us.
And I would like to share a little bit about the experience
that I have had where I'm currently at with all of that,
because you might have heard me already talking about feeling
like a rebirth on a rebirth. This year has been huge.
(02:24):
I mean, the last few years have been wow, like very impactful,
but especially this year, writing my book, publishing my
book, and if you've read it, thepleasure that Way, which became
best seller within 18 hours of launching was a very deep
experience for me. Because in this book I am
(02:47):
sharing a lot more about myself and about my experiences from
that girl that didn't love herself, had low self esteem,
was a people pleaser, couldn't set up any healthy boundaries,
got abused, challenging life to transforming to being so deeply
(03:11):
in love with herself, allowing herself to feel, be real, be
raw. And I have unlocked pleasures I
wouldn't have, I have never thought possible so deeply
embodied. And that has been a huge
transformation to share that as well, to put it out into the
public and receiving the messages from the ones that I've
(03:35):
read it, the reviews on, on Amazon, the five star reviews
and even the private messages ofhow impactful that is, is
really, oh, I can't even put it into words.
The sensations that I feel whereI know this is it.
This is why I'm here. I'm getting goosebumps to help
(03:57):
others to make this transformation to experience
more because there is more and we, we deserve to be and live
pleasure lit. We were never meant to dim our
lives. We were meant to be and live
pleasure lit, unapologetically. So this has been huge and I kind
(04:17):
of feel like I'm coming out of aRebus through writing it.
I've never cried that much like I have within this year.
Which is already a sign as well that I'm feeling more.
Not holding myself back anymore,not numbing myself, not feeling
disconnected from myself, but actually sitting with my
feelings and embracing my feelings, my emotions to feel
using all my sensations and senses already.
(04:41):
This tingles just speaking aboutit.
Then moving up to the Sunshine Coast, which has been a dream
since I arrived in Australia as a backpacker in 2009.
In 2010 when we travelled, I said this is going to be the
spot where I'm going to go, thisis where I'm going to live.
Finally being able to actually do this.
(05:01):
After I published my book, I said I'm going to move.
And now the next thing that I amallowing myself and work on is
opening myself up to love again.If you follow me for a while,
you will know that I've been single for quite a long time.
That I have been. Yeah, I put up my words, I would
(05:26):
say, and really just taking the time to connect with myself and
fall in love with myself, which I am super grateful for.
And it was exactly what was needed for me to explore my own
body, to really fall in love with myself, to not focus on the
partnership of putting the responsibility into someone
(05:46):
else, but actually taking responsibility.
And yeah, claiming my pleasure, my body and reconnecting with
it. So beautiful when you are on a
healing journey, self love journey, pleasure journey.
But there's also just so much you can do by yourself.
(06:08):
You've read all the books, you've listened to the podcast,
you've done all the studies, you've done all the practices
and all of that. But eventually you come to the
conclusion, then OK, but there is probably more.
And that's connection. And when you've read my book The
Pleasurely Way, which is not just a book, it is a way of
(06:31):
living and pleasurely, it is a way of being, you will know that
connection is one of the pathways to pleasure.
It is one of the pathways because we are connected to our
environment, connected to nature, connected to the
universe, connected to somethingbigger, to our higher versions.
(06:52):
We are connected to the people around us, to our family,
friends, colleagues, people who are in our life.
We are connected. Connection is huge part and we
were never meant to be by ourselves or walk this path
alone. Women to actually come together,
support each other, meet in circles, temples, in whatever
(07:18):
way to actually connect on a deeper level.
And I'm talking not just about surface connections, I'm talking
about the real deep connections.Body, mind, soul connections.
And that is my next step. And I know I have a fear around
that because of what I've been through, the abuse and the DV
(07:42):
and being abandoned and being rejected and parents weren't
emotionally available having allthese wounds.
And then what I've been through that, I've put up my walls.
I'm like I'm protected. If I can't let anyone in, if I
can't get into deep connections,I can't get hurt again.
I'm this independent. I can do everything by myself.
(08:03):
I'm going to do all of that, which has been really great for
myself. Love to actually focus on
myself, to actually put myself first for the very first time.
But now it is time that I open myself up for deeper
connections, open myself up to love.
And not just myself love and thelove with my children and with
(08:26):
my friends, but actually in a partnership and in deeper
connections with sisterhood. Because as I said, we are not
meant to be doing all of that stuff alone.
How should we know all of that when no one is actually teaching
anything or when no one is talking about things openly?
(08:50):
And one of the things that has helped me to come to this as
well has been through journaling.
And if you've been on my sub stack, pleasure lit sub stack,
you probably have already seen or have gotten access to it.
(09:10):
I have started a few months ago,I think almost, yeah, at the
start of the year when I startedwriting my book to weekly
journal and not just journaling about, OK, this is what
happened. And this is what happened and
started was writing about it, but it now actually transitioned
into voice notes. And every week I have been
(09:35):
sharing a voice note which almost ends up like 40 minutes,
35 minutes of voice notes about the reflections of what happened
in my life in that week. It is real.
It is raw, it is unfiltered, unsensored.
It is vulnerable. It is real time, what is
(10:00):
actually happening. I think this is so beautiful on
so many levels. So first of all, it has helped
me to really reflect on things of what is happening in my life,
what is happening in my pleasurely life?
What have I learned just listening to these voice
messages back? There's so much wisdom in there,
(10:23):
so much pleasurely wisdom in just this period of time from
this year. And I am able now to look back
and listen back to Wow Co 5 comefrom just even the version of
like a few months ago to now. Wow, I'm getting goosebumps
again. This is just so beautiful.
(10:45):
It is real and raw, sometimes messy because I'm, I'm, I'm
having this manifestation one week and then I'm going to go
this path on that next week. And you can see also hear it
within my cycle. I've realised so much that the
cycle aligned of my mood, how I am even talking in these voice
(11:07):
notes, the energy that comes across when I'm in my period,
just like before having my period or in my ovulation where
I'm just more energetic and I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So this is so beautiful. One part for me because I've
like learned so much just through journalling.
(11:27):
And this is something that I'd suggest if you haven't started
journalling yet, I suggest it. And it does not have to be
written if you don't like sitting down and writing or
typing. You can journal through
creativity, through art, you cando it via video, you can do it
(11:51):
via voice notes, whatever way works best for you.
I've realized voice notes is thebest because personally for me,
it's like, and that's just how Isay it to my substance as well.
It's like having an intimate chat with your bestie.
Like you can put me in your earsand do what something else?
(12:14):
And you just listen to me reflecting.
It's like a voicemail that you get on WhatsApp or another
platform from your bestie sharing about something that has
happened. And you're just like, oh, yeah,
yeah, yeah, it's intimate. It's so beautiful.
And I love that because this way, because I love talking
things. True, it helps me.
And instead of writing things down, I love to talk things out
(12:38):
because, I mean, I speak it loud, Loud.
There's already like a lot of claiming in it, a lot of
realisation. While I say something sometimes
with my bestie, when we talk to each other, she doesn't even
have to like she just has to be present.
Sometimes it's just me. Can I like, can you hold space
for me? Yes, I can.
And then I just like let it all out and just like talking a lot.
(12:59):
I was just like, oh, I've already feel so much better.
This is just amazing because while I'm talking I'm like ah,
ah, ah. And I realised my own things.
So this is super, super helpful.So I can highly suggest that if
you haven't tried that yet, giveit a go.
You don't have to share it with anybody like me, but I do that
because of different reasons. First of all, I think there's
(13:24):
something really, really powerful when you are witnessed
in sharing your journey. There's something really, really
powerful about being vulnerable and sharing that.
It just has some magic in it. And then second of all, how are
we supposed to learn something and support each other when we
(13:47):
are not openly talking to each other and sharing things with
each other? And especially in the world of
like AI and technology, there's so much generic, generic stuff
out there. I want the realness of rawness
of vulnerable. I want, I want to know what's
actually really happening, what's going on and let it be
messy, let it be inspiring, let it be powerful and empowering
(14:10):
everything and all at once. It's so beautiful.
So you don't have to share it, but I love to share it because
it helps me and it helps you because the feedback that I've
gotten so far from my voice notes amazing.
And this has been so inspiring and empowering that this
(14:31):
actually has now evolved. Share my pleasure lit journal
voice notes with my sub stack onpleasure Lit sub stack.
And I have also just opened the doors to the Pleasure Lit
Circle, which is a women only sacred private online space for
(14:54):
us to come together in a circle with monthly meets, live meets
with resource library, practice toolbox, master classes, guides
and so much more. That is a space that I wish I
had when I started my healing journey.
(15:17):
It that it is about connection. It's about being seen, about
being held, about belonging, because that was one of my
fears, one of my fears that I'vejust recently breakthrough.
In one of my breathwork sessionsespecially, there was three
things that came up from, for myself, the fear of being
(15:39):
rejected, which makes sense fromthe way I have been growing up,
both parents unavailable, the abuse and yeah, needing to do
everything myself becoming independent, fear of being
rejected. So I'm not going to get into
anything. So I can't be rejected, can't be
(16:00):
abandoned anymore because I'm bymyself.
I've got myself the fear of not belonging and not feeling worthy
of love from others. So these three things I am fully
releasing. And I'm saying that because
(16:25):
these two things, like opening myself up to love again for a
partnership and opening up the pleasure lit circle were both
things that I have been wanting for a while.
But the fear has hold me back. And now I'm stepping into my
higher pleasure lit version, opening myself up to love, to
(16:49):
relationships, and to deeper connections.
And that will be through partnership, but also through
deeper connections within the pleasure lit circle.
This space is created to have deeper connections with others.
So we are not walking alone. We're actually walking alongside
(17:13):
each other, supporting each other on our pleasure lit
journey because there is something really, really magical
about women gathering together. Something ancient awakens.
It's so powerful. And we get to meet together, we
get to know each other, we get to be there for each other, held
(17:34):
each other, see each other, witness each other, love each
other. So I'm really, really excited
for this space. And I've decided to also drop my
weekly voice notes into the Pleasure Lit Circle because as
I've just said, the Pleasant circle is about an intimate,
(17:55):
sacred private space for women. And I really, truly believe
these voice notes have been so beneficial to so many already
that I'm going to continue to share them with you.
We see intention that they give you a permission slip to be you,
(18:16):
to be real, to be raw, to be vulnerable, to be unfiltered,
uncended, fully you. When one person does that,
another person gets inspired andstarts to be themselves and
another person gets inspired. And it's just going to continue
(18:38):
to empower so many to just be our true authentic self.
And there's so many learning lessons I'm sharing so raw and
unfiltered in the moment. There is so much wisdom and
there are so many learning lessons that you can take away
from it. And within the Pleasure Lit
circle, you're also encouraged to share more about your
(19:03):
journey. That is your space where you can
be witnessed, it can be seen, itcan be supported, it can be
loved. You can ask your questions, you
can share also voice notes, you can share more of your energy,
more of your realness and rawness.
(19:25):
So I just wanted to share that with you because as I've said,
there's so much happening at themoment and I can't even put that
all into one episode here. But I wanted to give you a
little insight of where I'm currently at and what has been
happening. A lot of shifting and if you'd
(19:47):
like to experience that more deeply, I highly suggest to
either join the SAB stack where you can access the weekly voice
note or the Pleasure Lit Circle where we can connect even more
deeply and you will unlock even more supportive toolbox resource
(20:11):
library that will support you onyour pleasure lit journey.
I'm just going to have to take adeep breath in because that was
quite a lot of sharing and vulnerability.
And I've just finished today another session about a
meditation that had more of a focus on the breath work
(20:33):
meditation session on my core desire, my deepest desire.
Now that I've known what is holding me back, I can work on
releasing that which I've already released into the
universe. And I'm also transmuting
negative energy into positive energy using fear and transmuted
(20:59):
into actually fuel to work towards my desires.
And there's so many beautiful tools, manifestation tools,
somatic practices that all help us to work towards that.
And stepping into our higher version and into our more
pleasure lit version requires usto actually have a relaxed,
(21:23):
regulated, calm nervous system. And if you've already read the
book The Pleasure Lit Way, you will know I go into there.
What's your state of being like?Remember a moment that you have
felt pure pleasure. Can you recall how what state of
(21:45):
being you were in? Were you stressed, Were you
rushed or were you relaxed? Calm, grounded?
And a relaxed, regulated nervoussystem helps us to open
ourselves up, to actually feel more focus on our sensations,
(22:07):
dropping our body, which is a portal to pleasure, to
experience more pleasure. And if we want to manifest
something, if we want to step into a higher version, this is
definitely something where we'regoing to have to focus on that
we feel safe in our body to actually receive what we are
calling in. Because if I want to have
(22:29):
$1,000,000, if I want to have the love of my life, but my body
actually is scared of it, I can say that as much as I want.
But if my body doesn't actually feel safe of holding $1,000,000
or holding the love of my life, then my body will be like, no, I
don't think so. We are not going to get that
(22:51):
because that does not feel safe.I'm going to like, I don't even
know what to do with that. Like, Oh no, no, what what comes
with it? What risk?
Then we're not going to be able to call it in our body.
Our nervous system need to be regulated, need to feel safe to
actually allow that in. Of course, my body can hold
$1,000,000. Of course, it wants the real
(23:13):
depth of love and is able to fully surrender to the
experience. So this is something that I am
going to share more about withinthe Pleasure Lit Circle as well.
Dramatic practices, rituals, allthese tools that can help us to
(23:33):
actually drop into our body, to learn, to feel safe, to receive.
And if you've looked at my website, you will probably also
see enough had a little bit of achange in the brand colours as
well. It's now going more into the
gold because when I had the breakthrough, the colour gold
(23:56):
was very, very present. And what my core calling and
purpose, what came clear to me is that I want to help women
specifically on how to actually receive pleasure because that is
(24:16):
something that is probably like the core issue that has been
going through my whole life of being a people pleaser.
I'm putting everybody else first.
Low self esteem, then love herself.
Couldn't set healthy boundaries and even if I wanted to receive
pleasure, it was rushed or I couldn't relax into pleasure or
surrender because Oh no, I need to actually clean something or
(24:37):
not, or no, maybe he's going to take so long I'm just going to
fake an orgasm. Oh no, I'm not going to ask for
any help. Oh, I've got a compliment.
Oh no, I can't mean me. Like not being able to receive.
And if that's you, I'm here to help you because the pleasure
(24:59):
lit way is, is the way that I'm going to guide you on on how to
embody pleasure so you can attract abundance and you can
fully receive the love, the pleasure, the money, the life
(25:22):
that you truly desire. If you're deeply in love with
yourself and you can embody yourpleasure lit energy, you will
become magnetic. You will attract the life that
you desire, the love that you desire, the abundance.
But you can only do this if you can actually embody it in A and
(25:43):
your body feels safe to embody it and you can fully receive it.
Oh, I'm so excited. This is, I'm getting goosebumps
again. The amount of sensations that
I'm feeling at the moment is just wow.
So I'm really excited for all ofthat.
I've probably been all over the place with this episode.
(26:06):
I'm just coming out, as I said, from one of the experiences.
I'm in the midst of it all, but I wanted to share it in the real
and the rawness and just the wayI am because I think this is
important. I want to inspire you all.
Like my intent, like I said at the start, so fitting to just
really give you the permission slip to be real raw, be you, be
(26:29):
your authentic self. I hope that inspired you and
gave you that permission and I look forward to connecting with
you further within the circle onsub stack or within any of my
other offerings. Remember, we were never meant to
(26:54):
dim our light. We are meant to be and live
pleasure lit, unapologetically Sending you lots of love and
pleasure.
My heart is so full right now. The intention for this episode,
Pleasured it with Patricia, is to give you a little insight
into my realness, rawness, vulnerability, recent
(00:26):
experiences where I'm currently at in the hope and with the
intention that it inspires you, that it gives you a permission
slip to embrace your authentic self, to be vulnerable, to be
real, to be raw, to be you. Yes, I think this is the
(00:51):
intention that comes through when I feel into it for this
episode. Let it let it inspire you,
empower you to to show up as youand in saying that, I have just
had a really beautiful meditation breath work opening
(01:14):
session and I had another one last week, actually a few days
ago. I'm in the middle of
transitioning and if you've heard about quantum leaping, I'm
right in there. It is so powerful.
Today is also a harvest full moon in the sign of areas, which
(01:39):
is fairy. It's powerful.
The moon is very close to the Earth, so it's super powerful to
get into action, to release whatno longer serves us so we can
step into our higher version, into our pleasure lit version
and manifest by actually stepping into that future
(02:01):
energy, into that future versionof us.
And I would like to share a little bit about the experience
that I have had where I'm currently at with all of that,
because you might have heard me already talking about feeling
like a rebirth on a rebirth. This year has been huge.
(02:24):
I mean, the last few years have been wow, like very impactful,
but especially this year, writing my book, publishing my
book, and if you've read it, thepleasure that Way, which became
best seller within 18 hours of launching was a very deep
experience for me. Because in this book I am
(02:47):
sharing a lot more about myself and about my experiences from
that girl that didn't love herself, had low self esteem,
was a people pleaser, couldn't set up any healthy boundaries,
got abused, challenging life to transforming to being so deeply
(03:11):
in love with herself, allowing herself to feel, be real, be
raw. And I have unlocked pleasures I
wouldn't have, I have never thought possible so deeply
embodied. And that has been a huge
transformation to share that as well, to put it out into the
public and receiving the messages from the ones that I've
(03:35):
read it, the reviews on, on Amazon, the five star reviews
and even the private messages ofhow impactful that is, is
really, oh, I can't even put it into words.
The sensations that I feel whereI know this is it.
This is why I'm here. I'm getting goosebumps to help
(03:57):
others to make this transformation to experience
more because there is more and we, we deserve to be and live
pleasure lit. We were never meant to dim our
lives. We were meant to be and live
pleasure lit, unapologetically. So this has been huge and I kind
(04:17):
of feel like I'm coming out of aRebus through writing it.
I've never cried that much like I have within this year.
Which is already a sign as well that I'm feeling more.
Not holding myself back anymore,not numbing myself, not feeling
disconnected from myself, but actually sitting with my
feelings and embracing my feelings, my emotions to feel
using all my sensations and senses already.
(04:41):
This tingles just speaking aboutit.
Then moving up to the Sunshine Coast, which has been a dream
since I arrived in Australia as a backpacker in 2009.
In 2010 when we travelled, I said this is going to be the
spot where I'm going to go, thisis where I'm going to live.
Finally being able to actually do this.
(05:01):
After I published my book, I said I'm going to move.
And now the next thing that I amallowing myself and work on is
opening myself up to love again.If you follow me for a while,
you will know that I've been single for quite a long time.
That I have been. Yeah, I put up my words, I would
(05:26):
say, and really just taking the time to connect with myself and
fall in love with myself, which I am super grateful for.
And it was exactly what was needed for me to explore my own
body, to really fall in love with myself, to not focus on the
partnership of putting the responsibility into someone
(05:46):
else, but actually taking responsibility.
And yeah, claiming my pleasure, my body and reconnecting with
it. So beautiful when you are on a
healing journey, self love journey, pleasure journey.
But there's also just so much you can do by yourself.
(06:08):
You've read all the books, you've listened to the podcast,
you've done all the studies, you've done all the practices
and all of that. But eventually you come to the
conclusion, then OK, but there is probably more.
And that's connection. And when you've read my book The
Pleasurely Way, which is not just a book, it is a way of
(06:31):
living and pleasurely, it is a way of being, you will know that
connection is one of the pathways to pleasure.
It is one of the pathways because we are connected to our
environment, connected to nature, connected to the
universe, connected to somethingbigger, to our higher versions.
(06:52):
We are connected to the people around us, to our family,
friends, colleagues, people who are in our life.
We are connected. Connection is huge part and we
were never meant to be by ourselves or walk this path
alone. Women to actually come together,
support each other, meet in circles, temples, in whatever
(07:18):
way to actually connect on a deeper level.
And I'm talking not just about surface connections, I'm talking
about the real deep connections.Body, mind, soul connections.
And that is my next step. And I know I have a fear around
that because of what I've been through, the abuse and the DV
(07:42):
and being abandoned and being rejected and parents weren't
emotionally available having allthese wounds.
And then what I've been through that, I've put up my walls.
I'm like I'm protected. If I can't let anyone in, if I
can't get into deep connections,I can't get hurt again.
I'm this independent. I can do everything by myself.
(08:03):
I'm going to do all of that, which has been really great for
myself. Love to actually focus on
myself, to actually put myself first for the very first time.
But now it is time that I open myself up for deeper
connections, open myself up to love.
And not just myself love and thelove with my children and with
(08:26):
my friends, but actually in a partnership and in deeper
connections with sisterhood. Because as I said, we are not
meant to be doing all of that stuff alone.
How should we know all of that when no one is actually teaching
anything or when no one is talking about things openly?
(08:50):
And one of the things that has helped me to come to this as
well has been through journaling.
And if you've been on my sub stack, pleasure lit sub stack,
you probably have already seen or have gotten access to it.
(09:10):
I have started a few months ago,I think almost, yeah, at the
start of the year when I startedwriting my book to weekly
journal and not just journaling about, OK, this is what
happened. And this is what happened and
started was writing about it, but it now actually transitioned
into voice notes. And every week I have been
(09:35):
sharing a voice note which almost ends up like 40 minutes,
35 minutes of voice notes about the reflections of what happened
in my life in that week. It is real.
It is raw, it is unfiltered, unsensored.
It is vulnerable. It is real time, what is
(10:00):
actually happening. I think this is so beautiful on
so many levels. So first of all, it has helped
me to really reflect on things of what is happening in my life,
what is happening in my pleasurely life?
What have I learned just listening to these voice
messages back? There's so much wisdom in there,
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so much pleasurely wisdom in just this period of time from
this year. And I am able now to look back
and listen back to Wow Co 5 comefrom just even the version of
like a few months ago to now. Wow, I'm getting goosebumps
again. This is just so beautiful.
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It is real and raw, sometimes messy because I'm, I'm, I'm
having this manifestation one week and then I'm going to go
this path on that next week. And you can see also hear it
within my cycle. I've realised so much that the
cycle aligned of my mood, how I am even talking in these voice
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notes, the energy that comes across when I'm in my period,
just like before having my period or in my ovulation where
I'm just more energetic and I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So this is so beautiful. One part for me because I've
like learned so much just through journalling.
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And this is something that I'd suggest if you haven't started
journalling yet, I suggest it. And it does not have to be
written if you don't like sitting down and writing or
typing. You can journal through
creativity, through art, you cando it via video, you can do it
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via voice notes, whatever way works best for you.
I've realized voice notes is thebest because personally for me,
it's like, and that's just how Isay it to my substance as well.
It's like having an intimate chat with your bestie.
Like you can put me in your earsand do what something else?
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And you just listen to me reflecting.
It's like a voicemail that you get on WhatsApp or another
platform from your bestie sharing about something that has
happened. And you're just like, oh, yeah,
yeah, yeah, it's intimate. It's so beautiful.
And I love that because this way, because I love talking
things. True, it helps me.
And instead of writing things down, I love to talk things out
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because, I mean, I speak it loud, Loud.
There's already like a lot of claiming in it, a lot of
realisation. While I say something sometimes
with my bestie, when we talk to each other, she doesn't even
have to like she just has to be present.
Sometimes it's just me. Can I like, can you hold space
for me? Yes, I can.
And then I just like let it all out and just like talking a lot.
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I was just like, oh, I've already feel so much better.
This is just amazing because while I'm talking I'm like ah,
ah, ah. And I realised my own things.
So this is super, super helpful.So I can highly suggest that if
you haven't tried that yet, giveit a go.
You don't have to share it with anybody like me, but I do that
because of different reasons. First of all, I think there's
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something really, really powerful when you are witnessed
in sharing your journey. There's something really, really
powerful about being vulnerable and sharing that.
It just has some magic in it. And then second of all, how are
we supposed to learn something and support each other when we
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are not openly talking to each other and sharing things with
each other? And especially in the world of
like AI and technology, there's so much generic, generic stuff
out there. I want the realness of rawness
of vulnerable. I want, I want to know what's
actually really happening, what's going on and let it be
messy, let it be inspiring, let it be powerful and empowering
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everything and all at once. It's so beautiful.
So you don't have to share it, but I love to share it because
it helps me and it helps you because the feedback that I've
gotten so far from my voice notes amazing.
And this has been so inspiring and empowering that this
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actually has now evolved. Share my pleasure lit journal
voice notes with my sub stack onpleasure Lit sub stack.
And I have also just opened the doors to the Pleasure Lit
Circle, which is a women only sacred private online space for
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us to come together in a circle with monthly meets, live meets
with resource library, practice toolbox, master classes, guides
and so much more. That is a space that I wish I
had when I started my healing journey.
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It that it is about connection. It's about being seen, about
being held, about belonging, because that was one of my
fears, one of my fears that I'vejust recently breakthrough.
In one of my breathwork sessionsespecially, there was three
things that came up from, for myself, the fear of being
(15:39):
rejected, which makes sense fromthe way I have been growing up,
both parents unavailable, the abuse and yeah, needing to do
everything myself becoming independent, fear of being
rejected. So I'm not going to get into
anything. So I can't be rejected, can't be
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abandoned anymore because I'm bymyself.
I've got myself the fear of not belonging and not feeling worthy
of love from others. So these three things I am fully
releasing. And I'm saying that because
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these two things, like opening myself up to love again for a
partnership and opening up the pleasure lit circle were both
things that I have been wanting for a while.
But the fear has hold me back. And now I'm stepping into my
higher pleasure lit version, opening myself up to love, to
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relationships, and to deeper connections.
And that will be through partnership, but also through
deeper connections within the pleasure lit circle.
This space is created to have deeper connections with others.
So we are not walking alone. We're actually walking alongside
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each other, supporting each other on our pleasure lit
journey because there is something really, really magical
about women gathering together. Something ancient awakens.
It's so powerful. And we get to meet together, we
get to know each other, we get to be there for each other, held
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each other, see each other, witness each other, love each
other. So I'm really, really excited
for this space. And I've decided to also drop my
weekly voice notes into the Pleasure Lit Circle because as
I've just said, the Pleasant circle is about an intimate,
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sacred private space for women. And I really, truly believe
these voice notes have been so beneficial to so many already
that I'm going to continue to share them with you.
We see intention that they give you a permission slip to be you,
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to be real, to be raw, to be vulnerable, to be unfiltered,
uncended, fully you. When one person does that,
another person gets inspired andstarts to be themselves and
another person gets inspired. And it's just going to continue
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to empower so many to just be our true authentic self.
And there's so many learning lessons I'm sharing so raw and
unfiltered in the moment. There is so much wisdom and
there are so many learning lessons that you can take away
from it. And within the Pleasure Lit
circle, you're also encouraged to share more about your
(19:03):
journey. That is your space where you can
be witnessed, it can be seen, itcan be supported, it can be
loved. You can ask your questions, you
can share also voice notes, you can share more of your energy,
more of your realness and rawness.
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So I just wanted to share that with you because as I've said,
there's so much happening at themoment and I can't even put that
all into one episode here. But I wanted to give you a
little insight of where I'm currently at and what has been
happening. A lot of shifting and if you'd
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like to experience that more deeply, I highly suggest to
either join the SAB stack where you can access the weekly voice
note or the Pleasure Lit Circle where we can connect even more
deeply and you will unlock even more supportive toolbox resource
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library that will support you onyour pleasure lit journey.
I'm just going to have to take adeep breath in because that was
quite a lot of sharing and vulnerability.
And I've just finished today another session about a
meditation that had more of a focus on the breath work
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meditation session on my core desire, my deepest desire.
Now that I've known what is holding me back, I can work on
releasing that which I've already released into the
universe. And I'm also transmuting
negative energy into positive energy using fear and transmuted
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into actually fuel to work towards my desires.
And there's so many beautiful tools, manifestation tools,
somatic practices that all help us to work towards that.
And stepping into our higher version and into our more
pleasure lit version requires usto actually have a relaxed,
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regulated, calm nervous system. And if you've already read the
book The Pleasure Lit Way, you will know I go into there.
What's your state of being like?Remember a moment that you have
felt pure pleasure. Can you recall how what state of
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being you were in? Were you stressed, Were you
rushed or were you relaxed? Calm, grounded?
And a relaxed, regulated nervoussystem helps us to open
ourselves up, to actually feel more focus on our sensations,
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dropping our body, which is a portal to pleasure, to
experience more pleasure. And if we want to manifest
something, if we want to step into a higher version, this is
definitely something where we'regoing to have to focus on that
we feel safe in our body to actually receive what we are
calling in. Because if I want to have
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$1,000,000, if I want to have the love of my life, but my body
actually is scared of it, I can say that as much as I want.
But if my body doesn't actually feel safe of holding $1,000,000
or holding the love of my life, then my body will be like, no, I
don't think so. We are not going to get that
(22:51):
because that does not feel safe.I'm going to like, I don't even
know what to do with that. Like, Oh no, no, what what comes
with it? What risk?
Then we're not going to be able to call it in our body.
Our nervous system need to be regulated, need to feel safe to
actually allow that in. Of course, my body can hold
$1,000,000. Of course, it wants the real
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depth of love and is able to fully surrender to the
experience. So this is something that I am
going to share more about withinthe Pleasure Lit Circle as well.
Dramatic practices, rituals, allthese tools that can help us to
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actually drop into our body, to learn, to feel safe, to receive.
And if you've looked at my website, you will probably also
see enough had a little bit of achange in the brand colours as
well. It's now going more into the
gold because when I had the breakthrough, the colour gold
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was very, very present. And what my core calling and
purpose, what came clear to me is that I want to help women
specifically on how to actually receive pleasure because that is
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something that is probably like the core issue that has been
going through my whole life of being a people pleaser.
I'm putting everybody else first.
Low self esteem, then love herself.
Couldn't set healthy boundaries and even if I wanted to receive
pleasure, it was rushed or I couldn't relax into pleasure or
surrender because Oh no, I need to actually clean something or
(24:37):
not, or no, maybe he's going to take so long I'm just going to
fake an orgasm. Oh no, I'm not going to ask for
any help. Oh, I've got a compliment.
Oh no, I can't mean me. Like not being able to receive.
And if that's you, I'm here to help you because the pleasure
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lit way is, is the way that I'm going to guide you on on how to
embody pleasure so you can attract abundance and you can
fully receive the love, the pleasure, the money, the life
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that you truly desire. If you're deeply in love with
yourself and you can embody yourpleasure lit energy, you will
become magnetic. You will attract the life that
you desire, the love that you desire, the abundance.
But you can only do this if you can actually embody it in A and
(25:43):
your body feels safe to embody it and you can fully receive it.
Oh, I'm so excited. This is, I'm getting goosebumps
again. The amount of sensations that
I'm feeling at the moment is just wow.
So I'm really excited for all ofthat.
I've probably been all over the place with this episode.
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I'm just coming out, as I said, from one of the experiences.
I'm in the midst of it all, but I wanted to share it in the real
and the rawness and just the wayI am because I think this is
important. I want to inspire you all.
Like my intent, like I said at the start, so fitting to just
really give you the permission slip to be real raw, be you, be
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your authentic self. I hope that inspired you and
gave you that permission and I look forward to connecting with
you further within the circle onsub stack or within any of my
other offerings. Remember, we were never meant to
(26:54):
dim our light. We are meant to be and live
pleasure lit, unapologetically Sending you lots of love and
pleasure.
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