June 20, 2025 • 34 mins
Let’s talk envy, darling—the sneaky, green-eyed gremlin who crashes our confidence parties. 💚👀
In this unflinchingly honest and unexpectedly hilarious episode, James spills the tea on those comparison traps we all fall into (even with our faves). But this isn’t about guilt - it’s about growth. Because when we lead with generosity, that envy gets tenderized into admiration, and suddenly your friend’s glow-up becomes your guidepost, not your grudge.
You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you’ll probably DM a friend to say, “Hey, I see your shine.” This one’s for anyone who’s ever wished they had what someone else did—and then remembered, “Oh right, I’m a whole glitter bomb myself.”
So let’s turn comparison into confetti. 🍃💫
🎧 Listen now and root for your friends and yourself.
🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔ ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕
Take care of yourself, take care of each other, and breathe!
❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕ 🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔
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Remember there is no shame in joy or for asking for what you need.
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For non-emergencies, Psychology Today can connect you with support and therapists who fit your needs.
This podcast and CLW Studios content are not therapy or a substitute for it. Guest opinions are their own.
We're here for insight and encouragement but always seek professional support when needed.
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🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔ ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕
Take care of yourself, take care of each other, and breathe!
❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕ 🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔
Got something on your mind? James never runs out of things to say, so tell us what you want to discuss!
Remember there is no shame in joy or for asking for what you need.
Leave a review, send us a screenshot, and we’ll mail you a sticker! See you next FRIDAY for another dose of Radical Joy.
James is not a therapist, but you’re not alone. If you're in crisis, call 988 for professional help.
For non-emergencies, Psychology Today can connect you with support and therapists who fit your needs.
This podcast and CLW Studios content are not therapy or a substitute for it. Guest opinions are their own.
We're here for insight and encouragement but always seek professional support when needed.
This episode was Produced and edited by Kerri J of CLW Studios
In this unflinchingly honest and unexpectedly hilarious episode, James spills the tea on those comparison traps we all fall into (even with our faves). But this isn’t about guilt - it’s about growth. Because when we lead with generosity, that envy gets tenderized into admiration, and suddenly your friend’s glow-up becomes your guidepost, not your grudge.
You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you’ll probably DM a friend to say, “Hey, I see your shine.” This one’s for anyone who’s ever wished they had what someone else did—and then remembered, “Oh right, I’m a whole glitter bomb myself.”
So let’s turn comparison into confetti. 🍃💫
🎧 Listen now and root for your friends and yourself.
🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔ ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕
Take care of yourself, take care of each other, and breathe!
❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕ 🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔
Got something on your mind? James never runs out of things to say, so tell us what you want to discuss!
Remember there is no shame in joy or for asking for what you need.
Leave a review, send us a screenshot, and we’ll mail you a sticker! See you next FRIDAY for another dose of Radical Joy.
James is not a therapist, but you’re not alone. If you're in crisis, call 988 for professional help.
For non-emergencies, Psychology Today can connect you with support and therapists who fit your needs.
This podcast and CLW Studios content are not therapy or a substitute for it. Guest opinions are their own.
We're here for insight and encouragement but always seek professional support when needed.
This episode was Produced and edited by Kerri J of CLW Studios
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/radical-joy-with-james-bullard--5644728/support.
🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔ ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕
Take care of yourself, take care of each other, and breathe!
❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕ 🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔
Got something on your mind? James never runs out of things to say, so tell us what you want to discuss!
Remember there is no shame in joy or for asking for what you need.
Leave a review, send us a screenshot, and we’ll mail you a sticker! See you next FRIDAY for another dose of Radical Joy.
James is not a therapist, but you’re not alone. If you're in crisis, call 988 for professional help.
For non-emergencies, Psychology Today can connect you with support and therapists who fit your needs.
This podcast and CLW Studios content are not therapy or a substitute for it. Guest opinions are their own.
We're here for insight and encouragement but always seek professional support when needed.
This episode was Produced and edited by Kerri J of CLW Studios
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hello, friends, So happy to have you here with me
today at Radical Joy. If you've been here before, welcome back.
If this is your first time with me, well I'm
glad you're here. Each week, I'm here with you talking
to myself about things that weigh on my mind and heart.
Hoping if you're dealing with something similar, we can adjust
our perspectives as you listen. Hey, if you're struggling with
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something that needs immediate attention, please know that health is available.
Just on nine eight eight nationwide in the US to
reach the Mental Health and Suicide Crisis Hotline. All of
us here at COLW Studios believe that mental health is
a vital part of our well being. The more people
I meet in the more places I go, the more
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I realize how important it is to make people aware
of the fact that there is no shame in enjoying
the parts of our lives that are incredible. It's time
for some radical Joy, and this week, the three fingers
pointing back at me are for the color green, represented
in this episode by Envy and Generosity, part four of
a seven part series for Prime Month. This is a
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topic that is very very near to my heart and
not in the best way when we talk about envy.
This is honestly one of the largest obstacles I feel
in my own journey, and I feel that makes me
uniquely experienced to talk about it. I don't want to
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say qualified, because it's one of those things where I
don't want to get beyond my own credential. And that
being said, I would also like to say that because
I do experience it so frequently and so deeply, so honestly,
so very just Oh, it is a burden sometimes how
(02:05):
I have to deal with this, which we'll talk about
that in a second. It's really funny to me. Again,
that's just a lot of things that will unfold it
shortly after. What I do want to say is that
the coordinating compliment to envy is generosity in this respect especially,
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and the way these two play against and with each
other is so fascinating. And while I was homeworking, trying
to get together some thoughts on what to share and
how to share with this, it became more and more interesting,
and it became very much more of a Yin Yang
type situation, two halves of a whole, And I never
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would have expected that whenever we were talking about it
in the meeting, it just didn't seem like that was
going to be so close a correlation. And then the
more that I took notes on it and journaled about
it and just sort of like brainstorm and sort of
let my mind wander, the more appropriate that became, and honestly,
the more surprisingly accurate I think it became. Envy. Let's
(03:17):
go ahead and just hone in on that one beginning
topic number one. When I tell people that I often
suffer from envy, usually delightfully, a response that I often
get is bo, why you have such a fantastic life?
You did a dada, And they start rattling off all
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these things they know about me, as far as my
accomplishments or what I have going for me, or all
the things that I have going that keep me busy
and honestly very fulfilled in the life that I live,
and I'm grateful. I hope that doesn't come across as
haughty as it did whenever I said it out loud.
It's just one of those things where those who know
me best whenever I feel like sharing this, and it
(03:59):
is not easy to share because it is definitely embarrassing
for me to have to admit that I do feel
it often and deeply for some of my favorite people
in the world. And usually whenever I feel vulnerable enough
to share that with someone, their knee jerk reaction is
to say, well, you should be grateful for blah blah
blah blah. Yes, and please understand, whenever I say these
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kinds of things, it's not that I am not grateful
for the incredible things in my life. It doesn't stop
me from being greedy and feeling envy about the way
some other people get to live theirs. Okay, first, we're
going to cover that part as far as like being
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grateful for what I have going on and how others
perceive it. Okay, yes, one percent correct, Thank you for
saying that. That's a wonderful compliment, and I want to
make sure that I don't. I don't want to be
perceived is ungrateful for whenever I say something like that,
whenever I divulge something that vulnerable to someone, it's not
(05:07):
that I'm fishing. If I'm fishing, you're gonna know it, Okay,
because chances are really good if we're that close, that
I can be that vulnerable. If I need a compliment,
I'll just say, hey, I'm gonna need you to throw
some love and praise over here, if you could be
so kind, Thank you so much great for these kinds
of things. Whenever someone comes to me to say it,
(05:27):
it is never a question of yes, what it is
is it makes me feel greedy sometimes whenever I do
that example, let me let me just this is always easier. Anecdotally,
I have friends that are so intelligent. Wow, they are
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just incredibly well spoken. They are very focused on their goals.
They use their intellect and their focused to accomplish these
things that continue to just awe me. Okay, and it's wonderful,
and there's a part of me I would say a
very large chunk of it. I would give it eighty
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three percent that looks at that, and I am over
the moon that these people are who they are, and
I love that for them because they have used the
gifts they've been given. They have cultivated an excellence to
which many others, including myself, aspire, and they use those
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gifts that they have honed to a razor sharpness and
they get the job done. And now it's not only
that the job is done that I feel a little envy,
but also that they have sharpened their skills to such
a degree that they made it look easy while they
were doing it. Yuck. I have a friend here in
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the Netherlands. He's a very good he's a great buddy
of miney wonderful workout partner. He speaks four languages. He
teaches chemistry at the university. He is a machine at
the gym. He is ridiculously charismatic with the ladies and
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it ah, it's hard not to look at someone who
excels so strongly in so many things and not feel
that tinge of the green eyed monster. It just is.
And then it's one of those things where we were
eating last night after the gym, we sort of had
a little I guess you. It's not a tradition, but
(07:39):
it's just something mightbe be a habit. On Thursday nights,
after we finish at the gym, I walk across the
street to his apartment. He makes dinner and we eat
and it's just great because we can catch up on
the week and do whatever the other night. While he's
cooking dinner, he's like chet chat chat blah blah blah,
making something wonderful. They have these fantastic packaged meals in
(08:04):
the Netherlands. Now it's not like a hungry Jack or
a TV dinner and that kind of stuff. No, no, no, no,
it's fresh ingredients in a package with recipes that you
can buy the extra ingredients you need and make them
all at home. It's absolutely fantastic. And I haven't hit
a loser yet. They've all been wonderful. But he's standing
there and he's stirring up something, or he's chopping up
(08:26):
something to go into the skillet or whatever, and he
turns to me. He's like, well, you know, Aristotle says,
I'm like feather plucker. I will come over there and
I will punch you in the neck. It's not enough
that you can bench press a buick, that you speak
four languages, that you teach at the collegiate level, you
get your PhD for chemistry and biochemistry. And now you're
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quoting Aristotle from me from the kitchen to me while
making dinner. It's almost too much to bear. Okay, And again,
when I say this out loud, it seems so unbelievably silly, ungrateful,
any number of things. And what I'm gonna do whenever
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I start to feel that little twinge is I'm gonna
give it a whole lot of grace, okay. And what
I'm gonna say instead is, these are the people who
choose to spend their time with me. I do these
things with these people by their invitation or they have
accepted mine, meaning we all make the choice to spend
time with one another because there is a mutual respect
and admiration there that I love and enjoy. Okay, that
(09:34):
is the exterior situation. That is something that I can
say to everyone that's listening now. Then for the internal monologue,
I started thinking about this and the same person that
I was just describing to you, he and I are
chatting because we have these great conversations. I love that
I've found so many good friends that like to talk
(09:56):
about real things, the nitty gritty type business, and it's
just so delightful, refreshing. And he says to me, I
have a problem with jealousy, with envy. I was like,
do go on? And he tells me, He's like, I
see these things and these people, and he says, and
these people speak so many different languages, and their accent
(10:18):
ours is strong and da da da da da, and
here I am just agog slack jawed. I'm just you
never know what someone is going through. You never know.
We see this all the time on the internet, you know,
memes galore, et cetera, et cetera. It's like, always be
kind because you never know what someone else is facing,
(10:40):
you never know their struggles. And it's just funny to me,
because I had to stifle a snort, like a laugh. Look,
it was comical to the point of derision to me.
I'm like what, And so I had to contain myself
because that's wildly disrespectful and he's trying to be very
vulnerable with me and tell me something that he's dealing with.
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I'm like, okay, cool, cool, cool. My first line of
defense whenever I start to feel that, And this is
what I told him too, which is why I were,
you know, sort of segueing into that. My first line
of defense, the first reaction to my knee jerk. Whenever
I start to feel these things for the people in
(11:24):
my life that I love and admire so deeply, is
I start to sort of throw up the things that
I have done and make me very very proud that others,
not many others can lay claim to being able to
do or have done in the past, and that in
(11:44):
itself is not the best thing. That was the conclusion
that I came to. And then I started to sort
of like cycle through it and just be be gracious
with myself and start to figure, well, is that really
a problem? Is that truly the issue that we're dealing with?
And the more I thought about it, the more it's like, well,
I think it all depends on your mindset and where
(12:05):
your heart is at. Whenever you start saying those kinds
of things. If I am putting those forward in an
effort to combat the envy that I feel about this
person's accomplishments, in an effort to belittle what they have
done or diminish it, even if it's in my own
mind and no one else can hear it, I don't
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think that is the healthiest. However, when I put those
things at the forefront of my mind to protect myself
from the ill feelings that I'm holding in my heart
against people that I do truly treasure in an effort
to bolster my own self confidence and self esteem and
completely leave them and their accomplishments out of the equation.
(12:49):
It's merely a gathering of my own metaphorical troops around
my own headquarters or base camp to make sure that
I've got plenty of reminders to remind me that I'm
doing great. I have done so so much with the
(13:12):
years that I've been given, and I every day I
marvel again, not a brag. This is not about me
trying to make any kind of big deal about me
or two to horn. It's about me trying to be
very candid with anyone listening to the sound of my voice.
Right now. I have these things that bother me to
my core. They hurt my guts, they shake my confidence
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and my self esteem to the bones, and I need
to know a way to healthfully deal with that, and
that's what I do. Great Now. Then, now that we
have sussed this to an extent that I am pleased,
though not thoroughly satisfied, we still got a minute or
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two that we can chat about these kind of things.
With plenty of topic left on the table. Let's look
at the cooler side of the pillow. Okay, we've been
on this side for a bit. Let's flip it and
look what's on the other side. And that's our good
friend generosity. Generosity is one of those things where I
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think it comes in this specific instance. The context I
would use for this is it is generosity of spirit,
so that whenever that green eyed monster starts to stir
from his slumber, what I can do is give congratulations
and praise and love and recognition to these incredible people
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in my life and all they've accomplished to put that
beast back into the cave. Generosity is one of those
things where it just continues to be Okay. I can
either be stingy with my praise, or I can be generous.
I can either choose to look at the universe as
(15:03):
a stingy being, even though she encompasses all of the
infinite as far as my tiny, tiny brain can comprehend,
and instead of living in a state of abundance, I
have all of a sudden created a very restrictive, very
minimizing view of an infinite power that swirls around me
(15:26):
and conspires for my success. I don't want to do that.
That seems really counterproductive to all of the good that
I still have left to do, that we still have
left to do. And so whenever I look at something
like that, what I want to do is pause, and
(15:47):
I want to sort of adjust my thinking and my
words and my terminology, and basically just the way the
whole framework. I want to tilt that sucker about thirty
eight degrees. I don't want to turn it forty five,
ninety or one eighty. For whatever reason. That makes me think.
When you get something predictable in there, something very angular,
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something very precise segment of that angle, that circle, however
you want to look at it as one hundred and
eighty for a straight line, three sixty for a circle.
It feels incremental. It feels like it can revert back
to where you were before relatively easily, because all it
has to do is click one segment to get right
(16:34):
back where we were. If we look at it as
thirty eight degrees instead, we've landed somewhere in the middle.
We're much farther away from the selfish feeling emotion, and
we're much closer to the generous at thirty eight than
(16:55):
we were. However, now we're not at a very specific increment.
Thirty eight is one of those things you kind of
have to eyeball it if you don't have a compass, okay, great,
or a protractor. So what do we do now? Well,
now it is more difficult to return to where you
started because you don't know exactly what that looks like.
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You can't even make a very fair estimation on it
because you're at one of those random integers in between,
and so we continue to give it generosity to push
even farther past forty five. Now we're at fifty seven.
Oh okay, I see where you're going now, good, yeah,
you see it? Great? Perfect, We can get down below
(17:44):
forty five again, We're probably not going to get back
to thirty eight, and we have more that we can
do to continue to progress and grow and to make
a new horizon in our lives. Because instead of being
envious of these amazing things these people are doing and
it's hard, Oh boy, oh boy, is it hard, It
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may not be for you. This may be one of
those things where you have a different sort of heartset
than I do, and I honestly I feel a little
bit of enview for that as well. Maybe this is
just a serious problem that I've got. Envy is just
one of those things where I have had so much
experience you learn a lot of different ways to deal
(18:30):
with it and hopefully make it very easy for the
excellent characters in our life's journey to be closer to you.
Envy is one of those things that I've found really
sours things very quickly if I don't get a hold
of myself and get better control over how I feel
about people who are of superior quality, not to me,
(18:54):
just in general. Just so we're clear on that those
people can feel it, they can pick up on it
because they're no stranger to others feeling that about them
as well. Okay, And so it is my task that
I have assigned myself to make sure that I continue
to open that pinch nose, squinchy, just not nice emotion
(19:17):
into something broader, stronger, fuller, something that will allow more
of the universe to flow in and out of the system,
so that I can be fully gifted with all the
things that she has in store for me. Why because
I'd ask for them, and then I offer gratitude when
I receive them, and then I ask for more. It's
(19:38):
never selfish. Also, envy is a wonderful guiding tool. I
see these people speak in their languages, and they're just
lovely and they're wonderful, and there's a part of me
that just gets so angry and irritated because growing up
in the United States, you don't necessarily need that. All
the time I drive for five hours, I'm still in
(19:59):
the same state. I drive for five hours here in Europe,
and I'm in a whole other country with a different cuisine,
a different language, of different culture. If you grow up
around that and you take the bus to a new nation,
you are exposed to them from a very young age.
We're learning and acclimating these brand new, wonderful experiences and cultures.
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Is just old hat. It's just another Thursday, and I
love it. And there's a part of me that is
insane with envy about it. And if we want to
flip the script, I'm sure there are a lot of
people out there who are jealous of my American passport.
I get it. I ugh. Here's a phrase that comes
(20:43):
up whenever, especially since we're talking about the color green.
It fits in with this entire theme as well. They
say the grass is always greener in the neighbor's yard
or whatever it is. I never really, I'm sorry that
I messed that up at the end. I'm not really sure.
It's just we usually stop at the word greener because
everybody knows the ending of it. Or at least gets
(21:04):
the general gist of it. I don't love that because
I think that I don't know, maybe I'm just looking
at it a little bit too Simply, Grass just doesn't
seem a great metaphor for all of the really cool, interesting, intricate,
amazing things that so many of my friends are able
(21:25):
to do. Like I want it. I want it. It's
way more exciting than grass, right, And it's just I
think that they always say that if everyone's problems were
laid bare and put in a pile, you would run
to collect your own before trying to assume anyone else's
because you didn't know. You just never know what other
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people are dealing with. And I get that Envy's one
of those things for me. And it's really funny because
that the thing that I love to watch. And I'm
sure which is exactly the same way that I felt
last night when my friend told me that he also
deals with envy's very strongly. It's that I had a
really hard time control in my face, just because it
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was such a surprise. I'm like, oh, okay. And also,
what a wonderful thing to know, what a great thing
to have someone share with me, especially whenever I'm feeling
that whole thing coiled up in my own belluy, I'm like, oh,
another great reason to be vulnerable and communicative and find
(22:29):
a way so that you can have these moments with
your people, so that all of you can figure out
what it is you're dealing with. No judgment. We listen
and we don't judge. That's one of those fun things
going around the internet right now, and I'm like, yeah,
I don't want to judge. What I want to do
is listen to it. I want to poke a few
holes in it. I don't think that's judgment. I'm hoping
(22:50):
it's going to be helpful and if it's not, tell
me so. In that way we can move forward from it.
But the envy that I feel, I think is a
very small and limiting emotion because instead of visualizing my
own accomplishment so that I can attain them even faster,
I am too focused on someone else's journey when it
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isn't my business, nor is it my walk to take
right And in order to combat that, I must be
generous of spirit both to them in wishing them well
on their journey and doing everything in my power to
help them achieve even more because these are my people,
these are my specials, my treasures, okay, and if they
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need something from me in order to get something that's
on their list, by godeh, by gosh, I'm hoping I
have proven myself trustworthy enough that they will share that
with me so that I can be of assistance. And
part of me pardon me for saying so, I don't
think this is bad. If I've already offered of myself first,
(23:54):
I would love for them to offer that to me
as well. It is an exchange of generosity in spirit,
and I like that idea a lot. It is giving
a tiny bit of yourself so that this person who
you already see as sort of a towering example of
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humanity can become even larger, can loom even greater in
the sunshine. And that's just wonderful, unsettling, so unsettlingly so,
because again here comes that envious part of me, and
it says, oh my god, but they'll get even better.
(24:36):
I'm gonna have to hustle twice as hard. Yes, yeah, Wellard,
you're gonna have to do that because you're gonna have
to catch up a little bit if you want to
reach the same level of proficiency that they have in
this one topic because they've been doing this a lot longer,
or they had the opportunity to learn this when they
(24:57):
were younger, so it was much easier when they didn't
know it was difficult. They just saw it as a game,
and they did the thing and it was great. And
I'm gonna be generous with the grace and the I
(25:18):
hesitate to even call it healing, because I don't think
this is a hurt. I think this is just a
part of human nature that I have allowed to get
just a little bit bigger than is controllable at every
single moment. And so what I want to do is
continue to work on giving it grace so that whenever
it gets a little bit too big to handle, I
can release it and then wait for the next bout
(25:41):
and hopefully I will be stronger or it will not
be quite so large, so that we can get it
out of the way. I don't want to make those
mistakes again of losing more friends or hurting more relationships
because I have been envious of the good people they are,
which is more than likely what attracted me to them
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in the first place. Human psychology is just so fascinating
because the thing that brought you into the first place
can often become the thing that drives you absolutely nuts
in the future. It's fantastic. It's just when you look
at it, it is comical. It is one of those things.
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It's just like, there's a term for it that I
want to use, but it's escaping me at the moment.
But it's just one of those universal truths. That's also
just a giant joke, you know. I know the universe
has a sense of humor because of the way some
things work. It's just hilarious to me. But yeah, all
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that to say, envy and generosity go hand in hand
because if you have enough of one, the other you
can keep in check. Generosity can get away from me
as well. It's one of those things where I love
doing things for people. It makes me feel good. It's
not me trying to toot my own horn again. It's
just me saying, there is something absolutely delicious. Knowing that
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I have the capability to help someone and it doesn't
even nine times out of ten, doesn't really take anything
out of my day. All I have to do is
just you know, shoot off an email or answer a
question or whatever. It is, and I love it. How
nice to be able to do something that costs me
so little that means so much to someone else. And
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whenever I think about it like that, is there an
element of envy for that person in my direction because
what they need so badly is something that I can
do for them so easily. All of these things are connected,
every single one of them. It doesn't feel like it
when you're looking at the words on a page. When
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we start to kind of meander with our words and
our feelings and our thoughts, the connections start to form,
and all all of a sudden there are many more
than there were. Then, all of a sudden, what was
once the filaments are now cables, and what were once
cables now become beams. And then all of a sudden,
it's walls. And now it's all one mass of one thing,
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with one side being generosity and the other side being envy,
parts of the same organism. It just depends on how
you choose to use them as to whether they're going
to contract your spirit into something that has a much
harder time to grow, or leave your spirit wide open
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so that they can continue to grow and fill into
the life that you hope it will live. That seems
pretty reasonable, right, I think so. I whenever we started
talking about Pride Month and getting together the rainbow things,
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I was a little nervous. Honestly, we have done a
lot of homage to Inside Out, and I honestly don't
mind at all. I thoroughly enjoy it. I think it's wonderful.
Now Green in the movies is discussed, and I don't
think that's now. I think they threw that one in
because it's funny. I think a lot of people can
definitely relate to it, and in a simpler emotion individual
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sure that works as we become adults and understand that
emotions like discussed are a little bit more complex than
perhaps they are portrayed on an animated film for mostly children,
And then we continue to look at it and just
sort of like turn it over and think and ponder
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and ruminate, and then all of a sudden, it's like generosity.
Generosity I think would be a good compliment to envy
as far as an opposing force, as far as something
that is not exactly what I would call an opposite
though it does provide a counter measure to that. Whenever
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you fear that your envious feelings may be getting away
from you. Envy and jealousy, you're interesting too. We had
a very specific conversation about that last night. Jealousy is
one of those things where you see what someone does
and you feel bad because you can't do it. Envy
is when you see something someone else does and you
can't do, and it hardens your heart against that individual.
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So that's like an exterior versus interior thought as well.
I think that's right. I'm not entirely sure that's one
hundred percent right, but I'm almost positive that's it. I
remember having this conversation before. Unfortunately it was so long
ago that I can't remember which way which one of
those went. But I think that's right. Jealousy is something
that's more self contained. Ooh oh, he's so strong. I
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wish I was strong like that. But these knees, you know,
jealousy versus oh man, you know, I would say it
is just one little, one little injury, and I could
absolutely catch up with that. See. No, I don't know.
I can't even come up with a very good example
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leave that where it is. So This concludes episode four
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I realize how important it is to make people aware
of the fact that there is no shame in enjoying
the parts of our lives that are incredible. It's time
for some radical Joy, and this week, the three fingers
pointing back at me are for the color green, represented
in this episode by Envy and Generosity, part four of
a seven part series for Prime Month. This is a
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topic that is very very near to my heart and
not in the best way when we talk about envy.
This is honestly one of the largest obstacles I feel
in my own journey, and I feel that makes me
uniquely experienced to talk about it. I don't want to
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say qualified, because it's one of those things where I
don't want to get beyond my own credential. And that
being said, I would also like to say that because
I do experience it so frequently and so deeply, so honestly,
so very just Oh, it is a burden sometimes how
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I have to deal with this, which we'll talk about
that in a second. It's really funny to me. Again,
that's just a lot of things that will unfold it
shortly after. What I do want to say is that
the coordinating compliment to envy is generosity in this respect especially,
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and the way these two play against and with each
other is so fascinating. And while I was homeworking, trying
to get together some thoughts on what to share and
how to share with this, it became more and more interesting,
and it became very much more of a Yin Yang
type situation, two halves of a whole, And I never
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would have expected that whenever we were talking about it
in the meeting, it just didn't seem like that was
going to be so close a correlation. And then the
more that I took notes on it and journaled about
it and just sort of like brainstorm and sort of
let my mind wander, the more appropriate that became, and honestly,
the more surprisingly accurate I think it became. Envy. Let's
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go ahead and just hone in on that one beginning
topic number one. When I tell people that I often
suffer from envy, usually delightfully, a response that I often
get is bo, why you have such a fantastic life?
You did a dada, And they start rattling off all
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these things they know about me, as far as my
accomplishments or what I have going for me, or all
the things that I have going that keep me busy
and honestly very fulfilled in the life that I live,
and I'm grateful. I hope that doesn't come across as
haughty as it did whenever I said it out loud.
It's just one of those things where those who know
me best whenever I feel like sharing this, and it
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is not easy to share because it is definitely embarrassing
for me to have to admit that I do feel
it often and deeply for some of my favorite people
in the world. And usually whenever I feel vulnerable enough
to share that with someone, their knee jerk reaction is
to say, well, you should be grateful for blah blah
blah blah. Yes, and please understand, whenever I say these
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kinds of things, it's not that I am not grateful
for the incredible things in my life. It doesn't stop
me from being greedy and feeling envy about the way
some other people get to live theirs. Okay, first, we're
going to cover that part as far as like being
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grateful for what I have going on and how others
perceive it. Okay, yes, one percent correct, Thank you for
saying that. That's a wonderful compliment, and I want to
make sure that I don't. I don't want to be
perceived is ungrateful for whenever I say something like that,
whenever I divulge something that vulnerable to someone, it's not
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that I'm fishing. If I'm fishing, you're gonna know it, Okay,
because chances are really good if we're that close, that
I can be that vulnerable. If I need a compliment,
I'll just say, hey, I'm gonna need you to throw
some love and praise over here, if you could be
so kind, Thank you so much great for these kinds
of things. Whenever someone comes to me to say it,
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it is never a question of yes, what it is
is it makes me feel greedy sometimes whenever I do
that example, let me let me just this is always easier. Anecdotally,
I have friends that are so intelligent. Wow, they are
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just incredibly well spoken. They are very focused on their goals.
They use their intellect and their focused to accomplish these
things that continue to just awe me. Okay, and it's wonderful,
and there's a part of me I would say a
very large chunk of it. I would give it eighty
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three percent that looks at that, and I am over
the moon that these people are who they are, and
I love that for them because they have used the
gifts they've been given. They have cultivated an excellence to
which many others, including myself, aspire, and they use those
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gifts that they have honed to a razor sharpness and
they get the job done. And now it's not only
that the job is done that I feel a little envy,
but also that they have sharpened their skills to such
a degree that they made it look easy while they
were doing it. Yuck. I have a friend here in
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the Netherlands. He's a very good he's a great buddy
of miney wonderful workout partner. He speaks four languages. He
teaches chemistry at the university. He is a machine at
the gym. He is ridiculously charismatic with the ladies and
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it ah, it's hard not to look at someone who
excels so strongly in so many things and not feel
that tinge of the green eyed monster. It just is.
And then it's one of those things where we were
eating last night after the gym, we sort of had
a little I guess you. It's not a tradition, but
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it's just something mightbe be a habit. On Thursday nights,
after we finish at the gym, I walk across the
street to his apartment. He makes dinner and we eat
and it's just great because we can catch up on
the week and do whatever the other night. While he's
cooking dinner, he's like chet chat chat blah blah blah,
making something wonderful. They have these fantastic packaged meals in
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the Netherlands. Now it's not like a hungry Jack or
a TV dinner and that kind of stuff. No, no, no, no,
it's fresh ingredients in a package with recipes that you
can buy the extra ingredients you need and make them
all at home. It's absolutely fantastic. And I haven't hit
a loser yet. They've all been wonderful. But he's standing
there and he's stirring up something, or he's chopping up
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something to go into the skillet or whatever, and he
turns to me. He's like, well, you know, Aristotle says,
I'm like feather plucker. I will come over there and
I will punch you in the neck. It's not enough
that you can bench press a buick, that you speak
four languages, that you teach at the collegiate level, you
get your PhD for chemistry and biochemistry. And now you're
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quoting Aristotle from me from the kitchen to me while
making dinner. It's almost too much to bear. Okay, And again,
when I say this out loud, it seems so unbelievably silly, ungrateful,
any number of things. And what I'm gonna do whenever
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I start to feel that little twinge is I'm gonna
give it a whole lot of grace, okay. And what
I'm gonna say instead is, these are the people who
choose to spend their time with me. I do these
things with these people by their invitation or they have
accepted mine, meaning we all make the choice to spend
time with one another because there is a mutual respect
and admiration there that I love and enjoy. Okay, that
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is the exterior situation. That is something that I can
say to everyone that's listening now. Then for the internal monologue,
I started thinking about this and the same person that
I was just describing to you, he and I are
chatting because we have these great conversations. I love that
I've found so many good friends that like to talk
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about real things, the nitty gritty type business, and it's
just so delightful, refreshing. And he says to me, I
have a problem with jealousy, with envy. I was like,
do go on? And he tells me, He's like, I
see these things and these people, and he says, and
these people speak so many different languages, and their accent
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ours is strong and da da da da da, and
here I am just agog slack jawed. I'm just you
never know what someone is going through. You never know.
We see this all the time on the internet, you know,
memes galore, et cetera, et cetera. It's like, always be
kind because you never know what someone else is facing,
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you never know their struggles. And it's just funny to me,
because I had to stifle a snort, like a laugh. Look,
it was comical to the point of derision to me.
I'm like what, And so I had to contain myself
because that's wildly disrespectful and he's trying to be very
vulnerable with me and tell me something that he's dealing with.
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I'm like, okay, cool, cool, cool. My first line of
defense whenever I start to feel that, And this is
what I told him too, which is why I were,
you know, sort of segueing into that. My first line
of defense, the first reaction to my knee jerk. Whenever
I start to feel these things for the people in
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my life that I love and admire so deeply, is
I start to sort of throw up the things that
I have done and make me very very proud that others,
not many others can lay claim to being able to
do or have done in the past, and that in
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itself is not the best thing. That was the conclusion
that I came to. And then I started to sort
of like cycle through it and just be be gracious
with myself and start to figure, well, is that really
a problem? Is that truly the issue that we're dealing with?
And the more I thought about it, the more it's like, well,
I think it all depends on your mindset and where
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your heart is at. Whenever you start saying those kinds
of things. If I am putting those forward in an
effort to combat the envy that I feel about this
person's accomplishments, in an effort to belittle what they have
done or diminish it, even if it's in my own
mind and no one else can hear it, I don't
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think that is the healthiest. However, when I put those
things at the forefront of my mind to protect myself
from the ill feelings that I'm holding in my heart
against people that I do truly treasure in an effort
to bolster my own self confidence and self esteem and
completely leave them and their accomplishments out of the equation.
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It's merely a gathering of my own metaphorical troops around
my own headquarters or base camp to make sure that
I've got plenty of reminders to remind me that I'm
doing great. I have done so so much with the
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years that I've been given, and I every day I
marvel again, not a brag. This is not about me
trying to make any kind of big deal about me
or two to horn. It's about me trying to be
very candid with anyone listening to the sound of my voice.
Right now. I have these things that bother me to
my core. They hurt my guts, they shake my confidence
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and my self esteem to the bones, and I need
to know a way to healthfully deal with that, and
that's what I do. Great Now. Then, now that we
have sussed this to an extent that I am pleased,
though not thoroughly satisfied, we still got a minute or
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two that we can chat about these kind of things.
With plenty of topic left on the table. Let's look
at the cooler side of the pillow. Okay, we've been
on this side for a bit. Let's flip it and
look what's on the other side. And that's our good
friend generosity. Generosity is one of those things where I
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think it comes in this specific instance. The context I
would use for this is it is generosity of spirit,
so that whenever that green eyed monster starts to stir
from his slumber, what I can do is give congratulations
and praise and love and recognition to these incredible people
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in my life and all they've accomplished to put that
beast back into the cave. Generosity is one of those
things where it just continues to be Okay. I can
either be stingy with my praise, or I can be generous.
I can either choose to look at the universe as
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a stingy being, even though she encompasses all of the
infinite as far as my tiny, tiny brain can comprehend,
and instead of living in a state of abundance, I
have all of a sudden created a very restrictive, very
minimizing view of an infinite power that swirls around me
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and conspires for my success. I don't want to do that.
That seems really counterproductive to all of the good that
I still have left to do, that we still have
left to do. And so whenever I look at something
like that, what I want to do is pause, and
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I want to sort of adjust my thinking and my
words and my terminology, and basically just the way the
whole framework. I want to tilt that sucker about thirty
eight degrees. I don't want to turn it forty five,
ninety or one eighty. For whatever reason. That makes me think.
When you get something predictable in there, something very angular,
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something very precise segment of that angle, that circle, however
you want to look at it as one hundred and
eighty for a straight line, three sixty for a circle.
It feels incremental. It feels like it can revert back
to where you were before relatively easily, because all it
has to do is click one segment to get right
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back where we were. If we look at it as
thirty eight degrees instead, we've landed somewhere in the middle.
We're much farther away from the selfish feeling emotion, and
we're much closer to the generous at thirty eight than
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we were. However, now we're not at a very specific increment.
Thirty eight is one of those things you kind of
have to eyeball it if you don't have a compass, okay, great,
or a protractor. So what do we do now? Well,
now it is more difficult to return to where you
started because you don't know exactly what that looks like.
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You can't even make a very fair estimation on it
because you're at one of those random integers in between,
and so we continue to give it generosity to push
even farther past forty five. Now we're at fifty seven.
Oh okay, I see where you're going now, good, yeah,
you see it? Great? Perfect, We can get down below
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forty five again, We're probably not going to get back
to thirty eight, and we have more that we can
do to continue to progress and grow and to make
a new horizon in our lives. Because instead of being
envious of these amazing things these people are doing and
it's hard, Oh boy, oh boy, is it hard, It
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may not be for you. This may be one of
those things where you have a different sort of heartset
than I do, and I honestly I feel a little
bit of enview for that as well. Maybe this is
just a serious problem that I've got. Envy is just
one of those things where I have had so much
experience you learn a lot of different ways to deal
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with it and hopefully make it very easy for the
excellent characters in our life's journey to be closer to you.
Envy is one of those things that I've found really
sours things very quickly if I don't get a hold
of myself and get better control over how I feel
about people who are of superior quality, not to me,
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just in general. Just so we're clear on that those
people can feel it, they can pick up on it
because they're no stranger to others feeling that about them
as well. Okay, And so it is my task that
I have assigned myself to make sure that I continue
to open that pinch nose, squinchy, just not nice emotion
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into something broader, stronger, fuller, something that will allow more
of the universe to flow in and out of the system,
so that I can be fully gifted with all the
things that she has in store for me. Why because
I'd ask for them, and then I offer gratitude when
I receive them, and then I ask for more. It's
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never selfish. Also, envy is a wonderful guiding tool. I
see these people speak in their languages, and they're just
lovely and they're wonderful, and there's a part of me
that just gets so angry and irritated because growing up
in the United States, you don't necessarily need that. All
the time I drive for five hours, I'm still in
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the same state. I drive for five hours here in Europe,
and I'm in a whole other country with a different cuisine,
a different language, of different culture. If you grow up
around that and you take the bus to a new nation,
you are exposed to them from a very young age.
We're learning and acclimating these brand new, wonderful experiences and cultures.
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Is just old hat. It's just another Thursday, and I
love it. And there's a part of me that is
insane with envy about it. And if we want to
flip the script, I'm sure there are a lot of
people out there who are jealous of my American passport.
I get it. I ugh. Here's a phrase that comes
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up whenever, especially since we're talking about the color green.
It fits in with this entire theme as well. They
say the grass is always greener in the neighbor's yard
or whatever it is. I never really, I'm sorry that
I messed that up at the end. I'm not really sure.
It's just we usually stop at the word greener because
everybody knows the ending of it. Or at least gets
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the general gist of it. I don't love that because
I think that I don't know, maybe I'm just looking
at it a little bit too Simply, Grass just doesn't
seem a great metaphor for all of the really cool, interesting, intricate,
amazing things that so many of my friends are able
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to do. Like I want it. I want it. It's
way more exciting than grass, right, And it's just I
think that they always say that if everyone's problems were
laid bare and put in a pile, you would run
to collect your own before trying to assume anyone else's
because you didn't know. You just never know what other
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people are dealing with. And I get that Envy's one
of those things for me. And it's really funny because
that the thing that I love to watch. And I'm
sure which is exactly the same way that I felt
last night when my friend told me that he also
deals with envy's very strongly. It's that I had a
really hard time control in my face, just because it
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was such a surprise. I'm like, oh, okay. And also,
what a wonderful thing to know, what a great thing
to have someone share with me, especially whenever I'm feeling
that whole thing coiled up in my own belluy, I'm like, oh,
another great reason to be vulnerable and communicative and find
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a way so that you can have these moments with
your people, so that all of you can figure out
what it is you're dealing with. No judgment. We listen
and we don't judge. That's one of those fun things
going around the internet right now, and I'm like, yeah,
I don't want to judge. What I want to do
is listen to it. I want to poke a few
holes in it. I don't think that's judgment. I'm hoping
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it's going to be helpful and if it's not, tell
me so. In that way we can move forward from it.
But the envy that I feel, I think is a
very small and limiting emotion because instead of visualizing my
own accomplishment so that I can attain them even faster,
I am too focused on someone else's journey when it
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isn't my business, nor is it my walk to take
right And in order to combat that, I must be
generous of spirit both to them in wishing them well
on their journey and doing everything in my power to
help them achieve even more because these are my people,
these are my specials, my treasures, okay, and if they
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need something from me in order to get something that's
on their list, by godeh, by gosh, I'm hoping I
have proven myself trustworthy enough that they will share that
with me so that I can be of assistance. And
part of me pardon me for saying so, I don't
think this is bad. If I've already offered of myself first,
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I would love for them to offer that to me
as well. It is an exchange of generosity in spirit,
and I like that idea a lot. It is giving
a tiny bit of yourself so that this person who
you already see as sort of a towering example of
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humanity can become even larger, can loom even greater in
the sunshine. And that's just wonderful, unsettling, so unsettlingly so,
because again here comes that envious part of me, and
it says, oh my god, but they'll get even better.
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I'm gonna have to hustle twice as hard. Yes, yeah, Wellard,
you're gonna have to do that because you're gonna have
to catch up a little bit if you want to
reach the same level of proficiency that they have in
this one topic because they've been doing this a lot longer,
or they had the opportunity to learn this when they
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were younger, so it was much easier when they didn't
know it was difficult. They just saw it as a game,
and they did the thing and it was great. And
I'm gonna be generous with the grace and the I
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hesitate to even call it healing, because I don't think
this is a hurt. I think this is just a
part of human nature that I have allowed to get
just a little bit bigger than is controllable at every
single moment. And so what I want to do is
continue to work on giving it grace so that whenever
it gets a little bit too big to handle, I
can release it and then wait for the next bout
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and hopefully I will be stronger or it will not
be quite so large, so that we can get it
out of the way. I don't want to make those
mistakes again of losing more friends or hurting more relationships
because I have been envious of the good people they are,
which is more than likely what attracted me to them
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in the first place. Human psychology is just so fascinating
because the thing that brought you into the first place
can often become the thing that drives you absolutely nuts
in the future. It's fantastic. It's just when you look
at it, it is comical. It is one of those things.
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It's just like, there's a term for it that I
want to use, but it's escaping me at the moment.
But it's just one of those universal truths. That's also
just a giant joke, you know. I know the universe
has a sense of humor because of the way some
things work. It's just hilarious to me. But yeah, all
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that to say, envy and generosity go hand in hand
because if you have enough of one, the other you
can keep in check. Generosity can get away from me
as well. It's one of those things where I love
doing things for people. It makes me feel good. It's
not me trying to toot my own horn again. It's
just me saying, there is something absolutely delicious. Knowing that
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I have the capability to help someone and it doesn't
even nine times out of ten, doesn't really take anything
out of my day. All I have to do is
just you know, shoot off an email or answer a
question or whatever. It is, and I love it. How
nice to be able to do something that costs me
so little that means so much to someone else. And
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whenever I think about it like that, is there an
element of envy for that person in my direction because
what they need so badly is something that I can
do for them so easily. All of these things are connected,
every single one of them. It doesn't feel like it
when you're looking at the words on a page. When
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we start to kind of meander with our words and
our feelings and our thoughts, the connections start to form,
and all all of a sudden there are many more
than there were. Then, all of a sudden, what was
once the filaments are now cables, and what were once
cables now become beams. And then all of a sudden,
it's walls. And now it's all one mass of one thing,
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with one side being generosity and the other side being envy,
parts of the same organism. It just depends on how
you choose to use them as to whether they're going
to contract your spirit into something that has a much
harder time to grow, or leave your spirit wide open
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so that they can continue to grow and fill into
the life that you hope it will live. That seems
pretty reasonable, right, I think so. I whenever we started
talking about Pride Month and getting together the rainbow things,
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I was a little nervous. Honestly, we have done a
lot of homage to Inside Out, and I honestly don't
mind at all. I thoroughly enjoy it. I think it's wonderful.
Now Green in the movies is discussed, and I don't
think that's now. I think they threw that one in
because it's funny. I think a lot of people can
definitely relate to it, and in a simpler emotion individual
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sure that works as we become adults and understand that
emotions like discussed are a little bit more complex than
perhaps they are portrayed on an animated film for mostly children,
And then we continue to look at it and just
sort of like turn it over and think and ponder
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and ruminate, and then all of a sudden, it's like generosity.
Generosity I think would be a good compliment to envy
as far as an opposing force, as far as something
that is not exactly what I would call an opposite
though it does provide a counter measure to that. Whenever
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you fear that your envious feelings may be getting away
from you. Envy and jealousy, you're interesting too. We had
a very specific conversation about that last night. Jealousy is
one of those things where you see what someone does
and you feel bad because you can't do it. Envy
is when you see something someone else does and you
can't do, and it hardens your heart against that individual.
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So that's like an exterior versus interior thought as well.
I think that's right. I'm not entirely sure that's one
hundred percent right, but I'm almost positive that's it. I
remember having this conversation before. Unfortunately it was so long
ago that I can't remember which way which one of
those went. But I think that's right. Jealousy is something
that's more self contained. Ooh oh, he's so strong. I
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wish I was strong like that. But these knees, you know,
jealousy versus oh man, you know, I would say it
is just one little, one little injury, and I could
absolutely catch up with that. See. No, I don't know.
I can't even come up with a very good example
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of this without feeling like dirt. So we're just gonna
leave that where it is. So This concludes episode four
of our Pride Month episodes here on Radical Joy with
CLW Studios. If this is your first time joining us, welcome.
We're so happy that you're here. I hope you have
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