December 2, 2023 • 48 mins
Welcome back to Real Talk with Cathy and Shania, where we tackle the tough topics in relationships. Today, we delve into the delicate territory of dental hygiene and its impact on your love life. We'll explore the importance of good oral hygiene, the challenges couples face when one partner neglects their teeth, and strategies for navigating this sensitive conversation. Remember, a healthy smile is a happy smile, both for you and your partner!
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Hello everyone, and welcome to anotherepisode of Field Talk with Caddy and Chenier.
I'm your host, Cathy and I'mexcited to have you join us today
for an exciting episode titled Brushless Laband this episode is brought to you by
Civil and Productions. With me todayhave my co host Shania. How are
you, Shania? I'm fine?Thank you? Hi everyone, I hope
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everyone is good. And I havemy panelist. How's everyone doing? Be
good? Good? Okay, they'rebeginning me to explore the death of the
today sorry, today's topic and sharethe unique perspectives well mouth hygie. It's
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important in the relationship like all kindsof relationships, be it our romantic relationship,
family, friends, everything, andit's a topic that is open,
like overlooked. But having a badbread and a poor oral hygiene or health
can really affect our personal connections.So I'm going to start with you,
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shaniah ah. This is the question. How would you tell someone their bread
stinks without hurting their feelings? Ifit's a friend, and maybe if you're
outside, I just ask them doyou want some meat? I have this
fancy chink and do you want somejust not to hurt their feelings though,
just that yeah, or if we'reclosed, I'll just tell them like,
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man, you brush at it today. That's if we're that clothes and there's
someone who is not going like tobe upset or anything, so I'll just
come clean and ask them, like, if they brush their teeth, maybe
we can go get some mint orsomething to make their breath smell at least
nice. Yeah, so that theywouldn't Yeah, what about you, Josh,
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how would you tell it? Ifit's an acquaintance not that close yet,
I would just encourage them to,you know, maybe try some mint
thing like that. Same with theother one. But if it's a close
friend, I would ask about mybreath first, how do you how do
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you mild mind? And then whenthe person says you're good, you're good,
and you check yours? If it'ssomething like that, so I would
approach it in a joking way.Yeah, depends how their relationship is.
Okay, that's great, and you, Daisy, how would you approach that?
Okay, Fritz, how would youapproach that? Since I don't bring
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mint with me all the time,I might resort to the second option that
Joe was suggested. But if itis an acquaintance or someone that I am
not close with, maybe I'll pass, like let it, let it go
for for that, for that,for the time, over that moment.
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Okay, So if the person isnot really close to you, it's just
going to pass and just assume that'snever happened, right, yes, or
maybe that that's the only time thatI was able to smell that that time.
So okay, that's amazing if youdo that. But not that easy
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though, because let's say you're sittingwith that person for like I if good
I was, and they keep talkinglike we don't shut up, like we
just talk talk talk talk, butyou yeah, I don't want to tell
them the bridge things like how wouldyou how will you avoid that talk when
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you just turn around and assume likepretend you're not sharing what they're saying.
What would you do? Yeah?Like, I just make up something that
would enable me to live because ifthey be like a sense if I mentioned
it's like they're going like to beupset, or if I'm not close with
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that person, I just look forother ways to live, like so that
we couldn't have that conversation. SoI just say like oh yeah, yeah,
oh I have to rush somewhere,then I just leave. Yeah,
okay, I have a question foryou all about when you're in a when
you board a bus, you're sittingin that person and the only available chair
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is next to the person whose stings. You know, you know, you're
not going to make an excuse,you're living just going to listen to them.
Oh they're they're like strangers or something. Like if I'm sitting next to
a stranger in a bus and theirbread stinks and they keep on like insisting
on talking to me, I'm justgoing to ignore, especially if they're bread
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stings, just going to look theother way, no offense. But if
they tap you, why aren't youlistening to me? Like ignoring someone's not
that easy though, that would bedifficult. I don't know what I do
in that situation, but okay,I just answer the question like very first.
Then I just keep quiet, youknow, like if you don't engage
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in that conversation, maybe they're goingto mind their own business. So you're
just going to look for a way, like like not to communic, like
not to make them want to talkto you, like maybe if I know
something I don't know, But yeah, that's what I would do. Maybe
it's a sign for you to controlyour breathing as well. Just kidding,
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how will you do that? Likereading? If he's talking? So are
you going to be like that?For Fiver? That that's crazy your parents,
I've been in such a situation before. How did you think? Sorry?
I was just thinking that nobody wantsto have a bad breath. So
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if you just gesture, you know, just closing your or covering your nose
and then smile at them, itwould be conscious and they would get it.
At least that's embarrassing. Yeah,someone, No, imagine someone sitting
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next to you then they start coveringthe mouth. How would you feel it's
going to have your feelings even thoughthey didn't tell you your breadsting? I
think. But it's okay if you'refriends with a person or do some you
know in the Philippines the bus,there's always a vendor that goes up.
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So I'll ask for a minute,you sell some minut the person it's you
tell me, yeah, okay,daisy, How would you tell someone their
best things without touching their feelings?So I'll just try to play around and
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be like by the way, Bythe way, when was the last time
that you you cleaned your thieves orbut it's not enough. But but playfully,
I will bet trant to make itlook like it's something serious that could
hurt them. You already, No, that's just a question that I've asked.
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But I'll probably just ask if theyhave a tooth decayed something, or
if they've gone to the dentist.Yeah, I will be truant to be
direct with it, so that justso it's not to seem they a bit
forward. Yeah, so I justtake up another I would say, that's
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then if they have a problem withtheir treeve but their mounts. So yeah,
that's what I'll probably do. Butbefore you can you confront someone about
the bridge is thinking, you haveto confirm yours first. Maybe you can
be the problem, you know.Yeah, But for me to to tell
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that person in a good way,I think I will want them to smell
my breath first and be like,what do you think about my breath?
And then if they ask, thenI'll return the question to them. So
I tell them their brain has anissue. Yeah, I don't know about
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some people, because normally if mybread stinks, are no for sure,
like you can just feel it.So I don't know if some people have
like a bad sense of smell.Well, like I don't know, but
normally if my something is off,maybe in my mouth is smelling, like
I just know, like from peoplecan just tell. Can you tell if
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your mouth is smelling or something?Yeah, especially in the morning. Yeah,
so they should be able to tell, especially if you're having a like
you're communicating with someone. Okay,So I have then asked the second question,
and this everyone has to answer this. Uh. Yeah, you first,
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when was the last time you visiteda dentist? Was it and a
half years ago? But I dobrush my teeth on a daily basis and
I always floss, so my bead, my breath does not stink at all.
Good Josh, When was the lasttime you visited the dentist? I
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think around six months ago, Yeah, as far as I remember. Because
annually we are we are provided witha free check of so you know,
if it's time to go, likeeveryone in a country a workplace. In
a workplace, we have an annualthing a new daisy, probably like a
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year. Yeah, that was thelast time the whole of this. We
haven't been in this yet. Yeah, have friz uh, I think it
was around June or July this yeah, yeah, around the time this year.
Yeah yeah, uh well, Ithink the mouth is a breeding round
of bacterias because no other kinds offoods. People eat junk foods, yeah,
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did foods? Everything like, andwhen you forget to brush, maybe
it's like five five different types offoods and you didn't brush, you didn't
flows. The the mode is goingto stink for sure, and the oral
hygiene is neglected. It can leadto bad bread, gam diseases and even
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more self issues. And some somesome have like the they have their games
bleed and bloods meant, so someof them might be ignoring they are idental
health and some of them have healthissues, but only enough. You have
to like make sure it doesn't youhave to try to make it not stink.
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Okay, yeah, yeah, okay, So guys, I'm going to
read for you a story. So, Tina and Terrence have been best friends
since childhood, attending the same schooland sharing countless experiences. When they turn
seventeen, they decided to try dating. However, realizing that their romantic relationship
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wasn't working, they mutually agreed toend things, prioritizing their deep friendship over
a field romance. Now at strangefive years old, their bond remains unshaken,
with people often mistakening them for loversdue to their genuine love they exhibit
for each other. Terence is currentlyin a relationship with a girl named Paula,
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who is undeniably beautiful but struggles withbreath. This has been a persistent
issue for Terreence, as Paula admitsto only brushing her teeth twice a week,
finding the practice uncomfortable. Despite Terencebringing up the issue multiple times,
Paula's efforts to improve her or religionand short lived, and terrans and Terence's
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fears addressing the matter further may harmtheir relationship. Frustrated, he turns to
Tina for help, seeking her assistancein approaching Polar about the issue. Tina
invites Polar to lunch, allowing herto order whatever she desires. Polar chooses
chicken doings with plenty of source onthe side. After finishing their meal,
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Tina tactfully brings up the topic oforal hygiene, mentioning the importance the impact
of spicy foods of on bread onbreath order and Polar's in frequent brushing habits.
Instead of taking the advice positively,Polar becomes emotional, accusing Tina of
trying to subortage her relationship with Terrans. Polar alleges that Tina is jealous and
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insists that she no longer communicates withTerrans. She blames her for poisoning his
mind with negative thoughts about her.As Polar storms out of the restaurant,
tensions rises, leaving Tina concerned aboutthe delicate balance between friendship and relationships.
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So, guys, I have aquestion. Show Terans have involved Tina in
addressing Polar's bad breath issue. Whatdo you think, Cappy? Well,
I think the okay r Egene isa sensitive to a big quhen it comes
to relationship. But if he doesn'tconcern, I think you should leave it.
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But because they are close friends,they have this bond they have created.
I think it was good because shehe felt that they're supposed to talk
about that topic. So I don'tthink there's an issue if they they talk
about it because they are close oftheir close relationship. Yeah, I also
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don't think it's an issue. Josh, what about you? I was wondering
if Tina and Paula were friends alsoor Yeah, because if they're friends,
I think it would be okay andwould be on Pola and how she reacted.
But if Tina and Paula didn't havelike a connection, Terens could have
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gone straight to Poular and brought outthe issue straight to her face. I
like Terence addressed the issue, butas she promised she'd change, and then
after some time she just go backto doing what she did, brushing after
two times a week. So doyou think like it's wrong? He still,
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like maybe asked the best friend becausemaybe he thought since maybe the ladies
they can relate to some things,and maybe he just wanted for her.
I would have an issue with Terencehaving a best friend other than the girl
that she's in a relationship. Sothat's the issue for me. Also that's
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your main issue, Like his bestfriend is a female. Yeah, that's
my issue best friends, that's forme. Paula would be concerned about.
Oh, so Josh, are youstanding on the ground like you don't have
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any female friends you can have?Yeah? If you're like, you know,
getting married seriously with a new relationship, why would you still keep best
friend the opposite sex. But theygrew up together, like they're so close
like since childhood. Yeah, youcould regardless, but they even did and
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they like they ended things because they'relike the friendship mattered. Yeah, for
me, that would be questionable.I don't think it's Yeah, it would
be unfair for Yeah, imagine imagineon the wedding day, you know,
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imagine the wedding day, Tina wouldbe sharing a speech because you know,
and then it would be awkward.That's embarrassing. Yeah, she would see
the wife that she's getting married.That's just really Yeah, it's okay.
And what about you, Daisy.Considering the fact that Tina and Terence dated
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before, I don't think Terence goingto Tina about her girl friend's issue,
her girl friend's dental issue, wasthe best thing, because you know,
already Paula has a perception that Tinais an ex so for her, she
wouldn't consider it as friendship. She'sa little bit insecure about the relationship in
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a way. So I think Terenceshould have just tried talking to Tina herself
again, or if she couldn't dothat, maybe bring another person who is
not the best friend, like takeher to the dentist or someone else who
can advise someone who is related toor all health. But I don't think
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it was a good idea for himto bring in Tina that's all health issue,
yeah, but it's best friend yeah. But for Powerler, she doesn't
think it has that considering Tina andSarance dated before, so she'll just think
they're talking bad about me. Butpersonally, that is what I will think.
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And first, why would someone peoplewho decide dating continue being friends based
friends? It's questionable because if you'vedated before and you have a girlfriend,
you can be friends, but notbased on friends. Your girlfriend has to
be your best friend, your companion. So they threw up together. I'm
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not saying they should didn't be friends. All I'm saying is they should be
like at these times, they canbe friends, but not best friends.
So telling your best friend who isyour ex issues about your girlfriend your current
girlfriend isn't the best idea. Iwill be in security if I was the
girlfriend, So I understand her.I understand would maybe she went with that
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to the dentist and she just dismissedthe issue, and maybe he was desperate
and I just thought that his bestfriend would bring up the issue and everything
would be well. But Okay,so Fritz, what about you? Yeah,
I get and the point I wouldsay the same when it comes to
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asking your ex, your childhood friendand your your known as best friend to
address the issues that you have inyour relationship, it would not be the
most advisable thing. And I thinkin all all I think, in all
cases, whatever the issue is,it will be complicated to resort in in
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asking for assistance from from someone who'syou know, from the opposite sex,
whether it's your friend or best bestfriend. Uh, it's not gonna be
a good idea. So I thinkresorting to that kind of help would be
more will bring more problem than whatthan what already is. I agreed,
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Well the excess should take away evenif they knew each other but you know
from childhood, Uh tens should Ithink create boundaries between the relationship between him
and Tina care If the situation wasswapped, it would be complicated as well.
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If if the girl would ask herex and you know, best friend
boy best friend for help for hisboy current boyfriend, that would also be
you know, a background for complicationsas well. Maybe Chance didn't have the
courage to call me, you noticed, You don't know if he noticed.
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Maybe he noticed and went behind behinda pallas back and talked to Tina to
approach her and tell her he wastrying to to avoid hatching her feelings or
something. Okay, like Fritz hassaid, if the role switched, Yeah,
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I don't think like I would behappy if my boyfriend did that to
me, Like okay, if myboyfriend did that to me, And I
don't think like he'd be happy ifI did the same thing to him,
like telling my ex, like tospeak to him about his bad breadth.
So yeah, it would be anissue. But I also don't think like
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it's that bad because maybe there thisgoes together. But from her like storming
out of the restaurant, like wecannot tell that she maybe was thinking that
there was something going on between themand I was doing. I would be
mad if my my my boyfriend consultshis ex for everything, even bad breath,
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I would be embarrassed. Actually,then you should brush you don't,
I know. But that issue,now, if he wanted to raise the
issue, he could. He couldhave come and you know, we sit
down and discuss everything. But infront of her ex. That's not not
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good. And they can also saywe can also say that Tina, like
how can you take spicy foods andyou know you're not gonna brush your teeth,
but it's just yeah, it's juststrong. But you want her to
carry the the to please brush tothe restaurant at oh no, Like,
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okay, she's brushing her teeth twicea week, so you can imagine like
all the spicy food she's eating,like it's piling up, you know,
especially when you take spicy foods,it's going to interfere with your breath,
like, so you just have tobrush. Like if she knows like she
can't do that, maybe she shoulddo take a lot of veggies instead of
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eating a lot of spicy foods.Even if you take veges and you don't
brush, the bread is interesting becauseyou left the food in your teeth.
Even if she flows the tongue.The especially the time is the one that
thinks, okay, and let's behonest, guys, bad breath. It
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is a major tourn off in therelationship. And you know, it's hard
focused on the moment when you're distractedby unpleasant orders. When let's say you're
having a conversation with someone and thethe thing, the smell keeps coming out
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in imagine, imagine him kissing andour breath is thinking, I bet it's
a ton of I won't blame themorning bread because you slept the whole night.
Maybe you're opening your your models willopen when you are sleep, you
know, and the legs, butwhen you wake up immediately you're supposed to
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brush it like that's yeah, okay. Then in education is his polar accusation
of Tea. That's aboutchaging her relationshipwith valid can you No, I don't
think it's valid. Even though shethinks that there's something maybe going on between
the two of them. I don'tthink she's trying to sabotage the relationship by
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bringing up her stinky breath issue.So no, maybe maybe she has an
agenda. You know, she's anex. Don't forget that. But they
said when they were seventeen and nowthey're twenty five. That's like that is
like eight years apart. Oh yeah, like you can if she yeah,
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for me, Yeah, for me, I would validate the emotion in the
perception of Falla. That's her truthat that moment. But of course,
if Tina given benefit of the doubt, but later on, because this is
a complicated case. So for me, her emotions and the perception is valid
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even if it's not the real case. Well, if I were hard,
like after having that conversation with isit nayah, like ID sit myself down
and just think for a moment thatmaybe if he's talking to his best friend
about my breath, thinking, maybethere's something that I should do to change
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the situation so that I do notembarrass myself and also do not embarrass like
him because he's my maybe boyfriend orsomething. So she should instead of taking
it negatively, she should also tryto take it in positively and try like
to change her situation. Yeah,it's not, is it though? But
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you know your best friend, youwent out, you having a good time,
and then he or she brings upthe topic you know what, the
bird stings. It's embarrassing, Ithink a last you know, she's you
know, she's supposed to be secureabout that moment because yeah's talking about her.
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No. And the thing is theycould talk about things, uh you
know like that. What else couldthey be talking about in private? Exactly?
The first you getting into intimate conversationsnext time would be another Another topic
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about another issue today is another,Uh, It's pol accusation of China valid
absolutely, you know, in thatissue or any any issue for that matter.
I believe in the ten second rulethat if you if there is something
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that someone cannot change within ten secondsif you address it, then just don't
address it at that time, justhave it in private or whatever. And
I believe also in resolving the issueand thinking and discussing through any issues,
especially kind of issue with the relationship. And you know, if you're going
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to ask for help, ask forprofessionals, ask for you know, wisdom
from elderly people like your parents orthose who are you know, really concerned
and really are rooting for your relationship, and not those who you know might
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spark issues from so get you whatabout you? They do what you.
I think that Paula's emotions are validbecause in that moment, Paula was feeling
confused in that her boyfriend is talkingto her ex about her breath issues.
Just as fritz It said, Ithink the boyfriend should have gone to someone
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else, like, if not aprofessional, maybe talk to Paula's parents,
someone who is way more closer toher girlfriend than the friend who is Tina.
So I just think that her feelingsare valid at that point, but
she should didn't have thought that therewas. Tina was trying to support her
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relationship. She should have taken theadvice in a good way. But also
we should forget that the person whois telling her is the best friend to
her boyfriend, so's it makes senseif she gets angry and Daisy. I
think also Tina is not to blamebecause she would have never addressed the issue
if Terence never like asked her to. So instead of taking it out on
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Tina, she should go to herboyfriend because the boyfriend is the one who's
telling. But I don't even likethe secret if I think Tina should have
considered the situation in see that sheshouldn't interfere with that relationship. She should
just have told Terence to deal withit on his own, because if she
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gets involved, then the issue isscanlates to become something else, especially considering
the fact that she's best friends withTerence. So I don't think she should
have involved. I just think she'splaying blame games now, trying to focus
the issue on another thing. Nowlike she does no aunt like to talk
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about her brud stinking and all.She just wants like to tell her she's
telling her like you're trying to takehim maybe away from me. There are
no sabotaging my relationship, like howis she even doing it? But okay,
okay, they have a question foryou. I said, if someone
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that's as your boyfriend and he foundout like your bread strings, so are
you saying it's supposed like to talksomeone close to it and that's someone that
is close to it. For example, here it's your parents. So would
you suggest that your parents calls youand tell you tells you like your boyfriend
was here and he said your breadstinks. Clear, I will be I
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would prefer being told that by mymother, because my mother, or like
someone like my sister, because thatis someone who has is responsible for you.
They've taken care of you since youwere young. It's the responsibility to
correct you and show you that it'sdirection. So I think talking to someone
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who is way closer to her,like her parents, is the better option.
Yeah. Now, because of therole, they won't judge you.
They only want the best for you, so you won't have that in security
of they want to take my boyfriendfrom me, which Paula experience twenty night
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told her that because you know,if your mother tells you, you will
see it's out of the best ofinter Yeah, I'd rather them take me
to do a specialist because they willsolve the issue. No, you know,
well, when you tell a family, your mother may tell your sister,
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your cousin metell in no way,if it's for you, it's safe
for your mother to know. Forme, it's safe when they consult her
then a dentist or that matter,because they's professional. Yeah, it's still
not guarantee that she'll listened to thed or she'll listened to the mind.
So what can work that way?Yeah, So the next question is how
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much influence should friends have in theirfriends romantic relationship? And yeah, go
to you first. So I thinkthe friends should have a very little influence
in your relationship. But yeah,like I wouldn't like want my partner like
to disclose all our issues like totheir friends. So but there are some
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things like maybe if they're happening inmy relationship and I don't know who to
consult about, ask for some ofmy friends because maybe they might have faced
the same issues and they may giveme good advices or yeah, it's not
that I'm going to take their advice, but I just like to listen to
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how they would have solved the issueif they were in my shoes. Okay,
have you noticed ladies have this,They have this thing they when something
goes up there and in their relationshipwith their boyfriend, they went straight to
their best friends and you not justthat. Yeah, ladies, that's what
I'm saying. I would ask themfor their opinion. But if the opinion
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was leaving, you're supposed to dumphim. Yeah, I said, I
wouldn't listen to them. I justwant to hear what they're saying, how
they would have approached the issue.But I'm going to think for myself and
later on, I'm just going tosolve the issue with my partner because the
relationship just consists of like the twoof us, So the third party maybe
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we just want a little bit ofthe opinion, but I don't think like
it should have an influence in ourrelationship. They say your best friend is
your enemy when in your relationship becausein your partner does something wrong and you
straight to be your best friend,they'd be like, you know what,
you have to leave her, youhave to dump him. Just call things
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off like he's not even like tryingto talk. You have a talk with
you and know what, consider whathappens, Especially if they don't like your
partner, you're going to tell youto leave him. This is the time
to do that a lot. ButI do have good friends, So to
listen to who you want to listento? Yeah, go ahead, Josh,
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Yeah. For me, how muchinfluence those friends should have in a
relationship. If you are in arelationship to please your friends, I think
they should have one hundred percent orprimary influence, because that's the reason.
But if you're in a relationship becauseyou want to please your partner and in
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the maturity of your spirituality, youwere led to that relationship, I don't
think friends should have the primary influencein your relationship. That's my take,
Great, how about you? Forme, it depends with the situation.
What situation am I going through withmy friends? What information am I taking
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to them? So if it's somethingsensitive that I really need help with that
I can't talk to my partsoner about, then maybe I should go to my
most trusted friend, who I thinkis intelligent and who can see the issue
from both angles of mine and mypartner and come up with that good advice.
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But if it's something minor, thenI think they shouldn't be involved because
every time you involve your friends inyour relationship, then they'll feel entitled.
Every time they'll be like, whatis happening? Tell me? Tell me
that. So I don't think youshould involve them with everything. Just unless
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it's something really crucial and you needhelp with it, then you can involve
them. But it's got to themost intelligent ones. Yeah. Have you
been in that situation where you haveto give advice to your friend to get
in their relationship or his relationship?Yeah, I have been a couple of
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times I've told my friends advice.But you know, at the end of
the day, especially for girls,they will always go with their GUIDs because
you will tell them one thing,even if you think it's the right thing
to do, but then they'll juststill do what they think it's right.
So that's why I'm saying they shouldbe involved, but not too much involved,
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because at the end of the day, they'll still do what they want
to do. I was in thatsituation once I give advice, so I
was labored the bad guy from thatday. I said to myself never again.
I'll just keep it, yeah,talking saying, oh she was thinking
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to sent me by things about youthat they should leave you. Yeah,
that's why must wise to get involvedin issues which are not that yet.
Yep, yeah, I agree.Or about your frid what do you think
you with us? For me,it depends. It depends on the friends
that you have. If if youdo have good friends like uh Shania and
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I, for one, I considermyself that I do have good friends because
my friends would not only promote youknow, purity in a relationship, but
they also do exercise it. Theyyou know, want to preserve both of
their personal testimony and their partner's testimony. So I would really want to have
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a huge amount of influence from them. And also the the approach that I
would do if in case that weor my partner and I has an issue,
for example, instead of saying itlike you know, my partner's bread
stings or something like that, Iwould approach it as something like a like
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a prayer concern. So for example, maybe we can you can pray about
us, or that we're going throughan issue here that maybe you can help
us pray for it, or somethinglike that. Uh, it's it's a
bit. I think it would bemore helpful for us the relationship that we
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have if it will not come outas something a wrap or complain, but
that there's something that needs say,you're be accountable for it as well.
So that that's what I currently currentlyhave. So if if there's an issue
or something that we're planning to door anything that is indeed internal, I
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don't need to speaking the friends.They just know that they can pray for
it, and they would they wouldpray for it as well. That's great.
Anyone else wo have something to addon that. The next one,
I'm coming to you Daisy first,because I think you have an interestingly of
her handling things. Can individuals maintaina close friendship after ending a romantic relationship
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Honestly, I don't think for mepersonally, I will be trying to be
friends with my ex, but Iwill be trying to my partner to be
friends with with the X because Ithink there's always that I resolved feelings.
Maybe you'll see him and you'll misshim, or you'll just remember the good
times inside. So for me personally, I will have died to happen.
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Yeah, Okay, great, howabout you? You you and your age,
you still talk. I don't catchthem completely off, but I'm not
available like that. We'll talk everyday. It's just that we are cordial
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with each other. He made ifhe has a problem that he thinks I
can help, will Yeah, thenhe's okay to come and approach me because
I don't believe also in banning bridges, so he can just like, we
don't have to keep in touch everytime and be like, how are you
doing? How is your life goingon? No, that shouldn't be necessariety,
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just once in a while if hehas something important to tell you,
yeah, uh huh, that's amazing, especially if you don't have kids involved.
Okay, gotcha. Yeah, Okay, you're like, maybe you're gonna
judge me for this, but Ithink maybe, yeah, people can maintain
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their friendship even after ending things ifmaybe they are not in a serious relationship.
Okay, maybe let's say they werejust courting. Sometimes maybe you may
be friends with someone for a longperiod of time and you guys are just
like, since you're friends and Iknow you know each other, do you
want to try things out? Maybeyou start dating? Okay, you don't
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get into a relationship first, youjust start dating and maybe you see this
was wrong and both of you agreedthat you should just maintain your friendship and
not get into a relationship with eachother. So I think, yeah,
if you guys are not in aserious relationship, maybe you can maintain your
friendship. But if you guys werein a deep relationship and things ended badly,
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yeah, I don't think like youguys can recover friendship from that cane
after maybe a relationship, yeah,yeah, a very serious one. Yeah,
things would be weird, wouldn't Hewouldn't be friends like we used to
be. Ye. So if theycall you just going to ignats right,
No, I'll just see what theywant. But I don't think like our
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friendship would be the way it chooseto be before we started dating or something,
especially if things ended badly. Sojust by just let's go separate traits.
Okay, Josh, what do youhave to say? Yeah? Again,
for me, I think Shana hasa point there. But even if
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it wasn't that serious, for me, I would put all my energy trying
to communicate what I think to mypartner and if he doesn't listen, maybe
it's a sign for maybe it's notthe right person for him. Also the
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same with Joe ash If if thelittle things in your relationship that are not
being addressed and your significant other it'snot willing to address it in any way
nor willing to listen bradly sit downin small issues as little as they are.
Yeah, maybe you are in arelationship that is not yet for you
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or I don't know if there couldalso be a season or timing that you
can have, but if the habitualor from your partner, then definitely you
could be. You could be ina brushless relationship. Okay, Leslie,
guys, time is running out aplatform brushing your teeth? What other ways
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someone can maintain good pro hygiene.You can address this to your friends listiness
and no one can answer. Yeah, like the harpal sticks, I don't
know, the African harbal sticks.I don't know if they have them in
the US or in the Philippines.Buttend to use them as toothbrushes and they
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really do a pretty job. Likecleaning your teeth and also eating a lot
of fruits, especially fruits like apples. Have you guys ever like eating apples
and then after like your teeth arevery clean. So I that's why I
say plenty of fruits also help alot with your tea. There. Now
you can use mouth bush too,okay, get you Shaner, Daisy Josh
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fruits. Yeah, I think allthe things that Shania's saying, the vialid,
yeah, mouth flow, seeing,eating healthy fruits and drinking lots of
water. It will help with foodhygiene. Yeah, okay. You can
also practice breathing in and is old. That's breathing. I know, how
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does it? Hell? We dobreathe? How does it help? Can
you explain that I don't how doesit breathing? I'm breeding in? H?
Then what you're doing to next?Are you saying not really holding your
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breath, but but timing it?You time it if you see your partner,
If you see your partner breathing in, don't talk. Wow, advice.
I'll try that sometimes. I waswondering because we're still exiting the pandemic.
Maybe you could suggest some fashionable whereit's when you're wearing it and you're
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the only one who has in theOh, yeah, I think wear this
one. I wear this one.So we'll be having a couple's masks going
on. If you do that you'regonna lose all your teeth, So yeah,
listen to the professionals and listen toyours your partner. If the partner
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is so valuable to you, bewilling and put in the effort. That's
good advice from expert Josh Dental forour listeners. You can try dental checkouts.
You brush your teeth, your flows, your balanced diet. It is
important to make your oral health apriority in your routine. We hope this
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discussion has shed light on the importanceof mouth hygiene in relationships. Remember,
a healthy mouth contribute to to justnot just a beautiful smile, but also
a happy and fulfilling connection with yourpartner. And now it's the time to
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say goodbye and thanks again for beingpart of Frail Talk with Cardie and Shania.
Are you next time. Bye,
Hello everyone, and welcome to anotherepisode of Field Talk with Caddy and Chenier.
I'm your host, Cathy and I'mexcited to have you join us today
for an exciting episode titled Brushless Laband this episode is brought to you by
Civil and Productions. With me todayhave my co host Shania. How are
you, Shania? I'm fine?Thank you? Hi everyone, I hope
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everyone is good. And I havemy panelist. How's everyone doing? Be
good? Good? Okay, they'rebeginning me to explore the death of the
today sorry, today's topic and sharethe unique perspectives well mouth hygie. It's
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important in the relationship like all kindsof relationships, be it our romantic relationship,
family, friends, everything, andit's a topic that is open,
like overlooked. But having a badbread and a poor oral hygiene or health
can really affect our personal connections.So I'm going to start with you,
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shaniah ah. This is the question. How would you tell someone their bread
stinks without hurting their feelings? Ifit's a friend, and maybe if you're
outside, I just ask them doyou want some meat? I have this
fancy chink and do you want somejust not to hurt their feelings though,
just that yeah, or if we'reclosed, I'll just tell them like,
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man, you brush at it today. That's if we're that clothes and there's
someone who is not going like tobe upset or anything, so I'll just
come clean and ask them, like, if they brush their teeth, maybe
we can go get some mint orsomething to make their breath smell at least
nice. Yeah, so that theywouldn't Yeah, what about you, Josh,
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how would you tell it? Ifit's an acquaintance not that close yet,
I would just encourage them to,you know, maybe try some mint
thing like that. Same with theother one. But if it's a close
friend, I would ask about mybreath first, how do you how do
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you mild mind? And then whenthe person says you're good, you're good,
and you check yours? If it'ssomething like that, so I would
approach it in a joking way.Yeah, depends how their relationship is.
Okay, that's great, and you, Daisy, how would you approach that?
Okay, Fritz, how would youapproach that? Since I don't bring
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mint with me all the time,I might resort to the second option that
Joe was suggested. But if itis an acquaintance or someone that I am
not close with, maybe I'll pass, like let it, let it go
for for that, for that,for the time, over that moment.
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Okay, So if the person isnot really close to you, it's just
going to pass and just assume that'snever happened, right, yes, or
maybe that that's the only time thatI was able to smell that that time.
So okay, that's amazing if youdo that. But not that easy
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though, because let's say you're sittingwith that person for like I if good
I was, and they keep talkinglike we don't shut up, like we
just talk talk talk talk, butyou yeah, I don't want to tell
them the bridge things like how wouldyou how will you avoid that talk when
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you just turn around and assume likepretend you're not sharing what they're saying.
What would you do? Yeah?Like, I just make up something that
would enable me to live because ifthey be like a sense if I mentioned
it's like they're going like to beupset, or if I'm not close with
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that person, I just look forother ways to live, like so that
we couldn't have that conversation. SoI just say like oh yeah, yeah,
oh I have to rush somewhere,then I just leave. Yeah,
okay, I have a question foryou all about when you're in a when
you board a bus, you're sittingin that person and the only available chair
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is next to the person whose stings. You know, you know, you're
not going to make an excuse,you're living just going to listen to them.
Oh they're they're like strangers or something. Like if I'm sitting next to
a stranger in a bus and theirbread stinks and they keep on like insisting
on talking to me, I'm justgoing to ignore, especially if they're bread
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stings, just going to look theother way, no offense. But if
they tap you, why aren't youlistening to me? Like ignoring someone's not
that easy though, that would bedifficult. I don't know what I do
in that situation, but okay,I just answer the question like very first.
Then I just keep quiet, youknow, like if you don't engage
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in that conversation, maybe they're goingto mind their own business. So you're
just going to look for a way, like like not to communic, like
not to make them want to talkto you, like maybe if I know
something I don't know, But yeah, that's what I would do. Maybe
it's a sign for you to controlyour breathing as well. Just kidding,
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how will you do that? Likereading? If he's talking? So are
you going to be like that?For Fiver? That that's crazy your parents,
I've been in such a situation before. How did you think? Sorry?
I was just thinking that nobody wantsto have a bad breath. So
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if you just gesture, you know, just closing your or covering your nose
and then smile at them, itwould be conscious and they would get it.
At least that's embarrassing. Yeah,someone, No, imagine someone sitting
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next to you then they start coveringthe mouth. How would you feel it's
going to have your feelings even thoughthey didn't tell you your breadsting? I
think. But it's okay if you'refriends with a person or do some you
know in the Philippines the bus,there's always a vendor that goes up.
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So I'll ask for a minute,you sell some minut the person it's you
tell me, yeah, okay,daisy, How would you tell someone their
best things without touching their feelings?So I'll just try to play around and
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be like by the way, Bythe way, when was the last time
that you you cleaned your thieves orbut it's not enough. But but playfully,
I will bet trant to make itlook like it's something serious that could
hurt them. You already, No, that's just a question that I've asked.
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But I'll probably just ask if theyhave a tooth decayed something, or
if they've gone to the dentist.Yeah, I will be truant to be
direct with it, so that justso it's not to seem they a bit
forward. Yeah, so I justtake up another I would say, that's
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then if they have a problem withtheir treeve but their mounts. So yeah,
that's what I'll probably do. Butbefore you can you confront someone about
the bridge is thinking, you haveto confirm yours first. Maybe you can
be the problem, you know.Yeah, But for me to to tell
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that person in a good way,I think I will want them to smell
my breath first and be like,what do you think about my breath?
And then if they ask, thenI'll return the question to them. So
I tell them their brain has anissue. Yeah, I don't know about
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some people, because normally if mybread stinks, are no for sure,
like you can just feel it.So I don't know if some people have
like a bad sense of smell.Well, like I don't know, but
normally if my something is off,maybe in my mouth is smelling, like
I just know, like from peoplecan just tell. Can you tell if
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your mouth is smelling or something?Yeah, especially in the morning. Yeah,
so they should be able to tell, especially if you're having a like
you're communicating with someone. Okay,So I have then asked the second question,
and this everyone has to answer this. Uh. Yeah, you first,
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when was the last time you visiteda dentist? Was it and a
half years ago? But I dobrush my teeth on a daily basis and
I always floss, so my bead, my breath does not stink at all.
Good Josh, When was the lasttime you visited the dentist? I
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think around six months ago, Yeah, as far as I remember. Because
annually we are we are provided witha free check of so you know,
if it's time to go, likeeveryone in a country a workplace. In
a workplace, we have an annualthing a new daisy, probably like a
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year. Yeah, that was thelast time the whole of this. We
haven't been in this yet. Yeah, have friz uh, I think it
was around June or July this yeah, yeah, around the time this year.
Yeah yeah, uh well, Ithink the mouth is a breeding round
of bacterias because no other kinds offoods. People eat junk foods, yeah,
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did foods? Everything like, andwhen you forget to brush, maybe
it's like five five different types offoods and you didn't brush, you didn't
flows. The the mode is goingto stink for sure, and the oral
hygiene is neglected. It can leadto bad bread, gam diseases and even
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more self issues. And some somesome have like the they have their games
bleed and bloods meant, so someof them might be ignoring they are idental
health and some of them have healthissues, but only enough. You have
to like make sure it doesn't youhave to try to make it not stink.
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Okay, yeah, yeah, okay, So guys, I'm going to
read for you a story. So, Tina and Terrence have been best friends
since childhood, attending the same schooland sharing countless experiences. When they turn
seventeen, they decided to try dating. However, realizing that their romantic relationship
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wasn't working, they mutually agreed toend things, prioritizing their deep friendship over
a field romance. Now at strangefive years old, their bond remains unshaken,
with people often mistakening them for loversdue to their genuine love they exhibit
for each other. Terence is currentlyin a relationship with a girl named Paula,
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who is undeniably beautiful but struggles withbreath. This has been a persistent
issue for Terreence, as Paula admitsto only brushing her teeth twice a week,
finding the practice uncomfortable. Despite Terencebringing up the issue multiple times,
Paula's efforts to improve her or religionand short lived, and terrans and Terence's
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fears addressing the matter further may harmtheir relationship. Frustrated, he turns to
Tina for help, seeking her assistancein approaching Polar about the issue. Tina
invites Polar to lunch, allowing herto order whatever she desires. Polar chooses
chicken doings with plenty of source onthe side. After finishing their meal,
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Tina tactfully brings up the topic oforal hygiene, mentioning the importance the impact
of spicy foods of on bread onbreath order and Polar's in frequent brushing habits.
Instead of taking the advice positively,Polar becomes emotional, accusing Tina of
trying to subortage her relationship with Terrans. Polar alleges that Tina is jealous and
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insists that she no longer communicates withTerrans. She blames her for poisoning his
mind with negative thoughts about her.As Polar storms out of the restaurant,
tensions rises, leaving Tina concerned aboutthe delicate balance between friendship and relationships.
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So, guys, I have aquestion. Show Terans have involved Tina in
addressing Polar's bad breath issue. Whatdo you think, Cappy? Well,
I think the okay r Egene isa sensitive to a big quhen it comes
to relationship. But if he doesn'tconcern, I think you should leave it.
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But because they are close friends,they have this bond they have created.
I think it was good because shehe felt that they're supposed to talk
about that topic. So I don'tthink there's an issue if they they talk
about it because they are close oftheir close relationship. Yeah, I also
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don't think it's an issue. Josh, what about you? I was wondering
if Tina and Paula were friends alsoor Yeah, because if they're friends,
I think it would be okay andwould be on Pola and how she reacted.
But if Tina and Paula didn't havelike a connection, Terens could have
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gone straight to Poular and brought outthe issue straight to her face. I
like Terence addressed the issue, butas she promised she'd change, and then
after some time she just go backto doing what she did, brushing after
two times a week. So doyou think like it's wrong? He still,
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like maybe asked the best friend becausemaybe he thought since maybe the ladies
they can relate to some things,and maybe he just wanted for her.
I would have an issue with Terencehaving a best friend other than the girl
that she's in a relationship. Sothat's the issue for me. Also that's
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your main issue, Like his bestfriend is a female. Yeah, that's
my issue best friends, that's forme. Paula would be concerned about.
Oh, so Josh, are youstanding on the ground like you don't have
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any female friends you can have?Yeah? If you're like, you know,
getting married seriously with a new relationship, why would you still keep best
friend the opposite sex. But theygrew up together, like they're so close
like since childhood. Yeah, youcould regardless, but they even did and
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they like they ended things because they'relike the friendship mattered. Yeah, for
me, that would be questionable.I don't think it's Yeah, it would
be unfair for Yeah, imagine imagineon the wedding day, you know,
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imagine the wedding day, Tina wouldbe sharing a speech because you know,
and then it would be awkward.That's embarrassing. Yeah, she would see
the wife that she's getting married.That's just really Yeah, it's okay.
And what about you, Daisy.Considering the fact that Tina and Terence dated
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before, I don't think Terence goingto Tina about her girl friend's issue,
her girl friend's dental issue, wasthe best thing, because you know,
already Paula has a perception that Tinais an ex so for her, she
wouldn't consider it as friendship. She'sa little bit insecure about the relationship in
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a way. So I think Terenceshould have just tried talking to Tina herself
again, or if she couldn't dothat, maybe bring another person who is
not the best friend, like takeher to the dentist or someone else who
can advise someone who is related toor all health. But I don't think
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it was a good idea for himto bring in Tina that's all health issue,
yeah, but it's best friend yeah. But for Powerler, she doesn't
think it has that considering Tina andSarance dated before, so she'll just think
they're talking bad about me. Butpersonally, that is what I will think.
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And first, why would someone peoplewho decide dating continue being friends based
friends? It's questionable because if you'vedated before and you have a girlfriend,
you can be friends, but notbased on friends. Your girlfriend has to
be your best friend, your companion. So they threw up together. I'm
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not saying they should didn't be friends. All I'm saying is they should be
like at these times, they canbe friends, but not best friends.
So telling your best friend who isyour ex issues about your girlfriend your current
girlfriend isn't the best idea. Iwill be in security if I was the
girlfriend, So I understand her.I understand would maybe she went with that
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to the dentist and she just dismissedthe issue, and maybe he was desperate
and I just thought that his bestfriend would bring up the issue and everything
would be well. But Okay,so Fritz, what about you? Yeah,
I get and the point I wouldsay the same when it comes to
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asking your ex, your childhood friendand your your known as best friend to
address the issues that you have inyour relationship, it would not be the
most advisable thing. And I thinkin all all I think, in all
cases, whatever the issue is,it will be complicated to resort in in
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asking for assistance from from someone who'syou know, from the opposite sex,
whether it's your friend or best bestfriend. Uh, it's not gonna be
a good idea. So I thinkresorting to that kind of help would be
more will bring more problem than whatthan what already is. I agreed,
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Well the excess should take away evenif they knew each other but you know
from childhood, Uh tens should Ithink create boundaries between the relationship between him
and Tina care If the situation wasswapped, it would be complicated as well.
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If if the girl would ask herex and you know, best friend
boy best friend for help for hisboy current boyfriend, that would also be
you know, a background for complicationsas well. Maybe Chance didn't have the
courage to call me, you noticed, You don't know if he noticed.
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Maybe he noticed and went behind behinda pallas back and talked to Tina to
approach her and tell her he wastrying to to avoid hatching her feelings or
something. Okay, like Fritz hassaid, if the role switched, Yeah,
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I don't think like I would behappy if my boyfriend did that to
me, Like okay, if myboyfriend did that to me, And I
don't think like he'd be happy ifI did the same thing to him,
like telling my ex, like tospeak to him about his bad breadth.
So yeah, it would be anissue. But I also don't think like
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it's that bad because maybe there thisgoes together. But from her like storming
out of the restaurant, like wecannot tell that she maybe was thinking that
there was something going on between themand I was doing. I would be
mad if my my my boyfriend consultshis ex for everything, even bad breath,
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I would be embarrassed. Actually,then you should brush you don't,
I know. But that issue,now, if he wanted to raise the
issue, he could. He couldhave come and you know, we sit
down and discuss everything. But infront of her ex. That's not not
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good. And they can also saywe can also say that Tina, like
how can you take spicy foods andyou know you're not gonna brush your teeth,
but it's just yeah, it's juststrong. But you want her to
carry the the to please brush tothe restaurant at oh no, Like,
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okay, she's brushing her teeth twicea week, so you can imagine like
all the spicy food she's eating,like it's piling up, you know,
especially when you take spicy foods,it's going to interfere with your breath,
like, so you just have tobrush. Like if she knows like she
can't do that, maybe she shoulddo take a lot of veggies instead of
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eating a lot of spicy foods.Even if you take veges and you don't
brush, the bread is interesting becauseyou left the food in your teeth.
Even if she flows the tongue.The especially the time is the one that
thinks, okay, and let's behonest, guys, bad breath. It
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is a major tourn off in therelationship. And you know, it's hard
focused on the moment when you're distractedby unpleasant orders. When let's say you're
having a conversation with someone and thethe thing, the smell keeps coming out
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in imagine, imagine him kissing andour breath is thinking, I bet it's
a ton of I won't blame themorning bread because you slept the whole night.
Maybe you're opening your your models willopen when you are sleep, you
know, and the legs, butwhen you wake up immediately you're supposed to
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brush it like that's yeah, okay. Then in education is his polar accusation
of Tea. That's aboutchaging her relationshipwith valid can you No, I don't
think it's valid. Even though shethinks that there's something maybe going on between
the two of them. I don'tthink she's trying to sabotage the relationship by
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bringing up her stinky breath issue.So no, maybe maybe she has an
agenda. You know, she's anex. Don't forget that. But they
said when they were seventeen and nowthey're twenty five. That's like that is
like eight years apart. Oh yeah, like you can if she yeah,
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for me, Yeah, for me, I would validate the emotion in the
perception of Falla. That's her truthat that moment. But of course,
if Tina given benefit of the doubt, but later on, because this is
a complicated case. So for me, her emotions and the perception is valid
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even if it's not the real case. Well, if I were hard,
like after having that conversation with isit nayah, like ID sit myself down
and just think for a moment thatmaybe if he's talking to his best friend
about my breath, thinking, maybethere's something that I should do to change
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the situation so that I do notembarrass myself and also do not embarrass like
him because he's my maybe boyfriend orsomething. So she should instead of taking
it negatively, she should also tryto take it in positively and try like
to change her situation. Yeah,it's not, is it though? But
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you know your best friend, youwent out, you having a good time,
and then he or she brings upthe topic you know what, the
bird stings. It's embarrassing, Ithink a last you know, she's you
know, she's supposed to be secureabout that moment because yeah's talking about her.
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No. And the thing is theycould talk about things, uh you
know like that. What else couldthey be talking about in private? Exactly?
The first you getting into intimate conversationsnext time would be another Another topic
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about another issue today is another,Uh, It's pol accusation of China valid
absolutely, you know, in thatissue or any any issue for that matter.
I believe in the ten second rulethat if you if there is something
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that someone cannot change within ten secondsif you address it, then just don't
address it at that time, justhave it in private or whatever. And
I believe also in resolving the issueand thinking and discussing through any issues,
especially kind of issue with the relationship. And you know, if you're going
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to ask for help, ask forprofessionals, ask for you know, wisdom
from elderly people like your parents orthose who are you know, really concerned
and really are rooting for your relationship, and not those who you know might
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spark issues from so get you whatabout you? They do what you.
I think that Paula's emotions are validbecause in that moment, Paula was feeling
confused in that her boyfriend is talkingto her ex about her breath issues.
Just as fritz It said, Ithink the boyfriend should have gone to someone
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else, like, if not aprofessional, maybe talk to Paula's parents,
someone who is way more closer toher girlfriend than the friend who is Tina.
So I just think that her feelingsare valid at that point, but
she should didn't have thought that therewas. Tina was trying to support her
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relationship. She should have taken theadvice in a good way. But also
we should forget that the person whois telling her is the best friend to
her boyfriend, so's it makes senseif she gets angry and Daisy. I
think also Tina is not to blamebecause she would have never addressed the issue
if Terence never like asked her to. So instead of taking it out on
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Tina, she should go to herboyfriend because the boyfriend is the one who's
telling. But I don't even likethe secret if I think Tina should have
considered the situation in see that sheshouldn't interfere with that relationship. She should
just have told Terence to deal withit on his own, because if she
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gets involved, then the issue isscanlates to become something else, especially considering
the fact that she's best friends withTerence. So I don't think she should
have involved. I just think she'splaying blame games now, trying to focus
the issue on another thing. Nowlike she does no aunt like to talk
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about her brud stinking and all.She just wants like to tell her she's
telling her like you're trying to takehim maybe away from me. There are
no sabotaging my relationship, like howis she even doing it? But okay,
okay, they have a question foryou. I said, if someone
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that's as your boyfriend and he foundout like your bread strings, so are
you saying it's supposed like to talksomeone close to it and that's someone that
is close to it. For example, here it's your parents. So would
you suggest that your parents calls youand tell you tells you like your boyfriend
was here and he said your breadstinks. Clear, I will be I
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would prefer being told that by mymother, because my mother, or like
someone like my sister, because thatis someone who has is responsible for you.
They've taken care of you since youwere young. It's the responsibility to
correct you and show you that it'sdirection. So I think talking to someone
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who is way closer to her,like her parents, is the better option.
Yeah. Now, because of therole, they won't judge you.
They only want the best for you, so you won't have that in security
of they want to take my boyfriendfrom me, which Paula experience twenty night
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told her that because you know,if your mother tells you, you will
see it's out of the best ofinter Yeah, I'd rather them take me
to do a specialist because they willsolve the issue. No, you know,
well, when you tell a family, your mother may tell your sister,
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your cousin metell in no way,if it's for you, it's safe
for your mother to know. Forme, it's safe when they consult her
then a dentist or that matter,because they's professional. Yeah, it's still
not guarantee that she'll listened to thed or she'll listened to the mind.
So what can work that way?Yeah, So the next question is how
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much influence should friends have in theirfriends romantic relationship? And yeah, go
to you first. So I thinkthe friends should have a very little influence
in your relationship. But yeah,like I wouldn't like want my partner like
to disclose all our issues like totheir friends. So but there are some
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things like maybe if they're happening inmy relationship and I don't know who to
consult about, ask for some ofmy friends because maybe they might have faced
the same issues and they may giveme good advices or yeah, it's not
that I'm going to take their advice, but I just like to listen to
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how they would have solved the issueif they were in my shoes. Okay,
have you noticed ladies have this,They have this thing they when something
goes up there and in their relationshipwith their boyfriend, they went straight to
their best friends and you not justthat. Yeah, ladies, that's what
I'm saying. I would ask themfor their opinion. But if the opinion
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was leaving, you're supposed to dumphim. Yeah, I said, I
wouldn't listen to them. I justwant to hear what they're saying, how
they would have approached the issue.But I'm going to think for myself and
later on, I'm just going tosolve the issue with my partner because the
relationship just consists of like the twoof us, So the third party maybe
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we just want a little bit ofthe opinion, but I don't think like
it should have an influence in ourrelationship. They say your best friend is
your enemy when in your relationship becausein your partner does something wrong and you
straight to be your best friend,they'd be like, you know what,
you have to leave her, youhave to dump him. Just call things
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off like he's not even like tryingto talk. You have a talk with
you and know what, consider whathappens, Especially if they don't like your
partner, you're going to tell youto leave him. This is the time
to do that a lot. ButI do have good friends, So to
listen to who you want to listento? Yeah, go ahead, Josh,
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Yeah. For me, how muchinfluence those friends should have in a
relationship. If you are in arelationship to please your friends, I think
they should have one hundred percent orprimary influence, because that's the reason.
But if you're in a relationship becauseyou want to please your partner and in
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the maturity of your spirituality, youwere led to that relationship, I don't
think friends should have the primary influencein your relationship. That's my take,
Great, how about you? Forme, it depends with the situation.
What situation am I going through withmy friends? What information am I taking
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to them? So if it's somethingsensitive that I really need help with that
I can't talk to my partsoner about, then maybe I should go to my
most trusted friend, who I thinkis intelligent and who can see the issue
from both angles of mine and mypartner and come up with that good advice.
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But if it's something minor, thenI think they shouldn't be involved because
every time you involve your friends inyour relationship, then they'll feel entitled.
Every time they'll be like, whatis happening? Tell me? Tell me
that. So I don't think youshould involve them with everything. Just unless
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it's something really crucial and you needhelp with it, then you can involve
them. But it's got to themost intelligent ones. Yeah. Have you
been in that situation where you haveto give advice to your friend to get
in their relationship or his relationship?Yeah, I have been a couple of
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times I've told my friends advice.But you know, at the end of
the day, especially for girls,they will always go with their GUIDs because
you will tell them one thing,even if you think it's the right thing
to do, but then they'll juststill do what they think it's right.
So that's why I'm saying they shouldbe involved, but not too much involved,
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because at the end of the day, they'll still do what they want
to do. I was in thatsituation once I give advice, so I
was labored the bad guy from thatday. I said to myself never again.
I'll just keep it, yeah,talking saying, oh she was thinking
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to sent me by things about youthat they should leave you. Yeah,
that's why must wise to get involvedin issues which are not that yet.
Yep, yeah, I agree.Or about your frid what do you think
you with us? For me,it depends. It depends on the friends
that you have. If if youdo have good friends like uh Shania and
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I, for one, I considermyself that I do have good friends because
my friends would not only promote youknow, purity in a relationship, but
they also do exercise it. Theyyou know, want to preserve both of
their personal testimony and their partner's testimony. So I would really want to have
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a huge amount of influence from them. And also the the approach that I
would do if in case that weor my partner and I has an issue,
for example, instead of saying itlike you know, my partner's bread
stings or something like that, Iwould approach it as something like a like
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a prayer concern. So for example, maybe we can you can pray about
us, or that we're going throughan issue here that maybe you can help
us pray for it, or somethinglike that. Uh, it's it's a
bit. I think it would bemore helpful for us the relationship that we
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have if it will not come outas something a wrap or complain, but
that there's something that needs say,you're be accountable for it as well.
So that that's what I currently currentlyhave. So if if there's an issue
or something that we're planning to door anything that is indeed internal, I
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don't need to speaking the friends.They just know that they can pray for
it, and they would they wouldpray for it as well. That's great.
Anyone else wo have something to addon that. The next one,
I'm coming to you Daisy first,because I think you have an interestingly of
her handling things. Can individuals maintaina close friendship after ending a romantic relationship
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Honestly, I don't think for mepersonally, I will be trying to be
friends with my ex, but Iwill be trying to my partner to be
friends with with the X because Ithink there's always that I resolved feelings.
Maybe you'll see him and you'll misshim, or you'll just remember the good
times inside. So for me personally, I will have died to happen.
(40:52):
Yeah, Okay, great, howabout you? You you and your age,
you still talk. I don't catchthem completely off, but I'm not
available like that. We'll talk everyday. It's just that we are cordial
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with each other. He made ifhe has a problem that he thinks I
can help, will Yeah, thenhe's okay to come and approach me because
I don't believe also in banning bridges, so he can just like, we
don't have to keep in touch everytime and be like, how are you
doing? How is your life goingon? No, that shouldn't be necessariety,
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just once in a while if hehas something important to tell you,
yeah, uh huh, that's amazing, especially if you don't have kids involved.
Okay, gotcha. Yeah, Okay, you're like, maybe you're gonna
judge me for this, but Ithink maybe, yeah, people can maintain
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their friendship even after ending things ifmaybe they are not in a serious relationship.
Okay, maybe let's say they werejust courting. Sometimes maybe you may
be friends with someone for a longperiod of time and you guys are just
like, since you're friends and Iknow you know each other, do you
want to try things out? Maybeyou start dating? Okay, you don't
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get into a relationship first, youjust start dating and maybe you see this
was wrong and both of you agreedthat you should just maintain your friendship and
not get into a relationship with eachother. So I think, yeah,
if you guys are not in aserious relationship, maybe you can maintain your
friendship. But if you guys werein a deep relationship and things ended badly,
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yeah, I don't think like youguys can recover friendship from that cane
after maybe a relationship, yeah,yeah, a very serious one. Yeah,
things would be weird, wouldn't Hewouldn't be friends like we used to
be. Ye. So if theycall you just going to ignats right,
No, I'll just see what theywant. But I don't think like our
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friendship would be the way it chooseto be before we started dating or something,
especially if things ended badly. Sojust by just let's go separate traits.
Okay, Josh, what do youhave to say? Yeah? Again,
for me, I think Shana hasa point there. But even if
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it wasn't that serious, for me, I would put all my energy trying
to communicate what I think to mypartner and if he doesn't listen, maybe
it's a sign for maybe it's notthe right person for him. Also the
(43:59):
same with Joe ash If if thelittle things in your relationship that are not
being addressed and your significant other it'snot willing to address it in any way
nor willing to listen bradly sit downin small issues as little as they are.
Yeah, maybe you are in arelationship that is not yet for you
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or I don't know if there couldalso be a season or timing that you
can have, but if the habitualor from your partner, then definitely you
could be. You could be ina brushless relationship. Okay, Leslie,
guys, time is running out aplatform brushing your teeth? What other ways
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someone can maintain good pro hygiene.You can address this to your friends listiness
and no one can answer. Yeah, like the harpal sticks, I don't
know, the African harbal sticks.I don't know if they have them in
the US or in the Philippines.Buttend to use them as toothbrushes and they
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really do a pretty job. Likecleaning your teeth and also eating a lot
of fruits, especially fruits like apples. Have you guys ever like eating apples
and then after like your teeth arevery clean. So I that's why I
say plenty of fruits also help alot with your tea. There. Now
you can use mouth bush too,okay, get you Shaner, Daisy Josh
(45:36):
fruits. Yeah, I think allthe things that Shania's saying, the vialid,
yeah, mouth flow, seeing,eating healthy fruits and drinking lots of
water. It will help with foodhygiene. Yeah, okay. You can
also practice breathing in and is old. That's breathing. I know, how
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does it? Hell? We dobreathe? How does it help? Can
you explain that I don't how doesit breathing? I'm breeding in? H?
Then what you're doing to next?Are you saying not really holding your
(46:30):
breath, but but timing it?You time it if you see your partner,
If you see your partner breathing in, don't talk. Wow, advice.
I'll try that sometimes. I waswondering because we're still exiting the pandemic.
Maybe you could suggest some fashionable whereit's when you're wearing it and you're
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the only one who has in theOh, yeah, I think wear this
one. I wear this one.So we'll be having a couple's masks going
on. If you do that you'regonna lose all your teeth, So yeah,
listen to the professionals and listen toyours your partner. If the partner
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is so valuable to you, bewilling and put in the effort. That's
good advice from expert Josh Dental forour listeners. You can try dental checkouts.
You brush your teeth, your flows, your balanced diet. It is
important to make your oral health apriority in your routine. We hope this
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discussion has shed light on the importanceof mouth hygiene in relationships. Remember,
a healthy mouth contribute to to justnot just a beautiful smile, but also
a happy and fulfilling connection with yourpartner. And now it's the time to
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say goodbye and thanks again for beingpart of Frail Talk with Cardie and Shania.
Are you next time. Bye,
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