Success - Part 1

In this inaugural episode of 'Real Talk with Aaron and The Fellas' hosted by Aaron Robinson, the podcast welcomes listeners to a men-focused discussion platform. The main topic of discussion revolves around the concept of success, examining what it looks like from a man's perspective across different cultures, including in business, personal integrity, relationships, and spiritual beliefs. The panelists share their personal criteria for success, emphasizing integrity, trust in God, creating effective systems and routines, and the importance of a vision board. The conversation also briefly shifts towards current global events, specifically the situation in Israel, and its potential implications on their views of the future and their faith. The episode promises future discussions on men's success in various areas of life from a Christian viewpoint.

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Episode Transcript

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See one Music dot FM. RealTalk with Aaron and the Fellas. This
is a fella's podcast. We're doingit for the guys now, I mean,
we're chopping it up for the guys, and I'm glad to be here.
We were supposed to launch this podcastlast week, all right, fellas

(00:26):
sick even something that wasn't right.But we are here. I'm your host,
Aaron Robinson. For everybody who don'tknow me, all my friends here
back in Jersey called me Deuce definitelyin the building, and I'm gonna give
all the fellas on the car achance to introduce themselves. Let's let's let

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y'all know where they at. Thisis our first podcast together doing this.
I did. I did have thefellas on my other episodes of podcasts,
on my other shows, and wefinally said we're gonna put this one together.
So I'm gonna let to go aroundin a circle. Y'all can just
go ahead and jump in real quick. Tell you who you know, Explain
who we all are. We allcome from shot background. Just let everybody

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get a chance to connect with youfor this with this outcoming podcast, We'll
talk. Let's get it. Whoeverwant to jump in first. Yep,
I'll jump in first name. Yeah, Hi guys, my name is Fritz
and uh I'm from the Philippines andI've been working with Aaron here for uh

(01:34):
good amount of time. Now.Yeah, it's good to be here.
It's good to have our our ownmen podcast. You're excited to be here,
so go ahead. Who's next.Hi, my name is Joe Ash.

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I'm also from the Philippines. It'sgood to be here with you,
Aaron and Fritz. Excited for whatwe're going to talk up and really looking
forward to learn with you. Also, Oh, that's what's up. That's
up. That's not least. I'mEdwin can't call me Eddie from Kenya.

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And yeah, looking forward to theshow. And everyone tuned in enjoy.
That's what's up. That's what's up. All right, fellas, I'm going
to today. We're going to talkabout the topic for today. It's success,
what success looks like, and we'regoing to talk talk about it from
a man's perspective. All right,what does success look like? But before

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I jump into that question and questionsabout success and what success looks like for
a man, what success looks likein our own countries, what is our
idea of success? What's the definitionof success. I want to do an
ice breaker opening for because I knowthat this show was particularly mixed between women

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and men and everything. So Iwant to kind of do an icebreaker being
that we are taking we're doing thetakeover, and I know we got a
couple of people got are watching theshow. Now got a couple of viewers
watching the show, so we're gonnatake this over. I want to I
want to ask this question real quick, my question, and I want to

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start off with you, Joe Ashfirst, because are the simple fact that
you and I are the two marriedones on this on this on this particular
podcast, So I want to accessto you, and I do want to
get the fellas to get a chance. Joe Ash, what is one reason

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pre married? Let's say when you'redating your wife, outside of cheating.
Let's say your wife never cheated.Outside of cheating, what would be a
reason that will make you want towalk away from a relationship, my reason
for walking away in the relationship,any relationship that you have, what would

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be the number one your number onereason outside of someone cheating, What would
be your number one reason to walkaway from a relationship. It could be
physically, it could be it couldbe mentally, emotionally, whatever it is,
what would be one of the reasonswhy you will walk away from a
relationship? You know, Aaron,honestly, I never thought about that because,

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uh, for me, once Iget into marriage, you know,
there's this. I'm not talking aboutmarriage, just a relationship pre marriage,
okay, pre marriage okay, okay, So marriage, okay, if you
make the decision to get married,I got it, get it, all
right? So pre marriage, Uh, you know, what would should we

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I mean, hold on, Ijust want to make sure we are clear.
I'm talking about dating. This ina relationship. There you go there
dating relationship, all right? Allright? So I think the thing that
would make me break up the relationshipor not continue it, pursue it any
longer is when we're no longer communicating, when we're no longer having the same

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uh you know that that communication lineis no longer there, Then there's no
more time for each other. It'snot you know, being reciprocated. I
think that's one of the major things, you know, communication that will make
me walk away from a relationship,gotcha? So communications? So that's how
like that real quick communication. Sois it a breakdown in communication? Is

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it that you're communicating she's not likewhoa whoa? Like whoa? What would
give you to that threshold? Andyou're like, yeah, this is not
gonna work for me. Yeah.Maybe uh, I think her uh not
communicating and there's just a you know, not the same wavelength. Maybe we're

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not getting to the heart of theissue, and we're not growing in a
relationship with each other. I thinkthat's an indicator that we're not gonna last
long if we're not getting into eachother's Is there a way you can just
explain it? Give me like abecause communication is a big that's that's a
big, big, wild aspect,is it when you ask her, like,

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yo, what do you want toeat? And she is indecisive?
Like when you say communicating, likewhat communication? Well, you will involve
for me, it will involve,you know, disclosing personal matters, you
know, being open regarding what youwant, what you don't like, your

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view regarding relationships, faith and yourpersonal values, what your dreams are.
If you're not willing to open those, you know things, those important topics,
I don't think we are going continue, you know, to the next
level of our relationship. So forme, that's very important. Yeah,

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one last question for you, don'twant to move on to the next all
right? Do you believe in lovelanguages and speaking love languages? Somehow?
I believe that's that's a woman that'susually a woman's thing. They always talk
about love languages. Yeah. Doyou believe in love languages and that we

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have to speak a love language?I do partly, but you know,
even love language are a bit generalfor me. But I do believe that
you have to connect to each other. Even if that's the framework, the
working framework, I believe if itif it's working somehow, Yeah, I
believe in speaking the love language ofthe partner so that you could connect to

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the person first. Do you agreeagree in love language? I'm come to
you for you, for your foryours, for your questions, But I'm
just asking do you believe in lovelanguage and speaking love language? Uh?
Should I say believe? Or Ithink so? Yeah? I think so?

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Yeah, Eddie? What about you, Eddie? Oh? Not much.
I believe in communication, you knowGoogle communication. You talk to me
at least I talk to you listenwhen I start each other. You know,
effective communication got you me, Idon't believe in love languages. It's

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not biblical. Mm hm. Canyou elaborate? Can you elaborate that?
Because to me, speaking it's nothis love language is not a it's not
biblical. Right to me, whatmakes a successful marriage is communication, like
you said, communication, but speakinglovel you gotta put work into it,

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like I don't. I don't.I don't care if oh he speaks my
love language. That's that's a feeling, you know, feelings, you know
what I mean? Like I don't. I'm not looking to speak your love
language. I'm just looking to makeyour work, you know what I mean.
And I want my partner or mywife, uh, with the person

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I'm in a relationship with to dowhatever they can to make your work too.
We don't need to speak love languages. We need to just be committed
to making it work. That's myThat's that's my thing, you know what
I'm saying. So I don't Ithink that's a I think somebody made a
book to prey on women's feelings andemotions and say, hey, this is

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a lovely and they took it andround with it. So now we have
to speak love languages. Oh heloves me because he speaks my love language.
No, he brought you flowers becausehe just wanted to buy you flowers
that day. It's not that heneeds to always continue to buy you flowers
for him to express that he lovesyou. You know what I mean.
That's not that's good, that's good. I don't. I don't, I

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don't, I don't, I don't. I don't subscribe to that. That's
just me and I don't know anyman that'd been in a successful marriage that
says, oh, me and mywife, men don't use that those words.
I never heard a man says,yeah, me and my wife speaks
the same love language. Have y'all. I don't know, y'all tell me
no. I mean, for meon the level of, you know,

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say that I believe in love languagesfor example, for me, For example,
I I I want let's say,for the sake of having, for
the sake of the argument, Ilove quality time instead of small thoughts like
it's not something that I would say, just say I love I love quality

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time. There you go, thereyou go right, quality time? Like
that? That doesn't make me.That's not bib before makes sense. That's
why I'm using it for the sakeof the argument that I want I just
want quality time. Right, Andlet's say, let's say, for example,
that my love like love language isquality time and and if it's being

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met, it's not necessarily saying thatshe's speaking my love language. Is she's
just affirming or she's you know,hitting the right spot where I feel most
loved. That's I think that's thethat's the concept of it. Where because
I really want quality time instead ofsmall talks, instead of going out somewhere

(11:33):
in public where very rowdy and noisy. Right, So I just want to
spend the time with the with theI'm going to tell you this. You
want if you want to get marriedand you want to make a relationship work.
Yeah, if you want to say, yo, my love language is
I like quality time, And she'sgoing to say my love language is you

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buy me flowers? Right? Andif you her flowers, you're speaking her
love language. And if she spendquality time with you, you speaking she's
speaking your love language. I don'tsubscribe to that. I just think that
y'all can do two things at onetime to make the relationship work. It's
not be speaking each other's love language, right, it's not. I'm not

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saying that you have to just pickand choose right you have, you still
have to do all the all thosethings. I'm not even I'm not even
trying to debate with you in thefirst So me and you're on the same
page, then you are. I'mjust saying to you that I don't I
don't subscribe the love language. Youdo what you gotta do to make the
relationship work right, because it's gonnabe many I'm gonna be honest with you.

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And I know Joe, Ash andEddie both can speak to this,
because there's gonna be a lot oftimes where you're going to be in the
house with your wife and you don'twant to be bothered with her or whatever
the case may be. And y'allcan't say, oh, at this moment
in time, we're not speaking thesame love language. No, I just
I just want some peace right now. That's all, you know what I
mean. But let's go with you, Eddie. Eddie, what would be

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one reason why you will walk awayfrom a relationship? Mhm, Like like
yours said, communications breakdown mm hmmm. When we start dating, I'd want
to date someone that that is fundamentallysimilar to me. So if that if
the similarity similarity start, you know, fading away, then I'd have to

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you know, break it off withher priorities also and above all, you
know problems that you want woman,she has to you know, show show
that that is the kind of lifeshe will live with as as my wife
in future. So if if shefalls short of that, I guess I

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could not I could, I willbreak it off. There, you will
break it off. Now, wouldyou go into a situation saying, does
she need to have these characteristics andshow right away that she's willing to communicate

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with you and be you said Proverbsthirty one, Right, that's what you
said, Proverbs that she has thoseattributes already or is it something that you're
willing to like instill into her teacher, because you know how women think that
they can change men, so youknow what I mean? Like, would
you go into the mindset saying Ican change her to become that walk away?

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Personally, I do not believe aperson can change as a person.
I don't believe in that. Ithink it is easier to you know,
find someone that you know your fundamentallysimilar before. Gotcha gotcha. I don't
want to make this a whole datingpodcast or anything like that. I just
I just wanted to open this conversationup frist to give you an opportunity to

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as well. What will be areason why you will walk away from a
relationship at your current relationship just arelationship genius? Yeah, for me,
that would be the loss of friendship, where you know, in a friendship

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you can you know, jive together, talk about anything, and even if
you you know, did something wrong, it will be discussed and talked about
and worked on. Because if youif you have something like, you know,
very romantic and all these ideal things, and but you don't have friendship,
then that that vision of perfection marredby a mistake. Can you know,

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defeat or you know, just breakthat that that that perfect picture in
your mind. So I think thefriend the friendship will If the friendship is
broken, then definitely it's gonna behard to move on or to progress.
So because I kind of put friendshipback in that communication aspect with the other

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fellas are great. Mm hmmm,right, So I think you're all the
same thing. Communication friendship. Friendshipwill be I spend the time together talking
together, doing things together. SoI'll kind of will put that I'm gonna
switch it up and change it andsay I'm gonna say, uh, hygiene
and and not uh maintaining your lookswill be a reason why I would be

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willing to walk away. And ifI'm not just finding you attractive anymore,
or whatever the case would be,and when not married and and you just
what we called it the other dayon the other podcast, falling off you
in your period and you just declineit and you're just giving up. Yeah,

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you kind of losing yourself. You'renot willing to put the work in
the effort. You don't you don'tcare anymore. You every time I'll see
you, you in sweatpants and youknow what I'm saying, and you just
yeah, you know what I mean. That would be something like, yeah,
just I need somebody gonna inspire meand work with me, you know
what I mean, So and beable to push me, you know what

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I mean, and be a motivationand work alongside with me. So that
would be one of the reasons whyI would be interested in walking away.
All right, So with that beingsaid, I'm coming back to you,
Fritz. I want to ask intoday's society as a man, what does

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success what is when you look atsomeone that says that person is successful?
Right, It could be in anyaspect. It could be assful Christians,
successful, married man, successful singleman, successful businessman. Whatever success means?
What is this being successful right now? I mean in the past you're

(18:15):
working towards being successful. Are yousuccessful now? Were you successful? For?
What is being successful as a manyou means today? I think it's
all about the numbers right now.You gotta elaborate numbers with numbers. The
more numbers you put out, likequantifiable numbers where you can quantify someone's successful

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example, how many things that hehas or properties or cars, even in
in spiritual terms like churches, evenin spiritual terms like people, or if
you are what do you mean byspiritual terms churches? What do you mean

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by that? I mean if you'rea Christian. If you're a Christian,
for example, here, you willbe looked at as a successive, successful
man, spiritual man. If youhave these numbers of churches that you've planted,
these members, ed you cater orlike you know, just the numbers,

(19:22):
right and all right, So that'sthe viewpoint of the of the world
is looking at it. I'm askingyou personally what a success mean for you.
Success is doing the right thing,even immutes when no one is looking.
That's a success for me, doingthe right thing when no one is
looking and successful to you. Yeah, okay, but you said, and

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so are you saying. In theFilipino culture, successful means quantifiable numbers what
you yes, however, however methodyou did it, if you even yeah,
if you got the numbers, thenyou're successful regardless of how you did.
It's like the end justify the meansJewish? You agree with that jew

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ash? Is that? Is thathow it is in the culture when when
people what was that again, Fritzyou were saying, is the quantifiable numbers?
Yeah? Yeah, usually yeah,in the Philippines, it's all about
the numbers experiencing, Yeah, certifications, education, you know, the cars

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and things like that, bank accountconnections, Yeah, and you consider that.
So now I'm asking you as aperson, on a person okay,
do you forest as well well ona human point of view, like on

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a just you know, practicality.For me, success is when you are
able to provide for your spouse,your family, and even help your extended
family with resources and you know,provide their needs. But more than that,
for me personally, I would bringup the standard further is that if

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you do it with the motivation tohonor God and fulfill you know, his
purpose for your life. For me, that success going beyond just the financial
ability, but really pointing people toGod, back to God and living out
his purpose. The purpose is tohonor and to enjoy Him, you know,

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to glorify and to enjoy Him inthe side of life. So for
me, yeah, enjoying the fruitsof your labor to honor God. For
me, that success. So successis honoring God and enjoy the fruciti labor.
Yes, that's what it is foryou. Yes, it does a
matter if you have one car ortwo cars as well as yeah, and

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everything that you do. All right, cool eddie? Success what is it?
What does success mean in your culture? And what does this means to
you? In our culture? It'smore less the same like Josh and friends
mentioned in their culture. And nowas for me or to me, success

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is being able to be one ofcourse financially financially stable, healthy and also
we you know, interpersonal relationships.What kind of interpersonal relationships I have with
people, whether they are, howgood they are, how healthy they are,

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and of course with God also andfinally, as a depending on whether
if I'm if I'm married, atcalled success. If I'm able to leave
my family towards the Kingdom of heavenlove for me, it's a success.
Gotcha? Gotcha? So you saidif you're if you had a family,

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being able to stare them to Godand get them, you know, saved
and able to receive salvation, getthem into heaven. It is the words
that you use it not correct.Yes, yes, yes, that's more.
That's success. Got you, gotyou? Gotcha? Those are all
good ones, fellas. I wouldsay for me successes. From from a

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cultural standpoint here, I would alsoagree. I think it's but numbers financially
mainly, uh, how much moneyyou have here in America and stuff like
that. It's the status quo inthat regard, So I think in all
our cultures, I think that's probablya worldwide thing right there. But me

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personally, I would probably agree withJoe Ash as well. I would probably
say the longevity the fact to putit in, put it in. I
think doing something being successful to mewould be even just just longevity in itself,
being good at something for a longperiod of time and being able to

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be successful with it, you knowwhat I mean. I also believe that
with the laun charity, a lotof times a lot of people will have
positive things to say, you knowwhat I mean, and be able to
speak on your behalf. To me, a successful person just look in the

(24:37):
Bible, you know what I mean. If you if somebody has a good
witness a good if it's not aboutto me, you don't brag. You
let other people brag for you whenyou when you are in a position where
other people are bragging for you,to me, you are successful in that
in that regard. So like ifI if somebody asked me about Fritz and

(24:57):
I said, yo, Fritz isa good g He's instead of Fritz pouting
his chest say hey I'm a goodguy. I do this. If if
if you've been doing what you're doingfor a very long time, and other
people can bear a witness to that, so that when they asks about are
getting amusing you. As an example, Fritz, they asks about you.

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People ask Fritz, and I'm theone that be like, yo, Fritz
is a and a lot of peopleare saying, you know, Fritz is
a good guy. You know,he's he was you know what I mean,
straight and narrow. He's a straightshooter, I mean to me.
And they can say that about somethingabout your life and a lot of people
are doing that to me. That'syou've been successful in that regards as well,

(25:42):
and especially going now bringing the talentedto Joe Ash, especially when people
can say that about your walk withGod and they've witnessed the longevity of you,
you know, putting God first inyour life and things of that nature.
The thing, the thing that's thereis me though, guys, is
that you could be successful and awhole lot of things. In the blink

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of an eye, all the thingsthat you work for could be snatched and
taken away, right And from thatone blink of an eye, everything can
be taken away, and then allof a sudden people don't look at you
as being successful anymore. Yeah,So why is that the case that can

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even be from your Joe Ash,me and you were married. We have
a successful marriage all the way throughout. And one thing that we can do
and it doesn't even if you hadgood intent to do something good. Let's
say it's even oh I just wantedto buy a new house, and this,
that and the third. And let'ssay, because you bought a new
house and you work so hard todo this and provide just for your family,

(26:53):
this bad decision is putting you andyour family and a financial burden,
and now your wife is not happywith you anymore, and it discredits all
the time that you been a faithful, good husband, provided and all that,
and one bad business decision can turneverything around. Why is that the
case? Well, I think peopleare prone to trust in what they see,

(27:25):
what they can hold onto, andwhat they feel you know, secure
about. But if people you're livingwith you know, know the source,
you know the same God that youworship and trust, you know this unseen
God in a personal level, youcan stay with them, you know,

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through the ups and the downs andthe challenges in the reality of life.
So for me, that's a tendency. If you know one of the spout
us is not founded in his faithor her faith in God, because they

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would be scared and shaken to theircore. You know, things like that
happen. But if God is theirfoundation, they could work and believe God,
you know, to even restore them. Again. I'm thinking about Joe,
what you're saying about that? Youknow that, you know even his
wife told him to curse his god. Correct, that is correct. So

(28:33):
so why is it that we canwork so hard at doing something, be
successful at it, and then inthe blink of an eye the people that
we are surrounded with who amara usand you know Amirak success and everything easily
turn on us? Why is that? The King Eddie, what you think?

(28:56):
I think it is? It isit is something in it that humans
have. We tend to dwell it. Can be the nicest person your entire
life, and then one bad thingthat you will do people will remember you
with that. It's I think thatis how human beings are. Just you
know, it's a psychological fuendomenal.It's called I think negativity biased. I

(29:18):
mean we we we tend to dwellon. We tend to dwell on,
you know, the bad stuff.Someone has been nice the entire life,
but you know, one one onelet me not call it small mistake,
but one mistake, you know,and we will be judged by by by
that one mistake that you did.Yet you've been you know, the best
person, you know, you know, almost your entire life. So I

(29:41):
think it's just human I believe Isit right? Though? Man? I
mean, you know, is itright? Is that? Is that?
Do? Let me ask this questionreal quick? Do do we also find
this like happening? Even when mendeal with men like you could be a
good all your life and then yousnap one day and all of a sudden,

(30:03):
all the fellows look at you differently. Are usually men kind of like
give you a pass like we wouldlike that's men. The degree to which
we will you know, we willjudge, judge my fellow man won't be
that hush, but we also judgejust like our women do. We also

(30:25):
judge? You know, Let's sayI've been your friend for like ten years
and then one day I my wrongway. I still I still from you
something. You know. I don'tthink you will quickly forgive me, and
you know, based on the manyyears we've known each other, I don't
think that that will come into playwhen you're you know, when you're interacting
with me after that. To me, it depends on your why and your

(30:48):
intent. I would if you cameto me and it's like, yo,
my bad bro, like this wasmy current situation, this is what I
was, and this is what Iwas into, and you command up and
take responsibility and take accountability for whatyou did. I can look past it,

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But would you look at me tosave and would you forgive me if
I did that? Yes, ifyou take accountability for it, okay,
But if you don't take accountability,then you then I gotta walk away.
To me and for me personally,intent is intent is important. I don't

(31:30):
know if it is for other people, but your intent is important to me,
you know what I mean, like, why why are you doing this?
Your intent? What are you tryingto reach and go? Is it
important to you or to me?Your intent? Chose your heart? Why
you you know, I mean theheart of why you're doing it? Is
it important? It is? Iagree with you, but I'm saying no,

(31:52):
we like, look at you thiscity, you know, you know
deep down like belate, relate,relay, forgive and forget. You know,
I might forgive you, but atthe back of my head, I'll
still you know, it's still lingersthat you know this guy did this to
be I listen, I still goback to intent because I have to put

(32:12):
myself in the shoes and if Iwould have did the same thing they did,
based if I was under circumstances thatthey were in now, I mean,
if I can understand their logic asto why they did what they did,
it's easier for me to forgive them. Is it the same for you,
Joe Ashin Fritz? I mean,like, to me, just the
intent, the heart of it allis more important to me than the actual

(32:35):
deed of what you did. AndI agree, I agree with what you're
saying. All I'm saying is itwill be very very hard for me to
to you know, forget. I'llforgive, but forgetting might not be over,
you know, Josh and fitztick.Well, so let's go. Let's
let's put it on the table thenreal quick and say what is something that
you will be hard to forgive somebodyon trail? Let's let's hypothetically say you

(33:04):
were married and one of your bestfriends slept with your wife. Mm hmm.
I will forgive, but I lookforget. You know, I don't
think I'll be able to, youknow, let them hang around each other
again after that. See what I'msaying, I look forget and forgive,
but forgetting is not I mean ideallyI'm supposed to forgive it in that position

(33:27):
though the intended are heart like,there's nothing that the person can explain to
me as to why they will wantto sleep with my wife, you know
what I mean. So obviously inthat particular situation, you you are not
going to easily forget because of thesimple ways you You've been betrayed by your
best friend and your wife on bothparties. So you're not going to easily

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forget. There's no you know whatI mean, It's no, there's nothing
that they can say that the accountabilitywise that you would be like, yeah,
I understand when you come from whatabout you two guys, that would
be ridiculous. But overall saying,is there anything that like do y'all agree

(34:16):
with Eddie's saying that he can easilyforgive but not forget. I do feel
what Eddie is uh saying, becauseI do have a friend, like a
long time friend where we've been throughcollege and a lot of difficult things.
But it came to a point inhis in his life where it was financial

(34:37):
financially difficult for him. So hedid something long story short, he did
something that you know, could havemarred our trust in him. So but
we're still good friends. It's justthat at the back of your mind,
you know, you know that hehas this tendency that if if there's something

(34:58):
that you know, put him inthat same situation, or maybe he was
back into a a place where thatkind of mindset could trigger, then definitely
you'll be more on guard. Iwould say, not not necessarily, you
know you don't like him or anythinglike that. It's just that you are
not aware of his that side thathe can tap on where if this comes

(35:24):
up, he can he can dothis. He has the tendency to do
this. All right, I haveto, I have to, I have
to chime in on this. Sois it the nature of is it just
nature of a human being in itself? Like if you was in his same
shoes you have best friend, right, how would you have moved differently?

(35:46):
What would you have done if youwas faced with the same circumstances like if
of course, if you The funnything is, if you can be honest
after doing the sin, why notjust be honest before doing it? Right?
So, what I'm saying in yourcase, you're saying the thing that

(36:07):
you would do different is what cometo come to the person prior to and
say yes, I mean, butbecause pride is the p Pride is the
beast we do some some people aretoo prideful exactly. You understand what I'm
saying. But pride is pride isa problem with yo. Let me,

(36:30):
let me, let me, letme. Let me give you a quick
example. Right, the last twoweeks, my wife lost the key to
our mailbox. Right, she lostthe key to our mailbox. So for
the last two weeks, I couldn'tgo get the mail. Both couldn't get
the malt. I had things cominginto my mailbox and we couldn't go get

(36:52):
the malt. So we live inthis complex, so for the last two
weeks. One day I had leftand I gave her money to wash clothes
and stuff, and she went togo wash clothes. So when she went
to go watch clothes, she wentto our office here and went in there
to find out how she can geta new kid and anything. Right,

(37:15):
she found out already, But forthe rest of the week and a half,
she never told me that. Shewas acting like. You know what
I'm saying. She acted like becauseI told her I would handle it,
right, Joe, ask you nowwe do mab, I think I handle
it? Yeah, I want tomove past enough for her, so she

(37:37):
went in it and acquired She alreadyknew the answer to everything, but she
never told me. Right, Soa couple of days going by, I'm
going in there. I mean,I'm like, yeah, baby, I'm
gonna go over there now. Mindyou. My mentality is, this is
my mentality because me and I hadto sit down and talk to her about
it yesterday. My mentality is,I didn't lose the key. If I

(38:00):
was the one that lost the key, then I wouldn't I would have jumped
on it right away. You understandi'maying, because I'm a funt. She
lost the key, so I'm justcleaning up something that she did. You
understand what I'm saying. So Iwasn't pressed for it. I wasn't pressed,
So I was like, I'm gonnatake care of it. I'm gonna
take care of it. But it'snot that serious. So anyway, one

(38:21):
story short. On Sunday, Iwas like, yeah, I'm gonna go
you know, I'm gonna do thisthat and the thought lah dah. So
yesterday I finally was like, allright, I mean I'm already out.
Let me go in here and checkand see it's good. With this key.
So I went in there and thepeople that I'm sitting down talking to
him like, yeah, yeah,you're white for sitting here last week she
asked about it, They knew allthat information and anything. And I'm like,

(38:43):
I don't understand, Like if shelike we could have had to keep
a week and a half ago,why why are we Why am I coming
in here dealing with this? Ifyou could have you dealt with this already,
you know what I mean, Icould have got the key. So
when I came home, I'm like, I shot it down, Like y'all,
I gotta talk to you real quick. I'm like, yo, I

(39:06):
went in there to go handle thiskey thing. And they telling me that
you went in there and inquired aboutthe key two weeks ago, Like why
are you letting me believe for thelast two weeks that we could have been
got our mail and stuff? Likewhy She's like, oh, because you
told me you was going to doit, and I didn't want to tell

(39:27):
you because I didn't want you tofuss at me for not waiting for you
to do it. And I'm like, I'm sitting on myself. This is
stupid, you know what I'm sayinglike this is I'm like, yo,
and I told her that it's nota big deal. I wouldn't have got
what am I fussed about you theone that lost the key? It was
to me, it was really onyou. I was just being a nice

(39:50):
guy, so I wasn't gonna fussat you. But if you was gonna
go handle it, you could havejust handled it. I'm like, all
right, cool, babe, itlooks that's one last thing I gotta do.
And so a breakdown in communication.But she thought that I was gonna
argue and yell at her because Itold her I was going to do it
and she wanted to go ahead andget it done. And I'm like,

(40:13):
yo, it's not that serious.Now. I bring that up to say
this flips. Although it wasn't aserious situation, you know what I'm saying.
But her intent for telling me,for having me believe for the last
two weeks that I was handling gettingthe key when she already knew what we

(40:35):
needed to be done to get thekey, you know what I'm saying,
could have been avoided and we couldhave if she just would have communicated and
said what it was. But onthe flip, side, I understand,
like I gave her grace because I'mlike, she thought I was going yell
at her, which I don't understandwhy she thought on yell at her about

(40:59):
getting the key, but which isto me, the whole thing was stupid,
But I for me, it wasjust retarded, like why am I?
Why am I? The last twoweeks, I'm over every time I
see the mailman, Yeah, Igotta remember to talk to the guy.
And that's that. And the thirdall this time you knew what the answer
was. Why why are you havingme do all this extra talking and stuff
when you already know what it is? And to me, that was crazy,

(41:22):
you know what I mean? AndI when I sat it down,
I talked to her. I didn'tyell or are you or frustrated? I'm
just like, yo, why wouldyou do that? Her? Her reasoning
was because she didn't want me tofuss at her, and I'm like,
why would I fuss at you?And you lost the key? I didn't
lose the key. It'd been different. If I lost the key, I

(41:42):
would have jumped on it right away, like you know what I'm saying,
so so I wouldn't have to hearyou fussing at me. But my reason
to check it out, Fritz,my reasoning for telling her I'll take care
of it was because I didn't wanther to think I was going to faster
her about the key. She lostthe key. I didn't want to make

(42:06):
a big deal about it. Idon't worry about I'll take care of it,
Joe, Ash, have you donethat before in your house between you
and your wife when your wife isso she's gonna make a bit, don't
worry about it. I got it. I'll take care of it. So
while you're saying that, I hada similar, you know situation where there's

(42:27):
like a breakdown in her water bill. So we had to check it because
it like tripled, you know itwhile we'll be paying so much for you
know, what's wrong with it.So I said, I'm going to handle
it. Similar case. And thenshe went on talked to the property uh
you know, a coordinator, andsaid, yeah, because I told you

(42:49):
and you're not doing it. No, I said, I'm going to be
the one to handle this. Thingslike that, so you know, it
has to be sat down, ithas to be cleared out now. But
here's the difference, Joe, didyour wife after she talked to him.
Did she come back and tell youthat I talked to them or whatever the
case would be, or did shehave you still call and find out that
they talked to your wife a weekago? Oh? Oh, she she

(43:15):
did, like, uh, shedid it on her own. So you
how did you find out that shedid it on her own? When I
saw the bill and I thought andI asked her, how did you how
come you got the bill? Iwas supposed to get it from the office.

(43:36):
Oh, I did it for youbecause you might have forgotten it,
So I did it myself. Soshe didn't tell you just found out on
your own. Yeah, all right. Going back to this though, so
successful success, So have you doneso let me ask your ash. Have
you done that before where you saidyou was going to do something and you

(43:57):
actually followed through and did it.Have you done that more times? Then
you're saying you're gonna do something andshe ended up taking care of it because
you like, how often we're gonnause Fritz words quantifying and numbers matching them
up? How often is it thatyou take care of it when you take
care of it versus taking care ofit? And then she's like, yo,

(44:19):
you're taking too long. You you, you take care of it,
She's gonna take care of it.How often does it happen? Well,
I think it would be like seventythirty. But even if even the thirty,
uh, you know, for mewould be so easy. But then
if I, you know, uhforgot about it, he would just catch

(44:40):
it and do it herself. Isit seventy that you usually handle it and
thirty that you do alone? Ifind now, Eddie, I wanted you.
I want you to chime in onthis too, and Fritz you you.
I don't know if you and yourgirl at this particular point in your
life have things that you have jointedtogether. I know when I first started,
one of the things that I dealwith my my my my wife now

(45:02):
wife is we combine our phone billsand the cell phone bills. And that
was like one of the first thingsthat we actually did as a couple together.
I mean, paying a cell phonebill like or me at least showing
a beginning, showing I could bea provider and pay for the cell phone
bill and stuff like that. Wegot our cell phone friends. And I'm
not telling you to do that asa way to do it, but I'm

(45:24):
just saying, that's one of thefirst things I started off as being a
provider pay for our cell phone bill. But I'm asking this because a lot
of times, Eddie, I wantyou to chime in on this, a
lot of times the thirty that Joesaid, a lot of times it's at

(45:46):
least in my marriage, it's somethinghappens. I'm like, all right,
cool, I take care of it. It's not that big of a deal
to me, but to her it'slike, oh my god, you know
what I mean. And it's justfrantically worrying about something and it's like,
yo, chill, it's not thatserious, and it's not that serious for

(46:07):
me, Like I get I'll getaround to it. But it's the shock
and all of everything is like theemotional investment into it that it has to
get done, and it's like,Yo, that could have happened. I
could have did that today, Icould do it tomorrow. Like nothing's going
to change between me doing it todayand tomorrow. But you needed to get
done right away. You understand sayingthat that emotional shock and all connection to

(46:29):
it that it has to get doneright now or something bad is going to
happen, Like have you dealt withthat before Eddie? Is Eddie still with
us? I don't know if Eddiestill with us or that he looks frozen?
Yeah? Me too? What whatabout? What about? What about?
What about you? Joe? Ash? Is that is that more of

(46:51):
what it is? The shock andall of it? Yeah, you know,
the just the way that you're concerned? Are we not? Are we?
Are we not worried? Like?Is it that we're we're not we're
not worrying as much? Or isit just it ain't that big of a
deal. What is it? Idon't I don't know. Well, I

(47:14):
think the the one that it's notthat big of a deal. But then
uh, I think it's the weightand the number of concerns they have in
their in their head that you know, that makes them worry about things because
they connect everything together, you knowlike that For us, it's just one

(47:35):
part and one part with Jen istrying to say it takes it's help and
take some stuff off our plate.Nah, you're not. Our wives are
not doing it to be taking stuffoff our plate. They're doing it because
they wanted to get done faster thanwe're doing it. I don't think they're
doing it to be. Oh,Hannah helped you out, because if she

(47:55):
would have in your case, Joe, if she was doing it to help
you out, she would have toldyou about after she get it right.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Hey, hey, babe, I
took care of that for you.Okay, babe, thank you. No,
you had to look at the billyourself and discover oh it's done.
Yeah, oh you did this already. You know what I'm saying, Like,

(48:16):
I had to go to the officeand discovery that my wife went in
there, and I still, inmy case, at least in your case,
your wife took care of it.In my case, I still have
to pay for the bill the lostkey, you know what I mean?
I still so she went in andinquired. She just didn't pay. I
had to go in and pay forit. But I'm like, yo,

(48:37):
I could have gave you the moneyfor this last week or two weeks ago.
Why are you know we're going twoweeks now. But Jenny's trying to
say she's trying to surprise us.I'm not I'm not buying it. I'm
sorry, I'm not buying it.I'm not buying that. You're buying that
Fritz. I think we talk aboutthis from another podcast where they were asking,

(49:02):
like the girls were here, theywere asking if we are a man
of our words when they asked usto do something and we did not do
it in their own timing, butwe did it anyway. Like they asked
us to take out the trash fora day, and then the two days

(49:22):
after and three days after, wedid not do it, but we actually
did it on the fourth day.So they were like, thinking, you
are not a man of your wordbecause you did not take out the trash
when I commanded it. But forus, that's what it is. What
you just said when I commanded it, That's what it is. First,
let me tell you, joe As, let me tell you something. Yeah,

(49:45):
come on in my house. Ifit was up to my wife,
I would take the garbage out,garbage out every twenty minutes. I can
walk in the house, me andher can both walk in the house together,
right, And this is her wayof telling me she want me to
take the garbage out. Right,We're both walking in the house together and
she goes, oh, it's stinksin here, and I'm like, like,

(50:10):
what are you talking about? Yeah, oh, the garbage stinks and
I'm like, come on, man, And then I have a decision to
make at that moment. Do Iwant to ignore her because I don't smell
anything that she's smelling, or doI just want to, you know what
I mean, playing to this nonsenseand just take the garbage out, you
know what I mean? Yeah,that's that's her way of telling me that,

(50:31):
oh, the garbage she used tobe taken out. Oh it smells
in here. And I'm like alot of candle. But but you know,
that's that's I don't know. I'mnot I don't. I don't buy
into that stuff, man, ButI do one of the things. Because

(50:52):
the next couple of topics I wantto talk about. I want to talk
about what success looks like from abusiness standpoint from men. I want to
talk about what success looks like asa successful Christian, as a Christian man.
I want to know what success lookslike in a relationship. You know,

(51:12):
what do we consider successful relationships?And I also want to talk about
in those things, what do wedo when we are successful and all of
a sudden, the curveball he's thrownin that way, are we to bounce
back? How do we bounce backare like, you know, those distractions.
We can look at study, Wecan even look at job in his

(51:32):
life. You know what I'm saying. Because he was successful and then he
got thrown a curveball. God alloweda curveball or storm to come in his
life. He stayed faithful and hewas able to bounce back. But when
he bounced back, he didn't bounceback to the same situation. He bounced
back with a new family and neweverything, everything completely new. What does

(51:57):
that mean for us, you know, even spiritually looking at him as an
example, because that means that somepeople in our life need to be cut
off and we're going to start moveon. You know, there's a lot
of different things that we can speculateand put put together. But I want
to. I want to. Iwant us to be able to lay the
foundation down as men to talk aboutwhat success looks like and being successful and

(52:24):
striving to being successful. I haveone last question for you guys. I
want to start with you, Fritz, what is like right now if you
was working towards being successful as something, whether it be your relationship, your
goals, or whatever the case maybe, how do you process that and
what do you do to start workingtowards achieving your goals, achieving to be

(52:45):
successful. What does that look likefor you? And what is the practice
right now? So if there's somepeople that are listening to this are going
to listen to this podcast in thefuture and they have, you know,
and and you can give some adviceto them of how to achieve success,

(53:06):
you know, and anything, becauseagain we're going to break this down at
some point in time to talk aboutfamily, our relationship with God, being
successful, you know, about surroundingourselves with the right people, what practices
that we need to do as men. And I'm speaking from a man's perspective.
I know if if women are listeningto this, maybe you can instead
of telling your husband or your boyfriendor whatever. Hey, these guys said

(53:30):
be successful. Wy don't you justshare the podcast with him so they can
they can they can hear from usinstead of you trying to tell them,
you commanding them. I'm gonna usethe word for it's you trying to command
them to do something. But Iwant to know, all good, brother,
I want to know, uh soFritz for you, how do you

(53:51):
go about achieving your success and achievingyour goals? Relationship wise, business wise,
whatever it is, How do yououtline that out how do you measure
your success and some one and soforth. Yeah, like what I said
earlier, it's success for me isdoing the right thing if no one is

(54:13):
no one is watching, because Ithink I'm speaking about I'm speaking about integrity
because it's very important to have.I believe as a man, integrity is
one of the most crucial things thathe has to keep if he wants to

(54:34):
be successful. Like, no manis on top, and then you'll be
praised because you have you know,you've been corrupt, or you have you're
you're doing or you're taking advantage ofsomeone or stepping on someone. Right.
So I believe that especially in theeyes of God, where of course literally

(54:59):
no one could be watching, butGod knows what we are doing. So
if we are, if I amaware of the things that I'm gonna do
even though no one is watching,and it would be pleasing to God.
Even if even if the outcome isa loose or something that is painful,
even the outcome would be you know, in the world standards would be a

(55:24):
loss because I know that I didthe right thing, and I know that
I have trusted God in doing theright thing. That for me is still
a still a success, whether ina relationship, whether in business, right,
if I am in a business,if I am engaged in business,

(55:45):
I have the opportunity to take advantageof something, but I did not because
I know it's not it's not right. If I lost sales, because you
know I would hold an opportunity thatI know that it's not right, then
that for me is as still successbecause I did the right thing even though
you know nobody's gonna know what Idid. I got a question for you,

(56:09):
Fritz Sure. Integrity. That's that'sa beautiful word. Man. I
think everybody should should do everything inlife with integrity. But I do have
a question for you speaking from anintegrity standpoint, and then I'm gonna move
on to Joe Ashor this question.But if you know your success means,

(56:30):
because especially in a business right anda business standpoint, when you are successful
as something or when your business isgrowing, that means you're taking from other
people. Right, if you ifyou get an opportunity, you took an
opportunity that could have been to someoneelse, Right, what would you do

(56:51):
or what is your outlook on itif you know that, uh, your
success is causing somebody else's downfall.How do you that. Let's say this,
Let's say you're you're, you're,you're the youngest. Listen, not
to point you out two together.Let's say you and Joe Ash. Joe
Ash needs the job, but yousuccessfully get the job. That means that

(57:15):
Joe Ash gets fired. The jobis yours. Do your integrity? Do
you feel sorry for Joe Ash inthat situation? Or do you know that
I was the better man and that'sjust what it is. That's actually a
difficult question, but I do haveI would feel that I would give it

(57:40):
up because in our family, Ithink I mentioned that we did have a
business, right we we we sellbeverages even alcohols before, so we knew.
Hold on, hold on real quick. I just want to make sure
I understand what you just said.So you said that if you he was

(58:00):
awarded the job, and Joe Ashhad to lose his job because you was
awarded the job, you would thengive the job up. Leaning towards that
that kind of action, depending on, of course the details of it,
or of course the opportunity that arepresented to me as well. But you
know, growing up, we wereable to give up a business because we

(58:22):
know that other people are suffering fromit and people are not really benefiting from
that business because we sell alcohol andpeople are You know, I understand what
you're saying, and and from outfrom that perspective, I get it.
But if I got my if wewere to turn this around and Joe Ash
was to get a job, thatmeant that you had to lose your job,

(58:45):
and Joe Ash got a family,he got a feed. I don't
think Joe Ash just getting rid ofhis job, am I correct? Joish,
just pray for your brother. Butno, integrity is just just follow

(59:06):
up on what you said. Integrityis definitely something that you got to move
with. Man. I think inall things that's good. Yeah, Joe
asked, what about you, man? How do you how do you go
about what is the practices? Whatdo you put in place? Okay,
yeah, so I checked on myroutines, you know, I check on
my systems. You know, there'san author who said, James Clear.

(59:28):
He said, we don't rise tothe level of our goals. We fall
down to the level of our systems. So systems, the routines, what
you put in place like they wouldreally set me up for achievement. So
for example, I wanna I wantto get into a full marathon forty two,
I have to do my runs,my myleogies. I have to make

(59:50):
it a schedule, you know,even if I don't feel it or I
feel like I have to put thatsystem, that that rhythm in my in
my calendar. So same way withmy finances, Same with my habits and
systems with with with communications with mywife. It has to be on the
calendar. It has to be there, and it has to be a habit.

(01:00:12):
So that's what I check on sothat the ghost would naturally be met.
Yeah, my routines listen for anybodylistening to this podcast, were dropping
jewels for y'all. A move withintegrity, b practice what you preach,
put systems in place that your routinesand everything and help you work hard to

(01:00:34):
get to where you need to go. Let's continue our jew gems and jewels
that we drive. What's up,Eddie? What do you do to become
successful? What practices, what thingsyou put in place for you to achieve
success? Mm? Yeah, Likelike one of the gentlemen mentioned integrity,

(01:00:58):
hard work, persistence, and persistence. Yeah, I think those three and
of course put your trusted the Lord. Okay, so we're gonna say integrity,
put a practice in place, putyour trust in God. I'm I'm

(01:01:22):
around this off by saying this.I'm gonna go with since you you,
you and Eddie and Friz give youour motivational speeches, integrity, and put
your trust in God. I'm gonnago with practical, with with Joe Ash
and say, I think one ofthe things that helped me get to where
I was at starting off as ayoung lad is a vision board. I

(01:01:45):
put all my I put all mygoals and all my things I want.
I took pictures of everything that Iwanted to achieve in my life, and
I put them up on a wall. Every morning, I will look at
him, and I will pray toGod and say, hey, I pray
at the things that I want toachieve in my life are aligned to your
will and your glory. Right.And I get up every day and when

(01:02:10):
the days that I didn't want todo anything like in my vision board,
I had I wanted to get married, I had the cars that I wanted
to drive, I had the housethat I wanted to buy. I had
just all these things that I hadlines. I wanted to be a better
tither, you know what I mean. I'm being able to give more and
do things like I had all ofthese visions and board things that on my

(01:02:35):
board, and every time I wasable to achieve one. So my practice
and routines that that that Joe Ashwas saying, you know, I mean,
I would work hard at knocking oneof my things off and if it
took me four years. So whenyou stay putting your trust in God to
me being successful, sometimes sometimes youdo get knocked off and you still got
to be persistent. You still gotto work your systems, and you still

(01:02:59):
got to put your trust in God, and you still got to be have
your integrity in doing it. You'renot selling yourself out, you know what
I mean, selling yourself short.But it's a good thing when you are
able to do all those things andyou see something on your board in that
day, you come home, you'relike, check, take it off the

(01:03:20):
board. Either you can replace itwith something new, but you achieve what
you have that you visually got it, because especially on a rainy days when
you don't feel like doing nothing,and it's like then you to look at
your board and say, yeah,this is what I'm getting up, this
is why I'm doing it, youknow what I'm saying. And it could
be many different things. It couldbe family members sick and you got to

(01:03:43):
be the one to get up andbut you wake up and you look at
that board and like and you gotto make sure that board is in a
place where you know you're gonna haveto walk past it every time. You
know what I'm saying. So it'sa reminder, this is what you doing
it for. You know what I'msaying. This is what the grind is

(01:04:05):
all about. Grind is all aboutwhat you know what I mean, This
is I'm working hard for and thatgrind feels good when you are able to
take one of them things off thatboard. Man, Absolutely, you know
what I mean. It's a beautifulthing. But I also do agree with
Joe, as I can tell you. One time me and my wife was

(01:04:25):
having a conversation. She was like, oh, you don't do this,
d especially when we talk about billsand stuff, right, And I'm like,
Yo, I'm looking at her,like Yo, I'm a what you're
talking about. I'm a businessman.I do this because my wife's not into
my business and stuff. She don'tknow how. One day we was talking
because she don't really know how organizedI am. So I was like,
what when I came and I showedher my calendar, I had all the

(01:04:45):
bills lined up when stuff is dude, this, that and the third,
and just she was blown away byit. I'm like, this is a
light man. When you know whatI mean, like, what are you
talking about? What are we talkingabout here? You know what I'm saying,
like, this is what we youWe don't need to be frantically all
emotional and stressed out because she usedto come to me and be like,

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yo, so when you gonna dothis? When does this bill do?
I don't know? So well howyou don't know? Because I got it
in my mind. I gotta writtenon my calendar whenever it says they need
to do it, that's when Ipay it. You know what I'm saying.
But to her, she wants meto give her an answer. I
don't know. I don't know.I don't know. When I have a
calendar set up when stuff needs toget paid, and I just pay it

(01:05:30):
when I need to pay it.You know what I'm saying if I can't
pay it that day, I knowI'll pay it the next day. I'll
pay I'll pay it beforehand, orwhatever the case may be. But I
don't need you pressing me asking mewhen is this due? Like I'm just
gonna like, I don't you knowwhat I mean, I don't know in
the back of my head. Igotta written down. That's what we do.
We gotta tell them, Joe ashwe got systems in plays. Man,

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you know what I'm saying, actuallydo. But yes, like I
said, so for everybody who listensinto this this podcast, we're going to
talk about men's success. That atleast, that's what we're gonna start off.
What y'all want to talk about first, y'all want to talk about men
in business, men in relationships,men and our Christian faith, What success

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looks like? What for for thenext episode, So each one of y'all
can do a little bit of researchon it too and bring something to the
table. But what y'all want todress first as men, men in relationships,
men, men and your walk withGod. Like you know they say
in the Bible, aren't sharpeners aren't. So that's that's what we're trying to
do today. So on this podcast, So what would what would you the

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people? What do? What doyou? What would y'all want as men
address? First? What do youthink is a highly regarded thing that we
should address. I'm thinking about Christianmen. Just do I think lay down
the foundations? Okay, So nextweek we're going to talk about what success
looks like as a Christian man withyour walk with God. That sounds good.

(01:07:03):
You got to look forward to thisbecause this is educational series. And
I also want y'all too if y'allgot questions that y'all want to ask and
bring to the table, you knowwhat I mean. So it's this is
not a podcast. While I'm sittinghere coming out with teaching. Your episode,
teaching and preaching aren't shopping and armman. So I want all of

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us to be able to we allhost on this show, you know what
I mean? We can all askaddress questions, ask questions if we might
have a conversation that we might wantto have. And then all of a
sudden, one of y' other,like brother, I was this week,
Love was speaking to me and Ineed to I need to dress this to
the congregation and that's what I wantto do. Man, aren't shopping arm

(01:07:47):
man, So you know, weall can learn from each other, you
know what I mean. And Ihope that a lot of men will and
women. You know, we gota couple of women listeners already, but
maybe they can understand their husbands alittle bit more. Their boyfriend's a little
bit more about listening to things froma fellaw's perspective. So for everybody who

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is listening in, if y'all wantto definitely send us a chat or something
like that. If you have aquestion that you would like to ask the
fellas to touch and agree on,let us know. I know all the
guys here have some ideas and advicesthat they would like to share and give
too. And that's what I'm lookingfor, man, I'm looking for us

(01:08:30):
to just have a chill out sessionand be able to shoppers are on this
one, you know what I mean. It's a little different than I want
to approach this one, a littlebit different than the normal is. There's
a host in you know, Iwant to have some fun and we chilled
and we just chop it up aboutdifferent things. I have one last question
out of the curiosity, what doyou think about what's going on in Israel

(01:08:53):
right now and the whole missiles beingyou know, shot back and forth,
do you think do you think,I mean, do you think this is
translating to us living in the lastdays? Or is it just I mean,
obviously we both we all know thatwe are. But do I think

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this is pushing us closer closer towhat to Jesus return? Yeah? There
you go, Jesus could be,could be, could be precursor Domino?
Yeah? Does that? Does that? Do y'all? Look at this?

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I don't want to, I don'twant to go off topic. I know
we're about the end, but Iwas looking at this thing right, it's
kind of mind boggling to me.Just just bear with me on this one.
I was looking at and Israel they'remaking this big, a big deal
about this rad heifer, right,the red heifer. Mm hmm. And

(01:10:00):
I didn't understand the symbolism behind thered heifer. Right. I started watching
some stuff and they were showing howthe red heifer to the the Jews now
is kind of like when you hadto when they had to, I got
you, Eddie, when they hadto, when the when the priests back

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in the day had to go intothe temple to sacrifice a red heifer for
for them to you know, repentfor their sins and things of that nature.
All of the items that they hadto gather together by the same items
that Jesus died on the cross with, which was very interesting in me.

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This rad Heffer symbolism is real.Even the priests amounted the age that they
had to be, the the circumstancesto which they had to grow up and
live in the priests, they hadto come from Aaron's lineage, all of
these things. And even still todaythey're making a big deal about this raffers.
This raffish is uh. It hasto be pure about spot or wrinkle.

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Like the criteria, the criterias ofthis was kind of mind blowing to
me. So I was just likethey just got the raffer to it.
They found a raffle and they foundthe lineage of They found i think four
guys that came from the lineage ofthat were born not in the hospital,
was born in in a house orthe stable, or whatever the case for

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four individuals that came from Aaron's lineage. So I'm like this this sounds it
sounds sounds way too deep. It'sgetting deep, it's heating up, and
they already talked about building another temple. Man, So yeah, think about

(01:11:58):
that though, Man, is thatjust news or or do you find any
anything mine? You know? Mindboggling about that? So y'all get excited?
Do you get nervous? Like?Wow? Oh I know that drink

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anyway? For me? Yeah?Well, I'm neutral. I'm kind of
I don't want to get into deepinto it, but I also don't want
to miss on miss out on fulfillingyou know, my purpose in life something
like that. So I'm neutral,like fifty to fifty interesting, but I

(01:12:44):
don't want too much something like that. I'm where I'm at that point,
so it could be. But yeah, all right, Fritz, there's a
question that's being posted. I'm gonnalet you answer this one. This one
comes from Grace. She says,how how does the Israel and Palestinian war
affect your view of your future?Is there an impact in your current life

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situation? Yeah, it affects myview of future to a point that it
helps me to look at it andsay to myself that I really have to
live, you know, in viewof Jesus is coming, because if these

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are signs, they could be,they could be not, nobody knows.
Still, it's a reminder for meto live this life that I have in
view, that you know, anytimeJesus could come, any time, you
know, the trumpet can sound andangels can sing, you know, and

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and he'll be here, regardless ofthe situation in Israel and Palestine, if
they get if they continue in thewar, or eventually they'll make peace.
I don't know, right in anyonein any case, it just it just
gives me a greater sense that thisthis, this is just you know,

(01:14:32):
this is is coming. Right.So yeah, I think we all can
for the sake of time, Ithink we all can you agree? Oh,
our brother Fritz am I am?I correct? Fellas you agree with
him? Yep, all right,cool, cool, Grace. Thanks for

(01:14:56):
the question, Grace. We appreciateyou. We're gonna tap out. I'm
gonna let these fellas go. Know, it's almost eleven something in the Philippines,
Eddie. I don't know what timeis it there, but it looked
like the sun is starting to gonow. I'm just now getting into my
day. So I appreciate you guys. Next week for everybody were talking about

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success for men in our walks withChrist or in our walk with Christ?
What does that look like? Howdo we achieve success? What? What
things we need to do. We'regonna, we're gonna even walk on our
principles we said integrity, What practices? What systems we need to put in
place to be to develop the habitsof being a Christian successful man? What

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do we need to do to putour trust in God? How how do
we need to trust God and beingand successful? And what goals and visions
we need to be able to seeto get there? So that's what we're
gonna. We're gonna, We're gonna, We're gonna. We're gonna use what
we just said, put them,put them to work. Y'all want to
give a shout to anybody before wetap out. Shout out to my girlfriend,

(01:16:08):
shout out to my wife, Ethel, to my kids. That's what's
up, that's what up. Iwon't give a shout out to my wife
as well. I want to givea shout out to I want to give
a shout to Grace. Grace actuallyused to be one of the She used
to be on my familiar with meon the podcast, so I want to
go shout to her for tapping inand listening. Shout out to Miranda.

(01:16:30):
I'm gonna call him Miranda today.I want to give a shout out to
Miranda Uh, Jenny and Kathy UHfor tapping in and listening to our show
as well. I met Eddie havingsome internet issue. Shout out to my
man Eddie. Yeah. We signit out man, y'all feel us,
enjoy your night. Till next time, man, till we meet again,

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God blessed see you. That's whatit is. We out