October 3, 2025 • 25 mins
In this gripping episode of our podcast, we dive into top stories from a day packed with raw family secrets, marital meltdowns, and wedding boundary battles. From uncovering hidden paternities to clashing over lost loved ones' wishes, these tales explore the messy lines between loyalty, grief, and self-respect. Join us as we read the posts word-for-word and share honest commentary on whether these posters are in the wrong—or just standing up for what's right.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to another episode of our podcast, where we
dive into the juiciest stories from the am I the
Bleephole subreddit and other drama filled corners of Reddit. Today,
we've got a fresh line up of top stories from
a day that's got everyone talking, full of family, money grabs,
bedroom battles, and those heart tugging moments that make you
question loyalties. We'll read through them one by one and
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I'll chime in with a bit of commentary along the
way to unpack the drama. If you're new here, we
keep it real, we keep it clean, and we always
wonder am I the Bleephole? Let's jump right in. Our
first story comes from a poster who's dealing with some
seriously unfair family finances. The title is am I the Bleephole?
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For threatening to quit my job if my dad continues
what he's doing. All right, here we go for some background.
Sixteen female have lived with my dad, sixty four male
for about a year now. My parents are divorced and
I am not close with my mother. I'm going into
my senior year. I'm graduating a year early and start
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school again in a week or so. Last year, in November,
I began working at a restaurant as a hostess to
save up for a car. I take the bus to
and from school as well as to work, and a
car would save me a lot of time. I make
minimum wage and I pull in a little over one
thousand dollars a month after taxes. I put about sixty
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to seventy percent of that into savings and spend the
rest on various things like going out with friends or
Funko pops. In February of this year, my dad told me,
since I was making so much money, I needed to
start contributing to the household. At first, this was fine.
He asked that I pay for my phone bill and utilities.
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We rent from a family member, so utilities are discounted
and my phone bill isn't too expensive either. Both things
are about two hundred dollars. With this, I was saving less,
so I still had spending money, but still had set
aside four hundred to five hundred dollars every month for
the car. In July, he decided I needed to pay
a portion of the rent. I tried to argue with
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him on that, but he threatened to close my account,
which he can do because he opened it for me,
I had to start giving him five hundred dollars on
top of the two hundred a month, totaling seven hundred
a month. With the three hundred I had left, I
saved two hundred for the car and kept one hundred.
I was pretty fed up at this point, but it
gets worse. I have some cash in a jar in
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my room in case I go do something that you
can't use a cart for. I had about three hundred
dollars in the jar from several months. Last week, I
came home from work and the jar is empty. When
I asked my dad, he said that since I'm his daughter,
he's entitled to the money I make. I was furious.
I told him he had to give it back, but
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he had already spent it on some bs Amazon purchases.
Lucky me. He told me he wanted one hundred extra
dollars a month because I shouldn't have that much money
just for me. So after all this, I'm only pulling
in two hundred dollars a month. That's if I don't
save any Last night, I told my dad I was
going to give my two weeks notice. I work hard
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and I'm exhausted. It isn't worth a few hundred dollars
I get. He was absolutely furious and said that I
owe it to him to contribute to the household. I
go to work in a few hours and I'm planning
on letting them know I won't be continuing. So am
I the bleephole too long? Didn't read? My dad takes
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the majority of my salary for himself and working is
no longer worth it, so I'm quitting my job. Update.
First of all, thank you to everyone who responded and
gave advice. I did not expect this to get so
many up votes and comments. I expected like fifty tops,
so just wow. I posted this on a Thursday and
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went to work that day as usual. I decided, again
my better judgment not to tell my boss anything. The
restaurant I work at is a little family owned small business,
and I'm pretty close with my boss, the owner. She's
kind of like an auntie and she's a family friend.
How I got the job at fifteen on Friday. When
I went and I told her briefly about the situation,
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I asked her not to report it, which she agreed to.
Someone suggested asking if I could get my checks in cash,
so I asked her about that, and she said, yes,
I have my cash hidden in a locked box. My
dad doesn't know the combo too, and I will probably
continue keeping it in there. My dad would have to
close the account I currently have, so it's open for now.
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My dad is out of the state until Monday, so
I'm home alone for now and have time to make
sure all my cash and stuff is out of his reach.
To address some of the comments, my dad is not
abusive physically and did not harm my mother in any way.
They only have a seven year age gap and met
later in life. My dad he isn't a bad person,
but he is sick. He's been an alcoholic since I
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can remember, and while I don't know how he could
possibly be spending eight hundred a month on booze, I'm
sure he is. I'm moving out next year, so emancipation
doesn't seem worth what it would cost and how long
it few. That update adds even more layers to this
tough spot. Can you imagine grinding away at a job
just to watch your hard earned cash vanish into your
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parents pockets. This sixteen year old is hustling like an adult,
and her dad's treating her like an at m with
no return policy. Absolutely not the bleephole here. She's protecting
her future by drawing that line, even if it means
tough choices. Kudos to her boss stepping up too. That's
the kind of support system we all need. If this
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were you, would you quit or fight the system harder?
Hang in there, kiddo. All right, onto our next story,
which hits right in the guest room drama. This one's
a classic fan family visit gone sideways. The title am
I the bleephole for refusing to give up my bed
to my sister and her husband during a family visit.
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Let's read it first time doing a Reddit post, So
this is probably going to be confusing. So I'm eighteen,
female and I live with my parents in a good
sized house. I have two brothers who are sixteen and thirteen,
and one sister who is twenty six, and she has
a husband twenty eight. Every so often, my family would
have a family reunion with mainly everyone from my mom's
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side of the family. Usually, whenever this happens, we get
an airbnb that is close to our house, so my
relatives would be close enough to us. So my sister
had arrived two days ago at first, her and her
husband were just staying at a hotel they live about
two hours away. But then yesterday she came over to
our house and asked my parents if she could just
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stay at the house because her husband, Michael, didn't want
to be driving back and forth. Of course, my parents
were fine with this, so they allowed her to stay
hover While this was all happening, I was at my
best friend's house, So this happened around one to two
p M. Around three p EMM. I finally got back
home and was kind of surprised to see my sister Amelia,
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just because no one told me she was coming over today.
So when I walked and I said hi to her,
and then was about to head upstairs to my room
when she stopped me to ask if her and her
husband could stay in my room until they leave. I
was confused and asked her why because she was supposed
to have a hotel to stay in. But she told
me that Michael didn't want to be driving back and
forth to the house and the hotel, and that they
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didn't want to sleep on the couch, and they knew
they couldn't sleep in the guest room because that's where
our uncle and aunt, we're going to be sleeping. I
told her that I was sorry, but I didn't want
her and Michael to be sleeping in my bed and
that I most definitely did not want to be sleeping
on the couch. She got angry at me, then walked
into the kitchen to tell my mom and Michael. So
my mom started giving me reasons as to why I
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should let Amelia and Michael use my bed. But I
just think that it's ridiculous and I shouldn't have to
give up my bed because Michael doesn't want to drive
to and from their hotel. Anyways, Am I the bleephole?
I really don't think I am. But today and yesterday
my sister and Michael have been pressuring me to give
them my bed. Edit. Quick little thing I want to
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add is at no point did anyone think to ask
my brothers. They are the youngest, so why don't they
give up their beds? Edit? I low key forgot about this.
But the day after this, I had to go to school,
and when I got back, my sisters and her husband's
suit cases were in my room and I was forced
to sleep on the couch. And then about two days later,
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so the day before they were going to leave. It
was late at night and I was grabbing something from
my room when I heard some noises coming from my bedroom.
I already knew what was going on, and I became
so disgusted, but I didn't want to see anything, so
I just went back down to the couch. I did
tell my mom, and she legit said, quote for quote,
that's just what adults do. So my sister didn't get
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in trouble. But I'm so ready for college and when
I get my own apartment, my sister will be banned
from ever staying over. I'm legit just so disgusted by
her actions. But that's my update on this situation. Oh boy,
the update turns this from awkward to outright icky. Nobody
should be ousted from their own bed for a married
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couple's convenience, especially when hotels exist for a reason, and
that noise situation Yike's total boundary violation, the poster's mom
dropping the ball there is wild. Family visits shouldn't mean
surrendering your space and privacy. Not the bleephole at all,
stand firm, and yeah, that apartment ban sounds like self
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care gold Who else has horror stories from uninvited overnights.
Let's keep the family vibes rolling with our next one
up next a story about uneven family favoritism that tugs
at the heartstrings. The title Am I the bleephole for
not treating our niece? Is the same here we go.
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My husband's sister and her husband have two daughters. One
I'm going to call Emma, who is now seventeen. The
other I'm going to call Kayla, who is now fifteen.
Kayla has been battling cancer since she was a little girl. Thankfully,
she is in remission now. However, because she was so
sick for most of her childhood, her parents were often
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very busy, either with work or caring for her. Emma
often got forgotten in far less attention from her parents,
so we would watch after her a lot. We watched
her so much that she basically lived at our house.
She even has her own room. We grew to see
her more like our own daughter than our niece. Emma
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has likewise said before on several occasions that she sees
us more like parents than her real parents. Similarly, she
sees our son like her only siblings. Since she didn't
spend that much time with Kayla, growing up, they actually
don't have much of a relationship nowadays. We always tried
to treat Emma the same as how we treated our son.
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That meant we would buy her similar things and take
her with us on trips. We've never had any resistance
from my sister in law and her husband until recently.
Now they think we need to go back to treating
the girls equally like we did back before Kayla got sick.
We're having a hard time reconciling with this idea of
treating them equally because we feel so much like Emma
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is our daughter and to suddenly treat her like she
isn't feel so cruel to her and ourselves. Also, we
feel that it would be weird to suddenly treat Kayla
like she is ours. It just feels awkward and like overstepping,
although they say it isn't, and I think part of
it is that Kyla is used to getting so much
attention from so many other people in her life and
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now isn't, so they want more attention from us to compensate.
Along with that, she also isn't getting things from various
charities any more either. It's also a bit complicated since
we have other nieces and nephews from my husband's other siblings.
They have always understood us treating Emma like our own
since they think of her as our kid too, but
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also to them, Cayla isn't, so it would end up
seeming like we are favoring her over them, which is
problematic because in the larger family there have been issues
with the kids because whenever Caelah was around, every one
had to always make things work for her, which led
to many disappointments for the other kids. So there's definitely
some feelings of resentment. This one's a real emotional tangle,
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love and loss all mixed up in family ties. The
posters built this beautiful bond with Emma out of necessity
and heart, and now it's being questioned like it's a scorecard,
not the bleep whole they've been the steady rock Emma
needed and forcing equality now could shatter that it's okay
to love differently based on what's real, not what's fair
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on paper. Maybe a family chat could bridge it, but
props for stepping up when it counted. Heart breaking but
hopeful shifting gears to marital money matters. For our next
tale title, am I the bleep whole for telling my
husband he needs to pay me back for the down
payment discrepancy for our house purchase. Let's dive in. Here's
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the deal. My husband late thirties and I late thirties
got married last year and are now in the process
of buying a home together. For me, it's my first home.
For him, it's the second, although the other one is
owned along with his parents and sibling. I tried to
buy several years ago, but was priced out in the
area I'm in, so I've spent the past several years
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saving a lot to go towards my eventual purchase, to
the tune of now over one hundred thousand saved. My
husband has been fortunate to live with his parents most
of his adult life and therefore hasn't had many bills.
We both are employed and have been making the same
amount of money for at least eight or so years,
both making mid one hundred thousands. When it came time
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to buy a home, his budget was a lot higher
than mine, as I am much more conservative with my spending.
We have finally settled on a home that is a
bit under our budget yea, but I will be bringing
eighty thousand to closing, and he will be bringing fifty thousand.
The thing is, I wasn't gifted this money, and I
came upon every cent from working very hard through my
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twenties and thirties and saving when I could have been
having more fun. So it's not just a willy nilly
thing to spend this much for me. My husband isn't
as financially responsible, but I know it is rare to
have as much saved for a house as a middle
class American. But I can't help but be a little bothered.
He had a high budget with a seeming expectation that
I was just going to make up for his shortcomings.
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When I told him I expected him to pay me
back over time, of course, for the difference in what
I'm bringing to the table to make this happen for us,
he was upset and basically said, we are married, your
money is mine and vice versa. We have always kept
our finances separate and I like it that way. So
I'm not really of the same mind mindset. Am I
the bleephole for expecting him to make it even eventually? Oof?
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House hunting should be exciting, not a finance fight. This
poster scrimped and saved like a boss for her dream
only to cover the gap. That's not partnership, that's patching,
not the bleephole. Separate finances mean separate accountability and expecting
payback keeps it equitable. Marriage merges, hearts not always wallets talk,
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prenup vibes for the house, solid move now for a
deeper relational rift. Our next story's got that heavy weight
of drifting apart the title. Am I the bleephole for
thinking of divorce my wife? Over this? Buckle up. I'm
thirty five male, married to my wife, thirty four female
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for seven years. We have four year old twin daughters.
I work as a software development engineer and have good
work life balance, and my wife is a lawyer with
a very demanding schedule. She works twelve to thirteen hours
most days in regular day. Our mornings start with her
getting the kids ready for preschool and dropping them off
on her way to work. In the afternoon, she comes
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home briefly to pick them up from school, has lunch
with them, then heads back and nanny stays with them
until I get home in the evening. Once I'm back,
I spend time with them, help them with school stuff,
and spend the evening with them, help them in their activities,
slash study, feed them dinner, make them sleep. My daughters
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don't eat sleep without me accompanying them at all. On
week ends, I usually take kids out parks, long drives,
small staycations, or to my parents home, always just the
three of us, and it just feels like it's me
and the kids. Now. My wife and I have become
more like co parents. We don't have emotional connection, and
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we barely get time to talk, let alone have moments
of intimacy. I do love my wife, but it's getting
really very frustrated. It's just that we're just keeping this
going for the sake of kids. She feels guilty for
not spending enough time with the kids in their formative
years and tries to make up for it by focusing
only on them whenever she is home. Her whole life
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seems to revolve around work and the kids. I'm just
nowhere now. I'm not happy at all. But whenever I
ask her to take things slow, I feel guilty, like
I'm forcing her to mess up her already overloaded schedule
just to keep our relationship. And then I hate myself
for feeling like a burden, and to make things worse,
a few weeks ago, she found out that I was
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chatting with my colleague at two to three a m.
It was literally a normal chat. We were just talking
about a party and the colleague just complimented me on
a shirt and only said I liked your shirt. I
even found it weird, but just said thanks and moved on.
The Next day, during our kid's piano class, my wife
had my phone and saw the message. Since then, she's
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been throwing passive aggressive taunts at me, like why was
your colleague complimenting your shirt at three am? She even
thought that I'm emotionally cheating her. I explained everything that
colleagues sent me text about project report earlier, and I
wake up at three a m. So I just replied, okay,
go ahead, and then colleague instantly came online and gave
more update, and the chat shifted to recent office party
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and she complimented I liked your shirt, which I felt
really weird, so I just replied thanks and immediately closed
the chat. That was hardly five minute convo. My wife
eventually accepted that there was nothing wrong, but now she
gets so passive aggressive and brushes me off all the time. Recently,
I suggested her that if she wants, she can consider
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leaving her job or take a break considering her health,
and I can manage financially. She got offended in that
too and said she doesn't want to leave her job.
I get it, but what about the kids. I'm doing
all the parenting, I'm handling work, managing the house staff,
giving my best to everyone, and I'm lonely as hell.
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I feel like I'm stuck in my marriage and not
happy at all. PostScript. We have househelps and personal chefs
available in our country, so it's not that we cook
food or do any house chores of our own. We
both earn equally and are in high income bracket of
our country. My kid's preschool and wife's office are on
the same way, while mine is in opposite direction. Edit.
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Thank you all for the insightful comments. I honestly didn't
expect this post to blow up. I'm writing this edit
four days later after going through the responses. I've started
individual counseling, and I've come to realize that I haven't
been the partner I should be. I can't expect her
to be emotionally available to me if I'm not putting
effort into the relationship myself. I'm now taking things seriously
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and committing to making real changes. Today, Hey, I surprised
her by showing up at her office with a bouquet
and offered to pick her up. She wasn't expecting it,
and she was genuinely happy to see me there. It
was just one small step, but I know I have
a lot more to do, and I'm ready to put
into work to improve our marriage. This story's a gut punch,
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from solo parenting to that late night chat misunderstanding. It's
all piling on the loneliness, but that added a turnaround
Taale with counseling and a sweet surprise, not the bleephole.
He's carrying the load and craving connection, which is valid love.
The proactive pivot small gestures can rebuild bridges if you're
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in a similar rut. Therapy's a game changer. One more
to wrap this up, strong final story today secrets in
the scroll the title Am I the bleephole for being
upset about my girlfriend's secret TikTok account which had me blocked.
Let's go, So I made this account to specifically post
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this question because I feel like I am going insane
and have nobody to talk to. So I've been dating
this girl for not too long, around four months, and
although things have been up and down, we've had several
issues which she's come across in her life, although together
we manage to get through all of them, despite both
of us having autism, which makes life difficult sometimes when
trying to express our emotions and convey how we feel
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without having an artistic meltdown for context. These include topics
such as self harm and family issues. As she's recently
moved out of her previous toxic home environment which caused
a multitude of issues for her mental health, I have
been trying to help her establish healthy habits while also
understanding that for an artistic person, change is difficult and
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also doesn't happen overnight. This is alongside us starting to
grow distant and speaking less as she finds ways to
fill her time and becomes less dependent on me. This
is when she stumbled upon intimacy content, which she was
intrigued by at first, although as we're in a no
pornography relationship, I early established that it made me uncomfortable,
especially since the content she was reading was dark romance
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intimacy content, extremely taboo and made me feel uncomfortable by
the rate she was looking at it. This included her
reading fan fictions, consuming book talk content, and other forms
of this. She comforted me and made it clear that
it was just out of curiosity and that she wasn't
into it, wasn't reading it, and didn't like the content
in it. She expressed that it just intrigued her and
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she wasn't actually into any of the content, and we
moved on from that. She started showing me less of
it and I thought that was the end of it.
It came up every so often since then, but she
kept reassuring me that it was the last of it.
I gave several opportunities to open up about it, several
opportunities to talk about it and find ways to make
it work, but she reassured me that she wasn't consuming it,
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that she wasn't into it, and she was also firmly
no pornography. This all leads to to day where she
accidentally showed me her secret tik tok account, which was
full of intimacy content, other men and thirst traps, while
also having other content. Besides that, the biggest issue with
me however, was the fact that she told me she
had me blocked. The only reason I was able to
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see it in the first place on my own is
that it came up and I happened to be on
my tik tok business account rather than my personal account,
which she didn't have me blocked on. I confronted her
about this, how she kept the content a secret despite
multiple times asking about it, and how she blocked me
on the account, and how I was hurt not because
of the content itself, but because she blocked me, hid
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it from me, and lied to me, which hurt It
wasn't the fact she was looking at the content itself.
After this, my girlfriend decided to call me controlling and
that she wasn't trying to keep secrets. She said I
was trying to guilt trip her as I was talking
about how it made me feel and said there was
a reason she didn't want me to see it and
left it at that. She said it was all a
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joke and that I shouldn't be hurt by it, that
I am using it as a method to guilt trip
and control her. This isn't a resolved issue, as we
figured its best we take time to ourselves to consolidate
our thoughts and then talk when she's calmed down. I
am currently hurt in trying to understand what's the best
way to tackle this situation, to come to a resolution,
or if there is anything left here to salvage. The
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whole premise of why I am upset is the fact
that she felt the need to lie to me, to
hide secrets and to specifically make accounts which had me
blocked to further these secrets. Or if I am overreacting
over something which doesn't matter enough to have my reaction
over it, and I really am turning this into a
big thing too long didn't read girlfriend started lying about
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consuming intimacy content and made a secret TikTok account which
had me blocked on it and made it seem like
I was guilt tripping her by expressing my feelings and
controlling for saying that it wasn't okay to block me
on an account to hide secrets. Am I too controlling
in being a bleep whole? Or am I valid for
feeling this way? Trust breakers hit different, especially early in
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a relationship with extra life neurodiversity. The poster's not policing content,
he's reeling from the lies and blocks which screen secrecy
over safety, not the bleep whole. Honesty is the foundation,
and space to process is smart if it's salvageable. Clear
boundaries ahead. Communication meltdowns suck, but they're navigable. And that's
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our round up for today, folks. From cash grabs to
secret scrolls, these stories pack a punch on family, fairness
and feelings. They remind us that boundaries aren't buzzkills, their lifelines.
If one's got you nodding, share in the comments or
reflect on your own drama until next time. Keep questioning,
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keep connecting, and remember you're probably not the bleep whole.
Thanks for tuning in,
Welcome back to another episode of our podcast, where we
dive into the juiciest stories from the am I the
Bleephole subreddit and other drama filled corners of Reddit. Today,
we've got a fresh line up of top stories from
a day that's got everyone talking, full of family, money grabs,
bedroom battles, and those heart tugging moments that make you
question loyalties. We'll read through them one by one and
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I'll chime in with a bit of commentary along the
way to unpack the drama. If you're new here, we
keep it real, we keep it clean, and we always
wonder am I the Bleephole? Let's jump right in. Our
first story comes from a poster who's dealing with some
seriously unfair family finances. The title is am I the Bleephole?
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For threatening to quit my job if my dad continues
what he's doing. All right, here we go for some background.
Sixteen female have lived with my dad, sixty four male
for about a year now. My parents are divorced and
I am not close with my mother. I'm going into
my senior year. I'm graduating a year early and start
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school again in a week or so. Last year, in November,
I began working at a restaurant as a hostess to
save up for a car. I take the bus to
and from school as well as to work, and a
car would save me a lot of time. I make
minimum wage and I pull in a little over one
thousand dollars a month after taxes. I put about sixty
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to seventy percent of that into savings and spend the
rest on various things like going out with friends or
Funko pops. In February of this year, my dad told me,
since I was making so much money, I needed to
start contributing to the household. At first, this was fine.
He asked that I pay for my phone bill and utilities.
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We rent from a family member, so utilities are discounted
and my phone bill isn't too expensive either. Both things
are about two hundred dollars. With this, I was saving less,
so I still had spending money, but still had set
aside four hundred to five hundred dollars every month for
the car. In July, he decided I needed to pay
a portion of the rent. I tried to argue with
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him on that, but he threatened to close my account,
which he can do because he opened it for me,
I had to start giving him five hundred dollars on
top of the two hundred a month, totaling seven hundred
a month. With the three hundred I had left, I
saved two hundred for the car and kept one hundred.
I was pretty fed up at this point, but it
gets worse. I have some cash in a jar in
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my room in case I go do something that you
can't use a cart for. I had about three hundred
dollars in the jar from several months. Last week, I
came home from work and the jar is empty. When
I asked my dad, he said that since I'm his daughter,
he's entitled to the money I make. I was furious.
I told him he had to give it back, but
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he had already spent it on some bs Amazon purchases.
Lucky me. He told me he wanted one hundred extra
dollars a month because I shouldn't have that much money
just for me. So after all this, I'm only pulling
in two hundred dollars a month. That's if I don't
save any Last night, I told my dad I was
going to give my two weeks notice. I work hard
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and I'm exhausted. It isn't worth a few hundred dollars
I get. He was absolutely furious and said that I
owe it to him to contribute to the household. I
go to work in a few hours and I'm planning
on letting them know I won't be continuing. So am
I the bleephole too long? Didn't read? My dad takes
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the majority of my salary for himself and working is
no longer worth it, so I'm quitting my job. Update.
First of all, thank you to everyone who responded and
gave advice. I did not expect this to get so
many up votes and comments. I expected like fifty tops,
so just wow. I posted this on a Thursday and
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went to work that day as usual. I decided, again
my better judgment not to tell my boss anything. The
restaurant I work at is a little family owned small business,
and I'm pretty close with my boss, the owner. She's
kind of like an auntie and she's a family friend.
How I got the job at fifteen on Friday. When
I went and I told her briefly about the situation,
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I asked her not to report it, which she agreed to.
Someone suggested asking if I could get my checks in cash,
so I asked her about that, and she said, yes,
I have my cash hidden in a locked box. My
dad doesn't know the combo too, and I will probably
continue keeping it in there. My dad would have to
close the account I currently have, so it's open for now.
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My dad is out of the state until Monday, so
I'm home alone for now and have time to make
sure all my cash and stuff is out of his reach.
To address some of the comments, my dad is not
abusive physically and did not harm my mother in any way.
They only have a seven year age gap and met
later in life. My dad he isn't a bad person,
but he is sick. He's been an alcoholic since I
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can remember, and while I don't know how he could
possibly be spending eight hundred a month on booze, I'm
sure he is. I'm moving out next year, so emancipation
doesn't seem worth what it would cost and how long
it few. That update adds even more layers to this
tough spot. Can you imagine grinding away at a job
just to watch your hard earned cash vanish into your
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parents pockets. This sixteen year old is hustling like an adult,
and her dad's treating her like an at m with
no return policy. Absolutely not the bleephole here. She's protecting
her future by drawing that line, even if it means
tough choices. Kudos to her boss stepping up too. That's
the kind of support system we all need. If this
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were you, would you quit or fight the system harder?
Hang in there, kiddo. All right, onto our next story,
which hits right in the guest room drama. This one's
a classic fan family visit gone sideways. The title am
I the bleephole for refusing to give up my bed
to my sister and her husband during a family visit.
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Let's read it first time doing a Reddit post, So
this is probably going to be confusing. So I'm eighteen,
female and I live with my parents in a good
sized house. I have two brothers who are sixteen and thirteen,
and one sister who is twenty six, and she has
a husband twenty eight. Every so often, my family would
have a family reunion with mainly everyone from my mom's
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side of the family. Usually, whenever this happens, we get
an airbnb that is close to our house, so my
relatives would be close enough to us. So my sister
had arrived two days ago at first, her and her
husband were just staying at a hotel they live about
two hours away. But then yesterday she came over to
our house and asked my parents if she could just
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stay at the house because her husband, Michael, didn't want
to be driving back and forth. Of course, my parents
were fine with this, so they allowed her to stay
hover While this was all happening, I was at my
best friend's house, So this happened around one to two
p M. Around three p EMM. I finally got back
home and was kind of surprised to see my sister Amelia,
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just because no one told me she was coming over today.
So when I walked and I said hi to her,
and then was about to head upstairs to my room
when she stopped me to ask if her and her
husband could stay in my room until they leave. I
was confused and asked her why because she was supposed
to have a hotel to stay in. But she told
me that Michael didn't want to be driving back and
forth to the house and the hotel, and that they
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didn't want to sleep on the couch, and they knew
they couldn't sleep in the guest room because that's where
our uncle and aunt, we're going to be sleeping. I
told her that I was sorry, but I didn't want
her and Michael to be sleeping in my bed and
that I most definitely did not want to be sleeping
on the couch. She got angry at me, then walked
into the kitchen to tell my mom and Michael. So
my mom started giving me reasons as to why I
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should let Amelia and Michael use my bed. But I
just think that it's ridiculous and I shouldn't have to
give up my bed because Michael doesn't want to drive
to and from their hotel. Anyways, Am I the bleephole?
I really don't think I am. But today and yesterday
my sister and Michael have been pressuring me to give
them my bed. Edit. Quick little thing I want to
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add is at no point did anyone think to ask
my brothers. They are the youngest, so why don't they
give up their beds? Edit? I low key forgot about this.
But the day after this, I had to go to school,
and when I got back, my sisters and her husband's
suit cases were in my room and I was forced
to sleep on the couch. And then about two days later,
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so the day before they were going to leave. It
was late at night and I was grabbing something from
my room when I heard some noises coming from my bedroom.
I already knew what was going on, and I became
so disgusted, but I didn't want to see anything, so
I just went back down to the couch. I did
tell my mom, and she legit said, quote for quote,
that's just what adults do. So my sister didn't get
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in trouble. But I'm so ready for college and when
I get my own apartment, my sister will be banned
from ever staying over. I'm legit just so disgusted by
her actions. But that's my update on this situation. Oh boy,
the update turns this from awkward to outright icky. Nobody
should be ousted from their own bed for a married
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couple's convenience, especially when hotels exist for a reason, and
that noise situation Yike's total boundary violation, the poster's mom
dropping the ball there is wild. Family visits shouldn't mean
surrendering your space and privacy. Not the bleephole at all,
stand firm, and yeah, that apartment ban sounds like self
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care gold Who else has horror stories from uninvited overnights.
Let's keep the family vibes rolling with our next one
up next a story about uneven family favoritism that tugs
at the heartstrings. The title Am I the bleephole for
not treating our niece? Is the same here we go.
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My husband's sister and her husband have two daughters. One
I'm going to call Emma, who is now seventeen. The
other I'm going to call Kayla, who is now fifteen.
Kayla has been battling cancer since she was a little girl. Thankfully,
she is in remission now. However, because she was so
sick for most of her childhood, her parents were often
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very busy, either with work or caring for her. Emma
often got forgotten in far less attention from her parents,
so we would watch after her a lot. We watched
her so much that she basically lived at our house.
She even has her own room. We grew to see
her more like our own daughter than our niece. Emma
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has likewise said before on several occasions that she sees
us more like parents than her real parents. Similarly, she
sees our son like her only siblings. Since she didn't
spend that much time with Kayla, growing up, they actually
don't have much of a relationship nowadays. We always tried
to treat Emma the same as how we treated our son.
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That meant we would buy her similar things and take
her with us on trips. We've never had any resistance
from my sister in law and her husband until recently.
Now they think we need to go back to treating
the girls equally like we did back before Kayla got sick.
We're having a hard time reconciling with this idea of
treating them equally because we feel so much like Emma
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is our daughter and to suddenly treat her like she
isn't feel so cruel to her and ourselves. Also, we
feel that it would be weird to suddenly treat Kayla
like she is ours. It just feels awkward and like overstepping,
although they say it isn't, and I think part of
it is that Kyla is used to getting so much
attention from so many other people in her life and
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now isn't, so they want more attention from us to compensate.
Along with that, she also isn't getting things from various
charities any more either. It's also a bit complicated since
we have other nieces and nephews from my husband's other siblings.
They have always understood us treating Emma like our own
since they think of her as our kid too, but
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also to them, Cayla isn't, so it would end up
seeming like we are favoring her over them, which is
problematic because in the larger family there have been issues
with the kids because whenever Caelah was around, every one
had to always make things work for her, which led
to many disappointments for the other kids. So there's definitely
some feelings of resentment. This one's a real emotional tangle,
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love and loss all mixed up in family ties. The
posters built this beautiful bond with Emma out of necessity
and heart, and now it's being questioned like it's a scorecard,
not the bleep whole they've been the steady rock Emma
needed and forcing equality now could shatter that it's okay
to love differently based on what's real, not what's fair
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on paper. Maybe a family chat could bridge it, but
props for stepping up when it counted. Heart breaking but
hopeful shifting gears to marital money matters. For our next
tale title, am I the bleep whole for telling my
husband he needs to pay me back for the down
payment discrepancy for our house purchase. Let's dive in. Here's
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the deal. My husband late thirties and I late thirties
got married last year and are now in the process
of buying a home together. For me, it's my first home.
For him, it's the second, although the other one is
owned along with his parents and sibling. I tried to
buy several years ago, but was priced out in the
area I'm in, so I've spent the past several years
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saving a lot to go towards my eventual purchase, to
the tune of now over one hundred thousand saved. My
husband has been fortunate to live with his parents most
of his adult life and therefore hasn't had many bills.
We both are employed and have been making the same
amount of money for at least eight or so years,
both making mid one hundred thousands. When it came time
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to buy a home, his budget was a lot higher
than mine, as I am much more conservative with my spending.
We have finally settled on a home that is a
bit under our budget yea, but I will be bringing
eighty thousand to closing, and he will be bringing fifty thousand.
The thing is, I wasn't gifted this money, and I
came upon every cent from working very hard through my
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twenties and thirties and saving when I could have been
having more fun. So it's not just a willy nilly
thing to spend this much for me. My husband isn't
as financially responsible, but I know it is rare to
have as much saved for a house as a middle
class American. But I can't help but be a little bothered.
He had a high budget with a seeming expectation that
I was just going to make up for his shortcomings.
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When I told him I expected him to pay me
back over time, of course, for the difference in what
I'm bringing to the table to make this happen for us,
he was upset and basically said, we are married, your
money is mine and vice versa. We have always kept
our finances separate and I like it that way. So
I'm not really of the same mind mindset. Am I
the bleephole for expecting him to make it even eventually? Oof?
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House hunting should be exciting, not a finance fight. This
poster scrimped and saved like a boss for her dream
only to cover the gap. That's not partnership, that's patching,
not the bleephole. Separate finances mean separate accountability and expecting
payback keeps it equitable. Marriage merges, hearts not always wallets talk,
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prenup vibes for the house, solid move now for a
deeper relational rift. Our next story's got that heavy weight
of drifting apart the title. Am I the bleephole for
thinking of divorce my wife? Over this? Buckle up. I'm
thirty five male, married to my wife, thirty four female
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for seven years. We have four year old twin daughters.
I work as a software development engineer and have good
work life balance, and my wife is a lawyer with
a very demanding schedule. She works twelve to thirteen hours
most days in regular day. Our mornings start with her
getting the kids ready for preschool and dropping them off
on her way to work. In the afternoon, she comes
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home briefly to pick them up from school, has lunch
with them, then heads back and nanny stays with them
until I get home in the evening. Once I'm back,
I spend time with them, help them with school stuff,
and spend the evening with them, help them in their activities,
slash study, feed them dinner, make them sleep. My daughters
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don't eat sleep without me accompanying them at all. On
week ends, I usually take kids out parks, long drives,
small staycations, or to my parents home, always just the
three of us, and it just feels like it's me
and the kids. Now. My wife and I have become
more like co parents. We don't have emotional connection, and
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we barely get time to talk, let alone have moments
of intimacy. I do love my wife, but it's getting
really very frustrated. It's just that we're just keeping this
going for the sake of kids. She feels guilty for
not spending enough time with the kids in their formative
years and tries to make up for it by focusing
only on them whenever she is home. Her whole life
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seems to revolve around work and the kids. I'm just
nowhere now. I'm not happy at all. But whenever I
ask her to take things slow, I feel guilty, like
I'm forcing her to mess up her already overloaded schedule
just to keep our relationship. And then I hate myself
for feeling like a burden, and to make things worse,
a few weeks ago, she found out that I was
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chatting with my colleague at two to three a m.
It was literally a normal chat. We were just talking
about a party and the colleague just complimented me on
a shirt and only said I liked your shirt. I
even found it weird, but just said thanks and moved on.
The Next day, during our kid's piano class, my wife
had my phone and saw the message. Since then, she's
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been throwing passive aggressive taunts at me, like why was
your colleague complimenting your shirt at three am? She even
thought that I'm emotionally cheating her. I explained everything that
colleagues sent me text about project report earlier, and I
wake up at three a m. So I just replied, okay,
go ahead, and then colleague instantly came online and gave
more update, and the chat shifted to recent office party
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and she complimented I liked your shirt, which I felt
really weird, so I just replied thanks and immediately closed
the chat. That was hardly five minute convo. My wife
eventually accepted that there was nothing wrong, but now she
gets so passive aggressive and brushes me off all the time. Recently,
I suggested her that if she wants, she can consider
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leaving her job or take a break considering her health,
and I can manage financially. She got offended in that
too and said she doesn't want to leave her job.
I get it, but what about the kids. I'm doing
all the parenting, I'm handling work, managing the house staff,
giving my best to everyone, and I'm lonely as hell.
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I feel like I'm stuck in my marriage and not
happy at all. PostScript. We have househelps and personal chefs
available in our country, so it's not that we cook
food or do any house chores of our own. We
both earn equally and are in high income bracket of
our country. My kid's preschool and wife's office are on
the same way, while mine is in opposite direction. Edit.
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Thank you all for the insightful comments. I honestly didn't
expect this post to blow up. I'm writing this edit
four days later after going through the responses. I've started
individual counseling, and I've come to realize that I haven't
been the partner I should be. I can't expect her
to be emotionally available to me if I'm not putting
effort into the relationship myself. I'm now taking things seriously
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and committing to making real changes. Today, Hey, I surprised
her by showing up at her office with a bouquet
and offered to pick her up. She wasn't expecting it,
and she was genuinely happy to see me there. It
was just one small step, but I know I have
a lot more to do, and I'm ready to put
into work to improve our marriage. This story's a gut punch,
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from solo parenting to that late night chat misunderstanding. It's
all piling on the loneliness, but that added a turnaround
Taale with counseling and a sweet surprise, not the bleephole.
He's carrying the load and craving connection, which is valid love.
The proactive pivot small gestures can rebuild bridges if you're
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in a similar rut. Therapy's a game changer. One more
to wrap this up, strong final story today secrets in
the scroll the title Am I the bleephole for being
upset about my girlfriend's secret TikTok account which had me blocked.
Let's go, So I made this account to specifically post
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this question because I feel like I am going insane
and have nobody to talk to. So I've been dating
this girl for not too long, around four months, and
although things have been up and down, we've had several
issues which she's come across in her life, although together
we manage to get through all of them, despite both
of us having autism, which makes life difficult sometimes when
trying to express our emotions and convey how we feel
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without having an artistic meltdown for context. These include topics
such as self harm and family issues. As she's recently
moved out of her previous toxic home environment which caused
a multitude of issues for her mental health, I have
been trying to help her establish healthy habits while also
understanding that for an artistic person, change is difficult and
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also doesn't happen overnight. This is alongside us starting to
grow distant and speaking less as she finds ways to
fill her time and becomes less dependent on me. This
is when she stumbled upon intimacy content, which she was
intrigued by at first, although as we're in a no
pornography relationship, I early established that it made me uncomfortable,
especially since the content she was reading was dark romance
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intimacy content, extremely taboo and made me feel uncomfortable by
the rate she was looking at it. This included her
reading fan fictions, consuming book talk content, and other forms
of this. She comforted me and made it clear that
it was just out of curiosity and that she wasn't
into it, wasn't reading it, and didn't like the content
in it. She expressed that it just intrigued her and
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she wasn't actually into any of the content, and we
moved on from that. She started showing me less of
it and I thought that was the end of it.
It came up every so often since then, but she
kept reassuring me that it was the last of it.
I gave several opportunities to open up about it, several
opportunities to talk about it and find ways to make
it work, but she reassured me that she wasn't consuming it,
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that she wasn't into it, and she was also firmly
no pornography. This all leads to to day where she
accidentally showed me her secret tik tok account, which was
full of intimacy content, other men and thirst traps, while
also having other content. Besides that, the biggest issue with
me however, was the fact that she told me she
had me blocked. The only reason I was able to
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see it in the first place on my own is
that it came up and I happened to be on
my tik tok business account rather than my personal account,
which she didn't have me blocked on. I confronted her
about this, how she kept the content a secret despite
multiple times asking about it, and how she blocked me
on the account, and how I was hurt not because
of the content itself, but because she blocked me, hid
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it from me, and lied to me, which hurt It
wasn't the fact she was looking at the content itself.
After this, my girlfriend decided to call me controlling and
that she wasn't trying to keep secrets. She said I
was trying to guilt trip her as I was talking
about how it made me feel and said there was
a reason she didn't want me to see it and
left it at that. She said it was all a
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joke and that I shouldn't be hurt by it, that
I am using it as a method to guilt trip
and control her. This isn't a resolved issue, as we
figured its best we take time to ourselves to consolidate
our thoughts and then talk when she's calmed down. I
am currently hurt in trying to understand what's the best
way to tackle this situation, to come to a resolution,
or if there is anything left here to salvage. The
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whole premise of why I am upset is the fact
that she felt the need to lie to me, to
hide secrets and to specifically make accounts which had me
blocked to further these secrets. Or if I am overreacting
over something which doesn't matter enough to have my reaction
over it, and I really am turning this into a
big thing too long didn't read girlfriend started lying about
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consuming intimacy content and made a secret TikTok account which
had me blocked on it and made it seem like
I was guilt tripping her by expressing my feelings and
controlling for saying that it wasn't okay to block me
on an account to hide secrets. Am I too controlling
in being a bleep whole? Or am I valid for
feeling this way? Trust breakers hit different, especially early in
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a relationship with extra life neurodiversity. The poster's not policing content,
he's reeling from the lies and blocks which screen secrecy
over safety, not the bleep whole. Honesty is the foundation,
and space to process is smart if it's salvageable. Clear
boundaries ahead. Communication meltdowns suck, but they're navigable. And that's
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our round up for today, folks. From cash grabs to
secret scrolls, these stories pack a punch on family, fairness
and feelings. They remind us that boundaries aren't buzzkills, their lifelines.
If one's got you nodding, share in the comments or
reflect on your own drama until next time. Keep questioning,
(25:44):
keep connecting, and remember you're probably not the bleep whole.
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