October 4, 2025 • 25 mins
That's our extended lineup for today, folks—yard sales, family parties, nicknames, concerts, debts, forced inclusions, social media, school choices, group gifts, and grief. These stories show the messy side of human connections. If they sparked thoughts or debates, that's the goal. Thanks for joining this longer dive—catch you next time for more Reddit drama. Stay kind out there.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to the podcast, where we dive into the
wild world of interpersonal drama from Reddit. We read through
stories from subreddits like am.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I am I the Bleephole, sharing the raw tales and
tossing in some thoughts along the way. To day, We've
got a hefty line up of top stories from a
day that are sure to spark some debate. These are
the kinds of conflicts that make you question relationships, family dynamics,
and personal boundaries. With so many intriguing posts, we're in
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for a longer episode to really unpack them all. Let's
jump right in. Our first story comes from a user
who stepped into a yard sale situation. The title is
am I the Bleephole? For telling a woman to charge
a guy more at a yard sale. I was shopping
around our city's yard sails yesterday and stopped to look
through some clothes. While I was looking, a guy walked
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up and asked the old lady running the sail if
she had anything golf related. My ears perked up because
I have just recently gotten into golf. The lady said
she had her late husband's clubs, but didn't know what
they would be worth, so she dragged them out to
show the guy. It was obvious the guy knew golf
by the way he took a couple practice swings, and
you could tell by his car and clothing. He appeared
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to be well off. As he looked around the bag.
The lady was telling him that her husband had just
passed and that she didn't know if the clubs were
worth anything. He said they weren't that great and offered
two hundred dollars for everything. She seemed hesitant and said
she didn't know, and he just kind of talked over
her and said here, I'll go grab the money and
walked towards his car. I walked over to see what
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was in the bag, and for any one who knows golf,
I'll throw this out there. Almost new g T three
driver and three would gently use Mizuno irons, nice Titliss wedges,
a very nice looking Scotty putter, great condition Tittlus card bag.
This stuff combined would be a steal at one thousand. Obviously,
this lady's late husband had spent a good penny on
the clubs, and I felt bad for her, so I
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told her she should pass on that guy's offer and
have some one at a local course's pro shop helper
price the stuff out to sell if she wanted. She
seemed totally shocked when I told her the driver and
three would were probably worth eight hundred alone. When the
guy came back, he was glaring at me, and when
he tried to hand the lady the cash, she said
no thanks and that she was going to get the
stuff appraised. He got upset and told her she can't
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back out of a deal. So I chimed in that
they didn't really make a deal. He got pissed at
me and told me I needed mind my business. The
lady then told him she wasn't interested again and to
please leave. He walked to the end of the driveway
and just stood there angry like my toddler would. Before
he walked away. He called me in bleep hole and
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stomped off. The whole thing was more funny than anything
to me. I was telling this story to my co
workers to day, and they were all dogging on me,
saying I should have kept my mouth shut and let
the guy get the good deal, but it felt wrong
letting him rip her off. So am I the bleephole here?
That one's a classic case of weather to but in
or stay out of some one else's business. The original
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poster saw what looked like a low ball offer on
valuable items and spoke up, potentially saving the widow from
a bad deal. But the co workers think it was meddling.
Yard sales are all about haggling, but when someone's vulnerable,
like after a loss, maybe a little intervention isn't the
worst thing. What do you think, hero or busybody. Let's
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move to the next story, which touches on family tensions
and standing up against bigotry. Next up a post about
a family gathering gone sour title. Am I the bleep
whole for throwing my nephew out of a family party?
For some context, Me Mail fifty three and my family
live in the South, specifically Charleston, South Carolina. A year back,
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my son, Jake Mail twenty now started attending the University
of South Carolina Go game Cocks, and during his freshman year,
he met a lovely girl named Monique, also twenty years old.
Monique is, as her name suggests, African American, while our
family is Caucasian, but neither me nor any one else
in my immediate family has had any.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Issue with that.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
She's sweet, beautiful and overall an incredible young woman, and
we all accepted her with open arms from the first
time we met her. A week ago, my wife and
I held a party at our home and Jake and
Monique both made the trip from college to attend. The
party was going well until I noticed Jake and Monique
were alone and Monique was crying. I asked what had happened,
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and Monique told me that Jake's cousin, Greg Mail seventeen,
had told him that he shouldn't slum it and called
Monique a ghetto whore, among other racist remarks. I went
to find Greg and he admitted to this, saying that
he was just looking out for my cousin. At this point,
I told him to leave, and he and his parents left,
but his parents have been on me as of late
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four blowing things out of proportion.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Edit.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
A lot of you are rightfully pointing out a bias
I had where I assumed Monique was a predominantly African
American name. I didn't know, oh, that it's a common
French name as well, and associated the name with black people,
since all the Moniques I personally know have been black.
I didn't mean anything by this. But in retrospect, I
can see how that makes me sound bad, so I'll
try and do better from here on out. Family parties
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should be about coming together, but this one highlights how
prejudice can ruin the vibe. The original poster acted swiftly
to protect his son's girlfriend from hateful comments, which seems
like the right call in the moment, but the nephew's
parents think it was overblown. Maybe they should address their
son's behavior instead. Stories like this remind us that standing
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against racism, even in family is crucial. Whose side are
you on? On to the next a parenting boundary issue.
This story involves a mother in law and nicknames title
am I the bleep whole for not wanting my son
to call my mother in law Mamma. Hi everyone, I
twenty nine female, have been with my husband thirty four male,
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four nine years. My relationship with my mother in law,
let's call her Cornelia, has never been great. On the surface,
she's polite and diplomatic, but she has this way of
making little digs at me, always subtle enough that outsiders
wouldn't notice unless they knew me well. For example, she
buys white chocolate as a gift for me, even though
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she knows that's my husband's favorite, not mine. It sounds small,
but it's these kinds of constant little jabs that build
up over the years. My husband and I now have
a two point five year old son. When he was born,
Cornelia decided she wanted to be called Maco short four
Mamma Cornelia by him. I didn't love the idea, but
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I went along with it because I want my son
to have a relationship with his grandmother. For context, when
I was pregnant, she used to call my unborn baby
things like cigarette, but which I found really hurtful. Recently,
my husband took our son to visit his parents. When
they came back, my son's suddenly wasn't calling her Maco anymore.
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He was calling her Mamma Cornelia. This really bothers me.
To me, there's only one mamma in his life, and
that's me. I don't want to be petty, but I
also feel like she's crossing a boundary here, maybe even deliberately.
My husband sees where I'm coming from, but doesn't want
to rock the boat with his mom, so read it.
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Am I the bleephole for not wanting my son to
call my mother in law mama grandparent nicknames can be
a minefield, especially when there's underlying tension. The original poster
feels like this is another subtle power play, and it's
understandable to want to reserve a mamma for yourself, but
is it worth the family conflict? Communication might help here,
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but it's tricky when the husband is caught in the middle. Listeners,
does this cross a line? Or is it harmless affection?
Shifting to a friendship dilemma next, here's one about a
concert and conflicting loyalties. Title Am I the bleephole? For
going to a concert? My best friend and I planned
to go to the Both of us really wanted to
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go to this concert as it's both our favorite band, Hailstorm,
but things were tight and we decided it wasn't best
to go about a week before the show. It's on Sunday,
October fifth, two thousand twenty five. Another friend of mine
from a different circle of friends one tickets to the
same concert on the radio. Her first choice couldn't go,
so she asked me if I wanted to go. I
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tried to say no at first, but she insisted as
she didn't want to go alone offered to pay for
gas and hotel, so I said yes. I messaged my
best friend about what happened and told her I was going,
and now I haven't heard back from her. I think
she's upset with me. Should I not go or just
stop feeling so guilty and enjoy the night? I really
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don't want to end a friendship just for hailstorm. Friendships
and missed opportunities can stir up jealousy, even unintentionally. The
original poster got a surprise chance to see their favorite
band after plans fell through with the best friend. It's
a tough spot, loyalty versus a free ticket. Maybe talking
it out could smooth things over, but guilt is real.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
What would you do?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Let's keep going with a financial family tangle. This post
deals with debt and communication breakdowns.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Title.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Am I the bleephole for not wanting to immediately pay
one thousand to my boyfriend's mom for a cruise? I,
twenty two female, and my boyfriend, twenty four male, went
on a cruise with his family last year. My money
was a little tight, but his mom said that I
could pay her back later, in which I agreed, so
that I could spend time with him and his family.
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I owed a thousand dollars for my part on the
cruise that I started paying little by little through my
boyfriend since he was able to pay her immediately. I
had paid roughly five hundred already when my boyfriend and
I got invited to another cruise with my family that
I haven't seen in so long. My money was really tight,
but I had saved to go on the cruise to
see my family. After the cruise, I could barely afford
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anything because my hours at work got cut. I had
also forgotten how much I owed at this point, since
I paid random amounts. His mom was still asking for
a thousand dollars to pay her back, but of course
I couldn't pay her the rest I owed her. She
kept asking for money through my boyfriend and never came
to talk to me about it. She kept asking my
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boyfriend to tell me to talk to her. It made
no sense because she had my number and could talk
to me about the money any time. I eventually found
a job that paid me enough to put into savings
and I talked to his family about that, which was
a good opportunity to ask me to pay her back.
But she never did and now to day, she texted
my boyfriend to tell me to talk to her about that.
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I was very annoyed that she didn't want to talk
to me directly since I was literally staying at his
parents place for a few days and she could talk
to me about at any time. Everyone is saying I
should be the bigger person and talk to her about
it without being petty. But I've been going to people
about stuff I owe my entire life and always trying
to be the bigger person. I wanted for once for
his mom to talk to me directly about it so
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that I could pay her what I owed instead of
me going to her. So am I the bleephole for
not wanting to immediately pay my boyfriend's mom one thousand
for a cruise update. Thank you for letting me know
that I am the bleephole. I genuinely mean it. I
came here to see if I was and got my answer.
I did pay her the rest I owed her after
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I found out how much I owed. I would like
to clarify to people on why I went on a
second cruise in a time line, since many were asking
why I went. Both cruises were planned around the same
time in two thousand twenty three. His parents offered to
pay for my part of the cruise, and my boyfriend
insisted I go so that I can take them around
my home island, which was the last stop. Found out
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later that they wanted me to pay my part when
I could. My mom also planned a cruise with my
extended family that I haven't seen in a long time.
First cruise was April two thousand twenty four. Second cruise
was in December two thousand twenty four, and now that
both were planned, this as what happened.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Boyfriend and I talked about.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Going on the cruise with my fam and agreed he'd
pay the tickets while I saved for any on board stuff.
After the first cruise in April, I slowly paid his
mom back whatever I could throw my boyfriend out of
convenience for everyone, we all agreed. September rolls around and
I have money saved for the second cruise while paying
his mom off total of about five hundred paid. My
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mom informs me that she took away my college fund
and I had to pay my semester. Myself tried finding
a second job around this time to help pay October hits,
and my mom tells me I now need to pay
rent that I couldn't afford without getting that second job,
and it was too late to cancel the second cruise
since it was already paid. Couldn't save any more money
after this due to bills being higher than my paycheck.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
In hour's lessening.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Beginning of twenty twenty five, I forgot how much I
had owed cause I paid different amount and was worried
about paying my bills, finding a second job for rent
and call that I had to pay for again. Summer time,
found a contract job that paid good even if it
was temporary, and had forgot I needed to pay her back.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Present day. Finished my last.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Day of my contract and stayed at my boyfriend parents
place to take care of the animals they have when
I was reminded that I needed to pay her back.
It was at this point I was the bleephole and
wanted her to talk to me instead of me talk
to her. His mom asked for one thousand, but I
knew I paid some back already. Me and my boyfriend
found out that he never gave his mom the money,
so I paid him the rest of the one thousand
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and made sure he sent the money to her This
doesn't change that I was in bleephole, but I wanted
to clarify some points I missed when I first wrote this.
I am smart with my money. I just had unexpected
bills added and my boyfriend had offered to help out,
but I refused because I didn't want him paying for
my bills when he could use it to save up
for a place. Still never found a second job. Though
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money owed in relationships, especially involving family, can get messy fast.
The original poster faced financial hardships and communication issues, leading
to frustration on both sides. The update shows some self reflection,
which is positive. It's a reminder that direct talks can
prevent a lot of drama, fair or foul. Next, a
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unique family structure story. This one explores twin siblings with
different dads. Title, Am I the bleephole for accusing Mom
of being selfish when she forces my twin sister's dad
to include me.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You read that rite.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
My twin sister, sixteen female, and I, sixteen male, don't
have the same dad. Mom slept with two guys close
together and had us DNA proved this too. It's always
been a weird thing, and we get a.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Lot of questions irl.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
My sister's dad was willing to do the DNA test,
took it and it showed he was her dad, but
not mine. Mine had to be dragged to court, and
he has found ways around paying for me and he
and his family. No I ever wanted to know me,
So my sister grew up with a dad and I didn't.
Mom didn't like it. And when we were young, three
to five, maybe I apparently used to get so sad
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when she'd leave and go to her dad's house and I.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Couldn't go with her.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
I don't remember it, but I get why it'd be true.
So Mom told him he had to include me, and
he was like, nope, no way. It ended up in
court with Mom wanting to take away his parenting time.
The judge ended up saying he didn't have to take
me for his custody time, but he had to include
me in any big days out with my sister or
for family holidays if she went along. He tried to
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get my mom to drop it, but she refused. So ever,
since I about five or six, he has been forced
to include me in his life sometimes and the lives
of his family members. None of them want me there
I know they see me as this huge burden.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
I hated it.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
If I wasn't being ignored, they were just really short
with me and made it so obvious they didn't want
me there. My sister was torn between me and her dad.
I told her I didn't want to deny her a dad,
so she never let it come between them or us.
When I turned thirteen, I tried to put my foot
down with Mom, but she told me I had to go,
and she said she'd take his ass to court so
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fast if he let me wander off and didn't make
sure I was okay like he would with my sister.
There's only two years left, but I can see how
much my sister's paternal side despise having me around. It
sucks being forced somewhere that nobody wants you, and my
mom is still serious about taking him back to court.
So I told Mom a couple of nights ago that
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it needs to stop and she can't keep doing this.
She told me I don't deserve to be left out
because of her actions. I told her she can't make
them love me, and they have shown their disdain from
me for over ten years now. I told her to
let it go. She got so mad she wanted to
yell and cuss at them. I told her to stop
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being selfish and stop forcing them to include me, because
she's the only one who wants that, not me. I
told her I never wanted this. Mom broke down, and
then she told me it wasn't necessary to be cruel
to her. Am I the Bleephole? Blended families with a
twist like this are rare and complicated. The mom's intentions
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might come from guilt, but forcing inclusion where it's unwanted
creates more pain. The original poster's frustration is palpable. It's
about his own comfort, now tough on everyone involved thoughts.
Let's pivot to social media and relationships. A modern dilemma
about online presence title. Am I the bleephole for not
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posting my boyfriend that much on my social media? My
boyfriend male twenty seven argued with me, female twenty eight
about how I barely post him. This is not the
first time we've spoken about this topic, but it seems
to keep coming up whenever I talk about posting on
my Instagram. For context, I have a little over two
thousand followers, and I mostly post where I travel. Random
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aesthetically pleasing photos and myself all in tasteful fashion. I
want to say I post every three to four months
out of the year, and I mostly post stories like
one to three times a week, so in my opinion,
not that often for stories. It's me at the gym,
what I'm eating sometimes, what I'm doing with friends, and
again is selfie now and then. My boyfriend and I
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have been dating for about one year and three months.
I've posted him on my story for National Boyfriend Day
in October, for his birthday, for our anniversary, and for
Valentine's Day. He did have to ask me to post
him in October for our anniversary and for Valentine's Day though,
even though at first he said I didn't have to,
but he wanted me to, so I did. I do
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have one picture of him on my Instagram, along with
other picks of where we went to vacation together, but
I don't have him tagged. He said he feels a
bit insecure about the random guys I follow on there
and who like my pictures, but I honestly don't talk
to them or pay them any mind. I'm barely there
to begin with, but I've had it since high school,
so I don't want to make a new one from scratch.
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I like my privacy, which is why I don't post
too much about my life and with my relationship before
I was the same way. I'd post stories with him
here and there, but not too much. So is he
right to feel like I don't want to show him off?
Or am I the bleephole? Social media can amplify insecurities
in relationships. The original poster values privacy, but the boyfriend
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wants more visibility. It's about balancing personal styles with reassurance.
Maybe a compromise could work. Valid concern or over each
On to sibling advice gone wrong. This story is about
school choices and family input title. Am I the bleephole
for telling my sister she has no say in what
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I do for my subject choices? I, fifteen male, was
picking up my sister, seventeen female from her boyfriend's house
let's call her A. I asked her how it was
and she said that it was fine. I only know
now that it was in an annoyed tone because immautistic
and have trouble telling tones. I started talking to my
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mom driver about my subject choices for next year. I
am going into grade ten and need to pick subjects
to do. This excludes English, Afrikaans and l O as
they are compulsory. I heard this and asked what I
would be taking. I said pure maths, Physics, drama, and art.
She then went on a whole talk about how drama
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was a terrible choice and I was making a mistake
choosing it. She said that I wasn't going to use
it because I could never get into acting. She doesn't
know that I really want to get into acting and
voice acting. She justifies herself saying that I can't get
into acting because I can't lie and hide it. A
said that her school doesn't even offer it any more
because it was useless. I then snapped and said that
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she has no say in what I do in my
life and that her school doesn't offer drama any more
because no one cares for it there. I do admit
that that wasn't a nice thing to say, and I
regret saying it. I started getting teary eyed and didn't
say anything after that. A said that I should be
taking bio instead because it was actually useful. My mom
said that I could choose anything I want and that
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I hate BIO. I actually am terrible at it. They
started arguing back and forth about my life and I
can't really remember much after that. I was dissociating and
very overwhelmed. It ended in silence the rest of the
way home. As soon as we got home, I went
to my bedroom and crocheted until like nine p m.
Creativity is my main coping mechanism. I am typing this
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the day after this happened and feel bad for what happened?
Am I the bleep Whole? Siblings often give unsolicited advice,
but this hit a nerve with the original poster's passions.
The snap back might have been harsh, but defending your
choices is important, especially with neurodiversity in the mix.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Family.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Arguments like this can escalate quickly justified reaction. Let's look
at a friendship and money issue. Here's a tale of
group gifts and fairness title. Am I the bleep Whole
for not including my friends that didn't pitch in for
a birthday gift? I swiped my credit card on a
seven hundred dollar birthday gift and asked five friends to
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each pitch in one hundred dollars and I'll cover the rest.
I gave them thirty days do two weeks before the
birthday to get the money together.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
They all agreed. Edit.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
We agreed on pitching in before I bought it. Two
told me they couldn't pay me on time, but would
pay me before the birthday. I told them, if you
dunn'll have to cover the difference and say you it
was from me and the other friends. Come the day
of the birthday, both didn't pay. I set out of
good faith, can you at least give me a portion?
They both said they couldn't. This meant I am covering
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four hundred of the seven hundred of the gift I
wrote on the gift package from me Friend one, Friend two,
Friend three. The other two were upset because I didn't
put their name, but they said they would have paid
me back after the birthday. I told them that's bs,
because you were blowing off money on dumb stuff alcohol,
Pokemon cards, grass, et cetera all month when you could
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have paid me back. Am I the bleephole here? Group
expenses can test friendships, and this original poster set clear expectations.
Not including names when they didn't contribute seems fair, but
calling out their spending might have added fuel. Boundaries with
money are key right or wrong. Finally, a grief related conflict,
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wrapping up with a short but poignant one about morning title.
Am I the Bleephole wanting a celebration of life for
my brother? Am I the Bleephole? My brother passed away
two months ago. His partner is still refusing to commit
to a service or celebration of life. I messaged tonight
asking again and begged for him to have it soon,
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as his family and friends need to celebrate him and
find closure and he deserves to be remembered. His partner
blasted me, saying how dare you to pressure and rush things?
Among other things, then messaged I am furious? Am I
the bleep whole?
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Edit? I have offered to organize but got blasted for
that as well. Sad face.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Grief hits everyone differently and timing as celebration can be sensitive.
The original poster wants closure, but the partner feels pressured.
Offering to help is kind, but respecting their pace matters too.
Delicate situation all around. That's our extended line up for today. Folks,
yard sales, family parties, nicknames, concerts, debts, forced inclusions, social media,
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school choices, group gifts, and grief These stories show the
messy side of human connections. If they spark thoughts or debates,
that's the goal. Thanks for joining this life dive. Catch
you next time for more Reddit drama. Stay kind out there.
Welcome back to the podcast, where we dive into the
wild world of interpersonal drama from Reddit. We read through
stories from subreddits like am.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I am I the Bleephole, sharing the raw tales and
tossing in some thoughts along the way. To day, We've
got a hefty line up of top stories from a
day that are sure to spark some debate. These are
the kinds of conflicts that make you question relationships, family dynamics,
and personal boundaries. With so many intriguing posts, we're in
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for a longer episode to really unpack them all. Let's
jump right in. Our first story comes from a user
who stepped into a yard sale situation. The title is
am I the Bleephole? For telling a woman to charge
a guy more at a yard sale. I was shopping
around our city's yard sails yesterday and stopped to look
through some clothes. While I was looking, a guy walked
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up and asked the old lady running the sail if
she had anything golf related. My ears perked up because
I have just recently gotten into golf. The lady said
she had her late husband's clubs, but didn't know what
they would be worth, so she dragged them out to
show the guy. It was obvious the guy knew golf
by the way he took a couple practice swings, and
you could tell by his car and clothing. He appeared
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to be well off. As he looked around the bag.
The lady was telling him that her husband had just
passed and that she didn't know if the clubs were
worth anything. He said they weren't that great and offered
two hundred dollars for everything. She seemed hesitant and said
she didn't know, and he just kind of talked over
her and said here, I'll go grab the money and
walked towards his car. I walked over to see what
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was in the bag, and for any one who knows golf,
I'll throw this out there. Almost new g T three
driver and three would gently use Mizuno irons, nice Titliss wedges,
a very nice looking Scotty putter, great condition Tittlus card bag.
This stuff combined would be a steal at one thousand. Obviously,
this lady's late husband had spent a good penny on
the clubs, and I felt bad for her, so I
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told her she should pass on that guy's offer and
have some one at a local course's pro shop helper
price the stuff out to sell if she wanted. She
seemed totally shocked when I told her the driver and
three would were probably worth eight hundred alone. When the
guy came back, he was glaring at me, and when
he tried to hand the lady the cash, she said
no thanks and that she was going to get the
stuff appraised. He got upset and told her she can't
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back out of a deal. So I chimed in that
they didn't really make a deal. He got pissed at
me and told me I needed mind my business. The
lady then told him she wasn't interested again and to
please leave. He walked to the end of the driveway
and just stood there angry like my toddler would. Before
he walked away. He called me in bleep hole and
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stomped off. The whole thing was more funny than anything
to me. I was telling this story to my co
workers to day, and they were all dogging on me,
saying I should have kept my mouth shut and let
the guy get the good deal, but it felt wrong
letting him rip her off. So am I the bleephole here?
That one's a classic case of weather to but in
or stay out of some one else's business. The original
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poster saw what looked like a low ball offer on
valuable items and spoke up, potentially saving the widow from
a bad deal. But the co workers think it was meddling.
Yard sales are all about haggling, but when someone's vulnerable,
like after a loss, maybe a little intervention isn't the
worst thing. What do you think, hero or busybody. Let's
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move to the next story, which touches on family tensions
and standing up against bigotry. Next up a post about
a family gathering gone sour title. Am I the bleep
whole for throwing my nephew out of a family party?
For some context, Me Mail fifty three and my family
live in the South, specifically Charleston, South Carolina. A year back,
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my son, Jake Mail twenty now started attending the University
of South Carolina Go game Cocks, and during his freshman year,
he met a lovely girl named Monique, also twenty years old.
Monique is, as her name suggests, African American, while our
family is Caucasian, but neither me nor any one else
in my immediate family has had any.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Issue with that.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
She's sweet, beautiful and overall an incredible young woman, and
we all accepted her with open arms from the first
time we met her. A week ago, my wife and
I held a party at our home and Jake and
Monique both made the trip from college to attend. The
party was going well until I noticed Jake and Monique
were alone and Monique was crying. I asked what had happened,
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and Monique told me that Jake's cousin, Greg Mail seventeen,
had told him that he shouldn't slum it and called
Monique a ghetto whore, among other racist remarks. I went
to find Greg and he admitted to this, saying that
he was just looking out for my cousin. At this point,
I told him to leave, and he and his parents left,
but his parents have been on me as of late
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four blowing things out of proportion.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Edit.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
A lot of you are rightfully pointing out a bias
I had where I assumed Monique was a predominantly African
American name. I didn't know, oh, that it's a common
French name as well, and associated the name with black people,
since all the Moniques I personally know have been black.
I didn't mean anything by this. But in retrospect, I
can see how that makes me sound bad, so I'll
try and do better from here on out. Family parties
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should be about coming together, but this one highlights how
prejudice can ruin the vibe. The original poster acted swiftly
to protect his son's girlfriend from hateful comments, which seems
like the right call in the moment, but the nephew's
parents think it was overblown. Maybe they should address their
son's behavior instead. Stories like this remind us that standing
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against racism, even in family is crucial. Whose side are
you on? On to the next a parenting boundary issue.
This story involves a mother in law and nicknames title
am I the bleep whole for not wanting my son
to call my mother in law Mamma. Hi everyone, I
twenty nine female, have been with my husband thirty four male,
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four nine years. My relationship with my mother in law,
let's call her Cornelia, has never been great. On the surface,
she's polite and diplomatic, but she has this way of
making little digs at me, always subtle enough that outsiders
wouldn't notice unless they knew me well. For example, she
buys white chocolate as a gift for me, even though
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she knows that's my husband's favorite, not mine. It sounds small,
but it's these kinds of constant little jabs that build
up over the years. My husband and I now have
a two point five year old son. When he was born,
Cornelia decided she wanted to be called Maco short four
Mamma Cornelia by him. I didn't love the idea, but
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I went along with it because I want my son
to have a relationship with his grandmother. For context, when
I was pregnant, she used to call my unborn baby
things like cigarette, but which I found really hurtful. Recently,
my husband took our son to visit his parents. When
they came back, my son's suddenly wasn't calling her Maco anymore.
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He was calling her Mamma Cornelia. This really bothers me.
To me, there's only one mamma in his life, and
that's me. I don't want to be petty, but I
also feel like she's crossing a boundary here, maybe even deliberately.
My husband sees where I'm coming from, but doesn't want
to rock the boat with his mom, so read it.
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Am I the bleephole for not wanting my son to
call my mother in law mama grandparent nicknames can be
a minefield, especially when there's underlying tension. The original poster
feels like this is another subtle power play, and it's
understandable to want to reserve a mamma for yourself, but
is it worth the family conflict? Communication might help here,
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but it's tricky when the husband is caught in the middle. Listeners,
does this cross a line? Or is it harmless affection?
Shifting to a friendship dilemma next, here's one about a
concert and conflicting loyalties. Title Am I the bleephole? For
going to a concert? My best friend and I planned
to go to the Both of us really wanted to
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go to this concert as it's both our favorite band, Hailstorm,
but things were tight and we decided it wasn't best
to go about a week before the show. It's on Sunday,
October fifth, two thousand twenty five. Another friend of mine
from a different circle of friends one tickets to the
same concert on the radio. Her first choice couldn't go,
so she asked me if I wanted to go. I
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tried to say no at first, but she insisted as
she didn't want to go alone offered to pay for
gas and hotel, so I said yes. I messaged my
best friend about what happened and told her I was going,
and now I haven't heard back from her. I think
she's upset with me. Should I not go or just
stop feeling so guilty and enjoy the night? I really
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don't want to end a friendship just for hailstorm. Friendships
and missed opportunities can stir up jealousy, even unintentionally. The
original poster got a surprise chance to see their favorite
band after plans fell through with the best friend. It's
a tough spot, loyalty versus a free ticket. Maybe talking
it out could smooth things over, but guilt is real.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
What would you do?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Let's keep going with a financial family tangle. This post
deals with debt and communication breakdowns.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Title.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Am I the bleephole for not wanting to immediately pay
one thousand to my boyfriend's mom for a cruise? I,
twenty two female, and my boyfriend, twenty four male, went
on a cruise with his family last year. My money
was a little tight, but his mom said that I
could pay her back later, in which I agreed, so
that I could spend time with him and his family.
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I owed a thousand dollars for my part on the
cruise that I started paying little by little through my
boyfriend since he was able to pay her immediately. I
had paid roughly five hundred already when my boyfriend and
I got invited to another cruise with my family that
I haven't seen in so long. My money was really tight,
but I had saved to go on the cruise to
see my family. After the cruise, I could barely afford
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anything because my hours at work got cut. I had
also forgotten how much I owed at this point, since
I paid random amounts. His mom was still asking for
a thousand dollars to pay her back, but of course
I couldn't pay her the rest I owed her. She
kept asking for money through my boyfriend and never came
to talk to me about it. She kept asking my
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boyfriend to tell me to talk to her. It made
no sense because she had my number and could talk
to me about the money any time. I eventually found
a job that paid me enough to put into savings
and I talked to his family about that, which was
a good opportunity to ask me to pay her back.
But she never did and now to day, she texted
my boyfriend to tell me to talk to her about that.
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I was very annoyed that she didn't want to talk
to me directly since I was literally staying at his
parents place for a few days and she could talk
to me about at any time. Everyone is saying I
should be the bigger person and talk to her about
it without being petty. But I've been going to people
about stuff I owe my entire life and always trying
to be the bigger person. I wanted for once for
his mom to talk to me directly about it so
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that I could pay her what I owed instead of
me going to her. So am I the bleephole for
not wanting to immediately pay my boyfriend's mom one thousand
for a cruise update. Thank you for letting me know
that I am the bleephole. I genuinely mean it. I
came here to see if I was and got my answer.
I did pay her the rest I owed her after
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I found out how much I owed. I would like
to clarify to people on why I went on a
second cruise in a time line, since many were asking
why I went. Both cruises were planned around the same
time in two thousand twenty three. His parents offered to
pay for my part of the cruise, and my boyfriend
insisted I go so that I can take them around
my home island, which was the last stop. Found out
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later that they wanted me to pay my part when
I could. My mom also planned a cruise with my
extended family that I haven't seen in a long time.
First cruise was April two thousand twenty four. Second cruise
was in December two thousand twenty four, and now that
both were planned, this as what happened.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Boyfriend and I talked about.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Going on the cruise with my fam and agreed he'd
pay the tickets while I saved for any on board stuff.
After the first cruise in April, I slowly paid his
mom back whatever I could throw my boyfriend out of
convenience for everyone, we all agreed. September rolls around and
I have money saved for the second cruise while paying
his mom off total of about five hundred paid. My
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mom informs me that she took away my college fund
and I had to pay my semester. Myself tried finding
a second job around this time to help pay October hits,
and my mom tells me I now need to pay
rent that I couldn't afford without getting that second job,
and it was too late to cancel the second cruise
since it was already paid. Couldn't save any more money
after this due to bills being higher than my paycheck.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
In hour's lessening.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Beginning of twenty twenty five, I forgot how much I
had owed cause I paid different amount and was worried
about paying my bills, finding a second job for rent
and call that I had to pay for again. Summer time,
found a contract job that paid good even if it
was temporary, and had forgot I needed to pay her back.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Present day. Finished my last.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Day of my contract and stayed at my boyfriend parents
place to take care of the animals they have when
I was reminded that I needed to pay her back.
It was at this point I was the bleephole and
wanted her to talk to me instead of me talk
to her. His mom asked for one thousand, but I
knew I paid some back already. Me and my boyfriend
found out that he never gave his mom the money,
so I paid him the rest of the one thousand
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and made sure he sent the money to her This
doesn't change that I was in bleephole, but I wanted
to clarify some points I missed when I first wrote this.
I am smart with my money. I just had unexpected
bills added and my boyfriend had offered to help out,
but I refused because I didn't want him paying for
my bills when he could use it to save up
for a place. Still never found a second job. Though
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money owed in relationships, especially involving family, can get messy fast.
The original poster faced financial hardships and communication issues, leading
to frustration on both sides. The update shows some self reflection,
which is positive. It's a reminder that direct talks can
prevent a lot of drama, fair or foul. Next, a
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unique family structure story. This one explores twin siblings with
different dads. Title, Am I the bleephole for accusing Mom
of being selfish when she forces my twin sister's dad
to include me.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You read that rite.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
My twin sister, sixteen female, and I, sixteen male, don't
have the same dad. Mom slept with two guys close
together and had us DNA proved this too. It's always
been a weird thing, and we get a.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Lot of questions irl.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
My sister's dad was willing to do the DNA test,
took it and it showed he was her dad, but
not mine. Mine had to be dragged to court, and
he has found ways around paying for me and he
and his family. No I ever wanted to know me,
So my sister grew up with a dad and I didn't.
Mom didn't like it. And when we were young, three
to five, maybe I apparently used to get so sad
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when she'd leave and go to her dad's house and I.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Couldn't go with her.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
I don't remember it, but I get why it'd be true.
So Mom told him he had to include me, and
he was like, nope, no way. It ended up in
court with Mom wanting to take away his parenting time.
The judge ended up saying he didn't have to take
me for his custody time, but he had to include
me in any big days out with my sister or
for family holidays if she went along. He tried to
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get my mom to drop it, but she refused. So ever,
since I about five or six, he has been forced
to include me in his life sometimes and the lives
of his family members. None of them want me there
I know they see me as this huge burden.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
I hated it.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
If I wasn't being ignored, they were just really short
with me and made it so obvious they didn't want
me there. My sister was torn between me and her dad.
I told her I didn't want to deny her a dad,
so she never let it come between them or us.
When I turned thirteen, I tried to put my foot
down with Mom, but she told me I had to go,
and she said she'd take his ass to court so
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fast if he let me wander off and didn't make
sure I was okay like he would with my sister.
There's only two years left, but I can see how
much my sister's paternal side despise having me around. It
sucks being forced somewhere that nobody wants you, and my
mom is still serious about taking him back to court.
So I told Mom a couple of nights ago that
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it needs to stop and she can't keep doing this.
She told me I don't deserve to be left out
because of her actions. I told her she can't make
them love me, and they have shown their disdain from
me for over ten years now. I told her to
let it go. She got so mad she wanted to
yell and cuss at them. I told her to stop
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being selfish and stop forcing them to include me, because
she's the only one who wants that, not me. I
told her I never wanted this. Mom broke down, and
then she told me it wasn't necessary to be cruel
to her. Am I the Bleephole? Blended families with a
twist like this are rare and complicated. The mom's intentions
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might come from guilt, but forcing inclusion where it's unwanted
creates more pain. The original poster's frustration is palpable. It's
about his own comfort, now tough on everyone involved thoughts.
Let's pivot to social media and relationships. A modern dilemma
about online presence title. Am I the bleephole for not
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posting my boyfriend that much on my social media? My
boyfriend male twenty seven argued with me, female twenty eight
about how I barely post him. This is not the
first time we've spoken about this topic, but it seems
to keep coming up whenever I talk about posting on
my Instagram. For context, I have a little over two
thousand followers, and I mostly post where I travel. Random
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aesthetically pleasing photos and myself all in tasteful fashion. I
want to say I post every three to four months
out of the year, and I mostly post stories like
one to three times a week, so in my opinion,
not that often for stories. It's me at the gym,
what I'm eating sometimes, what I'm doing with friends, and
again is selfie now and then. My boyfriend and I
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have been dating for about one year and three months.
I've posted him on my story for National Boyfriend Day
in October, for his birthday, for our anniversary, and for
Valentine's Day. He did have to ask me to post
him in October for our anniversary and for Valentine's Day though,
even though at first he said I didn't have to,
but he wanted me to, so I did. I do
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have one picture of him on my Instagram, along with
other picks of where we went to vacation together, but
I don't have him tagged. He said he feels a
bit insecure about the random guys I follow on there
and who like my pictures, but I honestly don't talk
to them or pay them any mind. I'm barely there
to begin with, but I've had it since high school,
so I don't want to make a new one from scratch.
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I like my privacy, which is why I don't post
too much about my life and with my relationship before
I was the same way. I'd post stories with him
here and there, but not too much. So is he
right to feel like I don't want to show him off?
Or am I the bleephole? Social media can amplify insecurities
in relationships. The original poster values privacy, but the boyfriend
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wants more visibility. It's about balancing personal styles with reassurance.
Maybe a compromise could work. Valid concern or over each
On to sibling advice gone wrong. This story is about
school choices and family input title. Am I the bleephole
for telling my sister she has no say in what
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I do for my subject choices? I, fifteen male, was
picking up my sister, seventeen female from her boyfriend's house
let's call her A. I asked her how it was
and she said that it was fine. I only know
now that it was in an annoyed tone because immautistic
and have trouble telling tones. I started talking to my
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mom driver about my subject choices for next year. I
am going into grade ten and need to pick subjects
to do. This excludes English, Afrikaans and l O as
they are compulsory. I heard this and asked what I
would be taking. I said pure maths, Physics, drama, and art.
She then went on a whole talk about how drama
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was a terrible choice and I was making a mistake
choosing it. She said that I wasn't going to use
it because I could never get into acting. She doesn't
know that I really want to get into acting and
voice acting. She justifies herself saying that I can't get
into acting because I can't lie and hide it. A
said that her school doesn't even offer it any more
because it was useless. I then snapped and said that
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she has no say in what I do in my
life and that her school doesn't offer drama any more
because no one cares for it there. I do admit
that that wasn't a nice thing to say, and I
regret saying it. I started getting teary eyed and didn't
say anything after that. A said that I should be
taking bio instead because it was actually useful. My mom
said that I could choose anything I want and that
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I hate BIO. I actually am terrible at it. They
started arguing back and forth about my life and I
can't really remember much after that. I was dissociating and
very overwhelmed. It ended in silence the rest of the
way home. As soon as we got home, I went
to my bedroom and crocheted until like nine p m.
Creativity is my main coping mechanism. I am typing this
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the day after this happened and feel bad for what happened?
Am I the bleep Whole? Siblings often give unsolicited advice,
but this hit a nerve with the original poster's passions.
The snap back might have been harsh, but defending your
choices is important, especially with neurodiversity in the mix.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Family.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
Arguments like this can escalate quickly justified reaction. Let's look
at a friendship and money issue. Here's a tale of
group gifts and fairness title. Am I the bleep Whole
for not including my friends that didn't pitch in for
a birthday gift? I swiped my credit card on a
seven hundred dollar birthday gift and asked five friends to
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each pitch in one hundred dollars and I'll cover the rest.
I gave them thirty days do two weeks before the
birthday to get the money together.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
They all agreed. Edit.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
We agreed on pitching in before I bought it. Two
told me they couldn't pay me on time, but would
pay me before the birthday. I told them, if you
dunn'll have to cover the difference and say you it
was from me and the other friends. Come the day
of the birthday, both didn't pay. I set out of
good faith, can you at least give me a portion?
They both said they couldn't. This meant I am covering
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four hundred of the seven hundred of the gift I
wrote on the gift package from me Friend one, Friend two,
Friend three. The other two were upset because I didn't
put their name, but they said they would have paid
me back after the birthday. I told them that's bs,
because you were blowing off money on dumb stuff alcohol,
Pokemon cards, grass, et cetera all month when you could
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have paid me back. Am I the bleephole here? Group
expenses can test friendships, and this original poster set clear expectations.
Not including names when they didn't contribute seems fair, but
calling out their spending might have added fuel. Boundaries with
money are key right or wrong. Finally, a grief related conflict,
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wrapping up with a short but poignant one about morning title.
Am I the Bleephole wanting a celebration of life for
my brother? Am I the Bleephole? My brother passed away
two months ago. His partner is still refusing to commit
to a service or celebration of life. I messaged tonight
asking again and begged for him to have it soon,
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as his family and friends need to celebrate him and
find closure and he deserves to be remembered. His partner
blasted me, saying how dare you to pressure and rush things?
Among other things, then messaged I am furious? Am I
the bleep whole?
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Edit? I have offered to organize but got blasted for
that as well. Sad face.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Grief hits everyone differently and timing as celebration can be sensitive.
The original poster wants closure, but the partner feels pressured.
Offering to help is kind, but respecting their pace matters too.
Delicate situation all around. That's our extended line up for today. Folks,
yard sales, family parties, nicknames, concerts, debts, forced inclusions, social media,
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school choices, group gifts, and grief These stories show the
messy side of human connections. If they spark thoughts or debates,
that's the goal. Thanks for joining this life dive. Catch
you next time for more Reddit drama. Stay kind out there.
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