September 29, 2025 • 23 mins
Spilled Juice Showdowns, Secret Paternity Shocks, and Purple Hair Heartbreaks - Reddit Stories
Join us for another gripping hour of Reddit confessions from Am I the Bleep Hole and similar drama-filled corners of the internet. In this episode, we dive into five raw stories that tug at the heartstrings and spark heated debates: a housewarming gone wrong over a kid's accidental juice spill, a devastating betrayal revealing a nine-year-old isn't biologically yours, a stay-at-home dad's bold stand on making memories with his purple-haired teen, a husband's plea for just a moment to breathe amid endless family demands, and a wife's heartbreaking fight to hold her family together through chronic illness. We'll read the posts verbatim, sprinkle in some honest commentary, and ponder the big questions—like, is tough love ever too tough? Perfect for anyone who's ever navigated family feuds, relationship rollercoasters, or the chaos of parenting. Tune in, grab your tea, and let's unpack the mess together.
Join us for another gripping hour of Reddit confessions from Am I the Bleep Hole and similar drama-filled corners of the internet. In this episode, we dive into five raw stories that tug at the heartstrings and spark heated debates: a housewarming gone wrong over a kid's accidental juice spill, a devastating betrayal revealing a nine-year-old isn't biologically yours, a stay-at-home dad's bold stand on making memories with his purple-haired teen, a husband's plea for just a moment to breathe amid endless family demands, and a wife's heartbreaking fight to hold her family together through chronic illness. We'll read the posts verbatim, sprinkle in some honest commentary, and ponder the big questions—like, is tough love ever too tough? Perfect for anyone who's ever navigated family feuds, relationship rollercoasters, or the chaos of parenting. Tune in, grab your tea, and let's unpack the mess together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back, every one to another episode of our podcast,
where we read through those wild heartfelt stories from Reddit's
drama suburdits like am I the Bleephole? In similar spots
full of them family feuds and relationship roller coasters. I'm
your host, and to day, we've pulled five fresh tales
that are sure to spark some debates. We'll rid them
(00:22):
straight from the posters, add a bit of commentary along
the way, and see if we can figure out who's
in the right or just tangled up in the mess.
Grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let's get started
with our first story. Our first one comes from a
twenty five you're old guy who's just moved into his
new house. Here's the title, am I the Bleephole for
(00:45):
basically telling my in laws this is my house. If
you don't like my rules, get out. First off, I
don't think I was wrong, which has infuriated my girl friend,
I twenty five recently moved into my house. My girl
friend twenty seven and I had a little housewarming her family,
my mother, and a few of our friends. We were
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eating outdoors and the kids had their own table. My
girlfriend's nephew Ate knocked over a jug of diluted juice.
I was at the table when it happened, and it
was clearly an accident. He was very polite and apologized.
He was a little upset, but I just laughed it off.
His father came over, and I was shocked at how
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much his father gave out to him. I told him
it was only an accident and so on, and he
kept going. I felt really guilty for not stopping it.
He ran over to the corner of the garden and
started crying. His father went back to the table, and
he said what happened, and his wife said he deserved
that he should stay there a long time, or something
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along those lines. There was almost a snigger from some
of her family. Anyway, I went over to the boy
a couple of minutes later. I gave him a bar
of chocolate. He was still crying. He said sorry again.
I gave him a high five and taught him this
high five I used to do as a kid. His
mother came over and said, do you mind not talking
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to my son. He needs to think about what he
did wrong, and he needs to do that alone. I
took her and her husband aside and said, this is
my house. If you want to upset your kid, don't
do it here. If you don't like it, get out.
I swear. The reaction that followed was insane. They went
back to the table saying it. My mom said, never
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holding back, didn't I raise a great son. He spot
on not to let bullies in his house, which erupted
it even more. My girl friend spoke to me in
private and asked me to apologize to them. I said no,
I stand by what I said in this part. I
regret a bit. I told her I think less of
her for even asking me to apologize. A mate of
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mine and his son kicked ball with the boy and I.
He actually gave me a hug I don't do hugs
at the end of the party and said sorry again.
He hugged so tightly for a couple of seconds. I
really could go on about the drama, but in short
her family thought I was wrong. I was getting little
digs and so on. My girlfriend's friend came up privately
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and said I was right to step in. My girlfriend
is still pushing for me to apologize. I still don't
think I did anything wrong. I didn't tell them how
to parent, but told them to leave if that's how
they want a parent. If I'm being completely honest, I
didn't say this. I'm not sure i'd want a kid
with a family like that. Agro overspilled freaking flavored water. Wow,
(03:38):
there's so many messages apologies, but I can't respond to
all some of the common answers to responses agreed, What
must they be like in private? Snigger is a word,
at least in the United Kingdom. My mother is the
best mother any kid could have had. Yeah, it puts
a big hole in my future with my girl friend.
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Few That one's a doozy right from the start. Can
you imagine being that eight year old kid just spilling
some juice by accident and getting reamed out like that
in front of every one, and then the poster steps
in with chocolate and a high five. Honestly, that sounds
like the hero move to me. But telling the parents
to get out if they don't like it bold and
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I get why the girl friend's upset, But boundaries in
your own home are everything. The poster's mom stealing the
show with that line gold, I think he's not the
bleephole here, but it does make you wonder if this
family dynamic is a red flag for the long hole.
What do you all think Team Chocolate Bar or Team
tough Love. Let's move on to our next story, because
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this one's got some real heart break. This one's from
a thirty two year old man who's been through the
ringer title. Am I the bleephole for abandoning my so
called family after discovering the truth? I thirty two male,
AM male, married and have been since I was twenty.
We had a little boy a few years ago who
was nine. Now my wife is the same age as me. Recently,
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it has come to my attention that my partner is
less than faithful. I caught her cheating red handed. I
won't get into that part, though I've suspected it for
a while, but I never could catch her. She was
very good at being a liar. We stayed together for
the kid and were half way trying to work things,
and I was living in a hotel for a bit.
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She has a best friend that is known for having
multiple partners, and one night I ran into her and
we hung out drinking and she ended up staying the
night at my hotel room. We didn't do anything sexual.
She tried to kiss me and I just couldn't go
through with it. My wife apparently decides to come see
me the next morning, and there was a blow out.
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The cops were called from the screaming, and I was
kicked out of the hotel. In the middle of all that,
she told me that our son was and even mine.
At first, I just figured she was trying to hurt me,
but after a while I got a DNA test she
was not lying. Now for the worst part. After I
found out, I tried to talk to her so we
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could figure out what to tell him. He already knows.
Apparently his real father threatened to take her to court
two years ago if she didn't let him see the kid.
Apparently she had been taking him to see his real
dad once a month since, and I had no idea.
I was devastated by him knowing before I did, and
with everything that happened. So I just left that night
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and haven't spoken to them in over six months. Now.
I think I messed up posting this, but just to
clear things up, it's been six months since I left.
So for those that are worried, I'm not going to
do anything stupid or reckless. Thank you for being concerned,
though the kid broke my heart more than she did,
at least that's how it feels to day. Like I said,
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I expected her to break my heart, but him keeping
it from me this entire time, that is what got
to me. I don't think I'm capable of ever trusting
anything a person says anymore at all. Life hasn't been
easy since then. I obviously quit my job when it happened,
been arrested twice for public intoxication. I'm living in my
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car doing door dash in Stetckart. I'm doing so bad
financially it's not even funny. I want to get a
hotel room soon. For those of you worried about the kid,
he seems to be doing fine from Facebook. I don't
believe she got into a relationship with the bio dad,
but the kid has been spending a lot of time
with him. I'm lost, to be honest, I honestly just
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don't know what to do at this point. I wish
it never happened. I haven't had any contact at all
with them. They know I'm alive about it. As far
as I know, I should have handled it better. I
know things can't go back, so I'm just kind of stuck.
For now, I think I'm just going to get an
official divorce and move on. I don't have much to lose.
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Even if she tried to take it. At this point,
she could have it all. I really don't care. At
least that's how I feel to day. It changes pretty frequently. Update, update, Update.
If there is a better place to put this comment
where more people can see it, please message me and
explain how so. I was drunk when I posted this.
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I never expected it to blow up the way it did.
All of you made me realize I have made mistakes
to I can't run from my life or avoid it
any more. I tried to contact my wife, but it
did not go well. We screamed and insulted each other.
The only thing we could agree on is that we
should get divorced. She refused to let me speak to
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my son. I just wanted to apologize, to try to
explain myself. She has a lawyer, or claims to I
need to get one, but I am not able to
with my current situation. I don't have family I can
ask for help. I'm not even sure if I'm a
left to ask for help on here, but if any
of you are interested, message me I said previously that
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I live in my car and that hasn't changed. I
do work, but it's not enough money. I plan on
getting another job or trying to get my old one back. Oh, listeners,
this one hits hard betrayal on top of betrayal, the cheating,
the secret dad visits, and then finding out the kids
not biologically his after raising him for nine years. That's
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enough to shatter anyone. And the poster's spiraling with the
arrests and living in the car. You can feel the
raw pain in every word. I think he's not the
bleep whole for stepping away he needed space to breathe,
but reaching out for help in the comments shows he's
fighting to turn it around, rooting for him to get
that lawyer, and some stability stories like this remind us
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how fragile trust can be. Hang in there if you're
going through something similar, All right, shaking off the heavy vibes.
Our next story lightens it up a tad, but still
packs a punch on the parenting front. This one's from
a thirty nine You're Old stay at Home Dad? Title.
Am I the bleep whole for telling my wife that
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if I waited for her to make memories with our son,
we wouldn't have any. Last weekend, I thirty nine mail
helped my son fourteen mail dye his hair purple. Or
my good friend, who actually knew what he was doing,
helped dye my son's hair while I was there for
music requests and object fetching. It was such a fun day,
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and I could tell how happy it made my boy.
I didn't tell my wife before we did this, and
that was the catalyst to the fight we're currently having.
But for me, it's so much more than this one incident.
My wife has been hands off with our child for
a while now, his soccer game's, little road trips to
near by amusement parks, bactus cool shopping. She's too busy
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with work or too tired from work, so I've mostly
just stopped having the conversations. Why would I waste my
breath to have the same conversations on repeat. The night
we dyed his hair, she started crying while we were talking,
saying we were making all of these memories without her.
I asked her what she expected me to do. If
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we waited for her to make memories, we would be
sitting in a dark room. One hundred percent of the time.
My son isn't even really comfortable with her anymore. There
is no I can't take you. Go ask your mom.
Now it's I'm sorry, I can't take you. Let me
see if friend is free that day. My wife isn't
speaking to me now, and I'm wondering if I took
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it too far. I don't know. I was hoping some
brutal honesty would change something. I would have loved having
more kids. But I guess it's for the best now
that she said, no, it it. I must stay at
home dad. The original plan was for me to start
working again when our son went to kindergarten, but my
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wife was gunning for a promotion around that time and
ask me to stay home longer. Once she got the promotion,
her hours increased, so that time was extended once again.
I am responsible for all the household chores and general
home making tasks. I cook, clean, do all the yard work,
all the grocery shopping, and so on. I do enjoy
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being a stay at home dad, but I've been ready
and willing to rejoin the work force for a decade now.
At this point, I will be getting a job when
my son turns sixteen and can get himself to and
from school. But my wife still refuses to cut her
hours even if I get a job, and gets frustrated
every time I bring it up. There is no point
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in me forcing my son to ride the bus or
figure out a ride for himself if my wife still
won't make the effort or compromise in order to spend
time with him. Purple hair and family fractures. Love the
fun start, but oof, that edit adds so much context.
The dad's been holding down the fort solo for years,
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making those memories happen because mom's glued to her job.
That line about waiting in a dark room brutal but fair.
It's like he's carrying the emotional load alone. I don't
think he's the bleephole. Sounds like a wake up call
she needed. Kudo's to him for stepping up. As the
fun parent makes me think about work life balance. How
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do we make sure no one gets left in the dark?
Great question for the comments. If this were read it
on to story number four, which dives into the exhaustion
of every day parenting from a forty one You're old
husband and dad of two title, Am I the Bleephole?
For telling my wife I deserve breaks two and to
get a little more involved. Throwaway wife has read it
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as well. Everything has started in the last two to
four months. My forty one male wife thirty nine female
have been married for twelve years now. We have two children,
eleven male and ten female. I work as a financial adviser.
Wife works as a nurse. My hours are nine to
five and she works seven to seven. I try my
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best to do as much as I can to reduce
the burden for my wife. I drop the kids off
at school, pick them up from after school program, go
to parent conferences. I try to clean the house as
much as I can in the two hours I have
while also trying to care for dinner in helping with homework.
I love what I do, but it can be stressful.
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It's very hard to have a day off with my
wife since our schedules don't align. We haven't had a
date night in months. She almost always works weekends and
I'm off on weekends, so I'm constantly trying to reduce
the burden on her while also trying to manage my
own mental health. Cause I feel like I don't get
eight break. I feel like she isn't grateful. She'll come
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home and have dinner, then shower and relax, which is
what I would want her to do, but when I
try to do that, she seems unsatisfied and starts asking
me to do numerous things until she's ready to go
to bed. These include folding laundry she hasn't gotten to further,
household tidying, and a bunch of can you, could you?
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And would you questions. I've thought about hiring a cleaning
service to come once or twice a month, but she's
highly against this and doesn't want strangers in the house.
She doesn't seem to have interest in money or expenses either,
as long as they are paid. She doesn't have concerns.
She doesn't have interest in knowing how much the electric is,
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how much we're paying on the mortgage, or gas, or
anything that has to do with how we live. On
the days she's off, she'll sometimes go out with friends
or just chill at home. On the days she's off,
she doesn't bother me nearly as much, but still does
wait until I get home and starts asking me to
do things could have done during the day. Recently, I've
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started playing with my friends again, on x Bok's first
time in months. Every time I sit down to play
starts the one thousand requests of can you do this?
I've finally lost my cool a few days ago and
tried to calmly tell her I needed a break and
needed to decompress, which irritated her. Her response to this was,
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you have been home for four hours and I've been
home for two. I'm tired. I understand she's tired. I've
dealt with hospitals with my grandma and grandpa and parents.
I've been admitted plenty of times, nurses constantly running in
and out of rooms. I try my best to give
her little to do when she gets home, but she
never seems satisfied. I can feel I'm cracking under pressure
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and trying to contain my emotions, but I don't know
how much longer I can am I the bleep whole.
This story's like a mirror for so many couples. Juggling
crazy shifts nurse hours sound brutal, but the husband's pulling
double duty too, and that resentment's building. The Xbox break
request totally valid. Everyone's got a limit. I don't see
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him as the bleephole. He's communicating, even if it came
out heated, maybe a cleaning service compromise or a real
talk about dividing the load better. It screams for couples
counseling before it boils over relatable exhaustion. Here. If you're
nodding along, you're not alone. Last story of the day,
Buckle up. This one's a marriage melt down with updates
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from a forty five yere old woman married for twenty
three years. Title Am I the bleephole for giving my
husband exactly what he asked for? Me? Forty five and
hubby forty two have been together for twenty three years.
During those years, we've been a strong couple, and I
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did everything in my power to create a home that
we could grow old in together. I handled all of
our finances, taxes, expenses, the kids, the pets, two dogs,
two cats, and a snake. I gave affection and made
myself available to him whenever he needed. Over the past
number of years, my health has been in decline. I'll
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admit I haven't always handled it well. He'd complain that
I needed to do more to take care of myself,
and so I did. At the height of things, I
was seeing eight different doctors, taking ten different medications several
times a day, and working a full time job. I
just kept getting worse. I needed to sleep twelve our
days just to function. But I did it and adjusted
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everything so that no one would be impacted by my
declining health. About three weeks ago, I was in bad shape.
He told me to go to the emergency room. I
said that I would uber so that it wouldn't impact
his schedule. However, on the day, I was so afraid
that I asked him to take me. Later, when it
was time to go home, I felt overwhelmed by what happened,
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and I asked him to pick me up. I should
have just you burze, like I said, because he came
to get me and he was so upset. We ended
up getting into a huge fight. He said I was
inconsiderate of his needs and that I should move out.
I told him I was not going to move out,
and that if he was unhappy, he should leave. He
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proceeded to tell me that I was incapable of taking
care of the house and the family in my condition,
and I should do the right thing and leave. I
wasn't going to leave the family I built and the
life I'd worked so hard to create, so time went by.
Two weeks we talked and he told me that he
wanted to be single, he didn't want to be married
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to me anymore, and that the sorrow he was feeling
was so deep that he didn't know how he was
going to get better, but that he knew it was
inevitable that our marriage word end. A couple of weeks
before my birthday, I gathered the courage to offer him
a one month no contact split, and he giddily accepted it,
only to come to tell me that I better not
try to stop him from seeing his I broke down sobbing,
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because this man whom I've loved for half my life
is treating me like I'm this evil villain hell bent
on hurting him. In that moment, I yelled at him
with tears in my eyes, that I know the only
person he never wants to see again is me, and
I'll find a way to come to terms with it,
but that for thirty days, he isn't welcome in my home.
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I blocked him from my phone and stopped sharing my location.
I told our daughter, fifteen, that I will support whatever
she wants to do, and I will be there for
her no matter what. She chose to stay, but keeps
the lines of communication open with her dad. I think
that's healthy and I'm so proud of her. But folks
are telling me I was wrong to let him leave.
(20:44):
Am I the bleephole here? Update? It's only been three days,
but still no communication. Last night, my daughter said to
me out of the blue while we were having family time,
I think he's going to come back home. I said,
why do you think that? She said, because he's lonely.
I said, how do you know that? She said, because
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he's been texting me a lot. I mean a lot,
a lot, like he's being kind of extra. I said,
how do you feel about that? She said, I don't know.
I just think he's going through it and he'll come back.
I dropped it because I didn't want to influence her
one way or the other. Update. I'll keep this as
short as possible. I invited him back home because he
(21:28):
was struggling financially. He agreed to therapy, but went to
one session and said it wasn't for him and he
wasn't going back. He withdrew all affection and intimacy, and
when I confronted him about it. He said that it
makes him uncomfortable and that he will not do any
of those things anymore any time soon. I said, so,
you're going to treat me like a roommate, He said,
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I can see why you'd see it that way. I
was devastated, but I have a great friend group. My
son twenty knows about what's going on, but he's worried
about me not being able to take care of myself
if he leaves. I understand his concerns, so I've decided
to and it cuts off their talk about a cliffhanger.
This poor woman's poured her soul into the family, battling
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health issues while keeping everything afloat, and now her husband's
pulling the roommate card after she gives him exactly what
he demanded. Heart breaking. She's not the bleephole, she's the
rock holding it together. That daughter's insight about him being
lonely spot on, but it doesn't excuse the cold shoulder.
Hoping she prioritizes her health and finds support, maybe that
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friend group can rally. Stories like this show how illness
can strain even the strongest bonds. Few what a line
up to day spilled juice drama, shattered trust, purple hair, Heart,
two Hearts, burn out, battles, and a marriage on ice.
Thanks for joining me as we unpacked these Reddit gems
from m I the Bleephole. If any of these hit
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close to home, drop a comment or share your take.
We love hearing from you. Until next time, Keep those
conversations flowing, set those boundaries, and remember life's too short
for dark rooms or diluted juice fights. See you, Sown
Welcome back, every one to another episode of our podcast,
where we read through those wild heartfelt stories from Reddit's
drama suburdits like am I the Bleephole? In similar spots
full of them family feuds and relationship roller coasters. I'm
your host, and to day, we've pulled five fresh tales
that are sure to spark some debates. We'll rid them
(00:22):
straight from the posters, add a bit of commentary along
the way, and see if we can figure out who's
in the right or just tangled up in the mess.
Grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let's get started
with our first story. Our first one comes from a
twenty five you're old guy who's just moved into his
new house. Here's the title, am I the Bleephole for
(00:45):
basically telling my in laws this is my house. If
you don't like my rules, get out. First off, I
don't think I was wrong, which has infuriated my girl friend,
I twenty five recently moved into my house. My girl
friend twenty seven and I had a little housewarming her family,
my mother, and a few of our friends. We were
(01:07):
eating outdoors and the kids had their own table. My
girlfriend's nephew Ate knocked over a jug of diluted juice.
I was at the table when it happened, and it
was clearly an accident. He was very polite and apologized.
He was a little upset, but I just laughed it off.
His father came over, and I was shocked at how
(01:27):
much his father gave out to him. I told him
it was only an accident and so on, and he
kept going. I felt really guilty for not stopping it.
He ran over to the corner of the garden and
started crying. His father went back to the table, and
he said what happened, and his wife said he deserved
that he should stay there a long time, or something
(01:49):
along those lines. There was almost a snigger from some
of her family. Anyway, I went over to the boy
a couple of minutes later. I gave him a bar
of chocolate. He was still crying. He said sorry again.
I gave him a high five and taught him this
high five I used to do as a kid. His
mother came over and said, do you mind not talking
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to my son. He needs to think about what he
did wrong, and he needs to do that alone. I
took her and her husband aside and said, this is
my house. If you want to upset your kid, don't
do it here. If you don't like it, get out.
I swear. The reaction that followed was insane. They went
back to the table saying it. My mom said, never
(02:31):
holding back, didn't I raise a great son. He spot
on not to let bullies in his house, which erupted
it even more. My girl friend spoke to me in
private and asked me to apologize to them. I said no,
I stand by what I said in this part. I
regret a bit. I told her I think less of
her for even asking me to apologize. A mate of
(02:54):
mine and his son kicked ball with the boy and I.
He actually gave me a hug I don't do hugs
at the end of the party and said sorry again.
He hugged so tightly for a couple of seconds. I
really could go on about the drama, but in short
her family thought I was wrong. I was getting little
digs and so on. My girlfriend's friend came up privately
(03:15):
and said I was right to step in. My girlfriend
is still pushing for me to apologize. I still don't
think I did anything wrong. I didn't tell them how
to parent, but told them to leave if that's how
they want a parent. If I'm being completely honest, I
didn't say this. I'm not sure i'd want a kid
with a family like that. Agro overspilled freaking flavored water. Wow,
(03:38):
there's so many messages apologies, but I can't respond to
all some of the common answers to responses agreed, What
must they be like in private? Snigger is a word,
at least in the United Kingdom. My mother is the
best mother any kid could have had. Yeah, it puts
a big hole in my future with my girl friend.
(04:00):
Few That one's a doozy right from the start. Can
you imagine being that eight year old kid just spilling
some juice by accident and getting reamed out like that
in front of every one, and then the poster steps
in with chocolate and a high five. Honestly, that sounds
like the hero move to me. But telling the parents
to get out if they don't like it bold and
(04:22):
I get why the girl friend's upset, But boundaries in
your own home are everything. The poster's mom stealing the
show with that line gold, I think he's not the
bleephole here, but it does make you wonder if this
family dynamic is a red flag for the long hole.
What do you all think Team Chocolate Bar or Team
tough Love. Let's move on to our next story, because
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this one's got some real heart break. This one's from
a thirty two year old man who's been through the
ringer title. Am I the bleephole for abandoning my so
called family after discovering the truth? I thirty two male,
AM male, married and have been since I was twenty.
We had a little boy a few years ago who
was nine. Now my wife is the same age as me. Recently,
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it has come to my attention that my partner is
less than faithful. I caught her cheating red handed. I
won't get into that part, though I've suspected it for
a while, but I never could catch her. She was
very good at being a liar. We stayed together for
the kid and were half way trying to work things,
and I was living in a hotel for a bit.
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She has a best friend that is known for having
multiple partners, and one night I ran into her and
we hung out drinking and she ended up staying the
night at my hotel room. We didn't do anything sexual.
She tried to kiss me and I just couldn't go
through with it. My wife apparently decides to come see
me the next morning, and there was a blow out.
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The cops were called from the screaming, and I was
kicked out of the hotel. In the middle of all that,
she told me that our son was and even mine.
At first, I just figured she was trying to hurt me,
but after a while I got a DNA test she
was not lying. Now for the worst part. After I
found out, I tried to talk to her so we
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could figure out what to tell him. He already knows.
Apparently his real father threatened to take her to court
two years ago if she didn't let him see the kid.
Apparently she had been taking him to see his real
dad once a month since, and I had no idea.
I was devastated by him knowing before I did, and
with everything that happened. So I just left that night
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and haven't spoken to them in over six months. Now.
I think I messed up posting this, but just to
clear things up, it's been six months since I left.
So for those that are worried, I'm not going to
do anything stupid or reckless. Thank you for being concerned,
though the kid broke my heart more than she did,
at least that's how it feels to day. Like I said,
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I expected her to break my heart, but him keeping
it from me this entire time, that is what got
to me. I don't think I'm capable of ever trusting
anything a person says anymore at all. Life hasn't been
easy since then. I obviously quit my job when it happened,
been arrested twice for public intoxication. I'm living in my
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car doing door dash in Stetckart. I'm doing so bad
financially it's not even funny. I want to get a
hotel room soon. For those of you worried about the kid,
he seems to be doing fine from Facebook. I don't
believe she got into a relationship with the bio dad,
but the kid has been spending a lot of time
with him. I'm lost, to be honest, I honestly just
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don't know what to do at this point. I wish
it never happened. I haven't had any contact at all
with them. They know I'm alive about it. As far
as I know, I should have handled it better. I
know things can't go back, so I'm just kind of stuck.
For now, I think I'm just going to get an
official divorce and move on. I don't have much to lose.
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Even if she tried to take it. At this point,
she could have it all. I really don't care. At
least that's how I feel to day. It changes pretty frequently. Update, update, Update.
If there is a better place to put this comment
where more people can see it, please message me and
explain how so. I was drunk when I posted this.
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I never expected it to blow up the way it did.
All of you made me realize I have made mistakes
to I can't run from my life or avoid it
any more. I tried to contact my wife, but it
did not go well. We screamed and insulted each other.
The only thing we could agree on is that we
should get divorced. She refused to let me speak to
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my son. I just wanted to apologize, to try to
explain myself. She has a lawyer, or claims to I
need to get one, but I am not able to
with my current situation. I don't have family I can
ask for help. I'm not even sure if I'm a
left to ask for help on here, but if any
of you are interested, message me I said previously that
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I live in my car and that hasn't changed. I
do work, but it's not enough money. I plan on
getting another job or trying to get my old one back. Oh, listeners,
this one hits hard betrayal on top of betrayal, the cheating,
the secret dad visits, and then finding out the kids
not biologically his after raising him for nine years. That's
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enough to shatter anyone. And the poster's spiraling with the
arrests and living in the car. You can feel the
raw pain in every word. I think he's not the
bleep whole for stepping away he needed space to breathe,
but reaching out for help in the comments shows he's
fighting to turn it around, rooting for him to get
that lawyer, and some stability stories like this remind us
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how fragile trust can be. Hang in there if you're
going through something similar, All right, shaking off the heavy vibes.
Our next story lightens it up a tad, but still
packs a punch on the parenting front. This one's from
a thirty nine You're Old stay at Home Dad? Title.
Am I the bleep whole for telling my wife that
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if I waited for her to make memories with our son,
we wouldn't have any. Last weekend, I thirty nine mail
helped my son fourteen mail dye his hair purple. Or
my good friend, who actually knew what he was doing,
helped dye my son's hair while I was there for
music requests and object fetching. It was such a fun day,
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and I could tell how happy it made my boy.
I didn't tell my wife before we did this, and
that was the catalyst to the fight we're currently having.
But for me, it's so much more than this one incident.
My wife has been hands off with our child for
a while now, his soccer game's, little road trips to
near by amusement parks, bactus cool shopping. She's too busy
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with work or too tired from work, so I've mostly
just stopped having the conversations. Why would I waste my
breath to have the same conversations on repeat. The night
we dyed his hair, she started crying while we were talking,
saying we were making all of these memories without her.
I asked her what she expected me to do. If
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we waited for her to make memories, we would be
sitting in a dark room. One hundred percent of the time.
My son isn't even really comfortable with her anymore. There
is no I can't take you. Go ask your mom.
Now it's I'm sorry, I can't take you. Let me
see if friend is free that day. My wife isn't
speaking to me now, and I'm wondering if I took
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it too far. I don't know. I was hoping some
brutal honesty would change something. I would have loved having
more kids. But I guess it's for the best now
that she said, no, it it. I must stay at
home dad. The original plan was for me to start
working again when our son went to kindergarten, but my
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wife was gunning for a promotion around that time and
ask me to stay home longer. Once she got the promotion,
her hours increased, so that time was extended once again.
I am responsible for all the household chores and general
home making tasks. I cook, clean, do all the yard work,
all the grocery shopping, and so on. I do enjoy
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being a stay at home dad, but I've been ready
and willing to rejoin the work force for a decade now.
At this point, I will be getting a job when
my son turns sixteen and can get himself to and
from school. But my wife still refuses to cut her
hours even if I get a job, and gets frustrated
every time I bring it up. There is no point
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in me forcing my son to ride the bus or
figure out a ride for himself if my wife still
won't make the effort or compromise in order to spend
time with him. Purple hair and family fractures. Love the
fun start, but oof, that edit adds so much context.
The dad's been holding down the fort solo for years,
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making those memories happen because mom's glued to her job.
That line about waiting in a dark room brutal but fair.
It's like he's carrying the emotional load alone. I don't
think he's the bleephole. Sounds like a wake up call
she needed. Kudo's to him for stepping up. As the
fun parent makes me think about work life balance. How
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do we make sure no one gets left in the dark?
Great question for the comments. If this were read it
on to story number four, which dives into the exhaustion
of every day parenting from a forty one You're old
husband and dad of two title, Am I the Bleephole?
For telling my wife I deserve breaks two and to
get a little more involved. Throwaway wife has read it
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as well. Everything has started in the last two to
four months. My forty one male wife thirty nine female
have been married for twelve years now. We have two children,
eleven male and ten female. I work as a financial adviser.
Wife works as a nurse. My hours are nine to
five and she works seven to seven. I try my
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best to do as much as I can to reduce
the burden for my wife. I drop the kids off
at school, pick them up from after school program, go
to parent conferences. I try to clean the house as
much as I can in the two hours I have
while also trying to care for dinner in helping with homework.
I love what I do, but it can be stressful.
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It's very hard to have a day off with my
wife since our schedules don't align. We haven't had a
date night in months. She almost always works weekends and
I'm off on weekends, so I'm constantly trying to reduce
the burden on her while also trying to manage my
own mental health. Cause I feel like I don't get
eight break. I feel like she isn't grateful. She'll come
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home and have dinner, then shower and relax, which is
what I would want her to do, but when I
try to do that, she seems unsatisfied and starts asking
me to do numerous things until she's ready to go
to bed. These include folding laundry she hasn't gotten to further,
household tidying, and a bunch of can you, could you?
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And would you questions. I've thought about hiring a cleaning
service to come once or twice a month, but she's
highly against this and doesn't want strangers in the house.
She doesn't seem to have interest in money or expenses either,
as long as they are paid. She doesn't have concerns.
She doesn't have interest in knowing how much the electric is,
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how much we're paying on the mortgage, or gas, or
anything that has to do with how we live. On
the days she's off, she'll sometimes go out with friends
or just chill at home. On the days she's off,
she doesn't bother me nearly as much, but still does
wait until I get home and starts asking me to
do things could have done during the day. Recently, I've
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started playing with my friends again, on x Bok's first
time in months. Every time I sit down to play
starts the one thousand requests of can you do this?
I've finally lost my cool a few days ago and
tried to calmly tell her I needed a break and
needed to decompress, which irritated her. Her response to this was,
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you have been home for four hours and I've been
home for two. I'm tired. I understand she's tired. I've
dealt with hospitals with my grandma and grandpa and parents.
I've been admitted plenty of times, nurses constantly running in
and out of rooms. I try my best to give
her little to do when she gets home, but she
never seems satisfied. I can feel I'm cracking under pressure
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and trying to contain my emotions, but I don't know
how much longer I can am I the bleep whole.
This story's like a mirror for so many couples. Juggling
crazy shifts nurse hours sound brutal, but the husband's pulling
double duty too, and that resentment's building. The Xbox break
request totally valid. Everyone's got a limit. I don't see
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him as the bleephole. He's communicating, even if it came
out heated, maybe a cleaning service compromise or a real
talk about dividing the load better. It screams for couples
counseling before it boils over relatable exhaustion. Here. If you're
nodding along, you're not alone. Last story of the day,
Buckle up. This one's a marriage melt down with updates
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from a forty five yere old woman married for twenty
three years. Title Am I the bleephole for giving my
husband exactly what he asked for? Me? Forty five and
hubby forty two have been together for twenty three years.
During those years, we've been a strong couple, and I
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did everything in my power to create a home that
we could grow old in together. I handled all of
our finances, taxes, expenses, the kids, the pets, two dogs,
two cats, and a snake. I gave affection and made
myself available to him whenever he needed. Over the past
number of years, my health has been in decline. I'll
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admit I haven't always handled it well. He'd complain that
I needed to do more to take care of myself,
and so I did. At the height of things, I
was seeing eight different doctors, taking ten different medications several
times a day, and working a full time job. I
just kept getting worse. I needed to sleep twelve our
days just to function. But I did it and adjusted
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everything so that no one would be impacted by my
declining health. About three weeks ago, I was in bad shape.
He told me to go to the emergency room. I
said that I would uber so that it wouldn't impact
his schedule. However, on the day, I was so afraid
that I asked him to take me. Later, when it
was time to go home, I felt overwhelmed by what happened,
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and I asked him to pick me up. I should
have just you burze, like I said, because he came
to get me and he was so upset. We ended
up getting into a huge fight. He said I was
inconsiderate of his needs and that I should move out.
I told him I was not going to move out,
and that if he was unhappy, he should leave. He
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proceeded to tell me that I was incapable of taking
care of the house and the family in my condition,
and I should do the right thing and leave. I
wasn't going to leave the family I built and the
life I'd worked so hard to create, so time went by.
Two weeks we talked and he told me that he
wanted to be single, he didn't want to be married
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to me anymore, and that the sorrow he was feeling
was so deep that he didn't know how he was
going to get better, but that he knew it was
inevitable that our marriage word end. A couple of weeks
before my birthday, I gathered the courage to offer him
a one month no contact split, and he giddily accepted it,
only to come to tell me that I better not
try to stop him from seeing his I broke down sobbing,
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because this man whom I've loved for half my life
is treating me like I'm this evil villain hell bent
on hurting him. In that moment, I yelled at him
with tears in my eyes, that I know the only
person he never wants to see again is me, and
I'll find a way to come to terms with it,
but that for thirty days, he isn't welcome in my home.
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I blocked him from my phone and stopped sharing my location.
I told our daughter, fifteen, that I will support whatever
she wants to do, and I will be there for
her no matter what. She chose to stay, but keeps
the lines of communication open with her dad. I think
that's healthy and I'm so proud of her. But folks
are telling me I was wrong to let him leave.
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Am I the bleephole here? Update? It's only been three days,
but still no communication. Last night, my daughter said to
me out of the blue while we were having family time,
I think he's going to come back home. I said,
why do you think that? She said, because he's lonely.
I said, how do you know that? She said, because
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he's been texting me a lot. I mean a lot,
a lot, like he's being kind of extra. I said,
how do you feel about that? She said, I don't know.
I just think he's going through it and he'll come back.
I dropped it because I didn't want to influence her
one way or the other. Update. I'll keep this as
short as possible. I invited him back home because he
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was struggling financially. He agreed to therapy, but went to
one session and said it wasn't for him and he
wasn't going back. He withdrew all affection and intimacy, and
when I confronted him about it. He said that it
makes him uncomfortable and that he will not do any
of those things anymore any time soon. I said, so,
you're going to treat me like a roommate, He said,
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I can see why you'd see it that way. I
was devastated, but I have a great friend group. My
son twenty knows about what's going on, but he's worried
about me not being able to take care of myself
if he leaves. I understand his concerns, so I've decided
to and it cuts off their talk about a cliffhanger.
This poor woman's poured her soul into the family, battling
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health issues while keeping everything afloat, and now her husband's
pulling the roommate card after she gives him exactly what
he demanded. Heart breaking. She's not the bleephole, she's the
rock holding it together. That daughter's insight about him being
lonely spot on, but it doesn't excuse the cold shoulder.
Hoping she prioritizes her health and finds support, maybe that
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friend group can rally. Stories like this show how illness
can strain even the strongest bonds. Few what a line
up to day spilled juice drama, shattered trust, purple hair, Heart,
two Hearts, burn out, battles, and a marriage on ice.
Thanks for joining me as we unpacked these Reddit gems
from m I the Bleephole. If any of these hit
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close to home, drop a comment or share your take.
We love hearing from you. Until next time, Keep those
conversations flowing, set those boundaries, and remember life's too short
for dark rooms or diluted juice fights. See you, Sown
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