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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled parents Stories. Our first story will
be reading today. My mother in law is threatening to
sue me for grandparents' rights. After that, manager insists I
do my job properly. Happy to comply, sir, And after that,
am I the jerk for leaving a bad review on
a small store? Now, for every thumbs up as video

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kids one, Karen does not get to play Mario Kart.
You stay away from my switch, Reddit boy, so please
smash that like button and subscribe and turn on notifications
for new stories from Reddit. Every single day, my mother
in law is threatening to sue me for grandparents' rights.
I twenty eight female, have been married to my husband,
thirty male, for two years, and we've been together for

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almost ten years. I love my in laws and have
never had an issue with them, at least before I
was pregnant with my first baby. My mother in law
has one other daughter, let's call her Jane, but she
lives across the state. She has two boys and is
done having kids. She lives close to her mother in
law and the boys are pretty close to her, which
obviously causes some jealousy issues with my mother in law.

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My whole pregnancy has been one big guilt trip about
how she never got to be there for Jane for
her pregnancy. She would touch my belly or get really
close to it to talk to the baby. I would
tell my husband that it made me uncomfortable, and while
he was understanding, he also felt bad for his mom
too and reminded me about how she missed many moments
with Jane. During the last couple months of my pregnancy,

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we made the decision to move in with my in
laws to save money for a house. This made my
mother in law so happy. She kept telling everyone she
was excited for the baby to come home to her.
I let those comments slide for a while, but finally
had to confront her about my baby shower. My parents
bought us a crib and nursery decorations from my registry,
and my mother in law made a joke to my

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mom how good everything is going to look in her
my mother in law's room, and that she's basically going
to be our live in nanny. My mom has never
had any reason to dislike my in laws, but these
comments were very off I had to sit down with
my mother in law about boundaries, and she started crying
and said she just wanted to feel close to at
least one of her grandkids. I tried not bringing up

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the topic after that, but she didn't make it easy.
The thing that gets me upset the most is the
constant need to have all the baby firsts. She wants
to be the first to do everything, and it's so
hard to tell her no. Until one day she waited
until I left the room at dinner time. When I
came back, my husband excitedly told me how much the
baby will love mashed potatoes and that my mother in

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law gave her a small spoonful, and she went nuts.
My mother in law said, you weren't supposed to tell her.
It was grandma's little secret. I snapped. I said, that's
my kid, and there will be no secrets, no matter
how small. Things got tense and I got called dramatic
and that she's allowed to have grandma moments with my kid,

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whatever that's supposed to mean. I think my last straw
is this. My husband and I have just been approved
for our loan and we'll be signing papers on a
house soon out forty five minutes away from my in laws. Lately,
she's been going on about how it's unfair to her
and how she doesn't know how to handle her baby
being so far away. She's jokingly brought up suing for

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grandparents' rights or about setting up her new room. I
wouldn't be so upset if it was one or two jokes,
but after hearing about it daily, it's starting to feel
less like a joke and more like she wants to
take my baby. Am I the jerk for wanting to
have another sit down? Not the jerk. She has a
serious jealousy and boundary issue and she'd talk to someone

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to get her some help with it. Do not give
this woman a ki to your house. Not the jerk.
I'd be having a sit down with you, your husband,
your mother in law, and if she's married, her husband,
laying down the ground rules. If mother in law doesn't
abide by them, she gets put in a time out
until she learns to respect her role as grandmother not mother.
The threats of suing for grandparents' rights is highly dependent

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on the state y'all live in, But until she knocks
off the threads, I'd limit her time that she gets
to spend with the baby move out asap. She obviously
gets highly dependent upon fantasized connections and will only get
more attached. Not the jerk. Well, who do you think
is the jerk? OPI or mother in law? Please let
us know. I never got to meet any of my grandparents,

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but if I could have, and they really loved me,
I think I would have turned out different. Manager insists
I do my job properly. Happy to comply, sir, preface.
In early twenty twenty, I was hired under the title
assistant manager at a local automotive shop. We mainly sold
tires and alloy wheels for passenger vehicles. The company owned
several stores. I reported directly to my manager, who then

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reported to the owner of the company. Shortly after I
was hired, I noticed the behavior of the manager was
far from professional. He would constantly mock and berate me
for being the new guy. I believe part of this
was jealousy and insecurity on his part, as I ended
up recording more sales under my name within the first
few months. He would also knock off work early and

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and start drinking beer whilst the rest of us continued
to work. I remember when he found out that I
participated in MMA training sessions after work, he tried to
go me into a fight for his own amusement. Clearly,
this guy didn't like me, and I was starting to
get the feeling that he was trying to get me
to snap or lose my cool and as a result,
my employment. I became even more certain of that with

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what happened next story. During the few months that I
had worked there, I had noticed that our takings for
the day and sales records did not match. I would
often spend half an hour to an hour after work
trying to figure out where the errors were coming from,
whilst the manager would simply throw his hands in the
air and exclaimed that he had no idea how this
was happening. The recurring issue seemed to be that our

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cash takings had been recorded incorrectly. There would sometimes be
an excess amount of cash that didn't match up to
what was recorded on our sales and invoicing software. Other
times there would be less. I was, at the time
an accounting student studying towards my bachelor's degree. I was
already suspicious of the cash being taken out each day. However,
given how the manager had been treating me, up until

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this point, I was concerned that any complaint would somehow
be twisted and used against me, and boy was I right.
Several weeks later, my manager took some time off. During
this time, I managed a personal record in store sales
and also noticed something interesting. The cash was never out
at the end of each shift. I reported this directly
to the owner of the company. Given I was acting

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manager during the time my manager was away, I was
expected to report to the owner every day and explained
what had been occurring whilst the manager was there. In
all honesty, I was hopeful that the owner would be
having a word with the manager about the discrepancies. However,
I was also weary, as I believed once the owner
spoke to my manager that the manager will immediately know

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it was me who reported this. When the manager returned
to work, he immediately approached me with a disgruntled look
on his face. I've spoken with the owner. You tried
to blame me for the discrepancies. You should focus on
doing your job properly, then this wouldn't happen. I was
quite taken aback by how angry he was, though I
wasn't surprised that he twisted it and tried to place

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the blame on me. Given his reaction, I'm even more
suspicious at this point. He wants me to do my
job properly, eh Q. Malicious compliance. That same week I
got to work, I started paying attention to what customers
were paying when they were dealing with my manager behind
his back. I began examining all of his sales, transactions
and invoices with a fine comb. As the days rolled by,

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I started to find evidence of his dishonesty. When it
came to a few cash sales my manager was doing
the following example, would tell the customer the price is
two hundred dollars if he pays cash, would discount the
price by fifty dollars in the sale and invoicing software
would put the extra cash into the tail and record
a one hundred and fifty dollars cash sale before we

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did the cash up at the end of the day.
He would sneakily pocket this extra cash whilst no one
was around. Though he was very foolish as he clearly
couldn't remains the exact amount he had swindled, hence why
the cash would be up some days, didn't swindle enough
or the cash would be down swindled too much. I
took screenshots of the discounts he had been giving on
sales and sent them to the business owner along with

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a report. A report with a detailed description of my findings.
The report also showed that on all days he wasn't
there for the cash count, there was no varians when
he was there. Well, the owner was infuriated. This man
had been his trusted employee for years. The owner was
so infuriated, in fact, that he ordered my manager to
do a mandatory drug test on the same day he

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found out, and no surprise, he failed. Turns out, the
manager had quite a bad habit. This was most likely
his sole motive for stealing the cash, and the owner
was beside himself. We operate machinery every day in this store,
and so the thought of a manager walking around after
he had been doing something like this wouldn't sit well
with any health and safety professionals. In fact, it could

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have landed the owner in serious legal trouble if finny
accident or injury occurred under his manager's watch. The manager
was terminated immediately for violation of his contract and was
later taken to court by the owner in an attempt
to recover the stolen funds. Safe to say, I was
promoted to store manager position shortly after his termination. Am
I the jerk for leaving a bad review on a

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small store? So my boyfriend and I have a tradition
for our anniversary that we each go to a store
and separate, and after we buy each other gifts, we
exchange in the car. It's silly and cute. We walked
into this new mom and pop anime store. I'm a
huge anime nerd, and my boyfriend likes video games, which
they also sell. We separate and I go look at
stuff from my boyfriend. A worker walks up to me

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and starts chatting, then points at my leg. I have
a pretty big tattoo from Naruto on my thigh, among
other anime tattoos. He asks if I got that from
my boyfriend, and I said no, I've always loved Naruto,
and then I showed it my other anime tattoos. He
started quizzing me on the lore of the anime, and
I told him I wouldn't have spent one thousand dollars

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on tattoos of an anime I didn't know about and
I didn't appreciate him trying to catch me in a
gotcha moment. He then told me that he didn't believe
I could ever fully understand the real story of Narruto
and the depth behind it. I told him I didn't
need his services and he can go back to the
front desk. He told me I was a rude, wanna
bee jerk and walked into the back and I continued

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purchasing my items. I left the review later that basically
said one of the employees called me names when I
didn't want to prove my nerd cred to him. The
owner left a comment on my review asking for an
email conversation and asked that I take down my review
because people have started complaining about this employee as well
as his sale revenue has dropped. I told him I

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wouldn't and maybe he shouldn't hire jerks if he doesn't
want bad reviews. My friends tell me that I'm overreacting.
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? As if Naarruto
is some grand epic that's hard to understand, a twelve
years old could understand it. Op. I love Narruto obviously,
but it's really not that deep. Not the jerk you're

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not overreacting. If the store owner wants to get his
revenue back, he can fire the jerk. You are under
no responsibility to put up with this kind of treatment.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Not the jerk. I'd
edit my review to add what the owner did with screenshots. Well,
what do you think should OP remove the review or not?

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Please let us know. Absolutely not. That would kind of
defeat the whole purpose of what reviews are for. I
exposed my manager as a hypocrite. Backstory. I work in
a residential facility for people on probation. They can serve
out a sentence there on work release or if they're
sentenced to our treatment program, so they come and go
a lot. Part of my job is sending anything new

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they bring back to the property office to be inventoried
or held as contraband. Stuff that isn't illegal but they
can't have in the facility, like chewing tobacco. They're not
allowed to bring outside food drinks, so part of my
job is throwing it away if it's perishable or unwrapped.
This guy returned with a bag of burgers and burritos.
His job was throwing away, so I disposed of it,

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and he complained to the policy compliance manager who runs
the property office. She told me that I had to
get with that client for financial reimbursement. I tried getting
her to understand that I threw that stuff away because
it would not keep back in the office, as her
own policy states, and she didn't care. Her words to
me were property officers are the ones who sought through
the property for contraband or disposable items. Your job is

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not to review the property, just bag it up and
label it with their name. Everything goes through property. She
even underlined the word everything in her email. It felt
like she was making up her own rules despite what
policy said, because she didn't want to deal with a
complaining work release inmate the malicious compliance. Yesterday, a client
returned with a half eaten bag lunch. We provide people

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leaving for work in case they can't feed themselves. I
saw my opportunity. I did exactly what you think and
sent a brown bag of half eaten sandwich and cornbread
to be inventory this property. I saw her emaal today,
going off on me for being passive aggressive or that
I need to be retrained. She normally doesn't c see
anyone in her emails about issues, but she did today.

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My direct supervisor, the operations commander, and the deputy director
were all included so they could see her complaining at
me over the half eaten food I sent her staff.
She must have felt like Obi Wan having the high
ground too bad. She did, in fact, underestimate my power.
I included even more supervisory staff in my response and
directly quoted her original emals to me and pointed out

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that she had told me her staff were the ones
that throw things away, and that I was to bag
and tag everything. I was later told by my laughing
supervisors that the director himself laughed as he told her
you told him to send you everything. You can't get
upset because he did what you said. Edit. Some of
the comment notifications I'm getting are from people apparently really

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upset that I'm throwing food away. While I do agree
it's important to look out for people trying to get
their life together on probation, please let me reassure you
that we feed them three meals a day in our cafeteria,
make them food trays to be saved for later in
a fridge set aside specifically for people who miss meals
due to their work schedule, and always have bag lunches
made fresh daily for them to take with them when

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they leave. There are even vending machines available to them.
We are not starving them if they try to bring
in outside food. The rules about outside food are made
clear to them. Day one. Chill. Am I the jerk
for not wanting my husband's other kid in my house.
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and
had a baby with another woman. I found out after
the other kid was born. I've never been okay with this.

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It's exactly the kind of stuff I tried so hard
to have not be a part of my life. If
it was possible, I would have divorced them by now,
but I'm stuck at a legal dead end and it's
not possible. We have a legal and emotional separation agreement, though,
since he travels a lot and between the baby, my parents,
and my career, I've been able to avoid thinking too
much about it. Well, so I thought. It's been almost

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two years since then, and now he wants to bring
that kid into my house. I guess he has some
kind of schedule with the other kid's mother that includes
visits and he wants that visitation to be in what
is technically still his residence. Absolutely not. I'm not a
stepmother to any kid, and unlike in most of these situations,
the house we're living in is truly only mine. It's

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under my parents' names. But I got it when I
got POA and they had to go into a care home.
I'm not having this kid in it. My husband and
our family say that I need to deal with it
because I'm still married, that I need to accept my
step kid, and that I'm a jerk for excluding a
baby and preventing siblings from having a relationship. I don't agree.
This kid may technically be siblings to mine, but I

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don't need to play mom to this kid to make
a relationship happen. And I don't want any of this
crap coming into mine or my kid's safe space. For
not wanting this kid here edit, why can't you get divorced?
Why is he still living there? In my state? To
file for divorce, both parties need to have been separated
for over a year in living in separate residencies, which

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requires one of us to move out. He doesn't want
a divorce, so of course he won't move out. I
can't make him because we're still married, and theory I
could move out and start the clock, but realistically I can't.
With the POA, I can't just abandon the house. I
couldn't afford to anyway, but even if I did, he
would be able to remain there. I would eventually get

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the house back, but in the meantime he could easily
destroy it, and then i'd have legal problems from that.
To clarify on the separation agreement, those don't technically exist
in my state, but since we haven't notarized, we could
use it as an interim agreement on custody and the
split on finances once that clock starts, and especially post
filing edit too adultree at fault I could file based

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on adult Tree. I don't really want to go that
route because it would turn the entire situation very hot,
very quickly, and I would still have to have him
living here until we could get a court and date,
which could easily be months and months in the future. Anyway,
I realize it already seems as hostile as possible right now,
but day to day things are civil in a way
that it wouldn't be if I did that. I also

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am not confident that it wouldn't look bad because I
would have been waiting two years after knowing about it
to do anything. Not the jerk. This may not be
a popular opinion since most on hearsay you have to
be a perfect stepparent and accept all situations, but you
are not at all the jerk. I was in a
similar situation and still get upset thirty years later. Don't

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let people tell you what to do or how to feel.
It's your house. Tell the father to go someplace else. Also,
typically the partner is aware of the spouse having kids
prior to moving in and getting married. A step parent
that tells their partner they don't want anything to do
with the kid in question is different, as they knew before,
so now they have to live with it as it
was always part of the deal. This situation is different.

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He doesn't even want to be in a relationship with
the father. It's exactly like all the other stories that
we see recently where the OP is divorced and the
ex wants the OP to take care of the step
and have siblings for a weekend or something, and each
time the OP is not the jerk. The only difference
is that she's stuck living with the other parent, and
the other parent is using legal loopholes to stay there

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and stay married, twisting Op's hand as it is, Op,
I'm sure you checked all you could legally do in
your state and have already thought of it. But just
in case, since it's technically not your house, do you
have the power of attorney? Is an eviction known as possible.
Get a lawyer, a good one. He will bring his
other kid. You need a lawyer to evictim. A lot

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of people who share residents go through divorce. It shouldn't
be this hard without another way out. Get a lawyer
and filed for divorce and evictim. Not the jerk, not
your kid, not your responsibility. And furthermore, in my opinion,
that wouldn't be right having you look after the kid
from his affair. Am I the jerk for accidentally telling
my fiance I don't like his sister and she won't

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be a part of my wedding. This situation is literally ridiculous.
But this whole thing has caused a huge divide across
the family, So I'm here to get a consensus throwaways
for privacy. Even though there's a good chance my fiance
will see it. I twenty six female, have been with
my fiance, Chris, twenty six male, for four years now.
He and his sister, twenty one female, Lilac, are very close.

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They had a pretty rough childhood and always promised each
other to be there no matter what. Lilac is a
good sister to him, but as a person, truthfully, I
can't stand her. She's literally the textbook definition of a
bubbly blonde. She is overly charismatic, always giggling, and in
general just acts too immature for my taste. She likes
to pull pranks every once in a while on my

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fiance and he gets her back, but the whole ordeal
just seems childish and obnoxious to me. Ever since we
got engaged, I knew I didn't want her in my
wedding party because that means I'd have to spend time
with her at my bachelorette and other parties. Fast forward
to last night and my fiance asks me when I
plan on asking Lilac to be a bridesmaid. I got

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quiet and truthfully said I didn't plan on doing so.
This upset him because he said he wants his sister
to be a part of the most important day of
his life, and that if I didn't do it, he
was going to make her a groomswoman to make sure
she's included. I can't lie. This set me off. I
went off about how I want to feel respected by
him and be able to enjoy my wedding day. He

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said he also wants to enjoy his day, which, to
be fair, I understand. This is where I may be
the jerk. I told him that I have always disliked
his sister and wished he would just not include her
for once on a day that isn't even about her.
He got quiet and went into our guest room to
be alone. A couple of minutes later, I got a
text from Lilac that she completely respects my decision to

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not want her in the wedding party, but she's hurt
to know what I actually feel about her. I didn't
want her to find out at all. And now he's
told his whole family about our argument. Half of them
are attacking me, and half of them are saying it's
my day, so I should be able to enjoy it. Honestly,
this whole ordeal is stressful for no reason because Lilac
isn't even upset. I don't want her in my wedding party,

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yet the whole family is upset, and my fiance has
been very short with me all day. Am I the
jerk at it? Just because I don't like her personality
doesn't mean I mean to her. Being around her drains
my social battery. But I've never been mean to her,
nor did I want her to find out ever, especially
in this way. I'm just super introverted and our personalities collide.

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I don't want her at my bachelorette party because I
want to enjoy it fully and not feel anxious the
whole time because the personification of a human firecracker is attending.
You're the jerk. You didn't want her in your wedding
party because that means you'd have to spend time with
her at your bachelorette party. Boy, do I have some
bad news about what's going to happen if you actually
marry her brother and legally bind yourself to him and

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his family for the foreseeable future. Be clear, you're free
to not want to have her in your wedding, but
if she's going to be your sister in law, you
might have to get over your distaste of blondes who've
checked list been bubbly and happy. Don't worry. She may
be able to avoid Lilac permanently. The fiance is rethinking
this wedding as we speak. We can only hope Op

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is correct and her fiance sees this post despite the
anonymous account and change names. He needs to understand how
toxic Ope's behavior is so he'll finally call off the
engagement and break up with her. I agree, while it
is okay to not like someone in your partner's family
if there's a good reason for it. My mom doesn't
like her sister in law because it always has to

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be about her my sister's wedding. My grandma tried to
convince my sister to do something special for my aunt
so she doesn't feel left out. OP literally has no
reason to not like her. It seems like Lilac is
genuinely a good person, and knowing that OP doesn't like
her probably really really hurt her. Just because someone is
always in a good mood doesn't mean you shouldn't like that.

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This is like insanely toxic behavior. So she's happy and
enjoying life, and this bothers You might want to do
some inwords reflection there, Bud, you're the jerk. It's your
fiance's wedding too. It's not all about you. You're the jerk,
and you sound jealous of their relationship. It's not just
your wedding, it's his wedding too. And if you don't

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want her there as a bridesmaid, then that's fine, but
it's unfair for you to dictate that he can't have
her on his side and blow up at him for
wanting to include her. Lots of selfishness on your end.
That's not a great way to start a marriage. It's
not even like she's major drama. You just find her
too giggly and obnoxious. Well, who do you think is
the jerk, OPI or her fiance? Please let us know.

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Has there ever been a wedding where there when people
fighting about something? Am I the jerk for telling my
pregnant sister she needs to go and making her move out?
My sister, Ali is currently seven months pregnant with a
daughter she's planning to name Violet. Ali moved in after
she discovered she was about two months pregnant. She and
her boyfriend agreed beforehand that they didn't want to settle
down and wanted to stay childless. Her boyfriend had of aseectomy

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and they take other precautions, but Allie still got pregnant.
Ali said that getting pregnant changed her mind about not
settling down, and she wanted her and her boyfriend to
get married so they could raise the baby together. Her
boyfriend said he would pay child support and other things,
but because of some stuff that happened in his childhood,
he knew he wouldn't be a good enough father for Violet.
They're still in somewhat contact, but have broken up. Several

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family members offered to let Allie move in as well,
but she chose to move in with me. Since she's
moved in, Alli has been a nightmare. She's nice to others,
but vicious towards me. Just recently, I didn't buy the
right brand of sliced raisin bread. Ali wanted a different
brand than the usual, but neglected to tell me that,
and she went off on a tirade about how I

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was a failure in life and it wasn't surprising my
ex cheated on me. Allie never apologizes for her tirades
and thinks I should just get over them because the
hormones are giving her mood swings not work at the moment,
and also does no help around the house. She's capable
of moving. She goes to friend's houses, but will not
pick up after herself because she claims those specific chores

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cause her immense pregnancy pain. Ali expects me to be
her servant because she's pregnant. She once made me drive
almost three hours to bring her food from the specific
Italian restaurant because Violet was craving lasagna. It's for her.
Anytime I put my foot down or I'm not one
hundred percent cordial with her, as in being tired instead
of super enthusiastic, Ali will call my mother and she

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and other family members will shame me because they say
I'm being a jerk to always expect Ali to be
perfect when she's in pregnancy pain and I will never
know the demand of pregnancy on your body. I explain
my side, but they argue the same things, along with
how I should just help Ali because stress is bad
for the baby. The tiraids and demands for special food
and items because Violet wants them have become daily occurrences.

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So I told Ali last week that we needed to talk.
I explained to Ali that I love her, but I
just can't deal with her right now. I said I
would help her move out and helped pack and bring
her things to my mother's. Now my family members are
calling me a jerk, saying I kicked out my own
sister when she's pregnant. How Alie always looked out for you.
Allie's four years older than me and this should have

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been my turn to take care of her. How Violet's
father isn't going to be in her life and now
she has an uncle who threw her out. I just
can't handle Ali because of how physically and mentally exhausted
I am so read it. Am I the jerk? Not
the jerk? OPI, If your family members are so concerned
with her, she can move in with them. And the
boyfriend needs to visit the doctor he had his procedure

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done ed and get tested to see if he's even
capable of being a father, as it's very likely that
Violet is not his baby. Well, what do you think,
should OPI kick his sister out or not? Please let
us know. I see why her ex didn't want to
stick around, and I do hope he actually gets a
paternity test. Am I the jerk for not wanting my
girlfriends to decorate my apartment? I twenty nine male, have

(27:03):
been with my girlfriend, twenty four female for two years now.
We have not lived together before, but she's currently eighteen
weeks pregnant, so I suggested that she move in with
me once her lease was up. It ended at the
end of June, so she's been living with me for
almost three weeks now. While we get along well and
overall living together has been great, I've noticed that she's
started to change things around my apartment. She only brought

(27:25):
a few things over since my apartment is fully furnished,
so I understand her need to make it feel more
like her space. Everything in my apartment is mid Century Modern.
It's a mid century Modern building, and I bought the
apartment because of how much I love that style. Some
of the things that she's suggesting or bringing into the
apartment absolutely do not go with the vibe. She's taken
down some of my artwork and replaced it, cleared off

(27:48):
shelves I curated and put her knick knacks on it,
went through my pantry and cleared out things she thought
were unhealthy, all without asking me. She works from home
while I work in the office, so she has a
lot more time I'm at the apartment than I do.
I just wish she would run things by me first.
I'm an architect. She's an editor and doesn't have that
same designer eye, which clearly shows. What really bothered me

(28:10):
was that she started to throw some things away without asking.
I went to take out the trash and saw that
some birthday cards I kept were in there. When I
asked about it, she said that she was just getting
rid of clutter, but her stuff is more like clutter
and mine has actual sentimental value. I told her to
stop touching things in the apartment, and she pointed out
that she should have a say because she lives there,

(28:31):
which I agreed with. But she doesn't run anything by me.
Now she's being very avoidant and passive aggressive, So am
I the jerk? Everyone sucks here? You do realize that
when you have a baby, you're carefully curated apartment vibe
will change very much. Right that said, she shouldn't be
throwing your stuff out without asking. You time to sit down,

(28:52):
have an adult conversation and come up with a compromise.
Everyone sucks here. I would have said, not the jerk,
if not for the I told her to stop touching
things in my apartment. She has an equal say in
what your space looks like and a right to make
it feel like her home for her. She's the jerk
for making changes without talking to you, and especially for
throwing some of your stuff out without your consent. You

(29:12):
guys need to have a talk and reach a compromise.
Did you go out of your weight to make her
feel like the home is hers when she moved in?
It doesn't necessarily sound like that's the case. Everyone sucks
here mostly you're the jerk. Though it's not your apartment,
it's shared now. There should be compromise, even if it
doesn't go with your vibe. Why should she ask if
it's both of your spaces. The only reason I'm saying

(29:34):
everyone sucks here is because she threw your cards away.
That's not cool. She should have talked to you before
throwing your things away. But you really need to figure
out how to share space. Have you ever lived with
anyone before? Well? Who do you think is the jerk?
Opie or his girlfriend? Please let us know. Reddit boy
didn't mind when I added these cool new lights above
our head, please let us know if we should keep

(29:55):
them in the cummings. Karen didn't show up for work,
so I fired her. I own it Avabe shop. We
are a small business, only twelve employees. One of my employees, Peggy,
was supposed to open yesterday. Peggy has recently been promoted
to manager after two solid years of good work as
a cashier. I really thought she could handle the responsibility.

(30:15):
So I wake up three hours after the place should
be open, and I have twenty two notifications on the
store Facebook page. Customers have been trying to come shop,
but this store is closed. Employees are showing up to
work but they're locked out. I call Peggy and get
no response. I text her same thing, so I go
in and open the store an hour before her shift

(30:36):
was supposed to be over. She calls me back. I
ask her if she's okay, and she says she needed
to take a mental health day and do some self care.
I'm still pretty upset at this point, but I'm trying
to be understanding, as I know how important mental health
can be. So I asked her why she didn't call
me as soon as she knew that she needed the
day off. Her response, I didn't have enough spoons in

(30:57):
my drawer for that. Frankly, I don't know what that meant,
but it seems to me like she's saying she cannot
be trusted to handle a responsibility of opening the store
in the am. So I told her she had two choices.
One go back to her old position with her old pay.
Two I fire her completely. She's calling me all sorts
of names now and says that I'm discriminating against her.

(31:19):
None of this would have been a problem if she
simply took two minutes to call out, I would have
got up and opened this store on time. But this
no call, no show crap is not the way to
run a successful business. I think I might be the
jerk here because I'm taking away her promotion over something
she really had no control over. But at the same time,
she really could have called me, so read it. I

(31:39):
leave it to you. Am I the jerk? Well? What
do you think is OP the jerk or is Peggy?
Please let us know. After sitting here listening to reddit
boy every day for the past three years, I think
I could use a day off myself. Support our channel
by joining as a member today and we'll give you
a shout out in our next video or come watch
this video next. Won't believe what Karen does in that

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