December 28, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Don't even think about sending your sister money.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I needed more.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Wow. Oh yeah, you're getting good at that. Karen, tell
me something I don't know. Reddit Boy, let's get on
with the stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Karen loses it over me sending my sister money. My
younger sister, who's twenty five, is working towards getting her
master's degree in New York. While she loves the city
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and school, she hates how expensive everything has become. She
does work part time, but it simply isn't enough. My parents,
who are seventy seven and seventy three, have been sending
her money each month, but since they've recently retired, they
had to cut back. To fill the gap, my brother
Mail twenty eight and I Mail thirty two have begun
sending some money to our sister from time to time
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to help out with her rent. I have a well
paid job and a close relationship with my sister, so
I'm happy to help where I can. However, my girlfriend,
who's thirty, has expressed her dissatisfaction with the arrangement. We've
been saving up to put a down payment on a
house in the future, and my girlfriend believes that my
financial contributions to my sister is hindering our progress. Yesterday,
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which happened to be the day I usually send my
sister money, my girlfriend told me that we needed to
reduce expenses, and one suggestion she made was for me
to no longer send money to my sister. She believes
that my sister needs to learn how to manage her
money better and that my brother, who's twenty eight, should
contribute more. I told her about how I feel a
responsibility towards my sister and how my brother doesn't make
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as much as I do, and while she did acknowledge that,
she then said I was financially naive and said she
doesn't want me to be taken advantage of. I was
kind of disappointed hearing this, as I made the conscientious
decision to help my sister and I wasn't falling for
some sort of a scam. The conversation ended because we
both had to go to work, but she told me
not to send anything until we further discussed this. During
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my lunch break at work, I proceeded to send my
sister some money and told girlfriend about this over dinner.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
She told me that she was disappointed. At this point,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Getting a little annoyed and responded by saying I was
not willing to compromise my current arrangement with my sister.
Girlfriend got upset with this and left the table. Am
I the jerk?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Edit?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I make about fifteen point five thousand dollars per month
and have been putting away four to six thousand each
month towards a future house. Girlfriend makes about seven thousand
a month currently and saves around one thousand a month
for the house. She said she'll contribute more once her
student loans are paid off. I pay for rent and utilities.
Girlfriend pays for bulk of the groceries. I started sending
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my sister fifteen hundred dollars a month since my parents retired.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Edit two.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Sister pays twenty eight hundred a month in rent and
three hundred and fifty dollars a month in transportation. I
contribute fifteen hundred dollars a month. Brother pays seven hundred
and fifty a month. Parents pay five hundred a month.
Our mother was terrified of sister living in New York
City on her own and only agreed if she lived
in a nicer area and.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Had a car.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Edit three update, My girlfriend and I had a long
talk after work. It didn't go well. To summarize, tension
escalated during the conversation. I told her that I planned
to continue helping my sister until she completes her degree,
and afterward she would either start working or move back
to our parents' home until she finds a job. However,
my girlfriend expressed her belief that my sister and whole
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family are manipulating me and think I'm naive enough to
send her money regardless of how she uses it. I
started to feel increasingly annoyed and defensive by her accusations
and asserted that it's my money and I have the
right to spend it how I see fit. I then
stupidly said that if she really wanted us to buy
a house, she should save more and cut back on
expenses like nice shoes, clothes, and purses. At this point,
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she became properly angry and declared that she couldn't stay
in the same house as me and said that she
would be going to her friend's house. Before leaving, she said,
call me when you stop acting like an idiot. Before
I could even think, I replied, I won't be calling.
I feel that I may have irreparably damaged our relationship.
Edit forour update, I want to express my thanks to
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all of you for sharing your perspectives and insights. Following
the fight with my girlfriend, I reached out to my
brother to confide in him about what happened. His take
was pretty optimistic, however, he advised me to stand firm
in my position while also remaining open to fully hearing
out my girlfriend and considering the possibility of reconciliation. He
cautioned against contacting girlfriend's friend to ask about her whereabouts
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as it may smell of desperation, and instead said that
he would come over as he lives about an hour away,
so we could spend some time together over a movie
and dinner. At this point, I feel drained and numb,
spent a long day, and to be honest, I just
want it over.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Edit five.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
My brother came by and brought dinner. We've been watching
The Dark Night. Still haven't heard from girlfriend or her friend.
For those wondering, I'm a chemical engineer and girlfriend has
been paying about two point five thousand a month to
pay off her student loans. Do you and your girlfriend
share finances? If not, then you're not the jerk. Otherwise
you are the jerk.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Edit. Definitely not the jerk. Oh p.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
He does not share an account with the girlfriend, so
he's spending his own money. She does not get to
dictate how he spends his money as long as shared
expenses are covered, and they are. Ope, we don't have
a shared bank account. I pay rent and utilities. She
pays about eighty percent of the groceries while I cover
about twenty percent.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Girlfriend doesn't have to agree. It's your money. Be very
careful purchasing a home without very clear agreements on finances.
Girlfriend is a partner, not a parent to tell you
what to do then punish you when you don't comply.
Not the jerk, but massive red flags getting thrown around
your girlfriend. My man, it would be one thing if
you were sending so much money that was affecting your
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own financial status, or if your sister was lying and
taking advantage of you and your brother, or if your
girlfriend was also contributing money and no longer wanted to,
or if you were sending shared money. But none of
those things are an issue. And literally, your sister is
just trying to exist in an expensive city and her
extremely loving and generous brothers are choosing to support her
because they can and they want to. That's really beautiful.
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You should really reconsider buying a house and continuing a
relationship with someone who prioritizes her own desire so far
over yours. She's seriously overstepping and disrespecting you, unless she's
not telling you some hidden fear or worry here that
explains her bizarre, self centered stance. What she's trying to
force you into is selfish, uncaring, and just icky. Am
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I the jerk for kicking my son, his girlfriend, and
my grandson out of my house? I sixty three female
and my husband who's sixty seven ran into an issue
with my son last year during lockdown. His girlfriend got pregnant.
He moved her in with his roommates, who were not happy.
The roommates left and they re signed with the landlord
just themselves. But his girlfriend couldn't or wouldn't find a job,
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and he lost his job a few months later, and
they couldn't pay rent. They stayed for seven months and
then got evicted. Now they have an eviction on their
record and terrible credit because they lived off of credit cards,
So now they have thousands in credit card dead. I
didn't want them moving in. My son, who's thirty eight male,
lived at home until he was thirty one, so we
had a lot of trouble getting him to move out,
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but his girlfriend was giving birth soon took them in.
They stayed for almost a year, and the deal was
they both get jobs. They helped pay utilities and pay
off their credit cards and find a place to live.
They were only supposed to stay for six months, but
they wouldn't move out when we asked them at the
end of six months, they said because of the eviction
on their record, no one would rent to them. They
also didn't make enough to pay utilities, so my husband
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and I paid more utilities and they ate for free
as well. Since they would take from the fridge and
wouldn't buy any groceries themselves, we offered to help them
with baby expenses, diapers, car seats, et cetera. At first,
but it's been almost a year and we're still paying
for it. They were doing door dash but not working
more than three to four hours a day. I kept
trying to get my son to get a full time job,
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but he just got angry and accused me of nagging him.
His girlfriend is also very messy and doesn't clean up
after herself. I've changed more diapers and fed her son
more than she has, and it's infuriating because they chose
to have a baby, but they won't take responsibility. My
husband and I have been retired for two years now
and we had planned to move to Chile, where from.
We were supposed to sell the house last year and
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didn't just to let them stay here, but now it's
been over a year and we are sick of it.
We kept telling them that they had to move out,
and they just ignored us, so we put our house
up for sale. We had wanted to renovate it first,
but they wouldn't let us into their bathroom and room,
so we decided just to sell as is. We got
a fair offer and closed in a week and told
them they had two months to move. My son yelled
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at us for kicking them out and not caring about him,
and he shattered our decorative vase that we had. They
finally moved out and we're in between places and we'll
be going to Chili next month, but my son and
his girlfriend currently have nowhere to live. They're staying with
a friend now, but They're only letting them stay until
the end of the month, and then they will have
to figure it out. My son yells at me over
the phone and tells me I'm never allowed to see
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my grandson again for kicking them out. I don't know
where I went wrong that he couldn't be an adult
and get a job and move out without.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Being forced to. Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
He's thirty eight. You were way more patient than you
should have been. Not the jerk, but perhaps set up
a trust for that kid when he comes of age,
because it sounds like he might need it. You are
not the jerk. Your son and his girlfriend did this
to themselves. Seven months is a long time to go
before being evicted. They could have taken steps to get
back on their feet, but they didn't. Once they moved
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in with you, they could have taken steps to pay
off their credit cards and get back on their feet.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
They didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
It's unfortunate that the kid is caught in the middle
of all of this because his parents aren't willing to
take responsibility for themselves. But you have earned your retirement,
and your son's entitlement is his problem, not yours. Maybe
this will be the wake up call he needs. With
no home to return to, and with you in a
foreign country, he might finally be forced to stand on
his own. If you had let them stay, which was
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clearly what their plan was all along, you would have
been a jerk to yourself. Am I the jerk for
Marin eating chicken overnight?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Look?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
I know the title is vague, but I'm at a
loss here. Let's start with some context. I'm renting a
room in a four bedroom house. Life's difficult right now,
and this is the best I can afford. The other
three rooms are occupied by people I didn't know before
moving in. Each pain their own rent, including a couple
that sleeps in the larger room. Since the house is shared,
we have free access to the shared spaces like the
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kitchen and lounge, and we try to be respectful of
each other. One thing that's relevant is that the couple
and a person in another room were already friends before
moving in, so they spend a lot of time together
and do stuff for each other.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
All good with me.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
For the actual reason of this post, I'm out most
of the day working, and usually when I cook dinner
for myself, I cook a bit extra to take to
work the next day and save money. The other day,
I had some chicken breast that I cut into bits
and season with some lemon herbs and left a marinate
fry that up with some vegetables. Add some noodles and
it's a pretty decent meal. On this particular occasion, my
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coworkers had planned a team lunch for the next day,
so there was no point in me cooking that usual extra.
Since the marinated chicken was actually smelling pretty good, I
thought it would taste even better the following day when
i'd cook it for dinner again, got a bowl, placed
it all in there, covered with clean fis, and left
it in the refrigerator in the spot where my refrigerator
stuff usually is. We do this so everyone knows who
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owns what in the refrigerator. Never thought about it again.
The following day when I get home, a couple of
people from the other rooms are kind of waiting for
me in the lounge and they just start screaming at me.
So the girl from the couple I mentioned earlier as
a sleepwalker, and that has never been a major issue
until now, save from the occasional noise during the night,
but nothing that should be considered annoying. You might see
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where this is going though. Last night, she got up,
still sleeping, walked in the kitchen, opened the fridge, and
helped herself to a spoonful of marinated chicken. She then
proceeded to go back to bed, where she eventually fell
ill and had to be taken to the hospital. Now
they're acting like it's my fault because since I know
she's a sleepwalker, I should be more careful with stuff
like this and not leave uncooked chicken in the refrigerator
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like that. I never thought that would be a problem.
As I said before, we have specific areas for each
of us and we try to be mindful of what
we leave there. The chicken was properly covered and be
a problem on any other circumstances. I tried to argue this,
but now they want me to apologize to her and
help to pay for the hospital bill.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Which, to be honest, I don't really feel like I should.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Plus I'm down one meal as the rest of the
chicken was just thrown out and I was really looking
forward to it, not the jerk wow. That didn't go
as I expected. She needs help for her sleepwalking. It's
completely normal to marinate raw chicken in the fridge. Assuming
you're following food safety and it sounds like you were,
it's not normal to eat it while sleepwalking.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
She took food that didn't belong to her and got sick.
That's her own fault. If her sleepwalking is that bad,
then she should have a lock on her door or
seek help for it. If, as I suspect, that's a
BS excuse, then she messed around and found out.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
It's her responsibility to get her medical conditions under control
so she can exist safely. If she had turned on
all the faucets and flooded the house, would they have
blamed the water company? If she got in the car
and drove off and ran into a light pole, would
they have blamed the car manuf. It sucks that she
got sick, but it's not your fault. It's perfectly reasonable
to store your food in the refrigerator and expect people
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not to eat raw chicken while they're sleepwalking. Am I
the jerk for saying, actually, it's my house?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
So backstory.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
My grandmother passed two years ago. A month before she did,
we met up for lunch and she told me thirty
two female that she was giving me my mom's inheritance
and enough money to cover any taxes on it. I
was a bit confused, and she explained that she heard
my sister talking about putting her in a nursing home
and she wanted me to take care of my mom
by buying her a house and providing for her. My
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mom is fifty nine and has some mental health issues
that have gotten worse with age, but well managed with meds.
I still pay the taxes and have the house in
my name. The issue at hand I just moved in
with my mom after getting a divorce. I took over
all the bills and I pay for all of the groceries.
I set my mom down and told her I take
one night a week off where I by all means
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fall off the face of the universe to unwind and
get ready for my weekend. I work two jobs. I
let her know it's Thursday that I like to take off.
I leave work around five thirty pm and I'll be
home at six thirty am to get the kids ready.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
She agreed to this.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I also let her know my ex had agreed as
well to keep up my night off so if something
happened to reach out.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
To him first.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
This excludes if someone gets sick, hurt, or has to
go to the hospital. Well, Thursday is coming up, and
my mom started asking what my plans are. I told
her I don't know yet. She kept pushing, so I
asked if she needed me not to go out. She
said no, but she wanted to know the place, time,
and people that I would be with. My mind blamed
and I said, I'm not thirteen years old. Mom, I
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don't have to tell you any of that. Just let
you know I'm safe. She came at me with it's
my house, my rules. I didn't mean to say it hatefully,
but it came out wrong. Actually, it's my house if
you want to get technical. She got mad at me
and truly started to treat me like a kid, yelling
and telling me I'm ungrateful for her helping me out.
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I told her on that day, I enjoy my privacy
that even once my ex and I were together, he
didn't know where I was and only knew I was safe.
She said, I'm a jerk and that's why me and
him were not together. That I was disrespectful to their
feelings about my safety.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Edit.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
My mom has bipolar, She's perfectly capable to watch the
kids for a night. My sisters have been waiting to
put her in a nursing home for as long as
I can remember, because she's not a great housekeeper or
good with money, and it would be easier on their lives.
My mom also knows all my partners by name and
has their phone numbers. She's the one who told me
I was Polly, So those accusing me of sneaking off
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please don't last thing. I'm dyslexic and I'm very well coherent.
I do apologize. I do my best writing this post,
and I did not ever expect my writing style to
come up in them. You are technically correct, the best
kind of correct. You're also not the jerk. You're thirty
two years old, very capable of looking after yourself, and
while moms are going to mom and worry about you,
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it's really none of their business where you're going, and
since it is your house, there's no problem with you
reminding her everyone sucks here. Pardon you leave your kids
once a week and just disappear overnight without giving anyone
your whereabouts or who you're with. Everyone sucks here when
you have kids and you're handing them off to someone
else for a night off. That other person needs to
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know where you are in case of emergencies. That goes
both ways, in order to ensure your kids are supported,
but also in order to ensure you can be found
in case something happens to you. It's not an unreasonable
ask for making this into an issue.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You are the jerk.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Your mom is also a jerk for trying to throw
authority over you when it's your house, You work two jobs,
and she's a complete dependent upon you. Am I the
jerk for telling my parents I won't be there, live
in babysitter or take care of my baby sibling for them.
I sixteen female, am an only child, and that position
will be expiring in October when my parents have their
second kid.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
They were always.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Supposed to be one and done with me, something I
was aware of. Was partly due to them finding childcare
ridiculously expensive and mom enjoying her job too much to
stay home. I think another part of it they are
not very natural parents and are pretty much entirely hands off.
We never do anything as a family, and they are
not very involved in my life. They pay for stuff
and that's their contribution to my life. The pregnancy was
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a big shock for them and for me. I heard
them discussing what they should do, and my mom was
repeatedly saying she was not going to stay at home
and she was not going to take much maternity leave,
that she wants to be back at work asap. They
complained about how much it will cost to get someone
to watch the baby while they work and during the
summers and stuff. I heard them mention me and I
was like, oh no. They set me down a week
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ago and told me they had these plans for me
to watch the baby for three to four hours after
school until they got home from work.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
It would involve quitting all of.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
My after school stuff and not hanging out with friends
after school either. They also want me to stay home
next summer and to consider hanging around to be there
for the next few summers. I was like, no way.
They told me I'm going to be a big sister
now and that as part of the family, I have responsibilities.
I told them they had responsibilities as parents, and I'm
not a parent. I'm the kid in the house. They
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told me not for long. I said, I could just
rush to graduation and leave, so they can't use me
as free childcare. I don't think they expected these reactions
from me or the thought that I had put into it.
After I heard them talk with each other, I found
out I could graduate in December by talking to my
guidance counselor. I'm almost finished with my junior year now
and could finish senior year early with the grades I
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keep and the work I do. That is definitely the
most appealing option to me, and I'll be seventeen in
a couple of weeks. Anyway, my parents were really unhappy
with me, and they told me I'm going to miss
out on so much by doing this. I told them
I won't take care of or raise the baby for them,
that I have my own life and being stuck with
a baby is not part of it. They told me
I'm being incredibly selfish and to think about what I'm
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throwing away. They also said I won't be a very
good sister if I refuse to be part of the
baby's life.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Not at all.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
They want you to be a live in nanny and
raise their baby that they don't want. Tell them that
if you wanted a baby at sixteen, you would have
gotten pregnant yourself, and that's still an option.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
Watch their reaction.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Your parents are right, you will miss out on a
lot changing diapers, tantrums, and running around after a hyperactive toddler.
Not the jerk, and you honestly sound way more mature
than your parents. Please go as far away as possible
from them as soon as you can. Would I be
the jerk if I told my family I no longer
want my graduation present. I seventeen female just finished my
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junior year of high school. For some background, when I
was thirteen, I ended up getting into musicals. I spent
hours watching and listening to various shows amongst different casts,
including any film adaptations of them.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
I developed a.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Real passion which I only ended up having more time
for during lockdown. It was a great way to escape
into something else when I was feeling lonely and closed off,
and it really helped me emotionally through the entire ordeal.
Due to this, it's become a bit of a dream
of mine to go to Broadway and see show live.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
I've seen some live.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
Regional theater in my state, but I'm in love with
the idea of going to Broadway in person. When my grandmother,
who sixty two, asked me and my freshman year of
high school what I would like for a graduation present.
I asked her if it would be too much task
for a short trip to New York City to see
a Broadway show. She told me that if everything had
calmed down by then, she would love to take me,
saying I definitely deserve something big and that she would
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love to return to New York. She went once years
ago on a business trip. I got incredibly excited at
that point and would talk about it on and off
with my grandmother as the years went by. However, recently
it seems like plans have changed. I was on the
phone with my grandmother the other night and the trip
came up. She asked me if I had been saving
up for my ticket. I asked what she meant, because
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I thought, with the trip being a gift, that it
meant my ticket would be paid for. She told me
that the trip is a gift, but I need to
pay my way. She said it wouldn't be fair for
me to be paid for and my brother and cousins
not to be. I asked why my brother and cousins
would be coming because the original plan was just me,
her and my mom. She said that she'd invited her
other two daughters and their kids, and then, of course
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she's told my mom to invite my brother because she
wants to take the trip as a family. I managed
to get her off the topic and then we finished
the phone call. I don't want my entire family to come.
It would be too chaotic and impossible to organize any
of them. Almost none of my mother's family is capable
of being on time to things. I also don't want
my little brother going because he's twelve and very loud
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and disruptive. He can hardly keep still and quiet in
a movie theater, much less a Broadway show. He wouldn't
care anything about. This was also mainly about getting to
have a trip with my mother and grandmother, only because
I live with my father and I see a family more.
I really don't want to go on a trip anywhere
because I don't want it to be more than my
mom and grandma, and I really can't afford to buy
my own ticket or hotel room. I don't have time
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for a job outside of school in extracurriculars, and my
dad won't let me get one. Would I be the
jerk if I just said I don't want to go anymore.
Edit to clarify, the original number of people meant to
be involved was three me, mom, and grandma, and she's
now attempting to invite an additional eight people. Two aunts,
their husbands, their combined three kids, my brother, and possibly
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more at it too. Sorry I forgot to clarify. We
have to fly. We live over a thousand miles from
the state of New York. That's part of why I
don't want so many people going. I know they wouldn't
make it to the airport on time and it would
cause issues before the trip even starts.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Totally reasonable, both in your expectation that it wouldn't be
your responsibility to pay, and that not everyone else in
your family would be coming. You'll enjoy Broadway another time
in your life. Explain the reasoning in depth to your grandmother.
Tell her that because of the circumstances changing quite a bit,
it isn't the same thing you asked for or we're expecting,
and for that reason, you'd prefer not to have that
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be your graduation gift. Tell her that your extracurriculars don't
allow you the time for a job. So even if
you still wanted to take the trip, you don't have
a way to pay for it, you would not be
the jerk. Am I the jerk for letting my roommate's
food burn in the oven? One of my twenty three
mail biggest pet peeves is people invading on what I'm doing.
For example, if I'm in the kitchen doing something and
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step out for a few moments. I hated if I
come back and someone has cleaned up after me, unless
obviously something was in the way or they needed to
use something. But I hate when people don't just mind
their own business and leave stuff how it was.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I hated when I lived.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
At home and my mom would tidy up my room
when I wasn't around. Nothing crazy, but say I left
his shirt hanging on my bed frame. I know exactly
where that shirt is. Now I'm coming back looking for
it and it's in a new spot. I ask my mom.
She doesn't remember where she put it, et cetera. I'm
just a big believer in minding my own business. I
strongly dislike if I'm making something in the oven and
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I have a timer set and it goes off and
someone takes it out right away and turns the oven off.
Usually I want to leave it in a bit longer,
or maybe that was just the first step and it
needed to be checked on. Even if that was the
time for you to be taken out, I would much
rather people just mind their own things, So I extend
this courtesy to others, And it's very much in my
nature to mind my own business. Usually what other people
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are doing isn't on my radar, and people point out
how I'm usually in my own world a lot. My
roommate twenty two female, on the other hand, is the
complete opposite. She has to be part of everything. If
I'm watching something, she asks what I'm watching. If I
look at my phone and laugh, she asks me what
I'm laughing at, et cetera. It's not a problem. A
lot of my friends are like this, and I don't
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find it annoying. It can be endearing. She's like this
with everyone. But she grew up in a big household,
whereas I was an only child, so she has some
different tendencies. She can be absent minded and easily distracted.
She'll almost expect people around her to be watching out
for her. She'll have water boiling on the stove and
wander to another room. Also, she has the annoying to
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me tendency to clean up after me or other people
that are in the apartment. She was baking cookies in
the oven and I was in the kitchen eating a
bowl of cereal. I was also wearing air pods. He
left the kitchen for a while, and eventually I heard
the oven going off faintly through the EarPods, but it
wasn't my business. Eventually she came rushing into the room
and took the cookies out. They weren't burnt to the
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point where they smelled, but her chewy cookies were now solid.
She told me I should have heard the oven and
took them out. I told her, if that's what she wanted,
she should have told me to listen for the oven
and I would take them out, and that you can't.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Just assume someone will. She said that was rude.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
You're not the jerk in this particular circumstance, but you
sound like a jerk in general.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Come on, man, you heard the alarm. It takes absolutely
no effort to say.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yo, the thing is doing a thing.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
I mean I guess you don't really have to do
anything for anyone ever and just mind your business.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
But that's highly anti social behavior.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
But I guess if everyone thinks you're an aloof jerk,
you won't have to worry about people being in your business.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Or vice versa.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
You're the jerk, and I strongly suggest you dedicate your
life to earning more money so you can live on
your own angrily. You sound like a selfish pratt, and
I wish your mom's attempts to help you were more
impactful on your life philosophy. Neighbors demand I move my plane.
I live in a cottage that I inherited after my
grandfather passed three years ago. The cottage is one of
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the oldest homes in the area, and unlike my neighbors,
I'm not a member of the HOA. The cottage itself
is a waterfront one in which I have a small
grass yard that turns into a beach on the lake.
I never had a problem until recently over his seaplane
and buoy's due to having a private pilot's license and
being really fortunate. I own a Piper Super cub on
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floats when I'm not flying the plane. It's either docked
to my dock or is pulled up onto the beach
and strapped down when the weather is bad. A month
ago I decided to make some new additions to my property.
These additions were two lines of buoys at the edge
of my property with signs on each. The buoys extend
fifteen feet past my dock and are still technically on
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my property. The signs themselves are ones that I got
custom made warning about wash. I decided to add the
buoys and signs because whenever I take my seaplane out
there are sometimes boaters and kayakers who will stop to
watch me leave. Normally, this is not an issue if
they keep their distance. However, recently they've been getting too
close for comfort. With the addition of the buoys, I
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can keep a one hundred by three hundred foot safety rectangle.
This makes it so that at the bare minimum, I
will always have around one hundred feet off of each
wing of safe space. Additionally, it prevents people from cutting
me off when I come to dock or park on
the beach. About a week and a half ago, I
got a letter from the HOA. The HIA is demanding
I move my plane to a local seaplane base, as
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well as remove my booies and signs. In response, I
wrote them a letter explaining the reasons behind having the
buoys and told them I have no intention of changing anything.
About two days later, I got an angry visitor who
was an HOA member. I told her that if she
or the HOA comes onto my property again, they will
be arrested for passing. Before leaving, she used some very
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colorful words and called.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Me a jerk.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Not the jerk, yet another HOA thinking they can flex
on their neighbors. Forget them totally, not the jerk, but
get cameras and a lawyer on retainer. You're likely in
for an annoying ride with the HOA even though you're
within your rights. Not the jerk you mentioned in other
comments that you have documentation on your ownership that proves
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the legality of your actions. I would hire an attorney
and stop replying to them yourself. Have the attorney send
a letter to the HOA to kindly stop harassing you
when you are not part of their HOA, and that
any harassment will be reported to the authorities if you
can afford it. Set up cameras and let them know
any trespasser will be recorded. INFU, are you one hundred
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percent sure that what you are doing is legal according
to the property laws of your county, state or country
where I am. Private property does not extend out onto
the water like that. If you are in violation of
any ordinances, laws, codes, et cetera, you would be the jerk.
If not, then not. But this is a more nuanced
question than just whether you are subject to the HOA
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or not.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Op.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yes, I know for one hundred percent sure, as I
have all the paperwork, including the documents that show which
portions of the lake I own. Am I the jerk
for refusing to show proof that the car is mine?
For some context, my twenty mail mom, who's thirty eight female,
married my stepdad, who's thirty five, ten years ago. They
had my brother, who's eight years old now, Scott. I
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see my stepdad as my father and his family as
my paternal family, so I'll refer to him as Dad,
and my step granddad is grand So Dad has a
GTR that my grand gave him a few years ago.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
That car is really cool.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
He also has a normal car that he drives to work,
so the GTR is more for fun. In showing off
my bro and I love that car and my dad
lets me drive it whenever I want. He even added
me to the insurance when I turned nineteen because I
use the car car almost every day until I was
able to buy my own. Last week I noticed Scott
a bit sad and he said that some kids at
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school were bullying him. Our parents went to his school
to talk to the principal and the problem is somewhat fixed,
but he was still bummed. So I decided to surprise
him yesterday by picking him up in our dad's car.
I parked the car and got out to wait for him.
I was sitting in the trunk when a guy approached
me and said that I shouldn't sit in other people's cars.
I laughed it off and said that it was mine,
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so it wasn't a problem. I must admit that I
do look younger than twenty, so he might have mistaken
me for a high schooler and didn't believe me. He
said that the car couldn't be mine and that I
should get off of it before the owner gets back.
I said that it was my car again, and he
got mad and said, look, son, this isn't your car.
Get down I'll even take a picture or two of
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you with it. I was getting nervous, and when I
get nervous, I tend to laugh. So he thought I
was mocking him and yelled at me to get down
that if the car belonged to me, to show him
the proof.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Then he yelled that I was trying to steal the car.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
I asked him to leave me alone because I was
waiting for my brother, and he did move a few meters,
but then I noticed that he was making a call,
and it turned out that he called the police on me.
My brother was getting out at the same time. He
was really happy to see me there in our dad's
car and ran to give me a hug. I tried
to pick him up to put him in the car,
but the guy stopped me. I mean I opened the door.
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It was obvious that the car was mine at that
point either way. The police came and asked the normal questions.
I explained to them that it was my dad's car,
and the guy said, ha, I knew it wasn't yours.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I showed them.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Proof, my license, my dad's papers, the insurance paper with
my name on it, and even a text with my
dad where I said, Hey, I'm going to pick up
Scott in the car, and he only answered with an okay.
I offered to call him so that they could ask
him themselves, but they said there was no need. The
police let me leave and scolded the other guy before
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driving off. The guy called me a jerk because I
could have just shown him all of that, but instead.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I preferred to be a jerk. Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
He had no right to do what he did, just
a nosey parker. And why would you show him proof
it's your car? He should have just minded his own
business op for real, Like that thing has my family's address,
my dad's full name, and his number. No one in
their right mind would show that stuff to strangers.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
This is what happens when people think they can get
away with policing people without actually being police.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Not the jerk. That's sketchy.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
I'm a girl, But imagine someone pestering me and wanting
proof your license and registration has some personal information on
it and reading that immediately gave me stalker vibes. Probably
not the case, but just to point about how weird
this is, or if else I'd be concerned about them
trying to find your address to try and steal your car.
Just doesn't seem right to share personal info with a stranger.
Speaker 3 (32:53):
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Speaker 2 (33:04):
This video next right here. You're gonna love that one.
You gotta see it.
Don't even think about sending your sister money.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I needed more.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Wow. Oh yeah, you're getting good at that. Karen, tell
me something I don't know. Reddit Boy, let's get on
with the stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Karen loses it over me sending my sister money. My
younger sister, who's twenty five, is working towards getting her
master's degree in New York. While she loves the city
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and school, she hates how expensive everything has become. She
does work part time, but it simply isn't enough. My parents,
who are seventy seven and seventy three, have been sending
her money each month, but since they've recently retired, they
had to cut back. To fill the gap, my brother
Mail twenty eight and I Mail thirty two have begun
sending some money to our sister from time to time
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to help out with her rent. I have a well
paid job and a close relationship with my sister, so
I'm happy to help where I can. However, my girlfriend,
who's thirty, has expressed her dissatisfaction with the arrangement. We've
been saving up to put a down payment on a
house in the future, and my girlfriend believes that my
financial contributions to my sister is hindering our progress. Yesterday,
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which happened to be the day I usually send my
sister money, my girlfriend told me that we needed to
reduce expenses, and one suggestion she made was for me
to no longer send money to my sister. She believes
that my sister needs to learn how to manage her
money better and that my brother, who's twenty eight, should
contribute more. I told her about how I feel a
responsibility towards my sister and how my brother doesn't make
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as much as I do, and while she did acknowledge that,
she then said I was financially naive and said she
doesn't want me to be taken advantage of. I was
kind of disappointed hearing this, as I made the conscientious
decision to help my sister and I wasn't falling for
some sort of a scam. The conversation ended because we
both had to go to work, but she told me
not to send anything until we further discussed this. During
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my lunch break at work, I proceeded to send my
sister some money and told girlfriend about this over dinner.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
She told me that she was disappointed. At this point,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Getting a little annoyed and responded by saying I was
not willing to compromise my current arrangement with my sister.
Girlfriend got upset with this and left the table. Am
I the jerk?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Edit?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I make about fifteen point five thousand dollars per month
and have been putting away four to six thousand each
month towards a future house. Girlfriend makes about seven thousand
a month currently and saves around one thousand a month
for the house. She said she'll contribute more once her
student loans are paid off. I pay for rent and utilities.
Girlfriend pays for bulk of the groceries. I started sending
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my sister fifteen hundred dollars a month since my parents retired.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Edit two.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Sister pays twenty eight hundred a month in rent and
three hundred and fifty dollars a month in transportation. I
contribute fifteen hundred dollars a month. Brother pays seven hundred
and fifty a month. Parents pay five hundred a month.
Our mother was terrified of sister living in New York
City on her own and only agreed if she lived
in a nicer area and.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Had a car.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Edit three update, My girlfriend and I had a long
talk after work. It didn't go well. To summarize, tension
escalated during the conversation. I told her that I planned
to continue helping my sister until she completes her degree,
and afterward she would either start working or move back
to our parents' home until she finds a job. However,
my girlfriend expressed her belief that my sister and whole
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family are manipulating me and think I'm naive enough to
send her money regardless of how she uses it. I
started to feel increasingly annoyed and defensive by her accusations
and asserted that it's my money and I have the
right to spend it how I see fit. I then
stupidly said that if she really wanted us to buy
a house, she should save more and cut back on
expenses like nice shoes, clothes, and purses. At this point,
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she became properly angry and declared that she couldn't stay
in the same house as me and said that she
would be going to her friend's house. Before leaving, she said,
call me when you stop acting like an idiot. Before
I could even think, I replied, I won't be calling.
I feel that I may have irreparably damaged our relationship.
Edit forour update, I want to express my thanks to
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all of you for sharing your perspectives and insights. Following
the fight with my girlfriend, I reached out to my
brother to confide in him about what happened. His take
was pretty optimistic, however, he advised me to stand firm
in my position while also remaining open to fully hearing
out my girlfriend and considering the possibility of reconciliation. He
cautioned against contacting girlfriend's friend to ask about her whereabouts
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as it may smell of desperation, and instead said that
he would come over as he lives about an hour away,
so we could spend some time together over a movie
and dinner. At this point, I feel drained and numb,
spent a long day, and to be honest, I just
want it over.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Edit five.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
My brother came by and brought dinner. We've been watching
The Dark Night. Still haven't heard from girlfriend or her friend.
For those wondering, I'm a chemical engineer and girlfriend has
been paying about two point five thousand a month to
pay off her student loans. Do you and your girlfriend
share finances? If not, then you're not the jerk. Otherwise
you are the jerk.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Edit. Definitely not the jerk. Oh p.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
He does not share an account with the girlfriend, so
he's spending his own money. She does not get to
dictate how he spends his money as long as shared
expenses are covered, and they are. Ope, we don't have
a shared bank account. I pay rent and utilities. She
pays about eighty percent of the groceries while I cover
about twenty percent.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Girlfriend doesn't have to agree. It's your money. Be very
careful purchasing a home without very clear agreements on finances.
Girlfriend is a partner, not a parent to tell you
what to do then punish you when you don't comply.
Not the jerk, but massive red flags getting thrown around
your girlfriend. My man, it would be one thing if
you were sending so much money that was affecting your
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own financial status, or if your sister was lying and
taking advantage of you and your brother, or if your
girlfriend was also contributing money and no longer wanted to,
or if you were sending shared money. But none of
those things are an issue. And literally, your sister is
just trying to exist in an expensive city and her
extremely loving and generous brothers are choosing to support her
because they can and they want to. That's really beautiful.
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You should really reconsider buying a house and continuing a
relationship with someone who prioritizes her own desire so far
over yours. She's seriously overstepping and disrespecting you, unless she's
not telling you some hidden fear or worry here that
explains her bizarre, self centered stance. What she's trying to
force you into is selfish, uncaring, and just icky. Am
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I the jerk for kicking my son, his girlfriend, and
my grandson out of my house? I sixty three female
and my husband who's sixty seven ran into an issue
with my son last year during lockdown. His girlfriend got pregnant.
He moved her in with his roommates, who were not happy.
The roommates left and they re signed with the landlord
just themselves. But his girlfriend couldn't or wouldn't find a job,
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and he lost his job a few months later, and
they couldn't pay rent. They stayed for seven months and
then got evicted. Now they have an eviction on their
record and terrible credit because they lived off of credit cards,
So now they have thousands in credit card dead. I
didn't want them moving in. My son, who's thirty eight male,
lived at home until he was thirty one, so we
had a lot of trouble getting him to move out,
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but his girlfriend was giving birth soon took them in.
They stayed for almost a year, and the deal was
they both get jobs. They helped pay utilities and pay
off their credit cards and find a place to live.
They were only supposed to stay for six months, but
they wouldn't move out when we asked them at the
end of six months, they said because of the eviction
on their record, no one would rent to them. They
also didn't make enough to pay utilities, so my husband
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and I paid more utilities and they ate for free
as well. Since they would take from the fridge and
wouldn't buy any groceries themselves, we offered to help them
with baby expenses, diapers, car seats, et cetera. At first,
but it's been almost a year and we're still paying
for it. They were doing door dash but not working
more than three to four hours a day. I kept
trying to get my son to get a full time job,
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but he just got angry and accused me of nagging him.
His girlfriend is also very messy and doesn't clean up
after herself. I've changed more diapers and fed her son
more than she has, and it's infuriating because they chose
to have a baby, but they won't take responsibility. My
husband and I have been retired for two years now
and we had planned to move to Chile, where from.
We were supposed to sell the house last year and
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didn't just to let them stay here, but now it's
been over a year and we are sick of it.
We kept telling them that they had to move out,
and they just ignored us, so we put our house
up for sale. We had wanted to renovate it first,
but they wouldn't let us into their bathroom and room,
so we decided just to sell as is. We got
a fair offer and closed in a week and told
them they had two months to move. My son yelled
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at us for kicking them out and not caring about him,
and he shattered our decorative vase that we had. They
finally moved out and we're in between places and we'll
be going to Chili next month, but my son and
his girlfriend currently have nowhere to live. They're staying with
a friend now, but They're only letting them stay until
the end of the month, and then they will have
to figure it out. My son yells at me over
the phone and tells me I'm never allowed to see
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my grandson again for kicking them out. I don't know
where I went wrong that he couldn't be an adult
and get a job and move out without.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Being forced to. Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
He's thirty eight. You were way more patient than you
should have been. Not the jerk, but perhaps set up
a trust for that kid when he comes of age,
because it sounds like he might need it. You are
not the jerk. Your son and his girlfriend did this
to themselves. Seven months is a long time to go
before being evicted. They could have taken steps to get
back on their feet, but they didn't. Once they moved
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in with you, they could have taken steps to pay
off their credit cards and get back on their feet.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
They didn't.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
It's unfortunate that the kid is caught in the middle
of all of this because his parents aren't willing to
take responsibility for themselves. But you have earned your retirement,
and your son's entitlement is his problem, not yours. Maybe
this will be the wake up call he needs. With
no home to return to, and with you in a
foreign country, he might finally be forced to stand on
his own. If you had let them stay, which was
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clearly what their plan was all along, you would have
been a jerk to yourself. Am I the jerk for
Marin eating chicken overnight?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Look?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
I know the title is vague, but I'm at a
loss here. Let's start with some context. I'm renting a
room in a four bedroom house. Life's difficult right now,
and this is the best I can afford. The other
three rooms are occupied by people I didn't know before
moving in. Each pain their own rent, including a couple
that sleeps in the larger room. Since the house is shared,
we have free access to the shared spaces like the
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kitchen and lounge, and we try to be respectful of
each other. One thing that's relevant is that the couple
and a person in another room were already friends before
moving in, so they spend a lot of time together
and do stuff for each other.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
All good with me.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
For the actual reason of this post, I'm out most
of the day working, and usually when I cook dinner
for myself, I cook a bit extra to take to
work the next day and save money. The other day,
I had some chicken breast that I cut into bits
and season with some lemon herbs and left a marinate
fry that up with some vegetables. Add some noodles and
it's a pretty decent meal. On this particular occasion, my
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coworkers had planned a team lunch for the next day,
so there was no point in me cooking that usual extra.
Since the marinated chicken was actually smelling pretty good, I
thought it would taste even better the following day when
i'd cook it for dinner again, got a bowl, placed
it all in there, covered with clean fis, and left
it in the refrigerator in the spot where my refrigerator
stuff usually is. We do this so everyone knows who
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owns what in the refrigerator. Never thought about it again.
The following day when I get home, a couple of
people from the other rooms are kind of waiting for
me in the lounge and they just start screaming at me.
So the girl from the couple I mentioned earlier as
a sleepwalker, and that has never been a major issue
until now, save from the occasional noise during the night,
but nothing that should be considered annoying. You might see
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where this is going though. Last night, she got up,
still sleeping, walked in the kitchen, opened the fridge, and
helped herself to a spoonful of marinated chicken. She then
proceeded to go back to bed, where she eventually fell
ill and had to be taken to the hospital. Now
they're acting like it's my fault because since I know
she's a sleepwalker, I should be more careful with stuff
like this and not leave uncooked chicken in the refrigerator
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like that. I never thought that would be a problem.
As I said before, we have specific areas for each
of us and we try to be mindful of what
we leave there. The chicken was properly covered and be
a problem on any other circumstances. I tried to argue this,
but now they want me to apologize to her and
help to pay for the hospital bill.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Which, to be honest, I don't really feel like I should.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Plus I'm down one meal as the rest of the
chicken was just thrown out and I was really looking
forward to it, not the jerk wow. That didn't go
as I expected. She needs help for her sleepwalking. It's
completely normal to marinate raw chicken in the fridge. Assuming
you're following food safety and it sounds like you were,
it's not normal to eat it while sleepwalking.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
She took food that didn't belong to her and got sick.
That's her own fault. If her sleepwalking is that bad,
then she should have a lock on her door or
seek help for it. If, as I suspect, that's a
BS excuse, then she messed around and found out.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
It's her responsibility to get her medical conditions under control
so she can exist safely. If she had turned on
all the faucets and flooded the house, would they have
blamed the water company? If she got in the car
and drove off and ran into a light pole, would
they have blamed the car manuf. It sucks that she
got sick, but it's not your fault. It's perfectly reasonable
to store your food in the refrigerator and expect people
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not to eat raw chicken while they're sleepwalking. Am I
the jerk for saying, actually, it's my house?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
So backstory.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
My grandmother passed two years ago. A month before she did,
we met up for lunch and she told me thirty
two female that she was giving me my mom's inheritance
and enough money to cover any taxes on it. I
was a bit confused, and she explained that she heard
my sister talking about putting her in a nursing home
and she wanted me to take care of my mom
by buying her a house and providing for her. My
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mom is fifty nine and has some mental health issues
that have gotten worse with age, but well managed with meds.
I still pay the taxes and have the house in
my name. The issue at hand I just moved in
with my mom after getting a divorce. I took over
all the bills and I pay for all of the groceries.
I set my mom down and told her I take
one night a week off where I by all means
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fall off the face of the universe to unwind and
get ready for my weekend. I work two jobs. I
let her know it's Thursday that I like to take off.
I leave work around five thirty pm and I'll be
home at six thirty am to get the kids ready.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
She agreed to this.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I also let her know my ex had agreed as
well to keep up my night off so if something
happened to reach out.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
To him first.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
This excludes if someone gets sick, hurt, or has to
go to the hospital. Well, Thursday is coming up, and
my mom started asking what my plans are. I told
her I don't know yet. She kept pushing, so I
asked if she needed me not to go out. She
said no, but she wanted to know the place, time,
and people that I would be with. My mind blamed
and I said, I'm not thirteen years old. Mom, I
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don't have to tell you any of that. Just let
you know I'm safe. She came at me with it's
my house, my rules. I didn't mean to say it hatefully,
but it came out wrong. Actually, it's my house if
you want to get technical. She got mad at me
and truly started to treat me like a kid, yelling
and telling me I'm ungrateful for her helping me out.
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I told her on that day, I enjoy my privacy
that even once my ex and I were together, he
didn't know where I was and only knew I was safe.
She said, I'm a jerk and that's why me and
him were not together. That I was disrespectful to their
feelings about my safety.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Edit.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
My mom has bipolar, She's perfectly capable to watch the
kids for a night. My sisters have been waiting to
put her in a nursing home for as long as
I can remember, because she's not a great housekeeper or
good with money, and it would be easier on their lives.
My mom also knows all my partners by name and
has their phone numbers. She's the one who told me
I was Polly, So those accusing me of sneaking off
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please don't last thing. I'm dyslexic and I'm very well coherent.
I do apologize. I do my best writing this post,
and I did not ever expect my writing style to
come up in them. You are technically correct, the best
kind of correct. You're also not the jerk. You're thirty
two years old, very capable of looking after yourself, and
while moms are going to mom and worry about you,
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it's really none of their business where you're going, and
since it is your house, there's no problem with you
reminding her everyone sucks here. Pardon you leave your kids
once a week and just disappear overnight without giving anyone
your whereabouts or who you're with. Everyone sucks here when
you have kids and you're handing them off to someone
else for a night off. That other person needs to
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know where you are in case of emergencies. That goes
both ways, in order to ensure your kids are supported,
but also in order to ensure you can be found
in case something happens to you. It's not an unreasonable
ask for making this into an issue.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
You are the jerk.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Your mom is also a jerk for trying to throw
authority over you when it's your house, You work two jobs,
and she's a complete dependent upon you. Am I the
jerk for telling my parents I won't be there, live
in babysitter or take care of my baby sibling for them.
I sixteen female, am an only child, and that position
will be expiring in October when my parents have their
second kid.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
They were always.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Supposed to be one and done with me, something I
was aware of. Was partly due to them finding childcare
ridiculously expensive and mom enjoying her job too much to
stay home. I think another part of it they are
not very natural parents and are pretty much entirely hands off.
We never do anything as a family, and they are
not very involved in my life. They pay for stuff
and that's their contribution to my life. The pregnancy was
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a big shock for them and for me. I heard
them discussing what they should do, and my mom was
repeatedly saying she was not going to stay at home
and she was not going to take much maternity leave,
that she wants to be back at work asap. They
complained about how much it will cost to get someone
to watch the baby while they work and during the
summers and stuff. I heard them mention me and I
was like, oh no. They set me down a week
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ago and told me they had these plans for me
to watch the baby for three to four hours after
school until they got home from work.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
It would involve quitting all of.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
My after school stuff and not hanging out with friends
after school either. They also want me to stay home
next summer and to consider hanging around to be there
for the next few summers. I was like, no way.
They told me I'm going to be a big sister
now and that as part of the family, I have responsibilities.
I told them they had responsibilities as parents, and I'm
not a parent. I'm the kid in the house. They
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told me not for long. I said, I could just
rush to graduation and leave, so they can't use me
as free childcare. I don't think they expected these reactions
from me or the thought that I had put into it.
After I heard them talk with each other, I found
out I could graduate in December by talking to my
guidance counselor. I'm almost finished with my junior year now
and could finish senior year early with the grades I
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keep and the work I do. That is definitely the
most appealing option to me, and I'll be seventeen in
a couple of weeks. Anyway, my parents were really unhappy
with me, and they told me I'm going to miss
out on so much by doing this. I told them
I won't take care of or raise the baby for them,
that I have my own life and being stuck with
a baby is not part of it. They told me
I'm being incredibly selfish and to think about what I'm
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throwing away. They also said I won't be a very
good sister if I refuse to be part of the
baby's life.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Not at all.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
They want you to be a live in nanny and
raise their baby that they don't want. Tell them that
if you wanted a baby at sixteen, you would have
gotten pregnant yourself, and that's still an option.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
Watch their reaction.
Speaker 1 (19:11):
Your parents are right, you will miss out on a
lot changing diapers, tantrums, and running around after a hyperactive toddler.
Not the jerk, and you honestly sound way more mature
than your parents. Please go as far away as possible
from them as soon as you can. Would I be
the jerk if I told my family I no longer
want my graduation present. I seventeen female just finished my
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junior year of high school. For some background, when I
was thirteen, I ended up getting into musicals. I spent
hours watching and listening to various shows amongst different casts,
including any film adaptations of them.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
I developed a.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Real passion which I only ended up having more time
for during lockdown. It was a great way to escape
into something else when I was feeling lonely and closed off,
and it really helped me emotionally through the entire ordeal.
Due to this, it's become a bit of a dream
of mine to go to Broadway and see show live.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
I've seen some live.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
Regional theater in my state, but I'm in love with
the idea of going to Broadway in person. When my grandmother,
who sixty two, asked me and my freshman year of
high school what I would like for a graduation present.
I asked her if it would be too much task
for a short trip to New York City to see
a Broadway show. She told me that if everything had
calmed down by then, she would love to take me,
saying I definitely deserve something big and that she would
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love to return to New York. She went once years
ago on a business trip. I got incredibly excited at
that point and would talk about it on and off
with my grandmother as the years went by. However, recently
it seems like plans have changed. I was on the
phone with my grandmother the other night and the trip
came up. She asked me if I had been saving
up for my ticket. I asked what she meant, because
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I thought, with the trip being a gift, that it
meant my ticket would be paid for. She told me
that the trip is a gift, but I need to
pay my way. She said it wouldn't be fair for
me to be paid for and my brother and cousins
not to be. I asked why my brother and cousins
would be coming because the original plan was just me,
her and my mom. She said that she'd invited her
other two daughters and their kids, and then, of course
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she's told my mom to invite my brother because she
wants to take the trip as a family. I managed
to get her off the topic and then we finished
the phone call. I don't want my entire family to come.
It would be too chaotic and impossible to organize any
of them. Almost none of my mother's family is capable
of being on time to things. I also don't want
my little brother going because he's twelve and very loud
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and disruptive. He can hardly keep still and quiet in
a movie theater, much less a Broadway show. He wouldn't
care anything about. This was also mainly about getting to
have a trip with my mother and grandmother, only because
I live with my father and I see a family more.
I really don't want to go on a trip anywhere
because I don't want it to be more than my
mom and grandma, and I really can't afford to buy
my own ticket or hotel room. I don't have time
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for a job outside of school in extracurriculars, and my
dad won't let me get one. Would I be the
jerk if I just said I don't want to go anymore.
Edit to clarify, the original number of people meant to
be involved was three me, mom, and grandma, and she's
now attempting to invite an additional eight people. Two aunts,
their husbands, their combined three kids, my brother, and possibly
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more at it too. Sorry I forgot to clarify. We
have to fly. We live over a thousand miles from
the state of New York. That's part of why I
don't want so many people going. I know they wouldn't
make it to the airport on time and it would
cause issues before the trip even starts.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Totally reasonable, both in your expectation that it wouldn't be
your responsibility to pay, and that not everyone else in
your family would be coming. You'll enjoy Broadway another time
in your life. Explain the reasoning in depth to your grandmother.
Tell her that because of the circumstances changing quite a bit,
it isn't the same thing you asked for or we're expecting,
and for that reason, you'd prefer not to have that
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be your graduation gift. Tell her that your extracurriculars don't
allow you the time for a job. So even if
you still wanted to take the trip, you don't have
a way to pay for it, you would not be
the jerk. Am I the jerk for letting my roommate's
food burn in the oven? One of my twenty three
mail biggest pet peeves is people invading on what I'm doing.
For example, if I'm in the kitchen doing something and
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step out for a few moments. I hated if I
come back and someone has cleaned up after me, unless
obviously something was in the way or they needed to
use something. But I hate when people don't just mind
their own business and leave stuff how it was.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I hated when I lived.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
At home and my mom would tidy up my room
when I wasn't around. Nothing crazy, but say I left
his shirt hanging on my bed frame. I know exactly
where that shirt is. Now I'm coming back looking for
it and it's in a new spot. I ask my mom.
She doesn't remember where she put it, et cetera. I'm
just a big believer in minding my own business. I
strongly dislike if I'm making something in the oven and
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I have a timer set and it goes off and
someone takes it out right away and turns the oven off.
Usually I want to leave it in a bit longer,
or maybe that was just the first step and it
needed to be checked on. Even if that was the
time for you to be taken out, I would much
rather people just mind their own things, So I extend
this courtesy to others, And it's very much in my
nature to mind my own business. Usually what other people
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are doing isn't on my radar, and people point out
how I'm usually in my own world a lot. My
roommate twenty two female, on the other hand, is the
complete opposite. She has to be part of everything. If
I'm watching something, she asks what I'm watching. If I
look at my phone and laugh, she asks me what
I'm laughing at, et cetera. It's not a problem. A
lot of my friends are like this, and I don't
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find it annoying. It can be endearing. She's like this
with everyone. But she grew up in a big household,
whereas I was an only child, so she has some
different tendencies. She can be absent minded and easily distracted.
She'll almost expect people around her to be watching out
for her. She'll have water boiling on the stove and
wander to another room. Also, she has the annoying to
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me tendency to clean up after me or other people
that are in the apartment. She was baking cookies in
the oven and I was in the kitchen eating a
bowl of cereal. I was also wearing air pods. He
left the kitchen for a while, and eventually I heard
the oven going off faintly through the EarPods, but it
wasn't my business. Eventually she came rushing into the room
and took the cookies out. They weren't burnt to the
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point where they smelled, but her chewy cookies were now solid.
She told me I should have heard the oven and
took them out. I told her, if that's what she wanted,
she should have told me to listen for the oven
and I would take them out, and that you can't.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Just assume someone will. She said that was rude.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
You're not the jerk in this particular circumstance, but you
sound like a jerk in general.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Come on, man, you heard the alarm. It takes absolutely
no effort to say.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Yo, the thing is doing a thing.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
I mean I guess you don't really have to do
anything for anyone ever and just mind your business.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
But that's highly anti social behavior.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
But I guess if everyone thinks you're an aloof jerk,
you won't have to worry about people being in your business.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Or vice versa.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
You're the jerk, and I strongly suggest you dedicate your
life to earning more money so you can live on
your own angrily. You sound like a selfish pratt, and
I wish your mom's attempts to help you were more
impactful on your life philosophy. Neighbors demand I move my plane.
I live in a cottage that I inherited after my
grandfather passed three years ago. The cottage is one of
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the oldest homes in the area, and unlike my neighbors,
I'm not a member of the HOA. The cottage itself
is a waterfront one in which I have a small
grass yard that turns into a beach on the lake.
I never had a problem until recently over his seaplane
and buoy's due to having a private pilot's license and
being really fortunate. I own a Piper Super cub on
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floats when I'm not flying the plane. It's either docked
to my dock or is pulled up onto the beach
and strapped down when the weather is bad. A month
ago I decided to make some new additions to my property.
These additions were two lines of buoys at the edge
of my property with signs on each. The buoys extend
fifteen feet past my dock and are still technically on
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my property. The signs themselves are ones that I got
custom made warning about wash. I decided to add the
buoys and signs because whenever I take my seaplane out
there are sometimes boaters and kayakers who will stop to
watch me leave. Normally, this is not an issue if
they keep their distance. However, recently they've been getting too
close for comfort. With the addition of the buoys, I
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can keep a one hundred by three hundred foot safety rectangle.
This makes it so that at the bare minimum, I
will always have around one hundred feet off of each
wing of safe space. Additionally, it prevents people from cutting
me off when I come to dock or park on
the beach. About a week and a half ago, I
got a letter from the HOA. The HIA is demanding
I move my plane to a local seaplane base, as
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well as remove my booies and signs. In response, I
wrote them a letter explaining the reasons behind having the
buoys and told them I have no intention of changing anything.
About two days later, I got an angry visitor who
was an HOA member. I told her that if she
or the HOA comes onto my property again, they will
be arrested for passing. Before leaving, she used some very
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colorful words and called.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Me a jerk.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
Not the jerk, yet another HOA thinking they can flex
on their neighbors. Forget them totally, not the jerk, but
get cameras and a lawyer on retainer. You're likely in
for an annoying ride with the HOA even though you're
within your rights. Not the jerk you mentioned in other
comments that you have documentation on your ownership that proves
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the legality of your actions. I would hire an attorney
and stop replying to them yourself. Have the attorney send
a letter to the HOA to kindly stop harassing you
when you are not part of their HOA, and that
any harassment will be reported to the authorities if you
can afford it. Set up cameras and let them know
any trespasser will be recorded. INFU, are you one hundred
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percent sure that what you are doing is legal according
to the property laws of your county, state or country
where I am. Private property does not extend out onto
the water like that. If you are in violation of
any ordinances, laws, codes, et cetera, you would be the jerk.
If not, then not. But this is a more nuanced
question than just whether you are subject to the HOA
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or not.
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Op.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Yes, I know for one hundred percent sure, as I
have all the paperwork, including the documents that show which
portions of the lake I own. Am I the jerk
for refusing to show proof that the car is mine?
For some context, my twenty mail mom, who's thirty eight female,
married my stepdad, who's thirty five, ten years ago. They
had my brother, who's eight years old now, Scott. I
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see my stepdad as my father and his family as
my paternal family, so I'll refer to him as Dad,
and my step granddad is grand So Dad has a
GTR that my grand gave him a few years ago.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
That car is really cool.
Speaker 1 (29:46):
He also has a normal car that he drives to work,
so the GTR is more for fun. In showing off
my bro and I love that car and my dad
lets me drive it whenever I want. He even added
me to the insurance when I turned nineteen because I
use the car car almost every day until I was
able to buy my own. Last week I noticed Scott
a bit sad and he said that some kids at
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school were bullying him. Our parents went to his school
to talk to the principal and the problem is somewhat fixed,
but he was still bummed. So I decided to surprise
him yesterday by picking him up in our dad's car.
I parked the car and got out to wait for him.
I was sitting in the trunk when a guy approached
me and said that I shouldn't sit in other people's cars.
I laughed it off and said that it was mine,
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so it wasn't a problem. I must admit that I
do look younger than twenty, so he might have mistaken
me for a high schooler and didn't believe me. He
said that the car couldn't be mine and that I
should get off of it before the owner gets back.
I said that it was my car again, and he
got mad and said, look, son, this isn't your car.
Get down I'll even take a picture or two of
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you with it. I was getting nervous, and when I
get nervous, I tend to laugh. So he thought I
was mocking him and yelled at me to get down
that if the car belonged to me, to show him
the proof.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Then he yelled that I was trying to steal the car.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
I asked him to leave me alone because I was
waiting for my brother, and he did move a few meters,
but then I noticed that he was making a call,
and it turned out that he called the police on me.
My brother was getting out at the same time. He
was really happy to see me there in our dad's
car and ran to give me a hug. I tried
to pick him up to put him in the car,
but the guy stopped me. I mean I opened the door.
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It was obvious that the car was mine at that
point either way. The police came and asked the normal questions.
I explained to them that it was my dad's car,
and the guy said, ha, I knew it wasn't yours.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I showed them.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
Proof, my license, my dad's papers, the insurance paper with
my name on it, and even a text with my
dad where I said, Hey, I'm going to pick up
Scott in the car, and he only answered with an okay.
I offered to call him so that they could ask
him themselves, but they said there was no need. The
police let me leave and scolded the other guy before
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driving off. The guy called me a jerk because I
could have just shown him all of that, but instead.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I preferred to be a jerk. Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
He had no right to do what he did, just
a nosey parker. And why would you show him proof
it's your car? He should have just minded his own
business op for real, Like that thing has my family's address,
my dad's full name, and his number. No one in
their right mind would show that stuff to strangers.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
This is what happens when people think they can get
away with policing people without actually being police.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Not the jerk. That's sketchy.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
I'm a girl, But imagine someone pestering me and wanting
proof your license and registration has some personal information on
it and reading that immediately gave me stalker vibes. Probably
not the case, but just to point about how weird
this is, or if else I'd be concerned about them
trying to find your address to try and steal your car.
Just doesn't seem right to share personal info with a stranger.
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