December 10, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister hdder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Karen demands custody of my daughter. After that, I lost
it on my brother in law for telling my son
to be the man of the house and after that
refused to accommodate my disability. Okay, then now, for every
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thumbs up, this video gits one. Karen does not get
a demand custody of someone else's daughter, Not like you'd
give me one of my own. Reddit boy, why do
you hate me so? So please smash that like button
and subscribe and turn on notifications for new stories from
Reddit every single day. Karen demands custody of my daughter.
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I thirty female, have been taking care of my niece,
who's now seven years old, for the past five years
after my sister, who's thirty two, left her at my
doorstep and disappeared. My sister was going through a difficult
time with her mental health, and she was unable to
provide a stable environment for her daughter at the time,
I didn't hesitate to take my niece in and provide
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her with a loving and secure home. When my sister
left her daughter with me, she didn't leave any contact information,
and we had no way of reaching her. We searched
for her, but we couldn't find any leads. I was
left with no choice but to take full custody of
my niece, and I've been her primary caregiver ever since.
During the past five years, I've watched my niece grow
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into an amazing kid. I provided her with a stable
and secure environment, and I've been there for her during
all of the milestones. I've taken her to school, helped
her with her homework, taken her to doctor's appointments, and
celebrated her birthdays with her. Recently, my sister has reached
out to me and she informed me that she's doing
better with her mental health now and wants her daughter back.
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Although I'm happy that my sister is doing better, I'm
not ready to give up custody of my niece. My
niece has become a big part of my life and
I love her like she's my own kid. My sister
has been threatening to take legal action against me if
I don't give her daughter back to her. However, I'm
not afraid. My best friend is a lawyer who specializes
in custody cases, and I'm prepared to fight for my
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niece's best interests. I understand that my sister is the
biological mother of my niece, but I feel like I'm
the only mother figure she's ever known. For the past
five years, I'm torn between my love for my niece
and my loyalty to my sister. Am I the jerk
for refusing to give her back to my sister? Not
the jerk. You're the only mother she's ever known. Fight
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this with every ounce of strength and every penny you have.
Well done, and good luck. If your sister really wants
to come back in and build a relationship, she has
to understand that she's a stranger to this kid. How
about staying overnight to visit you, having park play dates,
even just going to a cafe together for lunch. Not
the jerk, And in fact, you're amazing for stepping up
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as a parent, not the jerk. Has your sister done
anything that proves she's better? Honestly, even if she has,
you stepped up and took care of her kid. You
have effectively become her mother, because it's not like she
has many memories of her birth mother. Do what's best
for your niece, and what's best never involves being moved
out of a loving home into an unknown environment. You're
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the jerk that is her kid. Why are you playing
games with her like that? My mom tried the same
stuff with my babies when I had her watch them
for a while when I had to take care of
some other things. Then when it was time to get
my kids back, she trying to say that I'm not
fit to be a mother and she was going to
keep them no way. These are my kids and I'm
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their mother. She trying to say, because I got locked
up for a quick minute, that I'm not a good mom.
I was working the streets, trying to keep food on
the table for my babies. That's why I got locked up. Eventually,
the authorities did take them away because they said my
place was not clean enough. They literally wanted to be spotless,
no crumbs anywhere, smelling like pine salt. That's not how
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normal people live. But I at least know that my
jerk mom was not the one who got them in
the end. I'm pregnant now with my third and this
time it will be different. Sure it will, baby Mama,
Sure it will. I lost it on my brother in
law for telling my son to be the man of
the house. My husband, Dan grew up in a single
parent household. His dad passed when he was young. His
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older brother, Martin was definitely made to act like a
parent and became the man of the house. Together. Dan
and I have three kids, Sidney who's twelve, Gabe, who's ten,
and Charlotte who's three. Unfortunately, Dan passed three months ago.
It's been a terrible struggle trying to balance my grief
my kids on top of the rest of my responsibilities.
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I have a great support system, so I've been cognizant
to make sure my babies still have a childhood. I
always said I wouldn't do what my mother in law did. Recently,
I was having a bit of a tough time. Charlotte
was sick, Sidney is in about a million activities, and
the housework was piling up. Martin's wife, Rachel, offered to
come by and help me out. She generously cleaned the
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house and looked after Charlotte while I ran Sidney to
her activities. When arrived back home, I found Martin and
Gabe in the kitchen. Martin was telling him that it
shouldn't have gotten to this stressful point and he should
be helping me more. He told him that he was
the man of the house and it was up to
him to step up. I cut in and told Gabe
not to listen to his uncle, that he's just a
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kid and it's not his job to take over for
his father. Rather, it's his job to play, go to school,
and just be a kid. I sent him to go play.
I tore into Martin. I asked him, how dare he
say that to my son. I said, he may have
been treated like this, but he will not do the
same to my son. I said, if he pulled crap
like that again, he had never seen my kids again.
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Martin told me I was being ungrateful. He was only
trying to help. He said, more than anything, he was
defending his wife, as it's not her job to help me.
I reminded him, I never asked Rachel for help she offered.
Martin said she wouldn't have if I wasn't complaining about
how hard my life is. Ever since, Dan's family have
been telling me what a jerk I am. They say
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this is all Martin knows, and I was way too
harsh on him, especially threatening to cut him off. They
told me I need to get my stuff together. My
mother in law especially, thinks I need to suck it
up and expect my kids, not just Gabe, but Sidney too,
to help me With Charlotte. I told her off, and
that only made it worse. Everyone is accusing me of
alienating Dan's family, which I'm not trying to do. Am
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I the jerk? Edit? To clarify, my kids do have
chores and help around the house. The work in question
was things that are out of their age bracket and
were my responsibility. Thus why I was falling behind considering
I also have to take care of the kids, drive
them places, and do more things that are not age
appropriate or their job. Not the jerk. You take those
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healthy boundaries for your kids and you defend them with
your life. It's something your brother in law unfortunately hasn't experienced,
and that's not his fault, but he is about to learn.
We break these cycles, we don't perpetuate them. Not the
jerk you talking to Rachel is called venting. Martin was
deflecting to remove the light from his mistake. There are
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some things the kids could do to help, picking up
their toys, putting dishes in the sink or away small things,
run a vacuum. It teaches life skills. I get why
you blew up at what he said. Kids don't need
to be a man of the house. Add to that
that you're trying to juggle three kids, keep the home afloat,
and probably haven't gotten to grieve properly. Not the jerk
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man of the house is such a stupid idea. It's
honestly laughable. Fortunately, we live in the modern age where,
to be honest, we don't need to have a man
in the house at all. Most men now don't even
know how to do traditional manly things like work on
cars or do house repairs. All they want to do
these days is play video games and eat Cheetos. This
is why I stop dating them a long time ago,
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and most of my friends have two. You're the jerk.
Your brother in law is right right now. Your son
is the man of the house. No matter matter how
much you may dislike that wording. He has two sisters
and a mother who are going to be depending on him.
He won't have the option to goof off and be
a typical, lazy and titled teen. He's going to need
to mature quickly and become the man that you all
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need him to be. This is what I had to
do growing up. My father walked out on us when
I was only nine, but I had younger siblings who
looked up to me. Sadly, I can tell by the
way you're explaining this whole thing that he's really going
to struggle growing up in his home. Just please get
him in sports if he's not already. Without learning to compete,
young men don't stand a chance. And since you seem
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to think your brother in law doesn't know what he's
talking about, please try to find a smart man with
good morals who can guide your son down the right path.
Just as there are things only a mother can teach
her daughter, there are things that only a father can
teach his son. This used to be common knowledge, but sadly,
in our current climate, common knowledge isn't so common anymore.
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Not the jerk, And maybe it's best we go ahead
and cut off Dad's family at least until you figure
out how your life will be moving forward. You owe
nothing to them, so go ahead and hit that block
button and figure out your family. Forget them. Refuse to
accommodate my disability. Okay, then let me give a little backstory. First,
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I started working at Walmart before lockdown happened as a
full time apparel employee. I happen to have grand mal
epilepsy that started in my mid twenties around twenty fifteen.
I'm also quite understanding of other people's disabilities and often
try to work with them since I can relate to
having issues. Example, I use hand gestures and or writing
for deaf coworkers. This helps with basic communication that most
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hearing people don't bother with, and it's normally appreciated that
I do this. I got to stay in that exact
same position throughout twenty twenty and part of twenty twenty one. Naturally,
I had to still go to work as an essential employee,
deal with idiots, and worry about both of my parents,
who also work in retail. I managed to get myself
promoted to the digital shopping department by transferring stores and
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pointing out certain key skills I have that are really
useful in retail. In twenty twenty one, I had politely
asked for the minimal requirements from my department manager of
one being able to take medication at work and two
not having to bring orders out to cars because I
lack what's known as an aura. Basically summed up here,
I can't sense seizures coming, though I don't have them
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very often due to medication. A grand MoU plus a
busy parking lot at work seems like a bad idea.
My department manager agreed to this condition as long as
I did other work to help out with the digital
team instead, which was completely reasonable task for in my opinion.
So as per the request for a lot of closing shifts,
I'd work. I'd take up phone duty, preset up the
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orders to go out and or do returns for the department.
The issue here was that the personal department person she
kept forgetting about my condition repeatedly over the next year.
This was despite me bringing in medical notes for my
neurologist for my file, pointing this out more than once
on why I shouldn't be scheduled solo, and having the
department manager talk to her. After over a year, she
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scheduled me completely solo for a closing, which I noticed
and texted my department lead about. I did the official
suggestion of hers, despite my thoughts that corporate Walmart was
likely even dumber than her on basic disabilities. I only
asked for the exact same things. I asked my department
manager for both very very logical and minimal accommodation requests,
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as I suspected Walmart, Sedgwick said, we can't do this
unless you change departments. All departments suggested either wouldn't work
due to time and or location, or they were back
at the same level as Apparel, which would lower my
position and pay. Sedgwick put me on an automatically placed
LOA after a few days without my permission. This was
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to allow me to figure out what I should do
over the next four months. I called up and asked
the Walmart Benefit Center about this. As of late twenty
Tine nineteen, Walmart signed all of their employees up for
free to the employees short term disability insurance without officially
telling them. I filed to get this insurance to pay
for my entire LOA and was given the short term
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disability payments with back pay for exactly when they put
me on leave. I'd rather have my paycheck and insurance
stick around for a while. Despite Walmart and Sedgwick being idiotic,
I quit Walmart after having gotten holiday employment with Target
for two months. At that point, am I the jerk
for buying all of the red Gatorade at the store,
even though a mom wanted some for her kids. I'm
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a big fan of gatorade, and I have a specific
reason for buying it. I have low blood sugar and
dehydration issues, and my doctor recommended that I drink gatorade
to help keep my electrolytes in balance. However, I'm also
neurodivergent and it's hard for me to change things up
and try new flavors, so I only buy the red
kind as it's the only one I like. Yesterday, I
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went to the grocery store on their stock day and
I saw that they had a fresh shipman of Gatorade.
I was so happy because I've been running low at home.
I grabbed the bottles of the red flavor and put
them in my cart. As I was walking away, a
mom with two kids approached me and asked if I
could spare a few bottles of the red gatorade. She
explained that it was her kid's favorite color and that
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they were out of stock at their local store. I
felt bad for her, but I explained that I needed
the gatorade for my own health reasons and that I
couldn't spare any The mom got really upset and started
to yell at me, saying that I was being selfish
and that I should think about others. I tried to
explain my situation again, but she wouldn't listen and kept
telling me I could just take the blue Gatorade instead.
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I just started to ignore her after a while, but
eventually she stormed off. Now I'm wondering if I was
in the wrong. Should I have just given her some
of the gatorade even though I needed it from my
own health, or was I justified in keeping it all
for myself. Am I the jerk at it? I should
clarify since this is coming up in the comments. I
didn't really want to go into specifics, but here we go. No,
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my doctor did not reckon men specifically read gatorade for
this issue. He recommended Gatorade. The red Gatorade is needed
because I deal with OCD and have issues with change
to my routine and trying new things. It can be
debilitating to deal with panic attacks induced by such a
small problem and can remove my focus from my process
of treating the bigger problems with my OCD. So I've
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chosen at the advice of a therapist to allow myself
to stick to this small routine and avoid further disruption
during my process of getting better. I wish my food
aversion was something I could just turn off, but I can't,
and it's a process to work through these things for me.
I hope people in the comments can understand that I'm
not trying to intentionally be a jerk and take things
from other people. I just have a fear of not
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being able to keep the little things in my routine,
and that feeling trumps a lot of things for me.
If you don't struggle with OCD, be grateful you're the jerk.
Op states in the commons and main post that the
drinks were just restocked, and also that he was taking
literally all of them. Doesn't matter if it's ga aide, insulin,
or toilet paper. Hoarding all of the supply when you
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one clearly have enough for a while and two there's
someone else in the store wanting to buy some makes
you a jerk. The kid could be neurodiversent. Also, you
don't know, and I guarantee you if you arrived and
this mom did the same thing and took literally all
of your special drink as soon as it was restocked.
You would be infuriated if you really can only do
red and need to bulk order it, work with the
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store manager or order online. Often you can get up
to a pallette for a lower price than on the
shelves just by scheduling a special order. I'll probably get
a lot of hate for this, but you're the jerk.
You are indeed selfish for buying a store out of
its entire stock of a product on stock day, because
that means they will be out of that product for
anyone who comes to buy it until they restock. That
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lady shouldn't have yelled at you, obviously, but I do
understand her frustration. Just a suggestion, but if your need
is really that great, you need to speak to the
store manager because they would likely be happy to order
extra that flavor for you. Am I the jerk for
suing my mother and her husband over child support payments.
I have a terrible dog allergy, and during my childhood
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and teenage years, my mother decided it would be smart
to not only get one but four. Through that, she
managed to completely isolate me from my family and I
couldn't leave my room whenever I was home since the
dogs were allowed everywhere, and I couldn't stay in the
room with them without being unable to breathe and constantly sneezing.
I lived like that for four years before I had
enough and moved on to my university campus. My mother
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fought for me to stay, not because of me, but
because she would miss my dad's child support payments since
she was legally required to give them to me. Now,
our relationship became pretty frosty, but at one point we
sat down and had a conversation and I thought things
were now okay. She continues to pay me monthly and
I have a decent job, so I managed to find
a place of my own. Well over the last few months,
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I found out my mother wasn't pain the full support
to me. It was about two hundred year olds less
than it should be, which she kept. I confronted her
and told her that I need the money for UNI
and my apartment, but she claimed what she's already paying
me is more than enough and that I need to
get my spending habits under control. I told her I
can't work full time because of my degree, but she
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simply didn't care since that money legally belongs to me.
I've decided to talk to a lawyer about suing her
for the amount she owes me and the amount that
she kept to herself all my life. I went through
with it and we are now settling this through court.
My mom's husband begged me to drop it and said
he would pay me around one thousand euros as compensation
and that I need to think about the fact that
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they still have to pay off their house, that the
dogs need food, that he has to support my sisters,
et cetera. Even my dad told me I was being
too harsh on my mother. I simply don't care about
that woman who's treated me like this for my whole life.
Am I the jerk? Edit? I have three sisters and
I'm the oldest brother. The only thing I'm concerned about
is them losing in the process because I know I
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have to go no contact once this is settled. He's
already been calling me NonStop, and I blocked her number,
and she's been using my sister to contact me. She's
a really good manipulator. So I'm really worried and wondering
if this is all worth it. As to some of
the questions I keep seeing my sisters are eighteen, twelve
and nine. The oldest is my stepsister, daughter of my
mom's new husband. The other two are my half siblings.
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They mean the world to me. I feel very protective
of them, and I did everything I could in my
situation to be a good brother to them. At the moment,
I'm also trying to support my oldest younger sister with
her wish to move out. She might move in with me.
I hope I can keep contact through them in secret
or through my grandma. I'm very scared of losing my
youngest sister to the Germans and the comments I don't
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get that benefit. My parents are both really well off,
and I tried multiple times explaining my situation. I don't
get anything that would support me. I applied for this
other benefit and I'm waiting for the result of that.
I've been working since I was sixteen, and before moving out,
my mom did take part of my money for rent,
so there is a pattern. My mom managed the child support,
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and my dad is a very let's just keep it
the way it's always been type of guy, so he
just kept paying my mom and trusted her to give
it to me, even when I told him I don't
get anything. I'm very happy with the rational comments I'm
receiving because I catch myself still trying to excuse her behavior.
I love my parents dearly, I love my family. I
don't want to be in this situation, but at the
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same time, I don't see what else I can do.
Not the jerk. I find it comical that you were
told to get your spending under control by the people
who are stealing your money to be able to afford
dog food for the dogs that are the reason you
had to move in the first place. Not the jerk.
Let's see, she was knowingly endangering and confining you with
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her dogs and then stealing from you. Go on with
full force, not the jerk. What your mom's husband and
dad expect from you as being the bigger person. But
ask yourself, is your mom ever gonna make it up
to you? Will she be thankful to you for letting
it drop. Is your relationship with your mom even worth
it to you anymore? I mean, I absolutely love my dog.
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I would quit a relationship over my dog. But getting
a dog when your kid is allergic? What nonsense? Is that?
No judgment? I'm confused how someone over eighteen is supposed
to be getting child support mandatory from a parent. Op
The law here states that parents have to pay child
support until I either finish an internship and have a
full time job, or when I finish my first university degree.
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Since I am in UNI and under twenty five, they
still have to pay. Am I the jerk for not
babysitting at the cookout? I twenty seven. Mail was at
a backyard cookout with some friends and coworkers, so the
ages were late twenties to early forties. It was a
family friendly event, so people brought their kids. They were
playing in the yard while most of the adults hung
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out in the backyard deck. And like always, the parents
saw other adults in the area and decided to just
walk away and go inside. I don't know why this
is a thing a lot of parents tend to do.
Why do you just walk away at outings and expect
others to watch your kids for you? I don't get it.
I could see if it were your immediate family, but
even then I would warn someone that I was not
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going to be watching them. It was near the end
of the night, so some people were gone. It was
also getting dark and colder, so people were inside. The
kids were still running around the play area. I decided
to go home. I went inside and said goodbye to
the host. Then I got in my car out front
and was on my phone for a minute, and someone
angrily walked up and asked me why I left the backyard.
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They said I was back there and they were counting
on me to watch the kids. Note that this was
never even said to me. They just went inside and
said nothing. I was on the deck, and at no
point in the night was I ever paying attention to them.
Nothing dangerous happened. The parents just saw me walk into
my car and freaked out. I told her it's not
my job to watch your kids, but I probably would
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have stuck around if I were asked. I was just
sitting on the deck, drinking and minding my own business.
I had already been going back and forth from outside
to socialize the whole night like everyone else. Not sure
why I was the one singled out. There were times
when another person happened to be outside and I was inside.
Did they assume we were taking shifts? I don't get
the mentality of parents, but maybe I'm the jerk here. Edit.
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I don't think it's clear, so I'll clarify, I had
no knowledge of being on kid duty. The backyard is
large and open and leads into the forest. I was
on the small deck by the house. At no point
in the night was I watching or listening for them.
The whole night, I was periodically going inside and outside freely,
never considered them because I assumed the responsible parents were
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keeping an eye out. Dude, You're definitely not the jerk.
You're not a babysitter. You should not be held in
any position to watch their kids. Not the jerk. It
took me a while to figure out none of the
kids were even yours, because their reaction makes no sense
at all. Just assuming someone else is watching your kids
for you is pretty ridiculous. Am I the jerk for
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calling out a family member for giving fake gifts? For graduation?
Three years ago, my uncle fifty three mail gave me
twenty five female a one hundred dollars gift card, but
when I went to use it, the teller said that
there was only six dollars left on the card. I
assumed it was a mistake and didn't say anything to him.
For Christmas two years ago, he gave me a fifty
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dollars gift card, which was twenty five dollars over what
the limit was per person. When I went to use it,
the teller said it had never been activated. I again
didn't say anything, but I thought it was odd that
had happened twice. Last year I finished grad school and
my uncle loudly announced to everyone at my party that
I should get an email with a digital gift card
and that it should help me pay for my new
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furnishings when I move. I checked my email that night
and had nothing in my inbox or spam. I waited
a few days, then texted him and mentioned I didn't
get an email, just to make sure he had used
the correct email address. He never responded. I finally hit
the limit this Christmas when he handed me a one
hundred dollars VISA gift card and announced that he had
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been doing well at work and wanted to be generous.
I thanked him and checked the balance later and saw
there was only around three dollars on the card. The
next day, when my grandma said she was going to
the mall, I said I would go too to use
the gift card. I tried to use it with her
standing next to me, and when the teller said there
were insufficient funds. She was shocked. I logged into the
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website where you can check the balance and showed her
that the card had been spent months ago and how
little remained. She seemed confused, and when we got to
the car, I mentioned that this happened every single time
Uncle gave me a gift card. She got upset and
called him and told him off for bragging about being
generous but giving out fake or used cards. He later
texted me and said I was wrong for calling him
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out in front of his mother, and that he had
been having financial issues he wanted to keep quiet. I
responded by saying I gave him the chance to fess
up the time before about the email gift card, but
he wouldn't answer, and that if he was having financial issues,
he shouldn't have bragged about going over the prescribed gift
amount and just actually spent twenty five dollars. Am I
the jerk? Not the jerk? At the very least, he
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should have told you personally afterwards so you don't look
embarrassed in the store. Not the jerk. If he had
financial issues, he can choose not to get you a
gift or to get one of much less value. He
doesn't have to say why in front of people, but
using you to appear generous and hide his financial issues
in front of others or whatever. Nope, that's not okay.
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Hoa neighbor keeps harassing me. Finally gets a taste of
her own medicine. I bought my first house in nineteen
ninety nine and I wanted direct TV. I put up
a satellite dish, which happened to be behind a privacy fence.
I also knew the FCC ruling that Hoa's couldn't prevent
you from putting up a dish due to some issue
with homebuilders who would make shady deals with cable companies
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to force homeowners to go with a specific company. I
figured I wouldn't have any issues since it was behind
a fence. Anyway, I got a knock at my door
the next day, and it was my nigh from across
the cul de Sac telling me she's on the board
of the HOA. Your dish is in violation and must
be removed. This was my first encounter with her. I
politely explained the law as I knew it and told
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her to have a nice day. We didn't speak again.
And she ended up moving out soon. Well, it turns
out she didn't move out and was just renting to
some other lady that I never spoke to, and the
hoa lady moved back a year later. There was an
easement behind my house which was properly mode when I
moved in. I would hit golf balls down there with
my wedge, and my neighbor was into archery and used
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it as his range. By the second summer I lived there,
it was overgrown and an eye sore. I couldn't even
see the creek just behind my house anymore. One weekend,
I borrowed my dad's utility trailer and I spent three
days clearing out our little section behind the houses, hauling
all of the debris away, probably two trips a day.
My arms were covered in cuts from the briers, and
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apparently I was also dealing with sumac poison, IVY and
some other stuff, because by Monday I was having an
allergic reaction so badly that I went to the doctor
to get a shot. Laid up in the house all day,
and I got a knock at the door. It's the
neighbor again. Apparently there's a rule that you cannot store
a trailer in the driveway for more than three days,
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and this was day four. I needed to remove it
by the end of the day or face a five
hundred dollars fine. She handed me a paper listing the rule,
and I considered just paying the fine, but instead I
angrily drove an hour each way to return my dad's trailer.
After spending half the day already waiting in a hospital lobby,
I got home after dark. What struck me as odd
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was that there was a list of things you couldn't
store in your driveway personal watercraft, boats, trailers, et cetera.
The odd part was that motorcycle was listed on there.
I don't ride one myself, but I thought it was
a totally reasonable thing to keep in a driveway. After
I finished all of this work, this woman would routinely
walk through my yard without asking, but since she was
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taking her grandkid to play in the creek, I never said,
even though it bothered me, she never asked. A year
or so later, I wanted to sell the house and
move into something bigger. I had talked to a reeltor already,
and I was getting things tidied up to have the
house shown. As I was cleaning out a drawer, I
noticed that paper the Hoa lady had given me, and
I remembered the part about motorcycles being listed. You see,
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the Hoa lady had started dating an older gentleman and
he had moved in with her. Turns out, he rode
a Harley, which was always parked in her driveway. She
was home, so I walked over there and politely informed
her about the violation. The next day, the motorcycle was
parked on her back porch, the one she bragged about
to everyone who would listen, so she could tell them
how much it cost. I laughed to myself, but then
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I remembered the part about it needing to be behind
a fence. Another knock at the door, and within a
few days a fence company was building a six foot
privacy fence which completely hid her fancy new deck. My
Reeltor had been on my case for at least a
week about needing to put up a first sale sign.
As soon as the fence was finished, I told her
it was okay. I saw the house quickly and moved
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out at the end of the month. Oh and by
the way, the fence was completely hideous and looked out
of place because of the way her lot was shaped.
Am I the jerk for saying no to my boss
after she asked me to watch her kids this weekend.
So I'm twenty two female and my sister is getting
married this coming weekend and I will be gone Thursday
through Sunday. I've had this known that I was going
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to be gone for seven months. Seven months. I would
even remind every month or so, just so I knew
that she knew. I nanny two amazing kids who are
six and eight. This is the first time I have
ever asked to have some time off. My boss has
always been like, oh yeah, sure, sounds like a beautiful wedding. However,
I got a text two hours ago saying she really
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needed me this weekend and she couldn't find anyone else.
I was upset, but I know how to act calm,
since you know, it's my job to stay happy and calm.
I texted her back a quick apology, but said I
really didn't want to miss my sister, as she's my
only sibling. Well, boss woman went off the deep end
and said that if I didn't show up to watch
her kids this weekend that I won't have a job
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come monday, I replied with this exactly. Look, I'm so
sorry that you're having a hard time looking for someone
to cover. I can reach out to a few nanny
friends I have and see if any of them would
like to pick this up. This is a once in
a lifetime moment for my sister, and if it means
I will lose my job, then, sadly, I will have
to accept that I love this job and your kids,
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and I hope we can work something out. I think
it would devastate them, but you do what you need
to and I will accept that. She threw a few
insults at me and said I'm abandoning them. I don't
know what to do. I don't want to get a
new job because I work so well with these two giddos.
My mom told me I was a jerk for so
quickly accepting that I might get fired and told me
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that work just sucks sometimes and you got to suck
it up. Mom says I should have been an adult
and just missed my sister's wedding. I don't know, should
I Am I really that big of a jerk for
saying no atit? Just to clarify me and my mom
don't have a good relationship. I didn't ask her for
her advice. She was in the room with my sister,
and as I was venting to my sister, I would
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have gotten no contact at eighteen if it wasn't for
my dad. Can we please stop talking about it now?
I've dealt with so much crap from her, But that's
for another day, not the jerk. Start looking for a
new job now, and when they ask, when you can
start list it for the day you're done with the
wedding festivities. This woman must have a lot of backup
options for childcare. If she can so casually threaten your
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job like that and talk to you in that way,
she must be used to getting her way to do
such a one to eighty on you like that. You
can be the one to teach her this valuable lesson
about valuing an employee nice enough to give extensive notice
in advance when they won't be able to be on
the job. After all, you gave her plenty of notice
along with reminders, and the fact that she's in the
lurch now is because she didn't respect you and your
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personal time enough to make plans for this time months ago.
While it's true that you do sometimes have to suck
it up as an adult. That time is not when
you've given your employer more than half a year's notice
that you'll need this specific time off. It's very much
being an adult to prioritize your sister's wedding over a
job that doesn't value you enough to respect that you
had arranged this time off months ago. Uh. It makes
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me so sad that OPI's mom is this brainwashed too?
Does she really think op is in the wrong here?
This fear that you can be fired any moment for
not doing whatever insane thing your boss asks of you
is so real for a lot of people, because it's true.
You can be fired at any moment for almost any reason.
Slash no reason and the good old greatest country on Earth.
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I'm glad more people are realizing they don't need to
accept this crap, OPI. You're part of a changing labor movement.
Learn your worth now, and don't let your next employer
treat you like this. You know it was an empty
threat too. What is she going to do on Monday
if she fires you? Between that and the yelling and
the guilt trip, you know she's desperate for help. No
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Hey there, mister hdder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Karen demands custody of my daughter. After that, I lost
it on my brother in law for telling my son
to be the man of the house and after that
refused to accommodate my disability. Okay, then now, for every
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thumbs up, this video gits one. Karen does not get
a demand custody of someone else's daughter, Not like you'd
give me one of my own. Reddit boy, why do
you hate me so? So please smash that like button
and subscribe and turn on notifications for new stories from
Reddit every single day. Karen demands custody of my daughter.
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I thirty female, have been taking care of my niece,
who's now seven years old, for the past five years
after my sister, who's thirty two, left her at my
doorstep and disappeared. My sister was going through a difficult
time with her mental health, and she was unable to
provide a stable environment for her daughter at the time,
I didn't hesitate to take my niece in and provide
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her with a loving and secure home. When my sister
left her daughter with me, she didn't leave any contact information,
and we had no way of reaching her. We searched
for her, but we couldn't find any leads. I was
left with no choice but to take full custody of
my niece, and I've been her primary caregiver ever since.
During the past five years, I've watched my niece grow
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into an amazing kid. I provided her with a stable
and secure environment, and I've been there for her during
all of the milestones. I've taken her to school, helped
her with her homework, taken her to doctor's appointments, and
celebrated her birthdays with her. Recently, my sister has reached
out to me and she informed me that she's doing
better with her mental health now and wants her daughter back.
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Although I'm happy that my sister is doing better, I'm
not ready to give up custody of my niece. My
niece has become a big part of my life and
I love her like she's my own kid. My sister
has been threatening to take legal action against me if
I don't give her daughter back to her. However, I'm
not afraid. My best friend is a lawyer who specializes
in custody cases, and I'm prepared to fight for my
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niece's best interests. I understand that my sister is the
biological mother of my niece, but I feel like I'm
the only mother figure she's ever known. For the past
five years, I'm torn between my love for my niece
and my loyalty to my sister. Am I the jerk
for refusing to give her back to my sister? Not
the jerk. You're the only mother she's ever known. Fight
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this with every ounce of strength and every penny you have.
Well done, and good luck. If your sister really wants
to come back in and build a relationship, she has
to understand that she's a stranger to this kid. How
about staying overnight to visit you, having park play dates,
even just going to a cafe together for lunch. Not
the jerk, And in fact, you're amazing for stepping up
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as a parent, not the jerk. Has your sister done
anything that proves she's better? Honestly, even if she has,
you stepped up and took care of her kid. You
have effectively become her mother, because it's not like she
has many memories of her birth mother. Do what's best
for your niece, and what's best never involves being moved
out of a loving home into an unknown environment. You're
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the jerk that is her kid. Why are you playing
games with her like that? My mom tried the same
stuff with my babies when I had her watch them
for a while when I had to take care of
some other things. Then when it was time to get
my kids back, she trying to say that I'm not
fit to be a mother and she was going to
keep them no way. These are my kids and I'm
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their mother. She trying to say, because I got locked
up for a quick minute, that I'm not a good mom.
I was working the streets, trying to keep food on
the table for my babies. That's why I got locked up. Eventually,
the authorities did take them away because they said my
place was not clean enough. They literally wanted to be spotless,
no crumbs anywhere, smelling like pine salt. That's not how
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normal people live. But I at least know that my
jerk mom was not the one who got them in
the end. I'm pregnant now with my third and this
time it will be different. Sure it will, baby Mama,
Sure it will. I lost it on my brother in
law for telling my son to be the man of
the house. My husband, Dan grew up in a single
parent household. His dad passed when he was young. His
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older brother, Martin was definitely made to act like a
parent and became the man of the house. Together. Dan
and I have three kids, Sidney who's twelve, Gabe, who's ten,
and Charlotte who's three. Unfortunately, Dan passed three months ago.
It's been a terrible struggle trying to balance my grief
my kids on top of the rest of my responsibilities.
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I have a great support system, so I've been cognizant
to make sure my babies still have a childhood. I
always said I wouldn't do what my mother in law did. Recently,
I was having a bit of a tough time. Charlotte
was sick, Sidney is in about a million activities, and
the housework was piling up. Martin's wife, Rachel, offered to
come by and help me out. She generously cleaned the
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house and looked after Charlotte while I ran Sidney to
her activities. When arrived back home, I found Martin and
Gabe in the kitchen. Martin was telling him that it
shouldn't have gotten to this stressful point and he should
be helping me more. He told him that he was
the man of the house and it was up to
him to step up. I cut in and told Gabe
not to listen to his uncle, that he's just a
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kid and it's not his job to take over for
his father. Rather, it's his job to play, go to school,
and just be a kid. I sent him to go play.
I tore into Martin. I asked him, how dare he
say that to my son. I said, he may have
been treated like this, but he will not do the
same to my son. I said, if he pulled crap
like that again, he had never seen my kids again.
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Martin told me I was being ungrateful. He was only
trying to help. He said, more than anything, he was
defending his wife, as it's not her job to help me.
I reminded him, I never asked Rachel for help she offered.
Martin said she wouldn't have if I wasn't complaining about
how hard my life is. Ever since, Dan's family have
been telling me what a jerk I am. They say
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this is all Martin knows, and I was way too
harsh on him, especially threatening to cut him off. They
told me I need to get my stuff together. My
mother in law especially, thinks I need to suck it
up and expect my kids, not just Gabe, but Sidney too,
to help me With Charlotte. I told her off, and
that only made it worse. Everyone is accusing me of
alienating Dan's family, which I'm not trying to do. Am
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I the jerk? Edit? To clarify, my kids do have
chores and help around the house. The work in question
was things that are out of their age bracket and
were my responsibility. Thus why I was falling behind considering
I also have to take care of the kids, drive
them places, and do more things that are not age
appropriate or their job. Not the jerk. You take those
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healthy boundaries for your kids and you defend them with
your life. It's something your brother in law unfortunately hasn't experienced,
and that's not his fault, but he is about to learn.
We break these cycles, we don't perpetuate them. Not the
jerk you talking to Rachel is called venting. Martin was
deflecting to remove the light from his mistake. There are
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some things the kids could do to help, picking up
their toys, putting dishes in the sink or away small things,
run a vacuum. It teaches life skills. I get why
you blew up at what he said. Kids don't need
to be a man of the house. Add to that
that you're trying to juggle three kids, keep the home afloat,
and probably haven't gotten to grieve properly. Not the jerk
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man of the house is such a stupid idea. It's
honestly laughable. Fortunately, we live in the modern age where,
to be honest, we don't need to have a man
in the house at all. Most men now don't even
know how to do traditional manly things like work on
cars or do house repairs. All they want to do
these days is play video games and eat Cheetos. This
is why I stop dating them a long time ago,
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and most of my friends have two. You're the jerk.
Your brother in law is right right now. Your son
is the man of the house. No matter matter how
much you may dislike that wording. He has two sisters
and a mother who are going to be depending on him.
He won't have the option to goof off and be
a typical, lazy and titled teen. He's going to need
to mature quickly and become the man that you all
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need him to be. This is what I had to
do growing up. My father walked out on us when
I was only nine, but I had younger siblings who
looked up to me. Sadly, I can tell by the
way you're explaining this whole thing that he's really going
to struggle growing up in his home. Just please get
him in sports if he's not already. Without learning to compete,
young men don't stand a chance. And since you seem
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to think your brother in law doesn't know what he's
talking about, please try to find a smart man with
good morals who can guide your son down the right path.
Just as there are things only a mother can teach
her daughter, there are things that only a father can
teach his son. This used to be common knowledge, but sadly,
in our current climate, common knowledge isn't so common anymore.
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Not the jerk, And maybe it's best we go ahead
and cut off Dad's family at least until you figure
out how your life will be moving forward. You owe
nothing to them, so go ahead and hit that block
button and figure out your family. Forget them. Refuse to
accommodate my disability. Okay, then let me give a little backstory. First,
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I started working at Walmart before lockdown happened as a
full time apparel employee. I happen to have grand mal
epilepsy that started in my mid twenties around twenty fifteen.
I'm also quite understanding of other people's disabilities and often
try to work with them since I can relate to
having issues. Example, I use hand gestures and or writing
for deaf coworkers. This helps with basic communication that most
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hearing people don't bother with, and it's normally appreciated that
I do this. I got to stay in that exact
same position throughout twenty twenty and part of twenty twenty one. Naturally,
I had to still go to work as an essential employee,
deal with idiots, and worry about both of my parents,
who also work in retail. I managed to get myself
promoted to the digital shopping department by transferring stores and
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pointing out certain key skills I have that are really
useful in retail. In twenty twenty one, I had politely
asked for the minimal requirements from my department manager of
one being able to take medication at work and two
not having to bring orders out to cars because I
lack what's known as an aura. Basically summed up here,
I can't sense seizures coming, though I don't have them
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very often due to medication. A grand MoU plus a
busy parking lot at work seems like a bad idea.
My department manager agreed to this condition as long as
I did other work to help out with the digital
team instead, which was completely reasonable task for in my opinion.
So as per the request for a lot of closing shifts,
I'd work. I'd take up phone duty, preset up the
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orders to go out and or do returns for the department.
The issue here was that the personal department person she
kept forgetting about my condition repeatedly over the next year.
This was despite me bringing in medical notes for my
neurologist for my file, pointing this out more than once
on why I shouldn't be scheduled solo, and having the
department manager talk to her. After over a year, she
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scheduled me completely solo for a closing, which I noticed
and texted my department lead about. I did the official
suggestion of hers, despite my thoughts that corporate Walmart was
likely even dumber than her on basic disabilities. I only
asked for the exact same things. I asked my department
manager for both very very logical and minimal accommodation requests,
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as I suspected Walmart, Sedgwick said, we can't do this
unless you change departments. All departments suggested either wouldn't work
due to time and or location, or they were back
at the same level as Apparel, which would lower my
position and pay. Sedgwick put me on an automatically placed
LOA after a few days without my permission. This was
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to allow me to figure out what I should do
over the next four months. I called up and asked
the Walmart Benefit Center about this. As of late twenty
Tine nineteen, Walmart signed all of their employees up for
free to the employees short term disability insurance without officially
telling them. I filed to get this insurance to pay
for my entire LOA and was given the short term
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disability payments with back pay for exactly when they put
me on leave. I'd rather have my paycheck and insurance
stick around for a while. Despite Walmart and Sedgwick being idiotic,
I quit Walmart after having gotten holiday employment with Target
for two months. At that point, am I the jerk
for buying all of the red Gatorade at the store,
even though a mom wanted some for her kids. I'm
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a big fan of gatorade, and I have a specific
reason for buying it. I have low blood sugar and
dehydration issues, and my doctor recommended that I drink gatorade
to help keep my electrolytes in balance. However, I'm also
neurodivergent and it's hard for me to change things up
and try new flavors, so I only buy the red
kind as it's the only one I like. Yesterday, I
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went to the grocery store on their stock day and
I saw that they had a fresh shipman of Gatorade.
I was so happy because I've been running low at home.
I grabbed the bottles of the red flavor and put
them in my cart. As I was walking away, a
mom with two kids approached me and asked if I
could spare a few bottles of the red gatorade. She
explained that it was her kid's favorite color and that
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they were out of stock at their local store. I
felt bad for her, but I explained that I needed
the gatorade for my own health reasons and that I
couldn't spare any The mom got really upset and started
to yell at me, saying that I was being selfish
and that I should think about others. I tried to
explain my situation again, but she wouldn't listen and kept
telling me I could just take the blue Gatorade instead.
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I just started to ignore her after a while, but
eventually she stormed off. Now I'm wondering if I was
in the wrong. Should I have just given her some
of the gatorade even though I needed it from my
own health, or was I justified in keeping it all
for myself. Am I the jerk at it? I should
clarify since this is coming up in the comments. I
didn't really want to go into specifics, but here we go. No,
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my doctor did not reckon men specifically read gatorade for
this issue. He recommended Gatorade. The red Gatorade is needed
because I deal with OCD and have issues with change
to my routine and trying new things. It can be
debilitating to deal with panic attacks induced by such a
small problem and can remove my focus from my process
of treating the bigger problems with my OCD. So I've
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chosen at the advice of a therapist to allow myself
to stick to this small routine and avoid further disruption
during my process of getting better. I wish my food
aversion was something I could just turn off, but I can't,
and it's a process to work through these things for me.
I hope people in the comments can understand that I'm
not trying to intentionally be a jerk and take things
from other people. I just have a fear of not
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being able to keep the little things in my routine,
and that feeling trumps a lot of things for me.
If you don't struggle with OCD, be grateful you're the jerk.
Op states in the commons and main post that the
drinks were just restocked, and also that he was taking
literally all of them. Doesn't matter if it's ga aide, insulin,
or toilet paper. Hoarding all of the supply when you
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one clearly have enough for a while and two there's
someone else in the store wanting to buy some makes
you a jerk. The kid could be neurodiversent. Also, you
don't know, and I guarantee you if you arrived and
this mom did the same thing and took literally all
of your special drink as soon as it was restocked.
You would be infuriated if you really can only do
red and need to bulk order it, work with the
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store manager or order online. Often you can get up
to a pallette for a lower price than on the
shelves just by scheduling a special order. I'll probably get
a lot of hate for this, but you're the jerk.
You are indeed selfish for buying a store out of
its entire stock of a product on stock day, because
that means they will be out of that product for
anyone who comes to buy it until they restock. That
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lady shouldn't have yelled at you, obviously, but I do
understand her frustration. Just a suggestion, but if your need
is really that great, you need to speak to the
store manager because they would likely be happy to order
extra that flavor for you. Am I the jerk for
suing my mother and her husband over child support payments.
I have a terrible dog allergy, and during my childhood
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and teenage years, my mother decided it would be smart
to not only get one but four. Through that, she
managed to completely isolate me from my family and I
couldn't leave my room whenever I was home since the
dogs were allowed everywhere, and I couldn't stay in the
room with them without being unable to breathe and constantly sneezing.
I lived like that for four years before I had
enough and moved on to my university campus. My mother
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fought for me to stay, not because of me, but
because she would miss my dad's child support payments since
she was legally required to give them to me. Now,
our relationship became pretty frosty, but at one point we
sat down and had a conversation and I thought things
were now okay. She continues to pay me monthly and
I have a decent job, so I managed to find
a place of my own. Well over the last few months,
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I found out my mother wasn't pain the full support
to me. It was about two hundred year olds less
than it should be, which she kept. I confronted her
and told her that I need the money for UNI
and my apartment, but she claimed what she's already paying
me is more than enough and that I need to
get my spending habits under control. I told her I
can't work full time because of my degree, but she
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simply didn't care since that money legally belongs to me.
I've decided to talk to a lawyer about suing her
for the amount she owes me and the amount that
she kept to herself all my life. I went through
with it and we are now settling this through court.
My mom's husband begged me to drop it and said
he would pay me around one thousand euros as compensation
and that I need to think about the fact that
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they still have to pay off their house, that the
dogs need food, that he has to support my sisters,
et cetera. Even my dad told me I was being
too harsh on my mother. I simply don't care about
that woman who's treated me like this for my whole life.
Am I the jerk? Edit? I have three sisters and
I'm the oldest brother. The only thing I'm concerned about
is them losing in the process because I know I
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have to go no contact once this is settled. He's
already been calling me NonStop, and I blocked her number,
and she's been using my sister to contact me. She's
a really good manipulator. So I'm really worried and wondering
if this is all worth it. As to some of
the questions I keep seeing my sisters are eighteen, twelve
and nine. The oldest is my stepsister, daughter of my
mom's new husband. The other two are my half siblings.
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They mean the world to me. I feel very protective
of them, and I did everything I could in my
situation to be a good brother to them. At the moment,
I'm also trying to support my oldest younger sister with
her wish to move out. She might move in with me.
I hope I can keep contact through them in secret
or through my grandma. I'm very scared of losing my
youngest sister to the Germans and the comments I don't
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get that benefit. My parents are both really well off,
and I tried multiple times explaining my situation. I don't
get anything that would support me. I applied for this
other benefit and I'm waiting for the result of that.
I've been working since I was sixteen, and before moving out,
my mom did take part of my money for rent,
so there is a pattern. My mom managed the child support,
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and my dad is a very let's just keep it
the way it's always been type of guy, so he
just kept paying my mom and trusted her to give
it to me, even when I told him I don't
get anything. I'm very happy with the rational comments I'm
receiving because I catch myself still trying to excuse her behavior.
I love my parents dearly, I love my family. I
don't want to be in this situation, but at the
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same time, I don't see what else I can do.
Not the jerk. I find it comical that you were
told to get your spending under control by the people
who are stealing your money to be able to afford
dog food for the dogs that are the reason you
had to move in the first place. Not the jerk.
Let's see, she was knowingly endangering and confining you with
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her dogs and then stealing from you. Go on with
full force, not the jerk. What your mom's husband and
dad expect from you as being the bigger person. But
ask yourself, is your mom ever gonna make it up
to you? Will she be thankful to you for letting
it drop. Is your relationship with your mom even worth
it to you anymore? I mean, I absolutely love my dog.
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I would quit a relationship over my dog. But getting
a dog when your kid is allergic? What nonsense? Is that?
No judgment? I'm confused how someone over eighteen is supposed
to be getting child support mandatory from a parent. Op
The law here states that parents have to pay child
support until I either finish an internship and have a
full time job, or when I finish my first university degree.
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Since I am in UNI and under twenty five, they
still have to pay. Am I the jerk for not
babysitting at the cookout? I twenty seven. Mail was at
a backyard cookout with some friends and coworkers, so the
ages were late twenties to early forties. It was a
family friendly event, so people brought their kids. They were
playing in the yard while most of the adults hung
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out in the backyard deck. And like always, the parents
saw other adults in the area and decided to just
walk away and go inside. I don't know why this
is a thing a lot of parents tend to do.
Why do you just walk away at outings and expect
others to watch your kids for you? I don't get it.
I could see if it were your immediate family, but
even then I would warn someone that I was not
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going to be watching them. It was near the end
of the night, so some people were gone. It was
also getting dark and colder, so people were inside. The
kids were still running around the play area. I decided
to go home. I went inside and said goodbye to
the host. Then I got in my car out front
and was on my phone for a minute, and someone
angrily walked up and asked me why I left the backyard.
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They said I was back there and they were counting
on me to watch the kids. Note that this was
never even said to me. They just went inside and
said nothing. I was on the deck, and at no
point in the night was I ever paying attention to them.
Nothing dangerous happened. The parents just saw me walk into
my car and freaked out. I told her it's not
my job to watch your kids, but I probably would
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have stuck around if I were asked. I was just
sitting on the deck, drinking and minding my own business.
I had already been going back and forth from outside
to socialize the whole night like everyone else. Not sure
why I was the one singled out. There were times
when another person happened to be outside and I was inside.
Did they assume we were taking shifts? I don't get
the mentality of parents, but maybe I'm the jerk here. Edit.
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I don't think it's clear, so I'll clarify, I had
no knowledge of being on kid duty. The backyard is
large and open and leads into the forest. I was
on the small deck by the house. At no point
in the night was I watching or listening for them.
The whole night, I was periodically going inside and outside freely,
never considered them because I assumed the responsible parents were
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keeping an eye out. Dude, You're definitely not the jerk.
You're not a babysitter. You should not be held in
any position to watch their kids. Not the jerk. It
took me a while to figure out none of the
kids were even yours, because their reaction makes no sense
at all. Just assuming someone else is watching your kids
for you is pretty ridiculous. Am I the jerk for
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calling out a family member for giving fake gifts? For graduation?
Three years ago, my uncle fifty three mail gave me
twenty five female a one hundred dollars gift card, but
when I went to use it, the teller said that
there was only six dollars left on the card. I
assumed it was a mistake and didn't say anything to him.
For Christmas two years ago, he gave me a fifty
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dollars gift card, which was twenty five dollars over what
the limit was per person. When I went to use it,
the teller said it had never been activated. I again
didn't say anything, but I thought it was odd that
had happened twice. Last year I finished grad school and
my uncle loudly announced to everyone at my party that
I should get an email with a digital gift card
and that it should help me pay for my new
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furnishings when I move. I checked my email that night
and had nothing in my inbox or spam. I waited
a few days, then texted him and mentioned I didn't
get an email, just to make sure he had used
the correct email address. He never responded. I finally hit
the limit this Christmas when he handed me a one
hundred dollars VISA gift card and announced that he had
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been doing well at work and wanted to be generous.
I thanked him and checked the balance later and saw
there was only around three dollars on the card. The
next day, when my grandma said she was going to
the mall, I said I would go too to use
the gift card. I tried to use it with her
standing next to me, and when the teller said there
were insufficient funds. She was shocked. I logged into the
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website where you can check the balance and showed her
that the card had been spent months ago and how
little remained. She seemed confused, and when we got to
the car, I mentioned that this happened every single time
Uncle gave me a gift card. She got upset and
called him and told him off for bragging about being
generous but giving out fake or used cards. He later
texted me and said I was wrong for calling him
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out in front of his mother, and that he had
been having financial issues he wanted to keep quiet. I
responded by saying I gave him the chance to fess
up the time before about the email gift card, but
he wouldn't answer, and that if he was having financial issues,
he shouldn't have bragged about going over the prescribed gift
amount and just actually spent twenty five dollars. Am I
the jerk? Not the jerk? At the very least, he
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should have told you personally afterwards so you don't look
embarrassed in the store. Not the jerk. If he had
financial issues, he can choose not to get you a
gift or to get one of much less value. He
doesn't have to say why in front of people, but
using you to appear generous and hide his financial issues
in front of others or whatever. Nope, that's not okay.
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Hoa neighbor keeps harassing me. Finally gets a taste of
her own medicine. I bought my first house in nineteen
ninety nine and I wanted direct TV. I put up
a satellite dish, which happened to be behind a privacy fence.
I also knew the FCC ruling that Hoa's couldn't prevent
you from putting up a dish due to some issue
with homebuilders who would make shady deals with cable companies
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to force homeowners to go with a specific company. I
figured I wouldn't have any issues since it was behind
a fence. Anyway, I got a knock at my door
the next day, and it was my nigh from across
the cul de Sac telling me she's on the board
of the HOA. Your dish is in violation and must
be removed. This was my first encounter with her. I
politely explained the law as I knew it and told
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her to have a nice day. We didn't speak again.
And she ended up moving out soon. Well, it turns
out she didn't move out and was just renting to
some other lady that I never spoke to, and the
hoa lady moved back a year later. There was an
easement behind my house which was properly mode when I
moved in. I would hit golf balls down there with
my wedge, and my neighbor was into archery and used
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it as his range. By the second summer I lived there,
it was overgrown and an eye sore. I couldn't even
see the creek just behind my house anymore. One weekend,
I borrowed my dad's utility trailer and I spent three
days clearing out our little section behind the houses, hauling
all of the debris away, probably two trips a day.
My arms were covered in cuts from the briers, and
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apparently I was also dealing with sumac poison, IVY and
some other stuff, because by Monday I was having an
allergic reaction so badly that I went to the doctor
to get a shot. Laid up in the house all day,
and I got a knock at the door. It's the
neighbor again. Apparently there's a rule that you cannot store
a trailer in the driveway for more than three days,
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and this was day four. I needed to remove it
by the end of the day or face a five
hundred dollars fine. She handed me a paper listing the rule,
and I considered just paying the fine, but instead I
angrily drove an hour each way to return my dad's trailer.
After spending half the day already waiting in a hospital lobby,
I got home after dark. What struck me as odd
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was that there was a list of things you couldn't
store in your driveway personal watercraft, boats, trailers, et cetera.
The odd part was that motorcycle was listed on there.
I don't ride one myself, but I thought it was
a totally reasonable thing to keep in a driveway. After
I finished all of this work, this woman would routinely
walk through my yard without asking, but since she was
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taking her grandkid to play in the creek, I never said,
even though it bothered me, she never asked. A year
or so later, I wanted to sell the house and
move into something bigger. I had talked to a reeltor already,
and I was getting things tidied up to have the
house shown. As I was cleaning out a drawer, I
noticed that paper the Hoa lady had given me, and
I remembered the part about motorcycles being listed. You see,
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the Hoa lady had started dating an older gentleman and
he had moved in with her. Turns out, he rode
a Harley, which was always parked in her driveway. She
was home, so I walked over there and politely informed
her about the violation. The next day, the motorcycle was
parked on her back porch, the one she bragged about
to everyone who would listen, so she could tell them
how much it cost. I laughed to myself, but then
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I remembered the part about it needing to be behind
a fence. Another knock at the door, and within a
few days a fence company was building a six foot
privacy fence which completely hid her fancy new deck. My
Reeltor had been on my case for at least a
week about needing to put up a first sale sign.
As soon as the fence was finished, I told her
it was okay. I saw the house quickly and moved
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out at the end of the month. Oh and by
the way, the fence was completely hideous and looked out
of place because of the way her lot was shaped.
Am I the jerk for saying no to my boss
after she asked me to watch her kids this weekend.
So I'm twenty two female and my sister is getting
married this coming weekend and I will be gone Thursday
through Sunday. I've had this known that I was going
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to be gone for seven months. Seven months. I would
even remind every month or so, just so I knew
that she knew. I nanny two amazing kids who are
six and eight. This is the first time I have
ever asked to have some time off. My boss has
always been like, oh yeah, sure, sounds like a beautiful wedding. However,
I got a text two hours ago saying she really
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needed me this weekend and she couldn't find anyone else.
I was upset, but I know how to act calm,
since you know, it's my job to stay happy and calm.
I texted her back a quick apology, but said I
really didn't want to miss my sister, as she's my
only sibling. Well, boss woman went off the deep end
and said that if I didn't show up to watch
her kids this weekend that I won't have a job
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come monday, I replied with this exactly. Look, I'm so
sorry that you're having a hard time looking for someone
to cover. I can reach out to a few nanny
friends I have and see if any of them would
like to pick this up. This is a once in
a lifetime moment for my sister, and if it means
I will lose my job, then, sadly, I will have
to accept that I love this job and your kids,
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and I hope we can work something out. I think
it would devastate them, but you do what you need
to and I will accept that. She threw a few
insults at me and said I'm abandoning them. I don't
know what to do. I don't want to get a
new job because I work so well with these two giddos.
My mom told me I was a jerk for so
quickly accepting that I might get fired and told me
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that work just sucks sometimes and you got to suck
it up. Mom says I should have been an adult
and just missed my sister's wedding. I don't know, should
I Am I really that big of a jerk for
saying no atit? Just to clarify me and my mom
don't have a good relationship. I didn't ask her for
her advice. She was in the room with my sister,
and as I was venting to my sister, I would
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have gotten no contact at eighteen if it wasn't for
my dad. Can we please stop talking about it now?
I've dealt with so much crap from her, But that's
for another day, not the jerk. Start looking for a
new job now, and when they ask, when you can
start list it for the day you're done with the
wedding festivities. This woman must have a lot of backup
options for childcare. If she can so casually threaten your
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job like that and talk to you in that way,
she must be used to getting her way to do
such a one to eighty on you like that. You
can be the one to teach her this valuable lesson
about valuing an employee nice enough to give extensive notice
in advance when they won't be able to be on
the job. After all, you gave her plenty of notice
along with reminders, and the fact that she's in the
lurch now is because she didn't respect you and your
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personal time enough to make plans for this time months ago.
While it's true that you do sometimes have to suck
it up as an adult. That time is not when
you've given your employer more than half a year's notice
that you'll need this specific time off. It's very much
being an adult to prioritize your sister's wedding over a
job that doesn't value you enough to respect that you
had arranged this time off months ago. Uh. It makes
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me so sad that OPI's mom is this brainwashed too?
Does she really think op is in the wrong here?
This fear that you can be fired any moment for
not doing whatever insane thing your boss asks of you
is so real for a lot of people, because it's true.
You can be fired at any moment for almost any reason.
Slash no reason and the good old greatest country on Earth.
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I'm glad more people are realizing they don't need to
accept this crap, OPI. You're part of a changing labor movement.
Learn your worth now, and don't let your next employer
treat you like this. You know it was an empty
threat too. What is she going to do on Monday
if she fires you? Between that and the yelling and
the guilt trip, you know she's desperate for help. No
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