December 19, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey boy, you want to dance with me? Show me
your moves.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey there, mister Redder, here and your girl, Karen. Welcome
back to another episode of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first
story will be reading today. Karen demands to dance with
me at my own wedding. My dad married Sandy when
I was sixteen. Sandy has no kids. She was upset
to learn that I mostly went to my grandparents' house
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after school and that I wanted to continue that when
she moved in, something I had been doing since my
mom passed when I was four. I'm close to my grandparents.
My mom was their only kid, and I'm their only grandkid,
so maybe that made us a little bit closer. Or
maybe it's just all the time that we spent together,
but anyway, that was a time when Sandy wanted me
to be home after school instead of at my grandparents
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because she wanted the chance to have some mother son time,
and she said she was taking her role as my mother. Seriously.
I told her it was nice and all, but that
she wasn't my mother and that was it's okay not
to stress out over it. A few weeks after that exchange,
she told me about her first marriage, how she raised
her step kids from the time that they were elementary
schoolers to teenagers, and then her husband passed and they
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wanted to be with blood family and cut all contact
with her. She was like, I know you're older and all,
but I've always wanted to be a mother, and you
lost yours when you were four, so why not let
me be your new mother and we can both get
what we need. I told her that was not something
I needed, and sorry, I knew. She was never happy
about that. She always kept trying to push that boundary.
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She would introduce herself as my mom, me as her son,
and would talk about being a boy mom. I never
wanted a new mom and always made that clear. It
was a couple of weeks ago that things turned a
little nasty. She heard I was doing a special dance
with my grandma at my wedding in November and told
me she deserved a dance too. She said, she's the
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person who is in the position of mom, she's the
future grandmother of my kids, and she deserves her chance
to be honored with some public like that. She told me,
I'm a young man, I need to learn how to
treat a woman who has been in the role of
my mom for a decade now. I laughed, which only
made her angry. She told me she was demanding a
dance after everything she's done for me. This is when
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I told her that she needs to accept she is
not a mother, but as sad as it is, she
can't make it happen with someone else's kid, and that
she is not entitled to demand a dance at my
wedding since she's not a mother or a parent to me.
She said, knowing what she has been through, I should
be ashamed of myself for talking to her like that.
My dad called me after and asked if there was
anything I could give her to make her feel better,
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because she's really hurt. Am I the jerk? Not the jerk.
That's a lovely thing to do for your grandmother. You
told stepmother she wasn't a mother figure to you, and
that's your choice. Don't feel bad about it, op have
a lovely wedding when it comes. Not the jerk. You
were sixteen when she became your stepmother. You made it
clear that you didn't want her to take a motherly
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role in your life, and she is repeatedly ignored and
push boundaries. It may have been harsh to have worded
it as you did, but she didn't seem to take
no for an answer. Not the jerk. What's really sad
is that she's missed out on having any sort of
a relationship with you because she's pushed and pushed for
a relationship she's neither entitled to or should have expected.
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Not the jerk. Throughout the entire time you've known her,
she has been concerned only with her own needs and
has ignored yours, as well as regularly stomped all over
your established boundaries. If she truly wanted a mother's son relationship,
then she would have offered and then stepped back and
let whatever would have happened happened as it is. By
pushing so hard, she made this inevitable. Also, your father
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should have shut this down the first time it happened.
This is almost as much his fault as hers. By
the way, her issues with her previous family are not
yours to deal with. It's hers, and it is unfair
of her to make it your responsibility. Would I be
the jerk for going to the funeral of my ex
girlfriend's brother and missing my sister in law's wedding. I
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twenty five male. Am in a relationship with Amelia, who's
twenty six. We've been together for two years and she's wonderful.
We lived together and I think we are close to engagement.
In the past, I was in a relationship with Julia,
twenty five female. We met in high school and had
a very passionate relationship for five years, but it didn't
work out in the end. It got quite heated between
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us and even with her parents, so we blocked each other.
Julia had a brother, Dan, who's two years younger, and
we always shared a special bond. Like me. He wanted
to become a doctor, and I helped him with med school.
Even after the break up, we stayed close. Julia and
their parents weren't aware. He was definitely very important for me,
almost like a younger brother. Unfortunately, Dan had an accident
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and passed last week. I didn't know until Julia came
to my home to announce it two days ago. I'm
absolutely devastated. She apologized because she wasn't aware that Dan
and I were still close. She also thanked me for
being there for him when he was fighting depression, and
that all of if her family would like to see
me at his funeral next Sunday in their hometown, seven
hour drive. I replied that I wasn't sure if I
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could come because I'm running low on money at the
moment and my car will be at the mechanics. She
said she could drive me there, but she had to
be there two days earlier to help with the organization.
I said that I'll think about it. We exchanged numbers
and hugged. She cried a little and said she was
sorry for all of the things of the past and
she was happy to see me again. Amelia came home
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at this moment, and I explained the situation. When Julia left,
she already knew about my past relationship with Julia and
my friendship with Dan. Amelia told me that I wouldn't
be able to go to the funeral because the wedding
of her sister is the same day, and we both
agreed to go. I said that I need a bit
of time to process all this. The following morning, I
had a very emotional phone call with Dan and Julia's parents.
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They apologized for the past and thanked me for being
there for Dan, that they would always consider me family
from now. They insisted that they would like to host
me for the funeral to save me call. After reflection,
even if it sucks for Amelia and the wedding, I
cannot imagine missing Dan's funeral. I talked with my co
residence and the head of my unit, and they're okay
with me missing a few days and covering for me.
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When I told my decision to Amelia yesterday, she blew
up and said that I'm a huge jerk to ditch
her in her family in favor of my exes. She
said that I committed to the wedding and I couldn't
leave her alone to reconnect with my ex. We had
a big argument and we haven't talked much since. I
had some messages from her friends and her sister. They
said that I'm a major jerk for abandoning my girlfriend
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in favor of my ex. I was sure that I
was making the right choice, but I started to feel
bad and second guess myself. So am I the jerk?
I'm gonna say no jerks here, because I understand wanting
to be at Dan's funeral, and it's not like you're
missing the wedding to go party with friends or something.
But I can also understand why your girlfriend would be
upset you're going with your ex a few days early
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and staying with your ex girlfriend's family, who you didn't
get along with in the to the point of blocking
them on your phone. Would you be totally fine with
her missing a hopefully once in a lifetime family event
to be with an ex for a funeral and being
with them for days, not just a few hours. I'm
not gonna sugarcoat this. There's a chance you come back
from the funeral with her stuff moved out. I agree
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with no jerks here. I wanted to say you would
not be the jerk because in a perfect world, go
into a funeral would not be a problem and everyone
would understand why it would be so important for you
to go. However, there are definitely a lot of complicated
feelings involved. Your girlfriend is disappointed you're backing out of
the wedding and jealous you're going to be with your ex.
When I'm just reading this online, I can absolutely see
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your point and think, yeah, of course he should go.
But if I'm honest with myself, if I was in
your girlfriend's shoes, I don't know if I would be
able to rise above those emotions and think the same.
So you are definitely not the jerk for wanting to go,
and while it would be nice for your girlfriend to
be able to see it that way, I certainly won't
call her the jerk for feeling dissab pointed and jealous
over the situation. I hope you both can take a
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step back, work on communicating through this and figure something out.
It is definitely a tough spot to be in. Okay. Wait,
you and your ex blocked each other because it got
so heated. But she came by your house after her
brother passed and she didn't know you and the brother
were still close. How did she know where you lived
if you hadn't been in contact. She wants you to
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go home to the funeral and stay with her extra days. Hello,
if you were blocked for years, how did she know
where you live? None of this adds up. Seems like
you might have still been in touch with her. Also,
a funeral is for the living. You already had a
phone conversation with her family and visited with her when
she showed up at your door by mental telepathy since
y'all had no contact. You say you want to marry
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your girlfriend now, but you're picking your old girlfriend and
her family over her. This has nothing to do with Dan.
He's gone. You're going to stay with your ex for
days when emotions are everywhere and think that your girlfriends
supposed to be okay with that. This is the end
of your current relationship and you will only have yourself
to blame. You need to say it like it is.
You're choosing your past instead of your future, and you
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will only have yourself to blame when you have to
build a new future because of your choices. That's my hoodie,
not a dog leash. So this just happened. I'm thirty
eight female, have worked different retail and customer service jobs
most of my life, and I've dealt with my share
of entitled customers at work. I've even been mistaken as
an employee at a bunch of stores, but this was
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my first confrontational experience as a customer. My daughter and
I were at wally World getting dog food and a
couple of last minute ingredients for dinner. I'm loading a
large bag of dog food while trying to keep a
toddler entertained. When it happened, an entitled Karen appeared obnoxiously
pink outfit, fake gaudy jewelry, badly dyed hair, and nails
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long enough to make a tiger jealous. I didn't even
know she was there until I felt a sharp jab
in the shoulder with those nails. I turned around to
an expression that could curdle milk. I say, yes, load
four bags of dog food in my cart, she demanded,
pointing at the forty pound bags that I had just
loaded into my cart. No, please, no polite? Would or
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could you just a terse order? Like she was talking
to someone so beneath her that she couldn't be bothered
to say anything else. I wasn't even slightly resembling a worker,
since I was wearing jeans, sneakers, and a black hoodie
from a local haunted house, not to mention my daughter
in the cart next to me. Still, I wasn't in
a rush, and my daughter wasn't being fussy. If Karen
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had asked nicely, I could have gladly helped. I've done
that a bunch of times before and have always been
glad to help so long as I got a please
and thank you from the person i'm helping. Instead, I
just said I don't work here, I'm shopping. I was
hoping that being direct and staying close to my daughter
would show that I was busy.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
But no.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Her lip curled even harder and sounded insulted when she said, so,
you're not going to help me. I just said no,
I need to finish my shopping, not wanting to risk
getting caught up in one of the many I don't
work here ladies' stories that I read. I grabbed my
cart with my daughter and started walking away. I just
wanted to get us away from that situation asap. That
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was my mistake. Never turn your back on a rabid animal.
I barely registered Karen's indignant huff before she grabbed me
by the hood of my sweater and yanked. This freaked
me out from suddenly being choked. I'm someone that's been
trained in self defense martial arts and was raised around
a bunch of bikers. If maternal instincts weren't telling me
to get my daughter out of danger, I probably would
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have done a lot more damage to the Karen than
I did. I swung my arm back as hard as
I could to force her to let go. I made
contact with something hard enough that she let go with
a yelp, and I high tailed it to the front
of the store to report what happened. The employees, manager,
and security were on their game and immediately went looking
for Karen as soon as I told them what happened
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and gave a description. Unfortunately, Karen was gone by the
time they went looking for her. The manager still contacted
police and a report was filed. I definitely wanted to
press charges if I could. According to security, after this happened,
she looked really upset and insulted, but then got a
shocked look on her face. She started looking around until
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she looked directly at a camera. Karen then grabbed her
purse and sprinted out of the store, leaving her cart
and all of her groceries behind. Guess she wasn't a
complete idiot after all, and realized how badly she had
messed up. The manager promised to keep an eye out
for her. The police said they would contact me if needed.
My daughter had no idea that anything bad happened. She
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was giggling when I was running her in the cart
to the front. The next day I got a call
from the officer I talked to. Either Karen grew a
conscience or someone forced her to turn herself in. She
showed up at the police station the next day looking
like a scolded puppy when she got there officer's description.
Officer asked if I still wanted to press charges, and
said she'd likely get probation or community service. I told
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him that I did still want to. Part of me
wonders did she actually feel bad? Did her husband or
wife or whatever ask her why she didn't have the
dog food and force her to confess, or did she
come in so she wouldn't be arrested and get a
lighter sentence. I don't know. I'm just surprised that she did.
Am I the jerk for not wanting to get rid
of my roommates as per my wife's demands? Okay, backstory time.
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I male thirty four, and my wife, female thirty four,
will have been married for three years this upcoming December.
I owned a two family house on an acre in
Central Jersey that I purchased when I was twenty five.
I rent out one side and live in the other.
I have two spare bedrooms that I also sublet, one
to a dear friend of mine, male thirty five, and
another to my cousin, female thirty five. I have always
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rented these rooms and having the extra income between the
rental side and the rooms I rent on my side
means the house basically pays for itself mortgage wise, I
have to come out of pocket for utilities such as garbage, electricity, fuel, oil,
et cetera. My monthly cost of living is anywhere from
six hundred to eight hundred dollars handling the aforementioned bills,
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relatively cheap for New Jersey, where her two bedroom apartment
can run you twenty five hundred dollars. So now to
the issue at hand, my wife wants to get rid
of our roommates. As of now, she lives for free,
absolutely zero cost of living, which has helped her significantly
regarding paying down debts, fixing her credit and so on.
She's not out of the woods yet, but she's well
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on her way. I'm saying about another year or so
she'll be one hundred percent debt free. She is expressed
in the past that she would like to live alone,
but at the time it just wasn't economically feasible for
us to do so she wasn't working. Then lockdown happened.
Blah blah blah, No big deal, right. Also, I should
mention you wouldn't even know we have roommates. Sometimes I
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go days without bumping into one of them. Anyways, this
week she slaps me with an ultimatum out of the
blue that either the roommates move out or she's going
to leave me. I stated that I did not think
that was the smartest financial move, as she only wants
to give them thirty days, which would mean we would
be looking at having to come up with another sixteen
hundred dollars the following month. Q argument, she states that
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she can afford to make up the difference and that
paying it would be worth being able to live alone together.
Am I the jerk for thinking this is stupid? That
giving up almost twenty thousand dollars a year in rental
income on the drop of a dime doesn't make any sense,
not to mention telling a friend of twenty two years
as well as my cousin. Sorry, guys, the wife's giving
you thirty days notice. Good luck. Furthermore, this income allows
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us to travel whenever we want, buy whatever we want,
go out whenever we want. It basically helps make us
very flexible financially. Also, why can't we compromise? Okay, you
want them gone? Let's stick it out for one more year,
knock out the rest of your debt, and also give
the roomies plenty of notice that this is what we're
going to do. No jerks here, you're trying to make
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an emotional issue financial. This is not a financial issue
to her. She'd rather be in a little debt than
live with your friend and cousin. Your wife is saying
she wants alone time with you without always having to
be on. What she is asking and stating is very reasonable.
Very few married people want to live with roommates for
a very good reason, privacy. While these are your friends,
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You're asking way too much of your wife to expect
her to live with your cousin and your buddy indefinitely.
She's done so for three years. That's enough. Honestly, everything
you've stated clearly illustrates that you value money and you
value your friendships over your wife's comfort and feeling of
security in this relationship. How would you feel if you
lived with your wife's cousin in her BFF, if you
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never got to just hang out in your home without
having to be on Dude, read the room life changes
and needs in a relationship change. You are not swinging single.
This is not your girlfriend. This is your wife, whom
you should consider a full and equal partner with equals
say in this relationship, you've made it clear you do not.
You're the jerk to let your wife leave you because
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of money. She even offered to make up the difference.
I guess my question to you is what do you
want out of a marriage? You need to start thinking
of your family, your wife, and not your roommates and money.
The fact that you might let her leave you over
this situation is making the marriage not look too great.
Am I the jerk for rushing home to get my
sister's forgotten wedding veil but giving up on bringing it
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to her. My oldest sister, Odette, just got married at
a venue that with no traffic, is about two hours
and fifteen minutes away. Odette planned to wear great great
grandma marries veil, which has a distinct lace pattern and
has pass to only the eldest daughter, and our family
is considered good luck, heavily sentimental, and we have multiple
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bridle pictures of eldest daughters and the veil while standing
with their mom and grandma. The bridal party and family
met at Odette's house before driving to the venue. The
veil had been in a garment bag hung up in
front of a closet door, but the door had been opened.
The hangar fell off, and none of us missed it
when we packed up. We made it to the venue
by noon for the four PM wedding. Odette realized the
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veil was missing and ran to me in a panic,
insisting I needed to be the one to go find it.
Mom wouldn't drive fast enough, middle sister Constance was her
maid of honor, and Dad was dealing with setup. I
didn't think I could make it there and back, but
Odette insisted and said that if needed, we could stall
the ceremony a little. I floored it, but sat and
bumper a bumper traffic for almost two hours. Was estimating
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I wouldn't be at her house until at least two
forty five pm. I texted Odette that if I didn't
turn around now, I wasn't going to make it. She
texted back, just get it here. When I emphasized that
I wouldn't make it for her wedding ceremony or reception
if I didn't turn around, she said, the photographer doesn't
leave until seven, just get it here before then so Mom,
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Grandma and I could take pictures. I made it to
her house on adrenaline, but it took me forever to
find the veil and get on the road again. Odette's
texts continued after the wedding ceremony in pictures. I was
already exhausted, sitting in rush hour traffic and upset that
I'd missed the entire thing. After rereading our texts that
were all about Mary's veil, I realized that she didn't
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care at all about me being there, which upset me
enough to turn around at five thirty pm, with an
estimated arrival of six thirty pm and getting later. I
texted Odette that I was sorry, but the veil was
put up and the house key was in the flower pot.
I woke up to a ton of angry texts from her,
accusing me of ruining her wedding and not trying hard
enough to get back. Am I the jerk? Not the jerk?
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When the absence of a veil ruins a wedding more
than the absence of a family member, your priorities are
skewed and you are owed nothing, especially from the family
member who wasn't even missed. Not the jerk. I'm getting
golden child vibes here, and I'm sorry that you were
treated this way. You deserved better from your sister in
this moment. Please take space for yourself. Also, if the
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veil was so important, it would have been with her dress.
Just saying, Am I the jerk for asking my brother
in law to stay with me when my husband was traveling.
My husband, male twenty seven, and I female, twenty five,
got married a year ago. We're living together. My family
doesn't live here. They live about two hours away. He
recently got a promotion at his job. Our house is
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a little bit further away from the city. We live
in a farm type house, although it's not a very
big portion of land, but we have neighbors that have
bigger properties. Point is, our neighbors live kind of far away.
With his new position, he'll need to travel sometimes. His
first trip was last year. He had to travel for
two days. I honestly did not have a good time
because I was alone and away from neighbors. I did
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not feel safe. I spoke to him and we agreed
that next time I'll ask a friend to come stay
with me. Well, he needed to travel last week too,
This time it was for three days. I told him
I was going to ask a friend, Jennifer. He left
early in the morning. I thought about it, and then
I started overthinking, I don't think i'll feel safe if
it's just Jennifer and I. We're still two women alone.
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So I called brother in law Ashton mail twenty four
to see if he could come stay with me instead.
He agreed, so I called Jennifer to tell her my
plans had changed. He came over around six that day.
We had dinner together, chatted, and watched a movie together.
We mainly did those things during the time he stayed here.
My husband and I spoke on the phone, but I
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didn't tell him I had called his brother instead of Jennifer.
Ash and I are close. I'm close with all of
his family, so I didn't think he would mind. My
husband came home last Thursday around eight pm. When he
saw Ashton was here, he was a bit taken aback
as it was late. I told brother in law to
stay one more night if he wanted to, and he did.
I could tell my husband was upset. I asked him
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what happened and he told me nothing. The next day.
After he got home from work, he was still upset,
so I asked him again, what's going on. He said
that we had agreed that I was going to call
a friend. He didn't agree with having brother in law over.
I gave him my reasons as to why I called
him instead. He still said that I shouldn't have called
him because I know that their relationship is not the best.
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We argued, and now he's even more upset with me
for not even apologizing. He asked if I'm gonna call
Ash every time he goes out, and I told him yes,
I'll do that because I don't want to stay alone.
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Your husband sounds
totally insecure, big surprise there. Pretty much all guys are
super insecure these days. According to him, his own brother
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can't even step foot in your house, or you're going
to cheat with him. At this point, I wouldn't even
blame you if you did. It's obvious this manchild you
call a husband does not trust you. I could never
be with a man who doesn't even trust me. I
hope you do consider leaving him for his brother. At
least it sounds like the two of you are able
to get along together without petty childish drama that your
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husband brings to the table. I'd also be highly suspecting
that his little trips he's going on, he could very
well be the one cheating while away and projecting that
out onto you. You deserve better, and I hope you
find it, whether that's with his brother or just another
man who has an ounce of self esteem and doesn't
act like a petulant child. Customer demands TV satellite dish
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be reinstalled on the ground after roof is replaced, then
wonders why his TV won't work. This is a story
told to me by a coworker at a satellite TV
installation company that I used to work for years ago
and I have since quit, absolutely horrible company that treated
its employees horribly. To help you understand this dilemma, I'm
going to lay out some very basic groundwork here on
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how satellite TV works so that you can understand the
dilemma that he was faced with context. When we install
a satellite dish, we use a special inclinometer to determine
whether or not our satellite dish's view will be obstructed.
Each region is given a specific asthma elevation and tilt
that serves to identify the actual satellite in orbit and
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to prevent us from installing a non functioning system. Actual
story with that said, our boss called my coworker to
assist with a satellite dish relocation because the customer replaced
his roof and they tore the satellite dish off the
old roof when the new roof was put on. My
coworker arrives and the customer tells him that he would
like the satellite dish to be put on a pole outside.
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He says, fine, where would you like the pole mount
to be placed? The customer points to an acre of
his heavily wooded backyard and says, very sternly, put the
satellite dish right there beneath the trees and point it
that way toward the sky. I don't want to be
able to see the satellite dish. It's pretty ugly. He
walks over to the spot, all the while knowing this
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isn't going to work, uses his enklinometer had to make
it look like he tried and says, sir, this isn't
going to work here or anywhere on the ground for
the matter. The satellite we are aiming for is past
these trees and your TV won't get signal. It won't
need to go back on the roof. Customer, Well, then
point it the other way. Then, he angrily shouted technician,
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Well it's not going to How is it not going
to work? The sky is open, is it not? Do
you just not want to work or what? That's a
brand new roof. Additionally, I should also mention that tech
drove one and a half hours for this. The tech
was patient and tried to reason with him, but he
kept cutting him off before he could explain himself. He
would still have one and a half hours to drive
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back for a total of three hours. He was not
getting paid by the drive, only by the job, and
the boss rearranged his schedule since he was the closest
and one of the few techs to have the proper equipment.
Since the warehouse kept such poor stock, the company essentially
did him over and wouldn't have coughed up the money
even if the work did not go through. And so
he did exactly as the customer said. He placed the
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satellite dish exactly how the customer wanted it, pointed at
the sky, and right after that the technician left, and
the customer was happy, well happy right until he went
to turn on his TV and got the error code
seven seven to one signal loss on. The tech didn't
pick up his phone for the customer when he tried calling,
and then eventually the boss called and asked, why didn't
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you put the satellite dish on the roof? Tech? I
tried to explain it to him. I tried reasoning with him.
I told him it wouldn't work where he wanted it,
but he absolutely insisted it would because of the clear sky,
so I gave him what he wanted. The customer is
always right. The boss sympathetically says, yeah, but you know
that's wrong. In the end, the customer's TV was out
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for the next two weeks, and he absolutely deserved every
bit of it, from what my coworker told me. The
boss didn't hear the end of it from the customer
when the customer called in to complain, but my coworker
told me that the boss absolutely deserved it because the
boss was giving him crap all week. Edit. I should
also mention that we get paid by the job. The
company wasn't going to compensate him for the time spent
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setting up a non functional satellite dish. Nighbor constantly complains
about my noise waking up her baby. I've had enough.
My garage is about three meters away from my neighbor's bedroom,
where their baby sleeps. I've got a roller door which
beeps quietly four times within twenty seconds of me arriving
home and pushing the button. It's so quiet that at
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times I can't hear it when sitting in the room
adjacent to the garage when my partner comes home. Since
my neighbor had her baby, I've made an effort to
be more considerative noise, despite already soundproofing my rumpus room.
I've stopped playing my drums after six pm. I've also
declined hosting friends outside in my backyard due to noise.
I think I've been more than considerate, but apparently not.
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I get home from work at eleven PM and put
my car in the garage. A couple weeks ago, my
neighbor approached me and asked if I could wait until
the morning to put my car away, but I declined
as there have been break ins to cars on our
street lately. My car is also one that is targeted
by thieves a lot, as parts are expensive and it's
an enthusiast car. I apologized, but I was firm when
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telling her that I will not, under any circumstances leave
my car out overnight. I also know that they sleep
with their window open that faces my garage, but I
thought it would be weird to bring it up and
suggest they close the window. I'm also confused as I
have an aftermarket exhaust on the car, which is louder
than the original, but they've said nothing about that. A
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couple nights ago, I came home to her husband's car
blocking my driveway just enough that I couldn't get my
car through. It was kind of useless because I pushed
the button before I even reached my driveway, so it
beeped anyway. They didn't come out, so I had their
car towed, and they haven't done it since today Saturday,
I decided to play my drums around lunchtime in my
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sound proofed rumpus room. You can only hear minimal vibration
from the kick from the outside, but it's at the
rear of my property and quite far from any neighbors.
But they still had something to say. The wife came
over and basically said she had put up with my
noise for long enough and that she was exhausted due
to the kid never sleeping thanks to the noise I make.
I was definitely still upset about the driveway blocking situation
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from the other night, and I snapped a little telling
her that I'd been considerate enough and already made concessions
in terms of noise. I said that while it's within
my rights to play music up until ten pm in
our council, I've cut myself off at six pm in
consideration of her and her kid. I said that from
now on she'll have to get over it because I
was done catering to her and her family. Not the jerk.
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It sounds like you've been very reasonable and you're allowed
to live your life. They chose to have the baby,
surely they knew things might wake it up, and you're
not supposed to keep things completely silent for the baby sleeping.
They need to get used to a normal level of
noise while sleeping. Obviously, don't vacuum the room therein, but
a neighbor's garage door is something they should be able
to sleep through. Not the jerk. Not that it's a
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good excuse, but she's probably exhausted and this is one
of those needs something to blame kind of things. She's
probably fixated on you and your noise because it's something
that's right next door and something she can directly attack.
In a manner of speaking, it sounds as if she's
unlucky enough to have one of those babies that just
doesn't sleep much. Or well, that's not your fault, though.
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The nice guy who lied to his date about who
he was and really ended up paying for it. Long ago,
I was waiting tables and I had it too top.
They looked to be on a date. Both were dressed up.
She ordered a salad and he ordered a burger. She
cocked her head to the side when he said that,
and she said, I thought you were vegan. He laughed
it off, said he was, but that sometimes he splurged.
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She didn't look happy about that, but said nothing. All
I could think of was awkward. He ordered a guinness
halfway through his meal, and she raised an eyebrow at
that too. Wait a second, you said that you didn't
drink either. He laughed it off again, saying he meant
harder drinks, certainly beer wasn't an issue. I snuck away,
but listened to them argue behind a service station. Her
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I specifically wrote on my profile that I was a
vegan and I didn't drink him waving his hand at her.
One beer isn't an issue. Plus, I haven't had meat
in ages at least a few weeks. Just because you
don't doesn't mean your man can't. Her, I was looking
for like minded men, someone who also doesn't eat meat
or drink. He cut her off. You know, I saw
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that on your profile, but I figured once you met me,
you'd be open to it. Once you get to know me,
I'm a great guy. You should give me a chance.
Despite our small differences. Her so far, two important facts
you told me about yourself for lives. I got busy
and had to go do something. Dang it. When I
looked back, the woman was gone. She had pretended to
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go to the bathroom, found another server, gave him money
and told him to give it to me. Then she
fled the restaurant. Her date waited a bit, and then
he started looking toward the bathroom to see where she was.
I brought the check and had updated it to show
the payment she had made him. After looking at the
bill she paid for her food. Where'd she go?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Me?
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I think she may have left, sir? He gets angry.
What I shrun? He got up, went to the bathroom
door and knocked on it, calling her name. When nobody
came out, he pushed the door open. I was about
to tell him to get out of the restroom, but
he saw it was empty and returned to the table.
Digging for his wallet, he loudly complained about his date
ditching him. He started telling the tables around him that
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his date had been a horrible person and had taken off.
He used really mean words. I was shocked, and they
all looked uncomfortable. When I picked up his credit card
to run it, he yelled at me, her loss. I
make great money and have a big house. I have
a boat. Her loss. I dropped his receipt while internally
rolling my eyes at him. He had lied to her
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about who he was and it was her loss. Yeah, okay,
up until then, I had never encountered an r slash
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Hey boy, you want to dance with me? Show me
your moves.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey there, mister Redder, here and your girl, Karen. Welcome
back to another episode of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first
story will be reading today. Karen demands to dance with
me at my own wedding. My dad married Sandy when
I was sixteen. Sandy has no kids. She was upset
to learn that I mostly went to my grandparents' house
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after school and that I wanted to continue that when
she moved in, something I had been doing since my
mom passed when I was four. I'm close to my grandparents.
My mom was their only kid, and I'm their only grandkid,
so maybe that made us a little bit closer. Or
maybe it's just all the time that we spent together,
but anyway, that was a time when Sandy wanted me
to be home after school instead of at my grandparents
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because she wanted the chance to have some mother son time,
and she said she was taking her role as my mother. Seriously.
I told her it was nice and all, but that
she wasn't my mother and that was it's okay not
to stress out over it. A few weeks after that exchange,
she told me about her first marriage, how she raised
her step kids from the time that they were elementary
schoolers to teenagers, and then her husband passed and they
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wanted to be with blood family and cut all contact
with her. She was like, I know you're older and all,
but I've always wanted to be a mother, and you
lost yours when you were four, so why not let
me be your new mother and we can both get
what we need. I told her that was not something
I needed, and sorry, I knew. She was never happy
about that. She always kept trying to push that boundary.
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She would introduce herself as my mom, me as her son,
and would talk about being a boy mom. I never
wanted a new mom and always made that clear. It
was a couple of weeks ago that things turned a
little nasty. She heard I was doing a special dance
with my grandma at my wedding in November and told
me she deserved a dance too. She said, she's the
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person who is in the position of mom, she's the
future grandmother of my kids, and she deserves her chance
to be honored with some public like that. She told me,
I'm a young man, I need to learn how to
treat a woman who has been in the role of
my mom for a decade now. I laughed, which only
made her angry. She told me she was demanding a
dance after everything she's done for me. This is when
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I told her that she needs to accept she is
not a mother, but as sad as it is, she
can't make it happen with someone else's kid, and that
she is not entitled to demand a dance at my
wedding since she's not a mother or a parent to me.
She said, knowing what she has been through, I should
be ashamed of myself for talking to her like that.
My dad called me after and asked if there was
anything I could give her to make her feel better,
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because she's really hurt. Am I the jerk? Not the jerk.
That's a lovely thing to do for your grandmother. You
told stepmother she wasn't a mother figure to you, and
that's your choice. Don't feel bad about it, op have
a lovely wedding when it comes. Not the jerk. You
were sixteen when she became your stepmother. You made it
clear that you didn't want her to take a motherly
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role in your life, and she is repeatedly ignored and
push boundaries. It may have been harsh to have worded
it as you did, but she didn't seem to take
no for an answer. Not the jerk. What's really sad
is that she's missed out on having any sort of
a relationship with you because she's pushed and pushed for
a relationship she's neither entitled to or should have expected.
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Not the jerk. Throughout the entire time you've known her,
she has been concerned only with her own needs and
has ignored yours, as well as regularly stomped all over
your established boundaries. If she truly wanted a mother's son relationship,
then she would have offered and then stepped back and
let whatever would have happened happened as it is. By
pushing so hard, she made this inevitable. Also, your father
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should have shut this down the first time it happened.
This is almost as much his fault as hers. By
the way, her issues with her previous family are not
yours to deal with. It's hers, and it is unfair
of her to make it your responsibility. Would I be
the jerk for going to the funeral of my ex
girlfriend's brother and missing my sister in law's wedding. I
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twenty five male. Am in a relationship with Amelia, who's
twenty six. We've been together for two years and she's wonderful.
We lived together and I think we are close to engagement.
In the past, I was in a relationship with Julia,
twenty five female. We met in high school and had
a very passionate relationship for five years, but it didn't
work out in the end. It got quite heated between
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us and even with her parents, so we blocked each other.
Julia had a brother, Dan, who's two years younger, and
we always shared a special bond. Like me. He wanted
to become a doctor, and I helped him with med school.
Even after the break up, we stayed close. Julia and
their parents weren't aware. He was definitely very important for me,
almost like a younger brother. Unfortunately, Dan had an accident
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and passed last week. I didn't know until Julia came
to my home to announce it two days ago. I'm
absolutely devastated. She apologized because she wasn't aware that Dan
and I were still close. She also thanked me for
being there for him when he was fighting depression, and
that all of if her family would like to see
me at his funeral next Sunday in their hometown, seven
hour drive. I replied that I wasn't sure if I
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could come because I'm running low on money at the
moment and my car will be at the mechanics. She
said she could drive me there, but she had to
be there two days earlier to help with the organization.
I said that I'll think about it. We exchanged numbers
and hugged. She cried a little and said she was
sorry for all of the things of the past and
she was happy to see me again. Amelia came home
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at this moment, and I explained the situation. When Julia left,
she already knew about my past relationship with Julia and
my friendship with Dan. Amelia told me that I wouldn't
be able to go to the funeral because the wedding
of her sister is the same day, and we both
agreed to go. I said that I need a bit
of time to process all this. The following morning, I
had a very emotional phone call with Dan and Julia's parents.
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They apologized for the past and thanked me for being
there for Dan, that they would always consider me family
from now. They insisted that they would like to host
me for the funeral to save me call. After reflection,
even if it sucks for Amelia and the wedding, I
cannot imagine missing Dan's funeral. I talked with my co
residence and the head of my unit, and they're okay
with me missing a few days and covering for me.
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When I told my decision to Amelia yesterday, she blew
up and said that I'm a huge jerk to ditch
her in her family in favor of my exes. She
said that I committed to the wedding and I couldn't
leave her alone to reconnect with my ex. We had
a big argument and we haven't talked much since. I
had some messages from her friends and her sister. They
said that I'm a major jerk for abandoning my girlfriend
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in favor of my ex. I was sure that I
was making the right choice, but I started to feel
bad and second guess myself. So am I the jerk?
I'm gonna say no jerks here, because I understand wanting
to be at Dan's funeral, and it's not like you're
missing the wedding to go party with friends or something.
But I can also understand why your girlfriend would be
upset you're going with your ex a few days early
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and staying with your ex girlfriend's family, who you didn't
get along with in the to the point of blocking
them on your phone. Would you be totally fine with
her missing a hopefully once in a lifetime family event
to be with an ex for a funeral and being
with them for days, not just a few hours. I'm
not gonna sugarcoat this. There's a chance you come back
from the funeral with her stuff moved out. I agree
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with no jerks here. I wanted to say you would
not be the jerk because in a perfect world, go
into a funeral would not be a problem and everyone
would understand why it would be so important for you
to go. However, there are definitely a lot of complicated
feelings involved. Your girlfriend is disappointed you're backing out of
the wedding and jealous you're going to be with your ex.
When I'm just reading this online, I can absolutely see
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your point and think, yeah, of course he should go.
But if I'm honest with myself, if I was in
your girlfriend's shoes, I don't know if I would be
able to rise above those emotions and think the same.
So you are definitely not the jerk for wanting to go,
and while it would be nice for your girlfriend to
be able to see it that way, I certainly won't
call her the jerk for feeling dissab pointed and jealous
over the situation. I hope you both can take a
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step back, work on communicating through this and figure something out.
It is definitely a tough spot to be in. Okay. Wait,
you and your ex blocked each other because it got
so heated. But she came by your house after her
brother passed and she didn't know you and the brother
were still close. How did she know where you lived
if you hadn't been in contact. She wants you to
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go home to the funeral and stay with her extra days. Hello,
if you were blocked for years, how did she know
where you live? None of this adds up. Seems like
you might have still been in touch with her. Also,
a funeral is for the living. You already had a
phone conversation with her family and visited with her when
she showed up at your door by mental telepathy since
y'all had no contact. You say you want to marry
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your girlfriend now, but you're picking your old girlfriend and
her family over her. This has nothing to do with Dan.
He's gone. You're going to stay with your ex for
days when emotions are everywhere and think that your girlfriends
supposed to be okay with that. This is the end
of your current relationship and you will only have yourself
to blame. You need to say it like it is.
You're choosing your past instead of your future, and you
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will only have yourself to blame when you have to
build a new future because of your choices. That's my hoodie,
not a dog leash. So this just happened. I'm thirty
eight female, have worked different retail and customer service jobs
most of my life, and I've dealt with my share
of entitled customers at work. I've even been mistaken as
an employee at a bunch of stores, but this was
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my first confrontational experience as a customer. My daughter and
I were at wally World getting dog food and a
couple of last minute ingredients for dinner. I'm loading a
large bag of dog food while trying to keep a
toddler entertained. When it happened, an entitled Karen appeared obnoxiously
pink outfit, fake gaudy jewelry, badly dyed hair, and nails
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long enough to make a tiger jealous. I didn't even
know she was there until I felt a sharp jab
in the shoulder with those nails. I turned around to
an expression that could curdle milk. I say, yes, load
four bags of dog food in my cart, she demanded,
pointing at the forty pound bags that I had just
loaded into my cart. No, please, no polite? Would or
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could you just a terse order? Like she was talking
to someone so beneath her that she couldn't be bothered
to say anything else. I wasn't even slightly resembling a worker,
since I was wearing jeans, sneakers, and a black hoodie
from a local haunted house, not to mention my daughter
in the cart next to me. Still, I wasn't in
a rush, and my daughter wasn't being fussy. If Karen
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had asked nicely, I could have gladly helped. I've done
that a bunch of times before and have always been
glad to help so long as I got a please
and thank you from the person i'm helping. Instead, I
just said I don't work here, I'm shopping. I was
hoping that being direct and staying close to my daughter
would show that I was busy.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
But no.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Her lip curled even harder and sounded insulted when she said, so,
you're not going to help me. I just said no,
I need to finish my shopping, not wanting to risk
getting caught up in one of the many I don't
work here ladies' stories that I read. I grabbed my
cart with my daughter and started walking away. I just
wanted to get us away from that situation asap. That
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was my mistake. Never turn your back on a rabid animal.
I barely registered Karen's indignant huff before she grabbed me
by the hood of my sweater and yanked. This freaked
me out from suddenly being choked. I'm someone that's been
trained in self defense martial arts and was raised around
a bunch of bikers. If maternal instincts weren't telling me
to get my daughter out of danger, I probably would
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have done a lot more damage to the Karen than
I did. I swung my arm back as hard as
I could to force her to let go. I made
contact with something hard enough that she let go with
a yelp, and I high tailed it to the front
of the store to report what happened. The employees, manager,
and security were on their game and immediately went looking
for Karen as soon as I told them what happened
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and gave a description. Unfortunately, Karen was gone by the
time they went looking for her. The manager still contacted
police and a report was filed. I definitely wanted to
press charges if I could. According to security, after this happened,
she looked really upset and insulted, but then got a
shocked look on her face. She started looking around until
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she looked directly at a camera. Karen then grabbed her
purse and sprinted out of the store, leaving her cart
and all of her groceries behind. Guess she wasn't a
complete idiot after all, and realized how badly she had
messed up. The manager promised to keep an eye out
for her. The police said they would contact me if needed.
My daughter had no idea that anything bad happened. She
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was giggling when I was running her in the cart
to the front. The next day I got a call
from the officer I talked to. Either Karen grew a
conscience or someone forced her to turn herself in. She
showed up at the police station the next day looking
like a scolded puppy when she got there officer's description.
Officer asked if I still wanted to press charges, and
said she'd likely get probation or community service. I told
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him that I did still want to. Part of me
wonders did she actually feel bad? Did her husband or
wife or whatever ask her why she didn't have the
dog food and force her to confess, or did she
come in so she wouldn't be arrested and get a
lighter sentence. I don't know. I'm just surprised that she did.
Am I the jerk for not wanting to get rid
of my roommates as per my wife's demands? Okay, backstory time.
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I male thirty four, and my wife, female thirty four,
will have been married for three years this upcoming December.
I owned a two family house on an acre in
Central Jersey that I purchased when I was twenty five.
I rent out one side and live in the other.
I have two spare bedrooms that I also sublet, one
to a dear friend of mine, male thirty five, and
another to my cousin, female thirty five. I have always
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rented these rooms and having the extra income between the
rental side and the rooms I rent on my side
means the house basically pays for itself mortgage wise, I
have to come out of pocket for utilities such as garbage, electricity, fuel, oil,
et cetera. My monthly cost of living is anywhere from
six hundred to eight hundred dollars handling the aforementioned bills,
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relatively cheap for New Jersey, where her two bedroom apartment
can run you twenty five hundred dollars. So now to
the issue at hand, my wife wants to get rid
of our roommates. As of now, she lives for free,
absolutely zero cost of living, which has helped her significantly
regarding paying down debts, fixing her credit and so on.
She's not out of the woods yet, but she's well
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on her way. I'm saying about another year or so
she'll be one hundred percent debt free. She is expressed
in the past that she would like to live alone,
but at the time it just wasn't economically feasible for
us to do so she wasn't working. Then lockdown happened.
Blah blah blah, No big deal, right. Also, I should
mention you wouldn't even know we have roommates. Sometimes I
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go days without bumping into one of them. Anyways, this
week she slaps me with an ultimatum out of the
blue that either the roommates move out or she's going
to leave me. I stated that I did not think
that was the smartest financial move, as she only wants
to give them thirty days, which would mean we would
be looking at having to come up with another sixteen
hundred dollars the following month. Q argument, she states that
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she can afford to make up the difference and that
paying it would be worth being able to live alone together.
Am I the jerk for thinking this is stupid? That
giving up almost twenty thousand dollars a year in rental
income on the drop of a dime doesn't make any sense,
not to mention telling a friend of twenty two years
as well as my cousin. Sorry, guys, the wife's giving
you thirty days notice. Good luck. Furthermore, this income allows
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us to travel whenever we want, buy whatever we want,
go out whenever we want. It basically helps make us
very flexible financially. Also, why can't we compromise? Okay, you
want them gone? Let's stick it out for one more year,
knock out the rest of your debt, and also give
the roomies plenty of notice that this is what we're
going to do. No jerks here, you're trying to make
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an emotional issue financial. This is not a financial issue
to her. She'd rather be in a little debt than
live with your friend and cousin. Your wife is saying
she wants alone time with you without always having to
be on. What she is asking and stating is very reasonable.
Very few married people want to live with roommates for
a very good reason, privacy. While these are your friends,
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You're asking way too much of your wife to expect
her to live with your cousin and your buddy indefinitely.
She's done so for three years. That's enough. Honestly, everything
you've stated clearly illustrates that you value money and you
value your friendships over your wife's comfort and feeling of
security in this relationship. How would you feel if you
lived with your wife's cousin in her BFF, if you
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never got to just hang out in your home without
having to be on Dude, read the room life changes
and needs in a relationship change. You are not swinging single.
This is not your girlfriend. This is your wife, whom
you should consider a full and equal partner with equals
say in this relationship, you've made it clear you do not.
You're the jerk to let your wife leave you because
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of money. She even offered to make up the difference.
I guess my question to you is what do you
want out of a marriage? You need to start thinking
of your family, your wife, and not your roommates and money.
The fact that you might let her leave you over
this situation is making the marriage not look too great.
Am I the jerk for rushing home to get my
sister's forgotten wedding veil but giving up on bringing it
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to her. My oldest sister, Odette, just got married at
a venue that with no traffic, is about two hours
and fifteen minutes away. Odette planned to wear great great
grandma marries veil, which has a distinct lace pattern and
has pass to only the eldest daughter, and our family
is considered good luck, heavily sentimental, and we have multiple
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bridle pictures of eldest daughters and the veil while standing
with their mom and grandma. The bridal party and family
met at Odette's house before driving to the venue. The
veil had been in a garment bag hung up in
front of a closet door, but the door had been opened.
The hangar fell off, and none of us missed it
when we packed up. We made it to the venue
by noon for the four PM wedding. Odette realized the
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veil was missing and ran to me in a panic,
insisting I needed to be the one to go find it.
Mom wouldn't drive fast enough, middle sister Constance was her
maid of honor, and Dad was dealing with setup. I
didn't think I could make it there and back, but
Odette insisted and said that if needed, we could stall
the ceremony a little. I floored it, but sat and
bumper a bumper traffic for almost two hours. Was estimating
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I wouldn't be at her house until at least two
forty five pm. I texted Odette that if I didn't
turn around now, I wasn't going to make it. She
texted back, just get it here. When I emphasized that
I wouldn't make it for her wedding ceremony or reception
if I didn't turn around, she said, the photographer doesn't
leave until seven, just get it here before then so Mom,
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Grandma and I could take pictures. I made it to
her house on adrenaline, but it took me forever to
find the veil and get on the road again. Odette's
texts continued after the wedding ceremony in pictures. I was
already exhausted, sitting in rush hour traffic and upset that
I'd missed the entire thing. After rereading our texts that
were all about Mary's veil, I realized that she didn't
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care at all about me being there, which upset me
enough to turn around at five thirty pm, with an
estimated arrival of six thirty pm and getting later. I
texted Odette that I was sorry, but the veil was
put up and the house key was in the flower pot.
I woke up to a ton of angry texts from her,
accusing me of ruining her wedding and not trying hard
enough to get back. Am I the jerk? Not the jerk?
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When the absence of a veil ruins a wedding more
than the absence of a family member, your priorities are
skewed and you are owed nothing, especially from the family
member who wasn't even missed. Not the jerk. I'm getting
golden child vibes here, and I'm sorry that you were
treated this way. You deserved better from your sister in
this moment. Please take space for yourself. Also, if the
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veil was so important, it would have been with her dress.
Just saying, Am I the jerk for asking my brother
in law to stay with me when my husband was traveling.
My husband, male twenty seven, and I female, twenty five,
got married a year ago. We're living together. My family
doesn't live here. They live about two hours away. He
recently got a promotion at his job. Our house is
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a little bit further away from the city. We live
in a farm type house, although it's not a very
big portion of land, but we have neighbors that have
bigger properties. Point is, our neighbors live kind of far away.
With his new position, he'll need to travel sometimes. His
first trip was last year. He had to travel for
two days. I honestly did not have a good time
because I was alone and away from neighbors. I did
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not feel safe. I spoke to him and we agreed
that next time I'll ask a friend to come stay
with me. Well, he needed to travel last week too,
This time it was for three days. I told him
I was going to ask a friend, Jennifer. He left
early in the morning. I thought about it, and then
I started overthinking, I don't think i'll feel safe if
it's just Jennifer and I. We're still two women alone.
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So I called brother in law Ashton mail twenty four
to see if he could come stay with me instead.
He agreed, so I called Jennifer to tell her my
plans had changed. He came over around six that day.
We had dinner together, chatted, and watched a movie together.
We mainly did those things during the time he stayed here.
My husband and I spoke on the phone, but I
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didn't tell him I had called his brother instead of Jennifer.
Ash and I are close. I'm close with all of
his family, so I didn't think he would mind. My
husband came home last Thursday around eight pm. When he
saw Ashton was here, he was a bit taken aback
as it was late. I told brother in law to
stay one more night if he wanted to, and he did.
I could tell my husband was upset. I asked him
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what happened and he told me nothing. The next day.
After he got home from work, he was still upset,
so I asked him again, what's going on. He said
that we had agreed that I was going to call
a friend. He didn't agree with having brother in law over.
I gave him my reasons as to why I called
him instead. He still said that I shouldn't have called
him because I know that their relationship is not the best.
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We argued, and now he's even more upset with me
for not even apologizing. He asked if I'm gonna call
Ash every time he goes out, and I told him yes,
I'll do that because I don't want to stay alone.
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Your husband sounds
totally insecure, big surprise there. Pretty much all guys are
super insecure these days. According to him, his own brother
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can't even step foot in your house, or you're going
to cheat with him. At this point, I wouldn't even
blame you if you did. It's obvious this manchild you
call a husband does not trust you. I could never
be with a man who doesn't even trust me. I
hope you do consider leaving him for his brother. At
least it sounds like the two of you are able
to get along together without petty childish drama that your
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husband brings to the table. I'd also be highly suspecting
that his little trips he's going on, he could very
well be the one cheating while away and projecting that
out onto you. You deserve better, and I hope you
find it, whether that's with his brother or just another
man who has an ounce of self esteem and doesn't
act like a petulant child. Customer demands TV satellite dish
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be reinstalled on the ground after roof is replaced, then
wonders why his TV won't work. This is a story
told to me by a coworker at a satellite TV
installation company that I used to work for years ago
and I have since quit, absolutely horrible company that treated
its employees horribly. To help you understand this dilemma, I'm
going to lay out some very basic groundwork here on
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how satellite TV works so that you can understand the
dilemma that he was faced with context. When we install
a satellite dish, we use a special inclinometer to determine
whether or not our satellite dish's view will be obstructed.
Each region is given a specific asthma elevation and tilt
that serves to identify the actual satellite in orbit and
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to prevent us from installing a non functioning system. Actual
story with that said, our boss called my coworker to
assist with a satellite dish relocation because the customer replaced
his roof and they tore the satellite dish off the
old roof when the new roof was put on. My
coworker arrives and the customer tells him that he would
like the satellite dish to be put on a pole outside.
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He says, fine, where would you like the pole mount
to be placed? The customer points to an acre of
his heavily wooded backyard and says, very sternly, put the
satellite dish right there beneath the trees and point it
that way toward the sky. I don't want to be
able to see the satellite dish. It's pretty ugly. He
walks over to the spot, all the while knowing this
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isn't going to work, uses his enklinometer had to make
it look like he tried and says, sir, this isn't
going to work here or anywhere on the ground for
the matter. The satellite we are aiming for is past
these trees and your TV won't get signal. It won't
need to go back on the roof. Customer, Well, then
point it the other way. Then, he angrily shouted technician,
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Well it's not going to How is it not going
to work? The sky is open, is it not? Do
you just not want to work or what? That's a
brand new roof. Additionally, I should also mention that tech
drove one and a half hours for this. The tech
was patient and tried to reason with him, but he
kept cutting him off before he could explain himself. He
would still have one and a half hours to drive
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back for a total of three hours. He was not
getting paid by the drive, only by the job, and
the boss rearranged his schedule since he was the closest
and one of the few techs to have the proper equipment.
Since the warehouse kept such poor stock, the company essentially
did him over and wouldn't have coughed up the money
even if the work did not go through. And so
he did exactly as the customer said. He placed the
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satellite dish exactly how the customer wanted it, pointed at
the sky, and right after that the technician left, and
the customer was happy, well happy right until he went
to turn on his TV and got the error code
seven seven to one signal loss on. The tech didn't
pick up his phone for the customer when he tried calling,
and then eventually the boss called and asked, why didn't
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you put the satellite dish on the roof? Tech? I
tried to explain it to him. I tried reasoning with him.
I told him it wouldn't work where he wanted it,
but he absolutely insisted it would because of the clear sky,
so I gave him what he wanted. The customer is
always right. The boss sympathetically says, yeah, but you know
that's wrong. In the end, the customer's TV was out
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for the next two weeks, and he absolutely deserved every
bit of it, from what my coworker told me. The
boss didn't hear the end of it from the customer
when the customer called in to complain, but my coworker
told me that the boss absolutely deserved it because the
boss was giving him crap all week. Edit. I should
also mention that we get paid by the job. The
company wasn't going to compensate him for the time spent
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setting up a non functional satellite dish. Nighbor constantly complains
about my noise waking up her baby. I've had enough.
My garage is about three meters away from my neighbor's bedroom,
where their baby sleeps. I've got a roller door which
beeps quietly four times within twenty seconds of me arriving
home and pushing the button. It's so quiet that at
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times I can't hear it when sitting in the room
adjacent to the garage when my partner comes home. Since
my neighbor had her baby, I've made an effort to
be more considerative noise, despite already soundproofing my rumpus room.
I've stopped playing my drums after six pm. I've also
declined hosting friends outside in my backyard due to noise.
I think I've been more than considerate, but apparently not.
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I get home from work at eleven PM and put
my car in the garage. A couple weeks ago, my
neighbor approached me and asked if I could wait until
the morning to put my car away, but I declined
as there have been break ins to cars on our
street lately. My car is also one that is targeted
by thieves a lot, as parts are expensive and it's
an enthusiast car. I apologized, but I was firm when
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telling her that I will not, under any circumstances leave
my car out overnight. I also know that they sleep
with their window open that faces my garage, but I
thought it would be weird to bring it up and
suggest they close the window. I'm also confused as I
have an aftermarket exhaust on the car, which is louder
than the original, but they've said nothing about that. A
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couple nights ago, I came home to her husband's car
blocking my driveway just enough that I couldn't get my
car through. It was kind of useless because I pushed
the button before I even reached my driveway, so it
beeped anyway. They didn't come out, so I had their
car towed, and they haven't done it since today Saturday,
I decided to play my drums around lunchtime in my
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sound proofed rumpus room. You can only hear minimal vibration
from the kick from the outside, but it's at the
rear of my property and quite far from any neighbors.
But they still had something to say. The wife came
over and basically said she had put up with my
noise for long enough and that she was exhausted due
to the kid never sleeping thanks to the noise I make.
I was definitely still upset about the driveway blocking situation
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from the other night, and I snapped a little telling
her that I'd been considerate enough and already made concessions
in terms of noise. I said that while it's within
my rights to play music up until ten pm in
our council, I've cut myself off at six pm in
consideration of her and her kid. I said that from
now on she'll have to get over it because I
was done catering to her and her family. Not the jerk.
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It sounds like you've been very reasonable and you're allowed
to live your life. They chose to have the baby,
surely they knew things might wake it up, and you're
not supposed to keep things completely silent for the baby sleeping.
They need to get used to a normal level of
noise while sleeping. Obviously, don't vacuum the room therein, but
a neighbor's garage door is something they should be able
to sleep through. Not the jerk. Not that it's a
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good excuse, but she's probably exhausted and this is one
of those needs something to blame kind of things. She's
probably fixated on you and your noise because it's something
that's right next door and something she can directly attack.
In a manner of speaking, it sounds as if she's
unlucky enough to have one of those babies that just
doesn't sleep much. Or well, that's not your fault, though.
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The nice guy who lied to his date about who
he was and really ended up paying for it. Long ago,
I was waiting tables and I had it too top.
They looked to be on a date. Both were dressed up.
She ordered a salad and he ordered a burger. She
cocked her head to the side when he said that,
and she said, I thought you were vegan. He laughed
it off, said he was, but that sometimes he splurged.
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She didn't look happy about that, but said nothing. All
I could think of was awkward. He ordered a guinness
halfway through his meal, and she raised an eyebrow at
that too. Wait a second, you said that you didn't
drink either. He laughed it off again, saying he meant
harder drinks, certainly beer wasn't an issue. I snuck away,
but listened to them argue behind a service station. Her
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I specifically wrote on my profile that I was a
vegan and I didn't drink him waving his hand at her.
One beer isn't an issue. Plus, I haven't had meat
in ages at least a few weeks. Just because you
don't doesn't mean your man can't. Her, I was looking
for like minded men, someone who also doesn't eat meat
or drink. He cut her off. You know, I saw
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that on your profile, but I figured once you met me,
you'd be open to it. Once you get to know me,
I'm a great guy. You should give me a chance.
Despite our small differences. Her so far, two important facts
you told me about yourself for lives. I got busy
and had to go do something. Dang it. When I
looked back, the woman was gone. She had pretended to
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go to the bathroom, found another server, gave him money
and told him to give it to me. Then she
fled the restaurant. Her date waited a bit, and then
he started looking toward the bathroom to see where she was.
I brought the check and had updated it to show
the payment she had made him. After looking at the
bill she paid for her food. Where'd she go?
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Me?
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I think she may have left, sir? He gets angry.
What I shrun? He got up, went to the bathroom
door and knocked on it, calling her name. When nobody
came out, he pushed the door open. I was about
to tell him to get out of the restroom, but
he saw it was empty and returned to the table.
Digging for his wallet, he loudly complained about his date
ditching him. He started telling the tables around him that
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his date had been a horrible person and had taken off.
He used really mean words. I was shocked, and they
all looked uncomfortable. When I picked up his credit card
to run it, he yelled at me, her loss. I
make great money and have a big house. I have
a boat. Her loss. I dropped his receipt while internally
rolling my eyes at him. He had lied to her
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about who he was and it was her loss. Yeah, okay,
up until then, I had never encountered an r slash
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