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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
My sister demands I pay for her vacation, but she
won't agree to babysit. After that, am I the jerk
for refusing to pay for my gender reveal cupcakes? And
after that, my wife keeps pressuring me to copy stuff
she sees on TikTok Now. For every thumbs up this

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video gets one, Karen has to pay for her own vacation.
You never take me anywhere, Reddit boy, besides the brink
of insanity. So please smash that like button and subscribe
and turn on notifications for new stories from Reddit every
single day. My sister demands I pay for her vacation,
but she won't agree to babysit. My thirty two male

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family is planning a vacation for this summer. Both my parents,
my older brother and my sister in law, my younger sister,
Camilla who's twenty two, and my husband, my two kids
who are ten and eight, and I are all planning
to go. We're all planning to stay in a resort
for time two weeks. This will obviously be a bit
expensive at least two thousand dollars per person, and that

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is an enormous amount of money in my currency. Kamala
is in her last semester of university and will start
a full time job in August. Right now, she's not
working and lives with my parents, not passing judgment on
her for being unemployed because my brother and I went
through the same at her age. Kamala called me last
week to ask if we could pay for her ticket
and accommodation. My parents would pay for food and activities.

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My husband and I can't comfortably afford our own family,
but adding Kamala would put financial pressure on us. I
told her that I would discuss it with my husband
and then I would call her. So my husband and
I agreed that we would be willing to pay for
her if she would babysit our kids on certain occasions.
Of course, not every day and without notice, but at
least twice a week for two hours for two months.

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She would basically be the replacement for our current babysitter. Anyway,
I texted her basically saying what I just wrote, and
she replied absolutely not. So I it's to ask why
she was so against this arrangement, which I think benefits
both of us. She gets to go on vacation and
we have a babysitter we trust and don't spend more
than our monthly budget. Kamala said that we were manipulating

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her into doing unpaid labor for us and forcing her
to say yes because neither our brother or parents could
afford to pay for her. She also said that she's
way too busy with her last semester of UNI and finals.
I told her that she could do all of her
school stuff in our house. My kids are very well
behaved and need very little supervision, but she still said
that she wouldn't do it. So I then told her

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I was very sorry, but if she didn't accept, then
we couldn't pay for her to go on vacation. So
now she's incredibly mad at me. But now my mom
is also angry with me because she wants to have
a family vacation and she knows my husband and I
do have the money to pay for Kamala and family
helps family, which I agree with, but I believe that
help must be reciprocal, and right now, Kamala is not

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reciprocating that help. My brother and dad just want to
settle this down. They are not taking sides, not the jerk.
Unpaid labor. Did she miss the part where her pay
was it two thousand dollars holiday? This is a win
win for both of you. In fact, she comes out
slightly more on top from the whole deal. So family
helps family only when it comes to pain for expensive vacations,

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but not for childcare. Gotcha, your sister is living on
another planet. Not the jerk. Not the jerk at all.
Your sister is a piece of work and spurning an
incredibly generous offer. Her labor is far from unpaid. Looking
at your arrangement, you're asking for approximately thirty five hours
of labor in return for a two thousand dollars trip.

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That's close to sixty dollars an hour. That would be
an amazing offer for a twenty two year old in
the US, And I'm guessing from the my currency answer
that you live in a lower cost of living country
than the US, where the offer is even more generous.
You're not the jerk at all. Your sister sucks. You're
the jerk, especially your family. It's rud that nobody was

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thinking about her financial situation when planning this vacation. You
and the family expected this problem to solve itself by
some magical means, and now you act surprised. She's not
entitled to your money, and it's also putting you in
an uncomfortable place because of this. I think the offer
is reasonable, but it's forced, leaving her with little choice,
and I can see why she's annoyed. Am I the

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jerk for refusing to pay for my gender reveal cupcakes?
I female twenty two, found out last week my baby's
gender and it's a girl. My family are excited, and
I decided to do a small gender reveal over the
Easter weekend. I had this plan for Saturday, so a
few days before I asked a small local business if
she could please make twelve cupcakes with pink and blue

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icing on top and pink icing in the middle. She
agreed and said they would be ready to collect Friday evening.
The plan was to pick up the cupcakes on Friday,
invite friends and family over Saturday, and give some guests
a cupcake which would reveal the gender. I only invited
a few guests as my apartment and is fairly small
and I didn't want to do a large genner reveal. Anyway,

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just something cute and fun. Plus, everyone loves cupcakes. So
Friday evening came, the small business owner Claire gave me
her address to collect the cakes from. Her said that
they would cost twenty five pounds and they're ready to
collect whenever. I drove to her apartment and knocked on
the door, she greeted me there with the box of cupcakes,
and they looked amazing. They were exactly how I'd imagine them,

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and I thanked her for them. She gave me the box,
but just as she did, her large pet dog came
running up to me, barking and jumped at me, knocking
the box of cupcakes all over the floor. Claire apologized
and shut the dog inside. It was still barking and
jumping at the door. She said it's because he gets
excited when people come and visit, but he wouldn't have
hurt me as he's friendly. At this point, I didn't

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know the damage to the cupcakes. As the box landed
upside down. I picked it up and the cakes were ruined.
The icing had smashed all over the box and some
cakes had spilled out onto the ground. Horrified, as I
understand she spent a few hours making them for me.
She apologized and said she could remake them for free,
but they wouldn't be ready until Sunday. I said, unfortunately,

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I'm expecting my guests tomorrow and Sunday's no good as
I already had other plans. I explained I wouldn't be
paying for these cupcakes as they were inedible and ruined
by her dog. We agreed payment upon receiving the goods,
and since I never received them, I wouldn't be paying.
She said that I should still pay, that she had
to buy ingredients for the cakes and the cost of

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eggs has gone up, meaning she would be out of pocket.
I said, if she had control of her dog, then
they wouldn't have been dropped and I'm sorry, but again
I wouldn't be paying. I got in my car and
left without the cupcakes. I still had guests attend on Saturday.
I announced the gender in person rather than with some cupcakes.
But it was still nice spending time with friends and family.

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My family were all happy, but my sister in law
said I should have still paid for the cupcakes, as
she accepted it was her fault and offered to remake
them for me. I personally don't think I should have
had to pay for them, but now I'm feeling slightly
guilty as I understand it's a small business and a
loss of profit would affect her a lot harder than
a larger business. Am I the jerk? Not the jerk?

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Why on earth would you need to pay for something
you didn't receive. I know it would be nice to
help out Claire a little bit if you guys were friends.
But if this is just some lady, then no, not
the jerk. She's a business owner. She needs to act professional.
Having a wild, uncontrollable dog jumping all over your customers
and knocking your product out of their hands as they're
trying to pick it up is not acting like a professional.

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This has nothing to do with the cost of eggs.
She knows her dog doesn't behave and therefore should create
it or lock it in another room when she's meeting customers.
No way should you pay a dime for those cupcakes
you couldn't use. If she could have remade them for
you that day and delivered them to your house, sure,
but you had no use for them a week later.
Her fault, so she eats the cost. You're not the

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jerk in this situation. But baby gender reveals are endlessly
useless and stupid. Just have a baby shower. Why do
you care so much about other people's decisions if they
have no effect on you. If people want to have
gender revealed parties, then there's nothing wrong with gender revealed parties,
and you shouldn't be demanding other people adapt your lifestyle.
Not the jerk, And I'm still trying to figure out

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why this gender revealed garbage is necessary. No one really
cares except the mom, dad, and maybe the grandparents. Maybe
you're the jerk. Just because your baby is born looking
a certain way does not mean you will know their gender.
It's twenty twenty three and you people still don't realize this.
It honestly just makes me sad that you think you

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can decide whether they will be male or female. It's
not up to you, and it never was. You remind
me so much of my parents. Don't be surprised when
they grow up and go no contact with you. My
wife keeps pressuring me to copy stuff that she sees
on TikTok. I'm twenty nine male. My wife, who's twenty eight,
and I have been together for about ten years, married

(09:01):
for two and while not the most affectionate person in public,
I am quite affectionate at home when it's just us.
Lots of hugs and kisses, you name it. Both our
love languages is quality time and physical touch. Courtesy of
her research, in the past few months, she's joined the
TikTok reels and wants to copy thing she sees people
do and ask their significant other in reels or in movies,

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like when guys lift your chin, or when a girl
asks something to her spouse her boyfriend. So we'll be
eating dinner and I'll be on my phone or working
on my laptop, and there will be something in a
video she sends me, or on a show or movie
we're watching, and she'll comment on it as it relates
to us, or want me to do something to her.
So this morning, she was watching a reel in bed
and it was a man running his hand through his

(09:45):
partner's hair. She asked me to do it, and I
said no. I might have been a little frustrated because
I was running laid for work and asked her, why
are you acting like this? We're not in a movie.
Do I ask you to do this kind of silly stuff.
I could tell it made her upset, and she didn't
press it again, and I didn't think anything of it
until later, when she wasn't texting me like she usually

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does during the day. I text her asking her what
she wants for dinner and she says she doesn't care.
Then she says that she still heard about this morning,
about how I was a jerk to her and invalidated
how she felt. Am I the jerk for telling her
that this isn't a movie and asking her why she
was behaving like this. We hug and kiss all the time,
so I feel like she's copying stuff just to get

(10:26):
a reaction from me at it. Bought my wife a
cupcake and her favorite tea and went home after work.
She arrived half an hour after me and powdered at
me when she saw my peace offerings. We hugged and
I apologized for being a jerk this morning. She apologized
for making me feel uncomfortable. I asked her if she
wanted me to do things like that to her, and
she said sometimes, but she admitted that she sometimes missed

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the butterflies when we first dated. Surprise, I didn't connect
the dots that one of our friends just got into
a new relationship and has been over the moon about
all their cute moments. So I asked her to tell
me all of the TikTok things she's watched that she likes,
and she shyly showed me all of the ones she bookmarked.
So yeah, gonna make the lady happy and sprinkle her
weeks with some and we'll take into account how to

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keep our life spicy. I love her, and for all
you folks trying to hit on her, she's taken get
out of here, thanks to all the folks who are
kind enough to explain my mistakes and TikTok stuff to me,
the good and the bad. She's asking you to show
her love. Dude, who cares where she's getting the ideas?
Why aren't you interested in listening to what your wife
wants from you? You're the jerk. Your wife is telling

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you how you can delight her, and you're getting grumpy
about it. You're the jerk. You're the jerk. She knows
she isn't in a movie. She just wants affection. If
it made you uncomfortable to do any of her suggestions,
that would be a different story. But is it really
too much task you to tilt her chin up and
kiss her or do the wall thing. It would make
her happy? Why not do it? It might be a

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little silly, but isn't that what relationships are for? Who
else is she supposed to go to for recreating cute
stuff if she sees in movies. It just seems like
so little effort on your part that would make her
very happy. Not the jerk, look Bud. As a man,
you shouldn't be allowing that TikTok crap in your house
in the first place. It gives everyone unrealistic expectations and

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turns them delusional, feeling as if their own life and
relationships are inadequate. Social media messes people up and causes
them to have totally unrealistic expectations. Imagine if you saw
the women on TikTok doing god knows what and asked
your wife to do it too. Do you think all
of these losers would be cheering you on and saying
she's in the wrong for not doing what the TikTokers do.

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I swear most of the posts on this subreddit make
me lose faith in humanity seeing how lost people are
these days. You're not the jerk, but get ready for
a divorce. You'll never be able to compete with the
stuff she sees on social media, and she'll end up
leaving you over it, like they always do. Why can't
we afford to go to Paris? Why can't you buy
me a new BMW? Why don't you look like Fabio?

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Problem is they can't love us unconditionally the way that
we love them. It's just part of being a guy
these days, mostly due to the masses being brainwashed by
social media. Back when I was in high school in
college in the seventies, you'd have a hard time finding
a guy who didn't have a girlfriend. These days, all
three of my sons can't get a girlfriend to save
their life. It's not that young guys are different now. Heck,

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my sons look much better than I ever did, and
they make more money. The problem is that social media
has created unrealistic expectations, hence the higher than ever before
number of single mothers out there, the same ones who
reject decent guys like my sons, who actually want to
settle down and start families. Instead, they choose the jerks
who will knock them up, bail on them, and move

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on to the next one. Edit call me whatever names
you want. It just shows you don't have a real
argument and have to resort to name calling. I was
married for thirty years until I lost my wife to cancer.
She was the most amazing person I ever knew. One
hundred percent my fault. I messed around and found out.
It's good Friday, just a few days ago, and I'm

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the normal closing manager. It was busy, we closed at eleven,
but everyone's getting ready for the holiday and it clears
out early almost There's one table left, clearly a first date.
I've walked past several times and caught snippets of their conversation.
Seem like nice folks. It's eleven fifteen and I get
their server to fill up their water glasses and then
he can head home. The closing bartender has already packed

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up and is heading out too. Just me left the
dishwasher and the couple. Dishwasher finishes up around midnight, sweeps
the line, takes out the trash, and heads home. Just
me and them. Ma'ah. I'll leave them be for a while.
It's an hour after close, but they're still chatting. I'll
go to the office and do the nightly paperwork. I
left the doors unlocked. The lights are still set low,

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the music is still on, but they're completely by themselves.
I finish up the paperwork and it's now one in
the morning. I walk out to lock up, and I'm
really surprised that they're still there. I figured somebody would
go to the bathroom and noticed that absolutely nobody in
this fifty five table establishment was in the building with them.
Oh well, I'm off Saturday. Let's see what happens. I've

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got Reddit I need to catch up on. At one
fifty five, I decide that's enough. I walk up to
the table with my keys in my hand, and before
I can say anything, the guy asks me if he
can get another drink from the bar. I stammer for
a second, completely off guard. Before I can collect myself,
the guy says he forgot to order some to go
food and needs to put in an order. So I laughed.

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Didn't really know what else to do. Hey, lady, I
shouldn't have laughed at your date. I'm sorry, but I
laughed at him. I said, I'm sorry, my man, but
we closed three hours ago. There's nobody here but you
and me, and I'm about to head home, and he
came back with you haven't been closed for three hours,
and he scoffed. I honestly didn't think real life people scoffed,

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but I said, well, you're kind of right, looked at
the lady and said, we've been closed for two hours
and fifty seven minutes, and like I said, I'm about
to lock the doors, so that means you got to
come with me. And then I stood at their table
with my keys in my hand until they got up
and we all walked outside together. I will always remember
a couple I had when I was bartending at this

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nice steakhouse. We were a little slow, so I let
the server go home and took tables. Only people left
in the bar. Drinks are almost empty, so I dropped
the check. Guy, what time do you guys clothes me ten? Guy,
but it's ten forty five. Me. Yes, I wanted to
give you time to finish your drinks, but you can't
leave until we do, right, that's right, Oh good, we'll

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have another bottle of wine. Luckily, in my state, there's
a limited amount of time I can serve you after
we close to the public, so I use that excuse.
But seriously, dude, would I be the jerk if I
asked my husband to stop coming home for lunch. I
do in home daycare, and my husband gets an hour
lunch each day from work. He comes home for lunch
and watches shows on his phone. The problem is, without fail,

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he wakes up our daughter or another daycare kid every
day or prevents them from falling asleep to begin with,
and I don't ever get a break. He used to
just slam the door open and shut, would stomp around
in his steel toe boots. Daycare is in our unfinished
basement slash playroom. I've set boundaries about the door and
the shoes. Our dogs bark upon his arrival, so we've

(17:22):
worked to kindle them when he arrives, or letting them out.
Sometimes I'm tending to a kid, though, and can't get
the dog situated before he shows up. He tends to
forget to text he's on his way. Also, currently he
shuts cupboards, drawers, and the microwave door, loudly, cracks open
a can of pop et cetera. Just a list a
few ways he wakes up our kid. The main issue

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is he comes home right his naptime starts, and he
wakes her up just as she's falling asleep, or twenty
minutes after she's fallen asleep, and then she starts screaming
and refuses to take a nap. This is an everyday occurrence,
Not to mention the daycare kids that he wakes up.
I feel so burnt out, full of ray and contempt
when he does this. Sometimes he works through lunch and

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genuinely nobody wakes up or makes a peep. He goes
out of town for work almost monthly, and naptimes go seamlessly.
I've been telling him for months I wish he would
pack a lunch and just spend his lunch at work,
because it's taking a toll on my mental health to
not get a break. Child Care is hard, and my
day begins at six thirty am every single day. If
someone doesn't nap, that means I don't get a break

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and I work eleven hours straight. He thinks I'm blowing
it out of proportion and being dramatic about how often
it happens, but it's literally the truth. I've tried to
set boundaries, but he watches his shows while he walks
around making lunch and doesn't pay attention or realize how
loud he is. He often drops things like his utility
knife because he doesn't pay attention as well. Would I

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be the jerk if I straight up told him he
can't have lunch here anymore. I've asked him before to
pack a lunch at work, or he could eat next
door at his parents' house with his mom, who works
from home. I just don't see the compromise because he
wakes them up and I'm left to deal with it,
and I don't get a chance to even eat or
check my phone some days. Edit to clarify, his lunch
doesn't start at a specific time each day, it's whenever

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he finishes his last job. Our rest time is from
twelve thirty to two thirty. Most kids don't fall asleep
until about one though. Edit to husband and I talked
last night. I told him if he can come home
by twelve, there won't be any complaints as long as
he prepares his lunch beforehand to eliminate excessive noise getting ingredients,
et cetera. But he decided to start packing a frozen

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lunch and eating at work. Thank you for all of
your help. We've been battling this for eight months now,
and we just add a layer of resentment that we
don't need on top of being parents to an almost
two year old. Hoping this compromise works better, I appreciate
all of you. Would you be the jerk if you
told him he can't have lunch at home anymore? No,
he sounds very inconsiderate. Not the jerk. Not the jerk.

(19:53):
Your home is a place of work where you operate
a business. His presence there interrupts with your ability to
provide your services. I'm sure he wouldn't like it if
you showed up at his job during his worktime and
made a ruckus watching Netflix. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate
it either. You're the jerk. You tried hard to villainize him,
but in reality, it sounds like he's just making normal

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at home noise in his home. Maybe your place is
on the small side for a daycare, you can ask
him to try not to wake up the kids, But
in my opinion, that's it. You're the jerk. If his
presence and the sounds that result from him being in
the house are enough to derail this so easily, it's
really not his problem but your own. If you're in
the business of childcare, then you need to either be

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on at all times or hire staff to give you
a break, like any other functioning business. Am I the
jerk for going to my brother's bachelor party? I twenty
eight male, have a girlfriend who's twenty two, Nyla, and
we've been dating for close to a year at this point.
We had a great relationship leading up to this point,
and now I'm just in shock of the position that
we're in. Nyla and I recently found out she was pregnant.

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It was shocking, to say the least, because we weren't
actively trying, because me and her were under the impression
that she will never be able to naturally conceive. She
told me that when she was younger, she went through
some stuff and as a result of that, the doctor
told her that she would probably never be able to
have a kid of her own without medical intervention. So
this was somewhat of a miracle baby, and we were
both fully prepared to have this baby until she unfortunately

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lost it. It was really horrible, to say the least.
She fell into a depression and I was sad too.
Two weeks later, I had a trip planned for my
brother's bachelor's party, This was planned way before we even
found out she was pregnant. She told me how she
didn't want me to go and that she still needs me,
but I wasn't sure what she wanted me to do
if I stayed. I told her I'll be back in

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three days, and she seemed fine with that answer because
she gave me the go ahead. The day I was leaving,
she asked me, are you seriously actually going to go?
And I told her I had to since the ticket
and hotel is non refundable. So I did end up
going the whole I barely heard from her, and I
tried calling her and she just ignored me. I came
home from the trip to our apartment and all of

(22:07):
her stuff was gone, and she took my dog and
dropped him off over at my parents' house. I went
to my mom's house and picked up my dog, and
she told me my girlfriend dropped the dog off because
she couldn't watch it and she needed space from me.
I told my mom what happened, and she told me
I was an idiot and a jerk for what I did.
I don't believe what I did was wrong by going
on this trip. She told me I could go on.

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I tried calling her to sort this out because I
love her and I've just been ignored so far. Am
I the jerk? You don't have to be a mind
reader to know she didn't want you to go. She
told you you ignored her and told her you were going.
When you were leaving, she told you again, you ignored
her and went anyway. It's not surprising she left you.

(22:48):
You're the jerk. You left to go on a fun
trip shortly after she had gone through a physically and
emotionally horrible experience. Where in that sentence do you feel
like you did the right thing? You're the jerk. You're
the jerk, especially for not having a more detailed conversation
about this. She asked you to stay, and you weren't

(23:09):
sure what she wanted you to do if you stayed.
How about talk to her about this before you just
decide to go. Hmm, let's see, controlling girlfriend gone check,
unplanned baby that you never even wanted to have with
the controlling girlfriend gone check, got your dog back, and
had a good time in Vegas celebrating something that was
meaningful to you. Check. Sounds to me like you came

(23:31):
out on top. Bro, Find someone who doesn't bring all
that baggage into your life, and never again trust someone
who tells you that they can't get pregnant. They are
always lying, as we all find out eventually. Can't even
tell you how many girlfriends have tried to pull that
I can't get pregnant crap with me, and next thing
you know, guess who's pregnant. They're just trying to trap you,

(23:52):
bro Either that or trying to get child support. You
want to call my manager? Okay, call him. This happened
over a year ago at Walmart. For some context, on
my days off, I have a blue workshirt I wear
wherever I go out that has pins and patches all
over it as sort of a battle vest, if you will.
This fact means that more than once I've been mistaken

(24:14):
as a Walmart employee, which I normally just brush off,
but this dude took it to another level. So I
go to Walmart to drop my car off for an
oil change. I decide that I'll walk through the store
since it was hot out, then across the parking lot
to a fast food joint for lunch. As I'm walking
down one of the aisles, I hear a grumpy sir
from the other side of the pallette of products. I

(24:36):
just sort of ignore it and keep walking. A quick
look at me should tell you that I don't work here.
But this guy walked around the palletts and gets right
in front of me, all the while yelling sir at me.
I stop because he's now right in front of me,
and pop out one of my earbuds, to which this
guy starts to go off on me. Are you going
to help a customer or just ignore me? You shouldn't

(24:57):
have your hat or headphones on at work, he I
just roll my eyes and say that was rude, but no,
I will not help you. I then gestured at my
lack of Walmart name badge and all the pins and
patches on my shirt, trying to imply that I don't
work here. Well, I want to speak to your manager.
You shouldn't treat customers like this. I started to pull

(25:18):
out and scroll through my contact till I found my manager.
Mind you, my manager at the time was a grumpy
old man from Tennessee who would take zero crab from anyone.
Had this guy called my manager, he'd have had it
handed to him. You want to speak to my manager, okay?
But he's going to tell you the same thing I'm
about to tell you. Buzz off. Don't yell at anyone
like that. Dude is now getting more angry as I

(25:40):
show my manager's number. Go ahead call him. Tell him
I didn't help you out. I don't work here and
it's my day off. You shouldn't be treating people like this.
The guy just mumbled something, then pushed past me and
walked away, having never called my manager. The next time
I was at work, I told my manager this story,
and he got a laugh out of it, saying that
he would have loved it if that guy had called him.

(26:03):
My stepdaughter feels entitled to my lottery winnings. I thirty
five female, am engaged to my fiance Brian, thirty seven male.
We've been together for two years. He has a daughter, Ashley,
who's fourteen, from a previous relationship. I'm currently pregnant with
our daughter. I like to play the lottery, sometimes, usually
just scratch tickets. This time I won fifty thousand dollars.

(26:25):
Of course, I was very excited. I decided to take
the money and put it away from my baby's future.
I told Brian about the money and that it was
being put away for our baby's future. He said, we
should take some of the money for Ashley since she's
going to be graduating high school in a few years.
Brian and his ex do have a college fund set
up for Ashley, but not enough for all of it.

(26:46):
I let him know this money would be used for
our child since it was won by me, and I'd
be the one paying taxes on it since we're not
married yet. I let him know once the baby was born,
it would go into a trust that no one had
access to. Brian and Ashley think I'm being ridiculous since
the unborn baby would have more money than her set
aside already, and that it's unfair. I explained I understood

(27:08):
how they felt, but I think I'm doing the right
thing now. My mother in law is also pressuring me
because Ashley went to her house feeling upset, saying the
baby is getting preferred treatment already. Am I the jerk
at it? I see a lot of people asking how
Ashley knows about the money. She walked into the house
while we were talking about it and overheard our conversation.

(27:28):
We didn't hear her come inside. Ashley then thought this
meant we won the money as in her father and I.
Since we're engaged, not the jerk, get a pre nab
run Do not marry that man. Ask Brian if his
ex will be contributing to your daughter's college fund. Everyone
sucks here. You could throw your soon to be stepdaughter

(27:50):
a few grand I'm sure it would go a long
way for your relationship with her. Your baby isn't here
yet and properly vested that money is going to grow
substantially by the time you're unborn, means it. They suck
for demanding your money as someone with a step parent.
My answer entirely depends on if you want Ashley to
be your kid when you get married. If you and
Ashley are distant and haven't been making an effort to

(28:12):
get closer, then it's entirely reasonable to spend all of
this money on your next kid. Is there any way
you hold off on making any permanent decision about the money,
even just for a year or so. Also, I will
not suggest you need to give away any money to
Ashley now, or that it has to be anywhere near
fifty percent. And my personal opinion, everyone sucks here because
while they shouldn't be expecting this money. I also think

(28:35):
twelve is an age where it's acceptable to meet a
new adult and have them become like a third parent
to you. And if you put all of the money
towards your next kid, you will end any future close
relationship with Ashley. There will be no future where she
asks you to go wedding dress shopping with her, be
at her graduation, be in the hospital when she gives birth,
or wh else She'll make Instagram posts on Mother's Day

(28:56):
about the two awesome mothers I have. Do you want
to not only marry the man you love, but to
marry into his family and make his kid your own?
I had to scroll way too far down to see
this answer. Ashley is still a kid, and Op is
expecting to become an important person in her life. It's
fine for her to prioritize her own kid with her
own money, especially as her and Brian's finances are still

(29:18):
separate and Ashley still has two parents who can help
her financially. But setting aside some of the money for
Ashley is a signal that OP cares about her. If
I were Brian, I'd be concerned if the person I
was about to marry was so dismissive of my existing
kid's needs. That said, the fact that he, his ex,
and his mother are all pressuring OP rather than Brian
having a sensitive conversation with Op about it is also

(29:40):
a massive red flag. It would be smart and kind
for OP to set aside some of the money for Ashley,
not in the college fund her parents set up, but
maybe in a long term savings account that OP has
access to. That way, she doesn't lose control of the
money and can take it back if OP and Brian
break up. But it's still signaling that she cares about Ashley.
Given the way to this conversation is gone, though, I

(30:01):
don't think this relationship is going to last. Financial advice
and parenting advice the two things you should definitely not
be asking these kids on Reddit about neighbors turn their
house into a very loud public church service every Sunday
and their son is a creeve. So we just had
new neighbors move into the house next to ours, and
they've been extremely annoying. Firstly, they convert their front garage

(30:24):
and driveway into a church every Sunday. They line up
chairs and invite people over and preach loudly on a podium.
It literally lasts all day with catering in the works.
When they're not doing this, they're loudly practicing their preach
sermons in the garage throughout the week. Look, I have
no issues with religious folk in general, but it's just
so loud and annoying to be honest, like, can't they

(30:46):
just go to a normal church instead of converting their
house into one? Is this even legal to do? So?
Why subject your neighbors to this? Second, the family has
a son, probably in his twenties, who harasses both me
female twenty five, and my older sister. He stares at
us very creepily and stops us literally every time he
sees us outside. He asks us really weird questions, trying

(31:08):
to hit on us. I guess he once chased my
car as I was pulling out of the driveway to
ask me what day it was. Recently, as I pulled
up into the driveway, he stood behind my car on
my property, staring at me and literally waiting for me
to get out so he could speak to me. I
was stuck in my car for literally five to ten
minutes to wait for him to leave, and he waited

(31:29):
the whole time. I just got out, made eye contact
with him while ignoring what he said, and stormed inside,
like it's really getting in the way of my life. Now,
I usually run from my car to my front door
and the other way around so as to not be
spoken to or stared at creepily. What really set me
off recently was that I caught him staring at me

(31:49):
through my window from a distance. Now I have to
keep my curtains and blinds closed permanently, which is not
the greatest thing for my mental health. This entire situation
is making my anxiety spikes so high. I really shouldn't
feel unsafe in my own property. Other than all of this,
there haven't been any other confrontations or issues with the
family in general. It seems like they're really extroverted and

(32:11):
have made attempts to get to know us. But I'm
afraid if I accuse their son of this stuff, they'll
deny it since there children of God or whatever religious
folks say, or retaliate. I've daydreamt of like blasting music
from my car during their sermon, but I don't want
to start drama. Any thoughts or advice. Set up cameras
to catch anything, just in case they're fairly cheap, and

(32:32):
you should document the creepiness in case it's needed for later.
Call the city or the cops about the Sunday thing.
I'm sure they are not zoned for church services, so
it is a legitimate complaint. Support our channel by joining
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