Karen DEMANDS I Take Care of Her Cat Since She's PREGNANT!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash Entitle People's Stories. Our first story we'll
be reading today. Karen is demanding I take care of
her cat since she's pregnant. After that, my half siblings
feel left out and I don't care. And after that,
my wife kept interrupting my meetings, so I no longer
work from home. Now, for every thumbs up, this video

(00:22):
gits one, Karen has to take care of her own cat.
Hey already change your litterbox read it, boy? Why should
I have to change another? So please smash that light
button and subscribe and turn on notifications for new stories
from Reddit every single day. Karen is demanding I take
care of her cat since she's pregnant. My wife, who's
twenty eight, and I thirty six, are expecting our first baby.

(00:46):
Three years ago, my wife decided she desperately wanted a cat.
I can't stand cats and all animals that stay in
the house really, so I was against it. She wouldn't
stop talking about it, so finally we made a deal
that she could get a cat, but it would be
her her responsibility and I wouldn't have anything to do
with it. And she agreed. She stuck to her word
and I stuck to mine. I mostly ignore the cat

(01:08):
now she's pregnant and asked me if I can scoop
the litter until she gives birth because of taxoplasmosis. But
I looked it up and as long as she wears
gloves and washes her hands, she should be good. So
I told her absolutely not. She wasn't happy, but I
reminded her of our agreement when we got the cat.
I told her that it was her responsibility and if

(01:29):
she didn't want to take care of it anymore with
the new baby coming, we can get rid of it
and find it a new home. She said no, and
has been scooping the litter. Her sister was over and
saw her doing this and flipped out at me, telling
me how dangerous it is. But of course her sister
is going to be on her side and overreact. I
never wanted the cat, so I don't see how I'm

(01:50):
in the wrong. You're the jerk. Even if she finds
some safe ways to do it, it's still recommended that pregnant
women don't change a cat's litter box. You're really going
to set this agreement for your wife and baby's health.
You know it's just temporary. You know she'll go back
to changing the litter box once she has the baby.
But why risk your baby's health by the possibility of

(02:10):
her getting taxoplasmosis just to stick it to her to
have a reason to get rid of your wife's cat.
You're the jerk. The five years my husband and I
have been together, I have done the litter as soon
as I popped positive. He took over the chore immediately,
not just for the toxins, but the smell makes me
sick too. Is it really that hard to be a
good husband right now? You sound like you suck. Well.

(02:34):
Who do you think is the jerk, Opie or his wife?
Please let us know. My half siblings feel left out
and I don't care. My parents were married and had me.
I'm sixteen female and my brother eighteen male. My dad
had an affair with Kate, and mom and him divorced.
Ellie eleven was the result of the affair, and Tommy,

(02:55):
who's nine, was born when dad married Kate. A year later,
Kate passed away. My dad's family rallied around my half
siblings and tried to make up for the loss of
their mother. My mom shared custody of me and my
brother with my dad. He had asked her to include
Ellie and Tommy in her life after Kate had passed,
and even told my brother and I a few times
that they would be coming to Moms with us and

(03:17):
she'd be their mom now too. My mom never did
take Ellie or Tommy into her home. I don't even
think she's ever interacted with them. When I look back
at moments where everyone was present, she was always one
side with her family, and Dad was another with his
and my half siblings. Ellie and Tommy. As they have
gotten bigger, have expressed all the emotions you might when

(03:37):
you don't have a mom, but you sometimes share a
home with kids who do. They get jealous, sad, frustrated.
They've asked us to share Mom with them. They've wanted
to come along when they hear Mom is taking us
on vacation. They've wanted us all to spend Christmas together,
all kinds of stuff. They also have just Dad's side
of the family, since none of Kate's want to be
in their lives. But we have both said of grandparents

(04:00):
and aunts and uncles involved in our lives. A few
times over the years, Dad or my grandma or uncle
have asked me if I don't dislike that Mom wouldn't
open her heart to kids who are part of my family.
I always said no, because they are not her kids
and so it doesn't make sense to me that she would.
My dad wanted to try and get my half siblings,

(04:21):
wished to come true for Christmas where we'd all get together,
which would include my brother and I and our mom.
Mom said no. She did not engage with him beyond
her no. Ellie and Dad then tried to get me
to talk Mom around, and I said no, and I
told them I did not want to talk her around.
Ellie got upset after hearing that and left. Dad and

(04:41):
my grandparents then cornered me later and asked me, how
can I say that when I know Ellie and Tommy
feel left out and that they crave mothering. I told
them I don't care if they feel left out because
it's not my mom's job to mother them and I
would never expect her to do it. And since one
can't be fixed without the other thing happening, like them
feeling left out can't be fixed unless they feel like

(05:02):
they now have a mom and my mom. Then I
realize it's not going to happen. They told me my
mom could and should have love for them as her
children's siblings. I told them dad should have thought about
that before he cheated on her and got another woman
pregnant while he was still married to my mom. Am
I the jerk, not the jerk. As much as I

(05:23):
feel sorry for these kids, your mom shouldn't be pressured
to mother them precisely because they are the result of
the affair. If your dad is so desperate for them
to have a mom, he should remarry. You're the jerk
because this is a case where you're right on the
fact that it's not your mom's job. But you are
jerk for the utter lack of empathy towards your much
younger half siblings. They didn't ask to be a product

(05:44):
of an affair. They didn't ask for their mom to
pass young. Your dad is a mega jerk for sticking
you in between your siblings and his ex wife, But
do remember that they are innocent in this. Before saying
I don't care about them, my wife kept interrupting my meetings,
so I no longer work from home. I work in
the medical field. I often discuss confidential information with clients

(06:07):
and doctors. I'm not a doctor myself. In July of
this year, I finally had an opportunity for employment that
would give me the option of working from home. I
sat down with my wife and explained that this was
a good thing for us. I would be home three
more days every week. I would still be going into
the office on Tuesday and Thursday, but the other days
I could skip out on the commute. I could help

(06:28):
with my daughter in the morning, and throughout the day,
I could help with supper. I could see my four
year old daughter more not all the time. Of course,
I was still going to be working, but our car
would be home three extra days. My wife could take
our car and drop off our daughter with our parents
or a sinter if she needed. We talked to my
daughter and explained that even though I was home, I
could not spend all of my time with her. I

(06:50):
explained that if the door was closed, she needed to
knock quietly and ask permission to come in, and to
accept it if the answer was no. My daughter understood,
my wife did not. She was constantly coming into the
office when I was in meetings. I had to excuse
myself to get her out of the room. More than
once I saw my daughter trying to keep her out
of my room. One time, my wife was trying to

(07:12):
carry my daughter into the room and my kid was
holding onto the door jam so she didn't get in
trouble for coming in when the door was closed. I
finally put a lock on the door. She said she
didn't like being locked out of a room in her house.
I explained that the door being closed and a sign
saying that I was in a meeting didn't stop her.
She finally got the point until this Thanksgiving. I was

(07:33):
working on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and she needed to
go buy something for our meal the next day, and
for some reason, she could not take our daughter with
her or drop her off with either set of grandparents
or a drop in daycare where we have a spot.
She instead decided to shake my locked door and knock
until I answered. I muted my meeting, open the door,

(07:54):
and told her to leave me alone until the end
of the day. She left and texted that my daughter
was watching TV in the other room. I talked to
my boss, and I went back to work at my
workplace starting last week. I hate being away from my
daughter and my wife. My wife hates being limited to
using Uber on the days that I'm not there or
depending on our parents. Now she's mad at me for

(08:14):
going back to the office. I told her that it's
her fault for not understanding that I was working from home,
not just playing video games in my home office. I
feel like a jerk, and she says, I am, But
I am the sole breadwinner for our family. If I
got laid off because of her, we would be in
financial hardship. Not the jerk. Working from home is work,

(08:36):
not just being home during work hours exactly. Opie's wife
is definitely the jerk. Her husband said, clear boundaries, not
the jerk. You explained it so clearly that a four
year old could understand it When there is a very
real chance of legal repercussions from a privacy breach due
to your wife's negligent behavior, she left you no choice.

(08:56):
You have to protect the income for your family. So
I don't see how working at home home was still
a viable option. And it really sucks because it deprives
you and your daughter of extra time together. Am I
the jerk for not going to my sister's child free wedding.
My sister is getting married next month to my best friend.
She always wanted a nice snow wedding in the cabins
we used to go to when we were in middle school.

(09:18):
Everything was going fine until she told me that it
was a child free wedding. Now that would be fine
with my wife and I because we would just drop
off my son and daughter at my wife's parents or
with their godparents, But my sister had asked them to
be their ring bearer in the flower Girl. Apparently they
want the kids to perform their duties at the wedding,
but then not attend the reception. That means either my

(09:39):
wife or I will have to be there with them
alone in the cabin while everyone else is partying it up.
But wait, I'm the best man and will be conducting
the reception, so it's just going to be my wife.
What about food? My mom will give my wife twenty
minutes to come in, grab some plates with food, and
come back because the mother of the bride can't be
missing for too long. So they expect me to abandon

(10:01):
my wife and our kids, who are under the age
of seven, in a tiny cabin that is not childproof,
where the source of heat is a fireplace, and there
is barely any sale signal. This is the day after
driving for seven hours with said kids. Not only do
I think this is not a safe idea considering it
would be in the middle of winter, my wife has
never even been to these cabins, and the lack of

(10:21):
ability to properly communicate, but also I think it's incredibly
rude to invite someone to a destination wedding where they
are only allowed to attend the wedding. Although my wife
says she can manage, she's really gullible sometimes and is
a little bit of a people pleaser. I refuse she's
not being treated like a guest, but as the babysitter
for the ring bearer and flower girl. I tried to

(10:43):
talk to my sister and the jerk I call my
best friend, who always preaches about me being there for friends,
loyalty and whatnot, but they are not conceding or willing
to compromise. I asked if my kids could attend until
the toasts, games and food, then all four of us
would retire to the cabin and let them. No. If
we could go completely child free and leave the kids behind. No,

(11:05):
if I just attend the wedding and retired to the
cabin after the wedding. No, my sister is against all
of these ideas, while the jerk has taken a temporary
vow of silence. So I'm upset and said I'm not coming,
which in turn began the messages and calls from everyone,
my family, the groom's family and there and our friends.
My wife has openly said that she can manage this,

(11:27):
but I know that's to keep the peace. My kids
are also upset because before asking us, my sister and
the jerk ask them first to participate in the wedding,
and they were really excited because they're close with both
of them. With all of these calls and messages, I
feel I'm going crazy and maybe I am the jerk instead.
So am I the jerk not the jerk? If she

(11:49):
wants child free, then she does not need your kids
as props. As a parent, you have the right to
not attend a child free wedding without guilt. Tell her
she should hire some local kids for the guar. My
sister is trying to make me go out to places
with her that I don't want to. My sister has
just given birth about a month and a half ago,
and I went over to help her with the baby

(12:10):
and house chores since our husband couldn't take leaf from work.
The problem is, my sister is an extremely outgoing person
and loves going to places and trying out new things. Me,
on the other hand, I'm burnt out and all I'm
thinking about for an outing is how I will be
carrying the stroller across the long metro stairs, the baby
needing a diaper change, and us running to the nearest toilet,

(12:31):
the heavy traffic, the loud noises. In short, I see
it as stress and a chore, not something I do
out of enjoyment. For several days in a row now,
I've been holed up in my room and refusing to
go out with her while she goes out alone. Today
she told me that we will just go to the
nearest park and that it's unhealthy for me to stay
cooped up in the house all the time. I declined again,

(12:52):
and she became upset and said she wasn't in the
mood to go out anymore. She asked why I was
even over if all I wanted to do was to
stay at home, that she was depressed and I'm making
her fuel worse. I told her she can always go
by herself and leave the baby with me, but she
said that defeats the point of having company. She grumbled
about no one caring about her and went into their

(13:14):
bedroom and shut the door. I've been thinking maybe I
should have just sucked it up and just gone with her,
But I don't know why she insists on me going
out too. When I said I'm exhausted, I don't know.
Am I the jerk? Update? I tried to knock and
talk to her, but she still won't talk to me,
so I wrote her a letter and slipped it underneath
the door. I'm on my way to the hotel until

(13:35):
my flight is up. We live in two different countries,
so sorry, the kind suggestions for coming once a week,
et cetera are impossible. Once I'm gone, I'm gone for
a good while. Edit to add info. I'm doing all
the household maintenance and cooking, except for folding their laundry,
cleaning up their bedroom, or grocery shopping as her husband
takes care of these. Some nights, when I hear the

(13:56):
baby crying and none of them wake up, I go
feed him and put him back to sleep. During the day.
We can both be in the house, and i'd be
the one changing him up. Sometimes when she's out, I
watch him. When she needs to go to the doctor's appointments,
I go with her and watch him outside. When we
went out to outings before, I'd take care of the
stroller in carrying the bags. Not the jerk. You don't

(14:18):
want to go out and you don't have to. You
gave her choices. You are there to help with the baby,
not her going out. Not the jerk. You're cleaning, cooking,
and helping take care of the baby while struggling with
your own mental health. Your sister sounds like an ungrateful brat.
Most parents would do anything to have someone take some
of that extra work off of their plate, not complain

(14:39):
that you won't be their unpaid nanny during social excursions too.
I'd go back home and dial your help down to
cleaning or delivering meals once or twice a week. Her
husband or someone else can step up for the rest.
The presidential suite really sparkly. Diamond member approaches the desk.
Diamond Member name is ball Me. Hello, sir, welcome, Ah.

(15:03):
I have your booking right here. Let me print the paperwork.
Diamond member, glaring and demanding, I'd like to request an upgrade. Me,
oh all right, let me see, Hm, you've already been
upgraded from a standard twin to a King Superior with
a sofa bed. I want a suite. Me nervous laughter,
check system, Sir, we don't have a suite available. They're occupied. Jerk,

(15:28):
Yes you do. You have the presidential suite, me um.
Him pulls out his phone to show me. I see
you still have it on your website. His quiet Karen
girlfriend also pulls out her phone to show it to
me twice for some reason. Now let me stop here
to explain some good old context. The Presidential suite is
eight hundred pounds a night. Is three rooms with their

(15:51):
own balconies. The wallpaper in those rooms is one thousand
dollars a roll. The Presidential suite is really gorgeous. I
look at this dude's rate, and he booked to a standard
twin for one hundred three pounds for the night. Absolutely
not happening. Me, sir, we don't have the Presidential suite available. Him.
As a Diamond member, I get free upgrades. He shoves

(16:13):
the available suite at me, and at this point. I'm
starting to shake because he's being super forceful, like a
guy who would flip out if someone turned him down
at a bar, or a kid being refused a toy.
Me trying to diffuse the situation. I look more into
the system. We have a King Superior Ceview tonight. I'd
be happy to give you that, but the DM complementary

(16:34):
upgrades only allow for a room type in a category
that's one grade up from the one you book, and
we've done that, but I can give you this one,
the King Superior him, I want to speak to your manager.
Me all right, gladly, I go get my manager, who's
oddly enough talking to the general manager. I explain the situation.

(16:55):
He comes out and repeats everything I said. Lo and behold,
he begins repeating everything I have said. He explains that
we can't give it to him because the suite is
four rooms, but he would also be happy to give
him a King Seaview. Jerk. No, I don't want that room.
That room is rubbish. I stayed in that exact room
last time and it was dreadful. I want the Presidential

(17:18):
suite also. No, he didn't and had no idea what
number of said room. It was going to be manager
once again, sir, I'm not going to give you the
presidential suite, but I have this lovely king seaview room
available for you. The jerk winds and says, I've driven
one hundred miles to come here. I know the CEO personally.

(17:40):
The other hotel lets me have their presidential all the time,
and my front office manager stands as ground. The guy size, fine,
cancel my booking. Then he says, bluffing manager like a robot.
That's a shame, because I have a lovely king superior
ceview for you to enjoy. Jerk, no, I want this suite.

(18:01):
Cancel my booking. I'm going to another hotel manager, all right,
And he does that, so like nothing happened. My manager
goes to finish the paperwork. I continue my nightly routine,
watching the guy and his Karen and girlfriend in the
lobby fiddle on their phones. The jerk approaches he asks
to see my manager one more time. Manager sighs and

(18:22):
comes out the jerk sheepishly asks him to book him
a taxi. Am I the jerk for yelling at my
husband after he couldn't control the in laws? Both me
thirty seven female, and my husband, forty male, work from home.
He works in the basement and I work in an
upstairs converted office. I also have a daughter who's seventeen
from a previous relationship, who lives with us full time. Anyways,

(18:46):
last Thursday, my husband told me that his brother who's
thirty six, brother's wife also thirty six, and nephews who
are eleven and seven would be coming over on what
is now today. I immediately told him, oh, no, as
today was my big guest annual meeting with one of
our biggest clients, who is a local chain of retailers.
I am the associate director the partnership between our companies,

(19:08):
and so I would have to help give a presentation. However,
he kept telling me that they had just told him
they were coming over. I finally relented, but told him
that the kids would need to be quiet and could
not be upstairs. Anyways, Today swings around and I go
to get ready. My daughter locks her room so that
the kids can't get in inside. She has a gaming

(19:29):
setup worth over two thousand dollars of gifts and stuff
she is saved up from waitressing. I also locked my
doors after I got my lunch at about one they
arrived over. I was in the middle of my meeting
at this point, while About twenty minutes later, I hear
two steps of small footsteps run up the stairs. They
immediately start trying to get into my daughter's room, which

(19:51):
is right next to my office. I immediately started texting
and calling my husband, but he didn't respond. About five
minutes later, I excused myself to the restroom just as
the kids went into my daughter's room. I made them
go downstairs and told them not to come back off
a little later, after I got back to my meeting,
I could hear the kids screaming from downstairs. Again. I

(20:12):
text my husband and nothing happens. It stayed that way
until four forty five, when my meeting was finished. I
then went down to my husband's office and just let loose.
Among other things, I called him some names he didn't like.
I then grabbed my daughter and took her to my
parents' house or I will be staying for the night.
I honestly feel like I'm on the edge of divorce.

(20:33):
This post may be a mess, but I am still
worked up at it. I'm going to sleep for the night.
Tomorrow morning, I'm gonna get my laptop from the house.
We'll check in on her setup and all my other stuff.
I'm gonna stay at my parents' house for a few days.
I'm definitely gonna talk to therapists and reflect. Thank you
for everyone's love and support. Not the jerk holy cow.

(20:56):
Interfering with your partner's work is borderline mistreatment, divorce course,
and take everything. I think my Karen girlfriend is using
me for money. Background. I twenty three mail, currently financially
support my girlfriend, twenty three female. I give her some
of my two week paychecks, usually to either pay her

(21:16):
eight hundred dollars rent for an apartment I had to
co sign for due to her being unemployed. I give
her four hundred dollars to cover her car note, of
which it currently is in need of mechanical checkup, which
I told her I will cover the costs of her repairs,
seeing as it's her only way to get a job.
I ask her every day if she's okay and doing well.
I call at least once a day. I'm attentive. She

(21:38):
randomly asks for money, I'll send some her way. She
asks for a lot from me. I only ask for
quality time, cuddling, movie, nights, et cetera. I am aware
of the whole conundrum of what this relationship is. Don't
focus on why I should leave. I'm well aware. I
simply just want a measurement of if I'm the jerk
with what comes next. She calls me tonight and asks

(22:00):
if I can watch her three year old son at
around ten thirty pm. She's going to go out with
her female cousin. I say, I'm willing to babysit as
long as she comes home by three am to spend
the night with me because I love her give and take.
She doesn't agree to a set time, complains that I
don't give her enough space even though I don't live
with her, and says she basically wants me to leave

(22:22):
when she gets home. That hurt feeling unwonted, so I
said I would pass. She proceeds to block me on everything. So,
considering how much effort I put into her and how
much I care for her, am I the jerk for saying? No?
I know she's struggling every day with no money. She
has a three year old, while I said at my
parents' house chilling, I want her to be happy, but

(22:44):
my happiness matters too. I thought I wasn't being selfish
by asking her to spend time with me in exchange,
and I passed because she wasn't enough to doing that.
Am I the jerk that I deserve to get treated
like that? After all that I do for her, I
get to say no, right, Opie, This makes me sad.
I can see how much you love her, but I'm
sorry to say I don't think she loves you back

(23:06):
as much as you do. You are doing a ton
for her financially and emotionally, and she has the guts
to ask you to babysit her kid, but ask you
to leave when she gets home. She does not love you,
and I'm so sorry to say that, but that's not love,
and you deserve so much better. You're clearly a good guy.
Go find yourself a girl who's fun and nice and

(23:26):
treat to you how you deserve, not the jerk. But
your girlfriend is a major jerk. There's no excuses for
her being a jerk no matter what situation she's in,
And do not feel guilty about leaving her if you
decide to do so. It's not your responsibility to care
for her. If she does not care for you, everyone
sucks here. She is using you. You know she is,

(23:47):
but then get mad that she is. You know what
this relationship is. Either do every single thing she asks
without question, or break up with her. I'm sure you
can find a more accommodating gold digger with less baggage
to help you spend your parents' money. You're the jerk.
Judge me all you want, but I'm in the same
position she is. I'm twenty two, have a toddler and

(24:09):
a six month old, and I'm unemployed and not looking
for a job. Parents cut contact with me and call
me lazy, but they don't understand how much I struggle
with my mental health. Right now, I have a couple
of boyfriends who helped me get by. The unemployment I
receive is literally next to nothing. I don't let my
boyfriends find out about each other, because of course they
will cut me off. I feel bad for your girlfriend

(24:31):
because you're over here complaining and being controlling. You have
to spend the night with me because I'm babysitting for you.
What kind of crap is that? If you love her
half as much as you claim to, then shut up
and just support her like a good boyfriend. Should you
have no idea how hard it is for girls like
us just to survive this day and age. Well, who

(24:51):
do you think is the jerk, oh P or his girlfriend?
Please let us know. I think jerk would be an
understatement for that girl. I had the jerk for wanting
my wife's son to leave the house after he turns eighteen.
My wife and I have been married for five years
and she has a seventeen year old son from a
previous relationship. The father left her and her son about

(25:12):
a decade ago and has not been present in their
lives ever since. I know it was a difficult experience
for both of them, and they have a very tight
bond as a result. My wife is on permanent disability
and doesn't work, so I am the sole breadwinner in
the household. I've always tried to be a very present
figure in my stepson's life, but I also understand that
I am not his father. For the past three years

(25:34):
or so, her son has been having a lot of
behavioral issues. When it started, my wife and I thought
it was typical teenager acting out type stuff, But when
his behavior continued over the course of months and into
a year, we knew we had to take more action.
We attended family therapy, got him individual therapy and counseling,
worked with the school counselor, tried getting him involved in

(25:56):
extracurricular activities, et cetera. We put a lot of time, effort,
and money into as many ideas as we could think of,
hoping that something would click. But nothing has worked. His
grades in school are near failing and he is at
risk of not graduating next year. He will refuse to
leave his room for days at a time. He has
zero respect for me as a person, let alone a

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parent figure. He fights us on attending therapy and counseling
sessions and will not participate when we get him there.
I am at my wits end, and I'm also starting
to feel the hurt financially because my insurance doesn't cover
all of the therapy and counseling. My wife's disability checks
takes some of the edge off, but I am hemorrhaging
money at this point and falling behind on bills. My

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stepson turns eighteen in a couple months, and I'm at
a point where I want to stop paying for his
therapy and counseling. I'm also at a point where I
no longer want him in my house. At the end
of the next school year, after a recent outburst from him,
I broke down to my wife and told her all
of this. She was unaware of the financial problems because
I didn't want her to feel that her son is

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a burden on us, But as hard as it is
to say it, he kind of is. Out of anger
and frustration, I told my wife my feelings about wanting
him to leave our house, and she flipped out on me.
She accused me of giving up on him and basically
being okay with him becoming homeless. She said she would
never forgive me if I abandon him like his father did,
and that I was the jerk for even thinking something

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like that, let alone telling her. It's been a huge
rift between us since then, and it's put a huge
damper on the holidays. A part of me wants to
get this all out in the open, since I think
my step son deserves to know what kind of a
strain he's putting on all of us, but my wife
insists on being protective of him. I feel like, no
matter what, I'm going to be the bad guy, but

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I also feel like I have done all that I
can do. Am I the jerk for wanting to quit
supporting my step son, not the jerk. You're doing everything
you can to help your stepson. Unfortunately, you cannot help
someone who doesn't want to be helped while he is
a minor and you have the author to do so.
Have you considered impatient help. I would suggest being honest

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with him. His behavior is unacceptable, and he either changes
or leaves. You will pay for this therapy as long
as he tries to help himself get better. This may
cost you your marriage, but if you do not draw
this line, you will be having this same conversation in
ten years. Everyone sucks here, But I also think you're
mostly not the jerk. Kicking him out Unless to inpatient

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treatment isn't going to solve his problems, only yours. It'll
basically be the end of the relationship as well. Your
wife has blinders on and is equating getting him in
patient help as abandoning him, and that will be their
downfall as well because she'll become his enabler. Your wife
being the enabler will drag you down, as you are
the financial backing of this family. From his point of view,

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I was working out a lot of trauma I didn't
understand as a teen, and my stepfather and mother kicked
me out and our relationship never recovered. I haven't actually
spoken to her since I was in my mid twenties,
almost a decade now. Now she's done to me. It's
a really complicated situation you're in. Do you want to
sink with your wife and her son? Could you tell
her that as long as he isn't trying to get

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himself help, you're not going to waste the money and
time either. Would you be okay closing the book on
these relationships and going out on your own and letting
them figure it out again? All complicated. No one is
going to win, not the jerk. This is why you
don't marry single moms. All of my buddies who have
had to deal with this kind of crap too. Her

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kid is never going to love you, and she will
never love you anywhere close to the way she loves
her spawn. Well, what do you think is OP the
jerk or not? Please let us know he's stuck around
longer than I would if I can tell you that much?
Should I put my phone down when someone is trying
to talk to me? I work twelve hour shifts and
get two twenty minute breaks. Sometimes during a break, I'll

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sit and chat with friends I work with, but if
none of them are on break, then I sit in
a secluded area and go on my phone while I
eat my lunch. I feel like my break time is
the little personal time I get during the day to
decompress a bit. We can't leave the plant, but I
still feel like I should be able to do what
I want with it. If I want to sit and
stare at a wall, that's my prerogative. We're also not

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allowed to have phones on us when we go on
the plant floor, so it's the only time I get
to make calls or check texts. There's this guy i'll
call Tom. I've been assigned the same machine as him
a couple times, and working with him is brutal. I'm
always more exhausted after a day of working with him
than I normally am. He just talks and talks and
talks about everything, but nothing really at all, if that

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makes sense. Yesterday, my weekend, on I was on break.
Nobody I talked to was working, so I found a
little two person table by the wall and ate my
sandwich and went on Reddit. Most of the break room
was empty. Then Tom came in, sat down across from me,
and started babbling about work, production times and what needed
to be done. I was just responding with hmm and

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mm hmm. Was still on my phone because I didn't
feel like talking to him, and I was hoping he'd
take a hint, so he brings up football instead. Asked
if I was checking the score. I said no, that
I didn't like football. Why not? I just don't. I
never met a guy that didn't like football. Interesting. Then
he says, you should really put your phone down when

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someone's trying to talk to you. It's rude. I said,
I only get forty minutes of break per day. Don't
tell me what to do with them. It's bad enough
we can't leave the plant, so being on my phone
is how I like spending my break. He said, well,
break time is supposed to be for getting to know
your coworkers. You don't have to be a jerk about it.
No wonder you sit by yourself. Then he got up

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and moved. I told my girlfriend after work, and she
thinks the guy is probably lonely and looking for a friend,
that I could have been nice to him for twenty
minutes instead of basically telling him to go away. I
feel like just because we work together doesn't make us friends.
I'm there to get a paycheck. I don't want to
move up or anything. And who wants to talk about
work while they're on break. I have a feeling if

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I did at once, then he'd keep bothering me on
every break. Am I the jerk for refusing to put
my phone down when someone was trying to talk to me?
I'm gonna say not the jerk. He's not entitled to
your break time. Yeah, it might be rude of you,
but you were just hoping he'd take the hint. When
he didn't. You didn't make it about him, just how
you prefer to spend your break. He can be upset

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all he wants. It's really not that unreasonable or uncommon
to have no interest in spending your personal time with
the same people you have to spend your work time with.
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