July 26, 2025 • 32 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories. Our first story we'll
be reading today. Rich Karen goes bankrupt from crypto and
expects sympathy from me? After that, am I the jerk
for siding with my sister's ex regarding her past? And
after that, am I the jerk for wanting my daughter
to meet my girlfriend despite being an absent father. Now
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for every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen goes bankrupt.
Never gonna happen to me, Reddit boy, I keep everything
in cold storage, not your keys, not your crypto. So
please smash that like button and subscribe and turn on
notifications for new stories from Reddit every single day. Rich
Karen goes bankrupt from crypto and expects sympathy from me.
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I thirty mail come from a very poor family, but
my wife is from a very rich one. She started
off the marriage with a net worth of thirty one
million dollars, and I started it off with three hundred
thousand dollars in student dead When we got married, she
made me get a prenup that separated her inheritance and
got rid of my right to an elective share to
it if she dies. In other words, I renounced my
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spousal right to a third of her separate property if
she dies, making her sole beneficiaries her siblings or potential kids.
My debt and our incomes were also separated. We both
got lawyers. Hers was much more expensive than mine and
notarized the pre nuph None of this was a problem
for me as a man. I'm determined to pull myself
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up by the bootstraps, not rely on my wife's wealth
for anything. The only beneficial part of the prenup for
me was that our incomes were also now separate, and
I earned a somewhat higher income than her, and so
I was okay with it overall. Five years later, I
still don't have a seventh of her current wealth. But
her investments haven't been doing great this year either. As
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a sole crypto investor, things have been going really poorly
for her. I had warned her not to do this,
but she invests in a cryptocurrency called Manero, which is
down forty seven percent this year. About five percent of
her money was not in her wallet and was in
the FTX exchange itself, which she lost after FTX went bankrupt. Recently,
she now has a net worth of around eighteen million dollars.
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I don't invest in crypto, but rather in index funds.
They've taken a hit this year as well, but based
on historical performance, they should go back up eventually. No
such guarantee for crypto, and certainly not for Monaro. I
come home to her crying the other day after she
found out that FTX went bankrupt. I told her that's rough,
not in a sarcastic way, and I went upstairs to change.
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When I got back downstairs, she started going off on
me and complaining, talking about how nonchalant I was about
her losing money. I pointed out that she's still extraordinarily
rich in spite of her poor choices, and that she
could stop investing in crypto at any time if she
wanted to. Besides, she was the one that wanted to
separate everything, So why does she want to make it
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my problem all of a sudden?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Am I the jerk?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
And understand why having separate finances would stop you from
being able to comfort her. If my partner said they
dropped twenty dollars down a drain pipe, I'd have more
sympathy for him than you showed your wife who lost
a considerable amount of money. I get she has more,
but it still sucks. And I don't see why you
couldn't sympathize with her. She didn't ask you for money
or ask you to solve her problems. She just asked
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you to care that your wife is having problems.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
The whole backstory doesn't matter. You agreed to it. You
say yourself you felt fine with having separate finances, so
it's unrelated. And what you're actually asking is am I
the jerk for not listening to or supporting my wife
when she was upset, unless, of course, you're holding a
grudge over the finances. Are kind of happy to see
her fail, but I would think she married you for support,
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love and friendship since it wasn't for money. You aren't
providing that her financial choices weren't smart. But many of
us middle class folks lose money and still get love
and support. And if you're feeling earned by the pre nup,
I think you signed on for that. As one sided
as it is, you're the jerk.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I'm genuinely baffled by these posts on here that are
like the person who's supposed to be my partner was
going through something upsetting and I was casually cruel about it,
And now they're upset, And why is this my problem?
It's your problem because she's your wife expecting some kind
of empathy from you. Note that she wasn't even asking
you to somehow cover the losses, just to not be
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a total jerk about the fact that she's lost money.
Isn't a wildly unreasonable expectation from a spouse.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Not the jerk. Let's reverse the roles.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Rich Man worth thirty one million dollars, Mary's a woman
with three hundred thousand dollars in debt, makes her get
a pre nup that prevents her from getting anything when
he passes on. Man invests way too much into a
high risk investment. Man loses everything and cries to his
wife about it. Is Reddit really going to tell her
she's wrong, to tell him that's rough and walk away.
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Heck no, Reddit is going to tell her it's his
fault he lost everything and that she needs to leave him.
The hypocrisy on this site never ceases to amaze me. Normally,
I don't engage with idiots who feel the need to
say things like, but what if the roles were reversed.
But since I'm a woman who's been in a similar
situation to the wife in this story, allow me to
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set you straight very quickly. The reason we on Reddit
judge thep differently based on whether they're a male or
a female is because after the literal thousands of years
of you guys treating us like dirt, it's time for payback,
like long overdue.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Many won't admit.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
This, but the truth is, you guys deserve to be
judged differently than we do because it adds a little
slice of fairness to the world. Don't like it, grow
up and deal with it. Blame your ancestors for treating
us like second class citizens for the last like ten
thousand years. Oh but we were fighting wars, hunting for food,
and building crap. Yeah, sure you were, while we were
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the ones doing the real work of raising kids, which
even to this day you're still on a to do.
Why do you think courts give custody to the mothers
ninety percent of the time because we're the ones who
are actually fit to be parents. Why do you think
we get alimony because we deserve it and you don't.
So next, time you even think about leaving a what
if the roles were reversed comment? I want you to
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remember what I said and ask yourself, what if the
reason we get judged differently is because we deserve to
be which you do. It's twenty twenty two. If you're
a dude, then let's face it, there's a ninety percent
chance you're not worth anyone's time. Well don't you sound
like a happy, pleasant person to be around? Well, who
do you think is the jerk opie or his wife?
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Please let us know that's one of the reasons. I'm
glad you're broke. Credit boy, you don't have money to
do stupid things with them?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Lose it?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Am I the jerk for siding with my sister's ex
regarding her past. As a kid, I always looked up
to my older sister because she was so cool, pretty
and the popular girl. I always try to be like her,
dressed like her, listen to her music.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
You get the idea.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I was popular the first time I stepped through the
high school door because I was basically a copy of her.
I was overwhelmed by the attention, but quickly found out
she was mostly popular with only the guys. She dated
many of the guys in our high school, and they
thought that I would too.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I was so embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I had our mom take me out to buy new
clothes and everything. Whatever she did, I went the opposite way.
She wore tons of makeup, I wore none. She listened
to a certain type of music.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
We went to different colleges. Fast forward to now. Sis
must have figured out her lifestyle wasn't healthy, so she
stopped dating a bunch of guys, deleted all of those apps,
and met Sam. He's very good looking, with a great
personality and an amazing job. He was smart, funny, outgoing,
and can own the entire room when he walks in.
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He grew up in a different city, so his family
doesn't live here, but we've met and they're amazing, just
like him. Sam quickly replaced us as mom's favorite kid
and became our dad's best friend. He eventually proposed, and
everyone was over the moon. I was very happy for
my sister. Last week, she came to my door looking
like a complete wreck. She was crying so hard she
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couldn't talk. After an hour or so, I calmed her
down enough to get the story. Apparently they were at
a party and were mingling separately when he overheard some
of the guys talking about her popularity. Sam joined the
group and got her dating history. Two of the guys
in that group dated her, and about four other guys
at the party dated her too, one of whom works
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with him, which is.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Why they were there.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
He heard about the guys laughing about how all of
the men in town were depressed when she went away
to college but rejoiced when she came back. When they
got home, he asked her. She told him the truth
and he left without saying a word. I helped my
sister and she's been staying with me for now. She
hasn't told anyone and has been trying to get in
touch with Sam and his family, but they're all ignoring her.
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Everyone on our side is super confused because as Sam
just disappeared, our cousin my best friend, pinned me down
the other day to ask what had happened. I told
her and she was appalled. She called him all sorts
of names and insecure. I said, I can understand from
his view, as we live in a small town and
it's hard to know many men and your coworkers know
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your future wife, then my cousin and I got into it.
She said I should be supporting my sister no matter what.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I argued.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I am supporting her, but supporting doesn't mean I have
to agree with her. Now I might lose my best friend. Edit.
We're all in our thirties, graduated college and living on
our own. You're the jerk, and so is your sister's ex.
She deserves better, right, Sam is not that great of
a guy. Apparently hard. You're the jerk. You sound pretty
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smug and judgmental. You're the jerk from a male point
of view. Neither of all those guys had the quality
to keep her. Every one of them happily took advantage
of her. But he now acts like she's to be
an outcast or blamed. What a bunch of worms. Sam
had lots of good qualities, But because he found out
that she had a life before him, what a surprise.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He leaves without a word.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
You defend him and put all the blame on your
sister for him leaving without a word.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Unpopular opinion, but not the jerk. Sam has held values
throughout his life that he thought his fiance had shared
throughout hers once he found out that she didn't, that
her past had been kept secret from him, that he's
been working with a guy who had her long before
he did, and that he's now the laughing stock of
the town for being with her. He has every right
to no longer want to stay in this relationship. If
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you find out the person you're about to marry has
actually lived a life that you never would have approved of,
and that they've been hiding their past from you, you
have every right to call things off. It's unfortunate how
programmed you all are to be non judgmental, as you
call it. It has resulted in a generation of fools
who think their action should never have consequences. To break
it to you, but they do. I'm just glad Sam
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found out the truth before he actually married her. There
are women out there who have the same values he does,
and they're the ones who will deserve a man like him. Well,
what do you think, as though, be the jerk or not?
Please let us know that's the good thing about being
with someone as ugly as Reddit Boy. Their past dating
history is basically non existent. Am I the jerk for
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wanting my daughter to meet my girlfriend? Despite being an
absent father. I twenty nine male, had a kid with
my ex wife, thirty two female, ten years ago, my daughter,
and there's no real way to sugarcoat this, but as
soon as she was born, I left and I never
ended up seeing her in the hospital as a baby.
Was never really present in her life at any point,
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but ended up getting a divorce eleven months later, with
her getting full custody. Of course, I married young, was
really stupid and thought I'd end up being a good
dad despite no skills, but got scared that I'd turn
out like my dad and chickened out. Not really an excuse,
but an explanation.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I guess.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I pay child support for the first three years, but
stopped afterwards. I've been speaking with the girl's mother about
reconnecting with her, but she thinks it's best that I
stay out of their lives majorly. But I think making
amends is always possible, so I'm not sure. I just
really want to make things right, but I will respect
their decision. I've seen her a few times, but her
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mother has always introduced me as a friend. She says
she will tell her when she's ready. I've been dating
a girl who's twenty eight for about ten months, and
I really like her. I think I could definitely see
a life for us, and I know that sounds weird,
but she's also said the same. I was also speaking
to my daughter's mother about meeting this girl, but she
says absolutely not and that that's a bad idea. But
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if I want to reintroduce her into my life, isn't
it fair that she gets to see my life too?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Am I the jerk for this?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Her mother says it's a very bad idea, So it's
making me think I am. But I just generally cannot
see why. Obviously I care for this girl, and I
will care for her life too, but a relationship has
to be two sighted, and I don't think it's out
of the question to show her.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
My life too.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
You're the jerk for a few reasons. You pay child
support for the first three years, but you stopped afterwards.
Why isn't it fair that you get to introduce her
into your life, Not if she doesn't even know that
you're her father, and not if you are not behaving
as her father. Quit being a selfish jerk and leave
her alone. You can't even support her financially. But I
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want to talk about fairness. Sounds like op ohs seven
years worth of child support before he gets any say
after that, it's still going to be along prove it
that he's serious about being in the kid's life.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Eight to nine years of child support. He didn't make
it the whole first year, and I doubt he actually
knows how old his kid really is since he can't
even pay child support.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Right, we have two data points here.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
One this guy is completely disinterested in this kid, and two,
this guy is aware that this reflects really, really poorly
on him.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
The obvious conclusion.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Is that his only motivation here is to con this
new girl into thinking he's a half way decent person,
or at least not someone who will do to her
and her potential baby what he did to his ex
in hers. The fact that he's clearly only interested in
the kid as a human prop to deceive his girlfriend
and doesn't register the emotional harm that this would do
to his kid pretty solidly indicates that he likely would
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do it again.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You are not her father, You're just the donor. You
paid support for three years, which means for seven years
the mother has been alone even financially. You don't get
to just walk back in because you have a girlfriend
you think you might be with forever. This kid is
a human being whose life and feelings matter more than
you and your selfish desires for making amends.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Try therapy to.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Deal with your daddy issues before marriage and having kids
with this new woman. My care and sister demands I
pay off her BMW. About a year ago, my sister
G who's twenty three, bought a BMW she couldn't afford.
She also had a bad habit of getting expensive items
for TikTok and Instagram posts. I lucked out on hitting
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the jackpot with my wife and job. My wife typically
makes a lot more money than I do, but she's
currently on bed rest with a difficult pregnancy. It has
been almost two months it will last the rest of
the pregnancy. She is inherited a plastic anemia. While we
have some savings, we live within our means with two
paid off cars and a nice two bedroom house. My dad,
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who speaks English has a second language, calls me upset
that someone is trying to steal my sister's car. It
was being repossessed for non payment. I called my sister
and asked what was going on. She first said she
was one month behind, then admitted she was three months behind.
She said she would have the money next week. She
never called the car dealership to follow up, and the
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car was sold, sticking my sister with the remaining Now,
she doesn't have a car and is driving my dad's
older Jeep. I have offered my car for her to use,
but it's a Toyota and she rejected it. She's been
harassing both of my parents because she says I could
have lent her the money, and my wife is.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Lazy about her pregnancy.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Now I'm getting unwanted advice about getting my wife back
to work since she has worked from home previously.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
My wife is sick.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I'm already worried about her health. She's losing weight around
the six months and isn't eating well. My sister has
told me our mom had seven kids and my wife
is milking the pregnancy for attention. At this point, I
cut my sister off and stopped going to my parents'
house where she lives. A Few family members think I'm
the jerk for not helping my sister financially with a
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car that she couldn't afford.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
In the first place.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Heck half no fury like me scorned. This story starts
thirty one years ago, but the revenge part was pure
serendipity that began two years ago. I'm going to shorten
most parts because it's a crazy ride, but I'll be
happy to answer any questions.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Have I learned a ton on this journey, and part
of the reason for this write up is to share
that with others.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
The beginning in.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Nineteen ninety when I was just out of middle school
and my sister was still in elementary, my dad met
his third wife at the only gas station in our town.
They soon moved in together, and he abandoned us in
our old basement apartment to live in a shanty house
boat that didn't run.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
To live with her.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
He would show up every other week and give me
forty dollars for groceries. Eventually, someone figured out this situation
and called my mom. We went to live with her,
which was, believe it or not, worse. My dad and
his shanty wife got married in nineteen ninety one. Not
long after, she called me and told me that my
dad's brain tumor had returned. It hadn't, and that he
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couldn't handle the stress of being around us, that the
only people he could bear to be around were her
and her son, Shorty, who was my age.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
When I called my.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Dad to ask if this was true, he said it wasn't,
and he just couldn't believe that she would say that
to begin with. That was one of our last conversations
until two years ago. The middle, there's not much in
this part. I worked my way through college, living in
my car from time to time. My dad and I
were no contact, but I heard from family that he
had bought a house and put his son through some
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vocational classes. When my grandmother passed, Shorty and Chanty wife
showed up in a truck and took all the furniture
and anything else that wasn't tied down or already gone.
Eventually I went no contact with my dad's side of
the family. I struggled for years, decades really, but I
made it, and I have a great job and a
good family now. The best revenge is living well. Right
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the pre end warm up Two years ago, October of
twenty nineteen, I got a call from my dad's brother Alan.
He told me my dad was in a nursing home
and another state great, and I needed to go see
him because he needed my help. What the heck Shorty
had ghosted him. The nursing home coincidentally was about twenty
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minutes from my house, and I saw an opportunity and
I went. The reunion was underwhelming. I didn't want to
make amends, but I did want to hear how he
wound up dumped and all alone in another state. And
it was a really, really good story. Chanty wife had
got lung cancer and put my dad in a nursing
home before she passed in twenty seventeen. Shorty became his
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power of attorney when she passed, and had been visiting
my dad, living in my dad's house with his two
kids and taking care of my dad's affairs since his
mom passed. But now he was mia and my dad
was worried about him. He asked me to drive the
hour and a half to his house to check on everything.
That's all he wanted. He never even asked me how
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I had been. I agreed to go. I think out
of morbid curiosity. I had never even been to my
dad's house. I did want to see where he lived
with his real family for thirty years. I wanted to
see what could have been my life. It was fifty
shades of awfal The grass hadn't been cut all summer.
You couldn't get to the front door from the overgrowth.
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There were three pickup trucks in the yard. Two were
full of trash, cabs and beds and back seats just trash, mail, clothes, paper, shoes,
garbage bags.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I couldn't understand it.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
My dad's handicap modified suv was on four flats and
full of garbage too. I didn't have a key, so
I just walked around from what windows I could look through.
The inside was in shambles and hoarded to heck. On
the front and carport doors were dozens of notices from
the city that they were going to condemn the place.
The carport was also hoarded, boxes and boxes stacked on
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each other, most rotting from the rain. The yard was
full of garbage, broken Christmas ornaments, more shoes, rusted tools,
old toys. There was a letter in the mailbox notifying
him that since the house was abandoned, mail would not
be delivered anymore. That night, I googled powers of attorney
and how to use them. I went back the next
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day and showed my bound dad the pictures on my phone.
He vowed to beat Shorty up, then asked me to
help more. I told him I would, but he'd have
to sign power of attorney over to me, all of
it durable, financial and medical. If he didn't, he could
figure this stuff out by himself, he agreed, so I
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set about finding a lawyer who would drive to another
state and do the paperwork in the nursing home. Bless
that lawyer for being so good at his job, because
all I did was tell him what I knew, and
he put together beautifully bulletproof POA. It was full of
stuff I didn't even know I would need. He also
filed the paperwork to revoke Shorty's POA, and now I'm unstoppable.
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We're from a small rural town and it's the kind
of creepy, landlocked place that no matter how long you've
been gone or how far away you've been, when you
go back, you'll see someone you know, even if you
don't know you know them. It's like playing seven degrees
of everybody all the time. It's suffocating, but it can
also I'll be helpful. The beginning of the end. I
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got to work the next morning. I didn't know how
scorched the earth would be when I finished, and I
didn't want Shorty or anyone from his prolific, inbred family
trying to find me, so I made sure nothing I
did had my name on it. I opened a Google
account for my dad and got a Google number.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
I opened a.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
Po box for him in his town. I put in
a male forwarding notice. I pulled his credit report. I
took the POA to my dad's small town bank, changed
the address on his accounts, and got new account numbers.
I requested copies of every transaction back to the day's
shanty wife had passed about thirteen months worth. I had
to go to the main branch two hours for my
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house the next day to pick the records up. I
sat in the lobby all afternoon going through the account.
I cornered a service rep and got a crash course
in his debits and deposits. This is when I figured
out the extent of shorty staggering stupidity. My dad got
about five thousand a month in disability and Social security
every month. Twice a week, Shorty was going into a
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branch and withdrawing cash. All of the cash for thirteen months,
and every time he did it as the POA, he
had to sign a form stating that he was acting
on behalf of my dad, and that form was notorized
by the bank.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
I went through every.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Withdrawal and got the bank to confirm that every one
of them was made by Shorty. Then I went to
the house and called a locksmith. I knew it was bad,
but I had no idea what was waiting for me there.
He got the first door open and this dinch rolled
out like a fog bank. We both gagged two locks later.
I was so embarrassed by what he had to see
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and smell. I gave him a sixty dollar tip, and
with shiny new keys in hand, I called the cops.
I told them I was POA for my dad was
checking on his house and there were three vehicles there
that didn't belong to him. He asked me if I
knew who they belonged to. I said no, and I
wanted them toad. He told me to call a tow
company and he would meet them there. They showed up
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with two wreckers. The tow truck guy got out and
asked me for a signature. I only signed my first name.
As I was signing, he asked, do you know Shorty
running on pure hatred? At this point I surprised myself,
do you I asked? He said he did, and that
he's a jerk. I responded, he might be, Hey, can
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you do me a favor? If you see him, will
you tell him m n w NM is coming for him?
His bravado evaporated. He knows a crazy when he sees one.
They towed the trucks. When everyone was gone, I opened
the door in the carport to peek in. The sun
was going down and it was dark in the house.
I heard something faint, and after some seconds realized it
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was the roaches and the rats doing their roach and
rat stuff. I could smell it all in my hair.
I sat on the carpoard steps and watched the sun
go down. I was mad, just so cosmically livid that
seventy two hours was all it took to dissolve three decades,
and here I was stinking and listening to the rats
and cleaning everyone else's crap off, taking time away from
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my family, and for what I had it coming to
Jesus with myself. I could either bow out now or
double down and the thing is untenacious to a fault
I had to be to survive, and this was a
bone I couldn't put down. The thought of Shorty's life
being you pended, his only source of income probably disappearing
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literally overnight, and my dad having to hear secondhand from
me that he's broken alone made me absolutely giddy. I
desperately wanted them both to lose what they had left,
so I decided I was going to triple dog down
that night. I googled restraining orders and it was surprisingly
easy to get one. I went to the courthouse in
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my hometown, went to the clerk's office and told her
I needed a restraining order. I filled the form in
at a rickety little table while I was there. I
wasn't prepared to see a judge that day, but she
took the form and said, okay, i'll see if the
judge is still here. That kind of scared me. She
took me to his chambers, and as I was waiting,
I looked around and saw he had certificates of appreciation
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hanging up from various veterans groups. Then I wiped my
palms and thought fish in a barrel. He asked about
my dad's stint in the Marines and about the DoD
office logo on my sweater I'm a contractor. He read
my form and granted the temporary order. I would have
to go back for the permanent one, where Shorty would
be able to argue against it. Then I went home
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and googled biohazard companies and elder treatment statutes in my state.
I hired a biohazard company to shovel all the crap
out of the house for seven thousand dollars. I would
have paid double. They found my dad's mummified dog under
some pizza boxes in the master bedroom. They sent me
pictures and salvaged some papers. Shorty was served during this time,
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and a hearing was set. I got to work collecting
and documenting craft. I made pictures and spreadsheets and timelines
with cross references. Because now they had my full attention.
The paid virgins of truth Finder and Trello seriously got
me through all this. In my spare time, I went
to the nursing home and gave my dad eight by
ten copies of the pictures of his dead dog from
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every angle before court. I went to the police station
nearby and told them that I wanted to report an
elder mistreatment crime. A white collar detective came out and
told me it was a domestic matter and that since
shre he had been POA, everything he had done was legal.
And this was the day I got to teach a
small town detective about the fiduciary responsibilities of a POA.
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Thanks Google, I handed him a copy of the statute
with the applicable sections highlighted. Then I handed him a
thick folder with bank statements, pictures of the hoarded house
and the dead dog, a copy of my dad's credit
report that showed he was tens and tens of thousands
of dollars in dead and a spreadsheet listing every cash
withdrawal with a running total of the stolen amounts. The
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grand total was just over one hundred thirty dollars in cash.
That's not including the lost value of the house or
the credit cards.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
He opened and used.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
I told him he could keep that folder, since it
wasn't the only one I had. Then I told him
I would wait for a case number, and I sat down.
He came back about thirty minutes later and apologized, said
I had a case, and gave me a case number.
Then I headed over to the courthouse.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
This is the end.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
There were other people there and I had to wait
my turn. And while I was waiting, that stupid jerk
walked his sloppy self into the courtroom by himself and
obviously literally non metaphorically dirty. His shoes were untied, and
that turned my giggle box over. Then it was our
turn and we stood up. The same judge asked me
some questions, asked him some questions and asked me if
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I had any proof. I had a very thick folder
of it. The judge asked me if I had gone
to the police. Well, yes, sir, I have. Do you
have a case number? As a matter of fact, the
order was granted permanently and for life, but not before
the judge halted proceedings and told Shorty he needed a lawyer.
Someone told me that the courthouse would have a copy
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of my dad's d D two fourteen discharge papers. So
while I was there, I got a copy of those,
because why not. I also used my poa to take
shanty wife off the deed to the house. That way,
if my dad passed and it went into probate, Shorty
had no immediate claim. I also went and got copies
of my dad's birth certificate and Shanty's wife's death certificate. Technically,
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step kids can't request that kind of infall, but the
clerk who waited on me recognized my dad's name and
told me she had hooked up with my uncle Allan
in the sixties and went to my grandparents funeral, So
I got all the forms I wanted. Shanty wife left
my dad fifty thousand dollars in life insurance. About thirty
five thousand of that was left since Shorty was spending
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my dad's money and not his mom's, so I opened
an ally account and transferred every penny over. Then I
set up recurring transfers for the monthly deposits. At any
given time, there was no more than one hundred dollars
in his account. I also found a house flipper that
paid me enough for the house to pay off his mortgage.
That's the thing about probate, there's nothing to fight over
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if there's nothing there, and I made sure there was
nothing there. My dad passed thinking he still owned a house.
Speaking of which, this is about the time I found
my dad's life insurance policies. They were up to date
and Chanty wife was the beneficiary. My POA didn't allow
me to change beneficiaries, but it allowed me to assign them,
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and since Chanty Wife was gone, there was technically no beneficiary.
This is where the death certificates came in Handy I
assigned my sister and me as beneficiaries irrevocable too, which
means that the only way to change that is for
my dad and me and my sister to agree to it.
I kept my dad in the dark about all this.
The only thing he ever really knew about was the
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restraining order and his dog. I found out that he
had purchased the gravesite next to Shanty Wife and wanted
to be buried next to her. That was just never
going to happen. I googled national cemeteries and found out
he qualified to be in one since he was a
disabled Vietnam era veteran, so I arranged for that instead.
All the cherries on top. My dad passed in June
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this year and I was there. He's buried in a
national cemetery far away where no one will ever go
visit him. The only obituary I ran was on the
Funeral Holmes website, and that only for insurance purposes. I
wrote it as vague as possible. There was no service.
His urn is purple, the color he hated most. I
got a call in August from the prosecutor's office in
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my hometown. The lady on the other end is married
to my first cousin, because of.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Course she is. That's how it works there.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Shorty was arrested just after midnight on July first. Was
still in jail and had been arraigned on felony elder
mistreatment charges. He's facing ten years in fp MI TA
prison now. She told me not to expect the trial
anytime soon, as it can take up to three years
for that to happen. I told her that was awesome,
since the uncertainty will hopefully haunt him, and after all that,
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he's still got prison to look forward to. He lost
his kids, he lost his dad. I'm spending his mom's money.
He lost his free house and trucks. He has no
credit and will never be able to get any sort
of decent job and will hopefully for a long time,
not be able to find a decent place to laugh.
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that one
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories. Our first story we'll
be reading today. Rich Karen goes bankrupt from crypto and
expects sympathy from me? After that, am I the jerk
for siding with my sister's ex regarding her past? And
after that, am I the jerk for wanting my daughter
to meet my girlfriend despite being an absent father. Now
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for every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen goes bankrupt.
Never gonna happen to me, Reddit boy, I keep everything
in cold storage, not your keys, not your crypto. So
please smash that like button and subscribe and turn on
notifications for new stories from Reddit every single day. Rich
Karen goes bankrupt from crypto and expects sympathy from me.
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I thirty mail come from a very poor family, but
my wife is from a very rich one. She started
off the marriage with a net worth of thirty one
million dollars, and I started it off with three hundred
thousand dollars in student dead When we got married, she
made me get a prenup that separated her inheritance and
got rid of my right to an elective share to
it if she dies. In other words, I renounced my
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spousal right to a third of her separate property if
she dies, making her sole beneficiaries her siblings or potential kids.
My debt and our incomes were also separated. We both
got lawyers. Hers was much more expensive than mine and
notarized the pre nuph None of this was a problem
for me as a man. I'm determined to pull myself
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up by the bootstraps, not rely on my wife's wealth
for anything. The only beneficial part of the prenup for
me was that our incomes were also now separate, and
I earned a somewhat higher income than her, and so
I was okay with it overall. Five years later, I
still don't have a seventh of her current wealth. But
her investments haven't been doing great this year either. As
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a sole crypto investor, things have been going really poorly
for her. I had warned her not to do this,
but she invests in a cryptocurrency called Manero, which is
down forty seven percent this year. About five percent of
her money was not in her wallet and was in
the FTX exchange itself, which she lost after FTX went bankrupt. Recently,
she now has a net worth of around eighteen million dollars.
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I don't invest in crypto, but rather in index funds.
They've taken a hit this year as well, but based
on historical performance, they should go back up eventually. No
such guarantee for crypto, and certainly not for Monaro. I
come home to her crying the other day after she
found out that FTX went bankrupt. I told her that's rough,
not in a sarcastic way, and I went upstairs to change.
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When I got back downstairs, she started going off on
me and complaining, talking about how nonchalant I was about
her losing money. I pointed out that she's still extraordinarily
rich in spite of her poor choices, and that she
could stop investing in crypto at any time if she
wanted to. Besides, she was the one that wanted to
separate everything, So why does she want to make it
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my problem all of a sudden?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Am I the jerk?
Speaker 1 (03:00):
And understand why having separate finances would stop you from
being able to comfort her. If my partner said they
dropped twenty dollars down a drain pipe, I'd have more
sympathy for him than you showed your wife who lost
a considerable amount of money. I get she has more,
but it still sucks. And I don't see why you
couldn't sympathize with her. She didn't ask you for money
or ask you to solve her problems. She just asked
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you to care that your wife is having problems.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
The whole backstory doesn't matter. You agreed to it. You
say yourself you felt fine with having separate finances, so
it's unrelated. And what you're actually asking is am I
the jerk for not listening to or supporting my wife
when she was upset, unless, of course, you're holding a
grudge over the finances. Are kind of happy to see
her fail, but I would think she married you for support,
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love and friendship since it wasn't for money. You aren't
providing that her financial choices weren't smart. But many of
us middle class folks lose money and still get love
and support. And if you're feeling earned by the pre nup,
I think you signed on for that. As one sided
as it is, you're the jerk.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I'm genuinely baffled by these posts on here that are
like the person who's supposed to be my partner was
going through something upsetting and I was casually cruel about it,
And now they're upset, And why is this my problem?
It's your problem because she's your wife expecting some kind
of empathy from you. Note that she wasn't even asking
you to somehow cover the losses, just to not be
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a total jerk about the fact that she's lost money.
Isn't a wildly unreasonable expectation from a spouse.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Not the jerk. Let's reverse the roles.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Rich Man worth thirty one million dollars, Mary's a woman
with three hundred thousand dollars in debt, makes her get
a pre nup that prevents her from getting anything when
he passes on. Man invests way too much into a
high risk investment. Man loses everything and cries to his
wife about it. Is Reddit really going to tell her
she's wrong, to tell him that's rough and walk away.
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Heck no, Reddit is going to tell her it's his
fault he lost everything and that she needs to leave him.
The hypocrisy on this site never ceases to amaze me. Normally,
I don't engage with idiots who feel the need to
say things like, but what if the roles were reversed.
But since I'm a woman who's been in a similar
situation to the wife in this story, allow me to
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set you straight very quickly. The reason we on Reddit
judge thep differently based on whether they're a male or
a female is because after the literal thousands of years
of you guys treating us like dirt, it's time for payback,
like long overdue.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Many won't admit.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
This, but the truth is, you guys deserve to be
judged differently than we do because it adds a little
slice of fairness to the world. Don't like it, grow
up and deal with it. Blame your ancestors for treating
us like second class citizens for the last like ten
thousand years. Oh but we were fighting wars, hunting for food,
and building crap. Yeah, sure you were, while we were
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the ones doing the real work of raising kids, which
even to this day you're still on a to do.
Why do you think courts give custody to the mothers
ninety percent of the time because we're the ones who
are actually fit to be parents. Why do you think
we get alimony because we deserve it and you don't.
So next, time you even think about leaving a what
if the roles were reversed comment? I want you to
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remember what I said and ask yourself, what if the
reason we get judged differently is because we deserve to
be which you do. It's twenty twenty two. If you're
a dude, then let's face it, there's a ninety percent
chance you're not worth anyone's time. Well don't you sound
like a happy, pleasant person to be around? Well, who
do you think is the jerk opie or his wife?
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Please let us know that's one of the reasons. I'm
glad you're broke. Credit boy, you don't have money to
do stupid things with them?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Lose it?
Speaker 1 (06:46):
Am I the jerk for siding with my sister's ex
regarding her past. As a kid, I always looked up
to my older sister because she was so cool, pretty
and the popular girl. I always try to be like her,
dressed like her, listen to her music.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
You get the idea.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I was popular the first time I stepped through the
high school door because I was basically a copy of her.
I was overwhelmed by the attention, but quickly found out
she was mostly popular with only the guys. She dated
many of the guys in our high school, and they
thought that I would too.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
I was so embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I had our mom take me out to buy new
clothes and everything. Whatever she did, I went the opposite way.
She wore tons of makeup, I wore none. She listened
to a certain type of music.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
We went to different colleges. Fast forward to now. Sis
must have figured out her lifestyle wasn't healthy, so she
stopped dating a bunch of guys, deleted all of those apps,
and met Sam. He's very good looking, with a great
personality and an amazing job. He was smart, funny, outgoing,
and can own the entire room when he walks in.
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He grew up in a different city, so his family
doesn't live here, but we've met and they're amazing, just
like him. Sam quickly replaced us as mom's favorite kid
and became our dad's best friend. He eventually proposed, and
everyone was over the moon. I was very happy for
my sister. Last week, she came to my door looking
like a complete wreck. She was crying so hard she
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couldn't talk. After an hour or so, I calmed her
down enough to get the story. Apparently they were at
a party and were mingling separately when he overheard some
of the guys talking about her popularity. Sam joined the
group and got her dating history. Two of the guys
in that group dated her, and about four other guys
at the party dated her too, one of whom works
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with him, which is.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Why they were there.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
He heard about the guys laughing about how all of
the men in town were depressed when she went away
to college but rejoiced when she came back. When they
got home, he asked her. She told him the truth
and he left without saying a word. I helped my
sister and she's been staying with me for now. She
hasn't told anyone and has been trying to get in
touch with Sam and his family, but they're all ignoring her.
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Everyone on our side is super confused because as Sam
just disappeared, our cousin my best friend, pinned me down
the other day to ask what had happened. I told
her and she was appalled. She called him all sorts
of names and insecure. I said, I can understand from
his view, as we live in a small town and
it's hard to know many men and your coworkers know
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your future wife, then my cousin and I got into it.
She said I should be supporting my sister no matter what.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I argued.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
I am supporting her, but supporting doesn't mean I have
to agree with her. Now I might lose my best friend. Edit.
We're all in our thirties, graduated college and living on
our own. You're the jerk, and so is your sister's ex.
She deserves better, right, Sam is not that great of
a guy. Apparently hard. You're the jerk. You sound pretty
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smug and judgmental. You're the jerk from a male point
of view. Neither of all those guys had the quality
to keep her. Every one of them happily took advantage
of her. But he now acts like she's to be
an outcast or blamed. What a bunch of worms. Sam
had lots of good qualities, But because he found out
that she had a life before him, what a surprise.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He leaves without a word.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
You defend him and put all the blame on your
sister for him leaving without a word.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Unpopular opinion, but not the jerk. Sam has held values
throughout his life that he thought his fiance had shared
throughout hers once he found out that she didn't, that
her past had been kept secret from him, that he's
been working with a guy who had her long before
he did, and that he's now the laughing stock of
the town for being with her. He has every right
to no longer want to stay in this relationship. If
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you find out the person you're about to marry has
actually lived a life that you never would have approved of,
and that they've been hiding their past from you, you
have every right to call things off. It's unfortunate how
programmed you all are to be non judgmental, as you
call it. It has resulted in a generation of fools
who think their action should never have consequences. To break
it to you, but they do. I'm just glad Sam
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found out the truth before he actually married her. There
are women out there who have the same values he does,
and they're the ones who will deserve a man like him. Well,
what do you think, as though, be the jerk or not?
Please let us know that's the good thing about being
with someone as ugly as Reddit Boy. Their past dating
history is basically non existent. Am I the jerk for
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wanting my daughter to meet my girlfriend? Despite being an
absent father. I twenty nine male, had a kid with
my ex wife, thirty two female, ten years ago, my daughter,
and there's no real way to sugarcoat this, but as
soon as she was born, I left and I never
ended up seeing her in the hospital as a baby.
Was never really present in her life at any point,
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but ended up getting a divorce eleven months later, with
her getting full custody. Of course, I married young, was
really stupid and thought I'd end up being a good
dad despite no skills, but got scared that I'd turn
out like my dad and chickened out. Not really an excuse,
but an explanation.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I guess.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I pay child support for the first three years, but
stopped afterwards. I've been speaking with the girl's mother about
reconnecting with her, but she thinks it's best that I
stay out of their lives majorly. But I think making
amends is always possible, so I'm not sure. I just
really want to make things right, but I will respect
their decision. I've seen her a few times, but her
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mother has always introduced me as a friend. She says
she will tell her when she's ready. I've been dating
a girl who's twenty eight for about ten months, and
I really like her. I think I could definitely see
a life for us, and I know that sounds weird,
but she's also said the same. I was also speaking
to my daughter's mother about meeting this girl, but she
says absolutely not and that that's a bad idea. But
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if I want to reintroduce her into my life, isn't
it fair that she gets to see my life too?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Am I the jerk for this?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Her mother says it's a very bad idea, So it's
making me think I am. But I just generally cannot
see why. Obviously I care for this girl, and I
will care for her life too, but a relationship has
to be two sighted, and I don't think it's out
of the question to show her.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
My life too.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
You're the jerk for a few reasons. You pay child
support for the first three years, but you stopped afterwards.
Why isn't it fair that you get to introduce her
into your life, Not if she doesn't even know that
you're her father, and not if you are not behaving
as her father. Quit being a selfish jerk and leave
her alone. You can't even support her financially. But I
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want to talk about fairness. Sounds like op ohs seven
years worth of child support before he gets any say
after that, it's still going to be along prove it
that he's serious about being in the kid's life.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Eight to nine years of child support. He didn't make
it the whole first year, and I doubt he actually
knows how old his kid really is since he can't
even pay child support.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Right, we have two data points here.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
One this guy is completely disinterested in this kid, and two,
this guy is aware that this reflects really, really poorly
on him.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
The obvious conclusion.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Is that his only motivation here is to con this
new girl into thinking he's a half way decent person,
or at least not someone who will do to her
and her potential baby what he did to his ex
in hers. The fact that he's clearly only interested in
the kid as a human prop to deceive his girlfriend
and doesn't register the emotional harm that this would do
to his kid pretty solidly indicates that he likely would
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do it again.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You are not her father, You're just the donor. You
paid support for three years, which means for seven years
the mother has been alone even financially. You don't get
to just walk back in because you have a girlfriend
you think you might be with forever. This kid is
a human being whose life and feelings matter more than
you and your selfish desires for making amends.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Try therapy to.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Deal with your daddy issues before marriage and having kids
with this new woman. My care and sister demands I
pay off her BMW. About a year ago, my sister
G who's twenty three, bought a BMW she couldn't afford.
She also had a bad habit of getting expensive items
for TikTok and Instagram posts. I lucked out on hitting
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the jackpot with my wife and job. My wife typically
makes a lot more money than I do, but she's
currently on bed rest with a difficult pregnancy. It has
been almost two months it will last the rest of
the pregnancy. She is inherited a plastic anemia. While we
have some savings, we live within our means with two
paid off cars and a nice two bedroom house. My dad,
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who speaks English has a second language, calls me upset
that someone is trying to steal my sister's car. It
was being repossessed for non payment. I called my sister
and asked what was going on. She first said she
was one month behind, then admitted she was three months behind.
She said she would have the money next week. She
never called the car dealership to follow up, and the
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car was sold, sticking my sister with the remaining Now,
she doesn't have a car and is driving my dad's
older Jeep. I have offered my car for her to use,
but it's a Toyota and she rejected it. She's been
harassing both of my parents because she says I could
have lent her the money, and my wife is.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Lazy about her pregnancy.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
Now I'm getting unwanted advice about getting my wife back
to work since she has worked from home previously.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
My wife is sick.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I'm already worried about her health. She's losing weight around
the six months and isn't eating well. My sister has
told me our mom had seven kids and my wife
is milking the pregnancy for attention. At this point, I
cut my sister off and stopped going to my parents'
house where she lives. A Few family members think I'm
the jerk for not helping my sister financially with a
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car that she couldn't afford.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
In the first place.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Heck half no fury like me scorned. This story starts
thirty one years ago, but the revenge part was pure
serendipity that began two years ago. I'm going to shorten
most parts because it's a crazy ride, but I'll be
happy to answer any questions.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Y'all.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
Have I learned a ton on this journey, and part
of the reason for this write up is to share
that with others.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
The beginning in.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Nineteen ninety when I was just out of middle school
and my sister was still in elementary, my dad met
his third wife at the only gas station in our town.
They soon moved in together, and he abandoned us in
our old basement apartment to live in a shanty house
boat that didn't run.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
To live with her.
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He would show up every other week and give me
forty dollars for groceries. Eventually, someone figured out this situation
and called my mom. We went to live with her,
which was, believe it or not, worse. My dad and
his shanty wife got married in nineteen ninety one. Not
long after, she called me and told me that my
dad's brain tumor had returned. It hadn't, and that he
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couldn't handle the stress of being around us, that the
only people he could bear to be around were her
and her son, Shorty, who was my age.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
When I called my.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Dad to ask if this was true, he said it wasn't,
and he just couldn't believe that she would say that
to begin with. That was one of our last conversations
until two years ago. The middle, there's not much in
this part. I worked my way through college, living in
my car from time to time. My dad and I
were no contact, but I heard from family that he
had bought a house and put his son through some
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vocational classes. When my grandmother passed, Shorty and Chanty wife
showed up in a truck and took all the furniture
and anything else that wasn't tied down or already gone.
Eventually I went no contact with my dad's side of
the family. I struggled for years, decades really, but I
made it, and I have a great job and a
good family now. The best revenge is living well. Right
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the pre end warm up Two years ago, October of
twenty nineteen, I got a call from my dad's brother Alan.
He told me my dad was in a nursing home
and another state great, and I needed to go see
him because he needed my help. What the heck Shorty
had ghosted him. The nursing home coincidentally was about twenty
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minutes from my house, and I saw an opportunity and
I went. The reunion was underwhelming. I didn't want to
make amends, but I did want to hear how he
wound up dumped and all alone in another state. And
it was a really, really good story. Chanty wife had
got lung cancer and put my dad in a nursing
home before she passed in twenty seventeen. Shorty became his
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power of attorney when she passed, and had been visiting
my dad, living in my dad's house with his two
kids and taking care of my dad's affairs since his
mom passed. But now he was mia and my dad
was worried about him. He asked me to drive the
hour and a half to his house to check on everything.
That's all he wanted. He never even asked me how
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I had been. I agreed to go. I think out
of morbid curiosity. I had never even been to my
dad's house. I did want to see where he lived
with his real family for thirty years. I wanted to
see what could have been my life. It was fifty
shades of awfal The grass hadn't been cut all summer.
You couldn't get to the front door from the overgrowth.
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There were three pickup trucks in the yard. Two were
full of trash, cabs and beds and back seats just trash, mail, clothes, paper, shoes,
garbage bags.
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I couldn't understand it.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
My dad's handicap modified suv was on four flats and
full of garbage too. I didn't have a key, so
I just walked around from what windows I could look through.
The inside was in shambles and hoarded to heck. On
the front and carport doors were dozens of notices from
the city that they were going to condemn the place.
The carport was also hoarded, boxes and boxes stacked on
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each other, most rotting from the rain. The yard was
full of garbage, broken Christmas ornaments, more shoes, rusted tools,
old toys. There was a letter in the mailbox notifying
him that since the house was abandoned, mail would not
be delivered anymore. That night, I googled powers of attorney
and how to use them. I went back the next
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day and showed my bound dad the pictures on my phone.
He vowed to beat Shorty up, then asked me to
help more. I told him I would, but he'd have
to sign power of attorney over to me, all of
it durable, financial and medical. If he didn't, he could
figure this stuff out by himself, he agreed, so I
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set about finding a lawyer who would drive to another
state and do the paperwork in the nursing home. Bless
that lawyer for being so good at his job, because
all I did was tell him what I knew, and
he put together beautifully bulletproof POA. It was full of
stuff I didn't even know I would need. He also
filed the paperwork to revoke Shorty's POA, and now I'm unstoppable.
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We're from a small rural town and it's the kind
of creepy, landlocked place that no matter how long you've
been gone or how far away you've been, when you
go back, you'll see someone you know, even if you
don't know you know them. It's like playing seven degrees
of everybody all the time. It's suffocating, but it can
also I'll be helpful. The beginning of the end. I
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got to work the next morning. I didn't know how
scorched the earth would be when I finished, and I
didn't want Shorty or anyone from his prolific, inbred family
trying to find me, so I made sure nothing I
did had my name on it. I opened a Google
account for my dad and got a Google number.
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I opened a.
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Po box for him in his town. I put in
a male forwarding notice. I pulled his credit report. I
took the POA to my dad's small town bank, changed
the address on his accounts, and got new account numbers.
I requested copies of every transaction back to the day's
shanty wife had passed about thirteen months worth. I had
to go to the main branch two hours for my
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house the next day to pick the records up. I
sat in the lobby all afternoon going through the account.
I cornered a service rep and got a crash course
in his debits and deposits. This is when I figured
out the extent of shorty staggering stupidity. My dad got
about five thousand a month in disability and Social security
every month. Twice a week, Shorty was going into a
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branch and withdrawing cash. All of the cash for thirteen months,
and every time he did it as the POA, he
had to sign a form stating that he was acting
on behalf of my dad, and that form was notorized
by the bank.
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I went through every.
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Withdrawal and got the bank to confirm that every one
of them was made by Shorty. Then I went to
the house and called a locksmith. I knew it was bad,
but I had no idea what was waiting for me there.
He got the first door open and this dinch rolled
out like a fog bank. We both gagged two locks later.
I was so embarrassed by what he had to see
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and smell. I gave him a sixty dollar tip, and
with shiny new keys in hand, I called the cops.
I told them I was POA for my dad was
checking on his house and there were three vehicles there
that didn't belong to him. He asked me if I
knew who they belonged to. I said no, and I
wanted them toad. He told me to call a tow
company and he would meet them there. They showed up
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with two wreckers. The tow truck guy got out and
asked me for a signature. I only signed my first name.
As I was signing, he asked, do you know Shorty
running on pure hatred? At this point I surprised myself,
do you I asked? He said he did, and that
he's a jerk. I responded, he might be, Hey, can
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you do me a favor? If you see him, will
you tell him m n w NM is coming for him?
His bravado evaporated. He knows a crazy when he sees one.
They towed the trucks. When everyone was gone, I opened
the door in the carport to peek in. The sun
was going down and it was dark in the house.
I heard something faint, and after some seconds realized it
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was the roaches and the rats doing their roach and
rat stuff. I could smell it all in my hair.
I sat on the carpoard steps and watched the sun
go down. I was mad, just so cosmically livid that
seventy two hours was all it took to dissolve three decades,
and here I was stinking and listening to the rats
and cleaning everyone else's crap off, taking time away from
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my family, and for what I had it coming to
Jesus with myself. I could either bow out now or
double down and the thing is untenacious to a fault
I had to be to survive, and this was a
bone I couldn't put down. The thought of Shorty's life
being you pended, his only source of income probably disappearing
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literally overnight, and my dad having to hear secondhand from
me that he's broken alone made me absolutely giddy. I
desperately wanted them both to lose what they had left,
so I decided I was going to triple dog down
that night. I googled restraining orders and it was surprisingly
easy to get one. I went to the courthouse in
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my hometown, went to the clerk's office and told her
I needed a restraining order. I filled the form in
at a rickety little table while I was there. I
wasn't prepared to see a judge that day, but she
took the form and said, okay, i'll see if the
judge is still here. That kind of scared me. She
took me to his chambers, and as I was waiting,
I looked around and saw he had certificates of appreciation
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hanging up from various veterans groups. Then I wiped my
palms and thought fish in a barrel. He asked about
my dad's stint in the Marines and about the DoD
office logo on my sweater I'm a contractor. He read
my form and granted the temporary order. I would have
to go back for the permanent one, where Shorty would
be able to argue against it. Then I went home
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and googled biohazard companies and elder treatment statutes in my state.
I hired a biohazard company to shovel all the crap
out of the house for seven thousand dollars. I would
have paid double. They found my dad's mummified dog under
some pizza boxes in the master bedroom. They sent me
pictures and salvaged some papers. Shorty was served during this time,
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and a hearing was set. I got to work collecting
and documenting craft. I made pictures and spreadsheets and timelines
with cross references. Because now they had my full attention.
The paid virgins of truth Finder and Trello seriously got
me through all this. In my spare time, I went
to the nursing home and gave my dad eight by
ten copies of the pictures of his dead dog from
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every angle before court. I went to the police station
nearby and told them that I wanted to report an
elder mistreatment crime. A white collar detective came out and
told me it was a domestic matter and that since
shre he had been POA, everything he had done was legal.
And this was the day I got to teach a
small town detective about the fiduciary responsibilities of a POA.
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Thanks Google, I handed him a copy of the statute
with the applicable sections highlighted. Then I handed him a
thick folder with bank statements, pictures of the hoarded house
and the dead dog, a copy of my dad's credit
report that showed he was tens and tens of thousands
of dollars in dead and a spreadsheet listing every cash
withdrawal with a running total of the stolen amounts. The
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grand total was just over one hundred thirty dollars in cash.
That's not including the lost value of the house or
the credit cards.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
He opened and used.
Speaker 1 (28:04):
I told him he could keep that folder, since it
wasn't the only one I had. Then I told him
I would wait for a case number, and I sat down.
He came back about thirty minutes later and apologized, said
I had a case, and gave me a case number.
Then I headed over to the courthouse.
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This is the end.
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There were other people there and I had to wait
my turn. And while I was waiting, that stupid jerk
walked his sloppy self into the courtroom by himself and
obviously literally non metaphorically dirty. His shoes were untied, and
that turned my giggle box over. Then it was our
turn and we stood up. The same judge asked me
some questions, asked him some questions and asked me if
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I had any proof. I had a very thick folder
of it. The judge asked me if I had gone
to the police. Well, yes, sir, I have. Do you
have a case number? As a matter of fact, the
order was granted permanently and for life, but not before
the judge halted proceedings and told Shorty he needed a lawyer.
Someone told me that the courthouse would have a copy
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of my dad's d D two fourteen discharge papers. So
while I was there, I got a copy of those,
because why not. I also used my poa to take
shanty wife off the deed to the house. That way,
if my dad passed and it went into probate, Shorty
had no immediate claim. I also went and got copies
of my dad's birth certificate and Shanty's wife's death certificate. Technically,
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step kids can't request that kind of infall, but the
clerk who waited on me recognized my dad's name and
told me she had hooked up with my uncle Allan
in the sixties and went to my grandparents funeral, So
I got all the forms I wanted. Shanty wife left
my dad fifty thousand dollars in life insurance. About thirty
five thousand of that was left since Shorty was spending
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my dad's money and not his mom's, so I opened
an ally account and transferred every penny over. Then I
set up recurring transfers for the monthly deposits. At any
given time, there was no more than one hundred dollars
in his account. I also found a house flipper that
paid me enough for the house to pay off his mortgage.
That's the thing about probate, there's nothing to fight over
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if there's nothing there, and I made sure there was
nothing there. My dad passed thinking he still owned a house.
Speaking of which, this is about the time I found
my dad's life insurance policies. They were up to date
and Chanty wife was the beneficiary. My POA didn't allow
me to change beneficiaries, but it allowed me to assign them,
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and since Chanty Wife was gone, there was technically no beneficiary.
This is where the death certificates came in Handy I
assigned my sister and me as beneficiaries irrevocable too, which
means that the only way to change that is for
my dad and me and my sister to agree to it.
I kept my dad in the dark about all this.
The only thing he ever really knew about was the
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restraining order and his dog. I found out that he
had purchased the gravesite next to Shanty Wife and wanted
to be buried next to her. That was just never
going to happen. I googled national cemeteries and found out
he qualified to be in one since he was a
disabled Vietnam era veteran, so I arranged for that instead.
All the cherries on top. My dad passed in June
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this year and I was there. He's buried in a
national cemetery far away where no one will ever go
visit him. The only obituary I ran was on the
Funeral Holmes website, and that only for insurance purposes. I
wrote it as vague as possible. There was no service.
His urn is purple, the color he hated most. I
got a call in August from the prosecutor's office in
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my hometown. The lady on the other end is married
to my first cousin, because of.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Course she is. That's how it works there.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Shorty was arrested just after midnight on July first. Was
still in jail and had been arraigned on felony elder
mistreatment charges. He's facing ten years in fp MI TA
prison now. She told me not to expect the trial
anytime soon, as it can take up to three years
for that to happen. I told her that was awesome,
since the uncertainty will hopefully haunt him, and after all that,
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he's still got prison to look forward to. He lost
his kids, he lost his dad. I'm spending his mom's money.
He lost his free house and trucks. He has no
credit and will never be able to get any sort
of decent job and will hopefully for a long time,
not be able to find a decent place to laugh.
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