July 23, 2025 • 32 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Our first story we'll be reading today.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Karen, mother in law demands to buy us a house
that we don't even want. After that, my daughter wants
me to pay for her expensive college tuition for a
career that doesn't even pay anything. And after that, am
I the jerk for letting my mother have a copy
of the key to our new house despite my wife's objection. Now,
for every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen does
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not get to buy anyone a house that they don't want.
Tell it to buy it for me instead. I really
need somewhere I can go to to get away from
Reddit boy every now and then. So please smash that
light button and subscribe and turn on notifications for new
stories from Reddit every single day. Karen, mother in law
demands to buy.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Us a house that we don't even want.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I'm awake at four am and I can't sleep because
of the situation, so I thought I would bring it here.
My husband's parents moved down south a few years ago
because of how expensive it is here, and so they
can be cool to his grandparents, who also moved down there.
We visit every few months and it's a long drive,
but everything has been fine. I'm seven months pregnant with
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our first baby, a girl. Ever since we told his parents,
they've been making comments when we talk to them about
the distance and not seeing their grand baby much. I
just ignore them because it was their choice to move,
so nothing I can do about that. Last week, his
mom asked to FaceTime with us because she has something
exciting to tell us. A house in their neighborhood is
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up for sale. His parents said, as a Christmas gift
this year, they're giving us the money for the down
payment on the house so that we can, in his
mom's words, move out of our horrible state and little apartment.
We both didn't know what to say. We've never had
any plans to move to another state, never even implied
that it was something we would consider. My entire family,
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including my parents and everyone I've ever known, is here.
Our jobs are here, and I'm sorry, but I'm not
moving my daughter to a state like theirs. Just not happening.
We told her on the call, thanks and we appreciate
the offer, but we have no intentions on moving and
we love it even in our tiny apartment she hung up,
and it has become a thing. She's blasting us on
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Facebook for being ungrateful and raising our daughter in a
crime ridden city. It's not all her friends are backing
her up in the comments about how I'll be a
terrible mother, and she's offering us a house and a
home for our baby. She thinks that because her offer
is so generous, we are jerks to decline. All this
is making me feel really guilty. My husband says, to
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ignore her, but this is stressing me out, and here
I am at four am, stressing and feeling like a
bad mother before my daughter is even born.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You will literally hate living somewhere away from your friends
and family and in close proximity to intrusive in laws.
You know that if you take the offer, they will
feel untitled to just walk in or have a voice
in what you do with the house, as they gave
you the deposit. Her assumption that she can just move
you out says a lot, But the fact that she's
blasting you on social media for not doing what she
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wants tells you everything that you need to know. You
have nothing to feel guilty about. She thinks because she
wants to see your baby. She has the right to
demand you uproot to where she decided to move to
and castigate you when you refuse. How to build a
great relationship with your new grandchild.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Not not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
My daughter wants me to pay for her expensive college
tuition for a career that doesn't even pay anything. I'm
forty nine mail and I have two kids, Jake, who's
twenty three, and Nikki, who's seventeen. Their mother and I
are divorced. I have full custody and she sends no support.
Both of my kids are good kids and good students
with good grades. Jake got into his dream school, but
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didn't get any scholarships. His undergrad school is one of
the best schools in our part of the country, and
it's expensive. I didn't want him to take out loans
and have to carry dead, so I'm paying for his
tuition and living expenses.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
The total cost is roughly fifty dollars a year.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
He's following in our family tradition and is pursuing a
career in dentistry. I'm not a dentist, but we have
about a dozen dentists and oral surgeons in our family.
I will also be paying for his dentistry degree. While
I know it will be costly, I view this as
a good investment, as he'll have a starting salary of
about one hundred and twenty thousand dollars as a dentist
in our area. If he decides to become an oral surgeon,
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his starting salary will almost double that figure. Nicky is
a senior in high school.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Like her brother.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
She's a good student and will have a good chance
of getting into her dream school, but she has a
low chance of getting any scholarships. Her dream school is
also a very good one, located in the middle of
a very expensive city. Tuition and living expenses will be
roughly seventy five thousand dollars a year. The problem is
that she's dreamt of being a teacher since she was little,
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and she's made it clear that she will be an
education major because she wants to be a middle school teacher.
The other problem is that the salary for middle school
teachers in our area is forty eight thousand to sixty
thousand dollars a year. I fully realize that she can
move and work elsewhere, but I can't imagine there are
many middle school teachers in the US making six figures.
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I don't view paying three hundred thousand dollars plus for
a career that tops out at sixty thousand dollars a
year as a wise investment. I told my daughter that
the state school that's two hours away has a good
education program, and her in state tuition and living expenses
will only be about twenty thousand dollars a year. I
view paying eighty thousand dollars for a teaching degree as
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a much better investment. I've tried discussing the matter with Nikki,
but she gets distraught every time I've brought it up.
She cries and accuses me of favoring Jake and being
a jerk, which is not true. I told her, if
she picks a major with a one hundred thousand dollars
starting salary, I'll gladly pay for her to go to
her dream school. But there's no way I'm paying three
hundred thousand dollars for her to be a teacher. Now
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she's got family members involved. Some are staying out of it,
some agree with me, and some are telling me not
to play favorites. I feel terrible, so I'm beginning to
doubt myself. Am I wrong edit to answer a few
recurring questions. I thought it made it clear, but apparently
I didn't. I'm not limiting Nicky's education to twenty thousand
dollars a year. I told her that's the max I'm
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willing to pay for her education degree. I'm more than
happy to pay seventy five thousand a year if she
picks another degree that will have a better return. For
a while, she thought about being a doctor and fell
in love with England. We have family there, so I
even offer to pay for her to go to Oxford,
which will be double the cost of her brother's tuition.
But she's adamant about being a middle school teacher, and
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I'm unwilling to spend three hundred thousand dollars that I
worked hard for on.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
An education degree. You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
This whole post reeks of favoritism. I hope the dentist
switches to an art major halfway through. The fact that
Op made this post and hasn't considered himself a jerk
is completely alien to me. I wouldn't like him to
be my dad, that's for sure. You're the jerk. To
be fair, you should at least pay what you're paying
for your son's education and let her take out student
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loans for the rest.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
You are clearly favoriting your son here. He's following the
family traditions, and you're happy to take on a load
of debt for him, But you won't do the same
for your daughter because her career choice is a problem.
You only take on debt for your kid if they
do the careers you want them to do. Go back
to your daughter before you lose her. He doesn't say
he's taking on debt at all. He's considering return on investment,
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as everyone who's going to college should. The return on
investment should be your kid's happiness. You should feel really
bad you're paying fully for the kid who will make
enough to easily pay off some loans with a great profession,
and not for your daughter who wants to be a teacher,
which is incredibly noble and needed in this country. To
burden her with loans that she will take forever to
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repay because she will make crap, because we treat teachers
like crap. And guess what, apparently so do you you're
the jerk? Well, what do you think is op the
jerk or not. Please let us know. Never ask a
bunch of people on Reddit for financial advice unless you're
in the right subreddit. There are a few subs with
people who are actually financially literate. Am I the jerk
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for letting my mother have a copy of the key
to our new house despite my wife's objection? I thirty
four mail recently bought a one story house. Note that
it was purchased solely by me. My wife did not
help save for it. I started saving for it before
I even met her, and it's in my name. When
my parents threw us a party for this happy occasion,
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Mom asked for a copy of the key in case
of an emergency. I let her have it, which made
my wife upset. She didn't say anything at the time,
but she waited till we were alone, and she started
arguing with me, saying that I shouldn't have let my mother.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Have a copy of the key.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I said why since my mother is known to respect
our privacy and is a very trusted member of the family.
She said that she does not feel comfortable with the
idea of someone else who's not a resident having a
copy of the key. She also brought up how my
mother didn't pay a penny towards the house, so this
should disqualify her from getting the key. I said it
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wasn't a big deal, but she kept persisting, saying that
I needed to take the key back. Quite frankly, this
had me fuming. I pointed out that I'm the one
who bought the house, and it's my decision to decide
who gets to have a copy of the key.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
End of story.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
She screamed at me, saying that technically she did contribute
towards the house savings back when she used to pay
for our rent and daily expenses while I saved money.
I told her that she was acting as if I
put my mom's name on the title, which is ridiculous,
but she said that I have no respect for her
opinions and keep undermining her input. We've been going back
and forth on it since then. She's now letting me
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know that if I don't take the key back, then
she'll do it herself. I think she's being irrational and
unreasonable acting like that over a copy of the house key.
This decision I made could save us one day in
case of an emergency, but she kept down playing it.
Et I think it's crucial to mention that there's no
conflict between my mother and my wife.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
They're near perfect terms, all right.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I thought that I've already established that above. You're the jerk,
and that is why you can't trust no one when
it comes to money. You played your wife. You probably
told her that you would save for a shared home,
and that's why she should support you and pay your
share of the rent. Now, she didn't contribute a penny
to your house. Your house, she gets no say, but
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your mom does.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
I'm a bit confused as to how op can admit
that the wife paid rent while he put his savings
towards the house, and then go back and say the
wife didn't contribute. There's a lot of unanswered questions here.
Does he really not understand that if she wasn't paying
the entirety of the rent, then he would not have
been able to save as much? How long was she
paying rent and how much did she have in savings
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before she started doing that? What was the actual agreement there?
And on that note, why is the wife not making
a bigger deal out of not having her name on
the house and she agreed to it for some reason
that benefits her. Is this actually a bigger deal to
her than OP is letting on, and that's why she's
so resistant to the idea of his mom getting a key.
Does he pull the it's my house thing? Often it
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feels like OP left out a huge chunk of the
story here. The wife's name is not on the house. Oh,
that's a deal breaker. It would be for me as well,
assuming the house was bought while they were married, and
there isn't a very unique, very compelling reason for the
wife to not want her name on the house. Op
hasn't offered any explanation aside from what's in the original post,
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so I can only conclude he's a controlling jerk who
took advantage of his wife to buy a house and
his name alone, and is now holding that over her
a real prize. Truly, you're the jerk. Your attitude of
I paid for it isn't on you're married. It's our home,
not my home now. In any case, your wife is right.
(11:55):
She absolutely has financially contributed to the property. She paid
the rent which allowed you to save. Pretty disgusting of
you to dismiss this. Your mother having a key to
your home is a big deal and something you and
your wife both need to be comfortable with.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
If you aren't.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Mature enough to make joint decisions with your wife, you
shouldn't be married. I think your wife is right. You
don't seem to respect her at all. Huge red flag
that you only put the house in your name. You've
basically used your wife to enable you to do what
you want.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Once again, what we have here is Reddit hypocrisy at
its finest. I've seen several stories on here where the
wife is the one who owns the house and gets
into a fight with her husband about things similar to this.
Of course, when that's the case, you all side with
her and tell her that it's her house and she
should kick him out. I see lots of you saying
you hope his wife divorces him and takes him to
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the cleaners. The sad thing is Opie's wife could actually
divorce him for this and get half the house since
they were married when he bought it, which would cause
him to have to sell it and split the money
with her during the divorce proceedings. All because op wants
his mind to have a key in case of emergencies.
If this doesn't show you what's wrong with our society.
I don't know what will. Well, who do you think
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is the jerk? OPI or his wife?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Please let us know.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
If redded boy tried to give his mam a key
to our house A tell.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Himent's probably a good idea. You never know when any
emergency is going to happen. Am I the jerk for
not giving twenty four hours notice to my daughter's roommates
before dropping something off. I'm a mother to a twenty
something year old daughter. She's a junior in college and
attends school in the same city that we live. My
daughter and two of her friends live in a condo
that I own. Her friends pay below market rent while
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my daughter does not. The condo was inherited from my parents,
and it was their intent that I would pass ownership
of it to my daughter when she's mature enough to
own her own place. My daughter, husband and I are
in agreement that she will take over ownership of the
condo when she's out of school and financially independent. Earlier
this week, my daughter mentioned that she had run out
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of some household supplies and would have to set aside
time to go shopping before the end of the week.
My daughter's schedule has been especially rough lately, as she's
picked up extra shifts at her part time job due
to short staffing. Wanting to be helpful, I offered to
pick up the supplies for her and drop them off
at her place.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
She accepted.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
The next day, I picked up the supplies and took
them to the condo. I knew my daughter was in class,
so I knocked, and when no one answered, I let
myself in. The front door opens into the living room.
When I entered, I found one of my daughter's roommates
getting jiggy with a man on the living room couch.
I was obviously mortified, so I left the supplies at
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the door and left right away. I didn't say anything
to my daughter about what happened, because I didn't want
to put her in an uncomfortable position, but I did
let her know that I had dropped off the supplies.
On Friday, I got an angry email from the roommate's parents.
I'm not sure exactly what they were told, but their
email lambasted me for invading their daughter's privacy. They said
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that what I did was wrong because I'm their daughter's
landlord and I entered the condo without giving a twenty
four hours notice. They're threatening to take legal action if
I do it again. I am vaguely familiar with this requirement,
but didn't think it was applicable. Here was I the
jerk in this situation. I feel bad about what happened,
but I also don't feel like I was out of line.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Edit.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
My daughter was aware that I was coming to drop
off the supplies and asked that I leave them in
the kitchen, which is adjacent to the living room. Edit too,
I'm not asking for judgment on whether I violated the law.
I checked in with a friend who's a lawyer, and
he thinks that because my daughter gave explicit permission to
enter the home and drop off the supplies, I'm in
the clear. I'm asking whether I was the jerk for
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doing so.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Update.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I called and texted my daughter asking to discuss the situation.
She can't speak to me right now because our roommates
are fighting and she's mediating, but she is fully aware
of the situation and sent me a quick explanation. My
daughter had notified all of the roommates that I was
coming over, but roommate Won apparently forgot the man she
was with was Roommate Number two's boyfriend. She freaked out
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and contacted her parents because she was scared I would
spill the beans. I still don't know exactly what she
told her parents, but I assume it wasn't the full story.
I've never met Roommate Too his boyfriend, so I didn't
know it was him. Roommate one and Roommate two are
fighting now, and needless to say, Roommate one will be
moving out. I will be writing a more comprehensive formal
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lease for Roommate Too, for both my protection and hers.
But in all honesty, Roommate Too is wonderful and I
do not anticipate that there will be any more problems.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
You were not entering in your capacity as landlord, but
in your capacity as your daughter's mother, in which case
you do not need to provide notice. You also had
your daughter's permission. Roommate had no expectation of privacy from
her roommates, who could have walked in at any time,
regardless of whether they had a class scheduled or not.
She shouldn't have been doing this on the couch out
in the open edit for all of those that are
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claiming that OP was for not giving twenty four hours notice,
given that she is both landlord and mother. This logic
would then suggest that OP would have to give twenty
four hours notice to the other two roommates before entering
the unit, even if she was accompanied by her daughter,
whereas the parents of the other two roommates could enter
without any notice to other roommates. This is just warped
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logic on so many levels. Anybody doing this sort of
thing on the living room on a shared apartment should
have no expectation of privacy. The roommate was doing this
in the common area of a condo.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
She shares with two other people.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Hard to imagine a real expectation of privacy there, especially
with the front door opening right into where they were.
And I wonder what she told her parents. Technically, yes,
a landlord has to give notice, but the owner's daughter, slash,
her roommate gave permission for you to drop off the supplies,
not the jerk in this instance. And I think you
handled it well. You would think she would have appreciated
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your discretion and learned to have private time in a
private setting. But her actions involving her parents say otherwise,
no one wants to walk in and see something like
that on the communal couch. She needs to be more
considerate of her roommates and you definitely shouldn't let yourself
in again, Well, what do you think, did op do
anything wrong or not? Please let us know. Shut up,
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get in the truck and do what you're told.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
You got it.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
So.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
I live in a pretty small city by American standards
in Canada, two hundred and fifty thousand people. People joke
that it's a giant small town and it's hard to
go somewhere without knowing someone who either knows you or
has heard of you. I run a small contracting business
that maintains properties for seniors think grass mowing, tree trimming,
et cetera. In the winter, there isn't a lot going on,
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so I lay off the summer crew and usually bounce
around to different companies to help them with their snow removal.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
I hold a CDL as well as.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Equipment operator license, among others, so most of the larger
companies know me and are more than happy to have
me around. Over the weekend, I was called by the
biggest company in my city to help with hauling snow
to the city snow dump, a gravy job and lots
of hours.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
I had never worked with.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Their crew, but quickly got along with everyone but the
company grump, which was expected. Of course, the company grump
is the one working on the weekend loading trucks. After
the first location, he gave me some cash to get
his coffee. I meet him at the next location and
hand him his drink. He takes a drink and noticed
it's wrong. He gets out of the bobcat and throws
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the full extra large coffee into the distance, getting caught
by the wind, spraying me with the liquid, all while
losing it on me. I decided to just let it go.
Everyone has been working long hours and well, some people
in construction are just giant man children. I offered to
grab him another coffee, and he declined. I went back
to my truck to drink my coffee and talk to
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the other driver in my truck, when the operator comes
over to our truck to complain at us again about
his coffee after I had offered to get him another.
Shortly after, I realized I had his change in my pocket.
Knowing this guy, I'd better return it. I walk over
to the Bobcat to give him his money and let
him know that if he did that again, there would
be problems. We had a few words before he told
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me to shut up, get back in my truck, and
do what I was told, and if I did stuff
like that wouldn't happen.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So I did. I went back to my.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Truck and did as I was told. Little did the
operator know he's been on thin ice and I was
told by his boss to let him know if we
had any problems with him. Furious, I jumped in my truck,
called his boss and went home. Not even twenty minutes later,
I get a call from his boss telling me they
fired him and begging me to come back. Moral of
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the story is treat each other with respect, especially in
the workplace. Am I the jerk for calling the cops
when my father lint out my car? I'm female thirty two.
My father, who's fifty six, lives with me after my
mom passed a few years ago. He had trouble dealing
with life, and I tried to help him out. I
had a spare room and I said he could stay there.
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My siblings and I cleaned up my parents' house and
we rented it out with his one hundred percent agreement.
The money covers the mortgage and lets him contribute to
my household budget for food and utilities, and he has
a little money every month so he doesn't have to
go into his savings or retirement funds. He could go
back to work, but he hasn't. I'm not a mental
health professional, but he won't go to one either. I
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think he's just depressed, but I can't make that diagnosis.
I work from home and only occasionally meet clients for
lunch or at their workplace, so my car usually sits
for days on end. My father got the idea that
I didn't really need a car for myself, and when
my aunt's car broke down, he started letting her borrow
mine without my permission. I told him that if he
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wants to lend out a car, he should lend out
his car. He drives a very nice, full sized truck.
He said that my aunt is uncomfortable driving it. I
said that I didn't care, and that I needed my
vehicle to be available. He said that family help's family.
I said my car was mine and not to be
lent out. I spoke with my aunt and told her
to stop asking for my car. He decided to test
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my patience. He trapped me in the garage with his
truck and left the house one day that he knew
I had a meeting. I had to uber to the meeting.
I was almost late. I was absolutely livid. When I
got home. His car was still there, but my car
was gone. My aunt had needed it for appointments. I
told him that it's time for him to move out.
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He isn't just inconveniencing me now he's actively sabotaging my job.
He cried that he was sorry and wouldn't do it again.
I gave him one last chance. There were no problems
until yesterday. He lent out my car so my aunt
could visit her kid. He had had a key maid.
I saw that my car was missing and I did
not even ask. I called and reported it stolen. My
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car has a tracker in it because it's not paid off,
it was easy to find. I in the meantime, had
turned off my phone and gone shopping. I was unavailable
when everyone started calling me to tell the cops that
my aunt has my permission to take my car. I
feel bad for wasting the cops time, and my family
says that my aunt was traumatized. My dad is moving
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in with her now. I did drop the charges and
clear everything up, but my family is still mad at me.
I'm mostly mad at my father, but my aunt bore
the brunt, not the jerk. Your aunt knowingly took your
car without your permission. That is your car, not your father's.
I had to laugh.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
At family help's family.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Hello, you're putting your dad up and taking care of
his affairs, he meant, Oh, pe, I get to decide
what you do with your possessions, even when you tell
me no. Your father said he was sorry and wouldn't
do it again. You set up a very simple boundary.
He broke it again. So what else were you supposed
to think? When your car is vanished, you've already played
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it his way. Wait until the car is returned, then
listen to him say he won't do it again. But
then when he does it again, rinse and repeat. Frankly,
I think you did the right thing. Your aunt is
not innocent here. You told her not to use your car.
Why can't she uber to her appointments? Her schedule is
not your responsibility. Now you have your car and your
dad is moving in with her. I'd say that's a
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win win. You've done way more than your share info.
Do you think your aunt will now somehow find it
within herself to drive your dad's truck and not feel
uncomfortable now that it's her only option? Am I the
jerk for telling my fiance's family that he's unemployed after
they kept implying that I.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Was a gold digger?
Speaker 1 (24:37):
So my fiance, male thirty three, comes from a well
off family, I female twenty nine, come from a working
class family. My fiance's family are nice, but they can't
help throwing comments at me.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
About how I might be a gold digger.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
For example, if he buys me something, they'll go, oh,
Jason bought you that.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
You know what this looks like?
Speaker 1 (24:58):
Right? And or wait, Jason paid for this. Only gold
diggers make their partners pay for their stuff all the time,
just saying it's so demeaning, and my fiance does nothing
to stop it, especially now that he's in a bad
place in life after he lost his job. And since
he's keeping it secret, then I'm the one paying for everything.
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This has been going on for four months. Last week,
his parents invited us for dinner and he insisted that
we go. So we went at the dinner table. His
mom grabbed my hand literally while I was eating, and
looked at my bracelet and went, oh, this bracelet looks
really nice.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Did Jason pay for it?
Speaker 1 (25:37):
I nodded and reminded her that he bought it for
me as a birthday gift last year. She was like,
wonder how much it costs? Then she leaned back and said,
you know, I remember when my brother was dating this
gold digger woman. She'd receive expensive stuff like this, pointing
to my bracelet, like this bracelet right here, for her birthdays.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
I was stunned.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
I cut her off and asked if she meant to
say that I was a gold digger. She threw her
hands up and went, I mean if the shoe fits,
while laughing awkwardly. Silence took over. I looked at my
fiance and he shook his head at me, like what
I snapped? I told her it was bold of her
to imply I was a gold digger when I'm literally
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providing for her unemployed son and have been for four
months now.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
They all looked shocked.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
She glanced at me in shock, and his dad asked
if it was true, and my fiance just froze but
looked so angry. An argument ensued and dinner was cut
short and we had to leave after they started going
off on him. He had a huge rage fit in
the car, just yelling and lashing out at me. And
my defense, I said that he sat by and let
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his mom continuously imply that I was a gold digger.
But he said that they never outright called me a
gold digger, so it was all in my head. He said,
I still had no right to take advantage of his
unfortunate circumstance to get back at his mom and expose
him to the family. His parents went on about how
disappointed they were, and now as a result, he got
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disinvited from Thanksgiving. He blew up at me because of
it this morning and kept saying I did him over
so badly when he was just an innocent bystander, not
the jerk. I think you should uninvite your fiance from
the wedding. He doesn't have your back. He's willing to
lie to his family for months to protect his reputation.
He's going to be willing to lie to you too,
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and this won't be the last time he blames you
for the faults and actions of himself and others. Seriously,
don't walk down that aisle. He's more than willing to
have you be the bad guy, and not once has
they tried to fix their perspective of you. Instead, he
keeps it that way because it makes him seem better
than you. If you have a baby with him, guess what,
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you're the gold digger. That baby trapped him. Do you
really want to listen to that? Am I the jerk
for evicting him and his thirteen year old daughter. My boyfriend,
who's thirty four of three years, just moved into my
thirty two female, three bedroom home five months ago. This
home has been in my family for the past seventy years.
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I have a five year old son and my boyfriend
has a thirteen year old daughter. I made sure I
moved all of my stuff out of my office and
put it in the loft so she could have her
own bedroom. I think it was about a month into
him living here that his daughter wanted to move in
with us full time, as she doesn't have her own
bedroom at her mom's. I was completely fine with this. Anyways,
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I started running into a lot of problems. Not even
a week after she moved in, full time. She became
really entitled in demanding, like demanding that my son trade
rooms with her because it has a bigger closet, and
pitch a fit when I said no, Oh, demanding we
buy her expensive clothes or make up because I'm a
real estate agent and I have loads of money. Call
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me crazy, but I'm not about to drop one hundred
twenty dollars on a pair of ripped up jeans or
drop two hundred dollars on three pieces of makeup. Her
dad works, but his income is significantly less than mine,
so she really just expected me to be the one
who spoils her rotten or pushing her plate of food
away and saying I'm not eating that, but you can
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cook me something else. I can deal with her childish
tantrums and slamming doors, but she has now started to
put holes in my walls, and my boyfriend makes excuses
saying he used to do the same thing and she
will grow out of it. She torments my son if
he says anything to her. She literally always responds with, oh,
you're talking to me, swap rooms with me, and I
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will think about responding. Her dad literally never attempts to
correct her behavior. And I'm told I'm being too harsh
if I do the tip of the mountain for me.
Here was two weeks ago. There was a foul smell
coming from her room, so I asked her to clean
it because you couldn't see the floor. She said, no,
it's my room, so I don't see why you have
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any say on how I treat my personal space. Her
father actually agreed with her. Three days later, the smell
had become so bad that I lost it. I told
her to clean it or she was moving out. This
was after I saw at least six used personal hygiene
products thrown throughout her room, as well as half eaten
food and moldy drink.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Cops.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
She starts crying and saying, I'm treating her like she
is Cinderella and I'm acting like an evil step mom.
I told my boyfriend, either he handles it or they're
both gone. He clearly didn't believe me, because he told
me that I needed to lighten up because his daughter
is having a rough time transitioning and being away from
her mom.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I gave it a week. Nothing changed.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I went and got an eviction notice drawn up and
gave them thirty days to vacate my property and told
him he's lucky. I'm not sewing for damages. He says,
I'm the jerk for throwing away three years because I
can't handle not having my own way?
Speaker 2 (30:55):
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Oh?
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Heck no, he's a bad father for letting his daughter
behave that way and then getting angry at you for
putting your foot down on her greedy and disgusting behavior. Yeah,
by like father, like daughter, You're definitely not the jerk here.
I don't know why you would think otherwise. So what
if she has to share a room with a sibling
when she moves back in with her mom.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
It's not like she's homeless.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
I mean, I feel like maybe she had benefit from
therapy and learning some empathy. But this is so beyond
the pale for a parent to deal with, especially when
she's allowed to get away with it. In addition, this
type of behavior is something your son should not be witnessing,
let alone be around someone so out of control.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
They're putting holes in your home.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
And making at least one room a near biohazard. I'd
also be worried about how you're now ex boyfriend would
treat your son, not the jerk.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
He's not parenting her.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
A parent steps in and protects both kids, and he's
allowing his daughter to mistreat what would have been a sibling.
That's not remotely acceptable, let alone the amount of disregard
this child has for any authority figure. She has anger
problems and thinks it's perfectly acceptable behavior to damage property
when she's upset. She's not a toddler, but she sure
is acting like it. You have your son's emotional health
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to worry about. They are not homeless, They have their
mom's house or other family to turn to. Well, what
would you do in this situation? Would you evictim and
his daughter or not?
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Please let us know.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
I'd call the authorities, is what I'd do. That little
animal needs to be in a cage. And huge shout
out to our newest official channel member, Francis. Thank you
so much for supporting the channel. It really means the world.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
To Reddit Boy and I support our channel by joining
as a member today and we'll give you a shout
out at our next video or come watch this video next.
You won't believe what Karen does in that one
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Our first story we'll be reading today.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Karen, mother in law demands to buy us a house
that we don't even want. After that, my daughter wants
me to pay for her expensive college tuition for a
career that doesn't even pay anything. And after that, am
I the jerk for letting my mother have a copy
of the key to our new house despite my wife's objection. Now,
for every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen does
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not get to buy anyone a house that they don't want.
Tell it to buy it for me instead. I really
need somewhere I can go to to get away from
Reddit boy every now and then. So please smash that
light button and subscribe and turn on notifications for new
stories from Reddit every single day. Karen, mother in law
demands to buy.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Us a house that we don't even want.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I'm awake at four am and I can't sleep because
of the situation, so I thought I would bring it here.
My husband's parents moved down south a few years ago
because of how expensive it is here, and so they
can be cool to his grandparents, who also moved down there.
We visit every few months and it's a long drive,
but everything has been fine. I'm seven months pregnant with
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our first baby, a girl. Ever since we told his parents,
they've been making comments when we talk to them about
the distance and not seeing their grand baby much. I
just ignore them because it was their choice to move,
so nothing I can do about that. Last week, his
mom asked to FaceTime with us because she has something
exciting to tell us. A house in their neighborhood is
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up for sale. His parents said, as a Christmas gift
this year, they're giving us the money for the down
payment on the house so that we can, in his
mom's words, move out of our horrible state and little apartment.
We both didn't know what to say. We've never had
any plans to move to another state, never even implied
that it was something we would consider. My entire family,
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including my parents and everyone I've ever known, is here.
Our jobs are here, and I'm sorry, but I'm not
moving my daughter to a state like theirs. Just not happening.
We told her on the call, thanks and we appreciate
the offer, but we have no intentions on moving and
we love it even in our tiny apartment she hung up,
and it has become a thing. She's blasting us on
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Facebook for being ungrateful and raising our daughter in a
crime ridden city. It's not all her friends are backing
her up in the comments about how I'll be a
terrible mother, and she's offering us a house and a
home for our baby. She thinks that because her offer
is so generous, we are jerks to decline. All this
is making me feel really guilty. My husband says, to
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ignore her, but this is stressing me out, and here
I am at four am, stressing and feeling like a
bad mother before my daughter is even born.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You will literally hate living somewhere away from your friends
and family and in close proximity to intrusive in laws.
You know that if you take the offer, they will
feel untitled to just walk in or have a voice
in what you do with the house, as they gave
you the deposit. Her assumption that she can just move
you out says a lot, But the fact that she's
blasting you on social media for not doing what she
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wants tells you everything that you need to know. You
have nothing to feel guilty about. She thinks because she
wants to see your baby. She has the right to
demand you uproot to where she decided to move to
and castigate you when you refuse. How to build a
great relationship with your new grandchild.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Not not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
My daughter wants me to pay for her expensive college
tuition for a career that doesn't even pay anything. I'm
forty nine mail and I have two kids, Jake, who's
twenty three, and Nikki, who's seventeen. Their mother and I
are divorced. I have full custody and she sends no support.
Both of my kids are good kids and good students
with good grades. Jake got into his dream school, but
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didn't get any scholarships. His undergrad school is one of
the best schools in our part of the country, and
it's expensive. I didn't want him to take out loans
and have to carry dead, so I'm paying for his
tuition and living expenses.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
The total cost is roughly fifty dollars a year.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
He's following in our family tradition and is pursuing a
career in dentistry. I'm not a dentist, but we have
about a dozen dentists and oral surgeons in our family.
I will also be paying for his dentistry degree. While
I know it will be costly, I view this as
a good investment, as he'll have a starting salary of
about one hundred and twenty thousand dollars as a dentist
in our area. If he decides to become an oral surgeon,
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his starting salary will almost double that figure. Nicky is
a senior in high school.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Like her brother.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
She's a good student and will have a good chance
of getting into her dream school, but she has a
low chance of getting any scholarships. Her dream school is
also a very good one, located in the middle of
a very expensive city. Tuition and living expenses will be
roughly seventy five thousand dollars a year. The problem is
that she's dreamt of being a teacher since she was little,
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and she's made it clear that she will be an
education major because she wants to be a middle school teacher.
The other problem is that the salary for middle school
teachers in our area is forty eight thousand to sixty
thousand dollars a year. I fully realize that she can
move and work elsewhere, but I can't imagine there are
many middle school teachers in the US making six figures.
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I don't view paying three hundred thousand dollars plus for
a career that tops out at sixty thousand dollars a
year as a wise investment. I told my daughter that
the state school that's two hours away has a good
education program, and her in state tuition and living expenses
will only be about twenty thousand dollars a year. I
view paying eighty thousand dollars for a teaching degree as
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a much better investment. I've tried discussing the matter with Nikki,
but she gets distraught every time I've brought it up.
She cries and accuses me of favoring Jake and being
a jerk, which is not true. I told her, if
she picks a major with a one hundred thousand dollars
starting salary, I'll gladly pay for her to go to
her dream school. But there's no way I'm paying three
hundred thousand dollars for her to be a teacher. Now
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she's got family members involved. Some are staying out of it,
some agree with me, and some are telling me not
to play favorites. I feel terrible, so I'm beginning to
doubt myself. Am I wrong edit to answer a few
recurring questions. I thought it made it clear, but apparently
I didn't. I'm not limiting Nicky's education to twenty thousand
dollars a year. I told her that's the max I'm
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willing to pay for her education degree. I'm more than
happy to pay seventy five thousand a year if she
picks another degree that will have a better return. For
a while, she thought about being a doctor and fell
in love with England. We have family there, so I
even offer to pay for her to go to Oxford,
which will be double the cost of her brother's tuition.
But she's adamant about being a middle school teacher, and
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I'm unwilling to spend three hundred thousand dollars that I
worked hard for on.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
An education degree. You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
This whole post reeks of favoritism. I hope the dentist
switches to an art major halfway through. The fact that
Op made this post and hasn't considered himself a jerk
is completely alien to me. I wouldn't like him to
be my dad, that's for sure. You're the jerk. To
be fair, you should at least pay what you're paying
for your son's education and let her take out student
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loans for the rest.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
You are clearly favoriting your son here. He's following the
family traditions, and you're happy to take on a load
of debt for him, But you won't do the same
for your daughter because her career choice is a problem.
You only take on debt for your kid if they
do the careers you want them to do. Go back
to your daughter before you lose her. He doesn't say
he's taking on debt at all. He's considering return on investment,
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as everyone who's going to college should. The return on
investment should be your kid's happiness. You should feel really
bad you're paying fully for the kid who will make
enough to easily pay off some loans with a great profession,
and not for your daughter who wants to be a teacher,
which is incredibly noble and needed in this country. To
burden her with loans that she will take forever to
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repay because she will make crap, because we treat teachers
like crap. And guess what, apparently so do you you're
the jerk? Well, what do you think is op the
jerk or not. Please let us know. Never ask a
bunch of people on Reddit for financial advice unless you're
in the right subreddit. There are a few subs with
people who are actually financially literate. Am I the jerk
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for letting my mother have a copy of the key
to our new house despite my wife's objection? I thirty
four mail recently bought a one story house. Note that
it was purchased solely by me. My wife did not
help save for it. I started saving for it before
I even met her, and it's in my name. When
my parents threw us a party for this happy occasion,
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Mom asked for a copy of the key in case
of an emergency. I let her have it, which made
my wife upset. She didn't say anything at the time,
but she waited till we were alone, and she started
arguing with me, saying that I shouldn't have let my mother.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Have a copy of the key.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I said why since my mother is known to respect
our privacy and is a very trusted member of the family.
She said that she does not feel comfortable with the
idea of someone else who's not a resident having a
copy of the key. She also brought up how my
mother didn't pay a penny towards the house, so this
should disqualify her from getting the key. I said it
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wasn't a big deal, but she kept persisting, saying that
I needed to take the key back. Quite frankly, this
had me fuming. I pointed out that I'm the one
who bought the house, and it's my decision to decide
who gets to have a copy of the key.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
End of story.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
She screamed at me, saying that technically she did contribute
towards the house savings back when she used to pay
for our rent and daily expenses while I saved money.
I told her that she was acting as if I
put my mom's name on the title, which is ridiculous,
but she said that I have no respect for her
opinions and keep undermining her input. We've been going back
and forth on it since then. She's now letting me
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know that if I don't take the key back, then
she'll do it herself. I think she's being irrational and
unreasonable acting like that over a copy of the house key.
This decision I made could save us one day in
case of an emergency, but she kept down playing it.
Et I think it's crucial to mention that there's no
conflict between my mother and my wife.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
They're near perfect terms, all right.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I thought that I've already established that above. You're the jerk,
and that is why you can't trust no one when
it comes to money. You played your wife. You probably
told her that you would save for a shared home,
and that's why she should support you and pay your
share of the rent. Now, she didn't contribute a penny
to your house. Your house, she gets no say, but
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your mom does.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
I'm a bit confused as to how op can admit
that the wife paid rent while he put his savings
towards the house, and then go back and say the
wife didn't contribute. There's a lot of unanswered questions here.
Does he really not understand that if she wasn't paying
the entirety of the rent, then he would not have
been able to save as much? How long was she
paying rent and how much did she have in savings
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before she started doing that? What was the actual agreement there?
And on that note, why is the wife not making
a bigger deal out of not having her name on
the house and she agreed to it for some reason
that benefits her. Is this actually a bigger deal to
her than OP is letting on, and that's why she's
so resistant to the idea of his mom getting a key.
Does he pull the it's my house thing? Often it
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feels like OP left out a huge chunk of the
story here. The wife's name is not on the house. Oh,
that's a deal breaker. It would be for me as well,
assuming the house was bought while they were married, and
there isn't a very unique, very compelling reason for the
wife to not want her name on the house. Op
hasn't offered any explanation aside from what's in the original post,
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so I can only conclude he's a controlling jerk who
took advantage of his wife to buy a house and
his name alone, and is now holding that over her
a real prize. Truly, you're the jerk. Your attitude of
I paid for it isn't on you're married. It's our home,
not my home now. In any case, your wife is right.
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She absolutely has financially contributed to the property. She paid
the rent which allowed you to save. Pretty disgusting of
you to dismiss this. Your mother having a key to
your home is a big deal and something you and
your wife both need to be comfortable with.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
If you aren't.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
Mature enough to make joint decisions with your wife, you
shouldn't be married. I think your wife is right. You
don't seem to respect her at all. Huge red flag
that you only put the house in your name. You've
basically used your wife to enable you to do what
you want.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Once again, what we have here is Reddit hypocrisy at
its finest. I've seen several stories on here where the
wife is the one who owns the house and gets
into a fight with her husband about things similar to this.
Of course, when that's the case, you all side with
her and tell her that it's her house and she
should kick him out. I see lots of you saying
you hope his wife divorces him and takes him to
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the cleaners. The sad thing is Opie's wife could actually
divorce him for this and get half the house since
they were married when he bought it, which would cause
him to have to sell it and split the money
with her during the divorce proceedings. All because op wants
his mind to have a key in case of emergencies.
If this doesn't show you what's wrong with our society.
I don't know what will. Well, who do you think
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is the jerk? OPI or his wife?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Please let us know.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
If redded boy tried to give his mam a key
to our house A tell.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Himent's probably a good idea. You never know when any
emergency is going to happen. Am I the jerk for
not giving twenty four hours notice to my daughter's roommates
before dropping something off. I'm a mother to a twenty
something year old daughter. She's a junior in college and
attends school in the same city that we live. My
daughter and two of her friends live in a condo
that I own. Her friends pay below market rent while
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my daughter does not. The condo was inherited from my parents,
and it was their intent that I would pass ownership
of it to my daughter when she's mature enough to
own her own place. My daughter, husband and I are
in agreement that she will take over ownership of the
condo when she's out of school and financially independent. Earlier
this week, my daughter mentioned that she had run out
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of some household supplies and would have to set aside
time to go shopping before the end of the week.
My daughter's schedule has been especially rough lately, as she's
picked up extra shifts at her part time job due
to short staffing. Wanting to be helpful, I offered to
pick up the supplies for her and drop them off
at her place.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
She accepted.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
The next day, I picked up the supplies and took
them to the condo. I knew my daughter was in class,
so I knocked, and when no one answered, I let
myself in. The front door opens into the living room.
When I entered, I found one of my daughter's roommates
getting jiggy with a man on the living room couch.
I was obviously mortified, so I left the supplies at
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the door and left right away. I didn't say anything
to my daughter about what happened, because I didn't want
to put her in an uncomfortable position, but I did
let her know that I had dropped off the supplies.
On Friday, I got an angry email from the roommate's parents.
I'm not sure exactly what they were told, but their
email lambasted me for invading their daughter's privacy. They said
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that what I did was wrong because I'm their daughter's
landlord and I entered the condo without giving a twenty
four hours notice. They're threatening to take legal action if
I do it again. I am vaguely familiar with this requirement,
but didn't think it was applicable. Here was I the
jerk in this situation. I feel bad about what happened,
but I also don't feel like I was out of line.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Edit.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
My daughter was aware that I was coming to drop
off the supplies and asked that I leave them in
the kitchen, which is adjacent to the living room. Edit too,
I'm not asking for judgment on whether I violated the law.
I checked in with a friend who's a lawyer, and
he thinks that because my daughter gave explicit permission to
enter the home and drop off the supplies, I'm in
the clear. I'm asking whether I was the jerk for
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doing so.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Update.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I called and texted my daughter asking to discuss the situation.
She can't speak to me right now because our roommates
are fighting and she's mediating, but she is fully aware
of the situation and sent me a quick explanation. My
daughter had notified all of the roommates that I was
coming over, but roommate Won apparently forgot the man she
was with was Roommate Number two's boyfriend. She freaked out
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and contacted her parents because she was scared I would
spill the beans. I still don't know exactly what she
told her parents, but I assume it wasn't the full story.
I've never met Roommate Too his boyfriend, so I didn't
know it was him. Roommate one and Roommate two are
fighting now, and needless to say, Roommate one will be
moving out. I will be writing a more comprehensive formal
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lease for Roommate Too, for both my protection and hers.
But in all honesty, Roommate Too is wonderful and I
do not anticipate that there will be any more problems.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
You were not entering in your capacity as landlord, but
in your capacity as your daughter's mother, in which case
you do not need to provide notice. You also had
your daughter's permission. Roommate had no expectation of privacy from
her roommates, who could have walked in at any time,
regardless of whether they had a class scheduled or not.
She shouldn't have been doing this on the couch out
in the open edit for all of those that are
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claiming that OP was for not giving twenty four hours notice,
given that she is both landlord and mother. This logic
would then suggest that OP would have to give twenty
four hours notice to the other two roommates before entering
the unit, even if she was accompanied by her daughter,
whereas the parents of the other two roommates could enter
without any notice to other roommates. This is just warped
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logic on so many levels. Anybody doing this sort of
thing on the living room on a shared apartment should
have no expectation of privacy. The roommate was doing this
in the common area of a condo.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
She shares with two other people.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Hard to imagine a real expectation of privacy there, especially
with the front door opening right into where they were.
And I wonder what she told her parents. Technically, yes,
a landlord has to give notice, but the owner's daughter, slash,
her roommate gave permission for you to drop off the supplies,
not the jerk in this instance. And I think you
handled it well. You would think she would have appreciated
(17:54):
your discretion and learned to have private time in a
private setting. But her actions involving her parents say otherwise,
no one wants to walk in and see something like
that on the communal couch. She needs to be more
considerate of her roommates and you definitely shouldn't let yourself
in again, Well, what do you think, did op do
anything wrong or not? Please let us know. Shut up,
(18:17):
get in the truck and do what you're told.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
You got it.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
So.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
I live in a pretty small city by American standards
in Canada, two hundred and fifty thousand people. People joke
that it's a giant small town and it's hard to
go somewhere without knowing someone who either knows you or
has heard of you. I run a small contracting business
that maintains properties for seniors think grass mowing, tree trimming,
et cetera. In the winter, there isn't a lot going on,
(18:42):
so I lay off the summer crew and usually bounce
around to different companies to help them with their snow removal.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
I hold a CDL as well as.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
Equipment operator license, among others, so most of the larger
companies know me and are more than happy to have
me around. Over the weekend, I was called by the
biggest company in my city to help with hauling snow
to the city snow dump, a gravy job and lots
of hours.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
I had never worked with.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
Their crew, but quickly got along with everyone but the
company grump, which was expected. Of course, the company grump
is the one working on the weekend loading trucks. After
the first location, he gave me some cash to get
his coffee. I meet him at the next location and
hand him his drink. He takes a drink and noticed
it's wrong. He gets out of the bobcat and throws
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the full extra large coffee into the distance, getting caught
by the wind, spraying me with the liquid, all while
losing it on me. I decided to just let it go.
Everyone has been working long hours and well, some people
in construction are just giant man children. I offered to
grab him another coffee, and he declined. I went back
to my truck to drink my coffee and talk to
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the other driver in my truck, when the operator comes
over to our truck to complain at us again about
his coffee after I had offered to get him another.
Shortly after, I realized I had his change in my pocket.
Knowing this guy, I'd better return it. I walk over
to the Bobcat to give him his money and let
him know that if he did that again, there would
be problems. We had a few words before he told
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me to shut up, get back in my truck, and
do what I was told, and if I did stuff
like that wouldn't happen.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
So I did. I went back to my.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Truck and did as I was told. Little did the
operator know he's been on thin ice and I was
told by his boss to let him know if we
had any problems with him. Furious, I jumped in my truck,
called his boss and went home. Not even twenty minutes later,
I get a call from his boss telling me they
fired him and begging me to come back. Moral of
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the story is treat each other with respect, especially in
the workplace. Am I the jerk for calling the cops
when my father lint out my car? I'm female thirty two.
My father, who's fifty six, lives with me after my
mom passed a few years ago. He had trouble dealing
with life, and I tried to help him out. I
had a spare room and I said he could stay there.
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My siblings and I cleaned up my parents' house and
we rented it out with his one hundred percent agreement.
The money covers the mortgage and lets him contribute to
my household budget for food and utilities, and he has
a little money every month so he doesn't have to
go into his savings or retirement funds. He could go
back to work, but he hasn't. I'm not a mental
health professional, but he won't go to one either. I
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think he's just depressed, but I can't make that diagnosis.
I work from home and only occasionally meet clients for
lunch or at their workplace, so my car usually sits
for days on end. My father got the idea that
I didn't really need a car for myself, and when
my aunt's car broke down, he started letting her borrow
mine without my permission. I told him that if he
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wants to lend out a car, he should lend out
his car. He drives a very nice, full sized truck.
He said that my aunt is uncomfortable driving it. I
said that I didn't care, and that I needed my
vehicle to be available. He said that family help's family.
I said my car was mine and not to be
lent out. I spoke with my aunt and told her
to stop asking for my car. He decided to test
(22:09):
my patience. He trapped me in the garage with his
truck and left the house one day that he knew
I had a meeting. I had to uber to the meeting.
I was almost late. I was absolutely livid. When I
got home. His car was still there, but my car
was gone. My aunt had needed it for appointments. I
told him that it's time for him to move out.
(22:30):
He isn't just inconveniencing me now he's actively sabotaging my job.
He cried that he was sorry and wouldn't do it again.
I gave him one last chance. There were no problems
until yesterday. He lent out my car so my aunt
could visit her kid. He had had a key maid.
I saw that my car was missing and I did
not even ask. I called and reported it stolen. My
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car has a tracker in it because it's not paid off,
it was easy to find. I in the meantime, had
turned off my phone and gone shopping. I was unavailable
when everyone started calling me to tell the cops that
my aunt has my permission to take my car. I
feel bad for wasting the cops time, and my family
says that my aunt was traumatized. My dad is moving
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in with her now. I did drop the charges and
clear everything up, but my family is still mad at me.
I'm mostly mad at my father, but my aunt bore
the brunt, not the jerk. Your aunt knowingly took your
car without your permission. That is your car, not your father's.
I had to laugh.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
At family help's family.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
Hello, you're putting your dad up and taking care of
his affairs, he meant, Oh, pe, I get to decide
what you do with your possessions, even when you tell
me no. Your father said he was sorry and wouldn't
do it again. You set up a very simple boundary.
He broke it again. So what else were you supposed
to think? When your car is vanished, you've already played
(23:55):
it his way. Wait until the car is returned, then
listen to him say he won't do it again. But
then when he does it again, rinse and repeat. Frankly,
I think you did the right thing. Your aunt is
not innocent here. You told her not to use your car.
Why can't she uber to her appointments? Her schedule is
not your responsibility. Now you have your car and your
dad is moving in with her. I'd say that's a
(24:17):
win win. You've done way more than your share info.
Do you think your aunt will now somehow find it
within herself to drive your dad's truck and not feel
uncomfortable now that it's her only option? Am I the
jerk for telling my fiance's family that he's unemployed after
they kept implying that I.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Was a gold digger?
Speaker 1 (24:37):
So my fiance, male thirty three, comes from a well
off family, I female twenty nine, come from a working
class family. My fiance's family are nice, but they can't
help throwing comments at me.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
About how I might be a gold digger.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
For example, if he buys me something, they'll go, oh,
Jason bought you that.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
You know what this looks like?
Speaker 1 (24:58):
Right? And or wait, Jason paid for this. Only gold
diggers make their partners pay for their stuff all the time,
just saying it's so demeaning, and my fiance does nothing
to stop it, especially now that he's in a bad
place in life after he lost his job. And since
he's keeping it secret, then I'm the one paying for everything.
(25:19):
This has been going on for four months. Last week,
his parents invited us for dinner and he insisted that
we go. So we went at the dinner table. His
mom grabbed my hand literally while I was eating, and
looked at my bracelet and went, oh, this bracelet looks
really nice.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
Did Jason pay for it?
Speaker 1 (25:37):
I nodded and reminded her that he bought it for
me as a birthday gift last year. She was like,
wonder how much it costs? Then she leaned back and said,
you know, I remember when my brother was dating this
gold digger woman. She'd receive expensive stuff like this, pointing
to my bracelet, like this bracelet right here, for her birthdays.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
I was stunned.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
I cut her off and asked if she meant to
say that I was a gold digger. She threw her
hands up and went, I mean if the shoe fits,
while laughing awkwardly. Silence took over. I looked at my
fiance and he shook his head at me, like what
I snapped? I told her it was bold of her
to imply I was a gold digger when I'm literally
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providing for her unemployed son and have been for four
months now.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
They all looked shocked.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
She glanced at me in shock, and his dad asked
if it was true, and my fiance just froze but
looked so angry. An argument ensued and dinner was cut
short and we had to leave after they started going
off on him. He had a huge rage fit in
the car, just yelling and lashing out at me. And
my defense, I said that he sat by and let
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his mom continuously imply that I was a gold digger.
But he said that they never outright called me a
gold digger, so it was all in my head. He said,
I still had no right to take advantage of his
unfortunate circumstance to get back at his mom and expose
him to the family. His parents went on about how
disappointed they were, and now as a result, he got
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disinvited from Thanksgiving. He blew up at me because of
it this morning and kept saying I did him over
so badly when he was just an innocent bystander, not
the jerk. I think you should uninvite your fiance from
the wedding. He doesn't have your back. He's willing to
lie to his family for months to protect his reputation.
He's going to be willing to lie to you too,
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and this won't be the last time he blames you
for the faults and actions of himself and others. Seriously,
don't walk down that aisle. He's more than willing to
have you be the bad guy, and not once has
they tried to fix their perspective of you. Instead, he
keeps it that way because it makes him seem better
than you. If you have a baby with him, guess what,
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you're the gold digger. That baby trapped him. Do you
really want to listen to that? Am I the jerk
for evicting him and his thirteen year old daughter. My boyfriend,
who's thirty four of three years, just moved into my
thirty two female, three bedroom home five months ago. This
home has been in my family for the past seventy years.
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I have a five year old son and my boyfriend
has a thirteen year old daughter. I made sure I
moved all of my stuff out of my office and
put it in the loft so she could have her
own bedroom. I think it was about a month into
him living here that his daughter wanted to move in
with us full time, as she doesn't have her own
bedroom at her mom's. I was completely fine with this. Anyways,
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I started running into a lot of problems. Not even
a week after she moved in, full time. She became
really entitled in demanding, like demanding that my son trade
rooms with her because it has a bigger closet, and
pitch a fit when I said no, Oh, demanding we
buy her expensive clothes or make up because I'm a
real estate agent and I have loads of money. Call
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me crazy, but I'm not about to drop one hundred
twenty dollars on a pair of ripped up jeans or
drop two hundred dollars on three pieces of makeup. Her
dad works, but his income is significantly less than mine,
so she really just expected me to be the one
who spoils her rotten or pushing her plate of food
away and saying I'm not eating that, but you can
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cook me something else. I can deal with her childish
tantrums and slamming doors, but she has now started to
put holes in my walls, and my boyfriend makes excuses
saying he used to do the same thing and she
will grow out of it. She torments my son if
he says anything to her. She literally always responds with, oh,
you're talking to me, swap rooms with me, and I
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will think about responding. Her dad literally never attempts to
correct her behavior. And I'm told I'm being too harsh
if I do the tip of the mountain for me.
Here was two weeks ago. There was a foul smell
coming from her room, so I asked her to clean
it because you couldn't see the floor. She said, no,
it's my room, so I don't see why you have
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any say on how I treat my personal space. Her
father actually agreed with her. Three days later, the smell
had become so bad that I lost it. I told
her to clean it or she was moving out. This
was after I saw at least six used personal hygiene
products thrown throughout her room, as well as half eaten
food and moldy drink.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Cops.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
She starts crying and saying, I'm treating her like she
is Cinderella and I'm acting like an evil step mom.
I told my boyfriend, either he handles it or they're
both gone. He clearly didn't believe me, because he told
me that I needed to lighten up because his daughter
is having a rough time transitioning and being away from
her mom.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I gave it a week. Nothing changed.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
I went and got an eviction notice drawn up and
gave them thirty days to vacate my property and told
him he's lucky. I'm not sewing for damages. He says,
I'm the jerk for throwing away three years because I
can't handle not having my own way?
Speaker 2 (30:55):
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? Oh?
Speaker 1 (30:59):
Heck no, he's a bad father for letting his daughter
behave that way and then getting angry at you for
putting your foot down on her greedy and disgusting behavior. Yeah,
by like father, like daughter, You're definitely not the jerk here.
I don't know why you would think otherwise. So what
if she has to share a room with a sibling
when she moves back in with her mom.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
It's not like she's homeless.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
I mean, I feel like maybe she had benefit from
therapy and learning some empathy. But this is so beyond
the pale for a parent to deal with, especially when
she's allowed to get away with it. In addition, this
type of behavior is something your son should not be witnessing,
let alone be around someone so out of control.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
They're putting holes in your home.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
And making at least one room a near biohazard. I'd
also be worried about how you're now ex boyfriend would
treat your son, not the jerk.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
He's not parenting her.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
A parent steps in and protects both kids, and he's
allowing his daughter to mistreat what would have been a sibling.
That's not remotely acceptable, let alone the amount of disregard
this child has for any authority figure. She has anger
problems and thinks it's perfectly acceptable behavior to damage property
when she's upset. She's not a toddler, but she sure
is acting like it. You have your son's emotional health
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to worry about. They are not homeless, They have their
mom's house or other family to turn to. Well, what
would you do in this situation? Would you evictim and
his daughter or not?
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Please let us know.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
I'd call the authorities, is what I'd do. That little
animal needs to be in a cage. And huge shout
out to our newest official channel member, Francis. Thank you
so much for supporting the channel. It really means the world.
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To Reddit Boy and I support our channel by joining
as a member today and we'll give you a shout
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