August 1, 2025 • 32 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories. Our first story will
be reading today. My Karen mother in law refuses to
eat my Thanksgiving cooking. After that, bossy coworker does himself
out of a promotion. And after that, am I the
jerk for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? Now,
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for every thumbs up this video gets one, Karen doesn't
get any Thanksgiving turkey. I always preferred Ham to be honest.
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My Karen mother in law refuses to eat my Thanksgiving cooking.
This year, I thirty two female, am hosting Thanksgiving at
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my house and I've been working all month on coming
up with the menu and testing all my recipes. I'm
so excited to share my cooking with my family and
my husband, thirty five male, has been super supportive and
helpful throughout all of the planning and the prep work.
I have bought all of the ingredients and I have
a beautiful variety of dishes planned, both traditional and a
few unique additions. Well, today, my husband dropped the bombshell
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on me that mother in law wants to bring her
own dinner to eat when she comes over. I asked
him why she would need to bring her own food
when I will have more than enough here. He just
made excuses, saying, I know how his mother is grade
a picky eater, and she won't like anything that I've prepared.
I thought that was ridiculous. I'm not making anything unfamiliar
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to her, and there will be plenty to choose from.
He argued that her bringing her own dinner would be
a good compromise, and I disagreed. It would be hugely
obvious that she's making a comment on my cooking, and
it would be humiliating to have her there eating something
completely different in front of everyone. It's like she's trying
to make a point of showing that my cooking isn't
good enough for her. I think she's being incredibly rude
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and disrespectful of the time, money, and labor that I've
put into this upcoming meal. I told her, if she
can't eat anything here, then she's welcome to stay home
and eat whatever she wants. My husband is now calling
me insensitive and petty. He says, I'm ruining the holiday.
I don't see it that way. I only want friends
and family around who are appreciative and kind. I don't
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need the negativity of someone rejecting everything I've cooked and
insulting my cooking when I've worked so hard. This has
truly been a labor of love, and I took on
this responsibility to share that love with my family and friends.
Am I the jerk for not wanting my mother in
law to come if she's going to reject everything I've made? Edit?
Because people are asking, Here's what I plan on serving first?
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All of the traditional Thanksgiving foods, roasted turkey, stuffing, classic
creamy mashed potatoes, pretty much everything you can think of.
How can there not be one thing that she can eat? Update? OMG,
there's lots of replies. Thank you all for weighing in.
I've been reading your responses and I've been thinking a lot,
and as much as it hurts my feelings, I think
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the getter with kindness route will be the best thing
to do. I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted, and i just
want to have a perfect Thanksgiving for everyone. I'll let
her know she's welcome, and I'll ignore her and focus
on my other guests. I won't let her ruin my day,
and I'll be the bigger person. That's what family does,
as much as I will be irritated on the inside.
Who knows, maybe she'll try something and like it. But
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if she doesn't, that's okay too. Yes, your mother in
law is being rude and disrespectful, but uninviting her is
not the answer. Here's what you do. Welcome her and
her special meal with open arms, get her back with kindness.
Be sure to point out to the other guests in
a lovey dovey way, if perhaps a wee bit patronizing
tone of voice, how mother in law has special needs
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and brought her own food and you are so glad
she could make it, even though eating away from home
is so difficult for her. Offer to help her heat
up her meal, tell her it looks absolutely delicious, and
ask her for the recipes and ask her if she
could bring one of her wonderful dishes to the next gathering. Meanwhile,
you and your other guests can enjoy your fabulous meal,
and your mother in law can listen to all of
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the compliments you get for it. Not the jerk. This
is one of those situations where the mother in law
thinks she's embarrassing Ope, but she's really embarrassing herself. Oh
p Consider how good you will feel as you watch
her get more and more uncomfortable eating her special meal.
And consider that if you uninvited her with no explanation,
you will look like a jerk. If she brings her
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own food, she will look like an idiot. Everyone sucks here.
Mother in law is being rude to refuse your food
in this way, your husband isn't being very supportive of you,
and you are escalating things unnecessarily. You're cooking as much
as you've dedicated to it as not the point of
this holiday time with family is your mother in law
eating her own food won't be humiliating to you, assuming
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your food tastes at least decent. The only one that
will be looked down on for her decision is her.
She's the one behaving strangely. Any judgment will be passed
on to her, not you. Be the bigger person, Be
the classy, generous hostess, spoil the rest of your guests
with delicious food, make no comment on mother in law's behavior,
and rise above. Also, is it possible that she has
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a genuine food issue, such as a sensory thing causing
her to struggle with foods. Those do exist, and they're
not always diagnosed. If so, going to eat at someone
else's house can be a terrifying prospect, and bringing her
own food allows her to enjoy the holiday with everyone
without having the anxiety about if she'll be able to
eat anything. I feel like the majority of food issues
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on am I the jerk posts that I read the
comments absolutely back up the OP wanting to bring their
own food due to restriction, allergies, or preference. It's often
suggested as a way to still go and enjoy without
troubling the host to cater to one specific person. So
I'm really confused at all the comments against the mother
in law because OP perceives her actions as a slight
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I think it's hard to say who the jerk is
without more info backing up why OP thinks mother in
law is targeting her, and also why it matters so
much if she is trying to slight you, her eating
the food and complaining about it will not make the
holiday more enjoyable for you. It just won't, and that's
what you'll be getting if she comes without her own meal. Well,
who do you think is the jerk? Op or mother
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in law? Please let us know. I'll ride all you
kids of Reddit time for a dose of common sins.
When you go to someone's house on Thanksgiving, you eat
what they make. Got a problem with that? Stay home?
Ain't no way how to allow that, Karen, mother in
law tack like that in my house. Bossy coworker does
himself out of a promotion. My first job out of
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high school was a big deal for me. It was
a simple day day entry job that I took very seriously.
I started moving up very quickly. With so many young
entry level employees, turnaround was high, and I guess sticking
around made me stand out. I was soaring in that company.
Before I knew it, I was a supervisor over a team.
In the department I was in, there was only one
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other supervisor. We worked very well together and agreed on
almost everything. The two of us made a full training
for us our department, a department policy sheet, and conducted
all direct employee contact. Our department was doing so well
that our manager was recruited by another department for a
much more lucrative role in the company. The new manager
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was the nicest man alive, but as an outside hire,
he didn't know anything about how we ran things. At
the same time as he was getting acquainted with us,
the other supervisor went on maternity leave. I was the
only lead in the department left that really knew what
they were doing. It sounds rough, but I blossomed under
these circumstances. I helped find our new acting supervisor, whom
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I'll call Trevor. I went into all meetings with my
manager to take notes and help him understand what we
were discussing. I hired all of the new staff members.
From talking to the recruiter, conducting the interviews and making
the call to offer the position. I was running the show,
and I loved it. Our new manager was not really
grasping things and told me he was thinking about leaving.
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I was sad to see him go. He then told
me that he thought he would ask them to have
me backfill his position. This would have been the opportunity
of a lifetime. A week later, my manager told me
that he talked to the director, but the position wasn't
going to go to me. It was going to the
acting supervisor, Trevor. Apparently this guy had been schmoozing while
I had been working. I hadn't even been paying attention
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to him. Trevor had become buddy buddy with the director
by spending all his time in his office and going
drinking with him at the driving range. I was heartbroken.
I wasn't aiming for the job until my boss suggested
it to me. I had got my hopes up, just
to be crushed. I tried to shake it off and
get back to work. I oversaw department projects. I had
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one that required thousands of entries on an Excel sheet.
I assigned our staff to the project and did my share.
At the end of the day, I had gotten the
sheets back from everyone directly under me, but nobody on
Trevor's team had emailed me theirs. I went to one
of their desks and asked them about the project. The
person I asked shyly told me that Trevor told her
not to do it. When I asked her why he
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would say that, she told me He said that I
wasn't her boss. I was shocked. This is how we
had done every project since we had opened the department.
What was he thinking telling people not to do it?
I could explain the small ways that Trevor constantly was
trying to undermine me, or the almost jealous behavior he
displayed toward me. But this story is long enough, I'll
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just say, while shocking, it wasn't out of character for him.
I had always been able to keep him from causing
damage in the past, and this didn't need to be
any different. Then I realized what a golden opportunity this was.
I decided to maliciously comply. I just nodded and thanked
her for her help. The next day, the director called
the manager and supervisors into his office. He asked me
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why the project wasn't completed the day before. I shrugged
and told him I had sent it out to the
team like I always do, and had even done a
chunk of it myself. I looked at Trevor the look
he gave me. He was pale and looked as if
he was about to be sentenced. When Trevor eventually tried
to explain that he told the staff under him not
to do it, the director asked everyone but Trevor to leave.
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The project had been related to payroll, and Trevor had
royally done over the payroll staff. Our director was livid.
He was in there for over an hour. I heard
the director raise his voice more than once, which was wild.
The doors and offices were glass, so when I passed
the office a bit later, I saw Trevor with his
head down while our director was shaking his head and
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moving his hands in a very animated manner. A week later,
the other supervisor returned and Trevor was asked to return
to his old position under her. I was offered the
position of managers soon after which I gladly accepted. Am
I the jerk for offering two different kinds of cake
at our wedding? My husband Josh, who's twenty nine, and
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I twenty seven female, just had our wedding a couple
of weeks ago and we mostly got good feedback. Until
today we had heard that a lot of people had
been smack togging the cake behind our backs. Josh and
I originally were going to have a small wedding at
a resort. We were fortunate enough to be given some
money to invite extra guests, so we decided to expand
the wedding and have some of our second cousins and
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their kids and some friends that we otherwise don't get
to see us often we're on a budget, so we
decided to keep the fancy cake the cutting cake for
the pitchers, not the real one. For immediate family and
the pastor and a few members of the wedding party
that have known us for the longest. We gave them
the cake and boxes to take home, though, so they
wouldn't be eating it in front of everyone else, minus
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the pastor because he flew out from a ways and
he's vegan, so he couldn't eat the dinner and we
wanted him to have something to eat before it got
too late. We got a couple of sheet cakes. One
was vanilla and buttercream with rosettes, and there was another
sheet cake of pineapple chocolate chunk, especially for Joshu's side
of the family because they spend a lot of time
in Florida pineapple chocolate chunk. We found out from talking
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with family that there was a lot of full slices
left on people's plates of the pineapple cake. Gee, I
wonder why, which the servers would not take home with them,
So we noticed you can see it in a lot
of the pitchers. We were having too much fun to
notice at the time. We loved catching up with all
of our guests. Apparently, Josh's family did not like the
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cake like we thought they would, and there have been
some unkind words behind our backs. We got a text
from Josh's uncle that wasn't meant for us to see,
and it really stung. We're unsure where to go from
here and what to say. The cake did not go
off like we had hoped for, but we think they're
being unnecessarily mean. By the way, there was a full dinner,
three kinds of cheese, even monterey Jack available, and an
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open bar that didn't close until late So I feel
like we were pretty good to our guests on a
shoestring budget. Not the jerk, But I'm a bit confused
as to what Josh's family spending a lot of time
in Florida has to do with deciding to have a
pineapple chocolate cake. I lived in Florida for almost a decade,
and I can tell you with complete confidence that there
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is zero connotation between Florida and pineapples. I think you're
confusing Florida with Hawaii, but beyond that, the combo of
pineapple and chocolate just sounds yucky, and I think that's
likely what people are speculating on. Honestly, I wouldn't sweat it.
Everyone will forget about it shortly. I'm sure what matters
is if you enjoyed your wedding. I don't think the
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complaints were about you serving sheet cake, which is totally
common at weddings, but rather about the flavor combination of
chocolate and pineapples. Feels like you made a random choice
based on a bizarre assumption of what people eat in Florida.
According to my husband, who used to live in Florida,
chocolate pineapple is not a Florida thing. Instead of asking
the guests you were trying to cater to, and it
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sounds like you serve the pineapple chocolate cake only to
Josh's family instead of asking what they wanted. You're not
the jerk for having two cakes, but if you didn't
give guests an option and then got upset when the
cake you thought they wanted wasn't eaten, then yes, you're
the jerk. Edit from your common it's clear that you
decided who got which cake and expected them to trade
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plates if they weren't happy. So yeah, you're the jerk.
You're the jerk. You didn't get a vegan meal. For
your pastor, who flew a long distance to officiate. You
openly distributed three cakes, which very clearly were of different levels,
and chose who got what. You served one side of
the family before the other. You assumed that people could
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trade cake flavors with strangers. You decided that chocolate pineapple
would be the best flavor for his family because they've
spent time in Florida. What Honestly, I'd say you're a
bad host rather than a jerk, because you seem to
have meant well, but your planning decisions are inhospitable and indefensible.
Chocolate pineapple cake? Ill, well, who do you think is
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the jerk? OPI or her guests? Please let us know.
Chocolate pineapple cake. I'm sorry, but I think I'm gonna
be sick. Am I the jerk for refusing to go
to my wife's deceased husband's family's house for Thanksgiving? Thirty
six male and my wife thirty three female lost her
first husband several years ago from a brain aneurysm. They
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had two boys together, who are seven and six, and
I've made my peace with the fact that she will
always love him. She even has a sort of shrine
to him in our home, and I would never ask
her to remove it. We got married only a couple
of years ago, and last Thanksgiving she asked me to
come with her to Thanksgiving at her former in law's house.
Apparently she's gone to their house for Thanksgiving since her
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first husband passed. I support this as it's a way
for her to stay connected to her first husband's family,
and also since it's a way for her two kids
to maintain a relationship with their father's side of the family.
So I went last year. It was a little uncomfortable,
but her late husband's family treated me really well. They
were very kind and welcoming to me. It wasn't a
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bad Thanksgiving, but it was still really awkward and I
felt very out of place. This year, my wife is
trying to get me to go back, but I just
want to go have Thanksgiving with my own family. I've
invited her along, but also told her that I understand
if she doesn't want to go, but that we should
be moving forward. But if she doesn't want to, fine,
but that she shouldn't try to make me go to
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Thanksgiving at her late husband's family's home. She's responded that
we can have Christmas Easter the fourth of July, et cetera,
with either her family or my family, but that she's
pledged Thanksgiving to her late husband's family, and that I
should come with her as her husband to support her.
I don't want to. I think it's weird and morbid.
Am I the jerk? You're the jerk. This isn't just
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her late husband's family. This is our children's paternal family.
Did you think you'd step in and your family would
be a substitute. It does not work that way. It's
one holiday a year for your stepkids to spend with
their father's family. She offered up every other holiday. If
you didn't want a connection to that part of the family,
you should not have married a widow with kids. You're
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the jerk. Suck it up for the kids and your wife.
You and your new family will all benefit if the
kids have healthy relationships with their paternal grandparents, aunts, uncles,
and cousins. Don't turn down extra sources of love and
support for your wife and the kids. You're the jerk.
I understand it's not comfortable, but the kids they're going
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to want to know the dad they didn't get to
know yet the dad they do know is uncomfortable with it.
You don't technically owe him or his parents any favors,
but you are raising his kids. You're going to be
their dad and do all of the things that this
other guy and his parents probably dreamed about. If you
only see them one day a year, you can use
that to learn one thing about this other guy, and
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you can tell the kids about it on a random day.
He's not your competition. You and him are on the
same team. And if you can be a part of
keeping his memory alive for those kids, even if it's
something small, that shrine is going to go away. Not
the jerk. This is why you don't marry single moms. Bro.
Dating is one thing, but to get serious with them
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is just asking for trouble. And if she's already dem
you go to her ex's parents' house on Thanksgiving, just
wait till you see what she'll be demanding from you
as the years go on. Also, her having a shrine
for him, Bro, she's not ready to move on and
be with someone else. Don't know how on earth you
allow that in your home. You even admit that she'll
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always love him. You know that if she could have
him back instead of you, she'd pick him in a heartbeat,
right while you spend your money raising his kids. Just know, bro,
single bombs, not even ones. Well, who do you think
is the jerk? OPI or his wife? Please let us know?
Am I the jerk for canceling my ex boyfriend's plane
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ticket leaving him homeless and unable to get to his family?
A brief history. I met my now ex boyfriend while
doing volunteer work. Frankly, he's not been the nicest to me.
He's just nice enough, just often enough to have had
me convinced that he loved me. It's easier to see
in retrospect. A few weeks before this incident, I booked
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both of plane tickets to Germany. He needs to go
there to stay with his family, as he doesn't have
anywhere else to live now that his current lease is up.
The plan was for him to fly one way and
for me to go with him for a short stay,
then return home by myself. We were supposed to leave today.
Now on to what happened in between his lease ending
and flying abroad. X has been staying at a friend's
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house in a more rural town, and I was invited
to visit while his friend was away. We got to
the house and my ex started making dinner for us.
We were joking back and forth, being affectionate, and then
in one moment, he flipped. I had gone to hug
him when he wanted to peel potatoes, and he just
started yelling. I honestly cannot come up with a bigger
reason for him losing his temper aside from that hug.
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It was so out of the blue, and I'll admit
in that moment I had a panic attack. My distress
only served to escalate his anger. He told me to
get out and that there was a bus stop down
the street, that i'd better hope to be the woo,
that I'd better hope to get there or in time.
I gathered my things and left, and thankfully did manage
to catch a bus. After that initial period of shock,
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I realized I could never go back to him. I
definitely couldn't go to a foreign country with him. I
went to the airline's website to cancel my flights, and
there was his booking too. I canceled it in an
impulsive numb moment. I didn't even get a refund because
it's an economy airline. A few days ago, he texted
me as though nothing had happened, asking for his flight details.
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I replied that there was no flight, that of course
I wasn't going to pay to go to Germany with
him after what had happened. He sent a long reply
saying I knew he had nowhere else to go, that
I knew he was struggling with money, and that I
had effectively made him homeless, and he hopes I'm pleased
with myself. I honestly didn't know what's to say in return,
but luckily I haven't heard from him since. I don't
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know if he's been able to get a flight himself,
and a tiny part of me does worry for him.
Am I the jerk ps I paid for both our
tickets with my own money. We never discussed this explicitly,
but I just assumed he would pay me back at
some point. Since then, it has become quite clear that
that's never going to happen. This may or may not
contribute to my am I the jerk verdict, I'm not sure.
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Not the jerk. You paid for his ticket and had
not been reimbursed. He clearly has a friend he's able
to stay with temporarily, so now he just needs to
start figuring out his way home, not the jerk. He
was a jerk, and you don't deserve that. Getting home
is officially his problem, not yours. Good for you knowing
your worth. Karen stole my car. I've been with my
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wife for four years. I have a twenty year old
daughter and she and my wife were never able to
form a strong bond, and one of the reasons for
that is distance. My wife did try to get close
to my daughter in the past, but my daughter claimed
she was just attempting to control her rather than have
a respectful relationship with her. They had past issues, but
now get along a bit. My daughter was visiting for
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things and brought her Honda car with her. I was
out of the house when my wife, whose car had
been sitting in the garage for a month now, took
my daughter's car keys without her permission while she was
showering and left in it for nearly two hours. My
daughter called me as soon as she got out of
the bathroom and was freaking out, saying neither her car
or my wife were there. I tried to calm her
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down as I tried to get a hold of my wife,
but she did not respond. We at this point figured
my wife took the car but did not know where
she was or when she was coming back. My daughter
searched my wife's closet, then called the cops and reported
her car taken. She called back to tell me my
wife's closet was half empty and cops were called. I
got off work and went home immediately, and on the
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way home, my wife called crying she just got picked
up by the cops at Walmart and was brought into
the station. I went over there and met my daughter there.
We discussed what happened, and it turned out my wife
took the car to go do some shopping and left
my daughter a note in the kitchen to let her
know since she doesn't have her number, and took clothes
from her closet she packed earlier in the morning for
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church donations. But my daughter thought she ran away and
told the cops that this woman my wife ran away
with her car. My daughter got her car back and
my wife was let go after filling out a form.
I took her home and that is where she had
a fight with my daughter, calling her crazy for calling
the cops on her, and a few other things. I
can't remember, but I told my wife what she did
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was unacceptable and she should be grateful. My daughter only
called the cops in a moment of panic and did
not press charges. After what she did. My wife was
shocked and started crying, saying she couldn't believe I sided
with my daughter after she humiliated her and caused her
panic and to be involved with the cops like that.
I stated she should have not touched the car in
the first place, and she defended herself, saying she was
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getting things done and buying stuff we needed for the house,
but we made her out to be the bad guy.
She left to her sister's place, saying she had had
enough of my daughter's disgraceful and vindictive attitude to her,
and said she'll stay there indefinitely or until I get
my priority straight, because after what happened, she's no longer
sure if she is my wife or whether she was
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treated as such. My wife's car isn't working and it
has been in the garage for a while now. That
is why she took my daughter's car. Not the jerk
she stole a car. I mean, there are consequences to
grind theft auto. They even made a video game about it.
If she wanted to borrow the car, she needed to
ask permission. Skip in that step puts you right in
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the felony theft category. Everyone sucks here. This whole story
makes no sense. Okay, she took her car without asking, which,
depending on the family, might not even be that weird.
Why did nobody find that note? Why didn't you just
wait for her to return? Why the panic? Who the
heck goes straight to the closet to make such crazy
assumptions that she just left? Who just calls the police
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on a rational grown family member overborrowing something without asking once?
I would get it if this was repeatedly. This was
such an exist saggerated chain of events, I cannot follow
your thought process at all. I feel like there's a
lot missing here, and a lot of motives and dynamics
that are unspecified. Well, who do you think is the
jerk op's daughter or his wife? Please let us know.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
This is why you don't marry your karen. If I
was your daughter, I'd press charges. I called my brother
in law pathetic at our family dinner. I female twenty four,
have a sister, female thirty two, who has a husband
who's thirty eight, who's the poster child of weaponized incompetence.
They have four kids who are ten, eight, five, and three,
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and she's pregnant. My sister works a full time job
over forty hours a week, cleans her entire.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
House, cooks, takes care of all her kids without him
doing anything. It's seriously mind blowing that she wakes up
at like four am, cook's breakfast, does chores, gets all
of her kids ready for school, takes them all to
school and daycare, and all he does is stay home
and work. And when his kids get home after my
sister picks them up a course, he will play with
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them for a little and play video games until he
falls asleep. She actually makes more than him. My fiance
mail twenty six and I had to stay with them
for six weeks while our home was being renovated, and
since we both worked from home, we helped her and
it's amazing how much happier she is when she has help.
I helped with the kids, and my fiance even drove
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her to the doctor's appointments. Her husband literally only acknowledges
he is a parent when his family is around. Then
he is a god fearing, hard working, father of five.
He's the one that wanted more kids. She wanted to
stop after her last baby, but he needed more boys.
I'm seriously concerned not only for her, but her kids
as well, because now her oldest is seeing what's happening
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and trying to help. But my sister is prideful and
refuses to let her kid do anything. Me and this
man have never gotten along. He's been acting like this
since their eight year old was born. I've tried talking
to her about leaving, but she doesn't want her kids
to grow up in a broken home, and unfor fortunately,
her experience with our parents' divorce was completely different than mine,
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so she doesn't understand that a divorce would benefit her
kids here because she thinks they need their mom and
dad together. Cut to this past weekend, her and her
husband threw a pre Thanksgiving pot luck where our entire
family plus his was there. I stayed with my sister
a few days before because I knew he would in help.
So we're at dinner, all talking and I mention we
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are trying for a baby, and my brother in law
makes an offhanded comment to him about how hard fatherhood is,
and I snapped and said, like you would know. He looked,
taken him back and asked me what I meant, and
I unloaded on him, calling him a pathetic excuse for
a man who makes my eight months pregnant sister do
everything for their family. I went off for a solid
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ten minutes and he sat there shrinking in his seat.
I left. Last night, my sister called me and thanked
me for standing up for her and told me she
appreciated me, although today I got a very nasty text
from me, him telling me I'm a terrible person and
because I lied in front of his family, his mom
is angry at him and is moving in with them
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to help her out, and I've made him the laughing
stock of his family. He certainly thinks so. But am
I the jerk for doing this? Not the jerk, not
even a justified jerk, as some comments suggest. You had
a breaking point, and he was taking credit for the
kids upbringing that your sister single handedly should be thanked for.
He knows he's in the wrong, which is why he
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said quietly and kept pretending in front of his family.
He would have driven your sister into an early grave.
His true colors are bound to come out sooner or later,
when his mother has moved in, he will not be
able to pull the facade forever. When that happens, he
will either have to change properly or risk losing the
support of his family. All of it is starting with
you speaking up for your sister against his lies. Well done. Well,
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what do you think is oh P the jerk for
calling out her brother in law or not? Please let
us know that guy sounds even more worthless than you vetted?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Boy?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Am I the jerk for making my cousin angry at
her husband for not getting her pregnancy cravings for her.
I've had a lot of weird and oddly specific pregnancy
cravings so far my husband has gotten me every single
one without fail. A few days ago, my cousin, who
is also pregnant, and her husband were visiting. While they
were here, I got this random craving for these brownies
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I had from a bakery in France. I mentioned it
to my cousin and her husband because I wanted to
know if she was also having these oddly specific cravings.
She told me she did, and it was horrible because
her husband almost never got them for her. I said
that wasn't nice of him, and I would be upset
if my husband acted like that. Her husband got defensive
and said he actually got her the food she was
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craving a lot, and that there was a limit to
how many times he should be expected to run around
after the food she was craving. He kept telling me
my husband wouldn't get me my French brownies. We live
in Europe, but not France, even though I knew he
would because I've had even more diculous cravings before and
he found a way to get them for me. I
told him I would ask my husband since he never
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believed me to prove a point, and he was so
confident that my husband would say no, which he obviously didn't.
The brownies came after several hours, and the longer it
was taking, the more arrogant her husband got, so I
was very happy when they arrived. My cousin was visibly
upset at her husband for the rest of their visit.
My cousin's husband asked my husband if he had got
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them just to prove my point, but my husband said
he got them because I said I was craving them,
and that French brownies were much easier to get than
some of the other cravings. I've had. Cousin's husband asked
about what other cravings I've had and was upset when
he realized I knew I would get the brownies if
I asked Before they left. He called me out on
setting him up to look bad and claims his wife
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is mad at him because of me. Am I the jerk?
You're the jerk. You basically used your husband as a
performance animal to show off in front of your cousin
and her Husband's great that your husband has the ability
to keep up with your cravings. Just because someone else
may not have the same ability doesn't make them a
bad husband or less her husband. You wanted to brag
and show off and caused a fight between your cousin
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and her husband. Make no mistake, I understand exactly where
your husband is coming from. I tried to fulfill all
of my wife's cravings both times she was pregnant. I
would have been upset with her had she used me
as a pond to try to gloat or make someone
else look bad. Though. Instead of appreciating your husband and
his efforts, you use him to show your cousin how
much better your husband is than hers. Good for you,
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I guess everyone sucks here, Good lord, the whole lot
of you just sound insufferable, except your cousin cravings are
totally a thing. But what a weird flex for you
to prove how terrified your husband is of you to
make him leave the country to get some brownies. Not
brownies in general, mind you, which would be honestly a
reasonable request, but an extremely specific thing that sounds like
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required momentous effort on his part to say, and for what,
So you could make her husband look bad. Granted it
sounds like her husband could be doing more to help her,
but you're just way over the top, and I don't
get why your husband is on board with this. Not
the jerk. To be honest, I would do the same
thing as men themselves will never have to be pregnant.
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The least they can do is run a few errands
here and there. They've basically had it made since the
dawn of time. If he's too much of a baby
to run to the store for a pregnant woman, I
don't know why you'd stay with him. To be honest,
and loll at everyone who was triggered by this story.
If it legit made you upset, you are literally part
of the problem and should seriously check your privilege. Come
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watch this video next. You won't believe what Karen does
in that one
Hey there, mister Redder here, welcome back to another episode
of our slash entitled People's Stories. Our first story will
be reading today. My Karen mother in law refuses to
eat my Thanksgiving cooking. After that, bossy coworker does himself
out of a promotion. And after that, am I the
jerk for offering two different kinds of cake at our wedding? Now,
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get any Thanksgiving turkey. I always preferred Ham to be honest.
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My Karen mother in law refuses to eat my Thanksgiving cooking.
This year, I thirty two female, am hosting Thanksgiving at
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my house and I've been working all month on coming
up with the menu and testing all my recipes. I'm
so excited to share my cooking with my family and
my husband, thirty five male, has been super supportive and
helpful throughout all of the planning and the prep work.
I have bought all of the ingredients and I have
a beautiful variety of dishes planned, both traditional and a
few unique additions. Well, today, my husband dropped the bombshell
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on me that mother in law wants to bring her
own dinner to eat when she comes over. I asked
him why she would need to bring her own food
when I will have more than enough here. He just
made excuses, saying, I know how his mother is grade
a picky eater, and she won't like anything that I've prepared.
I thought that was ridiculous. I'm not making anything unfamiliar
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to her, and there will be plenty to choose from.
He argued that her bringing her own dinner would be
a good compromise, and I disagreed. It would be hugely
obvious that she's making a comment on my cooking, and
it would be humiliating to have her there eating something
completely different in front of everyone. It's like she's trying
to make a point of showing that my cooking isn't
good enough for her. I think she's being incredibly rude
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and disrespectful of the time, money, and labor that I've
put into this upcoming meal. I told her, if she
can't eat anything here, then she's welcome to stay home
and eat whatever she wants. My husband is now calling
me insensitive and petty. He says, I'm ruining the holiday.
I don't see it that way. I only want friends
and family around who are appreciative and kind. I don't
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need the negativity of someone rejecting everything I've cooked and
insulting my cooking when I've worked so hard. This has
truly been a labor of love, and I took on
this responsibility to share that love with my family and friends.
Am I the jerk for not wanting my mother in
law to come if she's going to reject everything I've made? Edit?
Because people are asking, Here's what I plan on serving first?
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All of the traditional Thanksgiving foods, roasted turkey, stuffing, classic
creamy mashed potatoes, pretty much everything you can think of.
How can there not be one thing that she can eat? Update? OMG,
there's lots of replies. Thank you all for weighing in.
I've been reading your responses and I've been thinking a lot,
and as much as it hurts my feelings, I think
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the getter with kindness route will be the best thing
to do. I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted, and i just
want to have a perfect Thanksgiving for everyone. I'll let
her know she's welcome, and I'll ignore her and focus
on my other guests. I won't let her ruin my day,
and I'll be the bigger person. That's what family does,
as much as I will be irritated on the inside.
Who knows, maybe she'll try something and like it. But
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if she doesn't, that's okay too. Yes, your mother in
law is being rude and disrespectful, but uninviting her is
not the answer. Here's what you do. Welcome her and
her special meal with open arms, get her back with kindness.
Be sure to point out to the other guests in
a lovey dovey way, if perhaps a wee bit patronizing
tone of voice, how mother in law has special needs
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and brought her own food and you are so glad
she could make it, even though eating away from home
is so difficult for her. Offer to help her heat
up her meal, tell her it looks absolutely delicious, and
ask her for the recipes and ask her if she
could bring one of her wonderful dishes to the next gathering. Meanwhile,
you and your other guests can enjoy your fabulous meal,
and your mother in law can listen to all of
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the compliments you get for it. Not the jerk. This
is one of those situations where the mother in law
thinks she's embarrassing Ope, but she's really embarrassing herself. Oh
p Consider how good you will feel as you watch
her get more and more uncomfortable eating her special meal.
And consider that if you uninvited her with no explanation,
you will look like a jerk. If she brings her
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own food, she will look like an idiot. Everyone sucks here.
Mother in law is being rude to refuse your food
in this way, your husband isn't being very supportive of you,
and you are escalating things unnecessarily. You're cooking as much
as you've dedicated to it as not the point of
this holiday time with family is your mother in law
eating her own food won't be humiliating to you, assuming
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your food tastes at least decent. The only one that
will be looked down on for her decision is her.
She's the one behaving strangely. Any judgment will be passed
on to her, not you. Be the bigger person, Be
the classy, generous hostess, spoil the rest of your guests
with delicious food, make no comment on mother in law's behavior,
and rise above. Also, is it possible that she has
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a genuine food issue, such as a sensory thing causing
her to struggle with foods. Those do exist, and they're
not always diagnosed. If so, going to eat at someone
else's house can be a terrifying prospect, and bringing her
own food allows her to enjoy the holiday with everyone
without having the anxiety about if she'll be able to
eat anything. I feel like the majority of food issues
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on am I the jerk posts that I read the
comments absolutely back up the OP wanting to bring their
own food due to restriction, allergies, or preference. It's often
suggested as a way to still go and enjoy without
troubling the host to cater to one specific person. So
I'm really confused at all the comments against the mother
in law because OP perceives her actions as a slight
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I think it's hard to say who the jerk is
without more info backing up why OP thinks mother in
law is targeting her, and also why it matters so
much if she is trying to slight you, her eating
the food and complaining about it will not make the
holiday more enjoyable for you. It just won't, and that's
what you'll be getting if she comes without her own meal. Well,
who do you think is the jerk? Op or mother
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in law? Please let us know. I'll ride all you
kids of Reddit time for a dose of common sins.
When you go to someone's house on Thanksgiving, you eat
what they make. Got a problem with that? Stay home?
Ain't no way how to allow that, Karen, mother in
law tack like that in my house. Bossy coworker does
himself out of a promotion. My first job out of
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high school was a big deal for me. It was
a simple day day entry job that I took very seriously.
I started moving up very quickly. With so many young
entry level employees, turnaround was high, and I guess sticking
around made me stand out. I was soaring in that company.
Before I knew it, I was a supervisor over a team.
In the department I was in, there was only one
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other supervisor. We worked very well together and agreed on
almost everything. The two of us made a full training
for us our department, a department policy sheet, and conducted
all direct employee contact. Our department was doing so well
that our manager was recruited by another department for a
much more lucrative role in the company. The new manager
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was the nicest man alive, but as an outside hire,
he didn't know anything about how we ran things. At
the same time as he was getting acquainted with us,
the other supervisor went on maternity leave. I was the
only lead in the department left that really knew what
they were doing. It sounds rough, but I blossomed under
these circumstances. I helped find our new acting supervisor, whom
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I'll call Trevor. I went into all meetings with my
manager to take notes and help him understand what we
were discussing. I hired all of the new staff members.
From talking to the recruiter, conducting the interviews and making
the call to offer the position. I was running the show,
and I loved it. Our new manager was not really
grasping things and told me he was thinking about leaving.
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I was sad to see him go. He then told
me that he thought he would ask them to have
me backfill his position. This would have been the opportunity
of a lifetime. A week later, my manager told me
that he talked to the director, but the position wasn't
going to go to me. It was going to the
acting supervisor, Trevor. Apparently this guy had been schmoozing while
I had been working. I hadn't even been paying attention
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to him. Trevor had become buddy buddy with the director
by spending all his time in his office and going
drinking with him at the driving range. I was heartbroken.
I wasn't aiming for the job until my boss suggested
it to me. I had got my hopes up, just
to be crushed. I tried to shake it off and
get back to work. I oversaw department projects. I had
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one that required thousands of entries on an Excel sheet.
I assigned our staff to the project and did my share.
At the end of the day, I had gotten the
sheets back from everyone directly under me, but nobody on
Trevor's team had emailed me theirs. I went to one
of their desks and asked them about the project. The
person I asked shyly told me that Trevor told her
not to do it. When I asked her why he
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would say that, she told me He said that I
wasn't her boss. I was shocked. This is how we
had done every project since we had opened the department.
What was he thinking telling people not to do it?
I could explain the small ways that Trevor constantly was
trying to undermine me, or the almost jealous behavior he
displayed toward me. But this story is long enough, I'll
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just say, while shocking, it wasn't out of character for him.
I had always been able to keep him from causing
damage in the past, and this didn't need to be
any different. Then I realized what a golden opportunity this was.
I decided to maliciously comply. I just nodded and thanked
her for her help. The next day, the director called
the manager and supervisors into his office. He asked me
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why the project wasn't completed the day before. I shrugged
and told him I had sent it out to the
team like I always do, and had even done a
chunk of it myself. I looked at Trevor the look
he gave me. He was pale and looked as if
he was about to be sentenced. When Trevor eventually tried
to explain that he told the staff under him not
to do it, the director asked everyone but Trevor to leave.
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The project had been related to payroll, and Trevor had
royally done over the payroll staff. Our director was livid.
He was in there for over an hour. I heard
the director raise his voice more than once, which was wild.
The doors and offices were glass, so when I passed
the office a bit later, I saw Trevor with his
head down while our director was shaking his head and
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moving his hands in a very animated manner. A week later,
the other supervisor returned and Trevor was asked to return
to his old position under her. I was offered the
position of managers soon after which I gladly accepted. Am
I the jerk for offering two different kinds of cake
at our wedding? My husband Josh, who's twenty nine, and
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I twenty seven female, just had our wedding a couple
of weeks ago and we mostly got good feedback. Until
today we had heard that a lot of people had
been smack togging the cake behind our backs. Josh and
I originally were going to have a small wedding at
a resort. We were fortunate enough to be given some
money to invite extra guests, so we decided to expand
the wedding and have some of our second cousins and
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their kids and some friends that we otherwise don't get
to see us often we're on a budget, so we
decided to keep the fancy cake the cutting cake for
the pitchers, not the real one. For immediate family and
the pastor and a few members of the wedding party
that have known us for the longest. We gave them
the cake and boxes to take home, though, so they
wouldn't be eating it in front of everyone else, minus
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the pastor because he flew out from a ways and
he's vegan, so he couldn't eat the dinner and we
wanted him to have something to eat before it got
too late. We got a couple of sheet cakes. One
was vanilla and buttercream with rosettes, and there was another
sheet cake of pineapple chocolate chunk, especially for Joshu's side
of the family because they spend a lot of time
in Florida pineapple chocolate chunk. We found out from talking
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with family that there was a lot of full slices
left on people's plates of the pineapple cake. Gee, I
wonder why, which the servers would not take home with them,
So we noticed you can see it in a lot
of the pitchers. We were having too much fun to
notice at the time. We loved catching up with all
of our guests. Apparently, Josh's family did not like the
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cake like we thought they would, and there have been
some unkind words behind our backs. We got a text
from Josh's uncle that wasn't meant for us to see,
and it really stung. We're unsure where to go from
here and what to say. The cake did not go
off like we had hoped for, but we think they're
being unnecessarily mean. By the way, there was a full dinner,
three kinds of cheese, even monterey Jack available, and an
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open bar that didn't close until late So I feel
like we were pretty good to our guests on a
shoestring budget. Not the jerk, But I'm a bit confused
as to what Josh's family spending a lot of time
in Florida has to do with deciding to have a
pineapple chocolate cake. I lived in Florida for almost a decade,
and I can tell you with complete confidence that there
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is zero connotation between Florida and pineapples. I think you're
confusing Florida with Hawaii, but beyond that, the combo of
pineapple and chocolate just sounds yucky, and I think that's
likely what people are speculating on. Honestly, I wouldn't sweat it.
Everyone will forget about it shortly. I'm sure what matters
is if you enjoyed your wedding. I don't think the
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complaints were about you serving sheet cake, which is totally
common at weddings, but rather about the flavor combination of
chocolate and pineapples. Feels like you made a random choice
based on a bizarre assumption of what people eat in Florida.
According to my husband, who used to live in Florida,
chocolate pineapple is not a Florida thing. Instead of asking
the guests you were trying to cater to, and it
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sounds like you serve the pineapple chocolate cake only to
Josh's family instead of asking what they wanted. You're not
the jerk for having two cakes, but if you didn't
give guests an option and then got upset when the
cake you thought they wanted wasn't eaten, then yes, you're
the jerk. Edit from your common it's clear that you
decided who got which cake and expected them to trade
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plates if they weren't happy. So yeah, you're the jerk.
You're the jerk. You didn't get a vegan meal. For
your pastor, who flew a long distance to officiate. You
openly distributed three cakes, which very clearly were of different levels,
and chose who got what. You served one side of
the family before the other. You assumed that people could
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trade cake flavors with strangers. You decided that chocolate pineapple
would be the best flavor for his family because they've
spent time in Florida. What Honestly, I'd say you're a
bad host rather than a jerk, because you seem to
have meant well, but your planning decisions are inhospitable and indefensible.
Chocolate pineapple cake? Ill, well, who do you think is
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the jerk? OPI or her guests? Please let us know.
Chocolate pineapple cake. I'm sorry, but I think I'm gonna
be sick. Am I the jerk for refusing to go
to my wife's deceased husband's family's house for Thanksgiving? Thirty
six male and my wife thirty three female lost her
first husband several years ago from a brain aneurysm. They
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had two boys together, who are seven and six, and
I've made my peace with the fact that she will
always love him. She even has a sort of shrine
to him in our home, and I would never ask
her to remove it. We got married only a couple
of years ago, and last Thanksgiving she asked me to
come with her to Thanksgiving at her former in law's house.
Apparently she's gone to their house for Thanksgiving since her
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first husband passed. I support this as it's a way
for her to stay connected to her first husband's family,
and also since it's a way for her two kids
to maintain a relationship with their father's side of the family.
So I went last year. It was a little uncomfortable,
but her late husband's family treated me really well. They
were very kind and welcoming to me. It wasn't a
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bad Thanksgiving, but it was still really awkward and I
felt very out of place. This year, my wife is
trying to get me to go back, but I just
want to go have Thanksgiving with my own family. I've
invited her along, but also told her that I understand
if she doesn't want to go, but that we should
be moving forward. But if she doesn't want to, fine,
but that she shouldn't try to make me go to
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Thanksgiving at her late husband's family's home. She's responded that
we can have Christmas Easter the fourth of July, et cetera,
with either her family or my family, but that she's
pledged Thanksgiving to her late husband's family, and that I
should come with her as her husband to support her.
I don't want to. I think it's weird and morbid.
Am I the jerk? You're the jerk. This isn't just
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her late husband's family. This is our children's paternal family.
Did you think you'd step in and your family would
be a substitute. It does not work that way. It's
one holiday a year for your stepkids to spend with
their father's family. She offered up every other holiday. If
you didn't want a connection to that part of the family,
you should not have married a widow with kids. You're
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the jerk. Suck it up for the kids and your wife.
You and your new family will all benefit if the
kids have healthy relationships with their paternal grandparents, aunts, uncles,
and cousins. Don't turn down extra sources of love and
support for your wife and the kids. You're the jerk.
I understand it's not comfortable, but the kids they're going
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to want to know the dad they didn't get to
know yet the dad they do know is uncomfortable with it.
You don't technically owe him or his parents any favors,
but you are raising his kids. You're going to be
their dad and do all of the things that this
other guy and his parents probably dreamed about. If you
only see them one day a year, you can use
that to learn one thing about this other guy, and
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you can tell the kids about it on a random day.
He's not your competition. You and him are on the
same team. And if you can be a part of
keeping his memory alive for those kids, even if it's
something small, that shrine is going to go away. Not
the jerk. This is why you don't marry single moms. Bro.
Dating is one thing, but to get serious with them
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is just asking for trouble. And if she's already dem
you go to her ex's parents' house on Thanksgiving, just
wait till you see what she'll be demanding from you
as the years go on. Also, her having a shrine
for him, Bro, she's not ready to move on and
be with someone else. Don't know how on earth you
allow that in your home. You even admit that she'll
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always love him. You know that if she could have
him back instead of you, she'd pick him in a heartbeat,
right while you spend your money raising his kids. Just know, bro,
single bombs, not even ones. Well, who do you think
is the jerk? OPI or his wife? Please let us know?
Am I the jerk for canceling my ex boyfriend's plane
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ticket leaving him homeless and unable to get to his family?
A brief history. I met my now ex boyfriend while
doing volunteer work. Frankly, he's not been the nicest to me.
He's just nice enough, just often enough to have had
me convinced that he loved me. It's easier to see
in retrospect. A few weeks before this incident, I booked
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both of plane tickets to Germany. He needs to go
there to stay with his family, as he doesn't have
anywhere else to live now that his current lease is up.
The plan was for him to fly one way and
for me to go with him for a short stay,
then return home by myself. We were supposed to leave today.
Now on to what happened in between his lease ending
and flying abroad. X has been staying at a friend's
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house in a more rural town, and I was invited
to visit while his friend was away. We got to
the house and my ex started making dinner for us.
We were joking back and forth, being affectionate, and then
in one moment, he flipped. I had gone to hug
him when he wanted to peel potatoes, and he just
started yelling. I honestly cannot come up with a bigger
reason for him losing his temper aside from that hug.
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It was so out of the blue, and I'll admit
in that moment I had a panic attack. My distress
only served to escalate his anger. He told me to
get out and that there was a bus stop down
the street, that i'd better hope to be the woo,
that I'd better hope to get there or in time.
I gathered my things and left, and thankfully did manage
to catch a bus. After that initial period of shock,
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I realized I could never go back to him. I
definitely couldn't go to a foreign country with him. I
went to the airline's website to cancel my flights, and
there was his booking too. I canceled it in an
impulsive numb moment. I didn't even get a refund because
it's an economy airline. A few days ago, he texted
me as though nothing had happened, asking for his flight details.
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I replied that there was no flight, that of course
I wasn't going to pay to go to Germany with
him after what had happened. He sent a long reply
saying I knew he had nowhere else to go, that
I knew he was struggling with money, and that I
had effectively made him homeless, and he hopes I'm pleased
with myself. I honestly didn't know what's to say in return,
but luckily I haven't heard from him since. I don't
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know if he's been able to get a flight himself,
and a tiny part of me does worry for him.
Am I the jerk ps I paid for both our
tickets with my own money. We never discussed this explicitly,
but I just assumed he would pay me back at
some point. Since then, it has become quite clear that
that's never going to happen. This may or may not
contribute to my am I the jerk verdict, I'm not sure.
(21:14):
Not the jerk. You paid for his ticket and had
not been reimbursed. He clearly has a friend he's able
to stay with temporarily, so now he just needs to
start figuring out his way home, not the jerk. He
was a jerk, and you don't deserve that. Getting home
is officially his problem, not yours. Good for you knowing
your worth. Karen stole my car. I've been with my
(21:38):
wife for four years. I have a twenty year old
daughter and she and my wife were never able to
form a strong bond, and one of the reasons for
that is distance. My wife did try to get close
to my daughter in the past, but my daughter claimed
she was just attempting to control her rather than have
a respectful relationship with her. They had past issues, but
now get along a bit. My daughter was visiting for
(21:59):
things and brought her Honda car with her. I was
out of the house when my wife, whose car had
been sitting in the garage for a month now, took
my daughter's car keys without her permission while she was
showering and left in it for nearly two hours. My
daughter called me as soon as she got out of
the bathroom and was freaking out, saying neither her car
or my wife were there. I tried to calm her
(22:21):
down as I tried to get a hold of my wife,
but she did not respond. We at this point figured
my wife took the car but did not know where
she was or when she was coming back. My daughter
searched my wife's closet, then called the cops and reported
her car taken. She called back to tell me my
wife's closet was half empty and cops were called. I
got off work and went home immediately, and on the
(22:44):
way home, my wife called crying she just got picked
up by the cops at Walmart and was brought into
the station. I went over there and met my daughter there.
We discussed what happened, and it turned out my wife
took the car to go do some shopping and left
my daughter a note in the kitchen to let her
know since she doesn't have her number, and took clothes
from her closet she packed earlier in the morning for
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church donations. But my daughter thought she ran away and
told the cops that this woman my wife ran away
with her car. My daughter got her car back and
my wife was let go after filling out a form.
I took her home and that is where she had
a fight with my daughter, calling her crazy for calling
the cops on her, and a few other things. I
can't remember, but I told my wife what she did
(23:26):
was unacceptable and she should be grateful. My daughter only
called the cops in a moment of panic and did
not press charges. After what she did. My wife was
shocked and started crying, saying she couldn't believe I sided
with my daughter after she humiliated her and caused her
panic and to be involved with the cops like that.
I stated she should have not touched the car in
the first place, and she defended herself, saying she was
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getting things done and buying stuff we needed for the house,
but we made her out to be the bad guy.
She left to her sister's place, saying she had had
enough of my daughter's disgraceful and vindictive attitude to her,
and said she'll stay there indefinitely or until I get
my priority straight, because after what happened, she's no longer
sure if she is my wife or whether she was
(24:09):
treated as such. My wife's car isn't working and it
has been in the garage for a while now. That
is why she took my daughter's car. Not the jerk
she stole a car. I mean, there are consequences to
grind theft auto. They even made a video game about it.
If she wanted to borrow the car, she needed to
ask permission. Skip in that step puts you right in
(24:29):
the felony theft category. Everyone sucks here. This whole story
makes no sense. Okay, she took her car without asking, which,
depending on the family, might not even be that weird.
Why did nobody find that note? Why didn't you just
wait for her to return? Why the panic? Who the
heck goes straight to the closet to make such crazy
assumptions that she just left? Who just calls the police
(24:51):
on a rational grown family member overborrowing something without asking once?
I would get it if this was repeatedly. This was
such an exist saggerated chain of events, I cannot follow
your thought process at all. I feel like there's a
lot missing here, and a lot of motives and dynamics
that are unspecified. Well, who do you think is the
jerk op's daughter or his wife? Please let us know.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
This is why you don't marry your karen. If I
was your daughter, I'd press charges. I called my brother
in law pathetic at our family dinner. I female twenty four,
have a sister, female thirty two, who has a husband
who's thirty eight, who's the poster child of weaponized incompetence.
They have four kids who are ten, eight, five, and three,
(25:34):
and she's pregnant. My sister works a full time job
over forty hours a week, cleans her entire.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
House, cooks, takes care of all her kids without him
doing anything. It's seriously mind blowing that she wakes up
at like four am, cook's breakfast, does chores, gets all
of her kids ready for school, takes them all to
school and daycare, and all he does is stay home
and work. And when his kids get home after my
sister picks them up a course, he will play with
(26:01):
them for a little and play video games until he
falls asleep. She actually makes more than him. My fiance
mail twenty six and I had to stay with them
for six weeks while our home was being renovated, and
since we both worked from home, we helped her and
it's amazing how much happier she is when she has help.
I helped with the kids, and my fiance even drove
(26:21):
her to the doctor's appointments. Her husband literally only acknowledges
he is a parent when his family is around. Then
he is a god fearing, hard working, father of five.
He's the one that wanted more kids. She wanted to
stop after her last baby, but he needed more boys.
I'm seriously concerned not only for her, but her kids
as well, because now her oldest is seeing what's happening
(26:43):
and trying to help. But my sister is prideful and
refuses to let her kid do anything. Me and this
man have never gotten along. He's been acting like this
since their eight year old was born. I've tried talking
to her about leaving, but she doesn't want her kids
to grow up in a broken home, and unfor fortunately,
her experience with our parents' divorce was completely different than mine,
(27:04):
so she doesn't understand that a divorce would benefit her
kids here because she thinks they need their mom and
dad together. Cut to this past weekend, her and her
husband threw a pre Thanksgiving pot luck where our entire
family plus his was there. I stayed with my sister
a few days before because I knew he would in help.
So we're at dinner, all talking and I mention we
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are trying for a baby, and my brother in law
makes an offhanded comment to him about how hard fatherhood is,
and I snapped and said, like you would know. He looked,
taken him back and asked me what I meant, and
I unloaded on him, calling him a pathetic excuse for
a man who makes my eight months pregnant sister do
everything for their family. I went off for a solid
(27:47):
ten minutes and he sat there shrinking in his seat.
I left. Last night, my sister called me and thanked
me for standing up for her and told me she
appreciated me, although today I got a very nasty text
from me, him telling me I'm a terrible person and
because I lied in front of his family, his mom
is angry at him and is moving in with them
(28:07):
to help her out, and I've made him the laughing
stock of his family. He certainly thinks so. But am
I the jerk for doing this? Not the jerk, not
even a justified jerk, as some comments suggest. You had
a breaking point, and he was taking credit for the
kids upbringing that your sister single handedly should be thanked for.
He knows he's in the wrong, which is why he
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said quietly and kept pretending in front of his family.
He would have driven your sister into an early grave.
His true colors are bound to come out sooner or later,
when his mother has moved in, he will not be
able to pull the facade forever. When that happens, he
will either have to change properly or risk losing the
support of his family. All of it is starting with
you speaking up for your sister against his lies. Well done. Well,
(28:52):
what do you think is oh P the jerk for
calling out her brother in law or not? Please let
us know that guy sounds even more worthless than you vetted?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Boy?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Am I the jerk for making my cousin angry at
her husband for not getting her pregnancy cravings for her.
I've had a lot of weird and oddly specific pregnancy
cravings so far my husband has gotten me every single
one without fail. A few days ago, my cousin, who
is also pregnant, and her husband were visiting. While they
were here, I got this random craving for these brownies
(29:22):
I had from a bakery in France. I mentioned it
to my cousin and her husband because I wanted to
know if she was also having these oddly specific cravings.
She told me she did, and it was horrible because
her husband almost never got them for her. I said
that wasn't nice of him, and I would be upset
if my husband acted like that. Her husband got defensive
and said he actually got her the food she was
(29:44):
craving a lot, and that there was a limit to
how many times he should be expected to run around
after the food she was craving. He kept telling me
my husband wouldn't get me my French brownies. We live
in Europe, but not France, even though I knew he
would because I've had even more diculous cravings before and
he found a way to get them for me. I
told him I would ask my husband since he never
(30:06):
believed me to prove a point, and he was so
confident that my husband would say no, which he obviously didn't.
The brownies came after several hours, and the longer it
was taking, the more arrogant her husband got, so I
was very happy when they arrived. My cousin was visibly
upset at her husband for the rest of their visit.
My cousin's husband asked my husband if he had got
(30:27):
them just to prove my point, but my husband said
he got them because I said I was craving them,
and that French brownies were much easier to get than
some of the other cravings. I've had. Cousin's husband asked
about what other cravings I've had and was upset when
he realized I knew I would get the brownies if
I asked Before they left. He called me out on
setting him up to look bad and claims his wife
(30:49):
is mad at him because of me. Am I the jerk?
You're the jerk. You basically used your husband as a
performance animal to show off in front of your cousin
and her Husband's great that your husband has the ability
to keep up with your cravings. Just because someone else
may not have the same ability doesn't make them a
bad husband or less her husband. You wanted to brag
and show off and caused a fight between your cousin
(31:11):
and her husband. Make no mistake, I understand exactly where
your husband is coming from. I tried to fulfill all
of my wife's cravings both times she was pregnant. I
would have been upset with her had she used me
as a pond to try to gloat or make someone
else look bad. Though. Instead of appreciating your husband and
his efforts, you use him to show your cousin how
much better your husband is than hers. Good for you,
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I guess everyone sucks here, Good lord, the whole lot
of you just sound insufferable, except your cousin cravings are
totally a thing. But what a weird flex for you
to prove how terrified your husband is of you to
make him leave the country to get some brownies. Not
brownies in general, mind you, which would be honestly a
reasonable request, but an extremely specific thing that sounds like
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required momentous effort on his part to say, and for what,
So you could make her husband look bad. Granted it
sounds like her husband could be doing more to help her,
but you're just way over the top, and I don't
get why your husband is on board with this. Not
the jerk. To be honest, I would do the same
thing as men themselves will never have to be pregnant.
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The least they can do is run a few errands
here and there. They've basically had it made since the
dawn of time. If he's too much of a baby
to run to the store for a pregnant woman, I
don't know why you'd stay with him. To be honest,
and loll at everyone who was triggered by this story.
If it legit made you upset, you are literally part
of the problem and should seriously check your privilege. Come
(32:38):
watch this video next. You won't believe what Karen does
in that one
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