November 29, 2025 • 33 mins
In today’s episode of Reddit Stories Podcast, a wild Karen completely loses it. You won’t believe how this one ends! Sit back, relax, and enjoy this binge-worthy Reddit Stories Podcast, featuring Karen freakouts, entitled people stories, and pro revenge tales.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister rhdder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story we'll be reading today,
Karen refuses to adopt and will only do IVF. After that,
Am I the jerk for asking my brother to pay
thirty thousand dollars for my engagement ring? And after that,
do your job? Okay, Karen? Now for every thumbs up
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this video gets one, Karen loses her WiFi. Is that
why my YouTube has been buffering so much lately? So
please smash that light button and subscribe and turn on
notifications for new stories from Reddit every single day. Karen
refuses to adopt and will only do IVF. I'm nineteen female.
My oldest sister who's thirty, has been struggling with infertility
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for the past three years since they started trying for
a baby. This Easter, she and her husband made the
announcement that they're going to be pursuing IVF and will
start a GoFundMe for it. They looked at our parents
expectantly and made it quite clear they expect them to
front a lot of the cost. We are far from wealthy.
When my parents work and save every penny from their
labor jobs, I've been working ever since I was sixteen
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to help support the household too, and to save money
to move out. Everyone congratulated them on the decision and
wished them luck, But when I got a chance, I
told them they were being selfish for spending money the
family doesn't have just to have a biological kid, especially
since there are so many kids out there available for adoption.
For context, I was adopted into my family at a
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young age, so I'm probably very biased about this topic.
I think IVF in general is a selfish thing to do,
and the fact they can't even pay for it themselves
is the cheery on top. Now, my sister won't speak
to me, and my family members except one sister are
calling me a jerk for saying that. My one sister
says she understands where I'm coming from. Am I the jerk? Edit?
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Upon further evaluation after reading some comments, I've come to
understand my own feelings a bit more. I believe the
majority of my hang up is about IVF itself, not
necessarily how my parents choose to spend their money. They
are and have always been the most generous, kind hearted
people I know, and I wouldn't want that to change
about them, and they can use their money however they
want to. They wouldn't have taken me in if they
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weren't the kind of people they are. While I currently
morally believe it to be better to adopt rather than
spend valuable financial and scientific resources for biological kids, I
now see that expressing this opinion was very jerk behavior,
and giving any sort of input into this from a
moral high horse was really immature and inappropriate of me.
Even if I believe it myself and am planning to
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adopt eventually too, I definitely do not believe in forcing
my belief on others, and I definitely do not personally
know the struggles of infertility as I'm still in the
please don't be pregnant phase of my life. I will
try to be less judgmental in the future and apologize
to my sister, and I hope she can forgive me
for my outburst. There's a lot of confusing emotions that
God brought up with her announcement that had nothing to
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do with her and a lot to do with me.
Therapy was suggested a lot. Maybe I will look into
it once I have a real job. I didn't think
I had any pins up emotions or issues, since my
case was easy. My biological parents passed when I was two,
and their friends aka my godparents now parents, took me in.
I don't even remember my biological parents, so I don't
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think there can be any issues. I'm not very well
versed in the adoption and foster system and figured I
would look more into it when it was that time
for me, But now's as good a time as any.
Thanks for the feedback, not the jerk. I think you're
wrong in your logic, but that doesn't make you a jerk,
and I could be wrong in my assessment. I don't
think they're selfish for wanting to do IVF instead of adopting.
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Adopting isn't for everyone, and some people want to have
a biological kid if they can. That preference isn't wrong,
it's just their preference. However, your older sister is selfish
for expecting the family to pay for it, especially when
they don't really have the means. Also, if your sister
is in a position to afford IVF procedure on her own,
is she really in a good financial position to be
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having a kid. I'm not so sure everyone sucks here.
It is the truly important lesson that you should never
comment on someone's desire to have or not have kids
and how they might go about doing that. It is
incredibly personal. Infertility is heartbreaking for many. You are absolutely
a jerk for what you said, and yes, your history
has biased you. It's fine to advocate for adoption. You
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don't have to call someone selfish while you're doing that.
Your sister is a jerk because how you choose to
have kids should not become someone else's financial burden. But
that's still not your conversation to have. That's your parents' call.
You're the jerk. You overstepped. Adoption is great, but it's
not for everyone. All sorts of things get factored into
that decision. It's not simply about people wanting their kids
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to be biologically related. Also, adoption is not a no
cost or even low cost option. Them choosing IVF over
adoption is not a personal attack on you. How they
decide to grow their family is up to them, even
if they're asking others to help with the costs. Whether
your parents can or want to contribute financially is up
to them. Am I the jerk for asking my brother
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to pay thirty thousand dollars for my engagement ring, Sweet Home, Alabama.
Let's not jump to conclusions, Karen, Let's just read the story.
I hosted a family dinner over the weekend. My brother
brought my nephews, who were four and eight, over as well.
I used to wear my engagement ring all the time,
but lately I keep it in my walk in closet
and mainly weird for special occasions. While I was cleaning
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up the dinner table, my nephews went to go play
while the adults were still in the outdoor patio and
outdoor kitchen area. My brother was not supervising as kids
during this time. My nephews went into the master bedroom
without anyone knowing and started playing with everything, including my
engagement ring. When we came to look for them, they
panicked because they knew they weren't supposed to be upstairs,
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ran into the master bathroom and flushed my ring. We
called a plumber in case it was somehow in the
you trap of the toilet and not actually gone. But nope,
unfortunately it was gone for good. We still had the
original receipt, so I called my brother. I emailed him
a scanned copy is proof of the cost and asked
him to reimburse me for the ring. My nephew flushed immediately.
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He started calling me a jerk because we were family
and he was just a kid. He has refused to
pay the cost of my ring. I told him I'll
be taking him to court for this, and now my
entire family is blowing up my phone, saying family shouldn't
sue each other and to just let it go. Edit No,
the ring was not insured. I found out the day
after my nephew flushed it. My husband says he forgot
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and in the end never actually insured it. Edit two.
My brother says he does not have the money to
repay even one hundred dollars per month and has refused
any kind of repayment plan. He said, I live in
a nice enough house and if I want a replacement,
I should just sell my car. Edit three. My brother
to this day has not truly apologized. He said kids
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will do what is normal for kids, and they shouldn't
be held responsible for a ring. They were supposed to
supervise their kids outdoors with the rest of the family
while I was busy cleaning up Edit four. I don't
believe for a second my brother and his wife cannot
pay for the cost of my engagement ring. They don't
make anything near my husband, but they have a combined
income of around two hundred and fifty thousand. They don't
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pay rent or anything because my parents gifted them their
old house valued at three point five million in Toronto
back when I bought my parents a new home years ago.
There's no mortgage on the home my brother lives in.
The only things my brother and his wife would have
to pay is the cost of raising their kids, normal
bills and food. I feel so distraught because my ring
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holds great sentimental value. I've already been speaking with my
husband's family lawyer, but at this point I'm ready to
hire a private investigator to find out if they really
don't have the money. Not the jerk, his circus, his monkeys,
he wasn't watching them. That's on him one hundred percent.
He should replace your ring. As for all the family
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who are blowing up at you, it's easy when it
didn't happen to them to preach forgiveness. Ignore them. Also,
eight and four are more than old enough to know better.
My three year old knows not to touch someone else's
things in their home without asking choices have consequences, and
sometimes those consequences are expensive. Sorry this happened to you.
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You didn't ensure a thirty thousand dollars ring. For those
of you who say the insurance isn't the point, of course,
it's the point. The point of this whole thing is
the sheer amount of money involved. Crap happens all the time.
Kids get into things, dogs eat things, Partners lose things.
Anything that you value is on you to ensure or protect.
You are the jerk for walking around with a thirty
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thousand dollars liability the size of a marble and then
pointing fingers at whoever touched it last before it disappeared.
Not the jerk. Your family is right. Family shouldn't sue
each other because it should be repaid without courts. Literally,
ninety percent of people can't afford a random thirty thousand
dollars bill, but they can absolutely afford to repay it
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back over time. Her ring is gone, and it's gone
through no fault of her own. She is owed restitution.
Am I the jerk for canceling on family vacation after
my newly widowed mom decided to bring her new boyfriend
my dad lost his one and a half year battle
with cancer one year ago April of twenty twenty two,
at only sixty two years old. He and my mom
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were married for thirty one years. The few months before
my dad got sick, he and my mom were not
on great terms and were contemplating divorce. However, through my
dad's diagnosis and extreme ups and downs of treatment, they
came together, squashed some of their issues, and my mom
was there to care for my dad every step of
the way. I miss him every day. Me and my
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mom had always been pretty close, but since my dad passed,
I feel like I'm seeing and talking to her less
and less these days, and it makes me sad. In
August of twenty twenty two, four months after my dad passed,
my mom started seeing someone. She'd call him her friend,
slip in mentions of him in conversation, but I personally
wanted nothing to do with them, still don't. I thought
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it was too soon, and I told her soul. Everyone
grieves differently, and dating after losing his spouse is hard,
but conversations I've attempted with this guy and the chemistry
between them have been super awkward. In my opinion. I
feel like she's disregarding any feelings or pushback that's me,
my sister, or extended family have about this relationship. Large
extended family, all very close knit. She has now started
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bringing him to events and parties, and there's an awkward
vibe when he's around. Nobody wants to say it out loud.
This past week, he showed up unexpectedly at our family
Easter party at my parents' house. My mom knew he
was coming and did not mention to anyone, following tradition.
We stood in prayer before we ate dinner and my
uncle prayed out loud for those who we have lost,
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and I felt so awkward that my mom's boyfriend was
there holding hands with my family as we talked about
my dad in my dad's house, almost only a year
to the day that he passed. We're now booking flights
for a large family vacation in June. Condo has already
been booked for months, and my mom casually mentioned at
Easter that she's bringing her boyfriend. I didn't hear this
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at the time and found out later from a cousin.
I immediately called and told her my feelings about him going.
I don't want him to, and she completely changed the
subject and did not acknowledge what I told her at all,
not to mention we had decided to leave a day
early to save money on flights, but now that her
boyfriend is going, it will actually cost me more because
we will no longer be splitting the costs that we
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originally planned since they will be doing things separately. Money
is not the problem, though it's now principal to me.
Of the twenty family members that will be on this trip,
not one person really wants him to be there except her.
He will be staying in the same condo, and we're
going to have to tiptoe around this awkward situation for
an entire week while we should be relaxing and enjoying
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family time together. Am I the jerk for wanting to
cancel on the family vacation and or stick to my
guns of not wanting her boyfriend to go even though
she already booked his flight. You're the jerk. Sounds like
your mom put aside the reason she wanted to divorce
your dad, to be there for him and his time
of need and to honor their thirty one years together.
I'm sure you've read on Reddit how many men abandon
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their spouses when they get diagnosed with cancer. Your mom
stayed until the end for him, even though the marriage
was done. She stayed with him through his cancer and
helped him. And now what, you're mad that she has
a chance at happiness again. How many years of her
life does she have to sacrifice before you decide it's
okay for her to be happy. One to two years
to nurse him, one year to grieve. That's already at
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least three years of sacrifice for an older woman who
wanted to be free and have a better life. It
doesn't matter what you think of her boyfriend. My own
mom is dating someone I don't like, but I'm not
going to say anything because he makes her happy. And
yes I'm going on an awkward family trip with them.
Be a better kid to your mom. Goodness, you're the jerk.
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Your parents marriage was over if they were together for
thirty one years and talking divorce, Dude, it's been over
for a while. She sucked it up because he was dying.
It's an awkward vibe because instead of being mature and
being happy, your mom found someone who makes her happy.
You guys are refusing to be open. You're the jerk.
Grow up. Your mother and father were already contemplating divorce.
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She stayed with him through his illness. Anyway, she didn't
move on too quickly or do anything wrong. I'm sorry
for your loss, but seriously, your mother deserves to be happy.
You're the jerk. You said yourself that they were having
marital problems before your dad's illness. Your mother did right
by him and cared for him, but the issues were
still there, just squashed, as you call it. It makes
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sense that she moved on faster than you because her
relationship with him was different than yours. He was your dad,
but for her he was a husband who she was
considering divorcing. If this new man treats her well and
makes her happy, just be happy for her. Don't you
think she deserves to be happy, not the jerk. I
was wondering why everyone is tearing you to shreds. Honestly,
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my heart goes out to you, and I'd feel the
same way if I were in your shoes. Then I
saw in the comments that you're actually a male. Then
it all made sense. If this was written by a
daughter about her father, everyone would be telling her to
go no contact with them. Gotta love read it. Nothing
wrong with your noise. Let's see how you like it
when you have a baby. I live in an eighty
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style duplex building made of concrete cinder block bricks and
moved in here mid twenty sixteen. My neighbor has a
mirror of my apartment. There are both two levels, with
a gallery staircase in the middle. I love it here
so much, but my neighbor, oh my goodness. We actually
used to get along all right, and that was mostly
because I like to keep the peace. But he loves
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having every door and window of his home open. And
I live in a part of the world that is
hot and humid for about three fourths of the year.
We also live right by a busy road. This wouldn't
be that much of an issue, but his music and
movies have to compete with the outside noise, as well
as the noise from his fans. He refuses to use
his air conditioner. The result, even at low levels, as
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a booming base in some of my rooms due to
the resonance. It drives me crazy. And this could happen
at any time of the day or night. I was
losing sleep and my mind was at wits end. We
finally fell out about a year ago. I had tried asking, begging, pleading,
passive aggression, every avenue had been exhausted. By this point.
I convinced him to come over to my house and
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just listen so he can hear for himself what I'm
talking about, and thought, surely he would realize that he
needs to stop, or at least seriously adjust his sound settings.
He said there was absolutely nothing wrong, and so I
decided to change tack and increase the levels of my
own system much better than his, to roughly where his was,
And again he said there was nothing wrong and that
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he wasn't going to change anything. I was told that
my sound wasn't able to be heard at their place,
and that I could leave the levels as they were
and would just have to live with whatever sound came
out of their home. At this point, I also started
searching for phrases like narcissist or just a jerk to
try to figure him out. He got with this lady
he had been talking to, and it's an absurd and
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toxic relationship, but not my problem, and I figured at
least he wasn't playing sound that boomed through my bedroom
in the middle of the night. Anyway, cut to a
few months ago, I noticed he had some old baby
stuff on his patio that looked like it was bought
from a garage sale thirty years ago. And then in
the following months I see his girlfriend with a definite
baby bump. By now, I bet you can see where
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this is going. And so by that point, assuming things
weren't going to change, I knew they wouldn't. This past month,
my neighbor and his girlfriend have welcomed an adorable little
screaming baby, which I can't hear from my place at all, thankfully,
But apparently they absolutely can hear sound coming from my
place and told me as much when they knocked this
week and I greeted them with a big smile and congratulations.
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They told me that they're getting no sleep at all
and that they're at their wits end. They asked, begged,
and pleaded with me to turn my sound system down,
and I reminded my neighbor that my sound wasn't able
to be heard from their house, and even if they
could hear my sound, that they can just live with it.
I might reduce the setting slightly once I know for
sure that a lesson has been learned, and I'm well
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aware that this would fit in am I the jerk
and petty revenge? But I thought I'd give it a go. Here.
Am I the jerk for hiding vegetables in my boyfriend's food.
I twenty eight female, had been with my boyfriend, who's
thirty six, for a year, and we moved in together
about four months ago. One of the first things I
noticed about my boyfriend was that he never really eats vegetables.
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He would sometimes eat them if we were out at
a restaurant and they came as part of his meal,
but he never ate them when I cooked for him. Originally,
I thought that maybe my cooking was the problem, so
I asked him if he enjoyed my food, and he
told me he loves my cooking. On nights I didn't
cook for him, he ate exclusively frozen foods and never
ate the vegetables in those either. Naturally, he has some
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health issues vite him in deficiencies, et cetera. He had
phrased to me as if it were something just genetically unlucky.
I believed it for a while because I don't know
how that stuff works, but eventually it became clear to
me it's because he voluntarily eats a vegetable like once
a month. Six months ago, I started hiding vegetables in
my cooking. If I was making pasta, i'd put the
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vegetables in. I'd usually put in for myself, just take
half out and blend it so that he wouldn't notice
the vegetable chunks, and then just tell him I'd scoop
the vegetables out of his portion. This happens more often
now that we live together, because I do all of
the cooking. He's been telling me a lot lately. He's
been feeling a lot better the past few months, and
has even had his doctor reduce the dosage of some
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of his medications, and he hasn't had to take his
multivitamin in weeks. I kept my mouth shut because I'm
just glad he's feeling better, and it really does me
no harm to hide the vegetables in his food. Yesterday,
I was making one of our regular pasta meals. It's
one that's very easy to hide at least four veggies in,
and I was about to blend my boyfriend's portion when
the blender died mid blend. I had to serve it
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and it's vegetable chunky glory. My boyfriend refused to eat
the vegetables, but when he tasted the sauce, he said,
it's weird how it tastes the exact same, even though
this one has vegetables in it. So I confessed. He
screamed at me and called me a controlling jerk and
said that it's none of my business if he thinks
vegetables don't do anything. I pointed out that he said
he felt better. He said his health was none of
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my business and that I'm a controlling, judgy jerk, and
stormed out of our apartment to stay with his sister.
His sister texted me to say he's fine, but she
agrees with him. My friends agree it's ridiculous that he
didn't need vegetables, but agree that I'm being the jerk.
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? This is a
grown man eight years older than you. If he has
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a problem with your cooking, let him make his own food.
He's already coddled by his sister and doesn't and shouldn't
need to be coddled by you. Sorry, but he should
rightfully go in the reject pile for op and every
other woman. A man who cannot be an adult for
himself and eat things that do him good is a
self sabotaging and her sabotaging jerk unfit for partnership. I
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don't know why some people act like self harm as
some sort of virtue. It's not. It is stupidity and
stubbornness in all of its glory. And this was but
one symptom of a much bigger problem. He's unable to
adapt and evolve as a human. He's unable to adult
himself and learn new things. He is unable to take
responsibility for his own health or his cooking. He ate
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junk and thinks that is somehow as it should be.
Anyone dating such a person should save themselves years of
heartbreak and move on this. And given that he apparently
didn't mind the veggies when he didn't notice them, it's
pretty clear that it's not even taste or texture he
has a problem with. If it was, he could just say, oh, yeah,
well it tasted fine, so please keep blending veggies for me,
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but he insists on not eating them at all for
no apparent reason. No, you're not the jerk in any way,
and I don't care what anyone says. I admittedly was
the same way till my girlfriend, and it got me
to start. I felt much better afterwards, and just yeah,
minus squash. I will straight up fight someone over having
to eat that nasty food. If he's going to be
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a cry baby about it, he can cook his own
food and you can cook yours. That way, he can
control what he's putting in his body. As another comment said,
this guy is crying about eating vegetables that he didn't
know he was eating and actually liked how it tastes.
What a doughnut? Not the jerk. What kind of grown
man doesn't eat vegetables get a new boyfriend, you're the jerk.
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It's infuriating how hypocritical you all are. I've seen several
stories about boyfriends who secretly get their girlfriends to eat
certain foods, and you guys completely flip out. But now
that it's the girlfriend sneaking things into her boyfriend's food,
you all give her a pass and tell her to
leave him. I'll never understand how you all became so
biased against the men in these stories. If he doesn't
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want to eat vegetables, guess what, he doesn't have to.
He's an adult and gets to make his own decisions.
There are plenty of doctors who don't even recommend eating
vegetables or fruits. I'm sure you all would discredit them, though,
because you prefer to follow the food pyramid, the same
one that has ninety percent of you overweight and diabetic
and insulin resistant. Am I the jerk for telling my
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brother's girlfriend her dog is not equal to a human
life and to stop talking? I twenty seven male, used
to think this was something that people would only say online,
but I've definitely seen and heard it firsthand, bleeding into
real life, which is why I'm asking here. Maybe I'm
just weird because I'm surprised I even have to ask this.
It's not uncommon to see online Reddit, for example, to
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see people say that they would choose to save their
dog over the life of a living person because their
dog is their dog while the person is just a stranger.
That entire mentality seems warped and incredibly vile. I don't
hate dogs, and I like playing with them, but I
don't understand how one can compare one to that of
a person that was once online. But it seems to
be bleeding into real life time times. Yesterday, a family
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friend was telling my family and my brother's girlfriend, Mary,
who's twenty five, how her son is having major medical
issues which could ultimately take his life, and how she
and her husband were not dealing with it well at all,
and my brother's girlfriend said, I understand what you're going through.
When Kennedy, her dog, needed surgery, I just didn't know
how to deal with it, and I was a mess.
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Everyone got kind of quiet because she was comparing the
life of a dog to a nine year old kid,
and she said it like it was totally normal. The
mom was visibly taken back and hurt, and Mary didn't
understand why. Mary added Kennedy is like a kid to her,
and before she could go on, I just blurted out
something like, not the same at all. Please stop talking.
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Mary did stop talking, but it made everything uncomfortable, so
everyone called it an evening. My dad asked Mary to
leave and told my brother he needed to ensure he
and Mary somehow made this right, because that was heartless.
My mom said she wasn't sure how to end the
conversation after that, but my method wasn't it. My brother
hasn't said much other than he gets it but he
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is still upset with me. Mary is demanding an apology
and for me to mend the relationship with my dad.
The few people who know about this are torn. Some
people are saying Mary wasn't wrong and me and others
do not get to tell her how to feel about
her dog, and I invalidated her feelings. Others are saying
she should be ashamed. One friend said this is a
problem only white developed nation people could encounter, and Mary
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is actually a bad person. I can't believe I actually
have to ask this, but they got me. Am I
the jerk for any of this. I love my dog
and I love my son, but my dog is a dog,
and my son is a human who will well outlive
my dog. I respect people's choices on how they view
their animals. Some people can't have kids and view their
animals as that, But comparing the surgery of an animal
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to one of a human is nowhere near the same.
The outcomes are vastly different, as well as recovery. Are
you a bit rude, perhaps, but not the jerk. You're
the jerk. My pets are just as important to me
as your kids are. You have no right to downplay
the emotional pain that pet owners feel from what we
go through. Why do breeders insist that it's impossible for
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other people to actually love their animals. To be honest,
I love my pets more than most breeders love their offspring.
I don't constantly complain about my pets the way breeders do.
I don't try to pressure family into watching my pets
for me the way breeders do. I never developed a
drinking problem to cope with the fact that I wish
I never got my pets the way breeders do. How
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dare you try to downplay my pain? It's people like
you that spike my depression and anxiety. Reddit used to
be a safe space for me, but with stupid people
like you, it's now a major trigger. Would I be
the jerk if I made my ten year old sister
use her birthday money to pay me back. I, twenty
four female, recently moved back in with my parents so
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I could finish trade school. My little sister, who's ten,
and I share a Jack and Jill bathroom. I had
been noticing slime and spilled wax all over the countertops
and light switch in my side of the bathroom, and
had talked to my parents about keeping my little sister
out of my side of the bathroom. Well, two weeks ago,
I was supposed to go out on date, but couldn't
find any of my makeup. I asked my sister if
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she had taken it out of my bathroom, and her
response was, I didn't even know you wore makeup. She's
a good kid, so I believed her and figured I
must have lost my makeup in the move, which upset
me because I buy expensive stuff since I don't use
it often. I ended up going to the store that
day and just replacing the concealer and foundation one hundred
dollars since I couldn't afford to replace my whole set. Well,
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this morning, I wake up to find my old concealer
and foundation sitting right on top of the new ones
I just bought. I asked my mom if she had
found it somewhere, and she said she never touched it.
It was pretty obvious that it had leaked or something,
because there was makeup all over the outside of the
bottle and it was way more empty than when I
last had it. My mom immediately thinks that my little
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sister took it and goes into her room to snoop around.
The Next thing I know, my mom starts tossing the
room and I'm trying to get her to stop, when
she finally dumps out a drawer with not only my makeup,
but a bunch of makeup that my mom had that
had gone missing. My sister had taken two makeup pallets
of mine, one I hadn't even opened yet, brushes, lipstick, eyeliner,
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basically everything. On top of that, my mom found open
containers of slime and paint that had seeped into the carpet,
and other crap she had stolen from around the house.
All of the makeup she took from my mom and
I were destroyed. The palettes were mixed together and cracked,
brushes had painted in them, lipstick mashed, and everything was
covered in slime. When me and my parents confronted her,
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she denied everything, even said that she didn't use any
of the makeup when it was an obvious lie. My
parents have grounded her for a month no phone or electronics,
and have offered to pay me back, But I don't
want them to pay me back. I want her to
pay me back. She stole and destroyed nearly two hundred
dollars makeup and lie to my face about it. The
worst part is I've only been living here for three weeks.
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Her eleventh birthday is coming up in two months, and
I'm wondering if I would be the jerk if I
made her use her birthday money to pay me back.
I feel like taking her birthday money is cruel, especially
because it's the only kind of spending money she gets
all year, and my parents have suggested chores. But what
chores is she going to do to pay me back?
I do more chores than her, and I pay rent
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at it. My parents are not against her paying me
back with her birthday money. They actually suggested it first.
They're leaving it up to me to decide how I
want to be paid back. My grandparents give her two
hundred dollars check every birthday, on top of toys and
art stuff for extra spending money during the year. It's
not really up to you, is it. Her and your
parents are legally responsible for damages caused by their kid,
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Hence the money is truly their responsibility. How to raise
your sister is also their job. If they chose to
use her birthday money to pay you back, then fine,
it could probably be seen as proper consequences for her actions,
but it's not really your place to decide this. The
real question is what's going on with your little sister
that she's stealing and lying. She's obviously acting out for
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some reason. My daughter is demanding I fire her ex
because she broke up with him. The boy in question
is named Jaden twenty two male. Me forty five female,
and my husband forty six male have known Jayden for
fifteen years since he's the son of one of our friends.
My daughter Tati twenty one female, and him have had
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this same friend group for a few years now. In college,
they befriended this girl named Paige twenty one female. My
hubby and I loved Jaden with all of our hearts.
Tati is our only kid and we thought of him
as our son. We believed they would get married one day,
so I decided to teach him the family business since
he was seventeen years old, so that he could take
care of it one day. Tati is not interested. I
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hired Page for a while, but she ended up quitting
because she had to take care of her mother because
she broke her ankle a year ago, Tati told us
that she and Jaden were expecting, and while we were
worried because they were too young, we were happy for them. Sadly,
she lost it and ended up very depressed. I saw
Jaden doing everything she wanted. As you can imagine, my
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daughter began to snap easily and started to treat the
poor boy badly. We talked to her, We told her
it wasn't fair, but she wouldn't listen. She said, we
didn't understand, nor did Jaden. During a fight, Tati broke
up with Jaden. It was pretty common during those days,
and he always came back saying sorry, but that time
he didn't. He kept showing up to work, he kept
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talking to my husband and I, but it seemed that
he was done with Tati, and as unfair as it sounds,
I don't blame him. Eventually he started to date Paige,
and this obviously enraged my daughter. She demanded I no
longer leave the business to Jaden because he wouldn't be
family anymore. I stupidly said yes because my daughter was
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grieving and heartbroken. Understood. I thought that was it. Tati
never demanded anything else until two weeks ago, when Jade
told us that page was expecting. I guess it triggered Tati,
so she demanded again that I fired Jaden because he
has no business around us anymore. I don't know why,
but I declined it doesn't seem fair. Jaden has proven
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to me that he's cut out for this. He knows
what he's doing, he's a good boss, he's smart, and
people trust him. So I said no. Tati went to
her dad crying, and my husband demanded I fired Jaden asap,
but I said no again. He said he would fire
him himself then, and I said he wasn't allowed because
the business belongs to my side of the family and
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my dad was still alive, so he had the last word.
My husband keeps telling me that I'm the jerk for
choosing Jaden over Tati. So maybe am I the jerk?
Not the jerk? Your daughter is trying to make this
guy's life horrible. Why because she's upset that she was
toxic towards him. She's upset because she broke up with
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him and he didn't come crawling back after dealing with her.
Snapping at him sounds like she was mistreating him by
the way. I would be disgusted with my husband for
wanting to enable her malicious and downright disturbing behavior. And
of course I would find my daughter's behavior deplorable if
she acted this way. She's hurting people because they didn't
enable her behavior. She's lashing out over what facing the
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consequences of her own actions. I'm sorry for her loss,
but grief is not an excuse to treat other people poorly.
Your daughter needs to grow up and quite frankly, recognize
that the world does not revolve around her. She seems
to think otherwise, not the jerk. There's no way you
should fire and expect in father just because his ex
is throwing a tantrum. Apart from being unethical, that could
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Hey there, mister rhdder here, welcome back to another episode
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Karen refuses to adopt and will only do IVF. After that,
Am I the jerk for asking my brother to pay
thirty thousand dollars for my engagement ring? And after that,
do your job? Okay, Karen? Now for every thumbs up
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this video gets one, Karen loses her WiFi. Is that
why my YouTube has been buffering so much lately? So
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notifications for new stories from Reddit every single day. Karen
refuses to adopt and will only do IVF. I'm nineteen female.
My oldest sister who's thirty, has been struggling with infertility
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for the past three years since they started trying for
a baby. This Easter, she and her husband made the
announcement that they're going to be pursuing IVF and will
start a GoFundMe for it. They looked at our parents
expectantly and made it quite clear they expect them to
front a lot of the cost. We are far from wealthy.
When my parents work and save every penny from their
labor jobs, I've been working ever since I was sixteen
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to help support the household too, and to save money
to move out. Everyone congratulated them on the decision and
wished them luck, But when I got a chance, I
told them they were being selfish for spending money the
family doesn't have just to have a biological kid, especially
since there are so many kids out there available for adoption.
For context, I was adopted into my family at a
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young age, so I'm probably very biased about this topic.
I think IVF in general is a selfish thing to do,
and the fact they can't even pay for it themselves
is the cheery on top. Now, my sister won't speak
to me, and my family members except one sister are
calling me a jerk for saying that. My one sister
says she understands where I'm coming from. Am I the jerk? Edit?
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Upon further evaluation after reading some comments, I've come to
understand my own feelings a bit more. I believe the
majority of my hang up is about IVF itself, not
necessarily how my parents choose to spend their money. They
are and have always been the most generous, kind hearted
people I know, and I wouldn't want that to change
about them, and they can use their money however they
want to. They wouldn't have taken me in if they
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weren't the kind of people they are. While I currently
morally believe it to be better to adopt rather than
spend valuable financial and scientific resources for biological kids, I
now see that expressing this opinion was very jerk behavior,
and giving any sort of input into this from a
moral high horse was really immature and inappropriate of me.
Even if I believe it myself and am planning to
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adopt eventually too, I definitely do not believe in forcing
my belief on others, and I definitely do not personally
know the struggles of infertility as I'm still in the
please don't be pregnant phase of my life. I will
try to be less judgmental in the future and apologize
to my sister, and I hope she can forgive me
for my outburst. There's a lot of confusing emotions that
God brought up with her announcement that had nothing to
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do with her and a lot to do with me.
Therapy was suggested a lot. Maybe I will look into
it once I have a real job. I didn't think
I had any pins up emotions or issues, since my
case was easy. My biological parents passed when I was two,
and their friends aka my godparents now parents, took me in.
I don't even remember my biological parents, so I don't
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think there can be any issues. I'm not very well
versed in the adoption and foster system and figured I
would look more into it when it was that time
for me, But now's as good a time as any.
Thanks for the feedback, not the jerk. I think you're
wrong in your logic, but that doesn't make you a jerk,
and I could be wrong in my assessment. I don't
think they're selfish for wanting to do IVF instead of adopting.
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Adopting isn't for everyone, and some people want to have
a biological kid if they can. That preference isn't wrong,
it's just their preference. However, your older sister is selfish
for expecting the family to pay for it, especially when
they don't really have the means. Also, if your sister
is in a position to afford IVF procedure on her own,
is she really in a good financial position to be
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having a kid. I'm not so sure everyone sucks here.
It is the truly important lesson that you should never
comment on someone's desire to have or not have kids
and how they might go about doing that. It is
incredibly personal. Infertility is heartbreaking for many. You are absolutely
a jerk for what you said, and yes, your history
has biased you. It's fine to advocate for adoption. You
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don't have to call someone selfish while you're doing that.
Your sister is a jerk because how you choose to
have kids should not become someone else's financial burden. But
that's still not your conversation to have. That's your parents' call.
You're the jerk. You overstepped. Adoption is great, but it's
not for everyone. All sorts of things get factored into
that decision. It's not simply about people wanting their kids
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to be biologically related. Also, adoption is not a no
cost or even low cost option. Them choosing IVF over
adoption is not a personal attack on you. How they
decide to grow their family is up to them, even
if they're asking others to help with the costs. Whether
your parents can or want to contribute financially is up
to them. Am I the jerk for asking my brother
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to pay thirty thousand dollars for my engagement ring, Sweet Home, Alabama.
Let's not jump to conclusions, Karen, Let's just read the story.
I hosted a family dinner over the weekend. My brother
brought my nephews, who were four and eight, over as well.
I used to wear my engagement ring all the time,
but lately I keep it in my walk in closet
and mainly weird for special occasions. While I was cleaning
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up the dinner table, my nephews went to go play
while the adults were still in the outdoor patio and
outdoor kitchen area. My brother was not supervising as kids
during this time. My nephews went into the master bedroom
without anyone knowing and started playing with everything, including my
engagement ring. When we came to look for them, they
panicked because they knew they weren't supposed to be upstairs,
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ran into the master bathroom and flushed my ring. We
called a plumber in case it was somehow in the
you trap of the toilet and not actually gone. But nope,
unfortunately it was gone for good. We still had the
original receipt, so I called my brother. I emailed him
a scanned copy is proof of the cost and asked
him to reimburse me for the ring. My nephew flushed immediately.
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He started calling me a jerk because we were family
and he was just a kid. He has refused to
pay the cost of my ring. I told him I'll
be taking him to court for this, and now my
entire family is blowing up my phone, saying family shouldn't
sue each other and to just let it go. Edit No,
the ring was not insured. I found out the day
after my nephew flushed it. My husband says he forgot
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and in the end never actually insured it. Edit two.
My brother says he does not have the money to
repay even one hundred dollars per month and has refused
any kind of repayment plan. He said, I live in
a nice enough house and if I want a replacement,
I should just sell my car. Edit three. My brother
to this day has not truly apologized. He said kids
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will do what is normal for kids, and they shouldn't
be held responsible for a ring. They were supposed to
supervise their kids outdoors with the rest of the family
while I was busy cleaning up Edit four. I don't
believe for a second my brother and his wife cannot
pay for the cost of my engagement ring. They don't
make anything near my husband, but they have a combined
income of around two hundred and fifty thousand. They don't
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pay rent or anything because my parents gifted them their
old house valued at three point five million in Toronto
back when I bought my parents a new home years ago.
There's no mortgage on the home my brother lives in.
The only things my brother and his wife would have
to pay is the cost of raising their kids, normal
bills and food. I feel so distraught because my ring
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holds great sentimental value. I've already been speaking with my
husband's family lawyer, but at this point I'm ready to
hire a private investigator to find out if they really
don't have the money. Not the jerk, his circus, his monkeys,
he wasn't watching them. That's on him one hundred percent.
He should replace your ring. As for all the family
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who are blowing up at you, it's easy when it
didn't happen to them to preach forgiveness. Ignore them. Also,
eight and four are more than old enough to know better.
My three year old knows not to touch someone else's
things in their home without asking choices have consequences, and
sometimes those consequences are expensive. Sorry this happened to you.
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You didn't ensure a thirty thousand dollars ring. For those
of you who say the insurance isn't the point, of course,
it's the point. The point of this whole thing is
the sheer amount of money involved. Crap happens all the time.
Kids get into things, dogs eat things, Partners lose things.
Anything that you value is on you to ensure or protect.
You are the jerk for walking around with a thirty
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thousand dollars liability the size of a marble and then
pointing fingers at whoever touched it last before it disappeared.
Not the jerk. Your family is right. Family shouldn't sue
each other because it should be repaid without courts. Literally,
ninety percent of people can't afford a random thirty thousand
dollars bill, but they can absolutely afford to repay it
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back over time. Her ring is gone, and it's gone
through no fault of her own. She is owed restitution.
Am I the jerk for canceling on family vacation after
my newly widowed mom decided to bring her new boyfriend
my dad lost his one and a half year battle
with cancer one year ago April of twenty twenty two,
at only sixty two years old. He and my mom
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were married for thirty one years. The few months before
my dad got sick, he and my mom were not
on great terms and were contemplating divorce. However, through my
dad's diagnosis and extreme ups and downs of treatment, they
came together, squashed some of their issues, and my mom
was there to care for my dad every step of
the way. I miss him every day. Me and my
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mom had always been pretty close, but since my dad passed,
I feel like I'm seeing and talking to her less
and less these days, and it makes me sad. In
August of twenty twenty two, four months after my dad passed,
my mom started seeing someone. She'd call him her friend,
slip in mentions of him in conversation, but I personally
wanted nothing to do with them, still don't. I thought
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it was too soon, and I told her soul. Everyone
grieves differently, and dating after losing his spouse is hard,
but conversations I've attempted with this guy and the chemistry
between them have been super awkward. In my opinion. I
feel like she's disregarding any feelings or pushback that's me,
my sister, or extended family have about this relationship. Large
extended family, all very close knit. She has now started
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bringing him to events and parties, and there's an awkward
vibe when he's around. Nobody wants to say it out loud.
This past week, he showed up unexpectedly at our family
Easter party at my parents' house. My mom knew he
was coming and did not mention to anyone, following tradition.
We stood in prayer before we ate dinner and my
uncle prayed out loud for those who we have lost,
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and I felt so awkward that my mom's boyfriend was
there holding hands with my family as we talked about
my dad in my dad's house, almost only a year
to the day that he passed. We're now booking flights
for a large family vacation in June. Condo has already
been booked for months, and my mom casually mentioned at
Easter that she's bringing her boyfriend. I didn't hear this
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at the time and found out later from a cousin.
I immediately called and told her my feelings about him going.
I don't want him to, and she completely changed the
subject and did not acknowledge what I told her at all,
not to mention we had decided to leave a day
early to save money on flights, but now that her
boyfriend is going, it will actually cost me more because
we will no longer be splitting the costs that we
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originally planned since they will be doing things separately. Money
is not the problem, though it's now principal to me.
Of the twenty family members that will be on this trip,
not one person really wants him to be there except her.
He will be staying in the same condo, and we're
going to have to tiptoe around this awkward situation for
an entire week while we should be relaxing and enjoying
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family time together. Am I the jerk for wanting to
cancel on the family vacation and or stick to my
guns of not wanting her boyfriend to go even though
she already booked his flight. You're the jerk. Sounds like
your mom put aside the reason she wanted to divorce
your dad, to be there for him and his time
of need and to honor their thirty one years together.
I'm sure you've read on Reddit how many men abandon
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their spouses when they get diagnosed with cancer. Your mom
stayed until the end for him, even though the marriage
was done. She stayed with him through his cancer and
helped him. And now what, you're mad that she has
a chance at happiness again. How many years of her
life does she have to sacrifice before you decide it's
okay for her to be happy. One to two years
to nurse him, one year to grieve. That's already at
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least three years of sacrifice for an older woman who
wanted to be free and have a better life. It
doesn't matter what you think of her boyfriend. My own
mom is dating someone I don't like, but I'm not
going to say anything because he makes her happy. And
yes I'm going on an awkward family trip with them.
Be a better kid to your mom. Goodness, you're the jerk.
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Your parents marriage was over if they were together for
thirty one years and talking divorce, Dude, it's been over
for a while. She sucked it up because he was dying.
It's an awkward vibe because instead of being mature and
being happy, your mom found someone who makes her happy.
You guys are refusing to be open. You're the jerk.
Grow up. Your mother and father were already contemplating divorce.
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She stayed with him through his illness. Anyway, she didn't
move on too quickly or do anything wrong. I'm sorry
for your loss, but seriously, your mother deserves to be happy.
You're the jerk. You said yourself that they were having
marital problems before your dad's illness. Your mother did right
by him and cared for him, but the issues were
still there, just squashed, as you call it. It makes
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sense that she moved on faster than you because her
relationship with him was different than yours. He was your dad,
but for her he was a husband who she was
considering divorcing. If this new man treats her well and
makes her happy, just be happy for her. Don't you
think she deserves to be happy, not the jerk. I
was wondering why everyone is tearing you to shreds. Honestly,
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my heart goes out to you, and I'd feel the
same way if I were in your shoes. Then I
saw in the comments that you're actually a male. Then
it all made sense. If this was written by a
daughter about her father, everyone would be telling her to
go no contact with them. Gotta love read it. Nothing
wrong with your noise. Let's see how you like it
when you have a baby. I live in an eighty
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style duplex building made of concrete cinder block bricks and
moved in here mid twenty sixteen. My neighbor has a
mirror of my apartment. There are both two levels, with
a gallery staircase in the middle. I love it here
so much, but my neighbor, oh my goodness. We actually
used to get along all right, and that was mostly
because I like to keep the peace. But he loves
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having every door and window of his home open. And
I live in a part of the world that is
hot and humid for about three fourths of the year.
We also live right by a busy road. This wouldn't
be that much of an issue, but his music and
movies have to compete with the outside noise, as well
as the noise from his fans. He refuses to use
his air conditioner. The result, even at low levels, as
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a booming base in some of my rooms due to
the resonance. It drives me crazy. And this could happen
at any time of the day or night. I was
losing sleep and my mind was at wits end. We
finally fell out about a year ago. I had tried asking, begging, pleading,
passive aggression, every avenue had been exhausted. By this point.
I convinced him to come over to my house and
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just listen so he can hear for himself what I'm
talking about, and thought, surely he would realize that he
needs to stop, or at least seriously adjust his sound settings.
He said there was absolutely nothing wrong, and so I
decided to change tack and increase the levels of my
own system much better than his, to roughly where his was,
And again he said there was nothing wrong and that
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he wasn't going to change anything. I was told that
my sound wasn't able to be heard at their place,
and that I could leave the levels as they were
and would just have to live with whatever sound came
out of their home. At this point, I also started
searching for phrases like narcissist or just a jerk to
try to figure him out. He got with this lady
he had been talking to, and it's an absurd and
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toxic relationship, but not my problem, and I figured at
least he wasn't playing sound that boomed through my bedroom
in the middle of the night. Anyway, cut to a
few months ago, I noticed he had some old baby
stuff on his patio that looked like it was bought
from a garage sale thirty years ago. And then in
the following months I see his girlfriend with a definite
baby bump. By now, I bet you can see where
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this is going. And so by that point, assuming things
weren't going to change, I knew they wouldn't. This past month,
my neighbor and his girlfriend have welcomed an adorable little
screaming baby, which I can't hear from my place at all, thankfully,
But apparently they absolutely can hear sound coming from my
place and told me as much when they knocked this
week and I greeted them with a big smile and congratulations.
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They told me that they're getting no sleep at all
and that they're at their wits end. They asked, begged,
and pleaded with me to turn my sound system down,
and I reminded my neighbor that my sound wasn't able
to be heard from their house, and even if they
could hear my sound, that they can just live with it.
I might reduce the setting slightly once I know for
sure that a lesson has been learned, and I'm well
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aware that this would fit in am I the jerk
and petty revenge? But I thought I'd give it a go. Here.
Am I the jerk for hiding vegetables in my boyfriend's food.
I twenty eight female, had been with my boyfriend, who's
thirty six, for a year, and we moved in together
about four months ago. One of the first things I
noticed about my boyfriend was that he never really eats vegetables.
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He would sometimes eat them if we were out at
a restaurant and they came as part of his meal,
but he never ate them when I cooked for him. Originally,
I thought that maybe my cooking was the problem, so
I asked him if he enjoyed my food, and he
told me he loves my cooking. On nights I didn't
cook for him, he ate exclusively frozen foods and never
ate the vegetables in those either. Naturally, he has some
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health issues vite him in deficiencies, et cetera. He had
phrased to me as if it were something just genetically unlucky.
I believed it for a while because I don't know
how that stuff works, but eventually it became clear to
me it's because he voluntarily eats a vegetable like once
a month. Six months ago, I started hiding vegetables in
my cooking. If I was making pasta, i'd put the
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vegetables in. I'd usually put in for myself, just take
half out and blend it so that he wouldn't notice
the vegetable chunks, and then just tell him I'd scoop
the vegetables out of his portion. This happens more often
now that we live together, because I do all of
the cooking. He's been telling me a lot lately. He's
been feeling a lot better the past few months, and
has even had his doctor reduce the dosage of some
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of his medications, and he hasn't had to take his
multivitamin in weeks. I kept my mouth shut because I'm
just glad he's feeling better, and it really does me
no harm to hide the vegetables in his food. Yesterday,
I was making one of our regular pasta meals. It's
one that's very easy to hide at least four veggies in,
and I was about to blend my boyfriend's portion when
the blender died mid blend. I had to serve it
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and it's vegetable chunky glory. My boyfriend refused to eat
the vegetables, but when he tasted the sauce, he said,
it's weird how it tastes the exact same, even though
this one has vegetables in it. So I confessed. He
screamed at me and called me a controlling jerk and
said that it's none of my business if he thinks
vegetables don't do anything. I pointed out that he said
he felt better. He said his health was none of
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my business and that I'm a controlling, judgy jerk, and
stormed out of our apartment to stay with his sister.
His sister texted me to say he's fine, but she
agrees with him. My friends agree it's ridiculous that he
didn't need vegetables, but agree that I'm being the jerk.
Am I the jerk? Not the jerk? This is a
grown man eight years older than you. If he has
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a problem with your cooking, let him make his own food.
He's already coddled by his sister and doesn't and shouldn't
need to be coddled by you. Sorry, but he should
rightfully go in the reject pile for op and every
other woman. A man who cannot be an adult for
himself and eat things that do him good is a
self sabotaging and her sabotaging jerk unfit for partnership. I
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don't know why some people act like self harm as
some sort of virtue. It's not. It is stupidity and
stubbornness in all of its glory. And this was but
one symptom of a much bigger problem. He's unable to
adapt and evolve as a human. He's unable to adult
himself and learn new things. He is unable to take
responsibility for his own health or his cooking. He ate
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junk and thinks that is somehow as it should be.
Anyone dating such a person should save themselves years of
heartbreak and move on this. And given that he apparently
didn't mind the veggies when he didn't notice them, it's
pretty clear that it's not even taste or texture he
has a problem with. If it was, he could just say, oh, yeah,
well it tasted fine, so please keep blending veggies for me,
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but he insists on not eating them at all for
no apparent reason. No, you're not the jerk in any way,
and I don't care what anyone says. I admittedly was
the same way till my girlfriend, and it got me
to start. I felt much better afterwards, and just yeah,
minus squash. I will straight up fight someone over having
to eat that nasty food. If he's going to be
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a cry baby about it, he can cook his own
food and you can cook yours. That way, he can
control what he's putting in his body. As another comment said,
this guy is crying about eating vegetables that he didn't
know he was eating and actually liked how it tastes.
What a doughnut? Not the jerk. What kind of grown
man doesn't eat vegetables get a new boyfriend, you're the jerk.
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It's infuriating how hypocritical you all are. I've seen several
stories about boyfriends who secretly get their girlfriends to eat
certain foods, and you guys completely flip out. But now
that it's the girlfriend sneaking things into her boyfriend's food,
you all give her a pass and tell her to
leave him. I'll never understand how you all became so
biased against the men in these stories. If he doesn't
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want to eat vegetables, guess what, he doesn't have to.
He's an adult and gets to make his own decisions.
There are plenty of doctors who don't even recommend eating
vegetables or fruits. I'm sure you all would discredit them, though,
because you prefer to follow the food pyramid, the same
one that has ninety percent of you overweight and diabetic
and insulin resistant. Am I the jerk for telling my
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brother's girlfriend her dog is not equal to a human
life and to stop talking? I twenty seven male, used
to think this was something that people would only say online,
but I've definitely seen and heard it firsthand, bleeding into
real life, which is why I'm asking here. Maybe I'm
just weird because I'm surprised I even have to ask this.
It's not uncommon to see online Reddit, for example, to
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see people say that they would choose to save their
dog over the life of a living person because their
dog is their dog while the person is just a stranger.
That entire mentality seems warped and incredibly vile. I don't
hate dogs, and I like playing with them, but I
don't understand how one can compare one to that of
a person that was once online. But it seems to
be bleeding into real life time times. Yesterday, a family
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friend was telling my family and my brother's girlfriend, Mary,
who's twenty five, how her son is having major medical
issues which could ultimately take his life, and how she
and her husband were not dealing with it well at all,
and my brother's girlfriend said, I understand what you're going through.
When Kennedy, her dog, needed surgery, I just didn't know
how to deal with it, and I was a mess.
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Everyone got kind of quiet because she was comparing the
life of a dog to a nine year old kid,
and she said it like it was totally normal. The
mom was visibly taken back and hurt, and Mary didn't
understand why. Mary added Kennedy is like a kid to her,
and before she could go on, I just blurted out
something like, not the same at all. Please stop talking.
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Mary did stop talking, but it made everything uncomfortable, so
everyone called it an evening. My dad asked Mary to
leave and told my brother he needed to ensure he
and Mary somehow made this right, because that was heartless.
My mom said she wasn't sure how to end the
conversation after that, but my method wasn't it. My brother
hasn't said much other than he gets it but he
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is still upset with me. Mary is demanding an apology
and for me to mend the relationship with my dad.
The few people who know about this are torn. Some
people are saying Mary wasn't wrong and me and others
do not get to tell her how to feel about
her dog, and I invalidated her feelings. Others are saying
she should be ashamed. One friend said this is a
problem only white developed nation people could encounter, and Mary
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is actually a bad person. I can't believe I actually
have to ask this, but they got me. Am I
the jerk for any of this. I love my dog
and I love my son, but my dog is a dog,
and my son is a human who will well outlive
my dog. I respect people's choices on how they view
their animals. Some people can't have kids and view their
animals as that, But comparing the surgery of an animal
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to one of a human is nowhere near the same.
The outcomes are vastly different, as well as recovery. Are
you a bit rude, perhaps, but not the jerk. You're
the jerk. My pets are just as important to me
as your kids are. You have no right to downplay
the emotional pain that pet owners feel from what we
go through. Why do breeders insist that it's impossible for
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other people to actually love their animals. To be honest,
I love my pets more than most breeders love their offspring.
I don't constantly complain about my pets the way breeders do.
I don't try to pressure family into watching my pets
for me the way breeders do. I never developed a
drinking problem to cope with the fact that I wish
I never got my pets the way breeders do. How
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dare you try to downplay my pain? It's people like
you that spike my depression and anxiety. Reddit used to
be a safe space for me, but with stupid people
like you, it's now a major trigger. Would I be
the jerk if I made my ten year old sister
use her birthday money to pay me back. I, twenty
four female, recently moved back in with my parents so
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I could finish trade school. My little sister, who's ten,
and I share a Jack and Jill bathroom. I had
been noticing slime and spilled wax all over the countertops
and light switch in my side of the bathroom, and
had talked to my parents about keeping my little sister
out of my side of the bathroom. Well, two weeks ago,
I was supposed to go out on date, but couldn't
find any of my makeup. I asked my sister if
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she had taken it out of my bathroom, and her
response was, I didn't even know you wore makeup. She's
a good kid, so I believed her and figured I
must have lost my makeup in the move, which upset
me because I buy expensive stuff since I don't use
it often. I ended up going to the store that
day and just replacing the concealer and foundation one hundred
dollars since I couldn't afford to replace my whole set. Well,
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this morning, I wake up to find my old concealer
and foundation sitting right on top of the new ones
I just bought. I asked my mom if she had
found it somewhere, and she said she never touched it.
It was pretty obvious that it had leaked or something,
because there was makeup all over the outside of the
bottle and it was way more empty than when I
last had it. My mom immediately thinks that my little
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sister took it and goes into her room to snoop around.
The Next thing I know, my mom starts tossing the
room and I'm trying to get her to stop, when
she finally dumps out a drawer with not only my makeup,
but a bunch of makeup that my mom had that
had gone missing. My sister had taken two makeup pallets
of mine, one I hadn't even opened yet, brushes, lipstick, eyeliner,
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basically everything. On top of that, my mom found open
containers of slime and paint that had seeped into the carpet,
and other crap she had stolen from around the house.
All of the makeup she took from my mom and
I were destroyed. The palettes were mixed together and cracked,
brushes had painted in them, lipstick mashed, and everything was
covered in slime. When me and my parents confronted her,
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she denied everything, even said that she didn't use any
of the makeup when it was an obvious lie. My
parents have grounded her for a month no phone or electronics,
and have offered to pay me back, But I don't
want them to pay me back. I want her to
pay me back. She stole and destroyed nearly two hundred
dollars makeup and lie to my face about it. The
worst part is I've only been living here for three weeks.
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Her eleventh birthday is coming up in two months, and
I'm wondering if I would be the jerk if I
made her use her birthday money to pay me back.
I feel like taking her birthday money is cruel, especially
because it's the only kind of spending money she gets
all year, and my parents have suggested chores. But what
chores is she going to do to pay me back?
I do more chores than her, and I pay rent
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at it. My parents are not against her paying me
back with her birthday money. They actually suggested it first.
They're leaving it up to me to decide how I
want to be paid back. My grandparents give her two
hundred dollars check every birthday, on top of toys and
art stuff for extra spending money during the year. It's
not really up to you, is it. Her and your
parents are legally responsible for damages caused by their kid,
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Hence the money is truly their responsibility. How to raise
your sister is also their job. If they chose to
use her birthday money to pay you back, then fine,
it could probably be seen as proper consequences for her actions,
but it's not really your place to decide this. The
real question is what's going on with your little sister
that she's stealing and lying. She's obviously acting out for
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some reason. My daughter is demanding I fire her ex
because she broke up with him. The boy in question
is named Jaden twenty two male. Me forty five female,
and my husband forty six male have known Jayden for
fifteen years since he's the son of one of our friends.
My daughter Tati twenty one female, and him have had
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this same friend group for a few years now. In college,
they befriended this girl named Paige twenty one female. My
hubby and I loved Jaden with all of our hearts.
Tati is our only kid and we thought of him
as our son. We believed they would get married one day,
so I decided to teach him the family business since
he was seventeen years old, so that he could take
care of it one day. Tati is not interested. I
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hired Page for a while, but she ended up quitting
because she had to take care of her mother because
she broke her ankle a year ago, Tati told us
that she and Jaden were expecting, and while we were
worried because they were too young, we were happy for them. Sadly,
she lost it and ended up very depressed. I saw
Jaden doing everything she wanted. As you can imagine, my
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daughter began to snap easily and started to treat the
poor boy badly. We talked to her, We told her
it wasn't fair, but she wouldn't listen. She said, we
didn't understand, nor did Jaden. During a fight, Tati broke
up with Jaden. It was pretty common during those days,
and he always came back saying sorry, but that time
he didn't. He kept showing up to work, he kept
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talking to my husband and I, but it seemed that
he was done with Tati, and as unfair as it sounds,
I don't blame him. Eventually he started to date Paige,
and this obviously enraged my daughter. She demanded I no
longer leave the business to Jaden because he wouldn't be
family anymore. I stupidly said yes because my daughter was
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grieving and heartbroken. Understood. I thought that was it. Tati
never demanded anything else until two weeks ago, when Jade
told us that page was expecting. I guess it triggered Tati,
so she demanded again that I fired Jaden because he
has no business around us anymore. I don't know why,
but I declined it doesn't seem fair. Jaden has proven
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to me that he's cut out for this. He knows
what he's doing, he's a good boss, he's smart, and
people trust him. So I said no. Tati went to
her dad crying, and my husband demanded I fired Jaden asap,
but I said no again. He said he would fire
him himself then, and I said he wasn't allowed because
the business belongs to my side of the family and
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my dad was still alive, so he had the last word.
My husband keeps telling me that I'm the jerk for
choosing Jaden over Tati. So maybe am I the jerk?
Not the jerk? Your daughter is trying to make this
guy's life horrible. Why because she's upset that she was
toxic towards him. She's upset because she broke up with
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him and he didn't come crawling back after dealing with her.
Snapping at him sounds like she was mistreating him by
the way. I would be disgusted with my husband for
wanting to enable her malicious and downright disturbing behavior. And
of course I would find my daughter's behavior deplorable if
she acted this way. She's hurting people because they didn't
enable her behavior. She's lashing out over what facing the
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consequences of her own actions. I'm sorry for her loss,
but grief is not an excuse to treat other people poorly.
Your daughter needs to grow up and quite frankly, recognize
that the world does not revolve around her. She seems
to think otherwise, not the jerk. There's no way you
should fire and expect in father just because his ex
is throwing a tantrum. Apart from being unethical, that could
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