December 6, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, mister Rehdder here, welcome back to another episode
of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Steal my legos for your classroom. You'll be sorry. After that,
am I the jerk for helping my son avoid his
family after his wife cheated? And after that, I'm selling
a family heirloom to pay for my destination wedding. Now,
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for every thumbs up, this video gits one. Karen does
not get to steal anyone's legos. I always preferred connects
to be honest, So please smash that light button and
subscribe and turn on notifications for new stories from Reddit
every single day. Steal my legos for your classroom. You'll
be sorry. I had eight large storage totes of legos
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when I left home for college, besides a few family heirlooms.
I told them the only thing I wanted were my legos.
They could get rid of anything else. I even offered
to come pick them up and store them with me
while I was in college so they weren't a burden.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
My mom said it was fine, she would keep them stored. Great.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Fast forward probably twelve ish years, and I've got a
five year old son and a three year old daughter
who are quickly approaching lego age. My wife and I
are buying a home and it will have a decent
sized area up stairs above the garage that we intend
to turn into the playroom. I was talking to my
wife about my plans. I wanted to put in padded flooring,
build a fort style structure in one corner, maybe build
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into the crawl space a tunnel type system or something.
And I wanted to make an area that would be
dedicated to the legos. My wife seemed a little cagey
about the plans. It would cost a bit of money,
set our expectations down, et cetera. I obviously didn't plan
on anything happening overnight. A few weeks later, and we're
getting ready to head to Easter at my mom's house.
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I tell my wife I want to take our truck,
as I planned on grabbing the legos from her place
and bringing them home, and my wife gets a little
cagey again. I sense that she knows something, and she
finally admits it. My mom took the legos to her classroom.
My mom's a middle school teacher six to eighth grades
special education in our town, and my wife is an
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assistant in her classroom.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
I guess several.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Years ago my mom took the legos to the classroom
for the kids to play with. I told my wife
I would just get the legos from the class at
the end of the school year. However, my wife thinks
I should just let it go. Some of the kids
really love the legos and they would have a hard
time if they came in after a summer away, which
is already pretty hard change and whatnot to find out
that the legos are gone. We talked about potentially buying
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some legos from Craigslist for the kids to use, but
I definitely wanted my legos back. A lot of them
tend to be older. Tons were my dad's legos when
he was growing up, so I definitely want those ones.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
At Easter.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
My sister got roped into the discussion with my wife
and I, and she agreed with my wife. While we
both enjoyed the legos a lot as kids, I would
be a jerk if I took my legos back from
the classroom. They both suggested starting a new collection for
our kids so they can love and enjoy these ones
as they grow up, but I just don't agree. Part
of the reason why they were so spevi to me
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was because they were handed down to me and I
got to add to them. I was hoping to be able.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Here would I be the jerk if I took my
legos back at the end of the year.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Not the jerk. Your mom could have asked you first.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Those were legos started by your dad, so there's a
sentimental value and that's something you want to share with
your kids, so it's only fair you take the legos back.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I honestly don't get these.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Jerk parents who don't think their kids would want to
pass on favorite toys to their own kids their grandkids
one day.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Your mom and your sneaky wife can buy replacement Legos
on Craigslist for her students, or ask the students' parents
to each contribute a bunch of Lego or both.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
They both were dishonest.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
They're your legos, and you made it clear you wanted
to keep them, very clear. Zero wrong with wanting to
keep something that was yours as a kid. Take all
the Legos back at the end of the year and
form your mom and your wife now so they can
start looking for whatever replacements they need. Am I the
jerk for helping my son avoid his family after his
wife cheated. I don't really feel great about throwing this
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up on the internet, but everyone's upset with me, so
this is what I've got. My son and his wife
have been together for six years and they have a
four year old daughter. They've had their problems every once
in a while, but to me, it seemed like they
always worked through it. I know he absolutely loves her
and I thought they were very close. But three days ago,
my son came to my door at ten at night, drunk,
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sick and in complete tears. I guess she had been
cheating on him for some time, and during an argument
she finally admitted it. He just fell apart. He could
hardly breathe right. I cleaned him up and put him
in bed, and that's about where he's been since. He
looks sick. He won't eat. I've never seen him so upset.
His wife and her family were calling us both repeatedly,
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but we just didn't deal with it. At first, he
was devastated. I wanted him to have a moment to
gather himself. This morning, I bit the bullet and answered
her call. She was angry, he had walked out and
left her with their daughter, and said she just wanted
to talk about this like adults. I told her that
she could talk to him when he chose to contact her,
and that I think he'd want to work something out,
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but she needed to give him some space. She got
more upset, and I told her I wouldn't talk if
she was gonna throw a fit, so she hung up.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
I don't know what.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
She told her family, but I've since gotten calls from
her mom begging me not to let him leave her
and their daughter. Her sister called to go off on
me for protecting a deadbeat father. They're all freaking out.
He isn't abandoning his family. His life has been turned
on its head, and I want him to have some
time to find his feet. It's just been three days.
It's not like he's run away. But now everyone's angry
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at me for letting my son leave his daughter, which
he absolutely adores his daughter. He'd never just up and leave,
so am I the jerk for letting him stay with
me to get away from his family. I know it
leaves his wife in a tight spot, but it's been
three days and she hardly works part time. It's not
like he's left her with an impossible task. And I
absolutely intend to have my son do with this. But
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I just can't see him feel like this, and I
don't think he could have any meaningful conversation this way.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
What should I do?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I'm not trying to let him hide from his responsibilities,
but he's hurting and he needs time to breathe some
additions for clarity. Of course, we've discussed the possibility that
his daughter might not be biologically his, but he doesn't
plan to abandon her regardless. He loves his daughter and
would despite anything. And as far as if her family
knows the full story, I have no clue. I haven't
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even tried talking with them yet.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
He isn't opting out on being a father. He's taking
the time he needs to process information. He needs to
get his crap together quick and go be a father again.
He needs to divorce her, collect evidence, hire a lawyer,
and get a DNA test done on his daughter. His
wife has been cheating for some time. I would definitely
double check that's up to the dad. He doesn't have
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to do that. He could be fine with not knowing
this part if he loves his daughter as is, and
knowing would only change things for the negative. If he's
able to put what he knows aside and not be
plagued by the thought what a saint. People have done
this forever before DNA tests existed. Sometimes not knowing is
the better choice. It's not up to anyone else to decide.
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But the dad you raise and love the kid for
four years and you know for sure that that's your kid.
The DNA test can only tell you if they have
your DNA four years of being a parent and you
already know they're your kid.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I know I'll get down voted for this, but I
feel it needs to be said. If the kid turns
out to not actually be his, he should not be
obligated to pay child support to make up for his
wife's cheating and another man's burden. It's sad how so
many of you are claiming he should skip the DNA
test and just provide for the kid no matter what.
Like no wonder there are so many wives who end
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up cheating having kids with other men, then still expect
their husbands to financially support their kids. Most of you
crazies here are claiming this is what should have happened,
and what would be the right thing for OP to do?
Holy Entitlement Batman, I'm selling a family heirloom to pay
for my destination wedding. My fiance, thirty eight female, and I,
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thirty nine male, are planning to get married this summer.
We both want to have quite a lavish wedding at
a winery in another state. The two of us agreed
that it's the most important occasion in our lives, so
we should make it as memorable as possible. We both
have stable jobs and a good amount of savings, but
it's not quite enough for the admittedly ambitious plans we
have in our heads. My father passed in January, and
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in his will he left me a very valuable think
five figures family heirloom. I'm not much for big family traditions,
so although it's a nice thing to have, I'm not
massively attached to it. I have plenty of other good
memories of my father and I don't need a fancy
heirloom to remember him by. My brother, who's thirty four, however,
is a huge history nerd and is really really attached
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to it. He was very upset by my father's decision
and the will. The reason that went to me and
not to him is that this has been traditionally passed
down to firstborn sons. My fiance and I don't plan
to have any kids, and I think he assumed, therefore,
that he or his kids would be in line to
get it if I were to pass away. After some discussion,
my wife to be and I decided that we would
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like to sell this heirloom to pay for our wedding.
My brother, who is also my best man, was furious
when he found out and said he wanted nothing to
do with the wedding anymore. He thinks my wife to
be and I are behaving like spoiled brats. In addition,
he's convinced my uncle and cousins not to come to
the wedding either. With our parents having passed, this means
that virtually none of my family will attend the wedding,
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which I'm really upset about. I think that since illegally
inherited the heirloom, I can do what I want with it.
I think he's just upset because I ruined his expectations
of one day inheriting it. But since my uncle and
cousins agree with him, enough that they are not coming
to the wedding. I'm not so sure I'm in the right.
Am I the jerk? Technically you can sell it because
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it's yours, but you are for caring more about a
ridiculously lavish wedding that will break the bank than you
do for your relationship with your brother or your dad's tradition.
If your dad had known that you were going to
sell it, he would have left it to your brother.
I hope your lavish wedding is worth it to you.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
If you sell the item. Don't be surprised if it
ruins your relationship with your brother forever. All for what
so you can brag about your wedding to friends while
looking at pictures that don't include anyone on your side
of the family.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Legally being able to do something doesn't mean it's the
right thing to do. I doubt your dad would have
given it to you if he knew you were going
to sell it like it was nothing. Your brother didn't
convince anyone to be mad at you or to not go.
I bet he just told them and they made those
decisions mostly on their own. You probably should have thought
about all of that before making such a selfish, self
centered decision.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Sorry, I don't get the whole family heirloom is the
most important object in the entire world kind of thinking
everyone has if it's not something you're going to use
or want to keep, get rid of it. Maybe I'm
a sociopath, But last I checked, you're allowed to do
what you want with your own property. Last I checked,
you're allowed to spend your money how you want. Could
you have offered to sell it to your brother or uncle?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Would all the same people be calling you a jerk
anyway for not just graciously giving away a five figure inheritance. Absolutely, Personally,
I think anyone who feels entitled to what your father
left for you is selfish and greedy. I know I'm
going to get crucified for this take, but I really
don't mind considering my mental image of everyone who will
downvote this is of them divvying up their parents' assets
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while they're not in the ground yet not the jerk
entitled house cleaner brings her kids and her kids trashed
my house.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Gotta put this out here.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Most absurd and titled parent situation I've personally encountered. My
husband and I look to hire a local husband and
wife small business to clean and do our maintenance projects
on our house before our baby.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Comes in a few weeks.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
They came by tonight to take a look at the projects,
and surprise, brought their three elementary aged kids. No bigie,
I thought, not ideal, But I like kids, and I
like the idea of our home being a welcoming place
for them. We'll let it go. We opened the door
and the kids scattered. All three of them took off,
screaming in different directions with.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Their shoes on.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
One ended up in my room and two on different
ends of the living room, where they all three started
pulling my daughter's carefully organized, orderly toys off the shelves
at an extremely rapid pace. Well, they should made themselves
at home, the mom beamed, They should love your house.
I tried to orient the parents quickly so they would
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leave asap, and the oldest kid noticed our loft, which
is our playroom and library and is also carefully organized
and decorated with love with various handcrafted elements, and they
all raced upstairs. We have four kids of our own,
but managed to mostly keep things orderly. Each toy has
a place. We have some small and breakable pieces from
my and my husband's childhood. All the books are shelved
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alphabetically in categories. All three kids started shrieking at the
sight of the room. I was trying to wrap up
discussion with the mom. Then the stomping started and the
clanging sounded like jumping off furniture. I paused for the
mom to say something, but she didn't even bat an eyelash.
Then came a crash that could only have come from
furniture falling over. Mom again didn't so much as comment.
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My husband ran upstairs alarmed. The youngest one, four maybe,
then raced down, needing to go to the bathroom urgently.
Three of our four bathrooms need service, which is why
we were hiring these people, So the only bathroom available
was our master bathroom, where we have chicks in an incubator.
As I showed the kid where to go, she got
distracted by the chicks and screamed to the older kids
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upstairs to come and see now. So the older two came,
barreling and yelling. Shees on through my room and bathroom,
and the small one didn't quite make it. To the
bathroom in time. This all happened in like fifteen minutes.
I thought we could quickly be introducing the adult contractors
to the projects and negotiating pay. This was bizarre and horrible,
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I thought, But we'll just have them do the job
tomorrow and not work with them again. But then two
of the kids started to tantrum when it was time
for them to leave, notably without putting away a single
toy they had disassembled or strewn about. Mom says, it's okay,
we'll be back so you can play more with them tomorrow.
What she was expecting to bring the kids and leave
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them unsupervised in my house? Or maybe she expected me
to provide childcare while she performed tasks. Clearly unsafe for
kids to be closed off in rooms for seven hours.
Of course, we're canceling. I'm almost too shocked to even
be upset. I just checked upstairs and found a shelf
of books partially toppled. Every toy in the living room
is in pieces on the floor. The bathroom is a mess.
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It happened so fast, I just can't sounds like they've
got quite the business plan. The minion's job is to
eak havoc in your house, so you have no so
choice but to hire them to clean it up. Am
I the jerk for asking for time away from my wife?
I'm twenty eight, mail. My wife is twenty four. She
has a very strong bond with her family. Last month,
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both of her parents moved to live with her brothers
in Australia, and she's been feeling very down since then.
I'm definitely at fault for not making enough time for
her these past few weeks due to excessive workload at
my new job. This all led to constant arguments initiated
by her. It started to get really suffocating and frustrating
for both of us, so I asked her if for
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a few days she can go live at her parents'
house that they left in her care. She did not
say anything, but packed her stuff and left in the morning.
I only wanted her to have some time alone to
clear her head. I assumed she needs space and called
to ask her if she reached there safe and needs
groceries since it's been a month that house has been empty.
She didn't answer my calls, but sent a text later
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to inform me that she's there. I thought she really
wants to spend this time alone, so I decided not
to bother her because she's an inch who often needs
her personal space. We talked very briefly over messages a
few times after that. On Tuesday, I took a day
off of work to go see her. Since it's been
over a week and she didn't return or even call.
I found out that she's been sick for days and
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is on leaf from work. When I asked her why
she didn't inform me, she said she did not want
to bother me. I took her to see a doctor
and turns out she has jaundice and is four weeks pregnant.
Now she's back home. I've apologized, but she's unusually reserved,
and I feel like I'm the reason. My intention was
only to give her space and have some time alone
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for myself. I really love her and never intended to
hurt her at all. Am I the jerk? So let
me get this straight. One, your wife expressed that you
had been ignoring her.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Two.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Your response to this was to send her away to
live in an empty house by herself. Three, you ignored
her all week four, and you justify this by saying
she needs space. You were doing this for her. No,
you wanted space, and you're so immature and messed up
that you can't even admit it to yourself. Your selfish
behavior here has made your wife feel awful, humiliated, and disrespected,
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not to mention, you could have put her in danger
because she was sick and pregnant. You are a completely
self absorbed jerk, and it doesn't seem like you respect
her or care about what she wants at all.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I feel bad for your wife that she's stuck having
a kid with you. Your wife was depressed because her
parents moved. You didn't make time to help her because
of work. You were fighting a lot, and how you
found time to fight when you had no time to
be loving and supportive is beyond me. So you kicked
her out to go live in an empty house. How
you could have written all of this out without realizing
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you're the jerk is amazing. Holy cow, you're the jerk.
This woman is going to be the mother of your baby,
and your answer to being in conflict with her was
to ask her to leave. Don't do this again next time.
She might not come back. She'd be better off not
coming back.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Let's see, so the husband is working long hours at
work in order to provide for his family. His wife
is acting like a needy baby because her parents moved.
You're refusing to coddle her, So now Reddit thinks you're
the bad guy. Honestly, she sounds like she has issues,
no wonder everyone here is defending her. About ninety nine
percent of the people on this site have issues themselves.
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To be honest, if I were you, I'd be getting
a divorce. Find someone who actually appreciates the fact that
you work long hours to keep a roof over their head,
and who doesn't need to be coddled because her mommy
and dadad moved. Can you imagine if the rolls were flipped.
My husband is sad because his mommy and daddy moved,
and I've been working long hours to provide for him,
so I haven't been constantly available as his emotional sponge.
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I asked him for some time apart and if he
could go stay in his parents vacant house. Am I
the jerk? Everybody would be telling her to leave you.
Am I the jerk for asking my ex if our
son who's eleven could bring his stepbrother who's also eleven
on their father son camping trip. My ex and I
got a divorce when our son was six. When he
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was eight, I started dating my current husband. On the
day my son met his stepbrother, they stood in front
of each other, sized each other up the way that
boys do, and were silent for a moment. Then my
son asked, do you want to play Super Smash Brothers?
And his stepbrother said yes, and they ran upstairs. It
was fraternal love at first sight. They've been attached to
the hip ever since. My step son's mother passed a
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few years ago, and my husband was actually hesitant to
introduce me and my son to his two kids because
they thought it was too soon. It turns out that
everything worked great. The first year we were all together,
my step son asked if my son could come along
when they visited their mother at the cemetery on her birthday,
and he spent the whole car ride over telling my
son all about her, and it seemed.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Therapeutic for him.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Later that night, I checked in and saw that my
son had climbed up to the top bunk and they
had fallen asleep, curled up together. Before she entered her
current seven go going on seventeen phase, my stepdaughter used
to crawl into my son's lap as often as she
did my step son and ask them to read to her.
Since the divorce, my ex husband has been unreliable at best.
He cancels on my son regularly, making some excuses about
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work and what have you. The twice monthly weekends together
have trailed off to three or four times a year.
Every time I have to tell my son his father canceled,
my step son goes to his father and asks if
the three of them can do something together. One of
the few things my ex husband likes enough to always
follow through with is camping. He's planning on taking my
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son camping in a few weeks, the weekend after Father's
Day weekend. My son loves camping as well, and he's
the one who convinced my step son to join boy
Scouts next fall. The thing is this year, he wants
to bring his stepbrother along. I told my ex husband
this and he got upset, saying that it's their time
together and he doesn't want someone else's kid going along
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with them. He says that it's supposed to be the
two of them bonding. I told him he's had plenty
of chances to bond, that he blew off for one
reason or another, and that he should consider himself lucky
that he has such a compassionate and sensitive son and
that our son still wants anything to do with him.
He hung up in a huff. His mother called yesterday
to complain that I was expecting my ex to just
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sit there while my son and step son went off
on their own and ignored my ex completely and said
that I need to look at it from his perspective
since he only gets to see our son a few
times a year for obvious reasons. This annoyed me to
the point where I hung up. My husband said that
he gets it and thinks I should just let it
be the two of them. Am I the jerk? Ninety
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nine point nine percent? Your ex is clearly the jerk,
but it's reasonable for him to not want to take
the step son camping. You're the jerk if you try
to push this this. Making a plan for the boys
to go camping with Op's husband is the way to go.
Even if neglectful Dad has refused the step son and
dips out on his own son, both boys will still
have another adventure to look forward to that will actually
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happen when when you're the jerk, you asked he answered.
The answer was no, you didn't need to keep going.
She didn't really keep going. She advocated for her son
and then got harassed by his mother. The ex also
did not appear to be stepping up to tell the
son that the step son couldn't come. It appeared that
the X and the ex mother in law wanted the
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mother to do it. None of this is her problem.
She relayed her son's request. Her work is done. Her
only response going forward should be ask your father. She
is not the jerk. You're the jerk. I'm with your
husband on this one. The dynamic of the trip changes
completely with another kid going along. Your ex goes from
dad being fully engaged and participating with his own son
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to referee slash firestarter slash tent maker. Am I missing something?
It seems pretty clear here that your son is the
one that expressed interest in bringing his stepbrother along. Your
son is pretty lucky to have meshed so well into
a blended family. All you're doing is asking your ex
if your step son can come TOOO. X is allowed
to say no. You're allowed to try to change his mind,
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But your husband is right, you should not be pushy
about this. I get you hold a lot of resentment
against your ex, but you must have made your ex
feel pretty guilty for him to go crying to his mom.
I haven't gathered enough from posts to indicate that you
are actually being pushy yet, so I'll just say no,
jerk's here for now. I don't think you're missing anything.
All the your the jerk votes seem to have poor
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reading comprehension. I don't even see how she tried to
change his mind. She stated some basic truths, and the
X got heffy and hung up and went crying to
his mommy, who then called to go off on OP
the am I the jerk question is about asking her
ex for that. I would vote not the jerk that
she actually refused to accept a no or refuse to
tolerate bs from X and ex mother in law. I'd
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be annoyed too. He's been neglecting his son so much
and then getting upset about this, of all things, his
attitude could be improved. In my opinion, I do agree
with OP her son seems to be way more understanding
and forgiving than his dad, and not to be rude
but probably more emotionally mature to am I the jerk
for not paying my boyfriend's child support. My boyfriend and
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I have been together for four years now. He moved
in with me around the year mark, and during this
time he has not held a stable job due to
health concerns and being in and out of the hospital.
But he is working now and has been for a while.
Between the both of us, we have four kids, his
two and my two. His ex wife is constantly saying
how her kids are my responsibility too, even when they
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aren't at my house, and that if my boyfriend cannot
make his child support payment or pay for after school care,
or if her kids need something, that I should step
up to do it. Child support is set up to
come out of his checks, but I won't. It's been
nothing but a battle with her. She's constantly tearing me
down and saying that I'm not a parent to her
kids and shouldn't even try, that it doesn't matter unless
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my boyfriend and I get married. She has and still
does talk crap about me to my boyfriend's family. It's
not been civil, and I have done nothing but try.
Mind you, I have two kids of my own. I
pay for everything in my home, including anything and everything
his kids need while here, not to mention the gas
for him to get his kids to and from during
his time. I make sure that all kids have everything
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they need here, even when it comes to holidays. I
buy the same for his as I do mine. I
make sure his two are included in everything that we
do because we do it as a family. I love
those kids as my own, but I cannot afford to
pay two households worth of stuff. But in the end,
it doesn't matter. She goes off on me for not
stepping up and paying her child support or not asking
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if there's anything they need for her house. Am I
the jerk for not paying his child support to their mother?
I feel like you are in a pattern of getting
with men that do not care for their own kids properly.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Your boyfriend sucks for not paying child support or buying
things for his kids, but it's not your responsibility. Five
years from now, she's going to have one or two
of his babies too and be complaining of about how
he never pays his child support.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
INFO.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Why are you with someone who can't afford or refuses
to pay their child support? Everyone sucks here? Why are
you in this situation? You have two kids to support
with little help from their dad, so you move in
this guy who has two kids too. Now what resources
you have have to be split even more? You kind
of suck here. Get you want to be loved, but
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how little does your kids have to receive so you
can enjoy whatever this man brings to you. You already
know that you don't have to pay this woman anything.
You're just here ranting that she's a jerk who bad
mouths you, So what Why are you even talking to her?
Block her number and send this dude back to his
mother until he can hold down a job, pay his bills,
and have something sustainable to offer to you and your kids.
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What does he bring to the table other than his needs?
You're the jerk. Situations like this really drive me up
the wall. Why do they always choose to be with
guys like this who have kids and refuse to provide
for them. I'll tell you why. Because those guys are
six feet tall, have good facial genetics, muscles, and are
overly confident. Then you have guys like me, very average looking,
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good job, master's degree, not super confident, and not even
one woman will swipe right on me. Then the women
I do manage to meet through mutual friends always tell
me that they like me as a friend and don't
really want to try dating me, but they're fine going
out to eat with me as long as I pay
for it as usual. Then you hear about couples like this,
and I just don't get it. Like, maybe the hot
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guy with two kids he doesn't provide for and who
doesn't have a job won't make the best partner for you.
Maybe give the normal looking guy who has his own house,
makes eighty thousand a year and has no kids yet
a chance. Edit call me all the names you want.
Nothing that I've said here is untrue. We live in
an age where pointing out the obvious results in people
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calling you names and belittling you. No wonder you're all
picking the wrong guys. You people have no common sense?
Am I the jerk for losing my temper at someone
who we are? Ended my car earlier today? I was
driving to work at my internship job. The car behind
me was driving dangerously close to me the whole time.
Then as I stopped at a red light, the girl
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driving behind me tried to do a full lane change
at the very last second and hit the back corner
of my car just as she was turning in. I
signaled to her to stop over on the side street
parking ahead, and proceeded to have the most frustrating interaction
I've ever had with a stranger. She refused to apologize
or take any responsibility. I don't think I've ever dealt
with such an entitled and stuck up jerk in my
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entire life. I genuinely tried my hardest to stay calm
when I first approached her, but I very quickly lost
my patience and less than ten seconds of interacting with her. Me,
what are your insurance details?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Her? I don't know them? Bro, Me who manages your insurance?
Then your parents? Her?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Maybe I don't know. Is this a police interview? Me?
Can you stop messing around and just find out what
your insurance details are?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Are?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Her smirking? Why are you crying about it? My car's
messed up too, and you don't hear me complaining me?
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Are you dumb?
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Was either one who rear ended you or did you
crash into me? This mess happened because your brain is
too small to learn how to steer a car properly. Her,
don't call me dumb. Watch your tone when you speak
to me.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
Me forget you. I'll talk to you however I want.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
If you're not going to give me your insurance details,
then I'm just going to take a photo of your
number plate. Her, whatever, I'm done talking to you. I
don't talk to short men. At this point, I knew
the conversation wasn't going anywhere, so I took a photo
of her car's plate and we both drove off. Personally,
I think my anger was completely justified. I've never dealt
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with someone so exhausting, not the jerk. I think you
should have stayed at the scene to call the police,
though now she can claimed that there was some mutual
agreement reached when in fact she fled the scene. Also,
I hope you have uninsured motorist coverage, because I seriously
doubt she doesn't know her coverage. She was probably either
an unauthorized user or didn't have any. If she refused
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to provide her car information as required by law, they
can still call the police report it. I had to
call the police on the guy who rear ended me
and refused to provide his insurance, and they ticketed him
for it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
She was probably just scared out of her mind. I'm
a younger driver too, twenty one female, and to be honest,
we just don't waste.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
Time on the road.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
You consider her driving to be erradical, but chances are
she was just driving the way normal younger drivers do.
Then you made her pull over, got out of your car,
and demanded her details without even introducing yourself. Then you're
surprised she doesn't have a customer service attitude with you.
I would have called the cops on you if I
had been her. You sound like you have serious anger
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issues and taking out your road rage like this is
gonna wind up with you behind bars. My pregnant sister
expects me to support her family financially. My sister got
pregnant with her boyfriend right out of high school, got
married the next year, then proceeded.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
To pop out another baby every year or two.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So she now has four kids and she's twenty four
years old. She's a stay at home mom, even though
she was brilliant and could have gotten a free ride
to a great university. Since hers are the only grandkids,
our parents fawn over her constantly. They gush over every
new tooth or haircut like it's some sort of huge achievement.
Problem is, her husband's business wasn't doing great even before
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lockdown and is barely limping along.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Now.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Sister doesn't work and my parents have limited income, So
guess who constantly gets told to lend money to them
for crap like school fees, car seats, car payments, new strollers, etc.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
They don't even ask.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
My mom just texts me, your sister needs money for
the kids, and I'm supposed to cough it up. If
I complain, they accuse me of being jealous because I
don't have a husband and family. Even though I'm older,
I'm only twenty six. So over Easter, I noticed myself
in drinking and I think, oh no, here we go again.
Sure enough, she stands up and announces that she's having
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yet another precious miracle. Everyone's gushing and I just try
to stay quiet and out of the way. Later, she
asks me if everything is all right, and I try
to play it off, but she pushes. So I asked
her if she and her husband could really afford another baby.
Very snippily, she replies, God will provide like he has
so far, which really ticked me off. I yelled that no,
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actually God didn't provide for her babies. I did, and
I wasn't going to be giving them any more handouts.
It devolved into a huge argument and everyone shouted at me,
and basically, I've been banned from my family unless I apologize.
I haven't apologized. It's been a radio silence, except for
one text from my mom saying that if my sister
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has issues with her pregnancy, then it's my fault for
stressing her out. I asked if my sister was showing
any symptoms, but no one will answer me or tell me.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
I don't think I'm the jerk, but I don't want
to be the reason that she has pregnancy issues. Support
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of Reddit podcast Stories. Our first story will be reading today.
Steal my legos for your classroom. You'll be sorry. After that,
am I the jerk for helping my son avoid his
family after his wife cheated? And after that, I'm selling
a family heirloom to pay for my destination wedding. Now,
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for every thumbs up, this video gits one. Karen does
not get to steal anyone's legos. I always preferred connects
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every single day. Steal my legos for your classroom. You'll
be sorry. I had eight large storage totes of legos
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when I left home for college, besides a few family heirlooms.
I told them the only thing I wanted were my legos.
They could get rid of anything else. I even offered
to come pick them up and store them with me
while I was in college so they weren't a burden.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
My mom said it was fine, she would keep them stored. Great.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Fast forward probably twelve ish years, and I've got a
five year old son and a three year old daughter
who are quickly approaching lego age. My wife and I
are buying a home and it will have a decent
sized area up stairs above the garage that we intend
to turn into the playroom. I was talking to my
wife about my plans. I wanted to put in padded flooring,
build a fort style structure in one corner, maybe build
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into the crawl space a tunnel type system or something.
And I wanted to make an area that would be
dedicated to the legos. My wife seemed a little cagey
about the plans. It would cost a bit of money,
set our expectations down, et cetera. I obviously didn't plan
on anything happening overnight. A few weeks later, and we're
getting ready to head to Easter at my mom's house.
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I tell my wife I want to take our truck,
as I planned on grabbing the legos from her place
and bringing them home, and my wife gets a little
cagey again. I sense that she knows something, and she
finally admits it. My mom took the legos to her classroom.
My mom's a middle school teacher six to eighth grades
special education in our town, and my wife is an
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assistant in her classroom.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
I guess several.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Years ago my mom took the legos to the classroom
for the kids to play with. I told my wife
I would just get the legos from the class at
the end of the school year. However, my wife thinks
I should just let it go. Some of the kids
really love the legos and they would have a hard
time if they came in after a summer away, which
is already pretty hard change and whatnot to find out
that the legos are gone. We talked about potentially buying
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some legos from Craigslist for the kids to use, but
I definitely wanted my legos back. A lot of them
tend to be older. Tons were my dad's legos when
he was growing up, so I definitely want those ones.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
At Easter.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
My sister got roped into the discussion with my wife
and I, and she agreed with my wife. While we
both enjoyed the legos a lot as kids, I would
be a jerk if I took my legos back from
the classroom. They both suggested starting a new collection for
our kids so they can love and enjoy these ones
as they grow up, but I just don't agree. Part
of the reason why they were so spevi to me
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was because they were handed down to me and I
got to add to them. I was hoping to be able.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Here would I be the jerk if I took my
legos back at the end of the year.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Not the jerk. Your mom could have asked you first.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Those were legos started by your dad, so there's a
sentimental value and that's something you want to share with
your kids, so it's only fair you take the legos back.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I honestly don't get these.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Jerk parents who don't think their kids would want to
pass on favorite toys to their own kids their grandkids
one day.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Your mom and your sneaky wife can buy replacement Legos
on Craigslist for her students, or ask the students' parents
to each contribute a bunch of Lego or both.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
They both were dishonest.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
They're your legos, and you made it clear you wanted
to keep them, very clear. Zero wrong with wanting to
keep something that was yours as a kid. Take all
the Legos back at the end of the year and
form your mom and your wife now so they can
start looking for whatever replacements they need. Am I the
jerk for helping my son avoid his family after his
wife cheated. I don't really feel great about throwing this
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up on the internet, but everyone's upset with me, so
this is what I've got. My son and his wife
have been together for six years and they have a
four year old daughter. They've had their problems every once
in a while, but to me, it seemed like they
always worked through it. I know he absolutely loves her
and I thought they were very close. But three days ago,
my son came to my door at ten at night, drunk,
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sick and in complete tears. I guess she had been
cheating on him for some time, and during an argument
she finally admitted it. He just fell apart. He could
hardly breathe right. I cleaned him up and put him
in bed, and that's about where he's been since. He
looks sick. He won't eat. I've never seen him so upset.
His wife and her family were calling us both repeatedly,
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but we just didn't deal with it. At first, he
was devastated. I wanted him to have a moment to
gather himself. This morning, I bit the bullet and answered
her call. She was angry, he had walked out and
left her with their daughter, and said she just wanted
to talk about this like adults. I told her that
she could talk to him when he chose to contact her,
and that I think he'd want to work something out,
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but she needed to give him some space. She got
more upset, and I told her I wouldn't talk if
she was gonna throw a fit, so she hung up.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
I don't know what.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
She told her family, but I've since gotten calls from
her mom begging me not to let him leave her
and their daughter. Her sister called to go off on
me for protecting a deadbeat father. They're all freaking out.
He isn't abandoning his family. His life has been turned
on its head, and I want him to have some
time to find his feet. It's just been three days.
It's not like he's run away. But now everyone's angry
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at me for letting my son leave his daughter, which
he absolutely adores his daughter. He'd never just up and leave,
so am I the jerk for letting him stay with
me to get away from his family. I know it
leaves his wife in a tight spot, but it's been
three days and she hardly works part time. It's not
like he's left her with an impossible task. And I
absolutely intend to have my son do with this. But
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I just can't see him feel like this, and I
don't think he could have any meaningful conversation this way.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
What should I do?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
I'm not trying to let him hide from his responsibilities,
but he's hurting and he needs time to breathe some
additions for clarity. Of course, we've discussed the possibility that
his daughter might not be biologically his, but he doesn't
plan to abandon her regardless. He loves his daughter and
would despite anything. And as far as if her family
knows the full story, I have no clue. I haven't
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even tried talking with them yet.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
He isn't opting out on being a father. He's taking
the time he needs to process information. He needs to
get his crap together quick and go be a father again.
He needs to divorce her, collect evidence, hire a lawyer,
and get a DNA test done on his daughter. His
wife has been cheating for some time. I would definitely
double check that's up to the dad. He doesn't have
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to do that. He could be fine with not knowing
this part if he loves his daughter as is, and
knowing would only change things for the negative. If he's
able to put what he knows aside and not be
plagued by the thought what a saint. People have done
this forever before DNA tests existed. Sometimes not knowing is
the better choice. It's not up to anyone else to decide.
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But the dad you raise and love the kid for
four years and you know for sure that that's your kid.
The DNA test can only tell you if they have
your DNA four years of being a parent and you
already know they're your kid.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I know I'll get down voted for this, but I
feel it needs to be said. If the kid turns
out to not actually be his, he should not be
obligated to pay child support to make up for his
wife's cheating and another man's burden. It's sad how so
many of you are claiming he should skip the DNA
test and just provide for the kid no matter what.
Like no wonder there are so many wives who end
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up cheating having kids with other men, then still expect
their husbands to financially support their kids. Most of you
crazies here are claiming this is what should have happened,
and what would be the right thing for OP to do?
Holy Entitlement Batman, I'm selling a family heirloom to pay
for my destination wedding. My fiance, thirty eight female, and I,
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thirty nine male, are planning to get married this summer.
We both want to have quite a lavish wedding at
a winery in another state. The two of us agreed
that it's the most important occasion in our lives, so
we should make it as memorable as possible. We both
have stable jobs and a good amount of savings, but
it's not quite enough for the admittedly ambitious plans we
have in our heads. My father passed in January, and
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in his will he left me a very valuable think
five figures family heirloom. I'm not much for big family traditions,
so although it's a nice thing to have, I'm not
massively attached to it. I have plenty of other good
memories of my father and I don't need a fancy
heirloom to remember him by. My brother, who's thirty four, however,
is a huge history nerd and is really really attached
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to it. He was very upset by my father's decision
and the will. The reason that went to me and
not to him is that this has been traditionally passed
down to firstborn sons. My fiance and I don't plan
to have any kids, and I think he assumed, therefore,
that he or his kids would be in line to
get it if I were to pass away. After some discussion,
my wife to be and I decided that we would
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like to sell this heirloom to pay for our wedding.
My brother, who is also my best man, was furious
when he found out and said he wanted nothing to
do with the wedding anymore. He thinks my wife to
be and I are behaving like spoiled brats. In addition,
he's convinced my uncle and cousins not to come to
the wedding either. With our parents having passed, this means
that virtually none of my family will attend the wedding,
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which I'm really upset about. I think that since illegally
inherited the heirloom, I can do what I want with it.
I think he's just upset because I ruined his expectations
of one day inheriting it. But since my uncle and
cousins agree with him, enough that they are not coming
to the wedding. I'm not so sure I'm in the right.
Am I the jerk? Technically you can sell it because
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it's yours, but you are for caring more about a
ridiculously lavish wedding that will break the bank than you
do for your relationship with your brother or your dad's tradition.
If your dad had known that you were going to
sell it, he would have left it to your brother.
I hope your lavish wedding is worth it to you.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
If you sell the item. Don't be surprised if it
ruins your relationship with your brother forever. All for what
so you can brag about your wedding to friends while
looking at pictures that don't include anyone on your side
of the family.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Legally being able to do something doesn't mean it's the
right thing to do. I doubt your dad would have
given it to you if he knew you were going
to sell it like it was nothing. Your brother didn't
convince anyone to be mad at you or to not go.
I bet he just told them and they made those
decisions mostly on their own. You probably should have thought
about all of that before making such a selfish, self
centered decision.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Sorry, I don't get the whole family heirloom is the
most important object in the entire world kind of thinking
everyone has if it's not something you're going to use
or want to keep, get rid of it. Maybe I'm
a sociopath, But last I checked, you're allowed to do
what you want with your own property. Last I checked,
you're allowed to spend your money how you want. Could
you have offered to sell it to your brother or uncle?
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Would all the same people be calling you a jerk
anyway for not just graciously giving away a five figure inheritance. Absolutely, Personally,
I think anyone who feels entitled to what your father
left for you is selfish and greedy. I know I'm
going to get crucified for this take, but I really
don't mind considering my mental image of everyone who will
downvote this is of them divvying up their parents' assets
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while they're not in the ground yet not the jerk
entitled house cleaner brings her kids and her kids trashed
my house.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Gotta put this out here.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Most absurd and titled parent situation I've personally encountered. My
husband and I look to hire a local husband and
wife small business to clean and do our maintenance projects
on our house before our baby.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Comes in a few weeks.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
They came by tonight to take a look at the projects,
and surprise, brought their three elementary aged kids. No bigie,
I thought, not ideal, But I like kids, and I
like the idea of our home being a welcoming place
for them. We'll let it go. We opened the door
and the kids scattered. All three of them took off,
screaming in different directions with.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Their shoes on.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
One ended up in my room and two on different
ends of the living room, where they all three started
pulling my daughter's carefully organized, orderly toys off the shelves
at an extremely rapid pace. Well, they should made themselves
at home, the mom beamed, They should love your house.
I tried to orient the parents quickly so they would
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leave asap, and the oldest kid noticed our loft, which
is our playroom and library and is also carefully organized
and decorated with love with various handcrafted elements, and they
all raced upstairs. We have four kids of our own,
but managed to mostly keep things orderly. Each toy has
a place. We have some small and breakable pieces from
my and my husband's childhood. All the books are shelved
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alphabetically in categories. All three kids started shrieking at the
sight of the room. I was trying to wrap up
discussion with the mom. Then the stomping started and the
clanging sounded like jumping off furniture. I paused for the
mom to say something, but she didn't even bat an eyelash.
Then came a crash that could only have come from
furniture falling over. Mom again didn't so much as comment.
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My husband ran upstairs alarmed. The youngest one, four maybe,
then raced down, needing to go to the bathroom urgently.
Three of our four bathrooms need service, which is why
we were hiring these people, So the only bathroom available
was our master bathroom, where we have chicks in an incubator.
As I showed the kid where to go, she got
distracted by the chicks and screamed to the older kids
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upstairs to come and see now. So the older two came,
barreling and yelling. Shees on through my room and bathroom,
and the small one didn't quite make it. To the
bathroom in time. This all happened in like fifteen minutes.
I thought we could quickly be introducing the adult contractors
to the projects and negotiating pay. This was bizarre and horrible,
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I thought, But we'll just have them do the job
tomorrow and not work with them again. But then two
of the kids started to tantrum when it was time
for them to leave, notably without putting away a single
toy they had disassembled or strewn about. Mom says, it's okay,
we'll be back so you can play more with them tomorrow.
What she was expecting to bring the kids and leave
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them unsupervised in my house? Or maybe she expected me
to provide childcare while she performed tasks. Clearly unsafe for
kids to be closed off in rooms for seven hours.
Of course, we're canceling. I'm almost too shocked to even
be upset. I just checked upstairs and found a shelf
of books partially toppled. Every toy in the living room
is in pieces on the floor. The bathroom is a mess.
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It happened so fast, I just can't sounds like they've
got quite the business plan. The minion's job is to
eak havoc in your house, so you have no so
choice but to hire them to clean it up. Am
I the jerk for asking for time away from my wife?
I'm twenty eight, mail. My wife is twenty four. She
has a very strong bond with her family. Last month,
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both of her parents moved to live with her brothers
in Australia, and she's been feeling very down since then.
I'm definitely at fault for not making enough time for
her these past few weeks due to excessive workload at
my new job. This all led to constant arguments initiated
by her. It started to get really suffocating and frustrating
for both of us, so I asked her if for
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a few days she can go live at her parents'
house that they left in her care. She did not
say anything, but packed her stuff and left in the morning.
I only wanted her to have some time alone to
clear her head. I assumed she needs space and called
to ask her if she reached there safe and needs
groceries since it's been a month that house has been empty.
She didn't answer my calls, but sent a text later
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to inform me that she's there. I thought she really
wants to spend this time alone, so I decided not
to bother her because she's an inch who often needs
her personal space. We talked very briefly over messages a
few times after that. On Tuesday, I took a day
off of work to go see her. Since it's been
over a week and she didn't return or even call.
I found out that she's been sick for days and
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is on leaf from work. When I asked her why
she didn't inform me, she said she did not want
to bother me. I took her to see a doctor
and turns out she has jaundice and is four weeks pregnant.
Now she's back home. I've apologized, but she's unusually reserved,
and I feel like I'm the reason. My intention was
only to give her space and have some time alone
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for myself. I really love her and never intended to
hurt her at all. Am I the jerk? So let
me get this straight. One, your wife expressed that you
had been ignoring her.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Two.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Your response to this was to send her away to
live in an empty house by herself. Three, you ignored
her all week four, and you justify this by saying
she needs space. You were doing this for her. No,
you wanted space, and you're so immature and messed up
that you can't even admit it to yourself. Your selfish
behavior here has made your wife feel awful, humiliated, and disrespected,
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not to mention, you could have put her in danger
because she was sick and pregnant. You are a completely
self absorbed jerk, and it doesn't seem like you respect
her or care about what she wants at all.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
I feel bad for your wife that she's stuck having
a kid with you. Your wife was depressed because her
parents moved. You didn't make time to help her because
of work. You were fighting a lot, and how you
found time to fight when you had no time to
be loving and supportive is beyond me. So you kicked
her out to go live in an empty house. How
you could have written all of this out without realizing
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you're the jerk is amazing. Holy cow, you're the jerk.
This woman is going to be the mother of your baby,
and your answer to being in conflict with her was
to ask her to leave. Don't do this again next time.
She might not come back. She'd be better off not
coming back.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Let's see, so the husband is working long hours at
work in order to provide for his family. His wife
is acting like a needy baby because her parents moved.
You're refusing to coddle her, So now Reddit thinks you're
the bad guy. Honestly, she sounds like she has issues,
no wonder everyone here is defending her. About ninety nine
percent of the people on this site have issues themselves.
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To be honest, if I were you, I'd be getting
a divorce. Find someone who actually appreciates the fact that
you work long hours to keep a roof over their head,
and who doesn't need to be coddled because her mommy
and dadad moved. Can you imagine if the rolls were flipped.
My husband is sad because his mommy and daddy moved,
and I've been working long hours to provide for him,
so I haven't been constantly available as his emotional sponge.
(18:46):
I asked him for some time apart and if he
could go stay in his parents vacant house. Am I
the jerk? Everybody would be telling her to leave you.
Am I the jerk for asking my ex if our
son who's eleven could bring his stepbrother who's also eleven
on their father son camping trip. My ex and I
got a divorce when our son was six. When he
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was eight, I started dating my current husband. On the
day my son met his stepbrother, they stood in front
of each other, sized each other up the way that
boys do, and were silent for a moment. Then my
son asked, do you want to play Super Smash Brothers?
And his stepbrother said yes, and they ran upstairs. It
was fraternal love at first sight. They've been attached to
the hip ever since. My step son's mother passed a
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few years ago, and my husband was actually hesitant to
introduce me and my son to his two kids because
they thought it was too soon. It turns out that
everything worked great. The first year we were all together,
my step son asked if my son could come along
when they visited their mother at the cemetery on her birthday,
and he spent the whole car ride over telling my
son all about her, and it seemed.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Therapeutic for him.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Later that night, I checked in and saw that my
son had climbed up to the top bunk and they
had fallen asleep, curled up together. Before she entered her
current seven go going on seventeen phase, my stepdaughter used
to crawl into my son's lap as often as she
did my step son and ask them to read to her.
Since the divorce, my ex husband has been unreliable at best.
He cancels on my son regularly, making some excuses about
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work and what have you. The twice monthly weekends together
have trailed off to three or four times a year.
Every time I have to tell my son his father canceled,
my step son goes to his father and asks if
the three of them can do something together. One of
the few things my ex husband likes enough to always
follow through with is camping. He's planning on taking my
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son camping in a few weeks, the weekend after Father's
Day weekend. My son loves camping as well, and he's
the one who convinced my step son to join boy
Scouts next fall. The thing is this year, he wants
to bring his stepbrother along. I told my ex husband
this and he got upset, saying that it's their time
together and he doesn't want someone else's kid going along
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with them. He says that it's supposed to be the
two of them bonding. I told him he's had plenty
of chances to bond, that he blew off for one
reason or another, and that he should consider himself lucky
that he has such a compassionate and sensitive son and
that our son still wants anything to do with him.
He hung up in a huff. His mother called yesterday
to complain that I was expecting my ex to just
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sit there while my son and step son went off
on their own and ignored my ex completely and said
that I need to look at it from his perspective
since he only gets to see our son a few
times a year for obvious reasons. This annoyed me to
the point where I hung up. My husband said that
he gets it and thinks I should just let it
be the two of them. Am I the jerk? Ninety
(21:36):
nine point nine percent? Your ex is clearly the jerk,
but it's reasonable for him to not want to take
the step son camping. You're the jerk if you try
to push this this. Making a plan for the boys
to go camping with Op's husband is the way to go.
Even if neglectful Dad has refused the step son and
dips out on his own son, both boys will still
have another adventure to look forward to that will actually
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happen when when you're the jerk, you asked he answered.
The answer was no, you didn't need to keep going.
She didn't really keep going. She advocated for her son
and then got harassed by his mother. The ex also
did not appear to be stepping up to tell the
son that the step son couldn't come. It appeared that
the X and the ex mother in law wanted the
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mother to do it. None of this is her problem.
She relayed her son's request. Her work is done. Her
only response going forward should be ask your father. She
is not the jerk. You're the jerk. I'm with your
husband on this one. The dynamic of the trip changes
completely with another kid going along. Your ex goes from
dad being fully engaged and participating with his own son
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to referee slash firestarter slash tent maker. Am I missing something?
It seems pretty clear here that your son is the
one that expressed interest in bringing his stepbrother along. Your
son is pretty lucky to have meshed so well into
a blended family. All you're doing is asking your ex
if your step son can come TOOO. X is allowed
to say no. You're allowed to try to change his mind,
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But your husband is right, you should not be pushy
about this. I get you hold a lot of resentment
against your ex, but you must have made your ex
feel pretty guilty for him to go crying to his mom.
I haven't gathered enough from posts to indicate that you
are actually being pushy yet, so I'll just say no,
jerk's here for now. I don't think you're missing anything.
All the your the jerk votes seem to have poor
(23:25):
reading comprehension. I don't even see how she tried to
change his mind. She stated some basic truths, and the
X got heffy and hung up and went crying to
his mommy, who then called to go off on OP
the am I the jerk question is about asking her
ex for that. I would vote not the jerk that
she actually refused to accept a no or refuse to
tolerate bs from X and ex mother in law. I'd
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be annoyed too. He's been neglecting his son so much
and then getting upset about this, of all things, his
attitude could be improved. In my opinion, I do agree
with OP her son seems to be way more understanding
and forgiving than his dad, and not to be rude
but probably more emotionally mature to am I the jerk
for not paying my boyfriend's child support. My boyfriend and
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I have been together for four years now. He moved
in with me around the year mark, and during this
time he has not held a stable job due to
health concerns and being in and out of the hospital.
But he is working now and has been for a while.
Between the both of us, we have four kids, his
two and my two. His ex wife is constantly saying
how her kids are my responsibility too, even when they
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aren't at my house, and that if my boyfriend cannot
make his child support payment or pay for after school care,
or if her kids need something, that I should step
up to do it. Child support is set up to
come out of his checks, but I won't. It's been
nothing but a battle with her. She's constantly tearing me
down and saying that I'm not a parent to her
kids and shouldn't even try, that it doesn't matter unless
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my boyfriend and I get married. She has and still
does talk crap about me to my boyfriend's family. It's
not been civil, and I have done nothing but try.
Mind you, I have two kids of my own. I
pay for everything in my home, including anything and everything
his kids need while here, not to mention the gas
for him to get his kids to and from during
his time. I make sure that all kids have everything
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they need here, even when it comes to holidays. I
buy the same for his as I do mine. I
make sure his two are included in everything that we
do because we do it as a family. I love
those kids as my own, but I cannot afford to
pay two households worth of stuff. But in the end,
it doesn't matter. She goes off on me for not
stepping up and paying her child support or not asking
(25:36):
if there's anything they need for her house. Am I
the jerk for not paying his child support to their mother?
I feel like you are in a pattern of getting
with men that do not care for their own kids properly.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Not the jerk.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Your boyfriend sucks for not paying child support or buying
things for his kids, but it's not your responsibility. Five
years from now, she's going to have one or two
of his babies too and be complaining of about how
he never pays his child support.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
INFO.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Why are you with someone who can't afford or refuses
to pay their child support? Everyone sucks here? Why are
you in this situation? You have two kids to support
with little help from their dad, so you move in
this guy who has two kids too. Now what resources
you have have to be split even more? You kind
of suck here. Get you want to be loved, but
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how little does your kids have to receive so you
can enjoy whatever this man brings to you. You already
know that you don't have to pay this woman anything.
You're just here ranting that she's a jerk who bad
mouths you, So what Why are you even talking to her?
Block her number and send this dude back to his
mother until he can hold down a job, pay his bills,
and have something sustainable to offer to you and your kids.
(26:46):
What does he bring to the table other than his needs?
You're the jerk. Situations like this really drive me up
the wall. Why do they always choose to be with
guys like this who have kids and refuse to provide
for them. I'll tell you why. Because those guys are
six feet tall, have good facial genetics, muscles, and are
overly confident. Then you have guys like me, very average looking,
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good job, master's degree, not super confident, and not even
one woman will swipe right on me. Then the women
I do manage to meet through mutual friends always tell
me that they like me as a friend and don't
really want to try dating me, but they're fine going
out to eat with me as long as I pay
for it as usual. Then you hear about couples like this,
and I just don't get it. Like, maybe the hot
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guy with two kids he doesn't provide for and who
doesn't have a job won't make the best partner for you.
Maybe give the normal looking guy who has his own house,
makes eighty thousand a year and has no kids yet
a chance. Edit call me all the names you want.
Nothing that I've said here is untrue. We live in
an age where pointing out the obvious results in people
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calling you names and belittling you. No wonder you're all
picking the wrong guys. You people have no common sense?
Am I the jerk for losing my temper at someone
who we are? Ended my car earlier today? I was
driving to work at my internship job. The car behind
me was driving dangerously close to me the whole time.
Then as I stopped at a red light, the girl
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driving behind me tried to do a full lane change
at the very last second and hit the back corner
of my car just as she was turning in. I
signaled to her to stop over on the side street
parking ahead, and proceeded to have the most frustrating interaction
I've ever had with a stranger. She refused to apologize
or take any responsibility. I don't think I've ever dealt
with such an entitled and stuck up jerk in my
(28:34):
entire life. I genuinely tried my hardest to stay calm
when I first approached her, but I very quickly lost
my patience and less than ten seconds of interacting with her. Me,
what are your insurance details?
Speaker 2 (28:46):
Her? I don't know them? Bro, Me who manages your insurance?
Then your parents? Her?
Speaker 1 (28:52):
Maybe I don't know. Is this a police interview? Me?
Can you stop messing around and just find out what
your insurance details are?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Are?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Her smirking? Why are you crying about it? My car's
messed up too, and you don't hear me complaining me?
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Are you dumb?
Speaker 1 (29:08):
Was either one who rear ended you or did you
crash into me? This mess happened because your brain is
too small to learn how to steer a car properly. Her,
don't call me dumb. Watch your tone when you speak
to me.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
Me forget you. I'll talk to you however I want.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
If you're not going to give me your insurance details,
then I'm just going to take a photo of your
number plate. Her, whatever, I'm done talking to you. I
don't talk to short men. At this point, I knew
the conversation wasn't going anywhere, so I took a photo
of her car's plate and we both drove off. Personally,
I think my anger was completely justified. I've never dealt
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with someone so exhausting, not the jerk. I think you
should have stayed at the scene to call the police,
though now she can claimed that there was some mutual
agreement reached when in fact she fled the scene. Also,
I hope you have uninsured motorist coverage, because I seriously
doubt she doesn't know her coverage. She was probably either
an unauthorized user or didn't have any. If she refused
(30:08):
to provide her car information as required by law, they
can still call the police report it. I had to
call the police on the guy who rear ended me
and refused to provide his insurance, and they ticketed him
for it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
You're the jerk.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
She was probably just scared out of her mind. I'm
a younger driver too, twenty one female, and to be honest,
we just don't waste.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
Time on the road.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
You consider her driving to be erradical, but chances are
she was just driving the way normal younger drivers do.
Then you made her pull over, got out of your car,
and demanded her details without even introducing yourself. Then you're
surprised she doesn't have a customer service attitude with you.
I would have called the cops on you if I
had been her. You sound like you have serious anger
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issues and taking out your road rage like this is
gonna wind up with you behind bars. My pregnant sister
expects me to support her family financially. My sister got
pregnant with her boyfriend right out of high school, got
married the next year, then proceeded.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
To pop out another baby every year or two.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So she now has four kids and she's twenty four
years old. She's a stay at home mom, even though
she was brilliant and could have gotten a free ride
to a great university. Since hers are the only grandkids,
our parents fawn over her constantly. They gush over every
new tooth or haircut like it's some sort of huge achievement.
Problem is, her husband's business wasn't doing great even before
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lockdown and is barely limping along.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
Now.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Sister doesn't work and my parents have limited income, So
guess who constantly gets told to lend money to them
for crap like school fees, car seats, car payments, new strollers, etc.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
They don't even ask.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
My mom just texts me, your sister needs money for
the kids, and I'm supposed to cough it up. If
I complain, they accuse me of being jealous because I
don't have a husband and family. Even though I'm older,
I'm only twenty six. So over Easter, I noticed myself
in drinking and I think, oh no, here we go again.
Sure enough, she stands up and announces that she's having
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yet another precious miracle. Everyone's gushing and I just try
to stay quiet and out of the way. Later, she
asks me if everything is all right, and I try
to play it off, but she pushes. So I asked
her if she and her husband could really afford another baby.
Very snippily, she replies, God will provide like he has
so far, which really ticked me off. I yelled that no,
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actually God didn't provide for her babies. I did, and
I wasn't going to be giving them any more handouts.
It devolved into a huge argument and everyone shouted at me,
and basically, I've been banned from my family unless I apologize.
I haven't apologized. It's been a radio silence, except for
one text from my mom saying that if my sister
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has issues with her pregnancy, then it's my fault for
stressing her out. I asked if my sister was showing
any symptoms, but no one will answer me or tell me.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (33:00):
I don't think I'm the jerk, but I don't want
to be the reason that she has pregnancy issues. Support
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