The Unmistakable Signs from God That Led Us to Marriage

In this video, we share personal, heartfelt examples from our relationship that revealed God’s signs showing us we were meant to be together. From moments of clarity to unexpected confirmations, we hope our story inspires and encourages you as you navigate your own relationships.

If you’re wondering whether the person you’re with is “the one,” this video is for you! We’ll discuss:
• The signs that strengthened our faith in each other
• How to recognize when God is guiding your relationship
• Why patience and trust in His timing is key

Let us know in the comments: Have you experienced any signs in your relationships? We’d love to hear your story!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
What's up If you're new here, We're Drane Breece Smith.
We've been together for seven years, waiting for marriage for four,
and now married for three. We started Relationship Restored to
help individuals like you find and create happy, healthy relationships.
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Today, we're answering a great question that somebody wrote into us,
and it was what are the signs that got gave
us to know that we were the people for each other?
And we do have some major signs that, especially when
we look back our relationship, we're like, whoa like that
made a lot of sense, and we want to make
sure we share those things with you guys, so maybe
you can see those signs or the lack of signs

(00:40):
in your relationship and maybe know if that person is
the right person for you. Now, we're going to break
this down into two different sections. We'll talk about like
our things that we did and saw before we started dating,
kind of the things that led up into us dating,
and then the things that happened while we were dating,
So let us start with things that happened before we

(01:02):
were dating. So I'll start. But most of you guys
know that Bri and I both waited for marriage together
in our relationship. That's part of our story, that's part
of our journey. If you don't know now you know.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
You don't know now you know.

Speaker 2 (01:19):
Not d getting demonetized. And one of the biggest things
was it was that decision. So I wanna break down
what was the thing that you led me to that
decision that I felt like was a sign from God
to be like, okay, typing up Bright, it's about that time.
So basically, I think it's important to note that it

(01:40):
takes time, I think, to have a commitment and truly
be committed to that commitment. I guess because I had
made this decision a while ago that I wanted to wait,
and I had made a decision that I was ready
for a wife and to have a life partner, probably
a year before I even actually waited for marriage. But

(02:03):
I think it's important to understand that there's a difference
between saying something and being super intentional about it, and
it takes time to have this idea in your head
to finally get to the point to where you're like, Okay,
this is what I'm actually gonna do. I think some
people think that like we made a decision and then
it was just like a switch, like boom, this is
what we're doing. But I realized that I wanted a
wife and I was ready for somebody serious at a

(02:25):
very young age. I was maybe twenty two at the time,
but I knew that this is what I wanted. But
I had this motto that Ronda and Abby will tell
you about it because I talk about it. I used
to talk about at work all the time. I used
to always sure.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
Anytime you do things, God's wait, it always ends up
working out better than you imagine.

Speaker 2 (02:45):
No, that's true, and that's one of my things. But no,
when I was single, you didn't know me at this time.
I had this motto that I'm ready for dinner, but
until dinner comes, there's nothing wrong with me snacking a
little bit.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Oh, I remember that.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
So I used to always be like, I'm snacking. So
I used to mess with all these different women saying
like I'm ready for dinner, but I ain't found dinner yet,
so I'm just snacking to just you know, keep my appetitle,
you know, going until dinner comes. When dinner comes, I
don't need a snack no more. But guess what happens
if you had to me snacks, you're too full to
eat dinner. So I was at a point to where

(03:22):
it was at the end of twenty seventeen, twenty sixteen,
I think twenty sixteen or twenty seventeen. We started dating
in twenty I don't know, one of those years seventeen,
and I was like, I remember having relations with a
young lady and being at a point to where after
we were done, it was just like I didn't even

(03:44):
like her enough to like stay over. I kind of
was like, so, yeah, you need to bounce, and I
started and I had that feeling like this is not
me and this is not who I am. This is
not the type of person I am. And it also
made me think like, if I really wanna find a wife,

(04:04):
is this the way to do it. And this had
happened multiple times to where I was doing things with
different women and still having the same feeling, and it
was finally that last time where I was just like, yeah,
this is getting old and I'm kind of done with
this and if I really wanna find a wife. When
I look back at my life and I do things
the way God said to do it, it always turns

(04:26):
out to be better for me. So I decided at
that point that I was gonna completely cut everybody off
cold turkey and really decide to wait for marriage and
really doing it in an effort to have a sober mind,
so that whenever God chose to reveal the woman I
was supposed to marry, that I was not intoxicated by

(04:46):
anything physical, that my judgment wasn't impaired by anything, that
I'll be ready for that person. So that was something
that happened that I felt like God was like, alright,
you know you need to wake up now because you
know this thing is happening and you need to commit
if you want the blessing that I have for you.
So that happened in January of twenty twenty, twenty seventeen,

(05:09):
is when I fully made that commitment and decided to
cut everybody off and wait until marriage.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
Now contexts before the next thing that you're about to say,
which is when I.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
Text you, well, I wanted to talk about you because
you also had well, I don't know if it was God,
it was a sign that had you in a point
to where you were like, you know what, I don't
want to wait as well.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, we won't go into details about my situation, just
know it was a very toxic relationship I was in.
And think of all the worse things that could happen
to you as a girl when you get cheated on,
like all of it. Yeah that's yep, yep, you're thinking
of it. Yeah, that and that happened to me. And
so it was just at a point where I was
like what am I doing? Like how have I allowed

(05:56):
somebody to strip me of X, Y and Z. And
I was like, you know, I've never really been religious.
I never really believed in like I've always believed in
a higher power in God, but I never focus on
building a relationship with God or trying to understand it
and trying to figure out what that all meant for

(06:16):
me and my beliefs. And so I was like, you know,
I'm going to exit out sex, Like, no matter how
much I might like someone or how much they might
appear to like me, I'm not giving up the cookie
because what I'm dealing with right now is not worth it.
And I was like I just want to find someone
who like loves me for me without receiving all the

(06:36):
additional benefits that comes with, you know, when you're in
a relationship. So I was like, I just want to
take that off the table and focus on learning myself
and growing from a spiritual standpoint, and that is what
I ended up doing. But the reason why I said
we have to give context is because before either of
us were at this point, we actually met me Andre.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
So I was at that point before are you talking
about before I made Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
So my friend Jordan, who I met at North Carolina
A and T my freshman year of college, right before
I transferred out, So really, me and Jordan only knew
each other for like a few weeks. And she calls
me up because she had met Dre through his cousin
and she's like, God told me this is your husband.

(07:25):
You need to come and meet this guy. And I
was like, what are you talking about? And at that time,
I was in that toxic relationship and I was like, girl,
I have a man. She was like, I don't know
who you dating, but he's not the one, Like I'm
telling you, this is the one. At the same time,
she was trying to tell dre that like he needs
to meet me.

Speaker 2 (07:42):
He's like, I'm.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
Good, Like I'm talking to someone. And so a few
weeks later after that phone call is when all the
things happened with my ex to where I hit up Jordan.
I was like, is the invite still open for me
to come and visit you in DC? She was like, yeah, girl,
and so she ended up setting it up to where
we met. We all hung out mutually. It was this
whole thing, and at that time, neither of us was

(08:05):
at the place that we're talking about now. So keep
in mind that we met eight months, right, eight months prior.

Speaker 2 (08:13):
It was like six or seven, Yeah, something close to that,
but something like that. That was a through line as
far as like when we look back our relationship, like oh,
God was working here. God was working here. Because the
thing is that Jordan, it was a through line, especially
in her life, especially early on, as far as like
that connection with God and like, you know, opening herself

(08:34):
up to that possibility of hearing Him and praying and
things of that nature, even prior to us being together.
But that I felt like that that weekend was important
mainly because like I wasn't interested in her, not that
I I thought she was attractive, but I wasn't interested
in her because I was talking to somebody else at
the time. But then I remember meeting her and I

(08:54):
was like, I have never met anybody like this person before,
Like this is just such a interistic thing, Like I've
never met a person like it. And I did not
expect to like her as much as I did, just
as a person, like not even just like on some
attractiveness type thing, just as a person. I was like,
I really liked her, and then we just went our

(09:15):
separate ways. She went back to Cleveland, I was here
in DC. Obviously the thing didn't end up working out
with the girls, so then we fast forward to the
reconnection element. So this is really when I was like,
God was in the kitchen, like I got something for you.
So I've told the story before, but at this point
I was waiting for marriage. I went down to my school,
James Mass University jam Ugo Dukes for a career fair.

(09:42):
It was in March, and I remember going and there
was a girl there that I used to frequently do
things with, and she was there getting her masters and
I didn't hit her up, but we ended up running
to each other on campus, and like clockwork, whenever I
was back on campus, we would do it. Then she
hit me up at like one am and was like, Hey,
what you doing come over and I was like, nah,

(10:04):
I can't. And I was like, you know, I am
waiting for marriage, and I was like, I'm not having
sex and she was like, are you doing that for lint?
And I was like no, And then she made some
convincing arguments, but I finally said no. And I was
just sitting on the couch at my friend Lindsay's house.
Charlot to lindsay, I need a car, and I was
just like I'm actually doing this, Like I really don't

(10:26):
have anybody that I'm talking to. This wasn't for show,
Like nobody knew that I rejected her, and nobody knew
that I hung out, that I used to do all
this stuff with her, Like that was literally just a
private moment to where it wasn't a show. It wasn't
for show, to where I really my commitment was put
to the test and pause.

Speaker 1 (10:46):
And a few months before that, I had toured. So
my business in Cleveland was a dance studio and I
had a class called Shameless Heels, and I toured multiple
cities with that class. I had done two in DC.
I did two because the first one sold out so
quickly that I was like, Okay, let's just add another one.
And I just fell in love with DC, the people

(11:08):
of DC, the area, like I went to a few
different places and just I just felt so like welcomed.
And it was nice because living in Cleveland, it was
a lot of competition. It wasn't a lot of people
of color that like support each other, uplifted each other.
And so the energy that I received in DC, specifically
from any other city, was like, Okay, I had been

(11:30):
wanting to move and DC was now on my list
of places to move. It was like, oh, the typical
like Atlanta or Vegas or California. And I was just like,
I'm gonna I'm gonna move to DC and just expand
my business there. And so now, so.

Speaker 2 (11:47):
After I that night happened, I woke up the next
day mine of my business and I get this text
from this two six seven is that there two six
two one six two one six number, and it's like, hey,
I don't know if you remember me, but this is
breathe from Cleveland. I'm moving to DC. And you know,
I just wanted to reach out to see if you'd
be open to have dinner, to like catch up and

(12:08):
you know, talk about you know, last time we hung
out and all that stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (12:11):
And I was just like, I also I asked for
your help with knowing.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
Like where d yeah, where to move and all that
stuff too. So I was just like, huh. At the time,
I did not think anything of it. But now when
I said no too, well, yeah, cause that was a
it was a situation with that, but it was like
when we look back at the relationship now, it's like,
oh wow, Like the moment that I really were f

(12:35):
was faced with the opportunity to go back on my
commitment that I made to God when I passed that test.
The very next day, my future wife texted me. I
didn't know she was my future wife at the time,
but she texted me and asked to hang out and
said that she was moving to DC. So not only
did she hit me up and wanna connect, she's actually

(12:55):
moving to the city that I actually lived. So that
was crazy. And then in that moment too up to
us meeting, it was interesting because I remember talking to
my friend Remy and I was telling her about breathe
and all that, and she was like, what does she
look like? And I was like that's a good question,

(13:16):
and I was just like, I mean, she has curly hair,
she's like lighter skin. But I always remember my mom
telling me when she met my stepdad, who they've been
married for a decade over a decade now, is that
when somebody asked her what her what my stepdad looked like,

(13:37):
she couldn't really like it was just like she had
to think, like, oh, what does he look like? And
that was almost like recognizing that you saw something deeper
than just their appearance. It was more like I kind
of like this person just because I like this person,
and yeah they look good, and like I didn't, I
don't question that they're attractive, but that wasn't like the focus.

(13:59):
So it's like kind of trying to explain that to
somebody was like, oh, yeah, I forgot, Yeah they do
look good. But it wasn't like oh, leading off like
yo her butt or you know, yo her boobs or like,
it wasn't anything like that. It was just like I
l literally just genuinely liked this person. So that was
like another sign for me that when I went to
explain that somebody asked what she looked like. I was

(14:19):
just like, huh, Like I never thought about that. And
then because I remember that that's what my mom went through,
then it was like another sign, like, huh, this may
be somebody that I really like. Then, so now we're
going to the point to where we had our first date.
She cried. But the thing that was so interesting about

(14:45):
her is that she was just so transparent, which was nice,
Like she was so open even with the issues that
she did have. It wasn't like a thing like I'm
trying to hide and act like I'm this when I'm
really going through something. She was very open about the
things that she was struggling with, which I really liked.
And I judged a lot of things that I judge
a lot of my experience based off of what my

(15:07):
mom and my stepdad experienced when they had their relationship,
as far as how they knew they were the right
ones for each other, and it was things like somebody
who's authentic, somebody who is theirself, somebody who doesn't try
to hide who they are. So that was a huge
sign for me as well that this was somebody that
was worth getting to know even more because she wasn't

(15:28):
hiding behind anything. She was herself all the way.

Speaker 1 (15:32):
So I think after that, the next thing we did
was the conference. Right.

Speaker 2 (15:37):
Yes, so our first date was very interesting. It wasn't
really a first date date. But like our first time together,
Bri was still leaving in Cleveland at the time and
I was in DC. But thanks to Jordan that through
line through it all, we went to a prophetic conference
that was like a two or three day conference in

(15:58):
at Grace Covenant and Chantilly. For now, the thing about
this trip also is that this is the same trip
where I did. The worst thing you could tell woman
is that I need to tell you something, but I
can only tell you once you get here in person.
So I didn't at this time tell her that I
was waiting for marriage. At the time, I didn't know
that she was waiting either, but I told her that

(16:20):
I need to tell her something and we couldn't do
it until we got in person, so I waited until
she got here. So there are two things that were
really I think God aligned in this. So number one
is that when she first got there, I was going
through all these things we were talking about relationship. What
that would look like how we wanted to operate, and
then I was saving the best thing for last, which

(16:40):
was really that I was waiting for marriage. But a
sign for me and probably for both of us, was
that before I had even said it to her, she
had said it to me. And mind you, at this time,
I did not know that this girl was waiting for marriage.
She was an NBA dancer waiting well, that she was
waiting to have sex really until engagement. Yeah, but I

(17:02):
may this girl was teaching like sexy hill classes. She
was like an NBA dancer like so it was very
like you know, outside looking in like, oh, this is
a very sexual person. I don't know how this is
going to go over. But the fact that my biggest
thing was that I wanted to tell her I was
waiting to have sex. That before I even said that,
she told me that she was waiting essentially until she

(17:24):
found the person that she wanted to spend the rest
of her life with before I even said it. That
was me another sign. I was like, yo, I don't
know what you're trying to tell me.

Speaker 1 (17:33):
God, but that night was such a cute nue it
was crazy.

Speaker 2 (17:38):
I was like, what, So that was another thing.

Speaker 1 (17:41):
I was afraid to tell him that because of the
exact same reason. I was like, he's about to look
at me like, girl, you be doing these sexy dance
classes and like you ain't na what you're talking about.
And I thought that he just would assume that that
would come with the package. And I was like, how's
he going to feel when I tell him that he
can't have sex with me? So I was kind of
like this and then his face he was like and

(18:04):
I'm like what, And I don't know what he was
going to I didn't know what he was going to say,
but as soon as he said what he said, I
will say that I that was the first time since
the passing of my ex when I like prayed and
had a whole like spiritual experience. That was the first
time that I felt that with someone, Like my whole

(18:25):
body was kind of like floating. I was just like,
oh my gosh. And I remember immediately thinking like, this
is my husband. And it was weird because we were
we even officials yet No, yeah, I don't think we were,
but I was like, I was like, this is my husband.
Like I just remember feeling that and thinking that that
whole night.

Speaker 2 (18:44):
And then like she said, that was an amazing night.
But then we went into the conference, which you can
only imagine at a prophetic conference what some of the
things that we heard, but you have the highlight of
that essentially.

Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, So I remember I came back to Dre because
they had this like breakout session. It was actually pretty
strange because like people talking in tongues and like I
don't know how to talk in tongues, but like they
it was just it was weird. It was it was uncomfortable.
But essentially what I received in my little group breakout,
one of the women like was prophesiing over me and

(19:19):
was like your husband is here, like he is in
this room, and I was just sitting there like wait
a minute, and I was like I'm looking around, like wait,
where's Dre, Like I need him to hear this so
he don't think I'm crazy. And there was a few
things that she had said like that ended up coming
to fuition, Like she mentioned something about that we were
going to start a business together, like we were going
to live a very joint life before marriage, and we

(19:41):
ended up launching a business before we got married, and
all types of stuff. And I didn't really think back
to that. But then we kept this box of like
keepsake stuff, and so we actually have our like name
tags that said dre and Breed that we saved with
like the date and all the things, which is crazy
because when we love that through. Yeah, that's how we
kind of like talked about it, and we were going

(20:02):
through I switched boxes and I was like, oh, I
kept these, and it was just nice because it was
like I was reminded of like, wow, that person said
those things to me, and at the time, you know,
I did receive it. But it's different when like you're
on the tail end of it happening and then you're like,
that is crazy that that actually happened.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
It's pretty nuts, it is.

Speaker 1 (20:23):
It is.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
And that was one of the main things that let up.
And then for us, it was just a lot of
different experiences along the way, probably too many to even name,
probably too many for us to even remember that, you know,
constant confirmation that this was the person that we're supposed
to be, that we're supposed to be with. And one
of the things a few things for me that I
can highlight that was different with her than it was

(20:47):
with anybody else was one is that when disagreements came
a hard times came. Typically with other people, I would
just want to cut it off for some reason. With her,
I wanted to figure it out. So that was something
new for me that I had an experience with anybody
else before. And it was less about them or me,

(21:07):
I guess necessarily, or I guess less about me, but
more about the type of person that they were in
their alignment with who I wanted to be with and
probably where I was at that time, and Bree was
just different in that way. Also, I think we talked
about it in a previous video, but there was an
inflection point to where we really had a hard time.
It was around like moving and I had to know,

(21:30):
like if Bree really trusted me, you know, to lead
us in our relationship. And that was a pivotal moment
in our relationship that you know, allowed me to see
that even if she doesn't understand something that she knows,
if I am very adamant about something that I have
our best interests at heart, I am taking into consideration

(21:52):
everything that she wants and that she needs and that
she feels. But I'm going to make the best decision
for us. And then they'll end up working out for
us in the long run, and that was a huge
stepping stone for me to know, like, Okay, this is
going to be somebody that I can spend the rest
of my life with. Were we engaged ship, I don't know.
I was just thinking about that.

Speaker 1 (22:12):
Because I know we were still at Highgate.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
I think we might have been. No, because I felt
like that would have been I don't know.

Speaker 1 (22:20):
No, we couldn't have been engaged because we were.

Speaker 2 (22:22):
Too open to leaving. Yeah, I was about to say
we were too open to like not pushing it through.
I'll just go by myself.

Speaker 1 (22:29):
I wouldn't have said that we were engaged. So we
had been on the brink of getting engaged.

Speaker 2 (22:35):
No, we were engaged for sure. We were because we
moved in twenty like twenty one or twenty twenty, and
we got engage August eighteenth, twenty eighteen, So we were
definitely engaged.

Speaker 1 (22:51):
Dang, I'm cutthroat.

Speaker 2 (22:53):
I was feeling the same way. I was like, I
don't know how we're gonna move forward if this is
the thing. And we had a very public engagement too,
so that would have been a conversation to have.

Speaker 1 (23:02):
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (23:03):
But I just it was other signs too, that just
knew that having somebody that you know sinks the truth
and everything is important. So if you give them the time,
you give them the space that they look to find
whatever the best UH solution is when it comes to things,
UH was important to me. So that gave me the

(23:25):
indication that I felt like we could work through anything
you know that we face in our life.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
I would say too, our one thing. I think we
both were like, yeah, like this is a crazy divined
like partnership is because we so early on moved in
with each other. We moved in after like three months
of dating. Yeah, and we started a business like six

(23:52):
months after that. We quickly realized that like all of
my strengths were his weaknesses, and all of his strengths
were my weaknesses, and it made for the perfect partnership
like as business partners, as friends, and from a relationship standpoint,

(24:12):
like romantically, because again it was like we were the
ying to yang, Like we both we wanted the same
thing out of life. We had the same vision for
what we wanted life to look like, but what we
brought to the table were like perfectly fit puzzle pieces.
Like if he had eighty, I had twenty, and then
if I had thirty of this, he had seventy, and

(24:34):
so like that was really cool. It was like this
is kind of crazy, Like I couldn't go into business
with a better person, Like this is actually clutch. Like
everything I don't like, you love that's great, like and
vice versa. It's like this is awesome.

Speaker 2 (24:48):
It is true, is that the business allowed us balance
and it also gave us our hardest tests in the
beginning to know if we could, you know, withstand other
things in our relationship. Like literally, as three said, we
moved in together three months and started business six months
and we're sharing finances from that point. And this is
before engagement or anything. So it was like we were

(25:10):
fully in it from the beginning. And I feel like
we dealt with a lot of the tough things that
people sometimes maybe don't even go through until like year
six or year seven of their marriage. We dealt with
that like early on in our relationship, and I think
that that helped us for the better. And then there's
other signs from a business standpoint to where even we
were doing things like this YouTube channel when it was

(25:31):
worth the wait and we were about to quit but
then four people came up to me, like when I
was out the day we were talking about quitting, and it
was like, I love your channel so much. Oh my gosh,
I love you and your wife, And that made us
continue to do this. So who knows if we would
even be doing what we're doing now if we didn't
continue that on that journey. And then that next month
when we put out videos, we were at like two

(25:53):
thousand subscribers for a whole year, and then we jumped
from like two thousand to fifteen thousand, and like one
month after those people came up to me and we
decided to keep going. So there's like so many signs
that we feel like came directly from God that impacted
our relationship and told us this is the person that
we're supposed to be with or that we were supposed

(26:14):
to continue things as well. Goohod, I would say I.

Speaker 1 (26:16):
Have one too. So I, as you guys know, like
Dre had a great relationship with God pretty much his
whole existence. For me, I started that around the age
of like twenty. So there would be times where I
was going through something and if we would pray about
it or if I, like, you know, it was stressed

(26:39):
about it, like really worried about it and prayed on it.
The signs or the things that I needed to like
have clarity would come from him, like dre typically in
the shower too. Like he has had moments where he
was like I feel like God is saying this, or
like I feel like this is the thing, and I
wouldn't necessarily you know, it's it's like there's signs and

(27:03):
then there's like moments where you can choose to believe
or not. And there were instances where it's like, Okay,
we're going to go on that, and then what ended
up happening because of us doing that was like mind
blowing where we were like wait, what, I'm going to
give one example because we have a lot of examples
of these. Actually, like I I do feel that like
spiritually you are my person because of the way that

(27:28):
like God works in that where it's like there's no
one I trust more than you. So it's like sometimes
it coming through you to me is the best delivery.
But so this particular time, you got to be because don't.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
One time she saw a license plate that said trust God.

Speaker 1 (27:43):
Wait on a day that I was praying, I was
like I don't know, Like he was telling me that
God was I was like wait what. I was like
he asked me to do why? What do you mean?
And I'm like, how do you How does God tell
you something like why? And why can't he tell me?
Like I don't get it? And then he was just
like I just feel like you're really supposed to trust
God right now?

Speaker 2 (27:59):
Oh blah blah.

Speaker 1 (28:00):
I go get in the car literally going like around
the corner, pull up look out, and I'm like, are
you kidding me? License plate says trust God? And I
prayed about it before I drove off. That's why it's
so crazy. It's like it's always yeah, it's nuts. It's
a lifetime movie, like in the best way. So the
example I'm gonna give is when I moved in with Dre,

(28:23):
we had this like transition of I was like, I
think I'm supposed to be doing something bigger than shameless.
Like I was like, I don't know, I just don't
feel the same way anymore about the classes, Like I
just you know, but I don't know like what I
would do. And we went on a walk and Dre
was like yeah, I mean he's like I just think

(28:44):
at this point, you know, like you should just get
a job, like get something, and he like we were
looking at like bartending jobs, like nannying.

Speaker 2 (28:51):
She's not giving a credit. I was pushing hard. I
wasn't nicely being like you. I was like, we had
arguments about it. I was like, you need to work.
You are moving and business isn't doing well, and you
want me to take care of this and take care
of that, like you need to get a job, like
you want to be this entrepreneur. That way, I was
pushing like.

Speaker 1 (29:12):
Well, I probably heard your heart.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
But I was helping her, trying to find things that
could work for her that still gave her space. But
I was like really pushing, like you need to you're
twenty two or twenty three, You're an adult. You need
to take care of yourself, Like if you got to
get a job, get a job, like that's what everybody
else has to do.

Speaker 1 (29:32):
So that was where we were, and I ended up
getting a nanny job. Right.

Speaker 2 (29:38):
Probably went on an interview for bartending and ended up
doing a nanny too.

Speaker 1 (29:42):
So for bartend I didn't even do the interview. Actually,
it was just like I walked in. I was like, nah,
I don't want to do this again, because y'all, I
bartended for years when I wasn't even supposed to be bartending.
I was a bartender. But anyways, when I had the
nanny job, I was there for a few weeks. I
actually loved it. I loved it girls. It was like
so great. And I ended up getting let go because

(30:05):
my background check came back and they were like, we
can't have you driving our kids around and you have
like a DUI on your record, and I'm like, but
Dre took a shower shower. He was like, you know,
I feel like God is telling me like that you
don't need a job, and that like you're supposed to

(30:28):
be doing something different. And that's where he was like
the branding stuff, like what you've done with your business,
like maybe you can teach other people how to do that.
And then it started with me just doing like instamentovers
and branding coaching calls to then him being like, well
I can learn, like I'm already interested in content creation.
I have this camera, Like I can handle production and content.

(30:51):
You can handle marketing and branding the.

Speaker 2 (30:54):
Side of the stuff.

Speaker 1 (30:55):
So yeah, so that's how our whole business became to
be what it is, and that was over seven years
ago and we've never like we've been full time in
entrepreneurship with that and relationship restored since then.

Speaker 2 (31:09):
So and what we are doing now stems from that decision,
Like I wouldn't be head of podcasting at every one
if we didn't take that route. Like everything that our
livelihood is basically based off of that decision, which was
God come to me in the shower and just saying
like she don't need to work. After I was like,

(31:30):
gun hold, like no, you need to get a job.

Speaker 1 (31:32):
And that was a lot of pressure going from you know,
having my little nanny job which I was getting paid
they decently, it was good money, her parents was you know,
added together, but there was a lot of pressure to
go from like you come out the shower and God
told you not to I don't I shouldn't work because
I'm supposed to be like creating this business. Like that's
a lot of pressure.

Speaker 2 (31:53):
But but yeah, we have a lot of science. And
the thing that I want people to understand here is
that Briton, I don't want to say we're not overly spiritual,
but like even with us saying this, it's not like
we're which is nothing wrong with people who you know,
go out every day on the streets telling people about God,
but that's not even like how we operate. We kind

(32:15):
of try to show the way we live and show
our light through how we live, and not necessarily always
like preaching to people. But we just can't ignore the
signs that happened in our lives that we felt like
a God ordained because the way God operates is that
when he does something, he does it in a way
that you can't deny and that you can't really attribute

(32:36):
it to anything else or anyone else, right, So we
just felt like it was important to acknowledge those things
and let people know, especially when you're going through tough
times in relationships. I think that's when it's best to
look back at those things, because I had to do
that sometimes when we were struggling with things, trying to
figure things out. I was like, it's no way that

(32:58):
after I pass this test in private about committing to
waiting for marriage, that this woman that I'm dating right
now texts me the very next day, like the very
next day, like or that I was waiting to tell
her that I wanted to wait for marriage and she
tells me that she was waiting before I told her, like,
it's no way that God sent me, you know, especially

(33:20):
when I'm walking a godly journey as far as like
trying to wait for marriage, trying to do things the
right way, that He would do all these things in
place just for me to meet to be with this
person and it not be my person at all. So
there was times to where when we were going through
tough times, I use those signs as a reminder to
work through it, to know that if I give her

(33:41):
time and give her space, that you know, she'll ultimately,
you know, come to the right decision that could work
for our relationship. And it all worked out. So we
just wanted to share those moments and we hope that
you know, you take something away from that that some
of those things that we saw and that we went
through that maybe you seen in your relationships and they

(34:01):
can be good indicators. Or you can look at a
situation and you feel like you ain't getting no signs.
Sometimes there's signs too that's telling you not to do
it and make sure you ain't ignoring knows either. Because
we could talk about relationships that didn't work and signs
that we ignored in our past relationships as well, but.

Speaker 1 (34:18):
Also so we have some really exciting news that also
has to do with like signs from God and like
how every little piece of the past had to line
up perfectly to get to this decision that we've recently made.
So we will be making that video soon and you
will definitely want to check it out because if you

(34:39):
thought all of this was something, wait till you hear
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Speaker 2 (35:06):
Yes, and please check out all the other videos that
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Speaker 1 (35:24):
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Speaker 2 (35:26):
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Speaker 1 (35:33):
Share your signs that you've gotten from God underneath this
so we can here your stories.

Speaker 2 (35:39):
Yes, please