November 9, 2023 • 28 mins
In this episode, special guest Shanine Young shares her story of the difficult decision of leaving the classroom and helping others to understand the power of their story and why it matters.
Shanine Young is known as your Favorite Author Coach. She's a retired teacher, world-renowned author, and sought-after professional speaker who is passionate about teaching entrepreneurs how to publish and market impactful and profitable books that will grow their businesses. She has been featured in FOX, Voyage Miami, and several other news outlets.
Shanine Young is known as your Favorite Author Coach. She's a retired teacher, world-renowned author, and sought-after professional speaker who is passionate about teaching entrepreneurs how to publish and market impactful and profitable books that will grow their businesses. She has been featured in FOX, Voyage Miami, and several other news outlets.
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Hello and welcome to all beautiful soulsout there. You're listening to Restore My
Soul Podcast with Princess Millon's, yourfavorite grief coach and emotional wellness specialist.
In this space, we will helpthose who struggle with grief and loss and
have real conversations about how to overcomeit in every area of life through our
personal stories, practical information, andwisdom from Princess and her special guests.
(01:19):
We are here to educate, inspire, and empower you with the strategies you
need in your emotional healing journey.We do not offer medical advice, but
we believe that we can all learnto heal by creating a mindset to grow,
pass our pain and push toward ourpurpose. Our goal is to remind
you that grief is a journey andyou do not have to walk it alone.
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No matter what the pain or lossis, you can be restored and
live fully in your purpose. Butlet's push through the pain together as we
share our stories of resilience in oneepisode at a time. Well, Welcome
in everybody, Welcome to another episodeof resist Store my Sole Podcast. I'm
(02:01):
so excited to be here today,and you know this is the place where
we educate, inspire, and empoweryou in your emotional wellness journey. I
am Princess Miller's your favorite grief andemotional wellness coach, and we're here to
serve. We're here to serve inevery area of your life so that you
(02:23):
can push through and be able todo everything that God has called you to
do. So we have a specialspecial special guest to me, so special
for me personally. We have ShanineYoung that's on the podcast as our guest
today and she is known as yourfavorite author coach and she's a retired educator
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as I am, and we knowthat we're retired. We're always educators,
but we are no longer in theclassroom, so she's no longer in the
classroom, but she is an educatorat heart. And she is a world
renowned author, sought after professional andempowerment speaker. She is a passionate and
(03:10):
she's passionate about teaching entrepreneurs, educators, and business owners how to publish and
market market impactful stories and profitable booksthat will grow their business. And she
have been featured on many platforms,Fox and Voyage Miami and on several other
(03:35):
news outlets. She is so specialto me, and I hope she knows
that. I think she does.But she is so special to me as
an author coach and has helped meto have clarity on my signature book that's
coming soon, right, shameless plug. So I want to welcome to the
podcast, Missiani Young. Thank youso much for being here today. Hey,
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thank you for having me. Absolutely. I know that we're going to
have such a great conversation today aboutyou know, how your journey has been
and the conversation of why the powerof our story and why it matters,
right, So we want to justkind of dive into So I want you
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to tell the audience kind of alittle bit about your story how you became
this author coach now, but moreimportantly, maybe some things that you have
struggled with that you became resilient andyou were able to embrace that side of
you. Yeah, definitely. SoI ooh my journey of just being an
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author coach. So as you say, as you stated, I started off
as an educator, right, andit was in a classroom, taught English,
did that for about about years orso, and during that time I
wrote my first book and I wasjust like, wow, this it did
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really really well, better than Iexpected. And I really just shared my
story. I shared my experience,I shared, you know, my journey
in education, and really just mygoal of trying to My goal has always
been like helping people so they canmake an impact, right and showing them
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how, you know, what theydo, whether it's a simple deed an
action, how it really can youknow, just impact and affect others.
So that goes for educators. Andthe book was called this basically the name
my business Reaching while teaching, andyeah, so that's how it all started.
I gave me the name. Iwas just like, I just kept
it. He gave it to mein twenty seventeen and it's just been like
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from then, it's just been it'sbeen a lot. But just the process
of getting the book done, likeit took a lot of resilience and persistence
because like it took it took longerthan it should have took me over two
years. And I think during theprocess after when I was really really close,
I had my daughter and then itwas just a lot and it was
like trying to adjust to everything andthen going back in the workforce. So
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once I really got a hang ofeverything. I was just like, Okay,
I'm gonna keep going. I'm gonnakeep going. So from then that
just led me to helping others becausea lot of people kept asking how did
you do this? How did youpublish this book? Okay, I need
help, right, So then Iwent on to creating a course, and
then I went on to coaching peopleone on one, and I was like,
oh, this is not the move. I gotta I gotta find another
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framework because it's a lot of way. So then I just built my author
coaching program and you know where Ipretty much do group coaching and really just
helping helping those who has a storybecause we have a story inside of us.
It's a lot of things we gothrough and what we experience, and
we can help the next person.So that's that's my goal, Like,
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that's my goal, is really justhelping you make that impact and sharing.
You may think that part of yourstory is insignificant, but you'll be surprised
how it will help the next person. Absolutely, And that's a powerful thing
because you know, we as educators, sometimes people look at us and we're
in the classroom or out of theclassroom. Principle at the district level,
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it doesn't matter, and they seethe resilience that we're able to show up
in our authentic self. We arewe are normally you know, no matter
what is going off or popping offin our lives, right, we all
show up for our students. SoI know that being an educator when we
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were in the classroom, there aresome things that we had to push past
or push through. Right. Weknow that we've heard our story and we
probably have. I know I haveexperienced burnout and things like that, just
kind of going along and trying tomake every day just make it, you
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know, just trying to get towork and push through. I'm sure a
lot of educators feel that way sometimes, and I think that's why story matters
and people have to see the transparentside of us. So what can you
Have you seen that or experienced thatin your career as an educator of burnout
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and having to kind of redefine orrealign yourself with what you were meant to
do. Yeah, definitely, Iwould say my first few years there was
a lot of like just bringing workhome. I remember just my first two
years, even having my mom andmy grandma helped me grade stuff. Like
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I would start it off okay thisand kind of just like helping me,
and it just became like, okay, I should have be bringing this home.
Right. So it took me likea few years and I was like,
okay, yeah, way, I'mgoing like it's gonna become like it's
just too draining, right, It'snot gonna become enjoy enjoy joyful, and
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it's just gonna be like, uhgod, I'm ready to get out of
this class. Right. So whenI left on my terms, it wasn't
it wasn't like it was nothing liketerrible that happened. It was nothing negative
like. It was just like Ifeel like I was calling to do something
else and I love that. That'show I was able to leave. So
now I'm not like, don't evergo in teaching. It's terrible, Like
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no, like you just have tomake sure you know the balance that you
need. Right. One of mybusiness partners, Delicia, she always says
something like check in before you checkout, so like whatever you need to
do, yeah, whatever you doto get get yourself right. If you
feel yourself drifting or like I'm goingtoo far in the deep end, I
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feel like I had to I hadto catch myself a few times because it
would be like every day, likeall the whole weekend, I'm working on
stuff for the school, and it'slike when I'm gonna have me time?
Like right? So once I realizedthat, I was like, Okay,
things have got to change. Yougot some things. Yeah. Yeah.
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And when you don't have balance,it has the potential to destroy a lot
of your personal life, your family, you know, if you're married,
your spouse, because it kind ofcan seem as you're taking priority for your
career and your job versus your children, your husband, your wife, or
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whatever the case is, right,And so I know that so many educators
struggle has struggled with that. Sowhat are some strategies that you can give
that would help a fellow educator preventingthem from getting into that burnt out state.
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Definitely, that's a great question andshameless plug. That's what we're all
about. Without to teach, notto teach organization, really just help and
teach us figure out what's the bestmove what they need to do. But
definitely, strategies would be definitely don'tbring the work home whatever you can't get
that, then you're flat in time. Do it the next day, right,
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and really just having like timers,maybe timers I can help you.
I know, I was talking tomy friend earlier and then you know,
you have to focus mode on yourphone. She has like the work mode,
so she has it where during thistime she's only focused on of this,
she can't get messages. Yeah.So it's like being very intentional so
that you don't go too far onone end and too far on the other.
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And then maybe if you really needit, get someone to hold you
accountable too, like, because sometimeswe think we could do it all by
ourselves and we can't. You know, sometimes we need someone that they be
like, Okay, that's enough,right, Yeah, Okay, take a
break, start to take start tomorrow, do that, you know the next
day, but definitely doing doing thingsthat you know you're gonna enjoy it.
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So really just being intentional about thatself care as well. Don't get too
consumed work work work, work,work, work work, because you don't
want to be on your on yourdeathbedd and regretting like more time my family
I should have did. Wow,it's not worth it. Yeah, And
you know, I've learned over theyears that balance is certainly the key you
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know, whether you're an educator ornot, you're a business owner, or
whatever you're doing in life, ithas to be some type of balance because
burnout is universal in a lot ofareas, not just teaching, but we
find especially I think when the pandemichit and a lot of things was kind
of thrown at teachers that we hadto deal with outside of you know,
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uh, going through a whole pandemicand having to switch and teach online some
of us, and having to adjustwhat we normally do in our zone of
genius right in the classroom. Wehad to translate that somehow into technology.
And so I know a number ofteachers, including myself, was getting to
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that point of I was not balanced. So I think that's a very good
point and having those strategies like settingthe things in your phone that would keep
you on point right and so yeah, So so thank you for that because
that encouraged even me, even theventure that I'm going now to know that
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balance is still key and it's stillvery very important and essential to what we're
doing. Right. She right,So I want to ask you, I
know you are out the coach,right, You're so good at it,
you make it seem so flawless,right, and so you've helped so many
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of people become authors and just beingfor me being a part of your program,
I want to ask you what whyis our story so important? Why
why does our story matter? Andand and why should we put it in
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a book? Why should why shouldwe go to book route? Wow,
that's a good question. It mattersbecause I mean, we're the only ones
that have our story, right.There's nobody else that has your story.
There's no one else that can tellit like you, right, And man,
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I had had a whole post whereI talked about this, like there's
no one else that have it,like you're unique. And the power,
the the the transformation that your storycan bring with whoever impacts, right,
whoever it reaches, like it's Ifeel like, yeah, that's that's priceless,
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right, because you can't put aprice tag on that, right.
So just knowing like yo, Iimpacted someone or I helped them over a
hurdle that I was able to overcomethat they probably wouldn't have been able to
write it should it should propel youand make you want to like share that
thing, right, and you needto put it into a book. So
guess what, So it lives onwhen when you're gone, when you leave
this earth, your story will stillbe here and it can still impact others
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and you can still have that thatgenerational wealth from beyond the grave. You
could still be making a difference,right, legacy, legacy, Right.
So that that's why I'm really bigon it. I'm just like you need
to you need to do it,like we all need to have it,
like no excuse, yeah, yeah, I understand. And that is so
good because a lot of times wewe look at our stories and so common
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and I think because we experience ourstories, but because it's normal for us,
and it's it, you know,we got through the thing. You
know, sometimes we devalue what webring to the table and how it can
transform somebody else. And I alwayssay that our stories are not for us,
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it's for somebody else. So you'respeaking to your former self a lot
of times, and what would youtell that person that's going through the same
thing that you that you're going throughor have gone through, so that they
can get whatever they need and beempowered to push through that thing as well.
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Right? And so I love thatbecause you saying that your story will
always be here. You know that'ssomething that nobody can take away from you.
It'll always be here. And youknow that's straight Bible, Jani,
That straight Bible. I think it'ssomewhere. I think it's songs one O
two that says that, so thatthe future generations will be able to read
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that scripture or read that story.So even when I write my books,
I go back to that scripture tosay, this is for the future generations
right to be able to read mystory, to be able to have some
type of transformation in their lives.And it will it will reach farther than
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me going one by one to somebody. Right, I could tell my story
to you individually, but when youwrite that book right, it can go
to places where our foot can't go. You can see speak to more people
at one time. Pretty much.Yeah. Absolutely, So what advice would
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you give somebody then, somebody whois not quite there as far as being
unafraid of sharing their story, Whatkind of advice would you give them so
that they can be encouraged to kindof get out there and tell their story.
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I would I So, I woulddefinitely say share only the parts that
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you are comfortable with. So ifyou. There's a lot of people that
come to me they're like, oh, I dealt with this, I want
to write a book on this.But then and you could tell they're still
like overcoming it and they're not likethey're not really comfortable to share. Like
anything is just like share. Thebiggest advice I would say is share what
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you are comfortable with, because like, you don't want to, like you
don't want to force yourself into doanything you don't want to write because then
imagine you having to speak on thisbook, going in front of a crowd
that it's like you breaking down crimebecause you're still dealing with whatever it is
you talked about. So it's like, make sure you're in a space where
you can share that part of yourlife or that part of your your journey
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or your story and you're comfortable withit. Don't make anyone force you and
say, ooh you need to makethat into a book. Like like you
share what you're comfortable with, right, but start there and then just start
start small, like what do youwant to talk about? Right? So
maybe you have different stories, right, and that's a big thing. So
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right with my first book, itwas mostly on education, but guess what
There's a lot of things I've gonethrough that I could have talked about it,
right, but I chose like tolet that be the focus. So
sometimes when you try to focus onten three different things at once, like,
it could be a little confusing,especially for the readers. So if
you're like, you know you havea book inside. If you you want
to share something, make sure you'recomfortable with sharing it, and make sure
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you write down, like, y'all, I'm big on my book outline.
Y'all already know I've been, y'allhaving a book outlined. Though I do
not do not take any advice wherea coach tell you just start writing,
just like, no, have sometype of structure or some type of idea
on what you want to write aboutso that you're not racing wasting time.
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Right, maybe maybe just write downthe topic, what topics make maybe and
you'll notice like those might be severaldifferent books, right, and that's perfectly
fine, But which one you wantto focus on first, because you can't
focus on one hundred things at once, right. So those would be my
first two main tips I would giveto anyone that's really considering like sharing their
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story and getting their book done.Those would be my top two. I
would say, yeah, and I'mso glad you mentioned the fact that you
have to do some work first.You have to be the first partaker of
what you're getting rid of to sayingyour book. And so yes, sometimes
we're not that place that we canshare that part or certain parts of our
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story, but when we get tothat place, it's important to release it
at that time. So yeah,I do believe that certain things until you're
healed from it, that it's notgoing to have the impact that it will
if you're sharing it and you're notall the way through it. Yeah,
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I'm glad you mentioned that. I'mglad you mentioned that. Very helpful,
very helpful. Let me ask youthis one question. I want to kind
of put this all together. Andyou, being an author coach, you're
seeing so many people come through andbeing able to share their story some a
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lot of these people have not writtena book before in their lives, right,
and you help them move the needlesso that they will be able to
do that successfully. So what canwhat encouragement can you give the people you
know too to to just start writingor or to under let them understand that
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their story is important and is neededin in in today's time. Right.
Wow, that's a good question.Yeah, because I've I've worked with several
different type of authors, Like I'veworked with parent coaches, people that are
trying to help people understand like thenew way how they parent and different things.
I've helped people that literally had astory about how they were imprisoned and
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different like you. You'll be surprisedthat different authors through, Yeah, come
through our program. And I wouldsay the biggest thing, that's why,
the biggest thing in my in mybooks and impact program is really just getting
the mindset part right first. Soreally just making sure you know the impact,
Like you have to be able toanswer that question, like you need
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to know the impact that your bookbrings, right. You need to know
like, oh, it's not justa book that's just gonna go out there.
No, you need to know thatit's an impactful book, that it's
going to transform people's lives. It'sgonna help them, and it's gonna help
it and you need to know.Let me say this that your book's not
for everybody. Let me say thatagain. It's not for everybody, right,
you need to know that it's onlyfor us So that's a big one.
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Listen, it's for a select groupof people. It's for a specific
person. And that's why when Ihave my authors do their book outline,
I make sure they touch on thatwho's your target audience, right, because
sometimes, especially if it's your firstbook, you put it out there,
you think like, yeah, everyoneneeds to get it, and it's just
like no, because if you're speakingto everyone, you're speaking to no one.
So that's the biggest thing I wouldsay, know the impact and know
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like this is for a specific groupof people, like this is really gonna
help Like maybe it's for educators,This is really gonna help those educators who
blah blah blah whoever need this,Right, this is really gonna help those
parents, or this is really gonnahelp those those those who are grieving,
those who have lost uh you know, espoused widows or whatnot. Right,
be very clear on that, andthen that can help you because guess what,
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now you have a you have amission behind this. It's like,
yeah, I'm doing this for them, right, And you'll be surprised.
Maybe your first time you might bethinking, man, nobody want to get
it. You'll be surprised. Youmight have people come out the woodworks that
you don't you didn't even think wasgonna get a copy, and then they're
like, yes, I needed thisright, And that's happened with every single
person in our program. I remember, just even the whole process of pre
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ordering, the whole process I do. Some people were really shocked. They
were like, wow, I can'tbelieve this. Many people bought the book
and it's not even done yet,like right, So and that that gives
you, And that's why I doit too, because it gives you the
motivation you need to keep going.Right. So I want to encourage you
if you know you have that storyinside, if you like, just put
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the put the pen to the paper, just just get started, Just get
started, right. There are people, there are lives that are going to
be impacted and transformed by your obedience. So be obedient. That's a great
way to end that. Be obedient, right, because your story matters and
it has power to transform live.So thank you so much Shani for being
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here today. For the last thing, I just want you to tell everybody
how to connect with you, whereto follow you on social media and all
the things. Yeah, so definitely, y'all, y'all can connect with me
on social media, Reaching while Teachingeverywhere, on Instagram, on Facebook,
on TikTok search Reaching while teaching andyou can connect with me there. Feel
(25:41):
free to send me a message aDM I don't buy, let me know
how can you work with me?I would love to help you. And
if you're like, yeah, I'mserious, I'm ready to get this book
done. I need to know whatsteps I can start taking now. All
you need to do is go towww dot books to impact so books and
the number two and then impact dotcom a free fifteen minute training for entrepreneurs
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right telling you three things you needto do before you publish your book.
Right. So, it's a trainingyou want. When you watch it,
you want to make sure you haveyour notepad and you take some notes.
Right And from there you can learna little bit more about our programs.
You could schedule an author strategy callwith me. I would love to connect
with you and just see how Ican help you. Really, just birth
this book so you can make animpact. But yeah, follow me everywhere
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reaching while teaching. Yes, let'sdo it. And I'm telling you that
fifteen minutes of training. I'm tellingy'all, it's going to save your life.
Okay, So thank you so muchagain, Shanin for being here.
Thank you, the CEO books,the Impact Right, the books, the
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Impact Program. Thank you so much. I know that what you share here
today has blessed and will bless somany, not only educators but people in
general to know that their story mattersand it's very important. So thank you
so much for being here. Thankyou so much for having me. I
enjoyed it. I can't wait fory'all to hear the episode absolutely well.
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Hello and welcome to all beautiful soulsout there. You're listening to Restore My
Soul Podcast with Princess Millon's, yourfavorite grief coach and emotional wellness specialist.
In this space, we will helpthose who struggle with grief and loss and
have real conversations about how to overcomeit in every area of life through our
personal stories, practical information, andwisdom from Princess and her special guests.
(01:19):
We are here to educate, inspire, and empower you with the strategies you
need in your emotional healing journey.We do not offer medical advice, but
we believe that we can all learnto heal by creating a mindset to grow,
pass our pain and push toward ourpurpose. Our goal is to remind
you that grief is a journey andyou do not have to walk it alone.
(01:41):
No matter what the pain or lossis, you can be restored and
live fully in your purpose. Butlet's push through the pain together as we
share our stories of resilience in oneepisode at a time. Well, Welcome
in everybody, Welcome to another episodeof resist Store my Sole Podcast. I'm
(02:01):
so excited to be here today,and you know this is the place where
we educate, inspire, and empoweryou in your emotional wellness journey. I
am Princess Miller's your favorite grief andemotional wellness coach, and we're here to
serve. We're here to serve inevery area of your life so that you
(02:23):
can push through and be able todo everything that God has called you to
do. So we have a specialspecial special guest to me, so special
for me personally. We have ShanineYoung that's on the podcast as our guest
today and she is known as yourfavorite author coach and she's a retired educator
(02:47):
as I am, and we knowthat we're retired. We're always educators,
but we are no longer in theclassroom, so she's no longer in the
classroom, but she is an educatorat heart. And she is a world
renowned author, sought after professional andempowerment speaker. She is a passionate and
(03:10):
she's passionate about teaching entrepreneurs, educators, and business owners how to publish and
market market impactful stories and profitable booksthat will grow their business. And she
have been featured on many platforms,Fox and Voyage Miami and on several other
(03:35):
news outlets. She is so specialto me, and I hope she knows
that. I think she does.But she is so special to me as
an author coach and has helped meto have clarity on my signature book that's
coming soon, right, shameless plug. So I want to welcome to the
podcast, Missiani Young. Thank youso much for being here today. Hey,
(04:01):
thank you for having me. Absolutely. I know that we're going to
have such a great conversation today aboutyou know, how your journey has been
and the conversation of why the powerof our story and why it matters,
right, So we want to justkind of dive into So I want you
(04:25):
to tell the audience kind of alittle bit about your story how you became
this author coach now, but moreimportantly, maybe some things that you have
struggled with that you became resilient andyou were able to embrace that side of
you. Yeah, definitely. SoI ooh my journey of just being an
(04:47):
author coach. So as you say, as you stated, I started off
as an educator, right, andit was in a classroom, taught English,
did that for about about years orso, and during that time I
wrote my first book and I wasjust like, wow, this it did
(05:08):
really really well, better than Iexpected. And I really just shared my
story. I shared my experience,I shared, you know, my journey
in education, and really just mygoal of trying to My goal has always
been like helping people so they canmake an impact, right and showing them
(05:28):
how, you know, what theydo, whether it's a simple deed an
action, how it really can youknow, just impact and affect others.
So that goes for educators. Andthe book was called this basically the name
my business Reaching while teaching, andyeah, so that's how it all started.
I gave me the name. Iwas just like, I just kept
it. He gave it to mein twenty seventeen and it's just been like
(05:50):
from then, it's just been it'sbeen a lot. But just the process
of getting the book done, likeit took a lot of resilience and persistence
because like it took it took longerthan it should have took me over two
years. And I think during theprocess after when I was really really close,
I had my daughter and then itwas just a lot and it was
like trying to adjust to everything andthen going back in the workforce. So
(06:15):
once I really got a hang ofeverything. I was just like, Okay,
I'm gonna keep going. I'm gonnakeep going. So from then that
just led me to helping others becausea lot of people kept asking how did
you do this? How did youpublish this book? Okay, I need
help, right, So then Iwent on to creating a course, and
then I went on to coaching peopleone on one, and I was like,
oh, this is not the move. I gotta I gotta find another
(06:38):
framework because it's a lot of way. So then I just built my author
coaching program and you know where Ipretty much do group coaching and really just
helping helping those who has a storybecause we have a story inside of us.
It's a lot of things we gothrough and what we experience, and
we can help the next person.So that's that's my goal, Like,
(07:00):
that's my goal, is really justhelping you make that impact and sharing.
You may think that part of yourstory is insignificant, but you'll be surprised
how it will help the next person. Absolutely, And that's a powerful thing
because you know, we as educators, sometimes people look at us and we're
in the classroom or out of theclassroom. Principle at the district level,
(07:20):
it doesn't matter, and they seethe resilience that we're able to show up
in our authentic self. We arewe are normally you know, no matter
what is going off or popping offin our lives, right, we all
show up for our students. SoI know that being an educator when we
(07:42):
were in the classroom, there aresome things that we had to push past
or push through. Right. Weknow that we've heard our story and we
probably have. I know I haveexperienced burnout and things like that, just
kind of going along and trying tomake every day just make it, you
(08:05):
know, just trying to get towork and push through. I'm sure a
lot of educators feel that way sometimes, and I think that's why story matters
and people have to see the transparentside of us. So what can you
Have you seen that or experienced thatin your career as an educator of burnout
(08:26):
and having to kind of redefine orrealign yourself with what you were meant to
do. Yeah, definitely, Iwould say my first few years there was
a lot of like just bringing workhome. I remember just my first two
years, even having my mom andmy grandma helped me grade stuff. Like
(08:46):
I would start it off okay thisand kind of just like helping me,
and it just became like, okay, I should have be bringing this home.
Right. So it took me likea few years and I was like,
okay, yeah, way, I'mgoing like it's gonna become like it's
just too draining, right, It'snot gonna become enjoy enjoy joyful, and
(09:07):
it's just gonna be like, uhgod, I'm ready to get out of
this class. Right. So whenI left on my terms, it wasn't
it wasn't like it was nothing liketerrible that happened. It was nothing negative
like. It was just like Ifeel like I was calling to do something
else and I love that. That'show I was able to leave. So
now I'm not like, don't evergo in teaching. It's terrible, Like
(09:28):
no, like you just have tomake sure you know the balance that you
need. Right. One of mybusiness partners, Delicia, she always says
something like check in before you checkout, so like whatever you need to
do, yeah, whatever you doto get get yourself right. If you
feel yourself drifting or like I'm goingtoo far in the deep end, I
(09:48):
feel like I had to I hadto catch myself a few times because it
would be like every day, likeall the whole weekend, I'm working on
stuff for the school, and it'slike when I'm gonna have me time?
Like right? So once I realizedthat, I was like, Okay,
things have got to change. Yougot some things. Yeah. Yeah.
(10:09):
And when you don't have balance,it has the potential to destroy a lot
of your personal life, your family, you know, if you're married,
your spouse, because it kind ofcan seem as you're taking priority for your
career and your job versus your children, your husband, your wife, or
(10:31):
whatever the case is, right,And so I know that so many educators
struggle has struggled with that. Sowhat are some strategies that you can give
that would help a fellow educator preventingthem from getting into that burnt out state.
(10:54):
Definitely, that's a great question andshameless plug. That's what we're all
about. Without to teach, notto teach organization, really just help and
teach us figure out what's the bestmove what they need to do. But
definitely, strategies would be definitely don'tbring the work home whatever you can't get
that, then you're flat in time. Do it the next day, right,
(11:18):
and really just having like timers,maybe timers I can help you.
I know, I was talking tomy friend earlier and then you know,
you have to focus mode on yourphone. She has like the work mode,
so she has it where during thistime she's only focused on of this,
she can't get messages. Yeah.So it's like being very intentional so
that you don't go too far onone end and too far on the other.
(11:41):
And then maybe if you really needit, get someone to hold you
accountable too, like, because sometimeswe think we could do it all by
ourselves and we can't. You know, sometimes we need someone that they be
like, Okay, that's enough,right, Yeah, Okay, take a
break, start to take start tomorrow, do that, you know the next
day, but definitely doing doing thingsthat you know you're gonna enjoy it.
(12:03):
So really just being intentional about thatself care as well. Don't get too
consumed work work work, work,work, work work, because you don't
want to be on your on yourdeathbedd and regretting like more time my family
I should have did. Wow,it's not worth it. Yeah, And
you know, I've learned over theyears that balance is certainly the key you
(12:28):
know, whether you're an educator ornot, you're a business owner, or
whatever you're doing in life, ithas to be some type of balance because
burnout is universal in a lot ofareas, not just teaching, but we
find especially I think when the pandemichit and a lot of things was kind
of thrown at teachers that we hadto deal with outside of you know,
(12:56):
uh, going through a whole pandemicand having to switch and teach online some
of us, and having to adjustwhat we normally do in our zone of
genius right in the classroom. Wehad to translate that somehow into technology.
And so I know a number ofteachers, including myself, was getting to
(13:18):
that point of I was not balanced. So I think that's a very good
point and having those strategies like settingthe things in your phone that would keep
you on point right and so yeah, So so thank you for that because
that encouraged even me, even theventure that I'm going now to know that
(13:39):
balance is still key and it's stillvery very important and essential to what we're
doing. Right. She right,So I want to ask you, I
know you are out the coach,right, You're so good at it,
you make it seem so flawless,right, and so you've helped so many
(14:00):
of people become authors and just beingfor me being a part of your program,
I want to ask you what whyis our story so important? Why
why does our story matter? Andand and why should we put it in
(14:22):
a book? Why should why shouldwe go to book route? Wow,
that's a good question. It mattersbecause I mean, we're the only ones
that have our story, right.There's nobody else that has your story.
There's no one else that can tellit like you, right, And man,
(14:46):
I had had a whole post whereI talked about this, like there's
no one else that have it,like you're unique. And the power,
the the the transformation that your storycan bring with whoever impacts, right,
whoever it reaches, like it's Ifeel like, yeah, that's that's priceless,
(15:07):
right, because you can't put aprice tag on that, right.
So just knowing like yo, Iimpacted someone or I helped them over a
hurdle that I was able to overcomethat they probably wouldn't have been able to
write it should it should propel youand make you want to like share that
thing, right, and you needto put it into a book. So
guess what, So it lives onwhen when you're gone, when you leave
this earth, your story will stillbe here and it can still impact others
(15:30):
and you can still have that thatgenerational wealth from beyond the grave. You
could still be making a difference,right, legacy, legacy, Right.
So that that's why I'm really bigon it. I'm just like you need
to you need to do it,like we all need to have it,
like no excuse, yeah, yeah, I understand. And that is so
good because a lot of times wewe look at our stories and so common
(15:54):
and I think because we experience ourstories, but because it's normal for us,
and it's it, you know,we got through the thing. You
know, sometimes we devalue what webring to the table and how it can
transform somebody else. And I alwayssay that our stories are not for us,
(16:15):
it's for somebody else. So you'respeaking to your former self a lot
of times, and what would youtell that person that's going through the same
thing that you that you're going throughor have gone through, so that they
can get whatever they need and beempowered to push through that thing as well.
(16:36):
Right? And so I love thatbecause you saying that your story will
always be here. You know that'ssomething that nobody can take away from you.
It'll always be here. And youknow that's straight Bible, Jani,
That straight Bible. I think it'ssomewhere. I think it's songs one O
two that says that, so thatthe future generations will be able to read
(16:59):
that scripture or read that story.So even when I write my books,
I go back to that scripture tosay, this is for the future generations
right to be able to read mystory, to be able to have some
type of transformation in their lives.And it will it will reach farther than
(17:22):
me going one by one to somebody. Right, I could tell my story
to you individually, but when youwrite that book right, it can go
to places where our foot can't go. You can see speak to more people
at one time. Pretty much.Yeah. Absolutely, So what advice would
(17:45):
you give somebody then, somebody whois not quite there as far as being
unafraid of sharing their story, Whatkind of advice would you give them so
that they can be encouraged to kindof get out there and tell their story.
(18:06):
I would I So, I woulddefinitely say share only the parts that
(18:30):
you are comfortable with. So ifyou. There's a lot of people that
come to me they're like, oh, I dealt with this, I want
to write a book on this.But then and you could tell they're still
like overcoming it and they're not likethey're not really comfortable to share. Like
anything is just like share. Thebiggest advice I would say is share what
(18:52):
you are comfortable with, because like, you don't want to, like you
don't want to force yourself into doanything you don't want to write because then
imagine you having to speak on thisbook, going in front of a crowd
that it's like you breaking down crimebecause you're still dealing with whatever it is
you talked about. So it's like, make sure you're in a space where
you can share that part of yourlife or that part of your your journey
(19:17):
or your story and you're comfortable withit. Don't make anyone force you and
say, ooh you need to makethat into a book. Like like you
share what you're comfortable with, right, but start there and then just start
start small, like what do youwant to talk about? Right? So
maybe you have different stories, right, and that's a big thing. So
(19:37):
right with my first book, itwas mostly on education, but guess what
There's a lot of things I've gonethrough that I could have talked about it,
right, but I chose like tolet that be the focus. So
sometimes when you try to focus onten three different things at once, like,
it could be a little confusing,especially for the readers. So if
you're like, you know you havea book inside. If you you want
to share something, make sure you'recomfortable with sharing it, and make sure
(19:57):
you write down, like, y'all, I'm big on my book outline.
Y'all already know I've been, y'allhaving a book outlined. Though I do
not do not take any advice wherea coach tell you just start writing,
just like, no, have sometype of structure or some type of idea
on what you want to write aboutso that you're not racing wasting time.
(20:19):
Right, maybe maybe just write downthe topic, what topics make maybe and
you'll notice like those might be severaldifferent books, right, and that's perfectly
fine, But which one you wantto focus on first, because you can't
focus on one hundred things at once, right. So those would be my
first two main tips I would giveto anyone that's really considering like sharing their
(20:41):
story and getting their book done.Those would be my top two. I
would say, yeah, and I'mso glad you mentioned the fact that you
have to do some work first.You have to be the first partaker of
what you're getting rid of to sayingyour book. And so yes, sometimes
we're not that place that we canshare that part or certain parts of our
(21:03):
story, but when we get tothat place, it's important to release it
at that time. So yeah,I do believe that certain things until you're
healed from it, that it's notgoing to have the impact that it will
if you're sharing it and you're notall the way through it. Yeah,
(21:26):
I'm glad you mentioned that. I'mglad you mentioned that. Very helpful,
very helpful. Let me ask youthis one question. I want to kind
of put this all together. Andyou, being an author coach, you're
seeing so many people come through andbeing able to share their story some a
(21:48):
lot of these people have not writtena book before in their lives, right,
and you help them move the needlesso that they will be able to
do that successfully. So what canwhat encouragement can you give the people you
know too to to just start writingor or to under let them understand that
(22:14):
their story is important and is neededin in in today's time. Right.
Wow, that's a good question.Yeah, because I've I've worked with several
different type of authors, Like I'veworked with parent coaches, people that are
trying to help people understand like thenew way how they parent and different things.
I've helped people that literally had astory about how they were imprisoned and
(22:41):
different like you. You'll be surprisedthat different authors through, Yeah, come
through our program. And I wouldsay the biggest thing, that's why,
the biggest thing in my in mybooks and impact program is really just getting
the mindset part right first. Soreally just making sure you know the impact,
Like you have to be able toanswer that question, like you need
(23:02):
to know the impact that your bookbrings, right. You need to know
like, oh, it's not justa book that's just gonna go out there.
No, you need to know thatit's an impactful book, that it's
going to transform people's lives. It'sgonna help them, and it's gonna help
it and you need to know.Let me say this that your book's not
for everybody. Let me say thatagain. It's not for everybody, right,
you need to know that it's onlyfor us So that's a big one.
(23:26):
Listen, it's for a select groupof people. It's for a specific
person. And that's why when Ihave my authors do their book outline,
I make sure they touch on thatwho's your target audience, right, because
sometimes, especially if it's your firstbook, you put it out there,
you think like, yeah, everyoneneeds to get it, and it's just
like no, because if you're speakingto everyone, you're speaking to no one.
So that's the biggest thing I wouldsay, know the impact and know
(23:49):
like this is for a specific groupof people, like this is really gonna
help Like maybe it's for educators,This is really gonna help those educators who
blah blah blah whoever need this,Right, this is really gonna help those
parents, or this is really gonnahelp those those those who are grieving,
those who have lost uh you know, espoused widows or whatnot. Right,
be very clear on that, andthen that can help you because guess what,
(24:12):
now you have a you have amission behind this. It's like,
yeah, I'm doing this for them, right, And you'll be surprised.
Maybe your first time you might bethinking, man, nobody want to get
it. You'll be surprised. Youmight have people come out the woodworks that
you don't you didn't even think wasgonna get a copy, and then they're
like, yes, I needed thisright, And that's happened with every single
person in our program. I remember, just even the whole process of pre
(24:34):
ordering, the whole process I do. Some people were really shocked. They
were like, wow, I can'tbelieve this. Many people bought the book
and it's not even done yet,like right, So and that that gives
you, And that's why I doit too, because it gives you the
motivation you need to keep going.Right. So I want to encourage you
if you know you have that storyinside, if you like, just put
(24:55):
the put the pen to the paper, just just get started, Just get
started, right. There are people, there are lives that are going to
be impacted and transformed by your obedience. So be obedient. That's a great
way to end that. Be obedient, right, because your story matters and
it has power to transform live.So thank you so much Shani for being
(25:18):
here today. For the last thing, I just want you to tell everybody
how to connect with you, whereto follow you on social media and all
the things. Yeah, so definitely, y'all, y'all can connect with me
on social media, Reaching while Teachingeverywhere, on Instagram, on Facebook,
on TikTok search Reaching while teaching andyou can connect with me there. Feel
(25:41):
free to send me a message aDM I don't buy, let me know
how can you work with me?I would love to help you. And
if you're like, yeah, I'mserious, I'm ready to get this book
done. I need to know whatsteps I can start taking now. All
you need to do is go towww dot books to impact so books and
the number two and then impact dotcom a free fifteen minute training for entrepreneurs
(26:03):
right telling you three things you needto do before you publish your book.
Right. So, it's a trainingyou want. When you watch it,
you want to make sure you haveyour notepad and you take some notes.
Right And from there you can learna little bit more about our programs.
You could schedule an author strategy callwith me. I would love to connect
with you and just see how Ican help you. Really, just birth
this book so you can make animpact. But yeah, follow me everywhere
(26:23):
reaching while teaching. Yes, let'sdo it. And I'm telling you that
fifteen minutes of training. I'm tellingy'all, it's going to save your life.
Okay, So thank you so muchagain, Shanin for being here.
Thank you, the CEO books,the Impact Right, the books, the
(26:45):
Impact Program. Thank you so much. I know that what you share here
today has blessed and will bless somany, not only educators but people in
general to know that their story mattersand it's very important. So thank you
so much for being here. Thankyou so much for having me. I
enjoyed it. I can't wait fory'all to hear the episode absolutely well.
(27:11):
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