July 2, 2025 • 34 mins
In this conversation, Heather and Bryn discuss their recent weekend experiences, touching on themes of sunburns, relationship dynamics, and the importance of reassurance in relationships. They explore how to navigate conflicts in a healthy way, emphasizing communication and understanding. The conversation also highlights the significance of self-care and emotional health in personal relationships, with a focus on the little things that can strengthen bonds between partners.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
As all hell, like rough the zail all right too.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm so burnt, it's like embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I'm I like, I mean, I kind of looks bad,
but it's more like tan than anything, Like it doesn't hurt.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I'm fully burnt, like I have.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Like, yeah, you're gonna have some sun damnage for sure.
So before before we start Sunday, Okay, for first of all, Saturday,
I was in Pittsburgh at six point thirty Saturday for
that wedding I had to do. Oh yeah, worked for
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hours and then went and got breakfast super quick, and
then I went into work and then worked for like
four hours, and then I cut Nico's hair and then
we talked to my driveway for like an hour and
a half. S I haven't seen him in forever. And
then I had to go to Walmart because we were
going boating on Sunday and I was sorry fucking kidding me.
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So I was up until like midnight or one, and
we left Brox House at seven am. And it's been
so hot here. I had like do the animals twice
a day, so I had to do them before I left.
Boted all day, slept like shit Sunday to Monday, because
I woke up and went to Anthony's house like early
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this morning, and then I'd no one to walk with tonight,
so I asked me, wanted to walk with me? I
have not showered since Friday. I was like, me, how
about it since Friday? Also, my hair is so curly
for no reason, and I think it's because it's finally healthy.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, probably it's getting some life back.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I love the color of your nails. My room. That's
when I lost. I'm getting them done.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Yeah, this is like a one, one and done type thing.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
It's hot as hell in my room.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm a little cold. I'm not gonna lie. Ever since
I turned my a se down, I'm low key regretting it.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
We just put an ace in our window in the
but it's just so hot up here, still so hot.
And then I had the fans up in the chicken
cube and I'm stripping and sweat. It's just so hot.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, I'm honestly kind of glad that we have like normal,
Like I feel like we stay in a constant temperature.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
It doesn't get like disgustingly.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Hot here that is still hot, like it's an it's
an enjoyable heat, like it's on.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Is this like low k He's not enjoyable even on
the boat in the shade or in the water, Like
in the shade was like questionable. In the water like
it was fine, but it was just so hot. And
it's just like I don't know where the hell this
heat waves coming from. I feel like this never happens here,
good old pencilving. Yeah, seriously, Okay, hold on, okay, let's
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get started. Did you write these down?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
No, I'm about to. Okay, wait, actually I have this
ship on my phone. What the I'm stupid? Okay, I'm ready.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
I'm okay, all right, sorry cat.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
So I was like reading these.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
And like, I don't know, like the first one, I
don't raise my voice very often.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Oh wait, what's up? I don't remember any of these?
What's the actual question? I don't actually remember.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
We raised our voices? Who was wrong to be?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
To be completely honest, I unless I'm raging, like and
I'm about to get my period, I normally just shut
down and ignore the like the hell out of out
of me, Like there's no there's no screaming, there's no nothing,
because I I just can't nothing comes out.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I'm so pissed. That I'm just mute.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Honestly. Sometimes same but like recently I've just been losing
my mind, like it just I mean, it really depends.
But every time, like I had this one crash out,
like crash out, I definitely was not in the wrong.
I said some like really hurtful, nasty things, but I
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still don't think I was in the wrong. But just
like here and there, I definitely raise.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
My voice, but it's always like I always feel bad after, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
But it's like well deserved, and like he always tells
me like, no, it's fine, like like I deserve it,
like we're in the situation because me.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
Actually, yeah, same, because I think I have like flipped
out on E a few times, and it's just like
like I remember like one time specifically, I was.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Like, it's just because you're fucking like screaming. I was like,
you're fucking rude, but like just like.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yelling and give it.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Five minutes later, I was just like, all right, that
was a little unnecessary, but you're still a fucking dick.
So like I'm not saying I'm not saying you're not
a dick, but I'm also saying that I didn't need
to crash out like.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
That, So yeah, no, like it's always like you, Like
I should have definitely have been like a little chiller,
like calmer, but like I'm just the phone. Like I
don't even remember what me and Tony were talking about,
but I want to say he started talking over me
or something, and like he never yells, like I could
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just like tell in his voice he was not talking
how he normally does. So I literally I just got
off work the longest day of my life, the worst
of my life, and I was like, don't fucking talk
over me, like shut the fuck up thing like today
and hung up on him like sorry, I.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Love a good hang up. I love a good hang up,
like bitch, fuck.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
You hang up. I hung up on him twice one
thing the other day because I really had nothing in
me to sit there and yell and argue. I just
did not care enough. And the other time is like
when we broke up, like I actually crashed out for
like fifteen minutes straight and then.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, no, I wish I could.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Honestly, I wish I crashed out more because it's such
a great feeling. But now I don't know, And honestly,
he's never not once like screamed at.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Me never oh never, But you know, I no, Anthony,
he just takes it. He just literally he's just like
after she walks away, yep. And then after like if
I don't text him, I be like, I just you're
just so pretty. I'm so sorry I like made you that.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
No, when I when I crash out, you'll be like
this is ridiculous, and then we're just butting heads. At
that point, it's it's who can ignore who the longest.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Really, Oh yeah, see Tony, he can't. He rather just
like pashed it out and like fix it and be done,
which honestly is this is his largest pet peeve of
mine or of his of me. He like the other
night specifically, I don't know what conversation we have, we're
having this conversation. I was over it and I rolled
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over and went to bed. I was like, Okay, I've
had enough, I'm done, I'm tired. This is it. And
then the next morning he woke up and was just
like I hate when you do this, Like just because
like it's fine for you and you can just like
go to bed and wake up finally doesn't mean like
I'm fine, like work right shift, like he always has
to like press the issue, always like he needs it
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to be fixed, like the second, and sometimes I just
need left alone and then back to it. And actually
that was after I hung up on him and then
I thought it was fixed. I thought it was fine.
It was like why are we sending this conversation. Then
Saturday morning, he was sleeping and I texted him and
was like, we'll talk later, like good morning, have a
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good day. Like I obviously was not mad, lept it off,
and he was like, I don't know why are I'm like,
oh my god, cut me up, fucking break what it's
I'm tired kaya and it's four o'clock. I love that,
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love that.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, but yeah, so I didn't have much to say
on that.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
All of these hairs that hang down, these gray ones,
they're gray.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Mine are my baby blondes.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I love this little curl that I have that just
likes to sit on my forehead.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Green flags, though that go unnoticed. I don't know if
this is much of a green flag.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
It honestly might be more of a more of a
red flag, but like in my eyes, I think it's
a green flag.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
And that's all that he doesn't do it.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
But like, I think it's a green flag, like I
think a very like jealous slash protective man.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
It's like green flag that goes.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Unnoticed because I feel like a lot of people can
be like, Okay, that's toxic.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But no, like I like to see it. I think
there's definitely a boundary when it comes to it, but
definitely love a protective whatever. Yeah, I love that. And
Tony is very very very much. One time he thought
I was talking to somebody that I was not talking
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to and was at the bar and was like telling
everyone there He's like, I'm gonna fucking kill her. I
was like, I wish I was a fly on the wall.
Speaker 7 (11:29):
Like no, no, Like he's just so nonchalant that it
drives me nuts sometimes I'm like, dude, can you can you?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Just like Tony's like as bad as crazy as they come,
and like a good way though, Like he's like so obsessed,
so invested, so like who when, what? Where? Why? Will
be said? That guy's fucking staring at you. I'm gonna
go say something like meanwhile.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Meanwhile, I have e He's like I trust you, I
trust you. It's fine.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Noah, be a little toxic.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Be a little toxic motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Come on one, trust me, and like, I can literally
do whatever I want. But he definitely wants to ask
the questions first, which like is fine if that helps
you sleep better at night. See, I'm not like that.
I'm definitely very much e when it comes to that
kind of thing. But yeah, like sometimes he'll be like
tweaking out for no reason and I'm like, brother, no,
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I can't.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I can't win when it comes to that stuff. I can't.
He's just a chill guy when it comes to stupid.
Speaker 8 (12:46):
Like I eat it up the same, same, same, But
I get my my daily dose of that in my
books that I read.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
So I guess that's.
Speaker 9 (12:58):
That's that's that's that's I feel like a green flag
that people don't look for either is if they know
how to dress themselves and not just like jeans and
boots whatever, but like if we're going out on an
occasion or like a wedding or like something like I'm
not your mom, I don't pick out your clothes for you,
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like you need to know, like but matches what and like.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Be like fashion when you don't.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Honestly, a man that has style that's like, that's pretty impressive.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yes, I mean even if you have to keep it
basic and wear like Khaki's in a fucking button down, like,
that's fine, Like as long as you know like what
you should be doing, love it.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Yes, no, I agree, I agree, and like also like
this has nothing to do with it, but when you
have like the fit and then like the perfect cologne
to go with it, it.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Mm hmmm yeah yeah yeah. And like a fresh haircut,
I feel like that's another thing.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Like oh my gosh, I yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
A fresh haircut is the largest green flag, especially when
they like facial hair and they keep it like trimmed
like like I know, like there's some people that like
just a scruffy looking man like, which is fine within reason,
but like Hunter, my brother, his hair was longer than
mine and there was like a dreadlock in the back
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hair you got to brush and low key looks like mine,
except his is like mullody And I was like, buy
a brush, brush it out, wow, from their hands to
your hair and catch a fucking dreadlock. They no, But I.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Have a military.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I have a military to thank every sing a week
that he gets a haircut every single week. It has
to keep like his face like shaved and like nice
and yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
No, honestly, God's so nice that Tony just loves the
fresh haircut too, Like he gets his haircut every two
weeks and if there's like something special coming up, he'll
go get it cut again.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Yeah, I love that. That's it.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
He keeps his bars for sure.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
No, that's the only thing I hate. I'm the one
that cuts E's hair.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I don't like doing it, but once it's done, I'm like, yep,
that was the move.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
That's great. I feel like another big one of mine
is like when I say I don't want something, or
like I'm not in the mood, or but you still
do it or you still get it, like even like
at the ask, no I don't want anything, like you
said that something, I still want something.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Or or just like when they go somewhere and they
get you something without even asking, like like not.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Even like I don't just like a piece of candy.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Like something small, ye know, here's this little pea chain
or something stupid shit.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Yeah no, And that kind of goes like with my
other one that I was thinking of is just like
a man that like has a soft spot only for you,
like is such a hard ass or on everyone else
mean as fuck a dick, and then when it comes
to you, which is like the biggest soft spot.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Green flag, green flag for sure, like for sure. Like
it's like when they borderline, like it's like you don't
even know if you're really dating. It's like is he
with her or like what because he seems like a douchebag.
But then like as soon as you're like alone or
like with like a close group of people, they're just
lovey dubby, like let me.
Speaker 5 (16:59):
Do whatever, let me just be so lovely, like yep, yep,
check check check that off. Still us no, that that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
It's yeah, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
I can't take it.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Another one is just also when like a man like
wants to take care of himselves, if that makes sense,
like eat healthy, like just like cares for their own
body and like what they're doing to it and stuff
like that. In a sense, I don't know, I think
that's a big sign of self respect and that that.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Just no, I agree, or even just like having like
a hobby and not just like working and doing nothing
like do something for you right, like hobby, gem something.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
Literally like ever since he got back from deployment.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
I'm just like like, go do this, go do that, Like,
go do something for yourself, like please, I don't know,
like I want him to so badly, but he's.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
Like, no, I'm gonna I'm gonna sit at home like
my game, Like no, go do something.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Okay, Yeah, like please just get out and about deal
with friends.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Yeah, go work out, Go.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Like, go do something, do anything?
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Yeah. No, I agree one hundred per.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
One thousand percent.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
That might be all I've got.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I think that's all I got.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
But I I also don't have anything to really say
on situationships versus real relationships because I'm not even gonna
be I'm not even gonna lie. I don't think I've
ever been in a situationship.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I feel a situationship is like we you know you're
never gonna date, but you're just like not dating, but
like you're datingself.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
And I'm also but like I've never hooked just like hooked.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Up with anyone, that's true, you.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 8 (19:13):
So like, yeah, I've I feel like I've talked to
a bunch of people, but like I feel like that's
not even a situationship to a.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Sense because like just talking and not even hanging out,
then that's like basically friends.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
True. I don't know. I feel like that one kind
of is throwing it off. I don't really know if
i'd much to say about that.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Okay, great, great? How I like, I don't know if
I know how to fight right?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
How to fight right?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Like yeah, healthy conflict in love?
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I think I.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Don't think I'm the right person to ask for this.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Wait, can you read the question again?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
How to fight right? Healthy conflict in life? Of like,
what's that?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Like?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
What's a healthy way to have like an argument or
a fight?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I feel like the healthy way is to like not
raise your voice and not screaming cuts at each other
or like throw things obviously, but I feel like sometimes
like you need to like assert your dominance and like
put your foot down and like raise your voice.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Yeah, no, I agree, And like, no matter what, like
if we're just sitting there talking, I'm still gonna get
really irritated and there's no gonna be there's not gonna
be anything healthy about it.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
I think honestly, like Tedy and I have talked about
pretty much anything you could ever talk about. Like I said,
he likes to fix a problem. I just want the
problem to go away. Like sometimes I'm so ird, I
like just need to come back to it. And that
is like one thing we don't understand about each other
because he nags and I'm like, what are we gonna
need this space? Yeah, I'm like, what are we gonna
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do when we move in together? Scream and fighting argue?
And he's like, well, no, I would try and resolve it,
and if not, like I would just leave. And I
was like, what if we have kids, you can't just
fucking like and he was like, okay, well then I wouldn't.
Like I would just like give your you your space.
I think it just depends, but I feel like you
definitely can like get your point across without talking over
each other and not be an asshole.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
But like name calling, name calling out forget it, I
don't even start. That's no no name calling. I think
even just like any comments that are just jabs at
the person, just yeah, that probably still be respectful.
Speaker 10 (21:37):
But if you're still like it's I think it's healthy
to disagree still ye and and be irritated, but it's
just the way you approach it without being disrespectful and
like throwing jabs at them and just being rude.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
No, I agree one hundred percent. And I feel like
sometimes too, like we get lost on like the someone
needs to be right and in all reality, like no
one does as long as you understand where each other
is coming from. But back to like what you were saying,
like the whole like I don't care like whatever, like
do whatever you want. I think like all of those
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like words that can just be left out too, like
we don't need like the extra like commentary of like
I said whatever, but like I don't care, like do
whatever you want? Like, yeah, I think all that shit's
so unnecessary petty comments. Yeah, especially I've definitely been guilty
of and I'm definitely not proud of because I know
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it hurts Anthony's feelings. But like I said, like he
just takes it. He literally takes because he's so upset
me just like he just he just looks at me
like this, like well, I'm like, you're a fucking asshole.
But we're working.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
I think I think both I and I we both
make each other see red and we're ready to.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Like maybe it's it's like honestly, he's like Anthony's gonna
be like your fucking bitch, and like, I actually don't
think he'd ever see that, but like if he did,
like I probably deserve it. Like I called him every
name book it's about, which again definitely not my proudest women.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
But hey, yeah, I'm pretty sure he has a screenshot
of me calling him a really mean word.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I don't remember what that word is, but you remember that?
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Yeah, I was like, I feel like I've seen that.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, you probably have.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
He has a screenshot on me being a complete bitch,
But I don't remember what I called him, but I was,
so we both know, we both know why I was
so mad, but I was.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I was so mad. So he.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Ancient? What that screenshot is ancient?
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Oh yeah, I guarantee he still has it. He'll never
let me live that down.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
It's okay. Yeah, I think, like I don't know, I
think if one person needs space and the other needs
to talk about it, like right now, I feel like
the person needs space, just can overroll and just be like,
let's just come back to this in like a half hour,
right when.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
I think it's also good, Like you said, know how
everyone approaches an argument or like how the other person
feels during slash after an argument, so like, obviously you're
not nagging a person that needs space or vice versa.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
No, I agree, And I feel like the person that
needs space typically has no patience and like no temper,
So I feel like it's almost better for like to
give them space to like regroup before they like yeah, yeah, no,
I agree. Can ya healthy fighting or like in thirty minutes,
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Like that's really not going to change anything, like you
know what I mean, like we can.
Speaker 7 (24:59):
At at the time.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree. I don't really understand this
next one.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Things we miss about our partners even when we're mad? Am?
I missing something Like.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
One thing that Anthy doesn't do when I'm mad at
him is he quits doing shit for me unfortunately if
he didn't even open my card work.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Things I miss when he's mad at me is just
when he talks to me, because we don't there's no
there's no conversation. Yeah, it's so like even when he's
like slightly annoyed, it's just so like quiet, and I'm
just like, okay.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
No, I get like that, I get it, but.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
But it's it's like literally like I feel like it
could be the smallest thing that annoys him, and it'd
just be like, all right, we're done talking, Like what
the book?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, that's that's extra, Like fuddy this book?
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Are you a girl?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
No?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I think he is. I think he is.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Yeah, No, I don't really. I don't get that one though,
So we'll move on to the art of reassurance. Why
we need it? Dang ding ding dang.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
I feel like they're kind of before, but I feel like,
literally everyone needs reassurance even after a fight, like you
don't not love them, but like like, okay, they hate me,
they don't love me, our relationship like falling apart when
that's like not even the case. So I feel like argument,
like you should just say, like I love you, you
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never know.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
No, I agree one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
And I also believe because me and E have been
together for.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
A hot minute quite some time.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
No matter how long, I feel like honestly, the longer
you're with someone, the more reassurance has to Like I
feel like it needs to build even more the longer
you're with someone, just because I don't know, I don't
know that that's just me.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
I just think after a while, you just get like
comfortable and then like things slow down, which is like normal,
but even like every once in a while it's good
to be like like just check in and make sure
you're on like the same page. Essentially, they like drifting apart. Yeah,
I oh, it's like not as exciting and it's like
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not all these things, but like it could be right everyone, it's.
Speaker 10 (28:10):
Right, just said a few sweet things, you know.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
No, I literally love reassurance. That's my like.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Love language, that's my shit. Sometimes when I'm like feeling
like I need reassured, but like I don't know how
to like ask for it, I'll literally just say like
do you hate me?
Speaker 3 (28:33):
No?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
But like what the fuck?
Speaker 3 (28:37):
At the same time, I never like I don't want
to ask for it, like I I want you to know,
like I want you to know.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
See, I'm not scared to ask for it. Even like
like Rina on Sunday, like I was like my social
battery was dead. I feel like Rina and I have
not been around each other for like that many hours
in a row, and I was just like done. She's
like do you hate me? Like do you hate me?
And I was like no. But I'm just like I'm
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like if I think something's up, I'm like okay, like
my the problem like hate me? Are we good? Are
you good? Like tell me something? And then normally that
turns into like a whole like sappy little text message
from him and he's like, I just so much. How
could I ever?
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
No, that that is a good card to pull when
when you need it. But I think I think I
need I think I need to come up with more cards.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Yeah, especially if I'm having like a ship day and
I'm like I text him for like do you hate me?
They can automatic like pick me up, so I know
that response is about to be good.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Yeah, yeah, no, please some some sort of pick me
up on. Let's go bring it.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Yeah, give it here.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I think
girls are also just like obviously hella in their heads.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Yeah, so like even just like random comments throughout the day,
throughout the week, it does, it does wonders. So I agree,
especially when it comes to like, dude, a cycle will
throw everything off.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It's sort of good.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
A cycle makes you question like everybody's existed, Yes, yeah
for sure. Yeah, yeah, I mean I like guys like
the reassurance too, So it's like if they're like looking
for the reassurance. It's like we probably also want it. Yeah,
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this is one way road now.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
Yeah, although I think I think he's like emotionless.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So I feel like that the military does that too.
Low key.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Yeah, he needs like slapped, he needs it back. I
don't know if he ever had it though.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
I was sick. I think he's always been such a
cut and dry person. Yeah, no, it like.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
It's not I don't think I think he was like
that before the military.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Yeah, I'm afraid I think that's right.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Maybe I'll make a Maybe I'll make a slide show.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Be like hey, I mean you can always like sit
down and be like, Okay.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Where's the emotion at.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah. I would literally use the excuse of like I
don't get to see you very often, and like you
were gone for thirteen weeks and like I just really
want like your love like reassurance.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
And swear to God, slurre to God, get back into it, motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Just seriously. That's like one of the things I love
about Anthony is like he's very very open, Like communication
skills are probably like seven out of ten. Like he
kind of suck sometimes, but like he's like getting it
out there and I just kind of like, yeah, like
take a guess on like like what like what are
you trying to? Like, how are you trying to come across?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Like he tries, he tries. We love that for I
love to see the effort.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Well, that was it.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Great?
Speaker 3 (32:53):
I can't I really still want to know what this
one meant. Things we miss about our partners, like are
they dead?
Speaker 1 (32:59):
Like what it? I don't know. I don't know that one.
That one throwing me off.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Thanks chat GPT, we love you.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Love.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I'm like, I'm dead today. I have nothing. I have
no brain brain.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Capacity left, so me neither.
Speaker 2 (33:29):
I feel like we sounded very enthusiastic in this podcast.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
I'm like, I don't even know how I forgot too
till that day was Monday. I'm so tired. Is so
fucking hot in here? What are we at?
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Forty minutes? That's perfect?
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Great, well guys, but not too long? Yeah, well guys,
it is seventeen here. I have Love Island to watch
and a shower today, so.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
I still got to cook dinner.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Yeah all right, yeah, well we'll talk to everyone next week.
Speaker 5 (34:16):
Hie.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
This is.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
D drop it to the loading
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Lly
As all hell, like rough the zail all right too.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm so burnt, it's like embarrassing.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I'm I like, I mean, I kind of looks bad,
but it's more like tan than anything, Like it doesn't hurt.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I'm fully burnt, like I have.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Like, yeah, you're gonna have some sun damnage for sure.
So before before we start Sunday, Okay, for first of all, Saturday,
I was in Pittsburgh at six point thirty Saturday for
that wedding I had to do. Oh yeah, worked for
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hours and then went and got breakfast super quick, and
then I went into work and then worked for like
four hours, and then I cut Nico's hair and then
we talked to my driveway for like an hour and
a half. S I haven't seen him in forever. And
then I had to go to Walmart because we were
going boating on Sunday and I was sorry fucking kidding me.
(01:07):
So I was up until like midnight or one, and
we left Brox House at seven am. And it's been
so hot here. I had like do the animals twice
a day, so I had to do them before I left.
Boted all day, slept like shit Sunday to Monday, because
I woke up and went to Anthony's house like early
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this morning, and then I'd no one to walk with tonight,
so I asked me, wanted to walk with me? I
have not showered since Friday. I was like, me, how
about it since Friday? Also, my hair is so curly
for no reason, and I think it's because it's finally healthy.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, probably it's getting some life back.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I love the color of your nails. My room. That's
when I lost. I'm getting them done.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Yeah, this is like a one, one and done type thing.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
It's hot as hell in my room.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm a little cold. I'm not gonna lie. Ever since
I turned my a se down, I'm low key regretting it.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
We just put an ace in our window in the
but it's just so hot up here, still so hot.
And then I had the fans up in the chicken
cube and I'm stripping and sweat. It's just so hot.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Yeah, I'm honestly kind of glad that we have like normal,
Like I feel like we stay in a constant temperature.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
It doesn't get like disgustingly.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Hot here that is still hot, like it's an it's
an enjoyable heat, like it's on.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
Is this like low k He's not enjoyable even on
the boat in the shade or in the water, Like
in the shade was like questionable. In the water like
it was fine, but it was just so hot. And
it's just like I don't know where the hell this
heat waves coming from. I feel like this never happens here,
good old pencilving. Yeah, seriously, Okay, hold on, okay, let's
(03:29):
get started. Did you write these down?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
No, I'm about to. Okay, wait, actually I have this
ship on my phone. What the I'm stupid? Okay, I'm ready.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
I'm okay, all right, sorry cat.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
So I was like reading these.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
And like, I don't know, like the first one, I
don't raise my voice very often.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Oh wait, what's up? I don't remember any of these?
What's the actual question? I don't actually remember.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
We raised our voices? Who was wrong to be?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
To be completely honest, I unless I'm raging, like and
I'm about to get my period, I normally just shut
down and ignore the like the hell out of out
of me, Like there's no there's no screaming, there's no nothing,
because I I just can't nothing comes out.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I'm so pissed. That I'm just mute.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Honestly. Sometimes same but like recently I've just been losing
my mind, like it just I mean, it really depends.
But every time, like I had this one crash out,
like crash out, I definitely was not in the wrong.
I said some like really hurtful, nasty things, but I
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still don't think I was in the wrong. But just
like here and there, I definitely raise.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
My voice, but it's always like I always feel bad after, yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
But it's like well deserved, and like he always tells
me like, no, it's fine, like like I deserve it,
like we're in the situation because me.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
Actually, yeah, same, because I think I have like flipped
out on E a few times, and it's just like
like I remember like one time specifically, I was.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Like, it's just because you're fucking like screaming. I was like,
you're fucking rude, but like just like.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yelling and give it.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Five minutes later, I was just like, all right, that
was a little unnecessary, but you're still a fucking dick.
So like I'm not saying I'm not saying you're not
a dick, but I'm also saying that I didn't need
to crash out like.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
That, So yeah, no, like it's always like you, Like
I should have definitely have been like a little chiller,
like calmer, but like I'm just the phone. Like I
don't even remember what me and Tony were talking about,
but I want to say he started talking over me
or something, and like he never yells, like I could
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just like tell in his voice he was not talking
how he normally does. So I literally I just got
off work the longest day of my life, the worst
of my life, and I was like, don't fucking talk
over me, like shut the fuck up thing like today
and hung up on him like sorry, I.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Love a good hang up. I love a good hang up,
like bitch, fuck.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
You hang up. I hung up on him twice one
thing the other day because I really had nothing in
me to sit there and yell and argue. I just
did not care enough. And the other time is like
when we broke up, like I actually crashed out for
like fifteen minutes straight and then.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, no, I wish I could.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Honestly, I wish I crashed out more because it's such
a great feeling. But now I don't know, And honestly,
he's never not once like screamed at.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Me never oh never, But you know, I no, Anthony,
he just takes it. He just literally he's just like
after she walks away, yep. And then after like if
I don't text him, I be like, I just you're
just so pretty. I'm so sorry I like made you that.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
No, when I when I crash out, you'll be like
this is ridiculous, and then we're just butting heads. At
that point, it's it's who can ignore who the longest.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Really, Oh yeah, see Tony, he can't. He rather just
like pashed it out and like fix it and be done,
which honestly is this is his largest pet peeve of
mine or of his of me. He like the other
night specifically, I don't know what conversation we have, we're
having this conversation. I was over it and I rolled
(08:33):
over and went to bed. I was like, Okay, I've
had enough, I'm done, I'm tired. This is it. And
then the next morning he woke up and was just
like I hate when you do this, Like just because
like it's fine for you and you can just like
go to bed and wake up finally doesn't mean like
I'm fine, like work right shift, like he always has
to like press the issue, always like he needs it
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to be fixed, like the second, and sometimes I just
need left alone and then back to it. And actually
that was after I hung up on him and then
I thought it was fixed. I thought it was fine.
It was like why are we sending this conversation. Then
Saturday morning, he was sleeping and I texted him and
was like, we'll talk later, like good morning, have a
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good day. Like I obviously was not mad, lept it off,
and he was like, I don't know why are I'm like,
oh my god, cut me up, fucking break what it's
I'm tired kaya and it's four o'clock. I love that,
(09:47):
love that.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, but yeah, so I didn't have much to say
on that.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
All of these hairs that hang down, these gray ones,
they're gray.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Mine are my baby blondes.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
I love this little curl that I have that just
likes to sit on my forehead.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
Green flags, though that go unnoticed. I don't know if
this is much of a green flag.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
It honestly might be more of a more of a
red flag, but like in my eyes, I think it's
a green flag.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
And that's all that he doesn't do it.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
But like, I think it's a green flag, like I
think a very like jealous slash protective man.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
It's like green flag that goes.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Unnoticed because I feel like a lot of people can
be like, Okay, that's toxic.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
But no, like I like to see it. I think
there's definitely a boundary when it comes to it, but
definitely love a protective whatever. Yeah, I love that. And
Tony is very very very much. One time he thought
I was talking to somebody that I was not talking
(11:20):
to and was at the bar and was like telling
everyone there He's like, I'm gonna fucking kill her. I
was like, I wish I was a fly on the wall.
Speaker 7 (11:29):
Like no, no, Like he's just so nonchalant that it
drives me nuts sometimes I'm like, dude, can you can you?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Just like Tony's like as bad as crazy as they come,
and like a good way though, Like he's like so obsessed,
so invested, so like who when, what? Where? Why? Will
be said? That guy's fucking staring at you. I'm gonna
go say something like meanwhile.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Meanwhile, I have e He's like I trust you, I
trust you. It's fine.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Noah, be a little toxic.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Be a little toxic motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Come on one, trust me, and like, I can literally
do whatever I want. But he definitely wants to ask
the questions first, which like is fine if that helps
you sleep better at night. See, I'm not like that.
I'm definitely very much e when it comes to that
kind of thing. But yeah, like sometimes he'll be like
tweaking out for no reason and I'm like, brother, no,
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I can't.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I can't win when it comes to that stuff. I can't.
He's just a chill guy when it comes to stupid.
Speaker 8 (12:46):
Like I eat it up the same, same, same, But
I get my my daily dose of that in my
books that I read.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
So I guess that's.
Speaker 9 (12:58):
That's that's that's that's I feel like a green flag
that people don't look for either is if they know
how to dress themselves and not just like jeans and
boots whatever, but like if we're going out on an
occasion or like a wedding or like something like I'm
not your mom, I don't pick out your clothes for you,
(13:20):
like you need to know, like but matches what and like.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Be like fashion when you don't.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Honestly, a man that has style that's like, that's pretty impressive.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yes, I mean even if you have to keep it
basic and wear like Khaki's in a fucking button down, like,
that's fine, Like as long as you know like what
you should be doing, love it.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Yes, no, I agree, I agree, and like also like
this has nothing to do with it, but when you
have like the fit and then like the perfect cologne
to go with it, it.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Mm hmmm yeah yeah yeah. And like a fresh haircut,
I feel like that's another thing.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Like oh my gosh, I yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
A fresh haircut is the largest green flag, especially when
they like facial hair and they keep it like trimmed
like like I know, like there's some people that like
just a scruffy looking man like, which is fine within reason,
but like Hunter, my brother, his hair was longer than
mine and there was like a dreadlock in the back
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hair you got to brush and low key looks like mine,
except his is like mullody And I was like, buy
a brush, brush it out, wow, from their hands to
your hair and catch a fucking dreadlock. They no, But I.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Have a military.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
I have a military to thank every sing a week
that he gets a haircut every single week. It has
to keep like his face like shaved and like nice
and yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
No, honestly, God's so nice that Tony just loves the
fresh haircut too, Like he gets his haircut every two
weeks and if there's like something special coming up, he'll
go get it cut again.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Yeah, I love that. That's it.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
He keeps his bars for sure.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
No, that's the only thing I hate. I'm the one
that cuts E's hair.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
I don't like doing it, but once it's done, I'm like, yep,
that was the move.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
That's great. I feel like another big one of mine
is like when I say I don't want something, or
like I'm not in the mood, or but you still
do it or you still get it, like even like
at the ask, no I don't want anything, like you
said that something, I still want something.
Speaker 3 (15:55):
Or or just like when they go somewhere and they
get you something without even asking, like like not.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Even like I don't just like a piece of candy.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Like something small, ye know, here's this little pea chain
or something stupid shit.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Yeah no, And that kind of goes like with my
other one that I was thinking of is just like
a man that like has a soft spot only for you,
like is such a hard ass or on everyone else
mean as fuck a dick, and then when it comes
to you, which is like the biggest soft spot.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Green flag, green flag for sure, like for sure. Like
it's like when they borderline, like it's like you don't
even know if you're really dating. It's like is he
with her or like what because he seems like a douchebag.
But then like as soon as you're like alone or
like with like a close group of people, they're just
lovey dubby, like let me.
Speaker 5 (16:59):
Do whatever, let me just be so lovely, like yep, yep,
check check check that off. Still us no, that that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
It's yeah, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 4 (17:15):
I can't take it.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
Another one is just also when like a man like
wants to take care of himselves, if that makes sense,
like eat healthy, like just like cares for their own
body and like what they're doing to it and stuff
like that. In a sense, I don't know, I think
that's a big sign of self respect and that that.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Just no, I agree, or even just like having like
a hobby and not just like working and doing nothing
like do something for you right, like hobby, gem something.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
Literally like ever since he got back from deployment.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
I'm just like like, go do this, go do that, Like,
go do something for yourself, like please, I don't know,
like I want him to so badly, but he's.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
Like, no, I'm gonna I'm gonna sit at home like
my game, Like no, go do something.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Okay, Yeah, like please just get out and about deal
with friends.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Yeah, go work out, Go.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Like, go do something, do anything?
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Yeah. No, I agree one hundred per.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
One thousand percent.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
That might be all I've got.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I think that's all I got.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
But I I also don't have anything to really say
on situationships versus real relationships because I'm not even gonna
be I'm not even gonna lie. I don't think I've
ever been in a situationship.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
I feel a situationship is like we you know you're
never gonna date, but you're just like not dating, but
like you're datingself.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
And I'm also but like I've never hooked just like hooked.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
Up with anyone, that's true, you.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 8 (19:13):
So like, yeah, I've I feel like I've talked to
a bunch of people, but like I feel like that's
not even a situationship to a.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Sense because like just talking and not even hanging out,
then that's like basically friends.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
True. I don't know. I feel like that one kind
of is throwing it off. I don't really know if
i'd much to say about that.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
Okay, great, great? How I like, I don't know if
I know how to fight right?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
How to fight right?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Like yeah, healthy conflict in love?
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I think I.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
Don't think I'm the right person to ask for this.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Wait, can you read the question again?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
How to fight right? Healthy conflict in life? Of like,
what's that?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Like?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
What's a healthy way to have like an argument or
a fight?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I feel like the healthy way is to like not
raise your voice and not screaming cuts at each other
or like throw things obviously, but I feel like sometimes
like you need to like assert your dominance and like
put your foot down and like raise your voice.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
Yeah, no, I agree, And like, no matter what, like
if we're just sitting there talking, I'm still gonna get
really irritated and there's no gonna be there's not gonna
be anything healthy about it.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
I think honestly, like Tedy and I have talked about
pretty much anything you could ever talk about. Like I said,
he likes to fix a problem. I just want the
problem to go away. Like sometimes I'm so ird, I
like just need to come back to it. And that
is like one thing we don't understand about each other
because he nags and I'm like, what are we gonna
need this space? Yeah, I'm like, what are we gonna
(20:55):
do when we move in together? Scream and fighting argue?
And he's like, well, no, I would try and resolve it,
and if not, like I would just leave. And I
was like, what if we have kids, you can't just
fucking like and he was like, okay, well then I wouldn't.
Like I would just like give your you your space.
I think it just depends, but I feel like you
definitely can like get your point across without talking over
each other and not be an asshole.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
But like name calling, name calling out forget it, I
don't even start. That's no no name calling. I think
even just like any comments that are just jabs at
the person, just yeah, that probably still be respectful.
Speaker 10 (21:37):
But if you're still like it's I think it's healthy
to disagree still ye and and be irritated, but it's
just the way you approach it without being disrespectful and
like throwing jabs at them and just being rude.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
No, I agree one hundred percent. And I feel like
sometimes too, like we get lost on like the someone
needs to be right and in all reality, like no
one does as long as you understand where each other
is coming from. But back to like what you were saying,
like the whole like I don't care like whatever, like
do whatever you want. I think like all of those
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like words that can just be left out too, like
we don't need like the extra like commentary of like
I said whatever, but like I don't care, like do
whatever you want? Like, yeah, I think all that shit's
so unnecessary petty comments. Yeah, especially I've definitely been guilty
of and I'm definitely not proud of because I know
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it hurts Anthony's feelings. But like I said, like he
just takes it. He literally takes because he's so upset
me just like he just he just looks at me
like this, like well, I'm like, you're a fucking asshole.
But we're working.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
I think I think both I and I we both
make each other see red and we're ready to.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Like maybe it's it's like honestly, he's like Anthony's gonna
be like your fucking bitch, and like, I actually don't
think he'd ever see that, but like if he did,
like I probably deserve it. Like I called him every
name book it's about, which again definitely not my proudest women.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
But hey, yeah, I'm pretty sure he has a screenshot
of me calling him a really mean word.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
I don't remember what that word is, but you remember that?
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Yeah, I was like, I feel like I've seen that.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Yeah, you probably have.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
He has a screenshot on me being a complete bitch,
But I don't remember what I called him, but I was,
so we both know, we both know why I was
so mad, but I was.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I was so mad. So he.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Ancient? What that screenshot is ancient?
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Oh yeah, I guarantee he still has it. He'll never
let me live that down.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
It's okay. Yeah, I think, like I don't know, I
think if one person needs space and the other needs
to talk about it, like right now, I feel like
the person needs space, just can overroll and just be like,
let's just come back to this in like a half hour,
right when.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
I think it's also good, Like you said, know how
everyone approaches an argument or like how the other person
feels during slash after an argument, so like, obviously you're
not nagging a person that needs space or vice versa.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
No, I agree, And I feel like the person that
needs space typically has no patience and like no temper,
So I feel like it's almost better for like to
give them space to like regroup before they like yeah, yeah, no,
I agree. Can ya healthy fighting or like in thirty minutes,
(24:54):
Like that's really not going to change anything, like you
know what I mean, like we can.
Speaker 7 (24:59):
At at the time.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree. I don't really understand this
next one.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Things we miss about our partners even when we're mad? Am?
I missing something Like.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
One thing that Anthy doesn't do when I'm mad at
him is he quits doing shit for me unfortunately if
he didn't even open my card work.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Things I miss when he's mad at me is just
when he talks to me, because we don't there's no
there's no conversation. Yeah, it's so like even when he's
like slightly annoyed, it's just so like quiet, and I'm
just like, okay.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
No, I get like that, I get it, but.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
But it's it's like literally like I feel like it
could be the smallest thing that annoys him, and it'd
just be like, all right, we're done talking, Like what
the book?
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, that's that's extra, Like fuddy this book?
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Are you a girl?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
No?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I think he is. I think he is.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
Yeah, No, I don't really. I don't get that one though,
So we'll move on to the art of reassurance. Why
we need it? Dang ding ding dang.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
I feel like they're kind of before, but I feel like,
literally everyone needs reassurance even after a fight, like you
don't not love them, but like like, okay, they hate me,
they don't love me, our relationship like falling apart when
that's like not even the case. So I feel like argument,
like you should just say, like I love you, you
(27:08):
never know.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
No, I agree one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
And I also believe because me and E have been
together for.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
A hot minute quite some time.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
No matter how long, I feel like honestly, the longer
you're with someone, the more reassurance has to Like I
feel like it needs to build even more the longer
you're with someone, just because I don't know, I don't
know that that's just me.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
I just think after a while, you just get like
comfortable and then like things slow down, which is like normal,
but even like every once in a while it's good
to be like like just check in and make sure
you're on like the same page. Essentially, they like drifting apart. Yeah,
I oh, it's like not as exciting and it's like
(28:05):
not all these things, but like it could be right everyone, it's.
Speaker 10 (28:10):
Right, just said a few sweet things, you know.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
No, I literally love reassurance. That's my like.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Love language, that's my shit. Sometimes when I'm like feeling
like I need reassured, but like I don't know how
to like ask for it, I'll literally just say like
do you hate me?
Speaker 3 (28:33):
No?
Speaker 1 (28:35):
But like what the fuck?
Speaker 3 (28:37):
At the same time, I never like I don't want
to ask for it, like I I want you to know,
like I want you to know.
Speaker 1 (28:47):
See, I'm not scared to ask for it. Even like
like Rina on Sunday, like I was like my social
battery was dead. I feel like Rina and I have
not been around each other for like that many hours
in a row, and I was just like done. She's
like do you hate me? Like do you hate me?
And I was like no. But I'm just like I'm
(29:07):
like if I think something's up, I'm like okay, like
my the problem like hate me? Are we good? Are
you good? Like tell me something? And then normally that
turns into like a whole like sappy little text message
from him and he's like, I just so much. How
could I ever?
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
No, that that is a good card to pull when
when you need it. But I think I think I
need I think I need to come up with more cards.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Yeah, especially if I'm having like a ship day and
I'm like I text him for like do you hate me?
They can automatic like pick me up, so I know
that response is about to be good.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Yeah, yeah, no, please some some sort of pick me
up on. Let's go bring it.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Yeah, give it here.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I think
girls are also just like obviously hella in their heads.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Yeah, so like even just like random comments throughout the day,
throughout the week, it does, it does wonders. So I agree,
especially when it comes to like, dude, a cycle will
throw everything off.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It's sort of good.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
A cycle makes you question like everybody's existed, Yes, yeah
for sure. Yeah, yeah, I mean I like guys like
the reassurance too, So it's like if they're like looking
for the reassurance. It's like we probably also want it. Yeah,
(30:56):
this is one way road now.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
Yeah, although I think I think he's like emotionless.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So I feel like that the military does that too.
Low key.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Yeah, he needs like slapped, he needs it back. I
don't know if he ever had it though.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
I was sick. I think he's always been such a
cut and dry person. Yeah, no, it like.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
It's not I don't think I think he was like
that before the military.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
Yeah, I'm afraid I think that's right.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Maybe I'll make a Maybe I'll make a slide show.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Be like hey, I mean you can always like sit
down and be like, Okay.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Where's the emotion at.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah. I would literally use the excuse of like I
don't get to see you very often, and like you
were gone for thirteen weeks and like I just really
want like your love like reassurance.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
And swear to God, slurre to God, get back into it, motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Just seriously. That's like one of the things I love
about Anthony is like he's very very open, Like communication
skills are probably like seven out of ten. Like he
kind of suck sometimes, but like he's like getting it
out there and I just kind of like, yeah, like
take a guess on like like what like what are
you trying to? Like, how are you trying to come across?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Like he tries, he tries. We love that for I
love to see the effort.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Well, that was it.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Great?
Speaker 3 (32:53):
I can't I really still want to know what this
one meant. Things we miss about our partners, like are
they dead?
Speaker 1 (32:59):
Like what it? I don't know. I don't know that one.
That one throwing me off.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Thanks chat GPT, we love you.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Love.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I'm like, I'm dead today. I have nothing. I have
no brain brain.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Capacity left, so me neither.
Speaker 2 (33:29):
I feel like we sounded very enthusiastic in this podcast.
Speaker 1 (33:34):
I'm like, I don't even know how I forgot too
till that day was Monday. I'm so tired. Is so
fucking hot in here? What are we at?
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Forty minutes? That's perfect?
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Great, well guys, but not too long? Yeah, well guys,
it is seventeen here. I have Love Island to watch
and a shower today, so.
Speaker 2 (34:08):
I still got to cook dinner.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
Yeah all right, yeah, well we'll talk to everyone next week.
Speaker 5 (34:16):
Hie.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
This is.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
D drop it to the loading
Speaker 3 (34:24):
Lly
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