June 25, 2025 • 20 mins
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This week’s podcast Heather talks about how she keeps life interesting, feeling like the main character and romanticizing life. We hope you guys enjoy, and don’t forget to reach out on social media with feedback!!
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If you guys have not checked out our podcast from last week, definitely go listen. Chatting each week helps us stay connected from 5,000 miles away! Talking about our lives, trends, or even the latest gossip! We normally pick different topics and start yapping!
This week’s podcast Heather talks about how she keeps life interesting, feeling like the main character and romanticizing life. We hope you guys enjoy, and don’t forget to reach out on social media with feedback!!
Thanks for listening !!
TikTok: RingHerUP
Instagram: Ringherup_
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning, everybody. Heather's here today. Brennan and I have
been recording together and then separate, and I honestly have
been kind of liking it. So if you haven't listened
to her she recorded last week by herself, should definitely
go listen to it. I'm actually gonna listen to it
on my way to work this morning. I actually like,
at first, I was like, Okay, this is kind of hard,
(00:21):
but I think it like helps keep things like fresh
and fun. Today's gonna be a really short episode. I
fear that I have to leave for work and about
like twenty minutes, so this is gonna be like very
short and sweet. But today I'm kind of just gonna
talk about like how to romanticize your life, how to
(00:46):
like feel purposeful like day by day, and just things
you should do to feel like you're like the main
character in your story. So yeah, like let's jump into it. Honestly,
I really feel like everyone should feel like purposeful and
(01:10):
like the main character. And I don't think main character.
I feel like it's perceived in such like a bad way,
like your attention seeking, your loud or annoying, which to
be fair like in a way like maybe but I
truly feel like you shouldn't have to live your life
like around other people or doing things because other people
want you to do them. I personally feel like it's
(01:33):
really easy to just go throughout your week and your
days just like mesh together. So I wrote down a
little list of things that you can do to just
like feel a little something, do a little like switch up.
My first tip to all of this is having like
some sort of general routine, so when you wake up,
(01:54):
you kind of know what's on your agenda for the day,
and you're not just like going through emotions and just
like doing the same things like day in and day out.
They'll kind of like pre plan like my day or
even like my week, because I do have like a
crazy like work schedule, so if I like just got
up and went to work and come home, I would
(02:16):
be doing the same exact thing every single day and
not really doing anything like productive in my own like
personal life. So my favorite thing to do in the
morning is to just get up and stretch and then
either go for like a run or a walk now
that it's really nice outside, don't go to the gym
a whole lot. I really just rather like be doing
(02:37):
something outside. You can do so many things like sit
outside for your coffee, just like get up in journal,
get up and read a book, just do something for yourself.
It's gonna like make you feel good. That's at the
beginning of your day. So then you're just like off
to a good start. And for me that's gone for
a walk. It really just depends on the day what
(02:58):
I'm doing in the mornings. I really love to like
document throughout my day, especially like for work that makes
me feel purposeful, so like I can see like what
I'm doing through the day when I'm like doing client's
hair and taking client's photos, or if I'm like learning
something new. So if you have like a job or
career that allows you to like also be on social media,
(03:23):
highly recommend. I just feel like it's something else to
like look forward to. Or in downtime you like want
to keep busy and like keep your day moving. Is
nort really wanting to pick up my phone and like
take a picture and post on social media. Another thing
I like to do in the morning is clean as
I go, So whether that's like my room or just
(03:45):
like around the house. Like I do like to come
home every single night to like a clean room. Does
that happen all the time? No? Is it happening today? Also? No?
But it is nice like just crawling into your bed
like nothing's on the floor and nothing's around. You can
just like come home and shower and just like relax.
(04:05):
And that's probably my favorite part of the day, like
having like a clean room to just like walk into.
Another thing that I like to do in the mornings
is get ready. Even if it's like kind of like
a day off, I still like to get up. I
still like to get like somewhat ready and somewhat put together.
I feel like personally that just makes me feel better
(04:25):
in general, And then I think that really sets you
up for success because you look good, you feel good
for my job, Like we have to look a certain
way and like dress a certain way and like whatever.
But I do like to just take it like an
extra step and like put a really cute alp together
or like change up my jewelry or I don't know,
do something cute with my hair. So I really just
(04:47):
like taking that extra step to be like, Okay, now
I'm ready for the day. Now I'm looking good, feeling good,
like I can do whatever I do. Think that's a
good almost reset in the morning. Sometimes I jam pack
my mornings and then I shower and get ready and
I'm like okay, like now I'm ready to go about
my day. I think just noticing the little things and
(05:08):
giving them meaning will help romanticize your life. Like I said,
whether that's like taking photos or just like journaling or
texting somebody and being like I did X, Y and
Z today, I really think that can help just give
life purpose and you're not just like ugh, I have
to get up, like I have to get ready for work,
(05:30):
like I have to do whatever. I feel like recently
everyone has been so so negative around me, and you
kind of just like have to take a step back
and be like is it me? Is it them? Like
why is everyone so negative? And I feel like it's
just because sometimes we forget to give our life meaning
(05:53):
and purpose and we're only looking at like the bad
things or the annoying things, or like I don't want
to get up and walk like it's cold outside, Like
we're blessed to wake up today, to be able to walk,
to be able to have a nice day. So I
feel like sometimes instead of being so negative and so like,
(06:15):
why is this happening. Why is every day the same?
Like why do like whatever the case may be, like
just look at the positive and turn it into something positive.
Another thing that kind of goes into like living your
life for you is not apologizing and not over apologizing.
(06:36):
If you don't want to do something, like just say
no and they're if you're like friends understand, they should
want to understand, like you don't really owe them, like
this huge long explanation of why you don't want to
go do X, Y and Z, Like sometimes you just
want to like sit at home and chill or like
do a reset or literally just go to bed, Like
a little bit earlier, I personally feel like I'm really
(06:57):
good at saying no, just because that really just puts
like a wrench in my day if I'm like doing
something I really don't want to do, or if I
have to like be on someone else's time, and like
I know the world does not revolve around me, and
I'm not saying to like make it difficult for everybody else.
But if you rather do something else, or if you
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rather just sit and read a book, like you don't
have to do what your friends are doing. Chase your
dreams chase your dreams. You should never let anyone else
run your life or tell you why you shouldn't do
something or wide stumb or why you're going to fail.
I personally feel like there's so much I want to
accomplish in my career, and I want to do these
(07:44):
things before I have kids. So sometimes you really do
have to put yourself before others so you can accomplish
these goals to not just fulfill day by day, but
like to fulfill your life. And I want to fulfill
certain things before I bring other people into this world
that I now have to like bring into my day
(08:04):
and into my life and into my routine. And I
don't think that's a bad thing at all for wanting
to be like selfish, especially at this age, like in
your twenties, of wanting to like further your career and
further yourself and better yourself before you like have kids
(08:25):
or like move out or move out of state, or
like whatever the case may be. Like, I feel like
you should chase your dreams and reach them and no
one should ever say anything bad about it, and if
they do, then they're probably not a good person to
keep around. And Brendan and I talk about bad people
all the time. I feel like this always circulates back
to like why are people not supporting me? And I'm
(08:47):
supporting them? But you should never ask for someone to
support you like they just should. And if you guys
are on the same age, maybe you should just like reevaluate,
be bold, guys, be bold. I personally feel like you
have to carry your confidence with you throughout the time.
Always just speak the truth and stand beside it, sam
(09:10):
aside what makes you happy? What's gonna make you feel
fulfilled in your life? Because you only have one life
and you really are living it for you, whether you
need to like journal, go to therapy, like just get
yourself on like a basic track, which I can attest to.
Going to therapy has been the best decision I've made
for myself, and honestly, like not a whole lot was
(09:32):
like terribly wrong with me, but it just like gives
you like a really good deep reset. And they're an
outside source, so you can tell them whatever. They don't know.
These people, they really can just give you advice for
what it's worth and be very surface level when it
comes to knowing people to really just sit there and
cater to you and help you live your best life essentially,
(09:55):
because no one wants to live for somebody else. No one,
I'm sorry, no one wants to do Uh. You should
honestly never dim yourself for being afraid of being judged.
And I fall into that category a lot, especially with
social media and being on social media as a hairstylist.
(10:15):
That is kind of like the new way of marketing yourself.
So some things like getting on social media and talking,
I'm like, Okay, I don't want people to like sit
there and make fun of me. But at the same time,
like this is my career, this is my business, and
this is how I'm going to build a clientele and
be successful is putting myself out there because that's what
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people like to see at the end of the day.
Like there are a lot of people that give like
negative backlash, but there are really good, genuine people that
are just curious of what you're doing and how you
did it and just like falling along like step by step. Oh,
never never change yourself because you're scared of being judged.
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Especially at this age, like it's very easy to be
influenced of like what we should be doing and what
we should be wearing and what is socially acceptable. When
it doesn't, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if it
makes you happy, Like it's not gonna be writting on
your tombstone, it's not gonna be in your obituary. Like
people are not gonna remember you because you wore some
(11:19):
crazy outfit when you are twenty years old to work
and post about it on social media. No one cares. Like,
no one's gonna remember that, and if they do, that's
honestly a personal problem, and that has nothing to do
with you. Whether that's doing something out of the ordinary,
wearing something new, just be bold. If you just carry
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yourself with such confidence any nine point nine percent of
the time, like, no one's gonna bother you. No one's
gonna be like, why are you wearing that shirt? Why
are you wearing that color? No one actually cares that much,
And if they do, they really need to find a hobby,
because what you wear and how you carry yourself and
perceive yourself should be absolutely no one else is concerned.
(12:08):
I wear what I want, I post what I want
because that's what makes me feel good. I'm not posting
for John Doe to be like, oh my god, she's
doing this and she's doing that, like, why would she ever? Like, personally,
I don't care. I'm not posting for everybody else. I'm
not wearing something for everybody else. I'm not doing certain
things for everybody else. You just have to do it
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makes you happy and stand beside it and just be confident.
Confidence is such key, especially nowadays. I feel like everyone
tears each other down, especially with how large social media is,
like Brennan and I know that for a fact, unfortunately,
But at the same time, it's like, this is what
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we enjoy doing. This is what I enjoy wearing, this
is what I enjoy talking about. Even if it helps
one person just go throughout their day, have a better
routine and to be confident, then it's then my goal
is achieved. My goals achieved. I just like to help people.
Another thing that's kind of very relatable is instead of
asking like why is this happening to me, almost take
(13:15):
it and flip it and be like, what can I
learn from this, whether that's just like a plot twist,
a friendship ending, a heartbreak, whatever the case may be.
Always try and look for something positive. And I know
it's very hard to do because I struggle with that sometimes.
But I feel like recently with going through such a
(13:36):
terrible heartbreak and like dropping off like a couple of friends,
It's like, why is this happening to me? And really
turn it and be like, how is this bettering me?
What can I do to turn this into a positive?
I feel like since going through a breakup, which I
have talked about honestly a lot on here, that it's
almost embarrassing at this point because it's been so long.
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You really just have to take the good and bad
for what it's worth. Truly feel like going through such
a dramatic heartbreak has made me realize who I am,
who I want to be, what I want to do
with my life, where I want to go, what I
want to accomplish, what I'm looking for in somebody? Can
(14:26):
it be changed? Can be fixed? I can it be learned? Like?
Can it be taught? I just feel like you have
to give yourself so much grace when something happens and
just like take a step back and be like, Okay,
is this the end of the world now? Can it
be figured out and work through? Yes? So that's when
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you want to take away what you can from the
situation and just kind of put that just keep it
like in the back of your head just so you
can like really think about it later and be like, Okay,
I don't want to be put in this position again.
I don't to be suck in this position again. So
what can I do to learn from this to not
be suck in this position again? Personally, I feel like
(15:10):
heartbreaks are very difficult, and I think I said the
last time I did a podcast myself, I was gonna
go into detail about it, and just have not yet.
Just really not ready for that, which is okay. If
people are pressuring you to put out there like what
is going on in your personal life, you don't want to.
They're nosy, goodbye, goodbye. I truly just feel like, no
(15:35):
matter what, you can take something away from it, even
if it's bad, and kind of just put that, like
I said, in the back of your mind, to just
keep life rolling so you learn from this and it
doesn't happen again. I do feel like side quests and
like plot twists and just general can be hard, especially
when you have your mindset and your futures like plan
(15:58):
down your head to a t and now you kind
of have to like backtrack and like unplan your future
with these people because they're no longer like in your life,
or you don't have the same job, or like you
don't live in the same area, whatever the case may be.
It's very hard to unplan something that you're so dead
set on. So that's where I feel like a lot
(16:19):
of people should start, is just taking it one day
at a time and not planning out their whole future
and not saying, like I have to be married by
twenty five, I have to have kids by twenty six.
It is very nice to have goals and ambition and
something to look forward to, but at the end of
the day, you do not want to put yourself on
a timeline because one you may miss out. Two it's
(16:40):
probably not going to happen the way you'd imagine it.
And if it does, like good for you. But I
feel like there's so many variables from day to day
and just in years in general, that you can't count
on marrying somebody in a certain year in a certain
amount of years. I just feel like it's very realistic
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and you're almost setting yourself up for failure. I don't
think any situation needs a time cap, whether that's just
like you working on yourself and wanting to get better
or meeting goals in your careers, or just like dating
or getting married, Like, I feel like you're almost setting
yourself up for failure if you're so dead set on
(17:23):
this has to happen. I have to do it this way,
this is the only way, because that is not the
only way. And I feel like you're going to stress
yourself out trying to get there when you might marry
the wrong person because you just want to be married
and have kids by you'r twenty six. So never feel
like it's too late to start over with a guy
with a career with friendships moving like, It's never too late.
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If you're not happy, reevaluate, go through your little routine,
wake up in journal, Why am I not happy? Why
is it not working? Kind of switch it into are
my friends benefiting me? Are they negative? Do I really
want these people in my life? Boyfriend like does he
want kids? Does he not? Like? Whatever the case may be,
(18:08):
Sometimes you just have to like step back and actually
look at the larger picture to see if this is
a life you want forever. Not every day is going
to be easy either. Sometimes getting out of bed is
going to be your wind for the day. And if
that's all you did that day, celebrate the small wins.
At least you got out of bed. If you don't
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do anything before you go to work, and you go
to work, that's a small wind. Like you made it there.
You're doing your job. You're being responsible, even just like
going to the grocery store or washing your face that night.
That was me last night, very tired. I washed my
face and got in bed, and that was good enough
(18:50):
for me. So I feel like you should just give
yourself grace, don't be afraid to say no, carry yourself
with confidence, and everything else will fall into place. And
it may seem like your whole world is crashing down
and falling apart, but you just have to take a
hold of your life and just do what makes you happy. Literally,
everything will else will fall around it. I can promise you.
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I can promise you. So that's kind of it for today.
I unfortunately have to run out the door for work.
But here's my small win. I didn't really do anything
this morning. Podcasts recorded sending that shit to Brand as
we speak, so you guys will probably hear this sometime
tonight or tomorrow, depending on when Brand edits it. I
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try to like keep it moving so it's easier for
her to edit. Sometimes I feel like I sound like
a broken record. But if anyone can take anything away
from this, this is why me and Brynn do this now.
We really just used to do it to like goss
up and talk about our day because we are so
(19:56):
far away if you haven't been here since the beginning.
Brand is in Hawaii and I'm in Pennsylvania, so we
really just wanted to keep in touch. But we really
have some good podcasts, to be honest, very good topics
get very good like advice, just good conversation. We just
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love to love to sit here and talk and how
at least one person. So that's all I got for
you guys. Next week should be normal, So we'll see
you guys next week. Have a blessed day. See y'all
next time. Itvoding what
Good morning, everybody. Heather's here today. Brennan and I have
been recording together and then separate, and I honestly have
been kind of liking it. So if you haven't listened
to her she recorded last week by herself, should definitely
go listen to it. I'm actually gonna listen to it
on my way to work this morning. I actually like,
at first, I was like, Okay, this is kind of hard,
(00:21):
but I think it like helps keep things like fresh
and fun. Today's gonna be a really short episode. I
fear that I have to leave for work and about
like twenty minutes, so this is gonna be like very
short and sweet. But today I'm kind of just gonna
talk about like how to romanticize your life, how to
(00:46):
like feel purposeful like day by day, and just things
you should do to feel like you're like the main
character in your story. So yeah, like let's jump into it. Honestly,
I really feel like everyone should feel like purposeful and
(01:10):
like the main character. And I don't think main character.
I feel like it's perceived in such like a bad way,
like your attention seeking, your loud or annoying, which to
be fair like in a way like maybe but I
truly feel like you shouldn't have to live your life
like around other people or doing things because other people
want you to do them. I personally feel like it's
(01:33):
really easy to just go throughout your week and your
days just like mesh together. So I wrote down a
little list of things that you can do to just
like feel a little something, do a little like switch up.
My first tip to all of this is having like
some sort of general routine, so when you wake up,
(01:54):
you kind of know what's on your agenda for the day,
and you're not just like going through emotions and just
like doing the same things like day in and day out.
They'll kind of like pre plan like my day or
even like my week, because I do have like a
crazy like work schedule, so if I like just got
up and went to work and come home, I would
(02:16):
be doing the same exact thing every single day and
not really doing anything like productive in my own like
personal life. So my favorite thing to do in the
morning is to just get up and stretch and then
either go for like a run or a walk now
that it's really nice outside, don't go to the gym
a whole lot. I really just rather like be doing
(02:37):
something outside. You can do so many things like sit
outside for your coffee, just like get up in journal,
get up and read a book, just do something for yourself.
It's gonna like make you feel good. That's at the
beginning of your day. So then you're just like off
to a good start. And for me that's gone for
a walk. It really just depends on the day what
(02:58):
I'm doing in the mornings. I really love to like
document throughout my day, especially like for work that makes
me feel purposeful, so like I can see like what
I'm doing through the day when I'm like doing client's
hair and taking client's photos, or if I'm like learning
something new. So if you have like a job or
career that allows you to like also be on social media,
(03:23):
highly recommend. I just feel like it's something else to
like look forward to. Or in downtime you like want
to keep busy and like keep your day moving. Is
nort really wanting to pick up my phone and like
take a picture and post on social media. Another thing
I like to do in the morning is clean as
I go, So whether that's like my room or just
(03:45):
like around the house. Like I do like to come
home every single night to like a clean room. Does
that happen all the time? No? Is it happening today? Also? No?
But it is nice like just crawling into your bed
like nothing's on the floor and nothing's around. You can
just like come home and shower and just like relax.
(04:05):
And that's probably my favorite part of the day, like
having like a clean room to just like walk into.
Another thing that I like to do in the mornings
is get ready. Even if it's like kind of like
a day off, I still like to get up. I
still like to get like somewhat ready and somewhat put together.
I feel like personally that just makes me feel better
(04:25):
in general, And then I think that really sets you
up for success because you look good, you feel good
for my job, Like we have to look a certain
way and like dress a certain way and like whatever.
But I do like to just take it like an
extra step and like put a really cute alp together
or like change up my jewelry or I don't know,
do something cute with my hair. So I really just
(04:47):
like taking that extra step to be like, Okay, now
I'm ready for the day. Now I'm looking good, feeling good,
like I can do whatever I do. Think that's a
good almost reset in the morning. Sometimes I jam pack
my mornings and then I shower and get ready and
I'm like okay, like now I'm ready to go about
my day. I think just noticing the little things and
(05:08):
giving them meaning will help romanticize your life. Like I said,
whether that's like taking photos or just like journaling or
texting somebody and being like I did X, Y and
Z today, I really think that can help just give
life purpose and you're not just like ugh, I have
to get up, like I have to get ready for work,
(05:30):
like I have to do whatever. I feel like recently
everyone has been so so negative around me, and you
kind of just like have to take a step back
and be like is it me? Is it them? Like
why is everyone so negative? And I feel like it's
just because sometimes we forget to give our life meaning
(05:53):
and purpose and we're only looking at like the bad
things or the annoying things, or like I don't want
to get up and walk like it's cold outside, Like
we're blessed to wake up today, to be able to walk,
to be able to have a nice day. So I
feel like sometimes instead of being so negative and so like,
(06:15):
why is this happening. Why is every day the same?
Like why do like whatever the case may be, like
just look at the positive and turn it into something positive.
Another thing that kind of goes into like living your
life for you is not apologizing and not over apologizing.
(06:36):
If you don't want to do something, like just say
no and they're if you're like friends understand, they should
want to understand, like you don't really owe them, like
this huge long explanation of why you don't want to
go do X, Y and Z, Like sometimes you just
want to like sit at home and chill or like
do a reset or literally just go to bed, Like
a little bit earlier, I personally feel like I'm really
(06:57):
good at saying no, just because that really just puts
like a wrench in my day if I'm like doing
something I really don't want to do, or if I
have to like be on someone else's time, and like
I know the world does not revolve around me, and
I'm not saying to like make it difficult for everybody else.
But if you rather do something else, or if you
(07:20):
rather just sit and read a book, like you don't
have to do what your friends are doing. Chase your
dreams chase your dreams. You should never let anyone else
run your life or tell you why you shouldn't do
something or wide stumb or why you're going to fail.
I personally feel like there's so much I want to
accomplish in my career, and I want to do these
(07:44):
things before I have kids. So sometimes you really do
have to put yourself before others so you can accomplish
these goals to not just fulfill day by day, but
like to fulfill your life. And I want to fulfill
certain things before I bring other people into this world
that I now have to like bring into my day
(08:04):
and into my life and into my routine. And I
don't think that's a bad thing at all for wanting
to be like selfish, especially at this age, like in
your twenties, of wanting to like further your career and
further yourself and better yourself before you like have kids
(08:25):
or like move out or move out of state, or
like whatever the case may be. Like, I feel like
you should chase your dreams and reach them and no
one should ever say anything bad about it, and if
they do, then they're probably not a good person to
keep around. And Brendan and I talk about bad people
all the time. I feel like this always circulates back
to like why are people not supporting me? And I'm
(08:47):
supporting them? But you should never ask for someone to
support you like they just should. And if you guys
are on the same age, maybe you should just like reevaluate,
be bold, guys, be bold. I personally feel like you
have to carry your confidence with you throughout the time.
Always just speak the truth and stand beside it, sam
(09:10):
aside what makes you happy? What's gonna make you feel
fulfilled in your life? Because you only have one life
and you really are living it for you, whether you
need to like journal, go to therapy, like just get
yourself on like a basic track, which I can attest to.
Going to therapy has been the best decision I've made
for myself, and honestly, like not a whole lot was
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like terribly wrong with me, but it just like gives
you like a really good deep reset. And they're an
outside source, so you can tell them whatever. They don't know.
These people, they really can just give you advice for
what it's worth and be very surface level when it
comes to knowing people to really just sit there and
cater to you and help you live your best life essentially,
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because no one wants to live for somebody else. No one,
I'm sorry, no one wants to do Uh. You should
honestly never dim yourself for being afraid of being judged.
And I fall into that category a lot, especially with
social media and being on social media as a hairstylist.
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That is kind of like the new way of marketing yourself.
So some things like getting on social media and talking,
I'm like, Okay, I don't want people to like sit
there and make fun of me. But at the same time,
like this is my career, this is my business, and
this is how I'm going to build a clientele and
be successful is putting myself out there because that's what
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people like to see at the end of the day.
Like there are a lot of people that give like
negative backlash, but there are really good, genuine people that
are just curious of what you're doing and how you
did it and just like falling along like step by step. Oh,
never never change yourself because you're scared of being judged.
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Especially at this age, like it's very easy to be
influenced of like what we should be doing and what
we should be wearing and what is socially acceptable. When
it doesn't, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if it
makes you happy, Like it's not gonna be writting on
your tombstone, it's not gonna be in your obituary. Like
people are not gonna remember you because you wore some
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crazy outfit when you are twenty years old to work
and post about it on social media. No one cares. Like,
no one's gonna remember that, and if they do, that's
honestly a personal problem, and that has nothing to do
with you. Whether that's doing something out of the ordinary,
wearing something new, just be bold. If you just carry
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yourself with such confidence any nine point nine percent of
the time, like, no one's gonna bother you. No one's
gonna be like, why are you wearing that shirt? Why
are you wearing that color? No one actually cares that much,
And if they do, they really need to find a hobby,
because what you wear and how you carry yourself and
perceive yourself should be absolutely no one else is concerned.
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I wear what I want, I post what I want
because that's what makes me feel good. I'm not posting
for John Doe to be like, oh my god, she's
doing this and she's doing that, like, why would she ever? Like, personally,
I don't care. I'm not posting for everybody else. I'm
not wearing something for everybody else. I'm not doing certain
things for everybody else. You just have to do it
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makes you happy and stand beside it and just be confident.
Confidence is such key, especially nowadays. I feel like everyone
tears each other down, especially with how large social media is,
like Brennan and I know that for a fact, unfortunately,
But at the same time, it's like, this is what
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we enjoy doing. This is what I enjoy wearing, this
is what I enjoy talking about. Even if it helps
one person just go throughout their day, have a better
routine and to be confident, then it's then my goal
is achieved. My goals achieved. I just like to help people.
Another thing that's kind of very relatable is instead of
asking like why is this happening to me, almost take
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it and flip it and be like, what can I
learn from this, whether that's just like a plot twist,
a friendship ending, a heartbreak, whatever the case may be.
Always try and look for something positive. And I know
it's very hard to do because I struggle with that sometimes.
But I feel like recently with going through such a
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terrible heartbreak and like dropping off like a couple of friends,
It's like, why is this happening to me? And really
turn it and be like, how is this bettering me?
What can I do to turn this into a positive?
I feel like since going through a breakup, which I
have talked about honestly a lot on here, that it's
almost embarrassing at this point because it's been so long.
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You really just have to take the good and bad
for what it's worth. Truly feel like going through such
a dramatic heartbreak has made me realize who I am,
who I want to be, what I want to do
with my life, where I want to go, what I
want to accomplish, what I'm looking for in somebody? Can
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it be changed? Can be fixed? I can it be learned? Like?
Can it be taught? I just feel like you have
to give yourself so much grace when something happens and
just like take a step back and be like, Okay,
is this the end of the world now? Can it
be figured out and work through? Yes? So that's when
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you want to take away what you can from the
situation and just kind of put that just keep it
like in the back of your head just so you
can like really think about it later and be like, Okay,
I don't want to be put in this position again.
I don't to be suck in this position again. So
what can I do to learn from this to not
be suck in this position again? Personally, I feel like
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heartbreaks are very difficult, and I think I said the
last time I did a podcast myself, I was gonna
go into detail about it, and just have not yet.
Just really not ready for that, which is okay. If
people are pressuring you to put out there like what
is going on in your personal life, you don't want to.
They're nosy, goodbye, goodbye. I truly just feel like, no
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matter what, you can take something away from it, even
if it's bad, and kind of just put that, like
I said, in the back of your mind, to just
keep life rolling so you learn from this and it
doesn't happen again. I do feel like side quests and
like plot twists and just general can be hard, especially
when you have your mindset and your futures like plan
(15:58):
down your head to a t and now you kind
of have to like backtrack and like unplan your future
with these people because they're no longer like in your life,
or you don't have the same job, or like you
don't live in the same area, whatever the case may be.
It's very hard to unplan something that you're so dead
set on. So that's where I feel like a lot
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of people should start, is just taking it one day
at a time and not planning out their whole future
and not saying, like I have to be married by
twenty five, I have to have kids by twenty six.
It is very nice to have goals and ambition and
something to look forward to, but at the end of
the day, you do not want to put yourself on
a timeline because one you may miss out. Two it's
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probably not going to happen the way you'd imagine it.
And if it does, like good for you. But I
feel like there's so many variables from day to day
and just in years in general, that you can't count
on marrying somebody in a certain year in a certain
amount of years. I just feel like it's very realistic
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and you're almost setting yourself up for failure. I don't
think any situation needs a time cap, whether that's just
like you working on yourself and wanting to get better
or meeting goals in your careers, or just like dating
or getting married, Like, I feel like you're almost setting
yourself up for failure if you're so dead set on
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this has to happen. I have to do it this way,
this is the only way, because that is not the
only way. And I feel like you're going to stress
yourself out trying to get there when you might marry
the wrong person because you just want to be married
and have kids by you'r twenty six. So never feel
like it's too late to start over with a guy
with a career with friendships moving like, It's never too late.
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If you're not happy, reevaluate, go through your little routine,
wake up in journal, Why am I not happy? Why
is it not working? Kind of switch it into are
my friends benefiting me? Are they negative? Do I really
want these people in my life? Boyfriend like does he
want kids? Does he not? Like? Whatever the case may be,
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Sometimes you just have to like step back and actually
look at the larger picture to see if this is
a life you want forever. Not every day is going
to be easy either. Sometimes getting out of bed is
going to be your wind for the day. And if
that's all you did that day, celebrate the small wins.
At least you got out of bed. If you don't
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do anything before you go to work, and you go
to work, that's a small wind. Like you made it there.
You're doing your job. You're being responsible, even just like
going to the grocery store or washing your face that night.
That was me last night, very tired. I washed my
face and got in bed, and that was good enough
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for me. So I feel like you should just give
yourself grace, don't be afraid to say no, carry yourself
with confidence, and everything else will fall into place. And
it may seem like your whole world is crashing down
and falling apart, but you just have to take a
hold of your life and just do what makes you happy. Literally,
everything will else will fall around it. I can promise you.
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I can promise you. So that's kind of it for today.
I unfortunately have to run out the door for work.
But here's my small win. I didn't really do anything
this morning. Podcasts recorded sending that shit to Brand as
we speak, so you guys will probably hear this sometime
tonight or tomorrow, depending on when Brand edits it. I
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try to like keep it moving so it's easier for
her to edit. Sometimes I feel like I sound like
a broken record. But if anyone can take anything away
from this, this is why me and Brynn do this now.
We really just used to do it to like goss
up and talk about our day because we are so
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far away if you haven't been here since the beginning.
Brand is in Hawaii and I'm in Pennsylvania, so we
really just wanted to keep in touch. But we really
have some good podcasts, to be honest, very good topics
get very good like advice, just good conversation. We just
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love to love to sit here and talk and how
at least one person. So that's all I got for
you guys. Next week should be normal, So we'll see
you guys next week. Have a blessed day. See y'all
next time. Itvoding what
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