Are independent women a threat to manhood? Dictators make good leaders

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Alright, alright, it says welive, so we must be live.
Thank you for choosing the Black Lovegroup chat. We appreciate you. Today
on Rocky Road TV with your hostRochelle, We're gonna have a great show
today. I might get a littlecrazy, some of us might end up
sweating, somebody might end up pisteoff, but we're gonna introduce ourselves.
We weren't able to do that lasttime because we came in a little charty,

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and you know I was hyper vigilant. So let's go ahead. Let's
start next to meet you Dale.Oh what's going on? I'm you Dale,
your neighborhood friendly mental maintenance coach.You can catch me in that be
headed insight on TikTok you Pataya?Oh what up? Though, I'm y.

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I'll be on the Instagram any fuckon that what I'm doing? I
don't know who I am? Okay, yeah, you know how telling everyone
it's your girl big week. I'mhere today. You can follow me on
social media and my women. Yougot to have a good home and learn

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a lot of things. Thank youand what up do? Last but not
least, Brandon also the twin youcan find me on pretty much all social
medias, but specifically mutant X onTikTok, come and get some of this

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knowledge. Yes, yes, yes, yes, So I asked for you
guys response, because what do youthink to disconnect between black men and women
are? I asked you on TikTokand we got some responses. So this
comment didn't have a name to theperson, but we're gonna put it out

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there. Capitalism and white supremacy isthe reason for the disconnect. What's said?
Does anybody agree is this in blackrelationships? Yeah? I don't know.
Capitalisabeth racism, I don't know.I call cat. I call cat.

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I call cat. And here's whyI called cat. Capitalism is universal
that that impacts every group, andevery group if you non black, has
been colonized. So capitalism impacts everynation and every you know, race in

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this country. And so does racism, white supremacy. It's everywhere. So
why why are we so hard?By? Are we weaker? Not at
all? I mean we may,we may have certain advantages when it comes

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to a lack of knowledge, youknow what I mean, a lack of
self in some areas, But Imean as far as week agoes, not
at all like it was just proven. I want to say, a couple
of months back, a couple ofgirls solved like a two thousand year old
math uh math equation of some joband it was to h to the black
girls and New Orleans doing math solvingthings. So we're not weaker. So

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yeah, I'm I'm I'm being facetiousabout being weak. But we do like
our excuses. We love them,you know, good good try, but
not we're just lazy. We youknow, we're in our we're in uh,
we're here, and uh we enjoythe lack of pressure that's pushed pushed

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on us because we've been so greatlyvictimized in this country and we're hiding behind
that as a kind of like ashield to prevent us from holding our entire
community accountable. That's true. Aswe said many times before, it starts

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in the home. It starts withIt starts with yourself, then your home,
then your community, then your nation. You know what I mean?
So yeah, yeah, that thatcomment right there was just that yeah,

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I mean question. I was like, wait, what it plays a part
comment? Okay, so the nextcomment, respect deprived. Everyone wants respect
and no one wants to give it. I would agree with that, But

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the perception of respect, that's thepart, right because depending on the fuck,
depending on the gender the man andthe woman, depending on how they
rock and you did, I don'tknow it all. It all depends on
how they perceive respect, because weall have a general thing like you know,
don't step on my foot, excuseme, But I mean in the
main, like in the in thebiggest scheme of things. So I feel

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like a man sees respect and howI don't know. I can't elaborate.
I can't elaborate right now. Yougotta forgive me. I just think that
there's a difference respect of that.But I do agree over all. I
mean, but there should be ageneral respect in a relationship and whether you're

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single, dating, married, whateverkind of ship it is, friendship,
bullshit, whatever ship, and thereare respects, like general ideas of respect
in those spaces. And I thinkthat some people, you know what I
mean by bullshit, But there's justsome levels of respect that people should give

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that they're not willing to get,especially a lot of life hardheaded women.
Well this is just me. Wellbe's shorty, sure, this is why
you single. You know what I'msaying. Some people don't get that.
So you know, Oh my god, I've quested a lot because I'm sorry,
y'all'm cooking. I'm tired still,Okay, honey, I agree with

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what we said. It's just gottabe some type of respect and it has
to be respecting relationship any way.But what she just said with the this
just me quote, I get thatship. I hear that shit a lot.
I don't even know what that means. You know what me either,

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because this is all of us,but that means excuse people, use,
like what fuck you too? Like? Yeah, now I see where we're
at. If I'm telling you thisis how I feel and these are my
boundaries, and this is how Iperceive what I want for me and the

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peace in my life, and you'retelling me, well, this is just
me, then you're letting me knowthat you're not gonna be in my space.
Ship bullshit, whatever shit. Sobecause what's that motherfucking it's just me,
my fucking now. We was onthe Titanic. We sunk. That's

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it, the ship is gone.I agree. I agree. You gotta
to get respect, man, Yougotta give it period. You can't be
disrespectful and want respect and respect asa big part of the relationship. I
mean, because what are why arewe being disrespectful? What is the point?

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Red Fox twelve says unrealistic expectations,hook up culture, self hate,
no accountability, especially with I don'tI don't even know what the hell I
wrote yit, but letting no accountability. I agree with that there are a

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lot of unrealistic expectations. I believethat, you know, with this whole
Walney Walt Disney thing, we reallybelieve this shit like the Night and Shining
Armor and you know, I don'tknow all that stuff. I feel like
any man coming with all that nonsense, you gotta kind of watch him too,

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because what is he trying to hide. I'm not saying that you can't
find a man that's generous and stufflike that, but some of this stuff
is just ridiculous that women want.Marriage is really a business, right,
It's a business and and and marriageis something that you choose to stay in

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daily. You gotta choose it daily. You gotta just keep going, you
know. So that's my take onthat. I ain't want to be long
winded. I'ma let y'all talk.Yeah, I agree, I agree that

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you agree Okay, okay, Well, mister consular says we were not taught
to be husband and why any commentsto that? My boy, I speak
for your motherfucking fels. Are youtalking about we? Man? That sounds
like somebody else that I'm gonna throughsome traumatic ship. Now understand what you

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mean. On the historic level.Okay, on the historic level, like
I said, we do have somedisadvantages due to a lack of knowledge.
But damn it, that ain't thatain't everybody on every level? You know
what I'm saying. So I don'tshout I'm sorry. Shout out to Royce
and Shanny watching us from YouTube,shout out, y'all do we can't reply

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to that comments on here? Canyou see it? I can see him,
Yeah, I see him, butI don't see where like I can.
You'll see the Oh, y'all mustbe on computers. Yeah, I'm
on the computer. I don't evenknow. Yeah, yeah you can do.
You can hear if you're on thephone. You can go in the

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chat here coming. Yeah, it'sa prod. You gotta hit comm up
because it's a private chat and thenit's comments and you can see everybody.
That's shaddy. That's a girl that'sbeen on comments. If you click on
comments, you can see the peoplecomment on on the YouTube yeasty girl.

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But we can't reply to that ship, okay, can for some reason.
Okay, so that's what mister counselorsaid. I think that's what I got
so far for the comments. Heyman, y'all are like, y'all got
some nice backyards? Really? Yeah? You know my hey, I tried

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to go sit on. Yeah,you got a fucking farm, right,
that's my guard, her guard.It's nice. So what we gonna do.
We gonna go to a uh,We're gonna go to a video.
Okay, I don't know. Soy'all know we talked about Kikie Palmer last
week. Well what we didn't whatI didn't get to was the whole thing

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with Janelle Mulney performing and she showedher boom. Right, So somebody did
a video responding to what old UncleLuke said. So I'm gonna play that
so we could talk about that.Here we go. I don't know what
the fuck is going on today,and I'm not here to disrespect my elders
because I love Uncle Luke, butthis is insane, sir. They literally

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created the parental advisory sticker because ofyou. This isn't real. This like
the fact that this is real isblowing my mind. Oh, Uncle Luke
said, you know what is shegoing through? Basically, She's never done
nothing like this. Now what oldgirl is saying. I kind of feel

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like it's irrelevant in my opinion,because what do him doing? What he
doing? God to do with hispoint? His point is what it was.
She's what's going on with her?She ain't never done this before.
He's not speaking about him, he'sspeaking about her. So a lot of
times we want to invalidate people's statementsbased on their platforms or whatever the fuck,

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and it's still a valid statement.What is going on with Janelle Mornade
that made her flash her boot?Well, all right, I don't even
know, but she's a super nakedbefore though, I've seen Janelle with me
posed nearly naked several times, soI mean I don't okay, Yeah,

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Like you know, she's taking likerisk risky photos. Was like roses,
you know how women like to posethe milker, the white water or whatever
the hell it is. Yeah,things like that. I've seen, like
he risky things, stuff like that. I haven't seen her like completely naked,
of course, but you know,seeing her seeing her dude something like

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that. And then she also claimsto be bisexual as well as sensuality and
pretty out there with a lot ofher music and a lot of her looks.
So I mean that that don't surpriseme that this is what Shanny's saying.
Can y'all see that? Yeah,I definitely think that there is some

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pressure in the music industry to dothese things. I mean, because why
else would they do it? Andmoney. People allow money to rule them
and the things that they do,so they compromise themselves in ways they wouldn't
ordinarily do so because of the pricetag being waved in front of their faces.

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I think there is. It takesa special type of person to say,
nah, I'm gonna stay at.I'm I'm gonna stay at a thought
I was in there one hundred thousandsor two hundred, three hundred, four
hundred thousand versus you know, twentymillion, to keep my dignity. I'm
just throwing out an example. Idon't know. I know, I know
there's new levels, new devils,but you know, I ain't in the

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ship, so I don't know,you know, ain't nobody coming up to
me asking me, can I sodomizeyou? I don't. I don't know
what. You know what I'm saying. I don't know what they got going
on, but I'm just saying that, you know, so you have people
like that, and I really thinkit's she has always been sexually open,
So maybe this is who she's alwaysbeen and she's put herself in the box

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for her image. Like who knows? Possibly no, because I don't see
nothing wrong with showing a little titty. You know what I'm saying. It's
just a titty. We see themall day, you know, people out
You know what I'm saying. It'sthe day we live in. You know,
that's abroad as a new shirt.So you know, I'm at a

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current third and somebody class little titty, Oh flop, it's a titty.
But I'm not about to be like, what's wrong with her for flashing her
city? Now, she would havetook our pants off or something like that.
I might have questioned that, butnot for a little titty. Yeah,
but you don't you think that's aslippery slope, like today is the
titty Tomorrow's legit badge? You knowwhat I'm saying, the next dame,

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and then I would question it.But the city is not gonna a titty,
is not about to put me inOh my god, I need to
Carver Hill. Who Now, ifyou flash y'all titty baby, I would
call you because what the fuck?Okay? But but let me ask you
this. Then the twenty years ago, look him was flashing our titties.

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No, no, no, no, no, I'm saying, twenty twenty
years ago, that's what oh threeand one little him out here, whatever
Kim was it was. That wasthat not like unbelievable, there was,
but everybody praised it. Though you'retalking about she has to dress on with
the one city. Yeah, andthat's that's what I'm That's what I'm talking

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about. That's slip the mother.You can't say you ain't wanna bite that
mother. Yeah, I was.I wasn't a kid. I was.
I was a kid. You know, like you don't know me. But
I'm saying, though, My pointis everybody praised that. I mean,

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the most beautiful person on the redcarpet that night. So whatever Janelle Mo
they did, if it was aperformance or whatever, I don't know because
I didn't see it. I don't. I don't really you know, follow
her like that or no her musiclike that. But I think he's saying
like she's she hasn't never done nothinglike that, so what is you know

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what? That's basically what he issaying, Like, what's the is?
But I could see if like,if she was out there like that,
then it probably wouldn't be nothing.I think, you know what I'm saying.
But him saying she ain't out therelike that, what the fuck is
she doing? But I don't knowbecause I've never you know, I don't

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follow her like that and those shipSo yeah, yeah, I mean,
I just know that this is oneof those circumstances where we're gonna look back
and say, well, when didthe United States, or specifically the black
community, even though she I don'teven know what she what she represents,
But we're gonna look back and say, hey, you know what, there
was a point in time where modestyand you know, looking a certain way

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and dignified was the pillar of theblack community, and they and we kind
of evolved, not not even kindof we've knows died into debaugery and just
just looking crazy. Now, youknow what, I mean, so if
I had, you know, adaughter, man, that's scary. You

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know, she's just watching regular televisionand she's seeing a woman get praise and
all this adulation and she don't quiteunderstand the nuances of why. And she's
getting all of this because she's flashingher her boom, you know what I
mean, Like what's what's gonna happen? And so I think of it like
that, like damn, you knowwhat I'm saying. Our little daughters,

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you know what I'm saying, arelearning these things, you know what,
and it's becoming more socially acceptable.And that's scary to me. It's scary
as fucky, you know, assomeone with a daughter. You saw Mad's
gonna be fourteen. Yeah, that'scrazy, that's crazy. Baby. They

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got the girl came out. Can'teven wrap. I think it's all's called
Poundtown. I still listen to mymusic and so the things that they want
to play when they get in mycar, Madison, all her friends and
even my eighteen year old these schoolhere and I think, like this is
what's out, Like this has passedFCC protocol, you know what I'm saying.

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And this is the same girl whoI think wrapped in the audience barefoot
at the BET Awards, like youwhen you said nose dive, Like,
we have definitely nose dive because thedignity has been out there like unfortunately you
know our daughters, I mean,my little Kim showed a little bit of
titty in a rose pedal, butyou got full on ass out what Cardi

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B and Nicki Minaj and all ofthis, Like it's a whole new day.
And it's sad for our generation becausewhen it comes to love, when
it comes to marriage, we seethese celebrities and we see this bullshit and
this is what's idolized so much sobecause of social media and for people like
you and I there is no dignityno more. And you're looking at it
like what the fuck right? Andso if we aren't good parents, our

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kids would be like washed away?Right? What kids at just right?
Because they are maybe? Yeah,Well, in as much as I agree
with all of you, I dowant to say this, this world's been
going on forever for we got hereand it's gonna continue to go on.
So that would that would be youknow, a bit much to assume that

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we're just gonna disappear, that ain'tgonna happen. What the world will look
like? I think different. Andagain I always say I'm more optimistic than
not. So yeah, I'm I'mgonna ask you guys all a question,
starting with you Dale, and Iguess we're all kind of in a relationship,

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but so we'll say this, youDale, why did you want a
relationship? Uh? From what?From what position? For? Like just
in general from the job? Yeah, from the jump, like, why
did you want to be in arelationship? Because it's corny, but I

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know I really talk. I wantedto be a husband like I when I
was younger, I didn't really havethat mindset of like I wanted to kind
of run around and jump around.I didn't have like a bunch of girlfriends.
They don't even fill up a hand, you know what I'm saying.
So, yeah, I wanted tofind the right person that fit that path
for me, uh and allowed meto to do that. Honestly, it's

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just whatever it took, it wasn'ta big deal for me. Okay,
Okay, that's a good answer.I think everybody, am I crazy?
H Are you crazy? And no, I think his screen had froze Cory,

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why did you want to do?Why did you want to do?
You an hour? I'm not ina relationship. I'm single in the mother
look every body, everything happen.Oh no, I was asking Corey why
did he want to? Okay,Corey, before you got married? You

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see, we gotta be specific withyou. Well that's a whole different story.
But I'm gonna tell you this though, I do want a relationship because
my screen freeze. I think indeed, I wasn't sure what delayed five minutes.

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So I'll be wanting a relationship becauseI ain't gonna say a lot.
I do like being single, butat the same time, it'd be born
in the motherfucker. I do beon the relationship, and I guess while
I'm not in one's because I'm nottrying to force it and shit and just

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you know what I'm saying, justletting the chips fall where they lay.
Whatever happened kind of happened with meat this point in my life, you
know what I'm saying. I gota lot going on, but mainly for
the companionship, the you know,the the building, the bond and shit

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like that. A best friend sometimes, you know what I'm saying a woman,
because after we all supposed to youknow what I'm saying, we all
supposed to be with somebody. Manis supposed to be with a woman.
You know what I'm saying. It'sit's that's the code. Okay, So
until the final one, then look, I'm gonna chill. And just to

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clarify the reason why I'm asking thesequestions is because a lot of times we're
out looking for stuff and we don'tknow why we want it or what we
want in it, you know.So it's kind of hard to hit the
mark when you don't even know whatthe hell you want and what you're looking
for, you know what I mean, that's very important, Brandon. I

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think that's problem my fault. Holdon, I think that's a problem with
me too. I really don't knowwhat i want. I'm just going with
it. Okay, So you writethat down? Yeah, I mean,
you know, I mean shit.I let me see, when when I

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was looking for my wife, Ihad an idea. I was really strategic
too. I wanted that out theway early. I knew that whatever I
was going to be doing was gonnatake up more time than I could devote
to creating a relationship. So Ikind of created a list, a short

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list of someone with certain characteristics,and when I saw that, I cultivated
that relationship to see where it wouldgo, see if it made sense for
us to kind of, you know, pursue, because I was at that
time, I was making a decisionafter whether or not I was going to
one hundred percent focus on building whoI became or who I who am I

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becoming, or whether or not Iwas going to you know, involve another
person in that journey. So ata very young age, I made that
decision. So when the old ladycame by my way, she was behaving
correctly and doing the things that Iwanted and had that you know, her

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chastity in check. I mean,it was simple. So because I like
Corey, you know, like likeCorey said, you know, you got
man has to have a woman.It's just it's just a requirement. It's
just one of those things I gottahappen. So I figured, you know,
why not go ahead and take thisone? You know what I mean,
it's take it off the shelf isright there, nice new polish.

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Nobody you know what I'm saying,No miles on it, nothing, you
know, so let me go aheadand take this and roll with this.
No miles on it grad no zeromiles. Man. I joined that talk
a lot hey behavior correctly as wildyou know what, I'm there, you

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you just at coming to America marklike a dog, a big dog,
My god. You know, honestly, I think like once me and Lloyd

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got together, I had got toa point where I was like, fine,
what they in because you know,you know, like y'all know except
for our friend here. You know, I had dated some scrubs and it
was all some bullsheet and I waslike, you know what, let me
go ahead and take accountability for thebullshit. I keep putting myself in it

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because at the end of the day, this is a whole I just probably
want to be with somebody because everybodydoing it, you know what I'm saying.
But I will say if everybody wasjumping off the bridge, no,
but probably like there's that whole companionshipwanting somebody, wanting to be with somebody
and all of that. But thenI got to a place where I was
like, Okay, you know what, let me figure me out, Like,

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let me figure out what I reallywant. Let me figure out what
I really can't deal with like mepersonally, you know, and then boom,
here come big Ill and then Iwas all on the fist like I
don't know, I don't know,I don't know, and then here we
are. You know, my anniversaryis on Thursday. It'll be three years.

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So so I would say thanks y'all, But for you, Corey,
like, honestly, at this space, you know who you are and the
type of person you want to bewith, take some time to date yourself,
like, because I'm gonna be honest, I can get on my own
nerves. Like earlier today I wasso mad at myself. I just wanted

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to go to sleep, but Icouldn't, you know what I'm saying.
So when you know things about yourself, you know like, Okay, it's
not him, it's me. Soyou you take this time to personally like
figure you out and the right personto come along. But the more we
seek and seek and seek, yougonna be seeing shit in these people that's
not there because you're just looking forit. And that's what I'm saying.

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That's why. Ain't you know?Now? You you don't dropped on fun?
I ain't even a real don't fun? Yeah, because don't play with
me. But the ain't ain't nothinglike you know, you know, you

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know, funny enough though for realyou Dale had said something about since he
was young, When I was young, I really wasn't checking for no dude.
For real, dudes was always checkingfor me. That was my introductions
into relationships. Like I don't know, I was just always kind of in

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my head and adventurous and stuff likethat. They were always checking for me
since like middle school, and Iwould I would give what a dude and
break up with him after two weeksso he would leave me alone. Yeah,
you know, because I'm I mean, we was kids, you know.
And then high school I did start, like you know, everybody was

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starting to do and being relationships orhigh school. I had a high school
sweetheart. But as I got outof high school and stuff and developed that
relationship and had that relationship and seeinghow like great it was and just to
have the companion, and I waslike, Okay, this was cool.
I do want that, you know, And to what we were saying,

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like you just when you don't belooking for it, that's when it popped
up here. That's when Byron popsup. I wasn't looking for shit and
here he comes, he boo,and now we married. So yeah,
I mean, stuff will come toyou when you're not pressed about it,
you know, but it's important Idid know when. Also, I want

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to be clear and say when Iknew what I wanted, that's also when
it came to because when you don'tknow what you want and you kind of
going with the flow, it'd bedumb stuff going on. It'd be a
lot of dumb stuff, you know. So I had to take accountability,
look at myself, figure out whatI wanted, and I stuck to that

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and I'm gonna win and team sinceFebruary two thousand and nine. So yeah,
you know, that's how it works. So you know, you have
to know who you are, andwhen you get married, it's like that
constant learning and growing with your partnerbecause I'm not the same person I was

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when we got married, hopefully,you know what I'm saying. But you
grow and you build together and youhave those haire conversations, you know what
I'm saying. Like I think myrelationship smooths grow so smoothly because when Lloyd
started getting on my nerves, youknow, immediately like you're getting on my
motherfucking nerves and we can talk aboutit, you know what I'm saying,

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And it's good. Like you know, he'd be like, baby, I'm
about to knock your at off yourmotherfucking shoulders, and I'd be like,
oh shit, what did I do? You know? But it's that clear.
The communication is that clear that no, niggas is not going to bed
mass shit, have to cuddle tonight. But just know when you said that

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ship earlier, it pissed me off. Yeah, yeah, I definitely don't
think you should go to bed mad. Yeah, high in their relationships,
you know what I'm saying. Ithink that's why a lot of people are
toxic. It's like, oh,I'm gonna walk on eggshells because I want
my husband be happy. No shit, hell no, because if I ain't
happy, he ain't happy. Yelledthe fuck no, so do No,

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this is gonna cause a greater problem. And because we have been able to
catch those things before anything blow up, because especially the age difference between the
two of us, like Lloyd isso traditional and I'm still a millennial.
So hey, I'm gonna shake alittle ass and I'm gonna show a little

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skin. Go what I'm saying,I'm so we gotta find a balance.
You know, so, well,how much skin can I show? You
know what I'm saying, how muchCitty can be out? You know what
I'm saying. And this is wherewe at with it. You know what
I'm saying. But it's it's organic. So I'm I'm happy and it's like

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a truth to it. And whenpeople, you know, really come out
of their shelves and be with peoplethat they really love and that they know
they can grow with. How longhave y'all been married? You know what
I'm saying. It takes time youyou continue to grow. You can tell
you to lie, but you gothardhead of Myselfer's out here that's not willing
to do it. Let's go backto what it's just me because if I
kept that with this's just me conversation, I'd be back over to the garage,

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baby, not back over the grash. You know what. No,
but you know what, I think. What's also important that I want to
highlight that you didn't say, butwe're saying that's what works for y'all.
So every nobody's relationship is not thesame, and I think that's important to
know I say this every damn episode. We cannot expect everybody's relationship to be

(35:09):
the same. What works for youmay not work for me, and vice
versa. But you gotta know yourself. Yes, that's the thing people be
getting in relationships. I'm about tostart talking to Brandon because Brandon told me
that he wanted his wife to wearher job. He wanted his wife to
do this, and now I'm justdoing it. But I'm not happy on

(35:30):
the job, right, But youdon't know. But because I think Brandon
is attractive and this is who Iwant to be with, I'm gonna be
the person that he wants me tobe. And now we years in and
I'm unhappy, right or vice versa? Oh with with Fine, shit with

(35:51):
with Moland, whatever these niggas befan. I'm gonna do what I gotta
do to keep falling in at Andnow you up fit right because you are
are you wanted was a wet dickand now you stuck in some shit.
You mad punching holes and walls andshit. No, so it works because
you know what works for you.And that's what people are missing in relationships.

(36:15):
They're losing self trying to make othershappy Now, I ain't got no
identity. No, it's a weething. We are one, but I'm
still me right right? I meanyes? Can we stop getting with people
and want them to be who wewant them to be? Oh? You
fine? Oh you know you gota nice body? He ripped up.

(36:38):
Oh she got a fat ass.But then you want them to do this
and do that. That's not whothey are. You know what I'm saying.
Somebody is coming in here, y'all? Thirty more? Oh instead of
trying to change, you know,changing a person or whatever. You can't

(36:59):
change person, but that person canmake some adjustments. I think it's more
adjustments than change. I've made severaladjustments, baby, personally good. Hey,
hey, thirty five to one,what's going on? How y'all going

(37:22):
good? Thanks for joining? Areyou welcome? I'm a Summers. I've
been getting the email like, letme think me join? All right,
So let's let's turn it up anotch. Okay, why does mean?

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Why do men have an issue withwomen being independent? Would you rather women
be dependent? How is independence athreat to manhood? Well? I'm gonna

(38:08):
assume when you say independent you meandoing it without a man. I'm gonna
assume. Am I in my rightto assume that? Or well, that's
the thing. I think that isthe assumption. I think the I think
we make it so far to left. I'm independent. I don't need no
man, right, And I don'tthink that's always the case, because I

(38:34):
believe a woman can still have acertain level of independence within within a strong
lili a strong like something that's liketightening the sand each other. They know
the laws of their household, andthey know how to carry themselves within that
outside of their household as well.Uh, I believe there's a third level

(39:00):
of independence that can't be had.Yeah, okay, it's I think it's.
Uh, it's level to that.I'm independent. Shit with women because
you could be Yeah, you couldbe independent, because shit, you single,

(39:21):
the fuck you You're gonna be independentif you single? I mean you
know what I'm saying. If you'resingle, you're gonna be it. If
you're a single woman, yes,you're gonna be independent. You're gonna be
paying your own ship, handling yourown business, doing whatever. And if
you call that independent, I don't. I don't I call that. You
know you're fucking grown up because you'resupposed to do right right, you know

(39:43):
what I'm saying, But another levelof independence to where yeah, you know,
yeah, yeah, yeah, I'lltake care of my kids on my
own. That daddy ain't here,he don't do shit, la la,
And then it's just that same inthat same conversation is no, you don't
because the daddy is here. Hey'all might not be together, but the

(40:07):
daddy is still there. You understandwhat I'm saying. It's that little level
or independent you know, it's justdifferent little independent levels. I you know,
I feel so yeah, that's relationship, yeah, because I believe two
people could be together yet there besome sort of cohesiveness that allows, like

(40:30):
I was saying, that allows forthat independence within that relationship, if he
will. I don't think everything hasto be bogged down to just one entire
way per se. Now, wouldit be great if everybody was working on
the same thing in the household andeverybody was progressing. I'm sure it would

(40:52):
be. But like rock you,you you do your thing, and I'm
pretty sure your husband does something completelydifferent, you see what I'm saying.
And whenever you have something going onthat deals with business or anything like that,
I'm pretty sure, that's a certainlevel of independence needed to be able
to handle business. And I mean, I'm sure you trust you because he

(41:12):
trusts you with how the household istightly woven, right, you see what
I'm saying. So I believe thatyou that that that the level of independence
you are able to have allows youto be able to handle your business and
also built the household. So Ibelieve there's a certain level of independence in
relationships that can be had. ButI just think that that's it's it's a

(41:35):
tight rope, you know what Imean. That's something that like with was
saying, you know, you gottareally know yourself. You gotta know what
you desire, and you gotta knowwhat you what your partner desires, you
know what I'm saying. So yeah, that's it. Yeah. I think
for the for the black community,I think that independence, strong independ the

(42:00):
thing is relatively new, and itseems that it takes a negative connotation,
specifically with the Black community and specificallywith the black woman. Humans aren't typically
independent. We're inter the dependent.We rely on one another. You need
a you need a farmer for thefood, You need a carpenter for the

(42:23):
home, you need you know,you know, we all rely on one
another, but we also have tobe subject matter experts of certain things.
So you're gonna have to be individualisticin that. But this idea that being
independent, and doesn't that mean thatit's that if that if if you don't

(42:46):
want somebody who's not independent that they'redependent, that assumes that this that someone
who is not independent, that they'redoing something that isn't agreed upon between the
unit that you know, I don'twe don't need you know, two star
point guards. No, we needwe need one and I need a center

(43:08):
or I need a power forward orI need you know, you know what
I mean. And it seems thatthe water is getting muddy when we when
we start talking about you know,uh, these these roles and these ideas
and being independent versus you know,being interdependent. The the way that this

(43:29):
thing is going to work is witha whole lot of traditional mechanics. It
is a whole lot of traditional stuffneeds to come back in order for the
Black community, as far as I'mconcerned, to resurrect itself, because it's
a whole lot of individuals destroying thisthing. You know, we need communities,

(43:51):
we need groups coming together working ona single issue or working together to
resolve these these major pitfalls that wefind ourselves in right now. Yeah,
I agree, I agree with that. I agree with everybody on that subject.

(44:14):
But I don't. I don't thinkbeing independent or having an independent woman
or interdependent however you want to wewant to verse it it's a threat.
I think some some just used tosome people. Some relationships are built on
certain responsibilities, and then some relationshipsare built on a togetherness or some type

(44:36):
of uh a different understanding. Soit depends on it. I think it
depends on a relationship. But forme personally, I don't. I have
no problem with a independent, independentwoman like like like he said, he
said, uh, most things islike being wrong and that's and that's basically
it. But you know, beinga being a threat, I don't.

(44:58):
I don't think it's a threat.I think some more of a partly s
partly independent goals in the way thatwe use the word. But uh yeah,
so yeah, I think it's weuse it in a very broad sense.
When we say independent, we bringout the snapping of the neck.

(45:21):
I don't need no man, andI don't think that's always the case because
you don't want someone who's dependent.I know women that are dependent, you
know what I'm saying, Almost tothe point you have to tell them what
to think. They can't do nothing, They always need somebody to do something
for them. You don't want noman like that. Don't know, woman,
We are adults, okay, andI'm I'm not gonna be your daddy

(45:45):
in this relationship, and I'm notgonna be your mama in this relationship.
We need to be fully capable adultscoming together so we can really get some
stuff to shake, some stuff tomove, you know. And I think
that needs to be more talked aboutthen these ridiculous stereotypes. I don't need
no man. Fuck that. Theseniggas ain't shit like. That's not what

(46:08):
is this about, you know whatI mean? And so when you look
at it and you use a word, you gotta know the it's opposite.
The opposite of independent would be depended. So you don't want nobody dependent,
you know. So I just wantedto kind of bring that up, and
that was interesting. Whitney, didyou have anything to say on the matter.

(46:35):
I mean, honestly, for me, I think it's I think people
are just misusing their words like yousaid you don't want to be a dependent.
But I think in a situation likethat, because it's mostly women,
it's the matter of leadership in theirrelationship. You know what I'm saying,

(46:55):
Like that idea of my husband saidthis and I want to do that,
and not having that leadership like youknow, I should be able to go
to my husband and tell him,well, this is an idea that I
have, and then we work towardssaid, Okay, well this is what

(47:15):
we're gonna do, because you're lookingtowards your spouse to essentially lead, like
but as a team, we're makingdecisions together. But when push comes to
stuff, you know, I'm notI'm not doing a man's job. So
I will never sit here and belike I'm wearing the pants because at the

(47:38):
very end of the day, ifit got to be dependent and independent,
go ahead and let me be adependent by me on your taxes, honey.
But it's when I hear that nowyou know what I'm saying, as
a just a regular person, itreally should be these people saying I don't
want to be led because no onewants to be dependent, but they also

(48:00):
don't want that leadership that comes withthat relationship. And some of these men
aren't able to lead because they don'tknow how, and so they're missing that
leadership part as well. So youknow, we should draw a line in
the sand between leadership and independence.And that's how I feel. Thank you,

(48:22):
I thank you for that. Ialso and thank you Brandon for bringing
up the term interdependent. I alsowant to comment to leadership. To be
a good leader, you need tobe able to listen to. You need
to be able to take in considerationthe people or the person that you are

(48:43):
leading to be a proper leader.See, and I think people shy away
from this because the worst submit isdefined by accept or yield to a superior
force or to the authority or willof another person. And see, if
you go by that definition and youhave the wrong fool that's a leader leading,

(49:09):
you're in big trouble because I cannotaccept or yield to someone who thinks
they're superior and they're not, andto their authority and their will, you
know what I'm saying. So yougotta be able to have compassion, empathy,

(49:30):
listen to the person that you're leading. Let's talk about us, Hey,
babe, this is the direction Iwant to go. This is how
I feel we should get there.How do you feel about that? Now
your wife might not agree with it, or she might have some discontent.
It shouldn't automatically feel like a challengeto you because she's expressing what she's uncomfortable

(49:52):
with. Let's talk this out andwork this out. So I think that's
it. I think maybe some peopleare nightmared to death and they just don't
want to be dictated to. Theydon't want to be in a totalitarian relationship.
They don't want to be submitting toa tyrant, you know. But
I think most people, if theyhad someone that they knew would lead properly,
it wouldn't be an issue. Soa lot of this stuff, I

(50:15):
just think people are scared. It'salways about fear, isn't it. It
always boils down to fear. Wait, hold on, hold on, let's
pause real quick, because you saidsomething real interesting right at the end.
You said, someone who leads properly. What does that mean? To lead
properly? Just what I was saying, Just to have compassion, understanding,

(50:35):
taking in consideration the person that orpeople that you are leading. You know,
you can't lead in a tyrannical fashion. That's not gonna work. You
see them, That doesn't make agood Tyrants are not good leaders. No,
actually, tyrants are great leaders,which is the reason they have some
neat people following them. The pointthat the only reason I bring that up

(50:58):
is because usually when we talk aboutleadership and the characteristics and the pillars of
leadership, we kind of leave outthe fact that the leader is considering not
only the emotions or the how everybodyfeels, but also what they want to

(51:20):
be the outcome. So a lotof times, especially when it comes to
leaders, there there there, youknow, microscopically looked at or you know,
oh, well he made me feellike this, or she made me
feel like that. Know that leadersare I mean, because I'll give I

(51:42):
got to give myself up for thisone. You know, most leaders don't
have the ability to consider emotion alwaysor consider the the thoughts and the feelings
and the ideas of individuals depending onthe severity of the task that needs to
get completed. So that's that's butthat I just wanted to add that little

(52:07):
little nugget of information out. Youknow, certainly there are leaders who are
absolutely terrible monsters, but it doesn'tmean that they're any less capable of leadership.
Yeah, I don't. Dictators isnot dictatorship, and tyrannical behavior is

(52:29):
not good leadership because there is noway you think that your ideal, your
ideal, This is my ideal howthe world should be, and it should
be like that for everybody, andanybody who has a problem with that,
I'm gonna cut them down. That'snot good leadership because we are all different.
It's gotta be something that works forthe majority. Everybody. Not gonna

(52:50):
make it happy, but it's gottawork for the majority. So dictatorships,
that's where I disagree. If ifI'm properly disagreeing. You see you wanted
to say something, let me mutemy mike, go ahead, you dale,

(53:14):
you know it only all right,am I can y'all hear me,
Can y'all hear me? All right? All right? All right? So
when it when it comes down,when it comes down to not being okay
with a dictator or something being oneway for everyone, the only thing that

(53:37):
gets me a little left and rightabout that is that I imagine most people,
not everybody, but most people believeon like the Holy Bible or believe
on God the most High, right. And you know it's funny is that
most people, if they read theHoly Scriptures what they really were, they

(54:00):
might even call God a dictator.Nah, that's just me, that's just
me pointing that out because you know, in the scripts many people broke the
law and words kill Nah. Thatthat's what dictators do. That's and that's

(54:21):
what dictators do. Now a lotof people don't agree with that, but
if you open those scripts up andyou read, you'll realize that God didn't
play no games, and you didn'treally get too many chances except for the
dispensation of grace as they call it, that you're in today. Right,
Well, thank God for the NewTestament. Yeah, that's yes, thank

(54:44):
God for a grace period. Let'ssay that correct, because a grace period
does not mean that His way isdone away with. That just means you
have a little bit of time toget it right before judgment is exact.
But that's you know, I meantmy mic thought. I think that's a
good point. I do, butagain that that's based on a belief all

(55:08):
people whole you know what I'm saying. But in every belief, I'm sorry,
no, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead, I said,
look at it, because in everybelief, if like even though even though
I don't, I don't follow.I've studied a lot, but I you
know, I follow the scripts.But in every belief there's just one thing

(55:30):
that happens. They all have aweight. Every belief has a weight.
Now I don't know, I don'tknow who well, I don't know what
you what your worship or what thecomment say. People will buy down based
off the man having a certain timeor a believe, whether he lives up
to it or not. They don'tseem to care much about the person's character
after the present in the circle.I guess, I guess I bounced on

(55:54):
that letter. But I gotta Igotta finish my statement. But what I'm
what I'm pretty much saying is inevery belief there's away and everybody that in
any scenario, if anybody goes againstthe grain in anything that's considered solitary a
way that is communicating, and thatcould even be in the most peaceful of

(56:15):
civilizations, if you decide to becomehonorary where they where they mainly like to
stay calm and work things out,and you seem like you're not easily easily
you know, uh, you're nothandsome in that manner, then they're going
to push you out. So Idon't know, I don't know. The
dictator thing seems kind of kind ofkind of green lines to me. So

(56:38):
it is, and I think Ithink you know when you I mean Satan,
Satan, Satan is a leader.He has a following. But I
think we're talking more or less thecharacter versus the the attributes, and those

(56:58):
are two completely different things. So, you know, I understand what you're
saying, rock heel, but leadershipis much more. I mean, it's
actually it's actually really straightforward. Itreally is, because buy and large,
it just it is just, youknow, how well an individual can convince
others to do things for them,and how it depends on what a dictator

(57:23):
and a leader. The only differenceis how that person feels after the task
is complete. That's really the difference. I hear what everyone is saying,
and so it seems like the pointthat everyone is making is kind of the

(57:43):
same, but it just sounds differentlybecause leadership is what it is. But
when you're confident in who you are, that's where you draw the line.
So Brandon's form of leadership might notwork for me. So I know,
I'm not gonna be in our relationshipor you know, mex with Brandon because

(58:06):
it doesn't work for me. Youknow, you have to be confident in
who you are and that's when you'rewilling to have that leadership. You know,
Submitting Women don't just submit to men, And that's that idea is some
bullshit to me because in a marriage, I think that men in marriage just

(58:28):
submit way more than women. Andhear me out, men are way more
tempted than women are to go outand do whatever the fuck they wanna do
when it comes to the household.Yeah, we have great men who take
care of their kids and whatever whatever, but a lot of that still solely

(58:49):
kind of falls on another. Somen are able to go out, have
a little bit more fun, doa little bit more, be a little
bit more social where they're introduced toa lot more in a marriage than we
are as women. So that ideaof being submissive, yeah, that definition

(59:10):
and all of that is cute,But I think that men submit in marriage
is way more than women, especiallyfor that happiness, and that's something that
we as women should see. Butsome people don't because then we have this
ideal world where everything on the internetor everything that people say is true and
this is what we believe. Sowhen we hear the words submit, that

(59:32):
means I just need to bow downto my husband and everything that he say
is law, and we missing thewhole communication factor because, as you said,
Rackhel in the beginning of the life, a marriage is a business.
Yes, I love my husband,but this is still a business and you
not gonna make business decisions without yourbusiness partner. So even though I may

(59:53):
be the CEO, I'm gonna gotalk to my CFO and we're gonna go
and see what works best for ourbusiness. But notice I still said the
CEO, because that's still generally theleader of this business. So when you're
in a good common situationship, becauseas a friend, I'm gonna come to

(01:00:17):
my friend, Hey, friends X, Y and Z, and then you're
gonna say back to your friends A, B and C, we're still making
decisions together. You're not putting yourselfin anything where people are telling you what
to do. Are e dependent.So when you're strong or whatever, some
people need a dictator. Some peopleneed that kind of leadership in their life

(01:00:40):
because of past traumas. Some peoplehave not gotten over so much shit well
past their relationship that some people needa bid in the fucking pat on the
back and some people don't. Butyou have to know who you are and
what kind of person you have tobe with, and then that determines whatever.

(01:01:01):
You know, some women don't needto be hell, you know what
I'm saying, and some people don't. So when we talk about leadership,
yeah, I mean dictatorship whatever.But you know you're not gonna come in
the house and tell me to puton yellow and whatever. But that's me.

(01:01:22):
But some women, Okay, honey, you like yellow? Chet You
know how if Lloyd taught me toput on yellow, I might do that.
Shit. I'll be happy to seehim happy. Hell you like yellow,
fucking yellow, it is. Butthat doesn't mean I'm just submitting you.
Everybody wanna make they made happy.If Queyla just said, ay b,
I like when you wear the oneshort shit. Every time I take
them first off, I'm putting themin a washing machine. I'm having him

(01:01:44):
on the mile, right, That'sright, that's and so you're in a
sense submitting to your wife. It'snot backing for thing, If people don't
want to if people don't want tosee that business aspect of the relationship,
it's a It goes back to thisis just me. And that's why a
lot of this these are just me. People are divorced, they're unhappy,

(01:02:07):
they're miserable, they try to bringother people down, and it's some bullshit.
So with But so here's the biggestcomponent. Right, So I ask
you who gets the last say youwant to go left? He wants to
go right. Both people got goodreasons why one should go left the other

(01:02:30):
one should go right. You believeit with your whole being. He believes
it with his whole being. Whatdirection y'all go? I me personally with
me, We're going left because myhusband has never steered me wrong, no
matter how bad I tell him.That right side might be the right side
to go on. At the veryend of the day, I know that

(01:02:52):
he has never steered me wrong.So we're gonna go left, We're gonna
go up, We're gonna go downwhichever way after that. If we can't
come to no filid ground. Wehad a fork in a row. I'm
i'm I'm rocking with what he sayand I'm I'm fine with saying that.
So y'all can call me weak,y'all can call me whatever, but I'm
my husband. My husband has neversteered me wrong. So we left,

(01:03:16):
We left all the way. Therewe go, There we go. That's
the right. Where's the round ofapplause? Rocket? You're supposed to have
him? You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I'll give it, I'll
do it. God damn that girl. Good. I think in h something.

(01:03:37):
It's real quick, man, that'sright. You hear that. There
we go. I can hear thatwe're going left. God damn it because
he said so. I think.I think it's some instances, you know,
couples, couples or whatever, marriagesor whatever, have to have to

(01:04:00):
come to some type of terms whereyou have to agree to disagree, sometimes
a compromise. Yeah, you knowwhat I'm saying. I remember having a
conversation with a friend of mine thatwe was talking about. I was I
was trying to explain something. Icouldn't quite get it out of the way.
I was trying to explain it.But I'm like, sometimes, man,

(01:04:23):
you need to listen to your womanand shit, because you might be
trying to go one way and shemight see something down that way and be
like, nah, that ain't theright way. But you so I get
it. You're a man. Yougotta be you know, you gotta be
hard or or whatever you gotta be, you know, the leader. But
at some point you're trying to dictatelike you was saying, and that shit

(01:04:45):
ain't gonna work. She might seesomething you don't see. But Lloyd has
been like that though it has beensituations where no, I'm not saying you,
I'm not saying you will know that, But that's the cympromise you're talking
about. And you see my pointof view, like, okay, you
know what, Yes, we aregonna do this, and now this is
a decision that we make together.But some people are weak and some people

(01:05:09):
aren't willing to see that and bewilling to see those points of view.
So I can put myself in asituation with somebody who just be like,
are we going to left all thetime? And when I tell you we
should go right and then we runinto a hot hole. They could tell
you on and they running in thehot holes every month. I don't want

(01:05:29):
to get out of it. Youhave to be solid in yourself. Hey,
I'm not about to keep sucking withthis motherfucker who No, But it'd
be people out here who continue todo it. Both men and women just
being dumb, just be wanting thatcompanionship, just be wanting that relationship.
People don't with friends. I don'twant to keep saying just men and women

(01:05:50):
relationships. Like people have friends theyknow good and well, they should not
be friends with. Oh but thisperson is fine. We go out,
we have a good time. Butat the end of the day, when
I'm at home crying and shit,can I pick up my phone and call
my friends? You know what I'msaying, Like, these relationships you build
and they're genuine. I don't knowhow many times you, Brandon, have

(01:06:12):
seen me cry and shit. Ican never know how many times you,
Rickelle have seen me cry. Youknow what I'm saying. But that's where
you test your relationship when people giveyou solid advice. I'm not gonna ever
steer you down the wrong road.How many times have I rebelled against all
of y'all advice? I don't knowhow many times y'all have said, wait,

(01:06:33):
you stupid, itsuck? Rickell Baby, Hello, and Brandon, I
I Hello, you know what I'msaying? And how many times you have
to just continue to bump your headinto you'd be like, you know what,
hello? But these are my solidfriends. This is a solid relationship.
And people don't build these things.It's all about self. And some

(01:06:58):
people are so self and fucking titledthat they don't even know theyselves. When
I get on my own nerves,honey, I got to go to sleep
because I ain't because hoop shit,because I'm not about to rub this off
on nobody else. And I knowthese things, so I'm not about to
go on lowy space and irritake thefuck out of him. Now. Sometimes
I do just because because I can'tlay down. But I'm gonna tell him

(01:07:18):
up front, you know what,I'm on some bullshit right now, and
he think it's funny, and thenhere we are talking and now we're laughing
about it. But you have tohave these kind of self and re you
know, you gotta know who youare to be in relationships with anybody.

(01:07:39):
Some people just stupid as fun.And I'm sorry to y'all out here because
some of y'all about to listen tothis and be offended. But you're stupid
as fuck shit. Well, youknow what, I will say this,
and I'm really not trying to befunny or be arrogant or anything like that,
so please don't take it this way. But I've always had an heightened
level of discernment. If I don'tknow what I'm talking about and I don't

(01:08:01):
have any strong feelings, I don'tput my input on it, or I
was saying in a way that givesme wiggle room. But I have noticed
with some men in my family,I have told them stuff time and time
again. I I ain't been wrongyet, and they still don't listen,
honey, because I'm ad don't listenhuh, because I'm ad too about them

(01:08:27):
and your family, Okay, becausewe don't all told them something read I
mean, it's ridiculous, and it'slike, but but these same women that
you don't listen to, then yourun to them and want to vent to
them, and you want them tobe in your situations to fix this.
If it's that, No, ifyou cannot listen to me, don't come
to me up with on the backend, I don't even want to hear

(01:08:48):
the shit you So I don't know. There there is a certain wisdom that
women carry, and I feel like, okay, we in a relationship.
Let's bring it back to you,a relationship because I had to bring the
men up in my family, butI ain't a relationship with them. You
come to me with an ideal andI express to you what I my discomfort,

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and this is what I see.This is the trajectory I see.
And then my trajectory turns out tobe right. Okay. Then you come
up with another idea. I tellyou my trajectory, You do what you
wanna do, okay, and Istill become right. At what point,
Dough, maybe I should take thisperson into consideration. You know what I'm

(01:09:36):
saying, So you got to Ithink it's very fact. What point do
you the person who keeps saying thisis what we should do and then they
do the opposite, What point doyou say, Okay, I'm done telling
you whatever, and you're not gonnalisten. So I got a bounce that
too. Because we can't keep puttingeverything on everything everybody else. We have

(01:09:57):
to take accountability for our ship too. I'm not about to keep telling you
you sucking up, and you're gonnakeep sucking up. Like now we're not
doing that. Yeah, I'm losingmoney, I'm losing sleep. I'm no
like peace, peace means a lottoday when you gonna go down the street
and hear ship coming from people's cardcalled power fowl baby, I need my
peace. See Yeah, So I'mdefinitely not gonna have that in my house,

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right. Yeah. I think it'sa it's a balance with peace and
everything like that. But I alsodo believe that a true leader, a
good leader will listen to whoever he'strying to lead also and get their input
on some things on or you know, get some type of ideas or ideals

(01:10:42):
or you know, asking questions andthen probably taking the consideration. I think
a good leader do you know,you know, taking you know, like
like CEO a CEO do taking thefact of a CFO and financial moves and
this that and other. So Ithink it's it's not just the leaders,
it's also who he leads to andwho he who he depends and counts on

(01:11:05):
to help him, help him runthat machine or run that boat, or
drive that boat, or run thatrelationship or however you go. Yes,
women need to respect their men andbe willing to listen and compromise and men

(01:11:29):
need to respect their women and bewilling to listen to compromise. I think
it's it goes both ways. Ijust I really do, and I'm not
gonna back down off of that.So for the men that are single,
what attributes of a woman would makeyou settle down? Like right now?

(01:11:51):
Would just be like, Hey,I'm putting my my single card up?
Like what would get you to hangit up for my single man? So
let's go with it's what you mean? What you mean as far as one
thing or is it a however manythings like you come across a woman.

(01:12:14):
It could be three things. Itcould be one thing. What about a
woman will stop you in your tracks. Let's say you you go out in
the data couple of times and you'dbe like, oh, I gotta hang
it up. Like what would thatbe? Maybe her input on how she
feels as far as with with theworld, how the world working, or
how the world runs or how theworld goes, her input and her you

(01:12:39):
know, her opinion about that andand and how she speak. Also,
you know, physicals are always inthere, but you know it's it's more
of it's more of an intellectual typeof thing because I don't I ain't.
You know, I don't want tobe you know, I want to be
able to suck business with mines,you know what I'm saying. So you
know, you gotta be able totalk a little bit. So her outlook

(01:13:03):
on life, her her general consensuson how the world works, and her
business sense correct and physical. Don'tforget that too, Okay, Okay,
well if she had all that,then you know that falls in line.
But go yeah, go ahead.I'm sorry, Okay, Corey. I

(01:13:27):
can't do nothing but agree with whatmy bed thirty five one said. You
know, it's basically s he tookdo what he said. What I was
gonna say. You know, it'sthe physical, but it's also the you
know, your mental your mental aspect. Can we talk? Can we have
a conversation without the the right rightrod? Can your you know, can

(01:13:53):
your your decibels don't need the riseif we just sitting here having a conversation.
If we disagreement, you know,say, it's okay to disagree.
It's not an argument, you knowwhat I mean, Like it's that little
shit. Okay, that's what Ithink. Anyway, Okay, I understand,

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I know me, I know someof these conversations I don't even fit
into. But I know one thingabout Byron his intellect. I always say,
you know, his heart and stufflike that. You know, he's
always like trying to save the world. I love it. But he's he's
very intelligent. You know. Ican't deal with no dummy because I mean,

(01:14:45):
when you get done humping, thenwood, you ain't. You don't
have nothing in that brain. NaI can't. I can't do that.
And then two also, I thinkit's important to know a lot of I
won't say all women because I can'tspeak for all women, but there are
a lot of women that you reachus mentally. That's what gets us to
flowing and turn us on. Youknow what I'm saying, y'all physical?

(01:15:10):
I mean, she got a fatass. You you like bam. You
know what I'm saying. You're inthere, But that's not us. I
was willing somebody to bring that up. That's that's not us. What's going
on? You do? I wait, though somebody said, everybody will talk
about oh, I need her tobe smart and intellectible and has got to

(01:15:30):
be fat, she gotta be cute, saying now I'm playing you know,
you know, but you know everybodywas like physically, like in the brain.
You know what I'm saying, Likethe brain, I'm talking about that
body. I mean, I dowant an intelligent women. Don't get it
wrong, but I mean I wantintelligence as far as you know, uh,

(01:15:56):
as far as someone who can helpme move throughout to move throughout.
If I'm being honest, I'm not. I'm not picking a tender eyed woman
over what I would consider a beautifulas just the way I'm gonna put But
then, how do you know you'regonna be happy because you're gonna be staring

(01:16:20):
at this woman all the time,But you can't have an intelligent conversation with
her because she's so cute, she'sstupid as fuck? So how does that
work? Like? What where doesthat? I don't want to I don't
want it to be stupid. Imean, don't get me wrong. I
want something Like I said, Iwant somebody who's gonna help me navigate life.
You know what I'm saying, I'mI'm I'm much, I'm heavy on

(01:16:41):
my spirit. But what does thatlook like? Though? Like navigating Life's
like, Oh, were about togo to Walmart. I'm gonna get all
this stuff in the sales paper.No, because that's what I want to
know, what navigating life looks like, because it's not just about Walmart,
but it's about it's about a surfacelevel. So what just navigating life look

(01:17:05):
like for you? I mean it'sI mean, to be honest, that's
all of that is none of noneof that really makes a difference to me,
you know what I'm saying. Whateverdecision has to be made on whatever
we're doing, and all this extrastuff as far as the household, like
hey, what we're eating, ifthat's what you're alluding to, or making
decisions that are small. I'm somebodywho listens, so that's not an issue

(01:17:26):
for me. But I mean,like I said, I enjoy an intelligent
person on me wrong. I don'twant nobody stupid, you know what I'm
saying. But I just how aboutthis. You know who's you know who
seems to be extremely uh intelligent intheir own rights show the Gabriel Union,
you feel me uh, And DwayneWade seems to be a pretty successful brother.

(01:17:47):
I'm gonna just say that even withall the intelligence that that young lady
or that lady has, right,even with all of that intelligence, you
know, what I'm saying, II like, but with all of that
intelligence, I feel like she's she'sdoing something to her own a household that's
causing wreckage in ways that's too openminded, you see what I'm saying,

(01:18:11):
Like, I don't need that typeof intelligence around me, and I don't
need my woman indoctrinated. I don'tneed her following the ways of like the
eurocentric, uh, the year centric, just a year centric ways period,
like what a woman likes or howshe dresses it. That's that's just not
my thing. So if you askme, what does someone navigating life look
like? To me, what Iconsider life to be is on a spiritual

(01:18:33):
level. So I prefer my womanto be more on that level. But
like I say, I don't wantanybody stupid. Nobody wants somebody that they
have to like like Raquel said,nobody wants somebody they got to tell somebody
what to do. I gotta tellyou how to think, what to say,
where a goal, how to doit. Nobody wants that. Nobody
want that. When you said she'scausing issues of her household, you mean

(01:18:54):
because she said no, No,I mean because I mean because of the
well, fuck it, man,it's gonna be controversial. I mean because
of the way her household is ran. You feel me, because right now,
when she got her husband, becausewe didn't know how it ain't it

(01:19:15):
ain't got nothing to do with thefifty fifty joint. I mean, that's
that's that's up to them. I'mtalking about talking about the child. The
child. Yeah, yeah, let'sget into it. The child, but
that's his child. To wait,but wait, but wait, you're putting
fast. Here's the situation. Itmight be his child, but the open
mindedness about the entire relationship and howit go. Gabriel Union was like that

(01:19:40):
before she got with mister Wade.Let's just put that out there, right.
She was with that with others.She was like that with other people.
So when she got with mister Wade. I'm not saying that that man
wasn't agreed, that it didn't agreewith whatever she had going on. I'm
just saying that, when it comesdown to it, the spokesperson for that
family is Gabriel Union, the personthat putting on the pants, even though

(01:20:00):
she ain't really making the money he'smaking, which makes it weird. Gabriel
Union is gonna speak out for thefamily. Gabriel Union is gonna decide what
the family is gonna do and howthey're doing it. That's at least that's
the way it's being painted. Ify'all that's that's the way I see it.
I don't see how y'all see itany other way. Well, I
see you that she's the person who'salways in the media. Anyway, he

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was never really in the media,even with his first wife, but as
aparently he's not very spoken in themedia. But as a parent time,
no one's gonna speak for my childbefore me. So that goes back to
leadership. Do you not think thathe's leading his family? You think?

(01:20:43):
I definitely believe Gabriel Union is leadingthe family. And then's her fault because
they're raising the transgender. Why I'mnot saying it's her fault, they're raising
a transgender. What I'm saying isit's just her fault because she's talking about
it. No, no, no, no, that's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying and is that theamount of open minus that is in
that relationship. We ain't see dWade do no shit like that till Gabrielle

(01:21:08):
gotten his gotten his picture ain't nobodyto see d Wade walk around with no
foot painted fingernails. Everybody knew dWade for what he did. He made
it to the dang on, hecut to the cut through the paint and
made the buckets and then he madethe pass. He made. He made
it to the He made it tothe to the finals. This is what
we know d Wade for. Nobodyknew. But how do you know that

(01:21:28):
that's not who he everybody? Nobodyknew d Wade for being that person until
Shawty came around. That's all I'msaying. I'm not saying I don't I
don't know. I don't know.I don't know that that man went like
that. But what I can seeright, because there's many of athletes who
come out and say that this iswho I really am. But I have

(01:21:50):
been afraid to show this side becauseof an athlete. So how do you
know he hain't been on to wearyellow nails and tight ass pens? You
know, like, how do wenot know that? We don't know this?
But what I'm saying is it wasn'tpublicized. Blame her. Hold up,
hold up, hold up. No, I'm not saying we just gonna

(01:22:11):
blame her, but we're just gonnapoint out that it wasn't a public thing
until Gabrielle came into the picture.My boy wasn't my boy, all right.
So you look, look, Ifeel where you're coming from, and
I and that's and that's all findingDan. You got somebody to make you
feel comfortable, cool. That's that'sthe days we live in. Whether I

(01:22:31):
agree with it or not, butI still say he has a strong influence
on what's happening to that child,to that labod You feel me, now,
I don't. I don't. Youcan, you can go into that
matter and with with with whatever perspectiveyou may, But I'm just pointing out
the fact that miss Union as wellas Wade as mister Wade, they have

(01:22:57):
well, Gabrielle has more of aneffect on that child. But everything that's
going in there is Gabrielle led.I don't believe it's I don't believe it's
led by Dwayne because we didn't seewe would have caught a glimpse. Think
about think about the time we stayin social media area. You would have
called a glimpse or something fruity wayback in the gap or something with this
man. But I ain't calling noglimpses, That's what I'm saying. Maybe

(01:23:21):
I missed it, but I livein the closet, so I'm just right.
I want to say this, youdeal. I definitely see your point
of view when it comes to that. However, I also see that you
got Drake. A lot of theseguys, other guys in the NBA that

(01:23:44):
aren't even married, they're wearing strangestuff. Even oh boy with the hairline,
who was that that? Y'all lovethat? Need to let that hair
go? The fucked up the airline. Uh, they're trying to compare against
Michael Jordan. What's his name,I don't know what, Yeah, Lebron
James. Yeah, he even hassome suspects stuff on before, like they
all do it. So I can'tin that regard. I cannot blame Gabby

(01:24:11):
because at the end of the day, even if your woman is running you,
it's still you because ain't nobody gonnamake you do something you don't want
to do. You know what I'msaying it. But I see what you're
saying from the view from the outsidelooking in, without taking all these other
factors of information into consideration, andby her personality being domineering. I've I've

(01:24:38):
always looked at Ga Gabrielle Union asthe person she presents in the screen,
like, no that she ain't acting, that's just really her so I see,
but her strong domineering personality and andand she's an actress. He's a
ballplayer, so she's going to talkto the media more. It might appear
that she would be the one runningthis, But no, I think that

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he likes that shit. You knowwhat I'm saying. I think that there's
a lot of men in the NBAgetting these beards that's willing to cohabitate with
them, and they're making it dowhat it do? What's that other one?
Uh? Not Diddy yet he's aweirdo too, but not And he's
a weirdo not because of he's aweirdo because he prays on children. And

(01:25:21):
he's a weirdo because he won't behonest with who he is. I want
to make that clear. But notdid he the guy that's got the baby
with Royce Reid from Basketball Wise?That we all he he was caught on
camera grabbing one of the boys,that one. Do you see what I'm

(01:25:43):
saying? The white Howard Man.I think, so, yeah, that
was the worst. Yeah, hegoes grabbing a man's meat. They caught
it on camera. The white openly, the white is openly like that though,
I mean, I don't I don'tknow how much people know about this

(01:26:04):
one, but I mean him,but these are there friends. They are
running the same circle. You knowwhat I'm saying. If men can say
hold together, flock together, orwhatever the saying is, that should be
the same for me. That ifI if my best friend is a hole
and she fucking everything, my husbandgonna say, you out here whatever time
you were her, you howing.So that's not different from me if you

(01:26:27):
home here your best see is outhere grabbing dick, I'm not It's not
gonna shock me that you got yellownow your best see like that truffle butter.
And I don't think that. Idon't think that Gabrielle Union is a
strong personality, and I do thinkthat she's the man in her relationship.
But I also think that that's becausethe Wayne Wade is a bit I think

(01:26:50):
that he laughs that ships who right, But you're blaming her. He's got
the personality that would But I'm sayingleading she leads. I mean, but
that may be the case. Thatmay be the case, and I'm not
refuting that. But what I amsaying is facts still go. She leading.

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So if she leading, the coursethat's being taken in the household is
up to her, which means it'sfalling on her, whether she like it
or not. So, I mean, that's that's that's the that's the that's
the role of a leader. Youtake you you fall with the ship.
Whatever. Whatever the ship look like, how is painted, whatever it looked
like on the inside, the intelligenceof the ship, the level of the

(01:27:34):
ship. It don't matter what happened, it's gonna fall on you. That's
the leader. I know. Mypraise is forgive me what, you know
what I mean. Yeah, Butwithin the relationship, I think just they
that's how they run. They wantto run it. That's how they running
it. Uh. If one wantto talk to the media and another one
want to, uh, you know, do the backtball thing or whatever,

(01:27:59):
they got some type of h andthat's their thing. I don't even know.
I don't even know what's what's what'sup with them? Really? I
just you know, I like both. I like both of'em. Shit,
they they cool, They cool blackpeople. You know what I'm saying
to me, That's that's my opinion. But I just I don't really get
into all that. But yeah,I like Gabriel Union. Uh she acting
and stuff and doing made a verygood basketball player, you know what I'm

(01:28:23):
saying. That's how I see it. I can dig it all, I
can dig it all. All right, let's see if something else because we're
about to get out of here veryshortly, because we were solely approaching ten
o'clock and we know black gotta goto bed. Uh So somebody in the

(01:28:53):
comments, I did have some morecomments, so let's go through these.
Emperor keV wants to know why dosome women feel that they can bring a
friend on a first date and theman has to pay for the friend.
Also, I thought that was interesting. I'm like, damn, who are
he fucking with? Happened in movies. Yeah, I've heard of like a

(01:29:21):
friend going on a date too,But you're sitting at a different table.
You just here to make sure I'msafe because we don't we don't know niggas
these days. But I didn't knowyou were sitting at the table and we're
paying two could see if we allfucking at night. That's what I was
getting at all. Yow No thatyou know, that just tells me a

(01:29:46):
lot. Man, That just tellsme that homeboy he is sent you know,
you know, I mean that's Imean, flat out they You know,
there's no two ways to look atthat. You shouldn't be on a
date with no two females unless unlessyou you know, popped up in some
sort of you know, like newspaperor something like that, and you might
do something to females and she feels, you know, fearful for her life,

(01:30:11):
and in that case, she shouldn'tbe on a date with you anyway.
But nah, man, you gotto reevaluate quite a bit about yourself.
If you getting conned into taking twofemales on the date and you ain't
getting no happy ending times too,that's crazy, don't That's crazy? Hell
No with me? That like somegenerations. Yeah, I never even heard

(01:30:39):
of it. I never Nah,that sounded like a straight up t Yeah,
yeah, it could be if ifI make him pay. But if
you don't pay for my friend tooka look, and uh, you know

(01:31:01):
it's gonna be a you know,a little shit dig as far as uh,
us three going out and he payingfor it, then that that's fine.
You know what I'm saying. Ifif they have that understanding, that
we're gonna end up be trying toget to know each other, all three
of us trying to get to knoweach other, to do whatever we're gonna
do with each other and figure itout. You know what I'm saying.
But uh, if she may makeyou got paid for both of'em on

(01:31:25):
that strift. No, that's that'snot what's happened. No hold on her.
I left my wallet in the car. I ain't never back in that
beach, Like what what? Don'twe even wat? I mean at that
point he might can't ask, Imean what, so what am I getting
out? He might be like whatthat hed be like? I don't know
because I don't know. I Ibut sometimes I feel like you just gotta

(01:31:56):
be outrageous when people do outrageous stuff. You know what I'm saying, And
that's what I'm speaking to. Youcome up with outrageous energy, so I'm
gonna say something outrage rageous so youcan get the fuck on. How does
that even work? We I swoopyou up and you and your girl come
out or we meet up after shipget out of here like right, because

(01:32:20):
we're not putting off and she's comingout. That's what you're going to do.
Just what the fuck? If you'rea friend, need to be there
that you better tell a hop onthat FaceTime because I don't know what's popular.
I never heard of that happen that, never never heard that. Whoever's

(01:32:45):
left that time and it is traumatizedbecause baby, we're not going. We're
not going on days like that,honey when you put on those classes,
because it feels like Rancer Rose allover again. She who what we eat?
I can't every name music, shoutout to every name. She does

(01:33:09):
my braves, y'all, that's myboom. She says. Maybe the reason
he is experiencing that is because heis picking up people from the strip club,
namely the workers girl. Okay,yes, shout out to you from
the strip club. I chose you, so I'm taking you what calling my

(01:33:34):
man for? Or do this thinglike how we supposed to do it,
Lady Stubb being trifling. If yourgirl comes, we could buy as the
food if we If it like that, you can get to the other.
Come on, man, I'm tryingto be Cory and ship. But y'all

(01:33:54):
we all on black Jesus Christ.Yeah, ladies, please leave your women
at home. You know. Beyoncetold y'all Lee, y'all man at home.
She needs to tell y'all to leadthese these girls at home. So
y'all fucking listen, Lee, ifyour girls coming with you, she need

(01:34:16):
to be off in the corner witha binocular with some binoculars, and she
need to be incog negro. Sheonly there to make sure that you are
not abducted or something. But sheshouldn't hear none of this, no no
that I have heard of, likepeople meeting up on like when you meet
somebody on Christian mean going from youdon't really know these people. So girl,

(01:34:36):
we're gonna meet here at Starbucks.You set y'all ass in a corner.
Yeah, if that's the case,then yeah, because I ain't never
set up with a chicken online onthe website, but a lot of these
people, right, I'm saying yousaid it in a sense that makes sense.
But yeah, for me to meeta girl like out in the streets
or whatever, up the whoop andthen we're gonna go well for for you

(01:35:02):
know, whatever a happy hour orsomething, and you bring your girl with
the fuck, honey, if youmeet girls on the street like you met
me, bitch, I'm bringing myprayer because you playing crazy. No I'm
saying. I'm saying like no,I'm saying to sit, I'm trying to
talk to a ship and she wego on a date and you your girl.

(01:35:24):
Why the fuck is she coming unlesswe all coming? That's all I
mean, What the fuck? I'venever heard that. Y'all heard this before?
You never heard that ever? Ever, you ain't the only one tripping.

(01:35:45):
No, I never heard that golddays by behavior it is, I
don't know, but these women today, honestly, and as a woman,
I feel so bad to have tosay this, but it's true. These
women get It's like social media hasruined being a woman like these You have

(01:36:05):
a kid, now, I gottago have a bbl you know, Like
y'all, I've been saying I'm aworkout for like two months now. I
ain't be a sheet. I probablydid some ship for a one day.
You know what I'm saying, Bucket, you're gonna get this fucking growing body
or this ain't the body you need. But it's like everybody want to look
like a fucking bug, and thenthey gotta have this motherfucking idea that these

(01:36:28):
men got a boy in persons,you know, a kind of shit that
they can't afford themselves. And it'sa fucked up reality because as a woman,
you're trying to figure out why you'resingle, and you're already living in
the fucking fairy tale that doesn't exist. And it's all because of social media.
The problem with relationships in general,any kind of relationship, is the

(01:36:49):
internet. Before Internet days, wedid not go through the ship that we
go through today. You didn't knowmotherfucker's had tummy tucks. I was little
as fuck. I remember going topreas on Greenfield. My mom used to
get her hair done there, andevery bitch in there had a tummy tuck
and they were all talking about andwhat the fuck is this? What are

(01:37:10):
you women's doing? And I didnot know, but only they knew.
There people in the streets did notknow that shit surgery and all of that.
That was a secret. You know, motherfucker's probably got titties and all
this, but not people was justgoing out here doing all kinds of witch
things with the body. Because they'reseeing the shit on social media and they're
easily influenced. You cannot easily influenceme. Shit, that's crazy as fun.

(01:37:36):
Now you got these girls out herethinking I need to get with Corey
because he's single and shit, andnow I'm about to bring my girlfriend out.
Both these bitches come out of theoutfits from the beauty supply Chris,
and you're on the fucking first.That's where all this shit is. Then
a dun cod forbid. I'm downthere in Detroit a couple of weeks ago,

(01:37:58):
I'm after Martin Luther king In.All these bitches is downtown looking like
wrestlers. I'm like, what thefuck all these outfits on the front.
Why is all these tight ass roppersand two pieces like these? My fuckers
look like they are going from oneside or the other side of the ring,
Like that's not cute and all that. This is an easy influence,
And then they wonder why these mendon't want to be with them. First,

(01:38:18):
I've bit you think like a trucker. The second of I've been chake
that fucking beauty supply outfit off.If you want me to be fucking for
real with you or to get withyou. You're gonna have to pay my
light bill. Bitch. You're gonnabe in the dark. Bitch, we're

(01:38:39):
going out. We're gonna go outto the fucking place too. And they
got electricity. I'm not coming overyour motherfucking house. I didn't even know
your fucking lights was off, bitch. I to the date. I didn't
say that was coming to pay yourbills. And this is a mentality that
these girls got. Girl in theselace fronts. Everybody gotta wear a lace
front. And then a lady issticking up the ship. Looked like the

(01:39:01):
motherfucker. What's that slide that bellout? I got them humps in it.
That's how y'all lace wants me lookingthe giant slide at the front of
your ship with the yes and theyalways swoops that cover up half their forehead.
What is this shit about? Ifyou're gonna wear the ingor shit,

(01:39:24):
honey, please pull it out andplease let it out. Look like a
ass rad cool on top of youror ass head. We gotta stop this
ship for real, y'all keep comingout here. Y'all got umbrellas on your
eyes. They're like this, CanI see you got the you got the
giant slide lace from this bitch belooking like she melt. It's not talking

(01:39:49):
about the guys like niggas. Iain't trying to spread my money. I
wouldn't either, you know what I'msaying, Like if I was a gay
woman, a lot of these womenwent in pass like girls if it was
crazy, as a lot of thesewomen have regarded to being gay and they
still single self probability, it's nothingwrong with me both sides. As soon

(01:40:21):
as you hear that, you alreadyknow what time it is. As soon
as she's saying, understanding, listen, And I'm not saying like I'm not
trying to demonize hair, weave ornothing like that. But what I am
saying is when you put stuff on, let it be decent and in order,

(01:40:46):
let it be tasteful. You knowwhat I'm saying. If you cannot
wear it words flattering, then pleasetake get the fuck off, because either
it's it's it's either flattery or fuckery. And we were seeing these women don't
got real friends. Because I'm gonnahave to tell you that shit looked crazy.
I don't know how many times Ididn't about to been walked up out
of your house and you you lookstupid as fuck. You know, people

(01:41:10):
need these kinds of friends, likegirl, and you know me like,
what the fuck do I gotta change? And shit, you know what I'm
saying, But thank God for friends. That's gonna tell you girl, you
look dumb as fuck because some ofthese girls be like, yeah, you're
kill knowing you think you know whatI'm saying. If you gotta come up
from my house and take a wholebathroom, we should not. God,

(01:41:30):
women gotta be better friends. Andthen be like, oh, you got
a homeboy. Yeah, no,I'm not gonna call my homeboy. And
this bitch already smell like troup.Oh I'm gonna be honest. This is
why some of these women are fuckingYou knew you left your pussy in the
bathroom when you left that bathroom andbe going out there and not trying to

(01:41:53):
go home. No, this iswhy y'all fucking single. Yeah, you
know what, you's funny because you'resing, you're laughing, But then be
the pitches you'll be going after.That's why you single because all the because

(01:42:14):
all the way that you should bewith you the friends zone, they all
in your friends zone. How thefuck you know when you get them?
Because I don't know because I knowyou don't know me like that for real?
For real? What do you getthat? Where you get that from?
Please tell me, all right,because that's how people are just like
you down? At least you downwas honest because you see me who who?

(01:42:38):
What pitch you to have my play? This is where I'm going with
it because Cory, Oh, Iwant an intellectual young lady. Know you
don't you want a girl ass withsome beauty supply, lagging zone and a
half home. Yo. I wasabout that. I was bullshit and completely
about that. I want to tellme what you think? Where do you

(01:43:05):
get Where does that come from?I have seen how you have reacted to
videos we have said. I feelnigga, bitch this. You just said
something about somebody we was talking toyou, because yeah, she can get
it. You like a look,And I'm sure it's somebody right now in
your text messages that you probably talkedto every day, that's in your fucking

(01:43:28):
friend zone that you probably can dateand y'all be happy. So stop trying
to fucking pat you. No,no, I no, but you don't
know I'm saying. I'm like,what the fuck are you talking about?
None of what you say you notwant to just because I reacted a video
with something or whatever has nothing todo with what the fuck I want.

(01:43:49):
Boy, Everybody, if I saysomething like that, never do with what
I want. What are you talkingabout? But you probably it's probably some
a nerdy girl right now that probablylooks holy as fuck. Who I want
to know a nerdy girl? Butmaybe that's what you need. I don't

(01:44:13):
mean I don't want no red leed. What the fuck are you're talking about?
You want red that's the problem.You just said beauty supply and flip
flops. And because the video,I ain't saying none about not flip flick,
but they're saying beauty supply. That'swhat do you? Okay flick,

(01:44:34):
it's somebody right now, right somebodyI know, don't know. You don't
know I do, Look, youdo not know who? Watch after this
live? He about to be goingthrough his text this bitch word glasses.
Nerds ain't like that in my sex. Yeah, because you're probably getting friends.

(01:44:56):
Founder I'm not talking to you,niggas, I'm not. I ain't
friends. No, I'm I havefriends. I'm singing is because I want
to be single when they like,I'm singled, but you know, yeah,
because you probably didn't already miss theperson for you, but your friends
out everybody you I could have.I've been married and divorce. You never

(01:45:17):
know that. Don't mean I'm motherfucking then passed up on some shit or
got sit I fuck with raps orwhatever? What the fuck you say?
I didn't say, but you wouldsaying that though you single, said Corey,
this is why you say you don'tknow why I'm single. I don't

(01:45:38):
know the other nigga. You saidyou're a single You're waiting to find the
right person. They do not saythat, right, do not say that?
Okay, me being single? Aboutjoy I couldn't I have one,
but believe, But what the fuckdoes the beauty supply and all that shit
got to do with anything about women? I choose? What are you talking
about? Because because I coming ona video and but like, damn,

(01:46:00):
that ain't got shit to do withnothing, one thing about it? Big
with and black gonna get into it? Okay, what you play? I'm
black? I think y'all too agueevery time. Well, Shanians don't be

(01:46:24):
wanting to be honest, always naughtyou. But so you cannot say there's
been some cool last chick that itcame your way. That dude was like,
damn, she coldest, But butthis ain't my type. I'm not
gonna say that because that is happenthat if she's not my type or something
is something wrong with her, don'tmean that. I don't need to be

(01:46:45):
on a listenship with it just becauseshe's cool. It's all the ship about
it. You don't even open upto get these people a chance. That's
the because I'm already I almost didn't. Oh, I put what do that
do with me? Though? Becausethat's a problem with relationships like everybody,

(01:47:11):
Corey, Oh no, no,if everybody you just said here said me,
because you're the single one on theline, I don't know. I
don't ask. You don't know.You don't know what I might have been
going through it or whatever. Isay. You passed up a girl that
she was like, Coot said thatgirl asked him other question, she you

(01:47:33):
said that love me that I askyou haven't been a girl that you was
like she cooldest? Fuck, shenot my type. But what I'm saying
is, what does that have todo with me being single. Maybe maybe
because we're being cool, I ain'tgot him to do with my time.
Gave her a chance, she couldbe cool and just not for me.

(01:47:59):
But how do you know that ifyou don't date these women to give them
a chance. But that's what I'msaying. How do you know that that's
what I'm what I'm doing. Youjust and I said questions and you answered
it? Did you not answer myquestion? No? You some bullshit?
Take that shit somewhere else, bigdog, some bullshit big dogs. But

(01:48:24):
you want some bullshit too, Andif you don't want to admit it,
that's fine because I'm not on nobullshit me because I'm gonna be single.
I'm happy. Can I ask aquestion and ask a question? So go
ahead. I'm just curious, Sobecause I want to know what you were
saying. You kept saying something likeyou gotta give the woman a chance.

(01:48:45):
You gotta give the woman a chance. So every woman that showed interest in
me, Now I'm gonna use myselfas an example, but every woman that
decides to show interest in me,if we just if we have a I
guess a cool who conversation, doesthat mean I'm supposed to just give them
a chance to see if this isthe woman that's meant for me. Is
something I'm just trying to get anunderstanding of what you mean when you see

(01:49:09):
I'm not saying that. What I'msaying is my experience me talking to people
that I know a lot of thepeople that people pass up on because of
their idea of this is who Ishould be with are the people that they
should actually be with. People anybodycan jump in and agree or disagree,

(01:49:33):
but a whole bunch of times youfriend zone the people that you should actually
be with because you're chasing an ideaof what you think you want. But
until you become silent and who youare, you realize that these people that
I have friend zone are actually thepeople that are actually really good for me.
But don't you think that women dothat? Mostly women? Mostly friends

(01:49:58):
we are doing I know I'm talkingabout like women, Mostly I do it
women. I only say you carebecause you were the only single person I
personally know on this car. Idon't know that person to say. What
I know. What I know aboutyou is you fun. You hang out

(01:50:19):
in the hood, You probably meeta lot of bitches. You are a
very attractive young person. So I'msure you meet a lot of women.
I'm not saying that you're just saying, fuck these bitches. But what I'm
saying is some a woman who haveyou would be probably good with dating,
not just in a relationshipship, butsomebody you can have that companionship with that

(01:50:41):
you want. Oh, there's somebodyI can kick it with. We can
hang out, we can go outto eat, we can see where this
go. These are the people youfriend zone. That's not true. Okay,
I believe you. I believe you. You ain't gotta believe I'm telling
you. I believe you. NotOkay, I believe you. I don't
even know where that even came from, but you know whatever, it's just

(01:51:02):
a gentero. I wasn't starting theconversation to say you. I only say
that you because you're single. Okay, I wasn't saying But then when I
started making a point, I wasasking you, have you order a woman
that you see my choice? Notbecause I believe you, honey, I

(01:51:26):
believe you. No, but youI'm saying, I'm going out the women
in beauty but you said this shit. I'm not asking you you first because
you were the person I was talkingto as a single person, so I
should have said single people, butI said you that's what you should have
said. Well, here it is. We have approached one hour and fifty

(01:51:51):
one minutes. I think it's safefor us to be message just like talking
about talking about I'm now side.Don't follow my phone. I don't know.
I already did my love to k. The night is over for me,
baby, I got to get up, and now you're aout to be

(01:52:12):
mad at me. Fuck you win. I'm feel gonna sleep good with one
leg out baby. Oh okay,the best way to sleep baby. Thank
you everybody who has tuned in.I appreciate it. Make sure you check
us out on Sundays at eight ishbecause it seems like we're still struggling,

(01:52:34):
but we will beat it. Wewere just check us out, wait for
us. We're in here. Catchup on some of these older episodes.
I mean, every episode has beenfantastic. We haven't had a bold one
yet, so it's been some goodconversation and follow follow everybody and anybody want

(01:52:55):
to say you guys want to signoff? Say anything to sign off?
My bike fing, my brother's cute? Are you trying to date that nigga
hit him up. Hey, Iwant to see shout out to Roys him
made a comment earlier about the typeof women, uh that I actually enjoyed

(01:53:20):
as well, he made. Hepointed out a specific field just feeling me
and it's pretty much the slim oneswith that Tuni boody. So shout out
to them slim thing with that Tutiboody and you're watching h oh yeah yeah
with the little two mosquito bites onthe back. Yeah yeah, and you
need away, but shout out tomy boy. Ever check me out and

(01:53:43):
at day of this side, don'ttake time Evermond, I'm off let's see
yah. Maybe y'all have a goodnight. All right, in a minute,
alright, alright, y'all, thankyou so much. We're getting out
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