Men are incapable of love and the importance of being selfish

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Thank you for tuning into the BlackLove Group Chat by rocky Roll TV.
It's your host, your girl,Roquel, and we have a new person
today. I'm gonna let everybody introducethemselves and then we're gonna get some started.
We got some heavy hitting questions today, but remember, conversation is always

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respectful and diplomatic. We're just tryingto get to some understanding here. All
right, you guys, go aheadand introduce yourselves. Let's see. I
guess I'll go ahead and start offfirst, and I'm the new guy.
Hey, my name is Judell.I'm from New Orleans, Louisiana. I've
been married, kids, uh beendivorced. We're going through the whole situation.

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I'm qualified to be speak tonight likelike I like to say. But
also I deal with different therapists andwhatnot for people who struggle with anger and
past traumas. And that's me.Oh wow, that's amazing. So you're
gonna have a lot to contribute tonight. I'm excited. All right. Next,

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we're just going a row. UhI'm black Town now. I'm uh
from uh Shit Talk podcast Vitamin D. I'd have been on a couple of
rockets, U podcast, and I'mhere to talk my I'm not well talk

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my ship. God damn it.But it's not bad ship. Okay,
that's it. That's all I lrywait to see. I like about true

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oh further, Oh okay, Wellhello everybody, jiddy evening. My name
is Brandon Shelby. I am Raquel'sbrother in law, and uh, I
hope we have a good conversation thisevening. Welcome alright, alright, t

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t I'm Tiffany, Raquel's friend.We've been friends for many, many years.
You know, I'm I'm pretty muchthe only consistent one on here besides
uh Black. I've been here sincethe first episode. Yeah, that's not

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it. And Black, it lookslike he might still be connecting. Yeah,
he might still be well while wewaiting on him to because I definitely
want him to introduce himself before weget started. You Dale, so how

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did you discover this whole hook up? I know it's TikTok, right,
Yeah, I discovered it on TikTok. You had a video with you walking
on the track and I saw iton there and I was like, I
gotta get a part of that conversation. Things I gotta see. Yeah,
I just I just real quick,is it is it? Is it your

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Dale? You? Yes, prettyold country name. I'm the third if
you can believe it is you Dale? Yeah, you did exactly. Oh
okay, let me go live onTikTok. Oh he got knocked out.

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M hmm. Yeah, it lookslike he was having trouble connecting. So
I said, I saw it onTikTok A real cool little video right there.
Well, good, good, thankyou, thank you. Know what's
funny because I feel like that videodid do well and I don't know why.
I think it's something about when walkingor just movement. I don't know.

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I don't know why stuff like thatgrabs people's attention. I know that's
right, well, you know,and then it's all about the time.
But the time you post in theday you post on, you know,
to reach a certain amount of peopledepending on what the algorithm is letting through.
So I do understand, Okay,I guess I don't know, y'all.

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Y'all want to just start, getstarted, because we already lie.
I don't know. Maybe black Blackit's probably having some technolog difficulty, so
listen, So I want to makeI want to clarify this in case you
are watching now there are people here, you don't see them because of their
pictures up. They prioritize video foreveryfor whatever reason on YouTube, and once

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the clips come out, you'll seeeverybody in those clips, and clips do
air if you're watching Tuesdays at eighto'clock. So I put up clips from
the show, and I always leavein the comments the link where you can
find the full video stream. SoI just wanted to specify that. Let's
see. I guess we can goahead and get started. I'll ask you

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Dale know you knew, so wegonna start with you until we get to
these questions. So number one,I want to ask you, since you
are divorced, how do you feelabout relationships? Like are you optimistic about
it? Or are you not optimistic? And why? Uh? Well,

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after being one for twelve years,you know what, I don't. I
don't really put that sort of connotationtowards relationships. It's not that I look
at them as transactional. But I'vebeen through enough to understand that if you're
not willing to create a lasting relationshipthat's functional, you know, because success
comes and goes. You know,that's in and there. But if you're

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not willing to last, to createa lasting, functional relationship in general,
then no matter if I like itor not, there's nothing that that can
go forward from that. So butif I guess, if I had to
really be specific on the question,I am still optimistic that a relationship can
happen, but the rules are gonnabe way different. It's time, I

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think, and I think being inlove is a little a little bit of
a trap. But that's just myopinion. Oh and you don't you know,
I got a question on I havea whole thing about that love too,
and so we might go ahead andactually start with that. But what
so, what's going to be differentthis time? If I might ask if

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you feel comfortable with sharing, I'mdefinitely gonna be and I'm definitely comfortable,
but I'm definitely gonna be doing alot more approving this time. That's why
I say being in love as atrap. You know, when you get
in love, you know what I'msaying, it's almost like this background,
I got to get real blurry,you see what I'm saying. But you're
still there and you enjoying it.And to be honest, that's a man's

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weakest point, because you're only thinkingwith what you're feeling. Gein't really thinking
in your mind. So I neverallowed myself to fall in love, no
matter how hard. I'm less thanafter a woman, no matter how hard,
and I try my best not to. But no matter how hard or
how deep that goes, I neverfall within myself falling in love. I
never fall in love again. Thatain't thank for me. That's that's I

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understand. If you're watching us onTicktop, we are live on YouTube,
so you're just gonna hear the commentaryon my end. If you want to
see the Black Group Chat, pleaseclick the link in my bio and go
to Rocky Road TV YouTube and youwill see the Black Love Group Chat.
You will see us on here.So let's talk about love. What's her

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name, Prince Cella? I actuallyshe's I played a couple of clips on
this show the last couple of weeks. And it's weird because she popped up
on my for you page on TikTok. One of the things she says is
I did follow her because she hadsome very interesting point of views, right,

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and I've guess she's written books andall type of stuff. She references
herself as a scholar, and shesays that black not black, but men,
men are incapable of love. Andthis has proven. Do you guys,
is that true? Are you incapAre you incapable of love? I

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think were? I feel like we'recapable and tire till we've been put in
the situation to make ourselves incapable,like meaning like once we've been hurt,
like we're a little skeptical shooting downthat road again. I know me personally,
I can't speak for all, butthat would be my issue. Like

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being in love, I feel likeeven when I'm getting close to it,
I'm itching close to something good,I do something to take to I can't
do it. I don't, Idon't. I'd rather gamble shooting dice than
gamble with my hurt. M Yeah, I got yeah, I got a
second card. I'd rather I definitelyrather hit God. That was deep there,

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But yeah, I'd rather you takemy money before you play with my
hurt, because that shit you.It's it's easy to get the money back,
but it's hard to like founce backfrom a hurt, like and it's
fucked up to say. And thisis one side of when I'm gonna say,
but women, y'all are, y'allare a lot stronger than us.

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Y'all made we get a stomach aide, we gotta hang over. We we
we we out for the count,for the day and everything. Y'all had
cramp, y'all have babies, y'allhave a lot of ships. Y'all are
built way. Y'all are built forit. Tough, we not. We
not. I commenced y'all for that. That's why, in being hurt,
I show a little more respect andand pay a little more attention to how

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I handle y'all. But I don'twant to play with myself at all.
I can. I can control howI played with the woman, but I
can't control how the woman play withme. So I'd rather just protect myself
at all times like they do inbox and protect yourself at all times.
Now, let me ask you thisquestion. Do you go into relationships being

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transparent about that? I do,And it's so the the biggest transparency is
I don't. I try not togo into relationships. I don't even want
to play around with it. Admittedrelationship, but it is still a relationship,
right really, I mean the friendshipis a relationship. Yeah, friendship

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is different. So a friendship,we it's kind of different, like and
it's fucked up. It's messed upto say. But a friendship, well,
all the relationships are built on contingency, right, So a friendship can
only go so bad or so goodwithout it. And you know what I'm
saying, Okay, this friend notfriend and I'm not a friend and we're

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gonna lead us alone. But arelationship, you'll have all the signs and
still fight for it. Like what, I don't want to end this.
I know this can be and youknow it's not good for you, but
you'll still fight because you care forthis person, you know what I'm saying.
Like you, you'll crash out tryingto fix a relationship. A friendship,
you'd be like fuck them. It'sa little different. In my opinion,

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it can be, it can be. I mean, I think these
things also happen in friendships. Yeahdefinitely, Yeah, I mean, but
but check it out though, Butlike I don't. I I'm kind of
I'm a balancer, right, soI have to say, like, you
know, whether it's the friendship,whether it be romantic, we call that

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blatonic or whatever whatever words on you. But whether whether it's like theorious or
not. You know, it allcomes down to whether or not. Like
you know, with friendships, they'reeasier because you don't have to submit to
one another exactly. No, there'snothing that you have to do. The
most you have to do is beexactly show yourself respectful enough to not walk

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over them, you know what Imean. But in a relationship, you
have to submit yourself to one another. Right, So when you do want
to separate, you know there's acertain level of vulnerability you both placed in
the pot. You see what I'msaying. So when it's time to take
that vulnerability back, it's like,why, I'm not sure what it looks
like coming out. It could looklike something different for everybody, but it

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might look like, hey, canI trust you with my past? Or
hey can I trust you with myfuture? Or can I can do I
stay have your whatever it is.You know what I mean, I want
to get away from you. Imean, whatever you put in the part,
your vulnerability comes out different in theend when there's a separation. That's
that's what That's all I do.So I agree, definitely, but I

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look at it. I'm sorry,I'm sorry about the go ahead. But
I look at relationships like you knowhow we grew up playing cops and robbers.
It's my job to last so Idon't get caught. And it's there
that's on both ends. Like,but that's dealing with certain people like everybody
has too. It's a it's aconstant job, like a person who feel

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like we made it because we're loveor we're in love. That's a constant
job. That shit don't like ina minute you get staying in there like
we're in love and you stopped workingtowards it. Shit go wrong. That
shit love is a business. Theage that that's not. It's a partnership.

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We have to we have to worktowards, just like we want to
work towards a happy life is mine, I mean financially, physically, mentally,
we have to all that shit isa job like it don't end.
It don't end when you feel likeyou're in it, Like, no,
that's not where it's we. Itold her I had a situ where I'm

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divorced too, and when things weregoing wrong and it wasn't even on my
end, and like I wasn't thebest person, So I won't blame her,
and I won't blame myself. Itwas us, but I even tried.
When I saw it was going south, I'm like, well, maybe
we need to read date and getto know each other again, because people
grow apart and you you grow things, you out you out learn and I
don't know each other, but youhave to constantly know your person. Like

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dating shouldn't end because y'all married.I said, we in love. We
got matching tattoos, and we saidI do that. Ain't where a shit
end. This is. This istill them people that people to make it
to the still a anniversary and alllisten. First of all, that shit
don't even happen though. More listen, I just heard about an elder family

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that made it to their fifth yearanniversary, and I'm like, wow,
that's dope. You know what I'msaying, because it don't happen no more.
It don't happen because everybody let everybodyin their business. Everybody like,
we don't want to work it out. I'm about to call my bros And
talk bad about her. She's gonnacall our girls instead of us. Let's
fix this, Let's keep this shitin the house, make this shit work.

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And let's keep it going. Youknow what I'm saying. It's a
job. We would say yes sir, no search to our boss, but
when it comes to this ship,we want to our fuck you fuck.
You know what I'm saying, Thatshit ain't what's up. That's my opinion.
Well, that's that's deep, right, that go real deep right that
you're bringing up the old you know, the difference between respecting the balls and

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respeking the house old. If you'rea team, we matter. Our team
matters like that's that's period, Likewe matter. We deal with the other
people later. Yeah, I mighthave said I can say out of my
relationship, I don't know. AfterI always take full accountability for everything.

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Now, that's not always the mosthealthy thing in the world. I've been
through that, so you know Iunderstand that. But you know, I
really feel like I don't know.But I feel like in general, I
don't know. But I can't speaktoo deep on that with you. Then
I gotta said, bro, whenit comes to that respect fact, when
it comes to respect factor, man, it's like I take my accountability but

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also understand well other people have gonewrong. It's like it's hard to point
the finger when you when you don'twant that one up. Yeah, but
see that's part of the problem.It is hard to point the finger,
but it's not hard to stand forwhat you want and them stand for what
they want. If we can,if we if we can use that one
word called compromise, we should begood. But nobody wanted to compromise.

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I want to push my agenda onyou. I don't want to hear what
you're saying. Listen to me though, Yeah I heard what you're saying,
but fuck that hear what I'm saying. That's where the ship caused. It's
a problem because everybody used to yesterday. Yes, honey, you know what
I'm saying. No, let's heareach other because you're not the only one
to have issues. I don't knowwhat my issue is. If you're not

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telling me, let's talk, getthis, let's put this shing on the
floor. Let's if we really wantthis to work and we're really working towards
something, trying to make something happen, let's talk. Let's not talk at
each other, Let's talk to eachother. That's all male, all that
shit. I don't love that,all that I don't. I don't I'm

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not living in the color purple days, My girl, don't you better respect
me all this? We better respecteach other and hear each other out.
Fuck all that old nineteen thirties days. Go fix my place. Shit,
I cook today. I'm gonna makeyour ship. We both know how to
cook. That's both work. Weboth break bread. Welcome black. You

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gotta be like that. He's stillconnected to audio. Well he here,
he is here. It looked likehe is. Oh what is it?
This prod? What's all got goingon? Let me mute for that.

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So Brandon, ye, because you'vebeen patiently waiting. What do you have
to say about this? He gotpatience, don't he? Yeah too?

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Kay I see you, I hearyou now. Okay, oh girl,
what she said with uh with regardto man incapable of love, I think
the love that she's talking about,men are not necessarily incapable of it.
It's just not that useful. Andshe's talking about that emotional type thing.

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I don't think she's talking about theselflessness that then demonstrate daily. You know
that that's a form of our love, the sacrifice. You know that that's
a form of you know, amale type love. But the more emotional
you know, the highly compassionate one. That's not something that you know,

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women are readily ascribe to men.So yeah, in a way, and
that's why I kind of I likeher, But I also think that she's
dangerous because she makes a lot oftruth with just bizarre shit, you know
what I mean, Like like sheand and it's and it's and it's crazy
because she's you know, she's articulate, you know, but she goes off

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the off the off the rails,like she's not even in the middle,
like she's on both extremes, youknow. So to the unlearned, who's
somebody who's passively listening to her?Yeah, I say, you know,
oh yeah, yeah, that's right. Man, are incapable of love?
Well yeah, in terms of theguys that you're talking about, you know,

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expressing themselves the way that you want, certainly, but even to the
point of you know, tone andudell, you know, the respect component
is probably gonna be tired for mostmen than love. For me, I
need that respect and in fact,and that's that's not the position one and
two as opposed to you know,the physical love and the quote unquote love.

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So that that's where I'm kind ofam with that, Okay, I
definitely agree with her. I thinkit's important to know, and this is
for the people listening that yeah,you're now finally can like thirty minutes,
what the hell are you doing mycomputer with tripping? I'm sorry, No,

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you're okay. Sometimes it happens likethat, but you're You're right on
time. Anytime you show up,You're always right on time. So I
think I want to make it clearthough, it is important that fellowship between
one another is very important. Sharinginformation between one another is very important.

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However, we have to have discernmentor use discernment in the things that we
take on as reality or instructional intoour lives. And I think it's important
to also point out and address thatmy life is not going to look like
your life. So at for example, I'll use my husband and I marriage

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is going to be different than histwin Brandon, who you see on the
screen and his wife's relationship. Whatworks for Byron and I may not work
for Quila and Brandon, you knowwhat I'm saying. And and that's okay,
because ultimately it's about what works,and we have to understand that and
accept that also and this is whysometimes people get led astraight and mess up

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their relationships because they're so busy listeningto girlfriends or outside influences and they take
those words too far and don't filterthem in the lens that will be applicable
to their life. So I thinkthat's very important to take note of them.
So moving to the next thing,because this would be next. We're

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not going in a row here becausewe got to go with the flow of
the conversation. So let's consider thisfor a moment and hear me out.
Maybe we should remove love from theequation of compatibility. And somebody asked me
to define love, So this iswhat the definition of love. Number one
an intense feeling of deep affection.Number two a great interest and pleasure in

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something. So that's the definition oflove. Let's say this love is not
enough or the main factor, andI'm going to attempt to prove it.
So everybody, So everybody doesn't havea spouse, So the most recent spouse
you can your current spouse or yourlast spouse. You're gonna have to refer

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to that, or your best spouseyou ever had to answer this question.
Okay, so it's what and I'masking the men first and then Tiffany and
I will explain because there's a reasonI'm doing this. Okay, So,
men, what do you like aboutyour spouse and what made you choose them?

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I go first, what I whatmade me? What I liked about
my spouse was the camaraderie with WhatI thought that we were getting to was
we actually we had a kid,we had we had a few kids.
I had it, I had liketwo kids before her. But the family

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orientation and the smarts and the goalsin life that we had and like we
were like it was like a partnership. So I didn't think that bond could
be broken because the first goal andthe main goal that we had was to
leave these kids to the water,you know what I'm saying. So I
left out the fact that some peoplehadn't lived how I lived or did what

(24:26):
I did and done. So atsome point she got to the point where
she wanted to have more fun andwanted to be free, where I'm like,
shit, idn't had all my funeverything, let's get to we we
got a script we're sticking to,you know what I'm saying. So it
was like we both she was smartshe was. She was doing the the

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the nurse and the smart thing Iwas. I was still in the streets.
But we we had a good balance. Our families loved each other.
Thanksgiving all that shit we did.We ship our families. That's together perfect,
you know what I'm saying. SoI thought we was locked in,
but you know, at the endof the day, and then you don't
always know what you know. Youonly know where the person allowed you to

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know. And that's all both ends. Okay, good, that's a good
response. All right, who's goingnext? What was the question? What
do you Okay? So in yourcase, it would be the last spouse

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or the last spouse that made animpact that would fit this questions. So
what do you like about your spouseand what made you choose them? Oh,
that's an easy one. Thing Idon't like. I didn't like my

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spouse and that's the reason I'm divorcedright now. Okay, you liked your
spouse? With this like about talkingabout what you don't like, you know,
I honestly I don't even know.Okay, that's interesting. Okay,

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I don't know. That's still ananswer. Don't come back to me.
Let me ponder on that because Ireally don't, you know. Oh okay,
okay, okay, okay, I'mdon't worry. Come back to me,
Okay, brother Brandon, you gotto flow. Yeah, yeah,

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you know what? Okay, yeah, I mean yeah, I'm still I'm
still married. So mine's gotta bepeepe fact, all right, I don't.
But honestly mine the the respect shegave me and the way she the

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way she treated me from the gate, which now that I think back at
it might have been a bit ofa red flag, but at the same
time I appreciated that in my life'sand my walk up in school, working,
you know what I mean, Therewasn't much I had to ask for
her to do when it came tolike filling in those gaps in my life.
She just did them, you know, and I didn't. And you

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know, she was cute, soI let it keep doing the thing.
I was attracted to the man,so I just let it in. It.
We just kind of an older woman, nah, man, I actually
had a younger woman raised by olderwomen, right, So I come from
an older family, and of course, you know, things of course,
things a little bit slower in myfamily. But she has a bigger family,

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right, and she was raised bythe elders in her family, but
there was a lot of young alot of younger ones. So like,
she had a lot of energy thatI loved, you know what I mean.
He kept me, it just keptme up, kept me moving.
And yeah, she was willing tostep in and feel those roles. Man.
I appreciated that, trust me,So I had that to scoop that
up. Man. Yeah, forme, it was my wife's chastity.

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You know, she was, uh, she was very mild mattered, wasn't
out there. Well, you know, she was completely different than any woman
I had been around or dated upuntil that point. She uh, she
was really generous and enthusiastically so youknow, she was really you know,

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or is really a homebody, caring, great mother. She even exhibited those
traits right away, you know,just the way she took care of her
her niece. So I appreciated that, and she helped me out a lot.
So you know that that's that's thebeginning of what truly attracted me and

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the reason I brought her own board. Okay, black president. Okay,
So when I eventually met my spouseor whatever, you know, we was

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both young, so it wasn't though. You know, whatever happened happened,
and it kind of just you knowwhat I'm saying, Just it was all
organic at first, you know whatever, you know, it just ended up
happening. And then I really didn'tsee myself with nobody else as we got

(29:45):
old, as we grew older andshi because I think we were together,
like I want to say, sixteenyears before we even got married, which
is that's probably y'all probably like wow, but real talk, we was good
for a long time before we evengot married, and I really didn't see
myself starting over with nobody else.And it was I guess I'm trying to
say. It was the comfort andy'all grew together, y'all grew up together.

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Yeah, it's so the comfort andconvenience because I found that about us
too. We grew up together.Yeah, you know, we grew up
together straight up in high school,you know what I'm saying, all the
way up until whenever that we gotmarried and then you know, eventually divorce.

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So it's basically it was basically thecomfort, the growth together, and
then the convenience, which is sadto say, but I grew up a
mind too. Funny enough school,that's funny anyway. Okay, yeah,

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interestingly enough, we kind of grewup together too, don't grow up going
to motherfucker. Look. Well,so we kind of we knew each other
when we were young. I'll saythat we didn't grow up together, but
we knew each other when we wereyoung, and then there was a long

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break and then we kind of reconnected. So a little bit different, but
I'd say very consistent, predictable,amazing work ethic helped me at high regard.
Just really, I remember telling Rachelthis, like it never crossed my

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mind that he would ever leave meever, Like I just there was just
that and he didn't. I mean, I'm the one who divorced him.
But yeah, so that oh therewere good reasons, There were good reasons,

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but but no, but that's whatattracted me to him. Now,
I will say that just because aperson is predictable and consistent doesn't mean that
what you predict and what they're consistentlydoing it is a healthy thing. But
I felt comfort in that right forbecause of where I was in my wife,

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I felt comfort in that predictability andconsistent. Okay, so for me,
the first thing that really stood outwas when it comes to Byron was
he was very genuine. When Iwould ask him things, he would answer

(32:44):
in a genuine way. It wasn'tlike, too, okay, this is
my way to slip in on arash. You know. He wasn't trying
to sideki, manipulate or no shiplike that. He was genuine. Now,
I you know, I have studies. I had some experiences with some
niggas, Okay, not black men, some niggas, so I knew what
nigga shit looked like. And I'manna high alert for the nigga shit up

(33:07):
not this one. So I likethat. But outside of him being genuine,
Bira has a really big heart,right, and he's like he's this
type that he might come off alittle uh direct or blunt, but his

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intentions are always pure. Like hehe if he could save the world,
he would. You know. He'salways walking around with a fucking cape on
his back, like like to thepoint it's just like, dude, fuck
these people and that ship. Youknow what I'm saying. He's just that
type. And I just I justlooked at him and he had so much
potential, so I didn't know whereit was going or how it was going.

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But I knew wherever it was going, it was gonna go, and
it was gonna do what it wasgonna do in a good way. And
that's what draw him to me,you know. So the reason why I
brought these things up because the consistencyis that men generally, when they speak

(34:15):
about women and what they like,it's about what women do for them.
I liked her because and it canbe directly or indirectly, right, but
generally it's not about I'm speaking.In my case, I'm speaking to the
character and tips. I feel likeshe's speaking a little bit to the character

(34:40):
and and and I will admit totip let me back, tip up,
tip up on this Byron. Yes, consistency, loyal you know, stuff
like that. So I agree withher and that I think we tend typically
look at attributes how they are asa good person, Yeah, and how
they are I don't want to sayhow they will cater to our self esteem.

(35:06):
I don't want to say that becausethat could be touch and go.
Just we look to the loyalty andthe characteristics of who they are, not
so much what they do for us. Yeah, you're saying, that's a
really good point. Right, heel, because I say that all the time.
I look at how like the characterof the person. I want someone

(35:28):
who's kind, not just to me, a kind person, right. I
think that is really important because aperson will behave a certain way because you
know, towards you, because there'sa goal in mind, right, But
how do they treat other people?You know? I think that's really important

(35:50):
for me. Yeah, I meanbecause if you're kicking the fucking cat,
you know what I'm saying, Ifyou hate your parents, you know,
if you're just an ass told toeverybody else, but you're skinning and grinning
on my face and rubbing on mybooty, Nigga, you gotta go because
this right now, next I'll bethe one you kicking or dissing or being

(36:14):
evil to you know what I'm saying. So not, you know what,
that's that's a good point. AndI wasn't. I wasn't paying attention.
But yes, that's a good point. You gotta pay attention to these things.
Got watch, you gotta watch,you gotta watch salt. Now that
we have established that, would youguys say that love was the basis of

(36:36):
any of those things that we described? Ah No, because the things that
was described is what pushed us towardslove. Like you know what I'm saying,
Yes, so right you you likeI always say, I had to,

(37:00):
Like my best relationships were with friends, Like we were friends first,
like we decided, we consciously decidedto be together after we had a dope
ass friendship. You know what I'msaying, But that ship is a gift
and a curse because when this,when this relationship is not working between friends,

(37:22):
you don't want to hurt your friendbecause this is your friend. You
love this person, you know whatI'm saying. But this might be our
best attribute to leave each other.This might be for the betterment of both
of us, but you don't wantto. You don't want to hurt this
person. And again we'll avoid thosesigns that we both know that we should
to try to force something to work. So it kind of be it's not

(37:45):
a it's a gift and a cursetoo. So let me ask this,
why do we force things to workwhen there are so many what is it,
billions, probably more than that trillionsof people on the planet. Why
are we force some shit? I'llsay the reason I forced some things is
to not hurt the person I lovelike I care more about their I put

(38:09):
I've put that person's feelings before man'sand I just didn't want to hurt them
like I've done it, So yousacrifice yourself for someone. I have a
lot of fun out here, Rocky. I'm I'm only I'll be forty one
this ship, But I had alot of fun. And if if,
if it's if, if, ifI can deal with a situation, and

(38:30):
we can, I can sit throughsome things that I really, in most
situations wouldn't deal with, and somethings like if it wasn't this person,
I wouldn't deal with this, youknow what I'm saying. It's just it's
just the situation and the person.Like it's easy for me to say,
and it's probably herd for like youand Brandon to understand because of how and

(38:52):
I'm saying this with the utmost forhow great and how good y'all relationships are
with y'all spouses, Like, it'snot always like that, you know what
I'm saying. So I might notwant to. I might have that much.
Look, I might have done somuch bad that I'd rather do some
good, If that makes sense,You know what I'm saying. And it
don't hurt me. But is thereany way that possibly you could be sacrificing

(39:19):
your own happiness due to guilt?Yeah, guilt to bring in pain to
people that I've finally seen what thepain is. And that don't make it
right. I'm not saying it's right. You know what I'm saying, But
I don't know. But I latelyI've been on this journey of it's me

(39:40):
over everybody because I've always put myselfon the back burning and I put my
happiness to the staff of people.And I just I'm not with that.
And if you don't like it,just keep it moving. I'm sorry,
I'm I'm self. It's I usedto think being a selfish person was a
bad thing, but sometimes you haveto be severe because you have to be

(40:00):
You have to worry about it.You have to focus on you and make
sure you're right first, and Ibeing selfish for itself is the routes you
have to go then, so beit. Okay, you they all see
you put your hand up. Ijust I just want to say something about
being because that mode in that position. I'm listening to you, brother,

(40:21):
tone, I'm gonna say this backwhen I was trying to force it.
It was for my own selfish gain. I like to say in my mind
that it was because of the thebetter, the bettering of the situation or
the relationship. But when I boilit all down, like y'all know,

(40:43):
I like to take that accountability,I gotta say, I definitely gotta say
it was it was me forcing itfor my own reasons. Now, this
is what I gotta say. Beingselfish and being focused constantly gets mixed stuff,
and that's something that that kind ofI'm just like, being selfish is
always negative. I don't care howyou place it. I don't care where

(41:06):
you want to put it in apositive notions whatever. It's always a negative
thing. But being focused on yourselfor being focused on a certain thing,
there's nothing There's nothing wrong with beingfocused on a goal. There's nothing wrong
with being focused. That's like somebodygetting in a car accident and you're telling
them not to focus on healing,you know what I mean, Like,
come on, there's nothing wrong withfocusing on that. But if that person

(41:28):
wants to say, you know what, I don't care what anybody else says.
I don't care what anybody else does. I'm being selfish and I'm only
caring about me. But then you'regonna heal alone, and ain't nobody gonna
give it there about your healing.So that's you know. So I always
like to say, you know,you gotta walk that because that path of
selfish and focused is all in trauma, my brother, you know, so

(41:49):
you gotta like when you're leaning onthat side of when you say I'm being
selfish, that's when you got tolook under yourself and be like, Okay,
what am I hiding? What amI not dealing with? Because there's
no reason that you should have thatin your heart to be selfish are to
the people around you, But beingfocused on yourself is completely and totally even
scripturally supported. So I want tospeak so you'll I definitely get your point

(42:15):
of view, and I think fromwhat I was hearing, from what tone
was saying, he really was notspeaking. So selfish has a bad connotation
attached to it, right, Sopeople automatically think when you're saying selfish,
you're saying fuck everybody else, right, But really selfish can be interchangeably with

(42:38):
how you said, really just focusingon myself first, because at the end
of the day, if you're nothappy, that's going to spill into every
other relationship that you have, andit's not good. It's not helpful to
anyone. So Tone kind of gotto the point what I'll be saying,
what I was going to say tohim, because what I was going to
say, like it, it's okay, it's time for give yourself for whatever

(43:00):
you did, because that's a partof growing and evolving and a lot of
times we hold ourselves on a crossfor things that we can let go.
That's good, you have feeled thatchapter of your life. Move forward.
It's okay to choose you and andbe in a healthy mind frame in that,
be confident in that. And yes, people do have to take Tone

(43:22):
for who he is or get thefuck on, because if you cannot accept
him for who he is, therelationship is not going to work. You
know what I'm saying. I justuse him as an example. That's all
of us. And you've got tolike the person that you are with because
this love it's more like a fancifulthing, and there are ebbs and flows

(43:45):
and relationships and it's not gonna beevery day that you look at this person
and be like, oh my god, like you could just fart right now
and I would just still giggle,like like I'm sick of this shit.
You know what I'm saying. It'sdays that you go through that, and
let's just be honest about it.So I think when we approach relationships,

(44:07):
maybe it does need to be moreabout duty. Maybe it does need to
be more about what do we havein common and common goal because everything else
in your life is goal oriented.When we have fanciful ideas, it's hard
for them to get off a ground. However, when we have a plan
and a vision, that's when thingsflourished. So we need to have a

(44:27):
plan and a vision for our relationships. Yeah, I agree with that.
Also, I also like the term, just to go back to that selfish
comment, I like to use it. I like to describe it as self
injurious practicing self injurious, right,because that kind of if it's on a
control yeah, if it's on acontinuum where it's selfish, it's like,

(44:49):
I'm only concerned with myself, right, self self interest is more of that
focus, right, I'm I'm myprietory focused, but on my primary focus
right now, what's so crazy aboutthe word love is it's what seven of
us on here. Nobody's gonna getthe same definition. Nobody's gonna get the

(45:14):
same definition. Yeah, but thelove that we give, the love that
we expect, the love that welook for, it it's all different.
It's it's the like you say,like, let's work towards a come and
go this life. Life partners areit's a partnership, like partner like that's
say it's called it life partners It'sa partnership. This is a business.

(45:37):
You can't not you you you youso you pride yourself on running this fortune
five hundred whatever the fuck they callit business, but you can't even be
happy at home. The guy offthe McDonald's the made the McDonald's show that
Michael Keaton played, that nigga robbedthem guys from McDonald's off everything, and

(45:57):
he even dumped his wife and tookone of the other guys wife, Like,
look what was love to him otherthan money? Like you know what
I'm saying them niggas, Like,have y'all ever seen that movie? I
know it's off base, but Ijust it's just that was selfish, like
the fucked up or the worst orthe worst, like I don't know.
I don't even know what they have. I think a lot of that because

(46:22):
we don't have a standard well,I mean we have standards individuals, but
I mean, like speaking on likethe main disconnect between other people in general,
just with love and the whole nine, there's no overall general well,
there's no overall accepted general standard ofwhat our nation or families should look like,

(46:46):
what our relationship should look like,besides what's like promoted through movies and
maybe some of what we've been growingup. You know, maybe some of
us have access to our our ancestors, the people of our past that have
taught us different things and showing usdifferent things. But I don't think there's
a set standard at which we well, excuse me, a set accepted,

(47:08):
accepted standard at which our people lookthrough for relationships. I think there's just
too many different angles. And thenwhen I think we're getting to the point
of being self focused or selfish orand it just self driven, I think
once we get to that point,I mean, yes, you know,
we are someone who has to bewe have to have goals, but I

(47:30):
think once we get out of positionwhere we're ready to receive and ready to
give to that spouse or that friendshipor whatever boat you're on. You know
what, once we get out ofthat position, I think that's where the
disconnect really comes at, because youknow, there's there's no standard to go
back to it. And that's thething. At what point did you decide
to get out of this standard ofgiving to this spouse, of pointing to

(47:52):
them? What made you say Ido? That's the that's the disconnect,
that's the confusion right there. Butthat's perfectly at what point you got they
got a thing called annoyment? Right, So, how the fuck did y'all
get married to on anaw so quick? What's that? Like? Six months
or a year? Y'all? Inthe how the fuck did y'all say I'll
do when y'all done that quick?Like? How do that make sense?

(48:13):
But that's that's that's the butterflies wewere talking about that and love trap,
right, that's that. That's that, that's that bullshit that people focus on
title social media and the government.They got shit fucked up just to post
picture and be like I love myboot and on the picture, y'all love
each other. But we know y'allmotherfuckers can't seeing each other in real life,

(48:34):
like just to have a good title, like who gives a fuck about
that? Like you rather look goodlike but it guys do it too.
They rather look like they rather looklike money than have it. That's the
most backwards ship in the world tome. You're getting on the deep topic
right there. But we're talking aboutall the people though. Yeah, it's

(49:00):
our people that's doing the standard.They go all the way back to the
standard. You feel me If weget on that topic, man, you're
gonna make me grand my Bible andI don't wanna get Just tell you shout
out to everybody watching us on YouTube. If you're in here, please hit

(49:21):
the like like like like, shareus the shaff the of you guys that
are in the thing. The linkis also in the chat What's up GP
He has tapped in welcome you arehere. Do you have anything to say?
What up? Y'all? Sorry formy tarting this man, I had
to work today. I was tired. As if it's okay, I had

(49:42):
to get up and drop the babyoff. Then that's why I got him
so late. But uh, Idon't really, I mean, just time
me in on what the conversation isthere? Right? Now, especially about
the part when people just starting talkingabout about the marriage and how you say
I do This is just me personally. I take marriage as serious as it
can get. That's why I've neverbeen married. I've never asked a woman

(50:07):
to marry me. I just feellike I haven't been ready to having thought
that person yet, and I wasn't. I feel like I wasn't ready to
set the time. One of thethings I can't stand that our people do.
It's like, uh, if you'rea married person like to I'm saying,
people like to do it for itfor the internet and do it for
the grammar, Facebook and all that. I hate to see a married person

(50:29):
male or female, that I knowfor a fact as a whole slut and
was just doing some slut shit twohours ago and then go home and post
them in a spouse. Oh mygod, I love my husband. I
love my wife so much. Youjust was just nasty ass can be with
this other motherfucker just a minute ago. But you just ran home to let

(50:51):
the internet know that you happily marriedit or you're not happy at home team
before you kissed the name when itkiss that man, dad is my ordered
woman. Bear with that other womanpushing still on your goddamn Okay, okay,

(51:15):
that better be a clean pussy.Yes, she's gonna peep that ship
normally is me damn straight out toGreece with it. No grief in that
one, were no grief in thatone, y'all. Y'all wanted to wake
up here, Brandon, did youhave anything to say? I think put

(51:38):
us on. No, No,I didn't know. I was just laughing
with that j But no, Jinis correct, man. And I think
that happiness also, man, isanother component that I think is overused.
And I think if if it's madeto be too much of what constitute as

(52:00):
a successful relationship or marriage, right, the same thing when I put it
in the same category of love,it's just emotions, you know what I
mean? Like this, love isjust a chemical reaction, the same thing
with happiness. It's a state ofmind. And I think what's paramount,
like I said before, is respectand duty. And I believe that as

(52:22):
long as you have both of thosecomponents in line and everybody agree, then
you're gonna have your variance and stufhappiness and love. But I don't think
that that should be you know,your primary focus or that shouldn't be your
your compass to achieve in the relationshipof you know, oh I gotta be

(52:45):
happy or you know, I gottabe in love. Nah, man,
that's not that's not the keys tosuccess. I think that, especially for
us being you know, black folks, we could ill afford the luxuries of
happiness and love. Right now,we're in the deficit. Our community is

(53:06):
it shambles, and we need toreally focus, display a lot of discernment,
respect for one another, and dothe duty of what's necessary to get
us to the next stick because atthis point we're going to continue to be
last. I mean, it's terriblethat, you know, here we're over
one hundred and fifty years later andwe're still economically anyway, in the same

(53:30):
position we were one hundred and fiftyyears ago, and the state of our
relationships in our communities are in theworst shape they've ever been. But we're
the most freest we've ever been.And make that make sense, So you
know, so I think I justI just think that best. You know,
it's far too often, especially youknow, when it comes to conversations

(53:52):
like this. This is why it'sso important, because we need to shift
the conversation to what's more important,because I mean it's otherwise we're gonna continue
to get the same results we've beenexperiencing the last at least the last fifty
years. Oh so what I likeabout this conversation, right is you always
have like a template, but ittakes a life of his own. So

(54:15):
since Brandon has said what he said, I have a video that goes along
with what he's saying. So let'sget to that video. Wow, wow,
let's see. Okay here rock Ohyou can't. Ain't there nothing?

(54:45):
Okay? Hold on? Oh ohthat's why. Sorry. Oh all right,
let's try this again. Coming fromwhere I'm sitting now, I'm not

(55:08):
doing no more wife ship, allright. You're getting a bare minimum.
You're getting the bare minimum, andthen this ain't even a video, all
right, and then you can unlockthe rest. How exciting. You don't
get to just have your cake andeat it too. You don't get to
just have me do wifeie things foryou and not actually wipe me up.
Like now, I'm not doing anymore wife shit for anybody that's not ready

(55:30):
to upgrade their subscription. Like that'sthe way that it is. You either
pay extra or you get the basicsurface, all right. Coming from where
I'm sitting now, I'm not doingno more wife shit. Okay, So
that wasn't a video. That wouldn'ta video. Hold on, it was

(55:55):
this video? Sorry, right,can y'all okay, let me do this
again? Sorry about that? Y'allwere all damn video. Okay, she
was talking some shit too. Wecould talk about that. But this video
here and this guy hit on me, right. So he said, hey,
you're married, and I was likeyes, and he said you're happy

(56:20):
and I was like no, an. And the reason why I said no
was because one I'm brutally honest,and two I was not happy at the
time. But what does me beingunhappy have to do with whether or not
you have a shot. Here's thething I realized, a lot of married
people don't know how to be unhappilymarried and still not walk away. If

(56:42):
you could learn how to be unhappyfor a minute, your marriage will last.
Because the goal in marriage is nothappiness. The goal is to build
a lasting relationship that withstands up theebbs and flows of marriage of relationships.
About that we need another one's theapplause? Right? I never even seen

(57:10):
that that was real talk, andthat was real. Look, Nagi and
Corey, y'all might have heard mesay this. Even twins might have heard
me say it on armor that myex had said to me before before I
decided to leave, that mother couldtell me, nigga, you would you

(57:32):
would go through the worst of theworst to stay in this relationship just to
make sure your family straight. Butthat was her saying that to me,
like it was a shot. Youknow what I'm saying. I'm thinking,
like damn. And this this particularday, we was talking like I'm talking
to her, but I was talkingto her back. She had turned over

(57:52):
already and she was talking to me, but I was talking to her back.
And that was the last day Isaid, you know what, it's
over with, Like, let meget the fuck out. I'm compromising who
I am to try to say facefor a situation that the motherfucker don't even
want to be you know what I'msaying, But that like I would have

(58:12):
went through that, I definitely wouldhave stuck it out for us to fix
it, like to not put ourhome in turn wore. But I was
the only one that looked at itlike that. I will say that about
like I know everybody that heard mesay that, and shit too about especially
about me and marriage. I've neverseen a successful marriage outside of Byron and

(58:34):
rock Hill and Brandon and Sequila,and you know, a couple quite a
couple more people that now than wegot older their marriages in real tickets.
But like my you know what I'msaying, Like my niggas that I I
kick it with on the daily basisand stuff like that, like it's three,
like it's Tone Black and my cousinWayne and some niggas are their marriages

(58:54):
didn't work. But I will saythat for all three of the niggas,
I saw all three of the niggasfights for they marriage before they walked away
from the situation. Though I willsay none of them was just a quick
all right, fucking I'm over thisshit. I watched all three of the
niggas fights for they shit. Iwatched and it's not and it's not nothing.
It's not public notice. I watchedall three of my niggas go through

(59:15):
something in their own personal way,and I had to beat there for my
niggas the best way I knew howto beat it. For the niggas.
The niggas really did try to fightfor a situation, trying to make us
a last ship befo the end ofthe day. And I applaud them niggas
for that ship though. Oh yeah, for sure, I really believe that

(59:35):
men really do. They will stickit out really good man, you know,
they will stick it out through theworst. I also believe in and
really looking on it, a lotof women are cheap for like fanciful reason.
They wanted to feel that flutter,that rush, and a lot of
people, you know, it's justit's they like that honeymoon phase, right,

(59:55):
and that honeymoon phase doesn't last forever, and then when it goes away,
they get scared and they like,I don't know about this shit,
you know what I'm saying, Andthen they start cheating, and it's going
to be like that. We couldgo ahead. You will never always be
happy, You will not always befad. Right, Emotions are not They

(01:00:21):
do not last. And there aretoo many variables, right, There are
too many things that influence your emotions. So, I mean there's hormones affect
your emotions, right, you know, I mean there are so many things.
Your thoughts influence your emotions. Yes, right, what you're telling yourself

(01:00:43):
about a situation influences your emotions.So I mean to make decisions like whether
to stay in a relationship, especiallya marriage or not, based on emotions,
it's just not it's not wise.I think everybody everybody in the humm
A movie nigga too. So whatwas just saying like, uh, you

(01:01:04):
know, it's the hormones infect yourmost And then my man just said,
like what you meat? I rememberI think I love my wife When the
nigga started to fight about the chickenfreaking go out and cheek, do you
do you remember that? Being neverman, Look, I want I wanted

(01:01:27):
to speak on that, on thathappiness topic, you know, combining with
the whole in love thing, I'mstarting to see a parallel because he happiness
is person it always has been,always will be. You know, you
gotta make yourself happy, no matterif you're with somebody or not. If
you go to a concert right nowand you're not having a good time,
it's probably because you're not having agood time, probably not because other people.

(01:01:50):
So I just I just feel likewhen it comes down when it comes
down to being in love, whenthat when that when it's no longer about
that love you feel that those butterfliesand that and that, and you got
to start giving back for real,to keep what you got, and it
stops being personal and it starts beingabout that other person for real. I

(01:02:10):
think that's it's another disconnect. Likeshe said, that stuff don't last for
long. That happiness, that's sadness, Those emotions, they don't last,
you know what I mean? Sothat that stuff person, it's good,
Go ahead. I was about tosay, dogs, dogs is real though,
Like, if you're not happy withyou, were you not happy with

(01:02:31):
yourself? How can you help?Oh? How can you make another person
happy? You gotta be happy withyou before you be happy in a relationship.
And so if you're not happy,it ain't that woman, boy,
it ain't that mad for it.You gotta find your own happiness before you
could be happy with somebody. Soso is in people's relationships? Is anybody

(01:02:55):
in love? Because I think that'sthe main part of feel relationships. Ain't
nobody really in love? You're justdare to be there because it's convenient and
shit, you basically need each other. Mm hmm, I mean, I
mean I'm asking it, I'm statingit. Like I mean we in love

(01:03:20):
over here? I mean, yeah, we know the Shelby household right there
and the households. Hey. Youknow what I would say, I would
say, man, Like if itwas a way scale, I would say,

(01:03:44):
man, we're more in life sendinglove. You know what I'm saying,
Like, like I like, Ilike my all day likes the window
we first got together, we wasin love like that that was that,
you know, that illogical chemical reactionin my brain that made me not see
you know what I'm saying, thather left eye is crooked. You know
what I'm saying. Like, butnow you know what I'm saying. We

(01:04:08):
didn't grew together and I and Iactually like, you know what I'm saying,
Like, that's that's my homie,you know what I'm saying. So
I think that we kind of morphedand grew. I think for me,
I think you can grow past love, not the way that Tia Murray was
saying, but I think you cangrow into a greater sense of appreciation and

(01:04:30):
respect and and really devotion for foryour your spouse. That really is no
comparison when you look at it objecticallyrelative to love, you know what I
mean? So that's just a meetoughgot ahead that humility if you want absolute
one hundred one thousand percent just forthe replay, for the replay purposes.

(01:04:57):
But I think the thing is though, back to what we had said,
and actually you're not gonna always feelit though, But do you have to
them? You don't. That's that'sthe thing. You're gone, you don't.
That's why that's why bedroom time isimportant too, though, because it

(01:05:18):
is that keeps that connect connection right, because even if you get into a
bad argument, if you you know, hook up, I mean, what
the fuck was we arguing about?What we were? What was we mad
about? You know, I gota story on that topic, story on

(01:05:38):
that topic. So look I wasI had a all right, So I'm
gonna just say there was a momentin my relationship where that was something that
was round upon. Now I don'tnecessarily know why the whole the makeup buggy
afterwards, you know what I'm saying, Like, trust me, I don't

(01:05:59):
understand. And then you know communication, Look I personally agree, but just
now so so so you know,it came to a point where communication got

(01:06:21):
got real mixed up and what communicationwas, like what communication is to me
is it's always a one way street. It can be two different peak,
can be two different people, butit's one way street. You gotta let
one call go before the next onecan go. So but that that type
of no, I'm sorry, I'mlistening. Let me press you. I'm

(01:06:42):
sorry you. I just so whatstarted happening is we would get these situations
and I would offer to I wouldn'teven offer. I would just kind of
come over in that man that youknow how it is, and you would
just if I was everybody know,and I would start approaching up just to

(01:07:02):
kind of lay it down, ifyou will. And it wasn't for my
pleasure. If you can catch mydrifts, right, Oh you don't give
her head, Okay, I'm tryingto. I'm trying to on this show.
Go ahead. So I would alwaysbe like your mom, like like

(01:07:24):
I got you don't even trip becauseI just care of my woman. That's
what I did. And it wouldalways constantly be like, na, no,
no, I'm not in the mood. And I'm like, you know,
I understand because if you think aboutit, I'm not really in that
mood either. But I do knowwhat it helped a blast because it knocked

(01:07:45):
this shit off the pulp and wewill be good. Do you think the
head might have been whacking? Shejust didn't want that shit? No,
not at all. I like,I just get take it up. I
guarantee you that I'm about to say. I'm about to say last week wouldn't
be so possible if that was thegig. I don't know. Maybe you

(01:08:05):
oh my bad, Go ahead.I'm just saying I ain't never had no
complaints in that area. It's neverbeen any complaints. I got three kids
by one ladies, no complaints.I believe you. But you know what
to sometimes you know the confidence whenyou when you do stuff. And I'm

(01:08:26):
not saying you weren't confident. I'mjust saying the confidence when you do stuff
be on a whole another level.Like if you're staring at her and you
kind of grabbed her by her neckjust a little bit. Okay, Hey,
hey, all I'm saying is this. All I'm saying is this.
It got to the point in thatrelationship at a certain point to where that

(01:08:50):
was something that wasn't that wasn't desired. I wasn't want to say it wasn't
desired, but it just kept gettingturned away because of being made wasn't mad.
He would come back like, ohsuch and such and such and such,
and I'm like, I'm like,all right, because you know,
I don't I don't know if womencan handle rejection as well as men can.
I just don't know. I'm aman, so I'm not about to

(01:09:12):
sit there and just rejecting like thaton that point. But I just,
you know, I try to beI try to be comfortable. I try
to compromise in that manner. Butthere's never that whole makeup thing. When
the person he was mad, shewasn't feeling that. Okay, So I
want to validate what you're saying becauseI don't want to make it what you're
saying. It's not perfect. Somepeople just need to process how they're feeling.

(01:09:32):
Everybody can't be pulled out of itwith you trying to do this and
that. And I can speak tothat because I know Byron be like,
man, you was just saying thisand it pissed me off, and now
are you trying to get up underme and do this? Man? Hell
no, you know what I'm saying. And he's he can be like that,
So I get it. That isa thing like everybody, you can't
finesse the situation on him. Youknow what I'm saying. You try,

(01:09:54):
you try to be smooth like,and they be like, fuck that,
I don't you on that book shit. So I get it. I get
so I just had to validate becauseI don't ever want anybody on this panel
to feel like what they're saying iscrazy, because these things are real.
So I agree, Look, Ithink it's Look, but when you're grab

(01:10:15):
them by the throat just a littlebit, oh yeah, I know,
you apply pressure, let off,let it fall, oh ahead, because

(01:10:38):
you know y'all ridiculous. But no, you were onto something when you mentioned
how people process things right, anddepending on how you or your mate process
things, that's not gonna work right. Some people are in their head much
longer than maybe you are, right, and they feel like they need to

(01:11:00):
be in their head. They needto process things they need to you know,
And it's really connected again, theirthoughts are connect connected with their emotions
and so they just really can't receiveyou in that way at that time.
And that's the same though about that. It's all about the timing. It
got your timing got to be rightwhen you come with that. You can't

(01:11:24):
just be the You gotta know yourmate. You can't just be To finish
that argument in the corner of seventeenholes, your bitch, you ain't ship
and all that day, I thinkyou're gonna eat that. But no,
your time and gotta be right orless and less both of y'all toxics work.
How about to say, ye,both toxic relationships are ignorant as who

(01:11:46):
well, we got the toxic matteron the line of night so who so
who would be you? Motherfucker?How dare you to these those network relationships
when we when okay, fuck y'allwhatever? So what all right? Let

(01:12:15):
me get to another question here,because y'all crazy. So let's say this.
Men know how men think? Aswomen? Do we need to take
what you are saying for what itis and not filter what you say from
our distortion of desire? Does anybodywant me to clarify that? Okay,

(01:12:42):
So sometimes people can hear you andwomen in this regards you're saying something,
but we're not hearing You're saying whatyou mean, but we hear something else.
And the reason why we're hearing somethingelse because it's coming through our distortion
or the way that female else communicateor what we want to hear. Should

(01:13:04):
we just hear what you're saying?Yes, yes, it sounds like you
just saying since y'all not hearing withy'all want to hear it, we need
to say it. No, No, I do y'all want us to do

(01:13:24):
that to y'all. No, No, it don't work that. This one
didn't want the streets one way.Huh. But you know, have you
ever had a conversation with a womanand you said something to her and she
took offense with what you were sayingand then you were like, I'm not
saying it like that, but thenhow you were coming off Maybe it was
the tone or whatever, because youknow a lot of women do say it's

(01:13:45):
the tone. It's the tone.It's not what you're saying, how you
say it, that type of thing. Should we just not as I just
got a text. I got atext yesterday and my reply was yup,
and it just went from there,Ah, here you go, Hey,

(01:14:06):
what the fuck? I said?Yeah, Like, what in the fuck
did you? Yes, ma'am,what the fuck did you want me to
say? She probably wanted you tosay what you always say when everything is
really okay. Well, that's anotherthat's another thing. Don't don't don't push
your gender on me. I answeredthe question, and that's it. It

(01:14:29):
ain't about how you wanted me tosay it. I answered what I answered.
I gave you the proper answer thatyou needed. Don't take no more,
no lesson into that. I fuckingsee it yet. Communication anyway?
I know. I listen great withexclamation points. If I'm mad and I
frown to that, if I'm reallyirritated, I could be honest with you.

(01:14:50):
If I really got an attitude anddon't want to talk, you won't
get a reply for my text atall. Okay, now you know what.
See, we have to tread lightlywhen it comes to tone in these
text messages. We all, weknow, we know how you get down
with it a person too. That'scrazy. You know what y'all want?

(01:15:15):
Y'all just want to I quit.That's why I say text messaging is a
bad form of communication because you canread and to a text that ain't even
meant to be what you're reading it. You know what you're making out of
it or whatevers. I hate texting. I don't admit it. Last time

(01:15:45):
that he actually was on somebs.That's the whole thing too. That's the
same person. That's probably why hejust dropped this car. He just answered
text right, the last one,He's like, you know what, y'all

(01:16:10):
right, let me apologize. Hewent back to that text. You know
you're right rewarded that whole Yeah,so let's share. Let me share this
next video and see what y'all thinkabout this man. See what y'all think.

(01:16:31):
Okay, we all take ownership insaying that both men and women are
valuable individuals, that we are hereto compliment each other and not compete with
each other. That I'm supposed tohave lacks so that you have value.
You're supposed to have lacks so thatI have value. That that's how literally
everything. We're all like locks andkeys to each other. But if I

(01:16:54):
continue to find out where you're deficientso that I feel better, I'm going
to continue to do you value youso that I feel better about who I
am missing the fact. If Ido value you, you have the key
to something I need. What doyou think about that? She on point

(01:17:18):
that was with that, Yeah,I just like to see how that looks
in practice. I mean it's Idon't good. It's not to say that
she's not genuine, but uh,in in our experience, that's that's very
rarely displayed. I mean even inthe professional settings you don't get that.

(01:17:41):
But I mean a great idea,something to build off the show. Yeah,
something we need to talk to.Yeah, but I mean to have
a woman speaking like that though,shows that she has a mindset working towards
that at least a little bit,we would think. So, I don't
know you sure, yeah, allideas start will start with. All things
start with I did so. Yeah, I like it. I like what

(01:18:02):
I heard for sure. Okay,oh, tones back you respond it to
that text message song? No,when the kid's face time had to pull
me out. I don't know whatthe hell they want it? Y'all so
funny. No, we're not beefand this was yesterday. We're good.

(01:18:23):
But I just you know, it'sjust crazy. You know what y'all want?
Second? Yeah? Crazy? Allright, let's share another video.
Let's see a lot of relationship problemswould be solved if you would date people

(01:18:44):
that like you. Ye, thatman doesn't like you. He don't do
miss still do miss still? Yes? He just don't do it for you.
He don't like you. Now,I'm not saying like he might enjoy
your company. Yeah, he mightlike you as a person. Yeah,
but it's he like, Oh Iwant to marry this girl. I love
her, I see her in myfuture. No, if you find yourself
asking do men still that? Ain'tit? Because they do? Or this

(01:19:08):
years he may be attracted to youand but liking you something, but liking
you with something totally different. Thereare a lot of men they're attracted to
you, that are attracted to womenyou are so fine that do not like
that see all of the things,still don't like them. But and also
I don't want to go with youfor real, And then what can you

(01:19:30):
get is what it is, andit's gonna be what it's gonna be.
It's true though, man, Okay, let me let me think something real
quick. This is this is thelike the perfect example of like how another
woman allowed another woman to take hercompletely off like since started and talking.

(01:19:56):
She right, you need to datesomebody who like you, and her friend
put that out like well but stillhe can he can like you or find
you attractive, but not gonna belike like I didn't see the value in
taking that conversation to where it didn'thave to go. It seemed like they
were going in the right direction.You let this sister just take you completely

(01:20:17):
off course. I like, I'mseeing I see that a lot, and
that's that's I'm that s happened sodamn quick since was hitting on something perfect,
like it was beautiful, you know, Yeah, that's right. Sisters
need to practice a whole lot morediscernment, take a lot of those things
off of their checklist of what theywant in the in the mate, and

(01:20:40):
go with the one who likes them, the one that they know that's gonna
treat them well, versus using thoseatavistic making standards and dating the six you
know, six foot two, youknow, six packing six figures and six
you know, like they you needto date the guy that like you six
should have stopped it and just chilledon that point. And then she kind
of just undercutting everything by adding thatother nonsense. Man like, I've seen

(01:21:05):
that a lot that just I hadto say that real quick, but go
ahead, Hey, yeah, sothen what does that say about the person
when you can't when you're not attractingthe person that you want to attract.
I'm I'm asking questions. I'm justto have somebody though, Okay, okay,

(01:21:34):
I'm about saying I don't know Ishe got a point because okay,
so I know someone partner of minewho always you know, he's he's he
always want like these real slim chicks. You always want these real slim chicks.
And he always shooting at him,right, He's like, man,
I got this certain kind of type, but he always has very thick women

(01:21:58):
getting at him. I'm just like, well, my gee, I'm like,
you might want to kind of youknow, you know, rethink your
appetite, you know, and andthat, and that makes me think does
he need to change his appetite ordoes he need to change himself to be
more attractive to what he actually desires. Yeah, for a man, he's

(01:22:24):
definitely personal like he has to changehimself to attract the type of woman that
because you can only you can onlydate to where you are. So if
you if you in thick chick bild, it's because you you you're a thick
chick getting as niggers. That's justwhat you look like. That's how you
behave you know. Unfortunately, whenyou're for instance, I give you an

(01:22:47):
example. You're not gonna see alot of quote unquote, you know,
thick or overweight women. If you'rein the gym yourself, you just want
the numbers, just want to lie. So he's not in the right places
and that and that starts with theframe of mind number one and number two
where he frequently I agree, well, if he keep going with all the

(01:23:12):
pick chicks, and then damn it, he did like thick chicken. I
don't know what the hell he's talkingabout. Nice they get, they're getting
at him. They're like he wason this little dating that or something like
that. He's like, Brock,keep getting these thick chicken. May say
they love me, bro He said, everywhere I go, I get a
thick chicken. I don't want tothink. I said, well, you
know, at the time, Ididn't even know what to tell him.
I was just like, except forthe appetite situation, you might need to

(01:23:34):
rethink your appetite. By g that'sthe wrong table. We'll see. You
should never put yourself in the boxanyway. You're a single black man out
here in the world. You knowwhat I'm saying. You don't want to
put yourself in the box. Youmight find Betty Cracker might be the best
thing smoking. But but Betty Crackermight not keep you wanting Betty Crocker though,

(01:23:59):
you see what I'm say? Doyou like to eat? I mean,
but what happens? What happens when? What happened when it ain't food
on the table when you all walkback, when we're talking about food,
nigga, maybe she can put somefood on her chest or something. I
don't know. Oh my god.An interesting thing though, this idea of

(01:24:27):
like what you like and your preferencesand all of that, because I've seen
where a man says he wants acertain kind of woman, right, But
it's a constant battle because what makesthat woman who she is? He can't

(01:24:49):
really cope with right knowledge on ourrights right there? No, really,
I mean it's like they'll name thiswoman, I mean all the characteristics,

(01:25:11):
features, everything, and hold themon a pedestal, But what makes her
her? You? You can't.It's a constant struggle. Yeah, or
people like what they can't fucking reallyhave you don't You don't want to hear,
but you want this lady that youknow gonna sing you through the ringer

(01:25:34):
and she don't want not but yourmother fucking checked your dumb man. Also,
also, that's what the nigga chasingevery time that no female in the
first place, and be mad.And the nigga would be mad when she
happened to him like that and healready knew what was gonna happen in the
first place. Yeah, man,I feel sorry for the kind of nigga

(01:25:57):
don't taste no woman. Man,that's that's I don't reward. But you
know what too. I also andI've seen a video on this and totally
to agree that relationships aren't just aboutpleasure and everything that we talked about.
They also are here to grow you, right, So we're getting a lot

(01:26:17):
of relationships before we even get toour life partner, if that's even a
thing for our life here at thistime, to teach us and grow,
you know. So we gotta stoplooking at these relationships as a loss,
and just when we can look atthem what we we take have taken from

(01:26:38):
them, and evaluate, evaluate thatand move forward, things just go better.
Sometimes we gotta learn to go withthe flow instead of getting stuck in
what we've been through in bitterness,because it's it's not productive and some of
your best relationships will be your mostchallenging because they pervert you to grow.

(01:27:00):
You get what I'm saying. So, yeah, that's real. I like
that. I like that if youdrop some mindless right here. You gotta
have that humility, though, ifyou're gonna go into that relationship ready to
grow, you know what I'm saying, on any levels, you're gonna grow
from any from the end of therelationship, in the middle of it,
whatever. If you don't have thathumility to actually see your own downfalls or

(01:27:21):
maybe even to learn from the otherpersons. Yeah, nah, you've never
gone, never gown. Yeah,we've got to be doing the reflection though
we do. We have to reflect. It can't always be it's you,
you you, you know, sometimesyou have to look at the part you
play. But I mean, justin your relationship, you'll realize sometimes you're

(01:27:45):
having a conversation and you'll be thinking, like, no, that's not really
what's going on. This person isprojecting on me and you guys become a
mirror for one another, and it'sjust pushing you to look at the things
that you're uncomfortable or wouldn't have adress prior to now. You're forced to
address because it's it's manifesting as adisagreement in your relationship. Yeah, quiet

(01:28:16):
is it? Everybody that was thatwas? That was church? You know
a lot you guys just gotta letthat was it. So it's I that's
very very thoughtful voking. You know, uh what say we want sometimes we

(01:28:36):
that's attractive to us. We desireto have that, but that also doesn't
fit into our life as we're livingin mhm, you know. And so
speaking about relationships helping us grow,I mean if if you're if there's something

(01:28:57):
you're really struggling with, but yousee this person as an ideal mate,
maybe there's something you need to workon most definitely. And it's also we
have to take note that every relationshipisn't meant to last a lifetime. I
know, we have a lot ofideals because of religious foundation, right and
how we were taught. And thatis also a conflict because you not us

(01:29:23):
as much, but we have parentsthat came from an error, Like,
no matter what, you stayed inthis relationship, right, And I think
there has to be a balance becauseyou got some people that are staying in
abusive relationships because of their religious beliefsor what they've been taught, and that's

(01:29:43):
not okay. It's okay for younot to come home and be abused,
whether that be a man or awoman. Let's not forget that men are
abused as well. They just don'ttalk about it as much. But there
are women that go outside they mean'shead and always starting ship or talking to
them crazy, which is emotional abuse. So you have to know. Again,
this is where the discernment comes inof this doesn't really feel good,

(01:30:08):
it's not productive. It's time toget out. Everything doesn't have to last
forever, which you also have tobe reasonable. Every bump in the road
doesn't mean we need to go ourseparate ways. You know that's true.
True at the first the first signof the trouble don't mean you gotta just

(01:30:31):
run for the hill. Sometimes yougotta stay in fright, you gotta look
it out. I don't know.But then the making good well, I
mean, I like you said abusivelyto understand, but everything else, I
personally believe that you should be willingto work it out and pick it out,
especially if you brought life into theworld. If you're not, if
you're not willing to like work itout or you know, of course both

(01:30:55):
people have to be willing to.But as if they're not willing to,
then of course you got to getout of things that's gonna take piece away
from your life. So let's geta little risk here. Let's talk about
sex. Uh Oh, I thoughtI thought we was already it was dipping

(01:31:19):
little. How important is sex toyou men as far as how it's how
it was presented or carried out onthe woman's end? Do you want Huh?
I'm not, I'm listening. I'msorry I didn't. I thought your
question was over. No, likeI'd like to explain. So y'all know,

(01:31:43):
Uh, do you want a womanwith a degree in sexology or would
you rather teach her? How?How was that? How important is it?
And how you want that package tocome? I prefer I prefer good
chemistry. It don't have to belike it ain't always about the skill and
sex. When that chemistry and thatthat that organicness that y'all have, that

(01:32:10):
that bonnet y'all have it to eachother, that makes the sex that much
more better. If y'all don't havea connect, If y'all have a disconnect,
sex ain't shit. It doesn't meannothing. It's just let me get
this nut off so I can laydown, you know what I'm saying.
But when when you got a connectionand like her body is reacting to yours

(01:32:30):
and vice versus like, it makessex all the more better to me in
my opinion, have an agreement.Yeah, I agree with what Tone said.
It's all about chemistry. And youknow what I'm saying, we could
we could do missionary if we gotsome good ass chemistry. That kiss while

(01:32:51):
we're doing missionary is about to turnus all the way up. We're gonna
hear the music playing in the background. Ain't no music even playing? Y'all
gonna hear that love and basketball?What's that next? We saw? Hey
man? Hey move on to thenext what? Why wait a minute?

(01:33:14):
Play the next song? This woman? Hey man, listen, I had
a situation once before dog and thatour first time was off of that song.
And every time I hear that,and the chemistry was this. Every
time I hear that song, automaticallythings back to her all the time.

(01:33:39):
And boy, listen, I'm gonnatell you who it is we get.
A matter of fact, I'm gonnatell you what we get off here.
Yeah, I gotta guess, butI don't want to so as y'all can
see, it's a lot of behindthe scenes foolery that goes on. It's

(01:34:00):
always can it's always GEP, it'salways listen. I want to go on
the record and say, y'all callme toxics. GP is the most toxics
of the butts. You know whatyou might be on or something, you
know what to hire damn d alwayscalling somebody after the show? That that

(01:34:33):
was? What's that about? GeYou? Always calling somebody after the show?
No, I ain't gotta call myjust text he knows who it is.
But look at black though he agreed, don't guys now I Gee is

(01:34:54):
definitely toxic. Yeah, yea alllot of it. No heat toxic.
Oh better than that. Wait,Brandon, would you like to comment on
the whole sexica? Yeah? Imean yeah, for me, it's I

(01:35:17):
mean it is and it all alwayshas been. How is the package that
comes in the enthusiasm, the approachyou I don't I don't necessarily want nor
do I want to perform be youknow, just be performative. Okay,

(01:35:39):
Well, I just gotta do thisthing versus you know, someone who is
enthusiastic about it. You know,a learner who's you know, come to
meet with you know, some ideasand things of that nature. You know,
a sense of adventure because you knowit could get old. It's it's
it's only so many different ways youcan do it, and bringing that element

(01:36:03):
of adventure and enthusiasm changes everything.You know, certain some days I understand
you just gotta get it in becauseyou know it's been a minute. But
you know, the quality versus thequantity is essentially is what it comes down
too. So you know, ifif say, for instance, I'm not

(01:36:25):
on a dating market anymore, butyou know, if if I ever was,
that's a very very important component becauseusually that tells you a lot about
a person and also how they viewthat particular act, whether they think is
a handshake or whether they think isactually something valuable that should be cherished,

(01:36:46):
because you know, if you're justgonna throw it around and make it available
to everybody, then how special shouldI feel? But if if you if
you make it special, you know, and I think tone's talking to that,
you know, and I think weall could agree that you know,
it should be special because it issomething that you don't want to feel like

(01:37:11):
anybody else has had. So yeah, I think it's it's it's I think
it's of the things that's important inrelationships. I think it's right up there,
you know, of like the topthree at least. But the quality
has to be there over the quantity, especially if you you don't have a
motor like that. So yeah,that's that's that's that's for me. It

(01:37:36):
has to have to have that senseof adventure, that sense of you know,
interest, you know, I meanI really I need that, you
know, that that interest and thatenthusiasm, you know what I mean,
like just don't you know, useboth hands, you know, spits.
Yeah, let it all right,real, real talk. I'll say this.

(01:38:12):
I think one what comes to mindfor me is playfulness, right,
and like I think that behavior iscommunication, because that's that's not right playfulness.
What do you mean like for aplay or living? I mean it

(01:38:38):
can. I think it looks differentfor everybody, right, Okay, it
depends on the couple. Real no, but also just like being able to
be silly and choke around. Yeah, definitely. That is one of the

(01:39:00):
biggest turnouts I had because I'm asilly ass nigger and if I can't be
silly with you. That's an issuefor me, because all right, I'll
be returning. I got listened everymorning. I got a thing called Tony
Chronicles, and and I get onCorey Nurse with it. But it'd be
something everyone. It's eventful. It'sfour in the morning, though, serious.

(01:39:21):
But you Dale looks like you weregonna say something. Nah, I
just keep hearing that. I'm I'mhearing Tiffany said, you know playfulness,
you know, because I have experiencedin the and having a spouse like that
as extremely placeable. My question isfor how long? Well okay, well
let me let me, let melet me put it on the bath.

(01:39:41):
Let's just say play for how longwould this play? For? This supposed
to last? Is this something?The way you're trying to flirt all day
and then it's like, you knowwhat, I'm about to sleep and we're
gonna start this flirting back tomorrow,And it's like, nah, I'm not
trying to flirt that long. Iain't trying to that. I ain't gonna
do all that shit. But youknow, I mean, I'm wanting to
play. I don't know, Listen, I want to say this, guys,

(01:40:05):
seriously, it just takes this intoconsideration. It's nothing you have to
do, but just something in consideration. Setting the mood is an all day
thing. It really is. Wewe don't have to be talking about sex,
but how we are relating to eachother. You know, if you
already, if you're calling me andit's always some militant conversation or it's about

(01:40:30):
some shit we gotta do and allof this shit that that's not a turn
on. You know, it's gottabe some kind of relation. You build
the mood without the throughout the day. You ain't even gotta flir it's just
the conversation in the way that yourelate to one another. Because I'm gonna
tell you when you get married.Okay, so let's talk about sex.
On my end, I called alittle bit. I'm not gonna get too

(01:41:02):
graphic because you know, I'm notgonna really uncomfortable. But we already know
we already thank you black, let'shighlight. But no, so sex is
important. I can say that Iremember, and I okay, I don't.

(01:41:26):
I don't want because this his twinis on here, so I don't
want to get too much. Huh, let's keep it pg. Thirteen,
Just bring a parent. You know. I remember this guy was talking to
him and I'm gonna tell you hissex is what got him booted out the

(01:41:53):
door and he and it turned outto be crazy too, but you and
it felt like he was gonna dieon me. I'm not trying to be
funny. It really did. Itwas just really fuck this, I'm out
of here, like I don't.Yeah, it was really like colored purple
hotti dit on top of me,on top of me. That's how I

(01:42:15):
felt I was gonna be I couldn't. And I you know, instantly y'all
had that post nut clarity. Idon't know what we would, but it's
not when that connection is made,and I've always had it would be like
m like instantly, I know fromthe moment I'm goodbye, mister Byron here

(01:42:43):
that when that connection was made,I said, oh, yeah, I'm
a marria. Oh he was asmooth operator that I'm a marry. But
I think we need to address though, because again with these fancy for ideas,
when you get married, then youadd on children and the rigam of

(01:43:03):
growth, things do change. Soyou have to make a conscious effort because
we're not we're not before we buildthis life together. We're living in separate
homes. I haven't seen you.It's Thursday. I haven't seen you since
Tuesday. We're banging like rabbits.It's a whole different dynamic. Then you

(01:43:23):
move with somebody, you stay withthem. You got kids, and kids
getting on your nerves. They mighthave got on your nerves, you know,
stuff just or or In my case, my husband works two jobs,
so he's not home and I ain'ttripping. Ladies, we gotta stop being
mad about me and not being home. Do you want to be poor?
Do you want to be poor?I'm not sitting up looking at no nigga

(01:43:44):
all day. I didn't grow uplike that. My dad was gone and
he was making money. So tome, a man being gone to make
it, that's what I'm used to. Because the bills gotta get paid around
here, and they can't get paid. Snuggling on the love seat talking about
we in love, Licen is gonnago off. That's just I just want
to drop that, you know,real quick. But yeah, I'm sex

(01:44:06):
do matter because that you can makethat connection and it just the power will
blow like dog. You gotta go, you know, And men always talk
about this, but I think womenneed to put that out there too,
Like, you know, I'm sorrydog some of y'all men. You know,
if you haven't seen that woman againafter you smashed her, it could
have been I'm not saying you trashon me. I'm just saying when that

(01:44:28):
connections connection was made, she knewit wasn't for me, you know,
and she had to keep it movingbecause we're not gonna do this. We're
not gonna Yeah, can I tella story about this? Like yeah,
I get that, and I getthat sometimes, but sometimes you got some
niggas that just want to hit somethingand see what it's like and know that

(01:44:49):
he put it, know that heput a cold play down, but just
don't want to go down that alley. But you know, when you put
a cold play down, because theystill be asking for it, you just
gotta keep spending them until they getthe picture. But spending them, honey,
no, not spending the money,spending them like I okay, i'mna
get with you, and don't neverget with him. No, I heard

(01:45:13):
you. I said, not spendingthem honey, Like oh yeah, yeah
yeah, But I've known the personto be that type of person from now
and again one night staying the personyou know pro bono and then keeping moving
pro bono. Who took him onefor the time, So this is my
question, then what's wrong? Andof course I got married very young,

(01:45:34):
so this guy, I got marriedat twenty four. So this guy,
there's no way I would have wentthrough that. It wasn't And I'm telling
you he became a stalker too.It was really weird, Like I who,
Lord have mercy, But anyway,I wouldn't have told him this.
But at this age where I'm sittingthat, now, what's wrong with communicating
to these people? It's nothing wrongwith you, It's just our connection is

(01:45:59):
not necting. Nothing. Just letthem know in a very nice way,
you know what I'm saying. Youdon't have to shoot a person down and
attack them. Just let them know. This is not I'm not tearing down
your character or anything like that.I just know that the we're not connecting.
Because remember, as we talked aboutearlier on in the conversation, sex

(01:46:20):
is a lot of ways that wecan resolve and get back in the swing
of things or connect keep that connection. So if I'm not feeling that connection,
when you get the fuck on mynerves. Somebody's cheating, probably both
of us, because what are wedoing? Hell real tee, we need

(01:46:46):
to we need that therapy follow upany God, nothing for you. GP.
I likes he a good girl?This shit I know. Okay,
First of all, you don't know. I know you not well came alive?

(01:47:13):
Would you about to say, GP, because I know what I'm crazy?
Oh good. We can't hear himmoving on Black lu because he was
gonna see Black don't know nothing.All I said was I know you're not
a good girl. All I said, oh, okay, let's say I'm

(01:47:36):
not. I'm not in the mixof nothing. And you're right, I
don't know, but I know you'rein a good girl. Who I ain't
say you was a bad girl.I just said I know you were a
good girl. I said, youknow acting food. Well, y'all,

(01:48:00):
it is nine fifty eight. Ithink we officially have done almost two hours.
I think we can. Yes,we have had a wonderful conversation and
of course I could go on allnight, but we gotta save something for
next week. Okay, So thankyou to everyone who was tuning in.
Please I need you to share this, like crazy share this too, whoever
think you will watch it. Iappreciate everyone who is signed on tonight.

(01:48:24):
Hopefully I will see you guys nextweek. This is going well. I
mean, I think tonight was dope. Does everybody agree or anybody have any
grows cool? We got a littlecrazy. There will be times we will
get ratchet up in here. Everythingwill not be so professional, you know.

(01:48:45):
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