August 7, 2023 • 62 mins
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All right, we're in here.We are live. Thank you to everyone
who was watching us on the rockyroll TV YouTube channel and on Twitter,
and thank you if you're watching thereplay. It's just two of us today.
I tried to hold out as longas I could, but it peers
that uh, people are aren't comingthere. On the bikes, is what
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I'm getting. We on the bikes, okay, whatever that means. So
me and Tip are gonna handle theshoulder day. We're gonna get into it.
We had some videos we wanted torespond to, and it would have
been perfect if everyone was here today, but the show does not stop.
We are going to respond to themright after this and we are back.
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So a black man goes viral onTikTok. His handle on TikTok is hard
work, and he actually got someoneto respond to him. They seen it
and they had something to say.So we're gonna watch that and then we
are going to respond a little bitof responsibility. No, not all of
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us, because we're not all responsiblefor the children as being born in this
community. Seventy percent of the childrenin the black community is being born to
single mothers. Think about that.That means that a percentage of them have
to be born to those and committedand married relationships. So the numbers are
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thirty percent of the Black community ismarried and having children in those marriages.
So let's make it simple. Tenmen, ten women, They're gonna have
babies, right, A percentage ofwomen are going to have babies seventy percent
of the time. They're having babieswith only eighteen percent of the men in
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the Black community. Now, howdoes that make sense? Because fifty one
percent of the men in the Blackcommunity are single and childless. So these
women are choosing to have children withmen that already have children. They're sharing
this man and they're doing so willingly. Why because he meet her attavistic maiden
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standards six feet six inches six figuresor at the very least, he looks
like he has some wealth or status. Doctor Umar said that, you know,
there's a there's a problem because there'sa pooky and a ray ray in
the maiden selection. So that's everybodyelse's problem. All the men's responsible because
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there is a pookie in the rayray that does exist. That's asinine.
What do we do kill the pookiesin the ray race? No, they're
there for a reason they exist,because there is a desire for them.
Women are choosing those guys who atthe very least, men who exhibit those
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behaviors. What we're supposed to getrid of all the stoves just because some
of the kids are gonna burn themselves, Come on, doesn't make sense.
They simply need to be better andchoose better or accept the consequences of their
actions. It's not our fault,and neither is it our responsibility, because
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according to the CDC, black menare doing really well. In fact,
we should be teaching classes on howto be fathers in any community because we're
the best that's open. Don't getmad at me, y'all realize that all
of y'all spit the same talking pointsover and over again. Black men are
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single and childs uh uh. Eightypercent of women are having babies with twenty
percent of y'all spit the same talkingpoints, and they're Kevin Samuel's talking points.
And that really makes me realize thatdude was really a lot of y'all
dudes big homie Like he was thebig homie for dudes that was invisible in
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the nineties because the nineties was rough, right, it was it was about
streets, it was about drugs,it was about you know, fast living,
and that's where Pooky and Ray Rayswere shining. So ks represented.
He was a spokesman for the invisibleBlack man. Y'all. Check it out.
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The majority of black men, bythe time you are fifty half children.
See, when you do these statistics, you have to ask for details.
Okay, what are the ages ofthe men that you're saying fifty percent
don't have children? Are they twentyto twenty nine? Are the thirty to
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forty? Are they forty to sixty? Because each man has babies at different
ages. But by the time aman black man is fifty years old,
he has a child. That's one. Two. You can no longer talk
about any type of community if mychild is not your child and your child
is not my child. Melonated peoplehistorically don't come from mother father dynamic.
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We come from village dynamic. That'swhy you hear the term it takes a
village. That's literal. We didn'tdo mother, mother, father, or
this concept of the nuclear family.We have tribal living. You understand,
because it is very unnatural for aman and a woman to be over there
by themselves and to raise an entirefamily. That is too much pressure on
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the man, and that's too muchpressure on the woman. We come from
a tribal dynamic where all these babiesares, but y'all don't care about babies
like that. That's two three,this ideal of this Pooky and Ray Ray
thing. Yo, if you justbecause you don't commit crimes, don't mean
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you a good dude. Yo,this this good black man thing. You
think because you don't sell crack,or because you don't pimp, or because
you don't jack, that you agood dude. Some of the most wicked
dudes I've ever met in my life, you never commit the crimes before,
but you just have something in youthat just makes you a sucker. And
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then some of the dudes that gotbusy in the streets had a heart of
gold. They just snap easy andthey don't deal with disrespect, so they
own your helmet when you talk crazy. But there's this deal that if you
don't commit crimes, you're a goodman, and if you do commit crimes,
you're a bad man. It don'twork like that because the good dudes,
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the good dudes, really be thebad dude. So all these talking
points is crazy. You'll use yourown mind. If you're wrong, you're
wrong, but have your own wayof viewing the world. Let Kevin saying
it would die and get your owntalking points. Oh well, what do
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you have to say that that tiffSo I'm not sure. I don't remember
his name, but Ken Brisbane,yeah, so can make some very valid
points there. You know, Ireally appreciate this village, this conversation about
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raising children in the village, andyou know, really not that one person
is responsible totally responsible for another child, person's child, or anything like that
or should be. But I doappreciate that village concept, you know,
I think that's very important and raisingchildren in general. Also, if you
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feel like you're not responsible for anotherperson's child, then don't don't get involved,
you know, because you're probably notthe the person for the job.
You know, that's my opinion aboutit. Don't date the woman, don't
be around the child, just leavethat situation alone. Definitely. So what
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do you say to the people thatfeel like you've got to be a simple
it's a marry a baby mama andtake on her child or children. Well,
I think it's the opposite, youknow, I think it. I
think it takes some takes some realheart, you know, it takes it
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takes a strong man woman to dothat, because the dynamics can be quite
complex. But no, I thinkit's the opposite. I agree with you.
It does take some strength, courage, integrity, all those things,
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some endurance, some patience, somelong suffering. It takes all of that
and kindness and love and yeah,all of those things, and we don't
talk about that stuff enough. Ithink that, although to me, a
lot of these talking points are overgeneralized. And I get it because it
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would take a long time to say, well, you know, it's an
exception to the rule and not thesepeople and that people. Some people don't
want to throw out disclaimers throughout theirconversation. But I feel like we talked
too much about stuff that we're infear of instead of stuff that's positive.
Oh absolutely, I agree with that, you know. And as for the
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statistics, I mean, I'm notI'm not sure where the statistics came from
or what the point of throwing thoseout were. Actually, you know,
I'm not sure what what his goalwas and and throwing those out there.
But regardless, you know, Idon't I don't agree with that. Uh
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what the points say that he made? Okay, Yeah, I just think
like this right. So I dowant to say this because I was told
earlier that the manner sphere wants youto take a hard stance, and I'm
here to clarify for y'all. Ijust like life. You react to life
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as it comes. Therefore, Ireact to the situation that is in front
of me. Whatever we're talking about, I react to it that way.
There are going to be some thingsthat I agree with, there are going
to be some things that I disagreewith, and I will do my best
to thoroughly articulate why I agree,disagree, and why I might find myself
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somewhere in the middle. You willeven see me talk about nuances. I
just wanted to put that out therebecause this this hard stance if you really
think about it. A lot ofthese people coming with this stuff have a
very fixed mindset, and I ama believer that with a fixed mindset there
is no growth. You cannot grow. These type of people just end up
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dying off because they're not adaptable tochange. They don't want change, they
want what they want. And soI think we're all fixed. We all
have a fixed mindset and one thingof or another, right, I mean,
that's just life. But major thingslike this, when it comes to
love and it comes to family,we shouldn't be so fixed. Another thing
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that truly bothers me about stuff likethis is that we negate another person's point
of view. People only speak fromtheir experiences and from their lens, right,
that's the only way they can speak, So we can't say that they're
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lying or making up with This isfact, and this is but it's factual
in their existence, it's not inyours. So just because you haven't experienced
it and you don't know this tobe true, does not mean that what
this person is saying is false.You know. Another thing that I want
to comment on is, you know, in the first video he talked about
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oh women, you know, thesix foot tall man with six figures and
blah blah like one. I findit very interesting that men think they know
what these women this percentage of womenhe's talking about, what they're thinking,
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or how they're choosing their mates orany of that, like that's that's really
interesting to me, Or or choosingwho they're having children. What they'll say
that that that's interesting. Also,what was about to say? I had
lost my train of thought. Youwere just saying, like you find it
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interesting of how you know this thisconclusion of how women think, oh,
how they choose. How it's gonnasay something else? Now I don't remember.
There was a lot that was thatthat video touched on a few different
points, and as I was patientlywaiting to reply, I lost my training
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thought. Any who, Yeah,you know, I just overhauled. I
think that you know, you madea really good point in terms of you
know, just generalizing or over generalizingand and this like willfulness. Right,
It's like, oh no, youknow things have to be this certain way.
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And we're talking about black love andand the problems that exists, you
know, in our communities, andand solutions and finding solutions for it.
Well, that fixed mindset, thatreal get way of thinking, that wilfulness,
it really hinders progress and growth.And you know, there's there's a
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level of accepting kind of what isand you know, coming up with solutions
and working together. A lot ofa lot of this information I've been hearing,
and I to be honest, Idon't watch a lot of these videos
on social media, but what Ihave come across. You know, from
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being on this show, there's alot of divisiveness. It's like, oh,
women are the problem and me andare the problem and this is it
and that and it's just like,okay, after we do all of the
pointing of fingers and degrading each otherand you know, pointing out all of
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the flaws, not what right now? What? You know? Definitely,
I think more people need to watchtheir clone Tyrone. I think that's the
name of the video on movie onNetflix by Jamie Foxx. I need to
go and finish it. But itwas getting good. It was it was
a lot of subliminals and I reallydon't think you know, some people are
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going to miss the message. Ireally witnessed that even in real time yesterday.
And that's not something that I'm talkingabout on ear but I have to
tell you about it. But ifsome people don't, matter how you give
them the message, you're not gonnabe able to receive it, you know.
And that's okay too. I alwaysbelieve that those who receive a message
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were meant to receive it, andif you didn't, it wasn't for you,
at least not at that time either. You know what I'm saying,
or it could not be for youall together, but it is a lot
of divisiveness. I want to speakto the whole thing of the village that
he was speaking of, in thetribal way of living. To be honest,
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if we live if like that,we would not be up here barking
about single mothers and baby daddies andall of this stuff, because we will
be raising our children together. Evenso our killed our children and even have
better communication skills. They wouldn't beas withdrawn as they are now because they
would always be able to play amongstone another in the community. Would it
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that be structured play, because ofcourse they're gonna have structured interaction where they're
learning, and then they would havefree for all interaction. It's definitely something
that we need to explore. Ithink, hello, Ramon, Ramon was
watching this. It's something we needto explore because we definitely need to get
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to the solutions. Yeah, andyou know there are many issues right that
what is this the ninth show?We've talked about many issues in relationships and
particularly in our communities. I thinkwe do have to be quote ourselves accountable,
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We do have to be mindful aboutour actions and the choices that we're
making, especially you know that youknow, we make some some pretty pretty
big decisions right based on whatever fleetingemotion or thing that's going on our situation.
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But we do have to be mindfulof of our goals, our life
goals, our goals we have ourcommunities, for our children's, for our
families, and try not to getside tracked, you know, and distracted
by things that are less important ofan agreement. I'm definitely in agreement.
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I had to let me see wecan we can listen to this one now
cause I have. I responded tothis one and it got deep, honey.
I I don't even know if peoplewatch the video, if they're ready
for that type of deep, youknow, because some people just are very
their attention spans is very short.But we're gonna do this from oh that's
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eight minutes, child. Oh well, it's just the two of us.
I guess we got time, money, Oh, just the two of us.
Here we go. What is goingon here? Can you hear?
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I cannot? Okay, I'm gonnastart cause I probably got it on silent.
So he got a brother that's youknow, going to kind of pick
up off of You know, alot of people were talking about doctor Mr
Johnson when he went to the DailyWrap Up crew and he wanted to put
blame on Black American men for whatthe women do. And of course there
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was a lot of swift backlash onthe brothers because I look at it like
this, I have nothing to dowith with Megan the Stallion is doing.
I have nothing to do and withwhat Glurilla do or any other woman that's
out here, Sukiana and all ofthem. I have nothing to do with
those women. Nothing. Because ifthose women would talk to me or listen
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to me, there will be somegood upstanding women, classy women if they
would talk to me. So soHobviously they didn't consult me, and they
don't consult a lot of men.They doing what they want to do.
Right. But I want you tohear what this brother says in response,
because we do have some men withthis this mindset in our community. Let's
review it. Man, y'all know, I got to start from man,
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man, man, you know thisanywhere absolutely nothing right. I thought it
was gonna bade one day. It'sbeen going crazy about this doctor Johnson.
You know what I'm saying, Davidshout out to the David Rapper with it
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couse of the baby mama thing.You know what I'm saying, Like my
wife, I married a woman whocame with the child, right, and
I don't get what the problem,what the what the issue is with the
woman having You know what I'm saying, like y'all don't as black Meg,
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y'all don't feel a little bit ofresponsibility. You know what I'm saying.
With we're trying to help out andand and raise you know what I'm saying,
these quote unquote master child children,you know what I'm saying, so
they can be affective in the community. No, it's it's not It's that
that child's father's responsibility to raise theirchild. The problem is, and what
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a lot of men have finally realized, sir, is that first of all,
you're getting with a woman that hasa child and you don't have any
children. Why don't you think youneed to start your family like you know,
with a woman who don't have childrenand you and you start fresh.
You know what I'm saying. WhatI'm saying now, I've always been a
proponent of saying that single mothers needto get with single fathers. I've always
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said that. I never said thatsingle mothers don't deserve somebody to love them
and all of that. I neversaid that. I just said they need
to get with a single father becausethey got more in common. Because sometimes
what single mothers say is, well, you know, I'm only gonna have
X amount of kids, already gotone. Well, so why should a
man lose out on a child justbecause you had one with somebody else?
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What they gotta do with him?So he gets to lose a child because
you say, you're not having nomore than this because you had one from
some other relationship. That's not fair. So to prevent all that you need
to you with a woman that don'thave children. Another thing, if the
women are out here just recklessly havingchildren with whok and ray ray, and
then these good brothers out here whofeel like him come up and say,
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oh no, we need to takecare of the children, then it never
creates a consequence in the community forthis recklessy having children, because you're always
gonna be builled out, you knowwhat I'm saying. What I'm saying,
I would never tell my son,oh yeah, son, get with that
girl, because yeah, you shouldbe there and raise you know, that
girl's children. What where is Pappyat? What were he at? Hi?
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My name is Elis Fox, model, mom and entrepreneur based in New
York. I started my company side. That is not his responsibility because see,
it's easy to be saying that.But would you want your son So
we get a girl with a bunchof kids and he gotta take care of
him, No, you would wantthat. Let's attenue. Uh, it's
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much extremely possible, you know whatI'm saying, like like like talk to
talk to what's going on? What? No? What? Let's pause it
too. We could take a minutedigest some of the things that he was
saying. Yeah, I think thisis interesting. So he mentioned this notion
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of no, it's not your responsibilityand bailing her out like she in jail.
That's that's really interesting. But also, you know, I know lots
of men, black men who mentorchildren, who coach children, who you
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know, take interest in the rearingof children who are not their biological children,
whether they're with the mom or not, because they do understand this concept
of community and it does matter andmake a difference in these children's lives and
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and ultimately our community, right,and so it's and then also, what's
this losing a child? What makesyou think that this man is going to
lose a child because he's choosing toembrace and raise someone else's That's really that
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really threw me for a loop.What a concept is is like this,
You know how our bodies are,right, So if I got too right,
I'm coming to you and you won'tfive, you might get two more,
but the chances her giving you fiveand she already got two. I
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understand where he was going with that. Mm I just said, okay,
whatever, I don't know. Ijust is the weird point to to bitch
but anyway, yeah, I meanso, so then if that's the case,
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then people shouldn't adopt, people shouldn'tfoster children. People like, why
is it a problem to raise achild that you didn't You know that you
didn't conceive. I don't. Butalso I feel like this, so understand,
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know what your limits are, right, know what you're willing to do
and do that. Yeah, becauseagain, these kids don't need another adult
in their lives who are not willingto take responsibility for them, willing to
guide them, willing to love themand nurture them. So hey, if
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that's something you don't want to do, don't do it exactly. And that's
my boot he talking about Hey boo, you know, so speaking of me
and this handsome man that I'm marriedto that's talking about me. We were
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having a conversation earlier. And thething is, I guess as I get
older, I think it's very importantto be clear on what you're speaking about.
And the reason why I say thatis because if you're talking about hood
rats, and I know that's avery harsh term, but we're just gonna
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use it because people understand that ifwe're talking about hood rats, okay,
but there are some good women thathave children that they're not or a child
too to a few, and they'renot with the husband for different reasons.
Does that mean she doesn't deserve arelationship. I think that's so ridiculous,
and I think it's very ridiculous tomake the men feel bad that are willing
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to take on the job when it'sjust as simple as what Tiffany was just
saying. If you're not up forthe job, just don't be up board.
Don't do it. You ain't gonnabe mad. You well within your
right. You well within your rightto think children everything, and it's nothing
wrong with that. I think youchoose to be with a woman who does
not have children over a woman whodoes, wonderful be with who you want
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to be with. That's it,that's good. But why do we feel
the need to criticize a man whochooses to do something different and even gonna
We want to approach every issue ina Jehovah witness manner. Okay, we
want a strong arm. We wantto meet people in the parking lot and
strong arm in them to believe inwhat the hell we believe. If that's
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what you want to do, baby, go ahead and do it. But
go ahead, it's okay, Idon't you know, And I and I
don't have a problem with him feelingthat way at all. How he chooses
to, you know, choose hismate. Great, Then do that another
man does who does not mind,you know. Also, here's the other
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thing that I want to point out. Not every single mother is parenting alone.
Okay, it's because she is notstill married or still not or not
so in a relationship with that child'sfather. Does not mean that child does
not have a father, right,But you know, they got another fear
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for that, and the fear isall we got to deal with, maybe
daddy. You know, it's alwaysa roadblock, you know. And I
don't even think I'm sorry to Ijust want to make sure I clarify because
I want people think I dropped offmy point. Oh I think I did.
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I did clarify, just say youtalking to hood arrest. I'm trying
to make it seem like it's allall women with children that are not with
the father, because it's it's nuancesto this right again, we talk about
everything. It's not black and white. But yeah, I'm sorry, I'm
I'm sorry. I just had tomake sure that's what made me speak on
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a situation where you know that thatmother may not be parenting alone or maybe
in a co parenting situation, andso you're thinking that every step father is
taking over that father role as ifthere is not another parent involved, and
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that's just simply not the case either, right, not always. So I
just I find that when I'm listeningto these videos, it's almost like they
have a certain situation they're talking about, yes, and it's like they're projectiling
it onto everybody else, and it'slike, wait, whoa, whoa,
what's happening here? You know?It's crazy, it really is. But
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I get it. I get it. It's sensationalism and we need it.
So I guess we'll go back tothe video and continue. Who who you
know? What? Did you know? What's going on? But what's the
problem? Like, Damn, Iain't know what was that big of a
deal? You know, because that'sall I see. It is baby moms,
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you know what I mean? Andavailable was out. You know,
I was twenty five years old.Now, I already knew that the likelihood
to be getting with a female thatdidn't have children was slim. The nune
Now that right there is actually whyI made this video. He said.
When he was twenty five years old, he said the likelihood of him getting
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a woman, especially in our community, without a kid, was slim to
none. That's bad, that ishorrible. So a lot of black men
actually think like him, unfortunately,and so they have to accept single mothers
when they don't even have children.Now, a lot of the younger men
have said this, I'm not doingit. The A lot of younger men
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say I got options, I gottapass for it. I don't have to
deal with that, you know,I mean when you travel, it doesn't
mean you're going to other countries outsideof black people. Shoot, you may
say, I'm gonna go to Caribbean, get me a woman. I'm gonna
go to Latin America, get mea sister over there. I go to
Motherland, I go somewhere. ButI'm not about to be dealing with this
problem. Ye, so too,what do you think about these men talking
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about they're gonna go on over tothese other countries and get them a woman.
Go ahead, yeah, go ahead, do what you need to do.
You know, I'm just not Idon't get hung up on all of
that. You know, do whatyou need to do, Do what you
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need to do. Yeah, Imean this, no where are we?
Okay? So we get the CDCfacts and all that, But who's taking
a poll on what people are thinking? Though? He said a lot of
brothers have this mind frame. Nowlet's just say some of this stuff people
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get on here and say just becauseit's gonna give views, that don't mean
they thinking it and a lot ofother people thinking it's. So it's like,
I don't know, Stu, canyou really twisted really quick? In
my opinion? But yeah, y'allwant to fly your asses over there,
Go on ahead, I don't youknow, go ahead, do what you
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need to do. I do thinkthat we base again, like you talked
about before, with perceptions, right. I feel like the gentleman in the
first video feels like, oh attwenty five the likelihoods and I'm gonna find
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a single woman without any children asslim. Well, that could be based
on his environment. M can weget an applause and let me see here?
Let me you know, the devil'sbusy here, but it was let's
get the can you hear that applause? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, let's
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get an applause. Also been here, but no, really, you know,
that could be based on his environment. You know, maybe he has
he senses that you know, they'relimited options. Does that make it accurate
statistically? Maybe not, you knowwhatever, but but maybe in his environment
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and the people he's around, mostof the single women have children, you
know, maybe that's true for him. So you know whatever, do what
I'm just like, do what youfeel like you need to do, right,
Because everybody's reality is different. Everybody'snot living the same life. So
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that's what I'm saying. It's like, you got these two statistics, but
they're overall, you know what Imean. They're overall, but they change
depending on the area you're in.They will fluctuate. So it's just like,
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you know, it's it's somebody acouple of blocks down and witness to
shoot out. I ain't witness it, you know. So it's like we
always want to speak on stuff thatwe're not experiencing, or we want to
dismiss it because we've never experienced it. And I think I won't use the
word selfish, cause I think selfishjust one of those hard terms. But
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I think it's kind of dismissive thatwe keep having children when there are so
many children that need a home justlike me. And I know, I
know, before y'all get on thisbitch and start tripping in these comments,
I understand that people are not dogs. However, I already have my children,
so I have to use the dogsas an example. Or my oldest
dog passes away and I go toget another dog, I'm going to the
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pound. I'm not gonna go andhave one bread because there's dogs at the
pound who need shell. So Ijust think, as as a whole,
we don't consider what we already have. We always want to get something new,
and it's like, oh, youknow, forget that. That's all
the more now, I just Idon't understand it. You know, people
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have different values, different morals,and so while you're saying, if I
feel the need to nurture and raisemore children, the likelihood of you birthing
(37:39):
more children it's slim to none.And so if you have that desire,
maybe you know you would adopt orfoster children who are already here and need
homes, you know, And Ithink that's right and not. And I
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also realized that many people would notdo that. M And again, if
you're a person who is not willingto do that, don't right most definitely,
most definitely. Yeah. So,I mean, cause that's what I
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wanted to do. I wanted toadopt kids. However, my husband wanted
to have children of his own,so I understood that. So you know,
that was to compromise. But it'sall about what you want to do,
and what you want to do isnot necessarily what the next man want
to do. So let's continue thisfoolishness, honey. That's a difference.
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The beauty of choice that a lotof these younger men have that this brother
probably didn't have back when he wastwenty five. I mean, the choice
was there, but the access todayis a so much easier than it was
to say, back probably when hewas twenty five years old. But yeah,
it's it's sad that a lot ofnot all, but a lot of
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the women got kids and young insteadof nobody married, but they got children,
you know what I'm saying. AndI purposely purposely stated women with children
because there was more serious. Ofcourse, they're gonna be more serious because
they need to be saved. Thewoman that don't have kids, she got
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more options out there, and soshe don't She don't have to food with
you. She could food this nowin the third because she got the choice.
A single mom with a kid.Yeah, she she looking for somebody
to take up, take us situationup. Of course, she's gonna be
more serious with you because she wantssomebody to come in there and help out
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those kids. What do you thinkabout that? Say she looked with somebody
that's safer, or she sees lifedifferently? Now all right, now,
all right, now, right,you know, yeah, I tell you
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I don't know. I think again, same with the previous video. People
have this picture painted in their mindsand that's what they're speaking on. It's
like he has a situation or heknows a woman in this in this situation,
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and that's what he's talking about.At least that's how it feels to
me. That's how it feels tome. A lot of the time,
I'll be like, oh, thisshit is personal. I mean, of
course it's personal, right because youcan only speak to what you've lived and
witnessed. That's the point. Soyou can't speak on somebody else when you
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haven't lived or witnessed their situation.You can speak from the outside looking in,
or from your opinion or how Isee, but see everybody. That's
just something that I've grown to do. There's grown people that don't realize that
they speak as if what they feeland they have witnesses facts all across the
(41:30):
board, and you have to takean account that people live differently. Yeah,
yeah, I mean, you know, so again, this gentleman he's
talking about is my husband. Listen. I look if if Byron think he
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saved me, fine, you knowwhat I'm saying. Fine, But I
look at it like this, Ihave a very my family's very resourceful,
and I would have been. Okay. Now, don't get me wrong.
(42:16):
I'm not discounting my husband and hiscontribution because it's it's been amazing, it
has. I thoroughly appreciate him.But I'm speaking to what this man is
saying without trying to, you know, make myself sound crazy. But I
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don't think it has nothing to dowith saving. I think it has everything
to do with with yours. Imean, and maybe some people, maybe
some of these women want to besaved. I don't know authority was saving
them. Captain staborhold and shit likethat. I mean, I get it,
you know what I'm saying, ButI'm just saying everybody's not looking to
be saved. I'm sure that peopledo look for help and stuff like that,
(42:58):
but saving they're just drowning this.I think it's more of like I
want to stable home. I'm notgonna live like this. I know,
Like after I've had my first child, I was like, I'm not gonna
be a baby mama two, three, four or five. That's crazy.
I'm not doing that. You knowthis slipped up on me again. Y'all
gonna understand it in the book.Shit, I said that, and when
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I did this video, I'm rightabout it. But I wasn't gonna how
that happened to me. Again,it just wasn't gonna happen. I wasn't
having another kids. So I gotmarried and that's what I did. So
their perspective changed on some things asit learned some things. You're not the
same person you were when you werenineteen years old, and you know,
(43:47):
your values and what was important toyou were similar to your husband's at that
point. So you know, yeah, I mean, that's it, and
that's all. Let's go back tothis video, whether she say so or
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not. Let's continue as far aswhat I was looking for, you know
what I mean. And it ain'thelp to notice you know that they had
kids, like like my older brothersto say, God, soul, you
like you want to know once onething about a woman with kids, she
(44:36):
likes to have sex. Oh God, some of you black men with that.
That's that's all it takes to getyou right, It's just a woman
giving you. So black men,you need to learn to have some some
d discipline. You understand, youneed to learn to have that. Not
everyone just okay, So what that'swhat she wanted she want to do,
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and they got women that don't havekids that'd like to do that too.
It is not brother's responsibility to betaken on children that's not their own.
It's not their responsibility. Once again, the single mother needs to get with
the single fathers who have children putthey put their family together since they got
more in common. I would nevertell my son take on a woman with
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children, get with her. No, I would never advocate for my son
to do that. Uh uh.I want him to get a woman that
don't have kids since he have nokids, and start fresh. It's just
that simple. But I'm glad thata lot of the younger brothers are saying,
no, I'm not I'm not simpinglike that. That's what they say.
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They're not simping like that. Soand that's becoming a problem too,
because because a lot of these littlewomen today, you know, used to
have that bell out they had.Ah, well they have a little man
like him come up and like,oh yeah, you know, I would
take care of him. Cheers.But the brother's not saying, nah,
I'm good, I ain't thinking nobodykids. Let me let me go catch
this flight. You know, I'mgonna have some kids. I have my
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own. It's just as simple.But let me know, chi'ld think about
you know this brother's saying, becauseunfortunately, that's that's a mindset, even
though that mindset is dying in thecommunity. It is, and it's good
that it's dying because they should thinkbefore they lay down and give their wound
to no good man. Period.If the man no good, don't it's
(46:29):
a men. It's to men.No, it's you. He didn't.
If he didn't violate you, andyou willingly laid down with him, then
it's you. Enough of that webad well, you know he So he
talks about the freedom of choice,and people are choosing. There are some
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men choosing to answer into relationships withwomen who have children, and that's your
choice, and they're okay with that. I don't know why someone else wouldn't
be. That's thirty place right exactly. They're okay with it, just like
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we okay for those that don't wantto choose women with children. It's all
a choice and it's okay. Sowe review both of them. If you're
just coming in on the replay,let's get these lights up. Get the
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(47:37):
So let's go here we go.Realize a lot of women date emotionally unavailable
men. That way they can pointthe finger because they're they're not emotionally available
either, and you don't have todo the labor of finding out what's going
on with you when you date aman that's worse off than you. You
know what I'm saying. It's likeyou're used to being the one that can't
(47:59):
be called. You're used to beingaloof. You're used to not being a
soul. When you get with aman who got more red flags and you
it's easier to point at him andsay he's the problem, and you walk
off and don't do no more work. And then you meet a Nika who
actually is emotionally intelligent. You needa dude that actually does communicate in real
time when something is wrong. Youneed a dude that actually does have boundaries.
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And now you look funny in thelife. And I'm just I'm just
saying, I don't know y'all personally. I'm only speaking from my experience.
A lot of women be looking funnyis in the life. Ruh. Have
you ever found yourself dating someone thatwasn't emotionally available because you weren't either?
(48:47):
Oh? Well, yeah, Imean this is a thing. This is
a real thing. And you know, as long as you're dating over the
years, you know, as you'regrowing and maturing and handling you know,
(49:12):
lives, experiences in life and youknow, yeah, I'm sure this this
happens with lots of relationships. ButI think the best thing, though,
is to learn from those experiences.Oh yeah, you know, it's okay.
(49:36):
All of our relationships aren't going tonone of them are going to be
perfect, and when they end,you know, reflecting and learning as always
a plus, and you can gointo your next relationship or the next stage
of your life with more insight intoyourself. Right, Yeah, I mean
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I agree. I think if you'renot emotionally available, you do need to
date somebody in the same because whatyou're trying to do is you're trying to
play at it and not in it. You know what I'm saying, Like,
you're not really trying to be serious, so you date someone that's not
serious. I mean, it onlymakes sense, it really does. And
I've definitely been there wasn't a longI mean, because I've been married a
(50:27):
long time, but I've been there, So I get it. I do.
I do get it. But youknow, I also kind of want
to say that some of the stuffit's not like So it's a lot of
like victims out here, and Ithink, so there are victims, right,
(50:50):
but those they were talking about asmall percent. So the ones that
think they're victims but aren't really victims, I think their issue is the lack
of a win as you know whatI'm saying, Like they really don't realize
why they are in these experiences becauselike when you look like at the time,
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right back in the day, youmight have been with someone like just
with this example, you aren't emotionallyavailable, so you was with somebody emotionally
unemotionally available. But then you alsoprobably was like, well why are we
not moving forward? But as yougot older, you realize you was on
the bullshit too though, you knowwhat I'm saying, So it's just like
(51:36):
you're not aware. Awareness is athing, but we gained that more as
we get older, we gain atleast we should we gain wisdom and stuff
like that. Well, also thereare some things that you learn about yourself
in relationship that you don't or youmay not learn about yourself single. Yeah,
(51:59):
and there's that the point of therelationship really it sharpens you. It
does, It sharpens you, andit just is what it is, you
know, just is what it is. I think it's important to be mindful
and you know, if if ifyou are aware of where you are,
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which many people aren't. They're they'restill discovering that, they're still figuring that
out. But as much as youcan be open and honest with where you
are, because like you said,if if you're in a place where you're
not emotionally available and you want toyou know, date someone or whatever,
(52:45):
have whatever kind of relationship with anotherperson, get someone who's not trying to
be serious. If you're not tryingto you know what I mean, If
you're not trying to be serious,then if you just want to date and
that's all you wanna do, beup front about that. I think the
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challenges sometimes people aren't aware of wherethey are, and you know, that
makes it a little tricky, butwe're all human, we're all trying to
figure it out. Yeah, mostdefinitely, let's let's play this video.
(53:28):
Let's see how we feel about this. Here we go. I don't want
a man that makes me his numberone priority. If I'm his number one
pritory, is his mission and hispurpose and if he don't following his mission
his purpose, where he got mefollowing? What you think about that,
(53:53):
Well, it depends. I'm assumingthis is someone who feels like the man
is the leader and yeah, ohyou okay? Right? So yeah,
I mean if you are a copilot and the pilot isn't clear on where
(54:22):
he's going, there might that mightbe an anxiety provoking situation. Right,
So yeah, many many people don'twant to get on a ride and they
don't know what the goal is orthe destination. So I'm gonna say,
(54:43):
if if it ain't safe to seethe point, you ain't getting on it.
You ain't just about to get ona ride and just fall out the
sky, honey, that we gottamake sure we're safe and we're gonna return,
know I'm saying. But to me, I just I feel like number
one p priority. See, it'llbe stuff like that for me. The
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I feel like our family, usas a unit unit should be a priority.
One of the main priorities, becausemaybe yourself might be the main priority.
And I only I'm not saying ina selfish way, but you gotta
make sure that you're healthy in yourbody and your mind to be able to
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be good for your family. SoI think that your family, the unity
group, should be the priority.And when that's the priority, then your
your moves will follow accordingly. Ifthat makes sense. That's what I think.
(55:50):
We'll do. One more than wecould sign about for here. Let's
see has to be let's go.Oh, women are to embody love.
They are not to seek love.They are to embody it. And when
she does not embody it, itis because she has lost her way.
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The male, on the other hand, has never lost his way. His
purpose on this planet is to findhis way. Okay, the woman has
lost her way, and the malehas always been here to find his way,
(56:37):
and the woman will not let himbecause she's too busy trying to save
him and protect him, which isnot the nature or how that's supposed to
go. And this is what you'reseeing in this video. What you think
(57:02):
about that? Oh, we Ithink she has a good point, because
you you gotta be you have tolove yourself and you have to so so
start. Part of embodying love isloving self and once you love stuff and
(57:23):
really get in love with life andjust and love where you're at. I
think these things come to you.We do, as we was talking about
in a car, uh last weekmaybe or maybe it's a few days ago.
Hell, it might have been afew days ago. These days,
but how women are always trying tocoddle their sons and coddle their mates.
(57:47):
We're jumping in the way of lessonsthat they should be learning. I see
what she's saying. I see whatshe's saying. She she always has an
interesting way of putting things. Theycan be inflammatory depending on who's listening.
But through my ears, I'm ableto balance it out and understand. I'm
(58:10):
und I understand. Yeah, yeah, I think that you know, in
relationships in life, right, dowhat works, do what's effective. And
that's not always what we want todo, yeah, you know, or
(58:37):
what we initially want to do.I'll say, sometimes we have a picture
painted of how things should go andwhat things should look like. Yeah,
And I think that's where you messup because there comes to disappointment. You
know, always go, always enterthe day with wars works and with a
(59:00):
certain level of going with the flowtoo, honey, because if you brace
the impact, you're not gonna breakthe fuck off. I'm just saying we'd
be stressed out and stronger fuck out. Yeah, I mean, I think
willingness is certainly an important factor.Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well we're
(59:25):
hitting our mark y'all. Thank youso much for tuning in. Thank you
for those who are watching us onthe replay. I do want to let
you know that we will not behere next week. It's a lot going
on. We will not be here. We will resume that following week.
Let's see. Let me get thecalendar up so because some people might need
a date, so we will beback. It looks like August the sixth.
(59:49):
My god, Now that is scary. Summer is getting the fuck on,
and you know, once August gethere. Honestly, I feel like,
and this is from me living inDetroit, y'all, like, once
August gets here, especially after mydaughter's birthday, now it's over. They're
going back to school. Summer's fuckingover. I don't care nothing about the
weather. You know, it's over. And it's really sad because we don't
(01:00:10):
get long enough and they hold thesekids hostage in the school house, and
they ain't teaching them shit but indoctrine nation, So why don't why they
got to be in there so long? You know, it's really crazy,
girl. Maybe man, we gottaget school going for these children because this
(01:00:31):
is crazy. Let them men saidchildren, He's something else. That's just
as Philip Scott something else. Butyeah, we're not gonna be here next
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I tried to hold out as longas I could, but it peers
that uh, people are aren't comingthere. On the bikes, is what
(00:23):
I'm getting. We on the bikes, okay, whatever that means. So
me and Tip are gonna handle theshoulder day. We're gonna get into it.
We had some videos we wanted torespond to, and it would have
been perfect if everyone was here today, but the show does not stop.
We are going to respond to themright after this and we are back.
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So a black man goes viral onTikTok. His handle on TikTok is hard
work, and he actually got someoneto respond to him. They seen it
and they had something to say.So we're gonna watch that and then we
are going to respond a little bitof responsibility. No, not all of
(01:22):
us, because we're not all responsiblefor the children as being born in this
community. Seventy percent of the childrenin the black community is being born to
single mothers. Think about that.That means that a percentage of them have
to be born to those and committedand married relationships. So the numbers are
(01:44):
thirty percent of the Black community ismarried and having children in those marriages.
So let's make it simple. Tenmen, ten women, They're gonna have
babies, right, A percentage ofwomen are going to have babies seventy percent
of the time. They're having babieswith only eighteen percent of the men in
(02:09):
the Black community. Now, howdoes that make sense? Because fifty one
percent of the men in the Blackcommunity are single and childless. So these
women are choosing to have children withmen that already have children. They're sharing
this man and they're doing so willingly. Why because he meet her attavistic maiden
(02:35):
standards six feet six inches six figuresor at the very least, he looks
like he has some wealth or status. Doctor Umar said that, you know,
there's a there's a problem because there'sa pooky and a ray ray in
the maiden selection. So that's everybodyelse's problem. All the men's responsible because
(02:59):
there is a pookie in the rayray that does exist. That's asinine.
What do we do kill the pookiesin the ray race? No, they're
there for a reason they exist,because there is a desire for them.
Women are choosing those guys who atthe very least, men who exhibit those
(03:20):
behaviors. What we're supposed to getrid of all the stoves just because some
of the kids are gonna burn themselves, Come on, doesn't make sense.
They simply need to be better andchoose better or accept the consequences of their
actions. It's not our fault,and neither is it our responsibility, because
(03:45):
according to the CDC, black menare doing really well. In fact,
we should be teaching classes on howto be fathers in any community because we're
the best that's open. Don't getmad at me, y'all realize that all
of y'all spit the same talking pointsover and over again. Black men are
(04:08):
single and childs uh uh. Eightypercent of women are having babies with twenty
percent of y'all spit the same talkingpoints, and they're Kevin Samuel's talking points.
And that really makes me realize thatdude was really a lot of y'all
dudes big homie Like he was thebig homie for dudes that was invisible in
(04:31):
the nineties because the nineties was rough, right, it was it was about
streets, it was about drugs,it was about you know, fast living,
and that's where Pooky and Ray Rayswere shining. So ks represented.
He was a spokesman for the invisibleBlack man. Y'all. Check it out.
(04:53):
The majority of black men, bythe time you are fifty half children.
See, when you do these statistics, you have to ask for details.
Okay, what are the ages ofthe men that you're saying fifty percent
don't have children? Are they twentyto twenty nine? Are the thirty to
(05:14):
forty? Are they forty to sixty? Because each man has babies at different
ages. But by the time aman black man is fifty years old,
he has a child. That's one. Two. You can no longer talk
about any type of community if mychild is not your child and your child
is not my child. Melonated peoplehistorically don't come from mother father dynamic.
(05:41):
We come from village dynamic. That'swhy you hear the term it takes a
village. That's literal. We didn'tdo mother, mother, father, or
this concept of the nuclear family.We have tribal living. You understand,
because it is very unnatural for aman and a woman to be over there
by themselves and to raise an entirefamily. That is too much pressure on
(06:05):
the man, and that's too muchpressure on the woman. We come from
a tribal dynamic where all these babiesares, but y'all don't care about babies
like that. That's two three,this ideal of this Pooky and Ray Ray
thing. Yo, if you justbecause you don't commit crimes, don't mean
(06:25):
you a good dude. Yo,this this good black man thing. You
think because you don't sell crack,or because you don't pimp, or because
you don't jack, that you agood dude. Some of the most wicked
dudes I've ever met in my life, you never commit the crimes before,
but you just have something in youthat just makes you a sucker. And
(06:46):
then some of the dudes that gotbusy in the streets had a heart of
gold. They just snap easy andthey don't deal with disrespect, so they
own your helmet when you talk crazy. But there's this deal that if you
don't commit crimes, you're a goodman, and if you do commit crimes,
you're a bad man. It don'twork like that because the good dudes,
(07:08):
the good dudes, really be thebad dude. So all these talking
points is crazy. You'll use yourown mind. If you're wrong, you're
wrong, but have your own wayof viewing the world. Let Kevin saying
it would die and get your owntalking points. Oh well, what do
(07:31):
you have to say that that tiffSo I'm not sure. I don't remember
his name, but Ken Brisbane,yeah, so can make some very valid
points there. You know, Ireally appreciate this village, this conversation about
(08:00):
raising children in the village, andyou know, really not that one person
is responsible totally responsible for another child, person's child, or anything like that
or should be. But I doappreciate that village concept, you know,
I think that's very important and raisingchildren in general. Also, if you
(08:26):
feel like you're not responsible for anotherperson's child, then don't don't get involved,
you know, because you're probably notthe the person for the job.
You know, that's my opinion aboutit. Don't date the woman, don't
be around the child, just leavethat situation alone. Definitely. So what
(08:52):
do you say to the people thatfeel like you've got to be a simple
it's a marry a baby mama andtake on her child or children. Well,
I think it's the opposite, youknow, I think it. I
think it takes some takes some realheart, you know, it takes it
(09:16):
takes a strong man woman to dothat, because the dynamics can be quite
complex. But no, I thinkit's the opposite. I agree with you.
It does take some strength, courage, integrity, all those things,
(09:41):
some endurance, some patience, somelong suffering. It takes all of that
and kindness and love and yeah,all of those things, and we don't
talk about that stuff enough. Ithink that, although to me, a
lot of these talking points are overgeneralized. And I get it because it
(10:07):
would take a long time to say, well, you know, it's an
exception to the rule and not thesepeople and that people. Some people don't
want to throw out disclaimers throughout theirconversation. But I feel like we talked
too much about stuff that we're infear of instead of stuff that's positive.
Oh absolutely, I agree with that, you know. And as for the
(10:31):
statistics, I mean, I'm notI'm not sure where the statistics came from
or what the point of throwing thoseout were. Actually, you know,
I'm not sure what what his goalwas and and throwing those out there.
But regardless, you know, Idon't I don't agree with that. Uh
(10:54):
what the points say that he made? Okay, Yeah, I just think
like this right. So I dowant to say this because I was told
earlier that the manner sphere wants youto take a hard stance, and I'm
here to clarify for y'all. Ijust like life. You react to life
(11:18):
as it comes. Therefore, Ireact to the situation that is in front
of me. Whatever we're talking about, I react to it that way.
There are going to be some thingsthat I agree with, there are going
to be some things that I disagreewith, and I will do my best
to thoroughly articulate why I agree,disagree, and why I might find myself
(11:39):
somewhere in the middle. You willeven see me talk about nuances. I
just wanted to put that out therebecause this this hard stance if you really
think about it. A lot ofthese people coming with this stuff have a
very fixed mindset, and I ama believer that with a fixed mindset there
is no growth. You cannot grow. These type of people just end up
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dying off because they're not adaptable tochange. They don't want change, they
want what they want. And soI think we're all fixed. We all
have a fixed mindset and one thingof or another, right, I mean,
that's just life. But major thingslike this, when it comes to
love and it comes to family,we shouldn't be so fixed. Another thing
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that truly bothers me about stuff likethis is that we negate another person's point
of view. People only speak fromtheir experiences and from their lens, right,
that's the only way they can speak, So we can't say that they're
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lying or making up with This isfact, and this is but it's factual
in their existence, it's not inyours. So just because you haven't experienced
it and you don't know this tobe true, does not mean that what
this person is saying is false.You know. Another thing that I want
to comment on is, you know, in the first video he talked about
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oh women, you know, thesix foot tall man with six figures and
blah blah like one. I findit very interesting that men think they know
what these women this percentage of womenhe's talking about, what they're thinking,
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or how they're choosing their mates orany of that, like that's that's really
interesting to me, Or or choosingwho they're having children. What they'll say
that that that's interesting. Also,what was about to say? I had
lost my train of thought. Youwere just saying, like you find it
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interesting of how you know this thisconclusion of how women think, oh,
how they choose. How it's gonnasay something else? Now I don't remember.
There was a lot that was thatthat video touched on a few different
points, and as I was patientlywaiting to reply, I lost my training
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thought. Any who, Yeah,you know, I just overhauled. I
think that you know, you madea really good point in terms of you
know, just generalizing or over generalizingand and this like willfulness. Right,
It's like, oh no, youknow things have to be this certain way.
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And we're talking about black love andand the problems that exists, you
know, in our communities, andand solutions and finding solutions for it.
Well, that fixed mindset, thatreal get way of thinking, that wilfulness,
it really hinders progress and growth.And you know, there's there's a
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level of accepting kind of what isand you know, coming up with solutions
and working together. A lot ofa lot of this information I've been hearing,
and I to be honest, Idon't watch a lot of these videos
on social media, but what Ihave come across. You know, from
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being on this show, there's alot of divisiveness. It's like, oh,
women are the problem and me andare the problem and this is it
and that and it's just like,okay, after we do all of the
pointing of fingers and degrading each otherand you know, pointing out all of
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the flaws, not what right now? What? You know? Definitely,
I think more people need to watchtheir clone Tyrone. I think that's the
name of the video on movie onNetflix by Jamie Foxx. I need to
go and finish it. But itwas getting good. It was it was
a lot of subliminals and I reallydon't think you know, some people are
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going to miss the message. Ireally witnessed that even in real time yesterday.
And that's not something that I'm talkingabout on ear but I have to
tell you about it. But ifsome people don't, matter how you give
them the message, you're not gonnabe able to receive it, you know.
And that's okay too. I alwaysbelieve that those who receive a message
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were meant to receive it, andif you didn't, it wasn't for you,
at least not at that time either. You know what I'm saying,
or it could not be for youall together, but it is a lot
of divisiveness. I want to speakto the whole thing of the village that
he was speaking of, in thetribal way of living. To be honest,
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if we live if like that,we would not be up here barking
about single mothers and baby daddies andall of this stuff, because we will
be raising our children together. Evenso our killed our children and even have
better communication skills. They wouldn't beas withdrawn as they are now because they
would always be able to play amongstone another in the community. Would it
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that be structured play, because ofcourse they're gonna have structured interaction where they're
learning, and then they would havefree for all interaction. It's definitely something
that we need to explore. Ithink, hello, Ramon, Ramon was
watching this. It's something we needto explore because we definitely need to get
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to the solutions. Yeah, andyou know there are many issues right that
what is this the ninth show?We've talked about many issues in relationships and
particularly in our communities. I thinkwe do have to be quote ourselves accountable,
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We do have to be mindful aboutour actions and the choices that we're
making, especially you know that youknow, we make some some pretty pretty
big decisions right based on whatever fleetingemotion or thing that's going on our situation.
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But we do have to be mindfulof of our goals, our life
goals, our goals we have ourcommunities, for our children's, for our
families, and try not to getside tracked, you know, and distracted
by things that are less important ofan agreement. I'm definitely in agreement.
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I had to let me see wecan we can listen to this one now
cause I have. I responded tothis one and it got deep, honey.
I I don't even know if peoplewatch the video, if they're ready
for that type of deep, youknow, because some people just are very
their attention spans is very short.But we're gonna do this from oh that's
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eight minutes, child. Oh well, it's just the two of us.
I guess we got time, money, Oh, just the two of us.
Here we go. What is goingon here? Can you hear?
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I cannot? Okay, I'm gonnastart cause I probably got it on silent.
So he got a brother that's youknow, going to kind of pick
up off of You know, alot of people were talking about doctor Mr
Johnson when he went to the DailyWrap Up crew and he wanted to put
blame on Black American men for whatthe women do. And of course there
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was a lot of swift backlash onthe brothers because I look at it like
this, I have nothing to dowith with Megan the Stallion is doing.
I have nothing to do and withwhat Glurilla do or any other woman that's
out here, Sukiana and all ofthem. I have nothing to do with
those women. Nothing. Because ifthose women would talk to me or listen
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to me, there will be somegood upstanding women, classy women if they
would talk to me. So soHobviously they didn't consult me, and they
don't consult a lot of men.They doing what they want to do.
Right. But I want you tohear what this brother says in response,
because we do have some men withthis this mindset in our community. Let's
review it. Man, y'all know, I got to start from man,
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man, man, you know thisanywhere absolutely nothing right. I thought it
was gonna bade one day. It'sbeen going crazy about this doctor Johnson.
You know what I'm saying, Davidshout out to the David Rapper with it
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couse of the baby mama thing.You know what I'm saying, Like my
wife, I married a woman whocame with the child, right, and
I don't get what the problem,what the what the issue is with the
woman having You know what I'm saying, like y'all don't as black Meg,
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y'all don't feel a little bit ofresponsibility. You know what I'm saying.
With we're trying to help out andand and raise you know what I'm saying,
these quote unquote master child children,you know what I'm saying, so
they can be affective in the community. No, it's it's not It's that
that child's father's responsibility to raise theirchild. The problem is, and what
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a lot of men have finally realized, sir, is that first of all,
you're getting with a woman that hasa child and you don't have any
children. Why don't you think youneed to start your family like you know,
with a woman who don't have childrenand you and you start fresh.
You know what I'm saying. WhatI'm saying now, I've always been a
proponent of saying that single mothers needto get with single fathers. I've always
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said that. I never said thatsingle mothers don't deserve somebody to love them
and all of that. I neversaid that. I just said they need
to get with a single father becausethey got more in common. Because sometimes
what single mothers say is, well, you know, I'm only gonna have
X amount of kids, already gotone. Well, so why should a
man lose out on a child justbecause you had one with somebody else?
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What they gotta do with him?So he gets to lose a child because
you say, you're not having nomore than this because you had one from
some other relationship. That's not fair. So to prevent all that you need
to you with a woman that don'thave children. Another thing, if the
women are out here just recklessly havingchildren with whok and ray ray, and
then these good brothers out here whofeel like him come up and say,
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oh no, we need to takecare of the children, then it never
creates a consequence in the community forthis recklessy having children, because you're always
gonna be builled out, you knowwhat I'm saying. What I'm saying,
I would never tell my son,oh yeah, son, get with that
girl, because yeah, you shouldbe there and raise you know, that
girl's children. What where is Pappyat? What were he at? Hi?
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My name is Elis Fox, model, mom and entrepreneur based in New
York. I started my company side. That is not his responsibility because see,
it's easy to be saying that.But would you want your son So
we get a girl with a bunchof kids and he gotta take care of
him, No, you would wantthat. Let's attenue. Uh, it's
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much extremely possible, you know whatI'm saying, like like like talk to
talk to what's going on? What? No? What? Let's pause it
too. We could take a minutedigest some of the things that he was
saying. Yeah, I think thisis interesting. So he mentioned this notion
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of no, it's not your responsibilityand bailing her out like she in jail.
That's that's really interesting. But also, you know, I know lots
of men, black men who mentorchildren, who coach children, who you
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know, take interest in the rearingof children who are not their biological children,
whether they're with the mom or not, because they do understand this concept
of community and it does matter andmake a difference in these children's lives and
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and ultimately our community, right,and so it's and then also, what's
this losing a child? What makesyou think that this man is going to
lose a child because he's choosing toembrace and raise someone else's That's really that
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really threw me for a loop.What a concept is is like this,
You know how our bodies are,right, So if I got too right,
I'm coming to you and you won'tfive, you might get two more,
but the chances her giving you fiveand she already got two. I
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understand where he was going with that. Mm I just said, okay,
whatever, I don't know. Ijust is the weird point to to bitch
but anyway, yeah, I meanso, so then if that's the case,
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then people shouldn't adopt, people shouldn'tfoster children. People like, why
is it a problem to raise achild that you didn't You know that you
didn't conceive. I don't. Butalso I feel like this, so understand,
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know what your limits are, right, know what you're willing to do
and do that. Yeah, becauseagain, these kids don't need another adult
in their lives who are not willingto take responsibility for them, willing to
guide them, willing to love themand nurture them. So hey, if
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that's something you don't want to do, don't do it exactly. And that's
my boot he talking about Hey boo, you know, so speaking of me
and this handsome man that I'm marriedto that's talking about me. We were
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having a conversation earlier. And thething is, I guess as I get
older, I think it's very importantto be clear on what you're speaking about.
And the reason why I say thatis because if you're talking about hood
rats, and I know that's avery harsh term, but we're just gonna
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use it because people understand that ifwe're talking about hood rats, okay,
but there are some good women thathave children that they're not or a child
too to a few, and they'renot with the husband for different reasons.
Does that mean she doesn't deserve arelationship. I think that's so ridiculous,
and I think it's very ridiculous tomake the men feel bad that are willing
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to take on the job when it'sjust as simple as what Tiffany was just
saying. If you're not up forthe job, just don't be up board.
Don't do it. You ain't gonnabe mad. You well within your
right. You well within your rightto think children everything, and it's nothing
wrong with that. I think youchoose to be with a woman who does
not have children over a woman whodoes, wonderful be with who you want
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to be with. That's it,that's good. But why do we feel
the need to criticize a man whochooses to do something different and even gonna
We want to approach every issue ina Jehovah witness manner. Okay, we
want a strong arm. We wantto meet people in the parking lot and
strong arm in them to believe inwhat the hell we believe. If that's
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what you want to do, baby, go ahead and do it. But
go ahead, it's okay, Idon't you know, And I and I
don't have a problem with him feelingthat way at all. How he chooses
to, you know, choose hismate. Great, Then do that another
man does who does not mind,you know. Also, here's the other
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thing that I want to point out. Not every single mother is parenting alone.
Okay, it's because she is notstill married or still not or not
so in a relationship with that child'sfather. Does not mean that child does
not have a father, right,But you know, they got another fear
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for that, and the fear isall we got to deal with, maybe
daddy. You know, it's alwaysa roadblock, you know. And I
don't even think I'm sorry to Ijust want to make sure I clarify because
I want people think I dropped offmy point. Oh I think I did.
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I did clarify, just say youtalking to hood arrest. I'm trying
to make it seem like it's allall women with children that are not with
the father, because it's it's nuancesto this right again, we talk about
everything. It's not black and white. But yeah, I'm sorry, I'm
I'm sorry. I just had tomake sure that's what made me speak on
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a situation where you know that thatmother may not be parenting alone or maybe
in a co parenting situation, andso you're thinking that every step father is
taking over that father role as ifthere is not another parent involved, and
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that's just simply not the case either, right, not always. So I
just I find that when I'm listeningto these videos, it's almost like they
have a certain situation they're talking about, yes, and it's like they're projectiling
it onto everybody else, and it'slike, wait, whoa, whoa,
what's happening here? You know?It's crazy, it really is. But
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I get it. I get it. It's sensationalism and we need it.
So I guess we'll go back tothe video and continue. Who who you
know? What? Did you know? What's going on? But what's the
problem? Like, Damn, Iain't know what was that big of a
deal? You know, because that'sall I see. It is baby moms,
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you know what I mean? Andavailable was out. You know,
I was twenty five years old.Now, I already knew that the likelihood
to be getting with a female thatdidn't have children was slim. The nune
Now that right there is actually whyI made this video. He said.
When he was twenty five years old, he said the likelihood of him getting
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a woman, especially in our community, without a kid, was slim to
none. That's bad, that ishorrible. So a lot of black men
actually think like him, unfortunately,and so they have to accept single mothers
when they don't even have children.Now, a lot of the younger men
have said this, I'm not doingit. The A lot of younger men
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say I got options, I gottapass for it. I don't have to
deal with that, you know,I mean when you travel, it doesn't
mean you're going to other countries outsideof black people. Shoot, you may
say, I'm gonna go to Caribbean, get me a woman. I'm gonna
go to Latin America, get mea sister over there. I go to
Motherland, I go somewhere. ButI'm not about to be dealing with this
problem. Ye, so too,what do you think about these men talking
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about they're gonna go on over tothese other countries and get them a woman.
Go ahead, yeah, go ahead, do what you need to do.
You know, I'm just not Idon't get hung up on all of
that. You know, do whatyou need to do, Do what you
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need to do. Yeah, Imean this, no where are we?
Okay? So we get the CDCfacts and all that, But who's taking
a poll on what people are thinking? Though? He said a lot of
brothers have this mind frame. Nowlet's just say some of this stuff people
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get on here and say just becauseit's gonna give views, that don't mean
they thinking it and a lot ofother people thinking it's. So it's like,
I don't know, Stu, canyou really twisted really quick? In
my opinion? But yeah, y'allwant to fly your asses over there,
Go on ahead, I don't youknow, go ahead, do what you
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need to do. I do thinkthat we base again, like you talked
about before, with perceptions, right. I feel like the gentleman in the
first video feels like, oh attwenty five the likelihoods and I'm gonna find
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a single woman without any children asslim. Well, that could be based
on his environment. M can weget an applause and let me see here?
Let me you know, the devil'sbusy here, but it was let's
get the can you hear that applause? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, let's
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get an applause. Also been here, but no, really, you know,
that could be based on his environment. You know, maybe he has
he senses that you know, they'relimited options. Does that make it accurate
statistically? Maybe not, you knowwhatever, but but maybe in his environment
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and the people he's around, mostof the single women have children, you
know, maybe that's true for him. So you know whatever, do what
I'm just like, do what youfeel like you need to do, right,
Because everybody's reality is different. Everybody'snot living the same life. So
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that's what I'm saying. It's like, you got these two statistics, but
they're overall, you know what Imean. They're overall, but they change
depending on the area you're in.They will fluctuate. So it's just like,
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you know, it's it's somebody acouple of blocks down and witness to
shoot out. I ain't witness it, you know. So it's like we
always want to speak on stuff thatwe're not experiencing, or we want to
dismiss it because we've never experienced it. And I think I won't use the
word selfish, cause I think selfishjust one of those hard terms. But
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I think it's kind of dismissive thatwe keep having children when there are so
many children that need a home justlike me. And I know, I
know, before y'all get on thisbitch and start tripping in these comments,
I understand that people are not dogs. However, I already have my children,
so I have to use the dogsas an example. Or my oldest
dog passes away and I go toget another dog, I'm going to the
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pound. I'm not gonna go andhave one bread because there's dogs at the
pound who need shell. So Ijust think, as as a whole,
we don't consider what we already have. We always want to get something new,
and it's like, oh, youknow, forget that. That's all
the more now, I just Idon't understand it. You know, people
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have different values, different morals,and so while you're saying, if I
feel the need to nurture and raisemore children, the likelihood of you birthing
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more children it's slim to none.And so if you have that desire,
maybe you know you would adopt orfoster children who are already here and need
homes, you know, And Ithink that's right and not. And I
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also realized that many people would notdo that. M And again, if
you're a person who is not willingto do that, don't right most definitely,
most definitely. Yeah. So,I mean, cause that's what I
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wanted to do. I wanted toadopt kids. However, my husband wanted
to have children of his own,so I understood that. So you know,
that was to compromise. But it'sall about what you want to do,
and what you want to do isnot necessarily what the next man want
to do. So let's continue thisfoolishness, honey. That's a difference.
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The beauty of choice that a lotof these younger men have that this brother
probably didn't have back when he wastwenty five. I mean, the choice
was there, but the access todayis a so much easier than it was
to say, back probably when hewas twenty five years old. But yeah,
it's it's sad that a lot ofnot all, but a lot of
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the women got kids and young insteadof nobody married, but they got children,
you know what I'm saying. AndI purposely purposely stated women with children
because there was more serious. Ofcourse, they're gonna be more serious because
they need to be saved. Thewoman that don't have kids, she got
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more options out there, and soshe don't She don't have to food with
you. She could food this nowin the third because she got the choice.
A single mom with a kid.Yeah, she she looking for somebody
to take up, take us situationup. Of course, she's gonna be
more serious with you because she wantssomebody to come in there and help out
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those kids. What do you thinkabout that? Say she looked with somebody
that's safer, or she sees lifedifferently? Now all right, now,
all right, now, right,you know, yeah, I tell you
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I don't know. I think again, same with the previous video. People
have this picture painted in their mindsand that's what they're speaking on. It's
like he has a situation or heknows a woman in this in this situation,
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and that's what he's talking about.At least that's how it feels to
me. That's how it feels tome. A lot of the time,
I'll be like, oh, thisshit is personal. I mean, of
course it's personal, right because youcan only speak to what you've lived and
witnessed. That's the point. Soyou can't speak on somebody else when you
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haven't lived or witnessed their situation.You can speak from the outside looking in,
or from your opinion or how Isee, but see everybody. That's
just something that I've grown to do. There's grown people that don't realize that
they speak as if what they feeland they have witnesses facts all across the
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board, and you have to takean account that people live differently. Yeah,
yeah, I mean, you know, so again, this gentleman he's
talking about is my husband. Listen. I look if if Byron think he
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saved me, fine, you knowwhat I'm saying. Fine, But I
look at it like this, Ihave a very my family's very resourceful,
and I would have been. Okay. Now, don't get me wrong.
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I'm not discounting my husband and hiscontribution because it's it's been amazing, it
has. I thoroughly appreciate him.But I'm speaking to what this man is
saying without trying to, you know, make myself sound crazy. But I
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don't think it has nothing to dowith saving. I think it has everything
to do with with yours. Imean, and maybe some people, maybe
some of these women want to besaved. I don't know authority was saving
them. Captain staborhold and shit likethat. I mean, I get it,
you know what I'm saying, ButI'm just saying everybody's not looking to
be saved. I'm sure that peopledo look for help and stuff like that,
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but saving they're just drowning this.I think it's more of like I
want to stable home. I'm notgonna live like this. I know,
Like after I've had my first child, I was like, I'm not gonna
be a baby mama two, three, four or five. That's crazy.
I'm not doing that. You knowthis slipped up on me again. Y'all
gonna understand it in the book.Shit, I said that, and when
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I did this video, I'm rightabout it. But I wasn't gonna how
that happened to me. Again,it just wasn't gonna happen. I wasn't
having another kids. So I gotmarried and that's what I did. So
their perspective changed on some things asit learned some things. You're not the
same person you were when you werenineteen years old, and you know,
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your values and what was important toyou were similar to your husband's at that
point. So you know, yeah, I mean, that's it, and
that's all. Let's go back tothis video, whether she say so or
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not. Let's continue as far aswhat I was looking for, you know
what I mean. And it ain'thelp to notice you know that they had
kids, like like my older brothersto say, God, soul, you
like you want to know once onething about a woman with kids, she
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likes to have sex. Oh God, some of you black men with that.
That's that's all it takes to getyou right, It's just a woman
giving you. So black men,you need to learn to have some some
d discipline. You understand, youneed to learn to have that. Not
everyone just okay, So what that'swhat she wanted she want to do,
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and they got women that don't havekids that'd like to do that too.
It is not brother's responsibility to betaken on children that's not their own.
It's not their responsibility. Once again, the single mother needs to get with
the single fathers who have children putthey put their family together since they got
more in common. I would nevertell my son take on a woman with
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children, get with her. No, I would never advocate for my son
to do that. Uh uh.I want him to get a woman that
don't have kids since he have nokids, and start fresh. It's just
that simple. But I'm glad thata lot of the younger brothers are saying,
no, I'm not I'm not simpinglike that. That's what they say.
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They're not simping like that. Soand that's becoming a problem too,
because because a lot of these littlewomen today, you know, used to
have that bell out they had.Ah, well they have a little man
like him come up and like,oh yeah, you know, I would
take care of him. Cheers.But the brother's not saying, nah,
I'm good, I ain't thinking nobodykids. Let me let me go catch
this flight. You know, I'mgonna have some kids. I have my
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own. It's just as simple.But let me know, chi'ld think about
you know this brother's saying, becauseunfortunately, that's that's a mindset, even
though that mindset is dying in thecommunity. It is, and it's good
that it's dying because they should thinkbefore they lay down and give their wound
to no good man. Period.If the man no good, don't it's
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a men. It's to men.No, it's you. He didn't.
If he didn't violate you, andyou willingly laid down with him, then
it's you. Enough of that webad well, you know he So he
talks about the freedom of choice,and people are choosing. There are some
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men choosing to answer into relationships withwomen who have children, and that's your
choice, and they're okay with that. I don't know why someone else wouldn't
be. That's thirty place right exactly. They're okay with it, just like
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we okay for those that don't wantto choose women with children. It's all
a choice and it's okay. Sowe review both of them. If you're
just coming in on the replay,let's get these lights up. Get the
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go to some more videos to day'sa good day to just review videos.
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So let's go here we go.Realize a lot of women date emotionally unavailable
men. That way they can pointthe finger because they're they're not emotionally available
either, and you don't have todo the labor of finding out what's going
on with you when you date aman that's worse off than you. You
know what I'm saying. It's likeyou're used to being the one that can't
(47:59):
be called. You're used to beingaloof. You're used to not being a
soul. When you get with aman who got more red flags and you
it's easier to point at him andsay he's the problem, and you walk
off and don't do no more work. And then you meet a Nika who
actually is emotionally intelligent. You needa dude that actually does communicate in real
time when something is wrong. Youneed a dude that actually does have boundaries.
(48:21):
And now you look funny in thelife. And I'm just I'm just
saying, I don't know y'all personally. I'm only speaking from my experience.
A lot of women be looking funnyis in the life. Ruh. Have
you ever found yourself dating someone thatwasn't emotionally available because you weren't either?
(48:47):
Oh? Well, yeah, Imean this is a thing. This is
a real thing. And you know, as long as you're dating over the
years, you know, as you'regrowing and maturing and handling you know,
(49:12):
lives, experiences in life and youknow, yeah, I'm sure this this
happens with lots of relationships. ButI think the best thing, though,
is to learn from those experiences.Oh yeah, you know, it's okay.
(49:36):
All of our relationships aren't going tonone of them are going to be
perfect, and when they end,you know, reflecting and learning as always
a plus, and you can gointo your next relationship or the next stage
of your life with more insight intoyourself. Right, Yeah, I mean
(50:04):
I agree. I think if you'renot emotionally available, you do need to
date somebody in the same because whatyou're trying to do is you're trying to
play at it and not in it. You know what I'm saying, Like,
you're not really trying to be serious, so you date someone that's not
serious. I mean, it onlymakes sense, it really does. And
I've definitely been there wasn't a longI mean, because I've been married a
(50:27):
long time, but I've been there, So I get it. I do.
I do get it. But youknow, I also kind of want
to say that some of the stuffit's not like So it's a lot of
like victims out here, and Ithink, so there are victims, right,
(50:50):
but those they were talking about asmall percent. So the ones that
think they're victims but aren't really victims, I think their issue is the lack
of a win as you know whatI'm saying, Like they really don't realize
why they are in these experiences becauselike when you look like at the time,
(51:14):
right back in the day, youmight have been with someone like just
with this example, you aren't emotionallyavailable, so you was with somebody emotionally
unemotionally available. But then you alsoprobably was like, well why are we
not moving forward? But as yougot older, you realize you was on
the bullshit too though, you knowwhat I'm saying, So it's just like
(51:36):
you're not aware. Awareness is athing, but we gained that more as
we get older, we gain atleast we should we gain wisdom and stuff
like that. Well, also thereare some things that you learn about yourself
in relationship that you don't or youmay not learn about yourself single. Yeah,
(51:59):
and there's that the point of therelationship really it sharpens you. It
does, It sharpens you, andit just is what it is, you
know, just is what it is. I think it's important to be mindful
and you know, if if ifyou are aware of where you are,
(52:22):
which many people aren't. They're they'restill discovering that, they're still figuring that
out. But as much as youcan be open and honest with where you
are, because like you said,if if you're in a place where you're
not emotionally available and you want toyou know, date someone or whatever,
(52:45):
have whatever kind of relationship with anotherperson, get someone who's not trying to
be serious. If you're not tryingto you know what I mean, If
you're not trying to be serious,then if you just want to date and
that's all you wanna do, beup front about that. I think the
(53:07):
challenges sometimes people aren't aware of wherethey are, and you know, that
makes it a little tricky, butwe're all human, we're all trying to
figure it out. Yeah, mostdefinitely, let's let's play this video.
(53:28):
Let's see how we feel about this. Here we go. I don't want
a man that makes me his numberone priority. If I'm his number one
pritory, is his mission and hispurpose and if he don't following his mission
his purpose, where he got mefollowing? What you think about that,
(53:53):
Well, it depends. I'm assumingthis is someone who feels like the man
is the leader and yeah, ohyou okay? Right? So yeah,
I mean if you are a copilot and the pilot isn't clear on where
(54:22):
he's going, there might that mightbe an anxiety provoking situation. Right,
So yeah, many many people don'twant to get on a ride and they
don't know what the goal is orthe destination. So I'm gonna say,
(54:43):
if if it ain't safe to seethe point, you ain't getting on it.
You ain't just about to get ona ride and just fall out the
sky, honey, that we gottamake sure we're safe and we're gonna return,
know I'm saying. But to me, I just I feel like number
one p priority. See, it'llbe stuff like that for me. The
(55:07):
I feel like our family, usas a unit unit should be a priority.
One of the main priorities, becausemaybe yourself might be the main priority.
And I only I'm not saying ina selfish way, but you gotta
make sure that you're healthy in yourbody and your mind to be able to
(55:28):
be good for your family. SoI think that your family, the unity
group, should be the priority.And when that's the priority, then your
your moves will follow accordingly. Ifthat makes sense. That's what I think.
(55:50):
We'll do. One more than wecould sign about for here. Let's
see has to be let's go.Oh, women are to embody love.
They are not to seek love.They are to embody it. And when
she does not embody it, itis because she has lost her way.
(56:16):
The male, on the other hand, has never lost his way. His
purpose on this planet is to findhis way. Okay, the woman has
lost her way, and the malehas always been here to find his way,
(56:37):
and the woman will not let himbecause she's too busy trying to save
him and protect him, which isnot the nature or how that's supposed to
go. And this is what you'reseeing in this video. What you think
(57:02):
about that? Oh, we Ithink she has a good point, because
you you gotta be you have tolove yourself and you have to so so
start. Part of embodying love isloving self and once you love stuff and
(57:23):
really get in love with life andjust and love where you're at. I
think these things come to you.We do, as we was talking about
in a car, uh last weekmaybe or maybe it's a few days ago.
Hell, it might have been afew days ago. These days,
but how women are always trying tocoddle their sons and coddle their mates.
(57:47):
We're jumping in the way of lessonsthat they should be learning. I see
what she's saying. I see whatshe's saying. She she always has an
interesting way of putting things. Theycan be inflammatory depending on who's listening.
But through my ears, I'm ableto balance it out and understand. I'm
(58:10):
und I understand. Yeah, yeah, I think that you know, in
relationships in life, right, dowhat works, do what's effective. And
that's not always what we want todo, yeah, you know, or
(58:37):
what we initially want to do.I'll say, sometimes we have a picture
painted of how things should go andwhat things should look like. Yeah,
And I think that's where you messup because there comes to disappointment. You
know, always go, always enterthe day with wars works and with a
(59:00):
certain level of going with the flowtoo, honey, because if you brace
the impact, you're not gonna breakthe fuck off. I'm just saying we'd
be stressed out and stronger fuck out. Yeah, I mean, I think
willingness is certainly an important factor.Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well we're
(59:25):
hitting our mark y'all. Thank youso much for tuning in. Thank you
for those who are watching us onthe replay. I do want to let
you know that we will not behere next week. It's a lot going
on. We will not be here. We will resume that following week.
Let's see. Let me get thecalendar up so because some people might need
a date, so we will beback. It looks like August the sixth.
(59:49):
My god, Now that is scary. Summer is getting the fuck on,
and you know, once August gethere. Honestly, I feel like,
and this is from me living inDetroit, y'all, like, once
August gets here, especially after mydaughter's birthday, now it's over. They're
going back to school. Summer's fuckingover. I don't care nothing about the
weather. You know, it's over. And it's really sad because we don't
(01:00:10):
get long enough and they hold thesekids hostage in the school house, and
they ain't teaching them shit but indoctrine nation, So why don't why they
got to be in there so long? You know, it's really crazy,
girl. Maybe man, we gottaget school going for these children because this
(01:00:31):
is crazy. Let them men saidchildren, He's something else. That's just
as Philip Scott something else. Butyeah, we're not gonna be here next
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