Episode 5 | Days of our Lives

In episode 4, we ran back our respective road trips to the City of Angels while also keeping track of Jay's far fewer F-bombs. Plus, a golden gardening guide from Ryan on the sex lives of squash. Hope ya loved it!

In this one, we share a day in the life of US; Ryan's early morning radio routine and Jay's fancy coffee kick before the chaos of motherhood starts at sunrise! Also, one of us self-diagnoses a concerning condition. Can it be cured?

Of course, keepin' true to the vibe, the pivots are plentiful! AND we even tackle a tough topic from a loyal listener to open the episode.

If you're a first timer, welcome to the show! You're (clearly) making good choices. Keep doin' that, yeah?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Today, we're taking you through a day in our lives.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
So buckle up. You'll get one day as a married
mom of two running a business.

Speaker 1 (00:06):
And one day as a single dog dad who talks
into a microphone for a living.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
Two very different lives, one podcast. Welcome to say it.

Speaker 1 (00:14):
Anyway, all right, miss Jay, here we go, Episode five.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Yeah, episode five, yeah, So I want to just say
episode five, So you've been Ryan has been in our
in our conversations we have off of the podcast. We
talk a lot. We talk like God like every day. Right,
It's good for us to know a lot about each
other because it helps with this obviously. And so he
was like, oh, yeah, I want to wait till we
get to like ten episodes and then I'm gonna do

(00:39):
this in this And I'm like this ten episode things.
So I'm excited because we were halfway there, halfway there.
This is episode five, halfway there. I'm stoked.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, before we dig into what we're talking about today,
as we just said a day in the life there,
there's one thing I do want to say because we
have asked for like feedback and things like that, and
I thought this was a really great question comment. I
guess more of a question from Ryland nineteen fifty nine
on Apple Pods left this okay, okay, and you are

(01:08):
way better at this than I am. So I really
want your way better what I'm about, what I'm about
to say.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
So I'm in a nutshell.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
Ryland's question, how do you say it anyway without getting trashed?
In the world in which we live, where everyone's very
sensitive and you know, delicate, how do you.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
Say it anyway? That's a great question. So how do
you h you cannot say it anyway and hope that
everyone will be happy. I don't think. I think that
the whole concept of say it anyway means that you
have to hold your position on something, yeah, regardless of
what others think, because you're not going to please everyone.

(01:48):
Not everyone is going to agree with you. Part of
my whole thing of saying I said this early on.
I think in like episode one, I was like, you know,
if you upset someone like you just talk more and
you get through it. And it was kind of a
funny moment, but there's truth to that and that. I
don't mean go create problems and annoy people and get
them mad. I mean, like, if if you're going to

(02:11):
communicate something to someone and they're not going to like
that idea. Everyone has their own viewpoint about something that
has nothing to do with you, and that upsets them
fixing it. For me, it doesn't work. I'm not I'm not.
I will. You will never hear me say I just
need to cool off, give me a couple of days,
give me a few hours, and then we'll talk. I
will not do that. I don't like that. I am like,

(02:33):
let's get through it. The only thing that's going to
solve it is to communicate more and we will come
through that. And we maybe we scream, maybe we yell,
but whatever, but you're going to come through it and
come to some resolve. For me, that's I know. Not
everyone's like that, that's fine again whatever, But for me,
it is, like I say it, anyway, thing is like,
you're not going to please everyone. There are a lot
of touchy subjects, especially now. More than ever in my

(02:56):
lifetime have I seen people get more offended than they do.
Now's to me a little ridiculus, But that's just my opinion.
I And yes, people have to be like, have manners.
Don't be like, you know, nasty or hurtful or whatever. Like,
you're not trying to like upset anyone, but you should
be able to have an opinion about something and hold
your position on it and not be shamed for it.

(03:16):
Because the same this whole thing about don't shame this
person because of this and goes both ways. So if
I have a viewpoint about something and you don't like it,
don't shame me for my viewpoint that I'm not subscribing
to whatever the hell we're doing now, do you know
what I mean? Yes, Like every single day is a
day for something. It's like International squirrel Day Internet. Like,
I don't know where this came from. When I was
a kid, there was it was like Mother's Day, Father's Day, Thanksgiving, Chris,

(03:36):
you know what I mean. Now there's like, I don't know.
Somebody told me a story the other day about International
Women's Day. Yes, that would be to you. Yeah, Okay.
There was somebody Ryan dated just.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Two three dates, three dates, and she ended and the
upsetting thing.

Speaker 2 (03:50):
To her, I'm sorry, I gotta take this star, that's
your story. I got so jacked when I heard this.
The upsetting thing to this this woman was that Ryan
did not wish her a happy International Women's Day. First
of all, I don't even know that that's the correct wording,
Like do you say that? Do you go happy International
Woman's Day? Also also and I'm sorry, and I know
I said it would be better about this, but get fucked.

(04:11):
I don't even know what because that that is an
appropriate response from me. I don't even know what's happening.
I don't even know what's happening. What do you mean
that's the thing that was the thing that really well
a lot that was based on a lot of substance.
And I'm sure you guys really had a lot of chemistry.
That that was the thing that broke it. Oh he
didn't wish me to happen. And I'm like, oh my,
can we what are we doing? Like I cannot let

(04:32):
me say what. What should have done it for me
was date one when obviously the man was International Man's Day,
and she did is anything.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
No, No, it was the fact that she put every morsel.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
We ordered a lot.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
It was like a small plates kind of place hideaway
in Beverly Hills.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
Nice.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
So he ordered a bunch of stuff, didn't finish all
of it. She took every last scrap home with the fork,
scooping it out and said, my family.

Speaker 2 (04:54):
My family will love this.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
She lives with her family and just filled by I
mean she left the with six boxes like she just
came from Costco.

Speaker 2 (05:02):
Oh wow, that's all. And I thought, you know.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
What, I don't that's not I'm willing to overlook that though,
because you're a lovely person and that wasn't a deal
breaker for me.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
But but it was probably the thing that distracted you
from International Women's Day. Of course focused on that. You're like,
that's slipped my mind because you hoarded the food, like
your fucking pockets were lined with plastic. It's a golden
girl's moment. She's like shoving and fucking dinner rolls into
her purse. What are we doing? All right? I'm sorry
dropped bombs on the last episode. Good jump, you're keeping track?

Speaker 1 (05:35):
I think it was six oh man?

Speaker 2 (05:38):
Okay, wow, you're are you keeping tally marks over there?
Of my not?

Speaker 1 (05:42):
I have a chart in our studio.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
This is awful. Okay. So to answer that question, I
don't know that it's possible to say it anyway. I
think you have to have you know, you really got
to have some integrity and some faith in your your
stance on something. If you're going to open your mouth
about it, yeah, and know that you're not gonna make
everybody hav.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
You have to have conviction if you're going to do it,
you have to Yeah, and be willing.

Speaker 2 (06:09):
Also, one other thing I want to add on that
have conviction about your own viewpoint. Also, don't be unwilling
to look at it from someone else, amen, Jay, because
you can't come in guns blazing like this is the
only way to do this and someone else comes in
and you're like no, no, no, no no, because then you're just
gonna make people feel like they're nothing, and that's not
the case. That's not what we're trying to do. I

(06:31):
look at like, I got a note from someone on something,
and you can ask Ryan. I'll be like this, one
person said this, and I feel like, you know, they're
kind of right like I should, and I'll like, literally,
I don't. I don't get all messed up about it.
I'm not like upset about it, but I go like, yeah,
they had a point. That's something that they heard or
they didn't like, and I will look at it from
that from that viewpoint, because we're doing this for you guys.
I mean a little bit of it for us, you

(06:53):
know what I mean, Like it's a good outlet, right, Yeah,
we want to be a podcast. I actually need to
communicate at all time. So I'm doing this for me, No,
but no, but like we are, we're doing it to
like bring help and hope and laughter and like a
good something relatable even Yeah, like what all the things right?
Like whatever? You maybe you're having a bad day and
this is your you know, hour escape from I don't know.

(07:16):
I'm just saying that, like you can't be have this
tunnel vision on your way is the only way and
it's the only right way ended it up. But you
could still do You could still have conviction of what
you're saying and also be willing to hear someone else's,
you know, viewpoint about something.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
I also think that that almost the opposite of not
the opposite. Another facet to that is that you can't
be afraid so afraid that you end up saying nothing,
believing nothing, standing for nothing, caring about nothing.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
It becomes when you're one of those like wobbly people
that can be swayya and.

Speaker 1 (07:50):
You don't ever bring anything to the to the that's right,
the table. Yeah, there's nothing that you care about. There's
nothing now because you're so worried about not saying this. Yeah,
like everyone honestly does. And maybe this is just because
I'm abrasive at times, but everyone does need a little
bit of abrasion.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
You know, you gotta get a loofah.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Yeah, you can't wash your pots and pans with you
know whatever? Is something smooth fiber cloth?

Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yeah? No, you got a scrub? No? No, no, yeah, something
is good, Yes, for sure, for sure. I mean you're
talking on the wrong person for that, because I'm abrasive
most of the time, so I got it all of
the time. Yeah, okay, well it's not. You're right most
of it. That's your viewpoint, but I have a different
opinion of myself. And I'm just kidding. Episode it's over,
We're done, all right.

Speaker 1 (08:31):
Uh So I want to do something different because it's
we're both gonna tell stories, and.

Speaker 2 (08:36):
Yeah, we're gonna tell us the story of like a
day in our life, in our life, right, you're yeah, okay.

Speaker 1 (08:41):
But I felt like I went long last week. I
started long, I went, I started, and I went long. Okay,
So this week I thought, instead of me going.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Again, you should go again. I like what you goro,
I'm gonna flip a coin. Okay, I call heads. So
if I get heads, it's heads. What does that mean?
That means you go first? It's not to you, all right,
you want me to go first, Okay, I'll go first. Okay, okay.
So a day in the life of Jay, well it okay.

(09:11):
So all right, So I have two kids, I'm married,
we have a dog. She's a real spinster. She's seventeen, Sally. Yeah,
you know, like when you a woman that's old and unmarried. Oh,
I didn't know that. Oh I never heard that word.
Oh really, it's an old timy word.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
I've heard the word used to describe like someone who's
like trying to deceive you.

Speaker 2 (09:32):
You know where I got it from? No Bridgerton for real. Yeah. So,
like back then, you know, there were seasons of women, right,
you'd go out for the season to get find a husband. Yeah. Right,
you'd go to these like balls and stuff, and so
I think, like, once you're I don't know, twenty, like
pretty young, they're like, oh, she's a spinster. So here
here's the definition of spinster. Let's say an unmarried woman,

(09:54):
typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage.
I had no. That's so fascinating. It's an old thank
you for it. Watch Bridgerton. I guess I didn't. I
didn't log that. Yeah. I think the sister, the Eloise,
I think her name is the right, the one that's
kind of like on her own for a while and
kind of like a free bird. I think she calls
herself a spinster at some point. Anyway, it doesn't matter.
So our dog. She's old and so.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
By the way, watching the stairwells. Remember the stair scene
in Bridgerton Season one. I watched it with my mom.
Bad idea.

Speaker 2 (10:22):
Get it is not a family friendly show, guys. Okay,
I read all the books first, Oh you did. They
are so much better than the show. It was like
such a jay I know, I know, but it's so
good and and there's eight books, and and because each
book represents one of the eight kids and their love stories.
And at the end of the book, the author gives

(10:42):
you like a you know in ten or fifteen years later,
so you get to like see all these people still
like it's just so great. Yeah, okay, don't get me
started on love stories like that.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
So anyway, Holly Dane The.

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Life of j okay so dan lifa jay is. I
get up typically around anywhere. Well these days it's different,
so I get up to go to the bathroom a lot.
I get to copy a few times, usually the first
time somewhere between like three thirty and four thirty, and
then I try to go back to sleep, and then
sometime between five thirty and six thirty it's again, and

(11:14):
then I decide am I up for the day. So
usually I am at that point, So i'd say I
get like the say on average, I get up at
six am. I like as a mom, and I know
this sounds like a good idea, and sometimes it's just
not because you're so tired. But I like to wake
up at least thirty minutes before the kids because I

(11:35):
like to have quiet and it's kind of my time,
Like I make my coffee and the house is quiet,
and it's really great. Try this if you're a parent,
like especially a mom, just take a minute to yourself
before the chaos starts, right, It's kind of nice. So
I like doing that, so I'll do that. And then
I just for a.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
Visual, are you are you what when you see make
your coffee?

Speaker 2 (11:55):
Are you a cug? Person or you like a okay,
so we it's kind of a funny thing that you asked.

Speaker 1 (12:00):
I don't say French press.

Speaker 2 (12:01):
So I used to do a French press, a little
bit of a coffee stop. Like I don't drink Starbucks
coffee or anything, as I'm literally drinking a Nidro cold
roof from Starbucks right now. But that was just to
get me through the day. So I used to make
my coffee and a French press. But my husband owns
a production company and recently his partner moved to New York,

(12:22):
which I should I should talk about real quick. So
my my husband's business partner, Jason. You guys have heard
me mention Jason before. Him and his wife Lindsay are
our best friends. They are Olivia's godparents and they are
probably because I've moved like over twenty times. They're the

(12:43):
longest friends I've ever had. We have been in each
other's life through every major life event, marriage, birth's, family losses,
Luca's cancer. They were there for us every single day.
Lindsay came to the hospital every day. She would order
hundreds of dollars worth worth of like Postmates and door Dash,

(13:04):
and we'll all go in the trash because I wasn't eating.
Just incredible and incredible friends. They moved to New York,
and it was a very very sad time for me.
Oh boy, is it coming again. Okay, I'm okay. I'm
looking at your eyes. They don't look well. I'm okay. Hey,
I'm okay. And I went through a bit of a

(13:27):
thing with this. I at first I was like, you're
got to stop it. You're not going to move to
New York. And then they were trying to get us
to move to New York and I was like, absolutely not.
And so we went through this whole I went through
this whole evolution of emotion on them moving. Like first
I was like, this is ridiculous, this is a bad idea.
And then I was like I don't want to be
that friend. I want to be supportive. And then I
switched gears and I was like, Okay, I'm gonna be supportive.
But at the end of the day, it was sad.
You know, it was sad because they're not It's not

(13:49):
even like we saw each other every day, but just
knowing that they were like fifteen minutes away, it's just different.

Speaker 1 (13:53):
Yeah, I do want to say one really cool thing.
You did their last day the day before they moved Jay.
So there they're going to New York, Jay.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
Stop.

Speaker 1 (14:03):
You went and got them their last in and out.

Speaker 2 (14:06):
Well yeah, I said, you guys want lunch.

Speaker 1 (14:08):
And so, and then you came and delivered it wearing
all New York Yankees gear I did. It was really
it was really thoughtful.

Speaker 2 (14:14):
I walked in and oddly they had no idea. So
Jason's a Yankee fan and Lindsay's a Dodgers fan. Yeah,
And I walked in and Lindsay was decked out head
to toe Dodgers and I was like, shut up and
she goes, oh my god, and we looked at each other.
That's like. And it was cute because you took this
picture of like, you know, you know, not even like
a Dodgery Yankee rival where we can f with this friendship.
So it was cute. But so so anyway, yeah, so

(14:36):
they left. It was it was pretty It was hard
for me. I think it was hard for her more
like the day she was leaving. But we just you know,
I texted her like we were very light. We didn't
talk about it. I was like, hey, I know you
have this like temporary addresser using in New York. Please
send it to me when you can, because it's just
like this, like non confront on, like they're not leaving
for good. They're going to be a back like I
don't know, I'm in denial. It's fine, I'm gonna be okay,

(15:00):
back to the day in the life. I don't even
know how I got off on that. So in the morning,
I wake up, like let's say around six, sometime between
six thirty and seven, I start to hear Luca talking
in his room. Okay, and he'll sit in there and
talk for an hour. By the way, I don't need to,
you know, go in right away. He's pretty awesome. So
then I'll go get him and he comes out. Oh

(15:22):
the coffee story. That's why French price French Press. So
I stopped using the French Press. Because when they left,
they got rid of the office space they were renting,
and Clark got his own office closer to our house,
in his own space that he coul because I didn't
need a big office, and a lot of the things
that they didn't need in the office anymore. We got
and we got this like four thousand dollars coffee machine, oh,

(15:44):
it's like a juro or something. I don't even know
how to say it. Okay, it's really cool. So now
it's it's you have to put like real beans in it,
and then you pick you can make whatever you want.
You can make up an Americano a coffee, espressoor whatever,
and you pick your strength of coffee and it just
and it's beautiful.

Speaker 1 (16:03):
Gira Z ten fully automatic is exactly four thousand dollars.

Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, so that whatever the company. But then now it's
in my kitchen. Okay, it's a huge monstrosity of a machine,
but it's pretty cool. So now I put the French
press away and reach up and I've been doing that
in the morning and it's pretty great. It's great. It's
really good. So and plus all the boxes of like
La columb coffee that they ordered that we got with that,
I'm like, this is okay, we're set for a while.
It's great. So that's that's my my coffee in the morning.

(16:27):
And then and then so I get Luca out. Luca
comes out with me. So Holly is so old now
that she doesn't she used to just kind of jump
right up as soon as I got, you know, up
and she would follow me and I'd let her out.
She doesn't do that anymore. She'll sometimes sleep for a
whole hour that I'm awake, and then she comes out
when she's ready, and I'll let her out. And so
Luca and I go into the kitchen. I start breakfast.

(16:47):
We always the radio is always on in the kitchen.
What are you listening to? Coast one of three point five?
Thank you Morning Show? That's right, So we listened to
the morning show. We get to hear Ryan and Ellen
and Darlene and Mike, and it's really great. And then
he's you know, I make him his breakfast, and then
I make my daughter's breakfast. And usually around by seven thirty,
she comes up, you know, strolling out of her room.

(17:08):
And then between seven, usually around seven thirty, Clark also
wakes up. And then we're all in the kitchen and
he'll take over for some things. I have to pack
their lunches and their snack bags for school. We get
their waters for school. Everybody's dressed. Luca is not like
getting dressed as soon as he wakes up, so he
comes out in his pajamas. I have to bring his
clothes out or getting him dressed at the kitchen table.
Olivia has to feed her guinea pig that she has.

(17:30):
It's morning vegetables that it's supposed to get like a
cup of every day. So every day we have to
tell her we've had the friggin thing forever. But she keeps,
you know, forgetting every morning. That's her her job, you know.

Speaker 1 (17:38):
Really quick pause, just going back to the beginning where
you were talking about say it anyway and having convictions.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
This is one.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
And I'm sure that this will irritate someone. Actually I
said this on the radio before, and I think like
three people called and said they were really pissed and
would never listen again. Guinea pigs are the worst pets.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
I agree with you one hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (17:54):
They're terrible paths. I'm sure they're great. I'm sure that's
they're lovely.

Speaker 2 (17:57):
They're not. They're awful, but.

Speaker 1 (17:58):
I'm seeing in their natural habitat they're fine. But they're
terrible pets. Yeah, they don't do anything. They stink. It's
just constantly.

Speaker 2 (18:05):
And I'm the one that can't clean the cage fully.
Every week it's forty five minutes.

Speaker 1 (18:09):
And can I guess when you got it? Let me
just guess, because This is the same story for everyone,
every child. Go ahead, you told Live, yep, we can
get you a guinea pig. But this is your responsibility.
You're gonna have to clean the cage, You're gonna have
to feed, You're gonna have to do all the things.

Speaker 2 (18:22):
Ryan, I was in petco and I said, Live, listen
to me, yep, I've done this. I've been a kid
who wanted whos wanted to pass. They made all kinds
of broken promises. You're gonna want to take care of
this at first, and then it's going to get boring
and annoying and you're not gonna want to do it,
and this is a five to seven year commitment or
whatever the hell they're and they don't do it enough fun.

Speaker 1 (18:42):
They just get running high. They don't blue with you,
they'll fetch there. They're just ineffectual, awful, uneffective, whatever word
I'm looking for.

Speaker 2 (18:50):
I don't even know the word.

Speaker 1 (18:51):
I'm so useless I think is useless. It really is
just that simple. Yeah, don't just let's end it with
the guinea pig. Ah, my goodness, it's a scam.

Speaker 2 (18:59):
So then she goes, no, Mom, I promising everybody the
whole thing right, and I was like, okay, and I
fell into that trap. Also, in my defense, we were
in the middle of the whole Luca thing, and I
did want Levia to have something she could. I don't know,
you know what I mean. Now I'm now I'm attached
to it. Every week?

Speaker 1 (19:14):
Are you attached to Every week?

Speaker 2 (19:15):
Clark's like, because it actually likes me, it comes out
and like it's a cute thing. I doubt it. So
so every week Clark, Clark's like, we gotta get rid
of the skinny pig, and I'm like, yeah, okay, no,
let me just talk.

Speaker 1 (19:28):
To her, like I'm trying to like keeping it.

Speaker 2 (19:29):
I don't know why. I'm an idiot, but I don't know.
I think it's just like from when I was a kid,
I hated like she's ours and she's born of her family,
and I don't want to get rid of her.

Speaker 1 (19:37):
He's not part of your family. She doesn't know, she
doesn't know, she hasn't no idea.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Okay anyway, So so okay, so morning, So we have
to be to school by eight thirty or my daughter
will be marked late. Livia and Luca go to the
same school. They go to Delphi Academy of Los Angeles.
The are a wonderful private school, and they do preschool
through you know, you're sure graduating, and so Luca asked
to be their by nine, but let us be their
by eight thirty. So we just bring them both at

(20:02):
eight thirty because I'm not gonna be going back and forth.
We live like two blocks from the house, so it's
like a two minute ride. So and sometimes we still
manage to be late. But you know, as long as
she's up at seven thirty, she gets everything done, we're dressed,
we're out the door like eight twenty. I bring them
down the street. I come back. Sometimes Clark will take
over for me in that last few minutes, so I
could just go run, take a shower, or put something

(20:23):
on that's somewhat appropriate to drop them off and not
be at school in my robe. I'm not that mom.
I like to, like, you know, have some decency about me.
As a side note, no one at school, at our
school is dropping their kids off in a robe. But
it just doesn't happen, you know, I mean, it's not
like that kind of place. So so yeah, so then
I come back. When I come back, I finish cleaning

(20:44):
up from breakfast, unload the dishwasher, do all that. Lately,
I've been unloading the dishwasher before anyone's even awake, which
is great. And then I get my day started. I
go take a shower, I get in front of my computer.
I own my own company that basically I handle finances
for other people, and so I'll work on that side. Note.

Speaker 1 (21:03):
Yeah, it is you. You're like an anomaly to me
and I think for most because you're you're a creative person.
You have a very like wide range of creative brain activity,
but you're also a numbers person. Yeah those two things.

Speaker 2 (21:20):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (21:21):
That's like a left brain right brain thing. Most people
don't have both. So it's really fascinating that you dabble
in that. But you're also like wildly creative.

Speaker 2 (21:27):
Well it's funny, thank you, because you have to understand
and everyone knows my story by now, I have not
really truly I guess, embraced and been doing my creative side.
Ah right, So the numbers thing became a thing of like,
this is a is my job, this is what I
have to do. And I worked at a bank years ago,

(21:48):
which I said in the last episode, And so I've
always loved numbers. I loved math. I love like It
sounds like such a dork, but like you know when
you like reconcile a bank account and you get to
like a thing where you match everything and it turns
green and it's like you're done. And if it says zero,
I get so excited.

Speaker 1 (22:02):
Oh that just gives me anxiety even thinking about the best.

Speaker 2 (22:05):
Oh, this is funny.

Speaker 1 (22:06):
The other day during our show, we were live and
we were talking about someone going to prison for fifty
seven months and me and Ellen.

Speaker 2 (22:14):
Oh my god. I had to sit there and listens.
I'm in my kitchen. Yeah, and they're going and Elan's like, yes,
what is it like two years? I'm like, what's happening?
And then she corrects herself right, and then and then
someone was like, yeah, no, no, it's three years. And
they're like no, it's four years. And I'm like, what
are we doing? Right? And then I'm like, I eat Ryan.
I texted him. I actually texted him the middle of
the show. I didn't give a shit. I don't even
who was going to see it, but I was like,

(22:36):
what are you guys doing? Yeah, fifty seven months is
four years and nine months? What are we doing? Four
times twelve is forty eight? How do you get to
fifty seven? You had nine more, four years, nine months.
I did it. It was twesdays. I didn't even have
my coffee yet. I was like, what, what is happening?
These guys have been up for like four hours at
the middle of their day. Should be sharp. This is
like nope, Oh my god. Guys. They probably put on
a solid and a half minutes brought out calculators. That's

(22:57):
how bad that was. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I didn't
even know that the creative versus math. I never gave
that any thought, But yeah, I could see that actually
because I've I've always lived around creative people. My husband
is a creative person. Lindsay and Jason, these guys are
all in like production film, they write scripts, they do
their creative people are artists, right, and I have been

(23:19):
doing other stuff that's not creative. So I was like, Okay,
well what am I good at? I'm good at numbers,
I'm good at this, and I can make money doing that.
And so that's what I did. And I doesn't feel
like work to me, Like it's a game to me
to like figure stuff out and you know balance things.
It's just fun. I know it sounds so such a work,
but but yeah, I'm like a numbers nerd. So I
was like, okay, I'll do that. And what's great about

(23:40):
knowing numbers and being oriented in numbers like that for
this is that and Ryan can attest to this, like
I am constantly checking like the statistics of our podcast
and the numbers and figuring out, well, how many what
is that per day? Then how many league? I love
stuff like that, So that's good because I don't think
most creative people give a shit.

Speaker 1 (23:58):
I believe, I just rely on you to tell me
how it's doue.

Speaker 2 (24:00):
Yeah, I don't. I don't look. I don't look. I
look every day. So yeah, and then I'm like, okay,
this didn't do as good as that. Why you know,
I love figuring stuff like that out. So anyway, back
to the day in the life. So then I'm doing
that and doing the numbers thing. Most of the day
I don't normally even really eat anything until like one
or two PM. I like off my coffee and whatever.

(24:23):
And I got to let Holly out a few times
because she's older, so her bladder's not what it used
to be that old spinster. Yep, that old spinster. And
then around for No. Three forty five, I prep snacks
for the kids. And by that time, by two thirty
if if I forgot to figure out what are we
going to make for dinner, a deep anxiety sets in

(24:45):
because now everything's frozen, it's gonna be too late. So
I when I grocery shop, I use Instagram.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
I was going to say, don't ever, don't ever pretend
you go to You went to the store the other day.

Speaker 2 (24:55):
I didn't know it was guys I had. I was
on the phone with Jay.

Speaker 1 (24:59):
It it took you. You you had to ask someone. Eventually,
it took you three laps around the store to even
comprehend where apple sauce would be.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
Okay, you know what? Am I wrong? Am I wrong?
It was about four laps. It was a long time.
You said.

Speaker 1 (25:14):
You literally said, I'm leaving. They don't have apple sauce.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
I was gonna leave. You thought I was gonna be
apple sauce. I was like, this is bullshit. No, Okay,
so yeah, I don't. I don't grocery shop. I'm a
little so I used to grocery shop. I used to
do all this But here's what you guys have to
understand about me with motherhood. I have a three year
old and a nine year old. I'm new to the game,
and I'm gonna explain what that means. From the time

(25:39):
I went back to work after I had my daughter,
which she was four months old, to uh February of
this year of twenty twenty five, I have gone through
a string of childcare professionals also known as nanny's. I worked.
I would leave my house at eight am and come
home at seven pm. And I worked in Beverly Hills.

(26:00):
I drove two hours each way, just into a lot
of audio books and I, uh, I didn't I delegated
being a mom to someone else. I mean, no, no,
you didn't. I died in duties, duties, and so yes,

(26:21):
that's true. I was still their mother. But I would
come home in time for bath time and the bedtime,
and what I thought was the quote unquote important stuff.
But what was happening after a while is that you
lose a little bit of like, I don't know, like
what she's like projects my daughter, she has homework, did
your homework great? I don't know what the homework was it?
And help her with it. It was a little bit

(26:41):
of like a I'm so I'm the kind of person
that if you give me something to do or if
I have something that I'm going to do, it doesn't
matter if I'm throwing I love hosting things. I'll throw
people baby showers. I'll do stuff at my house. I
love having people over to like entertain them. This podcast,
my any thing anything you have me do my job.

(27:03):
This is not a job to me. This is like fun.
So like my my job, like the bookkeeping stuff, like
all of that stuff, the financing, Like I will put
one hundred and ten percent of myself into anything that
I do. And I noticed that the only area I
wasn't doing that in was with being a mom, and
it stopped being okay with me. I was like, oh,
now I'm aware of that's weird. Why am I doing that?

(27:25):
And then I found myself in a position where I
was home and I still had a nanny, and I'm like,
what am I doing? I don't need a nanny. I
don't need I don't I love her, She's part of
our family, like the guinea pig. Yeah, we know she
was better than I get compared that Christ. No, she's
she was a fantastic We also went through like six
different sitters over time. It was insane the amount of

(27:45):
crazy stuff I had going on and finding someone out
of desperation because I had to get back to work,
like a whole thing. So once Luca started school, once
Luca was through treatment and started school, and they were
gone all day, and I still had her there because
I didn't want her to leave and I had my
own weird emotional attachment to having there. I was like,
does this make sense? And so it didn't make sense,
and so I was like, well, you know, I could

(28:06):
just get the kids to school and do my work
and instead of being in my office at home until
six thirty or six forty five to relieve her at seven,
I come out of my office at four o'clock, I
go get my kids, and I gotta I gotta shut
it down at three thirty like every other mother is
doing and do this. So I was like, okay, I'm
gonna do that. So I started doing that in September,
and uh then now I'm so now that's what I'm saying.

(28:28):
I'm new at this. I'm a new mom of a
three year old and a nine year old and yeah,
I'm having some second thoughts about it. I'm just joking.
It's a little difficult. The dinner thing is very intense.
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
How our parents did it, and I don't either.

Speaker 2 (28:46):
Oh my god. And I'm like, I'm like, this is
not my mom was a single mother twice. Get out
of here, dude, Like I was like, I don't even know.
I would have been like put the fire station. I
just leave them there. I can't. I don't know what
we're doing. This is insane. Then you make dinner. Oh
my god. I look these recipes of things that they'll like,
and I'm making all of it. And then I make
it and Livia is like, this is so good mom,
and Luca won't touch it, or she's like the other

(29:07):
day I made something and she's like, Mom, everything that
you've made me so far is really good. I was like,
oh my god, I'm so glad and it makes my
whole day. And then she goes, but I hate this.
Can I have something else, to which I said no, Yeah,
she goes, what do you mean? I said, listen, when
I was a kid, this is what was for dinner.
You either ate it or you didn't. That's it. And

(29:28):
just so you know, the kitchen, my mom would say
this to me. I'd come into the kitchen a night,
she goes, the kitchen's clothed. Jay, the kitchen's clothed, Like
that was it. We're shutting it down. We're not going
to just eat all night. We're not going to have
a snack, We're not going to do something else. So
I said to her. I was like, live, I can't
just keep making things like a short order cook until
you guys are happy. You have to learn to try
new things. And she'll I will give my daughter credit.
She's willing to try new foods, which is awesome because

(29:48):
some kids will not. Luca will not. And with Luca,
I'm a little bit like, Okay, So one of the
things that happens with chemo is it messes with your
taste buds. And I know that, and I see it
he'll have Yesterday he put a piece of turkey in
his mouth for the first time in his life and
went like he sucked on a lemon. His face. He
was like oh, like he couldn't, and I'm like, oh,

(30:10):
it was the flavor of the turkey. Like his taste
buds were just like whoa what is this? You know,
I could see it in his face and I was like,
that's so interesting. So he's kind of acklam. So I'm
a little bit more lenient with him in terms of, like, Okay,
I do I have to get them some protein. I
don't know what to do. I have to give him something,
you know what I mean. So but but for the
most part, I don't even know what's happening. We're like
three hours into this podcast and I we're still I'm

(30:31):
dropping them off for school. So anyway, I make snacks
around like four o'clock because then I'll pick up my daughter.
He's like, are snacks on the table? Like ready for us?
I'm like, these kids have it made to a point
where I'm like, no, it's not, because I'm not gonna
leave fruit out for the Oh by the way, when
I pick them up from school, I have to now
strategically go get my daughter, so I come back up
the hallway with her before I get Luca, because if

(30:53):
I get Luca first and we go down to get Livia,
I'm there for forty five minutes at pickup because he'll
go outside to play. He goes to the bathroom and
he just wants to flush every stall in the girl's bathroom.
It's so creepy. I'm like, you can't. They'll go into
the men's bthroom, Like I can't go in there with you.
It's a whole thing. My son's obsessed with toilets ever since.
I probably trained him. So so then we come home.
We come home and I said, I'm not gonna do so,

(31:15):
I'm gonna do snacks. And when I get home. The
reason I do that is because Luca will not leave
the car. I get home, I'll go live sit in
the car with him, and he's in the car for
forty five minutes, playing with the buttons opening and closing
the door. And then I go in and I prep
the snacks, and then I call them in. And now
then I have to do dinner, because dinner. I serve
dinner at five thirty, So dinner's at five thirty. Then

(31:35):
they eat. Livia is doing her homework. We have a
whole routine. She has to do her homework. She does
her homework. Six fifteen, Livia is in the shower. She's
out three hours later. She's a longest shower on anyone.
I can't even believe it. And then I bathe Luca
around seven, seven thirty because by eight he's in bed.
Now at this time, now Clark gets home around seven
whatever was for dinner, He's got his plate of food

(31:56):
ready to go. Then he takes over for live does
her time, I do Luke. We kind of divide. I
do Luca's bedtime. I'm out of Luca's room around eight
thirty maybe hopefully if all goes well. And that's in
between going, oh my god, I forgot to feed the
dog who already has like one paw out the door
because she's seventeen, you know what I mean, And so
she eats twice a day, so I have to figure
that out. That happens at some point somewhere in there too.

(32:18):
It's really chaotic. And then with what I do, there's
all kinds of people who will like text me like, oh,
I need a financial statement for this. I'm like okay,
and I'm like, hang, gonna be right back, and I
run into the office and I do that. I'm I
work like twenty four seven ittes and like I have,
you know, hours that people don't bother me. And then
you know, by that time, it's you know, eight thirty

(32:38):
eight forty five. I go and I say good night
to live. I pull out their clothes for the next
day for school. I check the weather to make sure
that I'm whatever I'm taking out for them is you know,
weather appropriate. And then I have some time to like,
I go and I clean the kitchen. Now it's nine thirty,
I'm like, okay, maybe I have like an hour or
so to watch something or to have my own time.

(32:59):
Last night, my time was sitting on my laptop on
my couch doing work while I had something aimless on
TV that I didn't even care about, just to feel
like I was sitting there watching TV, I actually wasn't
so so yeah, and then I usually go to bed
sometime between eleven and one. It just depends, honestly. And
then uh and then you know, up five hours later
and it starts all over again. Yeah, Okay, that's a

(33:21):
day and a life of Jay Boy. That coin toss
really is you should have gone first. But here's the
good news. Now you're not gonna feel bad about going
on and on. I'm not gonna go on and on
now you need.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
I can't because I look and this you just kind
of almost underscored my I guess the thing that I'm
realizing more and more about you is your attention to
detail is far greater than mine, far great.

Speaker 2 (33:43):
Like you walked me through was that awful? No? Much
like too much tension? Detail?

Speaker 1 (33:47):
No no, no, no no no, it's just not no, it's
not good or bad.

Speaker 2 (33:50):
It's just for me.

Speaker 1 (33:54):
This is an interesting thing and almost maybe more interesting
than what my day is. Basically, I'll just I'm gonna
just I'm gonna just throw my day out like this.
But I do want to come back to this one
thing here that I'm thinking of. I wake up at
three oh five every day, shower walk Penny in the
morning show starts at five.

Speaker 2 (34:13):
The day you said you were here at like four
fifteen or four fifty or something.

Speaker 1 (34:15):
Yeah, yeah, and we're just off and running like you don't.
This isn't a job doing a live radio show anywhere.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
What's your commute, like fifteen minutes or not? Even that's great?

Speaker 1 (34:27):
Twelve, that's awesome, honestly, Like like, there's been days I've
made it in like nine, but on the way home
it takes a.

Speaker 2 (34:33):
Little longer just because there's more people. Yeah, you can't
run red lights. I'm kidding. I don't do that.

Speaker 1 (34:39):
But once you get here, it's like the studio lights
come on and it's go time. Like this isn't a
A lot of people have this thing, and it's and
I I'm so happy that people do get to like
warm up in the morning. You don't get there's no war,
there's no there's no wind up. It's just go right,
like it's a live radio show in La on Coast.
I mean, it's crazy.

Speaker 2 (34:57):
You don't.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
You're thrown into the fire, which is good and bad,
because there are days. Look, there are days, like everyone
has days, I don't care who you are, what you do.
There are days where it's like, oh yeah, you know.
I mean, we're so fortunate to be able to do
this and communicate with this wonderful city and the people
in it. And it really and I don't say this
to sound patronizing, but like it makes you really feel

(35:19):
alive when you know that everyone, like the people that
are up with you are also up with you. You know,
like you're not alone. You're here with everyone, and they
call and they're with you, and it's great.

Speaker 2 (35:30):
So there's also helps you like check your shit at
the door if you're having a bad day day. No, yeah,
you can't.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
I mean all the things that I've been through in
my life, like very like we talked about my very
public divorce. I mean those are like hellish things to
do and come in here and try to keep a
smile and fake it till you make it. Yes, yes,
And in a lot of that, I mean Ellen losing
both of her parents within a you know, a span
of eighteen months.

Speaker 2 (35:53):
It's like that was tough.

Speaker 1 (35:55):
Her son going to call it like these life events
that actually you have to remember we're not just here
going like.

Speaker 2 (36:00):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's there's some shit. Yeah, I know,
you're real people going through life stuff.

Speaker 1 (36:04):
And it's even better because we get to talk about it. Yeah,
for sure. You know, it's like your own therapy every morning.
So being honest about it is a good thing. Look,
I'm out the door, uh here usually every every day
around twelve thirty, I would say, walk.

Speaker 2 (36:21):
Penny a bunch I put in.

Speaker 1 (36:24):
I think my last check when I check my steps,
I'm a five point four miles every day.

Speaker 2 (36:29):
Really, hey, how many steps a day is that? Hold on?
What's my daily e twenty five steps a day on
average for the year. Yah, Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (36:40):
So I do a lot of walking with pen. She's
a big girl. Man, she needs a kind of dog,
is Penny.

Speaker 2 (36:45):
She's a boxer. That's awesome. Yeah, adopt her from best
Friends Animal Society. That's awesome. We adopted our dogs too.

Speaker 1 (36:51):
Good and yeah, and then after after a lot of exercise,
I just get right back to work on the next
day show.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
At home at home. Yeah, yeah, we do. Like, because
you're the executive producer of this radio station, you have
to well, yeah, basically come up with the whole show
for the next day. Yeah. Yeah. A lot of it.

Speaker 1 (37:12):
Is is called audibly audibles.

Speaker 2 (37:15):
I guess on the fly what does that mean?

Speaker 1 (37:17):
Like we call an audible like, well, you know, if
we're gonna maybe talk about this or talk about that.

Speaker 2 (37:21):
Like it's not audible, like what we all all the
listeners know, So what is an audible? What is the
definition of audible? For radio?

Speaker 1 (37:26):
Tell me you don't watch football without telling me you
don't watch football.

Speaker 2 (37:29):
Every man listening right now is like, oh my god,
what tell me you're being a dick without telling me
or being a dick? You know what I mean? Jesus,
So just asking I love you, love boy.

Speaker 1 (37:46):
Okay, So an audible jay. When something changes, you call
an audible Okay. Yeah, So there are times there are
days where we.

Speaker 2 (37:54):
We just like if something in the news changes, like.

Speaker 1 (37:57):
Or this thing happened like and you know, like if Ellen,
you know, like a squirrel fell out of the tree
and hit her in the head. You know, it's like
that happened last night. Okay, we're gonna pip, We're gonna
go here.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
Okay, because you know about that when you're writing a show.
So now you're gonna add it, and you're gonna say it,
say it anyway, audible to say it anyway, that's it.

Speaker 1 (38:12):
Okay, the plan goes out the window. But then there's
other things too, like we do top stories top of
the hour, like this this is like our blueprint for
everything happening in the world.

Speaker 2 (38:19):
He's holding up two pieces of paper with a lot
of words on it. Some of them are read. Why
are they read.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
The words on this particular when are read? Because when
we're a lot of important things, it's like it's almost
like this is what the story's about.

Speaker 2 (38:31):
Oh, it's a keyword that like so you see a trigger, yeah,
you know, like L A B L A P.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
D's and Red Diddy trials in red Oh yeah, Taylor anyway,
and I'm saying, you know, Pope, yeah, in and out
the period, so your eye goes to what's read.

Speaker 2 (38:45):
Sure, Okay, there we go. That's awesome.

Speaker 1 (38:47):
So yeah, that happens, and then it happens over and
over and over and over and over and over and over.

Speaker 2 (38:51):
Yeah. That's so you go home and you do that,
and then I.

Speaker 1 (38:55):
Don't watch anything. I watched the news, and I watch baseball.
I watch wrestling w w E Mondays and Fridays.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
Okay. Yeah. Something that people don't know about you is
that your you have a you're WWE fan, which I
think anyone who's listening, you know, between the ages of
like seven and eleven years old will love to hear
about you. You didn't quite outgrow that, did you ryan
outgrow it?

Speaker 1 (39:18):
My first live wrestling event, I think I was six
or seven, and I am currently forty four. Uh huh,
and I have not taken a break from my fandom.
I have been to seven wrestling.

Speaker 2 (39:29):
Six or Year of Fresh forty four, I think you said, so, you're.

Speaker 1 (39:31):
Right, Yeah, well yeah, so it's uh, I've been waiting
myself to outgrow it.

Speaker 2 (39:35):
I guess it's never happened. I just love it.

Speaker 1 (39:38):
I love the pageantry, the theatrics, the the story to
it's male soap opera.

Speaker 2 (39:43):
It's all, Oh, that makes sense, it's what it is.
You know. My dad had married a woman that ended
up being my stepmother for a period of time, and
she was into the wwe is not funny love it.
So I remember visiting them on the weekends and she
would watch it. Yeah, it was pretty cool.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
So this is the other thing I did want to
circle back to because of your very very specific detail.

Speaker 2 (40:05):
Am I just vagueness my general we're not done with
your day app go ahead? No, we are, that's my doubt.
No that I have things I have to ask, go ahead.
So how long does it take? How many hours are
you working on the next day's show at home? It
depends on how focused I am.

Speaker 1 (40:18):
If I really wanted to just shut the phone, like
put the phone across the room, not answer calls, not
check my email during like if I just went no distraction,
I could get it done in an hour and a half.

Speaker 2 (40:28):
Okay, But what I do is I get I allow
myself to be too distracted by and then it takes
several hours.

Speaker 1 (40:38):
And then it takes a long time and it's it's
eight o'clock and you realize you.

Speaker 2 (40:40):
Haven't eaten at all. My next question is what are
we doing for dinner? What's happening?

Speaker 1 (40:45):
I mean, it's usually just like a game time decision.
I'm not I'm not chef Jay.

Speaker 2 (40:50):
You know in the kitchen you don't have like a
bunch of people defeat that are depending on you for
their meals. No, it's just me, and which is nice
because then you don't have to hear like, oh this
is a gross I hate it. Thanks for putting all
that time in right, Yeah, yeah, it's fine. I'm doing fine,
But I my diet is so weird. I don't know.

Speaker 1 (41:02):
I'm like I've simplified, so I've almost do like I
belong in like a nursing home or something. I just
I eat smoked salmon, cottage cheese and pineapple, just.

Speaker 2 (41:10):
Like live in the Dream. Look at this guy that
smoked salmon.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
Wow, I mean wow, Like episode one, we were selling
me on the ladies, and now in the past ten
minutes they've learned that I'm obsessed with wrestling and eat
like like.

Speaker 2 (41:23):
That like that. Now I see why it was such
an awful thing that that girl was scraping food to go.
You're like, Jesus, I'm okay with my locks bagel over here.
You can take all the okay, Yeah all right, so
nobody also, no one that is a heavy eater. Please. Yeah. No,
I can't do Ryan, I can't do it.

Speaker 1 (41:42):
I've lost like thirty pounds in the last I don't know,
six months.

Speaker 2 (41:46):
That awesome.

Speaker 1 (41:47):
Uh and so my my whole and I cheated, by
the way, I just put that out there. Yeah, and
I don't call it cheating, but it was a paid
partnership with It will help, Yeah, it'll help, just like everyone.

Speaker 2 (42:00):
Not everyone, but many have. So that's been good. My
appetites just really it doesn't you know, you don't really
have one. Yeah, I eat, I used to. I used
to live to eat. Now I just eat to live. Yes,
And then and then you're done and then what's bedtime?
Is like eight o'clock you're done with the show? Yeah,
we're doing. Do you take a shower in the morning
at three o'clock in the morning. No, I can't do that,
nic show. That's like your cup of coffee in the

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morning as your shower.

Speaker 1 (42:22):
It wakes me up. I feel I feel just groggy.

Speaker 2 (42:24):
Do we take Penny out again? At night? Before you
go to bed? Penny sleeps with you, Penny in your bed,
in her own bed. She starts with me okay, and
then she usually yeah, that's nice. Yeah, that's it, Jay,
that's that's your day. That's the day in the life
of Ryan. And I love it. I mean I do.

Speaker 1 (42:40):
But I will say this, and this is for anyone
you know maybe listening to this, like, oh, I want
to get into radio and do that when you do.

Speaker 2 (42:47):
I'm listening and I'd like to get into radio that.
I'm just kidding you. You'd be good at this. I
don't know. Pretty maybe AM station where I can talk. No,
oh you just yeah.

Speaker 1 (42:56):
Could you imagine the first time you learn you have
to like end a story to get to commercial on time.

Speaker 2 (43:00):
I would need someone to train me how to do that.
I don't know. If you're I don't know, that would
be Yeah, that'd be tough. You don't know that we're fucked. No,
that'd be tough for you. That's what I'm saying it.
Then I can't do it. No, no, no, no, you'd be
good at it.

Speaker 1 (43:10):
But I'm just saying it just disciplined to just wind it.

Speaker 2 (43:13):
Up, you know, it down. I think I need to
wind it down. That's what I mean to win it. Yeah, okay,
so go ahead. So people who want to get.

Speaker 1 (43:21):
Yeah, yeah, so just know that, Yes, it's a it's
just a unique, so fun job, but it is it
is more than a job. It is a lifestyle. And
uh that's just something to keep in mind. It becomes
a lifestyle. It is not just going punch a clock,
sitting at a desk doing this, leaving and then leaving
work at home. And a lot of people get to
do that. No, no, no, it doesn't ever stop. I

(43:43):
also think that's a personality thing. Like I people who
put a lot into, like their whole heart into what
they're doing, don't ever leave it.

Speaker 2 (43:49):
You need to work. No, there's no separation really, like
if you need some things needed, you do it like I. Yeah,
and I could easily go like guys, sorry, it's six
six thirty. Yeah it's tomorrow. I can't do that. I'm
not doing that. I'll get it right away. I can't
even and I don't I don't have the luxury of
doing it.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
People need answers. People, yea where's this commercial?

Speaker 2 (44:05):
You got this? You got that? You do this? Will
you go here? Will you do this? Appearance? Also live radio.
So it's a little rough because, yeah, you can't really
put things off, No you can't. So you wanted to
circle back to something, Yeah, I did so.

Speaker 1 (44:15):
So I've just discovered that our differences in the way
that we process detail is what I have figured out.
And you and I have discussed this between us, and
I think I've got a name for it. I think,
and I don't know if it's a male thing, but
I've termed it calendar blindness.

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Oh my god, don't get me started on this shit?
Should I not go ahead? Or is this episode six? Oh?
What do you think?

Speaker 1 (44:43):
I'll just touch on this, really touch on it.

Speaker 2 (44:44):
Let's touch on it.

Speaker 1 (44:46):
So I have a thing where as organized as I am,
and as you know, driven and focused as I am,
that focus pertains to that.

Speaker 2 (44:55):
Day premarried to this. This is a man thing, by
the way it is. I don't know if it's okay
too that I know that I happened to be very
close with. So okay, let's go for it.

Speaker 1 (45:05):
So I if someone tells me, and I'll give you
an example.

Speaker 2 (45:09):
The other night. You and I had an event on Saturday.
You were asking me on that Monday, Tuesday's fine, okay
to see this is.

Speaker 1 (45:18):
What I'm talking about. You remember everything. So you're asking
me Tuesday, what's our plan for Saturday? For Saturday, I'm like,
what's our what?

Speaker 2 (45:26):
Fool? Acted like? I asked him, first of all, let
me let me can I can I take over for
a quick sect your mind? I love you great? So
earlier on Monday, the day before he was he got it.
He said, oh, hang on, I got an email. And
he's like what, oh my god, what is it? What?
And I go, what's happening? And he's like, I'll take you.
Names asked me about August nineteenth and having a guest

(45:47):
on the show Sarah macgloth. That's like asking me about
twenty forty seven. What's going to happen in twenty forty seven?

Speaker 1 (45:53):
Is the year?

Speaker 2 (45:53):
Guys? This is what he's talking about. And I go,
hang on, dude, half a June is over, this is August,
this is like six weeks. What is going on? Also
sounds awesome to me in my mind. I go like, okay, cool,
we have somebody for that day. That's done I don't
have to worry about that day now, great, he could
not think. So that's what this is what started this? Okay.

(46:14):
Then the next day I'm like, okay, there's this thing
on Saturday. It's Tuesday. I was like, oh hey, so
like what's the plan, Like are we going to go
to this thing? And what time is it done? Should
we get there whatever? And he's like wait what. I'm like,
what's happening the thing on Saturday? He's like, Saturday the
day of the week. He's like, Jay, it's Tuesday. And
I go, I'm aware, I don't sorry, are you having
a stroke? I don't know what's happening. I got on

(46:35):
what's going out? Did you smell toast? I don't know.
I don't know. There was like a weird, quiet, dead air,
which is very rare with Ryan and I. And I
was like and he's like, we asked me about something
on your Saturday's like so far away. I said, hang
on a second, and then he goes, oh my god,
I just realized that I had this other thing on Saturday.
After maybe I'm just going to go straight from the
thing to the other thing because and I go, oh
my god, this is what your problem is in life.

(46:56):
I have yet in all the many many months that
have gone by that I have this new best friend Ryan,
have I gone. I'm like, hey, he's got to shit together.
I don't really see anything. I was like, oh, I
found it. I found the thing. And I realized you
have anxiety about future plans, yes, and you're doing it
to yourself. So I was like, listen, I'm going to
create a shared calendar. I would love you. I don't

(47:18):
even if I can, because I would need to literally
know your whole life and put it in there for you.

Speaker 1 (47:21):
I'll give you all the access through all of my stuff.

Speaker 2 (47:23):
We'll do it. We'll do it. And I guys, I
am a planner to a fault, like I need to
know what's going on. I need to know what time
of things are going on. I need to have all
the information. My husband does this. So then I tell Clark.
I go, you know, Ryan's getting like, I'm asking about
Saturday taken four days and he got like all and
he goes and he's like, yeah, I do the same thing.
I said. I know you do. I can't do this
with two people in my life. I'm gonna tell you

(47:44):
right now, I'll lose my shit. So it's like, what
are we doing today and what's happening tomorrow? And I'm
like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, nope, nope, nope,
Like I have to be able to bring up something
that's going on in three days. What are we talking about?
So yeah, he has calendar blindness. He's calling it, calling
it anxiety about the future. Okay, So I'm just saying, like,

(48:04):
here's things that I'll be like, there are things that
are exciting that are happening in the future, and this
could be like a fun thing. You know.

Speaker 1 (48:09):
What's exciting for me is just is getting okay, like
looking at what's ahead of me this day and maybe
a little bit of tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (48:15):
That's it.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Yeah, yeah, Like I'll get excited for stuff, you know,
and I do like I'll plan travel. I'm like, oh
my god, if we're going to you know, if I know,
like next March you're going to Paris or whatever, Okay,
I can do that.

Speaker 2 (48:26):
Yeah, I can do that. I don't. I can't.

Speaker 1 (48:28):
I cannot be asked. I cannot be And this goes
back to that email. I cannot function properly having someone
ask me, are you okay, having Sarah McLaughlin in studio
August nineteenth. I don't know, I don't know, I don't know,
I have no what time went, like, so much happens

(48:49):
between now and then.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
Sure, nothing's happening on August nineteenth theater.

Speaker 1 (48:53):
Now it is, Yeah, because I say yes to something
in August.

Speaker 2 (48:57):
Yes, horrible, wonderful, awful, why the worst? Oh my god,
I guess you're.

Speaker 1 (49:03):
Gonna come in with their depressing songs that play in
those stupid dog commercials or they'redying.

Speaker 2 (49:07):
Pc a commercial. But it's not about Sarah. It could
have been anybody that they asked you to put on
that calendar. It was about the date. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (49:13):
Now I'm hearing that song because I'm just I'm toast
that I had to make a commitment for August.

Speaker 2 (49:18):
Ah cooked listen. August twenty eighth is my birthday. I know,
happy birthday. I well remember it's gonna be a couple
of days after that that I'm gonna do something. No,
here's what's gonna happen. Here's here's the here's the downside
to operating. The way you operate is going. Okay, Oh Ryan,
My birthday is da da da da and this is

(49:38):
what I'm gonna do on this day, and you're like, okay, great,
and then like that that was we get closer to that,
something else happens and you go, oh my god, I
totally forgot I have this thing that somebody just told
me about that even though I knew about your thing
for months because I didn't want to know about that
thing yet because I don't want to deal with the
future's too far into the future. But then like just
this week, I got invited to like wherever the f
and I have to go do that, So now I
can't go to both. Now I'm upset because you knew

(50:00):
about this forever. My birthday doesn't change. It's the same
goddamn day every year. You know.

Speaker 1 (50:04):
Look, I will make you there are things that do that.

Speaker 2 (50:07):
Are It's just an example. I understand. I will. I
promise you'll not skimp out on your birth or miss
your birthday. Listen, we need to we need to do
something about this that makes you happier. Because you're getting
a little salty. I'm not. I'm not. I just I'm
not Liginia like a hug. What's going on. I'm fine,
stay over there by the way.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
When we do this, we can only see the top
of each other's head, yeah, kind of our face.

Speaker 2 (50:30):
Our face is visible. Yeah, we're across from the like
there's a whole bunch of equipment between us. We're very
far away from.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
There there, So yeah, you stay on your side. I'm fine,
I'm good. I just think it's a common thing, and
maybe it is a male thing.

Speaker 2 (50:43):
The shared thing. Yeah, guys, like guys, girls whatever. I'm
sure there's women who don't like to see that. They
just want to deal with kind of.

Speaker 1 (50:49):
Like I would rather find out or be reminded that
I have something the day before, Yeah, and then to
ask me how we're getting somewhere on Saturday when it's
Tuesday and I haven't gotten through.

Speaker 2 (50:59):
But I don't know. But listen, Ryan Clark's like this too,
And I think it's just because, like you have someone
that's planning it for you, Like I take care of
all that shit. I take care of it. I don't
have anyone doing it for me. I know you don't.
I know you don't, but I'm like, I think that
that's normal, especially for men that like they don't need
to worry about that shit, you know what I mean.
And you're taking care of it and you're doing It's
not like you're missing stuff. You're not missing anything important.

(51:19):
If this works for you, it works for it's totally
fine for me, who's like the opposite end of the spectrum.
As you mentioned at the front end of this topic
is I'm like, what I need to talk about? It
was a boy on a few days. Yeah, so that.

Speaker 1 (51:30):
Is I didn't even know where this conversation I go.
Where is this thing Saturday? What time does it start?
You had to give me all the details, but I
had them because I wouldn't have looked it up until
I had to really tell that I told you that.

Speaker 2 (51:40):
The night before or that morning. Wow. Yeah, just live
it on the edge. I am good for you, Ryan.

Speaker 1 (51:48):
I feel really good about getting that off and I know,
get it off my chest. But I know that some
people will be like, wow, he really got worked up
over that. But I get passionate.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
That's my that's yeah, yeah, no, no, no, totally yeah, yeah,
that's all. No, he's doing fine. I think he's not
like breaking pencils or anything. He's okay, I'm fine, rip
up a couple pieces of paper and so I'm gone
on what's with all the Yeah, there's a lot of
marker down.

Speaker 1 (52:08):
Can we talk about my weird market thing really quick
that you just found out about?

Speaker 2 (52:11):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (52:12):
God, should I say or you want to say it?

Speaker 2 (52:14):
There is a large pencil holder cup thing here, right,
and there's nothing in it except for black sharpies. And
Ryan uses sharpies a lot on the radio show. And
so I found out that, and we apologize to the

(52:35):
accounting department here at iHeartRadio. But every single sharpie is
brand new. He takes one out for the day, he
uses it for that day and that five hour span
of radio, and then before he leaves he throws that
brand new sharpie in the trash.

Speaker 1 (52:50):
It's not brand new anymore.

Speaker 2 (52:52):
It is not brand new anymore. It does ground down
to a nub. He likes a nice sharp sharpie, a
nice new sharpie each day. So I was like, well,
I'm sure it still has some life in it, Like
why are we wasting the sharpie? You? Like, if Ryan
ever leaves iHeart, they're gonna be like, we are we
saving hundreds of dollars from office depot every month, and

(53:13):
our staples order wherever the hell they order from, you
know what I mean? Like it's it's so. Yeah, he
has this thing where he has to use a brand
new sharpie every day, every morning. I said, can we
just put them aside each day and maybe bring them
to like a homeless shelter because nobody can tell me
where the f these guys that are standing on the
off ramp of the freeway are getting their goddamn sharpie's from.

(53:33):
They have these cardboard signs, perfectly written signs. Yeah, and
I'm like, where do you get the sharpie? I think
it's the trash can and iHeartRadio from Ryan Manno, just
thrown away brand new sharpies every day. Guys think I
just figured it out. Oh my god. Okay, I know
it's wasteful, but I'm sorry. It's okay. Who you good? Yeah,

(53:57):
we got through our days. Nice job, we did it.
So whether you're up before dawn or chasing kids all day,
we get it. Chaos. It looks different for everyone, but
it's still chaos. Thanks for spending a little bit of
your crazy day with us.

Speaker 1 (54:08):
I'll get you next time, hopefully right after a full
night's sleep and I calmed down.

Speaker 2 (54:13):
This is say it anyway