June 16, 2025 • 37 mins
The Responsible Man is a call to more responsible living.
"But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."
2 Timothy 5:8
"But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."
2 Timothy 5:8
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There is something that God has kept inside of you.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
It is said that today the richest place on earth
is the graveyard.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
True or true true, the richest place on earth.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It's not done this place, but the cemetery where ideas
that should have made our world to be better, Where
ideas that should have led to progress, Where ideas I've
been buried, ideas that never saw the light of day.
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And that's why I'm praying this morning that for you
and for me we will die empty in Jesus' name.
Somebody does not understand this.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
This is it.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Where God was creating you. It kept ideas inside of you.
And the ideas that God has kept inside of you
is on hundred percent. Do you know that many of
us die we leave this world without using any of
these ideas, and some of us that even't try to
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use it, some of us that try to use it.
Maybe what we have used is five percent of the ideas.
Even though the person has grown as old as mental cellar,
but he has only used five of the ideas that
God has given the person. May we die empty in
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the name of Jesus. I will not die full, and
we die empty in the name of Jesus. Because on
the last day God, you want to get before God,
and God will just look at you and you will
see that you are empty because why you have been
able to use all the ideas that God has given
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to you to benefit humanity. The question is what are
you doing where you are? May God help us in
Jesus' name. Now, before I bring the message this morning,
all fathers, all fathers that are not in Father's uniform, eh,
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I want to plead with you. Your responsibility begins from
that place. It is not wrong for you to buy
something for yourself. And I will begin from m chairman.
I would have told you to work out and go
back home. You should have come the white one that
you brought the needed Father's Day emphasis like this man came.
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That's that's better.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Forgive me. Sorry.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
I don't mean to hurt you, but I think that
responsibility from that place. Responsibility begins from that place. And
I know things. All fingers are not equal years, but
it takes years. Some of us are just using the
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top a loom. That makes sense, mister Patrick. Since I
came to this church, you have been in MM. You're
not new to M You. I can forgive people like
Souleyman because they are new the air, new fathers, Baracoury,
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do something about it. And the Lord we all know
you in Jesus' name. That's where responsibility begins.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Movie.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So who are you angry? Smile now, Jesus loves you.
Don't be angry. That's what father is supposed to do.
Mister came up. Don't wear our uniform on Father's Day,
your father, even though you're there, cancel. This is not
our race celebration. It is Father's Day. You are forgiven.
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Please next year, I expect all fathers to come, either
this one or the one by back is wearing. In fact,
they say fathers, the spirit I used to enter inside
women as enter fathers. Now they say they want to
do another one for father and as the Lord will
save us for our mothers. You know all of them,
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they have plenty. If you ask some of them now
to continue to wear all these chevy all this video
doing for the wm U for conference for association for
a centenary for this one, I'm sure some of them
they have special bags for it.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
My wife has special bag for it.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
One of our mothers said that she has a complete
world group like this for all those women attire that
if for one one mon they said she should just
be wearing different women group attire enough and you will
not change to any other one except for all those
kinds of clothes.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Amen.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
But now the thing is entering into men too. Men,
you're broken, fring Jesus name alja. I want to thank
the Lord for safety on the journey. I had to
make journey to bury my grandmother just this past week,
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and the journey was a complete day journey. And I
was sharing before the service began, how many of us
have been to Ilila before? You know a place in
Angela called Ilila. Ah ooh, it's serious and you have
been Naia, you've not been to Ilila before. It is
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actually in Socoto States. How many of us have been
there or you ahead of it? Ah, that's serious even
though you have been some of it. Josey and I
we are from the north. We speak al sade. Listen,
you've not even been to that place before. We have
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been there, Amen.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
So I'm more Nanjerlian than you.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Eh, Elaila is okay about a movie? Adamar okay? Yes, sir,
whelse okay, mommy okay, sir okay. So that's about fifteen
You know from movie you have about fifteen minutes drive
or so to Cameroon. Yes, Elela. It's also a border
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town to Nijer Republic.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
My my town that I went to is another border town.
Two been a republic. So you see all of this,
brother town. If you begin your journey the money, God
save you, that you get there the same day or
else you get there the following day. That was the
kind of journey that I went to. Well, glory to God.
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Here we are. We're back, and the Lad's name be glorified.
In Jesus' name, Father, we ask that you will speak
to us as we challenge ourselves as men, as fathers,
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Holy Spirit, let your word come alive in the best
way that we will understand. In Jesus mighty name, we
pray responsible men, responsible men. Thank you Father for that presentation.
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And in that presentation they said, a responsible man is
a man that is a prophet, a prophet that speaks
the word of God, speaks the word of truth to
the family.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
That's where it begins from.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Fathers, how many of you led devotion in your houses
this morning.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Thank you sir, Thank you mister Harry, thank you Dad. Mama.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Yes, fathers, our fathers. Please look at me, Look at me,
look at me. Don't write yet, don't write. How many
of you led devotion in your houses this morning? Thank you, sir?
So three of all of these fathers. Yet mister fann Shaques,
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what happened? No? No, no, no, you see the reason
why I'm doing this is it is easier said than
don't we have responsible But if we cannot confront matters,
we are just going to talk and they will leave.
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Mister Soho, you didn't lead devotion of this money in
your house. No, it's not right. Mister James, you didn't
lead devotion this money in the house. Why, sir, that
is not right. That is John, you didn't lead devotion
this money in your house. It is not good.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
It has to change.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
We are saying that responsible men are men that are prophets,
and the second speaker said, responsible men are men that
are priests, men who will stand in the gap, men
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who we sacrifice.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Are we actually such men? It is not just a
tie to.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Even chairman did not lead devotion in his house this morning,
and we are saying.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
This are not working. How will they work? Because we
have men?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Should I say men that are not responsible, because that's
what you have told us this morning.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Is that not mother's youth? Is that what they have
told us?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
They say fathers or responsible men and men that are prophets,
men that are priests.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
And that is the function. That's where it starts from.
So when we.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Fail in our responsibilities, what is what exactly are we
trying to preach?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
You cannot tell what you are not under the games.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
In his own word, he said, responsible men are patriarchs.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
And who are patriarchs?
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Patriarchs are family aids, their leaders, their examples, fathers in
the house. Are we truly examples at home? Can I
call one of our children and say write ten things
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about your father and the man or the young person
who say, yes, indeed, my father is actually a responsible man.
Let's drive you home, eh, Let's bring it home. And
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mister Patrick said that a responsible man is a man
that provides a provider. A provider. It is not just
providing money. You know, part of your assignment is to
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also be available. Many of us are too occupied hearing
the money you get out before you come back. Your
children are about to sleep, and you say you are
a responsible man, No, you are not you don't need
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your children in the way of the Lord. Listen this interpretation.
I think somebody brought it also to my wife.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
The Bible says, train up a child in the way
issue go, and when issue, when is old, what will happen?
It will not depart from it. But you see, we
have turned the Bible upside down. The Bible is talking
about child children. Many of us are not right examples
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to our children. Then when they are old, when they
have become adults, that's when you want to teach. Is
that what the Bible says. They are already formed. You
can't teach them again. Our responsibility begins from the beginning.
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It is not until when the children are old. Are
we through patriarchs? Are we true priests? Are we true prophets?
Are we true providers in our homes? There are three
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verses of the scriptures, First and Monthly Chapter five, verse eight,
Ephicients chapter six, verse four, Colossians Chapter three, verse nineteen.
I'll just pick a few things from this and then
we close. So if somebody is sleeping, tab the person,
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let us hear from God. Don't sleep.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
That's why when we come for prayer, vigil I don't
like praise singing to confirst. It's better we pray before
we start singing praise when people are feeling sleepy. Then
you start singing praise, then we wake up. The men
have led us to pray, to pray, me to sing
this money. And after we are finished singing, now we
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are set to down. What do you think we begin
apple when the world of God is coming, you start sleeping.
So don't sleep in our world today many men have
abandoned their god giving rules.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Is that true or not very true?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
They are priests, their prophets, their providers, and your patriarchs.
These are their rules, but they have abandoned these rules.
Some neglect their families. Others will provoke their children or
mistreat their wives. The Bible provides clear guidance for men
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regarding their responsibilities, particularly in family relationships. And so those
three verses that mister Patrick read to earlier on first
Remote chapter five, vers eight, efficiency after verse four Colossians
Chapter three, verse nineteen, we you know, give us fundamental principles,
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principles of our fathers. We take up their responsibilities at all.
Let's go to the first one. The first one is
the provider's hearts first motive verse five, verse five, US eight.
The provider's heart. That is the first responsibility of a man.
Look at what the Bible says, First Timothy, chapter five,
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US eight. But if anyone does not provide for his
relatives or his family, okay.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
And especially for members of his household, he says, that
person has denied faith and is worse than an unbeliever, infidel,
an unbeliever, that's what infidel is worse than unbeliever.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Because if you say you are a Christian.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
And you can provide for your family, then you'd better
never be called a believer.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
What Adverse is saying is this.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
That this major responsibility of men, one of his is
as heads of household, which is patriarx. So the word
provide that the Bible renders in that place. In Greek,
it is proneo proneo. What does that mean? It means
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to think ahead, It means to plan. It means to
take care of needs before they become urgent. So a
family head, a father who is to be a provider
must be a man responsible enough to think ahead of
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what is likely going to app must be a man
that is ready to plan ahead, must be a man
that will be ready to take care of needs.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Before they begin.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
They begin to take place, so that you don't begin
to run around and say, oh, it is urgent.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
It is urgent.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
And this includes more than just financial support. It is
not just money alone that the Bible is talking about here.
What are the biblical provision that the Bible is talking
about here? Physical needs like food, like shelter, like clothing,
like health health care. Okay, it is the responsibility of
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the father fathers are in trouble. Alleluyer, father's wake up.
Another one is emotional security. They mentioned it for us
as we're talking the other time. You create and enabling
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environments and loving environment and environment where you fathers, fathers,
fathers or she Loo Baptist change. When last did you
have some meeting with your children? All of it your
decide to sit down? When as did you watch TV
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with your children? Even we have not been doing that well,
as did you watch TV with your children.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Fathers?
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I mean you just decided that today we just go
back home. Everybody will just sit down and your friend
will come. You say, no, I have personal time with
my family. How many of us are doing that?
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Eh? We don't do it. Oh babaku does it? Okay,
very good.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Okay, So that's the first ass I meant today. No
father is going out today your special gifts on this
Father's Day. Once we finished service, go home and sit
with your family. As a matter of fact, your wife
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is supposed to cook. And as your wife is cookie,
I know those who are closed by here, so I
can come to your house. I want to see all
of you in the kitchen with your wife today. Yes, amen,
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even if your wife is not around. Hey, even if
your wife is not around, Rather than cookie, rise today,
do swallow if your wife is not around. Mister Piles,
I know my dam is not around. So today go man, cook,
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don't go to eat outside. Eh, you're not a bachelor,
you're a married man. MMU President, missus, missus, m mu President.
He must join you in the kitchen. Only two of
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you must cook. This have to noon meal. Thank you
very much. I will ask you if that is not done,
just give me a called.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Flash me.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
No going out, don't go out today. Where's the Gideon?
Where's Gideon? Where are you?
Speaker 1 (21:40):
And you are the one that will report whatever has
happened in the house. Amen. Amen, let's begin to take
this responsibility.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Mister James of Carasana, you're not babbing today, Abby and
missus James in the kitchen, two of you.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Amen.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
The father also has the responsibility of spiritual leadership. I've
said this one, so don't let me repeat myself again.
If you're not doing family devotion, you are part of
the problem of our society.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Is that true or not?
Speaker 2 (22:21):
If you like say it, you're part of the problem
in our society. You're a bad example. If you say
you are a Christian and in your house there is
no family altar. You're not irresponsible, man, No, you're not.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
And we meet, especially with our mothers. So I'm going
to see whether there's going to be a change in
the next couple of weeks.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Change.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Future planning is another provision that is expected of us
as father. Let's look at second one, the father's calling
in Ephicients, chapter six, verse four. The father's calling in
that passage, there's a special calling of the father.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
The Bible says, fathers, do not provoke.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them
up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
It is simple.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Don't provoke them to anger. What this passage is saying,
is this it reveals very delicate balance that is required
in a biblical fatherhood. Paul gives birth a prohibition, meaning
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that what a father should not to do. He says,
don't provoke them. In my version, he says, exaspirates beg English,
but no vex them.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
No vex your children.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
The word provoked in the Greek rendition is parorogiso, which
means to arousph to rap or exaspirates.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Don't frustrate your children, don't annoy your children, don't irritate
your children. Don't make your children to be angry. How
many of us have made our children to be angry?
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They've not done something, but you accuse them of doing it.
How do fathers provoke their children by being harsh and
making all reasonable demands? Can I give you one of
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your reasonable demands? While I was growing up, every father,
there is no house where a father has snogged or
the father they always getting first position. When they went
primary and secondary school, All of them weren't check any
house The father would sit down. When I was young,
like you, I used to take first position. And you
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now wonder upon all the children when their school, so
all of them they gets first position. So they when
I say you too, you must get first position. Very
unreasonable demand. I'm for you to see that and helped
his children. You won't be there yet, you say. When
I was young like you, I used to take false position.
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In fact, my children know me. I didn't take false position.
It was only one time that my father because my
father used to stay in Abuja Yea and we were
in our village that we went to and that year
my father took his leave and he came home and
it was we're preparing for example, and it sat with
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me and helped me. That was the only time in
my primary school that I got taught position. And we
were even three of us in the class that God
is taught position three people and I was one of them.
After that time, back to start to school, I didn't
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discover myself. Those in younger an exceptional didn't know my story.
I didn't discover myself until after secondary school. But many times,
many of us as fathers, we paint a picture that ah,
when I was like you me, I used to me.
I used to okay, sure us are you used to
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May God forgive fathers in Jesus name. Do you know
how we make our children angry? Inconsistent discipline, all favoritism.
Somebody lied, you disciplined this song and this one lies.
You said, it's okay. You know you don't have to
do that. Don't do it that way. Favoritism in the house,
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then that one with Vegs and what happened between n
and Ebel. We start you start creating it in your family.
You start creating it in your family.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Ah.
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But when you crush their spirits with constant criticism, you
this child, I don't even know where your mother brings
you from. Sef You're just good for nothing child. I'm
not even sure you're my son because you don't behave.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Like me.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Criticism. We make these children angry in this way part
of the training that the Bible enjoins us. In fact,
speare the road. What happens you spoil the child me.
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I don't beat children, but my wife used to beat
children very well. But when it is time for me
to beat I have special cubocle that used to beat them.
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But before I do that, what many fathers do is
that they beat the children. And you won't tell them
the reason why you're beating them. Well, first of us,
sit down when we explain, this is what you did.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
And one of my children did something like that. I
went out with my wife to do some visitation, and
as soon as we came back, the tab that they
use for their online class, he was using it to
play game.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
No matter how much you have new clothes, young people,
you can never have old clothes rags like fathers or
like older people. What does that mean? I'm not talking
in this physical thing. And when we go to the house,
he went inside the room and he was coming from
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inside the room, and I said, what happened? This was
my wife that first asked him. Said he was just
coming from inside the room. I say, you have done
something wrong. What were you doing? You were supposed to
be ready. The others have slept, only you just your
year to sleep. Say I'm not doing anything. You were
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playing with this tab. Say no, and I carried the tab.
My wife carried the tub and felt the tab. When
you have using your phone, we lead you warm or
not it would be warm. He said, no, that's okay.
So I check all the logs everything way don't they do?
You don't clear everything come out as a good. I
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love that very smart. I love that smartness. I said
number one, you lied. Eh he has not said he
did it. Say you lied, And the only reason why
I'm going to flog you today is because you're lied,
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not because of anything. I'm not angry with you because
you use this tab. It's okay if you use it,
but simply tell me, yes, I use it. What were
you using it for? To play a game? Okay, fine,
don't do it again. I don't like that. Use it
to study. Simple and we may just overlooked it and go.
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But for the next thirty minutes instead did not confess.
But somehow, on my own phone, I have set it
so I can monitor what is done on that tab.
So I opened my phone and I showed him everything
he had done with time, because it will show time
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on my own.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
And then finish. Nothing more to do.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
I say, so, because you have lied, it is time
to display. While I encourage discipline, but let us tell
them the reason why we are disciplining them. I didn't
want to discipline him, but you see, our society is
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full of bad people because parents and fathers especially, we
have failed in our capacity.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
We want to train adults rather.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Than training children, when we fail to explain the reason
why we are disciplining them.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
When we don't set where we set impossible standards, eh
or being hypocritical.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
You yourself, you are not doing the thing, but you want
your children.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
No, that is not right, that is not right. Number three,
the husband's love. That's what you see in Collusions chapter three,
verse nineteen. The husband's love. The Bible says in that passage, husbands,
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love your wives and do not be hush with them.
And this command is side by side what we see
in Efphicients chapter five, twenty five to thirty three. It
defines the husband's primary responsibility towards his wife, which is
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love alghab power love and that means to sacrifice, to
be selfless. And that is the kind of love that
Christ as In actually shows to the church. What does
that can of love look like? It is Number one sacrificial.
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That is, you put the needs of your wife before
your own comfort. Father, forgive us, Father made in Jesus name,
saying man, now, Father, forgive men in Jesus name, because
we have.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Not been sacrificial enough by African tradition.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
You go carried out woman from your Papa house, you
bring then your house. You know, the first thing that
you do by the child, by that woman coming to
your house is to remove the father's name, the father
that we don't pay all the money from beginning to
the tire where you go carrier, your commodifather name. See
now from today, you're going to start there in my name.
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Yet you're not sacrificial. You're not protective. You're not guiding
her physically, you're not guiding her emotionally. You're not guiding
us spiritually. Fathers, this is what God's world is explaining
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to us. I'm not saying that I'm perfect to I'm
not perfect in this. I am not because the Bible
says that the world of God is a double edged sword,
double edge.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Two sides.
Speaker 2 (35:27):
So when you go like this, you're telling people when
you come like this is pointing to you too. But
look at this. We have to be protective of our wives.
We have to cherish them. That is what the love
looks like. We have to cherish them. We have to
value and treasure them as pressures gift. Do we actually
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do that? When we don't do that, we are not responsible.
Men seven looking for ways to bless and support our daily.
That's why I say, men today you have to go
to the kitchen. If your wife is not around, you yourself,
go to the kitchen, cook for children. Amen a man.
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So father's not going out to this afternoon, stay at home.
Let him feel you. Are you faithful to your wife,
maintaining exclusive devotion and commitments. This is what the Bible
is expecting of us. May the Lord help us in
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the martin name of Jesus. I just want to pick
those three things. Just challenge us today as fathers. Be
a responsible man, a man that is a priest, a
man that is a prophet, a man that is a
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patriarch in the family, a man that is a provider. Father,
where we have failed you as men, were, ask that
you will forgive us. In Jesus' name, Lord, we seek
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your face, that you will make our lives better from
today onward. In the name of Jesus, we pray that
your grace beyond measure, you will shower upon our father's
in the mighty name of Jesus, Thank you, Holy Spirit.
Let's deced of word germinate and bear much fruit in
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the life.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Of our father's. In Jesus' name, we pray,
There is something that God has kept inside of you.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
It is said that today the richest place on earth
is the graveyard.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
True or true true, the richest place on earth.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It's not done this place, but the cemetery where ideas
that should have made our world to be better, Where
ideas that should have led to progress, Where ideas I've
been buried, ideas that never saw the light of day.
(00:42):
And that's why I'm praying this morning that for you
and for me we will die empty in Jesus' name.
Somebody does not understand this.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
This is it.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Where God was creating you. It kept ideas inside of you.
And the ideas that God has kept inside of you
is on hundred percent. Do you know that many of
us die we leave this world without using any of
these ideas, and some of us that even't try to
(01:19):
use it, some of us that try to use it.
Maybe what we have used is five percent of the ideas.
Even though the person has grown as old as mental cellar,
but he has only used five of the ideas that
God has given the person. May we die empty in
(01:42):
the name of Jesus. I will not die full, and
we die empty in the name of Jesus. Because on
the last day God, you want to get before God,
and God will just look at you and you will
see that you are empty because why you have been
able to use all the ideas that God has given
(02:02):
to you to benefit humanity. The question is what are
you doing where you are? May God help us in
Jesus' name. Now, before I bring the message this morning,
all fathers, all fathers that are not in Father's uniform, eh,
(02:22):
I want to plead with you. Your responsibility begins from
that place. It is not wrong for you to buy
something for yourself. And I will begin from m chairman.
I would have told you to work out and go
back home. You should have come the white one that
you brought the needed Father's Day emphasis like this man came.
(02:48):
That's that's better.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Forgive me. Sorry.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
I don't mean to hurt you, but I think that
responsibility from that place. Responsibility begins from that place. And
I know things. All fingers are not equal years, but
it takes years. Some of us are just using the
(03:14):
top a loom. That makes sense, mister Patrick. Since I
came to this church, you have been in MM. You're
not new to M You. I can forgive people like
Souleyman because they are new the air, new fathers, Baracoury,
(03:37):
do something about it. And the Lord we all know
you in Jesus' name. That's where responsibility begins.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Movie.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
So who are you angry? Smile now, Jesus loves you.
Don't be angry. That's what father is supposed to do.
Mister came up. Don't wear our uniform on Father's Day,
your father, even though you're there, cancel. This is not
our race celebration. It is Father's Day. You are forgiven.
(04:06):
Please next year, I expect all fathers to come, either
this one or the one by back is wearing. In fact,
they say fathers, the spirit I used to enter inside
women as enter fathers. Now they say they want to
do another one for father and as the Lord will
save us for our mothers. You know all of them,
(04:27):
they have plenty. If you ask some of them now
to continue to wear all these chevy all this video
doing for the wm U for conference for association for
a centenary for this one, I'm sure some of them
they have special bags for it.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
My wife has special bag for it.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
One of our mothers said that she has a complete
world group like this for all those women attire that
if for one one mon they said she should just
be wearing different women group attire enough and you will
not change to any other one except for all those
kinds of clothes.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Amen.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
But now the thing is entering into men too. Men,
you're broken, fring Jesus name alja. I want to thank
the Lord for safety on the journey. I had to
make journey to bury my grandmother just this past week,
(05:27):
and the journey was a complete day journey. And I
was sharing before the service began, how many of us
have been to Ilila before? You know a place in
Angela called Ilila. Ah ooh, it's serious and you have
been Naia, you've not been to Ilila before. It is
(05:51):
actually in Socoto States. How many of us have been
there or you ahead of it? Ah, that's serious even
though you have been some of it. Josey and I
we are from the north. We speak al sade. Listen,
you've not even been to that place before. We have
(06:12):
been there, Amen.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
So I'm more Nanjerlian than you.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Eh, Elaila is okay about a movie? Adamar okay? Yes, sir,
whelse okay, mommy okay, sir okay. So that's about fifteen
You know from movie you have about fifteen minutes drive
or so to Cameroon. Yes, Elela. It's also a border
(06:43):
town to Nijer Republic.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
My my town that I went to is another border town.
Two been a republic. So you see all of this,
brother town. If you begin your journey the money, God
save you, that you get there the same day or
else you get there the following day. That was the
kind of journey that I went to. Well, glory to God.
(07:11):
Here we are. We're back, and the Lad's name be glorified.
In Jesus' name, Father, we ask that you will speak
to us as we challenge ourselves as men, as fathers,
(07:35):
Holy Spirit, let your word come alive in the best
way that we will understand. In Jesus mighty name, we
pray responsible men, responsible men. Thank you Father for that presentation.
(07:58):
And in that presentation they said, a responsible man is
a man that is a prophet, a prophet that speaks
the word of God, speaks the word of truth to
the family.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
That's where it begins from.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Fathers, how many of you led devotion in your houses
this morning.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Thank you sir, Thank you mister Harry, thank you Dad. Mama.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Yes, fathers, our fathers. Please look at me, Look at me,
look at me. Don't write yet, don't write. How many
of you led devotion in your houses this morning? Thank you, sir?
So three of all of these fathers. Yet mister fann Shaques,
(08:50):
what happened? No? No, no, no, you see the reason
why I'm doing this is it is easier said than
don't we have responsible But if we cannot confront matters,
we are just going to talk and they will leave.
(09:11):
Mister Soho, you didn't lead devotion of this money in
your house. No, it's not right. Mister James, you didn't
lead devotion this money in the house. Why, sir, that
is not right. That is John, you didn't lead devotion
this money in your house. It is not good.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
It has to change.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
We are saying that responsible men are men that are prophets,
and the second speaker said, responsible men are men that
are priests, men who will stand in the gap, men
(10:01):
who we sacrifice.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Are we actually such men? It is not just a
tie to.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Even chairman did not lead devotion in his house this morning,
and we are saying.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
This are not working. How will they work? Because we
have men?
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Should I say men that are not responsible, because that's
what you have told us this morning.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Is that not mother's youth? Is that what they have
told us?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
They say fathers or responsible men and men that are prophets,
men that are priests.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
And that is the function. That's where it starts from.
So when we.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Fail in our responsibilities, what is what exactly are we
trying to preach?
Speaker 1 (11:00):
You cannot tell what you are not under the games.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
In his own word, he said, responsible men are patriarchs.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
And who are patriarchs?
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Patriarchs are family aids, their leaders, their examples, fathers in
the house. Are we truly examples at home? Can I
call one of our children and say write ten things
(11:42):
about your father and the man or the young person
who say, yes, indeed, my father is actually a responsible man.
Let's drive you home, eh, Let's bring it home. And
(12:02):
mister Patrick said that a responsible man is a man
that provides a provider. A provider. It is not just
providing money. You know, part of your assignment is to
(12:25):
also be available. Many of us are too occupied hearing
the money you get out before you come back. Your
children are about to sleep, and you say you are
a responsible man, No, you are not you don't need
(12:47):
your children in the way of the Lord. Listen this interpretation.
I think somebody brought it also to my wife.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I know.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
The Bible says, train up a child in the way
issue go, and when issue, when is old, what will happen?
It will not depart from it. But you see, we
have turned the Bible upside down. The Bible is talking
about child children. Many of us are not right examples
(13:27):
to our children. Then when they are old, when they
have become adults, that's when you want to teach. Is
that what the Bible says. They are already formed. You
can't teach them again. Our responsibility begins from the beginning.
(13:48):
It is not until when the children are old. Are
we through patriarchs? Are we true priests? Are we true prophets?
Are we true providers in our homes? There are three
(14:09):
verses of the scriptures, First and Monthly Chapter five, verse eight,
Ephicients chapter six, verse four, Colossians Chapter three, verse nineteen.
I'll just pick a few things from this and then
we close. So if somebody is sleeping, tab the person,
(14:30):
let us hear from God. Don't sleep.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
That's why when we come for prayer, vigil I don't
like praise singing to confirst. It's better we pray before
we start singing praise when people are feeling sleepy. Then
you start singing praise, then we wake up. The men
have led us to pray, to pray, me to sing
this money. And after we are finished singing, now we
(14:57):
are set to down. What do you think we begin
apple when the world of God is coming, you start sleeping.
So don't sleep in our world today many men have
abandoned their god giving rules.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Is that true or not very true?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
They are priests, their prophets, their providers, and your patriarchs.
These are their rules, but they have abandoned these rules.
Some neglect their families. Others will provoke their children or
mistreat their wives. The Bible provides clear guidance for men
(15:45):
regarding their responsibilities, particularly in family relationships. And so those
three verses that mister Patrick read to earlier on first
Remote chapter five, vers eight, efficiency after verse four Colossians
Chapter three, verse nineteen, we you know, give us fundamental principles,
(16:05):
principles of our fathers. We take up their responsibilities at all.
Let's go to the first one. The first one is
the provider's hearts first motive verse five, verse five, US eight.
The provider's heart. That is the first responsibility of a man.
Look at what the Bible says, First Timothy, chapter five,
(16:27):
US eight. But if anyone does not provide for his
relatives or his family, okay.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
And especially for members of his household, he says, that
person has denied faith and is worse than an unbeliever, infidel,
an unbeliever, that's what infidel is worse than unbeliever.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Because if you say you are a Christian.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
And you can provide for your family, then you'd better
never be called a believer.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
What Adverse is saying is this.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
That this major responsibility of men, one of his is
as heads of household, which is patriarx. So the word
provide that the Bible renders in that place. In Greek,
it is proneo proneo. What does that mean? It means
(17:34):
to think ahead, It means to plan. It means to
take care of needs before they become urgent. So a
family head, a father who is to be a provider
must be a man responsible enough to think ahead of
(17:58):
what is likely going to app must be a man
that is ready to plan ahead, must be a man
that will be ready to take care of needs.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Before they begin.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
They begin to take place, so that you don't begin
to run around and say, oh, it is urgent.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
It is urgent.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
And this includes more than just financial support. It is
not just money alone that the Bible is talking about here.
What are the biblical provision that the Bible is talking
about here? Physical needs like food, like shelter, like clothing,
like health health care. Okay, it is the responsibility of
(18:38):
the father fathers are in trouble. Alleluyer, father's wake up.
Another one is emotional security. They mentioned it for us
as we're talking the other time. You create and enabling
(18:58):
environments and loving environment and environment where you fathers, fathers,
fathers or she Loo Baptist change. When last did you
have some meeting with your children? All of it your
decide to sit down? When as did you watch TV
(19:18):
with your children? Even we have not been doing that well,
as did you watch TV with your children.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Fathers?
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I mean you just decided that today we just go
back home. Everybody will just sit down and your friend
will come. You say, no, I have personal time with
my family. How many of us are doing that?
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Eh? We don't do it. Oh babaku does it? Okay,
very good.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Okay, So that's the first ass I meant today. No
father is going out today your special gifts on this
Father's Day. Once we finished service, go home and sit
with your family. As a matter of fact, your wife
(20:14):
is supposed to cook. And as your wife is cookie,
I know those who are closed by here, so I
can come to your house. I want to see all
of you in the kitchen with your wife today. Yes, amen,
(20:35):
even if your wife is not around. Hey, even if
your wife is not around, Rather than cookie, rise today,
do swallow if your wife is not around. Mister Piles,
I know my dam is not around. So today go man, cook,
(20:56):
don't go to eat outside. Eh, you're not a bachelor,
you're a married man. MMU President, missus, missus, m mu President.
He must join you in the kitchen. Only two of
(21:19):
you must cook. This have to noon meal. Thank you
very much. I will ask you if that is not done,
just give me a called.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Flash me.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
No going out, don't go out today. Where's the Gideon?
Where's Gideon? Where are you?
Speaker 1 (21:40):
And you are the one that will report whatever has
happened in the house. Amen. Amen, let's begin to take
this responsibility.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Mister James of Carasana, you're not babbing today, Abby and
missus James in the kitchen, two of you.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Amen.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
The father also has the responsibility of spiritual leadership. I've
said this one, so don't let me repeat myself again.
If you're not doing family devotion, you are part of
the problem of our society.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Is that true or not?
Speaker 2 (22:21):
If you like say it, you're part of the problem
in our society. You're a bad example. If you say
you are a Christian and in your house there is
no family altar. You're not irresponsible, man, No, you're not.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
And we meet, especially with our mothers. So I'm going
to see whether there's going to be a change in
the next couple of weeks.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
Change.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Future planning is another provision that is expected of us
as father. Let's look at second one, the father's calling
in Ephicients, chapter six, verse four. The father's calling in
that passage, there's a special calling of the father.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
The Bible says, fathers, do not provoke.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them
up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
It is simple.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Don't provoke them to anger. What this passage is saying,
is this it reveals very delicate balance that is required
in a biblical fatherhood. Paul gives birth a prohibition, meaning
(24:10):
that what a father should not to do. He says,
don't provoke them. In my version, he says, exaspirates beg English,
but no vex them.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
No vex your children.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
The word provoked in the Greek rendition is parorogiso, which
means to arousph to rap or exaspirates.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Don't frustrate your children, don't annoy your children, don't irritate
your children. Don't make your children to be angry. How
many of us have made our children to be angry?
(25:00):
They've not done something, but you accuse them of doing it.
How do fathers provoke their children by being harsh and
making all reasonable demands? Can I give you one of
(25:23):
your reasonable demands? While I was growing up, every father,
there is no house where a father has snogged or
the father they always getting first position. When they went
primary and secondary school, All of them weren't check any
house The father would sit down. When I was young,
like you, I used to take first position. And you
(25:44):
now wonder upon all the children when their school, so
all of them they gets first position. So they when
I say you too, you must get first position. Very
unreasonable demand. I'm for you to see that and helped
his children. You won't be there yet, you say. When
I was young like you, I used to take false position.
(26:06):
In fact, my children know me. I didn't take false position.
It was only one time that my father because my
father used to stay in Abuja Yea and we were
in our village that we went to and that year
my father took his leave and he came home and
it was we're preparing for example, and it sat with
(26:28):
me and helped me. That was the only time in
my primary school that I got taught position. And we
were even three of us in the class that God
is taught position three people and I was one of them.
After that time, back to start to school, I didn't
(26:51):
discover myself. Those in younger an exceptional didn't know my story.
I didn't discover myself until after secondary school. But many times,
many of us as fathers, we paint a picture that ah,
when I was like you me, I used to me.
I used to okay, sure us are you used to
(27:13):
May God forgive fathers in Jesus name. Do you know
how we make our children angry? Inconsistent discipline, all favoritism.
Somebody lied, you disciplined this song and this one lies.
You said, it's okay. You know you don't have to
do that. Don't do it that way. Favoritism in the house,
(27:36):
then that one with Vegs and what happened between n
and Ebel. We start you start creating it in your family.
You start creating it in your family.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Ah.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
But when you crush their spirits with constant criticism, you
this child, I don't even know where your mother brings
you from. Sef You're just good for nothing child. I'm
not even sure you're my son because you don't behave.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Like me.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Criticism. We make these children angry in this way part
of the training that the Bible enjoins us. In fact,
speare the road. What happens you spoil the child me.
(28:30):
I don't beat children, but my wife used to beat
children very well. But when it is time for me
to beat I have special cubocle that used to beat them.
(28:51):
But before I do that, what many fathers do is
that they beat the children. And you won't tell them
the reason why you're beating them. Well, first of us,
sit down when we explain, this is what you did.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
And one of my children did something like that. I
went out with my wife to do some visitation, and
as soon as we came back, the tab that they
use for their online class, he was using it to
play game.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Eh.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
No matter how much you have new clothes, young people,
you can never have old clothes rags like fathers or
like older people. What does that mean? I'm not talking
in this physical thing. And when we go to the house,
he went inside the room and he was coming from
(29:57):
inside the room, and I said, what happened? This was
my wife that first asked him. Said he was just
coming from inside the room. I say, you have done
something wrong. What were you doing? You were supposed to
be ready. The others have slept, only you just your
year to sleep. Say I'm not doing anything. You were
(30:19):
playing with this tab. Say no, and I carried the tab.
My wife carried the tub and felt the tab. When
you have using your phone, we lead you warm or
not it would be warm. He said, no, that's okay.
So I check all the logs everything way don't they do?
You don't clear everything come out as a good. I
(30:44):
love that very smart. I love that smartness. I said
number one, you lied. Eh he has not said he
did it. Say you lied, And the only reason why
I'm going to flog you today is because you're lied,
(31:04):
not because of anything. I'm not angry with you because
you use this tab. It's okay if you use it,
but simply tell me, yes, I use it. What were
you using it for? To play a game? Okay, fine,
don't do it again. I don't like that. Use it
to study. Simple and we may just overlooked it and go.
(31:25):
But for the next thirty minutes instead did not confess.
But somehow, on my own phone, I have set it
so I can monitor what is done on that tab.
So I opened my phone and I showed him everything
he had done with time, because it will show time
(31:47):
on my own.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
And then finish. Nothing more to do.
Speaker 2 (31:54):
I say, so, because you have lied, it is time
to display. While I encourage discipline, but let us tell
them the reason why we are disciplining them. I didn't
want to discipline him, but you see, our society is
(32:18):
full of bad people because parents and fathers especially, we
have failed in our capacity.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
We want to train adults rather.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Than training children, when we fail to explain the reason
why we are disciplining them.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
When we don't set where we set impossible standards, eh
or being hypocritical.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
You yourself, you are not doing the thing, but you want
your children.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
To do it.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
No, that is not right, that is not right. Number three,
the husband's love. That's what you see in Collusions chapter three,
verse nineteen. The husband's love. The Bible says in that passage, husbands,
(33:21):
love your wives and do not be hush with them.
And this command is side by side what we see
in Efphicients chapter five, twenty five to thirty three. It
defines the husband's primary responsibility towards his wife, which is
(33:42):
love alghab power love and that means to sacrifice, to
be selfless. And that is the kind of love that
Christ as In actually shows to the church. What does
that can of love look like? It is Number one sacrificial.
(34:04):
That is, you put the needs of your wife before
your own comfort. Father, forgive us, Father made in Jesus name,
saying man, now, Father, forgive men in Jesus name, because
we have.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Not been sacrificial enough by African tradition.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
You go carried out woman from your Papa house, you
bring then your house. You know, the first thing that
you do by the child, by that woman coming to
your house is to remove the father's name, the father
that we don't pay all the money from beginning to
the tire where you go carrier, your commodifather name. See
now from today, you're going to start there in my name.
(34:50):
Yet you're not sacrificial. You're not protective. You're not guiding
her physically, you're not guiding her emotionally. You're not guiding
us spiritually. Fathers, this is what God's world is explaining
(35:11):
to us. I'm not saying that I'm perfect to I'm
not perfect in this. I am not because the Bible
says that the world of God is a double edged sword,
double edge.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Two sides.
Speaker 2 (35:27):
So when you go like this, you're telling people when
you come like this is pointing to you too. But
look at this. We have to be protective of our wives.
We have to cherish them. That is what the love
looks like. We have to cherish them. We have to
value and treasure them as pressures gift. Do we actually
(35:49):
do that? When we don't do that, we are not responsible.
Men seven looking for ways to bless and support our daily.
That's why I say, men today you have to go
to the kitchen. If your wife is not around, you yourself,
go to the kitchen, cook for children. Amen a man.
(36:15):
So father's not going out to this afternoon, stay at home.
Let him feel you. Are you faithful to your wife,
maintaining exclusive devotion and commitments. This is what the Bible
is expecting of us. May the Lord help us in
(36:39):
the martin name of Jesus. I just want to pick
those three things. Just challenge us today as fathers. Be
a responsible man, a man that is a priest, a
man that is a prophet, a man that is a
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patriarch in the family, a man that is a provider. Father,
where we have failed you as men, were, ask that
you will forgive us. In Jesus' name, Lord, we seek
(37:21):
your face, that you will make our lives better from
today onward. In the name of Jesus, we pray that
your grace beyond measure, you will shower upon our father's
in the mighty name of Jesus, Thank you, Holy Spirit.
Let's deced of word germinate and bear much fruit in
(37:46):
the life.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Of our father's. In Jesus' name, we pray,
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CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist
It’s 1996 in rural North Carolina, and an oddball crew makes history when they pull off America’s third largest cash heist. But it’s all downhill from there. Join host Johnny Knoxville as he unspools a wild and woolly tale about a group of regular ‘ol folks who risked it all for a chance at a better life. CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist answers the question: what would you do with 17.3 million dollars? The answer includes diamond rings, mansions, velvet Elvis paintings, plus a run for the border, murder-for-hire-plots, and FBI busts.