December 18, 2023 • 28 mins
Self-care is an essential part of living a healthy, balanced life. It involves taking time to nurture our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Self-care looks different for everyone – it’s about understanding your own needs and making self-care a regular priority.
In recent years, the concept of self-care has gained more mainstream attention. However, it’s also become a bit of a buzzword that people throw around without much meaning behind it. True self-care goes far beyond treating yourself to a face mask or a bubble bath. It’s about building resilience and coping skills to handle life’s inevitable ups and downs with grit and grace.
This podcast will explore the deeper meaning behind self-care and why it’s so vital for wellbeing. We’ll discuss strategies for redefining resilience, developing grit, and accessing grace so you can not just survive, but thrive through daily life.
Redefining Resilience
Resilience is commonly defined as the ability to bounce back from adversity and difficult experiences. However, resilience researcher Brené Brown believes we need to take a more nuanced perspective. In her book “Rising Strong,” she writes:
“The truth is that we don’t bounce back from hard hits. We crawl across the floor with our guts hanging out, holding onto whatever we can to keep moving forward – this crawling, this collecting all the scattered pieces of our spirit that are strewn across the floor becomes the very essence of our resilience.”
Rather than quickly returning to baseline, Brown stresses the importance of allowing ourselves to feel grief, struggle through discomfort, and fully integrate challenging experiences before emerging more whole. We must honor the entire arc of the process.
This redefined view of resilience aligns closely with the Japanese concept of “wabi-sabi” – finding beauty in life’s imperfections and impermanence. When we accept hardship as a natural part of the human condition rather than failing to measure up to unrealistic standards for invulnerability, we can access deeper reserves of strength.
Redefining resilience as a slow, messy process of reconstruction broadens the bandwidth for what it means to be “resilient.” Resilience isn’t about achieving a finished product at the end – it’s about doing the ongoing work to collect those scattered pieces, sit with discomfort, and keep believing in your ability to heal.
Building Grit
Redefining resilience as an intimate rebuilding process also sheds light on the importance of grit. Grit goes beyond resilience by adding a key ingredient: courageous perseverance in pursuit of long-term goals and personal growth.
Research shows grit is a better predictor of success than IQ or talent alone because it fuels the ability to keep showing up through waves of failure, criticism, fatigue, and plateau. However, we must avoid the trap of toxic grit – feeling like we must keep pushing dangerously beyond our limits. True grit pairs perseverance with self-care and support.
We can build grit by getting clear on our core values and sense of purpose and learning to detach our self-worth from immediate outcomes. This intrinsic motivation allows us to stay focused despite external feedback and setbacks. Here are three key strategies:
1. Reflect on why your goal matters: Connect with the meaning and motivation behind your goal when things get frustrating. Let your values reorient you towards “true north” when you feel lost.
2. Celebrate small wins: Break your goal down into achievable milestones so you have tangible progress to celebrate frequently, which prevents burnout. Make a visual chart to watch your small wins accumulate.
3. Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20: Be inspired but not intimidated by others who are farther along. Appreciate where you currently are on your unique path, which has its own timing and trajectory meant just for you.
Accessing Grace The process of building grit inevitably also surfaces our demons, fears, and growing pains. Without sufficient self-compassion, it’s easy to lose touch with grace amidst the intense drive to keep soldiering on. Brené Brown defines grace as “love freely given, limitless and unconditional.” It’s that soft place to land when we fall, fail, or lose our way.
Rather than berating ourselves when we’re emotionally depleted or ashamed, we can extend grace through little acts of soothing, care, and forgiveness. Self-grace acknowledges we’re all a beautiful work-in-progress. Here are simple ways we can dip into this infinite wellspring of grace whenever we need restoration:
1. Write a compassion letter to yourself as if from your most nurturing friend when you feel inadequate or criticized.
2. Place your hands gently on your heart and repeat soothing mantras like “I am learning” or “I deeply accept myself.”
3. Take a quiet moment to appreciate the sky, tr
In recent years, the concept of self-care has gained more mainstream attention. However, it’s also become a bit of a buzzword that people throw around without much meaning behind it. True self-care goes far beyond treating yourself to a face mask or a bubble bath. It’s about building resilience and coping skills to handle life’s inevitable ups and downs with grit and grace.
This podcast will explore the deeper meaning behind self-care and why it’s so vital for wellbeing. We’ll discuss strategies for redefining resilience, developing grit, and accessing grace so you can not just survive, but thrive through daily life.
Redefining Resilience
Resilience is commonly defined as the ability to bounce back from adversity and difficult experiences. However, resilience researcher Brené Brown believes we need to take a more nuanced perspective. In her book “Rising Strong,” she writes:
“The truth is that we don’t bounce back from hard hits. We crawl across the floor with our guts hanging out, holding onto whatever we can to keep moving forward – this crawling, this collecting all the scattered pieces of our spirit that are strewn across the floor becomes the very essence of our resilience.”
Rather than quickly returning to baseline, Brown stresses the importance of allowing ourselves to feel grief, struggle through discomfort, and fully integrate challenging experiences before emerging more whole. We must honor the entire arc of the process.
This redefined view of resilience aligns closely with the Japanese concept of “wabi-sabi” – finding beauty in life’s imperfections and impermanence. When we accept hardship as a natural part of the human condition rather than failing to measure up to unrealistic standards for invulnerability, we can access deeper reserves of strength.
Redefining resilience as a slow, messy process of reconstruction broadens the bandwidth for what it means to be “resilient.” Resilience isn’t about achieving a finished product at the end – it’s about doing the ongoing work to collect those scattered pieces, sit with discomfort, and keep believing in your ability to heal.
Building Grit
Redefining resilience as an intimate rebuilding process also sheds light on the importance of grit. Grit goes beyond resilience by adding a key ingredient: courageous perseverance in pursuit of long-term goals and personal growth.
Research shows grit is a better predictor of success than IQ or talent alone because it fuels the ability to keep showing up through waves of failure, criticism, fatigue, and plateau. However, we must avoid the trap of toxic grit – feeling like we must keep pushing dangerously beyond our limits. True grit pairs perseverance with self-care and support.
We can build grit by getting clear on our core values and sense of purpose and learning to detach our self-worth from immediate outcomes. This intrinsic motivation allows us to stay focused despite external feedback and setbacks. Here are three key strategies:
1. Reflect on why your goal matters: Connect with the meaning and motivation behind your goal when things get frustrating. Let your values reorient you towards “true north” when you feel lost.
2. Celebrate small wins: Break your goal down into achievable milestones so you have tangible progress to celebrate frequently, which prevents burnout. Make a visual chart to watch your small wins accumulate.
3. Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20: Be inspired but not intimidated by others who are farther along. Appreciate where you currently are on your unique path, which has its own timing and trajectory meant just for you.
Accessing Grace The process of building grit inevitably also surfaces our demons, fears, and growing pains. Without sufficient self-compassion, it’s easy to lose touch with grace amidst the intense drive to keep soldiering on. Brené Brown defines grace as “love freely given, limitless and unconditional.” It’s that soft place to land when we fall, fail, or lose our way.
Rather than berating ourselves when we’re emotionally depleted or ashamed, we can extend grace through little acts of soothing, care, and forgiveness. Self-grace acknowledges we’re all a beautiful work-in-progress. Here are simple ways we can dip into this infinite wellspring of grace whenever we need restoration:
1. Write a compassion letter to yourself as if from your most nurturing friend when you feel inadequate or criticized.
2. Place your hands gently on your heart and repeat soothing mantras like “I am learning” or “I deeply accept myself.”
3. Take a quiet moment to appreciate the sky, tr
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Self care is an essential part ofliving a healthy, balanced life. It
involves taking time to nurture our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.
Self care looks different for everyone.It's about understanding your own needs and
making self care a regular priority.In recent years, the concept of self
(00:21):
care has gained more mainstream attention.However, it's also become a bit of
a buzzword that people throw around withoutmuch meaning behind it. True self care
goes far beyond treating yourself to aface mask or a bubble bath. It's
about building resilience and coping skills tohandle life's inevitable ups and downs with grit
and grace. This podcast will explorethe deeper meaning behind self care and why
(00:43):
it's so vital for well being.We'll discuss strategies for redefining resilience, developing
grit, and accessing grace so youcannot just survive, but thrive through daily
life. Redefining resilience. Resilience iscommonly defined as the ability to bounce back
from adversity and difficult experiences. However, resilience researcher Brene Brown believes we need
(01:07):
to take a more nuanced perspective inher book Rising Strong, she writes,
the truth is that we don't bounceback from hard hits. We crawl across
the floor with our guts hanging out, holding on to whatever we can to
keep moving forward. This crawling,this collecting all the scattered pieces of our
spirit that are strewn across the floor, becomes the very essence of our resilience.
(01:30):
Rather than quickly returning to baseline,Brown stresses the importance of allowing ourselves
to feel grief, struggle through discomfort, and fully integrate challenging experiences. Before
emerging more whole, we must honorthe entire arc of the process. This
redefined view of resilience aligns closely withthe Japanese concept of wabi sabi, finding
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beauty in life's imperfections and impermanence.When we accept hardship as a naw vitural
part of the human condition, ratherthan failing to measure up to unrealistic standards
for invulnerability, we can access deeperreserves of strength. Redefining resilience as a
slow, messy process of reconstruction broadensthe bandwidth for what it means to be
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resilient. Resilience isn't about achieving afinished product at the end, it's about
doing the ongoing work to collect thosescattered pieces, sit with discomfort, and
keep believing in your ability to heal. Building grit Redefining resilience as an intimate
rebuilding process also sheds light on theimportance of grit. Grit goes beyond resilience
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by adding a key ingredient, courageousperseverance in pursuit of long term goals and
personal growth. Research shows grit asa better predictor of success than IQ or
talent alone because it fuels the abilityto keep showing up through waves of failure,
criticism, fatigue, and plateau.However, we must avoid the trap
of toxic grit, feeling like wemust keep pushing dangerously beyond our limits.
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True grit pairs perseverance with self careand support. We can build grit by
getting clear on our core values andsense of purpose and learning to detach our
self worth from immediate outcomes. Thisintrinsic motivation allows us to stay focused despite
external feedback and setbacks. Here arethree key strategies. One, reflect on
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why your goal matters. Connect withthe meaning and motivation behind your goal.
When things get frustrating, let yourvalues reorient you towards true north when you
feel lost. Two, celebrate smallwins. Break your goal down into achievable
milestones so you have tangible progress tocelebrate frequently, which prevents burnout. Make
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a visual chart to watch your smallwinds accumulate. Three. Don't compare your
chapter one to someone else's chapter twenty. Be inspired, but not intimidated by
others who are farther along. Appreciatewhere you currently are on your unique path,
which has its own timing and trajectory, meant just yes for you.
Accessing grace. The process of buildinggrit inevitably also surfaces our demon's fears and
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growing pains. Without sufficient self compassion, it's easy to lose touch with grace
amidst the intense drive to keep soldieringon. Brene Brown defines grace as love,
freely given, limitless and unconditional.It's that soft place to land when
we fall, fail, or loseour way. Rather than berating ourselves when
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we're emotionally depleted or ashamed, wecan extend grace through little acts of soothing,
care and forgiveness. Self grace acknowledgeswe're all a beautiful work in progress.
Here are simple ways we can dipinto this infinite well spring of grace
whenever we need restoration. One writea compassion letter to yourself, as if
from your most nurturing friend when youfeel inadequate or criticized. Two, place
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your hands gently on your heart andrepeat soothing mantras like I am learning or
I deeply accept myself. Three,take a quiet moment to appreci the sky,
trees, or sunlight, basking inthe grace and gifts that surround us.
By invoking grace amidst diversity, wesummon the strength to soften rather than
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harden, open rather than close,lean into support rather than isolate. Grace
is the golden thread that allows gritto elevate rather than crush our spirit.
We build resilience by repeatedly practicing smallacts of self compassion moving through everyday life
with grit and grace. Navigating everydayresponsibilities and stressors requires moving fluidly between grit
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and grace. Grittiness keeps us steadfastlychipping away at goals we're passionate about.
Over the long haul. Grace givesus patience and self nurturing to smooth out
life's rougher edges when our energy andspirits lag. Here are three scenarios where
we can strengthen resilience in daily lifeby blending grit and grace. One,
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when tackling difficult work projects, divefully into periods of intense focus paired with
bold creativity. Then build and breathermoments to clear your head, stretch your
body, or refuel your mind withinspiration. Two, when managing physical health
challenges, commit to your treatment planand lifestyle changes with discipline and accountability,
while also practicing self kindness on harddays when your body and spirit feel fragile.
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Three, when balancing parenting and selfcare, give your full presence and
nurturance when caring for your kids,then carve out guiltless time for activities that
replenish you with joy, flow,meaning, and connection. Weaving grit and
grace together trains us to ride allof life's varied waves and rhythms with more
skill, ease, and inner poise. Practical self care strategies. The above
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exploration of redefining resilience grounds self careas an act of courageous commitment to personal
growth and healing, not just feelgood indulgences. With that context in mind.
Let's get specific about daily self carehabits that develop grit and grace.
Mindset shifts. Give yourself unconditional permissionto make self care a priority rather than
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a guilty extra credit and let goof perfectionist all or nothing thinking. Consistency
over time compounds notice, but don'tbin into thoughts that self care is selfish
or self indulgent. Trust that takingcare of your needs will ultimately make you
a better partner, parent, colleague, leader. Physical support. Make time
for movement that you enjoy, whetherit's walking, dancing, strength training,
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or yoga. Don't wait until you'redepleted to rest. Integrate mini breaks into
your day. Eat balance, nourishingmeals, and stay hydrated throughout the day.
Mental restoration. Unplug from digital devicesand focus inward or outward through nature.
Write morning pages for unfiltered thoughts andfeelings without self judgment. Schedule playtime
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doing hobbies, sports, or creativeactivities that make you lose track of time.
Emotional nurturing. Check in with yourselfregularly about feelings and needs. Give
voice to thoughts and feelings, speak, write, sing, paint, or
dance them. Spend time with supportivepeople where you feel safe seen and celebrated.
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Spiritual sustenance. Express gratitude for life'ssimple gifts, a warm cup of
tea cute squirrels, or a goodhair day. Find alignment between daily choices
and deeper sense of purpose. Ritualizereflection with meditation, prayer, or inspirational
reading, relational connection. Initiate catchup calls, texts, meals, or
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activities with people who feed your soul. Communicate needs clearly and compromise when necessary
rather than resenting others. Set boundariesaround time, energy resources without guilt or
over explaining. Mastering self care isa continuous journey of dismantling old habits,
beliefs, and cultural conditioning that keepus running on empty. By redefining self
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care as resilience wrapped in equal partsgrit and grace, we can unlock lasting
habits that allow us to flourish inall areas of life. Life the path
from burnout to balance. Many ofus find ourselves utterly depleted, yet struggling
to truly prioritize self care, nomatter how much we know we should.
Behind our inertia, scarcity, mentality, or feelings of guilt around self care
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often lies unresolved trauma and grief.Think of chronic stress and exhaustion as red
flags signals, begging us to noticewhat demands in our life feel unsustainable.
The chant that self care is selfishrings loudly when we don't believe we're worthy
of love and care. We rusharound compacting responsibilities because deep down, our
inner critic whispers will never be enough. No wonder, we find ourselves on
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the edge of burnout, our backsagainst the wall before we step off the
hamster wheel long enough to breathe.The paradoxical path to healing from burnout is
not pushing harder, but softening aroundour heart space. We must explore the
roots of our unworthiness stories and releaseoutdated guilt. Then will we give ourselves
full permission for radical self care withoutapology, to turn down obligations, speak
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up about behavior that wears us down, and devote time to restorative alignment.
True self care lays the foundation toquestion society's glorification of grind, culture,
scarcity, mentality, and martyr templatesof success. It allows us to sit
still amidst swirling today, do liststo reconnect with our essence, that wise
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inner knowing that illuminates our true priorities. From this grounded place of presence,
we can start rebuilding energies, connections, and purposeful work fueled by intrinsic joy
rather than extrinsic pressures. Here isa roadmap for this journey from burnout towards
balance. Phase one crisis, hittingan edge, things crumbling apart, feeling
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unable to keep going full throttle.Phase two wake up calls startling moment of
wow, I need to make ashift, but still in denial, bargaining
mode about how drastic. Phase threereckoning the pain of the status quo exceeds
the pain of change, realize andaids won't fix need total lifestyle reset.
Phase four Release, begin shedding toxichabits, relationships, stories, clutter,
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anything not serving growth. Phase fiverebuild identity and getting clarity on true priorities
slash values, slash needs slash dealbreakers and redefining self outside of dutiful roles.
Phase six cultivate self trust, strengthenconnection with inner wisdom, guiding when
how to rest push forward. Phaseseven commit to sustainability, daily rhythm slash
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work slash community that honor well beinglong term Phase eight radiate fullness, Share
lessons learned to help others avoid burnoutearlier in their journey. Each phase builds
the foundation for the next, sowe can emerge energized by purpose rather than
depleted by pressures. There will becyclical recapitulations through this sequence. We are
forever spiral students when it comes toprotecting space for self care. Each time
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we walk this healing sequence, wewill uncover deeper layers of truth guiding our
path to fuller resilience. Navigating thegrace grit pendulum embodying the redefined resilient self
is not linear, but instead swaysdynamically between grace and grit, like waves
of effort and ease swirling together.We need both qualities, yet struggle to
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mindfully move between them. We mayspend months purely nosed down, hustling until
we crash into a wall, suddenlyconsumed by anxiety that our efforts will never
transcend, Or we swing too farresting in leisure and spiritual navel gazing until
fear of squandering time creeps up ourspine. Entrepreneurial hunger for progress is punctuated
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by bouts of uncertainty, insatiable wanderlust, followed by hermit hibernation. Visionary optimism
gives way to doomsday, paralysis andresponse to setbacks. Too often, we
mistakenly see grit and grace as mutuallyexclusive either or binaries that cannot coexist.
We judge grace as lazy, passivewoo woo navel gazing. We criticize grit
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as a toxic hustle culture set ondestroying work life balance. However, notice
this is the voice of ego,attaching righteousness and warning us, don't lose
momentum or lose yourself in reality.Effort and ease form two halves of the
same soaring bird in flight. Weneed equal measures of kindled flame and soothing
breeze to take wing. Resilience livesin the rhythm of coaxed organic growth,
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periods of intentional progress, interwoven withintervals of open surrender to let ripening fruits
fall. What does it look liketo dance skillfully along this grace slash grit
continuum without getting whiplashed. We canvisualize this as a set of sliding volume
knobs we intentionally adjust Twist up gritwhen crystallizing vision or pushing through a challenging
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but aligned project. Twist up gracewhen body mind urges space to integrate and
incubate. Keen awareness of energy levelsguides intuitive timing without self judgment release attachment
to linear metrics flow with organic spylsof expansion is contraction. All efforts will
bear fruition given proper gestation grace periods. Both states offer opportunities for self mastery.
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If we embrace their complete gifts.By learning this fluid dance between yin
receiving and yang achieving feminine flow andmasculine force, we conserve energy, broadened
perspective, and steady natural rhythms thatsupport growth. We unlock the fully integrated
self who can handle heightened intensity pairedwith heightened responsiveness. This is the sweet
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spot of living with optimal grit andgrace self care for challenging times. Given
the upheaval of current world events,self care strategies that cultivate grit, grace,
and resilience are more relevant than ever. When we're faced with uncertainty,
instability, and suffering swirling around us. The impulse may be to amp up
self discipline, as if being rigidlyproductive could stave off potential chaos. However,
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we end up equally worn down.By pretending we're not profoundly impacted by
collective trauma and grief. Alternatively,we may want to pull the covers over
our head. Indulging in escapist habitslike doom, scrolling news feeds, comfort
binging reality TV, or losing weekendsto social media. Numbing but denying the
seriousness of challenges unfolding globally can leaveus feeling complicit and paralyzed by normalcy bias.
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Navigating heavy times calls for additional nurturanceand intentional renewal. The quality and
quantity of self care needed now shouldmatch the degree of demand placed on our
bandwidth. Those demands come both fromdirect urgency around health finances, education,
freedom, as well as the indirectweight of simply witnessing immense struggle we're exhausted
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from navigating uncharted waters and existential anxietyabout the future. Remember, self care
is not a fixed set of leisureactivities you cross off a list, but
an adaptive practice to help you meetyour unique needs. You can stay resilient,
especially when flooded by events beyond yourcontrol. Below are self care suggestions
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for these challenging times. Mindset shifts, release need for certainty, flow with
a radical openness to impermanence. Allowyourself periods of denial as a coping mechanism
for traumatic events. Forgive the lackof clarity about how exactly to tangibly make
a difference. Physical support. Movea little extra each day to discharge mounting
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stress hormones. Rest often without expectingusual productivity levels. Fortify immune system through
whole foods and immune boosting herbs.Mental relief. Limit consumption of disturbing narratives.
Balance with inspiring stories. Schedule disjointedtime where you don't force outcomes or
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completion. Discuss emerging feelings about thismoment in history with trusted supports. Emotional
centering, find healthy outlets for intenseemotions like anger, grief, depression.
Release expectations you should feel or reacta certain way on or unfolding stages.
Channel compassion towards self and others ascommon ground spirit strength. Whatever your belief
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system, lean into faith as astabilizing anchor in a tumultuous era. Allow
mystical experiences and synchronicities to confirm forcesbeyond comprehension. Trust in our collective resiliency
to rebuild from the rubble. Relationalshelter, don't isolate community, nourishes our
ability to handle adversity. Organize intimatepods for shared suppers, coworking days,
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or play dates. Join a groupfocused on spiritual social progress around a shared
cause. During especially chaotic passages personallyor politically, the healthiest self care strategy
is allowing ourselves to dial down andhibernate until we are organically regain equilibrium,
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without feeling guilty for not firing onall cylinders. Sometimes we honor our humanity
most by explicitly limiting our bandwidth,setting boundaries with news intake, and refusing
to mirror the frenetic energy swirling aroundus. The bottom line, self care
must adapt to meet our needs througheach phase of tumultuous times. Survival requires
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surrendering to nonlinear waves of expansion andcontraction without judgment. Our only responsibility is
listening within as best we can,then showing up fully for periods of engaged
action, and resting fully when weinevitably cycle back inward. By building resilience
through daily practice, balancing grit andgrace, we assemble the deepest reserves to
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weather external storms while protecting our innerlight, that well spring of hope and
wisdom available when we tend it withcare and mindfulness. The journey from I
should too, I am. Whydoes self care so often feel like just
another box to check off our overflowingobligation list, The niggling inner critic chimes
in, I should make time forself care. I should say no more
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often. Ironically, this hijacks selfcare back into the land of burdens rather
than oases of revitalization. Tracing thisdisconnect back to its origin reveals core beliefs
about worth at the root. Thatmurmur of I should take better care of
myself implies you don't fully deserve careright now as you are. It positions
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self care as contingent reward for becomingsome better future version of yourself, instead
of a foundational practice to honor yourcurrent self ed the problem. We spend
our whole lives trying to reach thatimaginary finish line of enough personal progress to
deserve ease. For many high achievers, relaxing signals failure rather than signifying efforts
coming to fru. Here's a continuationof the piece on self care, focusing
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on balancing people, purpose, andplay. Balancing the three ps, people,
purpose, and play, as webuild self care rituals, balancing grit
and grace for sustainable change making overdecades, not days. Three essential ingredients
reveal themselves as necessary. People,purpose, and play. Too often,
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activists and visionaries amp up discipline andduty while failing to nurture community connections,
spontaneous creative expression, and pleasure.However, research on factors preventing compassion fatigue
for nurses, trauma workers, andlifelong justice leaders reveals social support as fundamental
beyond professional help. Intimate friendships literallyextend lifespan by providing empathy, perspective,
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and fun. Purpose frames high effortoutput as meaning making rather than mundane drudgery,
finding flow states through creative play,or athletes runners high byproducts release healing
neurotransmitters otherwise deficient when we only push. So take inventory of whether your self
care recipe off balanced nutrition of people, purpose and play. Scan the horizon
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for any deficient ingredients you resist,including maybe you cord and creativity afraid it
will distract focus, let inspiration fertilizenew solutions. Perhaps you isolate yourself from
friends, assuming you'll protect them fromheaviness. Witness how lightness gets found through
witty moments of connection amidst the weightyor you feel guilty playing without visible productivity,
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realize recharging imagination and stamina prepares longhaul impact. Give yourself full spectrum
permission. Permission for warm communal mealspunctuated by belly laughs that relax nervous systems
strained by outrage about injustice. Permissionto make space for unstructured creative time,
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unfolding whimsical new projects, resuscitating passiondepleted by boring admin tasks required for stable
justice movements. Permission for adventures innature, and early bedtimes to rest bodies
exhausted by frontline resistance efforts, standinghours in protest lines, or high stress
policy negotiations. The point is thatbalancing all qualities of human experience, not
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just hustling and heads down intensity,makes social change sustainable. So give yourself
full spectrum permission to access the completepalette of nourishment available. No need to
divide experience into neat binaries of indulgenceversus discipline, seriousness versus levity, and
working versus resting your whole. Intricatehumanness is welcome here. Remember even the
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most shining stars like Nelson Mandela andMartin Luther King Junior made space for colorful,
textured lives alongside bold vision. Feelinto the fullness, seeking expression through
your distinct voice and vision. Thentend daily rhythms to honor that full spectrum
flourishing you belong here in your wholeness, people, purpose, and play,
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held gently together like kinzigi pottery seamsof gold. The radical act of slowing
down. Among the central practices necessaryfor sustainable self care is the lost art
of slowing down, resisting demands thatwe keep stretching thinner and thinner until finally
we snap. It takes courage andvulnerability in productivity obsessed cultures to set boundaries
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around reasonable bandwidth and boldly defend spaceto hear inner wisdom's whispered guidance. But
what ignites once we gather strength forthis radical act of self honoring withdrawal from
constant busyness. The gift emerging fromstillness might surprise you in its sweetness.
What waits behind irritation with constantly buzzingphones and overflowing agendas is connection with self,
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spirit, and community. When wesilence the static and finally sit alone,
our breath arrives as a trusted companion, reminding us we were never separate
from belonging always held if only weslow down enough to feel its subtle miracle.
Meditative moments reconnect us to faith thatbusyness has unplugged the wellspring, sense
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that we are eternally embraced in somethinggreater, brighter, and wiser than our
worries. Stillness lets us fall backin love with our wild, beating hearts,
no longer enlisted only for output,but given permission for their true longing
to wholeheartedly feel this astonishing miracle calledlife and miracle of miracles. Reclaiming our
allegiance back from productivity. Hamster wheelsalso softens defensive armor, keeping loved ones
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at arm's length. Finally, receivingourselves fully awakens our capacity to intimately receive
others too. Through slowing, werediscover openness and wonder, greeting lovers,
babies, and dear elderly friends withawe instead of impatience. We relax agenda
and once again hear poetry whispering behindevery mundane interaction. Slowing down offers a
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passageway for creativity to those whispered breadcrumbsfrom the meuse so easily drowned under overtime.
Busy work grow clearer. The morewe unwind worries to tune spirit's frequency.
The more we slow, the moresynchronicity surprise and guide us. It's
almost as if refusing productivity lets onceobscured secret tunnels reveal themselves so we can
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escape the linear rat race. Lifebecomes fodder for artistry. So when the
speeding train of modernity threatens to derailyour sense of meaning and inner peace,
gather the courage to claim unpaid timefor slow unfolding. Let your bold defiance
of impossible standards for busyness soften andsteadier days meet beloved faces by exiting the
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hamster wheel to actually witness them andreconnect through stillness to the current of wisdom
inherently embracing and guiding you always theremedy for disconnection. Rituals as self care
what heals this sense of separateness drivingso many wounded healer activists to burn out
while striving feverishly to unite humanity.The secret lies in reknitting freyed community ties,
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not by forcing more superficial social events, but by courageously sharing intimate rituals
turns out the tribal solidarity gluing togethersuccessful movements emerges through regular shared practices,
not just intellectual agreement. Coordinated rhythmslike chanting, singing, dancing, or
sharing food prompt synchronization between nervous systemson a sonic biochemical level. This builds
(26:27):
coherence, reinforcing group identity on avisceral felt level. Early agricultural communities intuitively
harnessed rituals communal power by establishing seasonalcelebrations connecting human activity to earth cycles.
But modernity eroded such community glue bycommodifying time and digitizing attention into isolated screen
zones. Today, Twitter offers apathetic substitute for harvest festivals that once eased
(26:52):
isolation, returning to rhythmic shared practicesdoesn't just reconnect us to ancestral power,
its stabilized as volatile mental health plaguingprogressives exhausted by constant emergency state. Regular
community rhythms ground our cortisol spiking,fight or flight reflects when twenty four to
seven news and social media play toour negativity bias. Shared meals, prayers,
(27:15):
and cultural ceremonies soothe nervous systems strainedby outrage about injustice and existential worry
about climate catastrophe or nuclear war thatindividuals alone find difficult to regulate. So
from nuclear family dinners to peaceful protestcircles to organizations facilitating skill shares, let's
return to rituals as collective self carerhythms that remind the change makers holding so
(27:41):
much grief for the world that we'rein this together that transforms despair about humanity
into faith fueled by all were capableof when bonded by practices that invoke our
most artful, generous, and wiseselves. The remedy for disconnection driving so
many helpers to burn out is findingthe others. Let yourself care, nourish
our shared thriving. Hey, thanksfor listening to Quiet. Please remember to
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like and share wherever you get yourpodcasts.
Self care is an essential part ofliving a healthy, balanced life. It
involves taking time to nurture our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.
Self care looks different for everyone.It's about understanding your own needs and
making self care a regular priority.In recent years, the concept of self
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care has gained more mainstream attention.However, it's also become a bit of
a buzzword that people throw around withoutmuch meaning behind it. True self care
goes far beyond treating yourself to aface mask or a bubble bath. It's
about building resilience and coping skills tohandle life's inevitable ups and downs with grit
and grace. This podcast will explorethe deeper meaning behind self care and why
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it's so vital for well being.We'll discuss strategies for redefining resilience, developing
grit, and accessing grace so youcannot just survive, but thrive through daily
life. Redefining resilience. Resilience iscommonly defined as the ability to bounce back
from adversity and difficult experiences. However, resilience researcher Brene Brown believes we need
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to take a more nuanced perspective inher book Rising Strong, she writes,
the truth is that we don't bounceback from hard hits. We crawl across
the floor with our guts hanging out, holding on to whatever we can to
keep moving forward. This crawling,this collecting all the scattered pieces of our
spirit that are strewn across the floor, becomes the very essence of our resilience.
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Rather than quickly returning to baseline,Brown stresses the importance of allowing ourselves
to feel grief, struggle through discomfort, and fully integrate challenging experiences. Before
emerging more whole, we must honorthe entire arc of the process. This
redefined view of resilience aligns closely withthe Japanese concept of wabi sabi, finding
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beauty in life's imperfections and impermanence.When we accept hardship as a naw vitural
part of the human condition, ratherthan failing to measure up to unrealistic standards
for invulnerability, we can access deeperreserves of strength. Redefining resilience as a
slow, messy process of reconstruction broadensthe bandwidth for what it means to be
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resilient. Resilience isn't about achieving afinished product at the end, it's about
doing the ongoing work to collect thosescattered pieces, sit with discomfort, and
keep believing in your ability to heal. Building grit Redefining resilience as an intimate
rebuilding process also sheds light on theimportance of grit. Grit goes beyond resilience
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by adding a key ingredient, courageousperseverance in pursuit of long term goals and
personal growth. Research shows grit asa better predictor of success than IQ or
talent alone because it fuels the abilityto keep showing up through waves of failure,
criticism, fatigue, and plateau.However, we must avoid the trap
of toxic grit, feeling like wemust keep pushing dangerously beyond our limits.
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True grit pairs perseverance with self careand support. We can build grit by
getting clear on our core values andsense of purpose and learning to detach our
self worth from immediate outcomes. Thisintrinsic motivation allows us to stay focused despite
external feedback and setbacks. Here arethree key strategies. One, reflect on
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why your goal matters. Connect withthe meaning and motivation behind your goal.
When things get frustrating, let yourvalues reorient you towards true north when you
feel lost. Two, celebrate smallwins. Break your goal down into achievable
milestones so you have tangible progress tocelebrate frequently, which prevents burnout. Make
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a visual chart to watch your smallwinds accumulate. Three. Don't compare your
chapter one to someone else's chapter twenty. Be inspired, but not intimidated by
others who are farther along. Appreciatewhere you currently are on your unique path,
which has its own timing and trajectory, meant just yes for you.
Accessing grace. The process of buildinggrit inevitably also surfaces our demon's fears and
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growing pains. Without sufficient self compassion, it's easy to lose touch with grace
amidst the intense drive to keep soldieringon. Brene Brown defines grace as love,
freely given, limitless and unconditional.It's that soft place to land when
we fall, fail, or loseour way. Rather than berating ourselves when
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we're emotionally depleted or ashamed, wecan extend grace through little acts of soothing,
care and forgiveness. Self grace acknowledgeswe're all a beautiful work in progress.
Here are simple ways we can dipinto this infinite well spring of grace
whenever we need restoration. One writea compassion letter to yourself, as if
from your most nurturing friend when youfeel inadequate or criticized. Two, place
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your hands gently on your heart andrepeat soothing mantras like I am learning or
I deeply accept myself. Three,take a quiet moment to appreci the sky,
trees, or sunlight, basking inthe grace and gifts that surround us.
By invoking grace amidst diversity, wesummon the strength to soften rather than
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harden, open rather than close,lean into support rather than isolate. Grace
is the golden thread that allows gritto elevate rather than crush our spirit.
We build resilience by repeatedly practicing smallacts of self compassion moving through everyday life
with grit and grace. Navigating everydayresponsibilities and stressors requires moving fluidly between grit
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and grace. Grittiness keeps us steadfastlychipping away at goals we're passionate about.
Over the long haul. Grace givesus patience and self nurturing to smooth out
life's rougher edges when our energy andspirits lag. Here are three scenarios where
we can strengthen resilience in daily lifeby blending grit and grace. One,
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when tackling difficult work projects, divefully into periods of intense focus paired with
bold creativity. Then build and breathermoments to clear your head, stretch your
body, or refuel your mind withinspiration. Two, when managing physical health
challenges, commit to your treatment planand lifestyle changes with discipline and accountability,
while also practicing self kindness on harddays when your body and spirit feel fragile.
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Three, when balancing parenting and selfcare, give your full presence and
nurturance when caring for your kids,then carve out guiltless time for activities that
replenish you with joy, flow,meaning, and connection. Weaving grit and
grace together trains us to ride allof life's varied waves and rhythms with more
skill, ease, and inner poise. Practical self care strategies. The above
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exploration of redefining resilience grounds self careas an act of courageous commitment to personal
growth and healing, not just feelgood indulgences. With that context in mind.
Let's get specific about daily self carehabits that develop grit and grace.
Mindset shifts. Give yourself unconditional permissionto make self care a priority rather than
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a guilty extra credit and let goof perfectionist all or nothing thinking. Consistency
over time compounds notice, but don'tbin into thoughts that self care is selfish
or self indulgent. Trust that takingcare of your needs will ultimately make you
a better partner, parent, colleague, leader. Physical support. Make time
for movement that you enjoy, whetherit's walking, dancing, strength training,
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or yoga. Don't wait until you'redepleted to rest. Integrate mini breaks into
your day. Eat balance, nourishingmeals, and stay hydrated throughout the day.
Mental restoration. Unplug from digital devicesand focus inward or outward through nature.
Write morning pages for unfiltered thoughts andfeelings without self judgment. Schedule playtime
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doing hobbies, sports, or creativeactivities that make you lose track of time.
Emotional nurturing. Check in with yourselfregularly about feelings and needs. Give
voice to thoughts and feelings, speak, write, sing, paint, or
dance them. Spend time with supportivepeople where you feel safe seen and celebrated.
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Spiritual sustenance. Express gratitude for life'ssimple gifts, a warm cup of
tea cute squirrels, or a goodhair day. Find alignment between daily choices
and deeper sense of purpose. Ritualizereflection with meditation, prayer, or inspirational
reading, relational connection. Initiate catchup calls, texts, meals, or
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activities with people who feed your soul. Communicate needs clearly and compromise when necessary
rather than resenting others. Set boundariesaround time, energy resources without guilt or
over explaining. Mastering self care isa continuous journey of dismantling old habits,
beliefs, and cultural conditioning that keepus running on empty. By redefining self
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care as resilience wrapped in equal partsgrit and grace, we can unlock lasting
habits that allow us to flourish inall areas of life. Life the path
from burnout to balance. Many ofus find ourselves utterly depleted, yet struggling
to truly prioritize self care, nomatter how much we know we should.
Behind our inertia, scarcity, mentality, or feelings of guilt around self care
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often lies unresolved trauma and grief.Think of chronic stress and exhaustion as red
flags signals, begging us to noticewhat demands in our life feel unsustainable.
The chant that self care is selfishrings loudly when we don't believe we're worthy
of love and care. We rusharound compacting responsibilities because deep down, our
inner critic whispers will never be enough. No wonder, we find ourselves on
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the edge of burnout, our backsagainst the wall before we step off the
hamster wheel long enough to breathe.The paradoxical path to healing from burnout is
not pushing harder, but softening aroundour heart space. We must explore the
roots of our unworthiness stories and releaseoutdated guilt. Then will we give ourselves
full permission for radical self care withoutapology, to turn down obligations, speak
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up about behavior that wears us down, and devote time to restorative alignment.
True self care lays the foundation toquestion society's glorification of grind, culture,
scarcity, mentality, and martyr templatesof success. It allows us to sit
still amidst swirling today, do liststo reconnect with our essence, that wise
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inner knowing that illuminates our true priorities. From this grounded place of presence,
we can start rebuilding energies, connections, and purposeful work fueled by intrinsic joy
rather than extrinsic pressures. Here isa roadmap for this journey from burnout towards
balance. Phase one crisis, hittingan edge, things crumbling apart, feeling
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unable to keep going full throttle.Phase two wake up calls startling moment of
wow, I need to make ashift, but still in denial, bargaining
mode about how drastic. Phase threereckoning the pain of the status quo exceeds
the pain of change, realize andaids won't fix need total lifestyle reset.
Phase four Release, begin shedding toxichabits, relationships, stories, clutter,
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anything not serving growth. Phase fiverebuild identity and getting clarity on true priorities
slash values, slash needs slash dealbreakers and redefining self outside of dutiful roles.
Phase six cultivate self trust, strengthenconnection with inner wisdom, guiding when
how to rest push forward. Phaseseven commit to sustainability, daily rhythm slash
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work slash community that honor well beinglong term Phase eight radiate fullness, Share
lessons learned to help others avoid burnoutearlier in their journey. Each phase builds
the foundation for the next, sowe can emerge energized by purpose rather than
depleted by pressures. There will becyclical recapitulations through this sequence. We are
forever spiral students when it comes toprotecting space for self care. Each time
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we walk this healing sequence, wewill uncover deeper layers of truth guiding our
path to fuller resilience. Navigating thegrace grit pendulum embodying the redefined resilient self
is not linear, but instead swaysdynamically between grace and grit, like waves
of effort and ease swirling together.We need both qualities, yet struggle to
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mindfully move between them. We mayspend months purely nosed down, hustling until
we crash into a wall, suddenlyconsumed by anxiety that our efforts will never
transcend, Or we swing too farresting in leisure and spiritual navel gazing until
fear of squandering time creeps up ourspine. Entrepreneurial hunger for progress is punctuated
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by bouts of uncertainty, insatiable wanderlust, followed by hermit hibernation. Visionary optimism
gives way to doomsday, paralysis andresponse to setbacks. Too often, we
mistakenly see grit and grace as mutuallyexclusive either or binaries that cannot coexist.
We judge grace as lazy, passivewoo woo navel gazing. We criticize grit
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as a toxic hustle culture set ondestroying work life balance. However, notice
this is the voice of ego,attaching righteousness and warning us, don't lose
momentum or lose yourself in reality.Effort and ease form two halves of the
same soaring bird in flight. Weneed equal measures of kindled flame and soothing
breeze to take wing. Resilience livesin the rhythm of coaxed organic growth,
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periods of intentional progress, interwoven withintervals of open surrender to let ripening fruits
fall. What does it look liketo dance skillfully along this grace slash grit
continuum without getting whiplashed. We canvisualize this as a set of sliding volume
knobs we intentionally adjust Twist up gritwhen crystallizing vision or pushing through a challenging
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but aligned project. Twist up gracewhen body mind urges space to integrate and
incubate. Keen awareness of energy levelsguides intuitive timing without self judgment release attachment
to linear metrics flow with organic spylsof expansion is contraction. All efforts will
bear fruition given proper gestation grace periods. Both states offer opportunities for self mastery.
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If we embrace their complete gifts.By learning this fluid dance between yin
receiving and yang achieving feminine flow andmasculine force, we conserve energy, broadened
perspective, and steady natural rhythms thatsupport growth. We unlock the fully integrated
self who can handle heightened intensity pairedwith heightened responsiveness. This is the sweet
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spot of living with optimal grit andgrace self care for challenging times. Given
the upheaval of current world events,self care strategies that cultivate grit, grace,
and resilience are more relevant than ever. When we're faced with uncertainty,
instability, and suffering swirling around us. The impulse may be to amp up
self discipline, as if being rigidlyproductive could stave off potential chaos. However,
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we end up equally worn down.By pretending we're not profoundly impacted by
collective trauma and grief. Alternatively,we may want to pull the covers over
our head. Indulging in escapist habitslike doom, scrolling news feeds, comfort
binging reality TV, or losing weekendsto social media. Numbing but denying the
seriousness of challenges unfolding globally can leaveus feeling complicit and paralyzed by normalcy bias.
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Navigating heavy times calls for additional nurturanceand intentional renewal. The quality and
quantity of self care needed now shouldmatch the degree of demand placed on our
bandwidth. Those demands come both fromdirect urgency around health finances, education,
freedom, as well as the indirectweight of simply witnessing immense struggle we're exhausted
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from navigating uncharted waters and existential anxietyabout the future. Remember, self care
is not a fixed set of leisureactivities you cross off a list, but
an adaptive practice to help you meetyour unique needs. You can stay resilient,
especially when flooded by events beyond yourcontrol. Below are self care suggestions
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for these challenging times. Mindset shifts, release need for certainty, flow with
a radical openness to impermanence. Allowyourself periods of denial as a coping mechanism
for traumatic events. Forgive the lackof clarity about how exactly to tangibly make
a difference. Physical support. Movea little extra each day to discharge mounting
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stress hormones. Rest often without expectingusual productivity levels. Fortify immune system through
whole foods and immune boosting herbs.Mental relief. Limit consumption of disturbing narratives.
Balance with inspiring stories. Schedule disjointedtime where you don't force outcomes or
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completion. Discuss emerging feelings about thismoment in history with trusted supports. Emotional
centering, find healthy outlets for intenseemotions like anger, grief, depression.
Release expectations you should feel or reacta certain way on or unfolding stages.
Channel compassion towards self and others ascommon ground spirit strength. Whatever your belief
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system, lean into faith as astabilizing anchor in a tumultuous era. Allow
mystical experiences and synchronicities to confirm forcesbeyond comprehension. Trust in our collective resiliency
to rebuild from the rubble. Relationalshelter, don't isolate community, nourishes our
ability to handle adversity. Organize intimatepods for shared suppers, coworking days,
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or play dates. Join a groupfocused on spiritual social progress around a shared
cause. During especially chaotic passages personallyor politically, the healthiest self care strategy
is allowing ourselves to dial down andhibernate until we are organically regain equilibrium,
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without feeling guilty for not firing onall cylinders. Sometimes we honor our humanity
most by explicitly limiting our bandwidth,setting boundaries with news intake, and refusing
to mirror the frenetic energy swirling aroundus. The bottom line, self care
must adapt to meet our needs througheach phase of tumultuous times. Survival requires
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surrendering to nonlinear waves of expansion andcontraction without judgment. Our only responsibility is
listening within as best we can,then showing up fully for periods of engaged
action, and resting fully when weinevitably cycle back inward. By building resilience
through daily practice, balancing grit andgrace, we assemble the deepest reserves to
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weather external storms while protecting our innerlight, that well spring of hope and
wisdom available when we tend it withcare and mindfulness. The journey from I
should too, I am. Whydoes self care so often feel like just
another box to check off our overflowingobligation list, The niggling inner critic chimes
in, I should make time forself care. I should say no more
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often. Ironically, this hijacks selfcare back into the land of burdens rather
than oases of revitalization. Tracing thisdisconnect back to its origin reveals core beliefs
about worth at the root. Thatmurmur of I should take better care of
myself implies you don't fully deserve careright now as you are. It positions
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self care as contingent reward for becomingsome better future version of yourself, instead
of a foundational practice to honor yourcurrent self ed the problem. We spend
our whole lives trying to reach thatimaginary finish line of enough personal progress to
deserve ease. For many high achievers, relaxing signals failure rather than signifying efforts
coming to fru. Here's a continuationof the piece on self care, focusing
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on balancing people, purpose, andplay. Balancing the three ps, people,
purpose, and play, as webuild self care rituals, balancing grit
and grace for sustainable change making overdecades, not days. Three essential ingredients
reveal themselves as necessary. People,purpose, and play. Too often,
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activists and visionaries amp up discipline andduty while failing to nurture community connections,
spontaneous creative expression, and pleasure.However, research on factors preventing compassion fatigue
for nurses, trauma workers, andlifelong justice leaders reveals social support as fundamental
beyond professional help. Intimate friendships literallyextend lifespan by providing empathy, perspective,
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and fun. Purpose frames high effortoutput as meaning making rather than mundane drudgery,
finding flow states through creative play,or athletes runners high byproducts release healing
neurotransmitters otherwise deficient when we only push. So take inventory of whether your self
care recipe off balanced nutrition of people, purpose and play. Scan the horizon
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for any deficient ingredients you resist,including maybe you cord and creativity afraid it
will distract focus, let inspiration fertilizenew solutions. Perhaps you isolate yourself from
friends, assuming you'll protect them fromheaviness. Witness how lightness gets found through
witty moments of connection amidst the weightyor you feel guilty playing without visible productivity,
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realize recharging imagination and stamina prepares longhaul impact. Give yourself full spectrum
permission. Permission for warm communal mealspunctuated by belly laughs that relax nervous systems
strained by outrage about injustice. Permissionto make space for unstructured creative time,
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unfolding whimsical new projects, resuscitating passiondepleted by boring admin tasks required for stable
justice movements. Permission for adventures innature, and early bedtimes to rest bodies
exhausted by frontline resistance efforts, standinghours in protest lines, or high stress
policy negotiations. The point is thatbalancing all qualities of human experience, not
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just hustling and heads down intensity,makes social change sustainable. So give yourself
full spectrum permission to access the completepalette of nourishment available. No need to
divide experience into neat binaries of indulgenceversus discipline, seriousness versus levity, and
working versus resting your whole. Intricatehumanness is welcome here. Remember even the
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most shining stars like Nelson Mandela andMartin Luther King Junior made space for colorful,
textured lives alongside bold vision. Feelinto the fullness, seeking expression through
your distinct voice and vision. Thentend daily rhythms to honor that full spectrum
flourishing you belong here in your wholeness, people, purpose, and play,
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held gently together like kinzigi pottery seamsof gold. The radical act of slowing
down. Among the central practices necessaryfor sustainable self care is the lost art
of slowing down, resisting demands thatwe keep stretching thinner and thinner until finally
we snap. It takes courage andvulnerability in productivity obsessed cultures to set boundaries
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around reasonable bandwidth and boldly defend spaceto hear inner wisdom's whispered guidance. But
what ignites once we gather strength forthis radical act of self honoring withdrawal from
constant busyness. The gift emerging fromstillness might surprise you in its sweetness.
What waits behind irritation with constantly buzzingphones and overflowing agendas is connection with self,
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spirit, and community. When wesilence the static and finally sit alone,
our breath arrives as a trusted companion, reminding us we were never separate
from belonging always held if only weslow down enough to feel its subtle miracle.
Meditative moments reconnect us to faith thatbusyness has unplugged the wellspring, sense
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that we are eternally embraced in somethinggreater, brighter, and wiser than our
worries. Stillness lets us fall backin love with our wild, beating hearts,
no longer enlisted only for output,but given permission for their true longing
to wholeheartedly feel this astonishing miracle calledlife and miracle of miracles. Reclaiming our
allegiance back from productivity. Hamster wheelsalso softens defensive armor, keeping loved ones
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at arm's length. Finally, receivingourselves fully awakens our capacity to intimately receive
others too. Through slowing, werediscover openness and wonder, greeting lovers,
babies, and dear elderly friends withawe instead of impatience. We relax agenda
and once again hear poetry whispering behindevery mundane interaction. Slowing down offers a
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passageway for creativity to those whispered breadcrumbsfrom the meuse so easily drowned under overtime.
Busy work grow clearer. The morewe unwind worries to tune spirit's frequency.
The more we slow, the moresynchronicity surprise and guide us. It's
almost as if refusing productivity lets onceobscured secret tunnels reveal themselves so we can
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escape the linear rat race. Lifebecomes fodder for artistry. So when the
speeding train of modernity threatens to derailyour sense of meaning and inner peace,
gather the courage to claim unpaid timefor slow unfolding. Let your bold defiance
of impossible standards for busyness soften andsteadier days meet beloved faces by exiting the
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hamster wheel to actually witness them andreconnect through stillness to the current of wisdom
inherently embracing and guiding you always theremedy for disconnection. Rituals as self care
what heals this sense of separateness drivingso many wounded healer activists to burn out
while striving feverishly to unite humanity.The secret lies in reknitting freyed community ties,
(26:03):
not by forcing more superficial social events, but by courageously sharing intimate rituals
turns out the tribal solidarity gluing togethersuccessful movements emerges through regular shared practices,
not just intellectual agreement. Coordinated rhythmslike chanting, singing, dancing, or
sharing food prompt synchronization between nervous systemson a sonic biochemical level. This builds
(26:27):
coherence, reinforcing group identity on avisceral felt level. Early agricultural communities intuitively
harnessed rituals communal power by establishing seasonalcelebrations connecting human activity to earth cycles.
But modernity eroded such community glue bycommodifying time and digitizing attention into isolated screen
zones. Today, Twitter offers apathetic substitute for harvest festivals that once eased
(26:52):
isolation, returning to rhythmic shared practicesdoesn't just reconnect us to ancestral power,
its stabilized as volatile mental health plaguingprogressives exhausted by constant emergency state. Regular
community rhythms ground our cortisol spiking,fight or flight reflects when twenty four to
seven news and social media play toour negativity bias. Shared meals, prayers,
(27:15):
and cultural ceremonies soothe nervous systems strainedby outrage about injustice and existential worry
about climate catastrophe or nuclear war thatindividuals alone find difficult to regulate. So
from nuclear family dinners to peaceful protestcircles to organizations facilitating skill shares, let's
return to rituals as collective self carerhythms that remind the change makers holding so
(27:41):
much grief for the world that we'rein this together that transforms despair about humanity
into faith fueled by all were capableof when bonded by practices that invoke our
most artful, generous, and wiseselves. The remedy for disconnection driving so
many helpers to burn out is findingthe others. Let yourself care, nourish
our shared thriving. Hey, thanksfor listening to Quiet. Please remember to
(28:04):
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