S2E11: Why You Don’t Trust Yourself With Money (and How to Fix It)

You set financial goals, but don’t follow through. You tell yourself to save, then spend. You want more money, but secretly don’t feel ready for it. Sound familiar?

This week on Self Elevated, we’re digging deep into a real one—financial self-trust. If you’ve ever felt like your biggest block to financial freedom is… you—this episode will help you understand why and how to change that.

You’ll learn:
✅ What financial self-trust really looks like
✅ Why your money trust is broken (and where it came from)
✅ How to rebuild that trust with small but powerful moves
✅ Journal prompts + affirmations to lock in your new money mindset

You are not bad with money—you’re healing. Let’s fix the relationship, not just the numbers.

Tune in!


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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
The Self Elevating Podcast with Your Motor and Jessica just
Cash Parker. The game starts with ourselves versions. We can
change our lives. Your only limit is you. Hey, hey, hey,

(00:24):
welcome back to Self Elevated, where we elevate the mind, body, spirit, business,
and then bank accounts. I'm your host, Miss Jess and
we're gonna be staying in our bag literally because this
week we're talking about something that doesn't get enough attention.
Why you don't trust yourself with money? Okay, because a

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lot of us have that issue. You might have the budget,
the planner, and even the desire to save, but you
still find yourself blowing through checks off, waiting bank apps,
or feeling like money just slips away. And that's not
a math issue, Okay, that's a trust issue. And today

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we're unpacking the emotional and psychological blocks that keep you
from feeling financially safe, confident, and in control. So if
you've ever felt like you're your own financial worst enemy,
then it's time to fix that. All right, Let's rebuild
trust between you and your bag. So what financial trust

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financial self trust, I should say, really means, what is it?
You know? Financial self trust is actually knowing that you'll
take care of your money and that your money is
going to take care of you. It's the belief that
you'll make good choices even when emotions are high. They

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know you won't sabotage your goals, and you can hold
wealth without fear. All right. Here, some signs that you
don't trust yourself with money. Okay. You might avoid checking
your account after spending some Okay, you ever been hesitant

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to go look at your bank account and you know,
see what's going on in there. That might be a sign.
All right. You might buy now and panic later, or
you set savings goals but you always always pull from them.
I swear I am. I don't know if I'm a

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victim or an abuser of this right here, Okay, I
definitely pull from accounts that I always intend to not
pull from. All right, it happens. I'm human. Right. You
might feel guilt or shame right after spending some money,

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or maybe you constantly tell yourself that I'm bad with money,
or I can't save, or I'm not good at finances. Okay.
These patterns don't mean that you're lazy or irresponsible, though, Okay.
They usually mean that there's something just deeper. You know,
maybe there's money trauma or programming or unhealed beliefs that

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need your attention, all right, And why would that trust
be broken? Okay? Why do we not trust trust ourselves
with money? Let's look at where the financial self trust
may have gotten broken? All right. We're gonna take a
look at some possible roots here, and if one resonates

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with you, then just hold that in your mind. Okay.
Some possible roots are childhood scarcity or financial instability, or
maybe watching caregivers mismanage their money and or are you
over it all right? Or being judged or shamed for

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what you did with your money. Also, it could be
you know, trying and failing before and then internalizing that failure, right,
maybe with like a business venture or an invention idea. Right.
Most of us were never taught emotional intelligence or financial

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intelligence for that matter. Okay, So we end up repeating
cycles of survival, fear or straight up lack okay, without
even realizing why we don't feel safe holding onto money
or why we feel like, you know, we shouldn't have
this or we can't have this or we could never

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have it. Okay, So how do we rebuild the financial
trust with ourselves. You know, what are the steps to
regaining that trust? So this is where we got to
talk about healing. Okay, how do we actually build that

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trust with our money self? Okay? First thing we got
to do is tell the truth without shaming ourselves. Okay,
So we got to look at our money habits and
name them honestly and not harshly. All right. So for example,
like I overspent this week because I was avoiding emotions

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and it just felt better to buy X, Y or Z. Right,
that's awareness, not failure. Okay. Also, you could create small
winds and make sure to follow through with them. So
start keeping one promise to yourself financially, just one, okay.

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So you could set a limit on how much you're
gonna eat out, or transfer ten dollars to your savings
account every week and you know, don't touch it for
say at least three months, or you can pay a
bill early. Okay. Make one promise to yourself and whether

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that is weekly or monthly or even a daily thing, okay,
just make sure you are able to keep this one
promise to yourself, all right. Don't don't like over promise
yourself a certain thing or goal when you know it's

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not really feasible or easy. Okay. These are supposed to
be goals that you set that are attainable, all right,
and trust is going to be built in the micro
win is when you achieve these things, and as you
do that, you can make those promises in those financial
goals bigger over time, right, and you can change your

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money identity. So stop saying I'm bad with money and
start saying something more like, I'm learning to manage my
money more wisely, all right. Affirm your growth, not your gaps,
and not the flaws. Okay. We don't want to speak
any more life into those things than what they already

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are living. Right. So you need to check your energy
before you spend the money, all right. So before you're
about to drop some money on something, I need you
to pause and ask yourself, am I spending from confidence
or from chaos? All right? So, just like an emotional discipline,

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your spending needs to be a vibe check too, okay.
And another thing you could do is review your finances weekly. Okay,
don't be afraid, just face the facts, and that way
you can know what's going on and be hyper aware. Okay.

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You need to make it a habit. Light a candle,
grab a tea, roll a blunt, and check your account
like a ceo, not a victim. Okay, So let's get
honest and reflect, all right. I want to give you
some journal prompts and these are what they're going to

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be for the week. So go grab a pen, grab
your notebook, open your notes in your phone, or download
the episode click the downloadle button right now so you
can have it later and you can come back to these. Okay.
But the first question is what messages did I receive
about money growing up? Okay, that's gonna be a big one.

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Really really think about that, all right. The next question
is when have I broken money promises to myself? And
how did it make me feel? All right? And what
is one way that I can rebuild trust with my
finances this week? All right? Now, as always, answer those

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honestly and openly, because these are only for you to
be able to reflect on. All right. Now, moving into
the affirmations, one of my favorite parts of my podcast,
all right, because we want to speak life into our

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financial evolution, all right. We want to breathe life into
what's going to help us grow and attain not, you know,
go backwards right, So write these down and repeat these

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after me. I trust myself to make wise financial decisions.
I am building a new money story one step at
a time. I honor my goals more than my impulses.

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I am safe holding and growing my wealth. I am
in alignment with abundance and control. Remember when you reflect
on these affirmations, always make sure to say them three

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times each, three times a day. You can do them
all every day, or you can pick one for each
day of the week. Just make sure that each one
you say it three different times, three times a day. Okay,
Repetition is key because that's what's gonna make it stick.
All right, So this episode sparked anything in you, please

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tag me on socials. You can find me at Miss
just Official, and my other social medias are now tagged
in that bio, so I don't have to continue to
say all of them every time. But yes, come find
me on almost all platforms at Missjess Official and tell
me what part really made you rethink your relationship with money,

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if any parts. Maybe you already knew all of these things,
or you're really just amazing with money, or maybe you
have something that you can add into the topic and
what I was talking about, right, because I would always
love to hear your thoughts and opinions and your feedback.
And you already know awareness is the first step to elevation. Okay. So,

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like I said, if you want to share your money
story on the podcast, or drop a topic request, or
give any insight at all to any of my episodes
that you've heard thus far, please hit me up at
I Radio at jp Empires dot com and let's build together,
all right. Now, next week we're gonna still be in

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our finane financial elevation era, okay, and we're talking about
how to actually feel safe having money, right because it's
one thing to get the bag, and it's another thing
to stop subconsciously pushing it away. All right. We're healing
the money trauma and receiving without fear, okay, because you

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can trust yourself and you can handle wealth and you
can elevate your bank account without fear. All right. So
until next time, remember your only limit is you