May 6, 2025 • 13 mins
You want to elevate—but do your emotions keep pulling you off track?
This episode of Self Elevated is your reminder that elevation isn’t just about how you act when things are smooth... it's about how you respond when you're triggered.
We’re talking:
✅ What emotional discipline really is (hint: it’s not fake peace)
✅ Signs you’re reacting more than responding
✅ How to stay grounded even when life tries you
✅ Journal prompts + affirmations to build emotional strength
This isn’t about perfection—it’s about power. Let’s master your reactions, so you can master your reality.
📩 Want to be a guest or submit a question? Email iradio@jmpempires.com
👑 Tap in with me on IG: @msjessofficial & @jmpempires
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/self-elevated-the-podcast--4506254/support.
This episode of Self Elevated is your reminder that elevation isn’t just about how you act when things are smooth... it's about how you respond when you're triggered.
We’re talking:
✅ What emotional discipline really is (hint: it’s not fake peace)
✅ Signs you’re reacting more than responding
✅ How to stay grounded even when life tries you
✅ Journal prompts + affirmations to build emotional strength
This isn’t about perfection—it’s about power. Let’s master your reactions, so you can master your reality.
📩 Want to be a guest or submit a question? Email iradio@jmpempires.com
👑 Tap in with me on IG: @msjessofficial & @jmpempires
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/self-elevated-the-podcast--4506254/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All the Self Elevated podcast when your host Movator and.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jessica just Cash Parker. The game.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Starts with ourselves and by learning, you hire versions our lives.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Your only limit is you.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to Self Elevated, your podcast
for elevating mind, body, spirit, business and them bank accounts.
I'm your host MS jess and today we're getting into
one of the most slept on tools in your elevation toolbox,
which is emotional discipline. All right, because listen, anybody can
(00:43):
talk about goals, motivation, or bossing up when life's going smooth,
but the real test is how you respond when you're
triggered when things don't go your way, you know, like
when someone tries you, or when you're tired, you're annoyed,
disappointed or even overwhelmed. Right, that's where emotional discipline kicks in.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
All right. Like a little sidebar, if.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Anyone's noticed last week there was not a new episode.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Why was that?
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Well, because basically my house was being worked on for
several days.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
I had two.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Bathrooms that needed redone and a window, including the window
which was in my studio room where I record these podcasts. Right,
so obviously I had an unplanned break happened, but I
didn't let it melt me down and freak out, like,
oh my god, I missed a week with that, Like
(01:41):
it just ruins everything. No life happens, And you know what,
I expect y'all to understand that for me, just as
well as you should understand it for you.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Right.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So sometimes you just have to know when to be
in check and in control of your emotions around a
certain thing. Because I could have let it wind me
up to the point where I was super upset and
depressed or feeling like I failed or I didn't show
(02:12):
up where I needed to do my podcast, and like
just let it ruin my whole mood. But instead I
was like, you know what, life happens. It's okay, I understand,
and everyone else will too.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Rite. And the truth is.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Is that, like, you can't master your life if you
don't know how to master your emotions.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Right. So let's talk about how.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
We can respond to things instead of react right, regulate
instead of explode, and stay in alignment even when life
gets a little messy. All right, So what emotional what
is emotional discipline really?
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Right?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Emotional discipline isn't about suppressing how you feel.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
It's about how you're honoring your emotions without letting them
run your life.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
It's not being emotionless, right, That would mean you're basically
not even fully living, because that is a main factor
of the human experience, right, emotions, all right? Or you know,
it's not ignoring your triggers and acting like they don't exist,
all right. And it's definitely not faking peace when you're
(03:24):
actually pissed off, all right. What it is is knowing
when to pause before you pop off, all right, and
making space between the trigger and the response, right fully
analyzing the scenario, okay. And it's also choosing your reaction
based on your values and not your impulses, all right,
(03:47):
because if you keep reacting based on your emotions, you're
going to keep sabotaging your elevation. And because success relationships, leadership, leadership,
and personal speace, personal peace, all right, it's all super important.
All of that depends on your ability to stay grounded
(04:10):
through the chaos.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
All right.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
So here are some signs that you might be lacking
emotional discipline, all right.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Let's be honest.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
You might think that you're just expressive or you're just passionate.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I hear that a lot. Oh, I'm just passionate. Right,
But if any of.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
This sounds familiar, then you might need to tighten it up. Okay,
here's some red flags. You might say or post things
in anger and then regret it later, or you ghost
and shut down every time that you're feeling hurt.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Or maybe you keep making.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Emotional decisions like money, relationships and habits. You know, you
allow your decision making around those things be based in emotion,
Or you blow up easily and then you apologize too often.
Or maybe you replay the same mental drama in your
(05:10):
head over and over.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
You and you let it drain your energy.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
All right, does any of that sound familiar? It's no shame. Okay.
Awareness is the first step, all right, because you can't
fix what you don't name, all right.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
You can't change what.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
You don't acknowledge exists, right, So how do we strengthen
our emotional discipline. We're gonna talk about what it looks
like to build real emotional strength, right, not just control,
but actual self leadership.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
All right.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
The first thing is that you need to pause before
you react, all right. That five second breath can save you, your job,
your relationship, or maybe even your whole day.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
All right? Do I want to respond from ego or elevation?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
That's kind of what you should be asking yourself consciously
when you feel in a state of reaction, Right, do
you want to respond from your ego or from elevation?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And the next thing is to label the feeling. I'm like,
I'm not just mad, i feel unappreciated, or I'm not fine,
I'm overwhelmed and I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Labeling is going to create clarity and it helps calm
the brain.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Or you can regulate with routines, all right, So move
your body, meditate, journal or just unplug yourself from all
electronics and social media and pretty much just everything when
your emotions are high, all right, Because discipline is easier
when your nervous system is stable. Okay, And choose long
(07:03):
term power over a short term release, all right, because
blowing up might feel really good in the moment, you know,
but peace feels better long term, right. I Mean, unless
you're one of those people that just truly thrive on
drama and negativity, then you know peace is always going
(07:26):
to outweigh that momentary relief when you just snap off
and fire off of somebody. Okay, so ask ask yourself,
will this reaction get me what I actually want?
Speaker 2 (07:40):
All right?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
And try to practice emotional boundaries all right, So that
means like, don't take on everyone else's energy, all right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Sometimes you got to know when and how.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
To protect your peace, like your life depends on it,
because honestly, in many ways it really does. And for me,
I'm I'm not now, nor have I ever been afraid
to cut anyone off to protect my peace. Like you
could be family, you could be a friend, you could
be you know, my partner, although thank god my partner now,
(08:16):
like he gives me so much peace, and I don't
ever really even have to think of, like how do
I protect my peace from my own partner? Like nobody
honestly should ever feel like they have to question that.
If you're in a relationship right now where you feel
like your peace is.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
You know, disturbed, and you're not.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Safe mentally, emotionally, physically, then you need to learn to
set that boundary for yourself and get out of that
as soon as possible. And it might not always feel easy,
but I promise it's worth it.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
And so are you.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Okay, that's just a little side note, but anyway, move forward.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
We're gonna do some journal prompts that I'm gonna give
you because I want you.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
To be able to go deeper, all right.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I want you to throughout the week, sit down with
yourself and reflect on these three questions, all right. Question
one is what emotion do I struggle with the most
and how does it show up in my reactions? Question
two is what is a situation that I handled poorly
(09:30):
because I reacted too quickly? And question three is what
would emotional discipline look like for me in those same moments?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
All right?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
And remember right, freely and without judgment. Okay, give yourself
the complete truth. We're all real, unfiltered, all right. Don't
be afraid to be honest with yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
All right.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
So also write these next things down. We're gonna get
into the affirmations.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Now. These are affirmations.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I want you to say them three times each, three
times a day, okay, And you can do them every
day throughout the week, all of them, or you can
pick one and do one through the whole day each day. Right,
But write these down because you need to speak life
(10:26):
into your self control.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, So again, write these.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Down and make sure you come back to these multiple
times because repetition is the key for it to embed
into your subconscious and how you think. Okay, So the
first one is I control my emotions. They do not
control me, and don't forget say them with me as
(10:55):
I go through them. Okay, I respond with will not impulse.
I am grounded, clear and powerful under pressure. I choose
(11:16):
peace over pettiness. I am emotionally disciplined and it shows
in my results. Okay, so say it, own it, embody it,
(11:36):
all right, that's what we own all twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Now, if this episode hit deep for y'all, please tag
me on socials at misjes Official, jmpm Pires or at
miss just CEO and let me know what resonated most.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
All right.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Also, please share this with someone who you think might
need a little emotional check in this week.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
All right.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
And if you want to be a guest on Self
Elevated or just ask me a question for the show,
or have any input on something that I've spoken about
on here, please send me an email at Iradio at
jmpampires dot com and let's connect. Okay now, next week,
we're gonna be switching gears a little bit, and we're
gonna be heading into bank account elevation.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
All right.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
I know some of you have been waiting, okay, because
we need.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
To talk about emotional spending. All right.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
You say you want financial freedom, but your money is
tied to your moods, Okay, and we're.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Gonna get into it.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
So until next time, stay grounded, stay elevated, and don't
let a temporary emotion wreck your permanent progress, all right,
And remember, until next time, your only limit is you
All the Self Elevated podcast when your host Movator and.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jessica just Cash Parker. The game.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Starts with ourselves and by learning, you hire versions our lives.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Your only limit is you.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to Self Elevated, your podcast
for elevating mind, body, spirit, business and them bank accounts.
I'm your host MS jess and today we're getting into
one of the most slept on tools in your elevation toolbox,
which is emotional discipline. All right, because listen, anybody can
(00:43):
talk about goals, motivation, or bossing up when life's going smooth,
but the real test is how you respond when you're
triggered when things don't go your way, you know, like
when someone tries you, or when you're tired, you're annoyed,
disappointed or even overwhelmed. Right, that's where emotional discipline kicks in.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
All right. Like a little sidebar, if.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Anyone's noticed last week there was not a new episode.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Why was that?
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Well, because basically my house was being worked on for
several days.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
I had two.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Bathrooms that needed redone and a window, including the window
which was in my studio room where I record these podcasts. Right,
so obviously I had an unplanned break happened, but I
didn't let it melt me down and freak out, like,
oh my god, I missed a week with that, Like
(01:41):
it just ruins everything. No life happens, And you know what,
I expect y'all to understand that for me, just as
well as you should understand it for you.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Right.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
So sometimes you just have to know when to be
in check and in control of your emotions around a
certain thing. Because I could have let it wind me
up to the point where I was super upset and
depressed or feeling like I failed or I didn't show
(02:12):
up where I needed to do my podcast, and like
just let it ruin my whole mood. But instead I
was like, you know what, life happens. It's okay, I understand,
and everyone else will too.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Rite. And the truth is.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Is that, like, you can't master your life if you
don't know how to master your emotions.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Right. So let's talk about how.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
We can respond to things instead of react right, regulate
instead of explode, and stay in alignment even when life
gets a little messy. All right, So what emotional what
is emotional discipline really?
Speaker 2 (02:50):
Right?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Emotional discipline isn't about suppressing how you feel.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Huh.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
It's about how you're honoring your emotions without letting them
run your life.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
It's not being emotionless, right, That would mean you're basically
not even fully living, because that is a main factor
of the human experience, right, emotions, all right? Or you know,
it's not ignoring your triggers and acting like they don't exist,
all right. And it's definitely not faking peace when you're
(03:24):
actually pissed off, all right. What it is is knowing
when to pause before you pop off, all right, and
making space between the trigger and the response, right fully
analyzing the scenario, okay. And it's also choosing your reaction
based on your values and not your impulses, all right,
(03:47):
because if you keep reacting based on your emotions, you're
going to keep sabotaging your elevation. And because success relationships, leadership, leadership,
and personal speace, personal peace, all right, it's all super important.
All of that depends on your ability to stay grounded
(04:10):
through the chaos.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
All right.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
So here are some signs that you might be lacking
emotional discipline, all right.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Let's be honest.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
You might think that you're just expressive or you're just passionate.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
I hear that a lot. Oh, I'm just passionate. Right,
But if any of.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
This sounds familiar, then you might need to tighten it up. Okay,
here's some red flags. You might say or post things
in anger and then regret it later, or you ghost
and shut down every time that you're feeling hurt.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Or maybe you keep making.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Emotional decisions like money, relationships and habits. You know, you
allow your decision making around those things be based in emotion,
Or you blow up easily and then you apologize too often.
Or maybe you replay the same mental drama in your
(05:10):
head over and over.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
You and you let it drain your energy.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
All right, does any of that sound familiar? It's no shame. Okay.
Awareness is the first step, all right, because you can't
fix what you don't name, all right.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
You can't change what.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
You don't acknowledge exists, right, So how do we strengthen
our emotional discipline. We're gonna talk about what it looks
like to build real emotional strength, right, not just control,
but actual self leadership.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
All right.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
The first thing is that you need to pause before
you react, all right. That five second breath can save you, your job,
your relationship, or maybe even your whole day.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
All right? Do I want to respond from ego or elevation?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
That's kind of what you should be asking yourself consciously
when you feel in a state of reaction, Right, do
you want to respond from your ego or from elevation?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And the next thing is to label the feeling. I'm like,
I'm not just mad, i feel unappreciated, or I'm not fine,
I'm overwhelmed and I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
All right.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Labeling is going to create clarity and it helps calm
the brain.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Right.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Or you can regulate with routines, all right, So move
your body, meditate, journal or just unplug yourself from all
electronics and social media and pretty much just everything when
your emotions are high, all right, Because discipline is easier
when your nervous system is stable. Okay, And choose long
(07:03):
term power over a short term release, all right, because
blowing up might feel really good in the moment, you know,
but peace feels better long term, right. I Mean, unless
you're one of those people that just truly thrive on
drama and negativity, then you know peace is always going
(07:26):
to outweigh that momentary relief when you just snap off
and fire off of somebody. Okay, so ask ask yourself,
will this reaction get me what I actually want?
Speaker 2 (07:40):
All right?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
And try to practice emotional boundaries all right, So that
means like, don't take on everyone else's energy, all right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Sometimes you got to know when and how.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
To protect your peace, like your life depends on it,
because honestly, in many ways it really does. And for me,
I'm I'm not now, nor have I ever been afraid
to cut anyone off to protect my peace. Like you
could be family, you could be a friend, you could
be you know, my partner, although thank god my partner now,
(08:16):
like he gives me so much peace, and I don't
ever really even have to think of, like how do
I protect my peace from my own partner? Like nobody
honestly should ever feel like they have to question that.
If you're in a relationship right now where you feel
like your peace is.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
You know, disturbed, and you're not.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
Safe mentally, emotionally, physically, then you need to learn to
set that boundary for yourself and get out of that
as soon as possible. And it might not always feel easy,
but I promise it's worth it.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
And so are you.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Okay, that's just a little side note, but anyway, move forward.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
We're gonna do some journal prompts that I'm gonna give
you because I want you.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
To be able to go deeper, all right.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I want you to throughout the week, sit down with
yourself and reflect on these three questions, all right. Question
one is what emotion do I struggle with the most
and how does it show up in my reactions? Question
two is what is a situation that I handled poorly
(09:30):
because I reacted too quickly? And question three is what
would emotional discipline look like for me in those same moments?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
All right?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
And remember right, freely and without judgment. Okay, give yourself
the complete truth. We're all real, unfiltered, all right. Don't
be afraid to be honest with yourself.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
All right.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
So also write these next things down. We're gonna get
into the affirmations.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Now. These are affirmations.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
I want you to say them three times each, three
times a day, okay, And you can do them every
day throughout the week, all of them, or you can
pick one and do one through the whole day each day. Right,
But write these down because you need to speak life
(10:26):
into your self control.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Right, So again, write these.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
Down and make sure you come back to these multiple
times because repetition is the key for it to embed
into your subconscious and how you think. Okay, So the
first one is I control my emotions. They do not
control me, and don't forget say them with me as
(10:55):
I go through them. Okay, I respond with will not impulse.
I am grounded, clear and powerful under pressure. I choose
(11:16):
peace over pettiness. I am emotionally disciplined and it shows
in my results. Okay, so say it, own it, embody it,
(11:36):
all right, that's what we own all twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Now, if this episode hit deep for y'all, please tag
me on socials at misjes Official, jmpm Pires or at
miss just CEO and let me know what resonated most.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
All right.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Also, please share this with someone who you think might
need a little emotional check in this week.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
All right.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
And if you want to be a guest on Self
Elevated or just ask me a question for the show,
or have any input on something that I've spoken about
on here, please send me an email at Iradio at
jmpampires dot com and let's connect. Okay now, next week,
we're gonna be switching gears a little bit, and we're
gonna be heading into bank account elevation.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
All right.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
I know some of you have been waiting, okay, because
we need.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
To talk about emotional spending. All right.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
You say you want financial freedom, but your money is
tied to your moods, Okay, and we're.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Gonna get into it.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
So until next time, stay grounded, stay elevated, and don't
let a temporary emotion wreck your permanent progress, all right,
And remember, until next time, your only limit is you
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