May 12, 2025 • 47 mins
trust, obligation, honesty, idolization, labor, loyalty
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Speaker 2 (01:18):
Well, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome to
an awesome segment of Setting It Straight with Miss Gray
and I have the most awesome co host on tonight,
and we're gonna get right into things, but we're gonna
have to pray. First, Father God, we just thank you,
We praise you for this day, Thank you for this
new week. Thank you for this new opportunity to shine
(01:39):
and to be in you, to prove of you that
of our loyalty and that our labor, our laboring will
not be in vain. We just thank you, Father God,
for everything that you've done for us, that you're going
to do for us.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
That even if.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
It's a quiet time. We just thank you for safety,
We thank you for we thank you for wisdom, we
thank you for health, we thank you for unconditional love.
We just thank you, Lord, and we give you praise. Now,
of course we all get behind the cross as you
do what you do best, and that set your captives free.
In the name of Jesus, we pray a man and
(02:16):
a man.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Well.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Good evening, good evening, Good evening again. Hey Tray from
around the way. And Jane, how's the weather up there?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
It's overcast. It's actually overcast. It was a little warmer today.
So I'm doing the show outside because I just wanted
to be, you know, just getting some natural vitamin D.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
I've been in a building all day, so I'm just
doing something a little different.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Nice, nice, Well, good for you, Good for you. Yeah,
we had, we got our rain. We're getting our rain
and everything. You know, I'm just asking God to a
moderation how we need it, you know, minus the thunderstorms.
And you know on what my power going out you
have to you have not because you asked not. So
I'm asking and pleading and saying, please Lord, you know
(03:05):
we need the rain the grass. But animals need the rain.
The flowers need the rain, and we thank you, you
know want we need the pollen to go away, so
that needs rain so it could be removed and dispersed
and released and all that kind of stuff. So we're
just thankful for that. I pray that those of you
who are mothers out there that you all had an
awesome weekend. I was just sharing with my co hosts
(03:27):
and with our producer engineer. My kids tricked me, going
to get me in the car and I've been celebrating,
been celebrating since Thursday, and it was really something, and
they convinced me. They were taking me horseback riding, and
I freaked out in the car and I'm like, no,
I can't do this. You can't do this to me. Mom.
(03:48):
It's on your vision board. No, it's not on my
vision board. I can tell you that right now. It's not.
I just talked about, you know that I had this picture.
I have this picture be full color. I had to
be about three, maybe four years old. I'm on to
back up a horse. I'm on a horse. Nobody told
me about the picture in his story of that, so
I just happened to commonly mention it, and all of
(04:10):
a sudden, my kids that gave them this bright idea
that I need to be on them. I need to
go horseback right. No I don't, No, I really don't,
you know. And so we get there and then fooling
me all the way and they're like, okay, mom, you
got to close your eyes like a little bit. I
take my glasses off because I really can't say I
closed my eyes. And they're like, oh, look at the
prow Look at the horses.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh they look so good.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Oh mom, I think that's gonna be your horse over
you know, it's brown and it's got this white stripe.
And no, it's not gonna be my horse because I'm
not getting on it, you know. And I'm like my
daughter's like, well, mom, we've already paid for us. Oh,
I'll give your money back. What you need. How much
was I'll give it to you right now. So we
pull it up and they're like, okay, they come Oh
they're coming over to the car. I said, they coming
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over to the car for what yank me out of here?
And you know, oh I was I panicked. I panicked
because I believe them. So we get out of They
get me out of the car and they walk me around.
I still got my eyes closed and they say, okay, mine,
you could look. I said, give him my glasses so
I can see. And it was Top Golf. I said, really, really, guys, really, well, Mom,
(05:12):
you said you want to this is another thing you
said you would like to try to golf. And I'm like,
I said, I'm not talking to none of y'all again.
This is gonna definitely impact your future Christmas and birthday gifts. Okay,
just want you to know that. And we get there
and it's on this top thing. And I don't know
if anybody's ever been to Top Golf. I don't want
to ruin anything if you're going to plan on going.
(05:33):
But whoever idea it was to create this event this
amusement was spot on because the other people that were
there were so intense that one lady, an elderly couple,
she had her glove on. She and they had to
be there for at least an hour before we got there.
They were there once we left. They take this really.
(05:54):
Another guy comes in and he's got shorts on, he's
put his glove on, he's got his own clubs like
he really take this serious. And I'm like, wow, so great.
You know, kudos to whoever created this idea of an amusement,
because there are people who are And then I said,
I'm sure it's because they can't membership at a golf club.
(06:17):
So stuff like that. And you know, going through that house,
all you have to do is rs VP and show up,
just show up. And it was nice. The food was nice,
hand heels, all kinds of stuff. So we you know,
I just I sprung for the food. I said, okay,
let's you know, my daughter's sprung for the food. Do
themm what are you gonna want? I'm looking at the menu.
We had a great server. The name was Zach. It
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was it was really nice. So I bet I get
up to take a to choose a club. Never been
golfing in my life, so I said, well this says
about my height. Okay, so I'm gonna take this one.
And as I'm standing there trying to adjust the club
and I could only do that on my right because
I only got my right hand, I'm like, okay, this
(07:01):
is not I don't know why I'm feeling. And I
froze because all of a sudden, my unforgiving, unrelentless, subconscious
took me back to the sixth grade. Sixth grade, we
were playing softball for PE, and I have had the
bad habit. I developed it out of nowhere. When I
(07:22):
would swing the bat, I would throw it behind me. So, okay,
hey Mickey, yes it was. But I would throw the
back and my coach, my PE teacher would yell at me,
I told you how to be throwing that, and I
would freeze up. So softball, baseball, you will never see
me do. I won't even go to a game because
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I didn't even know that that. I was technically traumatized
because I don't know why I would throw the back.
It's just so that brought that sensation, that memory, because
I'm like, if I, if I hit the ball, I'm
gonna let the club go too. And I'm like, I
(08:04):
froze somebody. We all three of my kids got up.
I was like, Mom, what's wrong. What's wrong? I said,
I'm just having a minute, give me a minute, and
I'm talking to Jesus. I'm really like, okay, okay, this
is not a baseball and I could drop. All I
need to do is hold on. Let me just put
it and let it just get off of here, and
I'm gonna sit down. I gotta sit down. I'm telling you.
The nerves and the anxiety and the panic came rushing back.
(08:29):
So before I hit the ball, I said, Father God,
right now, I forgive mister Jones. I forgive my classmates
for laughing at me and yelling at me. I forgive
them all. I forgive them all my body, calm down,
calm down in Jesus' name. And all I did was
just hit it a little bit and that was it.
I put I got off the little thing, and I
(08:51):
took and my son, my oldest SidD he took the
club by my and put the club and I was
writ and sat down and they're looking at me like
I said, no, y'all, go play. You know, I had
to play it all. You know, I didn't want to
make that a down moment. But I'm sitting there like,
oh my god, oh wow. So those those that that
That's why I've told you the subconscious is the most
nastiest of our and ego. It's nasty because I mean
(09:15):
I literally froze, and thank god, nobody was really you know,
looking at me or anything. But you know, the kids
kind of panicked because they were like, mom, what's wrong.
And I had to talk talk to them, said oh okay,
I'm okay, give me a minute. Just give me a minute.
And later in the car, I told him what happened
and why they had happened. But I had to forgive
all of those people. So you know, there's still forgiveness
(09:36):
out there. You got to forgive. I've forgotten about it
until that moment. Literally, anytime I've talked about my elementary
school years of going from a predominantly black school to
a predominantly white school, going into the religion of Catholicism
and all that, I never talk about that softball situation.
And anytime we had to go out and replace It's
(09:58):
like he picked at me play the softball, so all
I would do is blunt and just run and drop
the bat in front of me on purpose. But I'm
not even thinking about hitting the ball. I'm thinking about
dropping the bat. So we you know, so we have
some little nooks and crannies that stay stuck. The underneath
behind the pancrea is underneath the spleen, and we don't
(10:19):
know about it until you're in a moment that it
comes rushing back when it really freezes you because you're like, oh,
what if I throw this club? What if I throw
this club, you know, and try to get my handles.
So it took that. It was fun watching everyone at
Father's Day for Top Golf, Okay, say he said, Okay,
(10:40):
do you feel that you have come to a better
place with that memory? Yes? I didn't realize it was hidden, Misty,
it was still there. I had no idea, you know.
And then you know, again I had to forgive the people.
Once I forgave, I was like, Okay, I took the power.
I took that sting of anxiety and panic and being frozen.
(11:00):
I took the thing out of it. And I'm aware.
I'm aware, you know, I'm aware. I'm not I won't
go to Top Gold. I will go with the kids,
you know, and just have fun. I'll spring for all
the food so we could just you know, be laughing
and stuff. And they were so kind at the end.
They said, well, we're gonna do this for mom, so
Mom will take your chance, your turn every time. So
(11:23):
they I ended up with. They ended up getting sixty
seven points for me, you know, because they were hitting
it and doing really good. So you know it's I said,
oh wait till Monday night and I got to share
this thing. Boy Jesus, oh Lord, it's hard out here,
you know, but you know, I'm just thankful. I'm just
thankful that I could I had. It had to come up,
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it had to come up, and I'm very honored with that.
So yeah, and then that spurred another thing. My publisher.
I'm thinking that I'm good to go, and any day
now they're going to be sending me the original, my
first original copy of the new book. And the Lord
told me on Thursday, I think you need to call them.
(12:07):
I said, oh okay, And I said, so I called,
and I'm getting this other person and she goes, oh, no,
well that person she's off. But let me look up
your account. She says, no, we are handing you. You're
in the production stage. You're in the editing, the final
editing stage. And I'm like, well, I thought I did that.
She goes, yeah, but they sent you an email and
you have to respond to the email, and you didn't respond.
(12:28):
And I'm like, no, I died, I'm rushing. I'm going
through my email. I said, I didn't get it. She said, well,
that person. This is the new person, and I'm going
to handle her off to you. I'm already sending her
an email now to send that back to you, and
blah blah blah. The young lady a few hours later
called me. And that's why I love Zulan, my publishing company,
because they are hands on, They are right there, and
(12:49):
that team locks in. Everybody knows every stage of where
your project is, your manuscript is, and anybody can answer
the question, but they don't step on toes. No, no, no,
this is you know, you know, uh, Person number D
has to take it. Take it will take you from here,
and I've always loved that. Now there are other ways
(13:10):
you can publish your material through Amazon and all that
good stuff, which will be less, less expensive and all that,
but I don't know how much hands on you'll get
with a human person on the phone with you, willing
to do a zoom with you, willing to walk you
through whatever you need to. And I've always had that
with these folks, so I'm thankful. But we took my
(13:30):
father in law the Top Golf a Father's Day one year.
We had a blast. It was fun. It is hey, Charles,
and yeah, I mean it's great. Everybody was laughing and
nobody was fussing, and nobody was picking at each other
and people, you know, I was watching everybody else balls
go and I'm looking at the thing. You know, you
have to learn everything, and I'm like, wow, you know,
it's a fun it's the greatest amusement opportunity. And people,
(13:53):
like I said, people take it real serious and it's
a good thing, you know about it. Yeah, it's height
so it's up there, and that you you on the
bottom flour you know, and stuff, so it's protected and
it's nice and it's cozy, you know. And and uh,
I was like, okay, yeah, this is it was an idea.
So I have to be careful what I tell my
(14:15):
children because I don't know what they will plan for
me next year. So here we go. But you know,
but getting back to the book, the young lady said,
I'm going to send you an email, and what you
need to do is this is your this is the
last revision. We're gonna ask from your editing. We're gonna
ask from you once we do this. And then I asked,
(14:35):
what the next steps you go? Next steps you go
right to printing. So it's already in the Library of Congress.
It's already got ITB in number and they've already done
all of that, so that's kind of cute.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Excuse me.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
And it was just like, okay, And what started off
was Wednesday, we went to do our photo shoot for
the FA our family photo shoot. That was my Mother's
Day gift to myself. I wanted a photo shoot of
all of us, including my dog, and they came out
really nice. We were in jeans and a white blouse
and a white T shirt or white shirts and it
was really nice. So that's gonna be Christmas card stuff. Okay,
(15:10):
there we go. Text you that and the picture Merry Christmas,
Happy New Year, be safe. This I saw you getting
for me, and I said the photo. I got about
fifty of them, so hallelujah, thank you Jesus that you
didn't even notice the dog laying Now, I'm like, there's
a dog laying there, you know, But that was funny.
(15:33):
But yeah, So now even though I've got all this attention,
even though I've got all of this, okay, now I
got to do this, I was still hesitant. And then
I had to put in my mind, Okay, I've got
the schedule because I've got to sit normally. Even when
I used to review grants, or if you have a
manuscript you wanted me to take a look at, or
(15:53):
a paper or whatever, I have to print it. I
would have to print it even before this happened to
me and highlighted and stuff like that. That's how I
review stuff. But this time was with me. I said,
you know what I'm gonna flesh, I'm gonna do something
a little different because I blame my flesh. My flesh
wanted to put up barriers. Oh, we don't have to
do that. You could do that, you know, but I
promised the young lady. I said, no, you have my word.
(16:15):
When you come in to work Monday, you will have
my revisions in your email. I've got to stay on
track with this, you know. So and my flesh was like, no,
I just you know, you got a couple of hours.
You can do it in the afternoon. It's getting ready
to storm. And so I got up my gospel music
and I went there and they sent you on a
(16:35):
form where you can make a correction. So one column
is the page number, second column is the line that
the bird. The comments are on the wording is on
what's the incorrect way? What's the correct way? And then
you also have a little bar for a miscellaneous additional comment.
So I have to go through. I had to read,
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and I did it on my I did it, and
to get back at my flesh, I said, no, I'm
gonna do this a different way. And there are times
you've got to use reverse psychology on yourself because you
could talk yourself by the stuff. You really could, and
you'll come up and you'll sound very reasonable. That's why
when you're listening for the voice of God, one of
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those voices is yours. One of those voices is yours.
So that's what I did. And then I'm going through
and I'm like, oh my god, why did I put
that in there? I took like three sentences out, you know,
and I'm like, oh my god, what was I trying to?
And I realized, here we go, I as you think,
I speak, as I come up in my head, I speak,
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and then I noted as I come up in my head,
I write that. So when I was dictating the book,
I'm just going not not revising nothing anything, because I
will do the revisions later. But I'm looking Saturday, why
did I put that in there like, oh my God,
and I said, these people are gonna be like, oh,
here should go taking out all this, I mean three
sentences this is you know, and corrected it and everything
(18:02):
and hoping that they you know, and I was I
did it all online and I used to correct and
I went back to the sheet the form, and I
was able to, you know, put the line I made.
I made a manual copy and then I put it
the information. And once I went back, I said, Lord
and my family. She said, you are feelished one hundred
over about one hundred pages in this book. And I said,
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thank you God, because I really it's a book that
the chapters are going to take you almost day by
day of what I experienced, not nearly ninety seven days
of it. Well, it's funny because it's one hundred pages.
But I was in the hot, you know, beat at
the house. But there were things I didn't leave out,
you know, because it wasn't necessary. It wasn't necessary, and
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I didn't want it to take away from the whole
essence of the book and things. So I feel that
you're going to feel it. The publishing team have already
who've gone through it or already, like we can't even imagine,
we can't a man that. So God is good. But
you gotta check yourself. You gotta check your flesh. You
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gotta There are times you don't want to do stuff,
you don't want to be. You know, you just you don't,
you know, and you're human and it's okay, but you
gotta if it's important, you got the course correct, they've
got to jump back on, knock it right out, call
it a day, change things up, whatever you have to
do so that you get it done, So that you
get it done. Tonight, we're talking about labor and loyalty.
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And loyalty took a totally different term from me because
you know, well, of course we're thinking about people who
are loyal to you, people relationships, promises, And I looked
up the words another other words that symbolizes loyalty, adhesion, allegiance, attachment, commitment, constancy, dedication, devotedness, faith, faith, faithfulness, vastness, fidelity, hiet, steadfastness,
(20:04):
and troth. And the opposite of that is faith lessness, disloyalty, falseness, falsity, inconsistency, infidelity, treachery, unfaithfulness.
So that is going to be your homework. I want
you to look up those other words that define define yeah,
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define loyalty, and buy some scriptures. Buy some scriptures, because
even as I'm I I was looking back at the
title over the weekend, all I could do was stop
and just say, God, you have always been loyal, You've
always been faithful. He'll never let you down. And if
he has to correct you, trust me, it's for your
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good because you come out better, you come out feeling better.
You don't realize he knows everything. It's like, why did
you know that he knows everything even though you're still
working on your relationship ship with him. So but anything, Trey,
you want to come in on this for a minute
before I go to loyalty, I mean labor.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
Yeah, but with the loyalty, and I just find him
just loyal, you know. The closer I get to him
and he.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Just shows me different things.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
It's still some things that I need to be more
in tune too. But I tell you, just just trusting
and believing in him, and you know, praying to him
that he knows exactly what you.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Need when you need it. Can you share the assignment?
I can? Please?
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Yeah, look up loyalty and look at synonyms for other
words that identify loyalty, and look, you know, find a
couple of verses in the Bible about loyalty, dedication, faithfulness,
and uh, just use that's just for your own study
so that you can understand and you could grasp Okay,
(22:00):
I am loyal in a sense. Notice how loyalty did
not include obligations. Did say one word about it that
you're obliged. They did talk.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
About if people need to learn that a lot of
people need to learn that a lot of people need
to learn that. The difference between that, you know, I
think that's where people get caught up in it and.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
You get stuck. You get stuck because you're doing the
right thing. No, And it made me, It helped me
to think also this weekend, like you know, those who
have been loyal to me have been honorable, they've been honest,
they've been truthful. Also, there people who gave their word
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or said something to try to encourage you or whatever,
and it was a lie. It was just to tell
you just to get themselves. They could back out of something.
You know, well, I'm gonna call you want to know
I get I didn't get calls on on Mother's Day
like that. I got nice you know, text messages and
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thank you all for that. But those who said, oh,
you know, I'm gonna keep in touch and all that nothing,
And I don't have to hold my breath to anything
people say, I don't. I won't even give it a
thought until it comes and it goes. They comes and
it goes, and oh wow, Okay, well they didn't call
me good. They're out of my life. Now we're good.
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You're done, and it's a rap and it's open. I'm
not mad. So you can stop lying because that's being
held against you if you say you're a Christian person.
You know, let me go to labor for a minute
and just see what that has to tell us here.
Let's see, Well, it's got several definitions, but to labor
(23:50):
expenditure of physical or mental effort, especially when difficult on
compulsor compulsory. It's like, okay, you have to do hard labor?
Is that the one is the services performed by workers
for wages blah blah. That's that's working and human activity
that provides the goods of services in the economy. That's labor.
Physical activities involved in giving birth. Labor you know nine months,
(24:14):
we know about that workers group considered. Okay, so let
me see if I can get down to some synonyms
here to exert one's power of body or mind, especially
with painful or strenuous effort. So that's work, to move
with great effort, to suffer some from some disadvantages or distress,
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and of course giving birth and all this synonyms affair, fruit, handiwork, output, produce,
produce product, product, product production, thing, work and yield. Indulge
some people if some of it says hustle plow, you know,
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to strive, to struggle in some cases into work. The
opposite of that is fun and play. You're not doing
any labor. You're enjoying yourself too, That's all it said.
So when anyway, God is good and you don't want
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your laboring, you're trying to you know, you're taking the
hit because of your belief and you're trying to believe
in God and you're trying to you know, you you know,
it's a struggle sometimes that's real. It is a struggle
because you've got to discipline yourself. You've got to study
your word. And I ran across the song in my
(25:39):
memory section on Facebook with this choir, the single layers,
everything is mine. And he was talking about everything he got, promised,
everything he wrote in the word, everything he's ever spoken,
it's mine. And as I'm listening to the song, I said,
the saddest thing is people don't know the Bible. They
don't know the problems, they don't know nothing about covenant,
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so they don't know what they're missing. But it's mine.
God said, I've got this all for you all. Ye
that what labor, all, Ye that labor, all, ye that
put effort in, got this for you and you can't
earn it. No better way than to make sure that
you are doing everything in your power to get to
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know God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. And the only
best way you could do it is through his word.
A lot of songs that you hear singing came out
of the Bible. You know, this little light of mind, God,
I feel no ways tired. It's all mine, you know,
just they came out of the Bible, Our Father, hel Mary,
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you know it came out of that. So I want
to encourage you. We want to encourage you all. Just
don't give up, and you never stop. That's the beautiful
thing about it. You never stop yearn for God. Get
up with the expectation that I know I don't need anything.
I don't need anything, but I know today He's going
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to give me enough the opportunity to do and make
a difference. It was a phone call today to check
on something else, and here we go. I'm on the
phone with this person and they're like, what are you doing?
I know social work, I know what social workers do,
but how do you separate when you're meeting with a client.
And then I went into all of that and what
I explained in my experience and then what I've been through,
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and I said, and this person asked me, what's been
your greatest achievement in social work? I said, to advocate
for myself. Here for myself and teach along the way.
Social work teaches along the way as well to the recipient,
to the client, to the audience, to the supervisor, to
the team. We teach along the way as well.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
You know.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
But I thought about I talked about God, and I
was free to talk about God to this person that
saif they were a person of faith or anything. They
allowed that door to come open and we went on
in and they could say I could tell you a
woman of faith, and I said, yeah, that's all. That's
that's all I need to be remembered as one day,
one time, and Trey, you had to get on in here.
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I was driving and I just dropped the twins off
to daycare. And as I'm coming back, this car came
out of this lane. And I think I've shared this
on the on the show before this car came and
he was coming. He jumped out of the turning lane
opposite turning lane, and he said, my lane coming at me.
And all I can say is for God I live,
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and for God I died. And he actually just went
over the bumper and stuff and went into another thing,
so I know it was an angel's pushing the car.
And so I got home and I only knew about
three or four people that were at home during the
day during that time. So I called him. I said,
if I were to die tomorrow, if I was to
die today, what would be your memory of me? They're like, what? What?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
What? Everything?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
All right, everything's fine. Just answer the question what would
be your memory? And don't think about it too long?
But what would be your memory of me? And I
wasn't as deep as I am now. Wasn't as deep spiritually.
But I was on my journey and I was running.
And that person said, well, of course your belief in God,
you know your relationship with God. Call another person. I said,
what would be your memory of me? Oh? My god,
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I'm just just knowing that you you know, you are
living epistol for God. Your faith is just it exudes.
Called the third person, and they said the same thing.
So I said, okay, see Satan, I said, for God
I live and for God I die. So let me
tell you the next time you want to get your
little fools to try to come for me, even if
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I die, my legacy is in place, and the legacy
is the Lord is God. And I tell people, don't
if something happens to me, don't you be mad at God.
Just be happy for me. I made it in because
you know I'm heaven boy. But there are times You've
got to talk to the atmosphere and say, no, I'm
not gonna be moved like this. I'm not gonna be
swayed like this. I'm not going there like this. You
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can't move me. He took. When Jesus died on the cross,
he hung his head and he said his last thing
he said, Father, forgive them, for they know not what
they do. And the second to that, and the last
thing he said, into your hands, I commend my spirit.
And but on his way in between he went to
hell and grabbed the keys of death, and he took
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the sting out of death and the pain out of
hell or dying, death and dying, and then he went
on to heaven. Then he came back and showed himself
to some of his disciples. He took the sting out
of death. So that's why when death do come now,
I don't talk about a lot of people right now
talking about going to heaven and dying because they are
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tired of this world. And I get it, they are tired.
I mean it can make you like, oh, how much more?
But there's some other promises out there that I want
to live and be a part of. Even after despite
the darkness that's on the earth, despite the turbula, it's
despite the hate, despite everything, all the negativism, the inflation,
all this stuff coming out, there's still there's something on
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the other side of that. I will always remember you
teaching us how it feels to do and look out
for others. You made a change in us. Thank you, missy,
thank you, thank you and see us. That's why I say,
how did it feel when you did it? When you
did it? Did it feel? And that stage of feelings
will stay with you longer, just as long as a memory.
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And just to show that you can do it, go ahead.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
One thing that it stands out, you know what one
one phrase made the work I've done speak for me.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
So you know, I know when I leave this.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Earth that hopefully I have made a difference, made a
difference somewhere.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
You know, I believe I have. But you sometimes you
never know how you impact people.
Speaker 4 (31:51):
But you know, I know there have a lot of
people that have impacted me or or influenced me. And
I'm not saying all of it was positive. It was
a lot of positive, but there was some negative too
that helped to help me to grow and to discern
what types of persons that I'm dealing with.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
And so people will show you who they are. They
don't have to tell you. You around the s they'll definitely
yeah I know, and they'll show you who they are.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
So but I'm very fortunate and I feel very blessed
to have a strong support, a circle of support.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
In my life.
Speaker 4 (32:28):
That's by blood with you know, without blood. You know,
the relationships that have built, you know, the show.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
You know, look look at what you know, rebel.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
You.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Pastor you know the followers that are.
Speaker 4 (32:44):
Aren't they're part of our you know, our life on
on on life, you know, the streaming, and so it's
just great.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
It's just a great feeling to me to be able to.
Speaker 4 (32:56):
Get the feedback on you know, how we're doing and
what we have done, because I think that's what God
wants us to do. I don't think He's purposed us
to just sit here and do nothing and only think
about ourselves. And sometimes when you take yourself out of it,
or when I take myself out of it and say
what can I do for others? That is one of
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the biggest joys that I get, because if I'm doing
for someone else, it's telling me to recognize my capabilities,
my passion.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
You know. It's just it's a good feeling. I tell you,
it's like a natural high off with me.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
And you know, something happened today, you know, got a
new client, new family, and it was just great to
see how the parent felt leaving their loved one with
you know, with me, and so you know small to me,
it might be small, but to the families and people
that it could be branded field grandiose. But I love
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this this field of human services feel with which is
very broad.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
It could be anything. And I think I've been across
the board.
Speaker 4 (34:04):
You know homeless women, you know women of master violence,
you know youth groups, you know mental health. It's just
so many things that you can do in this particular feeling,
and I just love it.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
And I you know, thank God that I.
Speaker 4 (34:20):
Have found my way or find my niche or found
my one of the purposes.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
And I know God may have some other stuff for
me to do.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
So I'm trying to learn to listen and to understand
who is talking, you know.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
As in me, was it him or something else?
Speaker 4 (34:36):
And you know, and I know he's not going to
push me to do something that's going to be harmful
to myself or not better man for him, for me,
and not in what he would have me do. So
it's a learning process. But you know, I'm loving to learn.
And it's definitely a different feeling. It's definitely a different feeling,
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and you.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Got to want to change. Guys. I'm not We're not
gonna keep talking about it over and over and over again.
You gotta want the change. You got to be fed up,
and that's usually when you've hit that bottom, whatever your
bottom is. I was watching his sister wise. I know,
y'all gonna freak out like you watch that. I don't
know why God had me to watch it. I'm like,
oh God, another here we go, you know, And I'm
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watching this, this whole thing. You know, I'm not about
a polygamy and all that kind of nonsense. And I
don't know if anybody watches the show, but one of
the children take their life. And so I'm sitting there watching.
They're doing cameos of everybody, and you. They admit it.
They knew he had a problem.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
They admit it.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
They thought he had a handle on it. They okay,
in a stage, you know what you're talking about. They
admitted all this. And I'm still waiting. Why did you
leave him alone? Why did you leave him alone? He
started back on stuff? Why did you leave him alone?
One then you say, okay, all of us, we got you. Okay,
you're going there for help, and you have to stay here,
and we're gonna monitor you. We're gonna make sure, because
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we love you that much. Oh, you could tell me
it was a great person. But why didn't you stay
on him? He cried loud enough. I didn't watch it serious,
you know, every every day and all that, every time
you air, But it was just crucial times that he
would let me. It just happened to be on it.
Nothing else is on but the news. Oh and I'm like, what, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (36:20):
I think too, Maybe from your standpoint, he says, it's
the social work side, because let's, let's face it, in
the work that more so, maybe in the work that
you do, the therapy pieces.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
You said, well, we watched the show.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Half behind him he passed twenty three four. Okay, all right, Charles,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
But I think the social work piece because you're always
working with people and they're you're likely to and you're
likely to encounter someone in similar situations. So I think too,
it's a learning try to grasp some of it. Reality TV,
you know, some stuff is probably real, some stuff has probably.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
Make sure you know the ratings, and there's so many
out there.
Speaker 4 (37:09):
That's like even with Facebook sometimes I just follow stuff
just to see where people.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
What are they thinking, what are they doing, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (37:15):
In life because who knows, God might purpose me to
make a difference or impact in that particular area.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
Now.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
I don't do a whole lot of reality shows.
Speaker 4 (37:26):
You know how.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
You know they're out there.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
But when it gets the fussing and the fighting and
the I can't take my mind there. It's too much
and I don't want it to be bogged on my
mind to be bogged down with stuff that. Yeah, I
just can't there. And I know it's a lot of entertainment.
I've seen it, said why are they doing this?
Speaker 3 (37:51):
You know what? Why?
Speaker 4 (37:53):
But unfortunately a lot of that happens right there in
real life. And I think when people see that, they
are soociate their lives with that.
Speaker 3 (38:02):
This is what it's supposed to.
Speaker 4 (38:03):
Be to be, uh, a person in business or a
person in color of business, or a person that's doing this.
You're supposed to look this way, you're supposed to act
that way. And you know, and I'm thinking, oh my gosh,
really it's just too much for me. I can't do
all that yelling, fussing, fighting. When I see reels and
I see people taping, I said, oh, why are they
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doing that? Because there's so much stuff behind that people
now think you you actually become a witness when you
start taping things. And and I just want to kind
of put this when you when when I start putting
things out like this, when someone is fighting and you're you're, you're,
you're just wailing when they're doing people are taping stuff
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happens blows, you can you can bleed internally, you can
hear someone in the head where they develop a swelling,
and and and then you want to say, well, if
something should happen, God forbid, something happens that person that
go to the hospital, it's an assault when they go
to the hospital, but if they pass away, it becomes manslaughter.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
Think about that.
Speaker 4 (39:09):
You you have to be you have to be very
mindful and and so just to think that you're just
gonna fight and this is gonna happen and.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
You're gonna walk it out.
Speaker 4 (39:19):
You can do internal damage doing this stuff. And people
that are taping it, they can subpoena.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
They can subpoena because of your witness to it.
Speaker 4 (39:31):
And so when you're hyping it up, and let's face it,
when people are hyped up, just like when.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
You're in a.
Speaker 4 (39:37):
Race and you're running or you're in it and people
are calling your name and you're hyped up. You go stronger,
right because you want to win this race, and you
got people.
Speaker 3 (39:46):
Back in your up.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
It's the same mentality with fighting. You're hearing people are
hyping you up. Come on, you can do this, and
the more they yell to do that, the more intense
to fight.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
You know, I'm not trying to families. I've spoken to him.
Speaker 4 (40:01):
When you are arguing, When you're arguing with this person,
they raise your voice, yours goes a little higher. And
then when yours goes higher, what do you think the
other person is going to go higher?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
So it intensifies, and.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
So people don't people don't under understand their thought and
the concept of the consequences for some things like that,
and you get.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
Too much all it back, you get so riled up,
and that adrenaline gets to going. I ain't mean to
cut you off, but yeah, I'm not. I've watched people
just go straight up and I'm like, you don't even
and they can't. They can't even here, they can't even hear.
They can't. But going back to the show, one thing
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that just really surprised me and made me have to
go back and think apparently he was having issues from
twenty twenty when the world shut down, and that's when
they noticed some things. The bay that pass served in
the US military. It was sad to hear happened. He
was young. Yeah, oh yeah, yes, right, he did serve
in the military. That got me. I was like, wait
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a minute. But the fact that they related went back
to said that you know, he's been having this, you know,
since twenty twenty. And I'm like, since the world shut down.
Then I started thinking about the people who did hurt
themselves during that time and since that time, and people
are still reeling from that. We're in twenty twenty down.
Speaker 4 (41:24):
Yeah, people that just don't know how to and plus
what to look for. It's almost like something creeping on
up on you.
Speaker 3 (41:33):
It's almost like eating and I use me.
Speaker 4 (41:36):
Sometimes you can just get to the point where how
do I get this big?
Speaker 3 (41:40):
Well, when you keep doing this.
Speaker 4 (41:41):
And doing it's subtle because you don't recognize it, and
then when it's there, it's like, Wow, how did I
get to this point? With the mental health, some people
don't know what to look for, you know, some people
don't understand it. And so the more you educate yourself
on and ironically we're talking about it because there's Mental
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Health Awareness Month. Look up some information for you, not
if nothing for anybody else, for yourself recognizing triggers. And
if you're feeling a certain way and it's lasting longer
or you never felt that way.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Please just get some help. Just talk to somebody.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
Just get some help, trusted person, something like that, you know,
because it can't.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
Sneak up on you.
Speaker 4 (42:24):
And the thing about with with with depression or whatever
it can you can do.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
It can just do the snap at one point you
just you know, I'm just tired of I'm just tired.
I'm just gonna go. Yeah, there's no way out, and
it's the only way I see.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
And again, people don't hurt themselves when they're at their lowest,
and when they're really depressed and they don't cry and
they crying and they don't hurt themselves. Then it's when
they're on an upbeat when they will be friendly with you.
They'll be on the phone with you. And and you know,
look at Anthony Bourdain, the famous food critic, just got
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the contract with Netflix, you know, just got the and
he's in the in the room and he goes in
his room with the family there, the lady who in
New York, the handbag designer goes in the room, the
family's there, and then so they they it's not when
they're really sad and cry and no, those are not
the times. The time is when okay, wait a minute now,
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they're pushing you off. Oh I'm okay, I'm gonna go
do this and do this, and you know, I'm gonna
call you back. I'll call you back a little later. No,
I'm gonna be on the phone where you at, where
you at, you know, what's going on, Just check in,
you know, because those those are those signs. And it's
hard to call it. But going back, circling back to
labor and and and and loyalty again, it's not obligation.
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It's not because just because it's not that. It's because I.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
Care for you.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
I want to do this. I believe this is my passion.
This is what I'm going to do. I enjoy, like
like Trey said, I enjoy doing this. I enjoy what
we enjoy. Our field of choice. It wasn't our choice.
Social work found me, you know, you know, I had
never heard of it. And then all of a sudden
I'm here, you know, I'm hearing about it, and I'm like, oh,
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that makes sense. I psyched, you know, major in psych
and so that's the study of the brain and the
human mind. And then his social work, which is you know, sociology,
social welfare, you know, societal issues and ills all combined
in one. So I've got the holistic approach, you know.
But still you got to find yourself in this. Let's
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let go of anything else. All that Uncle Joe used
to say to you on or and Kren used to say,
or cousin so on, all of that, You've got to
let that go. You forgive and forget those people. And
now today, let's take today. Let's take today and let
me I'm going forward to be the best person I am.
I am not I'm loyal to God. And with my
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loyalty to God, to Jesus Christ, and to the Holy Spirit,
he allows me to be loyal and faithful to those
who He's entrusted me to pray over or to be
a part of their life, or them to be a
part of my life. It's not me. I ain't looking
for friends. Don't mean to let you down, but I
ain't looking for him, I'm not. But if he tells me,
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I need you to this, Okay, I need you to
This is the role you'll be, you'll be, This is
what I need you to be doing this season. Okay,
I'm to listen. I'm to listen. I'm to calm down
because my daughter has to lead. We're starting training with
our baby and some intense training. So that means people
and they are all for all walks of life, and
so I wear my mask, but you can see my eyes. Okay,
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I'm like, you know, I have to calm it down
that this is for jazz, not for me. Oh no, no, no,
no no. Anyway, We're gonna let you go on that note,
do some homework, look up those scriptures because you know
that define loyalty. That that's just for yourself. We're gonna
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see you next week. Pasta should be with us, I'm
not sure, but I know he's having a fun time
with his wife. But anyway, you all be blessed, be safe,
be intentional. Amen. We'll see you next week, same time,
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Speaker 2 (01:18):
Well, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome to
an awesome segment of Setting It Straight with Miss Gray
and I have the most awesome co host on tonight,
and we're gonna get right into things, but we're gonna
have to pray. First, Father God, we just thank you,
We praise you for this day, Thank you for this
new week. Thank you for this new opportunity to shine
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and to be in you, to prove of you that
of our loyalty and that our labor, our laboring will
not be in vain. We just thank you, Father God,
for everything that you've done for us, that you're going
to do for us.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
That even if.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
It's a quiet time. We just thank you for safety,
We thank you for we thank you for wisdom, we
thank you for health, we thank you for unconditional love.
We just thank you, Lord, and we give you praise. Now,
of course we all get behind the cross as you
do what you do best, and that set your captives free.
In the name of Jesus, we pray a man and
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a man.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Well.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Good evening, good evening, Good evening again. Hey Tray from
around the way. And Jane, how's the weather up there?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
It's overcast. It's actually overcast. It was a little warmer today.
So I'm doing the show outside because I just wanted
to be, you know, just getting some natural vitamin D.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
I've been in a building all day, so I'm just
doing something a little different.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Nice, nice, Well, good for you, Good for you. Yeah,
we had, we got our rain. We're getting our rain
and everything. You know, I'm just asking God to a
moderation how we need it, you know, minus the thunderstorms.
And you know on what my power going out you
have to you have not because you asked not. So
I'm asking and pleading and saying, please Lord, you know
(03:05):
we need the rain the grass. But animals need the rain.
The flowers need the rain, and we thank you, you
know want we need the pollen to go away, so
that needs rain so it could be removed and dispersed
and released and all that kind of stuff. So we're
just thankful for that. I pray that those of you
who are mothers out there that you all had an
awesome weekend. I was just sharing with my co hosts
(03:27):
and with our producer engineer. My kids tricked me, going
to get me in the car and I've been celebrating,
been celebrating since Thursday, and it was really something, and
they convinced me. They were taking me horseback riding, and
I freaked out in the car and I'm like, no,
I can't do this. You can't do this to me. Mom.
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It's on your vision board. No, it's not on my
vision board. I can tell you that right now. It's not.
I just talked about, you know that I had this picture.
I have this picture be full color. I had to
be about three, maybe four years old. I'm on to
back up a horse. I'm on a horse. Nobody told
me about the picture in his story of that, so
I just happened to commonly mention it, and all of
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a sudden, my kids that gave them this bright idea
that I need to be on them. I need to
go horseback right. No I don't, No, I really don't,
you know. And so we get there and then fooling
me all the way and they're like, okay, mom, you
got to close your eyes like a little bit. I
take my glasses off because I really can't say I
closed my eyes. And they're like, oh, look at the
prow Look at the horses.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh they look so good.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Oh mom, I think that's gonna be your horse over
you know, it's brown and it's got this white stripe.
And no, it's not gonna be my horse because I'm
not getting on it, you know. And I'm like my
daughter's like, well, mom, we've already paid for us. Oh,
I'll give your money back. What you need. How much
was I'll give it to you right now. So we
pull it up and they're like, okay, they come Oh
they're coming over to the car. I said, they coming
(04:51):
over to the car for what yank me out of here?
And you know, oh I was I panicked. I panicked
because I believe them. So we get out of They
get me out of the car and they walk me around.
I still got my eyes closed and they say, okay, mine,
you could look. I said, give him my glasses so
I can see. And it was Top Golf. I said, really, really, guys, really, well, Mom,
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you said you want to this is another thing you
said you would like to try to golf. And I'm like,
I said, I'm not talking to none of y'all again.
This is gonna definitely impact your future Christmas and birthday gifts. Okay,
just want you to know that. And we get there
and it's on this top thing. And I don't know
if anybody's ever been to Top Golf. I don't want
to ruin anything if you're going to plan on going.
(05:33):
But whoever idea it was to create this event this
amusement was spot on because the other people that were
there were so intense that one lady, an elderly couple,
she had her glove on. She and they had to
be there for at least an hour before we got there.
They were there once we left. They take this really.
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Another guy comes in and he's got shorts on, he's
put his glove on, he's got his own clubs like
he really take this serious. And I'm like, wow, so great.
You know, kudos to whoever created this idea of an amusement,
because there are people who are And then I said,
I'm sure it's because they can't membership at a golf club.
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So stuff like that. And you know, going through that house,
all you have to do is rs VP and show up,
just show up. And it was nice. The food was nice,
hand heels, all kinds of stuff. So we you know,
I just I sprung for the food. I said, okay,
let's you know, my daughter's sprung for the food. Do
themm what are you gonna want? I'm looking at the menu.
We had a great server. The name was Zach. It
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was it was really nice. So I bet I get
up to take a to choose a club. Never been
golfing in my life, so I said, well this says
about my height. Okay, so I'm gonna take this one.
And as I'm standing there trying to adjust the club
and I could only do that on my right because
I only got my right hand, I'm like, okay, this
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is not I don't know why I'm feeling. And I
froze because all of a sudden, my unforgiving, unrelentless, subconscious
took me back to the sixth grade. Sixth grade, we
were playing softball for PE, and I have had the
bad habit. I developed it out of nowhere. When I
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would swing the bat, I would throw it behind me. So, okay,
hey Mickey, yes it was. But I would throw the
back and my coach, my PE teacher would yell at me,
I told you how to be throwing that, and I
would freeze up. So softball, baseball, you will never see
me do. I won't even go to a game because
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I didn't even know that that. I was technically traumatized
because I don't know why I would throw the back.
It's just so that brought that sensation, that memory, because
I'm like, if I, if I hit the ball, I'm
gonna let the club go too. And I'm like, I
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froze somebody. We all three of my kids got up.
I was like, Mom, what's wrong. What's wrong? I said,
I'm just having a minute, give me a minute, and
I'm talking to Jesus. I'm really like, okay, okay, this
is not a baseball and I could drop. All I
need to do is hold on. Let me just put
it and let it just get off of here, and
I'm gonna sit down. I gotta sit down. I'm telling you.
The nerves and the anxiety and the panic came rushing back.
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So before I hit the ball, I said, Father God,
right now, I forgive mister Jones. I forgive my classmates
for laughing at me and yelling at me. I forgive
them all. I forgive them all my body, calm down,
calm down in Jesus' name. And all I did was
just hit it a little bit and that was it.
I put I got off the little thing, and I
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took and my son, my oldest SidD he took the
club by my and put the club and I was
writ and sat down and they're looking at me like
I said, no, y'all, go play. You know, I had
to play it all. You know, I didn't want to
make that a down moment. But I'm sitting there like,
oh my god, oh wow. So those those that that
That's why I've told you the subconscious is the most
nastiest of our and ego. It's nasty because I mean
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I literally froze, and thank god, nobody was really you know,
looking at me or anything. But you know, the kids
kind of panicked because they were like, mom, what's wrong.
And I had to talk talk to them, said oh okay,
I'm okay, give me a minute. Just give me a minute.
And later in the car, I told him what happened
and why they had happened. But I had to forgive
all of those people. So you know, there's still forgiveness
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out there. You got to forgive. I've forgotten about it
until that moment. Literally, anytime I've talked about my elementary
school years of going from a predominantly black school to
a predominantly white school, going into the religion of Catholicism
and all that, I never talk about that softball situation.
And anytime we had to go out and replace It's
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like he picked at me play the softball, so all
I would do is blunt and just run and drop
the bat in front of me on purpose. But I'm
not even thinking about hitting the ball. I'm thinking about
dropping the bat. So we you know, so we have
some little nooks and crannies that stay stuck. The underneath
behind the pancrea is underneath the spleen, and we don't
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know about it until you're in a moment that it
comes rushing back when it really freezes you because you're like, oh,
what if I throw this club? What if I throw
this club, you know, and try to get my handles.
So it took that. It was fun watching everyone at
Father's Day for Top Golf, Okay, say he said, Okay,
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do you feel that you have come to a better
place with that memory? Yes? I didn't realize it was hidden, Misty,
it was still there. I had no idea, you know.
And then you know, again I had to forgive the people.
Once I forgave, I was like, Okay, I took the power.
I took that sting of anxiety and panic and being frozen.
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I took the thing out of it. And I'm aware.
I'm aware, you know, I'm aware. I'm not I won't
go to Top Gold. I will go with the kids,
you know, and just have fun. I'll spring for all
the food so we could just you know, be laughing
and stuff. And they were so kind at the end.
They said, well, we're gonna do this for mom, so
Mom will take your chance, your turn every time. So
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they I ended up with. They ended up getting sixty
seven points for me, you know, because they were hitting
it and doing really good. So you know it's I said,
oh wait till Monday night and I got to share
this thing. Boy Jesus, oh Lord, it's hard out here,
you know, but you know, I'm just thankful. I'm just
thankful that I could I had. It had to come up,
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it had to come up, and I'm very honored with that.
So yeah, and then that spurred another thing. My publisher.
I'm thinking that I'm good to go, and any day
now they're going to be sending me the original, my
first original copy of the new book. And the Lord
told me on Thursday, I think you need to call them.
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I said, oh okay, And I said, so I called,
and I'm getting this other person and she goes, oh, no,
well that person she's off. But let me look up
your account. She says, no, we are handing you. You're
in the production stage. You're in the editing, the final
editing stage. And I'm like, well, I thought I did that.
She goes, yeah, but they sent you an email and
you have to respond to the email, and you didn't respond.
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And I'm like, no, I died, I'm rushing. I'm going
through my email. I said, I didn't get it. She said, well,
that person. This is the new person, and I'm going
to handle her off to you. I'm already sending her
an email now to send that back to you, and
blah blah blah. The young lady a few hours later
called me. And that's why I love Zulan, my publishing company,
because they are hands on, They are right there, and
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that team locks in. Everybody knows every stage of where
your project is, your manuscript is, and anybody can answer
the question, but they don't step on toes. No, no, no,
this is you know, you know, uh, Person number D
has to take it. Take it will take you from here,
and I've always loved that. Now there are other ways
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you can publish your material through Amazon and all that
good stuff, which will be less, less expensive and all that,
but I don't know how much hands on you'll get
with a human person on the phone with you, willing
to do a zoom with you, willing to walk you
through whatever you need to. And I've always had that
with these folks, so I'm thankful. But we took my
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father in law the Top Golf a Father's Day one year.
We had a blast. It was fun. It is hey, Charles,
and yeah, I mean it's great. Everybody was laughing and
nobody was fussing, and nobody was picking at each other
and people, you know, I was watching everybody else balls
go and I'm looking at the thing. You know, you
have to learn everything, and I'm like, wow, you know,
it's a fun it's the greatest amusement opportunity. And people,
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like I said, people take it real serious and it's
a good thing, you know about it. Yeah, it's height
so it's up there, and that you you on the
bottom flour you know, and stuff, so it's protected and
it's nice and it's cozy, you know. And and uh,
I was like, okay, yeah, this is it was an idea.
So I have to be careful what I tell my
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children because I don't know what they will plan for
me next year. So here we go. But you know,
but getting back to the book, the young lady said,
I'm going to send you an email, and what you
need to do is this is your this is the
last revision. We're gonna ask from your editing. We're gonna
ask from you once we do this. And then I asked,
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what the next steps you go? Next steps you go
right to printing. So it's already in the Library of Congress.
It's already got ITB in number and they've already done
all of that, so that's kind of cute.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Excuse me.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
And it was just like, okay, And what started off
was Wednesday, we went to do our photo shoot for
the FA our family photo shoot. That was my Mother's
Day gift to myself. I wanted a photo shoot of
all of us, including my dog, and they came out
really nice. We were in jeans and a white blouse
and a white T shirt or white shirts and it
was really nice. So that's gonna be Christmas card stuff. Okay,
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there we go. Text you that and the picture Merry Christmas,
Happy New Year, be safe. This I saw you getting
for me, and I said the photo. I got about
fifty of them, so hallelujah, thank you Jesus that you
didn't even notice the dog laying Now, I'm like, there's
a dog laying there, you know, But that was funny.
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But yeah, So now even though I've got all this attention,
even though I've got all of this, okay, now I
got to do this, I was still hesitant. And then
I had to put in my mind, Okay, I've got
the schedule because I've got to sit normally. Even when
I used to review grants, or if you have a
manuscript you wanted me to take a look at, or
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a paper or whatever, I have to print it. I
would have to print it even before this happened to
me and highlighted and stuff like that. That's how I
review stuff. But this time was with me. I said,
you know what I'm gonna flesh, I'm gonna do something
a little different because I blame my flesh. My flesh
wanted to put up barriers. Oh, we don't have to
do that. You could do that, you know, but I
promised the young lady. I said, no, you have my word.
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When you come in to work Monday, you will have
my revisions in your email. I've got to stay on
track with this, you know. So and my flesh was like, no,
I just you know, you got a couple of hours.
You can do it in the afternoon. It's getting ready
to storm. And so I got up my gospel music
and I went there and they sent you on a
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form where you can make a correction. So one column
is the page number, second column is the line that
the bird. The comments are on the wording is on
what's the incorrect way? What's the correct way? And then
you also have a little bar for a miscellaneous additional comment.
So I have to go through. I had to read,
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and I did it on my I did it, and
to get back at my flesh, I said, no, I'm
gonna do this a different way. And there are times
you've got to use reverse psychology on yourself because you
could talk yourself by the stuff. You really could, and
you'll come up and you'll sound very reasonable. That's why
when you're listening for the voice of God, one of
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those voices is yours. One of those voices is yours.
So that's what I did. And then I'm going through
and I'm like, oh my god, why did I put
that in there? I took like three sentences out, you know,
and I'm like, oh my god, what was I trying to?
And I realized, here we go, I as you think,
I speak, as I come up in my head, I speak,
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and then I noted as I come up in my head,
I write that. So when I was dictating the book,
I'm just going not not revising nothing anything, because I
will do the revisions later. But I'm looking Saturday, why
did I put that in there like, oh my God,
and I said, these people are gonna be like, oh,
here should go taking out all this, I mean three
sentences this is you know, and corrected it and everything
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and hoping that they you know, and I was I
did it all online and I used to correct and
I went back to the sheet the form, and I
was able to, you know, put the line I made.
I made a manual copy and then I put it
the information. And once I went back, I said, Lord
and my family. She said, you are feelished one hundred
over about one hundred pages in this book. And I said,
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thank you God, because I really it's a book that
the chapters are going to take you almost day by
day of what I experienced, not nearly ninety seven days
of it. Well, it's funny because it's one hundred pages.
But I was in the hot, you know, beat at
the house. But there were things I didn't leave out,
you know, because it wasn't necessary. It wasn't necessary, and
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I didn't want it to take away from the whole
essence of the book and things. So I feel that
you're going to feel it. The publishing team have already
who've gone through it or already, like we can't even imagine,
we can't a man that. So God is good. But
you gotta check yourself. You gotta check your flesh. You
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gotta There are times you don't want to do stuff,
you don't want to be. You know, you just you don't,
you know, and you're human and it's okay, but you
gotta if it's important, you got the course correct, they've
got to jump back on, knock it right out, call
it a day, change things up, whatever you have to
do so that you get it done, So that you
get it done. Tonight, we're talking about labor and loyalty.
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And loyalty took a totally different term from me because
you know, well, of course we're thinking about people who
are loyal to you, people relationships, promises, And I looked
up the words another other words that symbolizes loyalty, adhesion, allegiance, attachment, commitment, constancy, dedication, devotedness, faith, faith, faithfulness, vastness, fidelity, hiet, steadfastness,
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and troth. And the opposite of that is faith lessness, disloyalty, falseness, falsity, inconsistency, infidelity, treachery, unfaithfulness.
So that is going to be your homework. I want
you to look up those other words that define define yeah,
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define loyalty, and buy some scriptures. Buy some scriptures, because
even as I'm I I was looking back at the
title over the weekend, all I could do was stop
and just say, God, you have always been loyal, You've
always been faithful. He'll never let you down. And if
he has to correct you, trust me, it's for your
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good because you come out better, you come out feeling better.
You don't realize he knows everything. It's like, why did
you know that he knows everything even though you're still
working on your relationship ship with him. So but anything, Trey,
you want to come in on this for a minute
before I go to loyalty, I mean labor.
Speaker 4 (21:08):
Yeah, but with the loyalty, and I just find him
just loyal, you know. The closer I get to him
and he.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Just shows me different things.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
It's still some things that I need to be more
in tune too. But I tell you, just just trusting
and believing in him, and you know, praying to him
that he knows exactly what you.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Need when you need it. Can you share the assignment?
I can? Please?
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Yeah, look up loyalty and look at synonyms for other
words that identify loyalty, and look, you know, find a
couple of verses in the Bible about loyalty, dedication, faithfulness,
and uh, just use that's just for your own study
so that you can understand and you could grasp Okay,
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I am loyal in a sense. Notice how loyalty did
not include obligations. Did say one word about it that
you're obliged. They did talk.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
About if people need to learn that a lot of
people need to learn that a lot of people need
to learn that. The difference between that, you know, I
think that's where people get caught up in it and.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
You get stuck. You get stuck because you're doing the
right thing. No, And it made me, It helped me
to think also this weekend, like you know, those who
have been loyal to me have been honorable, they've been honest,
they've been truthful. Also, there people who gave their word
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or said something to try to encourage you or whatever,
and it was a lie. It was just to tell
you just to get themselves. They could back out of something.
You know, well, I'm gonna call you want to know
I get I didn't get calls on on Mother's Day
like that. I got nice you know, text messages and
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thank you all for that. But those who said, oh,
you know, I'm gonna keep in touch and all that nothing,
And I don't have to hold my breath to anything
people say, I don't. I won't even give it a
thought until it comes and it goes. They comes and
it goes, and oh wow, Okay, well they didn't call
me good. They're out of my life. Now we're good.
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You're done, and it's a rap and it's open. I'm
not mad. So you can stop lying because that's being
held against you if you say you're a Christian person.
You know, let me go to labor for a minute
and just see what that has to tell us here.
Let's see, Well, it's got several definitions, but to labor
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expenditure of physical or mental effort, especially when difficult on
compulsor compulsory. It's like, okay, you have to do hard labor?
Is that the one is the services performed by workers
for wages blah blah. That's that's working and human activity
that provides the goods of services in the economy. That's labor.
Physical activities involved in giving birth. Labor you know nine months,
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we know about that workers group considered. Okay, so let
me see if I can get down to some synonyms
here to exert one's power of body or mind, especially
with painful or strenuous effort. So that's work, to move
with great effort, to suffer some from some disadvantages or distress,
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and of course giving birth and all this synonyms affair, fruit, handiwork, output, produce,
produce product, product, product production, thing, work and yield. Indulge
some people if some of it says hustle plow, you know,
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to strive, to struggle in some cases into work. The
opposite of that is fun and play. You're not doing
any labor. You're enjoying yourself too, That's all it said.
So when anyway, God is good and you don't want
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your laboring, you're trying to you know, you're taking the
hit because of your belief and you're trying to believe
in God and you're trying to you know, you you know,
it's a struggle sometimes that's real. It is a struggle
because you've got to discipline yourself. You've got to study
your word. And I ran across the song in my
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memory section on Facebook with this choir, the single layers,
everything is mine. And he was talking about everything he got, promised,
everything he wrote in the word, everything he's ever spoken,
it's mine. And as I'm listening to the song, I said,
the saddest thing is people don't know the Bible. They
don't know the problems, they don't know nothing about covenant,
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so they don't know what they're missing. But it's mine.
God said, I've got this all for you all. Ye
that what labor, all, Ye that labor, all, ye that
put effort in, got this for you and you can't
earn it. No better way than to make sure that
you are doing everything in your power to get to
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know God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. And the only
best way you could do it is through his word.
A lot of songs that you hear singing came out
of the Bible. You know, this little light of mind, God,
I feel no ways tired. It's all mine, you know,
just they came out of the Bible, Our Father, hel Mary,
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you know it came out of that. So I want
to encourage you. We want to encourage you all. Just
don't give up, and you never stop. That's the beautiful
thing about it. You never stop yearn for God. Get
up with the expectation that I know I don't need anything.
I don't need anything, but I know today He's going
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to give me enough the opportunity to do and make
a difference. It was a phone call today to check
on something else, and here we go. I'm on the
phone with this person and they're like, what are you doing?
I know social work, I know what social workers do,
but how do you separate when you're meeting with a client.
And then I went into all of that and what
I explained in my experience and then what I've been through,
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and I said, and this person asked me, what's been
your greatest achievement in social work? I said, to advocate
for myself. Here for myself and teach along the way.
Social work teaches along the way as well to the recipient,
to the client, to the audience, to the supervisor, to
the team. We teach along the way as well.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
You know.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
But I thought about I talked about God, and I
was free to talk about God to this person that
saif they were a person of faith or anything. They
allowed that door to come open and we went on
in and they could say I could tell you a
woman of faith, and I said, yeah, that's all. That's
that's all I need to be remembered as one day,
one time, and Trey, you had to get on in here.
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I was driving and I just dropped the twins off
to daycare. And as I'm coming back, this car came
out of this lane. And I think I've shared this
on the on the show before this car came and
he was coming. He jumped out of the turning lane
opposite turning lane, and he said, my lane coming at me.
And all I can say is for God I live,
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and for God I died. And he actually just went
over the bumper and stuff and went into another thing,
so I know it was an angel's pushing the car.
And so I got home and I only knew about
three or four people that were at home during the
day during that time. So I called him. I said,
if I were to die tomorrow, if I was to
die today, what would be your memory of me? They're like, what? What?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
What? Everything?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
All right, everything's fine. Just answer the question what would
be your memory? And don't think about it too long?
But what would be your memory of me? And I
wasn't as deep as I am now. Wasn't as deep spiritually.
But I was on my journey and I was running.
And that person said, well, of course your belief in God,
you know your relationship with God. Call another person. I said,
what would be your memory of me? Oh? My god,
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I'm just just knowing that you you know, you are
living epistol for God. Your faith is just it exudes.
Called the third person, and they said the same thing.
So I said, okay, see Satan, I said, for God
I live and for God I die. So let me
tell you the next time you want to get your
little fools to try to come for me, even if
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I die, my legacy is in place, and the legacy
is the Lord is God. And I tell people, don't
if something happens to me, don't you be mad at God.
Just be happy for me. I made it in because
you know I'm heaven boy. But there are times You've
got to talk to the atmosphere and say, no, I'm
not gonna be moved like this. I'm not gonna be
swayed like this. I'm not going there like this. You
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can't move me. He took. When Jesus died on the cross,
he hung his head and he said his last thing
he said, Father, forgive them, for they know not what
they do. And the second to that, and the last
thing he said, into your hands, I commend my spirit.
And but on his way in between he went to
hell and grabbed the keys of death, and he took
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the sting out of death and the pain out of
hell or dying, death and dying, and then he went
on to heaven. Then he came back and showed himself
to some of his disciples. He took the sting out
of death. So that's why when death do come now,
I don't talk about a lot of people right now
talking about going to heaven and dying because they are
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tired of this world. And I get it, they are tired.
I mean it can make you like, oh, how much more?
But there's some other promises out there that I want
to live and be a part of. Even after despite
the darkness that's on the earth, despite the turbula, it's
despite the hate, despite everything, all the negativism, the inflation,
all this stuff coming out, there's still there's something on
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the other side of that. I will always remember you
teaching us how it feels to do and look out
for others. You made a change in us. Thank you, missy,
thank you, thank you and see us. That's why I say,
how did it feel when you did it? When you
did it? Did it feel? And that stage of feelings
will stay with you longer, just as long as a memory.
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And just to show that you can do it, go ahead.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
One thing that it stands out, you know what one
one phrase made the work I've done speak for me.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
So you know, I know when I leave this.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Earth that hopefully I have made a difference, made a
difference somewhere.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
You know, I believe I have. But you sometimes you
never know how you impact people.
Speaker 4 (31:51):
But you know, I know there have a lot of
people that have impacted me or or influenced me. And
I'm not saying all of it was positive. It was
a lot of positive, but there was some negative too
that helped to help me to grow and to discern
what types of persons that I'm dealing with.
Speaker 3 (32:09):
And so people will show you who they are. They
don't have to tell you. You around the s they'll definitely
yeah I know, and they'll show you who they are.
Speaker 4 (32:19):
So but I'm very fortunate and I feel very blessed
to have a strong support, a circle of support.
Speaker 3 (32:27):
In my life.
Speaker 4 (32:28):
That's by blood with you know, without blood. You know,
the relationships that have built, you know, the show.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
You know, look look at what you know, rebel.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
You.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Pastor you know the followers that are.
Speaker 4 (32:44):
Aren't they're part of our you know, our life on
on on life, you know, the streaming, and so it's
just great.
Speaker 3 (32:52):
It's just a great feeling to me to be able to.
Speaker 4 (32:56):
Get the feedback on you know, how we're doing and
what we have done, because I think that's what God
wants us to do. I don't think He's purposed us
to just sit here and do nothing and only think
about ourselves. And sometimes when you take yourself out of it,
or when I take myself out of it and say
what can I do for others? That is one of
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the biggest joys that I get, because if I'm doing
for someone else, it's telling me to recognize my capabilities,
my passion.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
You know. It's just it's a good feeling. I tell you,
it's like a natural high off with me.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
And you know, something happened today, you know, got a
new client, new family, and it was just great to
see how the parent felt leaving their loved one with
you know, with me, and so you know small to me,
it might be small, but to the families and people
that it could be branded field grandiose. But I love
(33:56):
this this field of human services feel with which is
very broad.
Speaker 3 (34:01):
It could be anything. And I think I've been across
the board.
Speaker 4 (34:04):
You know homeless women, you know women of master violence,
you know youth groups, you know mental health. It's just
so many things that you can do in this particular feeling,
and I just love it.
Speaker 3 (34:18):
And I you know, thank God that I.
Speaker 4 (34:20):
Have found my way or find my niche or found
my one of the purposes.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
And I know God may have some other stuff for
me to do.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
So I'm trying to learn to listen and to understand
who is talking, you know.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
As in me, was it him or something else?
Speaker 4 (34:36):
And you know, and I know he's not going to
push me to do something that's going to be harmful
to myself or not better man for him, for me,
and not in what he would have me do. So
it's a learning process. But you know, I'm loving to learn.
And it's definitely a different feeling. It's definitely a different feeling,
(34:56):
and you.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Got to want to change. Guys. I'm not We're not
gonna keep talking about it over and over and over again.
You gotta want the change. You got to be fed up,
and that's usually when you've hit that bottom, whatever your
bottom is. I was watching his sister wise. I know,
y'all gonna freak out like you watch that. I don't
know why God had me to watch it. I'm like,
oh God, another here we go, you know, And I'm
(35:18):
watching this, this whole thing. You know, I'm not about
a polygamy and all that kind of nonsense. And I
don't know if anybody watches the show, but one of
the children take their life. And so I'm sitting there watching.
They're doing cameos of everybody, and you. They admit it.
They knew he had a problem.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
They admit it.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
They thought he had a handle on it. They okay,
in a stage, you know what you're talking about. They
admitted all this. And I'm still waiting. Why did you
leave him alone? Why did you leave him alone? He
started back on stuff? Why did you leave him alone?
One then you say, okay, all of us, we got you. Okay,
you're going there for help, and you have to stay here,
and we're gonna monitor you. We're gonna make sure, because
(35:59):
we love you that much. Oh, you could tell me
it was a great person. But why didn't you stay
on him? He cried loud enough. I didn't watch it serious,
you know, every every day and all that, every time
you air, But it was just crucial times that he
would let me. It just happened to be on it.
Nothing else is on but the news. Oh and I'm like, what, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (36:20):
I think too, Maybe from your standpoint, he says, it's
the social work side, because let's, let's face it, in
the work that more so, maybe in the work that
you do, the therapy pieces.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
You said, well, we watched the show.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Half behind him he passed twenty three four. Okay, all right, Charles,
thank you.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
But I think the social work piece because you're always
working with people and they're you're likely to and you're
likely to encounter someone in similar situations. So I think too,
it's a learning try to grasp some of it. Reality TV,
you know, some stuff is probably real, some stuff has probably.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
Make sure you know the ratings, and there's so many
out there.
Speaker 4 (37:09):
That's like even with Facebook sometimes I just follow stuff
just to see where people.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
What are they thinking, what are they doing, what's going on?
Speaker 4 (37:15):
In life because who knows, God might purpose me to
make a difference or impact in that particular area.
Speaker 2 (37:23):
Now.
Speaker 3 (37:23):
I don't do a whole lot of reality shows.
Speaker 4 (37:26):
You know how.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
You know they're out there.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
But when it gets the fussing and the fighting and
the I can't take my mind there. It's too much
and I don't want it to be bogged on my
mind to be bogged down with stuff that. Yeah, I
just can't there. And I know it's a lot of entertainment.
I've seen it, said why are they doing this?
Speaker 3 (37:51):
You know what? Why?
Speaker 4 (37:53):
But unfortunately a lot of that happens right there in
real life. And I think when people see that, they
are soociate their lives with that.
Speaker 3 (38:02):
This is what it's supposed to.
Speaker 4 (38:03):
Be to be, uh, a person in business or a
person in color of business, or a person that's doing this.
You're supposed to look this way, you're supposed to act
that way. And you know, and I'm thinking, oh my gosh,
really it's just too much for me. I can't do
all that yelling, fussing, fighting. When I see reels and
I see people taping, I said, oh, why are they
(38:25):
doing that? Because there's so much stuff behind that people
now think you you actually become a witness when you
start taping things. And and I just want to kind
of put this when you when when I start putting
things out like this, when someone is fighting and you're you're, you're,
you're just wailing when they're doing people are taping stuff
(38:46):
happens blows, you can you can bleed internally, you can
hear someone in the head where they develop a swelling,
and and and then you want to say, well, if
something should happen, God forbid, something happens that person that
go to the hospital, it's an assault when they go
to the hospital, but if they pass away, it becomes manslaughter.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
Think about that.
Speaker 4 (39:09):
You you have to be you have to be very
mindful and and so just to think that you're just
gonna fight and this is gonna happen and.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
You're gonna walk it out.
Speaker 4 (39:19):
You can do internal damage doing this stuff. And people
that are taping it, they can subpoena.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
They can subpoena because of your witness to it.
Speaker 4 (39:31):
And so when you're hyping it up, and let's face it,
when people are hyped up, just like when.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
You're in a.
Speaker 4 (39:37):
Race and you're running or you're in it and people
are calling your name and you're hyped up. You go stronger,
right because you want to win this race, and you
got people.
Speaker 3 (39:46):
Back in your up.
Speaker 4 (39:47):
It's the same mentality with fighting. You're hearing people are
hyping you up. Come on, you can do this, and
the more they yell to do that, the more intense
to fight.
Speaker 3 (39:58):
You know, I'm not trying to families. I've spoken to him.
Speaker 4 (40:01):
When you are arguing, When you're arguing with this person,
they raise your voice, yours goes a little higher. And
then when yours goes higher, what do you think the
other person is going to go higher?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
So it intensifies, and.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
So people don't people don't under understand their thought and
the concept of the consequences for some things like that,
and you get.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
Too much all it back, you get so riled up,
and that adrenaline gets to going. I ain't mean to
cut you off, but yeah, I'm not. I've watched people
just go straight up and I'm like, you don't even
and they can't. They can't even here, they can't even hear.
They can't. But going back to the show, one thing
(40:44):
that just really surprised me and made me have to
go back and think apparently he was having issues from
twenty twenty when the world shut down, and that's when
they noticed some things. The bay that pass served in
the US military. It was sad to hear happened. He
was young. Yeah, oh yeah, yes, right, he did serve
in the military. That got me. I was like, wait
(41:06):
a minute. But the fact that they related went back
to said that you know, he's been having this, you know,
since twenty twenty. And I'm like, since the world shut down.
Then I started thinking about the people who did hurt
themselves during that time and since that time, and people
are still reeling from that. We're in twenty twenty down.
Speaker 4 (41:24):
Yeah, people that just don't know how to and plus
what to look for. It's almost like something creeping on
up on you.
Speaker 3 (41:33):
It's almost like eating and I use me.
Speaker 4 (41:36):
Sometimes you can just get to the point where how
do I get this big?
Speaker 3 (41:40):
Well, when you keep doing this.
Speaker 4 (41:41):
And doing it's subtle because you don't recognize it, and
then when it's there, it's like, Wow, how did I
get to this point? With the mental health, some people
don't know what to look for, you know, some people
don't understand it. And so the more you educate yourself
on and ironically we're talking about it because there's Mental
(42:02):
Health Awareness Month. Look up some information for you, not
if nothing for anybody else, for yourself recognizing triggers. And
if you're feeling a certain way and it's lasting longer
or you never felt that way.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Please just get some help. Just talk to somebody.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
Just get some help, trusted person, something like that, you know,
because it can't.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
Sneak up on you.
Speaker 4 (42:24):
And the thing about with with with depression or whatever
it can you can do.
Speaker 3 (42:30):
It can just do the snap at one point you
just you know, I'm just tired of I'm just tired.
I'm just gonna go. Yeah, there's no way out, and
it's the only way I see.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
And again, people don't hurt themselves when they're at their lowest,
and when they're really depressed and they don't cry and
they crying and they don't hurt themselves. Then it's when
they're on an upbeat when they will be friendly with you.
They'll be on the phone with you. And and you know,
look at Anthony Bourdain, the famous food critic, just got
(43:00):
the contract with Netflix, you know, just got the and
he's in the in the room and he goes in
his room with the family there, the lady who in
New York, the handbag designer goes in the room, the
family's there, and then so they they it's not when
they're really sad and cry and no, those are not
the times. The time is when okay, wait a minute now,
(43:23):
they're pushing you off. Oh I'm okay, I'm gonna go
do this and do this, and you know, I'm gonna
call you back. I'll call you back a little later. No,
I'm gonna be on the phone where you at, where
you at, you know, what's going on, Just check in,
you know, because those those are those signs. And it's
hard to call it. But going back, circling back to
labor and and and and loyalty again, it's not obligation.
(43:44):
It's not because just because it's not that. It's because I.
Speaker 3 (43:48):
Care for you.
Speaker 2 (43:49):
I want to do this. I believe this is my passion.
This is what I'm going to do. I enjoy, like
like Trey said, I enjoy doing this. I enjoy what
we enjoy. Our field of choice. It wasn't our choice.
Social work found me, you know, you know, I had
never heard of it. And then all of a sudden
I'm here, you know, I'm hearing about it, and I'm like, oh,
(44:11):
that makes sense. I psyched, you know, major in psych
and so that's the study of the brain and the
human mind. And then his social work, which is you know, sociology,
social welfare, you know, societal issues and ills all combined
in one. So I've got the holistic approach, you know.
But still you got to find yourself in this. Let's
(44:32):
let go of anything else. All that Uncle Joe used
to say to you on or and Kren used to say,
or cousin so on, all of that, You've got to
let that go. You forgive and forget those people. And
now today, let's take today. Let's take today and let
me I'm going forward to be the best person I am.
I am not I'm loyal to God. And with my
(44:53):
loyalty to God, to Jesus Christ, and to the Holy Spirit,
he allows me to be loyal and faithful to those
who He's entrusted me to pray over or to be
a part of their life, or them to be a
part of my life. It's not me. I ain't looking
for friends. Don't mean to let you down, but I
ain't looking for him, I'm not. But if he tells me,
(45:15):
I need you to this, Okay, I need you to
This is the role you'll be, you'll be, This is
what I need you to be doing this season. Okay,
I'm to listen. I'm to listen. I'm to calm down
because my daughter has to lead. We're starting training with
our baby and some intense training. So that means people
and they are all for all walks of life, and
so I wear my mask, but you can see my eyes. Okay,
(45:38):
I'm like, you know, I have to calm it down
that this is for jazz, not for me. Oh no, no, no,
no no. Anyway, We're gonna let you go on that note,
do some homework, look up those scriptures because you know
that define loyalty. That that's just for yourself. We're gonna
(45:59):
see you next week. Pasta should be with us, I'm
not sure, but I know he's having a fun time
with his wife. But anyway, you all be blessed, be safe,
be intentional. Amen. We'll see you next week, same time,
same stay shine right Na
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