March 6, 2025 • 32 mins
Shawna shares the chaos of her MRI contrast allergy and her mom’s spine surgery recovery, while LaLa brings the heat with a chilling online threat against her children. They’re also taking on schools, digital dangers, and why parents need to stay sharp in today’s world.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
the rhythm of your day.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's Shawnam, what's up. You're listening to Shauna and Lalla.
Check us out at Shaunaanlala dot com on all social
media platforms at Shauna and Lala. You could follow me
on Instagram at the real Shauna May.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
And check me out at Thela Underscore Laala one two five.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What a crazy few weeks. It has been two weeks ago.
I had a crazy allergic reaction, uh to gatolinium. I
think it's it's how you pronounce it. It is a MRI
contrast and I basically turned red like a tomato all
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through my like all over my body. And I was
a little bit itchy. And this happened last time, but
they told me that it was not a reaction last time,
it's just a side effect. Well this time they made
me go to urgent care and it was it was
a mess.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Yeah, they were a little bit I understay. They were
trying to like cover their ass, but it was a
little crazy for you know, just give her ben and
drill and keep an eye on her. But that's what
confused me. If you're so concerned about her give her
better drill, don't let her sit there for an hour,
you know, Like that made no sense to me. So, yeah,
(01:35):
I don't know. They they're either too far one way,
whether they're worried and freaking out, or they're too nonchalant
about something. There's like never a middle ground with it,
you know.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
No, not at all. So I did go to the
doctors for a follow up, and my doctor basically told me,
don't ever get the IVY contrast again unless it's like
a dire situation, and and then I need to be
given steroids through IVY.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yeah, steroids, And that's what they used to do for
me for certain things, steroids and venadryl they'd give me
in the IVY.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
But they gave me the pregnozone before.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
I don't know if it's because you didn't take that
last one maybe, but I don't know. Like, like I
said me and Shauna, like I'm not a doctor, I
didn't agree with her doctor because whenever I get an
MRI would contrast I have, I don't have the reaction
where it's all over my body, but my face and
my forearms get very red and I actually felt lightheaded,
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dizzy in a fog after mine. I think I was
texting Seauana like I can't drive like this, so you know,
and they said it was a re it's a side
effect like some people's bodies handle it like that, and
I think that, you know, that's what happens with Shauna's
just it happens to her more like over her body.
But yeah, these doctors, you just don't know. You don't
know what to think, what to believe. I don't know.
(02:59):
Just at the trust your gut and if you, like
she said, if she's die or definitely use the contrast.
But if it's not, if it's not like that needed,
then don't put yourself through it, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, I mean it takes too long anyway to do
like an MRI with contrast and without I was in
the machine, I would say almost an hour, so I
would rather just not get it.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah, I feel like it's been NonStop since that point
of either being sick, your mom just had surgery on
her spine. It just I'm just happy that spring is
almost here. I'm hoping we're all better and we're not
in the hospital, like like your mom just got out
what yesterday or two days ago?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Yeah, she got out two days ago. She had surgery
last week on her spine. When we were talking to
the nurses, I asked them, like what exactly she had
surgery on, and like what they did, And the surgery
was actually more in depth than they expected. So it
was it's gonna be a hard recovery for her. She's struggling,
(04:04):
but she's doing so much better than she was in
the hospital. Yeah, you know, it was. It was a
little scary. The first day after surgery. I was like,
oh my god, Like, what is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
The spine is pretty serious to have surgery on. That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah, and the medication she doesn't tolerate medicine very well.
She doesn't even tolerate tail and all. It makes her sick. So,
you know, they were trying to figure out different methods
on how to take care of the pain for her.
But she's home, she's doing well. She's she's not supposed
to do anything, you know, not supposed to live, not
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supposed to do anything. And the other day, yesterday, I like,
walk into my kitchen and she's got a hammer. I'm like,
what are you doing? Oh my god. She's like, oh,
I'm gonna put this back up. You know, it fell
and I'm like, just leave it for dad. You know,
like she's just not used to but you know, she's
used to doing everything, so it's taking a little bit
(05:03):
getting used to for her.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Well, you know, she should see it as a little
vacation from the million tasks that she does daily. You know,
that's what I'd be doing. Yeah, I'm the same way
as her. I can't sit still even when I have surgery.
But with the spine, you really have to be careful
because you don't want to end up paralyzed. You don't
want to end up back in the hospital or have
another surgery. So this is something that she needs to
take serious.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Oh yeah, definitely. So I keep seeing the posts on
social media about the electric bills. The news is actually
finally covering it. So do you have an update?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
No, good update. I mean, we scheduled a bunch of
appointments for our geothermonal come in the New York State audit.
Everything is booked out so far. Because I'm wondering if
a lot of people are dealing with this, you know,
it seems like they are. And then Shauna was showing
me on my electric bill how I can kind of
see when I'm using a lot of electric, like what
(06:02):
time of the day. And what's crazy is that we
are using more electric at night. It's skyrockets at night,
like when we're all sleeping. So what is going on? Like,
you know, my husband said, maybe the heat kicks in,
but the heat is blowing pretty much all day the
geothermal we keep it low. We keep it at night
in sixty two degrees. So I mean maybe, but I
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don't know. Something's not right because during the day when
we're there and we have TVs on and we have
my laptop plugged in or music playing, lights on, you're
telling me that during the day it's lower than the
middle of the night when everyone's dead asleep, Like come on,
So something's not right. I don't know if people are
getting scammed. I don't know it. I don't know it.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Really.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I'm hoping we get answers soon. They're coming I think
next week, and I'm just hoping we get answers soon
because the next bills was like six hundred something. It's
saying so not it's not fun, and I don't know
how people are doing it. There's a girl I know
who is a single mom. She has four kids, and
she's not very well off and her electric bill came
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in at five hundred dollars that I don't and she
doesn't know what she's gonna do. So I feel for
people out there that don't have an option or don't
have that extra money to cover that, and it's it's
pretty disgusting.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I think it is too, you know, it's it should
be legal for them to have all these charges, like
and it's the delivery fee ye on yours on most people's.
I just I think it's it should be a crime.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
And I know, I know it's that drastic for to
go this high. That's a drastic increase for people. You
can't expect them to be able to afford that, you know,
slowly going up. It sucks, but it's still okay, we
can we can manage this, we can handle this. This
was a drastic change. Like I said, my electric bill
used to be in the two hundreds maybe three hundred.
(07:57):
To go to from three hundred all the way to
six hundred to one thousand dollars a month, that's insane,
you know, and someone needs to be held accountable for it,
and I'm hoping they audit the crap out of all
these lecture companies again and get people's money back because
something's not right.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
No, but they did this a few years ago, yeah,
two years ago maybe, and they did find that they
owed consumers money. Whether they paid that money or not,
I don't know. Yeah, but you would think like that
would be a lesson for them to be like, all right,
we got caught or you know, this company got caught.
(08:35):
We're not gonna do that.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Yeah, you know, Yeah, I don't know you would think.
But hey, I mean, I don't know, Like like keep
saying spring is coming, it's around the corner, and that's
all positive things in my head. No more heat and
for a while, we won't even have to use the
geo thermal because it'll be cool enough and warm enough
to have the windows open and not have to have
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anything running, you know. So and then when summer comes,
we're back up to electric bills with ac ah. God.
But I also, guys, I wanted to tell you of
a crazy situation that just happened to my family. And
it's kind of like a warning too, to be careful
on both sides of what you post online, what you write,
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and how you say it, because it's pretty scary. I
you know me, I have a big mouth. I like
to get political online. I like to speak my mind
and sometimes, you know, if it has caused me some issues,
nothing severe, mainly someone being rude to me. But it's crazy.
This one wasn't even that bad. There was a video
(09:41):
you sold the halftime show shown a yes, so the
halftime show for the super Bowl. A lot of people
were not happy with it, and I understand. I could
understand why, because you know, for me a halftime show,
I wanted to be energetic. I wanted to be like
amazing and over the top, you know, makes me want
to get out of my seat and dance, and this
one it didn't do that for me. And I like
(10:03):
rap music.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I am.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I am not like an old person like, oh I
don't like rap, No, I like it.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I didn't even know who he was, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Shoona didn't even know and many people didn't. I knew
who he was. I don't really hears a few of
his songs, but the bottom line of it was like
I didn't feel it was very fitting or you know,
for the show, and a lot of people felt that way,
and we couldn't understand a word he was saying, I know,
even in my living room, we were all like squinting
and trying to listen and say, what what is this
(10:33):
person saying? You know, what is Kendrick saying. So a
lot of people posted online about that. And there's this
one family who her boomer parents. They're old. They were
sitting on the couch and they were trying to understand
the music. You could see them that they were their
eyes were squinting, they were kind of putting their heads
tilted to like listen more carefully. And she said and
she made a caption like, oh, my boomer parents trying
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to understand what he's saying, you know, And she wasn't
being mean. She laughed and posted it. The video went
viral and people ripped them apart, like absolutely ripped them apart,
her and her parents, oh boy, calling them racists, calling
them trumpsters, calling them, you know, every racist name in
(11:17):
the book, saying, oh, your parents, but had nothing to
do with race. She just said, my boomer parents trying
to understand what he's saying, and like they couldn't understand it.
I'm thirty nine, I couldn't understand a lot of the words.
It was very mumbled, so I felt for older people
who definitely can't hear even if I'm two feet away
from them, you know. But anyways, so people made it
a race thing, like, oh, it's because they're racist, they're this,
(11:39):
they're that, they're Trump supporters, being so mean to her
and her parents, and she was getting so upset. She
kept writing, why are you guys doing this? Why are
you saying it's like this is racial? It's not. It
could be anyone up there mumbling or whatever. They can't
understand it. And then she was writing to people calling
her racist or Trumpsters or republic or conservative or whatever,
(12:02):
and she said, we are the biggest liberals that you've
ever met. We are We're Democrat, we're liberal.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
So I don't support Trump. I don't like Trump. And
I had to make a comment. I just said nothing bad.
All I said was listen, hey, I get it. I
get why you feel this way. I feel for you,
and it sucks that they're judging you based off this
video and making it a race issue when it's not.
And this is why the country is so divided, because
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everyone wants to point their finger and call the other
person a horrible name or a negative name and that's,
you know, basically what I wrote. And people started ripping
me apart for that, and I'm like, oh whatever, So
i just shut my Instagram down for the night and
I'm not dealing with this. I didn't write back to anyone.
And a few days go by, I'm in my message
request folder on Instagram and I see that on February tenth,
(12:55):
and I got a message request from somebody, so I
open it and it's the nastiest message ever. This person
was calling me horrible names. They called me a white
B word, a racist, white B word, made fun of
me for being Italian, was very you know, I can't
(13:18):
even say it on the radio. Some of the things, Yeah,
degrading me, putting me down, calling me a racist, calling
me a you know, all these names. And then they
brought my children into it because for the show, guys,
I'm my profile's public. I you know, I'm a podcaster,
I'm an influencer. My profile is public, I you know,
I understand. And I have some pictures of my kids
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on there, and this person went through my profile found
the pictures of my kids, so he knew I had
two kids or she and they threatened to shoot my kids.
And kill them, and I just didn't know what to
think in that moment. At first, I wasn't taking it
too serious. I'm like, Oh, it's just a troll. It's
just an Internet troll. Just ignore it. And then the
(13:59):
more I sat there, I was like, this is really serious.
This person didn't just call me a racist. Fine, you
want to call me a racist, you want to call
me a white bee biachi, you want to make fun
of me for being Italian, Okay, but you just threatened
to shoot my two children in the head. That right,
(14:20):
that's that's not that's serious. That's serious.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Serious. They took it way too far. But you don't
you don't know who they are.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
No, they had no profile picture, they had everything private,
so they must have a troll account, which is that's
what people do. But that's just that's just taking it
too far. That's disgusting and that's disturbing. You were Italian
in my profile, like my little bio and Instagram, I
just have the Italian flag in the American flag. I'm
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an Italian American, you know, so I have the American
flag and then the Italian flag. And obviously they have
pictures of my kids in my profile. So yeah, he
went through my profile and looked, and then that started
getting me nervous, Like what else could he find on
my profile? Do I have my husband's a police officer?
Did I put a picture up of him with our
last name on on his on his you know, in
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their their outfit, their uniforms. I was thinking like that,
but I did blur it out in the past, and
thankfully I had that blurred. But you know, there's just
so much that we don't realize that we have online
that if someone wanted to hurt us, or some bad
person wanted to do anything to us, they could find
us easily, easily.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
It is so easy to find people. Yeah, these days online.
That's why I don't understand how all these kids are
going missing and you can't find them.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
I don't I don't know they there's I don't know.
I mean. The ending to the story is that I
contacted the FBI. I actually went to chat GBT. I
couldn't get in touch with my husband, I couldn't get
in touch with my brother in law who's a cop.
So I went on chat GBT and I was like,
what do I do in this situation? And I sent
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Chat GBT what this person wrote me, and even chat
GBT was like, holy cow, you know that is serious.
That is a threat, and you need to contact the FBI.
And they gave me a link and I submitted everything
to the FBI, and then then my brother in law
and my husband called me back, and then I had
to make a police report with the local police department.
(16:23):
And yeah, the police have been patrolling my house every
single day during every shift, and the FBI called me.
The FBI, they were really great. Like I thought, maybe
I was overreacting that. I always get that feeling. Is
this something that warrants me to bring law enforcement in?
But apparently it is. They said that if anyone ever
threatens with use of a weapon to harm or kill somebody,
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that's a serious threat and they want to know about it,
and they will go after the person and they could
be arrested, sentenced. It's like a big deal. The FBI
is going to subpoena Instagram if they haven't already, to
track this person's IP address and then go to this
person's house and you know, do their investigation and hopefully
(17:08):
arrest this person. So I've you know, they're keeping me
in the loop right now. They're just waiting for Instagram
to come come back to them, get back to them,
and it's scary. Guys, like, we have to take it serious.
I wasn't at first because I'm like, that's just a troll.
It's just someone trolling me. But that's a big deal.
You cannot threaten to kill or harm anybody, especially with
a weapon. And it's not funny if you're you know,
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the young kids seem to do that a lot. It's
not funny. It's a serious crime. It's a serious offense,
and it's not a good thing. You're not making a point,
and it's not funny. And on the opposite side of
that is I you know, like I said, the FBI
and the police were so great with help me with
that situation. I know it was severe. But then we
deal with the school districts and I don't know what's
(17:53):
going on in the school districts lately, but they're so
lax on contacting parents for serious matters.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
You see our local mom friend erin what she's going
through with her son a local school district here, the
boy was sexually abused, Oh yes, yes, sexually abused by
another student. He went to the teacher told the teacher
that this kid sexually assaulted him or abused him whatever
during class. They sent him to the principal of the
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nurse and then they sent him home on the b
sent him home on the bus hours later. No phone
call to the mother, no contact with the mother, didn't
let him call his mother. This poor kid got sexually
assaulted and then had to sit through the rest of
the day without his mother or father, and then go
home on the bus like everything was normal, with no
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phone call home to the parents.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
And how did she find out? He told me.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
He came home and told her. He told her, yeah,
and he was He was crying, he was upset. And
then when she called the school, they said, oh, well,
you know, we were trying to investigate it. No, no, no, no,
So she she has gone.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
She went to the news.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
She went to the news for it. She is livid,
as I would be too. My child had to suffer
without his mom or dad after being sexually assaulted. You
sent him, made him sit through classes and go home
on the on the frickin' bus. Uh uh, Nope, But
this is what the schools are doing now and I
don't understand it. So my son didn't go through as
serious the situation as that, but he was in class
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and this girl, Now these kids are between the age
of ten to twelve. This girl who's between the age
ten and twelve, came up to him and his friend
and said, do you want to see photos in my
hidden photo album? Now, if you have an iPhone, we
have a hidden photo album where if you want to
put something that you don't want anyone to see or
it's usually it's used for naked photos or porn, you know,
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bad stuff, you put them in this hidden folder and
only you can open it with your face, not even
a pass code, it has to be your face. So
this little girl goes up to these boys in her
class and says, do you want to see pictures in
my hidden folder? They don't know what that means, but
they still said no, you know, I don't know, not really,
and they went back to drawing, and she's like, well,
you're gonna see it anyway, and she opened up the
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folder and she showed them a video of her basically
masturbating in a way if you would have to say
it is humping. She was humping her pillow on her
bed and getting off to that and they went and
told the teacher, and then they went to the principal,
and the principal sat them down, took their statement, and
my son said that the principle seemed very concerned. But
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then when they interviewed her, she denied it.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I was gonna say she probably had a different story.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
She denied it. And then they brought the boys back
in and they asked them was she fully clothed or
was she naked? And they said she was clothed. So
because she was fully clothed humping a pillow and getting
off on a pillow masturbating, basically, because she was fully clothed,
it doesn't warrant a phone call home, and it's not
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anything that she can get in trouble for.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
It's a sexual act.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Right right, So I didn't get I didn't get a
phone call home. Now if my son didn't tell me,
and he actually he didn't tell me the boy the
other boy's mother who I'm friendly with, she is the
one who texts me first to alert me that it
was going on. My son was a little too embarrassed
to tell me what he saw because he didn't really
fully understand it. So when I brought up to him,
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he told me. But let's say that.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Do you think if the other girl, if the mother
didn't tell you, what if he came home and been like, hey, ma,
guess well.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
No, I don't think he would have. He's very shy
like that. I don't think he would have told me.
I don't think so. So I would have never knew
what my son saw, and.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
So who knows what he did see or has seen
in the past.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
I know so this girl. Then I messaged the girl
after it was watched on a five days that I
didn't get a phone call from the principal or but
with the weekend, I mean it was the weekend in between.
But I messaged the girl or talked to girl. I said,
what's going on? She said that she called to bitch
or they called her about something else, and she said,
why haven't anyone called me about what my son saw
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on that girl's phone? And they said, because she was
fully clothed, it's not it's not like it's not an
issue and no one's getting in trouble and we closed
the investigation. So that was their response.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Yeah, I would have been at that school.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, they don't care. It's just called I could still
call I just like people said, like she said, you
don't get anywhere with them, like they don't I don't
know what's going on, Like why don't they care anymore?
Why is it that do they not want bad news?
Did they want not want you know, like that negative
stuff going out? But we're gonna find out one way
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or the other, and it's gonna look worse on them,
you know.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Well that's what I'm thinking is you know, you might
as well tell these parents and take care of the
situation in house, rather than these parents going to the
news stations.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Mm hmm, or going into the mom's groups and just
spreading it everywhere. And just like our friend erin, she's
on the news, she's on every group and she just
blasting them, which they deserve to be blasted. But they
could have avoided that with the simple call home to
the mom. Yeah, so I'm thinking they were trying to
cover their butts too before calling her, like calling their
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lawyers what we have to do. But I feel like
they should know this stuff already. This is a serious thing.
If your child is sexually assaulted or abused, like the
parents need to be called right then and there, and
that child needs to be sent home, speak with the therapists,
make sure they're okay, you know, like not sent back
to class and sent home on the bus. Nope.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Yeah, And I wonder, know where are these teachers when
this stuff is going on?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
They don't they don't see it. And I'm not blaming
them because in Geo's school, another situation that happened was
these two kids were not assaulting each other, but they
were touching each other and on, you know, in a
sexual way under the desks, because the desks are next
to each other, and the teacher, you know, we used
to pass notes. Teacher can't see everything.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
So let me tell about the time I passed the notes.
Mister well caught me. Oh jesus, he picked my desk
up and slammed it down.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Could you imagine if a teacher did that today. They're
not allowed to do that anymore.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yeah, and you probably like, oh I did.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
He made me read it in front of the class.
Then I will never I didn't even finish writing it.
I wrote what are you doing? And I meant to
write like this weekend, and he's like, what is she doing?
She's paying attention to me, what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
I will never forget it, and that's what kids need nowadays,
I think, because like you said, you'll never forget that,
but probably I don't. Did you ever pass notes after that?
Speaker 2 (24:40):
No?
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Yeah, there you go. I think we need to bring
back that with teachers.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
But but how I mean, I get you know, you
have thirty kids, maybe even more to look after, and
you know your back is probably to the talkboard or something,
if they even have chalkboards anymore. But I don't know.
I just think classes, where's the cameras? They should have
cameras in every classroom, in the hallways.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
They have a lot in the hallways. I don't know
about classrooms. But even still in the classroom, unless someone
was watching the camera as like all day long, like
in the class they wouldn't catch it. It'd be something they'd
catch afterwards, like oh, let's rewind it back, you know
what I'm saying. So, and that's even that's fine, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
You know, because incidents can happen anytime of the day,
you know, and teachers should be held responsible if they're
acting out or you know, these kids the parents should
see be able to see footage and say, look, no,
your kid was acting like an idiot. MM.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Hmm, yeah, no, I agree with that, like parents needed
to see what their kids are doing instead of always
protecting their children. And it protects teachers too from being
accused of something. It's and because nowadays with all these
kids with cell phones according their teachers and recording things
that go on in the classroom, teachers need to cover
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their butts too to show, hey, well that happened because
this happened, and I only said that or yelled because
this happened. And so I think it's a good idea.
It definitely it's a cover your butt kind of thing
to have as a teacher, oh yeah, and as a parent,
it's good for us. But it also comes down to
parents too, like parents need to parent their children. That
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little girl, why is that little girl? How does that
little girl know to save dirty photos in her hidden
phone album?
Speaker 2 (26:32):
I don't even know my phone have a right album.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
How old are we in our our late thirties. I know,
I know we're older in tech, but we had iPhones
since we were what twenty in our twenties, Like we
understand iPhones. So how does a ten, eleven or twelve
year old girl know to take dirty videos of herself? Provocative? Stuff,
sexual sexually explicit stuff and put it in her hidden
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photo album and then show boys something's going on at home.
And I am just livid about it because as parents,
we need to do better, and we need to be
in our children's phones constantly, in their tablets, checking every night.
Every night, my son, when he goes to bed, I
take his tablet and I look through the messages. If
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I can't get to it that night, the next morning,
I'm looking through his messages and he knows not to
delete anything. I have parental controls on there. He could
not delete things, and I tell him, if I ever
catch you deleting something, then this tablet is gone, it's gone.
So but we need to be in there. We need
to be checking. I was in his tablet and I
saw in one conversation, kid was talking about suicide and
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then the you know, the conversation was, oh, don't kill yourself,
blah blah blah blah. And then another conversation they were
this one kid was being bullied and the other kids
were bullying him so bad. His dad just died and
they were picking on him. And then I saw another
conversation where, you know, my son and this other person
were kind of bullying this girl. And as parents, if
we were able to get into these tablets and phones
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and look at this stuff, we would be aware of
a what's going on in our kid's life? Are they
being a bully? Are they being bullied? Are they suicidal?
Are they are are they being mean to somebody? Or
and we be aware of what's going on and we
could stop it right there. That little girl, I'm sure
she has provocative conversations in her phone and probably as
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pictures elsewhere that are aren't right, So her parents should
be checking her stuff. So I blame the parents. I
blame the parents for a lot of this. So if
you're hearing this message, this is your reminder, set it
on your phone every night or every day at a
certain time. Take their tablets, take their phone, look through it.
Look at what they're searching on Google, look at their
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photo albums, look at their text messages, look at their
Facebook messages. If you're paying for that phone, then you
have every freaking right to go through until they're eighteen.
That's just my opinion. You're paying for it and they're
under eighteen, especially, you have every right to go through.
You might be protecting your own child's life, or you
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might be saving another child's life by going through their
phones and tablets. It's super important. Set that reminder and
do it please. We have to protect our kids.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Now. With the kid that wanted to commit suicide, did
you report it?
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah? I didn't report it to the school, but I
reached out. Luckily, I knew who this kid's aunt was,
so I had reached out to the kid's aunt and said, hey, listen,
I don't want my son to be involved in this.
I didn't want anyone to come at my son like
you're a snancher, you or this or that. But I'm
letting you know what I read. And I sent her
like a little screenshot said he's talking about suicide. He
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didn't say he's going to do it, but he's talking
about it. And he's also being bullied by these other kids.
And I saw it in there in another message that
the kids were drinking. These kids are ten to eleven
years old. They were getting drunk at someone's house. That's
what the message said. So I sent that to the
parent too, like, hey, do you know when they go
to this person's house, they're drinking and they're getting drunk
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at eleven years old. Something's not right here and the
real Yeah, we need to be in our kids. Shit,
we need to you're not invading their privacy. We have
to protect them. In this day and age. It's not
like the old days. It's different. We have to protect
our children and protect other children. And the first step
there is right in these little phones and tablets. It's
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easy one, two, three, And.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
That's GEO say about all this, Geo, you.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
Know, I asked him about it after I read it,
and he said, yeah, the kids are mean, He's like,
and I saw it in the message. Someone had screenshot
the suicidal thing and sent it to GEO, so he
wasn't in that conversation, but they sent him a screenshot
of the conversation and GEO said, you need to tell
his mom. So my son right away knew what to do,
and I was very proud because we have never talked
about that. We have never said, hey, if someone's suicidal,
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you need to you know, like yeah, But on his own,
he said to the to the person who sent it
to him, you need to tell his mom, and she said,
I'm too scared to tell his mom. And he's like, well,
you really need to. If he does something and the girl,
I don't think he's gonna do anything. So I said
to you, I said, I'm very proud of you for that,
and you did the right thing. But if she kept
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saying no, then you know you should have came to
mommy and then Mommy would have handled it. So that's
what I told him. And yeah, as kids are gonna say,
stop going through my stuff. He says it all the time,
and I just come back to him who pays for it. It's
not yours. This is a privilege and Mommy will go
through everything. So do not delete anything. If I find
out you delete it, it's gone. And I'm going to
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check it every day and night. Be on your best behavior,
treat people right, and don't say or do anything that
could get you in trouble.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
On that note, we're gonna get Lalla some valume. We
will see you next week. Thank you so much for listening.
You're listening to Shauna I Lalla. Follow us at Shaunaanlala
dot com and be sure to follow us on social
media at Shawna and Laala. We will see you next week.
From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
the rhythm of your day.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's Shawnam, what's up. You're listening to Shauna and Lalla.
Check us out at Shaunaanlala dot com on all social
media platforms at Shauna and Lala. You could follow me
on Instagram at the real Shauna May.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
And check me out at Thela Underscore Laala one two five.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
What a crazy few weeks. It has been two weeks ago.
I had a crazy allergic reaction, uh to gatolinium. I
think it's it's how you pronounce it. It is a MRI
contrast and I basically turned red like a tomato all
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through my like all over my body. And I was
a little bit itchy. And this happened last time, but
they told me that it was not a reaction last time,
it's just a side effect. Well this time they made
me go to urgent care and it was it was
a mess.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Yeah, they were a little bit I understay. They were
trying to like cover their ass, but it was a
little crazy for you know, just give her ben and
drill and keep an eye on her. But that's what
confused me. If you're so concerned about her give her
better drill, don't let her sit there for an hour,
you know, Like that made no sense to me. So, yeah,
(01:35):
I don't know. They they're either too far one way,
whether they're worried and freaking out, or they're too nonchalant
about something. There's like never a middle ground with it,
you know.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
No, not at all. So I did go to the
doctors for a follow up, and my doctor basically told me,
don't ever get the IVY contrast again unless it's like
a dire situation, and and then I need to be
given steroids through IVY.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yeah, steroids, And that's what they used to do for
me for certain things, steroids and venadryl they'd give me
in the IVY.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
But they gave me the pregnozone before.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
I don't know if it's because you didn't take that
last one maybe, but I don't know. Like, like I
said me and Shauna, like I'm not a doctor, I
didn't agree with her doctor because whenever I get an
MRI would contrast I have, I don't have the reaction
where it's all over my body, but my face and
my forearms get very red and I actually felt lightheaded,
(02:35):
dizzy in a fog after mine. I think I was
texting Seauana like I can't drive like this, so you know,
and they said it was a re it's a side
effect like some people's bodies handle it like that, and
I think that, you know, that's what happens with Shauna's
just it happens to her more like over her body.
But yeah, these doctors, you just don't know. You don't
know what to think, what to believe. I don't know.
(02:59):
Just at the trust your gut and if you, like
she said, if she's die or definitely use the contrast.
But if it's not, if it's not like that needed,
then don't put yourself through it, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, I mean it takes too long anyway to do
like an MRI with contrast and without I was in
the machine, I would say almost an hour, so I
would rather just not get it.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Yeah, I feel like it's been NonStop since that point
of either being sick, your mom just had surgery on
her spine. It just I'm just happy that spring is
almost here. I'm hoping we're all better and we're not
in the hospital, like like your mom just got out
what yesterday or two days ago?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Yeah, she got out two days ago. She had surgery
last week on her spine. When we were talking to
the nurses, I asked them, like what exactly she had
surgery on, and like what they did, And the surgery
was actually more in depth than they expected. So it
was it's gonna be a hard recovery for her. She's struggling,
(04:04):
but she's doing so much better than she was in
the hospital. Yeah, you know, it was. It was a
little scary. The first day after surgery. I was like,
oh my god, Like, what is wrong with you?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
The spine is pretty serious to have surgery on. That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah, and the medication she doesn't tolerate medicine very well.
She doesn't even tolerate tail and all. It makes her sick. So,
you know, they were trying to figure out different methods
on how to take care of the pain for her.
But she's home, she's doing well. She's she's not supposed
to do anything, you know, not supposed to live, not
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supposed to do anything. And the other day, yesterday, I like,
walk into my kitchen and she's got a hammer. I'm like,
what are you doing? Oh my god. She's like, oh,
I'm gonna put this back up. You know, it fell
and I'm like, just leave it for dad. You know,
like she's just not used to but you know, she's
used to doing everything, so it's taking a little bit
(05:03):
getting used to for her.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Well, you know, she should see it as a little
vacation from the million tasks that she does daily. You know,
that's what I'd be doing. Yeah, I'm the same way
as her. I can't sit still even when I have surgery.
But with the spine, you really have to be careful
because you don't want to end up paralyzed. You don't
want to end up back in the hospital or have
another surgery. So this is something that she needs to
take serious.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Oh yeah, definitely. So I keep seeing the posts on
social media about the electric bills. The news is actually
finally covering it. So do you have an update?
Speaker 1 (05:39):
No, good update. I mean, we scheduled a bunch of
appointments for our geothermonal come in the New York State audit.
Everything is booked out so far. Because I'm wondering if
a lot of people are dealing with this, you know,
it seems like they are. And then Shauna was showing
me on my electric bill how I can kind of
see when I'm using a lot of electric, like what
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time of the day. And what's crazy is that we
are using more electric at night. It's skyrockets at night,
like when we're all sleeping. So what is going on? Like,
you know, my husband said, maybe the heat kicks in,
but the heat is blowing pretty much all day the
geothermal we keep it low. We keep it at night
in sixty two degrees. So I mean maybe, but I
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don't know. Something's not right because during the day when
we're there and we have TVs on and we have
my laptop plugged in or music playing, lights on, you're
telling me that during the day it's lower than the
middle of the night when everyone's dead asleep, Like come on,
So something's not right. I don't know if people are
getting scammed. I don't know it. I don't know it.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Really.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I'm hoping we get answers soon. They're coming I think
next week, and I'm just hoping we get answers soon
because the next bills was like six hundred something. It's
saying so not it's not fun, and I don't know
how people are doing it. There's a girl I know
who is a single mom. She has four kids, and
she's not very well off and her electric bill came
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in at five hundred dollars that I don't and she
doesn't know what she's gonna do. So I feel for
people out there that don't have an option or don't
have that extra money to cover that, and it's it's
pretty disgusting.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I think it is too, you know, it's it should
be legal for them to have all these charges, like
and it's the delivery fee ye on yours on most people's.
I just I think it's it should be a crime.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
And I know, I know it's that drastic for to
go this high. That's a drastic increase for people. You
can't expect them to be able to afford that, you know,
slowly going up. It sucks, but it's still okay, we
can we can manage this, we can handle this. This
was a drastic change. Like I said, my electric bill
used to be in the two hundreds maybe three hundred.
(07:57):
To go to from three hundred all the way to
six hundred to one thousand dollars a month, that's insane,
you know, and someone needs to be held accountable for it,
and I'm hoping they audit the crap out of all
these lecture companies again and get people's money back because
something's not right.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
No, but they did this a few years ago, yeah,
two years ago maybe, and they did find that they
owed consumers money. Whether they paid that money or not,
I don't know. Yeah, but you would think like that
would be a lesson for them to be like, all right,
we got caught or you know, this company got caught.
(08:35):
We're not gonna do that.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Yeah, you know, Yeah, I don't know you would think.
But hey, I mean, I don't know, Like like keep
saying spring is coming, it's around the corner, and that's
all positive things in my head. No more heat and
for a while, we won't even have to use the
geo thermal because it'll be cool enough and warm enough
to have the windows open and not have to have
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anything running, you know. So and then when summer comes,
we're back up to electric bills with ac ah. God.
But I also, guys, I wanted to tell you of
a crazy situation that just happened to my family. And
it's kind of like a warning too, to be careful
on both sides of what you post online, what you write,
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and how you say it, because it's pretty scary. I
you know me, I have a big mouth. I like
to get political online. I like to speak my mind
and sometimes, you know, if it has caused me some issues,
nothing severe, mainly someone being rude to me. But it's crazy.
This one wasn't even that bad. There was a video
(09:41):
you sold the halftime show shown a yes, so the
halftime show for the super Bowl. A lot of people
were not happy with it, and I understand. I could
understand why, because you know, for me a halftime show,
I wanted to be energetic. I wanted to be like
amazing and over the top, you know, makes me want
to get out of my seat and dance, and this
one it didn't do that for me. And I like
(10:03):
rap music.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I am.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
I am not like an old person like, oh I
don't like rap, No, I like it.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
I didn't even know who he was, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Shoona didn't even know and many people didn't. I knew
who he was. I don't really hears a few of
his songs, but the bottom line of it was like
I didn't feel it was very fitting or you know,
for the show, and a lot of people felt that way,
and we couldn't understand a word he was saying, I know,
even in my living room, we were all like squinting
and trying to listen and say, what what is this
(10:33):
person saying? You know, what is Kendrick saying. So a
lot of people posted online about that. And there's this
one family who her boomer parents. They're old. They were
sitting on the couch and they were trying to understand
the music. You could see them that they were their
eyes were squinting, they were kind of putting their heads
tilted to like listen more carefully. And she said and
she made a caption like, oh, my boomer parents trying
(10:55):
to understand what he's saying, you know, And she wasn't
being mean. She laughed and posted it. The video went
viral and people ripped them apart, like absolutely ripped them apart,
her and her parents, oh boy, calling them racists, calling
them trumpsters, calling them, you know, every racist name in
(11:17):
the book, saying, oh, your parents, but had nothing to
do with race. She just said, my boomer parents trying
to understand what he's saying, and like they couldn't understand it.
I'm thirty nine, I couldn't understand a lot of the words.
It was very mumbled, so I felt for older people
who definitely can't hear even if I'm two feet away
from them, you know. But anyways, so people made it
a race thing, like, oh, it's because they're racist, they're this,
(11:39):
they're that, they're Trump supporters, being so mean to her
and her parents, and she was getting so upset. She
kept writing, why are you guys doing this? Why are
you saying it's like this is racial? It's not. It
could be anyone up there mumbling or whatever. They can't
understand it. And then she was writing to people calling
her racist or Trumpsters or republic or conservative or whatever,
(12:02):
and she said, we are the biggest liberals that you've
ever met. We are We're Democrat, we're liberal.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
So I don't support Trump. I don't like Trump. And
I had to make a comment. I just said nothing bad.
All I said was listen, hey, I get it. I
get why you feel this way. I feel for you,
and it sucks that they're judging you based off this
video and making it a race issue when it's not.
And this is why the country is so divided, because
(12:30):
everyone wants to point their finger and call the other
person a horrible name or a negative name and that's,
you know, basically what I wrote. And people started ripping
me apart for that, and I'm like, oh whatever, So
i just shut my Instagram down for the night and
I'm not dealing with this. I didn't write back to anyone.
And a few days go by, I'm in my message
request folder on Instagram and I see that on February tenth,
(12:55):
and I got a message request from somebody, so I
open it and it's the nastiest message ever. This person
was calling me horrible names. They called me a white
B word, a racist, white B word, made fun of
me for being Italian, was very you know, I can't
(13:18):
even say it on the radio. Some of the things, Yeah,
degrading me, putting me down, calling me a racist, calling
me a you know, all these names. And then they
brought my children into it because for the show, guys,
I'm my profile's public. I you know, I'm a podcaster,
I'm an influencer. My profile is public, I you know,
I understand. And I have some pictures of my kids
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on there, and this person went through my profile found
the pictures of my kids, so he knew I had
two kids or she and they threatened to shoot my kids.
And kill them, and I just didn't know what to
think in that moment. At first, I wasn't taking it
too serious. I'm like, Oh, it's just a troll. It's
just an Internet troll. Just ignore it. And then the
(13:59):
more I sat there, I was like, this is really serious.
This person didn't just call me a racist. Fine, you
want to call me a racist, you want to call
me a white bee biachi, you want to make fun
of me for being Italian, Okay, but you just threatened
to shoot my two children in the head. That right,
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that's that's not that's serious. That's serious.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Serious. They took it way too far. But you don't
you don't know who they are.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
No, they had no profile picture, they had everything private,
so they must have a troll account, which is that's
what people do. But that's just that's just taking it
too far. That's disgusting and that's disturbing. You were Italian
in my profile, like my little bio and Instagram, I
just have the Italian flag in the American flag. I'm
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an Italian American, you know, so I have the American
flag and then the Italian flag. And obviously they have
pictures of my kids in my profile. So yeah, he
went through my profile and looked, and then that started
getting me nervous, Like what else could he find on
my profile? Do I have my husband's a police officer?
Did I put a picture up of him with our
last name on on his on his you know, in
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their their outfit, their uniforms. I was thinking like that,
but I did blur it out in the past, and
thankfully I had that blurred. But you know, there's just
so much that we don't realize that we have online
that if someone wanted to hurt us, or some bad
person wanted to do anything to us, they could find
us easily, easily.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
It is so easy to find people. Yeah, these days online.
That's why I don't understand how all these kids are
going missing and you can't find them.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
I don't I don't know they there's I don't know.
I mean. The ending to the story is that I
contacted the FBI. I actually went to chat GBT. I
couldn't get in touch with my husband, I couldn't get
in touch with my brother in law who's a cop.
So I went on chat GBT and I was like,
what do I do in this situation? And I sent
(16:02):
Chat GBT what this person wrote me, and even chat
GBT was like, holy cow, you know that is serious.
That is a threat, and you need to contact the FBI.
And they gave me a link and I submitted everything
to the FBI, and then then my brother in law
and my husband called me back, and then I had
to make a police report with the local police department.
(16:23):
And yeah, the police have been patrolling my house every
single day during every shift, and the FBI called me.
The FBI, they were really great. Like I thought, maybe
I was overreacting that. I always get that feeling. Is
this something that warrants me to bring law enforcement in?
But apparently it is. They said that if anyone ever
threatens with use of a weapon to harm or kill somebody,
(16:46):
that's a serious threat and they want to know about it,
and they will go after the person and they could
be arrested, sentenced. It's like a big deal. The FBI
is going to subpoena Instagram if they haven't already, to
track this person's IP address and then go to this
person's house and you know, do their investigation and hopefully
(17:08):
arrest this person. So I've you know, they're keeping me
in the loop right now. They're just waiting for Instagram
to come come back to them, get back to them,
and it's scary. Guys, like, we have to take it serious.
I wasn't at first because I'm like, that's just a troll.
It's just someone trolling me. But that's a big deal.
You cannot threaten to kill or harm anybody, especially with
a weapon. And it's not funny if you're you know,
(17:31):
the young kids seem to do that a lot. It's
not funny. It's a serious crime. It's a serious offense,
and it's not a good thing. You're not making a point,
and it's not funny. And on the opposite side of
that is I you know, like I said, the FBI
and the police were so great with help me with
that situation. I know it was severe. But then we
deal with the school districts and I don't know what's
(17:53):
going on in the school districts lately, but they're so
lax on contacting parents for serious matters.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
You see our local mom friend erin what she's going
through with her son a local school district here, the
boy was sexually abused, Oh yes, yes, sexually abused by
another student. He went to the teacher told the teacher
that this kid sexually assaulted him or abused him whatever
during class. They sent him to the principal of the
(18:21):
nurse and then they sent him home on the b
sent him home on the bus hours later. No phone
call to the mother, no contact with the mother, didn't
let him call his mother. This poor kid got sexually
assaulted and then had to sit through the rest of
the day without his mother or father, and then go
home on the bus like everything was normal, with no
(18:41):
phone call home to the parents.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
And how did she find out? He told me.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
He came home and told her. He told her, yeah,
and he was He was crying, he was upset. And
then when she called the school, they said, oh, well,
you know, we were trying to investigate it. No, no, no, no,
So she she has gone.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
She went to the news.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
She went to the news for it. She is livid,
as I would be too. My child had to suffer
without his mom or dad after being sexually assaulted. You
sent him, made him sit through classes and go home
on the on the frickin' bus. Uh uh, Nope, But
this is what the schools are doing now and I
don't understand it. So my son didn't go through as
serious the situation as that, but he was in class
(19:21):
and this girl, Now these kids are between the age
of ten to twelve. This girl who's between the age
ten and twelve, came up to him and his friend
and said, do you want to see photos in my
hidden photo album? Now, if you have an iPhone, we
have a hidden photo album where if you want to
put something that you don't want anyone to see or
it's usually it's used for naked photos or porn, you know,
(19:43):
bad stuff, you put them in this hidden folder and
only you can open it with your face, not even
a pass code, it has to be your face. So
this little girl goes up to these boys in her
class and says, do you want to see pictures in
my hidden folder? They don't know what that means, but
they still said no, you know, I don't know, not really,
and they went back to drawing, and she's like, well,
you're gonna see it anyway, and she opened up the
(20:06):
folder and she showed them a video of her basically
masturbating in a way if you would have to say
it is humping. She was humping her pillow on her
bed and getting off to that and they went and
told the teacher, and then they went to the principal,
and the principal sat them down, took their statement, and
my son said that the principle seemed very concerned. But
(20:29):
then when they interviewed her, she denied it.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I was gonna say she probably had a different story.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
She denied it. And then they brought the boys back
in and they asked them was she fully clothed or
was she naked? And they said she was clothed. So
because she was fully clothed humping a pillow and getting
off on a pillow masturbating, basically, because she was fully clothed,
it doesn't warrant a phone call home, and it's not
(20:55):
anything that she can get in trouble for.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
It's a sexual act.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Right right, So I didn't get I didn't get a
phone call home. Now if my son didn't tell me,
and he actually he didn't tell me the boy the
other boy's mother who I'm friendly with, she is the
one who texts me first to alert me that it
was going on. My son was a little too embarrassed
to tell me what he saw because he didn't really
fully understand it. So when I brought up to him,
(21:19):
he told me. But let's say that.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Do you think if the other girl, if the mother
didn't tell you, what if he came home and been like, hey, ma,
guess well.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
No, I don't think he would have. He's very shy
like that. I don't think he would have told me.
I don't think so. So I would have never knew
what my son saw, and.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
So who knows what he did see or has seen
in the past.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
I know so this girl. Then I messaged the girl
after it was watched on a five days that I
didn't get a phone call from the principal or but
with the weekend, I mean it was the weekend in between.
But I messaged the girl or talked to girl. I said,
what's going on? She said that she called to bitch
or they called her about something else, and she said,
why haven't anyone called me about what my son saw
(22:02):
on that girl's phone? And they said, because she was
fully clothed, it's not it's not like it's not an
issue and no one's getting in trouble and we closed
the investigation. So that was their response.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
Yeah, I would have been at that school.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Yeah, they don't care. It's just called I could still
call I just like people said, like she said, you
don't get anywhere with them, like they don't I don't
know what's going on, Like why don't they care anymore?
Why is it that do they not want bad news?
Did they want not want you know, like that negative
stuff going out? But we're gonna find out one way
(22:40):
or the other, and it's gonna look worse on them,
you know.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
Well that's what I'm thinking is you know, you might
as well tell these parents and take care of the
situation in house, rather than these parents going to the
news stations.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Mm hmm, or going into the mom's groups and just
spreading it everywhere. And just like our friend erin, she's
on the news, she's on every group and she just
blasting them, which they deserve to be blasted. But they
could have avoided that with the simple call home to
the mom. Yeah, so I'm thinking they were trying to
cover their butts too before calling her, like calling their
(23:11):
lawyers what we have to do. But I feel like
they should know this stuff already. This is a serious thing.
If your child is sexually assaulted or abused, like the
parents need to be called right then and there, and
that child needs to be sent home, speak with the therapists,
make sure they're okay, you know, like not sent back
to class and sent home on the bus. Nope.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Yeah, And I wonder, know where are these teachers when
this stuff is going on?
Speaker 1 (23:34):
They don't they don't see it. And I'm not blaming
them because in Geo's school, another situation that happened was
these two kids were not assaulting each other, but they
were touching each other and on, you know, in a
sexual way under the desks, because the desks are next
to each other, and the teacher, you know, we used
to pass notes. Teacher can't see everything.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
So let me tell about the time I passed the notes.
Mister well caught me. Oh jesus, he picked my desk
up and slammed it down.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Could you imagine if a teacher did that today. They're
not allowed to do that anymore.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yeah, and you probably like, oh I did.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
He made me read it in front of the class.
Then I will never I didn't even finish writing it.
I wrote what are you doing? And I meant to
write like this weekend, and he's like, what is she doing?
She's paying attention to me, what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (24:29):
I will never forget it, and that's what kids need nowadays,
I think, because like you said, you'll never forget that,
but probably I don't. Did you ever pass notes after that?
Speaker 2 (24:40):
No?
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Yeah, there you go. I think we need to bring
back that with teachers.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
But but how I mean, I get you know, you
have thirty kids, maybe even more to look after, and
you know your back is probably to the talkboard or something,
if they even have chalkboards anymore. But I don't know.
I just think classes, where's the cameras? They should have
cameras in every classroom, in the hallways.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
They have a lot in the hallways. I don't know
about classrooms. But even still in the classroom, unless someone
was watching the camera as like all day long, like
in the class they wouldn't catch it. It'd be something they'd
catch afterwards, like oh, let's rewind it back, you know
what I'm saying. So, and that's even that's fine, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
You know, because incidents can happen anytime of the day,
you know, and teachers should be held responsible if they're
acting out or you know, these kids the parents should
see be able to see footage and say, look, no,
your kid was acting like an idiot. MM.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Hmm, yeah, no, I agree with that, like parents needed
to see what their kids are doing instead of always
protecting their children. And it protects teachers too from being
accused of something. It's and because nowadays with all these
kids with cell phones according their teachers and recording things
that go on in the classroom, teachers need to cover
(26:04):
their butts too to show, hey, well that happened because
this happened, and I only said that or yelled because
this happened. And so I think it's a good idea.
It definitely it's a cover your butt kind of thing
to have as a teacher, oh yeah, and as a parent,
it's good for us. But it also comes down to
parents too, like parents need to parent their children. That
(26:25):
little girl, why is that little girl? How does that
little girl know to save dirty photos in her hidden
phone album?
Speaker 2 (26:32):
I don't even know my phone have a right album.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
How old are we in our our late thirties. I know,
I know we're older in tech, but we had iPhones
since we were what twenty in our twenties, Like we
understand iPhones. So how does a ten, eleven or twelve
year old girl know to take dirty videos of herself? Provocative? Stuff,
sexual sexually explicit stuff and put it in her hidden
(26:57):
photo album and then show boys something's going on at home.
And I am just livid about it because as parents,
we need to do better, and we need to be
in our children's phones constantly, in their tablets, checking every night.
Every night, my son, when he goes to bed, I
take his tablet and I look through the messages. If
(27:17):
I can't get to it that night, the next morning,
I'm looking through his messages and he knows not to
delete anything. I have parental controls on there. He could
not delete things, and I tell him, if I ever
catch you deleting something, then this tablet is gone, it's gone.
So but we need to be in there. We need
to be checking. I was in his tablet and I
saw in one conversation, kid was talking about suicide and
(27:40):
then the you know, the conversation was, oh, don't kill yourself,
blah blah blah blah. And then another conversation they were
this one kid was being bullied and the other kids
were bullying him so bad. His dad just died and
they were picking on him. And then I saw another
conversation where, you know, my son and this other person
were kind of bullying this girl. And as parents, if
we were able to get into these tablets and phones
(28:01):
and look at this stuff, we would be aware of
a what's going on in our kid's life? Are they
being a bully? Are they being bullied? Are they suicidal?
Are they are are they being mean to somebody? Or
and we be aware of what's going on and we
could stop it right there. That little girl, I'm sure
she has provocative conversations in her phone and probably as
(28:22):
pictures elsewhere that are aren't right, So her parents should
be checking her stuff. So I blame the parents. I
blame the parents for a lot of this. So if
you're hearing this message, this is your reminder, set it
on your phone every night or every day at a
certain time. Take their tablets, take their phone, look through it.
Look at what they're searching on Google, look at their
(28:42):
photo albums, look at their text messages, look at their
Facebook messages. If you're paying for that phone, then you
have every freaking right to go through until they're eighteen.
That's just my opinion. You're paying for it and they're
under eighteen, especially, you have every right to go through.
You might be protecting your own child's life, or you
(29:03):
might be saving another child's life by going through their
phones and tablets. It's super important. Set that reminder and
do it please. We have to protect our kids.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Now. With the kid that wanted to commit suicide, did
you report it?
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Yeah? I didn't report it to the school, but I
reached out. Luckily, I knew who this kid's aunt was,
so I had reached out to the kid's aunt and said, hey, listen,
I don't want my son to be involved in this.
I didn't want anyone to come at my son like
you're a snancher, you or this or that. But I'm
letting you know what I read. And I sent her
like a little screenshot said he's talking about suicide. He
(29:42):
didn't say he's going to do it, but he's talking
about it. And he's also being bullied by these other kids.
And I saw it in there in another message that
the kids were drinking. These kids are ten to eleven
years old. They were getting drunk at someone's house. That's
what the message said. So I sent that to the
parent too, like, hey, do you know when they go
to this person's house, they're drinking and they're getting drunk
(30:03):
at eleven years old. Something's not right here and the
real Yeah, we need to be in our kids. Shit,
we need to you're not invading their privacy. We have
to protect them. In this day and age. It's not
like the old days. It's different. We have to protect
our children and protect other children. And the first step
there is right in these little phones and tablets. It's
(30:24):
easy one, two, three, And.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
That's GEO say about all this, Geo, you.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
Know, I asked him about it after I read it,
and he said, yeah, the kids are mean, He's like,
and I saw it in the message. Someone had screenshot
the suicidal thing and sent it to GEO, so he
wasn't in that conversation, but they sent him a screenshot
of the conversation and GEO said, you need to tell
his mom. So my son right away knew what to do,
and I was very proud because we have never talked
about that. We have never said, hey, if someone's suicidal,
(30:52):
you need to you know, like yeah, But on his own,
he said to the to the person who sent it
to him, you need to tell his mom, and she said,
I'm too scared to tell his mom. And he's like, well,
you really need to. If he does something and the girl,
I don't think he's gonna do anything. So I said
to you, I said, I'm very proud of you for that,
and you did the right thing. But if she kept
(31:14):
saying no, then you know you should have came to
mommy and then Mommy would have handled it. So that's
what I told him. And yeah, as kids are gonna say,
stop going through my stuff. He says it all the time,
and I just come back to him who pays for it. It's
not yours. This is a privilege and Mommy will go
through everything. So do not delete anything. If I find
out you delete it, it's gone. And I'm going to
(31:35):
check it every day and night. Be on your best behavior,
treat people right, and don't say or do anything that
could get you in trouble.
Speaker 2 (31:43):
On that note, we're gonna get Lalla some valume. We
will see you next week. Thank you so much for listening.
You're listening to Shauna I Lalla. Follow us at Shaunaanlala
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