May 29, 2025 • 36 mins
Shawna’s Memorial Day birthday might’ve been cold, but this episode is bringing the heat! Shawna spills on her birthday weekend woes, and the debate of the century: Would your partner be mad if you vacationed solo while they worked? Head over to our Instagram and let us know what you think in our poll!LaLa opens up about the mom guilt that comes with raising a teenager, while Shawna dives into the unique guilt of juggling work and family time as a single woman. Things heat up when LaLa introduces the lifesaving Facebook group “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” and Shawna shares jaw-dropping stories about men from dating apps. Let’s just say some guys are thinking with everything but their brains. Plus, LaLa recounts a terrifying DM that sounds like it’s straight out of a horror movie, and Shawna reviews the new Litter Robot—a game-changer for cat moms, especially those with disabilities.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
the rhythm of your day. It's SHAWNA m. What's up.
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(00:21):
Shauna and Lalla. You can follow me on Instagram at
the real Shauna May.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
And check me out at Bella Underscore Lalla one two five.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Allergy season has finally hit here. It has been horrendous.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Shauna is dying today.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Oh my god, I'm dying like every day. If it's
not like my stomach issues, it's the allergies, and it's
just so bad this year.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
They said it's one of the worst. I think. When
we went to the allergies she was telling me it's
been one of the worst years in a long time. So, yeah,
people are suffering.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, I got my allergy tests back and I am
not alerted to anything except highly allergic to latex, and
yet I have all these symptoms of allergic reaction after
allergic reaction and allergy after allergy. So I don't know
what to believe.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
It's really it's crazy. Yeah. Like so Shauna, from the
time she was a child was allergic to like everything
under the sun, pretty much every fruit. This is what
she know, she was telling me, and her doctors had said.
And I know you can grow out of stuff, so yeah,
I think she gra out of a lot of it.
But it was crazy to see a lot of them
like zero, Like she had no reaction to certain things
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that she was deadly allergic to.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
It's so weird, you know. I know your body changes
every seven years, but I don't know. I wish, like
the allergy, the latex allergy would just go away.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I know. And I was watching something on Instagram and
they said that even though things might not pop up
into in your allergy testing blood work, you could have
a histamine disorder which you react to certain types of foods.
And this doesn't mean you're gonna die from it, but
your body is like, man, I don't like this, but
it doesn't show up in like an allergy blood work.
(02:06):
It was crazy. I'm going to dive deeper into it.
But I'm thinking that you and I have histamine issues
and I haven't seen what treatment is for that, but uh,
it's something to look into to see maybe that's what
we're dealing with.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, I mean it could be you know. I went
to the hospital last week after the show for a
test and they injected me with iodine. It's some kind
of IV contrast, and the minute they injected me, I
felt to go through my arm and I felt it
in my mouth and then my mouth just went completely
(02:42):
numb and my tongue. So after the test, I asked
the girl if it was normal. I said, my mouth
is numb. Is that normal? And she's like, no, not
at all. So of course they call the nurse and
they walked me back and the doctor the radiologists had
to come and check me out. O. My blood pressure
was one seventy nine over seventy seven.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I believe that's high for you.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, very high. So they're like, you're definitely having some
type of reaction to it. So they're like, you're allergic
to idine. So I they're like, follow up what you're primary.
So I follow up with my primary and she says,
you're actually not allergic to iodine, which I didn't know.
This iodine is in your body already, so I had
no idea. But it's a component within the IV contrast
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that I'm allergic to, which makes sense now because I'm
allergic to tons of medications.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Iodine is something that we need. It's
very important for us. It helps your thyroid. That's why
i'd assault was made. Do you ever see on assualt
says IODI AsSalt? Yeah, and it has like the red cross,
like the red cross in the bottom. In third world countries,
they don't have it. I don't know the signs behind it,
but either it's not readily available in there soil or
(04:00):
they don't eat enough nutrients and they get these goiters
on their neck like the thyroid. It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Yeah, I saw them.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
So in order to combat that other countries like US,
we began iodizing salt because we don't get enough in nature,
I guess. And it's now there's iodine in everyday salt,
and we sent it over to those countries and then
they use it on their food and they're able to
not get those goiters. So it's very important. We need it.
We do produce it too, but if you lack it,
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you can have a lot of serious issues.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Interesting, I didn't know that. You know, the medical mystery
still continues. Doctor after doctor.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
It's never an easy appointment.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
It scenes no, and I had to go for like
more blood work. It was just it's getting ridiculous. You know,
they're just testing you for the same thing over and
over and over again, and I know it's so annoying.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I think they're just trying to appease you, like, oh,
we don't know, but let's keep we gotta do something
for her, you know, make it seem like we're trying here,
But it's hard, it really is.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I mean I was hoping for your birthday that you'd
get some answers as that would be a nice birthday gift,
like having some dead said answers here.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But well I did. I mean I have a heart issue,
I have a spleen issue, I have a liver issue,
and I have an intestinal issue. So I mean we
got some answers, happy birthday, but not what I was
looking for.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Yeah, no, I get it. Well, how was your birthday anyway?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
It was good. I spent it, uh usually, as you know,
I spend it with my grandmother. We always went out
to lunch or dinner. She passed away. So I was
like really depressed, you know, like really bummed, like this
whole weekend. And then I was going through one of
my drawers in my apartment and I came across her
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gift card that she gave to me last year. So
that just like put a smile on my face. Yeah,
I was like kind of like, you know, it's a sign, definitely.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
But I went to my cousin's house. He had a barbecue.
He has an annual Memorial Day barbecue. And the food
is just amazing.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Really, Oh, that's the best. That's the best when you
go to a barbecue and they actually know how to
cook or have good food, because it sucks when you
go to these parties or barbecues and the food is
disgusting and you're like you're starving, you want to eat,
but you can't even stomach the food, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, yeah, which is you know, usual sometimes that does happen.
Not with my dad's family though. Yeah. My uncle is
an excellent cook. I look forward to every holiday because
we spend holidays there. And I just, oh my god,
I couldn't get enough of like the macaroni salad, the
baked beans, the corn on the cob was so good.
(06:45):
And you know, last week I went grocery shopping and
I bought ten years of corn.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I know, it was so much for me and my mom.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So my mom's like, you know, she makes it and
she says to me, I said, oh, how did you
like the corn? And she's like, it's deer corn. I
said what. She's like, it's deer corn. It's not the
yellow sweet kind that you like. I said, well, I
liked it, I said, I thought it was good. So
when we go to my uncle's house, she shows me
(07:14):
the corn and it's like really really yellow and yeah,
really sweet. She's like, this is the corn you should
have gotten.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
I was like, but that's all they have. That's all
they had there. They don't sell deer corn in the
grocery store, so maybe it just wasn't you know, it
wasn't sure you know, yeah, because deer corn and cawcorn
they don't sell the people to eat.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
She always complains about everything that I buy.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Yeah, yeah, true, So they don't have this section as
like deer corn and human corn. No, like it just
breaking the corn and sometimes yeah, like depending on the
corn that you pick, they're gonna be some's gonna be
more ripe and some's not mature yet, so it's not
gonna have that sweet flavor. Yeah, but yeah, I don't
know she's.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
She loves to complain. I don't know if anyone has
like parents out there that love to complain, but she
just loves to complain about every little thing. So this
year for Mother's Day, I was gonna get her a
cherry tree because she's she's always wanted her cherry tree.
I bought her one a few years ago. The deer
ate it and that was the end of that. So
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I was gonna get her another tree. Then I was
gonna get her, you know, an apple tree, and it
was just I ended up getting her nothing because she
she just complains about everything.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I don't want that. Yeah, your mom for years since
I've known her, has been asking for an apple tree.
If anyone wants to get me something, I want an
apple tree. And then you go to get it for
her and she tells you no, Like I don't understand that.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I know she can't plant it herself, but like my
dad could have came over and planted it, or somebody
could have my sister in law or brother or somebody
could have come over and planted it for She just
loves to complain. And it's so I didn't get my
vacation that I wanted. So only thing I wanted was
to go away for like the weekend, and that didn't happen,
(09:08):
although it was really cold and raining and it was
a horrible like Memorial Day weekend, I know.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
But you know what, you can always schedule your birthday.
My birthday is on Christmas, so I can never do
anything on my birthday, but we schedule, like, you know,
right now tomorrow, actually I'm going on my birthday trip.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Oh yeah, that's right.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
So that's what you can do, is like, all right,
May kind of sucks sometimes the weather plan it out
because I'm I'm Christmas baby and my birthday present is tomorrow.
I'm going to see Shakira in Boston and it's gonna
be nice, hopefully nice out. So you should do the
same thing, like have her bookie something in July where
you know the weather's gonna be nice.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Yeah. So she did say that we can do that.
I just have to, you know, look up and see
where we want to go. You know, I did look
into Myrtle Beach. You know, the hotels there are five
hundred and something dollars an.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
What the hell I could go to Florida for cheaper
than that on a beach.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Yeah, that's insane. I was like, well, forget that. And
I was like, maybe it's because it's like during the
summer in its peak season. I don't know, but I
am not spending no five hundred and something dollars on
a hotel.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
No, no, no.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Granted it's on the beach, yeah, but still no, not happening.
Even I checked Jersey hotels for the Jersey Shore, like
six hundred dollars. I'm like, this is insane. Yep, it's
the Jersey Shore.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Yeah. They know that they're gonna get a lot of
the people who don't want to fly down to Florida
or drive down to Florida, so they can they do
it because they can, like, oh well, the East Coast
really doesn't have or the Upper East Coast doesn't have
a lot of options. They're gonna come here, so let's
charge them out the button.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
But it's not even that nice. You know, it's Seaside Heights,
Point Pleasant. I mean Point Pleasant is way better than
Seaside Heights. Yeah, still, come on.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I know. And the hotels are never nice. They're like
old dingy. I mean I went to one that was
supposed to be nice, and I was very parking it
really wasn't. It was very dingy.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
So we went to It was my first time staying
over at Seaside Heights. We went with my godfather's wife,
his daughter, and some of her friends. We stayed at
the Hershey Hotel or Hershey Motel, and my little cousin
was running around with his key for the room and
(11:30):
his key opened up our door and like other people's doors,
and I was like, yeah, no, we're leaving.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, yeah, you can get into every room.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
I mean, thank god, we only stayed there like overnight,
but we left.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
How scary is that?
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Well, that is very it's really really scary. That means
that another guest could, if they figured that out, could
get it right into your room's.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah, that's a problem. So forget ever staying there.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Go to Ocean City. It's a lot nicer, cleaner, the
weather's nicer because it's you know, further south, a little
bit of a drive. But I would recommend that over
Seaside or New Jersey any day, any day. Or Delaware
there's a I've never been there, but I heard Delaware
Rehobeth Beach is really nice, clean and nice area. So
(12:19):
but it's cold there, it's not as cold as New
Jersey is gonna be. It's gonna be warmer. Oh so
it's further south. Okay, so that's Ocean City and Dela
and Rehobeth be there close like you can. But if
you didn't, I don't know. I mean, I guess if
you're driving that far, just go to Ocean City. You
know what's the difference. But I would, I would say
go to Ocean City. There's so many cool things, lots
(12:41):
of cool bars on the water, like for dinner and lunches.
I like it. It was very clean. I haven't been there though,
I probably thirteen years, but my sister goes every year
and she says it's still nice.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
So I'll have to check it out. So, speaking of vacation,
me and you were tall the other day and you're
going to Florida in July, and your sister was supposed
to go with you, but her husband can't get off
of work. Yep, So she said, as a joke, I'll
just go with Enzo, Yeah, her son, her son, and
(13:20):
you'll just have to pay for us, meaning her husband
will just have to pay. So your husband was on
the phone and he said that it's rude. Yeah, I
don't think so. I mean, granted, my mom my parents
are divorced, but I know so many people that go
on vacation without their significant other, you know, I don't know.
(13:42):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yeah, so it's hard because so, yeah, like my sister,
she really wants to come with us of Florida with
my nephew, and because her husband can't get off like,
she said that, yeah, like can you pay for me
and Enzo to go? And you know, I'm sorry, I
want to go, and my husband just really like destrode
over this, like how could she say that to him?
(14:03):
That's so rude. I'd be so mad if you said
that to me. So at first I was like like Sean,
and was like, oh, what's the big deal because it's
my sister, So I want her to come, And if
he can't get off work, then I you know, I'd
rather her come than not come. And he's gonna be
working anyway, so what's the difference, you know. But then
as my husband was explaining it, he's like, so let's
(14:24):
reverse the roles, Lauren. If my parents were going to
Florida on this nice vacation and in a beach house,
you wanted to come but you couldn't get off from work.
And I was like, well, then I'm gonna go without
you pay for me, and I'm gonna go with Juliana.
And even if I didn't say pay for me, I'm
just gonna leave you. I'm gonna take the kids and
I'm gonna go to the beach for a week. How
would you feel? And I thought about it, I'm like, yeah,
(14:45):
I would be really pissed. I would be upset, like
because I want to go, but I can't get off work.
So wait for me, you know, like, let's plan another
trip so I get it. But then then yeah, like
then my single side comes out where back in the day,
I'm on the same page as you, like, just go
out your husband, like who cares? You know, but certain
certain marriages don't. They don't care. I have friends who
(15:06):
they like getting away from their husband. They like going
on girls trips, yeah, they and they the husband doesn't
care because he likes the lone time too, you know. Yeah,
and that's great. My marriage isn't like that, and my
sisters is definitely not like that. Likes my sister's husband
wants to be with her, you know, he doesn't want
her going somewhere and might. And Mike's like that too,
like he wants to be with his kids every day.
(15:28):
He wants to be with me if I'm late or
if I'm out. When he's getting home from work, he's
really depressed because he wants to come home to see
Jelina and my son, Like he wants them there when
he comes home, so we can hug them and hang
out with them because he misses them. So he is
different that way. He does not want us to leave him.
He does not want to be away from us. So
(15:50):
I see it both ways. I know what you're saying, though,
because I have friends too who just bye to their
husband and the husband's like, yeah, i'll see you in
a week, and they're fine with it, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I mean you know, she's taken can end so so
he doesn't have to worry about that, Like he's got
the house to himself, he's gonna be working anyway.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, no, I get it. But then if I put
myself in their shoes, then I'm like, yeah, I'd be mad,
you know, I'd be mad. It's kind of like your
if your mom if she wanted to go on a
beach to a beach house and you couldn't get off
from your job. And then she's like, all right, well
I'm gonna go without you, And you're like, well, can't
you just give me book another trip?
Speaker 1 (16:27):
You know I would probably go without me, but let's
book another Yeah, when I can go.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah, it's tough, it really is. I guess it depends
on the marriage, Like I said, like my marriage, no,
he's not cool with that. My sister's Nope, not at all.
And then other marriages, Yeah, they don't care. They're like freedom.
You know, both sides like freedom. So what what do
you guys think? Like, are you more like Shaana saying
I don't see an issue with it. He should let
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her go on vacation with you know, me and my husband,
and he should stay home and work, or more like
me and my husband, like, no, that's that's not nice
to do to him. Stay home with him and book
another trip together.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
We'll have to do a poll.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Yeah, I'll do a poll online or something.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yeah, on our social media. So I guess that goes
with like mom guilt versus like single girl.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Yeah, yeah, parent guilt, but yeah, mom guilt. Moms and
dads can have it. I think more so moms get
a lot of mom guilt, Like I know I have
you do every single day, maybe not multiple times a day,
but most days it usually is. But always at night time.
It hits me. Always at night time, I have this
(17:37):
mom guilt and it makes me so depressed that I
have to stop my brain from thinking. I think of
everything that I did wrong and how I treated my
children through the day, mainly my son, because my daughter whatever,
she's three and she snaps back. But my son is eleven,
so he's at.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
The age where he's not a bad kid.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
He's not a bad kid, but he's going through those
hormone changes, emotion, whatever it is. And I have no
freaking patience for him, and I feel horrible, like I'm
so nasty to him, sometimes not saying he's being an angel,
and I'm being nasty Like he gets he does things
that are aggravating. But I lose my cool so fast
on him.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
He loses his book bag.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, he loses his book bag. He he's all he
is right now is about is talking to his friends
on the tablet or on his PlayStation. So that's all
he wants to do is talk to them. So he
is so zoned into that and I'll be like, hey,
can you go let the dog out? Or hey can
you do this? And he'll jump and do it really fast,
but he rushes through it because he wants to get
(18:36):
right back to that tablet. And then he didn't clip
the dog in one day good enough, like on its harness,
so the dog got loose and you know, I couldn't
find it for an hour. Things like that where he's careless,
and I know it comes with age, but as a mom,
I'm losing my cool and I'm screaming at him and
I'm like putting him down in a way, you know,
like what the hell's wrong with you? And it's not good,
(18:56):
it's not nice. And then did I I didn't hug
enough today? And then I start thinking of how old
he's getting in soon he's not gonna want to hug me.
Soon he's not gonna want to be around me, and
I'm gonna lose him, you know, he's gonna he's gonna
get into those teenage years and then he's gone. And
every night that mom guilt hits super hard, and I'm like,
I'm this is it's not it's not fun those emotions
(19:20):
and we're all trying to do our best, but we
make mistakes, and I definitely make a ton of mistakes
and I hate it. Like I don't know, I hear
that single women, you girls have single girl guilt or
something or single girl pressure.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I mean my pressure is different. I'm you know, I'm
I'm single, but I'm looking you know, if a guy
just comes to my door magically, maybe, you know. But
our I think my thing is is I'm focused on work. Yeah,
I don't have kids. I have the cats, so you know,
(19:56):
my focus is a little bit well way different. Yeah,
I feel the guilt like, oh, you know, I should
have Like, for instance, my cousin is having a party
and I'm going to be out of town for the podcast,
So which should I do? Should I do the podcast
or should I go to my cousin's birthday party? You know,
(20:18):
So that kind of guilt maybe like you could spend
time with family, you know, any time, but you know,
these interviews only come up once in a blue moon,
so you know, like it's kind of like you gotta
weigh your options.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, yeah, and that's I guess the same thing with me.
It's you know, I work a lot, I have the
mom guilt with my daughter too, like she's not enjoying
her toddlerhood. I feel because I'm always working all the time,
and every morning, most morning, she's like, Mommy, I don't
want to go anywhere. I want to play in my room.
And it's heartbreaking to me because you know she should
(20:56):
be playing in her room, she should be playing with
her dolls. But yeah, you gotta work, got to survive.
And that guilt kills me too. I'm like, you know,
she Geo. I didn't work until he was about three,
so he had a lot of freedom from the from
a baby to a toddler. He was in his room,
he was playing, he was outside, he was never in
(21:16):
the car Angelina. It's different. So I have a lot
of guilt with her too, And you know, you weigh
out the options. I need to work, I need to
make money and try to make the best of it
for her, you know, try to make sure she's having
fun and have a day off where she's staying hanging
out at home in her room and she doesn't feel
the constant because every day is funny. My husband last
because she's like a little old person. She's like, where
are we going? I'm like, well, I gotta go to
(21:38):
work again, and you know, she's getting tired of the
everyday thing, and I feel bad for her. Yeah, but
and that's the guilt, and you know, we got to
weigh out her options. And you have the pressures of
other things, probably of life and family, like oh, when
when are you getting married? Or when are you meeting someone?
(21:58):
Or man, are you gonna have kids? Right? Like those questions.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, the whole kids thing that has gone away, thank god. Yeah,
I pretty much made it very clear that I do
not want to have kids. I love kids, but I
just don't want to have my own kids, you know.
And it's not even the selfish thing. It's that I
cannot handle poop and throwing up yep. That is really honestly,
(22:24):
And like the crying stages all the time, like the whining,
Oh I can't stand that. But yeah, the whole marriage thing, yeah,
that still comes up all the time. When are you
gonna get married? When you well, you gotta meet someone, right,
I gotta meet somebody first, you know, someone who's not
(22:44):
an asshole.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
That's hard. That's a hard one.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
You know, Like these dating apps, I see it all
the time. They're like, does anyone know of any great
dating apps? You know? These all suck? Nope, they all suck.
That's why I'm off of them. I'm not on them.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
I I can't imagine. I can't. It was bad, like
back I was on the dating amms, back when they
kind of first started. We only had two options like
Match dot com Yeah, and plenty of Fish. I think, yes,
And it was bad back then. Not so much Match,
but plenty of Fish was like a cesspool of just
sexual predators.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I feel like it was. It was bad. It was disgusting.
Didn't somebody say that they wanted to lock you in
their basement? Oh?
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Yeah, they said. I still have them screenshop. But the
guy wrote me and said, you're so cute, You're so tiny,
I'm going to send someone to your house and put
you in bubble wrap and ship you to my house
and lock you in my basement while feeding you TV
dinners to keep you alive. That was a message I
got from a guy trying to date me or get
(23:49):
me to go on a date with him, and I
like posted it because I was so freaked out, and
a few people were like, that's funny, he sounds funny. No,
don't I don't find it funny when you're kind of
threatening to like kidnap me and you lock me in
your basement, like come on. But I don't know if
people are that creepy nowadays, because that was the beginning
of that kind of stuff, So maybe now people are
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smarter than to write that out. And who knows. I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
I mean, you never know. I come across when I
was on those dating apps. I've come across some sketchy,
sketchy things, you know. I've come across people that are
married that I know on these apps. Yep, you know,
like it's crazy.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
And they don't care. They don't care.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
No, And like my cousin's relative on her husband's side,
like he's on the app and he like always messages me,
and I'm like, you know me, oh my god, you know,
like why are you messaging me?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
The balls these people have? I don't know, I don't know.
I My newest obsession has been are we dating the
same guy that those those Facebook groups?
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Yeah, I love reading that crap. And they're they're everywhere.
There are a lot of states have them, a lot
of cities and towns and counties whatever, And it's great
because it's like girl power and you know, girl code.
We're posting up a picture. Sometimes they just want to
know their car facts. I call it the car facts
on them, you know, yeah, give me the red flag,
(25:27):
give me the pros, give me the content. I always
wish there was something like that back in the day
when I was on those apps, I said, I wish
these apps came with like a review, like a review
section of like where past girlfriends could write underneath it, like, yeah,
he's a jerk, he cheated on me, he has a
weird fetish, you know.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
He doesn't pay for the meal on the date.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah, he has three baby mamas. Like I wish there
was a review section that people could just go on
and write. But now these Facebook groups they do that,
and I love it. I love reading it. And then
I saw someone recently that I knew my husband knows.
I met him through my husband a few times, and
he was on there. A girl plastered his face on
there was making fun of his you know what, like
(26:09):
told and sane. It was a micro it was very tiny,
Oh my god, ripping him apart, and I was I
was laughing. I'm like, oh my god, you know this
is crazy that.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
The bad part about it is could this be someone
making up lies about him, like she's mad that he
turned her down or whatever. Yeah, but I don't know.
I think it's a good thing. We got to look
out for each other. And there's a lot of creeps
out there. There's a lot of men out there that
they play the game. They play women very very well
while they're either with somebody oh yeah, and they play
(26:44):
mind games with you and and their girl or whoever
they're with, And we got to call them out. We
got to put put them on last because they they're
doing this and they're getting away with it. And yeah,
I think I think it's a good thing. So that's
my newest obsession is these are we dating the same guy?
Speaker 1 (27:02):
I just like reading like what people are writing, you know,
on there, and to see like just the scum. I
guess she could say that's on those dating apps. Yeah,
they are really just really bad. I mean your brother
was on it for months yep, and he finally found
(27:23):
a girl.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
He found a girl from it. Yeah, uh, I mean,
but he was a jerk on there too. He was
always like mean to people if they if they said
something wrong to him. You know, but he found a girl.
We'll see how long, you know, hopefully she sticks around.
We really like her. She's really sweet, you know. I
think they make a good pair. But I'm like, oh, Carl,
(27:43):
don't mess this up. Come on, She's a good, normal girl.
But yeah, he used the dating app, so it was
good for him. I actually met my husband on the
dating app on Plenty of Fish.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Yeah, so he would have met him before, yeah, like
i'd seen.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Him out kind of. He was friends with a friends
but and my sistern had met him a few times before.
But that's how he reached out to me. He reached
out to me on Plenty of Fish and was like, hey,
I know your sister, and then we started talking from there.
But so it works, you know, it can work. It
just that you're not getting the best options on there.
It's kind of like, out of one hundred guys on there,
(28:19):
you might find two that are good and the rest suck.
So it's very hard finding those two good guys out
of the hundred weirdos, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Yeah, honestly, I've made friends with guys from the apps.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
But yeah, you had some duds there, some some jerks
that I wanted to like, choke out.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Yeah. I don't know which one is worse, the one
that was counting his money in front of me, oh god,
on the date, or the one that asked me to
pay for his child support and diapers.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
They're brazen, these men, they're brazen.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
I don't know which one is worse.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
I think the diapers guy, because he kept asking me
to pay for his kids. You're only talking to him
for like a few weeks online. You didn't even meet
him in person.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
No, we didn't even be in person.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
The guy counting his money, I was there for that,
and that was just that was embarrassing. I was embarrassed secondhand,
embarrassed for him, you know. So this is the story
showing us on a date. I happened to be there
with my kids. I saw him like oh, and she's like,
why don't you say with us? So this is their
first date. It was he he was very awkward.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
So yeah, that's why he was normal when you talk
to him on the phone.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
The phone. Yeah, so she was feeling awkward. So like
heyla like, comes sit with me. I sat there and
then I think he thought he had to pay for
my food, and my daughter sued and showing a suod
and he just kept counting his money and he only
had I don't even know, maybe ten singles in his hand.
And he's under the table, but you could kind of
see it. He's counting, counting, counting, putting it back, counting
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it probably like fuckuck, I don't have enough money to
pay for this.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Yeah, and then he just started taking it out on
the table.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, yep, counting, counting.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
And then the waiter came and I said, just put
up my.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Card, yeah, put the bill on my cart, and he
was like like a relief came over him. He's like,
I only had ten singles on me, Like who goes
on a date and with only If you don't have money,
that's fine, but just say, hey, why don't we hang
out somewhere else? Like if you're going to eat at
a restaurant, you should have some money on you.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Yeah, girl and guy he picked the place.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Yeah, very weird, very weird. That was awkward, but still
not as bad as that guy asking you for to
pay for his diapers and baby stuff, because that was
that was crazy to me.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
That was just like on a whole nother level, like
you're not gonna get a girl by asking that.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
No, no, no, no, you know, like maybe an idiot,
but not any normal or intelligent woman.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Yeah. Then there was another guy. He was from upstate
and he had like three or four kids, and he
was like, oh, do you want kids? And at that
time I was like, yeah, you know, maybe I don't know.
So he writes back and goes, if you come up here,
I can make that happen, Oh my god, And I'm like,
are you kidding me? I'm like, oh, block you.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yep again brazen, Like what is.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Wrong with these guys?
Speaker 2 (31:22):
I don't know if they think that's what you want
to hear, or they think it's sexy but it's not.
Now No, they think last thing I want to hear.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Yeah, they think with their dick and that is it.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Hey, you want to get knocked up by a guy
with four babies already on the first date? No, No,
who would? Who would? Unless you're like a zillionaire. That's
the only billionaire. I'd be like, all right, child support,
you know, I'm kidding, but no, not no light low life,
four baby mama. Having guy out there you're like, oh,
(31:55):
let me knock you up the first date and then
by you know.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Like yeah, he probably didn't even have it. I didn't
even like ask what he did for a job, but
he probably didn't even have a job.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
No, no, not at all. I guarantee it.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
I just I don't know. Oh jeez, that's me with
my dating stories. So, speaking of my little fur babies,
my children. We got the litter robot for Mother's Day
and my dad finally hooked it up for me. I
am obsessed with it. I've never been so excited over
(32:27):
a litter box. But you know how, I'm like always
like I wonder if Leo is okay. I wonder if
this one's okay, you know. Yeah, so I could track,
It's gonna sound crazy. I could track when they use
the litter box on my phone, like.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Which cat uses it?
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (32:46):
Yeah. So you type in like you know the name
of the cat, and then their weight and if they
have any like medical issues. Mine don't have medical issues,
thank god. But you type in the weight and all that,
and then it tells you which cat uses the litter box.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Yeah, And it tells you on the app when it
needs to be changed, like when the litter has to
be changed if there's not enough litter because it kind
of like goes through a cycle, so it's scoop for it.
You don't have to scoop it. It just goes. It
goes on like.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
It strips itself, like yeah, yeah, sure, and.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
The little tray on the bottom just comes out and
you just pick up the bag and throw it away.
Super simple, super easy. It's great for people with disabilities
because we could do it independently. We don't need help anymore.
And it's just so easy. And the cats love it,
I think not walking in.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Poop, yeah, And I think that's my favorite part about it.
And I'm not trying to be mean, but whenever it
comes to show in his house there, anybody's house that
has cats, the litter box always grosses me out because
you see the poop, You see the poop, Yeah, you
smell it, and you smell it, so that's a problem.
And it always like grossed me out going to anyone's
(34:07):
house with cats not just shown us, and I'm like,
I don't want to look at cat poop. I don't
want to smell it, you know. But this thing, she's
had it hooked up for over a week now about
and I don't smell litter like I've gone and it's
just the litter Roba is in like a small room
and whenever I go in there, I do not smell
it at all. You wouldn't know there was a litter
box in that room, and you don't see it anymore.
(34:28):
You don't see the poop or the clumps of peas.
And I love that that. It's any Every house with
cats should have it, because you don't want your house
to smell a cat, you know. No one likes that, no,
but that's that's the best thing to me, is like
the smell and not having to see it.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Yeah, I love it. I absolutely love it. And uh,
I'm going to do a full video review of it
very shortly as soon as like I have to get
the cats like involved in the video, and they're very
camera shy. Yeah, Holly was afraid to the little robot.
So it took her like ten minutes. She just kept
(35:04):
like sniffing it and then she'd stick her head in it,
and then she'd step back, and then she just stare
at it, and then she finally went in and used it.
I'm like, she's.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Fine now, she's okay, yeah, yeah, good.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
But it took it took some time.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
Yeah. Everything. It's just like kids. They're gonna nothing happens
overnight and they have to get used to things. You know,
they have they have a one thing for the whole
their whole life was the same little litter box, and
then you change it to this robot looking thing. It
looks like a spaceship. You know, they're like, what the
heck is this?
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (35:35):
We need that for you people. Right, we need to
weigh us while we're sitting on the toilet track us.
How many times did I go today? Oh? Jeez? But no,
it's great and it really is easy for cat owners
to have, especially with multiple cats like Showana. She has three,
so that makes it so much easier to keep everything
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smelling clean, looking clean, and the cats are happy.
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You could follow me on Instagram at the real Shawna May.
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Speaker 1 (00:31):
Allergy season has finally hit here. It has been horrendous.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Shauna is dying today.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Oh my god, I'm dying like every day. If it's
not like my stomach issues, it's the allergies, and it's
just so bad this year.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
They said it's one of the worst. I think. When
we went to the allergies she was telling me it's
been one of the worst years in a long time. So, yeah,
people are suffering.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, I got my allergy tests back and I am
not alerted to anything except highly allergic to latex, and
yet I have all these symptoms of allergic reaction after
allergic reaction and allergy after allergy. So I don't know
what to believe.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
It's really it's crazy. Yeah. Like so Shauna, from the
time she was a child was allergic to like everything
under the sun, pretty much every fruit. This is what
she know, she was telling me, and her doctors had said.
And I know you can grow out of stuff, so yeah,
I think she gra out of a lot of it.
But it was crazy to see a lot of them
like zero, Like she had no reaction to certain things
(01:33):
that she was deadly allergic to.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
It's so weird, you know. I know your body changes
every seven years, but I don't know. I wish, like
the allergy, the latex allergy would just go away.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
I know. And I was watching something on Instagram and
they said that even though things might not pop up
into in your allergy testing blood work, you could have
a histamine disorder which you react to certain types of foods.
And this doesn't mean you're gonna die from it, but
your body is like, man, I don't like this, but
it doesn't show up in like an allergy blood work.
(02:06):
It was crazy. I'm going to dive deeper into it.
But I'm thinking that you and I have histamine issues
and I haven't seen what treatment is for that, but uh,
it's something to look into to see maybe that's what
we're dealing with.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, I mean it could be you know. I went
to the hospital last week after the show for a
test and they injected me with iodine. It's some kind
of IV contrast, and the minute they injected me, I
felt to go through my arm and I felt it
in my mouth and then my mouth just went completely
(02:42):
numb and my tongue. So after the test, I asked
the girl if it was normal. I said, my mouth
is numb. Is that normal? And she's like, no, not
at all. So of course they call the nurse and
they walked me back and the doctor the radiologists had
to come and check me out. O. My blood pressure
was one seventy nine over seventy seven.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I believe that's high for you.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, very high. So they're like, you're definitely having some
type of reaction to it. So they're like, you're allergic
to idine. So I they're like, follow up what you're primary.
So I follow up with my primary and she says,
you're actually not allergic to iodine, which I didn't know.
This iodine is in your body already, so I had
no idea. But it's a component within the IV contrast
(03:33):
that I'm allergic to, which makes sense now because I'm
allergic to tons of medications.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Iodine is something that we need. It's
very important for us. It helps your thyroid. That's why
i'd assault was made. Do you ever see on assualt
says IODI AsSalt? Yeah, and it has like the red cross,
like the red cross in the bottom. In third world countries,
they don't have it. I don't know the signs behind it,
but either it's not readily available in there soil or
(04:00):
they don't eat enough nutrients and they get these goiters
on their neck like the thyroid. It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Yeah, I saw them.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
So in order to combat that other countries like US,
we began iodizing salt because we don't get enough in nature,
I guess. And it's now there's iodine in everyday salt,
and we sent it over to those countries and then
they use it on their food and they're able to
not get those goiters. So it's very important. We need it.
We do produce it too, but if you lack it,
(04:30):
you can have a lot of serious issues.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Interesting, I didn't know that. You know, the medical mystery
still continues. Doctor after doctor.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
It's never an easy appointment.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
It scenes no, and I had to go for like
more blood work. It was just it's getting ridiculous. You know,
they're just testing you for the same thing over and
over and over again, and I know it's so annoying.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I think they're just trying to appease you, like, oh,
we don't know, but let's keep we gotta do something
for her, you know, make it seem like we're trying here,
But it's hard, it really is.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
I mean I was hoping for your birthday that you'd
get some answers as that would be a nice birthday gift,
like having some dead said answers here.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But well I did. I mean I have a heart issue,
I have a spleen issue, I have a liver issue,
and I have an intestinal issue. So I mean we
got some answers, happy birthday, but not what I was
looking for.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Yeah, no, I get it. Well, how was your birthday anyway?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
It was good. I spent it, uh usually, as you know,
I spend it with my grandmother. We always went out
to lunch or dinner. She passed away. So I was
like really depressed, you know, like really bummed, like this
whole weekend. And then I was going through one of
my drawers in my apartment and I came across her
(05:49):
gift card that she gave to me last year. So
that just like put a smile on my face. Yeah,
I was like kind of like, you know, it's a sign, definitely.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
But I went to my cousin's house. He had a barbecue.
He has an annual Memorial Day barbecue. And the food
is just amazing.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Really, Oh, that's the best. That's the best when you
go to a barbecue and they actually know how to
cook or have good food, because it sucks when you
go to these parties or barbecues and the food is
disgusting and you're like you're starving, you want to eat,
but you can't even stomach the food, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, yeah, which is you know, usual sometimes that does happen.
Not with my dad's family though. Yeah. My uncle is
an excellent cook. I look forward to every holiday because
we spend holidays there. And I just, oh my god,
I couldn't get enough of like the macaroni salad, the
baked beans, the corn on the cob was so good.
(06:45):
And you know, last week I went grocery shopping and
I bought ten years of corn.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I know, it was so much for me and my mom.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So my mom's like, you know, she makes it and
she says to me, I said, oh, how did you
like the corn? And she's like, it's deer corn. I
said what. She's like, it's deer corn. It's not the
yellow sweet kind that you like. I said, well, I
liked it, I said, I thought it was good. So
when we go to my uncle's house, she shows me
(07:14):
the corn and it's like really really yellow and yeah,
really sweet. She's like, this is the corn you should
have gotten.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
I was like, but that's all they have. That's all
they had there. They don't sell deer corn in the
grocery store, so maybe it just wasn't you know, it
wasn't sure you know, yeah, because deer corn and cawcorn
they don't sell the people to eat.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
She always complains about everything that I buy.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Yeah, yeah, true, So they don't have this section as
like deer corn and human corn. No, like it just
breaking the corn and sometimes yeah, like depending on the
corn that you pick, they're gonna be some's gonna be
more ripe and some's not mature yet, so it's not
gonna have that sweet flavor. Yeah, but yeah, I don't
know she's.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
She loves to complain. I don't know if anyone has
like parents out there that love to complain, but she
just loves to complain about every little thing. So this
year for Mother's Day, I was gonna get her a
cherry tree because she's she's always wanted her cherry tree.
I bought her one a few years ago. The deer
ate it and that was the end of that. So
(08:21):
I was gonna get her another tree. Then I was
gonna get her, you know, an apple tree, and it
was just I ended up getting her nothing because she
she just complains about everything.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I don't want that. Yeah, your mom for years since
I've known her, has been asking for an apple tree.
If anyone wants to get me something, I want an
apple tree. And then you go to get it for
her and she tells you no, Like I don't understand that.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I know she can't plant it herself, but like my
dad could have came over and planted it, or somebody
could have my sister in law or brother or somebody
could have come over and planted it for She just
loves to complain. And it's so I didn't get my
vacation that I wanted. So only thing I wanted was
to go away for like the weekend, and that didn't happen,
(09:08):
although it was really cold and raining and it was
a horrible like Memorial Day weekend, I know.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
But you know what, you can always schedule your birthday.
My birthday is on Christmas, so I can never do
anything on my birthday, but we schedule, like, you know,
right now tomorrow, actually I'm going on my birthday trip.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Oh yeah, that's right.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
So that's what you can do, is like, all right,
May kind of sucks sometimes the weather plan it out
because I'm I'm Christmas baby and my birthday present is tomorrow.
I'm going to see Shakira in Boston and it's gonna
be nice, hopefully nice out. So you should do the
same thing, like have her bookie something in July where
you know the weather's gonna be nice.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Yeah. So she did say that we can do that.
I just have to, you know, look up and see
where we want to go. You know, I did look
into Myrtle Beach. You know, the hotels there are five
hundred and something dollars an.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
What the hell I could go to Florida for cheaper
than that on a beach.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Yeah, that's insane. I was like, well, forget that. And
I was like, maybe it's because it's like during the
summer in its peak season. I don't know, but I
am not spending no five hundred and something dollars on
a hotel.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
No, no, no.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Granted it's on the beach, yeah, but still no, not happening.
Even I checked Jersey hotels for the Jersey Shore, like
six hundred dollars. I'm like, this is insane. Yep, it's
the Jersey Shore.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Yeah. They know that they're gonna get a lot of
the people who don't want to fly down to Florida
or drive down to Florida, so they can they do
it because they can, like, oh well, the East Coast
really doesn't have or the Upper East Coast doesn't have
a lot of options. They're gonna come here, so let's
charge them out the button.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
But it's not even that nice. You know, it's Seaside Heights,
Point Pleasant. I mean Point Pleasant is way better than
Seaside Heights. Yeah, still, come on.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I know. And the hotels are never nice. They're like
old dingy. I mean I went to one that was
supposed to be nice, and I was very parking it
really wasn't. It was very dingy.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
So we went to It was my first time staying
over at Seaside Heights. We went with my godfather's wife,
his daughter, and some of her friends. We stayed at
the Hershey Hotel or Hershey Motel, and my little cousin
was running around with his key for the room and
(11:30):
his key opened up our door and like other people's doors,
and I was like, yeah, no, we're leaving.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Yeah, yeah, you can get into every room.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
I mean, thank god, we only stayed there like overnight,
but we left.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
How scary is that?
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Well, that is very it's really really scary. That means
that another guest could, if they figured that out, could
get it right into your room's.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah, that's a problem. So forget ever staying there.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Go to Ocean City. It's a lot nicer, cleaner, the
weather's nicer because it's you know, further south, a little
bit of a drive. But I would recommend that over
Seaside or New Jersey any day, any day. Or Delaware
there's a I've never been there, but I heard Delaware
Rehobeth Beach is really nice, clean and nice area. So
(12:19):
but it's cold there, it's not as cold as New
Jersey is gonna be. It's gonna be warmer. Oh so
it's further south. Okay, so that's Ocean City and Dela
and Rehobeth be there close like you can. But if
you didn't, I don't know. I mean, I guess if
you're driving that far, just go to Ocean City. You
know what's the difference. But I would, I would say
go to Ocean City. There's so many cool things, lots
(12:41):
of cool bars on the water, like for dinner and lunches.
I like it. It was very clean. I haven't been there though,
I probably thirteen years, but my sister goes every year
and she says it's still nice.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
So I'll have to check it out. So, speaking of vacation,
me and you were tall the other day and you're
going to Florida in July, and your sister was supposed
to go with you, but her husband can't get off
of work. Yep, So she said, as a joke, I'll
just go with Enzo, Yeah, her son, her son, and
(13:20):
you'll just have to pay for us, meaning her husband
will just have to pay. So your husband was on
the phone and he said that it's rude. Yeah, I
don't think so. I mean, granted, my mom my parents
are divorced, but I know so many people that go
on vacation without their significant other, you know, I don't know.
(13:42):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Yeah, so it's hard because so, yeah, like my sister,
she really wants to come with us of Florida with
my nephew, and because her husband can't get off like,
she said that, yeah, like can you pay for me
and Enzo to go? And you know, I'm sorry, I
want to go, and my husband just really like destrode
over this, like how could she say that to him?
(14:03):
That's so rude. I'd be so mad if you said
that to me. So at first I was like like Sean,
and was like, oh, what's the big deal because it's
my sister, So I want her to come, And if
he can't get off work, then I you know, I'd
rather her come than not come. And he's gonna be
working anyway, so what's the difference, you know. But then
as my husband was explaining it, he's like, so let's
(14:24):
reverse the roles, Lauren. If my parents were going to
Florida on this nice vacation and in a beach house,
you wanted to come but you couldn't get off from work.
And I was like, well, then I'm gonna go without
you pay for me, and I'm gonna go with Juliana.
And even if I didn't say pay for me, I'm
just gonna leave you. I'm gonna take the kids and
I'm gonna go to the beach for a week. How
would you feel? And I thought about it, I'm like, yeah,
(14:45):
I would be really pissed. I would be upset, like
because I want to go, but I can't get off work.
So wait for me, you know, like, let's plan another
trip so I get it. But then then yeah, like
then my single side comes out where back in the day,
I'm on the same page as you, like, just go
out your husband, like who cares? You know, but certain
certain marriages don't. They don't care. I have friends who
(15:06):
they like getting away from their husband. They like going
on girls trips, yeah, they and they the husband doesn't
care because he likes the lone time too, you know. Yeah,
and that's great. My marriage isn't like that, and my
sisters is definitely not like that. Likes my sister's husband
wants to be with her, you know, he doesn't want
her going somewhere and might. And Mike's like that too,
like he wants to be with his kids every day.
(15:28):
He wants to be with me if I'm late or
if I'm out. When he's getting home from work, he's
really depressed because he wants to come home to see
Jelina and my son, Like he wants them there when
he comes home, so we can hug them and hang
out with them because he misses them. So he is
different that way. He does not want us to leave him.
He does not want to be away from us. So
(15:50):
I see it both ways. I know what you're saying, though,
because I have friends too who just bye to their
husband and the husband's like, yeah, i'll see you in
a week, and they're fine with it, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
I mean you know, she's taken can end so so
he doesn't have to worry about that, Like he's got
the house to himself, he's gonna be working anyway.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yeah, no, I get it. But then if I put
myself in their shoes, then I'm like, yeah, I'd be mad,
you know, I'd be mad. It's kind of like your
if your mom if she wanted to go on a
beach to a beach house and you couldn't get off
from your job. And then she's like, all right, well
I'm gonna go without you, And you're like, well, can't
you just give me book another trip?
Speaker 1 (16:27):
You know I would probably go without me, but let's
book another Yeah, when I can go.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah, it's tough, it really is. I guess it depends
on the marriage, Like I said, like my marriage, no,
he's not cool with that. My sister's Nope, not at all.
And then other marriages, Yeah, they don't care. They're like freedom.
You know, both sides like freedom. So what what do
you guys think? Like, are you more like Shaana saying
I don't see an issue with it. He should let
(16:52):
her go on vacation with you know, me and my husband,
and he should stay home and work, or more like
me and my husband, like, no, that's that's not nice
to do to him. Stay home with him and book
another trip together.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
We'll have to do a poll.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Yeah, I'll do a poll online or something.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yeah, on our social media. So I guess that goes
with like mom guilt versus like single girl.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Yeah, yeah, parent guilt, but yeah, mom guilt. Moms and
dads can have it. I think more so moms get
a lot of mom guilt, Like I know I have
you do every single day, maybe not multiple times a day,
but most days it usually is. But always at night time.
It hits me. Always at night time, I have this
(17:37):
mom guilt and it makes me so depressed that I
have to stop my brain from thinking. I think of
everything that I did wrong and how I treated my
children through the day, mainly my son, because my daughter whatever,
she's three and she snaps back. But my son is eleven,
so he's at.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
The age where he's not a bad kid.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
He's not a bad kid, but he's going through those
hormone changes, emotion, whatever it is. And I have no
freaking patience for him, and I feel horrible, like I'm
so nasty to him, sometimes not saying he's being an angel,
and I'm being nasty Like he gets he does things
that are aggravating. But I lose my cool so fast
on him.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
He loses his book bag.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Yeah, he loses his book bag. He he's all he
is right now is about is talking to his friends
on the tablet or on his PlayStation. So that's all
he wants to do is talk to them. So he
is so zoned into that and I'll be like, hey,
can you go let the dog out? Or hey can
you do this? And he'll jump and do it really fast,
but he rushes through it because he wants to get
(18:36):
right back to that tablet. And then he didn't clip
the dog in one day good enough, like on its harness,
so the dog got loose and you know, I couldn't
find it for an hour. Things like that where he's careless,
and I know it comes with age, but as a mom,
I'm losing my cool and I'm screaming at him and
I'm like putting him down in a way, you know,
like what the hell's wrong with you? And it's not good,
(18:56):
it's not nice. And then did I I didn't hug
enough today? And then I start thinking of how old
he's getting in soon he's not gonna want to hug me.
Soon he's not gonna want to be around me, and
I'm gonna lose him, you know, he's gonna he's gonna
get into those teenage years and then he's gone. And
every night that mom guilt hits super hard, and I'm like,
I'm this is it's not it's not fun those emotions
(19:20):
and we're all trying to do our best, but we
make mistakes, and I definitely make a ton of mistakes
and I hate it. Like I don't know, I hear
that single women, you girls have single girl guilt or
something or single girl pressure.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I mean my pressure is different. I'm you know, I'm
I'm single, but I'm looking you know, if a guy
just comes to my door magically, maybe, you know. But
our I think my thing is is I'm focused on work. Yeah,
I don't have kids. I have the cats, so you know,
(19:56):
my focus is a little bit well way different. Yeah,
I feel the guilt like, oh, you know, I should
have Like, for instance, my cousin is having a party
and I'm going to be out of town for the podcast,
So which should I do? Should I do the podcast
or should I go to my cousin's birthday party? You know,
(20:18):
So that kind of guilt maybe like you could spend
time with family, you know, any time, but you know,
these interviews only come up once in a blue moon,
so you know, like it's kind of like you gotta
weigh your options.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, yeah, and that's I guess the same thing with me.
It's you know, I work a lot, I have the
mom guilt with my daughter too, like she's not enjoying
her toddlerhood. I feel because I'm always working all the time,
and every morning, most morning, she's like, Mommy, I don't
want to go anywhere. I want to play in my room.
And it's heartbreaking to me because you know she should
(20:56):
be playing in her room, she should be playing with
her dolls. But yeah, you gotta work, got to survive.
And that guilt kills me too. I'm like, you know,
she Geo. I didn't work until he was about three,
so he had a lot of freedom from the from
a baby to a toddler. He was in his room,
he was playing, he was outside, he was never in
(21:16):
the car Angelina. It's different. So I have a lot
of guilt with her too, And you know, you weigh
out the options. I need to work, I need to
make money and try to make the best of it
for her, you know, try to make sure she's having
fun and have a day off where she's staying hanging
out at home in her room and she doesn't feel
the constant because every day is funny. My husband last
because she's like a little old person. She's like, where
are we going? I'm like, well, I gotta go to
(21:38):
work again, and you know, she's getting tired of the
everyday thing, and I feel bad for her. Yeah, but
and that's the guilt, and you know, we got to
weigh out her options. And you have the pressures of
other things, probably of life and family, like oh, when
when are you getting married? Or when are you meeting someone?
(21:58):
Or man, are you gonna have kids? Right? Like those questions.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
Yeah, the whole kids thing that has gone away, thank god. Yeah,
I pretty much made it very clear that I do
not want to have kids. I love kids, but I
just don't want to have my own kids, you know.
And it's not even the selfish thing. It's that I
cannot handle poop and throwing up yep. That is really honestly,
(22:24):
And like the crying stages all the time, like the whining,
Oh I can't stand that. But yeah, the whole marriage thing, yeah,
that still comes up all the time. When are you
gonna get married? When you well, you gotta meet someone, right,
I gotta meet somebody first, you know, someone who's not
(22:44):
an asshole.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
That's hard. That's a hard one.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
You know, Like these dating apps, I see it all
the time. They're like, does anyone know of any great
dating apps? You know? These all suck? Nope, they all suck.
That's why I'm off of them. I'm not on them.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
I I can't imagine. I can't. It was bad, like
back I was on the dating amms, back when they
kind of first started. We only had two options like
Match dot com Yeah, and plenty of Fish. I think, yes,
And it was bad back then. Not so much Match,
but plenty of Fish was like a cesspool of just
sexual predators.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I feel like it was. It was bad. It was disgusting.
Didn't somebody say that they wanted to lock you in
their basement? Oh?
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Yeah, they said. I still have them screenshop. But the
guy wrote me and said, you're so cute, You're so tiny,
I'm going to send someone to your house and put
you in bubble wrap and ship you to my house
and lock you in my basement while feeding you TV
dinners to keep you alive. That was a message I
got from a guy trying to date me or get
(23:49):
me to go on a date with him, and I
like posted it because I was so freaked out, and
a few people were like, that's funny, he sounds funny. No,
don't I don't find it funny when you're kind of
threatening to like kidnap me and you lock me in
your basement, like come on. But I don't know if
people are that creepy nowadays, because that was the beginning
of that kind of stuff, So maybe now people are
(24:11):
smarter than to write that out. And who knows. I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
I mean, you never know. I come across when I
was on those dating apps. I've come across some sketchy,
sketchy things, you know. I've come across people that are
married that I know on these apps. Yep, you know,
like it's crazy.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
And they don't care. They don't care.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
No, And like my cousin's relative on her husband's side,
like he's on the app and he like always messages me,
and I'm like, you know me, oh my god, you know,
like why are you messaging me?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
The balls these people have? I don't know, I don't know.
I My newest obsession has been are we dating the
same guy that those those Facebook groups?
Speaker 1 (25:06):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Yeah, I love reading that crap. And they're they're everywhere.
There are a lot of states have them, a lot
of cities and towns and counties whatever, And it's great
because it's like girl power and you know, girl code.
We're posting up a picture. Sometimes they just want to
know their car facts. I call it the car facts
on them, you know, yeah, give me the red flag,
(25:27):
give me the pros, give me the content. I always
wish there was something like that back in the day
when I was on those apps, I said, I wish
these apps came with like a review, like a review
section of like where past girlfriends could write underneath it, like, yeah,
he's a jerk, he cheated on me, he has a
weird fetish, you know.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
He doesn't pay for the meal on the date.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah, he has three baby mamas. Like I wish there
was a review section that people could just go on
and write. But now these Facebook groups they do that,
and I love it. I love reading it. And then
I saw someone recently that I knew my husband knows.
I met him through my husband a few times, and
he was on there. A girl plastered his face on
there was making fun of his you know what, like
(26:09):
told and sane. It was a micro it was very tiny,
Oh my god, ripping him apart, and I was I
was laughing. I'm like, oh my god, you know this
is crazy that.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
The bad part about it is could this be someone
making up lies about him, like she's mad that he
turned her down or whatever. Yeah, but I don't know.
I think it's a good thing. We got to look
out for each other. And there's a lot of creeps
out there. There's a lot of men out there that
they play the game. They play women very very well
while they're either with somebody oh yeah, and they play
(26:44):
mind games with you and and their girl or whoever
they're with, And we got to call them out. We
got to put put them on last because they they're
doing this and they're getting away with it. And yeah,
I think I think it's a good thing. So that's
my newest obsession is these are we dating the same guy?
Speaker 1 (27:02):
I just like reading like what people are writing, you know,
on there, and to see like just the scum. I
guess she could say that's on those dating apps. Yeah,
they are really just really bad. I mean your brother
was on it for months yep, and he finally found
(27:23):
a girl.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
He found a girl from it. Yeah, uh, I mean,
but he was a jerk on there too. He was
always like mean to people if they if they said
something wrong to him. You know, but he found a girl.
We'll see how long, you know, hopefully she sticks around.
We really like her. She's really sweet, you know. I
think they make a good pair. But I'm like, oh, Carl,
(27:43):
don't mess this up. Come on, She's a good, normal girl.
But yeah, he used the dating app, so it was
good for him. I actually met my husband on the
dating app on Plenty of Fish.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Yeah, so he would have met him before, yeah, like
i'd seen.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Him out kind of. He was friends with a friends
but and my sistern had met him a few times before.
But that's how he reached out to me. He reached
out to me on Plenty of Fish and was like, hey,
I know your sister, and then we started talking from there.
But so it works, you know, it can work. It
just that you're not getting the best options on there.
It's kind of like, out of one hundred guys on there,
(28:19):
you might find two that are good and the rest suck.
So it's very hard finding those two good guys out
of the hundred weirdos, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Yeah, honestly, I've made friends with guys from the apps.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
But yeah, you had some duds there, some some jerks
that I wanted to like, choke out.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Yeah. I don't know which one is worse, the one
that was counting his money in front of me, oh god,
on the date, or the one that asked me to
pay for his child support and diapers.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
They're brazen, these men, they're brazen.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
I don't know which one is worse.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
I think the diapers guy, because he kept asking me
to pay for his kids. You're only talking to him
for like a few weeks online. You didn't even meet
him in person.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
No, we didn't even be in person.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
The guy counting his money, I was there for that,
and that was just that was embarrassing. I was embarrassed secondhand,
embarrassed for him, you know. So this is the story
showing us on a date. I happened to be there
with my kids. I saw him like oh, and she's like,
why don't you say with us? So this is their
first date. It was he he was very awkward.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
So yeah, that's why he was normal when you talk
to him on the phone.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
The phone. Yeah, so she was feeling awkward. So like
heyla like, comes sit with me. I sat there and
then I think he thought he had to pay for
my food, and my daughter sued and showing a suod
and he just kept counting his money and he only
had I don't even know, maybe ten singles in his hand.
And he's under the table, but you could kind of
see it. He's counting, counting, counting, putting it back, counting
(29:53):
it probably like fuckuck, I don't have enough money to
pay for this.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Yeah, and then he just started taking it out on
the table.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, yep, counting, counting.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
And then the waiter came and I said, just put
up my.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Card, yeah, put the bill on my cart, and he
was like like a relief came over him. He's like,
I only had ten singles on me, Like who goes
on a date and with only If you don't have money,
that's fine, but just say, hey, why don't we hang
out somewhere else? Like if you're going to eat at
a restaurant, you should have some money on you.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Yeah, girl and guy he picked the place.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
Yeah, very weird, very weird. That was awkward, but still
not as bad as that guy asking you for to
pay for his diapers and baby stuff, because that was
that was crazy to me.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
That was just like on a whole nother level, like
you're not gonna get a girl by asking that.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
No, no, no, no, you know, like maybe an idiot,
but not any normal or intelligent woman.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Yeah. Then there was another guy. He was from upstate
and he had like three or four kids, and he
was like, oh, do you want kids? And at that
time I was like, yeah, you know, maybe I don't know.
So he writes back and goes, if you come up here,
I can make that happen, Oh my god, And I'm like,
are you kidding me? I'm like, oh, block you.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yep again brazen, Like what is.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Wrong with these guys?
Speaker 2 (31:22):
I don't know if they think that's what you want
to hear, or they think it's sexy but it's not.
Now No, they think last thing I want to hear.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Yeah, they think with their dick and that is it.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Hey, you want to get knocked up by a guy
with four babies already on the first date? No, No,
who would? Who would? Unless you're like a zillionaire. That's
the only billionaire. I'd be like, all right, child support,
you know, I'm kidding, but no, not no light low life,
four baby mama. Having guy out there you're like, oh,
(31:55):
let me knock you up the first date and then
by you know.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Like yeah, he probably didn't even have it. I didn't
even like ask what he did for a job, but
he probably didn't even have a job.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
No, no, not at all. I guarantee it.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
I just I don't know. Oh jeez, that's me with
my dating stories. So, speaking of my little fur babies,
my children. We got the litter robot for Mother's Day
and my dad finally hooked it up for me. I
am obsessed with it. I've never been so excited over
(32:27):
a litter box. But you know how, I'm like always
like I wonder if Leo is okay. I wonder if
this one's okay, you know. Yeah, so I could track,
It's gonna sound crazy. I could track when they use
the litter box on my phone, like.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Which cat uses it?
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (32:46):
Yeah. So you type in like you know the name
of the cat, and then their weight and if they
have any like medical issues. Mine don't have medical issues,
thank god. But you type in the weight and all that,
and then it tells you which cat uses the litter box.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
Yeah, And it tells you on the app when it
needs to be changed, like when the litter has to
be changed if there's not enough litter because it kind
of like goes through a cycle, so it's scoop for it.
You don't have to scoop it. It just goes. It
goes on like.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
It strips itself, like yeah, yeah, sure, and.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
The little tray on the bottom just comes out and
you just pick up the bag and throw it away.
Super simple, super easy. It's great for people with disabilities
because we could do it independently. We don't need help anymore.
And it's just so easy. And the cats love it,
I think not walking in.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Poop, yeah, And I think that's my favorite part about it.
And I'm not trying to be mean, but whenever it
comes to show in his house there, anybody's house that
has cats, the litter box always grosses me out because
you see the poop, You see the poop, Yeah, you
smell it, and you smell it, so that's a problem.
And it always like grossed me out going to anyone's
(34:07):
house with cats not just shown us, and I'm like,
I don't want to look at cat poop. I don't
want to smell it, you know. But this thing, she's
had it hooked up for over a week now about
and I don't smell litter like I've gone and it's
just the litter Roba is in like a small room
and whenever I go in there, I do not smell
it at all. You wouldn't know there was a litter
box in that room, and you don't see it anymore.
(34:28):
You don't see the poop or the clumps of peas.
And I love that that. It's any Every house with
cats should have it, because you don't want your house
to smell a cat, you know. No one likes that, no,
but that's that's the best thing to me, is like
the smell and not having to see it.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Yeah, I love it. I absolutely love it. And uh,
I'm going to do a full video review of it
very shortly as soon as like I have to get
the cats like involved in the video, and they're very
camera shy. Yeah, Holly was afraid to the little robot.
So it took her like ten minutes. She just kept
(35:04):
like sniffing it and then she'd stick her head in it,
and then she'd step back, and then she just stare
at it, and then she finally went in and used it.
I'm like, she's.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
Fine now, she's okay, yeah, yeah, good.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
But it took it took some time.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
Yeah. Everything. It's just like kids. They're gonna nothing happens
overnight and they have to get used to things. You know,
they have they have a one thing for the whole
their whole life was the same little litter box, and
then you change it to this robot looking thing. It
looks like a spaceship. You know, they're like, what the
heck is this?
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (35:35):
We need that for you people. Right, we need to
weigh us while we're sitting on the toilet track us.
How many times did I go today? Oh? Jeez? But no,
it's great and it really is easy for cat owners
to have, especially with multiple cats like Showana. She has three,
so that makes it so much easier to keep everything
(35:57):
smelling clean, looking clean, and the cats are happy.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
And that's our show for this week. Thank you so
much for tuning in. Check us out at Shaunaandlala dot com,
follow us on all social media platforms at Shauna and Laala.
You could follow me on Instagram at the real Shawna May.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
And check me out at Bella Underscore La La one
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Speaker 1 (36:20):
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