December 9, 2024 • 55 mins
I really hope today's episode inspires you to lean more into life's simple joys. XO.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is CCB, but most people just call me B.
I'm thirty nine years young. I've been through a lot,
vulable myself through a lot, and one day I got
sick inside of my own shit.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
And that's the day.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
And when change started happening, I stopped lying to myself
and started getting painfully honest with myself. But it was
only painful because I had been lying to myself for
so long. About nine or ten years ago, now, give
or take, I started writing books about my journey through
my toxic relationships and how I got out of them
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and then stayed out of them by building a healthy
relationship with myself. So there's nothing that I say in
this podcast that I haven't already had to say to
myself at some point in time, and yes, in the
exact same tone as I say it here. So if
you are sensitive to honesty, my girl, this is not
the place for you to be. I don't sugar kotsha
for myself, so I'm not doing it for anyone else. Besides,
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how are you going to be more offended by another
woman being honest with you, telling you the truth than
you are by the man or men who lie to
you every day and treat you like shit food for thought.
Please finish your plates. What up?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Booze is your girl?
Speaker 1 (01:18):
By and welcome back to another episode of the Sis
Sketches Together Podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I hope that you guys are having in great day
to day.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I hope that you woke up feeling revived and rejuvenated
the faith that everything that you spoke about with the
Spirit Team the night before is being worked out for
you in the background of the house and way. But
please remember, you gotta.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Help your spirit team help you. Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
That means you got to put yourself in the position
to get the things that you want, Nay, said Chest.
Nay staid Chest, because that's right. Even the person who
wishes to win the lottery knows that they've got to
play the numbers.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It is currently eleven. It's eleven eleven.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I'm sorry, it is eleven. Shit, it is eleven eleven
here in munch for y'all. It's snowing outside. It's not snowing,
but it's cold as fuck and it is what it
is Canada.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Sorry, that just threw me off. Anyways.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Excitingly, though, on today's episode, you've seen the title I'm
going to be reading you a love letter to life's
simple joyce. Okay, so just go get a snack, a
juice box, or a glass of wine.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Put your triggers to the side.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
You have rooms open, open up your mind, and let's
get into the episode, shall we? When I tell you
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that spirit will do it every single time, let me
tell you all why I got so frazzled. So this
is my I should shall not seventh time trying to
record this episode. Okay, and every time I've tried to
record it, some bullshit happened in the background.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Bentley is being a real asshole today.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Love him so much, but he's been a real ass
And just like I just had to hip restarting restarting,
and I was like, yo, I'm I'm not even about
to do this one more time, to the point where
I had to change my location because there's like some
type of rambunctiousness going outside of my home anyways. So
I was like, you know what, So for the first
time ever in history, I gathered up my all my
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stuff and I came into the back end of the house,
closed the door, and my setup. How I'm sitting because
there's no desk, I'm in our bedroom there's no fucking
desk in here, so I have my You guys don't
even want to know what the setup looks like in here,
right this, But I have my laptop on a night state,
on night table. My laptop is on a night table.
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The microphone is like trying not to fall off. That's
all small the night that's there are small night tables
if that go beside the bed. And I am sitting
on a pile of clothes and four pillows so that
I'm can reach okay, And I was so fucking frustrated.
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I'm like, bro, like this is this is going to
be the last time, otherwise I'm not doing it. And
for me to be recording an episode about life simple
joys and then to go through my normal intro and
to look up and see that the time is eleven eleven,
I'm like.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Okay, I see what you want to see what you're
doing for me. I see what you're doing for me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
And that didn't even itself was a testimony of life
simple joys, right, Like looking up and catching eleven eleven
after you've been super frustrated and like seeing that and
being like, okay, that was a little nudge from the
universe like you good girl, just does yourself off and
try again and you go and be all right. So
couldn't have been better fucking timing man. But anyways, I've
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tried to record the episode so many times that in
my mind I feel like I've said everything, but I haven't.
It's the first time hearing from me anyways. First things first,
I know that it is giving friend. Where have you been?
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Nobody knows me like you.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I know, I know, I know, I know. I'm not
sorry that I've been gone. To be honest, I've been
doing things. I've been doing things I have been I
have been creating. So let me tell you how this
episode came about. Okay, and before I read you the
love letter.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
So and I always, as always, you know, I hope
this inspires.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Anybody else out there who feels like they just need
to move, they need to change, need to get back
to themselves, so on and so forth. So one thing
about me is, as y'all know, writing is my one
of my many first loves. Sounds crazy, but I have
two real first loves. But writing is my is one
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of my first And you know when I the way
that I've always writen and has always been very descriptive.
I'm very much a writer who I love texture in words,
in sentences and paragraphs. When I'm writing, I love to
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read it, I love to write it. It's just how
I've always written. When I got into, you know, the
space on social media and I got into the dating
and relationship space, I realized really quickly that there wasn't
a lot of room for texture, specifically through the channels
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of social media. Right in the dating and relationship space.
It happened very quickly that I realized that, you know,
women want to hear things direct, you know, in the
sense where yeah, yeah, like there's no one for all
that shit, that poetry shit is out the window, like
we want to learn, we want to be direct. And
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so very quickly I was able to kind of quotes
which and tap into my more like as if I'm
speaking to my homegrowth, the way that I would speak
to my homegrowth. That is how I wrote, right, And
that was great and it really did work for the messages,
the inspiration, the motivation, the relatability aspect, you know, in
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order to touch women or to you know, the women
who are there men for obviously right and to help
them in some way, shape or form. But doing that
for ten years, I didn't really have a lot of
time or space to write the way I wanted to write,
which is where the code switching comes in. There's an
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entire side of me that is well first of all,
as a place thes. There's many sides of me that
are secret. But there's an entire part of me that
is secret, I guess, and has really been hidden.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Because there was no.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Space for it and where I was write what I
was doing. And now that I have left that space
for the most part, I've left dating in relationship space.
For the most part, I have had all this time
and this space to get back to. I don't want
to say get back to me, but get back to
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a creative part of me that and explore it now
in a more mature way.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Let me explain.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So obviously, I've been writing, you know, like I explained
to you, textured and descriptive since I was a kid, really,
but that's just the thing. I was a kid, and
ten years have passed since I've you know, not really
written in that way before. And as I found myself
recently or lately rediscovering that part of myself, I've rediscovered
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even more texture and layers in through my maturity. So
I'm writing from a space that I wasn't able to
tap into and as a younger version of me, and rightfully, so, right.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
How the fuck can I tap into something that doesn't
exist yet? Right? And so it's been.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Really healing for one and it's been really exciting as well.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And so recently I sat down because.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I had you know, as much as I speak to
so many women, and I've been speaking to so many
women for the last ten years around the world, all
different walks of life, one thing I see a lot
of is you know, and I've spoken about this before,
but I think it's a collective. A lot of women
are fucking unhappy collectively, right, And I think while there
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are many sources of where it comes from, but I
think one of them is the fact that so many
women look at have been conditioned to believe or have
told themselves that happiness has to be these grand moments,
these grand, huge moments, so like, you are happy once
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you achieve the goal, and a lot of the times
these goals are like these really big life stages, so
you know, once you get the career, you'll be happy
once you get the marriage, the relationship, You'll be so happy.
Once you get the marriage or relationship and the kids,
you'll be so happy. Like, once you have these things,
now you can be happy. And for a lot of women,
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this doesn't. These things don't happen, especially the marriage and
the kids and the really until way down.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
The line for a lot of women. And for a
lot of women, it doesn't happen, if fuck at all,
you know.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
And this idea that that or this this reality rather
that happiness for so many women is tied to these
major life things that for some people it just never happens,
is sad to me because as a collective, I see women.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Focusing solely towards those.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Achieving those goals and then missing out on what happiness
really is, on their happiness, which is these small moments
that exists that we create for ourselves or we tune
into for ourselves every single day, that we just tune into, right,
something as simple as the first sip of coffee in
the morning. You know, if you're a coffee drinker and
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you know you need your mother fucking coffee, that first
sip right, you know, inside it makes you squeil a
little bit, but rather than actually taking a moment to
be like, oh man, I love this, thank you, or
I love this and just allowing yourself to to tap
into that and let that move you into recognizing other
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small little joys throughout the day that you that you
allow yourself to fully submerge yourself in. No, so many
women are like go go go, Okay, I gotta rush out,
gotta do this. D d da da da da and
rather than we like, I don't have time to focus
on the lose little whatever. But yet so many women
have time to focus on the things that piss them off,
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the the things that upset them.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
The things piss them.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Off and upset them are the same things, you know,
the things that make them sad, the rage bait on
social media, the you know, the fact that they aren't
where they are where they think they need to be
in their life. Yet the things that you know, the drama,
the toxicity, like Jesus Christ, you know what I mean.
So many women spend so much of their time focused
on these things, what they don't have yet, or what
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they don't have at all, or what they they didn't
see growing up and da da da. And you know,
while you know, some of those parts are important, but
so that you can you know, zoom in on them
and then you know, do your inner work and so
on and so forth. So many women only focus on
these things, and we wonder fucking why the collective is
fucking miserable, you know, we wonder why. You know. One
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of the one of the reasons why, as you know,
you know, I had to ditch TikTok, was because it
was I was like, this is always some bullshit over here,
you know, and also seeing how the majority of women
interact with other women, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You guys are fucking miserable.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Mirror projections beer, you know, And I was like, nah,
I need to take a step back. And you guys
know that story already. If you don't go listen to it.
I've already did a whole, entire, in depth episode about it.
We're not gonna do it again here. But the point
is is.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
That I just.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
I really believe that social media is hurting so many
women more than anything. And yes, there are there are
some spaces in social media that are really helpful, and
they've really helped women to you know, learn more about
their bodies, learn more about you know, healing their wounds
and so on. So worth, yes, agreed, two things can
exist at the same fucking time, right, But I think
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there is an over just like there's we have an
over consumption problem in the world with women consuming all
just oh, you've seen a girl putting on redlipliner, and
now you need to have the exact same wlipline, you
know what I mean, Like buying shit that they don't
really that we don't really need. It's the same thing, right,
hopping on social media and consuming shit that you don't
actually need to consume, you know, and then thinking that
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your life has to be or you're rushing yourself along,
or you don't just appreciate your own existence, like I like,
like you don't appreciate your own existence, but then like
our searching for some man to appreciate it's like it
just I just think it's a lot. Anyways, So all
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these thoughts were swelling around in my head. And so
the other day I say all that to say this.
Y'all know I love to give contacts and shit. So
the day I sat down with myself and instead of
making like a gratic writing the things I was grateful for,
because you know, i'd be doing that sometimes, but that day,
for some reason, it just felt boring. I don't know,
that's how to explain it, Okay, it just felt like
I've done this a million times. I always sit down
and I write things that I'm grateful for, and that
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is important and it's a great thing, don't get me wrong.
But for some reason that day it felt boring in
the sense where I feel like I could do better
at this, like for myself, meaning you know, like I
feel like I could I could make this a little bit,
I could change the tone of this, to make this
a little.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Bit different better.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
And so I sat down and started writing a list
of things that I loved, right, because I because I
write down things that I'm grateful for all the time,
but things that I love, I don't know that I
really explored it that way. So I started making a thing,
a list of things that I loved and very miscellaneous
shit in no particular order, right, and things that were
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personal to me, you know what I mean, and not
necessarily things that someone else would love, but things that
were very personal to myself. And while creating this list,
I ended up expanding on the things that were on
that list, and as I I was found myself tapping
into again the creative part of me that I have
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not really set for you a long time, right. I
found myself expanding with a lot of giving a lot
of texture and layers to the things I was saying
that I loved, and it just it ended up before
I knew it, it ended up becoming this this really
like really dope piece that I had no idea where
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to put right. It's not long enough for a book
and it's it's too long for Instagram posts, and I
was just like, well, I don't really know what to
do with this right now. And I was like, well,
maybe there's nothing to do with it. Maybe it's just
really for me. But then I was like, you know what,
I did write it for me. And then now that
it's done and there was no pressure on me to
write it for anyone else, I think now I can
share it, and so that's what I'm going to do today.
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I shared it already with I have time, my Instagram
liven we're talking, and then I ended up sharing with
it was very very late at night, and by very
late I mean nine pm, but that is late for me,
and I shared it with a handful of women that
were there, and they gave me some ideas actually of
where else or where else I could take this later
on and I might actually put those you know, take
those ideas and bring them into fruition. But for right now,
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I decided to give this piece a home on my
podcast because again, I think that so many women, I believe,
I know that so many women can benefit from it.
And my goal is to inspire you today to just
think about your own make your own fucking list, whether
you do it you know, things that you love, whether
you actually sit down and make a list of shit
that you love, or you do it in your mind
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or the next time. Again, I'm gonna use a coffe
as the example. You take a sip of a coffee,
you remember this piece, and you just take us a
time to appreciate that first sip and enjoy it and
lean into that joy, you know, rather than letting it
escape you. And also something else that was you know,
I was having a conversation with a client the other
day and she was talking. She was saying, she was like,
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you know, She's like, you know, sometimes i think I'm like,
thank God, I'm not dating right now, because if a
man came into my life and ask me what do
I like to do? She's like, I'm got no fucking hobbies.
I don't know what the fuck I like to do,
you know what I mean. And we were ended up
talking about that. I'm like, see, this is the shit,
And we ended up talking about that more, and she
ended up revealing that, you know, a big part of
it is because why like she doesn't really tap into
hobbies is because she feels like she has to be
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good at something in order to enjoy it, right. And
I ended up telling her I was speaking to her
about bowling. So and you'll hear this in the piece
as well, because I wove it in there. But if
anybody knows, you know that I really love to bowl
and I'm not good at it at all. I like
the way I would say if somebody, if you're like,
do you want to go bowling? The way I'm like, yeah,
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I fucking love to bowl, you would think that I'm
some type of I got a jacket and shit, you
know what I mean, Like I'm part of a bowling club,
like I know, you know. But then we get to
the bowling alley and here I am rolling the ball
down the aisle like a six year me and the
six year old we do the same. We hold a
ball between the links the world and that, right, and
you'd be like, like, I'm not good at it. I
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fucking love it. I absolutely love bowling. And I was
explaining to her, like, you don't have to be good
at something to just enjoy it. You know, you can
just exist in it and love it just because you
love doing it. And it doesn't have to be some
type of you know, thing that you have to show
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off or show to other people, like look what I'm
good at, you know what I mean. It doesn't have
to be that. And I think that's another part that
keeps women so tether to unhappiness, because you feel like
in order to really enjoy something, you have to be
good at it. I think that's another layer to why
so many women are, you know, very hesitant to try
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new things or to get into, you know, try new hobbies,
or claim something as a hobby because they're not good
at it. And I hope that this reminds you that
or inspires you that you don't have to be good
at something to enjoy it. And I think that it's
important to release your release yourselves of that weight and
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that pressure that you put on yourself or that you
allow even other people to put on you as well.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So anyways, all that said, without further it's you. I'm
a little shy now because I haven't I'm a little shy.
I haven't read a piece of this in a long
time out loud, other than to this small group of
women that I read to. But we're gonna do our best, okay.
And this is the last time I'm recording this, So
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this better get good all the way through because I'm
not recording it again.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
God damn it.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
All right, without further, as you, here we go. This
is a love letter to life's simple joys.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
I love the smell of summer mornings, especially at six am,
when the world is still stretching itself awake. The air's crisp,
untouched by the exhaust of cars or the weight of
people's hurried thoughts. In those moments, it feels like the
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earth breathes differently, softer, cleaner. It is a smell that
whispers of possibility, a promise that today can be whatever
I need it to be. I love being near water, rivers, oceans,
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even a humble lake, There's a rhythm to it, a
language spoken in ripples and waves, one that only reveals
its secrets if you're quiet enough to listen. Maybe it's
the mermaid prices in me. But when I sit by
the shore and I let waters whispers wash over me,
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I just feel whole. Water doesn't just cleanse, it heals,
It transforms. It carries away the weight of everything I've
been holding on to, leaving me lighter.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Free.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I love the unmistakable click clack of a good pair
of heels echoing against pavement or polished marble floors. There's
a confidence in that sound, a kind of poetry that
announces a girl.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Here I am.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
And don't get me started on the difference between a
good heel and a cheap one, because I can tell
instantly heels were one of my first loves.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
After all.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
I hate winter, But but even I can't deny the
magic of the first snowfall, of the kind I mean,
when the world goes still and the snow falls with
a delicate grace, like it knows not to disturb the
silence at night under the glow of the street lights.
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It's like the earth has been tucked into a shimmering
crystal blanket. I love stumbling across a pile of bikes
in front of a house in the summer. Oh man,
it's a rare sight now, but when I see it,
my heart swells. It takes me back to a simpler time,
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to my own childhood, and I smile, knowing that there
are still kids out there who get to feel that
same type of freedom as we did when we were kids.
I love the ritual of stepping out of the shower,
drying off and mixing my favorite body oil with my
go to body butter. Slowly, I glide it over my skin,
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savoring the feeling. It's a quiet act of self love,
a moment I never rush. Luxury doesn't always have to
be expensive, you know, it's in the care that you
take the time to give to yourself. I love the
sound of kids laughing at a public pool in the summer.
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It pulls me back to the summers I used to
spend with my grandma when I was little. She'd sit
on the edge of the pool, her feet dangling in
the water, and she'd tossed the penny into the shallow end.
I dive after it, so proud of how good of
a swimmer I was at such a young age. Those
memories are woven into every splash at the pool that
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I hear now.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
I love the.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
First day of wash day, when my curls are freshly diffused, soft, fluffy,
and full of life. I can't help but touch them
all day long, just marveling at how far I've come
on my natural hair journey. There is something so grounding
about that texture, that softness. It feels like home. I
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love seeing people do the right thing even when no
one else is watching, like returning a lost wallet with
the money still in it. You know, it's a reminder
that integrity is still very much alive in this world
of chaos, and those small acts of honesty they just
hold so much power. I love women who walk to
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the beat of their own drums. And you can always
tell when a woman is in sync with her own
rhythm because it's effortless, unshakable, and completely hers. I love
photo albums, the real kind, though not the digital. They're tactile, alive,
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filled with stories you can touch and feel. There's a
permanence to flipping through those pages that no camera roll
in an iPhone or otherwise can replicate. I don't care
what anybody says. I love bowling.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Now.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I've never been good at it, but that's never mattered
to me. There's something about standing at the edge of
the lane, holding the heavy ball in my hands and
tossing it down the aisle like a carefree kid that
just makes my inner child squeal with sheer, unfiltered glee.
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It's not about the score, it's not about the form.
It's about the freedom, the freedom to let go of expectations,
to feel joy simply for the sake of it. We
all need to give our inner child space to play,
to laugh, to just insist without the weight of perfectionist
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or perfectionism pressing down on us. And maybe that's why
I love bowling so much, you know, Like the weight
of the ball itself, it's a reminder to release myself
from the shackles of needing to be good at something
just in order to enjoy it, to just be in
the moment and the laughter and the sounds of the
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pins scattering like confetti at the end of a lane.
I love coloring, sitting down with the coloring book and crayons,
soft music playing in the background, and again just letting
myself be It's a pure joy, an unhurried joy. Creating
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coloring books has been just as magical, by the way,
knowing that someone else gets to feel that same piece
because of something I made. I love it. I love
all things zodiacs. It doesn't matter how much I already know.
I'm always hungry to learn more. Each sign feels like
its own universe, and my fascination with them never ever
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gets old. I love when our kids come to find
me just to ask for a hug. No reason, no sadness,
just love. They'll stand in front of me and they'll
say or I'll say, what was that, baby love? And
they'll smile and they'll say, nothing, Can I get a hug?
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My heart melts every single time because it reminds me that, well,
I must be doing something right right. I love hearing
Dwayne and the kids laughing together, Oh boy from my office.
Their giggles float upstairs, and I find myself pressing my
ear to the door, just smiling. Those sounds are what
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love feels like from a dad, and it feels my
heart knowing that they get to experience that love from
their dad every single day. I love the first sip
of a soda there's nothing quite like it. Crisp, busy,
just perfect. I love dining alone on solo vacations, sitting
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at a little outdoor cafe or restaurant, sipping a drink,
eating some food, people watching, and just soaking in the
world without a single rush. It's the kind of piece
that comes only from being comfortable with yourself and truly
enjoying your alone time. I love watching romance in its
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simplest forms. A man guiding his woman gently by the
small of her back, a woman tenderly rubbing the back
of her man's neck, the quiet comfort of a couple
who knows that they're safe with each other. Those little
moments speak volumes louder than the grand gestures we see
on social media ever. Could I love the way a
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room feels when it's lit by candles. The gentle flicker
of the flames creates a dance of shadows and light
moving together in a rhythm that feels ancient, almost sacred.
There's something mysterious about the way they sway, as if
they hold a thousand secrets between them, secrets that they'll
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never tell. I think it makes me think of parts
of myself that I keep only from me the quiet
corners of my soul that remain untouched by the world,
the parts that are sacred, not hidden out of fear,
but preserved out of reverence. And yet, just as the
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flames draw people in, something about me seems to invite
others to share their truths. I am a projector who
must wait for an invite. After all, people tell me
their secrets like I'm their volt, a safe haven where
their vulnerability can exist without judgment. There's a weight to
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being trusted in that way. Sometimes it's a burden, but
most of the time it really is an honor. Like
the candles, I hold their light and their shadow, their
fears and confessions, knowing the courage it takes to let
someone see that deeply, and just like the flames, I
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know when to keep those truths quietly, burning, untouchable, sacred.
I love watching women evolve, opening themselves up to new
perspectives on life, life, love, and self, realizing that it's
okay to pivot, and trusting themselves enough to do so.
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It's a beautiful thing to witness because I know it
means they're stepping into the fullness of who they're really
meant to be. I love tomato and cheese sandwiches. There's
something about them that feels like a warm hug from
the past, a little bridge back to my childhood and
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my mom. She used to make them for me as
a snack, and while my brothers turn their noses up
at them. One hated cheese, the other one hated tomatoes.
I couldn't get enough of them. We didn't have a
lot of money growing up, and because of that, my
mom always found ways to make the simplest things the
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absolute best things, turning ordinary moments into something cozy, safe,
probably unbeknownst to her at the time, unforgettable. We may
not have much, but we have each other, and that
is more than enough, she used to always say so. First,
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she'd toast the bread just enough to make it golden
and crisp, and then spread a very thin layer of mao,
carefully smoothing it to the edges like an artist priming
her canvas. Next came the slices of mozzarella, perfectly even,
and then thick, juicy tomatoes that glistened in the sunlight.
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She sprinkled just a pinch of salt and a pinch
of pepper over the top, then cut the crust off
for me, with the precision of someone who knew that
those little details really manned. We'd sit together in the
living room, each with our sandwiches in hand, the TV
humming softly in the background. It wasn't fair and see
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your elaborate, but it was ours, a little ritual, a
moment of connection, And whenever I make one now, I
feel like I'm back there, sitting beside her in a simpler,
easier time. Every bite is more than just the sandwich.
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It's a memory of her care, her presence, and the
way she made me feel loved in the very quiet,
unspoken ways that moms do. I love bubble gum and
super Kid ice cream. The bright, playful flavors and the
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small bits of gum take me back to when I
was little.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
Well.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
My grandma would finish her shift at the restaurant in
the mall, so after hours we'd make a special stop
at Laura Secor for ice cream. I could still see
her smile and smell the scent of the essential oils
on her as we stood at the counter, her apron
strings still knotted at her back. Knowing exactly which flavors
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I was going to choose, I always picked either the
bubble gum or the super kid, excited by the sweet
promise of joy in every bite. They never did let
me down. And then there's a smell of extra gum,
the green pack. That scent, along with the lavender essential oil,
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will always remind me of my grandma.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So when we'd get back.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
To her place after her shift and after our ice
cream stopped, my grandma had this little ritual, so she'd
empty her black leather fanny pack of all the tips
that she'd made during her shift.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
She'd lay it up.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
She'd lay out a towel over her bedspread, and together
we would sit in her bedroom, separating the coins, so
the quarters of the quarters, the dimes of the dimes,
and then the bills carefully flattened into a neat pile.
But she always had a pack of that extra green
gum tucked away. I'd spot it peeking out from the
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corner of her fanny pack, my little eyes lighting up
as I'd ask.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Maybe can I have one?
Speaker 1 (36:16):
She'd chuckle, the kind of laugh that makes you feel
like you're her whole world, and with a smile as
warm as fresh baked bread, she'd say, maybe, MACHELI come
tou joul, which is French for of course, my darling.
Like always, those moments, the gum, the ice cream. It
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wasn't just about the treat for me, It was about her,
the love in those little, small gestures, the way that
she made, like my mom, even the simplest of things
feel so special. This is what life truly consists of,
the small, quiet moment that often slip by unnoticed because
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we're too consumed by the noise, the chaos, and the
endless chase for something bigger. We miss the piece that's
right in front of us, and yet we wonder why
happiness feels so far away. Joy doesn't live in the
grand gestures or the chaos we feed. It's found in
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the stillness, the tender details that we choose to embrace
or overlook. The way your coffee smells in the morning,
the sound of your child's laughter, the feel of sunlight
on your skin. These aren't just sleeting details. They are
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threads in the fabric of your story. Take a second
today to slow down, intentionally and notice the things that
you love, the little things that make your heart a
little lighter, your soul just a little brighter. Maybe even
make your own list write them down, just let those
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little joys remind you that even in the midst of chaos,
beauty is always there waiting for you to open your
eyes and see it. Well then not me trying to
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not me crying in certain parts, a little pissy ass bitch. No,
So that was that was that. I really do hope
that it inspired you in some way. I got emotional because,
like sometimes when I think of how, you know, I'm
a millennial, most of us spent a lot of Like
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most of us, we spent a lot of time with
our grandma. You know, we had young moms, a lot
of us, and so grandma's house was the place, you know,
and we spent a lot of time with our grandmother's boys.
So so yeah, there are so many things I mean,
my grandmother used to do together that I remember, and
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they're really staples in my memory, you know, like like
that that pack of gum man that extra green She
always had a pack of extra green gum just you know.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
But anyways, it felt so good to.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Write those things and to just remember and to lean
into That's what it's called a love letter to life.
Simple joys, like to just lean into those and just
remember and especially when I was writing about my mom
and my grandma.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
You know, something that.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
I said and I think about a lot is the
same way I remember these little things. There are gonna
be things that are etched into the memories of our
children as well. And so it's like, I'm so I'm
so careful a lot of the times, you know too,
Like I'm so mindful of that. I never know, we
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never know which which part these kids are going to
take with them into adulthood, right like what they're going
to remember, if they're going to remember our smell, if
they're going to remember the way that we were so
patient with them and let them, you know, just speak
to their hearts, contents, if they'll you know, we don't
We don't know what part is going to be their favorite.
You know.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Sometimes I sit down with Squeeze. I call her Squeeze,
our six year old, and.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
When we sit down to color, we sit down to
make necklaces or bracelets, or play like a board game.
She loves to play Trouble, Double Trouble. Sometimes I think,
like I wonder, I wonder which parts of these she's
going to remember. I wonder which, if any of these
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will be like her favorite memories. You know, we sit
down to scrapbook journal, like I wonder if when she's older,
if she's gonna be like, oh me, and you know,
my bonus Momi sit down in scrapic journal all the time,
and I just I think about those things, you know.
But anyways, I'm getting really emotional right now. So all
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that to say, God, damn it. I have really enjoyed
this space away. This is where I've been. I've been,
so we're gonna random life news right now without I.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Have been away.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Tapping into other parts of my creativity that I have
abandoned ten years ago because the space that I was in.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Just didn't really call for it, you know. And I'm
really glad that I.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Now I take the space away without guilt, without pressure,
to explore the parts of myself, the creative parts of
myself that I abandoned ten years ago, and now meet
it again in its more mature version, you know, meet
it again with new words added to my vocabularies, meet
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it again with new ways to express something that I love,
you know, new ways, new creative ways.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
It is. I'm very unapologetic. I am.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I am tapping into other elements of creating things to
help people because at the end of the day, that
is at the end of the day, of the day
has to end at the end of the day. This
is something that is also a very big part of me,
and everything that I do is really tied to how
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can I help someone today, or how can I help
someone with my life's work, How can this serve my community,
how can this help somebody be better? And so now
that I have stepped away from again dating and relationships
like that, and now that I'm in this new chapter
of my life where I have kids, I have a family,
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I have all these things, you know, I've I have
found myself creating things to help families now as well,
you know. And something else that's dope that came out
of it is I have been watching, you know, Dwayne
has been inspired to tap into his own creative side,
and so he has his I've had these amazing ideas
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that we I was like, Bett, let's make it happen,
and we did. We've made some stuff happen together in
the helping people, helping family space, and it's just been
really it's just been really really dope. So I have
a lot of stuff on the way you know, we
have you guys know this one. I've talked about this before,
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like workbooks to help kids, like it's called Word of
the Day. It's not available yet, but it will be
soon to help your team, you know, practice their motherfucking
vocabulary and shit. So I have you know, a couple
of volumes of that on the way. But then Dwayne
had this idea and he was like, we started for
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our own family where we you know, we ask our kids,
how are we doing as parents?
Speaker 2 (44:33):
How we doing everything? Okay?
Speaker 1 (44:34):
We check in on like we check in on our parent.
We we gauge our parenting. We let them judge our parenting, right,
how we doing today, this week, this month?
Speaker 2 (44:45):
How we doing? Is there anything that I could be
doing better as your parent?
Speaker 1 (44:49):
Is there anything that you you know, and some of
the responses, you know, it requires us to fucking humble ourselves.
You know, yeah, I think you're doing great, but there's
this one thing that you do I don't realize. Okay,
how can I you know what I mean, really giving
them a voice in helping us bear them better?
Speaker 2 (45:06):
And it's been really dope.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
And so anyways, Dane had this idea to take that
and to turn it into like a whole journal workbook
for parents for kids and parents to actually do the
same thing at home, and we have like a bunch
of anyways.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
It's it's we're just very excited.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Okay, it's on. It's on the way that. And then
I'm also working on some zodiacst some stuff, some workbooks
for every single zodiac sign, you know. I started with
Piscees because I'm a Pisces and us first. Okay, us first,
but I am doing all of the signs. Don't worry,
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but they take long. Twelve motherfucking Zodia. I was like,
why did I This was a great idea Until I
finished the first one.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
I'm like, oh my god, I have eleven more to go.
This is insane.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
But it was like this me and my fucking ideas.
So this is where where my ADHD comes in. Where
I have these ideas and I end up just really
hyper focusing on them and then nothing else fucking matters,
which is why you haven't seen me really anywhere, which
is why both podcasts have once again been you know,
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this just been left, you know, And I'm not sorry
because this is one of those times where like, yes,
I'm hyper focused and you know, mighty, she's kicking in bad,
but actually it's kicking in good. And that's how I'm
looking at it, because I'm in a state where a
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lot is being birthed, and I really love that for myself,
and I love that for this next chapter of my life,
for my career, for my you know what I mean,
for everything, for everybody and everything, and then for y'all too,
because the album gets some new shit coming up anyways.
So that's where I've been, That's where i've that's where
i've been. I know. I know it can get frustrating
(47:03):
for some of y'all who you know, and I get it.
I have my favorite podcasts I like to listen to, too,
and when she's absent for two weeks, I'm like, bitch, Hey,
what the fuck did you can't just what the fuck
am I supposed to listen to right now?
Speaker 2 (47:16):
Right like? So I get it.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
And sometimes she goes absent for two weeks and shit,
and I'm like, okay, man, you know, but you know,
I always have to be She's human and she got
shit going on, and I'm sure when she gets back
she will let us know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
And she does.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
You know, just like I do and tries to believe
when I get a notification that's like, you know, Lovely
Tea is backup in and I'm like, hey girl, hey,
you know what I mean. So, yes, I'm a tea
sipperson at all the time, shout out to Lovely Tea.
But but you have to take care of yourself first, man.
And so as much as I love, I love being
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that back on my podcast as much as I have
been lately, you know, lately, not the last two weeks,
but you know what I mean. You know, I'm saying
before my knowther my other absence, and as much as
I i this is my new home platform, I'm no
longer allowing myself to be a slave to two algorithms,
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to to anything. I'm just I'm doing what the fuck
feels right for me, and however that looks like is
however that looks like, And so that's what I'm doing.
If it looks like all of a sudden, I'm here,
you get a new episode every day, then that was
the vibe for that week, you know. And if it
looks like I'll be back, then that was the vibe
for that week. I don't know, but I'm really allowing myself.
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I think, for the first time in my life in
a long time, I'm really not fucking sorry about.
Speaker 2 (48:44):
Anything right now, not a nan motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (48:48):
And it feels you know, it feels really good, you know.
So yeah, so I hope that this you know. Anyways,
I'm like rambling now. I know that you guys don't
mind it for the most part, my core listeners. But
know why, even I have to catch myself sometimes be
like girl reeled back in, You reel it back in.
Speaker 2 (49:03):
You'd just over here looking out the window and like talking.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
But anyways, I hope that this inspired you guys in
some way. I hope that you should take something from it, man,
and that it helps you as fucking always. Okay, do
I have any random life news outside of random life news?
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I do, actually I do.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
As I just looked over at my phone and seeing
that somebody joined the class, I do so for my
ladies in the place was still and Grace allowed me to.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
I'm kidding, I'm so serious.
Speaker 1 (49:31):
But for those of y'all who never got a chance
to take the No More Toxic Relationships eight Weeks group class,
you guys know that I don't do that shit live
anymore because I.
Speaker 2 (49:40):
Don't have the time or the space, or I just
don't I just don't have it.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
But what I did do recently is those that entire class,
along with twenty other classes are it's now uploaded in
the membership. So do you excuse me? The original price
of the class was five fifty five. I have USD
five to five. So now it's uploaded in the membership.
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And so the ladies and the membership nothing of the
they're already know everything is cool there or whatever. So
but if you want to join the membership now it
is four forty four. It's a lifetime subscription, so you
just pay it once and then you get access to everything.
The No More Toxic Relationships class, all eight modules. You
get access to twenty other classes, you know, Daddy wounds
and dating one on one, all the stuff working through codependency,
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so on and so forth. Some of those classes I
taught with Imanimani was our guests, and that there was
are just myself. There's a bunch of journal prompts in there.
We do do ladies Nights, you know, we try to
do them once a month. Sometimes I can't always get
to the once a month, but we try to at
least every other month we get together over zoom and
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either do like a live coaching.
Speaker 2 (50:51):
Or we just we color or like do some scrapbook
journaling or whatever.
Speaker 1 (50:58):
So yeah, So if you all I had to say,
if you would like to to.
Speaker 2 (51:04):
To learn, then you want to.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
You know, you can get the No More Toxic Relationships class.
Speaker 2 (51:11):
That way you hop into the membership child And that's that.
Speaker 1 (51:15):
On that, okay, I'll leave the link in the description
of the show notes the show notes the descriptions. Those
are the same thing. I said the same thing twice.
Good for me, but you know what I mean. So
that is that.
Speaker 2 (51:25):
On that. Do I have any other random life news?
Did I need to?
Speaker 1 (51:30):
No?
Speaker 2 (51:30):
I think, oh no, that's it. Yeah, that's it. That's all. Okay.
Something that I'm grateful for today, you know what I listen,
we can't there.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
It's not a Sisketchish Together podcast without you know, without that.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
I'm grateful for just everything. Man, I'm grateful for this journey.
Speaker 1 (51:53):
I'm so you know the last two years have been
insane like in so many different ways, and I'm actually
really grateful for how things have turned out. And I
really understand why things had to happen the way that
they did. And I'm really grateful for perspective and for
allowing myself to see perspective.
Speaker 2 (52:10):
And I'm really grateful for.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
The people around me who have inspired me to see
that perspective. You know, I'm also grateful for I'm also
grateful for the fact that I'm about to be forty
in two months, and it come from a lifestyle where, unfortunately,
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I know a lot of people who just didn't make
it to forty, you know, who didn't make it to
Some people didn't make it to twenty five, Some people
didn't make it to thirty two, both women and men
that I've known, you know. So the fact that I
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come for where I come from and have watched I've
been to so many funerals, and I have seen so
many people just not make it. I'm just really I'm
really grateful for the fact that not only am I
about to be forty in two months, but I've acquired
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and collected so much wisdom and unlocked so many levels
of life along the way that I know that even
people who are alive right now still don't they don't
they haven't unlocked their own wisdom you know, they haven't,
you know what I mean. So I'm just I'm just
very very grateful and I'm very emotional. So I'm gonna
go now, I'm gonna go. But anyways, I hope that
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this helped you. I knows, I'll think it was a
little bit all over the place, but nonetheless, you know,
you know how I am, and the girls.
Speaker 3 (53:55):
Who get it get it, and the ones who don't
wild it's not my problem. All right, gonna go now,
We're gonna go, Ladies and sometimes gentlemen. I really appreciate y'all,
you know, thank you for being here, thank you for listening.
Hoping inspired you in some way, shape or form, if
nothing else, you know the deal.
Speaker 2 (54:15):
It's food for thought.
Speaker 1 (54:16):
Finish your plate so you can go be great. Hope
you guys have a good rest of your morning's evenings,
afternoons or the book y'all are in the world, Please
be safe, use those condoms, trust your intuition, and use
your discernment, and I will catch y'all on the next episode.
Sending out so much love will be great.
My name is CCB, but most people just call me B.
I'm thirty nine years young. I've been through a lot,
vulable myself through a lot, and one day I got
sick inside of my own shit.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
And that's the day.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
And when change started happening, I stopped lying to myself
and started getting painfully honest with myself. But it was
only painful because I had been lying to myself for
so long. About nine or ten years ago, now, give
or take, I started writing books about my journey through
my toxic relationships and how I got out of them
(00:33):
and then stayed out of them by building a healthy
relationship with myself. So there's nothing that I say in
this podcast that I haven't already had to say to
myself at some point in time, and yes, in the
exact same tone as I say it here. So if
you are sensitive to honesty, my girl, this is not
the place for you to be. I don't sugar kotsha
for myself, so I'm not doing it for anyone else. Besides,
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how are you going to be more offended by another
woman being honest with you, telling you the truth than
you are by the man or men who lie to
you every day and treat you like shit food for thought.
Please finish your plates. What up?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Booze is your girl?
Speaker 1 (01:18):
By and welcome back to another episode of the Sis
Sketches Together Podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I hope that you guys are having in great day
to day.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I hope that you woke up feeling revived and rejuvenated
the faith that everything that you spoke about with the
Spirit Team the night before is being worked out for
you in the background of the house and way. But
please remember, you gotta.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Help your spirit team help you. Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
That means you got to put yourself in the position
to get the things that you want, Nay, said Chest.
Nay staid Chest, because that's right. Even the person who
wishes to win the lottery knows that they've got to
play the numbers.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
It is currently eleven. It's eleven eleven.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I'm sorry, it is eleven. Shit, it is eleven eleven
here in munch for y'all. It's snowing outside. It's not snowing,
but it's cold as fuck and it is what it
is Canada.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Sorry, that just threw me off. Anyways.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Excitingly, though, on today's episode, you've seen the title I'm
going to be reading you a love letter to life's
simple joyce. Okay, so just go get a snack, a
juice box, or a glass of wine.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Put your triggers to the side.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
You have rooms open, open up your mind, and let's
get into the episode, shall we? When I tell you
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that spirit will do it every single time, let me
tell you all why I got so frazzled. So this
is my I should shall not seventh time trying to
record this episode. Okay, and every time I've tried to
record it, some bullshit happened in the background.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Bentley is being a real asshole today.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Love him so much, but he's been a real ass
And just like I just had to hip restarting restarting,
and I was like, yo, I'm I'm not even about
to do this one more time, to the point where
I had to change my location because there's like some
type of rambunctiousness going outside of my home anyways. So
I was like, you know what, So for the first
time ever in history, I gathered up my all my
(03:20):
stuff and I came into the back end of the house,
closed the door, and my setup. How I'm sitting because
there's no desk, I'm in our bedroom there's no fucking
desk in here, so I have my You guys don't
even want to know what the setup looks like in here,
right this, But I have my laptop on a night state,
on night table. My laptop is on a night table.
(03:45):
The microphone is like trying not to fall off. That's
all small the night that's there are small night tables
if that go beside the bed. And I am sitting
on a pile of clothes and four pillows so that
I'm can reach okay, And I was so fucking frustrated.
(04:07):
I'm like, bro, like this is this is going to
be the last time, otherwise I'm not doing it. And
for me to be recording an episode about life simple
joys and then to go through my normal intro and
to look up and see that the time is eleven eleven,
I'm like.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Okay, I see what you want to see what you're
doing for me. I see what you're doing for me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
And that didn't even itself was a testimony of life
simple joys, right, Like looking up and catching eleven eleven
after you've been super frustrated and like seeing that and
being like, okay, that was a little nudge from the
universe like you good girl, just does yourself off and
try again and you go and be all right. So
couldn't have been better fucking timing man. But anyways, I've
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tried to record the episode so many times that in
my mind I feel like I've said everything, but I haven't.
It's the first time hearing from me anyways. First things first,
I know that it is giving friend. Where have you been?
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Nobody knows me like you.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I know, I know, I know, I know. I'm not
sorry that I've been gone. To be honest, I've been
doing things. I've been doing things I have been I
have been creating. So let me tell you how this
episode came about. Okay, and before I read you the
love letter.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
So and I always, as always, you know, I hope
this inspires.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Anybody else out there who feels like they just need
to move, they need to change, need to get back
to themselves, so on and so forth. So one thing
about me is, as y'all know, writing is my one
of my many first loves. Sounds crazy, but I have
two real first loves. But writing is my is one
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of my first And you know when I the way
that I've always writen and has always been very descriptive.
I'm very much a writer who I love texture in words,
in sentences and paragraphs. When I'm writing, I love to
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read it, I love to write it. It's just how
I've always written. When I got into, you know, the
space on social media and I got into the dating
and relationship space, I realized really quickly that there wasn't
a lot of room for texture, specifically through the channels
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of social media. Right in the dating and relationship space.
It happened very quickly that I realized that, you know,
women want to hear things direct, you know, in the
sense where yeah, yeah, like there's no one for all
that shit, that poetry shit is out the window, like
we want to learn, we want to be direct. And
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so very quickly I was able to kind of quotes
which and tap into my more like as if I'm
speaking to my homegrowth, the way that I would speak
to my homegrowth. That is how I wrote, right, And
that was great and it really did work for the messages,
the inspiration, the motivation, the relatability aspect, you know, in
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order to touch women or to you know, the women
who are there men for obviously right and to help
them in some way, shape or form. But doing that
for ten years, I didn't really have a lot of
time or space to write the way I wanted to write,
which is where the code switching comes in. There's an
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entire side of me that is well first of all,
as a place thes. There's many sides of me that
are secret. But there's an entire part of me that
is secret, I guess, and has really been hidden.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Because there was no.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Space for it and where I was write what I
was doing. And now that I have left that space
for the most part, I've left dating in relationship space.
For the most part, I have had all this time
and this space to get back to. I don't want
to say get back to me, but get back to
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a creative part of me that and explore it now
in a more mature way.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Let me explain.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So obviously, I've been writing, you know, like I explained
to you, textured and descriptive since I was a kid, really,
but that's just the thing. I was a kid, and
ten years have passed since I've you know, not really
written in that way before. And as I found myself
recently or lately rediscovering that part of myself, I've rediscovered
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even more texture and layers in through my maturity. So
I'm writing from a space that I wasn't able to
tap into and as a younger version of me, and rightfully, so, right.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
How the fuck can I tap into something that doesn't
exist yet? Right? And so it's been.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Really healing for one and it's been really exciting as well.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
And so recently I sat down because.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I had you know, as much as I speak to
so many women, and I've been speaking to so many
women for the last ten years around the world, all
different walks of life, one thing I see a lot
of is you know, and I've spoken about this before,
but I think it's a collective. A lot of women
are fucking unhappy collectively, right, And I think while there
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are many sources of where it comes from, but I
think one of them is the fact that so many
women look at have been conditioned to believe or have
told themselves that happiness has to be these grand moments,
these grand, huge moments, so like, you are happy once
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you achieve the goal, and a lot of the times
these goals are like these really big life stages, so
you know, once you get the career, you'll be happy
once you get the marriage, the relationship, You'll be so happy.
Once you get the marriage or relationship and the kids,
you'll be so happy. Like, once you have these things,
now you can be happy. And for a lot of women,
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this doesn't. These things don't happen, especially the marriage and
the kids and the really until way down.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
The line for a lot of women. And for a
lot of women, it doesn't happen, if fuck at all,
you know.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
And this idea that that or this this reality rather
that happiness for so many women is tied to these
major life things that for some people it just never happens,
is sad to me because as a collective, I see women.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Focusing solely towards those.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Achieving those goals and then missing out on what happiness
really is, on their happiness, which is these small moments
that exists that we create for ourselves or we tune
into for ourselves every single day, that we just tune into, right,
something as simple as the first sip of coffee in
the morning. You know, if you're a coffee drinker and
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you know you need your mother fucking coffee, that first
sip right, you know, inside it makes you squeil a
little bit, but rather than actually taking a moment to
be like, oh man, I love this, thank you, or
I love this and just allowing yourself to to tap
into that and let that move you into recognizing other
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small little joys throughout the day that you that you
allow yourself to fully submerge yourself in. No, so many
women are like go go go, Okay, I gotta rush out,
gotta do this. D d da da da da and
rather than we like, I don't have time to focus
on the lose little whatever. But yet so many women
have time to focus on the things that piss them off,
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the the things that upset them.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
The things piss them.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Off and upset them are the same things, you know,
the things that make them sad, the rage bait on
social media, the you know, the fact that they aren't
where they are where they think they need to be
in their life. Yet the things that you know, the drama,
the toxicity, like Jesus Christ, you know what I mean.
So many women spend so much of their time focused
on these things, what they don't have yet, or what
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they don't have at all, or what they they didn't
see growing up and da da da. And you know,
while you know, some of those parts are important, but
so that you can you know, zoom in on them
and then you know, do your inner work and so
on and so forth. So many women only focus on
these things, and we wonder fucking why the collective is
fucking miserable, you know, we wonder why. You know. One
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of the one of the reasons why, as you know,
you know, I had to ditch TikTok, was because it
was I was like, this is always some bullshit over here,
you know, and also seeing how the majority of women
interact with other women, I'm like.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You guys are fucking miserable.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Mirror projections beer, you know, And I was like, nah,
I need to take a step back. And you guys
know that story already. If you don't go listen to it.
I've already did a whole, entire, in depth episode about it.
We're not gonna do it again here. But the point
is is.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
That I just.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
I really believe that social media is hurting so many
women more than anything. And yes, there are there are
some spaces in social media that are really helpful, and
they've really helped women to you know, learn more about
their bodies, learn more about you know, healing their wounds
and so on. So worth, yes, agreed, two things can
exist at the same fucking time, right, But I think
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there is an over just like there's we have an
over consumption problem in the world with women consuming all
just oh, you've seen a girl putting on redlipliner, and
now you need to have the exact same wlipline, you
know what I mean, Like buying shit that they don't
really that we don't really need. It's the same thing, right,
hopping on social media and consuming shit that you don't
actually need to consume, you know, and then thinking that
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your life has to be or you're rushing yourself along,
or you don't just appreciate your own existence, like I like,
like you don't appreciate your own existence, but then like
our searching for some man to appreciate it's like it
just I just think it's a lot. Anyways, So all
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these thoughts were swelling around in my head. And so
the other day I say all that to say this.
Y'all know I love to give contacts and shit. So
the day I sat down with myself and instead of
making like a gratic writing the things I was grateful for,
because you know, i'd be doing that sometimes, but that day,
for some reason, it just felt boring. I don't know,
that's how to explain it, Okay, it just felt like
I've done this a million times. I always sit down
and I write things that I'm grateful for, and that
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is important and it's a great thing, don't get me wrong.
But for some reason that day it felt boring in
the sense where I feel like I could do better
at this, like for myself, meaning you know, like I
feel like I could I could make this a little bit,
I could change the tone of this, to make this
a little.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Bit different better.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
And so I sat down and started writing a list
of things that I loved, right, because I because I
write down things that I'm grateful for all the time,
but things that I love, I don't know that I
really explored it that way. So I started making a thing,
a list of things that I loved and very miscellaneous
shit in no particular order, right, and things that were
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personal to me, you know what I mean, and not
necessarily things that someone else would love, but things that
were very personal to myself. And while creating this list,
I ended up expanding on the things that were on
that list, and as I I was found myself tapping
into again the creative part of me that I have
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not really set for you a long time, right. I
found myself expanding with a lot of giving a lot
of texture and layers to the things I was saying
that I loved, and it just it ended up before
I knew it, it ended up becoming this this really
like really dope piece that I had no idea where
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to put right. It's not long enough for a book
and it's it's too long for Instagram posts, and I
was just like, well, I don't really know what to
do with this right now. And I was like, well,
maybe there's nothing to do with it. Maybe it's just
really for me. But then I was like, you know what,
I did write it for me. And then now that
it's done and there was no pressure on me to
write it for anyone else, I think now I can
share it, and so that's what I'm going to do today.
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I shared it already with I have time, my Instagram
liven we're talking, and then I ended up sharing with
it was very very late at night, and by very
late I mean nine pm, but that is late for me,
and I shared it with a handful of women that
were there, and they gave me some ideas actually of
where else or where else I could take this later
on and I might actually put those you know, take
those ideas and bring them into fruition. But for right now,
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I decided to give this piece a home on my
podcast because again, I think that so many women, I believe,
I know that so many women can benefit from it.
And my goal is to inspire you today to just
think about your own make your own fucking list, whether
you do it you know, things that you love, whether
you actually sit down and make a list of shit
that you love, or you do it in your mind
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or the next time. Again, I'm gonna use a coffe
as the example. You take a sip of a coffee,
you remember this piece, and you just take us a
time to appreciate that first sip and enjoy it and
lean into that joy, you know, rather than letting it
escape you. And also something else that was you know,
I was having a conversation with a client the other
day and she was talking. She was saying, she was like,
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you know, She's like, you know, sometimes i think I'm like,
thank God, I'm not dating right now, because if a
man came into my life and ask me what do
I like to do? She's like, I'm got no fucking hobbies.
I don't know what the fuck I like to do,
you know what I mean. And we were ended up
talking about that. I'm like, see, this is the shit,
And we ended up talking about that more, and she
ended up revealing that, you know, a big part of
it is because why like she doesn't really tap into
hobbies is because she feels like she has to be
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good at something in order to enjoy it, right. And
I ended up telling her I was speaking to her
about bowling. So and you'll hear this in the piece
as well, because I wove it in there. But if
anybody knows, you know that I really love to bowl
and I'm not good at it at all. I like
the way I would say if somebody, if you're like,
do you want to go bowling? The way I'm like, yeah,
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I fucking love to bowl, you would think that I'm
some type of I got a jacket and shit, you
know what I mean, Like I'm part of a bowling club,
like I know, you know. But then we get to
the bowling alley and here I am rolling the ball
down the aisle like a six year me and the
six year old we do the same. We hold a
ball between the links the world and that, right, and
you'd be like, like, I'm not good at it. I
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fucking love it. I absolutely love bowling. And I was
explaining to her, like, you don't have to be good
at something to just enjoy it. You know, you can
just exist in it and love it just because you
love doing it. And it doesn't have to be some
type of you know, thing that you have to show
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off or show to other people, like look what I'm
good at, you know what I mean. It doesn't have
to be that. And I think that's another part that
keeps women so tether to unhappiness, because you feel like
in order to really enjoy something, you have to be
good at it. I think that's another layer to why
so many women are, you know, very hesitant to try
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new things or to get into, you know, try new hobbies,
or claim something as a hobby because they're not good
at it. And I hope that this reminds you that
or inspires you that you don't have to be good
at something to enjoy it. And I think that it's
important to release your release yourselves of that weight and
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that pressure that you put on yourself or that you
allow even other people to put on you as well.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So anyways, all that said, without further it's you. I'm
a little shy now because I haven't I'm a little shy.
I haven't read a piece of this in a long
time out loud, other than to this small group of
women that I read to. But we're gonna do our best, okay.
And this is the last time I'm recording this, So
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this better get good all the way through because I'm
not recording it again.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
God damn it.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
All right, without further, as you, here we go. This
is a love letter to life's simple joys.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
I love the smell of summer mornings, especially at six am,
when the world is still stretching itself awake. The air's crisp,
untouched by the exhaust of cars or the weight of
people's hurried thoughts. In those moments, it feels like the
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earth breathes differently, softer, cleaner. It is a smell that
whispers of possibility, a promise that today can be whatever
I need it to be. I love being near water, rivers, oceans,
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even a humble lake, There's a rhythm to it, a
language spoken in ripples and waves, one that only reveals
its secrets if you're quiet enough to listen. Maybe it's
the mermaid prices in me. But when I sit by
the shore and I let waters whispers wash over me,
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I just feel whole. Water doesn't just cleanse, it heals,
It transforms. It carries away the weight of everything I've
been holding on to, leaving me lighter.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Free.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I love the unmistakable click clack of a good pair
of heels echoing against pavement or polished marble floors. There's
a confidence in that sound, a kind of poetry that
announces a girl.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Here I am.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
And don't get me started on the difference between a
good heel and a cheap one, because I can tell
instantly heels were one of my first loves.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
After all.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
I hate winter, But but even I can't deny the
magic of the first snowfall, of the kind I mean,
when the world goes still and the snow falls with
a delicate grace, like it knows not to disturb the
silence at night under the glow of the street lights.
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It's like the earth has been tucked into a shimmering
crystal blanket. I love stumbling across a pile of bikes
in front of a house in the summer. Oh man,
it's a rare sight now, but when I see it,
my heart swells. It takes me back to a simpler time,
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to my own childhood, and I smile, knowing that there
are still kids out there who get to feel that
same type of freedom as we did when we were kids.
I love the ritual of stepping out of the shower,
drying off and mixing my favorite body oil with my
go to body butter. Slowly, I glide it over my skin,
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savoring the feeling. It's a quiet act of self love,
a moment I never rush. Luxury doesn't always have to
be expensive, you know, it's in the care that you
take the time to give to yourself. I love the
sound of kids laughing at a public pool in the summer.
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It pulls me back to the summers I used to
spend with my grandma when I was little. She'd sit
on the edge of the pool, her feet dangling in
the water, and she'd tossed the penny into the shallow end.
I dive after it, so proud of how good of
a swimmer I was at such a young age. Those
memories are woven into every splash at the pool that
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I hear now.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
I love the.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
First day of wash day, when my curls are freshly diffused, soft, fluffy,
and full of life. I can't help but touch them
all day long, just marveling at how far I've come
on my natural hair journey. There is something so grounding
about that texture, that softness. It feels like home. I
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love seeing people do the right thing even when no
one else is watching, like returning a lost wallet with
the money still in it. You know, it's a reminder
that integrity is still very much alive in this world
of chaos, and those small acts of honesty they just
hold so much power. I love women who walk to
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the beat of their own drums. And you can always
tell when a woman is in sync with her own
rhythm because it's effortless, unshakable, and completely hers. I love
photo albums, the real kind, though not the digital. They're tactile, alive,
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filled with stories you can touch and feel. There's a
permanence to flipping through those pages that no camera roll
in an iPhone or otherwise can replicate. I don't care
what anybody says. I love bowling.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Now.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I've never been good at it, but that's never mattered
to me. There's something about standing at the edge of
the lane, holding the heavy ball in my hands and
tossing it down the aisle like a carefree kid that
just makes my inner child squeal with sheer, unfiltered glee.
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It's not about the score, it's not about the form.
It's about the freedom, the freedom to let go of expectations,
to feel joy simply for the sake of it. We
all need to give our inner child space to play,
to laugh, to just insist without the weight of perfectionist
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or perfectionism pressing down on us. And maybe that's why
I love bowling so much, you know, Like the weight
of the ball itself, it's a reminder to release myself
from the shackles of needing to be good at something
just in order to enjoy it, to just be in
the moment and the laughter and the sounds of the
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pins scattering like confetti at the end of a lane.
I love coloring, sitting down with the coloring book and crayons,
soft music playing in the background, and again just letting
myself be It's a pure joy, an unhurried joy. Creating
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coloring books has been just as magical, by the way,
knowing that someone else gets to feel that same piece
because of something I made. I love it. I love
all things zodiacs. It doesn't matter how much I already know.
I'm always hungry to learn more. Each sign feels like
its own universe, and my fascination with them never ever
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gets old. I love when our kids come to find
me just to ask for a hug. No reason, no sadness,
just love. They'll stand in front of me and they'll
say or I'll say, what was that, baby love? And
they'll smile and they'll say, nothing, Can I get a hug?
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My heart melts every single time because it reminds me that, well,
I must be doing something right right. I love hearing
Dwayne and the kids laughing together, Oh boy from my office.
Their giggles float upstairs, and I find myself pressing my
ear to the door, just smiling. Those sounds are what
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love feels like from a dad, and it feels my
heart knowing that they get to experience that love from
their dad every single day. I love the first sip
of a soda there's nothing quite like it. Crisp, busy,
just perfect. I love dining alone on solo vacations, sitting
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at a little outdoor cafe or restaurant, sipping a drink,
eating some food, people watching, and just soaking in the
world without a single rush. It's the kind of piece
that comes only from being comfortable with yourself and truly
enjoying your alone time. I love watching romance in its
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simplest forms. A man guiding his woman gently by the
small of her back, a woman tenderly rubbing the back
of her man's neck, the quiet comfort of a couple
who knows that they're safe with each other. Those little
moments speak volumes louder than the grand gestures we see
on social media ever. Could I love the way a
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room feels when it's lit by candles. The gentle flicker
of the flames creates a dance of shadows and light
moving together in a rhythm that feels ancient, almost sacred.
There's something mysterious about the way they sway, as if
they hold a thousand secrets between them, secrets that they'll
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never tell. I think it makes me think of parts
of myself that I keep only from me the quiet
corners of my soul that remain untouched by the world,
the parts that are sacred, not hidden out of fear,
but preserved out of reverence. And yet, just as the
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flames draw people in, something about me seems to invite
others to share their truths. I am a projector who
must wait for an invite. After all, people tell me
their secrets like I'm their volt, a safe haven where
their vulnerability can exist without judgment. There's a weight to
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being trusted in that way. Sometimes it's a burden, but
most of the time it really is an honor. Like
the candles, I hold their light and their shadow, their
fears and confessions, knowing the courage it takes to let
someone see that deeply, and just like the flames, I
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know when to keep those truths quietly, burning, untouchable, sacred.
I love watching women evolve, opening themselves up to new
perspectives on life, life, love, and self, realizing that it's
okay to pivot, and trusting themselves enough to do so.
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It's a beautiful thing to witness because I know it
means they're stepping into the fullness of who they're really
meant to be. I love tomato and cheese sandwiches. There's
something about them that feels like a warm hug from
the past, a little bridge back to my childhood and
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my mom. She used to make them for me as
a snack, and while my brothers turn their noses up
at them. One hated cheese, the other one hated tomatoes.
I couldn't get enough of them. We didn't have a
lot of money growing up, and because of that, my
mom always found ways to make the simplest things the
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absolute best things, turning ordinary moments into something cozy, safe,
probably unbeknownst to her at the time, unforgettable. We may
not have much, but we have each other, and that
is more than enough, she used to always say so. First,
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she'd toast the bread just enough to make it golden
and crisp, and then spread a very thin layer of mao,
carefully smoothing it to the edges like an artist priming
her canvas. Next came the slices of mozzarella, perfectly even,
and then thick, juicy tomatoes that glistened in the sunlight.
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She sprinkled just a pinch of salt and a pinch
of pepper over the top, then cut the crust off
for me, with the precision of someone who knew that
those little details really manned. We'd sit together in the
living room, each with our sandwiches in hand, the TV
humming softly in the background. It wasn't fair and see
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your elaborate, but it was ours, a little ritual, a
moment of connection, And whenever I make one now, I
feel like I'm back there, sitting beside her in a simpler,
easier time. Every bite is more than just the sandwich.
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It's a memory of her care, her presence, and the
way she made me feel loved in the very quiet,
unspoken ways that moms do. I love bubble gum and
super Kid ice cream. The bright, playful flavors and the
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small bits of gum take me back to when I
was little.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
Well.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
My grandma would finish her shift at the restaurant in
the mall, so after hours we'd make a special stop
at Laura Secor for ice cream. I could still see
her smile and smell the scent of the essential oils
on her as we stood at the counter, her apron
strings still knotted at her back. Knowing exactly which flavors
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I was going to choose, I always picked either the
bubble gum or the super kid, excited by the sweet
promise of joy in every bite. They never did let
me down. And then there's a smell of extra gum,
the green pack. That scent, along with the lavender essential oil,
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will always remind me of my grandma.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
So when we'd get back.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
To her place after her shift and after our ice
cream stopped, my grandma had this little ritual, so she'd
empty her black leather fanny pack of all the tips
that she'd made during her shift.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
She'd lay it up.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
She'd lay out a towel over her bedspread, and together
we would sit in her bedroom, separating the coins, so
the quarters of the quarters, the dimes of the dimes,
and then the bills carefully flattened into a neat pile.
But she always had a pack of that extra green
gum tucked away. I'd spot it peeking out from the
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corner of her fanny pack, my little eyes lighting up
as I'd ask.
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Maybe can I have one?
Speaker 1 (36:16):
She'd chuckle, the kind of laugh that makes you feel
like you're her whole world, and with a smile as
warm as fresh baked bread, she'd say, maybe, MACHELI come
tou joul, which is French for of course, my darling.
Like always, those moments, the gum, the ice cream. It
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wasn't just about the treat for me, It was about her,
the love in those little, small gestures, the way that
she made, like my mom, even the simplest of things
feel so special. This is what life truly consists of,
the small, quiet moment that often slip by unnoticed because
(37:02):
we're too consumed by the noise, the chaos, and the
endless chase for something bigger. We miss the piece that's
right in front of us, and yet we wonder why
happiness feels so far away. Joy doesn't live in the
grand gestures or the chaos we feed. It's found in
(37:22):
the stillness, the tender details that we choose to embrace
or overlook. The way your coffee smells in the morning,
the sound of your child's laughter, the feel of sunlight
on your skin. These aren't just sleeting details. They are
(37:46):
threads in the fabric of your story. Take a second
today to slow down, intentionally and notice the things that
you love, the little things that make your heart a
little lighter, your soul just a little brighter. Maybe even
make your own list write them down, just let those
(38:08):
little joys remind you that even in the midst of chaos,
beauty is always there waiting for you to open your
eyes and see it. Well then not me trying to
(38:37):
not me crying in certain parts, a little pissy ass bitch. No,
So that was that was that. I really do hope
that it inspired you in some way. I got emotional because,
like sometimes when I think of how, you know, I'm
a millennial, most of us spent a lot of Like
(38:57):
most of us, we spent a lot of time with
our grandma. You know, we had young moms, a lot
of us, and so grandma's house was the place, you know,
and we spent a lot of time with our grandmother's boys.
So so yeah, there are so many things I mean,
my grandmother used to do together that I remember, and
(39:17):
they're really staples in my memory, you know, like like
that that pack of gum man that extra green She
always had a pack of extra green gum just you know.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
But anyways, it felt so good to.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Write those things and to just remember and to lean
into That's what it's called a love letter to life.
Simple joys, like to just lean into those and just
remember and especially when I was writing about my mom
and my grandma.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
You know, something that.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
I said and I think about a lot is the
same way I remember these little things. There are gonna
be things that are etched into the memories of our
children as well. And so it's like, I'm so I'm
so careful a lot of the times, you know too,
Like I'm so mindful of that. I never know, we
(40:14):
never know which which part these kids are going to
take with them into adulthood, right like what they're going
to remember, if they're going to remember our smell, if
they're going to remember the way that we were so
patient with them and let them, you know, just speak
to their hearts, contents, if they'll you know, we don't
We don't know what part is going to be their favorite.
You know.
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Sometimes I sit down with Squeeze. I call her Squeeze,
our six year old, and.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
When we sit down to color, we sit down to
make necklaces or bracelets, or play like a board game.
She loves to play Trouble, Double Trouble. Sometimes I think,
like I wonder, I wonder which parts of these she's
going to remember. I wonder which, if any of these
(41:03):
will be like her favorite memories. You know, we sit
down to scrapbook journal, like I wonder if when she's older,
if she's gonna be like, oh me, and you know,
my bonus Momi sit down in scrapic journal all the time,
and I just I think about those things, you know.
But anyways, I'm getting really emotional right now. So all
(41:26):
that to say, God, damn it. I have really enjoyed
this space away. This is where I've been. I've been,
so we're gonna random life news right now without I.
Speaker 2 (41:38):
Have been away.
Speaker 1 (41:41):
Tapping into other parts of my creativity that I have
abandoned ten years ago because the space that I was in.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Just didn't really call for it, you know. And I'm
really glad that I.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
Now I take the space away without guilt, without pressure,
to explore the parts of myself, the creative parts of
myself that I abandoned ten years ago, and now meet
it again in its more mature version, you know, meet
it again with new words added to my vocabularies, meet
(42:24):
it again with new ways to express something that I love,
you know, new ways, new creative ways.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
It is. I'm very unapologetic. I am.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I am tapping into other elements of creating things to
help people because at the end of the day, that
is at the end of the day, of the day
has to end at the end of the day. This
is something that is also a very big part of me,
and everything that I do is really tied to how
(43:03):
can I help someone today, or how can I help
someone with my life's work, How can this serve my community,
how can this help somebody be better? And so now
that I have stepped away from again dating and relationships
like that, and now that I'm in this new chapter
of my life where I have kids, I have a family,
(43:25):
I have all these things, you know, I've I have
found myself creating things to help families now as well,
you know. And something else that's dope that came out
of it is I have been watching, you know, Dwayne
has been inspired to tap into his own creative side,
and so he has his I've had these amazing ideas
(43:49):
that we I was like, Bett, let's make it happen,
and we did. We've made some stuff happen together in
the helping people, helping family space, and it's just been
really it's just been really really dope. So I have
a lot of stuff on the way you know, we
have you guys know this one. I've talked about this before,
(44:09):
like workbooks to help kids, like it's called Word of
the Day. It's not available yet, but it will be
soon to help your team, you know, practice their motherfucking
vocabulary and shit. So I have you know, a couple
of volumes of that on the way. But then Dwayne
had this idea and he was like, we started for
(44:29):
our own family where we you know, we ask our kids,
how are we doing as parents?
Speaker 2 (44:33):
How we doing everything? Okay?
Speaker 1 (44:34):
We check in on like we check in on our parent.
We we gauge our parenting. We let them judge our parenting, right,
how we doing today, this week, this month?
Speaker 2 (44:45):
How we doing? Is there anything that I could be
doing better as your parent?
Speaker 1 (44:49):
Is there anything that you you know, and some of
the responses, you know, it requires us to fucking humble ourselves.
You know, yeah, I think you're doing great, but there's
this one thing that you do I don't realize. Okay,
how can I you know what I mean, really giving
them a voice in helping us bear them better?
Speaker 2 (45:06):
And it's been really dope.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
And so anyways, Dane had this idea to take that
and to turn it into like a whole journal workbook
for parents for kids and parents to actually do the
same thing at home, and we have like a bunch
of anyways.
Speaker 2 (45:22):
It's it's we're just very excited.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Okay, it's on. It's on the way that. And then
I'm also working on some zodiacst some stuff, some workbooks
for every single zodiac sign, you know. I started with
Piscees because I'm a Pisces and us first. Okay, us first,
but I am doing all of the signs. Don't worry,
(45:45):
but they take long. Twelve motherfucking Zodia. I was like,
why did I This was a great idea Until I
finished the first one.
Speaker 2 (45:51):
I'm like, oh my god, I have eleven more to go.
This is insane.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
But it was like this me and my fucking ideas.
So this is where where my ADHD comes in. Where
I have these ideas and I end up just really
hyper focusing on them and then nothing else fucking matters,
which is why you haven't seen me really anywhere, which
is why both podcasts have once again been you know,
(46:17):
this just been left, you know, And I'm not sorry
because this is one of those times where like, yes,
I'm hyper focused and you know, mighty, she's kicking in bad,
but actually it's kicking in good. And that's how I'm
looking at it, because I'm in a state where a
(46:41):
lot is being birthed, and I really love that for myself,
and I love that for this next chapter of my life,
for my career, for my you know what I mean,
for everything, for everybody and everything, and then for y'all too,
because the album gets some new shit coming up anyways.
So that's where I've been, That's where i've that's where
i've been. I know. I know it can get frustrating
(47:03):
for some of y'all who you know, and I get it.
I have my favorite podcasts I like to listen to, too,
and when she's absent for two weeks, I'm like, bitch, Hey,
what the fuck did you can't just what the fuck
am I supposed to listen to right now?
Speaker 2 (47:16):
Right like? So I get it.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
And sometimes she goes absent for two weeks and shit,
and I'm like, okay, man, you know, but you know,
I always have to be She's human and she got
shit going on, and I'm sure when she gets back
she will let us know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (47:30):
And she does.
Speaker 1 (47:30):
You know, just like I do and tries to believe
when I get a notification that's like, you know, Lovely
Tea is backup in and I'm like, hey girl, hey,
you know what I mean. So, yes, I'm a tea
sipperson at all the time, shout out to Lovely Tea.
But but you have to take care of yourself first, man.
And so as much as I love, I love being
(47:52):
that back on my podcast as much as I have
been lately, you know, lately, not the last two weeks,
but you know what I mean. You know, I'm saying
before my knowther my other absence, and as much as
I i this is my new home platform, I'm no
longer allowing myself to be a slave to two algorithms,
(48:15):
to to anything. I'm just I'm doing what the fuck
feels right for me, and however that looks like is
however that looks like, And so that's what I'm doing.
If it looks like all of a sudden, I'm here,
you get a new episode every day, then that was
the vibe for that week, you know. And if it
looks like I'll be back, then that was the vibe
for that week. I don't know, but I'm really allowing myself.
(48:39):
I think, for the first time in my life in
a long time, I'm really not fucking sorry about.
Speaker 2 (48:44):
Anything right now, not a nan motherfucker.
Speaker 1 (48:48):
And it feels you know, it feels really good, you know.
So yeah, so I hope that this you know. Anyways,
I'm like rambling now. I know that you guys don't
mind it for the most part, my core listeners. But
know why, even I have to catch myself sometimes be
like girl reeled back in, You reel it back in.
Speaker 2 (49:03):
You'd just over here looking out the window and like talking.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
But anyways, I hope that this inspired you guys in
some way. I hope that you should take something from it, man,
and that it helps you as fucking always. Okay, do
I have any random life news outside of random life news?
Speaker 2 (49:19):
I do, actually I do.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
As I just looked over at my phone and seeing
that somebody joined the class, I do so for my
ladies in the place was still and Grace allowed me to.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
I'm kidding, I'm so serious.
Speaker 1 (49:31):
But for those of y'all who never got a chance
to take the No More Toxic Relationships eight Weeks group class,
you guys know that I don't do that shit live
anymore because I.
Speaker 2 (49:40):
Don't have the time or the space, or I just
don't I just don't have it.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
But what I did do recently is those that entire class,
along with twenty other classes are it's now uploaded in
the membership. So do you excuse me? The original price
of the class was five fifty five. I have USD
five to five. So now it's uploaded in the membership.
(50:05):
And so the ladies and the membership nothing of the
they're already know everything is cool there or whatever. So
but if you want to join the membership now it
is four forty four. It's a lifetime subscription, so you
just pay it once and then you get access to everything.
The No More Toxic Relationships class, all eight modules. You
get access to twenty other classes, you know, Daddy wounds
and dating one on one, all the stuff working through codependency,
(50:28):
so on and so forth. Some of those classes I
taught with Imanimani was our guests, and that there was
are just myself. There's a bunch of journal prompts in there.
We do do ladies Nights, you know, we try to
do them once a month. Sometimes I can't always get
to the once a month, but we try to at
least every other month we get together over zoom and
(50:50):
either do like a live coaching.
Speaker 2 (50:51):
Or we just we color or like do some scrapbook
journaling or whatever.
Speaker 1 (50:58):
So yeah, So if you all I had to say,
if you would like to to.
Speaker 2 (51:04):
To learn, then you want to.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
You know, you can get the No More Toxic Relationships class.
Speaker 2 (51:11):
That way you hop into the membership child And that's that.
Speaker 1 (51:15):
On that, okay, I'll leave the link in the description
of the show notes the show notes the descriptions. Those
are the same thing. I said the same thing twice.
Good for me, but you know what I mean. So
that is that.
Speaker 2 (51:25):
On that. Do I have any other random life news?
Did I need to?
Speaker 1 (51:30):
No?
Speaker 2 (51:30):
I think, oh no, that's it. Yeah, that's it. That's all. Okay.
Something that I'm grateful for today, you know what I listen,
we can't there.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
It's not a Sisketchish Together podcast without you know, without that.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
I'm grateful for just everything. Man, I'm grateful for this journey.
Speaker 1 (51:53):
I'm so you know the last two years have been
insane like in so many different ways, and I'm actually
really grateful for how things have turned out. And I
really understand why things had to happen the way that
they did. And I'm really grateful for perspective and for
allowing myself to see perspective.
Speaker 2 (52:10):
And I'm really grateful for.
Speaker 1 (52:15):
The people around me who have inspired me to see
that perspective. You know, I'm also grateful for I'm also
grateful for the fact that I'm about to be forty
in two months, and it come from a lifestyle where, unfortunately,
(52:43):
I know a lot of people who just didn't make
it to forty, you know, who didn't make it to
Some people didn't make it to twenty five, Some people
didn't make it to thirty two, both women and men
that I've known, you know. So the fact that I
(53:03):
come for where I come from and have watched I've
been to so many funerals, and I have seen so
many people just not make it. I'm just really I'm
really grateful for the fact that not only am I
about to be forty in two months, but I've acquired
(53:26):
and collected so much wisdom and unlocked so many levels
of life along the way that I know that even
people who are alive right now still don't they don't
they haven't unlocked their own wisdom you know, they haven't,
you know what I mean. So I'm just I'm just
very very grateful and I'm very emotional. So I'm gonna
go now, I'm gonna go. But anyways, I hope that
(53:50):
this helped you. I knows, I'll think it was a
little bit all over the place, but nonetheless, you know,
you know how I am, and the girls.
Speaker 3 (53:55):
Who get it get it, and the ones who don't
wild it's not my problem. All right, gonna go now,
We're gonna go, Ladies and sometimes gentlemen. I really appreciate y'all,
you know, thank you for being here, thank you for listening.
Hoping inspired you in some way, shape or form, if
nothing else, you know the deal.
Speaker 2 (54:15):
It's food for thought.
Speaker 1 (54:16):
Finish your plate so you can go be great. Hope
you guys have a good rest of your morning's evenings,
afternoons or the book y'all are in the world, Please
be safe, use those condoms, trust your intuition, and use
your discernment, and I will catch y'all on the next episode.
Sending out so much love will be great.
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