Girl...Slow Down

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is cc B, but most people just call
me B. I'm thirty nine years young. I've been through
a lot. I've also put myself through a lot, and
one day I got sick and tired of my own shit.
And that's the day when changed started happening. I stopped
lying to myself and started getting painfully honest with myself.
But it was only painful because I had been lying

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to myself for so long. About nine or ten years ago, now,
give or take, I started writing books about my journey
through my toxic relationships and how I got out of
them and then stayed out of them by building a
healthy relationship with myself. So there's nothing that I say
on this podcast that I haven't already had to say
to myself at some point in time, and yes, in

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the exact same tone as I say it here. So
if you are sensitive to honesty, girl, this is not
the place for you to be. I don't sugarcoat ship
for myself, so I'm not doing it for anyone else. Besides,
how are you going to be more offended by another
woman being honest with you, telling you the truth than
you are by the men or men who lied to
you every day and treat you like shit. Food for thought,

(01:04):
finish your plate, what up? Loses your girl by and
Welcome back to another episode of the CIST Get Your
Isshed Together Podcast. Out that you guys are having a
great day today. Out that you woke up feeling revived
and rejuvenated with faith, that everything that you spoke about

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with your spirit team the night before is being worked
out for you in the background, somehow, some way. But
please remember, you got to help your spirit team, you
help you, Okay. That means you've got to put yourself
in the position to get the things that you want
and needs to trust Now used to test, because that's right.
Even the person who wishes to when the lottery knows
that they've got to play the numbers. It is currently

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nine thirty am here in It's cold outside, but it's
still sunny, Montreal, Canada. The leaves are beautiful. I love
it here. On today's episode, we're gonna have a big
sis talk because I don't know what I'm gonna call
this episode. I know what I want to talk about,
I just don't know want I'm gonna name it. So
you're gonna find out when you see the episode. You'll
see the title. But we're gonna have a big sistock,
so go get a snack of juice box or a
glass of wine. Put your triggers to the side, so

(02:10):
you got room to open up your mind and let's
get into the episode, shall we. I'm still under the

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weather a little bit. I saw my voice is like
this still. I can't wait for this to be over.
But I'm way better than I was the other day. Girl.
The other day I was struggle and today's a little
bit better. And my messages are clearer, like in my
head you know, my head space is clearer, So that's great.

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But I was thinking today, well, my local morning walk
with my licle Mentley little No, he's a big, big boy.
I was just thinking about y'all thinking about women. I
was thinking about I was thinking about all the questions
I get asked and over the years about you know, dating, relationships, men, life,

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self love, self care, all the things, right, And I
think I was just getting like I was like bombarded
with all the things collectively that y'all have asked me
over the years, and that I see women asking talking
about through various social media channels, right, And I was like,

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you know, I was just thinking about how how I
grew up in a time where social media did not exist,
and I can't imagine being a young woman in my
early twenties, you know, being bombarded, like constantly opening up

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something and having all these different messages thrown at me
on a day to day basis, right, what to do,
what not to do, how to talk to men, how
not to talk to men, how to this, how to that?
All this stuff, and you know what men want, what
they don't want. And it's not to say that those
conversations weren't happening, you know, when I was in my twenties,
but not to this extent, do you know what I mean.

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I just feel like it's a lot. It's a lot,
And so I wanted to talk to the women, whether
you are, you know, in your early twenties or you
are forty five plus, you know what I'm saying, Because
even women who are more seasoned forty plus, you know,
are on this these apps and still still finding themselves

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confused with all the messages going on. So I just
wanted to take a second and have like a nice
be your big sisty this morning, breathe some life into
you with my cold breathe some life into you with
my cold. You know what, let's just go. Don't make
me laugh. Oh my gosh, hold on a second, don't

(05:12):
make me laugh. Okay. I don't know who needs to
hear this today, but literally, just slow down, Just slow down.
I see so many women, and I hear so many
women filled with anxiety, and I really think that this
anxiety is coming from a place of the feeling like

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you have to rush through everything, right. I want to
tell you, for whoever needs this day, you don't have
to rush through your life just because other women around
you are rushing through theirs, okay, Or because there's a
man in the vicinity, or men who are telling you
that you need to be at a certain place at

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a certain time in your life for their benefit, okay,
or because oh because they said so. You know, you
don't have to hurry up and find a man to
marry because that's what people around you are doing, or
they're telling you that you need to do. You don't
have to hurry up and have some babies already. Gosh, please,

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don't hurry up and have some babies already. You don't
have to do that. You don't have to have your
career situation figured out. Okay, you don't even have to
have you know what, you don't even have to have
what you want to do with your life and who
you want to be figured out? Okay, slow down, slow down,

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Plug out of other people's consistent chatter, right, and plug
into yourself every day, every day. Plug into yourself when
you wake up in the morning. Fuck social media, fuck
text messages, fuck all that shit. When you wake up
in the morning, take five minutes, ten minutes to just

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kind of lay still, plug into yourself and talk to yourself.
Ask yourself questions, and then take time to process those
questions and connect with your intuition for the answers. Right,
ask yourself questions, take time, right, and maybe throughout the
day you'll be surprised at how often you'll ask yourself

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a question and be like, I'm open to receiving the
answer to this question, however it may come. And you
fuck around and you and the nail salon and somebody
is talking about the very thing that you ask yourself
this morning and that you answered. But there's a confirmation
for you, right, it's an alignment. Or you're walking on
the street, or you're the restaurant and you hear somebody right,
you be very surprised at how confirmations can come to

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us if we are willing to rather than seek the
advice outside of us, right to seek from within. Only
you know what is good for you in every stage
of your life, right, And you can have mentors, you
can have coaches, you can listen to podcasts, you can
you know, that's fine. Obviously it gets yourself the information

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and whatever. That's fine, right, But at the very end
of the day, one of the best ways to live
your life is to just do what is best for
you in the moment, right. Obviously, have some fucking discernment, right,
But if something feels like it's genuinely right for you

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and you're not ignoring your intuition, you're not ignoring red flags,
you know what I mean, and you're like, nah, this
is right for me, then that's right for you, and
it doesn't need to look right for anybody else. You
with a clear mind and a clear heart, was like,
this is the right thing for me to do, and
I'm gonna do it, then do it. And if in

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two months from now, three months from now, it turns
out it starts turning a different way, then stop doing
it right. Then just stop doing it. We make things
more difficult for ourselves than they need to be by
listening to everybody else around us tell us what's best
for our lives. One thing I really love about myself,

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right is I've always been somebody to do what the
fuck I want to do right for the most For
the most part, I'm gonna do what the fuck I
want to do. This is a big reason why I
don't really ask people advice for anything, because I'm gonna
do what the fuck i want to do. Anyways. You know,
very rarely am I like, hey, what do you think

(09:37):
I should do here? Dah da da da. It's it's
very rare that I do that. Once in a blue moon. Yes, I'll,
you know, if I'm really stuck on something, or i
feel like I'm going to be impulsive, or you know,
I'll sit with my homegirl or whatever, blah blah blah. Right,
But for the most of my life, very rarely am
I asking other people what they think I should do.

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When it comes to my life, right, and I've made well,
I'll say put it this way. I used to say
I've made mistakes, right, But as I've gotten older and
wiser through my experiences through life. There's the mistakes that

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I thought that I made could not be mistakes because
I learned lessons from them, and they brought me through
paths and through channels that I didn't know I need
to go through in order to be where I am now.
I am where I am now because of all of
the things that I've done, whether they were right or
wrong in the moment, it is what it is, and

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I learned something right. I always say, you can't make
a mistake if you've learned from it, and if it's
that lesson has helped you navigate through life better, how
is it a mistake? You know? Is so what I'm saying.
And I think that a lot of women are so
fearful of making mistakes, and as a result of that,

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there's so much anxiety going on, in so much confusion.
And you know which way to go? Do I go left?
To I go right? Do I go fo? Or do
I go backwards? And doing the cha chaws slide over
here into the left. Y'all bring it back one time,
Chris Cross, like you know what I mean, And it's like,
all right, it's cool for the first five minutes, but
I don't want to hear the song on fucking repeat right,
And I feel like a lot of y'all are on

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the chat chass slide can repeat right and get tired.
But the reality is is because you're trying to rush
through everything, you're trying to you're trying to live up
to everybody else's expectations around you, what they want from you,
instead of instead of figuring out what your own expectation
is of you and then doing that. Do you know

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what I mean? Like, one of my expectations for myself
is to just do my best day by day. Sometimes
my best is twenty percent, Well, that's my best today,
that's it the end, right. Sometimes my best is one
hundred percent. I'm like, yeah, baby, fuck yeah, we were
fueled up today. Sometimes it's seventy five percent. But did

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I do my best today? Yeah? Okay? Cool? Did I
not do my best today? All right? I didn't. I'm
honest with myself. Nah, girl, you had it in you. You
could have did it a little bit better. Okay, why
didn't I do this? What was going on? Whatever the
kasman be, I'll I'll audit it, right, I'll inspect it.
Whatever the case may mean, and then tomorrow is a
fucking new day. I used to be very very hard

(12:31):
on myself. If you're a longtime listener, I used to
be like, extremely hard on myself, and for a million
different reasons, mostly because I only had myself to depend
on for a very long time, right, So you know,
I had to if I wasn't getting shit done, who
was gonna get shit done for me? Type of thing,

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you know. But there came a point in time when
I had to discern, oh my gosh, Bentley, really sorry
about that. There came point in time when I had
to discern myself when it's appropriate for me to be
hard on myself and when I need to give myself
some grace. Right, I can't always just be fucking hard
on myself. Grow calm down, you know. And I had
to discern when is the time to give myself a

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kicking the ass and light a fire under my ass?
When is the time to give myself grace, you know?
And learning how to do that really helped me navigate
through my life in a much in a much safer
pace for me. And when I say safer, I mean

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more comforting, you know. Sound I'm saying more grace, more love,
more compassion, more empathy for myself and the things that
I have been through and also put myself through, which is,
you know why I was at the point that I
was at so on and so forth right, And I'm
sharing this about me with y'all not to say that
you got to be like me, because you don't have
to be like me. You have to be like you,

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you know, see what I'm saying. You have to be
like you, you know. And the I think a big
problem today is that a lot of women just don't
know who the fuck they are. And because you don't
know who you are, because you're so disconnected from yourself,
you aspire to be like any woman you see or
feel like has her quote unquote shit together without taking

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in consideration one, is it just a facade? Two? If
she does have her shit together, what do you think
it took for her to get there? It probably took
a lot, a lot, you know what I mean. Three,
A lot of you guys are looking at women who
have a lot of life experience. Like sometimes I would
talk to some twenty four year old twenty three year
olds and they're like, you know, they're trying to rest

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through life. They'll say things like, oh, I just want
to get where you're at, and I'm like, girl, I'm
thirty nine. Like I'm thirty nine. You know this. Stop this,
Stop trying to russ yourself to get to a place
that you're not meant to be yet, or maybe you're
not meant to be at all. Who the fuck knows
what your path is? Right, But it's like, slow down,

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you know, figure out who you are and let me
tell you something. Figuring out who you are is a
journey you is so what I'm saying. And it's okay
to be twenty five years old and to say to
yourself or even to other people, I'm still working on me.
I'm still learning about myself. I'm still discovering myself. Right.

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I think a lot of times women feel like, and
I understand why, right, society, life, so on and so forth,
that they have to present and perform. They have to
present as I have my shit together, they have to
present as this finished piece, right, and a lot of it,

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I'm going to say, is wrapped up in wanting to
get chosen by a man. I'm going to say that
a lot of women, it is so when we're subconscious
wrapped up and I want this man to see me
as a or want meant to see me as a
well put together woman, so that you know they'll choose me.
But the reality of the situation is there are so

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many women who who want to get in these relationships
really young, and it hurts them more than it helps
them because they're still discovering who they are and they
don't want to admit that, right, and then they end
up turning into or conforming to whatever this man in

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your life wants you to be for him.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
Right.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
A lot of women end up letting other people tell
them what they need to think, rather than thinking for themselves.
Do youner sound what I'm saying? And I see this
happen time after time after time again, as like, girl,
think for yourself. You know, if you are twenty five
years old right now listening to this, and maybe you

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like I want to get married, where is he? Where's
a man? Whatever? Ask yourself, what the fuck do you
want a man for? No, No, it's actual, like it's
a prompt to get your journal and depends what do
you want a man for at twenty five years old?
To do what? It's a genuine question, like to do
what some of you guys are going to write down,
to start a family, to have a companion, to have

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a partner, so on and so forth. And I ask
you this, right, are you really in a space where
you are a good partner to yourself? First of all?
Do you even know what partnerhood is? Right? Genuinely, really
and truly genuine do you even know what partnerhod is?

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Have you done the things in your life that you
want to do for yourself yet that doesn't require a
compromise or checking in with someone you? Have you been
free for yourself? Do you think for a long enough
time before you merge your life with somebody else's? And
now you have to constantly consider another person constantly, because
that's what a relationship is. You always have to think

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about somebody else. Now it's not just about you and
what you want and how you want it and where
you want it and when you want it. You always
have to consider another person. Something as simple as eating
you think you may intent it for yourself. Baby, You
think you could just gonna order a pizza. Now you
have to pick up the phone, call your man, Hey, baby,
I was thinking about ordering a pizza tonight, Do you

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want a pizza? And he's gonna be like, uh now,
I'm not really feeling for pizza, And you're like, fuck, okay,
what do you know? What do you want?

Speaker 2 (18:34):
Right?

Speaker 1 (18:35):
I want to touch whatever the case may be. And
maybe sometimes you're like, okay, we'll get what you want.
Or sometimes you're like, I'll get a pizza and then
I'll order you something that you want. Now you know
what I mean. But do you understand I'm saying you
always have to consider somebody else? If you are thirty

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five listening to this right now? Right, are you in
a space right now where being in a partnership, in
a relationship is something that makes sense for you? Will
it work for you and your life right now? Right?
Are you choosing men from a place of I'm genuinely,
I'm chill, I'm good in my life, whatever case they be, like,

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I'm ready to embark and to work together with somebody,
right Or are you wanting a man just because you're
thirty five and somebody told you that you're running out
of time or you keep telling yourself that you're running
out of time, running out of time for what exactly?
For what? And I know that some of your answers
are going to be you know, I want to have
a baby. I wanted this, I wanted that. I'm going

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to repeat this. I say this every time I have
this conversation. I'm gonna say it again. Do you just
want to have a baby or are you ready to
be a parent? They're not the same things. These are
not the same things. Man, right, babies only stay babies
for seven point six second? Are you ready to be

(20:05):
a parent? Somebody asked me the other day what's the
best way to teach their kids' self love? And I
had to tell them to love yourself, to love yourself.
The best teachers for our children are because kids don't
really listen to what the fuck you gotta say, you

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know what I mean? They move off of how you move,
They watch what you do, They pick up your habits,
they internalize your projections. You know. So what I'm saying, So,
if you're not loving yourself and you're telling your kids
to love themselves, they're like, mmm, right. It's just like
when you're like, oh, I'm smoking, but don't smoke. Your
kid is like, what the fuck are you talking? Right?

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We're talking about in a stand if you are in
a place right now, you're thirty five years old. IS's
just say, and you don't love yourself genuinely, I'm being
really honest, right, we say you don't love yourself, and
you can honestly see that that you're actions are not
in lined with what self love is for you. Do
you really think you're ready to bring a child into

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this world and be a parent? Right? You know, it's
what I'm saying. Do you think that you are in
a position to choose a man who's going to be
a good father for this child? Because you can choose,
You get to choose the men that you're with. Your
child doesn't get to choose their father, you see, Are

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you prepared to raise this baby by yourself? If you
if he dies I don't fucking know, right, or if
he you guys break up, or whatever the case may be,
if he switches up, or whatever the case may be. Right,
these are really important things that you got to ask yourself.
This is not to be rushed. It's not because your
clock is ticking. Society is telling you. You're looking around

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and you're seeing all your friends with kids and husbands
or baby daddies or whatever the case. May be, and
you feel left out, feel left out of? What of?
What of? What? Exactly? I'll ask you, So, what are
you left out of? And is that what I'm saying?
Slow down? The relationship that you have with yourself is

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the most important relationship you will ever have in this lifetime, ever, ever, ever.
And guess what, even in the most healthier relationship, you
still have to work on yourself constantly. You still have
to continue sustaining feeding the relationship that you have with

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yourself in order to sustain it. Rather sorry, right, and
you can't do that if you're with a man who
doesn't support your individualism, who doesn't see you as your
own person. You cannot do that. In a relationship with
a man who only likes you or cares about you
because of how he benefits from you, you can't do that,

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right Because when you're within a relationship with a man
like that, everything is all about him, and you got
to be on your p's and q's for him. You
got to be serving him, doing all the things for him.
He's not looking at you as your own person, you see,
he's not looking at you and even in the relationship
supporting you as supporting your your self care, supporting your

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self love, supporting your personal growth. It's right. And so
if you already don't love yourself, then the place that
you're choosing men from is from a place of lack. Right,
it's a place of lack. It's a place of desperation.
It's a place of rush, you see. And so now

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we choose from this place and we end up in
a fucking shit show, you understand, right, So it is
really important to slow the fuck down and figure out
and discover who you are. Let yourself go through life,
let yourself explore things, let yourself learn through different experiences

(24:09):
about yourself. Let yourself. I always say, you know, if
you wanna be out there dating, do yourself a favor.
Date yourself while you're dating. So example, you're dating a guy,
learn about yourself on the date with him as well,
while you're dating him as well. Right, Okay, I'm realizing

(24:31):
that I don't. I still got some stuff. I'm triggered
by this. What am my trigger? But I still got
some work I meting to do. Or my intuition is
giving me a red flag, but I want to believe
what he's saying. But okay, I still have some work
to do there with my intuition, because why do I
want to go against her to believe some stranger man
who just got into my life when I've been with
my intuition for the last thirty something years. That's crazy, right, Like,

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use it as an experience. I'm not saying to use men,
That's what I'm saying, right, I'm saying to use it
as an experience for you to get to know somebody
else and then get to know yourself too through the
experience of learning to get to know somebody else. What
do you like, what do you not like? What is
good for you, what isn't good for you? So on
and so forth? Right, or take a fucking break. Let

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let men be men out in the wild, and you
be yourself and you focus on the shit that you
need to do for yourself. Right. And for the women
who say things like, oh, but it's lonely, whatever the
case may be, why is it I want you to
ask yourself this, Why is it that you feel like
you can only find companionship in a man? What is

(25:38):
it It's for you to answer for yourself, right, Like
you're lonely? Okay, what is it about a man that
you feel like you can only find comfort and community
in a man. This is for you to think about.
I say this all the time, and I'll say it again.

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It's okay to have pockets of loneliness. We're human, we're natural,
we're women, you know what I mean. It'd be nice
to be nice to have somebody to hold you. It'd
be nice to have somebody to sleep to next to it,
nice to be nice to have somebody to just do
the groceries with. It'd be not right. Like I completely understood, duh,
I completely understand that, right. Pockets of loneliness and those
feelings are natural and it's okay. But like I always say,

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there's a difference between having those pockets of moment, those
pockets of loneliness, and feeling your feelings and then also
having a reckoning with yourself like, well, you know this
is normal. I get it, girl. But do we want
just any man or do we want a man who's
well right for us? Right? Okay? We want a man
that's well right for us? Okay. Cool, So we're not

(26:44):
going to just let the first blow Joe that comes
along and pick him. You know, it might take some time,
and we gotta be okay with that. If we want
a healthy fucking relationship, that's it, right. And I hear
somebody in about it's not that easy. It is that stop,
it is that easy. It becomes easy once you decide
that it's going to be that easy. Right. I think

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that's another that brings me to another thing too. I
think a lot of times I see a lot of
women who want to who want to hold on to
things having to be hard, right. They want to hold
on to struggle. So whenever there's a solution presented, several solutions,
the first response is, it's not that easy. Why do
you want things to not be that easy? Why can't

(27:27):
things be easy for you? Because you decided today, I'm
going to change my mind, and today I'm going to
decide that moving forward, yes, things can get hard or
whatever the case may be, but I'm not going to
I'm not going to live and unpack and pay rent
to that energy. Right, I'm going to decide that things
can get easier for me because I fucking say so. Deannis,

(27:48):
That's what I'm saying. I was telling you doing the
other day that one of my biggest regrets in life.
And I know people say you're not supposed to have regrets,
blah blah blah blahh Okay, fine, but I still regret
it a little bit. Right, it is what it is. Is.
In my twenties, I was working so much. I feel
like I didn't. Yeah, I had girls' trips, yes, whatever,

(28:09):
they kiss me, But I feel like I didn't have enough, right,
I feel like I didn't do enough things with my homegirls.
I feel like I didn't I didn't I didn't do
and I feel like I just didn't do enough with
my homegirls because I was so focused on work. Because
you know, this is what it is, right, I was.
I was working a lot, and then I was also
in some shitty relationships and you know, right, and that

(28:33):
took that took so much energy from me constantly, just
took so much foking energy for me. And that is
honestly one of my biggest regrets. And when I look
at young women today and I see, you know, you're
twenty three, you're twenty five, you're twenty seven, and you're
fucking crying over these men who are ugly. To be honest, Okay,
they're ugly on the inside. They they they're they don't

(28:57):
even know who they are for themselves either right, and
you're and your heartbroken over these men, and or you're
pouring all your energy into these men. I'm like, girl,
just like I promise you just let let it go.
You know just what I'm saying. Go live your life. There's
so much life for you to live. And I feel
like as women we're so narrow minded. Sometimes there's so

(29:25):
much out there for us to do and to live
and to explore and to be. There's so many outfits
to try on, you know, And I'm using it as
an analogy where different versions of yourself to explore, right,
so many out is to try on, but we instead
are focused on one thing all the time. Where are
the men? When men? Men? I need a man? Where's

(29:45):
the man? Oh? You let a man? Oh you're crying
over a man. Oh there's this man and man is
a man. And we were right at dawn because this
man just hurt my friend. Man. Men, men, men, men,
You know I have to hurt and get a man.
My parents are begging me for a grandchild. That's another
thing too. You know some of you guys have parents
who begging you for a grandchild, and you need to
tell me to go adopt one. Okay, go adopt one

(30:05):
if you want. You want to ground pickny, so bad.
Go There's a million kids out there who need to
go adopt one. Okay, go be a weekend babysitter if
you want. You know, sound I'm saying it's too much
pressure to hurry up and rush through your life. And
I think not a lot of women understand that this

(30:26):
pressure is coming from projections of other people, you know,
and be it whether they realize they're projecting or not,
whether it's a malicious projection or not. Right like, but
the reality is, it's a lot of projections from other
people who are telling you that you need to hurry
up and do the shit that they did. Why do
I have to do the shit that you did? Look
at you, you're miserable. You ever take stock of some

(30:49):
of the people who are telling you, you know, when
you gonna do this, when you will have some kids,
when you won't get married, when are you gonna do
whatever he's gonna be? You ever really sit and take
stock of And when you listen to their situations, you're like, huh,
what the fuck? Why would I do that? Right now? Right?
A lot of times you look at other people, and
especially social media is really like fucking with a lot

(31:10):
of people's hEDS. Right, You sit and you scroll and
you sift and you see, you know, these couples and
you see this, and you see that, and you feel
like you're behind or you're like, I want that. No,
you don't. You don't even know what that is. It's
a picture. Oh my god, it's a picture. It's a
five second video. Right. You don't know what's going on

(31:31):
behind the scenes. You don't know if that's a healthy
relationship or it's a front for social media. You don't
know if it is a relationship that is healing for
both parties, or if it's hurting both parties even more.
You don't know. You don't know right figure out first

(31:53):
of all, sit and look at your life and ask yourself, Okay,
where am I right now? Where am I? And which
version of myself am I? Like? Who am I right
now this moment that I can that I can? I
can you know right now? If I someone who's asking
me who I am right now? Okay? What can I
say right now? Right? Okay? Cool? Am I happy with
who I am right now? Am I happy with my
life right now? No? All right, what are some things

(32:15):
that I want for myself that have nothing to do
with that man right, that I can start making the
steps towards attaining right. Another thing that comes up often
in these conversations is you know this thing where you
know men don't like women who have careers and our

(32:40):
career driven and whatever the case may be. Let me
tell you something. If you're if what you want to
do in life is fulfilling and it's important to you,
then do it. Then then do it and the man
who is for you later on will love that you
are so passionate about what you do and how you

(33:01):
are helping the world in your own local ConA of
the world. Do you understand what I'm saying. Some women
are here to have families in the sense where you know,
to have a bunch of kids. Cool. And some women
really enjoy motherhood genuinely and they enjoy that that is

(33:23):
all their life is is just kids, kids' kids, and
that's what they do and they stay at home moms.
That's great. Good for them. Now I'm not being facetious.
I really mean it, good for them. Other women are
meant to create in different ways. Other women are meant
to live lives, fulfilling lives that looks different to other
people but feels good for them. That is also okay.

(33:47):
And I think that's somebody, like I really feel like
just somebody needs to hear this day. That is also okay.
If you've listened to me for a while, you've probably
heard me say multiple times throughout different episodes that one
of my things that everybody knows about me is I'm
notorious for keeping shit to myself and then telling my
friends later on. And this could be something like, it

(34:10):
could be it could be anything, right, it could be
a year later we're having a conversation and I'm like, oh, yeah,
I dated that guy, and they're like when And I'm like, oh,
like last year, what the fuck? Why didn't you tell me?
You know what I mean, I'm very notorious for just
keeping shit to myself. Right, Like, as much as I

(34:32):
share is twice as much as I keep to myself,
trust and belief. And it's a it's always been a
running joke amongst my friends where you know, for them,
they're even surprised that I even like announced an engagement,
you know what I mean. Like for them, they're like,
you know, I was I was sure that we were
just gonna get wedding invitations and be like, tomorrow we're

(34:54):
getting married, so be there, be square like, you know,
because that's really that's pretty much my personality trait, right.
But one of the reasons why I'm saying this, one
of the reasons why I'm like this is because when
I'm doing so, I don't want to fucking hear what
anybody has to say. I don't care what you think
about what I'm getting ready to do. I don't care
what you think about my idea. I don't care what

(35:15):
you think. I actually don't care. Don't make me laugh,
oh shit, gosh right. A lot of times when I'm
fixing and do something like I said before, I'm gonna
do it with or without your blessing, because I don't
care what you have to think. Okay, I want to

(35:38):
do what I want to do, and I don't want
anybody to rob me of the experiences that I feel
like I need to have or I want to have
in that moment. And also, if it turns out to
be wrong for me, I don't want to hear anybody's
fucking mouth until I've processed it myself and I can
come to my own conclusions of my own realizations without somebody,
anybody in my ear telling me shit all about shit

(36:01):
in a nutshell, right. And one thing I've noticed is
that being that way throughout my life for the most part,
has allowed me to how do I say this? It's
allowed me to think for myself. It's allowed me to
plug into my own intuition. It's allowed me to move
in a way that was authentic to me at the moment,

(36:24):
without outside noise, without anybody else. It's allowed me to
discover parts of myself, dismantle parts of myself, recreate parts
of myself without anybody in my ear telling me what
I should or should not do. And I realize now
that I'm thirty nine. I don't think I ever really

(36:45):
realized it before, but now, as I continue getting older
and wiser through my experience, I realized how much that
has actually served me, and how grateful I am for
the versions of myself who maintain that privacy, right, So
grateful that I was allowed myself, in the version of myself,

(37:05):
to maintain that privacy for myself because it allowed me.
It is part of what has allowed me to build
a healthy relationship with myself and to build a self
trust with myself that no matter where I land, I'm
gonna be all right, man, I'm gonna figure it out. Right,
no matter how I land, where I land, what the
situation is, I'm going to figure it the fuck out.

(37:28):
It is something that has served me in a way
that I that is, that is I don't want to
say indescribable, but I'm fucking describing it right now, right.
It is something that has served me in a way
that other people's advice could have never served me. Didn't
sound what I'm saying because they don't have to live
my life and they're not me. So even for myself,

(37:50):
I can sit up here and tell y'all things all
day long, which I will, you know what I mean,
I will one hundred percent, But at the end of
the day, I'm not you, and I don't know what
you need. Right. You're listening to this right now. I
don't even know who's listening to this, right, I don't
even know other than some of my regular thing I'm saying.
Shout out to Dana, Shout out to Amanda, Shout out
to Brittany, shout out to my regular you know it

(38:11):
sound I'm saying, shout out to to the squad, right,
but I don't I don't know what you guys got
going on in your life. I don't know what you
need for yourself right now. Some of y'all need to
be with just yourselves. Others of y'all need to get
out the fucking house and socialize. Others of y'all need

(38:32):
to get over your fear of rejection. Others of y'all
need to work on your self love. Others of y'all
need to get them motherfucking therapist and lay on someone's
couch right. Others of y'all need to focus on getting
your money up right. You're focusing on chasing these motherfucking
men when you need to focus on getting a bag.
Others of y'all need to focus on honing in on
your skills. Others of y'all need to find a fucking

(38:54):
hobby for yourself that you enjoy and do it. Others
of y'all dat, It's what I'm saying. I don't know
where you're at right now. Right. Only you know where
you're at right now. Your homegirls who can know you
super well, they still don't know exactly where you're at
right now, because most of us don't tell our homegirls
every single thing about We all have our own personal, deep,

(39:16):
dark secrets and feelings that we don't necessarily share with people.
And so everybody who's giving you advice is giving you
advice based off of two things, like your homegirls. One
what they think that they know about you from what
you've shared with them. And two there's a little mixture
of what they would do in your situation. But they're
not you. It's same, they're not you. You know, there

(39:40):
are some really good advice that gets that gets given
to women all the time, and I like to think
that I'm somebody who participates in those giving of good advice, right,
But the reality is is the advice is just a guide.
You don't got to do anything if the guide resonates
with you. True. If it's like, Okay, I felt this

(40:02):
in my core. It rattled something inside me. Explore it
right before you just do what someone to explore it?
Why did this resonate with me? Why did it rattle
and shake something inside me? What is this? What is
it touching? Okay, unpack it, journal around it, you know
what I mean, and then find your own answers in
there in that way you understand. It's like my clients,

(40:26):
you know, anybody who's ever worked with me, one knows
that I'll ask you a lot of questions for you
to answer for yourself, right, Or I'll pause and just
look at you and you're like, oh, just say it,
and I'm like, no, what do you think I'm gonna say?
And then they say it themselves, right, and I'm like, okay.
You know, my job as your coach is not to

(40:47):
tell you what the fuck you need to do, is
to guide you back to you constantly, to guide you
back to yourself. What do you feel in this moment
is the best thing for you to do for yourself?
Why do you feel like you are in the situation
that you are today? What is about? What turns did
you take that brought you here? What lessons do you

(41:09):
need to learn for yourself based on what it is
that you've been through, what you've put yourself through, what
you want and what you don't want? This is about you, baby, right.
It's like, so, so let me tell you that recently
one of my clients shaw Zulia, one of my clients like,
be have you ever done the human design and I

(41:32):
was like, I don't I don't know what that is.
What is a human design? I was thought, thought she
was talking about a doctor a chart. You know, I don't
fly right, And she was like, so she explained it
to me, whatever the case may be. And you know,
I'm I'm right now. I'm on a social media fing
hiatus like a motherfucker. I don't be scrolling anything right now.
So I'm doing a lot deep diving into a lot

(41:53):
of studying, studying that I wanted to do for myself
anyways that I put on a back burner for a
long time, studying, honing in on my crafts, more deep
diving into astrology in a way that I've never done before,
which is really cool. Anyways, some doing a lot of stuff,
and recently I was doing I revisited my life path

(42:14):
because I was led there, right, I revisited my life
path and I was like, you see, this is a
shit anyways, so she was like we're talking about it,
and I'm like, a right, I'm gonna find it. I
ended up doing it and found it. And when I
read I ended up doing it, it was like a
fifty two page report that I got of my human
my human design. And something that really stood out for
me is the fact that I cannot escape that my

(42:39):
role in life, in my purpose in this world is
to help people. I'm like, everything about me is healer energy. Right,
You're meant to help people heal, You're meant to guide people.
You're meant to this guide heal, help, guide heal, help, guide,

(42:59):
heal help. That is no matter where I turn, I'm like,
I can't escape it. Right, But the reality is is that, Okay,
I accept my role as a healer. Fine, but my
role as a healer isn't to heal you. That's not
a thing. My role as a healer isn't to heal people.
It is to guide them to themselves, guide them back

(43:21):
to themselves so that they can heal themselves. That's it.
That is it. You know that it's sucking it. And
so no matter what I say, no matter what anybody
else who listens to say, no matter what, it's not
for you to take whatever we say. And just it's law,
you know, because maybe it's not your law. Maybe it's not.

(43:42):
It doesn't maybe it's not your law, or maybe part
of it is, but the rest of it isn't. It's
what your job is to be Like, Okay, does this
make sense for me in my life and what I
want to do? Did it soun what I'm saying? Sometimes
I see women, you know, get on social media and

(44:05):
they'll say, look here's and we see it all the time, right,
Five ways to get a man to open up to you.
Five ways to get a man to this, How to
get a man to this? How to get a man?
And I'm like, stop stop doing this, like stop, stop
with the tips and tricks and how to get a
man to this? That how to get a da da
da Stop stop it. How to get a man to
love you. That's not a real thing, man, that's not
a real thing. Stop Stop trying to trick people. Stop

(44:27):
trying to to play games, right, Stop trying to be
the very stop trying to execute and do the very
things that you hate that people do to you. That, like,
stop stop it, all right, This is silly. It's it's silly.
Get in alignment with yourself and the version of yourself

(44:50):
that you are right now, because let me tell you something,
as you grow and evolve, right, maybe in six months
from now, you'll look up and you realize that what
you're doing for yourself. What you've been doing for your
the last six month isn't working anymore? Right, Okay, boom,
I think I've entered a new Why isn't this Why
isn't this hitt and like it used to? I think
I've entered a new version of myself. So now I

(45:11):
need to sit down and reassess. Do I still have
the same wants? So I still have the same needs?
Do I still think the same? You know, I need
to reassess. I need to re audit myself. Auditing yourself
regularly and consistency consistently is a thing, is a real thing.
It's like it's like a workout. Eventually your body gets

(45:32):
used to the same reps all the time. You got
to kind of switch it up. Okay, this was working
for me for the last five months. I think my
body got used to it. Now I need to do
a different workout now, or I need to add something
into my workout because my body's used to it and
it's plateaued. It's it's time to change. It is what
it is. Instead of trying to be do study men

(45:56):
and why men do what they do, and you know,
try to get closer to men. Steady yourself, get closer
to yourself, right, if you're into you know, astrology, if
you're into life paths, if you're into now medium not
medium was it called human design? If you're into stuff
like that, allow yourself to go down that rabbit hole,

(46:17):
like really allow yourself to to learn more about yourself.
See if it resonates, and use those things tools as
a guide as well to be like, Okay, all signs
keep pointing back to X y Z, and this obviously
resonates with me because blah blah bla blah blah. Right,
and use it to hone on hone into your own,

(46:38):
your own life steps. I'm gonna give you an example
one of the reasons why. And some of you guys
don't know this because I only talk about it on
my other podcasts, so some of you guys don't know.
But so I used to do taro right, and then
I stopped because I was overwhelmed and I was, you know,
not focusing on I had so many classes, I was
running back to back and you know, the drill like

(46:59):
I was. My work life was was enough, right, But
I really loved to tyr. I love to read for people,
and I'm gifted in it, and I stopped doing it
for a while. And recently, as I started making all
these changes in my life, you know, the the emancipation
of the Crimson Kiss, you know what I mean, the

(47:19):
the emancipation. Yeah, I was gonna say dissolving or getting
away from but okay, emancipation, sure, right, And then you know,
starting and all the stuff, all the stuff. Right in
the midst of that, something I realized was that I
was out of alignment with myself and I couldn't put
my finger on it right. And I was doing the work.

(47:42):
I was just doing the work out loud, right. So
I was trying to get back into alignment with myself
or the version of myself that the new version I
was stepping into, whatever that meant, right, And one of
those things was bringing me back to my readings, right,
And I was like, okay, cool, And so I started
offering them again, only over on my other podcast, but

(48:03):
I started offering them again. And the minute I did,
the minute, I was like, Okay, the readings are back,
blah blah blah. I got booked out right my October.
I had twenty five slots opened for October and people
were like, oh yeah, you're back on your readings. Good,
because where the fuck were you? And boom, you know,

(48:24):
got booked out. But I say that to say this.
That happened because I was now in alignment with what
I had put on a back burner for myself, but
with something that I truly did love to do, and
I stepped away from it. Do you understand what I'm saying?
Sometimes we are we fight in life and we go

(48:45):
through these struggles, but the answers to our I guess
our struggles they're behind us. Just got to turn around, right.
We left them somewhere, We dropped them off, We put
them on a shelf, We put them on a back burner,
We put them in a box and put them in
the closet like a fucking Christmas tree. And you know
that you put away at the end of the season.
You don't touch it until decemb until the next year December, right,

(49:08):
Like a lot of the stuff, a lot of our
roadmaps through lives are are literally they're behind us in
the sense where we've dropped them, or we're not paying
attention to them, or we're refusing to look at them,
or or we're not feeding them in a stand and instead,
we are seeking all the validation, and we are seeking

(49:30):
everybody else's opinions to tell us what we need to
do and what's best for us. And then as a result,
when people are telling us all these things, we feel
like we are behind in life because we're not where
they are. And now we feel like we have to
rush and we've got to rush to get this together,
and we got to rush do this, and we got
to rush to that. No, no, no, no no. What

(49:52):
are the reasons why I don't like traveling too tough,
especially like in my get older with certain people because
I don't I don't want to be rushed. I don't
want to be rushed. I want to take my time
to eat. I want to take my time to walk.
I want to take my time to see. I want
to walk slowly. I want to be intentional, like, I

(50:13):
don't want to be rushed. I fucking hate I hate it.
Come on, come on, let's goo, let's go. We got
to I hate it. Right, Yes, there's certain I know
if we're going to be late, okay, cool, right, like,
you know, let's go, We're gonna be late, fine, but
on a regular basis. Fuck off, man, I want to
I want to take my time, and I think too

(50:34):
as I become more and more sousoned. You know, time
is something that's very important to me, very very important
to me. And it's also another reason why you know,
I no longer could sustain social media, posting on social
media and doing all this stuff and being on this

(50:54):
algrat race tampster will algorithm. It just wasn't good for
my mental health anymore. I will not It's no longer
aligned with me, right, like moving fast paced and okay,
let's go, let's go. It's no, it's it's not a
thing for me anymore. I need to be able to
take my time. Right. It's like for the ladies who
book are reading with me. If you go and your

(51:15):
book are reading, you know that it says, you know,
the reading's gonna come five business days after you book, right,
there's a reason for that. I'm not trying to be
rushed through anything. I want to take my time. I
want to get a feel of your situation. I want
to connect with your situation. I want to hear what's
going on, right, like, I want to take my time

(51:38):
to deliver you the best reading that you could get. Right.
It's what I'm saying, I don't want to be like, Okay,
I have this reading today that I to day, I
got to rush to this person. He's no, no, no
no no no no no no no no no no.
It's also another reason why, you know, for clients who
book for my two month program, the Soft Life program,
right my my my coaching clients, I don't take people

(52:02):
in the morning. The morning from six am or five
thirty am to one pm. That's my time. That's my time.
It's my time to create. It's my time to can
sit and pick my nose if I wanted to. It's
my time to walk, it's my time to work out,
it's my time to be with Bentley. It's my time.

(52:23):
It's my time. It's my time, it's my time to read.
It's my time. Right, And it really matters to me
that I have that time to connect with myself, to
be with myself and not feel rushed, right, And that
is how I thrive the best, you know. I had

(52:45):
to start realizing and coming into understanding like that is
that is just how I show up as my best
self when I am able to take my time and
just take my time, you know. And I say that
to say this. Maybe somebody y'all out there are resonating
with this in a way that you didn't You didn't
even know that you that you could, in the way
that you were like, fuck, I never actually really thought

(53:05):
about that, but I actually, yeah, same, you know. And
maybe this is your sign or a confirmation for something
you've been thinking about already, right to slow down and
to figure out how to how to intentionally make more
time for yourself in your schedule. Maybe this is your
your confirmation that like, no, actually, I'm going to change

(53:28):
my I don't know, career path, my job, my whatever
that is more in line with with is with what
I need from myself, even if it's a I don't know, Uh,
I was gonna say, like a pay cut. You know,
I'd rather have a pay cut and trust that at

(53:48):
the end of the day the universe will provide for
me in some other way. Then stay in a in
a in a rat race of a of a situation,
of a job, of a career, of whatever the case
may be, that is running me to the ground. You know.
That doesn't give me time for myself, That doesn't give
me time for my kids, that doesn't give me time
for what the fuck I want to do? That doesn't
even give me time to sit down and journal for
an hour, like right, to sit down and think about myself.

(54:12):
Maybe for others of y'all, it's resonating in a way
where you're like, Okay, you're in the middle of, you know,
seeing what you want to do for yourself. You're kind
of just coasting through life, right, And maybe this resonated
with you in a way where you're like, nah, you
know what that I will actually want to create something
for myself that can give me some type of freedom
while also helping other people while also helping myself. So no,

(54:34):
so for worth right, however, this resonated with you, right.
I'm sharing with you to allow you to hone in
on your own intuition and and just give you something
to think about. But I can keep going on and
on and on, but this is now forty fifty four
minutes long, so we're gonna wrap it up. We're gonna
wrap it up, baby. The overall message is to slow down, right,

(54:57):
slow down, unplug from everybody else, plug into yoursel and
get in a habit of asking yourself first and processing
and waiting for your own answer to come before you
ask anybody else what you need to be doing for
your own life, right before you feel like you need
to rush and be where other people are in their lives,
ask yourself, is that where you truly need to be

(55:18):
in your life right now? Is this your time to
be doing X Y Z. You might very well be
twenty seven years old and you want some kids, But
is it the time now? Or is it better to
wait a little bit? You know, Yes, Sad, I'm saying,
you might be thirty two years old and you very
well might want to fill in the blank. Ask yourself,

(55:42):
is the time now? Or can I wait a little bit?
You know what I mean? Is it now for me?
Or is it something that I'm that I'm letting other
people tell me that is now for me? It is
so what I'm saying. If you don't know if you're
in a space for right now where you realize that
you want to you know, you actually don't know what

(56:03):
you want to do for yourself right now, and you're
kind of just winging it and trying on different things
to see what fits. That's okay. Just be honest about it,
you know, don't pretend like you have your shit together
to save face for somebody because you want to get chosen,
you know, Just be honest about it. I don't I
don't really know what I'm doing right now in life,
and I'm just kind of trying to figure it out,
you know. Just be honest about it, you know, in

(56:26):
the same way that you would want someone else to
be honest with you about it, rather than pretending that
they have their shit together when they don't, and now
you're frustrated because that person's wasting your fucking time. It's
the same thing, right, Just be just be honest with
yourself and be open if anybody, you know what I mean,
be willing to be honest with other people too, And

(56:48):
there's nothing for you to be ashamed of, you to
be ashamed of. My life has taken one eighties multiple
times throughout my life. You'll listen, listen, right, Like, multiple
times throughout my life has has one eighties happened. And
I've been like, whoa, whoa, whoa? Where what is this? Right?

(57:09):
And that's life? That's growth, it is what it is.
Something I used to say a lot when I was
when I was still dancing, and I think towards the
like three years before I stopped dancing. I knew that
it was time to fucking go. And whenever i'd have
certain conversations with people and they'd be like, you know,

(57:32):
when I talk about how much i've because I was
really starting to hate, really hate it. Probably three or
four years before it was time to go. Before I
actually left, I started to feel like I need to
get out of here. But my main thing was, you know,
I don't know what I want to do, right Like,
I know what I want to do, but I don't
really know how to get there. I don't really know
how going to put in a place. And I'm not
leaving here to go and do something that I hate

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even more for even less pay. I'm just gonna thug
it out. But I was very honest about that. I
fucking hate to hear. I'm ready to fucking go, but
I just don't know where and how I'm going to
go there, and so this is why I'm not moving yet,
you know. But I was very honest and open about that,
and what were what could anybody tell me, Oh, well,

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you need to go and do something that you hate
even more? What you know, it's that what I'm saying.
I was very honest with myself about my situation. Therefore,
I was able to be honest with other people with
my situation, like, this is what it is, bro, I
don't know, I also tell you you know. So I
just think that if more of y'all would get in
the habit of just being honest with yourself and and

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working through your fears of rejection for your honesty, I
think you would. I think you would find yourself navigating
your life in a way that feels more authentic and
better for you than it may be. It is right now,
you know. And I think a lot of women have
a major fear of rejection because they want to be
accepted so bad, and so you want the answer. You

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want whatever you say to be accepted by people, right,
and so you don't want to say I don't know,
I'm just figuring it out, I'm just winging it. Because
if somebody says, wow, that's fucking crazy. What don't mean
You're thirty two years old and you're just winging it,
that feels like rejection. That's rejection. And now you're like,
oh shit, I know, you feel bad about yourself and
shame and all this stuff starts coming up, right. That's
why It's so important to do your fucking inner work

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so that when now you're thirty two years old and
you're like, oh no, man, I thought I knew what
I wanted to do, but now I don't, and I'm
kind of just figuring things things out. And someone's like,
what the fuck. You're thirty two years old, get your
shit together, and you're like, what I am? Now you
can be like, man, well, you know, I'm glad that
you have things figured out for you. But we're not
all the same and I don't have my shit figured
out right now, but I am definitely in the process

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of figuring out it won't it won't hurt your little feelings,
you see, it will hurt your little feelings. So anyways,
that's my pep dog for the day. Okay. I hope
this helped somebody out there who needed it, you know,
hope this helped in some way, shape or form. It
was on my heart today and I just wanted to
share it. And that is it. And that is all

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random like news. I don't really have any random life news. Honestly,
life is I'm just I'm just here, just do my
little thank thing, just do my little thank thing. But
if you are into reading and you like blogs. Okay,
one of my students just launched her new blog. It's
just called go to go to Hard Truths to Myself

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dot com. That is Hard Truths to Myself dot com.
She just launched her blog. There's about three posts that
are up right now. So go show he us some love,
Miss Danielle, go show us some love. Go like, go
leave some comments, Go have a good read. That's my
That's the random life news that I got for y'all.
Something I'm grateful for. I'm grateful to be thirty nine.

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I am I'm gonna be forty soon. I'm like, whoa really,
But I'm actually grateful to be thirty nine. I'm grateful
for every fucking thing that I've been through and also
put myself through. Some of the things have been extremely challenging,
and I'm like, what the hell? But one thing I
am realizing again every time I'm doing deep dives on

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myself via you know, my life path or numerology or
which is still my life path and now the human
design thing and astrology whatever, it's so funny because everything
always points back to basically, my life is meant to
be challenging. I'm a number five, and everything everything is
five five five five five seas right, like my life

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is supposed to be forever changing. I'm supposed to be
for ever changing, and only through the experiences that I
that I you know, it's only through my own experiences.
It's crazy, it's wild. But so even though things have
been very challenging, and you know, so on and so forth,
I'm really grateful to be thirty nine and to have

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acquired the wisdom I think so far throughout my journey,
and then I'm able to share with people and help
them through their journey in some way, some shape or form,
you know, even if it's just a nugget that you know,
you took from me and you applied it in your
own scenario, and you know, something that resonated with you

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and worked for you. Like I'm I'm really grateful to
be to be able to do that, you know, to
be able to serve my community in that way, because
at the end of the day, this is what it is.
It is a service to community, you know, and we
need community, all of us, even the most introverted of people,

(01:02:35):
we still need some type of community because it is
what it is most really grateful for the women who
have rocked with me for as long as y'all have.
Some of y'all have been here since the very beginning.
So y'all have I rocked with me since the day
I started the Crimson Kiss in twenty fourteen or whatever, right, Like,
some of y'all have been listening to me on the
podcast since the day I started two years ago or

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three years ago. I remember when I started the percast. Now,
you know, others of y'all are you know? You you
you share, You try to put your friends on. I
know this. Sometimes it's hard to put your friends on
my podcast though, because some of them are not ready
to hear what the fuck I got to say. And
you're like, I tried, and that's okay. Don't make me
laugh my throat, but that's okay, you know. But I

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appreciate y'all a lot. I know that I have therapists
who listen to me, who recommend my podcast or their clients.
I hear that all the time, coaches who recommend me
to their clients. And I appreciate y'all, you know what
I mean. I appreciate y'all, and I'm I'm I'm really grateful,
and that is what I have to say about that.
It is your turn. Think of something that you're grateful for,

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say it out loud or write it down. A phone
of friends, send them a text message, let them know
that you appreciate them. I'm sure it'll make their day.
Ladies and sometimes gentlemen appreciate y'all so much. If you're
looking for any of my books, my journals, anything like that,
the link is in the show notes the description of
this podcast episode, so you can find it and help yourself.

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I hope that you guys have a good rest of
your mornings, evenings, afternoons. Wherever the book y'all are in
the world. Please be safe. If you fucking use condoms,
please trust your intuition and use your discernment. And I
will catch y'all on the next episode. Sending y'all much love.

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