November 1, 2024 • 39 mins
As always, I hope today's episode inspires a woman out there. Sending love. XO
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is C. C. B, but most people just
call me B. I'm thirty nine years young. I've been
through a lot. I've also put myself through a lot,
and one day I got sick and tired of my
own shit. And that's the day when change started happening.
I stopped lying to myself and started getting painfully honest
with myself. But it was only painful because I had
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been lying to myself for so long. About nine or
ten years ago, now, give or take, I started writing
books about my journey through my toxic relationships and how
I got out of them and then stayed out of
them by building a healthy relationship with myself. So there's
nothing that I say on this podcast that I haven't
alreadyet to say to myself at some point in time,
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and yes, in the exact same tone as I say
it here. So if you are sensitive to honesty, baby,
this is not the place for you to be. I
don't sugarcoat ship for myself, so I'm not doing it
for anyone else. Besides, how are you going to be
more offended by another woman being honest with you, telling
you the truth and you are by the man or
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men who lied to you?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Every day and treat you like shit.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Food for thought, Finish your plates, what up boozes your
girl be and Welcome back to another episode of the
SIS Get Your Ish Together Podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I hope that you guys are having a great day today.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I hope that you woke up feeling revived and rejuvenated
with faith that everything that you spoke about with your
spirit team the night before is being worked out for
you in the background, somehow, some way. But please remember
that you've got to help your spirit team help you,
all right. It means you got to put yourself in
the position to get the things that you want. Needs
to chess and needs to just because that's right. Even
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the person who wishes to when the lottery knows that
they've got to play the numbers. It's currently tennel three
am here in I don't know what kind of a
data is outside country all Canada, but we gotta over as.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Little gloom and doom.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Anyways, on today's episode, we are going to be talking
about the seasons of your life and respecting the seasons
of your life. So go get a snack at juice
box or a glass of wine. Put your sugars to
the side so you got room to open up your
mind and let's get into the episode.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Shall we.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Still sound like I'm fighting for my life with my voice,
and the reality is that I am. I am still
fighting for my life. It's ridiculous. This is the longest
cold flu situation I've ever had.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Foolishness.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Anyways, I digress, Hi, I hope everybody's doing well out there.
I was inspired this morning. Let me tell you, let
me we'll hop right into it. So this morning I
was writing in my morning pages, as I do every morning,
which I fucking love that for me, and I was
ended up on the topic of the season of the
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season of my life that I'm in right now. And
then I was thinking about seasons, and I was thinking
about life and womanhood as seasons, right, and I was
thinking about cycles. This is this is my brain process.
Right then I started to think about cycles. And then
I was thinking about our periods, the site our cycles,
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you know, And I was thinking about our cycles as
women and all you know, what happens right before your
period comes and then after your period and then our
homeowns and all the shit. Right, But I was just
thinking about seasons and cycles and womanhood and I just
thought somebody need to hear Thisay, what I'm about to say,
it's probably not gonna be a long episode, but you know,
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for here, So.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I want you to.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Think about what season that your life is in right
now now, and I want you to think about seasons. Okay,
so we have winter, summer, I mean winter, summer go away.
We have winter, spring, summer, fall, right, and I want
you to really think about what happens through each of
those seasons and what it means. I know, if you
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live somewhere where you never have winter, good for you.
What's it feel like to be God's favorite? But just
like women who have one day periods, good for you?
Good for you. But for the most part, right still,
think of what seasons look like typically, right, So we
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have we have summer where you know, everybody's feeling good.
The days are long, they are warm, the sun sets
the sunset's really late. You know, you wake up in
the morning to the sun, to that morning morning air.
You know that summer crisp morning air. Before anybody hits
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the road. You know what I mean, if you wake
up a six, the morning is shit. Before anyone really
hits the road, you know, the sun is still like
just rising up. It feels so nice outside. It feels
so clean, you know what I mean. And how you
feel in summer nights when you're out with your girls
or out with Demandum, or out you know what I mean,
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walking the dog or sitting on your porch, whatever, your
balcony whatever, right, like the energy that comes with summer.
And then I want you to think of the energy
that comes with the fall. You know, you start to
get snugly and cozy, you bring back out your your
cozy clothes and fall. I really like fall because I
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like fall for fashion. Falls like the perfect time where
you don't have to wear a jacket, right, and sometimes
you do, but at least it's not like a heavy jacket, right,
But you get to wear some dope fashion.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
And the weather is good enough. You know, it's not
too cold yet.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
It's not well unless you live in Montreal, starts to
get cold real cool around here. But you know what
I mean, it's not too cold yet, it's not too
it's not too hot anymore, and like the temperature is
almost just right. And then as we kind of move
into winter is coming right. The you know, we set
our clocks. I know some of you guys, don't set
your clocks U backwards anymore?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Is it backwards?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Are forward? I hate this game, you know what I mean.
I think it's bad. Anyways, bro, we have to reset
our time.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Sick of it.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You know, it gets darker way earlier. And then you
wake up to the darkness. Even if you wake up
at seven in the morning, it's dark for most of us,
you know, for a lot of us. And then you know,
you start bundling up more, your clothes become more cozy
than before. Right, and now you bust out the breakout,
bust out the sweaters and the tubes, and the scarves
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and the and the this and the that, right, the
boots because winter is coming, Right, we prepare for winter,
and we put our snow time on. For those of
us who live where snows, we prepare our cars, so
on and so forth. Right, kids get snowsuits, come out,
so on and so forth.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
And then we have winter.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Winter comes, and if you live in Canada and even
like New York and stuff, Right, the shit gets cold
as a motherfucker, right.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And you're dragging your feet. You're like, fuck this shit.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
But you bring out the hot coco and you make
the best of it, right, You do all the stuff
that winter, Christmas, all the things, and then the snow
starts to melt, and then we are in spring, and
we feel revived and rejuvenated and hopeful.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Right it is.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
We feel hopeful, We feel excited for what it's about
to come, which is summer again. I know you guys
are probably like, thank you for giving us a lesson
b on the different seasons. Please get on with it, right,
I know, But hear me out. What if you thought
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of your life as seasons just like that, the same
four seasons. What if you thought of your life as that,
but instead of everybody on the same season, you're on
your own season. And maybe instead of you know, every
season having to last a certain amount of time, you
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accept that it'll be over when it's over, it'll end
when it ends, and a new season will begin when
it's your time.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
I think a lot of people, a lot of.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Women, feel like they are late bloomers, that they are
not where they're supposed to be yet in life, that
they need to have everything figured out right away about
life and about themselves and about where they're going and
where they want to go and where they don't want
to go anymore right and they have to have everything figured.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Out to a tea right now.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And when I say women, I mean across the board,
from the twenty two year olds listening to this to
the fifty four year olds listening to this feeling like
every minute, every hour of the day. Not only do
you have to have shit figured out for you, but
you also have to be able to explain it to
somebody else. You have to have an explanation when somebody
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asks you something. You have to be able to explain
where you are, why you are, what's going on, what
you are coming up. You have to be able to explain.
Do you ever think about how much pressure that you
put on yourself by doing that?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
No, I'm so serious.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Have you ever stopped to consider, And if you haven't,
do it now do it right now. Just stop for
a second and consider how much pressure you put on
yourself by thinking that you have to have or feeling
as though you have to have everything figured out right
fucking now. You need to know the answers to every
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motherfucking thing right now, and you need to be able
to explain everything to everyone right now. What if you
stop thinking of yourself as having to have everything all
figured out right now? And what if you stopped explaining
yourself every single step of the way, what do you
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think life would start looking like? What if you decided
that you looked around no matter which season of your
life that you're in, right, that you look at it
as a season at just that. And maybe you are
in the winter season. Maybe for you, winter is right now,
You're in a season where shit is she's dragging you
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in the snow, right, and it's cold, and maybe you
feel lonely, Maybe you feel frustrated, Maybe you feel groggy,
Maybe you feel like everything is always dark. Maybe you
feel like you're dragging your feet. Maybe you feel like
you have this I can't wait for this shit to
be over right? Maybe you feel all those things. What
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if your time to bloom is in the spring, but
it's on your time. It's when spring comes for you,
depending on what it is that you acquire, accumulate the
knowledge right, the knowledge, experience, wisdom, whatever you gather during
your winter, your personal winter right, all the things you gather,
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and on your divine timing, you unlock spring and then
you bloom. Why do you have to bloom alongside everyone else?
Why do you have to be in line with a
bunch of people who, to be quite honest, you don't
know personally and they don't really know for you personally. Right,
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why do you have to I mean in the sense,
why do you have to be in line with the
people on social media who don't know you, who don't
even know you fucking exist outside of user.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I don't know whatever your using the name.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Is, and that you hurt somebody's photo every now and
then they're like, oh, well it's this person, right, Who
are you trying to keep up with? And why why
is it necessary to keep up with all these things
and people around us? For what? Why can't you just
be on your time? Why can't your time be the
divine time for your life? Why can't my time be
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the divine time for my life? And so on for
the next woman and the next woman and the next woman. Right,
It's like when we think about I'll give you perfect example.
You know, we hear women you know, twenty seven and
I'm not married, dad, I don't have kids, Or I'm
thirty one and I'm not married, dad, I don't have kids.
You know, I was thinking the other day and people
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unnecessary and then people you shame yourself other people in
stupid ass society. Oh, when you're gonna have some kids,
when you're gonna get married, when you're gonna it's like, yo, please,
it's hold a while. I go to the fucking frozen
food section and pick out a man yes, okay, and
go home and defrost him. Shut the fuck up. You know.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
I can't write.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I was thinking the other day, as I as doing
and I get closer to our own marriage, I was
thinking how happy and how grateful I am that I
didn't get married anytime sooner, and that yes, I'm thirty nine,
and by the time when I get married, I will
be forty, right, I'll be forty, and it'll be my
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first time being married, and I will be you know,
this is my first time with kids and all this
stuff right, and I'm so happy. I was thinking about
how happy and grateful I was that I did not
do this shit earlier because this was my time.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
So happy that I didn't rush into this.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I didn't let anybody make me feel like I had
to rush into it, that I didn't you know what
I mean that yes, I was engaged before and was
able to see this is not.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It and click click clip Cut that motherfucker off, get
the fuck out of here.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Right, I was thinking about how grateful I was because
there are things that there are conversations that joined and
I have in our relationship.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
There are resolves that he and I. Right, there's conflict.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Conflict happens, right, sometimes we have conflict, and the way
we find our resolve, the amount of maturity that both
of us have to bring to the table, and the
way we have to consider each other's feelings, and the
way we have to honor each other even when we
are the upset with each other, and how we resolve things.
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I could let me tell let me tell you something
that could have never been me in.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
My twenties, the version I am right now in my twenties.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Forget about it, right, that that wouldn't have been a thing.
And for him as well, we talk about a lot
of time for him as well. Right, The way that
we still have triggers, obviously, and they come out and
then trigger each other's triggers. We always have to work
through those together in partnership calmly. We have to gentle
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partner each other. You think I would have been able
to gentle partner anything, and when I was twenty seven
motherfucking years Olf, No, no, and the same thing for him, right,
And so I was thinking about, I'm just so happy
that I didn't do this shit before. This was my time,
no matter what society said, no matter how anybody looked
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at me, no matter how anybody might have whispered about
me behind my back, no matter how the podcast bros. You, Oh,
a woman, left over woman who's not married at da
da da da da. Right, all this shit that we
are meant to be conditioned to believe. I'm not a
leftover woman like that sounds insane even sat right, there
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is nothing about me that is left over. I moved
at my own time, right. I moved at my own time.
I made conscious decisions within that time to learn more
about myself, to do better for myself, to heal from
myself to dah dah da, so I could align with
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at some point at some time, Right, the type of relationship, life,
so on and so forth that I wanted for myself
For some people, you know, for some women, you know,
it's it happens for them when they're twenty eight, twenty nine.
For others of us, that happens when they're forty forty
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five fifty, right, but your time is divine. And what
if you started looking at your life as that your
seasons of life are divine. Your seasons of life are
preparing you. Your winter is preparing you for spring, and
then that feeling of summer, right, and then that fall season.
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And what if you used your life, your personal life
seasons accordingly? What if you use your winters if for
you they are you know if? And then I'm saying
winters in the sense where what if for you, you're
in a season of your life right now that is,
you know, you feel a bit lonely, you feel a
bit lost, you feel a bit isolated, you feel a
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bit dark, you feel like the world is a bit dark,
so on and so forth. What if this is your
personal winter, but instead of sitting in that winter and
just being sad, what if you use that winter, your
personal winter, right, that your personal season of winter, to study,
to sleep more, to rest more. And when I say study, study,
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whatever the fuck you want, right to to to to
to do some orts, arts and crafts inside the house,
right to to look at the season of a little
bit different, all while knowing, you know, this is my
learning season this is winter for me? Is my learning season, right,
my personal season of learning, my personal season of resting,
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my personal season of doing whatever the fuck right. And
know in the back of your mind that however long
this season lasts, is because it was supposed to, Because
there were things there for you to learn so you
can hop into the next season of life. So you
had what to take, what you needed, what it took
for your personal self right to then start blooming in
the spring, and so on and so forth. Right, what
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if you start recognizing, all right, I'm in a season
of spring. This is my personal spring, even if it's
not spring for everyone else around you, who gives a fuck?
This is your motherfucker life, bitch Like, do you know
what I mean?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
This is your shit? All right?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I'm in my personal season of spring. Even if outside
your window is winter, it could be your personal season
of spring.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Why can't it be? Do you see what I'm saying?
Why do we have to Why can't we walk to beat.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Of our own drums? What are you afraid of? I'm
asking you, right, what are you afraid of? If you're
afraid right? Or what are you what are you resisting?
If you're resisting it? Why can't your life be your
divine timing and you walk to the beat of your
own drums, and you walk to the seasons of your
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own life. It's spring, it's winter outside, but it's spring
within you. Or it's winter outside but it's summer within you.
Why can't that be a thing you know and while
you are, let's say, in your personal season of summer,
why can't you just enjoy the summer. Just enjoy the summer.
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Stop worrying about if it's gonna end, when it's gonna end,
what time is gonna end?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Stop?
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Stop, You're not Cinderella in this motherfucker right. You ain't
gonna be home by midnight? Like, just why can't you
just enjoy your season of summer while it's there instead
of worrying about if when's winter are gonna come? And
when's is gonna come? And now this is gonna get
taken away from me right your moment? Enjoy it, Be
present in your season, in your personal season. Even if
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for everyone else it's for winter, it's winter, for you,
it's summer. Turn up, Turn up. I know that every
season of our lives isn't always easy, and I know
that as women, we have seasons of our lives that
come and they feel like hurricane season, right, they feel
like and for some of us, they are there. You know,
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we have our own personal hurricanes that come in and
rip through our emotions, our mental health, or leave us
questioning ourselves and leaving us to rebuild from scratch. But
as a wise woman once told me, are you rebuilding
from scratch or are you rebuilding from experience? And maybe
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that in itself is the reframe that somebody needed. Right,
You're not rebuilding from scratch, You're rebuilding from experience. So
I just thought that somebody might need to hear that
today because I was thinking about it. I was just
thinking about it, girl, I was just thinking about it.
And rather than make a fucking post because that's the beauty,
I'm making, no more Instagram poster.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I gotta thinking, dad, I was like, you know more, girl,
let me get on my podcast and give it to
somebody in case I needed it.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
So, if you're out there and you needed this, I
hope that it helps you, and I hope that it
sends you to a place of thinking for yourself really
and maybe reframing how you've been looking at things. Chapters
seasons of your life right and putting a new spin
on it, a spin on it that works for you
and that is in alignment with you and that feels
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good for you. No matter what anybody else is doing
out there, you're not living their lives and they're not
living yours. This is your life to live. I encourage
you to live it the way that feels good to
you and to do that to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Okay, Okay, good talk. I appreciate y'all. Hope that helps somebody.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
I have random life news you. I'm gonna tell you
what Duayne did to me this morning. I'll tell you
and yes, did to me this morning, That's correct.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I never so.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
I have a routine, obviously like most of us, and
sometimes I switch from Usually in the morning, I have
my laptop at the kitchen island, you know, and I
sit there and I have my uncle snack my breakfast
whatever they keise me a coffee for a bit, and
then I'll switch from there to come sit at my desk.
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So so so, now, right before as I was getting
ready to record this episode, I put down the laptop.
I'm my loncal tinga that holds a lap mincal laptop stand,
I plug in my microphone, I go to pull up
my chair. Why on my chair? And you have something
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you need to know about me? Because I'm very scary.
I'm a scared person. Okay, I don't like scary movies.
I'll like monsters. I don't like clowns on like any
of that shit. I don't like it. Okay, scared And
so so this Halloween we were the Adams family, so
our little one was Wednesday. I was Mortitia and Dad
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was Dad. Except I didn't get to participate in Halloween
this year. That was the plan, but I didn't get
to participate because I had to work late. And so
I had to work because next week I'm taking off
because we're going on vacation.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
And I was like, I can't already.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Some of the ladies that I'm taking off, they're gonna
be pushed back two weeks out, and I'm like, I
can't push them back three weeks out now.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
So I had to make a judgment call, you know,
And so I ended up staying back to work. But
they obviously it still went and did the Halloween thing.
Tell me, why on my chair is the goddamn hand
that Dwayne had on his shoulder. You know it's it
not it? Sorry, I was gonna think sorry, just sitting
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on my chair. It's scared the living. When I tell
you whole big hoopla mis say, aha fell fell back,
pushed the chair because that's me. I'll push, I'll scream
and then I'll push whatever it is because self defense
pushed the chair to chair knocks into Bentley's cage. Cage
Bentley is like, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Mom? Who is it? Who did it? I mean, I
fall backwards? Bentley wanta come? Are you okay? Slobbering all
over me.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm like, ah, So I called Dwayne and I'm like
he answer is a phone and I say his whole
government name and he's like, whoa what did I right?
Forgets what he did? WHOA say you see you? Mm?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Tell me how comes?
Speaker 1 (24:52):
I'm telling him and he starts dying of laughter, and
he's like, it's basically my payback for because I scared
him a year ago. Let me tell them about Geminis.
They're so geminis. I don't know who, I don't know
what Gemini are there need, but y'all are insane? Man.
A year ago, I scared Dwane. I scared the living
day as a Dwaane. And it was so fucking funny
the way he jumped the wage Sorry, oh god, I
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forgot I can't laugh too tough, the way the man
jumped and then immediately got upset because you got scared.
I was crying and he looked at me. He's like, lock,
these are the type of games you want to play.
I'm like, no, these are the type of games you
want to play. So Duane has for a year man
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left that in the back of his head like a
crazy Gemini person does, and then decided today it was
a day that he was going to get me back.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
And so he's on the phone cackling, high chest ha
ha ha ha ha.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Haa high chest cackling, and it's me straight faced listening
to him. I'm like, goodbye, You're done, goodbye. Anyways, scared
down near went into a rage of a coughing fit
because I was so scared. Look man, anyways, ah fun times,
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that's my that's my friend life. Oh my god, wait
and let me tell you all these other things. So
one of my very very very very very good home girls,
I mean like she's also a bestie. Right, I'm on
the phone with her yesterday, the day before yesterday, because okay, backstory.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
So we're going on vacation, but we're going to.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
A wedding, right, not our wedding, but we're going to
a wedding in Mexico Destination Weddings. So Dwayne and I
and we've known this for like a year. I just
I just kept forgetting about it. But it's been it's
been done and settled for a year now.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Cool. Cool, cool.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
So I'm telling my girl Miley for the whole you know,
I think last two weeks, I'm getting ready for the wedding.
Blah blah blah, dada da. Some on the phone with
her now yesterday was yester end of the day before yesterday,
and she's like, my friends are so interesting man. So
she's talking woo woo, and then she says, she says,
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oh no, I say, yeah, I'm leaving on uh, I'm
leaving next week, you know. So I tell her because
she's Bentley's godmother too. So Bentley is staying at a hotel.
You know what I'm saying. It's a really good hotel.
Oh my gosh, I have to tell you about this
dog hotel. Okay, okay, get hold on, so let me
not pass forward. So he's staying at this hotel, and
of course she's the godmother and she's the emergency contact
blah blah blah blah blah blah. Right, so I just
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remind her, like, yo, they ever call you. You know, da
da da your godson is at the place. She's like, yeah, yeah,
by have a bet and then she says something about
I'm like, oh I got my finally got address blah
blah blah blah blah, and then she says congratulations. I
don't like, huh on what. She's like, well, no, like
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you cause you're like, oh, are you excited to get married?
I'm like what.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I'm like, Miley, I'm going to a wedding.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
She's like what. I'm like what what? So she says,
it's not your wedding. So I say, what the fuck
are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Somebody is getting married. We're going to a wedding. It's
not my So she starts dying of laughter.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
I'm like, what is wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
She's like, Yo, do you know this whole time, for
the last three four months, I'm there thinking that this week,
you guys are going to get married.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
I'm like, without you, what do you are?
Speaker 1 (28:40):
You fucking okay? So, yes, that's exactly, that's so you
thought this whole time. I didn't talk to you about
I didn't show you any pictures of dresses. I wouldn't
talk about any any butterflies in my tummy. I didn't
talk about any any any cold.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Feet, hot feed, warm feet, pink feet, yellow feet, purple feet.
I'm not tell you nothing about how I'm feeling, how
excited I am, how this, How that you mean to
tell me that through the last few months that I'm
talking about going to this wedding, one I'm not talking
about the wedding itself, us getting married, and then two
you you're not there. So she says, I thought. She's like,
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you know, she's like.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
I thought that you guys were eloping, and I'm like,
and that you just guys just wanted to do it,
just the youth, just the both of you. She's like,
that's your style, and you know, She's like, I just
thought it was going to be the two of you,
and so I was happy for you to support it.
I'm like, like we were laughing for and I'm like,
(29:42):
I really appreciate you. Thanks for the support, friend, But
I'm not getting married without at the bear at the
very minimum, even if we do elope, without my two
best friends standing there for me, for us, are you dumb?
So it just goes to show you know some, God
bless our friends. God bless our friends, and God bless
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the support that your friends will give you. The whole
type of time is getting been. Like, no, girl, it's
not us Gosh. Anyways, I love my friends. Let me
tell you guys about this dog hotel. So the dog Hotel.
So dog Hotel is super clutch. It's about thirty minutes
from where I live with no traffic. Twenty minutes is
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of no traffic, but thirty minutes or there is. And basically,
long story short of this hotel, it's a couple who
they got money, right, they got money money, and they
have a love for animals. And so what they did
was they built this property where so the whole thing
is family owned, like all the staff there is not
everybody's family, right, And so they built a house right
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on this land. And then they built like this big
ass not like it's not like ridiculous, you know, it's
big enough, right, hotel for dogs, okay I didn't, but
for animals periods. So there's dogs, there's rabbits, there's birds,
there's cats, like you know what I mean. So they
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they have uh, this facility and every dog has their
own room and they're bay their rooms. Bro, they're rooms Okay,
they're bay ass rooms with you know, their own AC system.
The whole thing, right, staff is amazing. First time I
brought Bentley there, I was blown away. I said, Wow,
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they have a schedule that you see how the dogs
you know how you know you know what I mean.
They have a schedule and you see that, so you
know that the dogs are not just dead in in
the in their rooms all day. No, they're actively outside
running around this. Then the third they're taking shifts. They're
doing this dah da dah. Right, So I had Bentley
go there for an overnight because you know, Bentley is epileptic,
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so I wasn't sure how I was going to go.
So I brought him there for a day to do
like a doggy daycare for the day. Loved it, went
super well. Then he did an overnight, did super well.
Then I think three weeks later, brought him for a
weekend to see how he did, did super well. Everybody
loves him. Everybody loves Bentley. He's a star war he goes. Anyways,
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I digress. So the day that the day that I
went to drop him off for the weekend. Okay, I
so I drop him off, and I really had to
I really had to be.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
I really had to be.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
So they're like, yeah, no problem, We're going to bring
you into the into the house, like the owner's house,
you know, to go to use the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
I was like, no problem.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
So one of the staff members walk me across the
like little lawn area situation, and so we go into
the the owner's host it's a couple whatever, blah blah blah.
So we get inside and it's like there's three dogs
in the house, right, that's their dogs. Those are their
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personal dogs, three thousand and those. There's a cat that
greets me at the door. There's like herbs and plants
and like all this. You might as well be in
in in in in the jungle, right, But it was
really dope, really dope vibes. So I'm like okay, So
I she leads me through the dogs and the cat
Da da da into the bathroom. Now the bathroom is
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pretty big. But in the bathroom there's a parrot. So
the parrot is in the middle of the bathroom on
his little thing. Okay, oh, not in a cage, just
like in the middle of the bathroom, on perched on
his singy area stick thing.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
So I go. So she's like okay. I'm like, wow,
there's there's a bird here. She's like yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I'm like okay. She's like I'll be I'll wait for
you here. I'm like cool. So I go into the bathroom.
The bird is looking at me. I'm looking at the bird.
The bird is looking at me. I'm looking at the bird.
So I'm like like, hey, little fella. The bird says nothing. Cool,
not that I was expecting the bird to say anything,
but the bird says nothing, which is fine.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
I just say hey, loo because I'm respectful. You know
what I'm saying. I respect.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
It's like, so I pull my pants down and I'm
squatting over the toilet bowl. The peace starts flowing, doesn't
the birds say woo wa being I look up and
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you know how parrots look at you from the side
and they kind of put their head down and then.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
Not the bird saying whooo.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
So so I I I. So. Then whenever I finished
being and I go to wipe, and the bird says, hello,
What the fuck is going on right now? So so whatever,
(35:14):
I finish up my business, whatever, I go wash my hands.
The bird is staring me down now, the bird is hello.
So I'm like, O way, So I come out, I
finish up whatever. I come out the bathroom and the
lady's standing there. I said, you know, it's the first
(35:34):
time I've ever gone to the bathroom where birds like
hello while I'm peeing.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
So she starts dying of laughter. She's like, oh, yeah,
that's I should warn you. I was like, what the
hell is going on here? Oh my god, not the bird? Wooho?
Speaker 1 (35:52):
Excuse me, sir, closing motherfucking eyes. Oh jesus, Oh, so yeah,
that was my experience with a random parrot in the bathroom.
Don't ask me why the fuck the pair wasn't it's
a big it's a big bathroom. It's it's big. It's
not like it's some local apartment bathroom. No, the bathroom
(36:15):
is really big. But don't ask me why the pair
was in there.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
I don't know. Does none of my motherfucking business all
I know.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Is he you know, he really looked at my private
parts and said woo hoo. And I just don't I
don't know how to this day, I don't know how
to feel about that. I feel very you know, offected
a good times. Anyways, that's my that's my random life news.
That's my random life news. So anyways, on that note, something.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
That I'm grateful for.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I'm grateful that Bentley has a good place to stay,
to be honest, for our trip, where he is well
taken care of, that he loves that, he's happy, all
the things. You know, sometimes it's so difficult finding a
trusted place for your dog. And that's our baby, you know,
that's our that's our you know, if you're if you're
a pet owner, that's your baby.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
It is what it is.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
And so I'm really grateful that he has a place
to stay. And that's not super expensive. That's note thing too, man,
it's not even the people who created this space. They
did it with the understanding and with the want that
they didn't want to make it expensive for people, you know.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
So it's like thirty five bucks a night. It's not
bad at all. Anyways. So so yeah, really really grateful
for that.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
I have peace of mind on the trip knowing that
Bentley's safe while taking care of They're obviously experienced with
epileptic dogs, and so they know what to do and
that he'll have his pills and he'll be good to
have his meds and everything is good, and I'm very
grateful for it.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
It's your turn out. I think of something that you.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Are grateful for, write it down, say it out loud,
you know, phone a friend, let them know that you
appreciate them. Sure it'll make their day. Ladies and sometimes gentlemen.
I appreciate y'all. I hope that today's episode helped you
in some way, shape or form, if nothing else, it
was food for that. Finish your plates so you can
go be great. I hope that you guys have a
good rest of your morning's evenings afternoons. Wherever the mili
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y'all are in the world, Please be safe, use condoms, huh,
trust your intuition, and use your discernment. And I will
catch y'all on the next episode, sending out so much love.
It'll be great.
My name is C. C. B, but most people just
call me B. I'm thirty nine years young. I've been
through a lot. I've also put myself through a lot,
and one day I got sick and tired of my
own shit. And that's the day when change started happening.
I stopped lying to myself and started getting painfully honest
with myself. But it was only painful because I had
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been lying to myself for so long. About nine or
ten years ago, now, give or take, I started writing
books about my journey through my toxic relationships and how
I got out of them and then stayed out of
them by building a healthy relationship with myself. So there's
nothing that I say on this podcast that I haven't
alreadyet to say to myself at some point in time,
(00:41):
and yes, in the exact same tone as I say
it here. So if you are sensitive to honesty, baby,
this is not the place for you to be. I
don't sugarcoat ship for myself, so I'm not doing it
for anyone else. Besides, how are you going to be
more offended by another woman being honest with you, telling
you the truth and you are by the man or
(01:01):
men who lied to you?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Every day and treat you like shit.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Food for thought, Finish your plates, what up boozes your
girl be and Welcome back to another episode of the
SIS Get Your Ish Together Podcast.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I hope that you guys are having a great day today.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
I hope that you woke up feeling revived and rejuvenated
with faith that everything that you spoke about with your
spirit team the night before is being worked out for
you in the background, somehow, some way. But please remember
that you've got to help your spirit team help you,
all right. It means you got to put yourself in
the position to get the things that you want. Needs
to chess and needs to just because that's right. Even
(01:47):
the person who wishes to when the lottery knows that
they've got to play the numbers. It's currently tennel three
am here in I don't know what kind of a
data is outside country all Canada, but we gotta over as.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Little gloom and doom.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Anyways, on today's episode, we are going to be talking
about the seasons of your life and respecting the seasons
of your life. So go get a snack at juice
box or a glass of wine. Put your sugars to
the side so you got room to open up your
mind and let's get into the episode.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Shall we.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Still sound like I'm fighting for my life with my voice,
and the reality is that I am. I am still
fighting for my life. It's ridiculous. This is the longest
cold flu situation I've ever had.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Foolishness.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Anyways, I digress, Hi, I hope everybody's doing well out there.
I was inspired this morning. Let me tell you, let
me we'll hop right into it. So this morning I
was writing in my morning pages, as I do every morning,
which I fucking love that for me, and I was
ended up on the topic of the season of the
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season of my life that I'm in right now. And
then I was thinking about seasons, and I was thinking
about life and womanhood as seasons, right, and I was
thinking about cycles. This is this is my brain process.
Right then I started to think about cycles. And then
I was thinking about our periods, the site our cycles,
(03:30):
you know, And I was thinking about our cycles as
women and all you know, what happens right before your
period comes and then after your period and then our
homeowns and all the shit. Right, But I was just
thinking about seasons and cycles and womanhood and I just
thought somebody need to hear Thisay, what I'm about to say,
it's probably not gonna be a long episode, but you know,
(03:51):
for here, So.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I want you to.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Think about what season that your life is in right
now now, and I want you to think about seasons. Okay,
so we have winter, summer, I mean winter, summer go away.
We have winter, spring, summer, fall, right, and I want
you to really think about what happens through each of
those seasons and what it means. I know, if you
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live somewhere where you never have winter, good for you.
What's it feel like to be God's favorite? But just
like women who have one day periods, good for you?
Good for you. But for the most part, right still,
think of what seasons look like typically, right, So we
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have we have summer where you know, everybody's feeling good.
The days are long, they are warm, the sun sets
the sunset's really late. You know, you wake up in
the morning to the sun, to that morning morning air.
You know that summer crisp morning air. Before anybody hits
(04:58):
the road. You know what I mean, if you wake
up a six, the morning is shit. Before anyone really
hits the road, you know, the sun is still like
just rising up. It feels so nice outside. It feels
so clean, you know what I mean. And how you
feel in summer nights when you're out with your girls
or out with Demandum, or out you know what I mean,
(05:19):
walking the dog or sitting on your porch, whatever, your
balcony whatever, right, like the energy that comes with summer.
And then I want you to think of the energy
that comes with the fall. You know, you start to
get snugly and cozy, you bring back out your your
cozy clothes and fall. I really like fall because I
(05:42):
like fall for fashion. Falls like the perfect time where
you don't have to wear a jacket, right, and sometimes
you do, but at least it's not like a heavy jacket, right,
But you get to wear some dope fashion.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
And the weather is good enough. You know, it's not
too cold yet.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
It's not well unless you live in Montreal, starts to
get cold real cool around here. But you know what
I mean, it's not too cold yet, it's not too
it's not too hot anymore, and like the temperature is
almost just right. And then as we kind of move
into winter is coming right. The you know, we set
our clocks. I know some of you guys, don't set
your clocks U backwards anymore?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Is it backwards?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Are forward? I hate this game, you know what I mean.
I think it's bad. Anyways, bro, we have to reset
our time.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Sick of it.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You know, it gets darker way earlier. And then you
wake up to the darkness. Even if you wake up
at seven in the morning, it's dark for most of us,
you know, for a lot of us. And then you know,
you start bundling up more, your clothes become more cozy
than before. Right, and now you bust out the breakout,
bust out the sweaters and the tubes, and the scarves
(06:52):
and the and the this and the that, right, the
boots because winter is coming, Right, we prepare for winter,
and we put our snow time on. For those of
us who live where snows, we prepare our cars, so
on and so forth. Right, kids get snowsuits, come out,
so on and so forth.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
And then we have winter.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Winter comes, and if you live in Canada and even
like New York and stuff, Right, the shit gets cold
as a motherfucker, right.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
And you're dragging your feet. You're like, fuck this shit.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
But you bring out the hot coco and you make
the best of it, right, You do all the stuff
that winter, Christmas, all the things, and then the snow
starts to melt, and then we are in spring, and
we feel revived and rejuvenated and hopeful.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Right it is.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
We feel hopeful, We feel excited for what it's about
to come, which is summer again. I know you guys
are probably like, thank you for giving us a lesson
b on the different seasons. Please get on with it, right,
I know, But hear me out. What if you thought
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of your life as seasons just like that, the same
four seasons. What if you thought of your life as that,
but instead of everybody on the same season, you're on
your own season. And maybe instead of you know, every
season having to last a certain amount of time, you
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accept that it'll be over when it's over, it'll end
when it ends, and a new season will begin when
it's your time.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
I think a lot of people, a lot of.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Women, feel like they are late bloomers, that they are
not where they're supposed to be yet in life, that
they need to have everything figured out right away about
life and about themselves and about where they're going and
where they want to go and where they don't want
to go anymore right and they have to have everything figured.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Out to a tea right now.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And when I say women, I mean across the board,
from the twenty two year olds listening to this to
the fifty four year olds listening to this feeling like
every minute, every hour of the day. Not only do
you have to have shit figured out for you, but
you also have to be able to explain it to
somebody else. You have to have an explanation when somebody
(09:15):
asks you something. You have to be able to explain
where you are, why you are, what's going on, what
you are coming up. You have to be able to explain.
Do you ever think about how much pressure that you
put on yourself by doing that?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
No, I'm so serious.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Have you ever stopped to consider, And if you haven't,
do it now do it right now. Just stop for
a second and consider how much pressure you put on
yourself by thinking that you have to have or feeling
as though you have to have everything figured out right
fucking now. You need to know the answers to every
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motherfucking thing right now, and you need to be able
to explain everything to everyone right now. What if you
stop thinking of yourself as having to have everything all
figured out right now? And what if you stopped explaining
yourself every single step of the way, what do you
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think life would start looking like? What if you decided
that you looked around no matter which season of your
life that you're in, right, that you look at it
as a season at just that. And maybe you are
in the winter season. Maybe for you, winter is right now,
You're in a season where shit is she's dragging you
(10:39):
in the snow, right, and it's cold, and maybe you
feel lonely, Maybe you feel frustrated, Maybe you feel groggy,
Maybe you feel like everything is always dark. Maybe you
feel like you're dragging your feet. Maybe you feel like
you have this I can't wait for this shit to
be over right? Maybe you feel all those things. What
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if your time to bloom is in the spring, but
it's on your time. It's when spring comes for you,
depending on what it is that you acquire, accumulate the
knowledge right, the knowledge, experience, wisdom, whatever you gather during
your winter, your personal winter right, all the things you gather,
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and on your divine timing, you unlock spring and then
you bloom. Why do you have to bloom alongside everyone else?
Why do you have to be in line with a
bunch of people who, to be quite honest, you don't
know personally and they don't really know for you personally. Right,
(11:52):
why do you have to I mean in the sense,
why do you have to be in line with the
people on social media who don't know you, who don't
even know you fucking exist outside of user.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
I don't know whatever your using the name.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Is, and that you hurt somebody's photo every now and
then they're like, oh, well it's this person, right, Who
are you trying to keep up with? And why why
is it necessary to keep up with all these things
and people around us? For what? Why can't you just
be on your time? Why can't your time be the
divine time for your life? Why can't my time be
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the divine time for my life? And so on for
the next woman and the next woman and the next woman. Right,
It's like when we think about I'll give you perfect example.
You know, we hear women you know, twenty seven and
I'm not married, dad, I don't have kids, Or I'm
thirty one and I'm not married, dad, I don't have kids.
You know, I was thinking the other day and people
(12:47):
unnecessary and then people you shame yourself other people in
stupid ass society. Oh, when you're gonna have some kids,
when you're gonna get married, when you're gonna it's like, yo, please,
it's hold a while. I go to the fucking frozen
food section and pick out a man yes, okay, and
go home and defrost him. Shut the fuck up. You know.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
I can't write.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I was thinking the other day, as I as doing
and I get closer to our own marriage, I was
thinking how happy and how grateful I am that I
didn't get married anytime sooner, and that yes, I'm thirty nine,
and by the time when I get married, I will
be forty, right, I'll be forty, and it'll be my
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first time being married, and I will be you know,
this is my first time with kids and all this
stuff right, and I'm so happy. I was thinking about
how happy and grateful I was that I did not
do this shit earlier because this was my time.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
So happy that I didn't rush into this.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I didn't let anybody make me feel like I had
to rush into it, that I didn't you know what
I mean that yes, I was engaged before and was
able to see this is not.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It and click click clip Cut that motherfucker off, get
the fuck out of here.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Right, I was thinking about how grateful I was because
there are things that there are conversations that joined and
I have in our relationship.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
There are resolves that he and I. Right, there's conflict.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Conflict happens, right, sometimes we have conflict, and the way
we find our resolve, the amount of maturity that both
of us have to bring to the table, and the
way we have to consider each other's feelings, and the
way we have to honor each other even when we
are the upset with each other, and how we resolve things.
(14:40):
I could let me tell let me tell you something
that could have never been me in.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
My twenties, the version I am right now in my twenties.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Forget about it, right, that that wouldn't have been a thing.
And for him as well, we talk about a lot
of time for him as well. Right, The way that
we still have triggers, obviously, and they come out and
then trigger each other's triggers. We always have to work
through those together in partnership calmly. We have to gentle
(15:14):
partner each other. You think I would have been able
to gentle partner anything, and when I was twenty seven
motherfucking years Olf, No, no, and the same thing for him, right,
And so I was thinking about, I'm just so happy
that I didn't do this shit before. This was my time,
no matter what society said, no matter how anybody looked
(15:36):
at me, no matter how anybody might have whispered about
me behind my back, no matter how the podcast bros. You, Oh,
a woman, left over woman who's not married at da
da da da da. Right, all this shit that we
are meant to be conditioned to believe. I'm not a
leftover woman like that sounds insane even sat right, there
(15:59):
is nothing about me that is left over. I moved
at my own time, right. I moved at my own time.
I made conscious decisions within that time to learn more
about myself, to do better for myself, to heal from
myself to dah dah da, so I could align with
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at some point at some time, Right, the type of relationship, life,
so on and so forth that I wanted for myself
For some people, you know, for some women, you know,
it's it happens for them when they're twenty eight, twenty nine.
For others of us, that happens when they're forty forty
(16:40):
five fifty, right, but your time is divine. And what
if you started looking at your life as that your
seasons of life are divine. Your seasons of life are
preparing you. Your winter is preparing you for spring, and
then that feeling of summer, right, and then that fall season.
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And what if you used your life, your personal life
seasons accordingly? What if you use your winters if for
you they are you know if? And then I'm saying
winters in the sense where what if for you, you're
in a season of your life right now that is,
you know, you feel a bit lonely, you feel a
bit lost, you feel a bit isolated, you feel a
(17:28):
bit dark, you feel like the world is a bit dark,
so on and so forth. What if this is your
personal winter, but instead of sitting in that winter and
just being sad, what if you use that winter, your
personal winter, right, that your personal season of winter, to study,
to sleep more, to rest more. And when I say study, study,
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whatever the fuck you want, right to to to to
to do some orts, arts and crafts inside the house,
right to to look at the season of a little
bit different, all while knowing, you know, this is my
learning season this is winter for me? Is my learning season, right,
my personal season of learning, my personal season of resting,
(18:11):
my personal season of doing whatever the fuck right. And
know in the back of your mind that however long
this season lasts, is because it was supposed to, Because
there were things there for you to learn so you
can hop into the next season of life. So you
had what to take, what you needed, what it took
for your personal self right to then start blooming in
the spring, and so on and so forth. Right, what
(18:34):
if you start recognizing, all right, I'm in a season
of spring. This is my personal spring, even if it's
not spring for everyone else around you, who gives a fuck?
This is your motherfucker life, bitch Like, do you know
what I mean?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
This is your shit? All right?
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I'm in my personal season of spring. Even if outside
your window is winter, it could be your personal season
of spring.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Why can't it be? Do you see what I'm saying?
Why do we have to Why can't we walk to beat.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Of our own drums? What are you afraid of? I'm
asking you, right, what are you afraid of? If you're
afraid right? Or what are you what are you resisting?
If you're resisting it? Why can't your life be your
divine timing and you walk to the beat of your
own drums, and you walk to the seasons of your
(19:20):
own life. It's spring, it's winter outside, but it's spring
within you. Or it's winter outside but it's summer within you.
Why can't that be a thing you know and while
you are, let's say, in your personal season of summer,
why can't you just enjoy the summer. Just enjoy the summer.
(19:40):
Stop worrying about if it's gonna end, when it's gonna end,
what time is gonna end?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Stop?
Speaker 1 (19:45):
Stop, You're not Cinderella in this motherfucker right. You ain't
gonna be home by midnight? Like, just why can't you
just enjoy your season of summer while it's there instead
of worrying about if when's winter are gonna come? And
when's is gonna come? And now this is gonna get
taken away from me right your moment? Enjoy it, Be
present in your season, in your personal season. Even if
(20:05):
for everyone else it's for winter, it's winter, for you,
it's summer. Turn up, Turn up. I know that every
season of our lives isn't always easy, and I know
that as women, we have seasons of our lives that
come and they feel like hurricane season, right, they feel
like and for some of us, they are there. You know,
(20:29):
we have our own personal hurricanes that come in and
rip through our emotions, our mental health, or leave us
questioning ourselves and leaving us to rebuild from scratch. But
as a wise woman once told me, are you rebuilding
from scratch or are you rebuilding from experience? And maybe
(20:49):
that in itself is the reframe that somebody needed. Right,
You're not rebuilding from scratch, You're rebuilding from experience. So
I just thought that somebody might need to hear that
today because I was thinking about it. I was just
thinking about it, girl, I was just thinking about it.
And rather than make a fucking post because that's the beauty,
I'm making, no more Instagram poster.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I gotta thinking, dad, I was like, you know more, girl,
let me get on my podcast and give it to
somebody in case I needed it.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
So, if you're out there and you needed this, I
hope that it helps you, and I hope that it
sends you to a place of thinking for yourself really
and maybe reframing how you've been looking at things. Chapters
seasons of your life right and putting a new spin
on it, a spin on it that works for you
and that is in alignment with you and that feels
(21:37):
good for you. No matter what anybody else is doing
out there, you're not living their lives and they're not
living yours. This is your life to live. I encourage
you to live it the way that feels good to
you and to do that to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Okay, Okay, good talk. I appreciate y'all. Hope that helps somebody.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
I have random life news you. I'm gonna tell you
what Duayne did to me this morning. I'll tell you
and yes, did to me this morning, That's correct.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I never so.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
I have a routine, obviously like most of us, and
sometimes I switch from Usually in the morning, I have
my laptop at the kitchen island, you know, and I
sit there and I have my uncle snack my breakfast
whatever they keise me a coffee for a bit, and
then I'll switch from there to come sit at my desk.
(22:33):
So so so, now, right before as I was getting
ready to record this episode, I put down the laptop.
I'm my loncal tinga that holds a lap mincal laptop stand,
I plug in my microphone, I go to pull up
my chair. Why on my chair? And you have something
(22:53):
you need to know about me? Because I'm very scary.
I'm a scared person. Okay, I don't like scary movies.
I'll like monsters. I don't like clowns on like any
of that shit. I don't like it. Okay, scared And
so so this Halloween we were the Adams family, so
our little one was Wednesday. I was Mortitia and Dad
(23:17):
was Dad. Except I didn't get to participate in Halloween
this year. That was the plan, but I didn't get
to participate because I had to work late. And so
I had to work because next week I'm taking off
because we're going on vacation.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
And I was like, I can't already.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Some of the ladies that I'm taking off, they're gonna
be pushed back two weeks out, and I'm like, I
can't push them back three weeks out now.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
So I had to make a judgment call, you know,
And so I ended up staying back to work. But
they obviously it still went and did the Halloween thing.
Tell me, why on my chair is the goddamn hand
that Dwayne had on his shoulder. You know it's it
not it? Sorry, I was gonna think sorry, just sitting
(24:05):
on my chair. It's scared the living. When I tell
you whole big hoopla mis say, aha fell fell back,
pushed the chair because that's me. I'll push, I'll scream
and then I'll push whatever it is because self defense
pushed the chair to chair knocks into Bentley's cage. Cage
Bentley is like, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Mom? Who is it? Who did it? I mean, I
fall backwards? Bentley wanta come? Are you okay? Slobbering all
over me.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm like, ah, So I called Dwayne and I'm like
he answer is a phone and I say his whole
government name and he's like, whoa what did I right?
Forgets what he did? WHOA say you see you? Mm?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Tell me how comes?
Speaker 1 (24:52):
I'm telling him and he starts dying of laughter, and
he's like, it's basically my payback for because I scared
him a year ago. Let me tell them about Geminis.
They're so geminis. I don't know who, I don't know
what Gemini are there need, but y'all are insane? Man.
A year ago, I scared Dwane. I scared the living
day as a Dwaane. And it was so fucking funny
the way he jumped the wage Sorry, oh god, I
(25:20):
forgot I can't laugh too tough, the way the man
jumped and then immediately got upset because you got scared.
I was crying and he looked at me. He's like, lock,
these are the type of games you want to play.
I'm like, no, these are the type of games you
want to play. So Duane has for a year man
(25:42):
left that in the back of his head like a
crazy Gemini person does, and then decided today it was
a day that he was going to get me back.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
And so he's on the phone cackling, high chest ha
ha ha ha ha.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
Haa high chest cackling, and it's me straight faced listening
to him. I'm like, goodbye, You're done, goodbye. Anyways, scared
down near went into a rage of a coughing fit
because I was so scared. Look man, anyways, ah fun times,
(26:16):
that's my that's my friend life. Oh my god, wait
and let me tell you all these other things. So
one of my very very very very very good home girls,
I mean like she's also a bestie. Right, I'm on
the phone with her yesterday, the day before yesterday, because okay, backstory.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
So we're going on vacation, but we're going to.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
A wedding, right, not our wedding, but we're going to
a wedding in Mexico Destination Weddings. So Dwayne and I
and we've known this for like a year. I just
I just kept forgetting about it. But it's been it's
been done and settled for a year now.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Cool. Cool, cool.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
So I'm telling my girl Miley for the whole you know,
I think last two weeks, I'm getting ready for the wedding.
Blah blah blah, dada da. Some on the phone with
her now yesterday was yester end of the day before yesterday,
and she's like, my friends are so interesting man. So
she's talking woo woo, and then she says, she says,
(27:16):
oh no, I say, yeah, I'm leaving on uh, I'm
leaving next week, you know. So I tell her because
she's Bentley's godmother too. So Bentley is staying at a hotel.
You know what I'm saying. It's a really good hotel.
Oh my gosh, I have to tell you about this
dog hotel. Okay, okay, get hold on, so let me
not pass forward. So he's staying at this hotel, and
of course she's the godmother and she's the emergency contact
blah blah blah blah blah blah. Right, so I just
(27:37):
remind her, like, yo, they ever call you. You know, da
da da your godson is at the place. She's like, yeah, yeah,
by have a bet and then she says something about
I'm like, oh I got my finally got address blah
blah blah blah blah, and then she says congratulations. I
don't like, huh on what. She's like, well, no, like
(27:58):
you cause you're like, oh, are you excited to get married?
I'm like what.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
I'm like, Miley, I'm going to a wedding.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
She's like what. I'm like what what? So she says,
it's not your wedding. So I say, what the fuck
are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Somebody is getting married. We're going to a wedding. It's
not my So she starts dying of laughter.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
I'm like, what is wrong.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
She's like, Yo, do you know this whole time, for
the last three four months, I'm there thinking that this week,
you guys are going to get married.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
I'm like, without you, what do you are?
Speaker 1 (28:40):
You fucking okay? So, yes, that's exactly, that's so you
thought this whole time. I didn't talk to you about
I didn't show you any pictures of dresses. I wouldn't
talk about any any butterflies in my tummy. I didn't
talk about any any any cold.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Feet, hot feed, warm feet, pink feet, yellow feet, purple feet.
I'm not tell you nothing about how I'm feeling, how
excited I am, how this, How that you mean to
tell me that through the last few months that I'm
talking about going to this wedding, one I'm not talking
about the wedding itself, us getting married, and then two
you you're not there. So she says, I thought. She's like,
(29:18):
you know, she's like.
Speaker 1 (29:19):
I thought that you guys were eloping, and I'm like,
and that you just guys just wanted to do it,
just the youth, just the both of you. She's like,
that's your style, and you know, She's like, I just
thought it was going to be the two of you,
and so I was happy for you to support it.
I'm like, like we were laughing for and I'm like,
(29:42):
I really appreciate you. Thanks for the support, friend, But
I'm not getting married without at the bear at the
very minimum, even if we do elope, without my two
best friends standing there for me, for us, are you dumb?
So it just goes to show you know some, God
bless our friends. God bless our friends, and God bless
(30:04):
the support that your friends will give you. The whole
type of time is getting been. Like, no, girl, it's
not us Gosh. Anyways, I love my friends. Let me
tell you guys about this dog hotel. So the dog Hotel.
So dog Hotel is super clutch. It's about thirty minutes
from where I live with no traffic. Twenty minutes is
(30:26):
of no traffic, but thirty minutes or there is. And basically,
long story short of this hotel, it's a couple who
they got money, right, they got money money, and they
have a love for animals. And so what they did
was they built this property where so the whole thing
is family owned, like all the staff there is not
everybody's family, right, And so they built a house right
(30:48):
on this land. And then they built like this big
ass not like it's not like ridiculous, you know, it's
big enough, right, hotel for dogs, okay I didn't, but
for animals periods. So there's dogs, there's rabbits, there's birds,
there's cats, like you know what I mean. So they
(31:12):
they have uh, this facility and every dog has their
own room and they're bay their rooms. Bro, they're rooms Okay,
they're bay ass rooms with you know, their own AC system.
The whole thing, right, staff is amazing. First time I
brought Bentley there, I was blown away. I said, Wow,
(31:32):
they have a schedule that you see how the dogs
you know how you know you know what I mean.
They have a schedule and you see that, so you
know that the dogs are not just dead in in
the in their rooms all day. No, they're actively outside
running around this. Then the third they're taking shifts. They're
doing this dah da dah. Right, So I had Bentley
go there for an overnight because you know, Bentley is epileptic,
(31:55):
so I wasn't sure how I was going to go.
So I brought him there for a day to do
like a doggy daycare for the day. Loved it, went
super well. Then he did an overnight, did super well.
Then I think three weeks later, brought him for a
weekend to see how he did, did super well. Everybody
loves him. Everybody loves Bentley. He's a star war he goes. Anyways,
(32:16):
I digress. So the day that the day that I
went to drop him off for the weekend. Okay, I
so I drop him off, and I really had to
I really had to be.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
I really had to be.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
So they're like, yeah, no problem, We're going to bring
you into the into the house, like the owner's house,
you know, to go to use the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
I was like, no problem.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
So one of the staff members walk me across the
like little lawn area situation, and so we go into
the the owner's host it's a couple whatever, blah blah blah.
So we get inside and it's like there's three dogs
in the house, right, that's their dogs. Those are their
(32:59):
personal dogs, three thousand and those. There's a cat that
greets me at the door. There's like herbs and plants
and like all this. You might as well be in
in in in in the jungle, right, But it was
really dope, really dope vibes. So I'm like okay, So
I she leads me through the dogs and the cat
Da da da into the bathroom. Now the bathroom is
(33:20):
pretty big. But in the bathroom there's a parrot. So
the parrot is in the middle of the bathroom on
his little thing. Okay, oh, not in a cage, just
like in the middle of the bathroom, on perched on
his singy area stick thing.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
So I go. So she's like okay. I'm like, wow,
there's there's a bird here. She's like yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I'm like okay. She's like I'll be I'll wait for
you here. I'm like cool. So I go into the bathroom.
The bird is looking at me. I'm looking at the bird.
The bird is looking at me. I'm looking at the bird.
So I'm like like, hey, little fella. The bird says nothing. Cool,
not that I was expecting the bird to say anything,
but the bird says nothing, which is fine.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
I just say hey, loo because I'm respectful. You know
what I'm saying. I respect.
Speaker 1 (34:14):
It's like, so I pull my pants down and I'm
squatting over the toilet bowl. The peace starts flowing, doesn't
the birds say woo wa being I look up and
(34:38):
you know how parrots look at you from the side
and they kind of put their head down and then.
Speaker 2 (34:45):
Not the bird saying whooo.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
So so I I I. So. Then whenever I finished
being and I go to wipe, and the bird says, hello,
What the fuck is going on right now? So so whatever,
(35:14):
I finish up my business, whatever, I go wash my hands.
The bird is staring me down now, the bird is hello.
So I'm like, O way, So I come out, I
finish up whatever. I come out the bathroom and the
lady's standing there. I said, you know, it's the first
(35:34):
time I've ever gone to the bathroom where birds like
hello while I'm peeing.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
So she starts dying of laughter. She's like, oh, yeah,
that's I should warn you. I was like, what the
hell is going on here? Oh my god, not the bird? Wooho?
Speaker 1 (35:52):
Excuse me, sir, closing motherfucking eyes. Oh jesus, Oh, so yeah,
that was my experience with a random parrot in the bathroom.
Don't ask me why the fuck the pair wasn't it's
a big it's a big bathroom. It's it's big. It's
not like it's some local apartment bathroom. No, the bathroom
(36:15):
is really big. But don't ask me why the pair
was in there.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
I don't know. Does none of my motherfucking business all
I know.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Is he you know, he really looked at my private
parts and said woo hoo. And I just don't I
don't know how to this day, I don't know how
to feel about that. I feel very you know, offected
a good times. Anyways, that's my that's my random life news.
That's my random life news. So anyways, on that note, something.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
That I'm grateful for.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I'm grateful that Bentley has a good place to stay,
to be honest, for our trip, where he is well
taken care of, that he loves that, he's happy, all
the things. You know, sometimes it's so difficult finding a
trusted place for your dog. And that's our baby, you know,
that's our that's our you know, if you're if you're
a pet owner, that's your baby.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
It is what it is.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
And so I'm really grateful that he has a place
to stay. And that's not super expensive. That's note thing too, man,
it's not even the people who created this space. They
did it with the understanding and with the want that
they didn't want to make it expensive for people, you know.
Speaker 2 (37:27):
So it's like thirty five bucks a night. It's not
bad at all. Anyways. So so yeah, really really grateful
for that.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
I have peace of mind on the trip knowing that
Bentley's safe while taking care of They're obviously experienced with
epileptic dogs, and so they know what to do and
that he'll have his pills and he'll be good to
have his meds and everything is good, and I'm very
grateful for it.
Speaker 2 (37:48):
It's your turn out. I think of something that you.
Speaker 1 (37:51):
Are grateful for, write it down, say it out loud,
you know, phone a friend, let them know that you
appreciate them. Sure it'll make their day. Ladies and sometimes gentlemen.
I appreciate y'all. I hope that today's episode helped you
in some way, shape or form, if nothing else, it
was food for that. Finish your plates so you can
go be great. I hope that you guys have a
good rest of your morning's evenings afternoons. Wherever the mili
(38:13):
y'all are in the world, Please be safe, use condoms, huh,
trust your intuition, and use your discernment. And I will
catch y'all on the next episode, sending out so much love.
It'll be great.
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