November 10, 2024 • 25 mins
May this episode inspire someone today to shift their perspective for the better. XO
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is CCB, but most people just call me B.
I'm thirty nine years young. I've been through a lot.
I've also put myself through a lot, and one day
I got sick and tired of my own shit. And
that's the day. And when change started happening, I stopped
lying to myself and started getting painfully honest with myself.
But it was only painful because I had been lying
(00:23):
to myself for so long. About nine or ten years
ago now, I started writing books about my journey through
my toxic relationships, how I got out of them and
then stayed out of them by building a healthy relationship
with myself. So there's nothing that I say on this
podcast that I haven't already had to say to myself
at some point in time. And yes, Darling, in the
(00:45):
exact same tone as I say it here. So if
you are sensitive to honesty, girl, this is not the
place for you to be. Okay. I don't sugar kosher
for myself, so I'm not doing it for anyone else. Besides,
how are you going to be more offended by their
woman being honest with you, telling you the truth than
you are by the men or men who lied to you?
(01:06):
Every day and treat you like shit. Food for thought,
finish your plate, put up boozies or girl by and
welcome back to another episode of the Sis Sketch Ish
Together Podcast. I hope that you guys are having a
(01:27):
great day today out that you woke up feeling revived
and rejuvenated with faith that everything that you spoke about
with your spirit team the night before is being worked
out for you in the background, somehow, some way. But
please remember, you gotta help your spirit team help you,
all right. That means you got to put yourself in
the position to get the things that you want niece
(01:47):
to chest, niece to have chest, because that's right. Even
the person who wishes to win the lottery knows that
they've got to play the numbers. It's currently two forty
three pm here in whatever, gloomy Montreal, Canada. And then
on today's episode, we're going to talk about the power
of perspective. So go get a snack, a juice box
(02:08):
or a glass of wine. Put your triggers to the side,
so you've got room to open up your mind, girl,
and let's get into the episode. So today we have
(02:45):
something inspired by the tick of the talks. I opened
it up to find a recipe. I'll be on there
looking for recipes. I don't give a shit. I'm looking
I make to date because you know, when you're eating,
like when you change how you eat and you start
to eat how healthy, the shit can get boring real quick.
And so you want to find some things that are
still healthy. But you know what I'm saying. And one
(03:06):
thing that TikTokers be doing other anyways, on the food side,
they'd be giving you some healthy, fun, good recipes. Anyways,
it doesn't matter. Look, as soon as I opened up
my TikTok I heard this video and I said, yep,
we gonna save this and we are going to play it.
We're gonna play it and we're gonna talk about it.
(03:27):
So this is from a young lady named Oh my God,
I hope I don't budget her name. McCall composey, Jesus
be a friends. McCall composey listen mc c A L
l c A p o z Z I okay, cool,
(03:52):
I'm gonna play it.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Watch how crazy perspective is. So I'm three years old,
I'm single, I live at home. I just spent the
last year like running around trying to figure out stuff,
and I'm back at home. My job is hard. All
my friends are getting married and engaged and I'm not.
Life just every.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Day feels the same somehow.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Sometimes sometimes I'm like, what the heck am I doing?
Or I am thirty years old, you guys, And I
live at home because I just spent the last year
traveling around and doing whatever I wanted, meeting so many people,
having so much flexibility, and now I get to live
at home and try and saved by my own place
and spend this quality time with my family that I'll
(04:35):
never have again. And I haven't met my person yet,
which is so cool because I still get to fall
in love for the first time with someone new, and
I will just love this person and they'll be so
great for me because I've just chosen to settle and
that's so exciting. And my job is hard, but it's rewarding,
and I'm so lucky to have like a remote job
(04:57):
that's flexible and work with amazing people and I believe
in what we're doing.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
And I just to go to the beautiful box every.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Day because I have a healthy body and I have
an amazing community where I live that I'm working really
hard to build.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
And that's pretty cool, don't you think? I love you guys?
Watch So when I saw this video, I said, hell, yes, girl,
this is what the fuck I'm talking about. I love this.
And when I went into the comment I'm gonna get
(05:33):
into the comments in I'm MO the fucking second. But
do you did you hear the difference? She said the
same thing, the same thing twice, but just two different perspectives,
two different ways of saying it, two different mindsets. She
literally showed two different mindsets for the same exact situation.
(05:55):
So many people, I say this all the time, but
so many people are the thing that's in their way.
It's not life. It's not your ex it's not the kids,
it's not your job, it's not the where you live
is not some shit. Sometimes it's where you live. But
stick to the script. That's not where you live right
It is your perspective on your life, your mindset, your
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attitude about where you are right now and what you're
doing or not doing, or what you have or don't
have right now. And people send themselves drive themselves into
misery because they are the thing in their way, because
they are constantly focused on the shit that they hate
(06:43):
the shit that they don't have, the shit that they're
tired of, the shit that they wish they had more of.
All this stuff. And it's like when we talk about
looking around you, looking within you, and being I don't
want to say grateful, Yeah, grateful for the things you
got while you working towards what you want. I think
(07:05):
it goes over so many people's heads. Right when we
talk about looking at life or looking at yourself through
a different lens, it goes through It goes over so
many people's heads. Now, that's not to say that when
I say grateful for what you got while you working
towards what you want, it doesn't mean that you are
not allowed to feel your fucking feelings. I want to
say that before someone on the internet gets a hold
(07:26):
of this clip in some ways from shape or form
and it's like, oh, I really don't like why people
will spiritually bypass. Okay, it's very dangerous that that, kad,
That's not what I'm saying. Okay, it's okay to feel
your feelings all that stuff. But the issue that I
see a lot of people having is that you you
(07:47):
just stay there, Okay, you're single, and fuck me in.
I was stelling with my clients the other day. She's
twenty eight, a sick girl. So this is so your
so prime position, right to really explore life and explore
yourself and do whatever the fuck you want with you know,
(08:10):
let no one to tell you no or where to
go with that. You're only dreaming right in. It's that
I'm saying. You can get on your own magic carpet ride,
just without motherfucking Aladdin. Fuck him anyways, he's a thief
stealing apples and shit. Now you get in the motherfucking
magic carpet ride with him, and now you're an accomplice.
(08:32):
Do you see what I'm saying? Just do your shit
by yourself. Right. So you're single, so you don't have
the car of your dreams yet, the career of your
things yet whatever the kids may be, right, fix your mind,
fix how you look at things. Yeah, you're single, would
(08:52):
do so you get to explore more of yourself. Hooray. Okay,
you have to move back in with your parents. Well,
at least you get like to. At least you get
to save some money now, and you don't have to
worry about not having a roof over your head because
it is what it is. Get you get to start over, right,
You get to at least even if it's for two months,
even if it's for a year, whatever the case may be,
(09:13):
You're getting that little extra heads up, your leg up,
you know. So you don't have it all figured out yet. Okay,
now you've got all the time in the world to
figure it out, you know what I mean. It's the
same thing when people when we talk about manifesting and
stuff like that. So hard for people to met. A
lot of people for to manifest because because you don't
(09:34):
let yourself get out of your way. You know, we'll
talk about manifesting, and you know, you know I want to.
Somebody would be like, oh, I want to. I want
ten thousand dollars some month. Okay, cool, that's your cool.
Write that shit down right, and then you'll block yourself.
(09:55):
Oh I do how is it going to come? That's impossible.
I'm not even the position to make ten thousand dollars
a month. I don't know as I don't have this.
I don't have that. Oh my god, I don't have anyws.
I don't have it. And it's like stop, stop, you
don't know where the ten thousand dollars can come from.
You don't know whether it's a month, or whether it's
just in the moment, whether it's just a one time
ten thousand dollars. You don't know where it can come from.
(10:16):
You don't know, So why are you acting like you do?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Right?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Okay, you don't have the job right now, So it
doesn't mean that you can't fuck around and step into
the opportunity for the job. So you doesn't mean that
you might not get a check back in the mail
for ten thousand dollars. Maybe somebody, Oh, I don't fucking know,
maybe you find ten thousand dollars on the ground in
a duffel bag, like it's the fucking movies. Why does
it have to be impossible? Why do you tell yourself
that it has to be impossible?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Right?
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Your mind state matters so much in everything that you
want to do, and your perspective and your outlook on
life and yourself really matter in so much that you
want to do. When I went to the comments, I was,
you know, was not surprised at all, not surprised at all.
(11:04):
The first comment number one is reality. Number two is delusion.
This has eighteen thousand likes, eighteen thousand likes because the
second way she framed the same situation was in a
state of acceptance. And you know what, so I'm single, Okay,
(11:26):
that means I didn't get to meet the love of
my life yet, or I still have time to meet
the love of my life and he's gonna be this
and he's gonna be right. Why does the second one
have to be Jamie? And even saying that, and I
think I said the other I said this the other
day too, on one of my episodes. I don't know.
I'm so I'm so grateful that if I would have
(11:46):
met Dwayne any earlier, we would not it would know this,
We would not have survived. My lack of inner work
coupled with his lack of inner work at the time,
right like that. We wouldn't have said that in himself.
It would have been recipe, just the way I used to,
you know, very quick to be on defense and raw
raw and then his you know, it wouldn't be good.
(12:08):
We would not have survived. So, yeah, I found love,
true love, a love that loves me correctly when I
was thirty seven. And I wouldn't have had it any
other way, you know. And I wish more women would
just have that perspective, not about just love, but about life.
You know, there's a reason even Okay, give me an example.
(12:36):
When I wanted my new car, right when I wanted
my new car at the time I wanted it, obviously,
I wanted it fucking now it's manifesting my new car.
I wanted it. Now it's my new car, and I
want it now, right, And it took me a minute
to get it. Obviously took me a minute to suspend
this fucking car. Took me a minute to get it.
(12:57):
But I realized once I got it, I understood why
it took me so long to get it Because the
people who were in my life at the time when
I really when I was starting to really want it,
didn't deserve to be riding fucking shotgun with me. Do
you understand what I'm saying. They didn't deserve to be
around me with my level up. So with the car
came the new blaze came to this came to that
(13:19):
right like I had leveled up into another space of
my life and into a very abundance space in my life.
And the abundance came when I cut those motherfuckers off
and I understand now that had they had still been there,
I would have still been in my people pleasing state.
I'd have been running my car, the mileage rip of
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my car, dropping people, picking people, no problem, I'll drop
you here, I'll drug I'll do this a dah da da,
whatever the case may be, right, I would have, in
my abundance been letting people money left, right and center,
because I had no boundaries still right at the time
when I was like I want my new car, I
want this, I want that, or I had no boundaries
still in a sound I'm saying perspective, I start to understand, like, okay,
(14:04):
all right, you see, our mindset matters. And sometimes in
the car that I had before I got my new car,
and granted the car that I had before I got
my new car, I manifested that shit too. That's the
car that I wanted. But after a while I didn't
want this shit no more, is okay, And so after
a while I was like, uh, I wanted my other
(14:26):
car so bad that I started to resent that car,
and I had to catch myself. It's like, yo, no,
I get to be in a car that brings me
from A to Z every day. I get to be this.
I get to have the I get to, I get
to I get to, I get to right, I get to.
Someone else said it's good to be positive, but time
is running out, running out for what. So somebody said
(14:48):
time is running out for what and the person replied,
husband and kids. No man will want a woman they
can have kids with. Stop this is you know, I
just it. Really this really bothers me. And it is
the same shit that women tell themselves. No man is
gonna want me because fill in the blank. Women create
(15:10):
all kinds of reasons why they you know, no man
is gonna want them. No man is gonna want me
because I can't have kids. No man is gonna want
me because I don't want kids. No man's gonna want
me because I don't know I have ADHD. No man's
gonna want me because I have a disability. No man's
gonna want me because I'm not a size fucking for
No man's gonna want me because I like you, greens, beans, potatoes,
(15:34):
you name it. Like women will come up with right
and confirm for themselves. Stop. Stop. Have you ever considered
that there are men out there that don't want to
have kids? You ever consider that there are men out
there who have hyseectomies. Have you ever considered there's men
out there who cannot have kids. Who's little swim is
don't swim no mo and the never motherfucker bit. There's
(15:56):
men out there with one ball? Do you are you like? Hello? Hello?
I do right? There are men out there who are
one and done. They had their kids. They're like, I'm good.
Their kid is sixteen years old. Now they got that
shit out their system or by accident or whatever the
book happened when they were sixteen years old. The kid
is sixteen seventeen, about to be a grown as adult.
It's not like you coming and raising no babies. They
(16:17):
did what they did and you're like cool. And now
the end, they're not looking for a woman to have kids.
They were looking for And it's what I'm saying. Do
you understand there are men out there who love a
plus sized woman. I don't like, okay, but this is
the perspective. This is the narrow one and only perspective
(16:39):
that so many women give themselves. I'm de da da,
So no man wants me because that dada. First of all,
you need to want. You focus on wanting you focus
on you wanting yourself, focus on you being like okay,
healing the relationship that you have with yourself, right, So
it could be instead you can get to a place
(17:02):
where you're like, you know, someone's going to accept me
for exactly what I have. Somebody is going to be
in a forgeting, someone's going to be in alignment with
what I have, don't have, want, don't want the end
at some point in sometime and right now, I'm still
working on myself. So I'm glad this person hasn't come
around yet because I'm still in the thick of working
on myself the end. Someone else said, you can have
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a thousand perspectives, but there's only one reality, correct, the
one that you decide. The one that you decide is
your reality for yourself. You see, this is a bunch
of projections. And what I always try to have y'all
like understand or pay more attention to or be more
aware of, is the way people project constantly, constantly, constantly, constantly,
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and how we internalize it and why it's so important
to either spit it out or block it before it
even before it even touches your lips in a stand,
before it even touches your lips, You're like, umm, you
need to be You need to be like a fucking toddler,
a baby, a seven month old in a high chair
(18:12):
when mom is trying to feed you the goddamn peas,
and that baby's like turning his head every which way
and you're like, come on, here's the airplane. And the
baby's like and you're like, joyse, please just eat the peas, right,
or whatever, the mashed potato, whatever the fuck it is.
(18:33):
You need to be that baby. When it comes to
people trying to spill their projections onto you, you need
to lips sealed. And if you do get a little
bit downe in your mouth, just like the baby, you
need to spit that shit out, just and look dead
in their face. Just spit it out, Spit it all
over your bib and shit, spit it on the high
chair table, just the I said no, Right. Someone else's
(18:58):
reality is based upon how they see things, right, Like
my reality is based look you know what? You know
what here? My reality is based on how I see things.
I one hundred percent see an opportunity and everything everything
I see a business model, I see an opportunity and
everything I see how somebody could make money doing what
the fuck they're doing for free anyways, and to make
(19:20):
money on it everywhere I turn. That's literally how my
mind is set up. That is how I see things,
and I project that shit hunt everybody. Okay, everyone, I'm like,
you know you can, right, But somebody else, who the
person who I see abundance around them, they don't see
they don't. They don't. They don't see that they're capable.
(19:42):
They don't see that they they have the potential to
do it. They don't see it as an opportunity. They
don't see this. They don't see that, right, they don't
see it. It's not their reality. For me, it's a
reality for them, it's not a reality right for people
say I tell this story of other time. It is not
a reality for me to be an author, right, Let
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alone a coach, right let alone someone who runs classes.
Let alone somebody who doesn't right it was not a reality.
But the first one is not a reality for me
to be an author. People don't read books that they
won't let to die. You better get a plan and
be nobody's good. You're going to be a starving audist.
Who the fuck are you to put that shit on me.
Are you crazy that I unhand me. Don't try to
(20:25):
freakin project your because your dreams and goals didn't work out.
Don't try to project that shit on me. Right, their
reality for them, the reality was, or rather for them,
the reality was, the reality was nobody reads books anymore,
So you becoming an author? Is you failing? I looked
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at it as the reality of of course people read books,
you idiot, the fuck you? Number two, people are gonna
read my books because I fucking said so the end,
and then what happened? People read my books? Also? You
know there's you know, I worked and I put marketing,
and you know it's what I'm saying, right, But because
(21:10):
how would you know the books existed if it didn't
market them. But the point is and promote them. But
you gave what I'm saying, right, So you can't tell somebody. Yeah,
there's a thousand perspectives, but there's own reality. There's only
one reality. No, there isn't. Actually no, there isn't. And
even in the reality, even if there was only one reality,
(21:34):
everybody has the right to move through that reality differently,
you see, based on their mindset, day and their perspective.
So I just wanted to share this, you know, I
thought it was a really really dope example of the
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power of perspectives and shifting your perspective and seeing things differently.
You know, it's the same thing. Someone can say, the
glasses half empty, and somebody can say, for the same thing,
the glasses that full. What you're talking about, right, So
I hope this inspired somebody today who who needed it
at the end of the day, right who might have
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who might be the glass half empty person? Or who
maybe that's not even who you are. Maybe somehow you
got to become Maybe you're listening to this right now
and you realize, Man, how did I become this glass
half empty person? I used to always be the glass
half full? And maybe that and of itself is the
catalyst that you needed to send you on a deep
dive so you can start healing the parts of you
(22:40):
and start throwing up the things that you've internalized, ingested,
the projections of other people that you've internalized and projected. Right,
this is maybe this is what you needed to go
throw up in a good way, you know what I mean,
right to detox, right to to maybe this was self
discuss every one on one for for somebody who needed
(23:02):
to hear or rediscovering yourself one and one right, So
I hope that was able to do that. Shout out
to the young lady who made the video. Think it
was really dope, you know, and and and well put together,
Oh my god, series trying to turn on please okay,
and so yeah, that's uh, that's it. That's my little
(23:24):
mini I guess pep talk of the day, Okay, something
I'm random, life news, no, none, don't have any, but
something that I'm grateful for. I'm grateful for people women
like her who put who create these things and put
them out into the world for other women to be
(23:45):
inspired by, our other people to be inspired by. We
need more of that, you know. I'm grateful for the
women who and people who use their platform to inspire
other women to help themselves, to change their mindset, to
be better for themselves, to glow up from the inside out.
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Very grateful for that. So that part it is your term.
Think of something that you're great before, write it down,
say it out loud, phone to friend and tell them
that you appreciate them. I'm sure it'll make their day. Ladies.
Sometimes gentlemen, I appreciate y'all. I hope this episode helps
you in some way, shape or form. If nothing else
(24:27):
is food for thought. Just make sure you finish your
plate so you can go be great. Hope y'all have
a good rest of your mornings, evenings, afternoons over the book.
Y'all are in the world. Please be safe, use condoms,
test your intuition, and use your discernment, and I will
catch you on the next episode. Sending out much love,
great SPA
My name is CCB, but most people just call me B.
I'm thirty nine years young. I've been through a lot.
I've also put myself through a lot, and one day
I got sick and tired of my own shit. And
that's the day. And when change started happening, I stopped
lying to myself and started getting painfully honest with myself.
But it was only painful because I had been lying
(00:23):
to myself for so long. About nine or ten years
ago now, I started writing books about my journey through
my toxic relationships, how I got out of them and
then stayed out of them by building a healthy relationship
with myself. So there's nothing that I say on this
podcast that I haven't already had to say to myself
at some point in time. And yes, Darling, in the
(00:45):
exact same tone as I say it here. So if
you are sensitive to honesty, girl, this is not the
place for you to be. Okay. I don't sugar kosher
for myself, so I'm not doing it for anyone else. Besides,
how are you going to be more offended by their
woman being honest with you, telling you the truth than
you are by the men or men who lied to you?
(01:06):
Every day and treat you like shit. Food for thought,
finish your plate, put up boozies or girl by and
welcome back to another episode of the Sis Sketch Ish
Together Podcast. I hope that you guys are having a
(01:27):
great day today out that you woke up feeling revived
and rejuvenated with faith that everything that you spoke about
with your spirit team the night before is being worked
out for you in the background, somehow, some way. But
please remember, you gotta help your spirit team help you,
all right. That means you got to put yourself in
the position to get the things that you want niece
(01:47):
to chest, niece to have chest, because that's right. Even
the person who wishes to win the lottery knows that
they've got to play the numbers. It's currently two forty
three pm here in whatever, gloomy Montreal, Canada. And then
on today's episode, we're going to talk about the power
of perspective. So go get a snack, a juice box
(02:08):
or a glass of wine. Put your triggers to the side,
so you've got room to open up your mind, girl,
and let's get into the episode. So today we have
(02:45):
something inspired by the tick of the talks. I opened
it up to find a recipe. I'll be on there
looking for recipes. I don't give a shit. I'm looking
I make to date because you know, when you're eating,
like when you change how you eat and you start
to eat how healthy, the shit can get boring real quick.
And so you want to find some things that are
still healthy. But you know what I'm saying. And one
(03:06):
thing that TikTokers be doing other anyways, on the food side,
they'd be giving you some healthy, fun, good recipes. Anyways,
it doesn't matter. Look, as soon as I opened up
my TikTok I heard this video and I said, yep,
we gonna save this and we are going to play it.
We're gonna play it and we're gonna talk about it.
(03:27):
So this is from a young lady named Oh my God,
I hope I don't budget her name. McCall composey, Jesus
be a friends. McCall composey listen mc c A L
l c A p o z Z I okay, cool,
(03:52):
I'm gonna play it.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Watch how crazy perspective is. So I'm three years old,
I'm single, I live at home. I just spent the
last year like running around trying to figure out stuff,
and I'm back at home. My job is hard. All
my friends are getting married and engaged and I'm not.
Life just every.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Day feels the same somehow.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Sometimes sometimes I'm like, what the heck am I doing?
Or I am thirty years old, you guys, And I
live at home because I just spent the last year
traveling around and doing whatever I wanted, meeting so many people,
having so much flexibility, and now I get to live
at home and try and saved by my own place
and spend this quality time with my family that I'll
(04:35):
never have again. And I haven't met my person yet,
which is so cool because I still get to fall
in love for the first time with someone new, and
I will just love this person and they'll be so
great for me because I've just chosen to settle and
that's so exciting. And my job is hard, but it's rewarding,
and I'm so lucky to have like a remote job
(04:57):
that's flexible and work with amazing people and I believe
in what we're doing.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
And I just to go to the beautiful box every.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Day because I have a healthy body and I have
an amazing community where I live that I'm working really
hard to build.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
And that's pretty cool, don't you think? I love you guys?
Watch So when I saw this video, I said, hell, yes, girl,
this is what the fuck I'm talking about. I love this.
And when I went into the comment I'm gonna get
(05:33):
into the comments in I'm MO the fucking second. But
do you did you hear the difference? She said the
same thing, the same thing twice, but just two different perspectives,
two different ways of saying it, two different mindsets. She
literally showed two different mindsets for the same exact situation.
(05:55):
So many people, I say this all the time, but
so many people are the thing that's in their way.
It's not life. It's not your ex it's not the kids,
it's not your job, it's not the where you live
is not some shit. Sometimes it's where you live. But
stick to the script. That's not where you live right
It is your perspective on your life, your mindset, your
(06:22):
attitude about where you are right now and what you're
doing or not doing, or what you have or don't
have right now. And people send themselves drive themselves into
misery because they are the thing in their way, because
they are constantly focused on the shit that they hate
(06:43):
the shit that they don't have, the shit that they're
tired of, the shit that they wish they had more of.
All this stuff. And it's like when we talk about
looking around you, looking within you, and being I don't
want to say grateful, Yeah, grateful for the things you
got while you working towards what you want. I think
(07:05):
it goes over so many people's heads. Right when we
talk about looking at life or looking at yourself through
a different lens, it goes through It goes over so
many people's heads. Now, that's not to say that when
I say grateful for what you got while you working
towards what you want, it doesn't mean that you are
not allowed to feel your fucking feelings. I want to
say that before someone on the internet gets a hold
(07:26):
of this clip in some ways from shape or form
and it's like, oh, I really don't like why people
will spiritually bypass. Okay, it's very dangerous that that, kad,
That's not what I'm saying. Okay, it's okay to feel
your feelings all that stuff. But the issue that I
see a lot of people having is that you you
(07:47):
just stay there, Okay, you're single, and fuck me in.
I was stelling with my clients the other day. She's
twenty eight, a sick girl. So this is so your
so prime position, right to really explore life and explore
yourself and do whatever the fuck you want with you know,
(08:10):
let no one to tell you no or where to
go with that. You're only dreaming right in. It's that
I'm saying. You can get on your own magic carpet ride,
just without motherfucking Aladdin. Fuck him anyways, he's a thief
stealing apples and shit. Now you get in the motherfucking
magic carpet ride with him, and now you're an accomplice.
(08:32):
Do you see what I'm saying? Just do your shit
by yourself. Right. So you're single, so you don't have
the car of your dreams yet, the career of your
things yet whatever the kids may be, right, fix your mind,
fix how you look at things. Yeah, you're single, would
(08:52):
do so you get to explore more of yourself. Hooray. Okay,
you have to move back in with your parents. Well,
at least you get like to. At least you get
to save some money now, and you don't have to
worry about not having a roof over your head because
it is what it is. Get you get to start over, right,
You get to at least even if it's for two months,
even if it's for a year, whatever the case may be,
(09:13):
You're getting that little extra heads up, your leg up,
you know. So you don't have it all figured out yet. Okay,
now you've got all the time in the world to
figure it out, you know what I mean. It's the
same thing when people when we talk about manifesting and
stuff like that. So hard for people to met. A
lot of people for to manifest because because you don't
(09:34):
let yourself get out of your way. You know, we'll
talk about manifesting, and you know, you know I want to.
Somebody would be like, oh, I want to. I want
ten thousand dollars some month. Okay, cool, that's your cool.
Write that shit down right, and then you'll block yourself.
(09:55):
Oh I do how is it going to come? That's impossible.
I'm not even the position to make ten thousand dollars
a month. I don't know as I don't have this.
I don't have that. Oh my god, I don't have anyws.
I don't have it. And it's like stop, stop, you
don't know where the ten thousand dollars can come from.
You don't know whether it's a month, or whether it's
just in the moment, whether it's just a one time
ten thousand dollars. You don't know where it can come from.
(10:16):
You don't know, So why are you acting like you do?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Right?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Okay, you don't have the job right now, So it
doesn't mean that you can't fuck around and step into
the opportunity for the job. So you doesn't mean that
you might not get a check back in the mail
for ten thousand dollars. Maybe somebody, Oh, I don't fucking know,
maybe you find ten thousand dollars on the ground in
a duffel bag, like it's the fucking movies. Why does
it have to be impossible? Why do you tell yourself
that it has to be impossible?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Right?
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Your mind state matters so much in everything that you
want to do, and your perspective and your outlook on
life and yourself really matter in so much that you
want to do. When I went to the comments, I was,
you know, was not surprised at all, not surprised at all.
(11:04):
The first comment number one is reality. Number two is delusion.
This has eighteen thousand likes, eighteen thousand likes because the
second way she framed the same situation was in a
state of acceptance. And you know what, so I'm single, Okay,
(11:26):
that means I didn't get to meet the love of
my life yet, or I still have time to meet
the love of my life and he's gonna be this
and he's gonna be right. Why does the second one
have to be Jamie? And even saying that, and I
think I said the other I said this the other
day too, on one of my episodes. I don't know.
I'm so I'm so grateful that if I would have
(11:46):
met Dwayne any earlier, we would not it would know this,
We would not have survived. My lack of inner work
coupled with his lack of inner work at the time,
right like that. We wouldn't have said that in himself.
It would have been recipe, just the way I used to,
you know, very quick to be on defense and raw
raw and then his you know, it wouldn't be good.
(12:08):
We would not have survived. So, yeah, I found love,
true love, a love that loves me correctly when I
was thirty seven. And I wouldn't have had it any
other way, you know. And I wish more women would
just have that perspective, not about just love, but about life.
You know, there's a reason even Okay, give me an example.
(12:36):
When I wanted my new car, right when I wanted
my new car at the time I wanted it, obviously,
I wanted it fucking now it's manifesting my new car.
I wanted it. Now it's my new car, and I
want it now, right, And it took me a minute
to get it. Obviously took me a minute to suspend
this fucking car. Took me a minute to get it.
(12:57):
But I realized once I got it, I understood why
it took me so long to get it Because the
people who were in my life at the time when
I really when I was starting to really want it,
didn't deserve to be riding fucking shotgun with me. Do
you understand what I'm saying. They didn't deserve to be
around me with my level up. So with the car
came the new blaze came to this came to that
(13:19):
right like I had leveled up into another space of
my life and into a very abundance space in my life.
And the abundance came when I cut those motherfuckers off
and I understand now that had they had still been there,
I would have still been in my people pleasing state.
I'd have been running my car, the mileage rip of
(13:41):
my car, dropping people, picking people, no problem, I'll drop
you here, I'll drug I'll do this a dah da da,
whatever the case may be, right, I would have, in
my abundance been letting people money left, right and center,
because I had no boundaries still right at the time
when I was like I want my new car, I
want this, I want that, or I had no boundaries
still in a sound I'm saying perspective, I start to understand, like, okay,
(14:04):
all right, you see, our mindset matters. And sometimes in
the car that I had before I got my new car,
and granted the car that I had before I got
my new car, I manifested that shit too. That's the
car that I wanted. But after a while I didn't
want this shit no more, is okay, And so after
a while I was like, uh, I wanted my other
(14:26):
car so bad that I started to resent that car,
and I had to catch myself. It's like, yo, no,
I get to be in a car that brings me
from A to Z every day. I get to be this.
I get to have the I get to, I get
to I get to, I get to right, I get to.
Someone else said it's good to be positive, but time
is running out, running out for what. So somebody said
(14:48):
time is running out for what and the person replied,
husband and kids. No man will want a woman they
can have kids with. Stop this is you know, I
just it. Really this really bothers me. And it is
the same shit that women tell themselves. No man is
gonna want me because fill in the blank. Women create
(15:10):
all kinds of reasons why they you know, no man
is gonna want them. No man is gonna want me
because I can't have kids. No man is gonna want
me because I don't want kids. No man's gonna want
me because I don't know I have ADHD. No man's
gonna want me because I have a disability. No man's
gonna want me because I'm not a size fucking for
No man's gonna want me because I like you, greens, beans, potatoes,
(15:34):
you name it. Like women will come up with right
and confirm for themselves. Stop. Stop. Have you ever considered
that there are men out there that don't want to
have kids? You ever consider that there are men out
there who have hyseectomies. Have you ever considered there's men
out there who cannot have kids. Who's little swim is
don't swim no mo and the never motherfucker bit. There's
(15:56):
men out there with one ball? Do you are you like? Hello? Hello?
I do right? There are men out there who are
one and done. They had their kids. They're like, I'm good.
Their kid is sixteen years old. Now they got that
shit out their system or by accident or whatever the
book happened when they were sixteen years old. The kid
is sixteen seventeen, about to be a grown as adult.
It's not like you coming and raising no babies. They
(16:17):
did what they did and you're like cool. And now
the end, they're not looking for a woman to have kids.
They were looking for And it's what I'm saying. Do
you understand there are men out there who love a
plus sized woman. I don't like, okay, but this is
the perspective. This is the narrow one and only perspective
(16:39):
that so many women give themselves. I'm de da da,
So no man wants me because that dada. First of all,
you need to want. You focus on wanting you focus
on you wanting yourself, focus on you being like okay,
healing the relationship that you have with yourself, right, So
it could be instead you can get to a place
(17:02):
where you're like, you know, someone's going to accept me
for exactly what I have. Somebody is going to be
in a forgeting, someone's going to be in alignment with
what I have, don't have, want, don't want the end
at some point in sometime and right now, I'm still
working on myself. So I'm glad this person hasn't come
around yet because I'm still in the thick of working
on myself the end. Someone else said, you can have
(17:24):
a thousand perspectives, but there's only one reality, correct, the
one that you decide. The one that you decide is
your reality for yourself. You see, this is a bunch
of projections. And what I always try to have y'all
like understand or pay more attention to or be more
aware of, is the way people project constantly, constantly, constantly, constantly,
(17:49):
and how we internalize it and why it's so important
to either spit it out or block it before it
even before it even touches your lips in a stand,
before it even touches your lips, You're like, umm, you
need to be You need to be like a fucking toddler,
a baby, a seven month old in a high chair
(18:12):
when mom is trying to feed you the goddamn peas,
and that baby's like turning his head every which way
and you're like, come on, here's the airplane. And the
baby's like and you're like, joyse, please just eat the peas, right,
or whatever, the mashed potato, whatever the fuck it is.
(18:33):
You need to be that baby. When it comes to
people trying to spill their projections onto you, you need
to lips sealed. And if you do get a little
bit downe in your mouth, just like the baby, you
need to spit that shit out, just and look dead
in their face. Just spit it out, Spit it all
over your bib and shit, spit it on the high
chair table, just the I said no, Right. Someone else's
(18:58):
reality is based upon how they see things, right, Like
my reality is based look you know what? You know
what here? My reality is based on how I see things.
I one hundred percent see an opportunity and everything everything
I see a business model, I see an opportunity and
everything I see how somebody could make money doing what
the fuck they're doing for free anyways, and to make
(19:20):
money on it everywhere I turn. That's literally how my
mind is set up. That is how I see things,
and I project that shit hunt everybody. Okay, everyone, I'm like,
you know you can, right, But somebody else, who the
person who I see abundance around them, they don't see
they don't. They don't. They don't see that they're capable.
(19:42):
They don't see that they they have the potential to
do it. They don't see it as an opportunity. They
don't see this. They don't see that, right, they don't
see it. It's not their reality. For me, it's a
reality for them, it's not a reality right for people
say I tell this story of other time. It is not
a reality for me to be an author, right, Let
(20:04):
alone a coach, right let alone someone who runs classes.
Let alone somebody who doesn't right it was not a reality.
But the first one is not a reality for me
to be an author. People don't read books that they
won't let to die. You better get a plan and
be nobody's good. You're going to be a starving audist.
Who the fuck are you to put that shit on me.
Are you crazy that I unhand me. Don't try to
(20:25):
freakin project your because your dreams and goals didn't work out.
Don't try to project that shit on me. Right, their
reality for them, the reality was, or rather for them,
the reality was, the reality was nobody reads books anymore,
So you becoming an author? Is you failing? I looked
(20:48):
at it as the reality of of course people read books,
you idiot, the fuck you? Number two, people are gonna
read my books because I fucking said so the end,
and then what happened? People read my books? Also? You
know there's you know, I worked and I put marketing,
and you know it's what I'm saying, right, But because
(21:10):
how would you know the books existed if it didn't
market them. But the point is and promote them. But
you gave what I'm saying, right, So you can't tell somebody. Yeah,
there's a thousand perspectives, but there's own reality. There's only
one reality. No, there isn't. Actually no, there isn't. And
even in the reality, even if there was only one reality,
(21:34):
everybody has the right to move through that reality differently,
you see, based on their mindset, day and their perspective.
So I just wanted to share this, you know, I
thought it was a really really dope example of the
(21:58):
power of perspectives and shifting your perspective and seeing things differently.
You know, it's the same thing. Someone can say, the
glasses half empty, and somebody can say, for the same thing,
the glasses that full. What you're talking about, right, So
I hope this inspired somebody today who who needed it
at the end of the day, right who might have
(22:18):
who might be the glass half empty person? Or who
maybe that's not even who you are. Maybe somehow you
got to become Maybe you're listening to this right now
and you realize, Man, how did I become this glass
half empty person? I used to always be the glass
half full? And maybe that and of itself is the
catalyst that you needed to send you on a deep
dive so you can start healing the parts of you
(22:40):
and start throwing up the things that you've internalized, ingested,
the projections of other people that you've internalized and projected. Right,
this is maybe this is what you needed to go
throw up in a good way, you know what I mean,
right to detox, right to to maybe this was self
discuss every one on one for for somebody who needed
(23:02):
to hear or rediscovering yourself one and one right, So
I hope that was able to do that. Shout out
to the young lady who made the video. Think it
was really dope, you know, and and and well put together,
Oh my god, series trying to turn on please okay,
and so yeah, that's uh, that's it. That's my little
(23:24):
mini I guess pep talk of the day, Okay, something
I'm random, life news, no, none, don't have any, but
something that I'm grateful for. I'm grateful for people women
like her who put who create these things and put
them out into the world for other women to be
(23:45):
inspired by, our other people to be inspired by. We
need more of that, you know. I'm grateful for the
women who and people who use their platform to inspire
other women to help themselves, to change their mindset, to
be better for themselves, to glow up from the inside out.
(24:07):
Very grateful for that. So that part it is your term.
Think of something that you're great before, write it down,
say it out loud, phone to friend and tell them
that you appreciate them. I'm sure it'll make their day. Ladies.
Sometimes gentlemen, I appreciate y'all. I hope this episode helps
you in some way, shape or form. If nothing else
(24:27):
is food for thought. Just make sure you finish your
plate so you can go be great. Hope y'all have
a good rest of your mornings, evenings, afternoons over the book.
Y'all are in the world. Please be safe, use condoms,
test your intuition, and use your discernment, and I will
catch you on the next episode. Sending out much love,
great SPA
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