April 28, 2025 • 43 mins
I'm reading you a bit of a book in this episode - get some snacks and enjoy :)
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If you'd like to book a session with me, click here: The Wake-Up Call
Much love!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, well, well, Lukhu decided to pop back up and
grace y'all with their presence. I know that such you
be thinking when you see that I upload a new episode. Hi.
Still don't have a new intro yet, still working on it.
Don't even have any let me tell y'all something. Don't
even have any background tracks like music, because I opened
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up my studio today and all the uploaded tracks music.
My my horn is gone, so that's fun. So yeah,
I guess the system rebooted, so I don't know. I
don't know. But anyways, I'm here. Hi. Hi, if it's
(00:41):
the first time here, Hi, welcome. My name is CCB,
but you could just call me B. I'm forty years young,
Thank you very much, and I am known in these
streets as the Internet Big Exist or if you follow
my substack, one of them, both of them, your favorite
truth teller. Anyways, I hope that you guys are having
a great day today. And because I don't have an
official proper intro, think of this as a long voice
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note from your bestie. That's how we gotta do things, Okay,
you just got to You just gotta go with the flow.
You gotta use what you've got, Okay, you gotta use
what you've got, and if it's your first time here.
I have a co host. His name is Bentley. He's
my one hundred and at this point fifty seven pound
Saint Bernard. So we're gonna do our best so he
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doesn't become a co host, but every now and then
he enters the chat. So we're gonna do our best. Okay.
So I did a thing. Y'all know, when I disappear
for long moments of time, I go into hibernation and
I come back out with something. I did something, very
much something, and I have been am I from everywhere
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for the most part. I haven't been on any of
my substacks. I looked and I was like, oh fuck
last night host. It was like April third. But I
have been very obsessed, hyper focused with finishing this thing
that I started and I wanted to see it through.
So I wrote a book called Your Pussy Is a Portal. Yeah,
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And we talked about this a little bit on one
of my Instagram lives some time ago, and I think
maybe I spoke about it here too. I don't know,
but I'm going to tell you right now because I'm
going to read it, not all of it, don't be crazy,
but I'm going to read you some of it. And
if you and you know, I know that everybody believes
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different things and so on and so forth, and I'm
super califragilistic, ex melidocious respected. So if you're somebody who
is listening and you are not into any type of
like spirituality, any rituals, witchy shit, do you know what
I mean? The moon phases, soul highs, whatever the case
may be, then you might want to skip this episode.
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It's not going to be for you. And guess what
that is. Okay, that is okay. But if you're listening
to this and you're like, yeah, let's go been waiting
for you to chop into this much, then by all means,
grab a snack, a juice box, or a glass of wine,
pull up a chair, and I will be it's giving audiobook.
(03:11):
This is audible, Okay, pull it together. Okay. By the way,
if you are already subscribed to my substact, if we're
being honest, then you have already gotten the intro because
I posted it there. But I'm going to read the
intro and all of chapter one. Okay, here we go,
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your pussy is a portal, and he was lucky to
have been let in the portal. You forgot you were
pussy power. I was scrolling through Instagram one day and
stopped on a post about dating. The quote was dark
pink with a light pink background, and in big bold letters,
it said pussy power. My eyes dropped to the caption
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and it read, Lady, when you're out here dating these men,
never forget that our pussies have the power to bring
them to their fucking knees. I felt irritation rise in
my throat the way vomit does right before your body's
like psych. We not go through a right now, girl,
but we might soon. I rolled my eyes, closed the
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app and sat with it. Why am I so irritated?
I could have dismissed it, but I don't do that
with my feelings. I'm Hella curious about why I feel
the things I do, and I like to trace them
so I can get to the root. Yeah. I'm an author,
but that's only one hat I wear. I'm also a
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life coach for women. And if there's one thing I
know for sure, it's that irritation isn't just a symptom
there's always something deeper underneath it. So I got up,
shuffled over to my laptop, still open with forty seven
tabs on display like a museum of my brain, and
found what I was looking for, the feelings wheel. Irritated
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isn't on the wheel, but annoyed is. So I followed it.
Annoyed led to frustrated, then frustrated led right to angry.
Am I angry? Yep? My inner voice answered immediately. What
part of the post made me angry? I asked myself,
and without skipping a beat, my inner voice said that
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the phrase pussy power gets thrown around like it's the
secret sauce to everything from manifesting, from manifesting a man
to getting a free vacation, that its connection is always
tied to a fucking man. And now that you know better,
that you've learned better, you wish you were able to
share with other women what you've learned about what true
pussy power really is. I looked out the window at
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nothing in particular while I sat with what my inner
voice had just said. Inside, You're right, I am angry
about it. I want to grab a megaphone, hop in
the car, and drive through neighborhoods yelling I'll know which
woman needs to hear this right now. But your pussy
isn't just a hole for men to stick their flabby
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dix in. Your pussy is quite lecholais a magical portal,
and the sooner you wake up to that, the less
stress you'd have in your life. But I'd probably get
arrested for disturbing the piece, ironic considering most women don't
have don't know what real peace is because instead of
learning how to access our own wisdom, our own magic,
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our own power, we're online arguing about fucking situationships how
to get a stupid man in fifty to fifty dynamics
with men who aren't even worth the time of day.
So I did what I always do when I've got
something real to say. I alchemized my anger, turned it
into passion, then turned that into a book, because that's
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one of the ways I use my magic. So, in
case this is your first time here, hello, Hi, I
AMCCB your internet pixes, but most people just call me BE.
My readers know me for being raw, honest and down
to tell the truth, even when it's a little or
a lot uncomfortable. They also know that everything I write
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is made specifically to help women be better for themselves,
whether that means healing, getting more honest, or just waking
the fuck up. They know my mission, my literal calling,
is to help women in the best ways that I
know how, and this book is no different. I'm all
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for women tapping into their sensuality and feeling themselves for real,
for real, I truly love that for us. But if
you pay attention, a lot of what's being labeled as
empowerment is still circling right back to the same old thing. Sex.
More specifically, how to use sex to get what you
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want from a man, how to be desired by men,
how to get the upper hand over a man, how
to make a man lose his mind, miss you, or
regret fumbling you. Our bodies are always being used for
something that benefits fucking men, and that's actually where our
soul called pussy power ends. But what if I told
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you your pussy wasn't just for sex. What if it
had absolutely nothing to do with how many heads you
turn or how desired you are by someone else. What
if I told you that it's not about performance at all. Look,
I'm not here to judge you, because I didn't always
know that either. For a long time, I genuinely thought
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my body was something I should use us leverage, Like
if I could make someone want me, that meant I
was valuable. If I could withhold sex that gave me control,
and if I gave it too soon, well maybe that
would help lock something in. I spent years letting so
called boyfriends in who didn't value me, who didn't see me,
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who had no business accessing me at all. And the
wild part, I didn't even know how to access myself.
Back then. I knew how to be wanted, but not
how to be with me, not in a deep, grounded,
soul connected type of way. But that'll start to shift
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the moment I finally learned what it meant to feel
safe in my body. Not cute, not confident in the selfie,
I mean safe, like dropped in, fully present, no more pretending.
And that's when it hit me. My body wasn't just
a body. It was a portal, a living, breathing, magical
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channel of wisdom for power, for creation. And once I
felt that, I mean really felt it, I couldn't unfeel it.
When I started sinking with the moon, when I noticed
how energy moved through my womb. When I stopped shrinking
myself to make other people comfortable, something in me woke up,
something ancient, and that's why it was important for me
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to write this book. There are two. There are too
many women walking around disconnected from the most sacred, powerful
part of who they are. Too many of us have
no idea what we're actually carrying. From the time we're little,
we're taught how to be picked, how to be nice,
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how to make people comfortable. We're trained to tone it
down people like, want things, but don't want too much,
Speak but don't speak too loudly, Be pretty but not intimidating.
Be sexy, but never sacred. We're taught how to look
good and listen to others, but never taught how to
listen to ourselves. No one pulled us aside and said, hey,
that thing between your legs, that's a portal, a source
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of knowing, a place of power. Instead, they just told
us to cross our legs, stay quiet, and hope somewhe
decent comes along to pick us, to validate us. But
you see, your body is an altar, your softness is strength,
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Your boundaries are divine, your hands are healing. Your words
are enchanted fucking spells, and your voice is the activation.
You are the gate, curl, the vessel, the source, the portal,
and somewhere deep down there's a part of you who's
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always known that. But the world has purposely ton of
number on you to try to make you forget your body.
Though oh she never forgot. She's been whispering to you
this whole time, in the tightness in your chest and
the lump in your throat, in the tears that fall
after sex that should have felt good in the subtle way,
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or the subtle ache when you say I just don't
feel like myself but you can't explain why. That isn't random.
That's your spirit asking you to come back home. So
think of this book as your return ticket, a way
back to the version of you that existed before the
world wrapped her in shame and silence and told her
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to sit down and be humble. Yes we won't talk
about sex, but not in the way that you might
be thinking, or in the way that you're used to
talking about it. We're going to talk about bleeding boundaries,
soul ties, moon cycles, and shadow work. And yes, we
gonna get a little spiritual and a little witchy, because
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guess what, every woman is spiritual, and every woman has
some witch in her. It's in our bloodline, it's in
our senses. It's in our everyday rituals, our cycles, and
our ability to feel things before they even make sense.
These things aren't things we've picked up along the way.
Quite the contrary. Actually, it's who we've always been. We
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are magical portals, and you just need a little help
remembering that chapter one. You were never meant to be casual.
There was a time, probably when you were still running
around and mismatched pajamas and lip gloss from Claire's, when
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your body belonged just to you, not to the world,
not their opinions, not their rules or their preferences. It
was fully yours. You didn't overthink how you looked in
a mirror. You weren't circulating. Sorry, you weren't calculating your
angles or pulling your shirt down or sucking anything in.
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Mirrors were for brushing your teeth or practicing your mood.
It was for a talent show you were putting on
for your family later on in the living room, not
for self assessment. You weren't shrinking yourself. You weren't dimming
your light, you weren't worried about being chosen. You were
just existing in your own skin and that was enough.
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But then the world crept in with its voice. And no,
it didn't yell at you right away, not all at once.
It snuck in like that one toxic ex smooth, subtle,
slowly turning up the volume until it became your new
background noise, a weird comment here, an uncomfortable stare there,
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Praise that came only when you were agreeable or quiet,
or accommodating, or acting how a lady was supposed to,
a few warnings not to be too fast, a few
jokes about being high maintenance. And then the culture chimed
in music, movies, TV, church, your cousin's at Thanksgiving, telling
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you to be desirable but not too direct about it,
because that's it turned off to men to be confident
but not complicated, because men like women who have humility.
So like most of us, you listened, and you started
editing yourself, not because you really wanted to, but because
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you thought you had to. Before you knew it, your
body did not feel like a home anymore. It felt
like a fucking project. Something to manage, something that always
needed tweaking and touching up and toning down. You adapted
and normalized it, because that's what girls are taught to do.
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You adjusted your tone, your walk, and your wants. You
got really good at smiling when you didn't even feel
like it. You stayed when you should have left. You
said yes when every inch of you wanted to say
hell fucking no. You called it love. Even though you,
you were the only one doing the emotional labor. You
told yourself you were chill, easygoing, low maintenance, because, let's
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be real, being labeled the opposite felt way too dangerous.
So you started downplaying your needs, minimizing your feelings, and
you convinced yourself that your discomfort wasn't a big deal,
even when it absolutely was. Then, somewhere along the way,
you started giving pieces of yourself away, and not just
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your body, but your mind, your energy, your spirit, and
your softness. You did it through over explaining when you
knew you shouldn't be overgiving when you knew you were
burning yourself out, keeping quiet when you knew you should
speak up, talking yourself into situations you knew you didn't
belong in. You started calling your intuition anxiety, brushing off
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your discomfort and calling it overthinking, and you told yourself
it's not that deep when you knew you were lying
to yourself all in the name of keeping the peace
with people who were more than happy to take from
you without ever replenishing you. This is just what relationships
are supposed to be. They're supposed to be hard. You're
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supposed to keep giving, You're supposed to keep doing, You're
supposed to keep sacrificing, you thought, And because that's what
so many women around you are and have been doing,
no one was able to sit you down and say, no,
that's not what relationships are supposed to be, actually, and
what the fuck is peace if it comes from the
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cost of you disconnecting from yourself. So you kept going,
kept allowing yourself to be stretched thin, kept allowing yourself
to be drained, until one day you looked in the
mirror and realized you don't even know who you really
are or what you really want anymore. You are so
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busy a just yourself to meet everyone else's wants, needs
and demands. You stop listening to yourself. We don't talk
about it enough. And in the ways that we need to,
because so many people only hear through the vibrations of
their wounds and triggers rather than their hearts and spirits.
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But that's the reality for a lot of women. They're
completely disconnected from themselves. And now we're in a world
in a culture that tells us to wear that disconnection
like a fucking badge of honor, a culture where casual
sex is marketed as no big deal and empowerment because
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we're supposed to give our bodies away, like we're offering
someone a sample at fucking costco. And if we dare
ask for some depth or meaning in return, we're quote
unquote doing too much, or we're being extra or my favorite,
we're being difficult. Casual is the name of the game.
Just be unbothered, be detached, be chill, have friends with benefits,
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just don't feel anything, be fucking numb to it all.
So now here we are so many women are walking
around numb and confused about what power really is, what
their power really is. A lot of women are having
sex all the time, but not a lot of women
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know what it feels to feel safe, seen, or truly
protected in that sex. Why again, because no one ever
sat us down and taught us. And if you've ever
thought or expected a man to teach you to show you,
let me clear. Some'm the numb for you right now.
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Most men, not all, but most don't care about how
you feel during sex, nor do they care about what
they're depositing inside you. Sure some of them might want
to make you moan and make you as we as
can be, but is that really for you or is
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it for their ego? And so the slide inside of
you ensures the maximum pleasure for them. I just want
you to sit with that for a minute and really
think about it. This is not about blame, and this
is definitely about shame either. This is about the truth.
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It's about finally being willing to name the stuff we've
been too tired or too polite to say, oh loud.
It's about having an honest conversation about what this culture
of disconnection and surface level intimacy is costing us, Because
let's be so fucking for real right now. It's costing
us a lot. It's costing us presents, it's costing us
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self trust, it's costing us the connections that we say
we want but no longer believe we deserve or even exist.
We've dressed up our depletion with buzzwords like empowerment, and
we can't keep doing that and calling it freedom. We
just can't. No one taught us how deep this really goes.
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No one told us that sex isn't just a physical act,
it is energetic. Nobody said, hey, uh, by the way,
you might feel off after sleeping with somebody because they
just drop their entire emotional baggage into your womb and bounced.
Nobody explained how your nervous system might flinch before your
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mouth does, or that your spirit might go silent when
it doesn't consent. They didn't teach us that saying yes
with your words means nothing if your body is saying
no with every muscle. Because we were just taught to
push through, to be nice, to not complain, to not
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make shit weird. And maybe you've been there. Maybe you've
shared your bed or your energy with someone who had
no business being near either. Maybe you called it chemistry
when it was really chaos. Maybe you stayed in a
vibe that felt hella off and told yourself that you
were just being dramatic. Maybe you said I'm good while
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crying in the shower the next morning. Maybe you've been
walking around with this dull ache in your chest because
you keep trying to feel a whole in spaces that
ask you to keep breaking off pieces of yourself just
to fit in. And if any of that resonates with you,
I need you to know so much of what you're
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carrying is not yours. It's inherited, it's cultural, it's collective.
It's years of messaging that told you to be seen
but not heard. It's a thousand and little compromises that
taught you to forget your own voice. And through it all,
your body, your home has been holding you. She's held
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the grief, the silence, the shame, and anything else you
haven't named. She's carried the weight of every I'm fine
you didn't mean, and every moment you stayed when you
should have left. And still she's here, still offering you
grace while waiting for you to come back home to her.
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You were never meant to work overtime just to feel loved.
You weren't designed to twist yourself into something easier for
people to digest. You weren't created to give and give
and give without ever being filled back up. You were
made to feel, to know, to sense, to move through
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life in your body, not just borrow it from time
to time like it's on a loan from a consignment store.
You were created for presents that doesn't need a co
sign and to tap into it and embrace the magic
in you. So no, girl, you are never ever meant
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to be casual, and maybe it's time you stop letting
people into your body and your mind and your spirit
like it is. You're already for some journal prompts? Yeah,
because you know, if I'm going to write a book,
any anything I read at this point is going to
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have some work. Okay, So go get go pause, pause
the episode. Pause, Well before you wait, wait, go get go,
get to journal in a pen. Okay, then come back. Okay,
you're ready. So in your journal, you're going to write
the following prompts and then you're going to answer them
all honestly. Okay, no lying to yourself. Okay, here we go.
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Number one, numero er, that's one in French. I should
give you guys some French lessons while I'm doing this. Well,
no one, anyway, it's okay. Number one. What were the
first things I picked up even without realizing about my body,
sex and what it meant to be wanted? Who planted
those ideas in me? And how did they mess with
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the way I see myself now? Number two noumeroder. Have
I ever felt like my body had to be the
quote unquote ticket to be loved, wanted, or even just noticed?
How did that mess with the way I see my
own worth? Number three? What parts of me have I hidden,
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edited or turned down just to feel chosen or liked?
And what would it feel like to turn those parts
back up again? Number four metal gatro, I'm kidding, that's
not That's not French. When I think about what's actually
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sacred to me? Do I even include my own body
in that list? If not? Why Number five sank? Where
have I treated myself like I was whatever physically, emotionally,
or even spiritually, when deep down I was never meant
to be casual about me? I'm finally Number six Nemesis.
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Who do I become when I stop trying to make
myself easier for other people to swallow? Okay? Chapter two
The purpose of your pussy girl? You look good? Won't
you back that ass up? If you're a millennial reading this,
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I know you to same it out, maybe even did
a little dance in your chair. Same girl, it's my
gem too, but hear me out real quick. From the beginning,
we were taught that our pussies existed for everyone but us,
that it was meant for sex, for reproduction, for keeping
him happy, close and coming back. We were taught to
think of her in terms of what she could do
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for someone else, not what she meant to us. She
got treated like a task, not part of us to
come home to. And when you spend enough time acting
like something doesn't really matter, eventually it doesn't for a
lot of us. The first time we ever heard her mentioned,
it either came soaked in shame or wrapped up in immaturity,
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like she was a joke, a secret, or something that
made everyone squirm just to say out loud. She was
something to hide, to manage, to keep clean, quiet and tight,
not something we were ever really taught to understand as worthy.
Beyond the ways her felt in school, she was a
diagram in church, she was a warning at home. She
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was either ignored or brought up only when it was
time for a lecture. With men, she was something they wanted,
something they felt entitled to possess, but almost never something
they actually honored. And if you're feeling a lot, a little,
or a lot upset right now at the women who
came before you, the ones who raised you, thinking why
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why didn't they talk to me, teach me better, you're
not alone. I had that same kind of anger, that
same question in my mind. But then I sat with it,
and the more I did, the more I realized they
weren't taught any better either, So how could they pass
down what they were never given? You know, That's why
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it's so important for us as women to be willing
to educate ourselves, to seek out other women, whether it's
through actual community or even books like this one, who
can teach us and speak to us not from the
projections of unhealed wounds or bitterness, but from the healing
they've done and the wisdom they've earned. So let me
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say this as clearly as possible. Da da duh. That's it.
That's all you guys are getting. That's not to be continued, No,
to be continued by you click the link in the
show notes. Okay, you click the link in the show notes,
and that's where you can find the book. It is
currently only available for ebook. It's gonna got time for
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these paperbacks just because Amazon focks with me a lot.
So is it going to be a paperback one day? Perhaps?
Is today the day? No? Will it be next month? No? No.
So you can go ahead and get in this ebook
and that's it. Copy the prompts to your own journal.
But yeah. Also, I think if you're listening to this
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and you have daughter, you know, even if you have boys,
but if you but let's do the daughters first. If
you have young daughters who are old enough in this,
like you know, thirteen fourteen, after you read this, obviously
use your own discernment. But I do think it's something
that slowly you should start teaching your young girls. And
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if you have boys, I just take the same way.
Slowly something you should start teaching your young boys. And
it's so what I'm saying. Obviously you want to teach
each of them for two different reasons, but at the
end of the day, they kind of meet in the middle,
you know what I mean. I think this is information
that we just don't talk about enough in the ways
that we need to. Like I said in the book, right,
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we don't talk about it in the ways that we
need to, and we end up with just a lot
of heartbroken women and a lot of women running around
thinking that men give them their powers. It drives me crazy.
It drives me nuts. And the reason why it's like
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it drives me that crazy is because I was her too,
I was you, I was them, I was women, you know,
And like I said in the book, once You, this
is why I'm such an advocate of your fucking inner work.
This is why I'm such an advocate. On a dick
dee talks. Take a dick detoks. Okay, get off the dick.
Some of y'all have dick appointments tonight. Cancel it, cancel
it it, and cancel that dick because it's probably not
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even a good dick. I don't even it's probably not
even a good dick. Cancel it, right. We need to
to have these detoks is to purge our bodies because
there's so much more that goes. It's so much, it's
so it's just so much deeper than we how do
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I say it? It's so much deeper than we then
we allow ourselves to go. Yet we suffer the consequences,
the ramifications from how deep it actually is. Year after
year after year after year. Does that make sense when
you're still in the thick of it, when you're still
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fucking with the same motherfuckers, when you're still doing the
same things, when you haven't tuned back into yourself right,
when you let other people continue plugging into you, plugging
into you, plugging into you, plugging into you. Because at
the end of the day, like a sell of time,
we as women are outlets. I don't get funing. I
have it, Telsey. We are outlets. We have holes. We
don't have a dangling Okay, okay, we cannot we don't
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have a dangling right, we don't. We are holes. We
get plugged into Oh my gosh, what please hold Sorry
those the doorbells to get the shadow to me? Anyways, sorry,
probably scared the shadow of y'all too, But anyways, we
get plugged into, right, and then we get deposited into
It's it's a whole it's a whole thing. It's a
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whole thing. So you know, I'm never here, like I
said in the book as well, I'm never here to
judge y'all, to be you know, sometimes i'd be some,
sometimes I be side no. But at the end of
the day, right, I I've been through this shit. Everything
I write are things that I've been through, things that
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I've awakened inside of me, and things that I know
that need to be shared. That's it, you know. Everything
I do is so that we can It's each one
teach one, right, each one teach one. So that's it.
I just think this is really important. And you know, also,
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I think I told y'all, you know, I turned forty
and I was like, Yeah, I'm gonna do all the things.
I'm gonna write about the thing I'm gonna talk about
all these things, all the things that I have, especially
when it comes to like, you know, I think the
last two years I've been a little bit more open
when it comes to my own spiritual gifts, spirituality, you know, rituals,
whatever the case may be. Right, I've been a little
bit more open, but I'm not I've still been been
(33:55):
guarded in a certain way publicly, know what I mean.
But I'm really in the space of my level. I
don't give a fuck. I am who I am, I
do what I do. I know what I know, I
got what I got, and I'm this little lot of mine.
I'm gonna let it shine because I know that it
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can help other women and also inspire other women to
crack themselves open, to find their own light and let
that shit shine to Okay, bright like a diamond, shouts
to Reha Fendi beauty. Okay, no asap rocky. Anyways, I
have to go now. But that book, the link will
(34:38):
be in the show notes. So go on and treat
yourself and just do the work. Please do the work
in it. Just do the homework. Please, just do the homework.
Don't skin past it, don't like really sit down intentionally,
let yourself a candle. Do the homework. Okay, make it
a thing. Do that. Also in other news, I've been
(35:02):
this has been being asked, This has been asked of me,
you know, for quite some time. But I so, y'all know,
I have my three month coaching program already three much.
My three month coaching program is called Dating with Dignity,
and you sign up for three months and we do
the work. You need to renew, you renew blasi blase right. However,
(35:26):
I have recently heard y'all and listened. I know that
everybody is not in a place where they can commit
to a whole three months. And sometimes you just you know,
sometimes shit is going on and you just need a
one off, right, or maybe you need a one some
month type of situation. Right. So I have created a
(35:51):
space for y'all for that. It is called the wake
Up Call. It's a one hour coaching call that you
could book whenever I have space open on my calendar.
And in this call, it could be you know, an anything,
well not anything Calm down, Calm the fuck down before
some of you, I can't say that. If it's dating,
fine relationships. It could be shadow work, it could be
inner work. It could be for my ladies who are
(36:12):
trying to build their own coaching businesses. I know that
that has come up a lot as well recently. So
if you need some help with that, come on in.
You can book a call. If you need to help
writing a book, if you need like you as I'm saying,
just if you suicidal, please you need to get some
professional help. I'm not hurt. I'm just saying if you have,
like like you're having a real mental health crisis, like
(36:33):
this coaching call is not for that, and that needs
to be said, Okay. It's also in the terms and
conditions of checkout. In the terms and conditions. Yeah, yeah,
you know, like I'm not I can't help you with
that stuff. So there's it lists in the booking schedule,
like what the topics that you can come with right
(36:53):
that you need help with inner work, shadow work like that.
If you have questions about like you know, you're starting
a terrible business, is you're whatever in those realms like
I said, dating, relationships, confidence, social media marketing as well,
if you are trying to get your business off the
ground and you're like, what the fuck do I do?
You know, if you're if you're already a coach, if
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you're a therapist and you're trying to utilize social media
to get your word out there. You know, your girl's
been in the game for eleven years now, I know
what I'm doing. So yeah, So that call is there
for that, and like I said, you could book it
anytime you need it. If you see the calendar space
on the calendar, go on ahead. So yeah, and in
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that call, well at check out, there's going to be
a section, a little section where you can write what
it is that you need help with, so that when
I see the booking I can be like, okay, I
could get an idea of how to help you before
we even get into the call. And then we'll get
into the call, we'll talk about it and then I'm
going to give you homework. I'm going to give you
actionable steps. I'm going to give you to do. So. Yeah,
(38:02):
so that is available as well, and I'll leave that
in the show notes as well. So that's this is.
This is all my updates. Do I have any other updates?
Let me think, let me clare my throat. Oh, you're
probably like, b where's the other fucking book that you're writing,
(38:23):
Joy in Life Simple Moments. Oh, it's there. I just
I have adhd guys. Okay, then I had an idea
for but that one's that one is finished. I just
have to I just have to go back over it.
And but it is finished. Oh, I guess I could
(38:45):
do that this week maybe. But anyways, So there's that.
I'm trying to think if there's anything else I gotta
tell y'all. I don't know. Oh, I have some shadows
to do. I have some shadows to do. There are
some of my clients moms who listen to me, and
I love that so much. So shout out to Amanda
and Amanda's mom missus orties. Hello, Hi. Shout out to
(39:08):
the moms to be listening to me, Shout to the
aunties that be listening to me, and shout out to
y'all for putting your your moms and your aunts onto me.
I really appreciate that. It's really it makes me blush
a little bit. Surely. I'm like, your mom is a
sick day. Your mom makes me flush a little bit.
So I appreciate y'all. And I want to give a
shout out to all of my clients as well, Like,
(39:30):
honestly and truly shout out to Danaya, shout out to Aliyah,
shout out to shout out to Amanda, shout out to Hilaris. Oh,
I'm missing people. Shout out to Christina. Christina, I always
do that to her. She's like, Okay, shut up, now
be Devin, Tiffany Destiny who just started working with me. Adore,
(39:51):
adore her, adore her, Hilaris Natasha, Am I missing somebody?
I should go check me? This a lot going on, Okay,
there's a lot going on. But anyway, shout out to
your shout out to my name because I'm fucking missing people.
But but shout out to all my ladies. I am
(40:14):
missing somebody Eva, I mean Issa. Shout out to Lisa, fuck,
but shout out to all my ladies, because I'm so
proud of everybody who is you know, whether you're working
with me, whether you're working with someone else, whether you're
working with yourself, whatever you're doing. I'm just really proud,
and I'm the women who are working with me are there.
(40:35):
They're dead ass about changing their life, right, They're so
serious about their shit and they are I know I
say it all the time, but I feel so I'm
getting emotional. Yeah, I feel I feel very honored. I
feel super honored to be a part of their journey
(40:57):
in this way. It's it's a beautiful, beautiful thing to
see where they started and like to see where they
are now. And they're relentless and they're dedicated and they're
committed to themselves, and I just I feel very honored
to be part of everybody's journey. And I feel honored
(41:18):
to be part of your journey. Even if you're not
a client and you're just listening and you've been tuned
in and I've helped you in some way, shape or form,
help you get your shit together in some way shape
or form, just by listening to the podcast or reading
the books, doing the journal work, so on and so forth.
I feel so so, so so honored, and I'm really
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am walking in my purpose and it. I know I've
had my own struggles over the years and trying to
find my footing, but you know, I think about it now.
But I just wanted to take a moment to say
that because one of my clients today she said to me,
she's just she said something very very very kind to me,
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and you know, I get really touched by that and
stuff because I'm a piscis and shit. But you know,
so I just wanted to say that. I just want
to end it on that note. And and that's it. Okay,
So I'll be back sooner than later. I'll backcident then later.
I have a bunch of stuff saved in my phone
(42:29):
of things I want to talk about in the month
of April, So I will be back sooner than later.
In the meantime, go get the book again. If you
need a one off coaching, you can click the all
you can find it. Everything will be in the show notes.
If you want to do the three month program, that'll
be in the show notes too, and that is it, y'all. Okay, okay,
(42:51):
I appreciate y'all. I hope that you guys have a
good rest of your morning's evenings, afternoons or y'all are
in the world, Please be safe, use kind of stress,
your intuition, and use your discernment, and I will catch
y'all on the next episode, sending y'all much love. He'll
be great.
Well, well, well, Lukhu decided to pop back up and
grace y'all with their presence. I know that such you
be thinking when you see that I upload a new episode. Hi.
Still don't have a new intro yet, still working on it.
Don't even have any let me tell y'all something. Don't
even have any background tracks like music, because I opened
(00:20):
up my studio today and all the uploaded tracks music.
My my horn is gone, so that's fun. So yeah,
I guess the system rebooted, so I don't know. I
don't know. But anyways, I'm here. Hi. Hi, if it's
(00:41):
the first time here, Hi, welcome. My name is CCB,
but you could just call me B. I'm forty years young,
Thank you very much, and I am known in these
streets as the Internet Big Exist or if you follow
my substack, one of them, both of them, your favorite
truth teller. Anyways, I hope that you guys are having
a great day today. And because I don't have an
official proper intro, think of this as a long voice
(01:04):
note from your bestie. That's how we gotta do things, Okay,
you just got to You just gotta go with the flow.
You gotta use what you've got, Okay, you gotta use
what you've got, and if it's your first time here.
I have a co host. His name is Bentley. He's
my one hundred and at this point fifty seven pound
Saint Bernard. So we're gonna do our best so he
(01:25):
doesn't become a co host, but every now and then
he enters the chat. So we're gonna do our best. Okay.
So I did a thing. Y'all know, when I disappear
for long moments of time, I go into hibernation and
I come back out with something. I did something, very
much something, and I have been am I from everywhere
(01:46):
for the most part. I haven't been on any of
my substacks. I looked and I was like, oh fuck
last night host. It was like April third. But I
have been very obsessed, hyper focused with finishing this thing
that I started and I wanted to see it through.
So I wrote a book called Your Pussy Is a Portal. Yeah,
(02:06):
And we talked about this a little bit on one
of my Instagram lives some time ago, and I think
maybe I spoke about it here too. I don't know,
but I'm going to tell you right now because I'm
going to read it, not all of it, don't be crazy,
but I'm going to read you some of it. And
if you and you know, I know that everybody believes
(02:26):
different things and so on and so forth, and I'm
super califragilistic, ex melidocious respected. So if you're somebody who
is listening and you are not into any type of
like spirituality, any rituals, witchy shit, do you know what
I mean? The moon phases, soul highs, whatever the case
may be, then you might want to skip this episode.
(02:47):
It's not going to be for you. And guess what
that is. Okay, that is okay. But if you're listening
to this and you're like, yeah, let's go been waiting
for you to chop into this much, then by all means,
grab a snack, a juice box, or a glass of wine,
pull up a chair, and I will be it's giving audiobook.
(03:11):
This is audible, Okay, pull it together. Okay. By the way,
if you are already subscribed to my substact, if we're
being honest, then you have already gotten the intro because
I posted it there. But I'm going to read the
intro and all of chapter one. Okay, here we go,
(03:35):
your pussy is a portal, and he was lucky to
have been let in the portal. You forgot you were
pussy power. I was scrolling through Instagram one day and
stopped on a post about dating. The quote was dark
pink with a light pink background, and in big bold letters,
it said pussy power. My eyes dropped to the caption
(03:58):
and it read, Lady, when you're out here dating these men,
never forget that our pussies have the power to bring
them to their fucking knees. I felt irritation rise in
my throat the way vomit does right before your body's
like psych. We not go through a right now, girl,
but we might soon. I rolled my eyes, closed the
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app and sat with it. Why am I so irritated?
I could have dismissed it, but I don't do that
with my feelings. I'm Hella curious about why I feel
the things I do, and I like to trace them
so I can get to the root. Yeah. I'm an author,
but that's only one hat I wear. I'm also a
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life coach for women. And if there's one thing I
know for sure, it's that irritation isn't just a symptom
there's always something deeper underneath it. So I got up,
shuffled over to my laptop, still open with forty seven
tabs on display like a museum of my brain, and
found what I was looking for, the feelings wheel. Irritated
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isn't on the wheel, but annoyed is. So I followed it.
Annoyed led to frustrated, then frustrated led right to angry.
Am I angry? Yep? My inner voice answered immediately. What
part of the post made me angry? I asked myself,
and without skipping a beat, my inner voice said that
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the phrase pussy power gets thrown around like it's the
secret sauce to everything from manifesting, from manifesting a man
to getting a free vacation, that its connection is always
tied to a fucking man. And now that you know better,
that you've learned better, you wish you were able to
share with other women what you've learned about what true
pussy power really is. I looked out the window at
(05:47):
nothing in particular while I sat with what my inner
voice had just said. Inside, You're right, I am angry
about it. I want to grab a megaphone, hop in
the car, and drive through neighborhoods yelling I'll know which
woman needs to hear this right now. But your pussy
isn't just a hole for men to stick their flabby
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dix in. Your pussy is quite lecholais a magical portal,
and the sooner you wake up to that, the less
stress you'd have in your life. But I'd probably get
arrested for disturbing the piece, ironic considering most women don't
have don't know what real peace is because instead of
learning how to access our own wisdom, our own magic,
(06:31):
our own power, we're online arguing about fucking situationships how
to get a stupid man in fifty to fifty dynamics
with men who aren't even worth the time of day.
So I did what I always do when I've got
something real to say. I alchemized my anger, turned it
into passion, then turned that into a book, because that's
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one of the ways I use my magic. So, in
case this is your first time here, hello, Hi, I
AMCCB your internet pixes, but most people just call me BE.
My readers know me for being raw, honest and down
to tell the truth, even when it's a little or
a lot uncomfortable. They also know that everything I write
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is made specifically to help women be better for themselves,
whether that means healing, getting more honest, or just waking
the fuck up. They know my mission, my literal calling,
is to help women in the best ways that I
know how, and this book is no different. I'm all
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for women tapping into their sensuality and feeling themselves for real,
for real, I truly love that for us. But if
you pay attention, a lot of what's being labeled as
empowerment is still circling right back to the same old thing. Sex.
More specifically, how to use sex to get what you
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want from a man, how to be desired by men,
how to get the upper hand over a man, how
to make a man lose his mind, miss you, or
regret fumbling you. Our bodies are always being used for
something that benefits fucking men, and that's actually where our
soul called pussy power ends. But what if I told
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you your pussy wasn't just for sex. What if it
had absolutely nothing to do with how many heads you
turn or how desired you are by someone else. What
if I told you that it's not about performance at all. Look,
I'm not here to judge you, because I didn't always
know that either. For a long time, I genuinely thought
(08:45):
my body was something I should use us leverage, Like
if I could make someone want me, that meant I
was valuable. If I could withhold sex that gave me control,
and if I gave it too soon, well maybe that
would help lock something in. I spent years letting so
called boyfriends in who didn't value me, who didn't see me,
(09:07):
who had no business accessing me at all. And the
wild part, I didn't even know how to access myself.
Back then. I knew how to be wanted, but not
how to be with me, not in a deep, grounded,
soul connected type of way. But that'll start to shift
(09:27):
the moment I finally learned what it meant to feel
safe in my body. Not cute, not confident in the selfie,
I mean safe, like dropped in, fully present, no more pretending.
And that's when it hit me. My body wasn't just
a body. It was a portal, a living, breathing, magical
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channel of wisdom for power, for creation. And once I
felt that, I mean really felt it, I couldn't unfeel it.
When I started sinking with the moon, when I noticed
how energy moved through my womb. When I stopped shrinking
myself to make other people comfortable, something in me woke up,
something ancient, and that's why it was important for me
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to write this book. There are two. There are too
many women walking around disconnected from the most sacred, powerful
part of who they are. Too many of us have
no idea what we're actually carrying. From the time we're little,
we're taught how to be picked, how to be nice,
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how to make people comfortable. We're trained to tone it
down people like, want things, but don't want too much,
Speak but don't speak too loudly, Be pretty but not intimidating.
Be sexy, but never sacred. We're taught how to look
good and listen to others, but never taught how to
listen to ourselves. No one pulled us aside and said, hey,
that thing between your legs, that's a portal, a source
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of knowing, a place of power. Instead, they just told
us to cross our legs, stay quiet, and hope somewhe
decent comes along to pick us, to validate us. But
you see, your body is an altar, your softness is strength,
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Your boundaries are divine, your hands are healing. Your words
are enchanted fucking spells, and your voice is the activation.
You are the gate, curl, the vessel, the source, the portal,
and somewhere deep down there's a part of you who's
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always known that. But the world has purposely ton of
number on you to try to make you forget your body.
Though oh she never forgot. She's been whispering to you
this whole time, in the tightness in your chest and
the lump in your throat, in the tears that fall
after sex that should have felt good in the subtle way,
(12:06):
or the subtle ache when you say I just don't
feel like myself but you can't explain why. That isn't random.
That's your spirit asking you to come back home. So
think of this book as your return ticket, a way
back to the version of you that existed before the
world wrapped her in shame and silence and told her
(12:30):
to sit down and be humble. Yes we won't talk
about sex, but not in the way that you might
be thinking, or in the way that you're used to
talking about it. We're going to talk about bleeding boundaries,
soul ties, moon cycles, and shadow work. And yes, we
gonna get a little spiritual and a little witchy, because
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guess what, every woman is spiritual, and every woman has
some witch in her. It's in our bloodline, it's in
our senses. It's in our everyday rituals, our cycles, and
our ability to feel things before they even make sense.
These things aren't things we've picked up along the way.
Quite the contrary. Actually, it's who we've always been. We
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are magical portals, and you just need a little help
remembering that chapter one. You were never meant to be casual.
There was a time, probably when you were still running
around and mismatched pajamas and lip gloss from Claire's, when
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your body belonged just to you, not to the world,
not their opinions, not their rules or their preferences. It
was fully yours. You didn't overthink how you looked in
a mirror. You weren't circulating. Sorry, you weren't calculating your
angles or pulling your shirt down or sucking anything in.
(13:57):
Mirrors were for brushing your teeth or practicing your mood.
It was for a talent show you were putting on
for your family later on in the living room, not
for self assessment. You weren't shrinking yourself. You weren't dimming
your light, you weren't worried about being chosen. You were
just existing in your own skin and that was enough.
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But then the world crept in with its voice. And no,
it didn't yell at you right away, not all at once.
It snuck in like that one toxic ex smooth, subtle,
slowly turning up the volume until it became your new
background noise, a weird comment here, an uncomfortable stare there,
(14:38):
Praise that came only when you were agreeable or quiet,
or accommodating, or acting how a lady was supposed to,
a few warnings not to be too fast, a few
jokes about being high maintenance. And then the culture chimed
in music, movies, TV, church, your cousin's at Thanksgiving, telling
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you to be desirable but not too direct about it,
because that's it turned off to men to be confident
but not complicated, because men like women who have humility.
So like most of us, you listened, and you started
editing yourself, not because you really wanted to, but because
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you thought you had to. Before you knew it, your
body did not feel like a home anymore. It felt
like a fucking project. Something to manage, something that always
needed tweaking and touching up and toning down. You adapted
and normalized it, because that's what girls are taught to do.
(15:43):
You adjusted your tone, your walk, and your wants. You
got really good at smiling when you didn't even feel
like it. You stayed when you should have left. You
said yes when every inch of you wanted to say
hell fucking no. You called it love. Even though you,
you were the only one doing the emotional labor. You
told yourself you were chill, easygoing, low maintenance, because, let's
(16:06):
be real, being labeled the opposite felt way too dangerous.
So you started downplaying your needs, minimizing your feelings, and
you convinced yourself that your discomfort wasn't a big deal,
even when it absolutely was. Then, somewhere along the way,
you started giving pieces of yourself away, and not just
(16:29):
your body, but your mind, your energy, your spirit, and
your softness. You did it through over explaining when you
knew you shouldn't be overgiving when you knew you were
burning yourself out, keeping quiet when you knew you should
speak up, talking yourself into situations you knew you didn't
belong in. You started calling your intuition anxiety, brushing off
(16:54):
your discomfort and calling it overthinking, and you told yourself
it's not that deep when you knew you were lying
to yourself all in the name of keeping the peace
with people who were more than happy to take from
you without ever replenishing you. This is just what relationships
are supposed to be. They're supposed to be hard. You're
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supposed to keep giving, You're supposed to keep doing, You're
supposed to keep sacrificing, you thought, And because that's what
so many women around you are and have been doing,
no one was able to sit you down and say, no,
that's not what relationships are supposed to be, actually, and
what the fuck is peace if it comes from the
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cost of you disconnecting from yourself. So you kept going,
kept allowing yourself to be stretched thin, kept allowing yourself
to be drained, until one day you looked in the
mirror and realized you don't even know who you really
are or what you really want anymore. You are so
(17:58):
busy a just yourself to meet everyone else's wants, needs
and demands. You stop listening to yourself. We don't talk
about it enough. And in the ways that we need to,
because so many people only hear through the vibrations of
their wounds and triggers rather than their hearts and spirits.
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But that's the reality for a lot of women. They're
completely disconnected from themselves. And now we're in a world
in a culture that tells us to wear that disconnection
like a fucking badge of honor, a culture where casual
sex is marketed as no big deal and empowerment because
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we're supposed to give our bodies away, like we're offering
someone a sample at fucking costco. And if we dare
ask for some depth or meaning in return, we're quote
unquote doing too much, or we're being extra or my favorite,
we're being difficult. Casual is the name of the game.
Just be unbothered, be detached, be chill, have friends with benefits,
(19:06):
just don't feel anything, be fucking numb to it all.
So now here we are so many women are walking
around numb and confused about what power really is, what
their power really is. A lot of women are having
sex all the time, but not a lot of women
(19:26):
know what it feels to feel safe, seen, or truly
protected in that sex. Why again, because no one ever
sat us down and taught us. And if you've ever
thought or expected a man to teach you to show you,
let me clear. Some'm the numb for you right now.
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Most men, not all, but most don't care about how
you feel during sex, nor do they care about what
they're depositing inside you. Sure some of them might want
to make you moan and make you as we as
can be, but is that really for you or is
(20:10):
it for their ego? And so the slide inside of
you ensures the maximum pleasure for them. I just want
you to sit with that for a minute and really
think about it. This is not about blame, and this
is definitely about shame either. This is about the truth.
(20:31):
It's about finally being willing to name the stuff we've
been too tired or too polite to say, oh loud.
It's about having an honest conversation about what this culture
of disconnection and surface level intimacy is costing us, Because
let's be so fucking for real right now. It's costing
us a lot. It's costing us presents, it's costing us
(20:54):
self trust, it's costing us the connections that we say
we want but no longer believe we deserve or even exist.
We've dressed up our depletion with buzzwords like empowerment, and
we can't keep doing that and calling it freedom. We
just can't. No one taught us how deep this really goes.
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No one told us that sex isn't just a physical act,
it is energetic. Nobody said, hey, uh, by the way,
you might feel off after sleeping with somebody because they
just drop their entire emotional baggage into your womb and bounced.
Nobody explained how your nervous system might flinch before your
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mouth does, or that your spirit might go silent when
it doesn't consent. They didn't teach us that saying yes
with your words means nothing if your body is saying
no with every muscle. Because we were just taught to
push through, to be nice, to not complain, to not
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make shit weird. And maybe you've been there. Maybe you've
shared your bed or your energy with someone who had
no business being near either. Maybe you called it chemistry
when it was really chaos. Maybe you stayed in a
vibe that felt hella off and told yourself that you
were just being dramatic. Maybe you said I'm good while
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crying in the shower the next morning. Maybe you've been
walking around with this dull ache in your chest because
you keep trying to feel a whole in spaces that
ask you to keep breaking off pieces of yourself just
to fit in. And if any of that resonates with you,
I need you to know so much of what you're
(22:47):
carrying is not yours. It's inherited, it's cultural, it's collective.
It's years of messaging that told you to be seen
but not heard. It's a thousand and little compromises that
taught you to forget your own voice. And through it all,
your body, your home has been holding you. She's held
(23:10):
the grief, the silence, the shame, and anything else you
haven't named. She's carried the weight of every I'm fine
you didn't mean, and every moment you stayed when you
should have left. And still she's here, still offering you
grace while waiting for you to come back home to her.
(23:33):
You were never meant to work overtime just to feel loved.
You weren't designed to twist yourself into something easier for
people to digest. You weren't created to give and give
and give without ever being filled back up. You were
made to feel, to know, to sense, to move through
(23:58):
life in your body, not just borrow it from time
to time like it's on a loan from a consignment store.
You were created for presents that doesn't need a co
sign and to tap into it and embrace the magic
in you. So no, girl, you are never ever meant
(24:20):
to be casual, and maybe it's time you stop letting
people into your body and your mind and your spirit
like it is. You're already for some journal prompts? Yeah,
because you know, if I'm going to write a book,
any anything I read at this point is going to
(24:41):
have some work. Okay, So go get go pause, pause
the episode. Pause, Well before you wait, wait, go get go,
get to journal in a pen. Okay, then come back. Okay,
you're ready. So in your journal, you're going to write
the following prompts and then you're going to answer them
all honestly. Okay, no lying to yourself. Okay, here we go.
(25:05):
Number one, numero er, that's one in French. I should
give you guys some French lessons while I'm doing this. Well,
no one, anyway, it's okay. Number one. What were the
first things I picked up even without realizing about my body,
sex and what it meant to be wanted? Who planted
those ideas in me? And how did they mess with
(25:27):
the way I see myself now? Number two noumeroder. Have
I ever felt like my body had to be the
quote unquote ticket to be loved, wanted, or even just noticed?
How did that mess with the way I see my
own worth? Number three? What parts of me have I hidden,
(25:50):
edited or turned down just to feel chosen or liked?
And what would it feel like to turn those parts
back up again? Number four metal gatro, I'm kidding, that's
not That's not French. When I think about what's actually
(26:11):
sacred to me? Do I even include my own body
in that list? If not? Why Number five sank? Where
have I treated myself like I was whatever physically, emotionally,
or even spiritually, when deep down I was never meant
to be casual about me? I'm finally Number six Nemesis.
(26:37):
Who do I become when I stop trying to make
myself easier for other people to swallow? Okay? Chapter two
The purpose of your pussy girl? You look good? Won't
you back that ass up? If you're a millennial reading this,
(26:58):
I know you to same it out, maybe even did
a little dance in your chair. Same girl, it's my
gem too, but hear me out real quick. From the beginning,
we were taught that our pussies existed for everyone but us,
that it was meant for sex, for reproduction, for keeping
him happy, close and coming back. We were taught to
think of her in terms of what she could do
(27:20):
for someone else, not what she meant to us. She
got treated like a task, not part of us to
come home to. And when you spend enough time acting
like something doesn't really matter, eventually it doesn't for a
lot of us. The first time we ever heard her mentioned,
it either came soaked in shame or wrapped up in immaturity,
(27:44):
like she was a joke, a secret, or something that
made everyone squirm just to say out loud. She was
something to hide, to manage, to keep clean, quiet and tight,
not something we were ever really taught to understand as worthy.
Beyond the ways her felt in school, she was a
diagram in church, she was a warning at home. She
(28:06):
was either ignored or brought up only when it was
time for a lecture. With men, she was something they wanted,
something they felt entitled to possess, but almost never something
they actually honored. And if you're feeling a lot, a little,
or a lot upset right now at the women who
came before you, the ones who raised you, thinking why
(28:28):
why didn't they talk to me, teach me better, you're
not alone. I had that same kind of anger, that
same question in my mind. But then I sat with it,
and the more I did, the more I realized they
weren't taught any better either, So how could they pass
down what they were never given? You know, That's why
(28:48):
it's so important for us as women to be willing
to educate ourselves, to seek out other women, whether it's
through actual community or even books like this one, who
can teach us and speak to us not from the
projections of unhealed wounds or bitterness, but from the healing
they've done and the wisdom they've earned. So let me
(29:09):
say this as clearly as possible. Da da duh. That's it.
That's all you guys are getting. That's not to be continued, No,
to be continued by you click the link in the
show notes. Okay, you click the link in the show notes,
and that's where you can find the book. It is
currently only available for ebook. It's gonna got time for
(29:33):
these paperbacks just because Amazon focks with me a lot.
So is it going to be a paperback one day? Perhaps?
Is today the day? No? Will it be next month? No? No.
So you can go ahead and get in this ebook
and that's it. Copy the prompts to your own journal.
But yeah. Also, I think if you're listening to this
(29:58):
and you have daughter, you know, even if you have boys,
but if you but let's do the daughters first. If
you have young daughters who are old enough in this,
like you know, thirteen fourteen, after you read this, obviously
use your own discernment. But I do think it's something
that slowly you should start teaching your young girls. And
(30:20):
if you have boys, I just take the same way.
Slowly something you should start teaching your young boys. And
it's so what I'm saying. Obviously you want to teach
each of them for two different reasons, but at the
end of the day, they kind of meet in the middle,
you know what I mean. I think this is information
that we just don't talk about enough in the ways
that we need to. Like I said in the book, right,
(30:41):
we don't talk about it in the ways that we
need to, and we end up with just a lot
of heartbroken women and a lot of women running around
thinking that men give them their powers. It drives me crazy.
It drives me nuts. And the reason why it's like
(31:05):
it drives me that crazy is because I was her too,
I was you, I was them, I was women, you know,
And like I said in the book, once You, this
is why I'm such an advocate of your fucking inner work.
This is why I'm such an advocate. On a dick
dee talks. Take a dick detoks. Okay, get off the dick.
Some of y'all have dick appointments tonight. Cancel it, cancel
it it, and cancel that dick because it's probably not
(31:29):
even a good dick. I don't even it's probably not
even a good dick. Cancel it, right. We need to
to have these detoks is to purge our bodies because
there's so much more that goes. It's so much, it's
so it's just so much deeper than we how do
(31:49):
I say it? It's so much deeper than we then
we allow ourselves to go. Yet we suffer the consequences,
the ramifications from how deep it actually is. Year after
year after year after year. Does that make sense when
you're still in the thick of it, when you're still
(32:10):
fucking with the same motherfuckers, when you're still doing the
same things, when you haven't tuned back into yourself right,
when you let other people continue plugging into you, plugging
into you, plugging into you, plugging into you. Because at
the end of the day, like a sell of time,
we as women are outlets. I don't get funing. I
have it, Telsey. We are outlets. We have holes. We
don't have a dangling Okay, okay, we cannot we don't
(32:31):
have a dangling right, we don't. We are holes. We
get plugged into Oh my gosh, what please hold Sorry
those the doorbells to get the shadow to me? Anyways, sorry,
probably scared the shadow of y'all too, But anyways, we
get plugged into, right, and then we get deposited into
It's it's a whole it's a whole thing. It's a
(32:52):
whole thing. So you know, I'm never here, like I
said in the book as well, I'm never here to
judge y'all, to be you know, sometimes i'd be some,
sometimes I be side no. But at the end of
the day, right, I I've been through this shit. Everything
I write are things that I've been through, things that
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I've awakened inside of me, and things that I know
that need to be shared. That's it, you know. Everything
I do is so that we can It's each one
teach one, right, each one teach one. So that's it.
I just think this is really important. And you know, also,
(33:33):
I think I told y'all, you know, I turned forty
and I was like, Yeah, I'm gonna do all the things.
I'm gonna write about the thing I'm gonna talk about
all these things, all the things that I have, especially
when it comes to like, you know, I think the
last two years I've been a little bit more open
when it comes to my own spiritual gifts, spirituality, you know, rituals,
whatever the case may be. Right, I've been a little
bit more open, but I'm not I've still been been
(33:55):
guarded in a certain way publicly, know what I mean.
But I'm really in the space of my level. I
don't give a fuck. I am who I am, I
do what I do. I know what I know, I
got what I got, and I'm this little lot of mine.
I'm gonna let it shine because I know that it
(34:15):
can help other women and also inspire other women to
crack themselves open, to find their own light and let
that shit shine to Okay, bright like a diamond, shouts
to Reha Fendi beauty. Okay, no asap rocky. Anyways, I
have to go now. But that book, the link will
(34:38):
be in the show notes. So go on and treat
yourself and just do the work. Please do the work
in it. Just do the homework. Please, just do the homework.
Don't skin past it, don't like really sit down intentionally,
let yourself a candle. Do the homework. Okay, make it
a thing. Do that. Also in other news, I've been
(35:02):
this has been being asked, This has been asked of me,
you know, for quite some time. But I so, y'all know,
I have my three month coaching program already three much.
My three month coaching program is called Dating with Dignity,
and you sign up for three months and we do
the work. You need to renew, you renew blasi blase right. However,
(35:26):
I have recently heard y'all and listened. I know that
everybody is not in a place where they can commit
to a whole three months. And sometimes you just you know,
sometimes shit is going on and you just need a
one off, right, or maybe you need a one some
month type of situation. Right. So I have created a
(35:51):
space for y'all for that. It is called the wake
Up Call. It's a one hour coaching call that you
could book whenever I have space open on my calendar.
And in this call, it could be you know, an anything,
well not anything Calm down, Calm the fuck down before
some of you, I can't say that. If it's dating,
fine relationships. It could be shadow work, it could be
inner work. It could be for my ladies who are
(36:12):
trying to build their own coaching businesses. I know that
that has come up a lot as well recently. So
if you need some help with that, come on in.
You can book a call. If you need to help
writing a book, if you need like you as I'm saying,
just if you suicidal, please you need to get some
professional help. I'm not hurt. I'm just saying if you have,
like like you're having a real mental health crisis, like
(36:33):
this coaching call is not for that, and that needs
to be said, Okay. It's also in the terms and
conditions of checkout. In the terms and conditions. Yeah, yeah,
you know, like I'm not I can't help you with
that stuff. So there's it lists in the booking schedule,
like what the topics that you can come with right
(36:53):
that you need help with inner work, shadow work like that.
If you have questions about like you know, you're starting
a terrible business, is you're whatever in those realms like
I said, dating, relationships, confidence, social media marketing as well,
if you are trying to get your business off the
ground and you're like, what the fuck do I do?
You know, if you're if you're already a coach, if
(37:13):
you're a therapist and you're trying to utilize social media
to get your word out there. You know, your girl's
been in the game for eleven years now, I know
what I'm doing. So yeah, So that call is there
for that, and like I said, you could book it
anytime you need it. If you see the calendar space
on the calendar, go on ahead. So yeah, and in
(37:39):
that call, well at check out, there's going to be
a section, a little section where you can write what
it is that you need help with, so that when
I see the booking I can be like, okay, I
could get an idea of how to help you before
we even get into the call. And then we'll get
into the call, we'll talk about it and then I'm
going to give you homework. I'm going to give you
actionable steps. I'm going to give you to do. So. Yeah,
(38:02):
so that is available as well, and I'll leave that
in the show notes as well. So that's this is.
This is all my updates. Do I have any other updates?
Let me think, let me clare my throat. Oh, you're
probably like, b where's the other fucking book that you're writing,
(38:23):
Joy in Life Simple Moments. Oh, it's there. I just
I have adhd guys. Okay, then I had an idea
for but that one's that one is finished. I just
have to I just have to go back over it.
And but it is finished. Oh, I guess I could
(38:45):
do that this week maybe. But anyways, So there's that.
I'm trying to think if there's anything else I gotta
tell y'all. I don't know. Oh, I have some shadows
to do. I have some shadows to do. There are
some of my clients moms who listen to me, and
I love that so much. So shout out to Amanda
and Amanda's mom missus orties. Hello, Hi. Shout out to
(39:08):
the moms to be listening to me, Shout to the
aunties that be listening to me, and shout out to
y'all for putting your your moms and your aunts onto me.
I really appreciate that. It's really it makes me blush
a little bit. Surely. I'm like, your mom is a
sick day. Your mom makes me flush a little bit.
So I appreciate y'all. And I want to give a
shout out to all of my clients as well, Like,
(39:30):
honestly and truly shout out to Danaya, shout out to Aliyah,
shout out to shout out to Amanda, shout out to Hilaris. Oh,
I'm missing people. Shout out to Christina. Christina, I always
do that to her. She's like, Okay, shut up, now
be Devin, Tiffany Destiny who just started working with me. Adore,
(39:51):
adore her, adore her, Hilaris Natasha, Am I missing somebody?
I should go check me? This a lot going on, Okay,
there's a lot going on. But anyway, shout out to
your shout out to my name because I'm fucking missing people.
But but shout out to all my ladies. I am
(40:14):
missing somebody Eva, I mean Issa. Shout out to Lisa, fuck,
but shout out to all my ladies, because I'm so
proud of everybody who is you know, whether you're working
with me, whether you're working with someone else, whether you're
working with yourself, whatever you're doing. I'm just really proud,
and I'm the women who are working with me are there.
(40:35):
They're dead ass about changing their life, right, They're so
serious about their shit and they are I know I
say it all the time, but I feel so I'm
getting emotional. Yeah, I feel I feel very honored. I
feel super honored to be a part of their journey
(40:57):
in this way. It's it's a beautiful, beautiful thing to
see where they started and like to see where they
are now. And they're relentless and they're dedicated and they're
committed to themselves, and I just I feel very honored
to be part of everybody's journey. And I feel honored
(41:18):
to be part of your journey. Even if you're not
a client and you're just listening and you've been tuned
in and I've helped you in some way, shape or form,
help you get your shit together in some way shape
or form, just by listening to the podcast or reading
the books, doing the journal work, so on and so forth.
I feel so so, so so honored, and I'm really
(41:41):
am walking in my purpose and it. I know I've
had my own struggles over the years and trying to
find my footing, but you know, I think about it now.
But I just wanted to take a moment to say
that because one of my clients today she said to me,
she's just she said something very very very kind to me,
(42:09):
and you know, I get really touched by that and
stuff because I'm a piscis and shit. But you know,
so I just wanted to say that. I just want
to end it on that note. And and that's it. Okay,
So I'll be back sooner than later. I'll backcident then later.
I have a bunch of stuff saved in my phone
(42:29):
of things I want to talk about in the month
of April, So I will be back sooner than later.
In the meantime, go get the book again. If you
need a one off coaching, you can click the all
you can find it. Everything will be in the show notes.
If you want to do the three month program, that'll
be in the show notes too, and that is it, y'all. Okay, okay,
(42:51):
I appreciate y'all. I hope that you guys have a
good rest of your morning's evenings, afternoons or y'all are
in the world, Please be safe, use kind of stress,
your intuition, and use your discernment, and I will catch
y'all on the next episode, sending y'all much love. He'll
be great.
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