Marquita Veon Just Talkin FR

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Come on, you're a show,I know. And that's about that time.
What's going on? Family? Andyour girl just came for her checking
in once again, and this timeis not for everybody's favorite show, but
this is gonna be everybody's newest favoriteshow. Okay, So he's gonna call
this one just talking or just soundsfor real. We're just gonna be listening
to stuff and saying stuff that makessense. Sounds great to me, okay

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stuff, Yes, So Ms MarquitaVian is on the couch today. Welcome
girl. I'm happy that you've madeit all the way out here the country.
Conyers, I know you. Mymama is the Colleen people say for
our pump Milly. So you wayout hand pump Pump Nelly. Is that
a real place? No, Jesus, what if you say I for her?

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She's like, I'm not coming awayto pump milk. I'm cracking up.
Oh that was hard for our destinationfor people who stay it's pump Nelly.
Yeah, I like that. That'slike I asked it was a real
place, because you know, they'dbe like, I ain't gone from here
to kalamazoo. Oh. And Ilearned that Klamazoo was a real place,
right, It's a real place.Oh God? So yeah. I was

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like, is that real? Youmight find I'm a Google pump. No,
because it might be a real place. Wow, maybe it could be.
I never google it, right,I just thought it was the name
she gave us. I had tomeet somebody from Michigan for them to say
it's something klama Zoo. I waslike, like a real place, like,
yeah, real place Like No,y'all don't have a place called Calambazoo.

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That's crazy calamba Zoo, right,I never heard of it. Imagine
being from there, baby, Iwonder what's the population. I think it's
like a regular okay, right,I think it's like a regular amount of
people. Though normal, it's typicalfor them. I'm telling you to help

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me out, okay. I thinkit could get us there until he got
you to the post a. Iyes, the baby, y'all. Y'all
missed that. Y'all had to behere. I got it on camera,
so I might we might be ableto show that took you to the folks.
But miss Marquita bon I want thepeople to get into you, so
let's talk about you. The pinklink pocket girl. I'll be rocking my
bag too. It's in the car. I'm glad girl, like that bag

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coming handed. Sometimes I'm like,okay, I'm used, I need this,
Like look at me, I loveit. Though I love it,
you made you inspire me. I'mlike, I need some slipshop bass.
Yes, no, definitely, Okay, come on, you know it's the
marketing for me, the networking Imean for me, yes, like someone

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plugged me through it. I waslike, thank you, mm that was
just sharing care. Yes, yes, So tell the people about Marquita Beyond,
the pink Link podcast, everything thatpeople should really know about you.
Okay, well I ain't once again, Marquita Beyon, I go by my

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middle name. That beyond. That'swhat a beyond comes from. I just
feel like it just differentiates and ithas a ring to it. So that's
why I use it. And soI had the pink Link podcast, which
started off about twenty nineteen before COVID. I just had no idea am I
talking to Okay, I had noidea what a podcast was when I actually

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started the Reviving Door, which iswhich is what a picnic was birthed through
just going out talking to entrepreneurs becauseI had just quit on myself and they
cleaning service, and so it justwas like a a revolution that I had,
like a revamp, Yeah, arevamp. And so I was like,

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what can I do to just getadvice from others who are actually doing
business because I knew no one inmy environment that was really doing business.
I had a business. So that'swhere that burst from. And so in
some aspects it still has a revolvingaccent because with the shows and things put
on, it's about still revolving,you know, businesses and to point one

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another and just continue to just letthe movement continue to just revolve around support
one another. And so the pinkLink was birthed from doing a podcast challenge
once I found out about podcasts andthe acronym in there is the powerful innovative
next level conversations with their k becausewe're fancy, you know, we make

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up words, okay, and wejust have those places to entrepreneurs who are
I hear building their brands from theground up, or them built their brand
already doing driving the air brand,or either have a redemption story that they
would like to come on to showwith the audience to give to uplift and
inspire and impact others. I likethat, Yes, and I had a

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good time. Yes, it wasa hilarious out. Bug is always Yeah,
shout out to bangam Bug. Yes, and literally there's no pressure and
that congratulations to you because you hitone hundred episodes. Yeah, yeah,
that was Antogram. Thank you forcoming out supporting the fashion show as well.

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That. I'm a big personal celebrate. You know, your wins and
no matter where you are, don'tdon't compare, but celebrate what you have
done to be consistent and doing somethingthat you did think you was gonna do
work. You know that you actuallysaid out to do indeed, And so
that was what that was for me. Celebrate my consistency and doing the platform

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and what I felt like doing anepisode or not, just still showing up
and then being able to just continueto highlight those other entrepreneurs on their journey
so they can feel celebrated and keepgoing and be acknowledged because everyone is a
star. You know, have tobe on TMZ and come on t to

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feel like a star. And that'swhat that was for me. I love
that. Yes, you're another thingabout is you're all about energy and stuff
big because the thing is, I'ma cancer and I literally feel energy.
I really do. So I'm bigon definitely making sure I keep nines intact
and that's doing the work. AndI get it from people like people I

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may see out. I go tothe store and someone walks up to me
because their energy exuberates. Yeah,so I know how because we're all connected.
I know how significant it is becauseyou're always sitting out signals. You
know, whether you see them noror not. You're sending out some type
of city. Yeah, you canfeel stuff. Yeah it's real. But

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you always, like you said,like, you're really good at sending out
those nice signals, those bubbly feeling. And the thing is, I don't
know how I come out so bubbly, Honestly, I don't know. I
think some see and you have tobe consciously mindful and aware they when you
are a bubbly I guess personality thatyou have to be mad for what you

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draw into because you're drawing good.But some people see that and you can
draw darkness like life, so youhave to be mindful of that too.
Yeah. Basically, people they takeit as a weakness sometimes, yes,
But even though they may see itas a weakness. I have full control

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because though you may see my bubblyperson, that's does a weakness, but
you justn't meet with that. Youdon't know me. I'm maybe up here
a week because I'm bubbly and youknow I have great energy. But on
the inside, I have you know, my problem. Yeah, yeah,

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I have my strength. It ain'tno, it ain't that I understand what
you're saying. I've had this conversationwith my man because he's like, sometimes
I'll be like, I don't likepeople, but then I have to say,
right over, I'm like, Imean, I love people, but
sometimes I don't like people, LikeI don't always want to be around people,

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and especially with what we do oralways talking to somebody, We're always
in somebody's face. It's just alwaysinteraction, interaction, interaction, and I
love my space. I love beingalone. And he's like, well,
if people were to hear you saythat, that goes against everything you stand
for. I'm like, it doesn'tgo against it. I'm just I'm a
well rounded person. I'm not alwaysgraidy to talk. That's good because you

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have to be able to love yourown company and a lot of people don't.
They feed off other people's company energy. But you gotta be able to
be content with just what it beingyou. Girls, I love people,
I love being around people. Ilove meeling, but sometimes it's just some
of them days. I just wantto be in the house last some of

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my growth, my teeth, andenjoy me. Yes, girl, I'm
trying to tell you, speaking ofbooks, that book is a gift for
you on the table. I hopeyou enjoy it. It's a great read.
Yes, oh wow, what isit? Yes, the Bible.
It's not the Bible though, butit's the Gospels of Jesus. So I
feel like a lot of people,you know, you're welcome. We talk

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about Jesus and you know, lovingJesus and stuff, but we don't necessarily
get into who Jesus was. Wetalk about the scripture and the Word,
but we don't get into Jesus withthe nitty gritty. So that book does
a very good job at describing Jesus, who he was, what he did,
where he went, how he acted, and all of that, and
it brought me really close to him. Amazing because I'm almost finished finish it

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up today. With my books thatI've been reading, and I read two
books at one time actually, andso I was like, what's the next
book, and so, yeah,a study Bible, Yes, did you
no? You know what's funny.The first time I got that book,
I was on Bourbon Street in NewOrleans and there was a church. They

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were the pastor was out there preaching. They was out there receiving the word.
But they were giving those out.And so the lady gave me one,
and I'm like, thank you,and she looked at me like like
she had she didn't expect me tobe so happy to receive it, I
guess because I was on Bourbon Street, Like maybe he's in I don't know,
but right had a clothes line likeeverybody. And so I'm like,

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I was so happy. I spentmy whole this is my birthday too,
So I spent the whole, mywhole time on Bourbon holding my book.
I thought it was a Bible too, and just so happened as I'm reading
the Bible. While I'm reading it, I'm like, nobody ever talks about
Jesus. Like there's so little thatpeople say about Jesus. I'm reading all
of this stuff, but what didJesus say what did God say? That's
what I want to know. WhileI'm trying to continue my reading driving the

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lift, I'm just hanging out andI'm like, well, let me open
this little bible and see if Ican continue my reading. I opened it
and it was the book about Jesus. Wow. I was like, okay,
like thank you God, just asI'm asking the question, wow,
yes. So and when I readit, I'm like, people should have
this. It's really a really goodread. I mean, it brought me

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so much closer to I mean,I was reading stuff and I'm like,
I say that I do that.This is stuff that Jesus is doing.
And I'm like, this is howI feel. So it was. It
was really good. And I orderedtwelve hundred of them, six hundred in
English, six hundred and Spanish.That's a blessing. Yes the word.
Yes, girl, girl, that'spurpose. Amen. I love God?

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You love God God? Oh yeah, okay, what's wrong with you?
I think that's a perfect time toget into one of my icebreakers. How
much does the polar airway, ah, polar bird, I would say four
four, I don't know, buthow much it is enough to break the
ice. So we're gonna break theice. Okay, yeah, if I

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stole from somewhere, Okay, thankyou, So all right, I want
to do I'm gonna stay doing thisnew thing. Okay. It's gonna be
called a praise battle. Before weget into the praise battle, I want
to ask, do you have areason to smile today? Yes? Okay?
What is it? I woke up? Amen? What about another one?
Everybody says. I woke up justgrateful, just grateful in spite of

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some challenges this season, and justjust just in gratitude, like the strength
that it has given me. It'slike nothing but Christ. And I'm gonna
cry because I'm like that ain't beengoing through that, but it's like It's

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always had you. Its fun tolie them circumstances and situations, and I
just I just see my growth,Like if I had gone through what I've
been going through these last three monthswhen I was younger, I kind of
things that I shouldn't have turned andso and then I still smile because I'm
just so grateful because of the growthand just what God has been doing like

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miracles in Yes, Amen, God'sgood. Since she got your reason to
smile show me, then, Yes, it's I love that you need to
look over there, like that's whatI wanted to see. So all right,
So with the praise battle, basically, when I was younger, we
did it in a bad way.This I just flipped this bad thing we

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used to do and maybe something good. But my brother and I we would
be around our parents while we're outsidein public, and he'll be like,
he'll say a cussword, but likereally love and basically we see how loud
the other person can get without gettingin trouble or like without stopping. So
we'd be cracking up saying customordy,but trying not to get caught by our
parents. So with that, insteadof cussing, we're gonna praise, okay,

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And the prayers battle basically like howmuch praise you got in you?
Now? I got a lie?I want to warn you. Okay,
I'm sorry small, Okay, Okay, Praise the Lord, Thank you though
Jesus, Hallelujah, hallelujah, Glorybe to God. Oh, ain't God
good all the time? And allthe time, ain't got good? Yeah,

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glory hallee, Praise yes God,Hallelujahlllujah to the Lamb of the Law.
I think it's a so I thinkwe did good. I like that.
I like bringing God into thank you, and that's what I also do
for the most part. I liketo pray before we start our shows and

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things like that, or to praybefore I even start, you know,
on my way there, Yes,because I get caught up when if God
is in it, you know,yes, yes, oh amen. If
God is in it, there's nolimit. I love that. Take us
a understand, Okay, So I'mgonna get more into you. Let's talk

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about just day to day things.Okay. So what's one of the easiest
ways that people can get under yourskin or that someone has gotten under your
skin? One of these things iswhen someone says I need to ask you
someone tell you coming in and saynever mind. If nothing else that would

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get especially when I ask you whatit is? Okay, just said or
what was it? I want toknow you even say you're gonna family something
or you know, let me askyou something and change your nine like you
should just yes, like don't bringit up. Oh that is so good,
the one that is so good.What's one of the easiest ways somebody

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has gotten in your sheets? Whatdo you mean in your bed easiest ways,
like for the mates, I haveto think like mmm, she said,

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I ain't easy, right, becausethat's all like thing? Have I
ever been easy? It were probablybe when I was young and naive.
Maybe I felt like that was aneasy one, but I don't. I
didn't have no knowledge that I havenow because they't no where I would have
easy. I knew what I knew. So what did he do? Probably

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just was a smooth talker and youknow before you knew it. One thing
that's another yeah, child, laughingright out of your girls, right,
uh huh, Like my mama said, I was sweet enoughing in your ear,
girl? Sweet nothing. Let's dosome X okay, okay, so
what's let's do some X about theopposite sex? Okay alright. One of

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my ex with the opposite sex iswhen they judge things based on my gender,
so like, oh, you're awoman, so you're just this okay,
like that's a hit that I have. I do not like that cause
I'm a human and I act likea boy too. Well men tell me
that I act like a boy.So when you just have mestling energy as
well, right, So that's oneof my eggs. Okay, My it

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would be if I'm working and youworking and you expecting me to do the
cooking still every day, Like no, right, it's it should be balance.
Learn how to cook and you don'tor buy something sometimes too cause I
don't always feel like cooking. Okay, yes, and just because I'm the
late like you said, you knowthey do. One of my eggs would

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be if I do cook, Ishouldn't have to clean it up. I
don't want agree in it. Iagree, I agree with that one.
Let me see it. Maybe mmI can't think. I'm okay, you

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just love them, but I agree, yes, okay, what about X
with the opposite sex, I meanwith the same sexts? So with women,
I would say. My it wouldbe maybe try to compete, like
friendships that you you're thinking are friendship, but then they compete. Yeah,

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it's with the same with the oppositesix Okay, hidden motives ooh yeah yeah,
like just be honest, right,yes, I agree, you think
y'all cool brands and then the wholetime like if you if you know,
it's something else they're said, don'tbut don't do all these things and it's
a hidden motive, right cause thenit's like, don't be my friend just

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to try to if you if you'remy friend and you become interested, don't
continue to support. And then it'sa hidden motive. Yes, agree.
And then so for women you don'tlike people try to compete. Yeah,
I think you know, because mypersonal is like support, love ya.

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And then sometimes you find a differentsame friendships, not a lot, you
know, but it's some you're likethis are you may be motivating them and
you don't maybe get that reciprocated,Yeah, reciprocated, and so they may
don't know how to or feel youknow, I don't know, like confident

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enough in themselves probably to even giveyou that back. Yeah, But then
that's when you can't and it's oneone. Yeah, like you're like,
okay, we I thought we wascool, were doing this together right here
exactly, So that would be one. I agree. One of my ex
with women is and this is forboth genders, but like I'm a I'm

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a victim to a woman who doesthis because now you make something else happen,
who tolerates less than what she deserves. Yeah, especially from men,
because you're teaching them they're not gonnarepeat something that doesn't work. So the
fact that you're showing them that thiscan work. That's not it? Like,

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can y'all stop? Can we stop? If you don't deserve that?
And you know, if it doesn'tmake you feel good, stop receiving it,
and like cut it off immediately.I don't care about like the peenie
too bomb and all of that stuff. Drop it. There's a billion,
gazillion fulfillion more of them out here. Find you a good one, but
tell the bad ones that they badbecause I'm fed up. Yes, I

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definitely agree. But she she gotto get to the place also to know
what she deserves and if she ain'tsee it or hang out to their place,
Yeah, I thank god because alot of things you may have seen
in the childhood from other women,mom's aunts, friends or whatever, and

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even you know, cousins and everyonerepeating the same. So they think this
is the normal, they think it'sokay, or they don't feel like they
can get yeah, something outside ofwhat they're being getting. You knew,
if you knew better, you dobetter. Exactly. Yeah, agreed,
But whoever know better? Do better? Okay? Yes I do another?

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Okay, another it for the samesex with me would be I don't know
why the second time, right,Like, I uh what now? Because
you, like I love everybody,I would say to love you more,

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you know, like you were justsaying basically, if you love on yourself
more, then it would be moreof what you knowing what you deserve,
and then also being able to supportand recognize others and not feel like you're
in competition with others. When youyou, I would know that what's for
them is for them, what's foryou is for you. So don't ever

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feel intimidated or threatened by no oneelse's living their life and their perpose.
Nice I agree. I think wedid really good on the on the X.
Okay, it's rare that I talkabout bad things on the show,
but it's like we're bent, likelet's get you know. But that wasn't
bad as far as like you know, it's like a down thing versus like

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what do we love about people?It's just it's just our views are like
that. I think we did itnicely. Yeah, yeah, So what's
your view on the world right now? Trust in God because because of everything

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from stuff that we couldn't even haveimagined happening this day and time, and
then like the old people say theBible ful feeling it, the Bible fulfilling
itself. So that would be whatI have to say. Just not put
my trust in man, not putmy trust in you know, the economy,

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or not even worried about the inflation. Yes, the inflation is happening.
Yes, this is happening, youknow, not getting caught up in
it because really, actually since COVID, I haven't even watched the news,
so uh huh. Yeah, Iwas just gonna say. That's why I'm
typing like my notes to ask younext. I'm like, how do you
avoid getting caught up in it?But one of those things will be not
watching the news, right, notwatching the news because I felt And then

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I'm like, I said, I'mbig on energy, and I felt the
reason why the COVID cases kept goingup because of the fear that they instilled
in is within America, you know, in the other countries. So if
you got all these people vibranting onits same spear, so yes, casey
gonna increase. Yes, people areoverthinking when they get it, so they

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put their body into shock or youknow what I'm saying. I'm not saying
it. That's just the only thing. But those all those things can play
a role with your body healing too. You know, you manifesting sickness,
right, So they seeing all thison the news and afraid, and you
know then you sure enough can't fightoff if you're not strong enough, because

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you weaken your immune system when you'rein a state of fear. And so
I just had to turn the newsoff. And so, yeah, I
watch it when I feel like it, like when I'm up to it,
or if it's I'll watch the worldnews just to see what's going on sometimes,
but I don't. I only chooseto receive it when I'm ready to

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receive this. Like I build upa wall and I'm like, all right,
were about to go, were aboutto go in? We go in
in, y'all, let's go seewhat they talking about. But I definitely
have to prepare, right. Theonly time I've watched it or seen some
of it is maybe when I'm busywith my grandma. You know, they
watched the six o'clock at nine o'clock, the five o'clock at ten o'clock,

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and the twelve okay in between thestories, right, So I may gemp
some there, but for as mewatching it for the weather. I have
the weather app and my dad heworks with dealing with weather, so he
gonna pre say something about the weather. But it's like, maybe I should
watch it from time to time.But it's just like it's been so awesome

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about I don't know if I wantto turn back, and I think,
like, you're I don't think thatyou have to watch the news, especially
the way that you're you're carrying life. It's like on faith, fear and
faith don't live together, so watchingthe news is either gonna instill some fear
in you or something. But ifyou're just walking with God, You're like,
man, I'm walking in my purpose. I'm doing what I need to

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do from day to day. Iknow God got me and I'm gonna keep
on moving. So what do Ineed somebody to tell me the news for
it? Right? And then it'slike it's it's like social media, like
they get paid. It's like thedoctor. Yeah, it's as they get
paid and yeah, so it's like, no, it's no better than real
TV, you know. So Imean, if I felt I if I

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ever watch it again, I don'tknow. I can't say your name.
However, I'm I'm steel like watchingit as a right now y'all. So
I ain't mad at you, yahknow. So how many kidds do you
have? Three? Three? Okay? How do you feel brazen? How
is it raisen kids in this worldthat we're in with everything that's out,

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you know, they're able to haveMy kids have phones. They've had them
for many yeh. Their parents,I followshed and the gave them to them
at such a young age. Butwhat's the youngest. How old they fifteen?
They had phones at least for liketwo or the youth to like thirteen.
Yeah, I don't think that's that'stoo young, especially like they in

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like middle school at that point ortoo. I don't think that's too young
to have a phone. Yeah,but they exposed to a lot. Yeah,
you know, then you have theTikTok you have. I mean,
I don't care what you put onthe phone. They're gonna see it.
They got friends, like a lotof things that my kids know about it.
I didn't want them exposed to.They still was exposed to it through

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their fears. So it's only somuch you can do sometimes as a current.
But raising them, I feel greatbecause I know what I teach them
in my home. But I instillin them what they know from just talking
with them, from them, youknow, being poured into you know,
doing the best that I can asa mom, you know, without eight

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male figure there. So when justspeaking like my daughter, she's gone on
the amount of trip now with herfriends, I trust her because she knows
she you know, she knows whatto do and what not to do,
and I can only just you know, give her what I know to do
better than what I've done. Nice, that's there. I like that approach,

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and I like that you're trusting,you know, He's like, man,
I did I did good enough?Yeah? Because the thing is my
kids wasn't sheltered, but they wasable to do things, you know,
with boundaries. And I feel likeif you shareter them too much, that's
an issue, and then if they'renot with any boundaries, that's an issue.

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So it's like a good boundary becausemy mom wasn't a strict mom.
You know. Growing up, wewas able to go with people house to
stay he or people came up ourhouse to stay, and it wasn't just
you can't do this, you can'tdo nothing. But she instilled so much
to us about you know, certainthings, but to do you didn't feel
the need to do nothing that youdidn't need to be doing anyhow. And

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that's the same thing that I dowith my children. How many times,
just too many times to talk toyour kids, like as thinking about like
toddlers and stuff like that. Howmany times do you say no or I
don't always get that look? Theyused to be bad, but now since
they gotten older and they know,I'm like, I don't have zero tolerants.

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So if I say certain things andit doesn't get done, or are
they you know, going to bea smart ally, which it has listened
a lot because like it's my myzero tolerants, leve would have been yes,
so and then they know when itcomes back around both what who when

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me no, it can't be rightbecause I don't have to. I don't.
I used to whip my cheersren whenthey was younger, because that's why
I was, I thought. Butas they continue to get older, I
stopped. Maybe I was on theGenser parents and before it became a trend
because I felt a another thing wasinflicting pain on them. Then they're teaching

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them to and you know right,So I broke from that when they was
about about about ten years now,since we've been out here, I broke
free from that because I just feltlike, you know, the best way
to teach them is to talk tothem, explain to them, because that
they can learn to communicate right,learn better ways of behaving and giving them

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the twols to do better, andyou know, just dropping insights and wisdoming
to them and sells and then that'sit and then they they do it again.
When when you're doing when you whippingand then you find a kid doing
the same thing again, you saidit whipping them. So when people used

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to try to come at me aboutit, I didn't let it bother me
because some I'm saying people have likemaybe issues with their treads and their relationships
and things like that, because youknow, you you wasn't porn to them
with the wisdom, the love andthe insights, but more so just taking

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this that was on the stave.The problem with it, The problem is
deeper than physical. You know.Yes, I know, growing up my
friends they would get beat they'll taketheir beat in and then they get to
go back outside. So they didn'tcare. And my mom was like,
my mom knew that. My momwas a young parent, and she knew
that. She's like, yeah,she didn't beat me. I didn't get
whoopings. I stayed on punishment,right, Oh my god, stayed on

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punishment girl. I mean I waseighteen years old one time and I was
talking to my friend through the windowand my other friend pulled up. He
was like, you want punishment?I said, boy, I'm eighteen.
He was like, I don't know. That's how much I was on punishment.
Like even at eighteen, they thinkingthat I don't be punishment. Yes,
yes, so that's nothing like Isaid, if you want something you
won't get it, you know,or if you wanted to go somewhere,

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you know, I would do punishmentin those things. Yes, of that
nature. Excuse me. Well,that's why me and my egg not to
brute him up. But we bumpedtags because he thought I was supposed to
do things his way. And alot of women get caught up with these
relationships with these men and thinking thatyou know, a lot of these men

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would beat by their dad, theirparents, and then if they're older,
sometimes they feel like that's the way. And so we bumped heads because I'm
like, just because you think I'mnot doing what you should you think I
should do it before it's raising mykids. I'm not gonna just beat my
kids. No, that's not theanswer. No, see that like my
mythted of parents. And sometime theywill get as they start growing and their

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personality start changing and things like theirtheir hormones. You know, it deed
tack more enforcement. But like Isaid, we had to come around to
them being more respectful them, hadto come around to them being able to
see dang, mom been right.And it ain't been having to beat them
to knowing that, but having theyrespect and knowing how for to go.

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Look, yeah, that's what Iwant. And when I have kids,
I just want to be able tojust one of them, just to for
the people listening to side. Ilike, and I want you to understand
because my mom my mom, likeI said, she didn't beat me,
but I was afraid of her andit was a respect It was I know,
I don't do this and I don'tdo that. If it comes to
what my mother says, I'm gonnalisten to what she say. And then

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also I ain't trying to be onpunishment. But I feel like if you
I feel like your kids got tobe afraid of you. Yes, yes,
And that's another thing I feel like, Yeah, they should know not
what to expect from you, ButI don't think. I think my kids

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do have fear because they've seen anotherside to give it to them. But
I didn't have to beat them toget their fear. They just know when
Mama get like this, we needto get someone to sit down. Now,
she's definitely likes about to turn up. Yeah, she about to turn
up. I tell them, BabeQueta about to come out now. Okay,

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y'a don't want to be Queen.I love that. Yes, this
is Marquita. You know, well, ba bad. You don't want Queena
to coming up? Okay, theyget right. Yeah, you don't want
to see Quita, Nick Catherine astrains and everything getting you right together?

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Yes. So what do you feellike should be done or could be done
in order to make the world thatwe're in better? I would say it
start with the children. I wasspeaking with one of my clients, and
I love what she's doing for usher workshop, because you know, she's

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implementing something and she's gearing towards implementsomething in the school system that will help
children with being able to make friends, being able to understand if you don't
make friends, and so if youif you're instilled with not just the school
curriculum, but with this other newcurriculum that she's building, or as you

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know, self esteem and relationships,how to win friends, make friends and
be a friend. That start asa kid. So if you're able to
do that when you're younger and stuff, are trying to learn that as you're
growing older and as an adult,because it's not easy for everyone. Some
it's easy for it. But youknow, if we can start implement that
with the kids, it would beless school shootings, you know, because

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now you got more cheers, you'reable to make friends the ones who may
have gotten bully or get bullied,but you know they're able to gain a
tools to come at their shelves orhave that support. You know. Yes,
I think what's something that you doin your day to day in order
to make the world around you better? Pray, show kindness, and look

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to others nice. I love that, okay? And what should my people
know about you before you leave today? That's just just know that first,
first and foremost, I'm a childof God. Then I'm a mom and
I'm just I hear a purpose drivenindividual who are who is excited to just

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be speaking with other people who areliving like their purpose and know that they
have a purpose in life and thenbeing able to inspire others to know that
no matter what, you have apurpose as well. So just about figuring
that out, cause it's make itmakes life worth living and no matter what
you may come against when you havea purpose. As they say in about

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whether there's no vision of people Paris, so many people are doing things because
they don't feel like they have acalling, they don't feel like they have
a purpose. So finding that purpose, that's one of the things that more
people find their purpose, it'll beless crime list, you know, list
violence and things like that because morepeople are welcoming that purpose and knowing that
they have a living a reason forliving as well. Yes, I love

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that. Well, I appreciate youfor coming today having me. Yes,
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