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There's a moment, a silent, split second decision you make
when someone calls you out, accuses you, questions your worth,
your character, your intent, and in that moment, the average
person does what they were trained to do. They defend themselves.
I didn't mean it. That's not what I was trying
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to say. You misunderstood me. I swear I'm not like that.
It sounds noble, reasonable, fair, But to Machiavelli, it's the
moment you lose everything, because the second you defend yourself,
you admit you're weak enough to need to and in
power games, perception is everything. If they see you flinch,
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they don't see a victim, they see blood. This is
the brutal law Machiavelli understood before anyone else. The man
who defends himself lowers himself. The man who doesn't forces
the world to defend him instead. Let's get one thing straight.
Defending you yourself rarely convinces anyone. What it does is
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shift the power away from you, because when you justify
your actions, you're playing on their field. You're accepting their framing.
You're saying, without realizing it, you have the authority to
question me, And once they have that they own the narrative.
Even if you're right, you still look guilty because only
the weak rush to explain the strong. They let the
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silence burn, They let the accusation float untouched, because they
know the real move is this, turn the accusation into
a mirror, make them doubt themselves, make them look too emotional,
make them look obsessed, bitter, unstable, because the one who
speaks first often loses control of the frame, and Machiavelli
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knew whoever controls the frame controls the outcome. Most people
defend themselves because they want to be understood. They believe
if they just explain enough, clarify enough, repeat themselves enough,
they'll be vindicated. But that belief comes from a place
of emotional weakness, not strategy. You don't want clarity, you
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want control. Clarity is for therapy. Control is for power,
and power doesn't come from being understood. It comes from
being feared, respected, and untouchable. So when someone calls you arrogant, cold, selfish, manipulative,
and you immediately say no, you don't understand, you've already
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lost because now you're reacting, Now you're proving you care.
Now you've put the ball in their court. And when
you do that, you give up the most Machiavellian thing
you have, mystery. Think of the most powerful people you've
ever encountered, not the loudest, not the most liked, The
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ones who held silence like a weapon, The ones who
made you say, I can guess yourself just by staring.
The ones who, when attacked, never flinched. Machiavelli would tell
you this. He who explains submits. He who remains silent
forces others to fill in the blanks, and they often
overestimate him. That's the game. When you don't react, they
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get uncomfortable, They start doubting their own words. They look
around for validation and find none. Suddenly their power shrinks,
while yours expands because you've done the one thing no
emotional person can handle. You made them talk to themselves.
And that's how you flip the power. You let their
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accusation die in the echo of its own weakness. Let's
go deeper. You walk into a room. Someone throws shade,
subtle or direct, maybe a jab at your success, your attitude,
your past. Everyone turns to see what you'll say, and
here's your move. Say nothing, no defense, no retaliation, no smirk,
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just calm, total stillness. In that moment, you are untouchable
because everyone in the room is now forced to ask
why didn't he react? Does he know something we don't?
Is he above this? Did that attack just make him stronger?
You just flipped the entire social frame because people aren't
watching the accusation, They're watching your response. And silence, when
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delivered with presence, speaks louder than any justification ever could.
Machiavelli knew this. He didn't just study politics, he studied psychology,
and he understood one thing better than anyone. Power isn't
what you say. It's what people believe. You could say,
but choose not to. Now here's the coldest move of all.
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Sometimes you don't just ignore the accusation. You invert it.
Someone calls you manipulative. Smile, look past them and say,
if that's how you see it, Not defensive, not apologetic,
just cool, neutral detachment. What happens They scramble because they
were hoping for a fight, They were hoping to watch
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you squirm. Instead, they're left holding their own weapon. That's
when the guilt sets in on their side. They start
wondering if they overstepped, if they embarrassed themselves if they
look insecure now, and guess what they do. You just
took the energy they threw at you and made them
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carry it without lifting a finger. There's a moment when
silence becomes unbearable, not for you, but for the one
who expected a reaction. That's when the tables turn. They
thought they were the accuser. Now they're exposed as the
one begging for attention. And you, you just became something
far more powerful than innocent. You became untouchable. Machia understood
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something that most people will never grasp. Words are not
to clarify truth, but to obscure it. And when someone
attacks you subtly or directly, they want you to fight
the fog. They want to drown you in emotional explanation
because the more you explain, the less certain you appear.
So instead, let them fill the silence. And what happens.
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They overplay, They repeat themselves. They start looking desperate, emotional, unstable.
You said nothing, but now they're the one under judgment
because the crowd isn't listening to what's being said. They're
watching who's calm and who's rattled. That's social power, and
it doesn't come from being right. It comes from being untouchable.
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Let's say you're in a business meeting. Someone subtly undermines you, says,
I'm not sure that strategy is really thought through, or
he always has these bold ideas. They're looking for a reaction.
They want you to bite. What do most people do?
They lean forward, they explain, they prove, they clarify, they
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get nervous. The room smells it. But the Machiavellian operator
he leans back, he waits, maybe even smirks, and if
he speaks, it's not a defense, it's a redirect. Let's
hear your strategy. Then now the attacker has to perform,
and the room flips. Suddenly they are being evaluated. They
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are under pressure because silence from the confident is accusation
without words. It makes people feel small without you doing anything.
In romantic or personal relationships, this is even more dangerous.
Say your partner says you don't care about me anymore.
The average person will panic. They'll launch into explanations, reassurances, defenses,
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and in doing so they validate the emotional frame. But
the Machiavellian approach is different. You don't dismiss them, you
don't argue. You let the weight of the accusation hang.
You watch them feel their own drama echo in the space.
Then with calm you respond that's not how I see it,
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short grounded, no explanation, no justification. Now they feel uncertain,
They question their own tone. They wonder if they were
too reactive, because in that moment you held power over
what matters most, the emotional tempo, and whoever controls the
tempo controls the frame. There's a deeper tactic, and it's
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even colder. Don't just remain calm when accused, disappear. Someone
insults you don't reply, don't respond, don't acknowledge, but don't
block them either. Let your absence sit like a mirror.
Let them sit in the sight violence of being ignored.
This breaks people in two ways. They realize you didn't
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even deem them worthy of a response. They start spinning
internal narratives, and most of the time it destroys their composure.
Why because the average person survives on emotional validation even
in conflict. If you take that away, they wither, They spiral,
they post more, they talk to others, They try to
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bait a reply, and with every new attempt they look weaker,
more obsessed, more unhinged, all while you remain perfectly still.
And that's when you win, not because you proved anything,
but because they destroyed themselves trying to get a reaction
from you. Here's where it gets elite. Instead of defending
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yourself when attacked, make their accusation look like a sign
of weakness. Someone calls you arrogant, strange that confidence makes
people so uncomfortable. Someone says your manipulative. Only people who
can't be influenced say that. Someone calls you fake. Everyone
says that when they stop getting what they want, you
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don't just deny the accusation. You make it their insecurity.
And now now they're the one scrambling to defend themselves.
It's not just a reversal, it's a power judo throw.
You used their own emotional force and turned it into
their public collapse. Machiavelli would call this the turn of
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the blade. Do not meet the sword with a shield.
Let the attacker fall on his own blade. The world
teaches you to defend your reputation, to explain yourself, to
clear your name, But Machiavelli saw the trap. He knew
that the moment you chase innocence, you admit guilt, So
the true strategist never plays that game. Instead, he appears
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too composed to be shaken, too elevated to care, too
clear on his position to explain it, and slowly those
who try to tear him down start looking unstable, reactive, jealous, weak,
because the more you defend, the more it looks like
you need to, But the more you ignore, the more
dangerous they assume you are, and that assumption is where
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power is born. Most people think power is about proving yourself,
proving your right, proving you're not what they say you are,
proving you're better than their perception. But Machiavelli would smirk
at this, because the second you try to prove anything,
you've already declared the other person's judgment valid. And when
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you hand someone that validation, you hand them your leash.
Let's say you're in a group, a social setting, a
dinner table, a meeting. Someone throws a public jab. You
always act like you know everything. Oh he's always like this,
I guess being humble isn't your What do most people do?
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They tense up, they try to laugh it off, or worse,
they respond with an explanation, trying to smooth it over,
and they think their saving face, but what they're really
doing is confirming that a hit was landed. Now everyone's
watching the defense, and that alone makes the original jab
look true. Here's what the machiavellion does. Instead, pause, hold
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silence for just two seconds, scan the room, not with aggression,
but with quiet amusement. Then, and only, if needed, offer
something calm, precise and dismissive. You seem emotional to day
or interesting, take or nothing at all, just a long,
still gaze. What happens next is predictable. The attacker shifts,
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They fidget, They look for back up, They try to
explain their joke. They feel the heat of the room
shifting on to them because your lack of reaction just
told the rooms something louder than words ever could. You're
not the one under judgment. They are. In the digital arena,
things escalate even faster, comments, posts, call outs, dms, people
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trying to bait you into reacting. Here's the truth Machiavelli
would burn into your mind. In the court of public opinion.
Silence speaks guilt unless your silence commands fear. So here's
the tactic when you're attacked online, don't defend, don't explain, distort.
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You don't address the claim, You redirect the energy back
into the crowd. Example, someone says you're toxic or manipulative.
Instead of posting a tearful defense or long clarification, you post.
People always call you dangerous when they can't control you.
What just happened. You didn't defend. You reframed the accusation
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into a badge of power. Now they look bitter, you
look unfazed, and the audience they begin to question who's
really in control. That's not damage control, that's narrative dominance.
Let's get even more surgical. There are three tools you
can use instead of defending yourself. Silence the default, cold,
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powerful leaves them exposed. Deflection reframe the narrative without acknowledging
the jab. Precision cuts short, sharp truths that end the
game immediately. Examples. Someone says you're full of yourself. You respond.
Confidence upsets the insecure. They say you're fake. You respond,
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I don't owe you authenticity. They say you think you're
better than everyone. You respond, no, I just don't think
like everyone. These aren't defenses, their status assertions. They don't
se say I'm not guilty. They say you can't touch me.
And that's the core. The Machiavellian never begs to be
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seen as good. He dares people to see him as
bad and walks taller for it. When you refuse to
defend yourself, something strange happens to your enemies. They become
unhinged because they expected a battle and instead they're swinging
at smoke. They start escalating, They push harder, they get
more dramatic, they expose more of their insecurity, and the
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more they do, the more you rise in the eyes
of others. Why because you've made them perform their own collapse.
And that's the Machiavellian endgame. You don't destroy your enemies,
You let their obsession with you destroy them. You think
being misunderstood is dangerous, but being predictable is far worse.
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The misunderstood man has mystery. The predictable man is easy
to manipulate. People who are always trying to clear things
up are seen as desperate. People who remain calmly misunderstood,
they are feared. Machiavelli knew this. It is better to
be feared than loved if you cannot be both. But
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even more, it's better to be confusing than predictable, because
the confused man is cautious, He watches you, he doesn't
act rashly, and that means you control the field. Let's
crush the final illusion. You don't need a good reputation
to win, you need a strong one. The man with
a good reputation is expected to be clean, soft, agreeable.
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The man with a strong reputation he's not always liked,
he's not always trusted, but no one dares move against
him casually. That's what happens when you never defend yourself.
Your reputation becomes not about what people believe, but what
they fear you'll do next. That's how you flip the power.
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You stop fighting for approval and instead you create an
aura that makes people cautious, because even your silence feels
like a decision, and every move you don't make becomes
a move in their mind. The final evolution is not silence.
It's aura, a presence so composed, so secure, so far
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above the petty noise that accusations simply evaporate before they land.
And this doesn't come from being emotionless. It comes from
being unbothered by design. Because Once you've trained yourself not
to defend, not to explain, not to seek validation, you
cross a line, a line where your existence becomes the defense,
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and that's when power becomes effortless. Think about the few
people in life who never explain themselves. They don't post
long rants, they don't correct the record, they don't argue
with critics, and yet people respect them more. Why Because
silence in the face of accusation creates myth, It invites interpretation,
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and the human mind, when left without an explanation, fills
the void with strength. People assume you must be dangerous,
you must know something they don't. You must be so
secure in who you are that you don't even blink
when challenged, and that assumption that's what makes people follow you.
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Macchiavelli didn't care about being good. He cared about being
in control. And the one who never defends is always
in control of perception, even when surrounded by lies. Here's
the paradox. The more you explain yourself, the more alone
you look, because no one feels the need to step
in when you're already arguing on your own behalf. But
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if you remain calm, if you stand silent, unfaired, people
start to feel the urge to defend you. They say
that was uncalled for. He didn't deserve that. Why are
you coming after him? He didn't even respond, and you're
still pushing. Suddenly they become your shield. And what's better
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than defending yourself? Letting others do it for you without asking?
That's machiavellian leverage. Let the crowd argue your case while
you remain above the noise. Now you're not just respected,
you're elevated. It doesn't happen overnight. You build it like
a fortress, stone by stone by acting with restraint, by
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choosing stillness over reaction, by never explaining more than you
must start here. Never correct insults that are clearly meant
to provoke. Let them speak, let them echo. Your silence
tells the room that the insult didn't even register on
your radar. Respond to indirect shots with calm, confusion, not
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of fence. Is that how you see it? Said with
total serenity. It dismantles the emotional energy behind their attack.
Use short closing phrases instead of defenses. Noted, Okay, think
what you like. Time will tell each one closes the door.
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It doesn't invite more debate. It ends the scene. Study
how you hold your face, your body, your gaze. The
Machiavelli in never twitches, flinches, or tenses. Stillness is his armor,
And the more still you are when others lose control,
the more your power expands. Silently. When people don't know
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how to provoke you, they fear you because you become unpredictable,
not erratic, but unreadable, a mirror that reflects their own
instability back at them. Machiavelli would say, the most dangerous
man is not the one who attacks first. It is
the one who never needs to. You will reach a
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point where the attacks stop, not because you fought them,
but because people know they'll lose before they start. Your
presence says, I don't play defense. I let others destroy
themselves while trying to reach me. There is a difference
between strength and immunity. Strength still flinches, still reacts, still
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gets emotional, even if it fights back. Immunity it doesn't
even acknowledge the hit. That's the Machiavellian ideal. You don't
win the argument. You end the argument before it starts
by never needing to answer it. Because when you no
longer defend yourself. People stop seeing you as someone who
needs to be put on trial. You're not on their level.
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You've moved beyond the court of public approval and the
only judgment that matters your own. From this point on,
you don't live in defense. You live in definition. You
define your image, you define your tone, you define your silence,
and people feel that. They feel the certainty behind your eyes,
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the calmness in your posture, the danger in your quiet.
You're not resisting any more, You're commanding, and that's when
the room shifts. The crowd speaks less, your enemies grow quieter.
Your name carries weight not because you fought for it,
but because you never explained it. Never defending yourself doesn't
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mean never speaking. It means speaking only when it shifts
the power. When you say something, it should feel like
a move, not a response, Because every time you don't
explain yourself, every time you hold still while the world spins,
you become the one thing they can't control. A man
who answers to no one